Porn addictions - for both women and men equally - is one of the most difficult additions to overcome because our entire society is extremely saturated in sexual content and messages. Most of our social media platforms are glorified porn websites. Dr. Leigh did a great job explaining the neurological reasons why the urges to have or want sex happen and what can be done to control it.
That and it literally is manifested through our natural instincts to reproduce as opposed to any other addiction. There is no primal instinct that looks for snorting coke up its nose or injecting herion or meth right into its veins
Romantic sexless movies may have similar effect on women...because women are more addicted to verbal contact with a man. its a "fantasy" addiction.... and fantasy within fantasy, instead of focusing on productive hobbies and and sports Some said its like "faliing in love with falling in love", not with actual person. therefore some people dont commmit to relationships because they "fall in love with feeling or image of falling in love" but as soon as they are supposed to sacrifice something for parrtner or family, they break up and find another partner.
I just relapsed after almost 2 years of not watching pornography. Obviously was not worth it. I’m fighting right now to recover and hopefully last longer this time. All the doctor says is true. You would think that after a long time of not watching porn you would have become a little bit more immune to it, wrong! You are just as susceptible and vulnerable to get addicted once again just with one little peak. Don’t get too comfortable if you have achieved a streak like me. The battle is never over, this is not like quitting weed or alcohol. It’s waay worse and way more addicting. Stay away lads.
I'd say don't be too hard on yourself mate, almost 2 years of no porn sounds incredible! How much has your mind and soul been healed? You're doing great, like everyone here 😄
I'm an ex porn addict who is getting there stopping the relapces...Reckon there should be meetings like with AA for Alcoholics with ex porn addicts for porn addiction..
@@tokyosmitsubishi thank you, it means alot. I feel much more healthier overall, I’m very proud that I have lasted this long. I don’t want to fall into that rabbit hole ever again.
I relapsed again yesterday after 54 days of not doing it and obviously I was a bit gutted and down about it. But when I thought about how many times I’ve actually done it this year (which is 6 times in 7 months) I realised I’ve actually made a massive improvement from how many times I used to do it overall, so even though I haven’t actually beaten this yet I know I’m actually improving and slowly beating it
Just lost my partner because of his porn addiction and him choosing it over me but I'm still greatful for these videos in helping me understand and feel more valid in what I've been going through with him
I’m so grateful my wife allowed me to get help and gave me the opportunity to finally change ( even though it was the 2nd time I was confronted). It was a struggle but I quit cold turkey, no relapse. Over a year now and doing great. Way much better relationship with my wife and family.
@@k4g7 ? Pied? I actually used a rough spot in my marriage at the time to spring board out of it…. That coupled with a regular church men’s group, 7 pillars, to assist me in my freedom.
I got my first 16 days, and it was not easy. I fell four times, but I still never gave up because I knew my value and purpose in life. We can all do this; just remind yourself of the reason why you should quit. Thank you so much, Dr. Trish. God bless you.
I currently have 5 days sober. I have had a sex addiction since I was in my early childhood. I am now 51 years old. I had a relapse after being sober for nearly 2 years without watching porn. That relapse turned into a binge, and just recently, I got out the binge cycle to get back to recovery. I was devastated after a relapse after almost 2 years of sobriety. In addition to watching your videos I also belong to a group for support. I appreciate your knowledge and your insight.
Thank You Dr.Trish for the helpful tips. I know what triggers me & I don't click on images & videos that I know might cause me to relapse. I always feel so empty afterwards. The short term pleasure not worth the failure to succeed in self control. Appreciate the encouragement Dr.Trish !
I overcame my 10 yo addiction and have helped dozens of others with a simple, no fluff 30-day system. If you were interested, I talk about it in my videos.
Honestly, I was going to stop watching these awesome videos because I was afraid Dr. Trish doesn't understand what it's like to be a man. I now realize that has nothing to do with it. For whatever reason, this video was a game changer for me. Dr. Trish has a truly respectable and incredible amount of knowledge on this subject, and has obviously dedicated her life to staying on the cutting edge of the emerging science. Gender has nothing to do with it. Thank you for these life transformative videos, Dr. Trish.
But every fantasy witll dry up.... so no matter how masculine the man is "the fantasies men and women have" are not real, or genuine, especially if there is an element of supperficial tricks, on your brain, made by the companies. Brain loves "organic" fantasires as sports or som,e hobbies. You brain feels the best when you learn new skills, because it makes the brain neurons grow and maybe rather try to learn "connection" with people, rather than just "reaction" to people. so you will be endlesly inspired by them and yourself too.
I overcame my 10 yo addiction and have helped dozens of others with a simple, no fluff 30-day system. If you're interested, I talk about it in my videos.
Relapsed after a long streak, I was recently laid off work, and I've spent a month searching with no luck. I finally broke down and fell back into those old habits. Starting yesterday, I got back on the train to healing. It's a constant battle.
I overcame my 10 yo addiction and have helped dozens of others with a simple, no fluff 30-day system. If you're interested, I talk about it in my videos.
I am so sick and fucking tired of this disease that literally ruined my life. I wish I never discovered porn. It’s the most difficult addiction to quit for good.
I overcame my 10 yo addiction and have helped dozens of others with a simple, no fluff 30-day system. If you're interested, I talk about it in my videos.
I can definitely say this is absolutely spot on. I’ve been porn free since mid 2021, and what made it easier for me than others is that when I gave into an urge, I felt worse, not better. Plus, I noticed the very same patterns come up when it comes to food around the end of 2021, so becoming aware of myself living out the same patterns through other things showed me that just because porn was out of my life for good, the pattern was still there.
