16 Personalities - What Type of Seducer Are You?
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Timestamps:
0:36 -ISTP, INTP
1:40 -INFJ, ENFJ, ISFJ
2:35 -ENTP, ESFJ
3:18 -ENTJ, INTJ
3:59 -INFP, ENFP
4:49 -ESFP
5:24 -ISFP, ESTP
6:12 -ISTJ, ESTJ
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You're god
Infj, estp= siren.
@@soulfulspec what do you mean?
@@panpannic9043 that in my opinion these two types are sirens
As an INTP I assumed I didn't have any seduction skills but TIL that being avoidant is sexy and mysterious 🤷 Come find me, boys!
i suppose it works out for women. guys, on the other hand, are ones that are supposed to give chase.
Sexy and mysterious is right lol, for both guys and girls.
At least in my experience, INTPs have this cool vibe without seeming cold, they are funny, quite playful, very knowledgeable, intelligent and very passionate about subjects they are interested in. You people are great and fun to be around.
As an extra, I know nobody asked and I'm no expert but I'd also like to give 2 pieces of advice:
- be very careful not to confuse your personal opinions or preferences with facts;
- be careful not to fall in the mindset that you're not good enough (whether because of personal traits or societal norms), that you're better than most people, or both.
From what I've seen, these things cause a lot of tension for INTPs (both on a personal level and with other people) and getting out of these mindsets can be quite eye-opening, freeing and also helpful.
Heavy situations/subjects or tragedies aside, in everyday life negativity isn't necessarily realism, or when it is at least partly, it usually doesn't paint the full picture.
Sorry for the novel. I hope you have a great rest of your day/night!
@@Marina_7 As an INTP, I quite enjoy reading "novels", so thank you for your interesting insight.
Same👸🏾🔥
@@Marina_7 omg lol. The first point I think I'm pretty good, BUT I (slightly) think I'm better than most people. I'm surprised sometimes that other people can be smart like me lol. 😅 (I'm working on it ok😂). I also can be very realist (usually) to the point of nihilism. Opps😅😅😅
As an infp, I’ve literally crushed on every mbti type so if you’re wandering if people find you attractive, yes, people probably have found you attractive.
@shibaram Mahar 34 I'm an INFP and I usually get along great with INTPs! And I usually find fellow intuitives most appealing. But we're all individuals and have our own preferences...
As an INTP this explains why women are always more into me when I'm chill and doing my own thing. But whenever I try to pursue, things tend to not work out
69 likes noice!!
100th like from a fellow INTP..
an infp here...it seems to me that I always attract people who are not prepared for my overly loving and caring nature
obsessed* you mean
@@PowerRedBullTypology you've got a point though xd
So basically any NT, because we don’t know what love is
@@matkamatulak I know
@@kcfanforlife8300 ENTP here, have been researching about it for years and am still not sure what that is.
Love the fact intps are mysterious and alluring by just needing a break from social interaction.
More social people: man I wonder what they're doing rn, I never know what's going on in their head, I just need to find out
Intps: No more people please I'm tired of peopling, I must return to my home
As an INTP thats mind boggling to wrap my head around.
Me an INTJ: aight let's watch this to figure out why people want to be around me (non-friend people).
And how I get them to stop
Edit: So apparently it's something I never intend to stop. Cool
Same
I had the same mindset.
Same mindset I had
Ditto. But if it helps, I realized as a kid that living as a grimelord would keep everyone but the truly desperate (or really infatuated) off your back. It comes with obvious tradeoffs, but it got people to stop throwing themselves at me so much, and no one's tried to make themselves my GF and/or hit me with a chair since, so it works at least.
@@Graysett Ugh, i feel so bad for you. but seeing that you attracted me to reply it seems your grimelord flex doesn't work through the internet. enfp. date me LMAO
As an ENTJ in love with an INFP: this was pretty damn accurate. He approached me because he knew he wouldn't be lost with me, I approached him because I wanted to get lost with him.
That's so wholesome.
that's cute! Hope you guys do well :)
I automatically wanna see a movie on your story
That was the cutest thing I've read, ever.
That's so wholesome, and as an INTJ in a relationship with an INFP I kind of can relate
Me:
Looking for timestamps
Video:
Uploaded 21 seconds ago
Me: *surprised pikachu*
Fr, I’m so impatient 😭
@@Milkythefawn Sameeee I'm crying
I just skipped through the video and thought 'fine, I'll do it myself..'
