I'm claiming the mindset of " if you're not making my life any easier or if there's no positive uplifting from you being in it, then i see no reason for you to be around."
i feel so warm after watching this. you’re like the older sister at a sleepover that always gives the best advice. i came from the break up documented video and subscribed and seeing you blossom into this confident woman who knows what she wants. i wanna grow up to be like you😭 thank you for inspiring me
I think the main message of this video is that, KEEP YOUR GODDAMN SELF-RESPECT TOGETHER GIRLIES! Do NOT give your all to a man who is not ready to make you his gf.
please do not use God name in vain , He will not hold those guiltless who do so . Jesus Christ says i am the way the truth and the life no one comes to the father except through Me 🙏💗 John 14:6
I love how this isn't focusing on manipulating the man into a relationship or like tricking them into thinking your something your not. It's just healthy behaviour
you have absolutely no idea how much I needed to hear this. I am so so into this guy its embarrassing and was freaking out about what to do because he keeps letting me down emotionally and I know now that I need to just live my damn life and if he wants to be apart of that...boy better work but I'm not slowing down for him.
You are so relatable I remember when I was dating my ex , we were texting and I suddenly disappeared for hours due to some work. When I finally texted him back , I said I'm sorry for disappearing while you were waiting the whole time, something urgent came up and from next time on I'll let you know how long will it take if I'm busy and he said no no that's not a problem you don't how much I love waiting for you especially when I don't even know when I'll hear from you again. And there has been many such instances with me, so I definitely believe men find it exciting to chase and that's their core nature. When we are too available we are actually trying to change his core nature and that's when things get messed up.
I love her this video helped me so much already. I already feel better. im getting over a toxic relationship that lasted 2 years. we broke up two months ago. and I'm feeling a little better now. I dont want to put myself out there for awhile cause I wan to focus on sucess and myself but if someone comes around I know this advice will help. Especially since this helped me to understand that there will be someone who treats me right and I must wait and not put up with their crap because my worth. Thank you for this video I love you.
Omg yes girl lol put the advice out there. Sometimes we girls do the dumbest unnecessary things for a guy's attention lol. Your tips advice and support is very kind and very helpful.... thank you God bless u 🙏 ❤️
Yes! And I think key is never get too comfortable on both sides. Embarrassing moments are what keeps a little spark. When everything always feels new, you'll always work hard to keep them! Never share too many thoughts together, obviously keep some to yourself. And learn to live without them. So in the end everything is gravy.
I like what you say about value yourself and not giving time unless they deserve it but i disagree about talking to multiple men. I believe it's amazing to focus on just 1 person and if it doesn't work then it doesn't if it works then that's a blessing
I find until there is a commitment it's good to keep dating because you show up differently with everyone, less anxious for example. They sense it whether they know you're seeing a few people or not
I enjoy talking to just one guy as well. It feels so draining talking to multiple, it ends up feeling like a chore to me. For me personally it feels wrong if I start talking to other guys 😭
@GadgetsGearCoffee people aren't dumb, they know when you are dating multiple people and you will get dropped. Any guy that's okay with me dating multiple people I would question their intention with me, I wouldn't do it because I wouldn't want my partner to and it's worked amazing for me
You have become my best friend in my healing era. I just watched your 3 months breakup documented video and got so much motivation to feel I will be okay too.
coming back here bcs 5 months after the breakup and 2 months after watching your break up videos, I'm healed and need knowledge to get back into dating
Tell it gurl! Preach! Its so true! I read this book, Why Men love bitches. Dont be a nice a girl. Realize and take ownership of your womanly worth. But DO NOT ALLOW THESE FOOLS to take advantage of your worth which is DIAMONDS! Girl NO stop! Lumma is sharing wisdom. NEVER SETTLE. You are not room service. Dont become Mommie which is servant. I will say it is really sexy when a male is a gentleman, a males maturity is sexy as world.
