Not specific to this video but Evan is the most community driven youtuber I know. There’s no one else who respects their subscribers and fans like Evan does and it makes his videos feel so friendly and warming.
My high school maths teacher called me "hallam" , so I said" yes walker!", He said you can call me Mr walker! So I replied, "then, you can call me Mr hallam", he said I am not going to do that, I will call you Jon, I said in that case, I will call you Mike! He laughed, and said ok!
Same, children should be on a more personal level with their parents. Mum(mom) dad is personal and resentful enough. To say sir/ma'am to your parents shows no personal relationship and it makes me uncomfortable. I expect my children to call me mum or mummy. The only time my daughter occasionally calls me miss is when we are at school. I work in a school and my daughter knows she doesn't get preferential treatment in school and knows not to expect it from me while I'm working.
American and same. I feel like a lot of these things in this video and the other one are highly region specific. Sir/ma'am seems just too formal, and like something you wouldn't say to your parents unless you felt you were forced to.
right, and in certain languages i know there are ways to refer to you're parents in a respectful way without it sounding subservient (amma/appa in malayalam), but I could just think saying mom/dad would be respectful
It's really not that. My children are happy and sometimes toe the line a bit, but it's in our culture to use Sir and Ma'am. I will even use it for elders and younger folks that are adults. It's just polite as "yes please" and "thank you" to me. So if you visit, don't be shocked if someone uses those terms and holds the door for you. 😘 We just like our manners. Imagine Effie from Hunger Games saying "Manners!" if someone doesn't use any in the south. It's very common for other adults in the south to even correct an unruly child in public if the parent is indisposed. It takes a village...
I NEVER want my son to refer to me as 'sir'. I'm his dad not his boss. As for the whole respect thing. As a parent I want love first, respect second. Familial love is unconditional whereas respect is earned. Prioritising respect over love is just viscerally wrong to me. My son will respect me by calling me dad or daddy, not 'sir'.
Yeah same with mother and father. I used to sometimes call my mum mother cause I thought it was funny but she hated it. Also it feels like I'm about to say mother fucker, since that is the only time anyone ever says mother
I call my parents by their first name; it's kind of what they prefer too. I personally find that respectful; I call everyone by their first name unless they state otherwise. As a Swede over the age of 18, your first name is the name you've chosen to have; since you have the right to change your first name once for free. So if you keep your name your parents gave you, that's your choice. So using your first name just makes sense.
if I hear kids calling their parents Sir and/or ma'am it just sounds really really dodgy like it feels like a superficial relationship that feels more business-like and just unloving I guess
Huh. My parents are from the west, so they didn't expect this kind of thing from me, but I grew up in the South, and my friends did that with their parents. Those families were very close. It kinda reinforces the authority structure. It is the kid acknowledging that their parents have authority and that the kids will respect that. It's a little different from how I want to raise my kids, but it certainly wasn't a way to make the relationship more estranged.
@@evan I think it's because "Mum" and "Dad" are already titles of respect. By using their titles ("Mum" and "Dad") instead of their first names, it's already showing that level of respect, so using something like Sir and Ma'am is basically like keeping the respect but removing connotations of familial connection - so I think that's what makes it sound so unloving
I can respect my parents without acting like they’re strangers to me, thanks. Lol seriously though there are better ways to show respect than to address people with formal prefixes and stuff
As a brit, using the word "sir" or "ma'am" to adress my parents feels really odd. Because those words are usually used to kindly address people you don't know, or to show respect to teachers or your boss. So using it to address my parents who I know and love, makes it sound like we're disconnected as if we're not family.
I'm from Sweden and I really like the fact that we call everyone by their first name. I have never called an elder or a teacher anything other than their first name. I don't think it's about a lack of respect at all, I think it's about respecting everyone equally, regardless of age or profession. Makes perfect sense to me! Love these videos, it's so interesting to get perspectives on cultural differences 😊
it's the same in Turkey and as a German I was very confused by it because we use Mr. and Mrs. and their last names for people we don't know well or have a formal relationship with
in my experience, a child calling their parents sir and ma'am is a red flag for some sort of emotional or mental abuse, or at the very least shows a very distant relationship
Agreed, it makes me think of like posh people in the old days when they'd ship you off to a boarding school as soon as you were old enough, you;d see them a few times a year at most, and your entire relationship was stiff and formal and lacking any kind of love or affection
i work in childcare and have a child psych degree and i completely agree. its a huge safeguarding flag and it makes me SO uncomfortable hearing Evan talk about it. Its quite alarming.
@@firecracker1711 yeah I didn't realize that not everyone knew how bad/weird that is; although I guess some people must not know because some kids still have to do it
As a lapsed Northerner - just want to confirm we do use articles like 'the' it's just we swallow them in pronunciation to be 't' - subtle but life-changing difference
Agreed. As exaggerated as it is, I'd probably refer to Keith Lemon's celebrity juice persona for a first example. I get why it's easy to miss in real life since it's so quick - more of a missed half syllable. We say 'going t' th' shops' not 'going shops'.
Yes, in Lancashire and Yorkshire the definite article is a glottal stop. Which the Latin alphabet doesn't have a letter for. Which is why a lot of southerners think we use "t' ".
When someone said "you only use Mrs. if it's their full name" they meant you would call a married female teacher Mrs. Brown, for example, while still calling her Miss
I was going to say the same thing, I'm pretty sure they meant you'd only use 'Mrs', (or 'Ms' if they prefer to use that, or Doctor if they are entitled to it), in conjunction with their surname. If you were not using their surname you'd only ever use Sir or Miss. In my primary school I think nearly every female teacher happened to be a Janet, so I don't first names would have worked anyway, at least not in circumstances where it was necessary to identify which female teacher we were talking about.
Yes this exactly! I am English and "miisssss" was shouted/called across a classroom to get the teacher's attention, and less frequently we used Mrs/Miss + surname to talk to them. I've always found it odd that it's Miss for women (regardless of whether they're married) and yet Sir for men (but the history mentioned in the video makes more sense).
exactlyyy. female teachers whether miss ___, ms ___ or mrs ___ are generally called miss and male normally mr ___ are sir, then go straight from that to first names!
@@MrDannyDetail at my school as well, every time there was a doctor we would only use their surname initial in conjunction with their title rather than their full surname I guess because doctor is longer to say so it'd be like sir, miss, mrs smith and doctor s
That’s also my ideal shopping experience as a Brit 😂 if a shop is empty with a ton of staff on the shop floor I avoid it like the plague because I do not want hassled or to feel like I am constantly being watched 😂
To be fair, college in the U.K. we call our teachers by their first names and it just makes a lot more sense... you feel like you’re actually talking to a human and it just makes the environment so much more comfortable.
I’m also in sixth form and we’ve been told a million times that we can call them by their first names but everyone still calls them Sir and Miss 😂 it’s a difficult habit to get out of
@@Rebecca-vd4ww Yeah, even at university I never got used to the idea that I could refer to my tutors and professors by their first names. In fact there was a lot I missed out on at uni by still being stuck in a "but they're *grownups*! I'm only a kid!" mentality. I never heard any announcement that it was OK to use their first names, so I never really felt I'd been given permission to. =:o\
@@therealpbristow Like a lot of things in adult life, you’re expected just to know how everything works lmao. Sometimes some more instructions would be appreciated.
@@Rebecca-vd4ww yeah personally that's why i appreciate college being more casual so you can slowly learn to be more adult by the time you're in uni lol not that it works for everyone but it worked for me
Or vote, not allowed to do that either. But join the army or buy a gun, can do that EDIT: I have been informed that you can vote at 18 in America, so apologies for my ignorance
A few years back I was in a long distance relationship with someone in the states, and she tried bragging to me about her kettle, thinking that I not only would have never heard of one before, but also that the fact it boils in under 2 mins is crazy so it's a really good kettle, and I was like, not only do 99.9% of households in the UK have a kettle, but 2 mins or less for the boil seems pretty standard to me, any longer and you might as well use the hob lol
It depends on how much water your pouring into it Like 2 would be fir 1.5 - 2l I doubt they are referencing 1 cup The American might though kettles can’t get enough power for faster books since they only have half the voltage
"Do you guys consider yourselves adults at 16/17?" - I turned 22 last month, about to finish my last year of Uni, and I still don't feel like an adult.
Bring an adult us pretending to understand things I grind if people ego pretend to understand what your saying Basically it’s a social construct built around our tribalistic need to fit in
Literally I can't get over the fact that they do that. I cannot think of any situation in which it wouldn't be extremely weird to call a parent Sir or Miss.
@@OHYS my mum was a teachers assistant at my school - I called her 'miss' in lessons and when talking about her in her work role. Mostly because she was the one who ran detentions for anyone who annoyed a technology teacher and distancing myself from that-scary-lady-in-tech was a priority for my social life. Never did it outside of school though.
My impression is that generally in Britain, we use 'Sir' for somebody either of much higher status than us or somebody who is the boss of whatever formal setting/situation we are in. That is why we use it for teachers. They are the boss of the classroom. If they give an order, we respond with 'yes Sir'. Spending time with your parents is not a formal setting, and they should be giving you instruction and encouragement, not orders. At least, this is how I see it.
I'm a Brit, born down south and grew up in the north. Londoners are just constantly disgruntled, but it's like a parallel world in the north west, I remember coming back on a tram from work in Manchester Trafford and was doing a pub quiz style thing with my friend and one by one random people started joining in, I somehow hosted a tram quiz by accident...
when kids call their parents sir/ma'am it always makes me think their really strict and just sorta the type of parents who don't really care much about their kids. I mean this probably isn't true but...
@@gemoftheocean caring if the kids have manners.. that sounds like it could fit under "strict" to me. Having manners is a good thing, but how is it enforced? By a talking to if it gets out of hand, or with a slap or belt? Both will ensure manners, but one is done with caring for the child, the other is caring what other people might think of YOU as a parent, and ignoring the needs of the child.
I’m 48 years old. I am still in touch with one of my high school teachers. To this day I cannot bring myself to call her anything but Mrs Taggart, despite her telling me not to for more than 25 years.
Same. I'm friends with a couple of former teachers on facebook and when we interact, I still call them Mr. Hurley or Señora Sargeant (she was my Spanish teacher).
In my school in the UK, we would call teachers Sir or Miss to their faces. But when talking to other students about teachers, we would always just refer to them by their last name. So it wouldn't be "I have a lesson with Mr Smith", it would be "I have a lesson with Smith".
In UK College the fact your call teachers is to represent the different environment between high school and college. At high school you're being forced to be there, whereas in college you "want" to learn these things since you chose them, and that as well as being older makes it more informal. Ofc you have to be in education until you're 18 but the point stands
Minor correction, but no one has to be in education until 18 years old. 16 is the minimum age as about 5 GCSEs at A-C grades (or equivalent) are usually required for most basic work and not everyone wants to go to uni.
@@jiggyprawn Actually, in the uk you have to be in some form of education until you're 18, but it can be part time learning if you're working over 20 hours a week.
@@katie7081 has this been the case for a long time? As I'm pretty sure my bf left at 16, I don't think he did any kind of working scheme. This would have been 12 years ago
the Scandinavian person being freaked out about British shop clerks being too nice actually sounds accurate. I'm from Norway, and if I go into a store and the employees acknowledge my existence At All before I approach them, I genuinely don't know what to do. There is this one hardware store that has started making all the employees say hi to you when you walk in, and it's the absolute worst
Yep British person here. And everytime I've been on holiday to mainland europe it really surprises me how little they interact. Even not taking the cash from you but instead you have to put it down into a dish & then they pick it up their side from the dish. It crazy how disinterested they are but yet they do that which takes longer to process the transaction & leaves you both standing there awkwardly for a longer period of time than is necessary.
Haha, hello fellow Norwegian! I couldn't agree more😂 I truly love when I'm being ignored. If I need your help, I'll ask - thank you very much. Please don't force me to converse with you.
I’m from America It was kinda a culture shock when I went to England for the first time because the cashiers don’t even make small talk with you while scanning your stuff it kinda made me feel unwelcome because the cashiers are usually so friendly
I'm half-Finnish half-English, and whenever I'm in England it does surprise me how talkative and extroverted a lot of retail staff are. I can't speak for other Scandinavian/Nordic countries but Finns generally just keep to themselves, even a handshake feels invasive, so a complete stranger asking how my week's been makes me nervous 😅
It may be rubbing off from other service staff. Both hairdressers and cabbies (mainly black cabs) are known for being chatty; I actually tip hairdressers if they pick up on my desire not to engage in chit chat.
As I see it, there is a fine balancing act between being friendly and polite, which makes shopping a pleasant experience, and going beyond that to being over-familiar and trying too hard, which comes over as being insincere here in the UK.
I absolutely hate when there’s a hierarchical way of referring to people. It literally comes from feudal times, I thought we were over that. Everyone deserves the same amount of respect.
Assuming your referring to sir and ma’am, it’s not really hierarchical in the US because everyone who is a stranger is pretty much universally called that. It doesn’t matter if you are a beggar on the street or the president, you are still called sir or ma’am.
