Well smoking was what most people did until they realised it was bad for your health..there should be a warning on the back of a wedding dress…with a QR code for further studies..
And to think that if the divorce rate is 50% imagine how many intact marriages are an absolute living nightmare. Couples can put on a facade but their homes are chaos.
I've worked many long shifts with hundreds and hundreds of co-workers over 40 years (military, gov't svc). Almost everyone says they're "relatively happy" in public or in a group, but after working 10, 12, & 24 hr shifts with the same person, the truth starts to come out. I can count the ones who genuinely believe they're happy with their marriages on less than two hands. Your odds of true success are like finding a unicorn. Sad, but true.
70% of divorces are initiated by women.... Marriage and women will not be worth it anymore in the future. Being single is the best to live a peaceful and healthy life without a woman. We men don't want to hurt and ruin the next generations in the future.
Your humor and rants make a solemn subject more easily digested. 😂🤣 When you logically examine the whole marriage " institution" , it reveals what lunacy it really is. You definitely deserve to have multiples of the followers that you currently have. Keep enlightening us with your hard earned wisdom! 👍😂👍
Many people would like that kind of stuff in their life. Actually as life progressing we have lots of diffrenet ideas 💡 we are changing at some point of life every idea is wise and worth employing. Whoever feels strongly he should or shouldn't do something probably it's a sign.
I grew up watching my parents argue endlessly over finances, inlaws and all the usual causes of unrest in a marriage. It was a source of great distress for myself. However, it was also a great teacher! Fast forward into my later life, my parents constantly questioned, shamed and mocked my reluctance to settle down. Seriously! you cannot make this up
Love your video's. I am 51, dated a lot, but never found the one. Love my nephews and nieces but never wanted kids myself, always liked my freedom to spend my time and money the way I found fit, without being obligated to make compromises with another human being. Sometimes I feel something is wrong with me for being such a loner. But following your channel always gives me the moral boost to accept myself the way I am.
@@tonydiesel3444 im 36 and i am at the age where im questioning all my life choices. Ive been single for a decade now and it just became normal. Sooo im not sure if i should date again? Sometimes i really want to..cuz its getting kinda lonely
I'm a 74 year old white male.When I was 13 my mother told me to "never trust a women" and "never get married".She also told me "never knock up a woman"you'll regret it the rest of your life.I held true to what my mother told me.
Frank… I’m only two years behind you… I wish my mother had given me that advice… but I must admit I love the two kids I got from the deal…. good luck, buddy.
You have a good Mum. My parents never pressured me into marriage and kids. I’m 41 and have been single all of my life , I don’t trust women and would rather stay out of trouble.
A woman I dated recently did a pull back and then complained when I didn't chase. Because she had a son, I asked, if your son had a girlfriend and she was behaving like you, would you tell him to do what you just told me. She went quiet and never answered...
We also become the wrong man. Give up control of our resources. Quit maintaining friendships with other men. Quit maintaining our fitness. Quit doing masculine things for ourselves. Concede authority and leadership in the relationship. Too many of us have been raised on feminism and think that we can get a woman to be our wife and then she's also going to be our best friend, our mom, our lover, etc. You have to put in place the boundaries that dictate those relationships if you want to have that with someone. Quit thinking your LTR or wife is going to love you like your mom. Your best friend can't take half your assets and make you work for a significant period of time, providing them resources when the relationship's over. A lover looks forward to spending time with you giving and receiving pleasure.
Women are incapable of unconditional love. It is their nature ordained by God. The only thing that they are capable of is Motherly love directed towards children.
I’m on my second go-round in the marriage department. After 30 years, this one is on the rocks. I’m blessed to have two wonderful adult children and seven outstanding grandchildren. There is always good reason to count blessings. Outstanding channel John!
I have always been taught about the essence of life, finish school, college, build career, get married, babies, retirement and death. I don’t know who made it up, but I followed these steps and I ended up being divorced, losing kids and being happily single.
I was married 26 years that were wonderful but wife passed and this channel has made me realize how lucky I was and how I DOUBT I will get married again. Odds of finding someone worthwhile is really low.
@@smartcookie3500 Til death do you part! I think a divorce would have about killed me so glad I didn't experience what John here talks about. I can't imagine losing 1/2 my assets etc etc. Really eye opening how many men have horror stories.
the comments about emotional connection are genius. because I thought I was starting to have a special connection with a girl at work, but lo and behold she does it with every other guy in the office.
Once you have emotional connection with many women you find that you have no need to connect with just one or even none as your quota of emotional needs has been met.
Another thing about the institution. She will make you feel like you are priority number one in her life in the beginning. After a few years you fall somewhere at a distant second to the family dog.
@@jasonreed2116 I have dated a few horsey chicks and they make it clear you come after the horse. What I like about them is that you can leave them alone for 5 minutes and don’t have to babysit and entertain them 24/7 like a dancing monkey.
Whenever someone pressures me into marriage, I always ask them why they want to get married. Not once has anyone mentioned me in their answer. One told me her parents were the only ones at church without grandkids. Another started describing how our wedding would feature burnt orange as the theme color. They seem to have this fairytale vision in their heads of what marriage will be like, and I’m just the poor sucker they drag and drop into their pre-set fantasy. It would seem they are only thinking about being a princess for a day. They do not think further than that. Maybe that’s why I’ve never been married.
I believe it was Rod Stewart who made the observation that the next time he's tempted to get married, he'll just find a woman he doesn't like and give her a house.
Whew!! At 65 and single, I sure did dodge a bullet by not going down that path. Thanks John. Always appreciate the ongoing videos to remind me that my choice of a single life was the right one - for me. Also, I'm an Australian from NSW and we have some interesting laws regarding co-habitation and even non co-habitation which can really shred a mans life financially.
I'm back home as my brother ended himself. He was in a very unhappy marriage. Never feel guilty for not following the trap. It's a stupid game, and men are starting to wise up. Ill take freedom and happiness any day.
I realized recently that part of the reason I got married was all the pressure I received from my parents and grandparents as a younger man. It was one of those life goals that I just had to accomplish according to them. Funny that they were all actually dead when I finally got married. Although I wish some of them were still around so I could tell them how full of crap they were!
Divorce would be avoided 99% of the time if women didn't pull the mirror & switch up card. We all thought we married the unicorn she portrayed herself as, until that day when her mask fell.
why do men do this? I think they feel like they are missing out on something…As my grandmother used to say: "Some people have it all except misery, and then they look to fix that by getting married”.