Your channel saves me , not only in terms of life talks also seeing your vlogs makes me feel alive , I love you my saviour angel 💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💞💞💞💞💞💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕
I'm going to help you 1. Don't have a lot of guy friends. Unless you're ok with him having many girlfriends 2. Guys don't want to be 2nd choice Don't talk to multiple men. pick one, a high value man has many choices and doesn't need to compete for your attention. Instead of wasting his time with a girl that might chose someone else he will chase one that has more time for him. 3. Don't try to make him jealous, this trick works on boys not men, it's mean and not fair to him or the guy you're using to make him jealous. this almost always backfires if you're dealing with a high value man that knows what he is worth 4. Apologize the next time you see him if you were mean to him. 5. Let him know you're interested don't make him initiate every single time in the beginning.. if you initiate conversation it will make him more confident and he will try harder 6 don't pull away when things are going good. Some women will pull away in the beginning to test a guy they like to see if he will chase them or to see if he will be upset basically to gauge how much the guy likes them or how crazy he is. But some women do this because things are going too fast or they found someone better or they're just losing interest. Men are not mind readers it's confusing and you could ruin something that could have been awesome.
So needed to hear this ..awesome dates ..live apart....he even puts me on the train!! Not just dropped outside the station...but when part ..keeps in touch ..but giving crumbs. All energy to get together...is from me. Yep .having that chat soon...
Thanks girl like you have helped me make a boy chase and in my school there is like alot of like people liking each other and its hard to find someone to trust and to love when you know that a bunch of people like to play you ❤
I wish I knew this stuff beforehand as someone who isn’t really experienced. I did treat a guy like a boyfriend once, and when I found out I was only an option I stopped talking to him. He came back and said he wanted me and not options… eh.
Lumma honestly you are a queen. I'm in a long distance relationship for the upcoming 8 months, do you have any advice or could you please do a video about it. I would appreciate your advice sooo much.
😊story time: so me and this guy were talking for a while and me and him were always flirty towards each other and me and him hung out a lot and all of that and when halloween came, we hung out and went trick or treating together and later that night he asked me out. Being his first gf… he didnt know much about how to treat a girl so it was a struggle, but i loved him no matter what. But 4 days later this girl that literally hates me, told him a bunch of reasons not to date anyone and crap, and so he broke up with me just because she said that!! And so now their always hanging out and she’s rubbing it into my face and idk what to do anymore so im trying to get over it and move on but its hard because i really cared and loved him and he just ruined it all and made me cry for weeks! So its been almost a month now and him and her still hangout and flirt right in front of me and its rly bad. So ya thx for letting me vent!! 😅🙈
Omg I’m a little late but I love your videos and especially this one🥹😩 I can totally see you pov🤭 thank you for blessing me wit your videos!!! Sending you kisses and wishes😌
Ive never really understood the concept of never settling for less than what you deserve, I was like yeah obvi, but didn't fully understand till now. thank you:))
First Off, Luma U are like a big sister from amotha motha to me!! Second off, THIS was the video that I needed to watch, and Third, I just recently started watching your videos some weeks ago 🤍🤍 def loved your channel!
Ladies don’t be afraid to set your standards and boundaries, TRUST me you’ll benefit more thank you will loose. I know sometimes we can get scared to let our standards known when dating as young woman, but if he leaves when you show him your standards then he is not the one for you and that is OK.
About every eggs in the same basket…I agree 50/50. Like I’ll give him some exclusive time to sense his intentions about me and a chance to see if he truly pursue me. If I see that he doesn’t (& it’s fast to notice) I move on. I wouldn’t talk to too many guys at the same time, also it’s exhausting 😅😂
We don’t need men to be obsessed with us. We need to be obsessed with ourselves first and stop thinking about how to people please and guy please just so he can get and notice you. Be selfish it’s good for you. Stop trying to make him obsessed because at the end of the day, you’ll be drained cause your strategy to make him obsessed won’t work at all.