So thankful for all your insight. Something that's really helped me lately has been going to dance classes as many days of the week as possible. I think a combo of social isolation, and loss of access to my passion (jiu jitsu, due to back injury) made my addiction worse. I've read/heard that sex addiction can be due to a person not having a purpose in life, or just generally a boring life. The combo of renewed purpose, daily physical touch, and more regular socialization all from dance classes, has done wonders. It hasn't been as much of a struggle this time around, and I'm on a 1.5-month streak so far!
I overcame my 10 yo addiction and have helped dozens of others with a simple, no fluff 30-day system. If you're interested, I talk about it in my videos.
The first relapse after a long abstinence is horrible, not only after wards, but during too. It's like the most empty, watered down sensation. The ones after the first one, during the binge, feel much better but you're still at that point chasing a high that doesn't exist.
Preach brother. I bit the bait after almost 2 years of being porn free and I’m struggling so hard because of it. However, If I could escape satan’s hands when he had full grip of me back then, then, I think I can do it now once more.
She kept on using the term "super-normal" stimulus, and it initially felt like she was like it was "very normal", until I realized that it in fact means its "beyond normal". I wish this was made clear originally for those who are not familiar with the term. Otherwise, very helpful and well explained content! Appreciate it!
I take it there is a huge difference from watching it here and there and being addicted where it controls your life. I don't wish that on anyone. I feel like at times it has helped our marriage, by just discovering new things. Wife doesn't care to watch much, but will from time to time.
The funnest part to me is from an ancient religious point of view this is the concept of avoiding near occasion of Sin, by treating the triggers that lead to the first stage from happening in the first place.
I recently decided to abstain from viewing pornography as much as I can, and hope to abstain from it altogether. I can tell You that something has shifted in me as I have chosen to refrain (mostly). While I do think there are inconceivably rare cases in which someone might be able to use pornography beneficially, that is exceptionally anomalous, and arguably isn’t a long term solution. I think pornography is a major contributor to a lot of issues in the world, more than most people can realize. As a gay man, it is rare for me to find others in my community that are on the same path as I am or view this the same way. I don’t think I’ve met anyone else in my community (yet) that aligns with me on this. I am excited to see more research outside of the religious realm that is helping us to understand the downsides of viewing pornography, so that people can get an understanding of what they want to do with that information. If someone knows the downsides and chooses to continue with the information they are given, they are free to do so. But at least now they know the pros and cons. Thanks for putting Your research out there! It means more than You could ever know!
Hitting pushups and squats when the urge comes helps tremendously (bodyweight) my physique has gotten better as u can see 😉 but im still fighting like a strong warrior every damn day 😌🔥 thank u!!
thank you so much mam i have been watching your videos for past two years whenever i feel like loosing a streak i come to watch your videos so that i can remind my brain how bad porn is...thank you so much you are a savior of my ife from porn i have realized a lot from your videos...your videos still keep me moving
Very informative, thx for sharing. I can attest to what you said to be true. This can be applied to anyone suffering from addictions. It's too bad that there is not more of this to help those who struggle with addiction(s).
Thanks so much for this video Trish. Three years no porn and no fap. However slipped up the other day when home alone and was edging.. Ugh. I can see how this could become a binge. Got to keep fighting!
Three years is huge! It's a great sign that you were able to hold off a binge too. If you need help further pushing out urges from your brain, I'm here! drtrishleigh.com/neurofeedback-coaching-program/
@@kelvinwilliams4029 you masturbate until you reach the moment just before climax, wait for the situation to calm down and then start again repeating the process until releasing the full orgasm gets inevitable
Keep strong man 💪🏻 I just slipped up after 2 years and about 3 months. It sucks but I'm doing my best to keep hope that I can keep fighting and haven't undone all my progress.
Its a two side coin, if you relapse but do it just once being able to control yourself after it you gonna feel a crazy boost of energy the next days but its really difficult to not fall into that cycle again especially during that day you relapsed
I have had problems with pornography since I was probably 10. I'm 54 now. There have been times that I was able to go for a little while not viewing. But the last several years have been rough. And it seems like I really can't stop now. The longest I've abstained recently is 2 or 3 weeks. I think one of my biggest triggers happens to be found at my work. I work in a grocery store. Some ladies come in there dressed in clothing that is very provocative. I try to remain respectful and I don't stare, I often avoid looking in their direction altogether. The problem is once that image is in my head it's very difficult to get it out. Often I come home exhausted as my hours are kind of crazy. That is more often than not when I fall. I really do hate this. I have Covenant Eyes and an accountability partner, but I have learned how to cheat the system, (and consequently, myself). Sometimes I will go ahead and snitch myself out, but by then the damage is done. I really do hate this vicious cycle.
Hi, I've been struggling with this problem for a few years now, sometimes I fall, I notice that my brain is more insensitive. Sometimes I feel defeated and I feel like I will never be able to win, thank you for your video. greetings from Portugal
From November to March I stayed away but relapsed on 30 march and now I am staying away till today. I realized Dopamin PC games can make you want to watch p.
Its something about how modern entertainment is wired specifically for those dopamine hits, even games which were about mastery and getting better in the past are now designed around that dopaminergic loop. And it can definitely increase urges for a stronger hit
Free Tip: when it starts to happen, (he urge) go for long walk and socialize with one random person, pick up an activity or help someone, the urge will go away. I was a counsellor for 25 years this was one of my "get out of that sitaution" advice. AKA "get out of your comfort zone"
I tried covenant eyes but I kept going back to the source and changing the settings till I was satisfied and then turn it back on to the full blocker. I think it is better to know why you created a decision to change, and that, instead of seeking the outlet, seek this dialogue of others expressing their battle to be overcomes as well
You dont know how much this video helped me. Im trying to do nofap for over 4+years and my longest streak was 130days i always come back cause sometimes im on this state for weeks and months and i feel like Dead inside. This time im gonna save this Video and watch it again when the time comes. Thank you sweethearth ❤
I've been observing all the things that happen as I try to get out of this addiction to Porn. 19 days abstained, 1 week of crashes 29 days, 1 week 43 days, 1 week Good to understand whats going on, with that 1 week as I continuously learn what causes me to crash in the first place. Now I just gotta find something that I seriously enjoy to help me not give in which is gonna be a little difficult to figure out. Wonder if there's something I can do to help me launch out of that 1 week.