I never married, after my first teenage love i got a hunch that it might be a real bad idea. I had some unmarried long term relationships and it only confirmed it, so glad i never got married lmao
You never divorce the woman you married.No truer words have ever been spoken...im heartbroken, 25 years married, 6 kids @ my wife wants me out of the house..Ahe needs " space".... meanwhile ive endurded a loveless, sexless marriage for my children....to be able to see them daily.... Gentleman...read my words ..she was a sexual animal before marriage....made me her priority...i was smitten w her beauty and attention....i now get made fun of when im sick....no joke
Chin up, brother! I dated for 2 years and 38 years of marriage to a very unhappy and troubled woman for a total of 40 years in the desert! Faithful to my marriage vows, only to be betrayed too. 😊 It takes time, but you have to become your very best friend and love yourself unconditionally. Journal, and get out into the woods, prayer, and meditation will do you a world of good. Once you get to enjoy your own company, you'll have peace like a river! 😊❤😊 It will take time. Don't condemn yourself. Life is a learning experience. 😊 When you get to the other side, there's good things like peace of mind. Learn gratitude, and thankfulness. 😊❤😊❤😊❤😊❤😊❤😊❤😊
we were young, my wife pressured me into marriage basically saying she wont have kids unless we are legally married. when asked why this was necessary she said “I want to feel secure” secure as in access to my money I guess. but anyway I’m a sucker and agreed to it. of course I was in love
Separated for 12 months, after a 15 year relationship with a Woman. I cannot describe in words the peace and tranquility, and the rise in productivity, from not having a Woman in my life.
I knew a guy like this. He was 27, former D2 college football player. Not good looking but had some muscle, not rich but had a decent job, just a good yet simpy dude. This 30 year old woman out of his league starts dating him. He falls in love. It’s obvious based on his teenage girl-like FB posts that he’s never dated a woman as good looking as her. I felt like telling him: “Dude, you’re 27. She’s 30. You didn’t just become “that guy.” She just wants a ring and you’re the dope who will do.”
Just like to say, what I've realised is that there is no woman that is out of an average man's league. Men are usually pretty darn amazing, no matter what they look like.
@@LarryWilliamsArtist idk man. I’ve had enough good married Christian women try and out feelers out on me that I know you won’t find her in a church either
My grandfather taught me well. He said they all generally F**k the same. If you ever marry one, marry one that makes the money. Well I just so happened to take the advice or just accidentally stumbled upon one that makes $. Man has the last 10 years been probably been a regular marriage 30 years equivalent with how stressful and unhappy she is! I built 3 homes for us, lived pretty frugally & had 2 kids. I actually had no idea how much she earned, I didn’t really care. She tried throwing postnup after 10 years of dealing with her shit! I refused to throw away my rites. We are now going through divorce and is she extremely pissed about giving half her shit away. This is why marriage institution probably won’t last long. Men have been being pumped and dumped since beginning of time. Woman taking on main income earner being more and more common for maybe 50 years. Now we need to change these marriage rules!!
Agreed. Men say they don't care about how much a woman makes. You are a fool thinking like that. If you want to win( kids etc)you have to play by their rules. Marry for money first, love second.
One thing I’ve learned also through the divorce process is if you are married keep your finances separated if you’re the breadwinner. When she is the breadwinner combine it all so you have knowledge of the finances. I had to pay out the ass (more than a lawyer) to hire forensic accountants to track down all the assets. I pretty much have burned through my entire life savings. So she isn’t making it easy. She’s trying to play the bleed him dry game but I’ve figured out I can just pay what I can and in the end it will be worth it. Ugh does it suck ass though! Been eating oatmeal for a year now. I do free stuff with kids like go to county parks etc…
in high school, I realized girls wanted guys who provided for them. looks are important to them for attraction but for marriage, they really wanted men who could give them a comfortable lifestyle. I'm surprised many or most men don't know that. of course, we men don't care about our women's career, income or education because they won't affect our lives. "his money is our money; my money is my money."
@plasmaarmelund Exactly. That darn honeymoon stage lures guys in. I wish it didn't exist in the first place. But if that was the case, there would probably be a DRASTIC decline in baby making.
When I was young, no social media. A man never had any idea. Almost to much information available.... 😮. Now it education by social media, in so many ways. 😅
No social media about 50 years ago, that's right! BUT - every single kid / young teen has eyes to see and ears to listen with, even back then. I knew there's something oddly wrong about this marriage thing when I was ten. Unless you grew up on the country side with no neighbours, - there have been red flags waving at you EVERYWHERE. But yes, channels like this one are saving young mens lifes!
Hey John, Thanks for the videos! Just thinking how much my recent experience with my ex-wife parallels your story. She decided back in July 2024 that she didn’t want to be married anymore after 42 years of marriage. I’m still working on being alone but I have to say it gets a little easier with each day. All I have to do is remind myself how much more peaceful my life is now. It’s really a blessing in my life I could list the good things that has come from it but I’m sure there is a limit to the amount of words that is allowed here, lol. It truly helps to know I’m not alone in this change in my life, Thanks again for the videos they are down to earth and real.
This is why I'm grateful my dad let me watch all sorts of movies. The big Lebowski stuck with me since the 5th grade... Now it's paying off living like the dude at 27 lol
@@Username1171000 That is a great film. A cult classic. Twenty seven is an amazing vintage for young people. It's a time where we are fit, healthy and inspired. The content created by this gentleman is a real gift for younger people, particularly young men. It is a joy knowing men much younger than myself have access to this wisdom. I hope it's well heeded. Plan for your future mate. It is of utmost importance and will give you the opportunity not afforded to those who float. I genuinely wish you all the best mate
Growing up with sisters, watching my family, my neighbourhood, my schoolmates, it was very easy for me to decide to NEVER get married at age 10! And that was in the 1960th and early 70th. Sometimes good decisions are made early!
I think a lot of pressure to get married comes from your parents. My mom always asked me, "So, when are you going to get married and give me grandchildren?" She once told me that the purpose of life is to procreate. Family and culture pressure is a big reason why men marry.
i know this is kinda off-topic, but i kept seeing comments about Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki in videos like this, and i finally decided to read it. honestly, it’s one of those books where you don’t realize how much it’s helping until you start noticing people treating you differently. it’s like the book shows you how to unlock a version of yourself you didn’t even know was there. subtle, but so effective.
You are right about the economic reasons. A family spends way more money than a single person, particularly a single man. We can get by on very little but anyone who has a family, even a small one can tell you how expensive it is. The US economy is primarily based on spending and debt now so they need these big spenders to keep the house of cards in tact.