@@panpannic9043 Haha ikrr
😅😅😅😅
I feel like nobody ever talks about how appealing ISTPs are to INFJs, but... yeah, silent, confident, and walking away to go live in a cabin in the woods? WEARING FLANNEL? Nothing could be more finely calibrated to draw me in, like an idiot!
TRUE ! ISTPs are hot
I'm an ESTP with an ISTP partner. He's definitely so sexy and alluring to me. But his introversion kills me, because I always want adventure. And yes, he wears lots of flannel (but we also live in the PNW...so it's definitely not uncommon in these parts).
I’m an INFJ and I went on a date with an ISTP and I could tell pretty quickly that we were not compatible.
As INFJ with high Ti I think my best matches have been INTP, but also a couple of ISTPs for 'fun' relationships, heading off on the motorbike, that kinda thing. (Sorry INTPs, I'm sure you're fun too).
So true
"What type of seducer are you?"
Me: Oh, the avoidant non-existent one!
the way he said istp and intp would need to lay in a dark room after interacting with people is completely true 💀 i’m an istp and when i’m alone i like one small lamp in the corner of the room and that’s it. the lower stimulation helps me think a lot more clearly for some reason and i’m able to process things better.
THIS
Not me trying to build a relationship based on the things nathan tells me about myself
Um I don't mean to be intruding, but your friend Kuroo does approach you always, doesn't he??
- From a fellow INTP :-)
XD
@@mishmuse I mean yah but I still feel like I need to know more about myself
@@mishmuse XDDD
Honestly? As an ISTP, I think other personalities have some weird and high standards about us when it comes to flirting. They're somehow 'idolizing' our hot and cold attitude and then, when the infatuation disappears, they're suddenly disappointed. Personally, as an ISTP, I'm annoyed at myself for that hot-cold mood swings, because it's tiring, even to me sometimes. Also, several times people accused me of flirting with everything that moves and that's just not true. Being charming to everyone is just a part who I am, but I realize how, from other peoples perspectives, this can be seen as flirting with everyone. I can be nice to people too, god damn it!
I am an INFP and this description suits me. I get a feeling people don't really know what to make of me. This is regarding my whole personality. In terms of gender, sometimes I feel like a tomboy and sometimes I feel girlish.
Agreed, I too am an INFP and some days I will wear pants, my green suede blazer, a bowtie, and A fedora out while on other days I will wear a dress and a flower crown. It really just depends on my mood! However most people think I’m just weird, not charming🤣
Your ENFP comrade understands you
Exactly. It's so difficult to understand us and people still think they understand us more than we do.
I find it so irritating when people say, "I know you". I want to punch people when they say this.
@@greenstarrysky9881 weird can be charming too
I guess you’re right😄
INFP and every time i talk about how i meet someone i always do play both roles, feminine and masculine 😂 i don't do it on purpose, I just sometimes want them to know that i am a sensitive person so i won't act too pushy but at the same time I want them to know im very serious and really like them, it's definitely dandy LOL
I'm an INTP and I can confrim that this is true. I'm dead silent in class, yet I've constantly had teachers who said "she is a pleasure to have in class" in my progress report. I think the use of the word "pleasure" is a little dramatic but I guess I'm just a natural seducer. Every single teacher makes note that I'm quiet- like that's a bad thing. I simply don't speak because I have nothing to say. For me school is a workplace, not a social event.
'does not play well with others' - every elementary report card ever.
Also: would do well in school if he applied himself.
Same, there’s a teacher who told my parents she’d adopt me (paraphrasing)
i thought it was just me. older people in authority, mostly teachers, are drawn to me for some reasons.
I'm an ENFP and the person I love is an INFP, and when we're together somewhere around people, we end up somehow getting a lot of attention, both of us, without seeking it at all. I wouldn't say we're the life of the party but, I definitely feel that we both attract people in some way
@Harry Moloney As a great firebender once said, “That’s rough buddy”
Thank you, I’ll be here all week
I’m an ENFP and the guy I’m currently dating is INFP! I usually go for T-types, and while he definitely has some of the same difficulties with emotional expression, it honestly feels so so right... I’m effing obsessed with him lol. Excellent match IMO! Lots in common but he grounds me and I bring him out of his shell. Thought it would get a bit dull dating such a similar type but he surprises me every day with his loveliness :’)
@@eckey03 Can you ask him where INFP’s hide? I’m an ENFP and I get the feeling that bae is hiding somewhere and is likely an INFP.