That's just patently untrue: would you feel the same level of respect for a Nobel prize winner or someone who cures a devastating disease as you would a serial killer or abuser? If not then you're just arguing about degrees of difference
@@89Keith yes, all human life deserves respect and because you’re at the top or at the bottom of a flawed system doesn’t mean you’re worth more than someone else
Okay but in the UK we use Mr/Miss/Mrs/Ms too, of course we do, but sometimes it’s just so much easier to call our teachers Miss or Sir, I’m lazy and really don’t want to bother with an extra few syllables for their surname. And they call us by out first name, occasionally you’ll get a “Mr [Surname]!” whenever they’re being assholes though
Same, except I ended up using Miss and Sir because I’m terrible with names and kept forgetting what each teacher was called. Though teachers only ever called students by their forenames at my school. Never title and surname
It’s interesting. I never new most schools in the UK refer to teachers as miss as in my school it was always Madam, but it must sound weird to people not accustom to it but for me miss just sounds quite condescending and kind of crass, I suppose because I’m just not used to it and I can only recall seeing or hearing it on tv.
At my high school it was always Mrs/Mrs/Miss X, I found it weird that my sister who went to a different secondary called her teachers Sir and Miss most of the time. Now as a primary teacher it's usually Miss H (just "Miss" if I'm teaching a class who don't know me") , but male teachers would always be "Mr X", never Sir.
aaaw it was so cute to hear „schnecke“ instead of „schlange“ for queue. next time i go shopping i will imagine a cute snail waiting in line behind me instead of a hungry python. also since i‘m in switzerland i will make it a „schnäggli“ (lil snail) to make it even sweeter ✨🐌
Calling parents sir/ma’am feels so enforced and performative like they’d be punished if they didn’t. I get military vibes or at least a really strained unenjoyable parent-child relationship. The sort of parents that don’t acc know anything about their kids because the kids lie about everything to not get in trouble
Exactly! Feels like parent saying "I am above you, you must acknowledge that any time you speak to me". Do parents call their kids 'sir/madam' to show respect? Didn't think so
As someone that grew up in the southern us, my ‘sirs’ and ‘ma’ams’ come out like second nature. It just was a way of showing respect I guess In regards to my parents I would only use that when they were pissed off at me and wanted a serious response or very sarcastically.
I call my mom and dad sir or ma’am when they, like, ask me to do something. for example Parent: go do the dishes please Me: yes sir/ma’am It’s quick and usually slurred together but it’s just so they know I heard them and am going to do the task now. It was never “trained” into me and I wouldnt be punished if I just said mom/dad instead but it’s just, polite. And I still was a rebellious teenager and talked back all the time but it’s one thing that I’ve always kinda just done.
There was a show on UK TV a while ago that showed how easy it was for some random person to walk in off the street, pretend to be a waiter collecting payment, "drop" your card, and swipe it on a hidden reader on their ankle. It's not that we don't trust the staff that work there, it's just that it's prudent to never let your card out of your sight.
Kettle fact. British kettles boil faster than anywhere else in the world as they are designed to be approximately 5 times more powerful. Also back in the day the UK used to experience electrical surges during advert breaks as everyone turned on their kettles, it's called a TV pickup.
My secondary school had a thing were we called our teachers by their first names (in the uk) and it actually felt like mutual respect rather than some arbitrary respect I was expected to give! Also at uni in the uk I feel like most lecturers just go by their first names!
For Uni yeah, no one uses "Sir" or "Mister __", it's just first name basis always. As for school, depended entirely on our teacher and it only became common once we entered 6th form. At that stage we were all basically adults so the respect angle was mutual, teachers liked the informal nature of it as much as we did. As someone who's tutored people from the age of 13 to 18, it's nice when those 18yo's treat you like a friend and not a tutor, I can imagine teachers like having a friendly, almost personal relationship with the older students as opposed to a strictly hierarchical one.
I had an English teacher in high school that did that. She was also the same teacher,that would bring in cut up sandwiches for us to eat when we had her . We all knew that it wasn’t really for the class but for the kids that had parents that didn’t feed them, either because they financially couldn’t or just out of complete neglect.
I'm a Brit who's grown up in Sweden, and it took me a little while to adjust to calling my teachers by their first names. Now, however, I don't see why it would be disrespectful to call someone by their first name. Like, why would someone not having a title stop you from showing them respect? (I do understand the other side too, but that feels more like 'demanding respect', rather than 'showing respect because it always should be shown'.) It also helps put students 'on the same level' as teachers, making them more approachable and allowing for a more comfortable environment at school.
Right? Im from Denmark, so i grew up just respecting people in general. It was not something I needed to be told to do. Calling my teachers by their first name or nickname, did not mean I respected them less. And it does feel like forced and demanding respect, especially in America with the Ma'am and Sir stuff 🤣
I'm from Finland, and it's the same here. I've called all of my teachers by their first names (or nicknames) since preschool, and it's not disrespectful to me. You respect others, whether or not they have a title to hold above you. I completely agree on the "demanding respect" part - if you have to demand respect, something is a bit off in my opinion. Not having titles definitely does create a less stiff atmosphere in classes. I never felt inferior to my teachers and since we were on a more even footing, asking questions and having discussions felt more natural. I'm probably going to have one hell of an adjustment ahead of me, now that I've applied to do my degree in Ireland. Oh well. 😅
Yes exactly but there is a cultural difference how the society treats teachers. I am an Austrian and spent a year in Norway and the difference how society threats teachers is enormous. In my experience if a child in Norway said the teacher did something unfair the people will listen to the story and often calm the children down and trust what the teachers do. In Austria the parents often call the headmaster and make trouble even for the smallest thing. For example I currently volunteer in a school and one student didn't do anything for two hours and after that they usually have their first break outside. And since he did not do anything he stayed inside to do some work and afterwards could go. The next day the parents called and painted a completely different picture and the teacher nearly got sued for harassing a student.
I'm British, and in my secondary school, we called teachers either Sir/Miss or Mr/Miss/Mrs Surname. I had a teacher once with a very common Surname, but she actually tried to tell off a parent for calling her by her first and last name.
Oh there was definitely an abuse vibe when my father came home drunk enough that he'd demand we call him Sir. "I should get respect in this house! You should stand when you address me and call me Sir." Oh yeah, it's going to be one of *those* nights.
I remember when i was in university, the American student in our class kept calling our lecturer 'professor' when talking to him... our lecturer had enough and loudly said PLEASE call me Dave 😂
Yeah in the US we'll usually refer to them as Professor (very helpful for when you're terrible at remembering names), or, if they have a title like Dr. you might call them "Dr. [last name]" because they worked hard for that degree lmao
@@nealbrook4226 yes but professor is not the position here in the UK. You have to earn that title. It's a higher qualification which is pretty rare. Calling a general lecturer 'professor' would be like calling someone a DR who hadn't earned it. My brother is a professor in the states but he just laughs and says 'of course I'm not really a professor'.
As a scandinavia, if a retail worker or server is too kind, it makes me ucomfortable as well. We aren't huge on social interraction in general, especially with strangers, so I'd also assume flirting or the person wanting something from me. The perfect retail experience is the cashier saying nothing except what's needed, and me doing the same.
I feel like all Evan's struggles with customer service in the UK is legit because he's American. I'm a Brit working in retail and the moment I hear the American accent the dread and annoyance activate... even if the poor American soul hasn't done anything! It's almost instinctive!
I used to work near a US airbase in the UK and no word of a lie, it's like they couldn't call a single item we sold by it's actual name, and then got annoyed with you when you didn't instantly know what they were blabbering on about. You're in a foreign country, I know we mostly understand each other, but the whole world is not America.
I worked in retail pre covid and when Americans came in a waft of either emphasized depression or fraudulent thrill enveloped our expressions and tone. we either want to emphasise our disdain for our jobs and show the Americans our animosity towards their happy go lucky attitude or we played up to their fabricated festivity so we could be distant and allow them to feel slightly at home with our sham ecstasy.
Lol poor Americans but they can be warm and personable if you give them a chance... The accent is annoying though...some other state accents aren’t so bad but still. LolZ
@@ruthfoley2580 I have never really thought about it in this much depth, but it's absolutely spot on. And let's not forget that for a long while (and maybe even now) nobody with an american credit card had chip and pin, so they'd need to sign for absolutely everything, which is a nightmare when you have a 20ft queue going out the door and they want to separate every item they have and put them all on separate cards. ARGHHH, just manage your money better or take cash out ffs.
I'm seeing lots of comments saying this and it really doesn't make sense to me. I would say there is a very wide range of loving vs. unloving relationships where the kid might still use sir/ma'am regardless. It's possible the relationship is unloving but It's by no means a guarantee
@@mermaidismyname I think its because in the UK we would use Sir or Ma'am for someone we either didn't know (As in: "Excuse me Sir, I think you dropped this") or for someone of higher status than us, like a Company Head, or maybe a teacher depending on the school or the area. For us, using them sounds cold and distant, like a Victorian child addressing their parents as 'Lord and Lady Smith' instead of Mum and Dad. Maybe Americans attach warmer feelings to the words because they call their parents by them, but for us its only used to _deliberately_ denote distance - as in "I don't know you but I am being respectful" or "we are not equals, I respect you as my superior".
It’s mostly out of respect. I do it off handed to my parents when they ask me to do something. Or sometimes very sarcastically just to piss off my dad, but honestly its just so they know I heard them and will do the thing they ask. People do it all the time in the us, especially in the south and Midwest. Hell I even once had a teacher call me ma’am when I was a senior trying to help him with his class.
literally the only time i use the word ‘Sir’ is in school... i also wouldn’t say ‘Ma’am’ to female teachers, we generally just say ‘Miss’. If i had to call anyone Sir or Ma’am out of school, i’d be really weirded out, especially if i saw someone calling their parents that
In Polish, you use the third person in order to be respectful. So for my parent's I would say (translated) "Does Mama want to come with me to the store?" and to my teacher it would be "Can I speak to Ms. Kasia after school?" and this is me speaking directly to them.
As someone who grew up going to an international school based on the American school system, and then moved to Norway, I can say confidently that you almost couldn’t find 2 more opposite forms of education (regarding system and culture). At the American school, we went to school for 7 hours, 5 days a week (total of 35 hours). We had the same schedule every day (as in, we had all classes every day). We technically had max 2 hours of homework a day, but most of the time we had more than that. In Norway, my sister (9th grade) goes to school a total 26.5 hours a week. The schedule on a weekly basis is the same, but it’s different day-to-day. They are given all their homework at the beginning of the week, and have to finish it by Thursday or Friday. They could finish it all in 2 hours if they wanted to. The Norwegian school system very much focuses on making the student responsible for themselves and making them functional adults when they get out of school with the ability to think critically. My experience at my American school was that there was always a step-by-step you could follow. You just had to do the next thing on the list. You didn’t have to come up with the list, just do the things on it. (I had to learn how to “make my own list” in all kinds of situations once we moved to Norway, because I had never learned how to do that.)
I second this! I grew up in Norway and went to school there, and did a year abroad in the US in high school, and it was a complete opposite system. I found that the American school relies very heavily on enforcing homework. We had hours of homework to do every day, which had to be turned in the next day in class and we would be marked on whether or not we did homework. By comparison, homework in Norway was a lot more about keeping up with the class, and the teachers trust you to have read the chapter or two of history to prepare for the class but it is usually not enforced. I did feel like the American school was about spoon feeding and making sure everyone did what they were told, but in Norway you have a lot more personal freedom over how much school work you do and how much effort you put into it. American schools also rely so so so much on memorizing. Most of the tests I had in the US were the exact same problems we had worked on during classes and in homework. A math problem on a test would be a math problem I had done 50 variations of over and over and over that same week. In Norway, schools focus a lot more on teaching you critical thinking and learning to make comparisons and draw conclusions. Tests in Norway are so much harder because you don't know what they're going to ask for, and you're usually met with a problem you haven't specifically had to solve before. You have to use the knowledge you gained from solving different kinds of problems to find out how to solve this particular problem. Overall, in the US I spent hours every day working on homework and barely studied for tests (as they were just exact duplicates of the homework), and in Norway I spent less time working on homework on a daily basis but would spend way more time studying for individual tests.
Continuing the "sir" debate, I'm in the US and somehow both of my children picked up on using "sir" as an insult and will only use it when they are mad or frustrated with you. Getting "sir"-ed by an angry 4yo is an absolutely delightful (and hilarious) experience.
Calling your parents Sir and Ma'am reminds me of how kids used to call their parents Herr Vater (Mister Father) and Frau Mutter (Mrs Mother) in 18th and 19th century in the German speaking countries. So old-fashioned and distant for a relationship that should be loving and caring :00
In the US Sir and Ma'am are recognition authority, calling someone those signifies you see them as an authority figure in a particular context. Casually it also can be used as form of recognition and formal thanks
1. In Finland we just call the teacher: teacher. Second: Here if you are too polite it is seen as sarcasm or you want something from the other person. Being too polite is creepy. Please stay away from me. Even in the restaurant/ store 👀🙃
I love how Finns are activating to defend the sacred art of minding your own damn business and respecting others by letting them do the same without unnecessary formalities :D
@@sipulikorva8717 oh we kept doing that during the normal school and when you go study majors etc you start calling by name..and even then often I heard people still say teacher
I get the vibe that we in the UK are treated more like adults at age 16 than in the US so it doesn’t make me uncomfortable and actually helped to create a better relationship. My college was fairly relaxed so I think saying Miss or Sir would have been really strange.