You are correct. What you need is a dopamine replacement system. Preferably a stack of high dopamine producing activities That you can perform regularly. I call it building a life you don't need to escape from. Physicality worked real well for me...... I practice a martial art, indoor rock climbing, work out almost every day etc.
I'm in Florida. With no power since the hurricane 🌀. I'm not even thinking about porn for the first time in years.I'm afraid I'll relapse when life gets back from this blackout. it's been about seven days so far
I know that this will be like giving up smoking where one pull turns all the lights on in my brain. Day 34 and grateful that today was better than yesterday. Yesterday was hard. Looking forward to finding my true sexual self one day, but a lot of work needs to happen before then. I pray for God's strength to perservere.
Please pray for me in the name of Jesus that I can become free of this sick mind disease. It started as me being curious a few years ago when I was about 15 or 14 and now I’m 18. I go in and out of periods that are pretty bad. I want to stop for good. When I first started I looked it up plainly out of curiosity. I wanted to know how that kind of stuff happened and stuff. It was a bad mistake. I honestly wish I never even knew what it was to begin with or anything. I wish I could go back to having the mind of a child. But now so many things make me think of this and tempt me to relapse. I can’t live with myself like this. And being a woman who struggles with this addiction is hard because most women don’t talk about it and people usually think it’s only men who deal with this addiction. I’m so lost. I need to read my Bible. I serve at my church a lot and I really need to stop doing this. If anyone has good verses to help me that would be great. As well as your prayers.
I just read a book on addiction, and usually when people start that young, it's alot harder to stop , but not impossible. Just keep watching these videos, which are pretty informative but also you have to apply it not just hear it and move on .
This video is super helpful. Wow... you described my EXACT struggle when I do relapse. I get too much pain over the weeks of abstaining in my pelvic region though so I need to release every so often (yeah I'm single for now). I also learned through methylation that I don't deplete dopamine too well. I wonder what that would look like, as you mention the 4 D's of Dopamine.. could you share a visual of this? I MUST catch myself when my thoughts start thinking during that "drip" you mention. I've done well in the past, and just "look the other way" you know? I've done streaks of 90+ days but find myself struggling recently. Summer time has an effect too haha.. but I do feel inspired after watching this once again! Here's to fighting the good fight!!!
A few days ago I felt a weird pain in my pelvic area too after going over a week of no masturbation or porn, but once I let it out I felt better. so I understand you about letting it out once in awhile. But listening to what this women talks about has to be helpful, I'm with you on this and I hope things get better for us all while we fight with strong courageousness!
@@ricardorickiiluna1669 Yes sir. We feel physiologically better after a release and perhaps mentally/emotionally.. at least if you're a guy like us that will "cave" or "relapse" once every few weeks or so due to pain. Yes, Dr. Leigh is very helpful when it comes to this stuff. It's just how we need to manage that pain and such. I still haven't figured it out to be honest. Perhaps praying to God might work.
Just wanted to say appreciate your videos . I been struggling with this addiction since 15 . Didn’t actually try to quit since I turned 19 I’m 24 now and since than I just had semi long streaks of abstinence and than I would binge or edge for awhile . I can gladly say I just got to 90 days clean today . Trying to really rewire and heal from this addiction once and for all. My motivation been pretty high lately and extremely grateful for the progress I made . How long more do you think I need for my dopamine to go back to normal also any tips while I continue my recovery ?
At night before sleeping... Read the Word of God(Bible). And get in prayer against the temptations.urges and cravings.. Reading the Bible before bed is going to renew your mind and rewire your brain..🙏🙏
try journaling to put your thoughts out there, after you can do some breathing exercises to help you alter your focus. guided meditation videos may help too
If you have done it in the past always before sleep, it will feel like a habit, like something you have to do, but just pray and get over it don’t fall into temptation
I just relaosed today after 40 days and now feeling so mich down today. It was because of depressed and sad thoughts. I don't know how to deal with that after a month.
Thank you for sharing my friend ❤️🩹I'm sorry you're going through this! It may be time to join a program to focus on these feelings! If you're interested in joining an entry-level brain training community, check this out- drtrishleigh.com/brain-training/
I got a question regarding to things in relapsing: 1. My motivation to keep away becomes less and less strong 2. P*rn becomes less and less of a bad thing in my mind rather a good thing that I start to look forward to. I find that when I relapse knowing fully that I'm relapsing and binging, it's not that I do this compulsory and not in controll of my own body. I do it because the aforementioned two points happening. So what can we do in this situation? When I manage to keep away it's because I deeply think that p*rn is bad and evil and I want no part in it, but this can turn around. Why?
It's very easy to forget how powerless you are over porn. This is something that happens with all addicts. Assuming you are in fact addicted. You may still think it's just a matter of will & If you can just hang on to the idea that porn is bad, you'll succeed. If this truly is an addiction that will never work.
@@MultipleGrievance But the main point I'm getting at is that I'm not at all powerless when I actually believe that it's a bad thing. It's not a matter of being powerfull. It's a matter of fluctuating evaluation of p*rn that causes relapses with me. I don't consistently believe that it is bad.
@mestayno Bro, Your morality and your will are the same thing. One guides the other. Even if what you're claiming is true and it's simply a matter of you hanging on to the notion that porn is bad, your will power STILL will not be enough against an addiction this strong. Intention isn't enough. You need strategies.