It's only marginally more expensive to have a family, unless you include the wife I just got divorced recently after 15 years and five children it was horrific and custody is still ongoing and will most likely be for several years to come children can be expensive frivolous bulshit at the wife wants to get not only for herself but for the children how many pairs of shoes do you really need when you're 5 years old or dresses are the goddamn makeup for your 13 year old daughter, year old daughter the father doesn't even want her to have. All the needless vacations, dining out, girls night out, road trips, extra s*** from the school like shirts rings etc all the junk food all the movies all the going out shopping on and on and on. If you subtract all of that even having four or five children, I bet it doubles at least when you throw the wife in there
I'm 42 and so glad I played a lot in my 30s and never got married or had kids. You said nobody ever told you, but people did tell me, and I listened. Most men say sex dries up, and even women who seemed like a diamond in the rough when they met are at risk of flipping and taking half your shit at some point down the road. Lots of men have stories like this. And as you pointed out, the divorce rate has been known to be ~50% since I was born ('82). Hell, my parents divorced when I was 1, so I never even knew them together. I absolutely love the freedom of having everything I own paid off, finally earning a couple hundred Gs after a couple decades of gradually increasing my earning power, and being able to do what I want, when I want, without answering to anyone because I'm still single. The only thing I would like to change is I do want to have kids, a legacy. So I need to find a way to do that without falling into the traps I've managed to avoid so far. Surrogacy is an option. Right now, my plan is to find a provincial Filipina who wants to have kids together without getting married and just keep her in her little province. If it went south, I would just support her with like $200/month/kid, still much less expensive than kids and divorce in the US.
I’m with the same woman for over 15 years and we have never been married. Everything is separate and the only legal connection we have is two boys. No marriage in sight.
I have some comments but I still can't pass the fact that one of your ex reasons to get married to you was that ur "thing is straith". I had no idea that some were crooked. It just seems that if she wasn't so hot and if you were not so infactuated with her looks maybe you would be able to see that she was so selfish to the point she was unable to love you. All the red flags were there. Love is kind, love is generous, love gives all and asks nothing in return.
The love you give and don't get back is actually pain. The least you want in return is to be around that person. We don't have to admit it, but we actually want to be loved to reduce that pain. Good looks are something evolutionary that associates us with the idea that beautiful things are good and innocent and ugly things are the opposite. Maybe I'm wrong.
The only marriage that a guy should seek is were your marrying up. She has more money, properties etc at risk. Even that, I wouldn’t entertain. Don’t need all that extra stress caring for a child in adult size.
A lot of wisdom in these videos. Very insightful as to how a man makes a decision to marry, how the woman sees the whole endeavor, how these things end up, and how to put yourself back together when things come apart. I imagine you've helped thousands of men make more informed decisions on one of the most important life topics.
Divorce drives the economy too. Now you need two homes, two cars, two everything and the ex usually gets a job if she doesn’t have one already. So corporations get more labor and governments get more taxes. It’s a fine institution.
It makes me laugh when you crack yourself up telling the story... 😂 Happy Friday, all! Great message, John! Why do we need this "institution?" Some do. I don't. 😊✌️
A coworker was going through divorce when I first knew him. Several years later he was getting remarried, different girl. We'd become friends over that time. I'd talked about girlfriends I'd had years ago but was not dating and perpetually single. One day he looked at me and said "You don't care anything about women do you?" I thought a few seconds and said "I like girls. They're nice and fun to be with but whenever I start dating someone something stupid happens."
I can answer that because there is no such thing as soulmate. If you have the feeling for her then go get her and take a chance or a high risk in choosing to build a family with her or him that's it. It is a risk take bases on our feeling.
The answer is because they're terrified of being alone. They don't know how to do it and they just want a replacement for their mothers. A vast majority of married men are just big babies.
I’ve been divorced now for 5 years. One of the observations I made even before my divorce was when I saw what I considered happily married older couples that had been together for decades they had one thing in common. The man was always agreeable and doting on the wife and he enjoyed it (or he was really good at acting). But I’m not like that, I’m disagreeable, independent, stubborn, and I’m generally going to do what I’m going to do when I want to do it. The men that were like me were either divorced or there was tension, like a stallion that won’t be broken. And the irony was, if the man “won” that battle the wife looked downtrodden and broken and will leave you for being “controlling and abusive” (meaning you weren’t willing to be controlled and abused) and fall into the arms of a beta in waiting nice guy. To recap. Your choices are: 1) Accept the saddle and the yoke and be happy for it. 2) Don’t accept it and have tension in your house and if you “win” you still lose because 99.9% of women will never be the agreeable accepting type. 3) Stay in the race for as long as you can until you or her call it quits. If she’s the one that calls it quits just realize she probably got 90% of what she wanted from you anyway; kids, house, protection/provision. Just take the unruly bull down to the slaughterhouse (divorce court). Women don’t call it quits before they get what they want. The divorce doesn’t come 2 years in before kids and without marital property.
Very good insights, many I can first hand relate to. Well stated , excellent summary. Know thyself. I've never been married yet most LTRs just have not panned out. At the end of the day, most modern women view men as a utility, in some form of another. The irony is that most do not give anywhere near the utility to men. Not an equal transaction, even dating is a significant liability nowadays
I chose to stay single(I did have girlfriends). 57 years old. Great friends. Great career. Great hobbies. I am happy, and not really lonely. I am sure that I could have been happily married, but I think the number of people that are actually happy in successful marriages - is low. I think I saved myself a lot of trouble. So far I have lived an unconventional, successful, exciting, and satisfying life. No regrets.
Man, you are awesome; I fully agree. Although Im a little younger than you, married almost 20 yrs and have 4 kids in one marriage, I fully understand what you are saying, despite that I lived in the US almost 25 yes ago now. Im Russian and live here now. I have a niece in the US in her twenties and she shares my views in general on that matter. All the best to you and the good folks :)
Your analysis of why each of you decided to marry is accurate. Looking back you understand your essence as a quality person had little to nothing to do with it. Like you, I have always been taken in by attractive figures and reasonably good sxx. Did realize that wasn't enough to sign a contract. Have known two guys who admitted they married their best, maybe only option. Both wanted children. So new ppl were created by happenstance. Like I probably was. The handful of good/happy marriages you mentioned, are extremely rare in my experience. Good episode. 🤔
Greg? From Dharma and Greg? Pix or it didn't happen... LOL! This was a stunningly good video. Am a fan for some time, and I can't see how these clips can keep getting better and better...but they do. Your thought processes on this subject are just so clear and well spoken. And, I think you finally came to articulate what a young man really faces, in the choice as to whether to marry or not, that an older, mature male is no longer quite as subject to: 1. the need to obviate loneliness (particularly when all your other male friends are pairing up and leaving your orbit in your mid and later 20's); and 2. intercourse is like crack cocaine for a young male, and it is so difficult for many guys to give that up when the choice is between getting married (and thinking sex will continue on in the relationship forever) and breaking up and maintaining your freedom. NB I am in your age bracket, John, and been-there-done-that, as you have.
Can't cohabit in her home, it's hers. Can't cohabit in your home, it's not like hers and must conform. Every guy who has married buys a house for her, where maybe there will be, grudgingly, a man cave which he might actually have the privilege of using. From time to time. Women build the safe, secure, just-so nest, and then have to expensively travel so as to escape the boring place.