But in the UK, "colleges" go from age about 16 to people well into adulthood. In the US "college is from 18 and over." Depending on the circumstances occasionally an instructor might go by their first name, if they asked to be called by that, but when I was going to University of California, it was ALWAYS "Doctor" or "Professor" X. Never by first name. Community college (mind you University level work in the US) is "all things to all people". The credits given for passing a class transfer to University credits. University is so expensive now, a lot of students may opt to go there the first year. But with permission, a 16-17 may, with permission of community college, and parents, high school, take a course there, and that way gain University academics early. Especially good for bright students of 16/17 if their high school doesn't have a more advanced class he/she would like to take. Example 16 John is excellent in math. He eventually wants to double major in bio/chemistry. His school doesn't offer calculus. However the local community college does. So after his high school classes are over he goes over to the community college to take the calculus. Assuming he passes, after he graduates high school, that way he won't have to take his basic calculus course again, because he already has the credit, and has a better shot at getting his double major completed in 4 years. Same goes for other General Education courses that may be taken to fulfill distribution courses required for your bachelor's degree.
@@gemoftheocean College in the UK doesn't go from 16 - well into adulthood. It is 16-18 and then students leave and go to university. When students leave a formal high school environment at 16 to go to a sixth form college (for two years) which is somewhere in-between the formality of high school and informality of university, the first name thing just makes sense and fits the college environment. 16-18 year olds may not be adults but they are definitely mature enough to call their teachers by a first name without it being disrespectful or something. I was a college teacher and honestly being called miss would have felt weird because of the lack of formality in all other aspects of college learning.
@@sbo3 I mean no you can take college courses at over 18 college is 16+ the same way uni is 18+ in fact some college courses have levels to them so if you need to start from level 1 to get to level 3 you sometimes need to do the level 1 course, the first stage level 2 course, the second stage level 2 course and then the 2 year level 3 course (if you start at 16 than going from just level 1 to level 3 would take you 3 years making you 19 when taking your final 2 year college course) and in fact there are people who go into uni and realise everything they had done to get to that point wasn't what their calling was per se and they end up going back to college to take a different class or sets of classes so karen was right about what they said regarding college being 16+
Always only called my teachers their first name, nickname or last name 😂😂 Where Im from, we dont do sir and mam or mrs. ms ect. We just call them their first name usually, or whatever they like to be called. They also of course call us out first name or a nickname. My English teacher once called me "Ms. Pigeon" because my middle name in English is Pigeon. 🤣🤣 I´m also fairly sure I was called "shut up" a lot in some courses 😂
I'm a teacher in Denmark, and here pupils/Students will always address you by your first name. If any of my students started saying Mr. "last name", I would first think they were kidding, if they were serious I would call their parents. We don't actually have an equivalent for Sir, so nobody would be called anything like that here.
I’m from the US and I think it depends on the age. In primary/ secondary school, I always called my teachers, and most adults who I wasn’t related to, “Mr./Mrs./Miss” last name. In college/ university I call all of my teachers by their first name. I also call my bosses at work and pretty much everyone by their first name. I feel like once you are an adult it is assumed that everyone gets called by their first name.
@@coralovesnature Here in Scandinavia almost nobody is addressed by anything but their first name. In Denmark only in a few places are you expected to use honorifics: Royalty like the Queen, in the Parliament, in law courts and foreign dignitaries. If I met the Prime minister I would say Hej (Hi) Mette, if I addressed her as Mrs. Prime minister she would find it a bid weird. Denmark is not a big country so it's not unusual to meet people from all walks of life.
Indian here; we always use sir or ma'am for our teachers/professors. In fact no elder is ever called by their first name unless you are being rude on purpose. Having recently graduated and joined the corporate world when I HAD to address people by their first name only I felt very uncomfortable talking like that to people much older than me. Almost 2 years and I am still getting used to it.
As a German living in Northeast England, I enjoy the positive vibes most people give out. But I do love that if I'm working in the service industry in Germany, I don't have to pretend to be happy. :)
My parents (both Scandinavians) worked at an international school in Asia, that was based of the American education system. All the students had to call the teachers Mr, Mrs, or Miss. In Scandinavia, it’s almost rude to call someone that. It’s like calling them old. So my parents told all the students they could call them by their first name after school hours. One day, an American parent (we’ll call him Bob) heard their kid call my dad Curt, and he was horrified. Almost yelled at his kid for doing it. My dad then said that he had told the kid it was fine. But Bob said the kid had be raised to be polite and respectful, and would therefore be calling my dad Mr. Andreassen. My dad then explained that it was actually disrespectful and rude to call someone Mr in his culture. It was a moment I don’t think Bob will ever forget. The realization that even something as simple as Mr, Mrs, and Miss could be so different in another culture.
I'm from Finland and the only time where you'd call anyone Sir/Mrs is if they are the president or the chairman. Any other context and they're making fun of you
Most of my relatives from northern England actually do say “the” but it’s very chopped off. Instead of saying “I’m going to the bank”, they would say “I’m going to t’bank.” It almost sounds like “I’m going teut bank.” It’s very common to hear British people say that someone is “in hospital” to indicate that a person has been admitted to a hospital whereas Americans will generally say a person is “in the hospital”. But then again, Americans will say that someone is “in school” to indicate the fact that the person is attending school. It’s just what you’re used to.
In my British secondary school we would refer to our teachers by sir/miss when talking to them but if we were talking about them we would use just their last name, no sir/miss. For example “I hate the homework Stevenson gives us”. Some of our teachers even had nicknames, Mr green was known as Greeny
Nicknames were, and are, rife in secondary schools. What the pupils do not know is that all the staff are perfectly aware of these nicknames, and usually play up to them. When I was at school, one teacher was nicknamed “Bogbrush” because he was bald, but the residual hair around his bald pate stuck out just like a bogbrush. I am sure he got his hair cut to conform to this title. We had a woodwork teacher called Donald Lewis, whom we called “Dai”, because he was very Welsh; I have since learned that all the staff called him “Dai” as well. Mr Branston was called “Pickles”, and Mr Worsel, “Gummidge”. Mr Evans was “Weed” (because he was a bit of a weed), and Mr Nicholas was “Tinbum” (Nickel arse, geddit?). Mr Felix was “Pussy”. I could go on. None of these was used to their faces, of course, but they knew!
In the uk I feel like it would be weird if you called your friends parents sir or ma’am maybe that’s a thing here but it’s normal to call other parents by their first names or when you’re young just calling them ‘bob’s mum’ or ‘Sarah’s dad’
@@alexwright4930 I was always scared to do that in case they had a different last name to what I expected. Like say they were divorced or something. So because I was nervous I just didn't call them anything 🤣🤣
Here in the West Midlands (certain parts) we call our mom MOM. I've had people accuse me of not being English because I typed mom instead of mum 🙄 Seems like not many people in the UK know certain areas use 'mom'. We had it before America lol.
Yasss I live in the south west of England and I call me Mam, “Mam” because I used to live in the north east but, despite it taking a bit longer or having to ask an employee in the Card Factory, I can pick up a card that says “Mam” on it but when I buy a card when I’m visiting her in the north east, they’re easier to find 🤣
The college/sixth form/uni difference in the UK is interesting in terms of addressing teachers. Sixth Forms tend to be a part of a secondary school so will follow the same rules as the school I.e Sir/Miss for teachers. Colleges on the other hand have their own sites not linked to a school similar to universities so tend to follow the uni rule of using first names.
A lot of other cultures call elders auntie and uncle even if they aren't. That's their version of sir and ma'am. Im from Texas, the capital of being unnecessarily polite. When I travel to other American states, they even think that were ridiculously polite. Its just a cultural thing
I get called "miss" and "lady" when I work with kids. Despite my desperately non feminine appearance. What's the best gender neutral alternative for "ma'am", "sir" or "miss"?
I just feel calling teachers by their first name make them so much more approachable and human. I've done both being swedish/Canadian. Funny thing, I only found out my teachers first name in Canada by getting sick on a school trip.
I feel like I would feel like it would create a barrier between me and my teachers if I called them Sir or Ma'am. like they would seem less approachable to me. I adored so many of my teachers and most of them went by a nickname and I felt so commutable with them and wasnt afraid to ask when I didn´t understand something because they did seem more like someone I could ask for help. I don´t think I would have had that bond with my teachers if i called them sir and ma'am
Younger Kids still use 'fröken' in Swedish schools (which translates to miss) but the kids don't understand it as a form of respect since no one else in regular society uses the term.
Lol that Scandinavian thing is so true😆 I'm from Finland and when I worked in retail and there happened to be some foreigners as customers it was so awkward when they tried to ask me how my day was or something weird, I didn't know how to answer that and I just wanted them to shut up, take their stuff and go away😄 It's just the culture, we don't just chit chat something for the sake of it. And something that might be super weird for a lot of people is that we actually call our teachers by their first name or maybe even some nickname the pupils/students have come up with. I think this just shows that we just speak to each other normally and we are more relaxed in a way, we don't like to use too formal language. Oh and also something that just came to my mind, when I worked in retail I thought it would be nice to speak in a more respectful manner to some older customers so I started to call them she/he instead of it😂😂 It's just that in our spoken language we call everyone it and the she/he-pronoun is more formal and usually only used in written language (or sometimes when talked about dogs, lol don't ask, maybe we just love dogs so much).
As a Swede I not only would never ever call my parents sir or ma'am, or a teacher and certainly not a boss. My boss, my teacher and my parents are firstname or my parents are mom and dad. Calling each other by a first name it's a sign of respect, that you don't value yourself above others or see others more valuable than yourself. I can call strangers sir or ma'am if I'm in the US, but to call someone that that I have somewhat a relationship too, private or professional, feels very degrading. No one is better than anyone else because of their job or title. If I was speaking to a European Royalty if they are elderly, I would use that word, or to any adult I don't know in the US, also military veterans or seniors in UK or US. But as soon as this person stops being a stranger to me and are under the age of like 75-80, first name base is obvious. Calling your parents sir or ma'am feels to me like someone who would rules their house with whips and distant and harsh inhumane authority.
Evan: "there was a line behind me. you know, a 'schnecke'" me, a bilingual german, who easily gets confused: *start to doubt her own sanity because wait it's schlange not schnecke isn't it. ISN'T IT.*
I wondered if it might be a different part in Germany or something, but thinking about it he's probably confusing the fact that there was a "Schlange" behind him with the fact that people were annoyed with him for doing stuff in such a "Schneckentempo" ;-)
I love the fact that you confused Schnecke and Schlange. I always thought this only happens the other way around. Many a times I've said "snail" instead of "snake" accidentally. Nice to see it also works the other way around for English speakers :D
I think the whole abuse things defo comes from my experience of American tv shows. The only time I've seen kids call their parents 'sir' is when there's abuse/ alcoholism ect going on so for me whenever I hear that, it's the first association I make.
I feel like american tv gives a skewed picture... it's not really accurate to real life more like a weird uncanny valley parallel universe type thing. ie my high school expirence was nothing like what high school movies implied it would be like
I think the nice thing about us Scandinavians adressing our teachers by their first names is that it removes a social barrier between the teachers and the kids, especially as you get older and more equal to them. In my own experience, it makes the teachers seem more like friendly adults who just want to teach us stuff, rather than teachers being these strict people who are only there to examinate you, and that you can't strike up a friendly conversation with (I get that folks from cultures where "sir", "ma'am" or "mr/ms/mrs [ ]" probably won't have felt this way because that's just what they've been used to). It also shows people from both sides that respect is earned, and not demanded. And tbh, it just feels like an outdated and old-fashioned way of adressing someone - it's like you're back in the 60s
I legit got sent to the principal's office in high school for calling one of my teachers by their first name. I wasn't even trying to be disrespectful; I was just saying good morning and I thought he was cool like that.
me, an english year 11 student is currently very stressed in the middle of lots of exams despite the government cancelling gcses edit: to the other year 11s and 13s out there i wish you all the best of luck!!
I'm a Danish student who is attending a US university as an international student, and it's so strange to me that professors expect you to call them by their prefix and last name. I have grown up calling all my teachers by their first name, and personally, I think that creates more of a mutual bond between teachers and students at all ages. I feel as if I would mostly feel put down and intimidated by teachers if I didn't feel comfortable calling them by their first names, creating too much distance between students and teachers, making proper and effective teaching much more difficult. (The issue I'm currently facing in the US as I don't feel I can talk to my teachers/professors as openly as I am used to)
When talking about showing respect it can be important to separate respect for authority from respect for people, as conflating them can lead to unhealthy relationships. It seems like a lot of “Karen” types demand to be respected as an authority while only barely respecting others as people. Here in Sweden, while I know parents and teachers have some authority that should be respected, not having to bother with honourifics, surnames, and titles make them feel like normal people you can just talk to, and while I wouldn’t call any of them my friends my best teachers were the ones that let you joke around with them. If you want to read about the use of honourifics and titles in Swedish (or rather, their lack of use), you can look up Du-reformen (the thou-reform) which was the relatively sudden switch over from titles being commonplace to being relegated to the royal family and parliament.