Wow, this is so on point. Thank you Doc. I learnt a few things from this video. I am going to resume counting the days without porn in my life now. I had started but lost focus and scrapped the counter. I think counting and seeing how many days I have gone without is a good thing. I am going to set a target of 50 days without any porn and then reward myself at the end of it with a purchase of my choosing - that will be an added incentive to keep me on track.
Mum I’m highly addicted to it and my brain tells me what I’m watching is not a porn.I don’t why .Last year I lost all my valuable items two phones and etc.my academic is also destroyed .i need your help please
I let porn addiction destroy 11 years of my life and it messed me up so bad I could liken it to a heroine addiction if I was to use drugs as a metaphor. I have an insane amount of shame and self hate for it but it was a lack of successful long relationships and low self esteem that escalated it as I didn’t believe I deserved to be loved. I don’t know if recovery is possible Because over the past few weeks I’ve had slip ups and the first two months porn free I didn’t but I’m worried I’m gonna go on a binge, the usual triggers for this addiction are stress and anxiety and as of late I’ve suffered an illness that made me stay at home more, I’m crying my eyes out now at the horror of going back to my addiction that damaged my mental health so bad it may be permanent. Please please please I want out of this
Porn addictions - for both women and men equally - is one of the most difficult additions to overcome because our entire society is extremely saturated in sexual content and messages. Most of our social media platforms are glorified porn websites. Dr. Leigh did a great job explaining the neurological reasons why the urges to have or want sex happen and what can be done to control it.
That and it literally is manifested through our natural instincts to reproduce as opposed to any other addiction. There is no primal instinct that looks for snorting coke up its nose or injecting herion or meth right into its veins
Romantic sexless movies may have similar effect on women...because women are more addicted to verbal contact with a man.
its a "fantasy" addiction.... and fantasy within fantasy, instead of focusing on productive hobbies and and sports
Some said its like "faliing in love with falling in love", not with actual person.
therefore some people dont commmit to relationships because they "fall in love with feeling or image of falling in love"
but as soon as they are supposed to sacrifice something for parrtner or family, they break up and find another partner.
Porn addiction doesnt exist. It seems to be a popular excuse for otherwise flawed individuals. Its not the porn, it is your lack of self-control.
It's true! I'm glad you found the video helpful ❤️🩹
You don’t realize how saturated our media is with sexual content until your actively trying to avoid it.
I just relapsed after almost 2 years of not watching pornography. Obviously was not worth it. I’m fighting right now to recover and hopefully last longer this time. All the doctor says is true. You would think that after a long time of not watching porn you would have become a little bit more immune to it, wrong! You are just as susceptible and vulnerable to get addicted once again just with one little peak.
Don’t get too comfortable if you have achieved a streak like me. The battle is never over, this is not like quitting weed or alcohol. It’s waay worse and way more addicting. Stay away lads.
I'd say don't be too hard on yourself mate, almost 2 years of no porn sounds incredible! How much has your mind and soul been healed? You're doing great, like everyone here 😄
I'm an ex porn addict who is getting there stopping the relapces...Reckon there should be meetings like with AA for Alcoholics with ex porn addicts for porn addiction..
@@anthonylynch4737 I reckon there’s sexaholics anonymous.
i want a ask, did you masturb in that 2 years? is it ok to M without corn?
@@tokyosmitsubishi thank you, it means alot. I feel much more healthier overall, I’m very proud that I have lasted this long. I don’t want to fall into that rabbit hole ever again.
I relapsed again yesterday after 54 days of not doing it and obviously I was a bit gutted and down about it. But when I thought about how many times I’ve actually done it this year (which is 6 times in 7 months) I realised I’ve actually made a massive improvement from how many times I used to do it overall, so even though I haven’t actually beaten this yet I know I’m actually improving and slowly beating it
You should be proud of yourself.
You know your former self will deeply admire this feat. Only if it could fathom it
Keep going king ❤❤
Slowly beating it is what you should stop though 😂 (all jokes aside, keep it up, youre doing great)
Yes!! I love this way of thinking. Pick yourself back up and keep moving forward!
Don't give up.
@@ChoompaLoompa1985-uw8lw thanks. I’m not planning on giving up 👍
Just lost my partner because of his porn addiction and him choosing it over me but I'm still greatful for these videos in helping me understand and feel more valid in what I've been going through with him
@blakieu I lost a partner because of the decisions I have made, too. It's not your fault
Porn is like McDonald's junk food, gives you the quick it ,but makes you feel shit later.
I am sorry for your losses. I hope you both find faithful partners.
I’m so grateful my wife allowed me to get help and gave me the opportunity to finally change ( even though it was the 2nd time I was confronted). It was a struggle but I quit cold turkey, no relapse. Over a year now and doing great. Way much better relationship with my wife and family.
Almost lost my marriage because of it. We're still in counseling.
I’m on my way to 3 years free of this. It can and will be possible. Own it…be vocal about it. Keep yourself in God’s light.
I love this! Thank you for sharing!
I quit because I have pied. I hope it actually heals me
@@k4g7 ? Pied? I actually used a rough spot in my marriage at the time to spring board out of it…. That coupled with a regular church men’s group, 7 pillars, to assist me in my freedom.
Plz help me i can't 2 days is max help please
Do you still feel urges ?
Self discipline is needed. Without it, no prayers will work and there’s no hope.
So true
I got my first 16 days, and it was not easy. I fell four times, but I still never gave up because I knew my value and purpose in life. We can all do this; just remind yourself of the reason why you should quit. Thank you so much, Dr. Trish. God bless you.
You've got this!