im pretty young, and i just got out of my first love. I was used for my body and discarded like a toothbrush. Used to make yourself feel better, a burden at times, and discarded after a few months. We dated for 7 months, but i truely lost him after 4. he moved on after 1 week. Something you said made me really open my eyes and i cried a lil bit but I am so grateful that there are people who can help girls like me learn that I am an actual person with actual feelings. I subscribed :)
i hear you and, god, you're right. Probably some months ago my think was different. but, if he look interested, how is healthy wait for that label, that word, that compromise
Oh damn I had already made half of the guys obsessed with me without even listening to this video, and boy my man is the greenest flag after I heard what was lumma saying. Damn girl I never knew the tricks I was using was supposed to do this! Hahahahhahaha I winnn
this video just made me realize that i do soooo many things that i shouldn't And damnnnn!I am so happy to fin you in my for you page BABYGIRRRL love you and definitely MEAN IT❤🔥
I'm claiming the mindset of " if you're not making my life any easier or if there's no positive uplifting from you being in it, then i see no reason for you to be around."
Completely agree !! That’s why I don’t want to have contact with him anymore. He makes my life not easier, just more stressed bc of him
Cloak
@@Lori.jane08 whats that supposed to mean?
@@acryptotrader5926 what
I like your way of thinking
It’s kinda crazy how nobody’s talking about the book womens magic truths on borlest
i feel so warm after watching this. you’re like the older sister at a sleepover that always gives the best advice. i came from the break up documented video and subscribed and seeing you blossom into this confident woman who knows what she wants. i wanna grow up to be like you😭 thank you for inspiring me
I love this, and you so much!
I think the main message of this video is that, KEEP YOUR GODDAMN SELF-RESPECT TOGETHER GIRLIES! Do NOT give your all to a man who is not ready to make you his gf.
please do not use God name in vain , He will not hold those guiltless who do so .
Jesus Christ says i am the way the truth and the life no one comes to the father except through Me 🙏💗 John 14:6
I love how this isn't focusing on manipulating the man into a relationship or like tricking them into thinking your something your not. It's just healthy behaviour
you have absolutely no idea how much I needed to hear this. I am so so into this guy its embarrassing and was freaking out about what to do because he keeps letting me down emotionally and I know now that I need to just live my damn life and if he wants to be apart of that...boy better work but I'm not slowing down for him.
Period
Same exact thing for me
She genuinely sounds like such a sweet and polite person. I'd love her as a friend or my elder sister❤️
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You’re dating advice is on point and I’m in my 40s. you’re wise beyond your years. Smart lady!!!! You’ve got it!!! 🙌🙌🙌🙌
You are so relatable I remember when I was dating my ex , we were texting and I suddenly disappeared for hours due to some work. When I finally texted him back , I said I'm sorry for disappearing while you were waiting the whole time, something urgent came up and from next time on I'll let you know how long will it take if I'm busy and he said no no that's not a problem you don't how much I love waiting for you especially when I don't even know when I'll hear from you again. And there has been many such instances with me, so I definitely believe men find it exciting to chase and that's their core nature. When we are too available we are actually trying to change his core nature and that's when things get messed up.
she starts at 4:45 with advice :)
Not all heroes wear capes!
Hehe😂
How much time it takes girls to get to the point 😂
i love u
This is so much more wholesome than I expected, I actually feel beautiful hearing you say this stuff 🤧✨
I love her this video helped me so much already. I already feel better. im getting over a toxic relationship that lasted 2 years. we broke up two months ago. and I'm feeling a little better now. I dont want to put myself out there for awhile cause I wan to focus on sucess and myself but if someone comes around I know this advice will help. Especially since this helped me to understand that there will be someone who treats me right and I must wait and not put up with their crap because my worth. Thank you for this video I love you.
yeah yeah well someone who "treats you right" is a turn off its damn amazing how oblivious females are to their own feelings and nature
ahhh I love her she explains this in such a simple but feminine wayyy 🙂🤍
Omg yes girl lol put the advice out there. Sometimes we girls do the dumbest unnecessary things for a guy's attention lol. Your tips advice and support is very kind and very helpful.... thank you God bless u 🙏 ❤️
I have to agree with everything you said here. We must not be afraid of starting all over and we must never settle 💯 😉
Too late honey
Wtf your name's actually honey hahahaha
you are just right
Yes I learned about dating multiple men. You are more at peace. I have two guys right now, currently looking for number 3
How do you do it?