I'm a 65 year old that lives in New York state I agree with everything you say except sir and ma'am to parents. It was mom and dad for me. Thank you I really like your videos. Everyone stay safe and healthy
I think sir and ma’am for parents is more of a Southern thing. I’m from WI and I never used that to refer to my parents nor did any of my friends. My mom is just mom and my dad is either dad or “fa’ter” (a play off of the German word)
I had a chemistry teacher in high school who called all his students by their surnames, he thought it was only fair that we got shown the same respect we shown him 🤷♀️
I have a German linguistics professor who addresses us with the formal "Sie" pronoun instead of regular, informal "du" and, to be honest, it makes me quite uncomfortable.
I had a physics teacher in secondary school (when I was 14-17ish) who went by Dr instead of the usual Mr/Miss/Mrs (Sir was also fine, he just didn't like Mr unless you'd never met him before so had no reason to know better). On the flipside, he always referred to students as Mr/Miss X. It definitely created a different atmosphere, though generally for the better - there was more of a feeling of mutual respect. It actually felt similar to being at uni, where virtually everyone from first year undergrads to internationally recognised lecturers were typically on a first name basis. To me, it seems that levelling out respect markers, regardless of the actual level chosen, can be better at creating a sense of two-way, mutual respect.
As a Brit, I've always found it weird how kids in American films and tv shows seem to call their friends' parents "Mrs so-and-so" and "Mr so-and-so" like I get that it's polite but I always just call my friends' parents by their first names
I think it depends how close you are with the friend. My best friends’ parents I would call by their first name, but if it was someone I didn’t know that well it was usually Mr./Mrs. last name
lol you can't wear your own clothes in school so you consider being able to do that an adult? In america the only time you can't is if you're in a private school, uniforms almost feel like a cult to me imo. I would hate to have that
@@snowythebudgie9674 trust me I understand, but actually uniforms help for lack of a better word - unify every student and put them on the same level, everyone wears the exact same thing so there's no competition or pressure to dress a certain way, everyone looks equal plus it's easy for parents to wash and buy for, rather than a new outfit every day
@@kmak4861 So, children can't express themselves, or wear the stuff they want to? I'm imagining a school of 4th graders all wearing red tshirts, they'd look so bland and it'd honestly make a lot of people appear more boring at first glance because they don't seem as special, which can make finding newer friends just a tad bit harder. Also if you buy clothes, it's a complete waste because you're never gonna be able to wear them because your school is so bad that they dont let you wear the clothes you want. ANd a lot of times, the water bill with be higher than it needs to be, like for say, if the adults were to do one load, then the kids did another load because they needed to seperate it (So dye doesn't spread or what mot, for example), they would have 1 or more loads, every single day, without uniforms, you can do like 20 pairs of clothes at once, and possibly do it weekly, saving a lot of money on the water bill in the long term. And also I would hate having to wear some clothes, some clothing used in uniforms can feel like something some kids don't want to wear, personally, I absolutely hate shorts, if I was forced to wear shorts, I wouldn't want to go to school and would probably feel really insecure, or specific shirts, etc.
US citizen here, I have a kettle and we use it for... a lot. Ramen, cleaning, hot chocolate, and all sorts of other foods you need hot water for. The only things i don't use it for is coffee or tea just because i don't like them. It was a gift from a friend for housewarming and i will never go back to boiling
I've always lived in London and the first time I went to a cafe on my own somewhere else (Bristol) I was seriously confused at how nice they were the second I walked in. I was so startled I had to explain to the lady who served me that I've never had such a friendly encounter in a shop, she laughed and said "people in Bristol are just like that"
I find the obsession with "demanding respect" in the US odd, it suggests that respect is a one way in teraction. I feel like respect goes both ways so having the concept of a superior in this instance makes no sense.
Re Miss, my gran had to leave work when she got married “so she could run the home” She was really disappointed as she really loved supporting the kids and found other things to do to help the community and get back to it later.
I'm British & by the time we were doing GCSEs at my school so 14/15/16 depending on what set you were in or level of intelligence. We called not all but many of our teachers by their first names & like you some by nicknames. This changed going to a different school for A-Levels which I found a bit of a shock but then changed back again when I went to Uni xD
@@KathleenMc73 I’m guessing you mean English teas, ‘cause a lot of Asian teas are best made with water well below 100C. I grew up drinking green tea and my grandma would always tell me to make sure the water was between 65C and 80C ‘cause anything higher would taste terrible, almost burnt, like a strong bitterness. My friend was actually the one who gave me a box of English Breakfast tea and told me to make sure to boil my water first, ‘cause she always saw me making our green tea with just hot water. 😁 Anyway, I hope u and ur ohana are staying safe and healthy during this pandemic. Love and aloha from Honolulu. 😁🤙🏽❤️🌈☀️(just symbols of Hawai’i)
The weird thing about the "sir/miss" thing is that, if you do A-levels at a school, you'll carry on doing it; but if (like me) you fuck up your A-Levels at school, drop out halfway through, and then go to college because you don't want to have to get a job... *there* it would be weird to call your teachers by anything but their FIRST name. Which makes sense because a decent chunk of people studying at a college are older and might even be older than their teachers. So it's not so much about age, it's about child environments vs adult environments.
The reason why teachers are either being called by their first name or by their nickname by the pupils, is because you don't "demand" respect as a teacher. In a society that is as relaxed with hierarchy as nordic countries are, a teacher demanding a student to call them miss/mr/mrs wouldn't gain anything. They would probably only be viewed as stuck-up. By calling eachother with first names/nickname you become more approachable to the students and they respect you, just as you respect them
Exactly! And respect is not necessarily blind obediance for us. It doesn’t require formalities. You don’t raise polite kids by making then talk certain way here, you make them see people are equals and those in power roles are just humans too, completely capable of mistakes. You’re allowed to question and negotiate. Respectful manners are about kindness, respecting everybody’s personal space, being humble and honest and staying on the topic at hand. Language is still important but secondary matter. In everyday relations there is no use for artificially arranging people to a hierarchical order of status and power.
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I like this very much. In the school where I teach, in Slovakia, kids call us by our first names. But we are just one of very few schools that do that.
It takes ~2 minutes to boil a cup of water in the microwave, but 8 minutes on the stove (although my stove is kind of slow to heat up...), so I used to always go the microwave route. It takes about 3-4 minutes in a kettle, but I can boil a lot more than just a cup of water. I can also walk away from it, get distracted, and forget without too many consequences since the kettle automatically turns off. Forgetting the stove is on, or worrying about the water overheating and "exploding" from the microwave became things of the past. 😊
I'm from Norway and if my father which I loved and respected past the end of the Universe had demanded at any given time to call him Sir I would laughed so much constantly, even when I was carrying him to his grave. No, we don't say anything close to that here in Norway.
It actually “go t’ pub” said like a lowercase t but at the end the pitch slightly up as if the sound has been cut off. And that’s how to speak like a northerner
T’ instead of The is Yorkshire, in Lancashire you get th’, so (heard in a Rochdale supermarket): “Excuse me, where are the eggs?” “Theggs at thend o’ thaisle, luv” translation The eggs are at the end of the aisle.
Not specific to this video but Evan is the most community driven youtuber I know. There’s no one else who respects their subscribers and fans like Evan does and it makes his videos feel so friendly and warming.
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My high school maths teacher called me "hallam" , so I said" yes walker!", He said you can call me Mr walker! So I replied, "then, you can call me Mr hallam", he said I am not going to do that, I will call you Jon, I said in that case, I will call you Mike! He laughed, and said ok!
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Seeing kids call their parents sir just makes me imagine that they constantly live in an army boot camp
Yeah that always weirds me out as a Brit 😂
Weirds me out too, but I’m from California. I think it must be a southern thing.
@@ourtubesocks I’m from the south and I also think it’s weird. I think it’s really just a super weirdly strict parents thing.
Same, children should be on a more personal level with their parents. Mum(mom) dad is personal and resentful enough. To say sir/ma'am to your parents shows no personal relationship and it makes me uncomfortable. I expect my children to call me mum or mummy. The only time my daughter occasionally calls me miss is when we are at school. I work in a school and my daughter knows she doesn't get preferential treatment in school and knows not to expect it from me while I'm working.
It’s weird as an American, makes it feel like there’s something wrong in the relationship
If I saw someone call their parents Sir/ma'am I would think they were intimidated and scared of their parents. I wouldn't view it as respect but fear.
In some households fear=respect. Which is really toxic.
American and same. I feel like a lot of these things in this video and the other one are highly region specific. Sir/ma'am seems just too formal, and like something you wouldn't say to your parents unless you felt you were forced to.
right, and in certain languages i know there are ways to refer to you're parents in a respectful way without it sounding subservient (amma/appa in malayalam), but I could just think saying mom/dad would be respectful
It's really not that. My children are happy and sometimes toe the line a bit, but it's in our culture to use Sir and Ma'am. I will even use it for elders and younger folks that are adults. It's just polite as "yes please" and "thank you" to me. So if you visit, don't be shocked if someone uses those terms and holds the door for you. 😘 We just like our manners. Imagine Effie from Hunger Games saying "Manners!" if someone doesn't use any in the south. It's very common for other adults in the south to even correct an unruly child in public if the parent is indisposed. It takes a village...
@@GroundThing Yes sir/ma'am. It's more southern thing, for sure. We are just a bit more traditional.
I NEVER want my son to refer to me as 'sir'. I'm his dad not his boss. As for the whole respect thing. As a parent I want love first, respect second. Familial love is unconditional whereas respect is earned. Prioritising respect over love is just viscerally wrong to me. My son will respect me by calling me dad or daddy, not 'sir'.
this is the exact same thing my mother said to me when I was young
Well said.
It gives very authoritarian and abusive vibes to me
I think it's polite and respectful to call my parents Mum and Dad. Calling them and sir and ma'am would seem cold, very formal, and unfriendly
It honestly sounds like the southerners in America have no other means of showing respect but formal language
Yeah same with mother and father. I used to sometimes call my mum mother cause I thought it was funny but she hated it. Also it feels like I'm about to say mother fucker, since that is the only time anyone ever says mother
I call my parents by their first name; it's kind of what they prefer too. I personally find that respectful; I call everyone by their first name unless they state otherwise. As a Swede over the age of 18, your first name is the name you've chosen to have; since you have the right to change your first name once for free. So if you keep your name your parents gave you, that's your choice. So using your first name just makes sense.
Exactly. It reminds me in the movies when it's a very rich family that doesn't really care about their kids and make them call them sir and madam...
Agreed. It’s just so strange to call them sir/ma’am. They aren’t just random older people.
if I hear kids calling their parents Sir and/or ma'am it just sounds really really dodgy like it feels like a superficial relationship that feels more business-like and just unloving I guess
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Agreed. I'll just assume they fear their parents instead of loving and respecting them.
Huh. My parents are from the west, so they didn't expect this kind of thing from me, but I grew up in the South, and my friends did that with their parents. Those families were very close. It kinda reinforces the authority structure. It is the kid acknowledging that their parents have authority and that the kids will respect that. It's a little different from how I want to raise my kids, but it certainly wasn't a way to make the relationship more estranged.
@@evan I think it's because "Mum" and "Dad" are already titles of respect. By using their titles ("Mum" and "Dad") instead of their first names, it's already showing that level of respect, so using something like Sir and Ma'am is basically like keeping the respect but removing connotations of familial connection - so I think that's what makes it sound so unloving
I can respect my parents without acting like they’re strangers to me, thanks.
Lol seriously though there are better ways to show respect than to address people with formal prefixes and stuff
Yeah in my family it's basically just don't cuss, don't use a rude tone, don't roll your eyes, etcetera. No prefixes necessary.
yeah it seems like demanding respect for being older, rather than earning it.
As a brit, using the word "sir" or "ma'am" to adress my parents feels really odd. Because those words are usually used to kindly address people you don't know, or to show respect to teachers or your boss. So using it to address my parents who I know and love, makes it sound like we're disconnected as if we're not family.
Exactly. It feels all about distant authority, not your parents
So, when one of your parents tells you to go clean your room, how do you respond?
@@Kevin6t8 either "ok" or "ok dad/mum" something along those lines.
@@Kevin6t8 'yeah, okay,' or '... in a bit.'
Kevin - 6Y8 how would you respond
"I'm making $2.13 an hour" honestly makes a better argument *for* robbing people.
Sounds like Evan was the one getting robbed, tbh
Not really, because you'll get caught. It's not hard to track down who had access to a card before it went on a shopping spree.
I'm from Sweden and I really like the fact that we call everyone by their first name. I have never called an elder or a teacher anything other than their first name. I don't think it's about a lack of respect at all, I think it's about respecting everyone equally, regardless of age or profession. Makes perfect sense to me! Love these videos, it's so interesting to get perspectives on cultural differences 😊
it's the same in Turkey and as a German I was very confused by it because we use Mr. and Mrs. and their last names for people we don't know well or have a formal relationship with
in my experience, a child calling their parents sir and ma'am is a red flag for some sort of emotional or mental abuse, or at the very least shows a very distant relationship
Totally, it's like the most distant thing. Only teachers, soldiers and the knighted or saying 'alright yessir' as a greeting.
sometimes when my dad is telling me off i have to fight myself to keep myself from saying sir
Agreed, it makes me think of like posh people in the old days when they'd ship you off to a boarding school as soon as you were old enough, you;d see them a few times a year at most, and your entire relationship was stiff and formal and lacking any kind of love or affection
i work in childcare and have a child psych degree and i completely agree. its a huge safeguarding flag and it makes me SO uncomfortable hearing Evan talk about it. Its quite alarming.