Thanks!
really needed to hear this right now. I have been having some brutal relapses, and it is affecting my relationship in a negative way.
your music is nice bro! stay strong
I'm sorry to hear that my friend! It's time to adjust your recovery plan! If you need extra help, I'm here for you! drtrishleigh.com/get-started/
I currently have 5 days sober. I have had a sex addiction since I was in my early childhood. I am now 51 years old. I had a relapse after being sober for nearly 2 years without watching porn. That relapse turned into a binge, and just recently, I got out the binge cycle to get back to recovery. I was devastated after a relapse after almost 2 years of sobriety. In addition to watching your videos I also belong to a group for support. I appreciate your knowledge and your insight.
You're doing the things you need to do to succeed in recovery! You've got this!!
@@DrTrishLeighThank you
@@DrTrishLeigh Thank you for your encouragement and your videos !!!! I am still moving forward.
Thank You Dr.Trish for the helpful tips. I know what triggers me & I don't click on images & videos that I know might cause me to relapse. I always feel so empty afterwards. The short term pleasure not worth the failure to succeed in self control. Appreciate the encouragement Dr.Trish !
Just think about all of the hot women you're missing out on!
I love this! Thank you for sharing. Keep rocking it out💪
I overcame my 10 yo addiction and have helped dozens of others with a simple, no fluff 30-day system. If you were interested, I talk about it in my videos.
@@JohnTheMartin89 lol you mean the empty pieces of flesh who don't know you exist?
Honestly, I was going to stop watching these awesome videos because I was afraid Dr. Trish doesn't understand what it's like to be a man. I now realize that has nothing to do with it. For whatever reason, this video was a game changer for me. Dr. Trish has a truly respectable and incredible amount of knowledge on this subject, and has obviously dedicated her life to staying on the cutting edge of the emerging science. Gender has nothing to do with it. Thank you for these life transformative videos, Dr. Trish.
But every fantasy witll dry up....
so no matter how masculine the man is "the fantasies men and women have" are not real, or genuine,
especially if there is an element of supperficial tricks, on your brain, made by the companies.
Brain loves "organic" fantasires as sports or som,e hobbies.
You brain feels the best when you learn new skills, because it makes the brain neurons grow
and maybe rather try to learn "connection" with people, rather than just "reaction" to people.
so you will be endlesly inspired by them and yourself too.
I overcame my 10 yo addiction and have helped dozens of others with a simple, no fluff 30-day system. If you're interested, I talk about it in my videos.
Relapsed after a long streak, I was recently laid off work, and I've spent a month searching with no luck. I finally broke down and fell back into those old habits. Starting yesterday, I got back on the train to healing. It's a constant battle.
Stay 💪🏽
I overcame my 10 yo addiction and have helped dozens of others with a simple, no fluff 30-day system. If you're interested, I talk about it in my videos.
I am so sick and fucking tired of this disease that literally ruined my life. I wish I never discovered porn. It’s the most difficult addiction to quit for good.
It could be stupendously difficult but it is possible! I was an edger for years. I've had literally the worst of it, and it's gone. God helped me too.
Hang in there, I know how you feel. I had to turn to Christ to finally break the cycle.
Once you find Christ, it’ll be easy for you! 200 days no porn for me. Let’s go brother
I overcame my 10 yo addiction and have helped dozens of others with a simple, no fluff 30-day system. If you're interested, I talk about it in my videos.
@@Gr1mReaper87 being a man is not a disease, no matter what Gillette says.
I feel overwhelmed with rage but i cant express it
I can definitely say this is absolutely spot on. I’ve been porn free since mid 2021, and what made it easier for me than others is that when I gave into an urge, I felt worse, not better. Plus, I noticed the very same patterns come up when it comes to food around the end of 2021, so becoming aware of myself living out the same patterns through other things showed me that just because porn was out of my life for good, the pattern was still there.
So thankful for all your insight.
Something that's really helped me lately has been going to dance classes as many days of the week as possible.
I think a combo of social isolation, and loss of access to my passion (jiu jitsu, due to back injury) made my addiction worse.
I've read/heard that sex addiction can be due to a person not having a purpose in life, or just generally a boring life.
The combo of renewed purpose, daily physical touch, and more regular socialization all from dance classes, has done wonders.
It hasn't been as much of a struggle this time around, and I'm on a 1.5-month streak so far!
I love this insight! Thank you for sharing ❤️🩹
Been dry for 3 weeks. That's the longest streak in years.
Keep it going!
@@DrTrishLeigh i am falling after 10 days suggest some video.
Major props!
@@chrisaga6253 now 4 weeks! Still going strong.
@@chrisaga6253 4 weeks
Literally just fought off couple crazy urges today. So glad that I did
I overcame my 10 yo addiction and have helped dozens of others with a simple, no fluff 30-day system. If you're interested, I talk about it in my videos.
You spoke DIRECTLY to my Core, felt that one and needed it in a vicious cycle of this horrible addiction, 🙏
Hi Dr Trish I am almost 43 days clean thanks to your tips !
I love this! Keep it going 💪
The first relapse after a long abstinence is horrible, not only after wards, but during too. It's like the most empty, watered down sensation. The ones after the first one, during the binge, feel much better but you're still at that point chasing a high that doesn't exist.
You are my hero.
So true.....when you bite the bait,there's no turning Back.
Preach brother. I bit the bait after almost 2 years of being porn free and I’m struggling so hard because of it. However, If I could escape satan’s hands when he had full grip of me back then, then, I think I can do it now once more.
@@UU.002 omg. Just be a man.
Thank you Trish!!!!
She kept on using the term "super-normal" stimulus, and it initially felt like she was like it was "very normal", until I realized that it in fact means its "beyond normal". I wish this was made clear originally for those who are not familiar with the term.
Otherwise, very helpful and well explained content! Appreciate it!