I have had two 15+ year relationships with children. If you have money, stay in control of yourself and your resources, combine that with RP knowledge you can have a great relationship. The key is understanding what he is talking about and making yourself a great option for ANY woman and the BEST option for the woman you have right now. The way to ruin is "happy wife, happy life" and giving up control through a enforced by the state, if it goes bad business contract we call marriage. When you are legally married you have literally surrendered 50%+ of what made you attractive to her in the first place.
Great video, John. I have been critical in the past, constructively I hope, but credit where credit is due. Putting the institution of marriage in its larger historical, political and economic context was done brilliantly. I know others have done it before, but yours was uniquely insightful.
Back in the day every boy was given the playbook ... school, college, marriage, house, kids, climb the corporate ladder, retire, die with life insurance. You don't question it until things deviate from the playbook.
Some people think marriage is a wonderful blessing and would never want the single life while others would never want marriage. I don’t think either had to be BAD! It’s up to each individual person!
i know this isn’t what the video’s about, but i had to mention how i kept seeing Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki in comments everywhere. curiosity got the better of me, and i finally read it. it’s wild how much it changes your mindset and the way you come across to others. it’s not about pretending to be confident-it’s about genuinely building that energy so it shows naturally. definitely worth all the buzz it’s been getting.
Man your grey dog pees on absolutely everything! Haha! 😂 Also, you need to introduce your doggies at some point. We wanna know their names and origin story. Well, i do anyway. :)
@@john-griffin I'm intact too. I totally understand. Has he tried FlowMax? :) Great videos and channel, by the way. Love the drone shots and all the great scenery. Your videos are the only red pill content that actually relaxes me. You're like a human Zen garden. ')
This is one of your best videos yet. Yes, social programming, guilt, + thinking of doing the honourable thing. Never again,, honour yourself gents!! That is your best move. Thanks again!!
As Rollo Tomaso said, "Men and women are better together than they are apart." But the institution of marriage here in the west is an unconscionable contract. If you say yes to relationships, great. Just don't get married or live together. I am going through my second divorce and I have lived with three different women in my 52 years as a man. And not one of those relationships ever improved and got better as a consequence of living together. Let that sink in.
In Australian...our Family Law Act is applied to de facto relationships at the two (2) year mark. If you're in a de facto relationship - one does not need to be married for a Woman to take half of your assets. Be careful.
Well smoking was what most people did until they realised it was bad for your health..there should be a warning on the back of a wedding dress…with a QR code for further studies..
😂 this one is great
50% divorce rate, 100% misery rate.
And to think that if the divorce rate is 50% imagine how many intact marriages are an absolute living nightmare. Couples can put on a facade but their homes are chaos.
@@Jdin74wives cheat while husbands know but can't leave because of kids. Glad I'm not in that situation.
I've worked many long shifts with hundreds and hundreds of co-workers over 40 years (military, gov't svc). Almost everyone says they're "relatively happy" in public or in a group, but after working 10, 12, & 24 hr shifts with the same person, the truth starts to come out. I can count the ones who genuinely believe they're happy with their marriages on less than two hands. Your odds of true success are like finding a unicorn. Sad, but true.
70% of divorces are initiated by women.... Marriage and women will not be worth it anymore in the future. Being single is the best to live a peaceful and healthy life without a woman. We men don't want to hurt and ruin the next generations in the future.
Ironically there's probably more misery in the 50% that remain married.
Once a man says "I do" she starts saying "I don't".
Crazy
Once a man says, “I do” she says “gotcha b*tch!” in Dave Chappelle’s voice 😂😂😂
Classic!!!😂
"Marriage is an institution. Who wants to live in an institution?"
Your humor and rants make a solemn subject more easily digested. 😂🤣 When you logically examine the whole marriage " institution" , it reveals what lunacy it really is. You definitely deserve to have multiples of the followers that you currently have. Keep enlightening us with your hard earned wisdom!
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Many people would like that kind of stuff in their life. Actually as life progressing we have lots of diffrenet ideas 💡 we are changing at some point of life every idea is wise and worth employing. Whoever feels strongly he should or shouldn't do something probably it's a sign.
I grew up watching my parents argue endlessly over finances, inlaws and all the usual causes of unrest in a marriage. It was a source of great distress for myself. However, it was also a great teacher!
Fast forward into my later life, my parents constantly questioned, shamed and mocked my reluctance to settle down. Seriously! you cannot make this up
Be true to yourself!
Parents think they know what's best for us. But they can't see past their own mistakes.
@@seamus51-g2p when they say familiarity breeds contempt, truer words have never been spoken.
@@seamus51-g2p omg
Same here Shayneroberts.
I walked into marriage like a lamb to the slaughter
Oh me toooooo
Me too😁
Me too.
Marriage is a meat grinder.
Love your video's. I am 51, dated a lot, but never found the one. Love my nephews and nieces but never wanted kids myself, always liked my freedom to spend my time and money the way I found fit, without being obligated to make compromises with another human being. Sometimes I feel something is wrong with me for being such a loner. But following your channel always gives me the moral boost to accept myself the way I am.
38 here I only know a few successful marriages the rest are divorced and on child support including all family members neighbors friends Etc
Same here! 52, never married, no kids. Love these videos.
Nowt wrong with you mate 👍💪
It's a good way to be.
@@tonydiesel3444 im 36 and i am at the age where im questioning all my life choices. Ive been single for a decade now and it just became normal. Sooo im not sure if i should date again? Sometimes i really want to..cuz its getting kinda lonely
I'm a 74 year old white male.When I was 13 my mother told me to "never trust a women" and "never get married".She also told me "never knock up a woman"you'll regret it the rest of your life.I held true to what my mother told me.
There are very few women who love their sons enough to warn them. You're a lucky man.
Frank… I’m only two years behind you… I wish my mother had given me that advice… but I must admit I love the two kids I got from the deal…. good luck, buddy.
You have a good Mum. My parents never pressured me into marriage and kids. I’m 41 and have been single all of my life , I don’t trust women and would rather stay out of trouble.
@frank1fm634 Hey Frank, all the best for your life mate. Your Mother truly loved you...sage advice indeed
A woman I dated recently did a pull back and then complained when I didn't chase. Because she had a son, I asked, if your son had a girlfriend and she was behaving like you, would you tell him to do what you just told me. She went quiet and never answered...
Any man wanting to marry today needs to spend a day in divorce court
Amen to that!
Stop writing bs!
Chances that life ends tragic are 100 %. Why live at all then? 🤷🏽
@@dacat8171huh?😂
😂😂😂 Accurate. There needs to be a mandatory course for the groom before marriage registration Lol
Real education right there.
The problem is that the right woman becomes the wrong woman over time.
We also become the wrong man.
Give up control of our resources.