Tips please.
nah don't ever tell a guy what you want. It's giving them the blueprint to manipulate you!!
Yes! And I think key is never get too comfortable on both sides. Embarrassing moments are what keeps a little spark. When everything always feels new, you'll always work hard to keep them! Never share too many thoughts together, obviously keep some to yourself. And learn to live without them. So in the end everything is gravy.
The right guy will manipulate you the right guy won’t
right like especially if u are asking for the bare minimum like attention cmon girl wtf u doing!!
@@ri7244 exactly!
if he tries then he stupid asf, i aint dumb to get manipulated tf
I swear when I am watching your videos it's like a listening my best friend.... girl thank you for being real and keeping up real!!!!!!!!
10:34 "You are not ROOM SERVICE...baby girl" 😂😂
very true tho.
I like what you say about value yourself and not giving time unless they deserve it but i disagree about talking to multiple men. I believe it's amazing to focus on just 1 person and if it doesn't work then it doesn't if it works then that's a blessing
I find until there is a commitment it's good to keep dating because you show up differently with everyone, less anxious for example. They sense it whether they know you're seeing a few people or not
I enjoy talking to just one guy as well. It feels so draining talking to multiple, it ends up feeling like a chore to me. For me personally it feels wrong if I start talking to other guys 😭
@GadgetsGearCoffee people aren't dumb, they know when you are dating multiple people and you will get dropped. Any guy that's okay with me dating multiple people I would question their intention with me, I wouldn't do it because I wouldn't want my partner to and it's worked amazing for me
@@tacobellemployee7819 lol same, I have terrible focusing on someone other than myself
You have become my best friend in my healing era. I just watched your 3 months breakup documented video and got so much motivation to feel I will be okay too.
Thank you for slapping reality into me ❤😂
a right five across the eyes
I think "Why Men Love Bitches" is a good read related to this topic
Oh, am glad you are back
honestly, do what you love to do but you are GOR-GEOUS without the makeup too!! wow!
Happy to see you back queen. You are so cute ❤
Yay! Love you!
How to make a guy chase you:
You chase you.
That’s such good advice. I like how you said a girls gotta have standards and value herself. Thankx ❤~Subscribed
coming back here bcs 5 months after the breakup and 2 months after watching your break up videos, I'm healed and need knowledge to get back into dating
4:40 is when she starts to give advice!
"this is not build a bear" AHHAHAHA
You will be in vogue I promise queen 💗💗💗💗
I already have a man, but I’m here for the sister vibes and girl time! I love your energyyyy!
Tell it gurl! Preach! Its so true! I read this book, Why Men love bitches. Dont be a nice a girl. Realize and take ownership of your womanly worth. But DO NOT ALLOW THESE FOOLS to take advantage of your worth which is DIAMONDS! Girl NO stop! Lumma is sharing wisdom. NEVER SETTLE. You are not room service. Dont become Mommie which is servant. I will say it is really sexy when a male is a gentleman, a males maturity is sexy as world.
I feel like I'm getting ready to go out to a party with my best friend watching this video. ❤️
“This is not Build -A-Bear” 🤣 love it!
Love it be more brutal honest for girls we need this instead of sugar coating lies
I need to start watching this video everyday until I internalize it. I make myself way too available to guys I like.
Her voice when she sing
Right. A partner is suppose to enhance your life and make it easier. Not stress you out!
I didn’t know how much I needed this before I clicked.