I take it there is a huge difference from watching it here and there and being addicted where it controls your life. I don't wish that on anyone. I feel like at times it has helped our marriage, by just discovering new things. Wife doesn't care to watch much, but will from time to time.
Thankful for this channel
To bad i have nothing to say today...
@@Kikklarios ???
She’s a fraud
And I'm thankful for you!
The funnest part to me is from an ancient religious point of view this is the concept of avoiding near occasion of Sin, by treating the triggers that lead to the first stage from happening in the first place.
Drugging myself with sleeping meds, Helped me so much.
This is a Brilliant explanation.
I just went 78 days without pornography, then crashed. Now in a battle to stop it becoming a binge. Lust my downfall.
I recently decided to abstain from viewing pornography as much as I can, and hope to abstain from it altogether. I can tell You that something has shifted in me as I have chosen to refrain (mostly). While I do think there are inconceivably rare cases in which someone might be able to use pornography beneficially, that is exceptionally anomalous, and arguably isn’t a long term solution. I think pornography is a major contributor to a lot of issues in the world, more than most people can realize. As a gay man, it is rare for me to find others in my community that are on the same path as I am or view this the same way. I don’t think I’ve met anyone else in my community (yet) that aligns with me on this. I am excited to see more research outside of the religious realm that is helping us to understand the downsides of viewing pornography, so that people can get an understanding of what they want to do with that information. If someone knows the downsides and chooses to continue with the information they are given, they are free to do so. But at least now they know the pros and cons. Thanks for putting Your research out there! It means more than You could ever know!
I just found this, THANK YOU, very helpful.
I have had a harder time staying off porn vs my alcohol addiction. Thank you for sending your content out for us suffering.
Hitting pushups and squats when the urge comes helps tremendously (bodyweight) my physique has gotten better as u can see 😉 but im still fighting like a strong warrior every damn day 😌🔥 thank u!!
Brilliant explanation
Thanks very much it helped me a lot
Great video thank you !
Great information
Very good
Excellent video. Thank you ❤
Usted es de lo mejor en el mundo. Gracias.
thank you so much mam i have been watching your videos for past two years whenever i feel like loosing a streak i come to watch your videos so that i can remind my brain how bad porn is...thank you so much you are a savior of my ife from porn i have realized a lot from your videos...your videos still keep me moving
I'm so glad I've been able to help! Keep rocking it out💪
Thank you! Learn so much from your videos!
Currently on a roll and the relapse fear is real.
Thanks for the tip.
Running from it now cause i am on 25 day streak and i dont want to lose it.
Very informative, thx for sharing. I can attest to what you said to be true. This can be applied to anyone suffering from addictions. It's too bad that there is not more of this to help those who struggle with addiction(s).
I keep getting to one month streak and then slipping up again. Back on the wagon today, going to keep battling
The problem is, the blocker is working for me, but if get rid of the blocker I relapes, but then, I can't just have a blocker for ever???
Nice tips mam . I will keep these in mind
I love to hear it!
@@DrTrishLeigh Wish I was in United States would love to meet you 😘😘😘😘🙏🙏🙏🙏
@@teamsparseO1 I hate to tell ya male masculinity is here to stay
Thanks so much for this video Trish. Three years no porn and no fap. However slipped up the other day when home alone and was edging.. Ugh. I can see how this could become a binge. Got to keep fighting!
I’ve heard of edging, but don’t know what it is. By looking at these videos I been porn free almost 40 days. But what is edging?
Three years is huge! It's a great sign that you were able to hold off a binge too. If you need help further pushing out urges from your brain, I'm here! drtrishleigh.com/neurofeedback-coaching-program/
@@kelvinwilliams4029 you masturbate until you reach the moment just before climax, wait for the situation to calm down and then start again repeating the process until releasing the full orgasm gets inevitable
Keep strong man 💪🏻 I just slipped up after 2 years and about 3 months. It sucks but I'm doing my best to keep hope that I can keep fighting and haven't undone all my progress.
Its a two side coin, if you relapse but do it just once being able to control yourself after it you gonna feel a crazy boost of energy the next days but its really difficult to not fall into that cycle again especially during that day you relapsed
Relapses and slips are part of the journey, but my hope is that you will no longer experience those!
Thank you doc,so much learning and clarity..😏
Thanks, Doc! This to shall pass my mom says that!
I have had problems with pornography since I was probably 10. I'm 54 now.
There have been times that I was able to go for a little while not viewing. But the last several years have been rough. And it seems like I really can't stop now.
The longest I've abstained recently is 2 or 3 weeks. I think one of my biggest triggers happens to be found at my work. I work in a grocery store. Some ladies come in there dressed in clothing that is very provocative. I try to remain respectful and I don't stare, I often avoid looking in their direction altogether.
The problem is once that image is in my head it's very difficult to get it out. Often I come home exhausted as my hours are kind of crazy. That is more often than not when I fall.
I really do hate this. I have Covenant Eyes and an accountability partner, but I have learned how to cheat the system, (and consequently, myself). Sometimes I will go ahead and snitch myself out, but by then the damage is done.
I really do hate this vicious cycle.
Whatever we resist persist
Me too. Just as long. Was introduced to it when I was 10. Never could have imagined then how tenacious a hold the addiction would have on me.
There is wisdom in why God told women to wear loose clothing and a head covering. Of course this shouldn't be forced.
Hi, I've been struggling with this problem for a few years now, sometimes I fall, I notice that my brain is more insensitive. Sometimes I feel defeated and I feel like I will never be able to win, thank you for your video. greetings from Portugal
From November to March I stayed away but relapsed on 30 march and now I am staying away till today. I realized Dopamin PC games can make you want to watch p.
After staying away 2 months I went from 800 elo to 1000 elo in chess without practising that much.