@@firecracker1711 yeah I didn't realize that not everyone knew how bad/weird that is; although I guess some people must not know because some kids still have to do it
As a lapsed Northerner - just want to confirm we do use articles like 'the' it's just we swallow them in pronunciation to be 't' - subtle but life-changing difference
Agreed. As exaggerated as it is, I'd probably refer to Keith Lemon's celebrity juice persona for a first example. I get why it's easy to miss in real life since it's so quick - more of a missed half syllable. We say 'going t' th' shops' not 'going shops'.
Yes, in Lancashire and Yorkshire the definite article is a glottal stop. Which the Latin alphabet doesn't have a letter for. Which is why a lot of southerners think we use "t' ".
Nah, I definitely just drop the 'the' altogether. I think the t' is a Yorkshire thing. We can't even be arsed with the t' in Manchester 😂
@@louisa1514 When using apostrophes In a quote, don't use apostrophes as quotation marks.
@@amyhatch3761 nah the t is just a northern thing, I'm from Manchester too and don't know anyone who drops it completely
People saying sir and ma’am to their parents gives me uncomfortable power dynamic vibes. Especially if the parents get upset when their child stops
It's a dynamic that says "I make my kids do push ups in the mud when they question me"
I use sir and ma'am with my parents as a way to show im displeased and what they said is bullshit :p
When someone said "you only use Mrs. if it's their full name" they meant you would call a married female teacher Mrs. Brown, for example, while still calling her Miss
I was going to say the same thing, I'm pretty sure they meant you'd only use 'Mrs', (or 'Ms' if they prefer to use that, or Doctor if they are entitled to it), in conjunction with their surname. If you were not using their surname you'd only ever use Sir or Miss. In my primary school I think nearly every female teacher happened to be a Janet, so I don't first names would have worked anyway, at least not in circumstances where it was necessary to identify which female teacher we were talking about.
Yes this exactly! I am English and "miisssss" was shouted/called across a classroom to get the teacher's attention, and less frequently we used Mrs/Miss + surname to talk to them. I've always found it odd that it's Miss for women (regardless of whether they're married) and yet Sir for men (but the history mentioned in the video makes more sense).
exactlyyy. female teachers whether miss ___, ms ___ or mrs ___ are generally called miss and male normally mr ___ are sir, then go straight from that to first names!
@@MrDannyDetail at my school as well, every time there was a doctor we would only use their surname initial in conjunction with their title rather than their full surname I guess because doctor is longer to say so it'd be like sir, miss, mrs smith and doctor s
As a Scandinavian the ideal shopping experience is when nobody talks to me as I walk into a store. 😅
That’s also my ideal shopping experience as a Brit 😂 if a shop is empty with a ton of staff on the shop floor I avoid it like the plague because I do not want hassled or to feel like I am constantly being watched 😂
Same!
Same! If I need help I'll ask... maybe...
As an italian, same! Btw being called signora (madam) or signore (sir) is so strange as a 28 years old, It makes me feel old
PS: if you ask me how I am I'll ask myself of I know you all day
To be fair, college in the U.K. we call our teachers by their first names and it just makes a lot more sense... you feel like you’re actually talking to a human and it just makes the environment so much more comfortable.
My son started 6th Form college in September. It took me a whole term to realise that Eleanor and Dan were teachers, not classmates.
I’m also in sixth form and we’ve been told a million times that we can call them by their first names but everyone still calls them Sir and Miss 😂 it’s a difficult habit to get out of
@@Rebecca-vd4ww Yeah, even at university I never got used to the idea that I could refer to my tutors and professors by their first names. In fact there was a lot I missed out on at uni by still being stuck in a "but they're *grownups*! I'm only a kid!" mentality. I never heard any announcement that it was OK to use their first names, so I never really felt I'd been given permission to. =:o\
@@therealpbristow Like a lot of things in adult life, you’re expected just to know how everything works lmao. Sometimes some more instructions would be appreciated.
@@Rebecca-vd4ww yeah personally that's why i appreciate college being more casual so you can slowly learn to be more adult by the time you're in uni lol not that it works for everyone but it worked for me
“We’re adults at 18 so we can call teachers by their name” *but not allowed to drink alcohol for another 3 years*
Or vote, not allowed to do that either.
But join the army or buy a gun, can do that
EDIT: I have been informed that you can vote at 18 in America, so apologies for my ignorance
Americans make me laugh when you say your a adult at 18 but your a adult who can't drink. I was already 2 years into work and earning money by then
@@wildste you can vote at age 18 in the USA
We called the teachers at our sixth form college (16-18) by their first name.
@@andream4452 I do apologise for being wrong, I thought it was 21
A few years back I was in a long distance relationship with someone in the states, and she tried bragging to me about her kettle, thinking that I not only would have never heard of one before, but also that the fact it boils in under 2 mins is crazy so it's a really good kettle, and I was like, not only do 99.9% of households in the UK have a kettle, but 2 mins or less for the boil seems pretty standard to me, any longer and you might as well use the hob lol
more like 30 seconds. two minutes and i'd never use it. might as well wait for the oceans to boil
It depends on how much water your pouring into it
Like 2 would be fir 1.5 - 2l I doubt they are referencing 1 cup
The American might though kettles can’t get enough power for faster books since they only have half the voltage
That has everything to do with the voltage available to British homes and says nothing of the quality of either kettle.
If my kids started referring to me as ma'am I'd be like ??? Why you being so formal bruh you're my child???
If my kids started referring to me as ma'am I'd be like "?? wtf im a man, its Mister, is this some sort of insult?"
As a northerner we don’t miss them we just say the differently - it’s: not let’s go pub - it’s: let’s go t’pub
Nah its just 'we're off down spoons init'
but the t is silent
But it should be lets go to THE pub
As another Northerner, can confirm, "the" and "to the" often becomes " t' " in strong northern dialects e.g. "I'm off t' shop" etc.
@@chrisg38 so t' is for 2 words?
"Do you guys consider yourselves adults at 16/17?" - I turned 22 last month, about to finish my last year of Uni, and I still don't feel like an adult.
Around where i live 16/17 is definitely still considered child 😂 im also 22 and i def still don't feel like an adult 😰
My son is 22 and has recently finished university, and I still don’t feel like an adult 😂.
32 and don’t feel like an adult!
Bring an adult us pretending to understand things I grind if people ego pretend to understand what your saying
Basically it’s a social construct built around our tribalistic need to fit in
I'm 68 and determined not to act like a grown up.
As a Brit literally saying “pub” is enough , we usually go to the first one we come across or our favourite 🤣
The correct response to "pub?" is "pub."
Or just the standard "pint?"
[Pub name] 9 o'clock-ish?
Or not even saying the word pub, just the name of the place. Like “wanna meet at tavern or cat?”
Brits 🤝 Aussies with this haha
I genuinely can't imagine calling my parents, grandparents or literally anyone in my family 'sir' or 'madam' it's so unusual to me
Literally I can't get over the fact that they do that. I cannot think of any situation in which it wouldn't be extremely weird to call a parent Sir or Miss.
@@OHYS I’m thinking it’s more common when they are disciplining you
@@OHYS literally never would call my mom miss. Only ma'am.
@@OHYS my mum was a teachers assistant at my school - I called her 'miss' in lessons and when talking about her in her work role. Mostly because she was the one who ran detentions for anyone who annoyed a technology teacher and distancing myself from that-scary-lady-in-tech was a priority for my social life. Never did it outside of school though.
Indeed ma'am
My impression is that generally in Britain, we use 'Sir' for somebody either of much higher status than us or somebody who is the boss of whatever formal setting/situation we are in. That is why we use it for teachers. They are the boss of the classroom. If they give an order, we respond with 'yes Sir'. Spending time with your parents is not a formal setting, and they should be giving you instruction and encouragement, not orders. At least, this is how I see it.
I'm a Brit, born down south and grew up in the north. Londoners are just constantly disgruntled, but it's like a parallel world in the north west, I remember coming back on a tram from work in Manchester Trafford and was doing a pub quiz style thing with my friend and one by one random people started joining in, I somehow hosted a tram quiz by accident...
I had similar experiences in Ireland and Northern Ireland
So fun!
Down south they're scared if you smile and say hi, up north it's normal to chat to strangers.
In Sheffield, I accidentally started a bus-wide game of Eye Spy 😂
I really miss the impromptu singalongs on nights out outside pubs and clubs in Manny...good times!
when kids call their parents sir/ma'am it always makes me think their really strict and just sorta the type of parents who don't really care much about their kids. I mean this probably isn't true but...
Not. Remotely. True. They care if their kids have manners for one thing.
Yeah imagine being so insecure you gotta make your own kid call you sir.. like oh sorry pops didn't realise you knew the Queen 🤣
@@gemoftheocean caring if the kids have manners.. that sounds like it could fit under "strict" to me. Having manners is a good thing, but how is it enforced? By a talking to if it gets out of hand, or with a slap or belt? Both will ensure manners, but one is done with caring for the child, the other is caring what other people might think of YOU as a parent, and ignoring the needs of the child.
I’m 48 years old. I am still in touch with one of my high school teachers. To this day I cannot bring myself to call her anything but Mrs Taggart, despite her telling me not to for more than 25 years.
Same. I'm friends with a couple of former teachers on facebook and when we interact, I still call them Mr. Hurley or Señora Sargeant (she was my Spanish teacher).
In my school in the UK, we would call teachers Sir or Miss to their faces. But when talking to other students about teachers, we would always just refer to them by their last name.
So it wouldn't be "I have a lesson with Mr Smith", it would be "I have a lesson with Smith".
In UK College the fact your call teachers is to represent the different environment between high school and college. At high school you're being forced to be there, whereas in college you "want" to learn these things since you chose them, and that as well as being older makes it more informal. Ofc you have to be in education until you're 18 but the point stands
Yeah coz I think the idea is that you "choose" to be there so therefore you get more freedom or whatever
Minor correction, but no one has to be in education until 18 years old. 16 is the minimum age as about 5 GCSEs at A-C grades (or equivalent) are usually required for most basic work and not everyone wants to go to uni.
@@jiggyprawn Actually, in the uk you have to be in some form of education until you're 18, but it can be part time learning if you're working over 20 hours a week.
@@katie7081 has this been the case for a long time? As I'm pretty sure my bf left at 16, I don't think he did any kind of working scheme. This would have been 12 years ago
@@katie7081 Hm, I guess that changed along the way since I grew up. I believe I wasn't obligated to stay in education as a teenager. 🤔
the Scandinavian person being freaked out about British shop clerks being too nice actually sounds accurate. I'm from Norway, and if I go into a store and the employees acknowledge my existence At All before I approach them, I genuinely don't know what to do. There is this one hardware store that has started making all the employees say hi to you when you walk in, and it's the absolute worst
Yep British person here. And everytime I've been on holiday to mainland europe it really surprises me how little they interact. Even not taking the cash from you but instead you have to put it down into a dish & then they pick it up their side from the dish. It crazy how disinterested they are but yet they do that which takes longer to process the transaction & leaves you both standing there awkwardly for a longer period of time than is necessary.
this sounds heavenly, when I see a shop clerk coming towards me it never fails to trigger fight or flight
Haha, hello fellow Norwegian! I couldn't agree more😂 I truly love when I'm being ignored. If I need your help, I'll ask - thank you very much. Please don't force me to converse with you.
I’m from America It was kinda a culture shock when I went to England for the first time because the cashiers don’t even make small talk with you while scanning your stuff it kinda made me feel unwelcome because the cashiers are usually so friendly
Introvert 100
I'm half-Finnish half-English, and whenever I'm in England it does surprise me how talkative and extroverted a lot of retail staff are. I can't speak for other Scandinavian/Nordic countries but Finns generally just keep to themselves, even a handshake feels invasive, so a complete stranger asking how my week's been makes me nervous 😅
It may be rubbing off from other service staff. Both hairdressers and cabbies (mainly black cabs) are known for being chatty; I actually tip hairdressers if they pick up on my desire not to engage in chit chat.
As I see it, there is a fine balancing act between being friendly and polite, which makes shopping a pleasant experience, and going beyond that to being over-familiar and trying too hard, which comes over as being insincere here in the UK.
I absolutely hate when there’s a hierarchical way of referring to people. It literally comes from feudal times, I thought we were over that. Everyone deserves the same amount of respect.
Assuming your referring to sir and ma’am, it’s not really hierarchical in the US because everyone who is a stranger is pretty much universally called that. It doesn’t matter if you are a beggar on the street or the president, you are still called sir or ma’am.
@@coralovesnature but does it matter if you’re a child or an adult?
That's just patently untrue: would you feel the same level of respect for a Nobel prize winner or someone who cures a devastating disease as you would a serial killer or abuser? If not then you're just arguing about degrees of difference
@@89Keith yes, all human life deserves respect and because you’re at the top or at the bottom of a flawed system doesn’t mean you’re worth more than someone else
@@lemons2001 try looking up Jimmy savile, if you respect him theres something wrong with you
Okay but in the UK we use Mr/Miss/Mrs/Ms too, of course we do, but sometimes it’s just so much easier to call our teachers Miss or Sir, I’m lazy and really don’t want to bother with an extra few syllables for their surname. And they call us by out first name, occasionally you’ll get a “Mr [Surname]!” whenever they’re being assholes though
Same, except I ended up using Miss and Sir because I’m terrible with names and kept forgetting what each teacher was called. Though teachers only ever called students by their forenames at my school. Never title and surname
It’s interesting. I never new most schools in the UK refer to teachers as miss as in my school it was always Madam, but it must sound weird to people not accustom to it but for me miss just sounds quite condescending and kind of crass, I suppose because I’m just not used to it and I can only recall seeing or hearing it on tv.