Quit maintaining friendships with other men.
Quit maintaining our fitness.
Quit doing masculine things for ourselves.
Concede authority and leadership in the relationship.
Too many of us have been raised on feminism and think that we can get a woman to be our wife and then she's also going to be our best friend, our mom, our lover, etc.
You have to put in place the boundaries that dictate those relationships if you want to have that with someone.
Quit thinking your LTR or wife is going to love you like your mom.
Your best friend can't take half your assets and make you work for a significant period of time, providing them resources when the relationship's over.
A lover looks forward to spending time with you giving and receiving pleasure.
Real.
For women, dating is basically a job interview.
For MEN yes, for women it's like shopping
@@gvis8217 for men marriage is like a job where the employer can sack you for no reason and make you pay them severance, not the other way around
A long job interview.👍
Only because we’ve been screwed too and don’t care to invest more time into a dead end
Understanding how women love and that it’s not the same as men, is key. Mistaking this difference is a major cause of heartache
Love to woman is “What can I get from this guy by doing the least?”. Love to men is “Am I willing to die to protect this person?”.
Women are incapable of unconditional love. It is their nature ordained by God. The only thing that they are capable of is Motherly love directed towards children.
Real. Women are opportunistic lovers
As a man, it’s embarrassing to admit how stupid most of us have been and continue to be.
its because we think with our head and not our brains....we have to stop doing that
I agree
Yes you are that !
P is a hell of a drug
Lust clouds a man's mind.
Meanwhile, intimacy goes away in marriage for most people
@@plasmaarmelund For the most part, yes. Intimacy is impermanent.
yeap
When your heart is on fire smoke gets in your eyes.
If nature hadn't done that, we would have been extinct long ago. Nature doesn't care about your peace and money.
I’m on my second go-round in the marriage department. After 30 years, this one is on the rocks. I’m blessed to have two wonderful adult children and seven outstanding grandchildren. There is always good reason to count blessings.
Outstanding channel John!
@@tacey01 thanks
I have always been taught about the essence of life, finish school, college, build career, get married, babies, retirement and death. I don’t know who made it up, but I followed these steps and I ended up being divorced, losing kids and being happily single.
You have really patented this "man walking through woods with dogs, musing about relationships while being filmed by a drone" genre
Brilliant!!!!!
I was married 26 years that were wonderful but wife passed and this channel has made me realize how lucky I was and how I DOUBT I will get married again. Odds of finding someone worthwhile is really low.
Yeah man. No offense but it's just luck. You hit the lotto.
Sorry to hear about you losing your wife. I'm glad you had a wonderful 26 years of marriage.
Sadly, that's the best way to end a marriage. Think about that.
@@smartcookie3500 Til death do you part! I think a divorce would have about killed me so glad I didn't experience what John here talks about. I can't imagine losing 1/2 my assets etc etc. Really eye opening how many men have horror stories.
You should never marry again. Only cohabit if you want to.
the comments about emotional connection are genius. because I thought I was starting to have a special connection with a girl at work, but lo and behold she does it with every other guy in the office.
Once you have emotional connection with many women you find that you have no need to connect with just one or even none as your quota of emotional needs has been met.
Another thing about the institution. She will make you feel like you are priority number one in her life in the beginning. After a few years you fall somewhere at a distant second to the family dog.
@@jasonreed2116 I have dated a few horsey chicks and they make it clear you come after the horse. What I like about them is that you can leave them alone for 5 minutes and don’t have to babysit and entertain them 24/7 like a dancing monkey.
@@whocarescrapsahahah don't forget to be rich as well. Cause if you knock her up you'll be paying child support and for your daughter's new horse
That’s not true if you have a cat too, you’re 3rd.
Whenever someone pressures me into marriage, I always ask them why they want to get married. Not once has anyone mentioned me in their answer. One told me her parents were the only ones at church without grandkids. Another started describing how our wedding would feature burnt orange as the theme color.
They seem to have this fairytale vision in their heads of what marriage will be like, and I’m just the poor sucker they drag and drop into their pre-set fantasy. It would seem they are only thinking about being a princess for a day. They do not think further than that. Maybe that’s why I’ve never been married.
just ask them what problem does marriage solve...talking about legal definition not religious....i guarantee they will have no good answer.
What is the point of Government, the legal system, religion, or even humanity, it’s all ultimately futile….
I believe it was Rod Stewart who made the observation that the next time he's tempted to get married, he'll just find a woman he doesn't like and give her a house.
@@kchall5 he's married
Whew!! At 65 and single, I sure did dodge a bullet by not going down that path. Thanks John. Always appreciate the ongoing videos to remind me that my choice of a single life was the right one - for me. Also, I'm an Australian from NSW and we have some interesting laws regarding co-habitation and even non co-habitation which can really shred a mans life financially.
I'm back home as my brother ended himself. He was in a very unhappy marriage. Never feel guilty for not following the trap. It's a stupid game, and men are starting to wise up. Ill take freedom and happiness any day.
Man, I'm sorry to hear that. I'm sending you strength, courage, and big hugs, from Tulsa. 💪⚔️🫂
My condolences
@@dios8256 So sorry to hear that.
I realized recently that part of the reason I got married was all the pressure I received from my parents and grandparents as a younger man. It was one of those life goals that I just had to accomplish according to them. Funny that they were all actually dead when I finally got married. Although I wish some of them were still around so I could tell them how full of crap they were!
Divorce would be avoided 99% of the time if women didn't pull the mirror & switch up card. We all thought we married the unicorn she portrayed herself as, until that day when her mask fell.
why do men do this? I think they feel like they are missing out on something…As my grandmother used to say: "Some people have it all except misery, and then they look to fix that by getting married”.
Smart grandma
@@rostamr4096 one of the best quotes I've read in a long time.
@@MarionTheSecond 😉
I walked into a nightmare 20 years ago. Never again
Are you still in it?
@ no, I’m out thank goodness.
Same
I never married, after my first teenage love i got a hunch that it might be a real bad idea. I had some unmarried long term relationships and it only confirmed it, so glad i never got married lmao
@Jerbert-qn4in fortunately, my ex is an earner. Never had to pay out.
John is magnitudes better than most manosphere youtubers.
This is so ironic, humorous, sarcrastic yet sober. Really enjoyed listening. Thank you.
You are batting 100% today with this post. You have described what I experienced and so I’m so glad to have put it behind me. Guys take heed.
You never divorce the woman you married.No truer words have ever been spoken...im heartbroken, 25 years married, 6 kids @ my wife wants me out of the house..Ahe needs " space".... meanwhile ive endurded a loveless, sexless marriage for my children....to be able to see them daily.... Gentleman...read my words
..she was a sexual animal before marriage....made me her priority...i was smitten w her beauty and attention....i now get made fun of when im sick....no joke
The sad thing is that people read stories like yours and dismiss them by thinking it'll never happen to them... until, of course, it does.