@@nigelharvey640 Honestly I would not put it past bae to be an INFP....... I found mine on a dating app, and would defs not have bumped into him otherwise lol. They’re usually hiding down the rabbit hole of whatever their big hobby/interest is (in my case he spends all his free time making music lol)
Reeb Ster: As an INFP I can confirm this, we usually love to lose ourselves in our hobbies, mine is art and reading. (Shocker!)😂
As an INFP people have told me; I confuse and intrigue them. The way I look, doesn't match how I act apparently.
Being coquettish, I always struggle to keep a distance yet show love by being close. I cant stand a constant level of being emotionally tied to people i care about (not just romantic love), so it appears to be hot and cold. It is never intentional but a base instinct for self care and survival.
Interesting. As an INTP, I used to think I didn't have emotions bc I don't easily/often get emotionally attached to people even close ones.😅
Feel ya
As an INFP, I relate more to the Ideal Lover description. I think the capacity of Fi people to care deeply for others and want to tend to their needs is often overlooked. Maybe we're just more selective about whom we invest those energies into than Fe people.
I've also been willing to change things about myself for the person I love - not because they wanted me to, but because I wanted to be more 'right' for them - in a way that I never really have been for anyone else. As much as I care about authenticity, ironically, the ones I feel most free to be my true self with are the ones I find most deserving of me changing things to make things better for them.
I feel the same👀
Yeah, I'm an INFP, too, and I didn't feel like that description was really accurate for me.
Wow. You put it in words with such perfection 😚But adding to what you said, I almost don't walk the "extra mile" for people who "I" feel like don't deserve it, as a way of punishing them, and rewarding the ones who I love the best, by the said changes in behaviour to be so "right" for them, like you aptly pointed out.
For eg, with more loving types like the Isfj or the Esfj, I'd be my more loving and caring self, but with types like that of the Istp/j or the I/Entj, not only will I be my most loving self, I'd also add a little dash of practicality and sensibility to it, cutting out on my fantasy filled romances at times when it's needed to. Idk. It's almost like the chameleon archetype of the Infj if you ask me, lol ^^
I'm also infp and I'm shaking from how much I agree with what you've said. I fell in love for real for the 1st time some weeks ago and I've been thinking exactly this, that I've never before wanted to trust my whole self to someone that way (despite having huge trust issues with people most of the time) AND also never wanted to change myself (improvement-wise) so much for anyone before. Because I feel like the person who I'm in love with deserves the best ever treatment. That alone is a huge motivation for me to become a better person. But when I imagine ending up with someone who I don't love like that, I don't want to change for them really, there's not enough motivation.
So I've learned I'm not the only one like this!
Fi type here🙋♀️ When you mentioned the part about being selective to those whom we Fi invest our time and energies to, that really got me and felt too accurate :DD
An INTP here and after seeing the title I immediately thought that the act of seducing others will also lead to procrastination
No, no, see... we START trying to seduce someone, get distracted by something else and quit halfway through, and then we never get around to giving the other person closure & they’re left wanting more!
(Speaking as an INTP with zero dating experience, who, like, totally didn’t just make this all up lol)
As an INFJ, tho i'm not particularly seductive, I feel like I actually relate to a bunch of these in terms of how I am around people, which probably fits the whole chameleon stereotype we have haha
I think i mostly relate to infj mbti type (still in the process of gathering more information to support my conclusion, or to see if I'm wrong). I think the bit about infj in this vid, does really apply to me, however i don't see that as seductive tbh. I also related to the hot and cold nature of intps, and the one about having witty discussions and making u feel good by putting the spotlight on u.
Welp ig i should go research the cognitive functions in even more details again lol
INTPs are also chameleons but it is a form of torture we ultimately abandon
@@soulfulspec LOL classic
@@melodylawrence3458 it's seductive because you can easily seduce people if you know their deepest desires, that's infj's seductive type. it depends heavily on what you do with the information you get when getting to know someone or reading someone's bio or anything that gives you information about them
@@soulfulspec would you please mind telling me how do INFJs appear seductive?
"But it's characteristic of FE to put immense value on other people's feelings to the point where they feel responsible for them. This can be a mistake they make by going too far and overextending themselves..."
Don't sugarcoat it, Nathan. You can use the word: codependency. Any woke high-FE has faced the possibility already. ❤️
Even me, an Fe tert (ENTP) is often there... momentarily tho, because the moment my Ti realizes is like "WTF Fe, this makes no sense xD". I describe myself as being a constant back and forth between Ti and Fe, Ti often winning but Fe not that far behind xD.
I'd say codependency is an extreme of that.
@@PriHL yeah more like the person automatically becomes emotionally dependent on me. Or maybe its just my ex who had issues, but that overextending Fe thing is definitely true"
@f z Yes it does, Functions work in an axis, specially the middle functions. They never fully work by themselves.