My English teacher uses our surnames but that it is his thing
@@jaymercer4692 at my school we also say madam
At my high school it was always Mrs/Mrs/Miss X, I found it weird that my sister who went to a different secondary called her teachers Sir and Miss most of the time.
Now as a primary teacher it's usually Miss H (just "Miss" if I'm teaching a class who don't know me") , but male teachers would always be "Mr X", never Sir.
aaaw it was so cute to hear „schnecke“ instead of „schlange“ for queue. next time i go shopping i will imagine a cute snail waiting in line behind me instead of a hungry python. also since i‘m in switzerland i will make it a „schnäggli“ (lil snail) to make it even sweeter ✨🐌
Calling parents sir/ma’am feels so enforced and performative like they’d be punished if they didn’t. I get military vibes or at least a really strained unenjoyable parent-child relationship. The sort of parents that don’t acc know anything about their kids because the kids lie about everything to not get in trouble
Exactly! Feels like parent saying "I am above you, you must acknowledge that any time you speak to me". Do parents call their kids 'sir/madam' to show respect? Didn't think so
damn i just commented the same thing
absolutely how i feel as well
As someone that grew up in the southern us, my ‘sirs’ and ‘ma’ams’ come out like second nature. It just was a way of showing respect I guess
In regards to my parents I would only use that when they were pissed off at me and wanted a serious response or very sarcastically.
I call my mom and dad sir or ma’am when they, like, ask me to do something. for example
Parent: go do the dishes please
Me: yes sir/ma’am
It’s quick and usually slurred together but it’s just so they know I heard them and am going to do the task now. It was never “trained” into me and I wouldnt be punished if I just said mom/dad instead but it’s just, polite. And I still was a rebellious teenager and talked back all the time but it’s one thing that I’ve always kinda just done.
There was a show on UK TV a while ago that showed how easy it was for some random person to walk in off the street, pretend to be a waiter collecting payment, "drop" your card, and swipe it on a hidden reader on their ankle.
It's not that we don't trust the staff that work there, it's just that it's prudent to never let your card out of your sight.
The Real Hustle or something on those lines. Used to watch it regularly
Kettle fact. British kettles boil faster than anywhere else in the world as they are designed to be approximately 5 times more powerful. Also back in the day the UK used to experience electrical surges during advert breaks as everyone turned on their kettles, it's called a TV pickup.
My secondary school had a thing were we called our teachers by their first names (in the uk) and it actually felt like mutual respect rather than some arbitrary respect I was expected to give! Also at uni in the uk I feel like most lecturers just go by their first names!
For Uni yeah, no one uses "Sir" or "Mister __", it's just first name basis always. As for school, depended entirely on our teacher and it only became common once we entered 6th form. At that stage we were all basically adults so the respect angle was mutual, teachers liked the informal nature of it as much as we did.
As someone who's tutored people from the age of 13 to 18, it's nice when those 18yo's treat you like a friend and not a tutor, I can imagine teachers like having a friendly, almost personal relationship with the older students as opposed to a strictly hierarchical one.
At college yeah and in year 11 we called them by there first name which was nice
I had an English teacher in high school that did that. She was also the same teacher,that would bring in cut up sandwiches for us to eat when we had her .
We all knew that it wasn’t really for the class but for the kids that had parents that didn’t feed them, either because they financially couldn’t or just out of complete neglect.
I'm a Brit who's grown up in Sweden, and it took me a little while to adjust to calling my teachers by their first names. Now, however, I don't see why it would be disrespectful to call someone by their first name. Like, why would someone not having a title stop you from showing them respect? (I do understand the other side too, but that feels more like 'demanding respect', rather than 'showing respect because it always should be shown'.) It also helps put students 'on the same level' as teachers, making them more approachable and allowing for a more comfortable environment at school.
Right? Im from Denmark, so i grew up just respecting people in general. It was not something I needed to be told to do. Calling my teachers by their first name or nickname, did not mean I respected them less. And it does feel like forced and demanding respect, especially in America with the Ma'am and Sir stuff 🤣
@@TKDDLJ09 Exactly! And this reminded me that I even had teachers that would call me my nickname rather than name😂 It's just so much more comfortable!
I'm from Finland, and it's the same here. I've called all of my teachers by their first names (or nicknames) since preschool, and it's not disrespectful to me. You respect others, whether or not they have a title to hold above you. I completely agree on the "demanding respect" part - if you have to demand respect, something is a bit off in my opinion. Not having titles definitely does create a less stiff atmosphere in classes. I never felt inferior to my teachers and since we were on a more even footing, asking questions and having discussions felt more natural.
I'm probably going to have one hell of an adjustment ahead of me, now that I've applied to do my degree in Ireland. Oh well. 😅
@@ursa6420 Seems like it's a Nordic thing then?! Also, you should be fine at uni, in my experience lecturers go by their first names😊
Yes exactly but there is a cultural difference how the society treats teachers. I am an Austrian and spent a year in Norway and the difference how society threats teachers is enormous. In my experience if a child in Norway said the teacher did something unfair the people will listen to the story and often calm the children down and trust what the teachers do.
In Austria the parents often call the headmaster and make trouble even for the smallest thing. For example I currently volunteer in a school and one student didn't do anything for two hours and after that they usually have their first break outside. And since he did not do anything he stayed inside to do some work and afterwards could go. The next day the parents called and painted a completely different picture and the teacher nearly got sued for harassing a student.
I'm British, and in my secondary school, we called teachers either Sir/Miss or Mr/Miss/Mrs Surname. I had a teacher once with a very common Surname, but she actually tried to tell off a parent for calling her by her first and last name.
Oh there was definitely an abuse vibe when my father came home drunk enough that he'd demand we call him Sir. "I should get respect in this house! You should stand when you address me and call me Sir."
Oh yeah, it's going to be one of *those* nights.
I remember when i was in university, the American student in our class kept calling our lecturer 'professor' when talking to him... our lecturer had enough and loudly said PLEASE call me Dave 😂
Yeah in the US we'll usually refer to them as Professor (very helpful for when you're terrible at remembering names), or, if they have a title like Dr. you might call them "Dr. [last name]" because they worked hard for that degree lmao
@@nealbrook4226 yes but professor is not the position here in the UK. You have to earn that title. It's a higher qualification which is pretty rare. Calling a general lecturer 'professor' would be like calling someone a DR who hadn't earned it. My brother is a professor in the states but he just laughs and says 'of course I'm not really a professor'.
As a scandinavia, if a retail worker or server is too kind, it makes me ucomfortable as well. We aren't huge on social interraction in general, especially with strangers, so I'd also assume flirting or the person wanting something from me. The perfect retail experience is the cashier saying nothing except what's needed, and me doing the same.
I feel like all Evan's struggles with customer service in the UK is legit because he's American. I'm a Brit working in retail and the moment I hear the American accent the dread and annoyance activate... even if the poor American soul hasn't done anything! It's almost instinctive!
I used to work near a US airbase in the UK and no word of a lie, it's like they couldn't call a single item we sold by it's actual name, and then got annoyed with you when you didn't instantly know what they were blabbering on about. You're in a foreign country, I know we mostly understand each other, but the whole world is not America.
I worked in retail pre covid and when Americans came in a waft of either emphasized depression or fraudulent thrill enveloped our expressions and tone. we either want to emphasise our disdain for our jobs and show the Americans our animosity towards their happy go lucky attitude or we played up to their fabricated festivity so we could be distant and allow them to feel slightly at home with our sham ecstasy.
Yeah I agree I used to hate having to make small talk with American customers when I worked at Legoland many years ago ha
Lol poor Americans but they can be warm and personable if you give them a chance...
The accent is annoying though...some other state accents aren’t so bad but still.
LolZ
@@ruthfoley2580 I have never really thought about it in this much depth, but it's absolutely spot on. And let's not forget that for a long while (and maybe even now) nobody with an american credit card had chip and pin, so they'd need to sign for absolutely everything, which is a nightmare when you have a 20ft queue going out the door and they want to separate every item they have and put them all on separate cards. ARGHHH, just manage your money better or take cash out ffs.
Calling parents sir and ma’am is sooooo weird to me it just doesn’t feel like there’s a loving relationship there at all
I'm seeing lots of comments saying this and it really doesn't make sense to me. I would say there is a very wide range of loving vs. unloving relationships where the kid might still use sir/ma'am regardless. It's possible the relationship is unloving but It's by no means a guarantee
@@mermaidismyname I think its because in the UK we would use Sir or Ma'am for someone we either didn't know (As in: "Excuse me Sir, I think you dropped this") or for someone of higher status than us, like a Company Head, or maybe a teacher depending on the school or the area. For us, using them sounds cold and distant, like a Victorian child addressing their parents as 'Lord and Lady Smith' instead of Mum and Dad.
Maybe Americans attach warmer feelings to the words because they call their parents by them, but for us its only used to _deliberately_ denote distance - as in "I don't know you but I am being respectful" or "we are not equals, I respect you as my superior".
It’s mostly out of respect. I do it off handed to my parents when they ask me to do something. Or sometimes very sarcastically just to piss off my dad, but honestly its just so they know I heard them and will do the thing they ask. People do it all the time in the us, especially in the south and Midwest. Hell I even once had a teacher call me ma’am when I was a senior trying to help him with his class.
literally the only time i use the word ‘Sir’ is in school... i also wouldn’t say ‘Ma’am’ to female teachers, we generally just say ‘Miss’. If i had to call anyone Sir or Ma’am out of school, i’d be really weirded out, especially if i saw someone calling their parents that
In Polish, you use the third person in order to be respectful. So for my parent's I would say (translated) "Does Mama want to come with me to the store?" and to my teacher it would be "Can I speak to Ms. Kasia after school?" and this is me speaking directly to them.
As someone who grew up going to an international school based on the American school system, and then moved to Norway, I can say confidently that you almost couldn’t find 2 more opposite forms of education (regarding system and culture).
At the American school, we went to school for 7 hours, 5 days a week (total of 35 hours). We had the same schedule every day (as in, we had all classes every day). We technically had max 2 hours of homework a day, but most of the time we had more than that.
In Norway, my sister (9th grade) goes to school a total 26.5 hours a week. The schedule on a weekly basis is the same, but it’s different day-to-day. They are given all their homework at the beginning of the week, and have to finish it by Thursday or Friday. They could finish it all in 2 hours if they wanted to.
The Norwegian school system very much focuses on making the student responsible for themselves and making them functional adults when they get out of school with the ability to think critically.
My experience at my American school was that there was always a step-by-step you could follow. You just had to do the next thing on the list. You didn’t have to come up with the list, just do the things on it. (I had to learn how to “make my own list” in all kinds of situations once we moved to Norway, because I had never learned how to do that.)
That’s honestly really interesting and cool.
I second this! I grew up in Norway and went to school there, and did a year abroad in the US in high school, and it was a complete opposite system.
I found that the American school relies very heavily on enforcing homework. We had hours of homework to do every day, which had to be turned in the next day in class and we would be marked on whether or not we did homework. By comparison, homework in Norway was a lot more about keeping up with the class, and the teachers trust you to have read the chapter or two of history to prepare for the class but it is usually not enforced. I did feel like the American school was about spoon feeding and making sure everyone did what they were told, but in Norway you have a lot more personal freedom over how much school work you do and how much effort you put into it.
American schools also rely so so so much on memorizing. Most of the tests I had in the US were the exact same problems we had worked on during classes and in homework. A math problem on a test would be a math problem I had done 50 variations of over and over and over that same week. In Norway, schools focus a lot more on teaching you critical thinking and learning to make comparisons and draw conclusions. Tests in Norway are so much harder because you don't know what they're going to ask for, and you're usually met with a problem you haven't specifically had to solve before. You have to use the knowledge you gained from solving different kinds of problems to find out how to solve this particular problem.
Overall, in the US I spent hours every day working on homework and barely studied for tests (as they were just exact duplicates of the homework), and in Norway I spent less time working on homework on a daily basis but would spend way more time studying for individual tests.
Continuing the "sir" debate, I'm in the US and somehow both of my children picked up on using "sir" as an insult and will only use it when they are mad or frustrated with you. Getting "sir"-ed by an angry 4yo is an absolutely delightful (and hilarious) experience.
As a British student, I’m looking forward to this
The British education system is pretty good till uni, every other aspect of adult British life is chaotic crap.
Calling your parents Sir and Ma'am reminds me of how kids used to call their parents Herr Vater (Mister Father) and Frau Mutter (Mrs Mother) in 18th and 19th century in the German speaking countries.