Chin up, brother! I dated for 2 years and 38 years of marriage to a very unhappy and troubled woman for a total of 40 years in the desert! Faithful to my marriage vows, only to be betrayed too. 😊
It takes time, but you have to become your very best friend and love yourself unconditionally.
Journal, and get out into the woods, prayer, and meditation will do you a world of good.
Once you get to enjoy your own company, you'll have peace like a river! 😊❤😊
It will take time. Don't condemn yourself. Life is a learning experience. 😊 When you get to the other side, there's good things like peace of mind.
Learn gratitude, and thankfulness.
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@joeyzacher9296 Satan comes as an angel of light, only to steal and kill, your joy.
They've allowed themselves to be slaves to the darkness.
we were young, my wife pressured me into marriage basically saying she wont have kids unless we are legally married. when asked why this was necessary she said “I want to feel secure” secure as in access to my money I guess. but anyway I’m a sucker and agreed to it. of course I was in love
Are you divorced now?
@ no, I have too much to lose. maybe when the kids are grown up.
if a woman gives you an ultimatum always walk
In my case both exes checked ALL the red flag boxes. So, of course I married them. 🤪 Men and women are truly different creatures.
Didn't learn the first time so had to do it twice
Separated for 12 months, after a 15 year relationship with a Woman. I cannot describe in words the peace and tranquility, and the rise in productivity, from not having a Woman in my life.
I'm single for 5 years now and I'm never be happier than now.
No government should be involved in marriage
I knew a guy like this. He was 27, former D2 college football player. Not good looking but had some muscle, not rich but had a decent job, just a good yet simpy dude.
This 30 year old woman out of his league starts dating him. He falls in love. It’s obvious based on his teenage girl-like FB posts that he’s never dated a woman as good looking as her.
I felt like telling him: “Dude, you’re 27. She’s 30. You didn’t just become “that guy.” She just wants a ring and you’re the dope who will do.”
Just like to say, what I've realised is that there is no woman that is out of an average man's league.
Men are usually pretty darn amazing, no matter what they look like.
@ I disagree. There are absolutely leagues
@@wyckofury2198😂 ya go downtown at a night club and try that
You won’t find a quality woman at a nightclub.
If those are the ones you’re trying to impress, you’ve lost already.
@@LarryWilliamsArtist idk man. I’ve had enough good married Christian women try and out feelers out on me that I know you won’t find her in a church either
My grandfather taught me well.
He said they all generally F**k the same. If you ever marry one, marry one that makes the money. Well I just so happened to take the advice or just accidentally stumbled upon one that makes $. Man has the last 10 years been probably been a regular marriage 30 years equivalent with how stressful and unhappy she is! I built 3 homes for us, lived pretty frugally & had 2 kids. I actually had no idea how much she earned, I didn’t really care. She tried throwing postnup after 10 years of dealing with her shit! I refused to throw away my rites. We are now going through divorce and is she extremely pissed about giving half her shit away. This is why marriage institution probably won’t last long. Men have been being pumped and dumped since beginning of time. Woman taking on main income earner being more and more common for maybe 50 years. Now we need to change these marriage rules!!
Absolutely 👍
Agreed. Men say they don't care about how much a woman makes. You are a fool thinking like that. If you want to win( kids etc)you have to play by their rules. Marry for money first, love second.
Your case is the exception to the rule that the man gives the beach half of his earnings. Take her to the cleaners brother.
@Verticaltechwizard don't marry a woman that you love, if you feel you must marry, marry a women that loves you.
One thing I’ve learned also through the divorce process is if you are married keep your finances separated if you’re the breadwinner.
When she is the breadwinner combine it all so you have knowledge of the finances.
I had to pay out the ass (more than a lawyer) to hire forensic accountants to track down all the assets. I pretty much have burned through my entire life savings. So she isn’t making it easy. She’s trying to play the bleed him dry game but I’ve figured out I can just pay what I can and in the end it will be worth it. Ugh does it suck ass though! Been eating oatmeal for a year now. I do free stuff with kids like go to county parks etc…
in high school, I realized girls wanted guys who provided for them. looks are important to them for attraction but for marriage, they really wanted men who could give them a comfortable lifestyle. I'm surprised many or most men don't know that. of course, we men don't care about our women's career, income or education because they won't affect our lives. "his money is our money; my money is my money."
“You think you’re making a decision but the truth is the decision is already made.” Yep…. Thanks for that.
I believe most men line up for marriage because they think marriage will give them consistent physical intimacy.
Which is ironic when the opposite is true 😂
@plasmaarmelund Exactly. That darn honeymoon stage lures guys in. I wish it didn't exist in the first place. But if that was the case, there would probably be a DRASTIC decline in baby making.
100%. And it all wanes, once she’s in the door and secured your resources.
Scientists have just discovered a food that can cause unbelievable pain and discomfort years after ingestion... it's called Wedding Cake. 🤣😂
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It also causes a woman to lose all sexual desire and gain forty pounds.
It also makes the woman lose all sexual desire and gain forty pounds.
Hi John. I was with you early. I can see your numbers growing. Keep doing what you are doing. Thank you for the content. J
Me too bro- glad he is doing well w logic and reason
Thanks!!
When I was young, no social media. A man never had any idea. Almost to much information available.... 😮.
Now it education by social media, in so many ways. 😅
No social media about 50 years ago, that's right!
BUT - every single kid / young teen has eyes to see and ears to listen with, even back then.
I knew there's something oddly wrong about this marriage thing when I was ten.
Unless you grew up on the country side with no neighbours, - there have been red flags waving at you EVERYWHERE.
But yes, channels like this one are saving young mens lifes!
Hey John,
Thanks for the videos! Just thinking how much my recent experience with my ex-wife parallels your story. She decided back in July 2024 that she didn’t want to be married anymore after 42 years of marriage. I’m still working on being alone but I have to say it gets a little easier with each day. All I have to do is remind myself how much more peaceful my life is now. It’s really a blessing in my life I could list the good things that has come from it but I’m sure there is a limit to the amount of words that is allowed here, lol. It truly helps to know I’m not alone in this change in my life, Thanks again for the videos they are down to earth and real.
I love the line about you never wanna go to anywhere that’s called an institution lol😊
We are "supposed" to get married and have kids even if you don't want to. And if you decide not to settle down, there is something wrong with you.
@@AkAk-yj6yq what is your problem it's his choice
This is why I'm grateful my dad let me watch all sorts of movies. The big Lebowski stuck with me since the 5th grade... Now it's paying off living like the dude at 27 lol
@@Username1171000 That is a great film. A cult classic.
Twenty seven is an amazing vintage for young people. It's a time where we are fit, healthy and inspired.