That is why middle functions sometimes are the easiest to pin down, because you see the person using both quite constantly, specially the older they get. Also usually they are the functions the person is most aware of and uses more consciously.
Still does not explain why I am single.
Cause ya need to get out of the house...😛.
XD
@@arly380 INTP
@@kedarpaul7224 so why r u single?:)
@@npcimknot958 yup, can't wait for this shit to end.
I Love how you get to the point without silly introductions , maybe this is the reason behind how I can watch your videos even when they last for more than 3 minutes ( I mean I hate long videos and have no patience with them ).
Lol me too. I usually have no patience. I fast forward through most long videos hehe😂
Can u do a video for which seducers each type is weak against?
Thank u
I'm going to add caffeinating to my vocabulary list.
I think approaching too many people is a challenge all ENTPs have. Needy Fe is a poor judge of character.
"What type of seducer are you?"
Me: A garbage, definitely a garbage
That's one way to get them to take you out...
😊 Me too
@@absent72 take my like and get out
I'm a straight female INFP and I've been told (pretty intensely) quite a few times that I'd make a great boyfriend.
I'm amazed.
I always thought it was a nice compliment but a bit weird, I guess it's not a bad thing after all? 😂 Maybe I've got some girl crush potential lmao
Maybe! Either way as a fellow INFP I think you should take it as a compliment.
@@greenstarrysky9881 I agree! Also, dandies unite haha
same XD
They just like hanging out with your alter ego Mark
(russian accent) In INTP world, people seduce you
y e s
Technically
I've never thought of myself as a dandy, but somehow it fits.
At first I was like, I’m not a “star!” I’m just a guy. But then I read the description and it made a lot of sense. By being out there and constantly and unashamedly being myself, that will attract people. As my wife says, “everyone knows you.” And that’s true. One of the perks of being an ESFP is that Se-Te “go get it” mentality.
I find it interesting how the third function is often overlooked by people. I have an ESFP brother and yeah, that Se Te is just something else.
@@farrex0 100% agree with that. Isfj, for example- that Si-Ti meticulousness is VASTLY underrated.
@shibaram Mahar 34 I get along with anybody, to be totally truthful with you. I appreciate the intp creativity and dry humor. I think that’s a big reason I love this channel, as there’s a HUGE intp vibe to the delivery.
As an INTP my girlfriend said she was scared of me when we first met and now that we've been together for 3 years, she realizes how weird I actually am and she has always done most of the talking while I just listen.
👍👌🤓
infp here and same, my bf says he saw me as mysterious before we got to know each other but i guess now he knows i’m just shy and it makes me a good listener
@shibaram Mahar 34 I didn't exactly what one but, it happened anyway and I'm pretty glad it did now-
Accurate. I’m ENTJ married to an INTJ and absolutely what drew us to each other was our NTJ Charisma. That sense of purpose and determination is attractive because you know your partner will persevere even in tough times if you are on their “goals” list (ex. if they are dedicated to having a successful relationship and being a good partner.
I came at the speed of the notification bell
Don't worry, that's a perfectly average time to last.
Facts
@@Snarl_Marx 😂 😂 😂
As an infp - I had no idea people found it appealing 🤭
I’ll be that girl that wears a half baggy, half tight outfit, with an interest for anime, sport, rock, kpop, dance and the romance or fantasy genre.
istp: "leaving people wondering if they are alive"
literally the only reason a person that i was close with hit me up after a year to check if i hadnt off myself like i mightve implied a couple times
Writers/OC creators: *furiously taking notes*
I feel so seen
Caught
Finally, a good video to watch while eating my dinner
I feel you, but I ate my food before I watched this ;p
It's a double edged sword if you're an NTJ because most people will dislike you simply because they see your confidence as arrogance, instead of getting turned on by it.
As if theres no in between x)
Once you make past someone's general attractiveness cut, your arrogance becomes something else, so as long as you keep a broad vision over your attractiveness by taking into account other variables, even obvious ones such as physical looks, each characteristic will help the other.
As an ENTJ true, but it is applicable to everyone that not everyone will like you anyways. Rather be hated for who I am and what I want, than loved by fakeness.
Yes, *I want to be chased* but... *I never am.*
I am the coquette that MUST chase because nobody ever does the f**king work!!! UGH!
Dating is such a nightmare!
yes
SAME LMAO
If you like to be chased, you need to attract and ESTP. We enjoy a chase. Just be warned, we enjoy a chase because we're playful. One of the things I love most about my partner is pushing his buttons. He looks beautiful when he's angry.