So old-fashioned and distant for a relationship that should be loving and caring :00
In the US Sir and Ma'am are recognition authority, calling someone those signifies you see them as an authority figure in a particular context. Casually it also can be used as form of recognition and formal thanks
Yeah same, we had this in Dutch too but no one actually speaks that way anymore 😂
@Evita Viitala mom and dad are titles for parents, not authority. Parents aren't always an authority figure in a given context
If I said ‘yes Sir’ to my dad, I’d probably get told off for being facetious
1. In Finland we just call the teacher: teacher.
Second: Here if you are too polite it is seen as sarcasm or you want something from the other person. Being too polite is creepy. Please stay away from me. Even in the restaurant/ store 👀🙃
I love how Finns are activating to defend the sacred art of minding your own damn business and respecting others by letting them do the same without unnecessary formalities :D
In my experience calling teachers "teacher" was only a thing for the very first grades and then you started using their first names.
@@sipulikorva8717 oh we kept doing that during the normal school and when you go study majors etc you start calling by name..and even then often I heard people still say teacher
@@KkrizztiART Huh, interesting...
OTT politeness and formality is how British people tell you they don't like you too. Working customer service I just defaulted to it.
I get the vibe that we in the UK are treated more like adults at age 16 than in the US so it doesn’t make me uncomfortable and actually helped to create a better relationship. My college was fairly relaxed so I think saying Miss or Sir would have been really strange.
Same here, we called our Sixth form teachers by their first names only.
But in the UK, "colleges" go from age about 16 to people well into adulthood. In the US "college is from 18 and over." Depending on the circumstances occasionally an instructor might go by their first name, if they asked to be called by that, but when I was going to University of California, it was ALWAYS "Doctor" or "Professor" X. Never by first name. Community college (mind you University level work in the US) is "all things to all people". The credits given for passing a class transfer to University credits. University is so expensive now, a lot of students may opt to go there the first year. But with permission, a 16-17 may, with permission of community college, and parents, high school, take a course there, and that way gain University academics early. Especially good for bright students of 16/17 if their high school doesn't have a more advanced class he/she would like to take. Example 16 John is excellent in math. He eventually wants to double major in bio/chemistry. His school doesn't offer calculus. However the local community college does. So after his high school classes are over he goes over to the community college to take the calculus. Assuming he passes, after he graduates high school, that way he won't have to take his basic calculus course again, because he already has the credit, and has a better shot at getting his double major completed in 4 years. Same goes for other General Education courses that may be taken to fulfill distribution courses required for your bachelor's degree.
@@gemoftheocean College in the UK doesn't go from 16 - well into adulthood. It is 16-18 and then students leave and go to university. When students leave a formal high school environment at 16 to go to a sixth form college (for two years) which is somewhere in-between the formality of high school and informality of university, the first name thing just makes sense and fits the college environment. 16-18 year olds may not be adults but they are definitely mature enough to call their teachers by a first name without it being disrespectful or something. I was a college teacher and honestly being called miss would have felt weird because of the lack of formality in all other aspects of college learning.
@@sbo3 I mean no you can take college courses at over 18
college is 16+ the same way uni is 18+
in fact some college courses have levels to them so if you need to start from level 1 to get to level 3 you sometimes need to do the level 1 course, the first stage level 2 course, the second stage level 2 course and then the 2 year level 3 course (if you start at 16 than going from just level 1 to level 3 would take you 3 years making you 19 when taking your final 2 year college course) and in fact there are people who go into uni and realise everything they had done to get to that point wasn't what their calling was per se and they end up going back to college to take a different class or sets of classes
so karen was right about what they said regarding college being 16+
You don’t say “Do you want to go to the home?”
Location names in England are just locative adverbs. Similar to: home, above, north…
We don’t use first and last name in school, we say Mr Smith etc like you lol
Yeah, and when we address them we say Sir or Mr etc. I have got so much in the habit that I will call random strangers sir/ma'am as well 😅
Evan saying he doesn't like it when he was called Evan Edinger by a teacher
Me being called by my last name in school :/
Always only called my teachers their first name, nickname or last name 😂😂 Where Im from, we dont do sir and mam or mrs. ms ect. We just call them their first name usually, or whatever they like to be called. They also of course call us out first name or a nickname.
My English teacher once called me "Ms. Pigeon" because my middle name in English is Pigeon. 🤣🤣 I´m also fairly sure I was called "shut up" a lot in some courses 😂
In my year at school we do it’s not for everyone but for a lot of them we do an they don’t care tbh
In Bahrain and i think most arab counties we say "teacher [first name]" and when we become friend with them we just call them by their first name
I'm a teacher in Denmark, and here pupils/Students will always address you by your first name. If any of my students started saying Mr. "last name", I would first think they were kidding, if they were serious I would call their parents.
We don't actually have an equivalent for Sir, so nobody would be called anything like that here.
I’m from the US and I think it depends on the age. In primary/ secondary school, I always called my teachers, and most adults who I wasn’t related to, “Mr./Mrs./Miss” last name. In college/ university I call all of my teachers by their first name. I also call my bosses at work and pretty much everyone by their first name. I feel like once you are an adult it is assumed that everyone gets called by their first name.
@@coralovesnature Here in Scandinavia almost nobody is addressed by anything but their first name. In Denmark only in a few places are you expected to use honorifics: Royalty like the Queen, in the Parliament, in law courts and foreign dignitaries. If I met the Prime minister I would say Hej (Hi) Mette, if I addressed her as Mrs. Prime minister she would find it a bid weird. Denmark is not a big country so it's not unusual to meet people from all walks of life.
I’m from Egypt and here people (in American schools) say Ms. or Mr. then their first name. Or you can also just call them Ms. or Mr.
In Spain, also.
Indian here; we always use sir or ma'am for our teachers/professors. In fact no elder is ever called by their first name unless you are being rude on purpose. Having recently graduated and joined the corporate world when I HAD to address people by their first name only I felt very uncomfortable talking like that to people much older than me. Almost 2 years and I am still getting used to it.
As a German living in Northeast England, I enjoy the positive vibes most people give out. But I do love that if I'm working in the service industry in Germany, I don't have to pretend to be happy. :)
It's true!! So many people ha be random conversations with you in public and it's just too funny
My parents (both Scandinavians) worked at an international school in Asia, that was based of the American education system. All the students had to call the teachers Mr, Mrs, or Miss. In Scandinavia, it’s almost rude to call someone that. It’s like calling them old. So my parents told all the students they could call them by their first name after school hours. One day, an American parent (we’ll call him Bob) heard their kid call my dad Curt, and he was horrified. Almost yelled at his kid for doing it. My dad then said that he had told the kid it was fine. But Bob said the kid had be raised to be polite and respectful, and would therefore be calling my dad Mr. Andreassen. My dad then explained that it was actually disrespectful and rude to call someone Mr in his culture. It was a moment I don’t think Bob will ever forget. The realization that even something as simple as Mr, Mrs, and Miss could be so different in another culture.
I'm Swede and I totally agree with this.
I'm from Finland and the only time where you'd call anyone Sir/Mrs is if they are the president or the chairman. Any other context and they're making fun of you
Most of my relatives from northern England actually do say “the” but it’s very chopped off. Instead of saying “I’m going to the bank”, they would say “I’m going to t’bank.” It almost sounds like “I’m going teut bank.”
It’s very common to hear British people say that someone is “in hospital” to indicate that a person has been admitted to a hospital whereas Americans will generally say a person is “in the hospital”. But then again, Americans will say that someone is “in school” to indicate the fact that the person is attending school. It’s just what you’re used to.
“Dinky toys” is the name of a company that made toy cars in the 30s to the 70s. I think they’re worth a lot to collectors these days.
In my British secondary school we would refer to our teachers by sir/miss when talking to them but if we were talking about them we would use just their last name, no sir/miss. For example “I hate the homework Stevenson gives us”. Some of our teachers even had nicknames, Mr green was known as Greeny
Nicknames were, and are, rife in secondary schools. What the pupils do not know is that all the staff are perfectly aware of these nicknames, and usually play up to them. When I was at school, one teacher was nicknamed “Bogbrush” because he was bald, but the residual hair around his bald pate stuck out just like a bogbrush. I am sure he got his hair cut to conform to this title. We had a woodwork teacher called Donald Lewis, whom we called “Dai”, because he was very Welsh; I have since learned that all the staff called him “Dai” as well. Mr Branston was called “Pickles”, and Mr Worsel, “Gummidge”. Mr Evans was “Weed” (because he was a bit of a weed), and Mr Nicholas was “Tinbum” (Nickel arse, geddit?). Mr Felix was “Pussy”. I could go on. None of these was used to their faces, of course, but they knew!
We referred to our teachers in secondary by their last names too. It's just so much easier although we never said it to the teachers themselves lmao
At my school we just call all our teachers either just their last name or their first name to their face depending on our relationship with them
One of my teachers has the nickname wormy as he has a vein on his head that looks like a curled up worm
In the uk I feel like it would be weird if you called your friends parents sir or ma’am maybe that’s a thing here but it’s normal to call other parents by their first names or when you’re young just calling them ‘bob’s mum’ or ‘Sarah’s dad’
In the '90s initially called friend's parents "Mr or Mrs X" cos that's what I'd read in books. They considered it ludicrously formal.
@@alexwright4930 I was always scared to do that in case they had a different last name to what I expected. Like say they were divorced or something. So because I was nervous I just didn't call them anything 🤣🤣
This video is so clear and beautiful. You've really upped your vlogging game, Evan!
I don’t think many people outside of the uk know in the north we call our “mums” mam and you can even by mam cards for birthdays and mother’s day
Here in the West Midlands (certain parts) we call our mom MOM. I've had people accuse me of not being English because I typed mom instead of mum 🙄 Seems like not many people in the UK know certain areas use 'mom'. We had it before America lol.
Yasss I live in the south west of England and I call me Mam, “Mam” because I used to live in the north east but, despite it taking a bit longer or having to ask an employee in the Card Factory, I can pick up a card that says “Mam” on it but when I buy a card when I’m visiting her in the north east, they’re easier to find 🤣
@@amethystlarktree5962 are you more Birmingham area? In my West Midlands school there was girl from Birmingham who got teased for saying mom.
We do in Wales too (or at least some people do - depends how Welsh you are)
@@libbyrb8225 I use "oh mam" (as Norman Price used to say it) as my starter phrase for a welsh accent. It's just so iconic.
The college/sixth form/uni difference in the UK is interesting in terms of addressing teachers. Sixth Forms tend to be a part of a secondary school so will follow the same rules as the school I.e Sir/Miss for teachers. Colleges on the other hand have their own sites not linked to a school similar to universities so tend to follow the uni rule of using first names.
A lot of other cultures call elders auntie and uncle even if they aren't. That's their version of sir and ma'am. Im from Texas, the capital of being unnecessarily polite. When I travel to other American states, they even think that were ridiculously polite. Its just a cultural thing
Auntie and uncle at least sounds friendly sir and ma'am just sounds so distant especially to parents
Yes we do this in South Asia!
Its kind of outdated now- but we do this in the uk too
A friends husband is a primary teacher when they were together and bumped into some kids in his class they called her 'Mrs Sir'
I get called "miss" and "lady" when I work with kids.
Despite my desperately non feminine appearance.
What's the best gender neutral alternative for "ma'am", "sir" or "miss"?
Sweet
@@pablobratcat I would guess at teach
@@pablobratcat the Quakers use friend which is nice
Primary teachers are often called Mum (rarely Dad) as well!
I just feel calling teachers by their first name make them so much more approachable and human. I've done both being swedish/Canadian. Funny thing, I only found out my teachers first name in Canada by getting sick on a school trip.
I feel like I would feel like it would create a barrier between me and my teachers if I called them Sir or Ma'am. like they would seem less approachable to me.
I adored so many of my teachers and most of them went by a nickname and I felt so commutable with them and wasnt afraid to ask when I didn´t understand something because they did seem more like someone I could ask for help. I don´t think I would have had that bond with my teachers if i called them sir and ma'am
Younger Kids still use 'fröken' in Swedish schools (which translates to miss) but the kids don't understand it as a form of respect since no one else in regular society uses the term.
@@niclasjohansson5992 lol yes. And they dont care if it’s a male or female teacher. If you are a teacher you get called ”fröken”.
Lol that Scandinavian thing is so true😆 I'm from Finland and when I worked in retail and there happened to be some foreigners as customers it was so awkward when they tried to ask me how my day was or something weird, I didn't know how to answer that and I just wanted them to shut up, take their stuff and go away😄 It's just the culture, we don't just chit chat something for the sake of it.
And something that might be super weird for a lot of people is that we actually call our teachers by their first name or maybe even some nickname the pupils/students have come up with. I think this just shows that we just speak to each other normally and we are more relaxed in a way, we don't like to use too formal language.
Oh and also something that just came to my mind, when I worked in retail I thought it would be nice to speak in a more respectful manner to some older customers so I started to call them she/he instead of it😂😂 It's just that in our spoken language we call everyone it and the she/he-pronoun is more formal and usually only used in written language (or sometimes when talked about dogs, lol don't ask, maybe we just love dogs so much).
As a Swede I not only would never ever call my parents sir or ma'am, or a teacher and certainly not a boss. My boss, my teacher and my parents are firstname or my parents are mom and dad. Calling each other by a first name it's a sign of respect, that you don't value yourself above others or see others more valuable than yourself. I can call strangers sir or ma'am if I'm in the US, but to call someone that that I have somewhat a relationship too, private or professional, feels very degrading. No one is better than anyone else because of their job or title. If I was speaking to a European Royalty if they are elderly, I would use that word, or to any adult I don't know in the US, also military veterans or seniors in UK or US. But as soon as this person stops being a stranger to me and are under the age of like 75-80, first name base is obvious. Calling your parents sir or ma'am feels to me like someone who would rules their house with whips and distant and harsh inhumane authority.