Its something about how modern entertainment is wired specifically for those dopamine hits, even games which were about mastery and getting better in the past are now designed around that dopaminergic loop. And it can definitely increase urges for a stronger hit
I saw gaming as a healthier replacement. Been on semen retention for a while
broo this is literally meee, i stuck on 600 for a years, and just hit 750 after a month quit corn
This is a great thing to realize! Get back on track and keep rocking it out💪
I just cant beat it
Yes you can! If you need help, I'm here! drtrishleigh.com
@@DrTrishLeigh I just wish i could afford it
Free Tip: when it starts to happen, (he urge) go for long walk and socialize with one random person, pick up an activity or help someone, the urge will go away. I was a counsellor for 25 years this was one of my "get out of that sitaution" advice. AKA "get out of your comfort zone"
Great video! It really helps to just block access too, getting blocking software on our phones, and computers. Covenant Eyes is great.
Yes! I love this strategy, thank you for sharing!
@@DrTrishLeigh just helps making it more difficult to access the drug.
I tried covenant eyes but I kept going back to the source and changing the settings till I was satisfied and then turn it back on to the full blocker. I think it is better to know why you created a decision to change, and that, instead of seeking the outlet, seek this dialogue of others expressing their battle to be overcomes as well
@@wesleymcmurrin7704 You gotta have an accountability partner that has the passcode settings, and gets the report.
You dont know how much this video helped me. Im trying to do nofap for over 4+years and my longest streak was 130days i always come back cause sometimes im on this state for weeks and months and i feel like Dead inside. This time im gonna save this Video and watch it again when the time comes. Thank you sweethearth ❤
TY for this. God bless
Thank you doctor
🙏🙏🙏
Looking good, doc.
Chill
@@michaelharris-2001 can't compliment her? You chill
Focus on the mission, King.
@@Doc569 exactly what someone will comment if they are still looking for beautiful women. Focus should be somewhere else at the moment
@@michaelharris-2001good point
I've been observing all the things that happen as I try to get out of this addiction to Porn.
19 days abstained, 1 week of crashes
29 days, 1 week
43 days, 1 week
Good to understand whats going on, with that 1 week as I continuously learn what causes me to crash in the first place.
Now I just gotta find something that I seriously enjoy to help me not give in which is gonna be a little difficult to figure out.
Wonder if there's something I can do to help me launch out of that 1 week.
You are correct.
What you need is a dopamine replacement system. Preferably a stack of high dopamine producing activities That you can perform regularly.
I call it building a life you don't need to escape from.
Physicality worked real well for me......
I practice a martial art, indoor rock climbing, work out almost every day etc.
You may need the help of a program! Consider joining my entry-level brain training community! drtrishleigh.com/get-started/
just to ask if you would recommend any over the counter meds to help avoid relapses ?
My most vulnerable time when the urge comes is when I’m laying down for the night, so what should I do to keep that urge in check?
How can I get counseling with you?
I'm in Florida.
With no power since the hurricane 🌀. I'm not even thinking about porn for the first time in years.I'm afraid I'll relapse when life gets back from this blackout. it's been about seven days so far
I know that this will be like giving up smoking where one pull turns all the lights on in my brain. Day 34 and grateful that today was better than yesterday. Yesterday was hard. Looking forward to finding my true sexual self one day, but a lot of work needs to happen before then. I pray for God's strength to perservere.
"Give in to the drip". Comedy gold.
I love to be satiated by dopomine.
Thank you
. You give us so much hope
This is a really accurate description of what it feels like.
Please pray for me in the name of Jesus that I can become free of this sick mind disease. It started as me being curious a few years ago when I was about 15 or 14 and now I’m 18. I go in and out of periods that are pretty bad. I want to stop for good. When I first started I looked it up plainly out of curiosity. I wanted to know how that kind of stuff happened and stuff. It was a bad mistake. I honestly wish I never even knew what it was to begin with or anything. I wish I could go back to having the mind of a child. But now so many things make me think of this and tempt me to relapse. I can’t live with myself like this. And being a woman who struggles with this addiction is hard because most women don’t talk about it and people usually think it’s only men who deal with this addiction. I’m so lost. I need to read my Bible. I serve at my church a lot and I really need to stop doing this. If anyone has good verses to help me that would be great. As well as your prayers.
I just read a book on addiction, and usually when people start that young, it's alot harder to stop , but not impossible. Just keep watching these videos, which are pretty informative but also you have to apply it not just hear it and move on .
This video is super helpful. Wow... you described my EXACT struggle when I do relapse. I get too much pain over the weeks of abstaining in my pelvic region though so I need to release every so often (yeah I'm single for now). I also learned through methylation that I don't deplete dopamine too well. I wonder what that would look like, as you mention the 4 D's of Dopamine.. could you share a visual of this? I MUST catch myself when my thoughts start thinking during that "drip" you mention. I've done well in the past, and just "look the other way" you know? I've done streaks of 90+ days but find myself struggling recently. Summer time has an effect too haha.. but I do feel inspired after watching this once again! Here's to fighting the good fight!!!
A few days ago I felt a weird pain in my pelvic area too after going over a week of no masturbation or porn, but once I let it out I felt better. so I understand you about letting it out once in awhile. But listening to what this women talks about has to be helpful, I'm with you on this and I hope things get better for us all while we fight with strong courageousness!
@@ricardorickiiluna1669 Yes sir. We feel physiologically better after a release and perhaps mentally/emotionally.. at least if you're a guy like us that will "cave" or "relapse" once every few weeks or so due to pain. Yes, Dr. Leigh is very helpful when it comes to this stuff. It's just how we need to manage that pain and such. I still haven't figured it out to be honest. Perhaps praying to God might work.