Your channel saves me , not only in terms of life talks also seeing your vlogs makes me feel alive , I love you my saviour angel 💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💞💞💞💞💞💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕
Thank you! I needed this video and I will rewatch over and over again so that I do NOT forget!
when i say this was the PERFECT timing
Lumma is my lil therapist! Love you girl! 😍😍❤❤
an u by any chance do a hair tutorial, like how u wash it and style it and the products you use to style or maintain it on the regular
Yep! For sure
you literally look like a Disney Pixar animation, so pretty!
I'm going to help you
1. Don't have a lot of guy friends. Unless you're ok with him having many girlfriends
2. Guys don't want to be 2nd choice Don't talk to multiple men. pick one, a high value man has many choices and doesn't need to compete for your attention. Instead of wasting his time with a girl that might chose someone else he will chase one that has more time for him.
3. Don't try to make him jealous, this trick works on boys not men, it's mean and not fair to him or the guy you're using to make him jealous. this almost always backfires if you're dealing with a high value man that knows what he is worth
4. Apologize the next time you see him if you were mean to him.
5. Let him know you're interested don't make him initiate every single time in the beginning.. if you initiate conversation it will make him more confident and he will try harder
6 don't pull away when things are going good. Some women will pull away in the beginning to test a guy they like to see if he will chase them or to see if he will be upset basically to gauge how much the guy likes them or how crazy he is. But some women do this because things are going too fast or they found someone better or they're just losing interest. Men are not mind readers it's confusing and you could ruin something that could have been awesome.
lol Andrew Tate, is this you?
Humble yourself and go for the best you can be. Never be mad at second place. Logic is best and get pass yourself to be at your goals!
So needed to hear this ..awesome dates ..live apart....he even puts me on the train!! Not just dropped outside the station...but when part ..keeps in touch ..but giving crumbs. All energy to get together...is from me. Yep .having that chat soon...
Great advice and well taken! Love your energy and videos! 👍🏻💕💕💕💕
gosh you’re soooo stunning and glowy!!!! your makeup looks so pretty as well 💗💗
Some big sister advice Right there❤❤❤love it .
Thanks girl like you have helped me make a boy chase and in my school there is like alot of like people liking each other and its hard to find someone to trust and to love when you know that a bunch of people like to play you ❤
Is it just this vid u watched that helped you?
The fact that nobody talks about the book Womens Magic Truths on borlest speaks volumes about how people are stuck in a trance
I wish I knew this stuff beforehand as someone who isn’t really experienced. I did treat a guy like a boyfriend once, and when I found out I was only an option I stopped talking to him. He came back and said he wanted me and not options… eh.
Lumma honestly you are a queen. I'm in a long distance relationship for the upcoming 8 months, do you have any advice or could you please do a video about it. I would appreciate your advice sooo much.
Omg crazy you ask this, because i'm actually planning this! So yes I definitely will x
Thank you so much! I can't wait to watch it.
@@lummaaziz yay, waiting for it too!
You’re literally so funny and have the best advice
😊story time: so me and this guy were talking for a while and me and him were always flirty towards each other and me and him hung out a lot and all of that and when halloween came, we hung out and went trick or treating together and later that night he asked me out. Being his first gf… he didnt know much about how to treat a girl so it was a struggle, but i loved him no matter what. But 4 days later this girl that literally hates me, told him a bunch of reasons not to date anyone and crap, and so he broke up with me just because she said that!! And so now their always hanging out and she’s rubbing it into my face and idk what to do anymore so im trying to get over it and move on but its hard because i really cared and loved him and he just ruined it all and made me cry for weeks! So its been almost a month now and him and her still hangout and flirt right in front of me and its rly bad. So ya thx for letting me vent!! 😅🙈
Omg I’m a little late but I love your videos and especially this one🥹😩 I can totally see you pov🤭 thank you for blessing me wit your videos!!! Sending you kisses and wishes😌
not him replying whilst watching thisssss
gotta play it cooool eeeeeeee
thank u for this video! youre so beautiful and everything u said was on spot! sending love xx🤍🥰
Ive never really understood the concept of never settling for less than what you deserve, I was like yeah obvi, but didn't fully understand till now. thank you:))
First Off, Luma U are like a big sister from amotha motha to me!! Second off, THIS was the video that I needed to watch, and Third, I just recently started watching your videos some weeks ago 🤍🤍 def loved your channel!
she starts at 4:45 with advice :). Thank you for slapping reality into me .