The content created by this gentleman is a real gift for younger people, particularly young men. It is a joy knowing men much younger than myself have access to this wisdom. I hope it's well heeded.
Plan for your future mate. It is of utmost importance and will give you the opportunity not afforded to those who float.
I genuinely wish you all the best mate
Nope
Hahah isn’t that the truth. I say discard what society is telling you and do what makes you happy.
Growing up with sisters, watching my family, my neighbourhood, my schoolmates, it was very easy for me to decide to NEVER get married at age 10!
And that was in the 1960th and early 70th.
Sometimes good decisions are made early!
I think a lot of pressure to get married comes from your parents. My mom always asked me, "So, when are you going to get married and give me grandchildren?" She once told me that the purpose of life is to procreate. Family and culture pressure is a big reason why men marry.
i know this is kinda off-topic, but i kept seeing comments about Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki in videos like this, and i finally decided to read it. honestly, it’s one of those books where you don’t realize how much it’s helping until you start noticing people treating you differently. it’s like the book shows you how to unlock a version of yourself you didn’t even know was there. subtle, but so effective.
You are right about the economic reasons. A family spends way more money than a single person, particularly a single man. We can get by on very little but anyone who has a family, even a small one can tell you how expensive it is. The US economy is primarily based on spending and debt now so they need these big spenders to keep the house of cards in tact.
It's only marginally more expensive to have a family, unless you include the wife I just got divorced recently after 15 years and five children it was horrific and custody is still ongoing and will most likely be for several years to come children can be expensive frivolous bulshit at the wife wants to get not only for herself but for the children how many pairs of shoes do you really need when you're 5 years old or dresses are the goddamn makeup for your 13 year old daughter, year old daughter the father doesn't even want her to have. All the needless vacations, dining out, girls night out, road trips, extra s*** from the school like shirts rings etc all the junk food all the movies all the going out shopping on and on and on. If you subtract all of that even having four or five children, I bet it doubles at least when you throw the wife in there
I'm 42 and so glad I played a lot in my 30s and never got married or had kids. You said nobody ever told you, but people did tell me, and I listened. Most men say sex dries up, and even women who seemed like a diamond in the rough when they met are at risk of flipping and taking half your shit at some point down the road. Lots of men have stories like this. And as you pointed out, the divorce rate has been known to be ~50% since I was born ('82). Hell, my parents divorced when I was 1, so I never even knew them together.
I absolutely love the freedom of having everything I own paid off, finally earning a couple hundred Gs after a couple decades of gradually increasing my earning power, and being able to do what I want, when I want, without answering to anyone because I'm still single. The only thing I would like to change is I do want to have kids, a legacy. So I need to find a way to do that without falling into the traps I've managed to avoid so far. Surrogacy is an option. Right now, my plan is to find a provincial Filipina who wants to have kids together without getting married and just keep her in her little province. If it went south, I would just support her with like $200/month/kid, still much less expensive than kids and divorce in the US.
Dude, you’re on fire with this one. Stand up comic material here.
Thanks!
I’m with the same woman for over 15 years and we have never been married. Everything is separate and the only legal connection we have is two boys. No marriage in sight.
Probably the best way to do it these days.
Do y'all live together?
@@chad7694 yes, in my house that’s in my name.
@@avidwaterfowler7522 smart man. Keep it up brother
I’m in the same boat, but in my country the state would still rape me in her name if they wanted to.
Excellent video John. Well done. Never sign the marriage contract….
Exactly!
I have some comments but I still can't pass the fact that one of your ex reasons to get married to you was that ur "thing is straith". I had no idea that some were crooked. It just seems that if she wasn't so hot and if you were not so infactuated with her looks maybe you would be able to see that she was so selfish to the point she was unable to love you. All the red flags were there. Love is kind, love is generous, love gives all and asks nothing in return.
The love you give and don't get back is actually pain. The least you want in return is to be around that person. We don't have to admit it, but we actually want to be loved to reduce that pain. Good looks are something evolutionary that associates us with the idea that beautiful things are good and innocent and ugly things are the opposite. Maybe I'm wrong.
Just found this channel. Been binge watching ever since.
The only marriage that a guy should seek is were your marrying up. She has more money, properties etc at risk. Even that, I wouldn’t entertain. Don’t need all that extra stress caring for a child in adult size.
In my case it was a “cure” for loneliness combined with social programming and strong biological desires.
A lot of wisdom in these videos. Very insightful as to how a man makes a decision to marry, how the woman sees the whole endeavor, how these things end up, and how to put yourself back together when things come apart. I imagine you've helped thousands of men make more informed decisions on one of the most important life topics.
Divorce drives the economy too. Now you need two homes, two cars, two everything and the ex usually gets a job if she doesn’t have one already. So corporations get more labor and governments get more taxes. It’s a fine institution.
Finally first. Looking forward to the wisdom John, happy Friday
Second 😅
Yes, you came first. Some would say prematurely.😂
@@TheSnookman Lol, I walked into that one. Just re-uped on my meds jk
Glad you're here for it!
It makes me laugh when you crack yourself up telling the story... 😂 Happy Friday, all! Great message, John! Why do we need this "institution?" Some do. I don't. 😊✌️
He left out that the female calculus is always calculating and never stops even in relationships / marriage
A coworker was going through divorce when I first knew him. Several years later he was getting remarried, different girl. We'd become friends over that time. I'd talked about girlfriends I'd had years ago but was not dating and perpetually single. One day he looked at me and said "You don't care anything about women do you?" I thought a few seconds and said "I like girls. They're nice and fun to be with but whenever I start dating someone something stupid happens."
The earth had a population of four billion when I was in high school. That seemed like plenty at the time and it still does.
I can answer that because there is no such thing as soulmate. If you have the feeling for her then go get her and take a chance or a high risk in choosing to build a family with her or him that's it. It is a risk take bases on our feeling.
The answer is because they're terrified of being alone. They don't know how to do it and they just want a replacement for their mothers. A vast majority of married men are just big babies.
One of your best videos. Thanks. This is a keeper
Love it when that wisdom fuelled JG laugh "overrides" the narrative ! :)
Like the fly that's just "side stepped" that Venus Flytrap !
Worlds longesr sentence. I DO.
I’ve been divorced now for 5 years.
One of the observations I made even before my divorce was when I saw what I considered happily married older couples that had been together for decades they had one thing in common.
The man was always agreeable and doting on the wife and he enjoyed it (or he was really good at acting).
But I’m not like that, I’m disagreeable, independent, stubborn, and I’m generally going to do what I’m going to do when I want to do it.
The men that were like me were either divorced or there was tension, like a stallion that won’t be broken. And the irony was, if the man “won” that battle the wife looked downtrodden and broken and will leave you for being “controlling and abusive” (meaning you weren’t willing to be controlled and abused) and fall into the arms of a beta in waiting nice guy.