I was dry for 85 days and relapsed for a week. Did i start over again😢?
No, you dont lose all your progress
You didnt fall all the way down, you slipped a couple steps. Now get back up keep killing it!
Just wanted to say appreciate your videos . I been struggling with this addiction since 15 . Didn’t actually try to quit since I turned 19 I’m 24 now and since than I just had semi long streaks of abstinence and than I would binge or edge for awhile . I can gladly say I just got to 90 days clean today . Trying to really rewire and heal from this addiction once and for all. My motivation been pretty high lately and extremely grateful for the progress I made . How long more do you think I need for my dopamine to go back to normal also any tips while I continue my recovery ?
6:33 what about at night before sleep?
At night before sleeping...
Read the Word of God(Bible). And get in prayer against the temptations.urges and cravings..
Reading the Bible before bed is going to renew your mind and rewire your brain..🙏🙏
try journaling to put your thoughts out there, after you can do some breathing exercises to help you alter your focus. guided meditation videos may help too
If you have done it in the past always before sleep, it will feel like a habit, like something you have to do, but just pray and get over it don’t fall into temptation
Reading the Bible daily, will take away the urge to watch
Finding something that gives your life meaning is essential!
That book is the main basis for Incest porn videos😂😂
Reading the Bible is even worse offense.
@@DrTrishLeigh Sex does that for me
Thanks
Good job Dr Trish!
Maam tell them try not to quit the medium instead try to control your brain understanding the dopamine mechanism
doctor. jrking without prn counts as staying away? without edging, just 1 min run without thoughts
This video is actually helpful to human beings.
@@LKaramazov only weak human beings.
Love you doc, you helped me a lot kicking gaming and porn addictions in their asses.
How do you know if you are addicted if you had stopped watching it all together a long time ago?
If you found that you couldn't stop watching it, you were addicted!
@@DrTrishLeigh if you had made a conscious decision to stop and not look back, since then nor crave it or miss it is that considered an addiction?
@@cobragolf12if you can stop immediately and don’t feel the urge to go back then you’re good
I just relaosed today after 40 days and now feeling so mich down today. It was because of depressed and sad thoughts. I don't know how to deal with that after a month.
Thank you for sharing my friend ❤️🩹I'm sorry you're going through this! It may be time to join a program to focus on these feelings! If you're interested in joining an entry-level brain training community, check this out- drtrishleigh.com/brain-training/
I got a question regarding to things in relapsing:
1. My motivation to keep away becomes less and less strong
2. P*rn becomes less and less of a bad thing in my mind rather a good thing that I start to look forward to.
I find that when I relapse knowing fully that I'm relapsing and binging, it's not that I do this compulsory and not in controll of my own body. I do it because the aforementioned two points happening. So what can we do in this situation? When I manage to keep away it's because I deeply think that p*rn is bad and evil and I want no part in it, but this can turn around. Why?
It's very easy to forget how powerless you are over porn.
This is something that happens with all addicts.
Assuming you are in fact addicted. You may still think it's just a matter of will & If you can just hang on to the idea that porn is bad, you'll succeed.
If this truly is an addiction that will never work.
I notice you think that you aren't looking at porn compulsively & even in control of your body.
Yet, you can't seem to stop.
@@MultipleGrievance But the main point I'm getting at is that I'm not at all powerless when I actually believe that it's a bad thing. It's not a matter of being powerfull. It's a matter of fluctuating evaluation of p*rn that causes relapses with me. I don't consistently believe that it is bad.
@mestayno
Bro, Your morality and your will are the same thing. One guides the other. Even if what you're claiming is true and it's simply a matter of you hanging on to the notion that porn is bad, your will power STILL will not be enough against an addiction this strong.
Intention isn't enough. You need strategies.
This is the hijacker in your mind! It's trying to convince you that porn isn't a problem in order to get you back to the screen!
People like what they like..if it makes them feel good then there you go..
You are an angel in the body of a human!!!!!!!!
Thank you for the kind words my friend!
Thankyou Trish. I am currently on binge. I relapsed after a year.
I'm sorry to hear that! Understand what you let fall through, adjust your recovery plan accordingly, and then move on!
Will mindfulness of breathing help?
@@supratim17roy crack will help
Wow, this is so on point. Thank you Doc. I learnt a few things from this video. I am going to resume counting the days without porn in my life now. I had started but lost focus and scrapped the counter. I think counting and seeing how many days I have gone without is a good thing. I am going to set a target of 50 days without any porn and then reward myself at the end of it with a purchase of my choosing - that will be an added incentive to keep me on track.
You’re basically saving my life video by video thank you ❤
Mum I’m highly addicted to it and my brain tells me what I’m watching is not a porn.I don’t why .Last year I lost all my valuable items two phones and etc.my academic is also destroyed .i need your help please
I let porn addiction destroy 11 years of my life and it messed me up so bad I could liken it to a heroine addiction if I was to use drugs as a metaphor. I have an insane amount of shame and self hate for it but it was a lack of successful long relationships and low self esteem that escalated it as I didn’t believe I deserved to be loved. I don’t know if recovery is possible Because over the past few weeks I’ve had slip ups and the first two months porn free I didn’t but I’m worried I’m gonna go on a binge, the usual triggers for this addiction are stress and anxiety and as of late I’ve suffered an illness that made me stay at home more, I’m crying my eyes out now at the horror of going back to my addiction that damaged my mental health so bad it may be permanent. Please please please I want out of this
Jesus loves you, pray it out of your heart to Him.
Struggle is real…
Great advice Doctor
I don’t know why my brain and myself argue about what is porn .can you help me mum
I'm here to help! drtrishleigh.com
There is NO such thing as porn addiction. Humans naturally have LUST.
Porn Addiction is very very real and it’s detrimental to your life and especially relationships.