Evan: "there was a line behind me. you know, a 'schnecke'"
me, a bilingual german, who easily gets confused: *start to doubt her own sanity because wait it's schlange not schnecke isn't it. ISN'T IT.*
I wondered if it might be a different part in Germany or something, but thinking about it he's probably confusing the fact that there was a "Schlange" behind him with the fact that people were annoyed with him for doing stuff in such a "Schneckentempo" ;-)
I'm also a bilingual German and it's definitely Schlange hahah but I sympathise with your confusion
I love the fact that you confused Schnecke and Schlange. I always thought this only happens the other way around. Many a times I've said "snail" instead of "snake" accidentally. Nice to see it also works the other way around for English speakers :D
No, we didn’t hear the motorcyclist. You just yelled “SIR!” for no reason and I’m here for it 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I think the whole abuse things defo comes from my experience of American tv shows. The only time I've seen kids call their parents 'sir' is when there's abuse/ alcoholism ect going on so for me whenever I hear that, it's the first association I make.
I feel like american tv gives a skewed picture... it's not really accurate to real life more like a weird uncanny valley parallel universe type thing. ie my high school expirence was nothing like what high school movies implied it would be like
Majority of American tv shows are nothing like how it actually is here. The most realistic one I can think of is That 70’s Show
I think the nice thing about us Scandinavians adressing our teachers by their first names is that it removes a social barrier between the teachers and the kids, especially as you get older and more equal to them. In my own experience, it makes the teachers seem more like friendly adults who just want to teach us stuff, rather than teachers being these strict people who are only there to examinate you, and that you can't strike up a friendly conversation with (I get that folks from cultures where "sir", "ma'am" or "mr/ms/mrs [ ]" probably won't have felt this way because that's just what they've been used to). It also shows people from both sides that respect is earned, and not demanded. And tbh, it just feels like an outdated and old-fashioned way of adressing someone - it's like you're back in the 60s
I legit got sent to the principal's office in high school for calling one of my teachers by their first name. I wasn't even trying to be disrespectful; I was just saying good morning and I thought he was cool like that.
I'm not allowed to even have my first name in my signature at my school when I'm emailing my students.
me, an english year 11 student is currently very stressed in the middle of lots of exams despite the government cancelling gcses
edit: to the other year 11s and 13s out there i wish you all the best of luck!!
Sameeeee
same but year 10 but feels very stressful and intense with corona knowing that my mocks may be used to give me grades instead of my gcse's
Me, an English alevel student currently stressed in the middle of lots of exams also despite the government cancelling them
@@rosem3980 wishing you the best of luck!!
@@Cedarellie good luck with everything :)
The whole 'we all know kindest regards means f off I hate you' ITS SO TRUEEE
Calling parents sir or ma'am just comes off as really strict to me, I've always thought it weird. It's just too formal.
I'm a Danish student who is attending a US university as an international student, and it's so strange to me that professors expect you to call them by their prefix and last name. I have grown up calling all my teachers by their first name, and personally, I think that creates more of a mutual bond between teachers and students at all ages. I feel as if I would mostly feel put down and intimidated by teachers if I didn't feel comfortable calling them by their first names, creating too much distance between students and teachers, making proper and effective teaching much more difficult. (The issue I'm currently facing in the US as I don't feel I can talk to my teachers/professors as openly as I am used to)
Same here! /Swede
I’m from the USA and went to an American university but I actually had a couple of professors who preferred we call them by their first name!
When talking about showing respect it can be important to separate respect for authority from respect for people, as conflating them can lead to unhealthy relationships. It seems like a lot of “Karen” types demand to be respected as an authority while only barely respecting others as people. Here in Sweden, while I know parents and teachers have some authority that should be respected, not having to bother with honourifics, surnames, and titles make them feel like normal people you can just talk to, and while I wouldn’t call any of them my friends my best teachers were the ones that let you joke around with them. If you want to read about the use of honourifics and titles in Swedish (or rather, their lack of use), you can look up Du-reformen (the thou-reform) which was the relatively sudden switch over from titles being commonplace to being relegated to the royal family and parliament.
As a northerner, I feel like you have only heard 1 northern accent and that isn’t really the way most of us talk. Love the community videos.
I'm a 65 year old that lives in New York state I agree with everything you say except sir and ma'am to parents. It was mom and dad for me. Thank you I really like your videos. Everyone stay safe and healthy
I used mom and dad too
I think sir and ma’am for parents is more of a Southern thing. I’m from WI and I never used that to refer to my parents nor did any of my friends. My mom is just mom and my dad is either dad or “fa’ter” (a play off of the German word)
I had a chemistry teacher in high school who called all his students by their surnames, he thought it was only fair that we got shown the same respect we shown him 🤷♀️
I have a German linguistics professor who addresses us with the formal "Sie" pronoun instead of regular, informal "du" and, to be honest, it makes me quite uncomfortable.
I had a physics teacher in secondary school (when I was 14-17ish) who went by Dr instead of the usual Mr/Miss/Mrs (Sir was also fine, he just didn't like Mr unless you'd never met him before so had no reason to know better). On the flipside, he always referred to students as Mr/Miss X. It definitely created a different atmosphere, though generally for the better - there was more of a feeling of mutual respect.
It actually felt similar to being at uni, where virtually everyone from first year undergrads to internationally recognised lecturers were typically on a first name basis. To me, it seems that levelling out respect markers, regardless of the actual level chosen, can be better at creating a sense of two-way, mutual respect.
Who doesn’t love a good ol’ “Schnecke” as a queue in Germany lol 🐌
Where in Germany do they say Schnecke instead of Schlange in Germany? Confused South-West German here 🙋
SCHLANGE BUT SLOWER YA GET IT
Swiss here, also never heard of a Schnecke 😂
@@evan Oh god wow, that was too smart for my late-night brain to think of 😂 Well done for stirring confusion among us German-natives lol 🐌
Let alone "Nacktschnecke" :-D
As a Brit, I've always found it weird how kids in American films and tv shows seem to call their friends' parents "Mrs so-and-so" and "Mr so-and-so" like I get that it's polite but I always just call my friends' parents by their first names
I think it depends how close you are with the friend. My best friends’ parents I would call by their first name, but if it was someone I didn’t know that well it was usually Mr./Mrs. last name
@@coralovesnatureYeah, fair enough, it probably differs from person to person tbh
In Spain we usually call teachers by their first name, I can't imagine it any other way
Calling your teachers by their first names in college (16-18) makes sense seeing as we can wear our own clothes and even smoke outside...
Yeh and it help with the transition from being a kid/teen to an adult
lol you can't wear your own clothes in school so you consider being able to do that an adult? In america the only time you can't is if you're in a private school, uniforms almost feel like a cult to me imo. I would hate to have that
@@snowythebudgie9674 There are a lot of arguments for the use of uniforms.
@@snowythebudgie9674 trust me I understand, but actually uniforms help for lack of a better word - unify every student and put them on the same level, everyone wears the exact same thing so there's no competition or pressure to dress a certain way, everyone looks equal plus it's easy for parents to wash and buy for, rather than a new outfit every day
@@kmak4861 So, children can't express themselves, or wear the stuff they want to? I'm imagining a school of 4th graders all wearing red tshirts, they'd look so bland and it'd honestly make a lot of people appear more boring at first glance because they don't seem as special, which can make finding newer friends just a tad bit harder. Also if you buy clothes, it's a complete waste because you're never gonna be able to wear them because your school is so bad that they dont let you wear the clothes you want. ANd a lot of times, the water bill with be higher than it needs to be, like for say, if the adults were to do one load, then the kids did another load because they needed to seperate it (So dye doesn't spread or what mot, for example), they would have 1 or more loads, every single day, without uniforms, you can do like 20 pairs of clothes at once, and possibly do it weekly, saving a lot of money on the water bill in the long term. And also I would hate having to wear some clothes, some clothing used in uniforms can feel like something some kids don't want to wear, personally, I absolutely hate shorts, if I was forced to wear shorts, I wouldn't want to go to school and would probably feel really insecure, or specific shirts, etc.
I’m British and we are VERY weird so this should be good
US citizen here, I have a kettle and we use it for... a lot. Ramen, cleaning, hot chocolate, and all sorts of other foods you need hot water for. The only things i don't use it for is coffee or tea just because i don't like them. It was a gift from a friend for housewarming and i will never go back to boiling
I've always lived in London and the first time I went to a cafe on my own somewhere else (Bristol) I was seriously confused at how nice they were the second I walked in. I was so startled I had to explain to the lady who served me that I've never had such a friendly encounter in a shop, she laughed and said "people in Bristol are just like that"
I find the obsession with "demanding respect" in the US odd, it suggests that respect is a one way in teraction. I feel like respect goes both ways so having the concept of a superior in this instance makes no sense.
Re Miss, my gran had to leave work when she got married “so she could run the home” She was really disappointed as she really loved supporting the kids and found other things to do to help the community and get back to it later.
As a Sweed I can confirm that we do in fact call our teachers by their first names or even nicknames sometimes😂
And for young students "fröken" (miss) is like a word for teacher so can also be used for male teachers.
I'm British & by the time we were doing GCSEs at my school so 14/15/16 depending on what set you were in or level of intelligence. We called not all but many of our teachers by their first names & like you some by nicknames. This changed going to a different school for A-Levels which I found a bit of a shock but then changed back again when I went to Uni xD
I grew up with a stove top kettle, and now as an adult I have an electric kettle but I use my Keurig for hot water and tea 😅
Surely the water from a Keurig isn't boiling as it's meant for coffee.
Tea MUST be made with boiling hot water.
What do you use your kettle for?
@@KathleenMc73 Black/dark tea should use boiling water, but green tea will taste bitter with water above 175 degrees.
@@embercello9688 👍
@@KathleenMc73 I’m guessing you mean English teas, ‘cause a lot of Asian teas are best made with water well below 100C. I grew up drinking green tea and my grandma would always tell me to make sure the water was between 65C and 80C ‘cause anything higher would taste terrible, almost burnt, like a strong bitterness. My friend was actually the one who gave me a box of English Breakfast tea and told me to make sure to boil my water first, ‘cause she always saw me making our green tea with just hot water. 😁
Anyway, I hope u and ur ohana are staying safe and healthy during this pandemic. Love and aloha from Honolulu. 😁🤙🏽❤️🌈☀️(just symbols of Hawai’i)
The weird thing about the "sir/miss" thing is that, if you do A-levels at a school, you'll carry on doing it; but if (like me) you fuck up your A-Levels at school, drop out halfway through, and then go to college because you don't want to have to get a job... *there* it would be weird to call your teachers by anything but their FIRST name. Which makes sense because a decent chunk of people studying at a college are older and might even be older than their teachers. So it's not so much about age, it's about child environments vs adult environments.
The reason why teachers are either being called by their first name or by their nickname by the pupils, is because you don't "demand" respect as a teacher. In a society that is as relaxed with hierarchy as nordic countries are, a teacher demanding a student to call them miss/mr/mrs wouldn't gain anything. They would probably only be viewed as stuck-up. By calling eachother with first names/nickname you become more approachable to the students and they respect you, just as you respect them
Exactly! And respect is not necessarily blind obediance for us. It doesn’t require formalities. You don’t raise polite kids by making then talk certain way here, you make them see people are equals and those in power roles are just humans too, completely capable of mistakes. You’re allowed to question and negotiate. Respectful manners are about kindness, respecting everybody’s personal space, being humble and honest and staying on the topic at hand. Language is still important but secondary matter. In everyday relations there is no use for artificially arranging people to a hierarchical order of status and power.
I like this very much. In the school where I teach, in Slovakia, kids call us by our first names. But we are just one of very few schools that do that.
I’m an American with an electric kettle. I use it every day. I don’t think I could go back to using a microwave to boil water... 🙃
Same here. I never used a microwave to boil water but don't think I could ever at this point. I use my kettle for everything haha.
one of us
who the hell uses microwaves to boil water? use a kettle or boil on the stove... i dunno, i'm canadian, that just isnt a thing here
It takes ~2 minutes to boil a cup of water in the microwave, but 8 minutes on the stove (although my stove is kind of slow to heat up...), so I used to always go the microwave route. It takes about 3-4 minutes in a kettle, but I can boil a lot more than just a cup of water. I can also walk away from it, get distracted, and forget without too many consequences since the kettle automatically turns off. Forgetting the stove is on, or worrying about the water overheating and "exploding" from the microwave became things of the past. 😊
I'm from Norway and if my father which I loved and respected past the end of the Universe had demanded at any given time to call him Sir I would laughed so much constantly, even when I was carrying him to his grave. No, we don't say anything close to that here in Norway.
It actually “go t’ pub” said like a lowercase t but at the end the pitch slightly up as if the sound has been cut off. And that’s how to speak like a northerner
isn't that more a Yorkshire thing specifically? In Manchester I've only ever heard "go pub"
@@user-vl8ws4wd7o it might be as I am from West Yorkshire
T’ instead of The is Yorkshire, in Lancashire you get th’, so (heard in a Rochdale supermarket):
“Excuse me, where are the eggs?”
“Theggs at thend o’ thaisle, luv” translation The eggs are at the end of the aisle.