To recap. Your choices are:
1) Accept the saddle and the yoke and be happy for it.
2) Don’t accept it and have tension in your house and if you “win” you still lose because 99.9% of women will never be the agreeable accepting type.
3) Stay in the race for as long as you can until you or her call it quits.
If she’s the one that calls it quits just realize she probably got 90% of what she wanted from you anyway; kids, house, protection/provision. Just take the unruly bull down to the slaughterhouse (divorce court).
Women don’t call it quits before they get what they want. The divorce doesn’t come 2 years in before kids and without marital property.
Very good insights, many I can first hand relate to. Well stated , excellent summary. Know thyself.
I've never been married yet most LTRs just have not panned out. At the end of the day, most modern women view men as a utility, in some form of another. The irony is that most do not give anywhere near the utility to men. Not an equal transaction, even dating is a significant liability nowadays
Damn. Your channel has grown quite a bit since last year. Well done!
Thanks!
MARRIAGE IS AN INSANE ASYLUM- could have been a good alternative title-
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Jack and Rose from Titanic WEREN'T married! If they got married Jack would become "Cal" very quickly and the romance would've dissolved.
John is becoming a great stand-up comedian, like Henny Youngman, "Take my wife, please".
they aren't good, they are weak, and weak is evil
men are born to be strong, hence good, so they choose single life
stray strong, brothers
weak isn't 'evil' , it's just weak. Stop overusing the word evil, it doesn't make any sense moron
I chose to stay single(I did have girlfriends). 57 years old. Great friends. Great career. Great hobbies. I am happy, and not really lonely.
I am sure that I could have been happily married, but I think the number of people that are actually happy in successful marriages - is low.
I think I saved myself a lot of trouble. So far I have lived an unconventional, successful, exciting, and satisfying life. No regrets.
Man, you are awesome; I fully agree. Although Im a little younger than you, married almost 20 yrs and have 4 kids in one marriage, I fully understand what you are saying, despite that I lived in the US almost 25 yes ago now. Im Russian and live here now. I have a niece in the US in her twenties and she shares my views in general on that matter. All the best to you and the good folks :)
Your analysis of why each of you decided to marry is accurate. Looking back you understand your essence as a quality person had little to nothing to do with it. Like you, I have always been taken in by attractive figures and reasonably good sxx. Did realize that wasn't enough to sign a contract.
Have known two guys who admitted they married their best, maybe only option. Both wanted children. So new ppl were created by happenstance. Like I probably was.
The handful of good/happy marriages you mentioned, are extremely rare in my experience. Good episode. 🤔
The man gets screwed in a marriage, but not in the way he wants. 👎
Greg? From Dharma and Greg? Pix or it didn't happen... LOL!
This was a stunningly good video. Am a fan for some time, and I can't see how these clips can keep getting better and better...but they do. Your thought processes on this subject are just so clear and well spoken.
And, I think you finally came to articulate what a young man really faces, in the choice as to whether to marry or not, that an older, mature male is no longer quite as subject to: 1. the need to obviate loneliness (particularly when all your other male friends are pairing up and leaving your orbit in your mid and later 20's); and 2. intercourse is like crack cocaine for a young male, and it is so difficult for many guys to give that up when the choice is between getting married (and thinking sex will continue on in the relationship forever) and breaking up and maintaining your freedom.
NB I am in your age bracket, John, and been-there-done-that, as you have.
@@marvinrosenau8491 I was a lot younger than
@@john-griffin Me also... (not #me too)
Can't cohabit in her home, it's hers.
Can't cohabit in your home, it's not like hers and must conform.
Every guy who has married buys a house for her, where maybe there will be, grudgingly, a man cave which he might actually have the privilege of using. From time to time.
Women build the safe, secure, just-so nest, and then have to expensively travel so as to escape the boring place.
@@duanekeith7816 hilarious and pathetic at the same time
I have had two 15+ year relationships with children. If you have money, stay in control of yourself and your resources, combine that with RP knowledge you can have a great relationship. The key is understanding what he is talking about and making yourself a great option for ANY woman and the BEST option for the woman you have right now. The way to ruin is "happy wife, happy life" and giving up control through a enforced by the state, if it goes bad business contract we call marriage. When you are legally married you have literally surrendered 50%+ of what made you attractive to her in the first place.
I think that’s an excellent point.
The lonliest day of the year for me use to be christmas.. when the girlfriend and family were all together. Looked great. Felt like death.
Great video, John. I have been critical in the past, constructively I hope, but credit where credit is due. Putting the institution of marriage in its larger historical, political and economic context was done brilliantly. I know others have done it before, but yours was uniquely insightful.
John...You answered the question many time..."oxytocin addiction". Makes you do stupid stuff to get your fix.
Women run on competition and envy
Because we don't think it can happen to us.
Back in the day every boy was given the playbook ... school, college, marriage, house, kids, climb the corporate ladder, retire, die with life insurance. You don't question it until things deviate from the playbook.
Some people think marriage is a wonderful blessing and would never want the single life while others would never want marriage. I don’t think either had to be BAD! It’s up to each individual person!
Your videos get better and better, John, which is exceptional. Kudos.
You seem to have had as much fun with this one as we had enjoying it. It's a sign of healing. Peace.
i know this isn’t what the video’s about, but i had to mention how i kept seeing Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki in comments everywhere. curiosity got the better of me, and i finally read it. it’s wild how much it changes your mindset and the way you come across to others. it’s not about pretending to be confident-it’s about genuinely building that energy so it shows naturally. definitely worth all the buzz it’s been getting.
Man your grey dog pees on absolutely everything! Haha! 😂
Also, you need to introduce your doggies at some point. We wanna know their names and origin story. Well, i do anyway. :)
He’s intact, so he’s sending a message
@@john-griffin I'm intact too. I totally understand. Has he tried FlowMax? :)
Great videos and channel, by the way. Love the drone shots and all the great scenery. Your videos are the only red pill content that actually relaxes me. You're like a human Zen garden. ')
This is one of your best videos yet. Yes, social programming, guilt, + thinking of doing the honourable thing. Never again,, honour yourself gents!!
That is your best move. Thanks again!!
Thanks, John.
Glad you enjoyed it
As Rollo Tomaso said, "Men and women are better together than they are apart." But the institution of marriage here in the west is an unconscionable contract. If you say yes to relationships, great. Just don't get married or live together. I am going through my second divorce and I have lived with three different women in my 52 years as a man. And not one of those relationships ever improved and got better as a consequence of living together. Let that sink in.
This is underrated.
Living with a woman will change everything about your life.
It’s essentially marriage without the contract.
In Australian...our Family Law Act is applied to de facto relationships at the two (2) year mark. If you're in a de facto relationship - one does not need to be married for a Woman to take half of your assets. Be careful.