Ur so beautifull , Masha allah . I don think u even need some makeup on
Now hear this gentlemen! The expert with all the experience speaks💥🤨
Ladies don’t be afraid to set your standards and boundaries, TRUST me you’ll benefit more thank you will loose. I know sometimes we can get scared to let our standards known when dating as young woman, but if he leaves when you show him your standards then he is not the one for you and that is OK.
About every eggs in the same basket…I agree 50/50. Like I’ll give him some exclusive time to sense his intentions about me and a chance to see if he truly pursue me. If I see that he doesn’t (& it’s fast to notice) I move on.
I wouldn’t talk to too many guys at the same time, also it’s exhausting 😅😂
We don’t need men to be obsessed with us. We need to be obsessed with ourselves first and stop thinking about how to people please and guy please just so he can get and notice you. Be selfish it’s good for you. Stop trying to make him obsessed because at the end of the day, you’ll be drained cause your strategy to make him obsessed won’t work at all.
yes thank you
SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO EXCITED😍😍😍 WATCHING YOUR VIDEO MAKES ME FEEL SOOO GOOD. THE BEST PICK ME UP
YAY
"this is not build a bear" 😭😭
she’s gorgeous
im pretty young, and i just got out of my first love. I was used for my body and discarded like a toothbrush. Used to make yourself feel better, a burden at times, and discarded after a few months. We dated for 7 months, but i truely lost him after 4. he moved on after 1 week. Something you said made me really open my eyes and i cried a lil bit but I am so grateful that there are people who can help girls like me learn that I am an actual person with actual feelings. I subscribed :)
First time watching you and I love you
If a man truly wants you, you won't have to try to get him to chase you.
I came across your video by happenstance and immediately was drawn in.
The same advice is in Guys looking for girl podcasts 😂😂😂. They just swap word guy with girl and its done😂.
Love this and your positive mindset💖💖
Jasmine...
Lummaa please ur my fav! , cuz ur energy is amazinng
the amount of times she's said "fair share" 💀💀
Thank you so much girl for this advice.
Needed to be reminded of these things 💅🏻😘 God bless
i love you Lumma. i just genuinely love you !
She's beautiful ❤
you are such a queen ❤
I love how your voice sounds!
omg, i love your advice sm. Wish i had knew it soon 🥺
i hear you and, god, you're right. Probably some months ago my think was different. but, if he look interested, how is healthy wait for that label, that word, that compromise
you are so talented. I love your singing voice. it sounds beautiful.
Im 13 and have had 3 relationships and crushes here and there and this helped me sooo much i love youuuu
Thank you I have been looking for this video since the summer of 2022 lol I just subscribed
I needed this badly
Girl I cant with you. You READ MY MIND, and then I saw you are also a figure skater, SAME
Jessica...
I used to follow your videos, you were the person calling these things (how make a person chase you) nonsense.
Your voice is very attractiveeee 0:15
Oh damn I had already made half of the guys obsessed with me without even listening to this video, and boy my man is the greenest flag after I heard what was lumma saying. Damn girl I never knew the tricks I was using was supposed to do this! Hahahahhahaha I winnn
Thank you for your advice❤❤❤
I needed to watch this 3 times, my life has swifter recently and starting to receive blessings once mindset is switched. Thank you again!🙏🏻❤
10:00 Reminder for myself ❤
this video just made me realize that i do soooo many things that i shouldn't
And damnnnn!I am so happy to fin you in my for you page BABYGIRRRL love you and definitely MEAN IT❤🔥