@@runningfromabear8354 Oof lol...
@@runningfromabear8354 How terrible
Me* an INTP: dissappears socially comes back like nothing happened.
Others: wtf. That's not alright. Where were you?
Me*- who are you again? 😶
I’ve been cursed at by so many of my friends because of that but I honestly don’t even feel the slightest bit of remorse.
@Icanbepreet tried explaining, they don't get it tho.
My life in a nutshell, lmao
@@BL00DYR0S31 Perhaps you disappeared because you know they are not true friends but merely benevolent associates
@@louisejoel I don't wish to answer on @Insatiable Folie but that is hardly the case. The distancing is simply an out, in most cases to take your time with other things and has barely anything to do with how "true" the friendship is, not having remorse is often because we know that we spent our time on something interesting than following the same routine of engaging into the same friendships.
So spot on! Loved your description of ESTPs and ISFPs (their playfulness is what has always attracted me).
ISTJ female here and definitely a siren, haha. ♥️👏♥️
I was shrugging this off as a less serious video, like the one you made about the Hogwarts houses, but that was until I heard the description for INFP and ENFP, and was surprised by how accurate it was. Aside from the fact that I (ENFP) personally related to it a lot, you have no idea of how many discussions I've found at r/enfp about people usually assuming ENFPs are gay (especially male ENFPs) even when that's not the case.
Okay, ngl tho, As an ENTP, I'm not really sure I'm a charmer in seduction. I'm a charmer in regular life, i genuinely like to bring people outta they're shells and get em talking and saying what they think. In seductions I'm more of an elusive bc I tbh don't really want a relationship ig, idk. Charmer isn't seduction for me, it's more just everyday me😬
Was thinking the same thing!
-ENTP
True. As an ENTP, I can charm anyone anywhere. But, when it comes to love and actual emotions, I'm selfish with my emotions, such that my partner will never get to really know me. And somewhat will feel that I'm "detached". i.e. coquettish. I'll "Love bomb" my partner for the time I'm with her, then won't hear from me for a week or so. Then again, the cycle repeats. Hot and Cold.
But then again, Robert Greene says Charm is non-sexual. So I can see where Love Who is coming from and what our ENTP seduction style actually is.
"..leaving people wondering what they're doing or whether they are alive"
yeah I may have done that a few too many times
I'm an INTP but honestly I'm pretty good at seducing directly and indirectly, just takes a little observation and then I know exactly what to be doing and when.
This is fascinating, definitely explains why certain personality types work so well together. I’m an INFJ and my partner is an ENFP. When we’re together everything seems right in life, even tho it may not be in reality.
I found this video very interesting. I have read the Art of Seduction in the past and I remember Robert Greene saying that you may fit into more than one category. This is interesting because I'm an ENTJ and as I read it I saw myself most reflected in the Siren. I could see a bit of myself in the Charismatic too though.
Well. Amazing. Gonna see what else I can incorporate
Idk why so many people have opinions like this about INTPs. I’m an INTP and I did pickup like a sport for 3 years and did anything from mess with strippers to poly relationships. Also did sales for years and serving about to go into high ticket software sales in a few years. Was this all more difficult for me being an INTP? Yes. - did I end up better then everyone around me because I used my own mind to escape my own mind in the process? Yes. Don’t use your myers briggs as an excuse to limit your abilities or opportunities in life.
So true
This right here!
Idk, from an INFP perspective…I wouldn’t see these things as improvements. But I suppose the best version of oneself is different for everyone. I get wanting to get outside of your comfort zone but golly man
@@namenotfound6881 you came here as a stranger on the internet to tell me you disagree with my definition of personal progress?
Knock yourself out I don’t agree with your personality and approach on life either after hearing 1 comment from you we are at odds.
Totally agree my life style isn’t for you and also agree I would never enjoy the approach you’re taking on life right now.
@@angeloreyes707 I mean, no need to get defensive over something you proudly told hundreds of strangers on the internet. Expect responses from said strangers. That being said, my type tends to value morality and becoming a more authentic version of ourselves that does things “right”. That’s our version of growth. So, yes, when you say engaging in debaucherous sexual behaviors led to your personal self-growth, I simply cannot understand it because that feels like you went the opposite direction. I get your type desires competency, and a part of that may be pushing yourself completely out of your comfort zone. The fact remains that most INTPs value more serious and intimate relationships and is one of the reasons that I typically admire your type. So for you to actively destroy that part of yourself is weird to me when it’s a great quality. But hey, that’s what you like. But I disagree. Don’t share your thoughts and experiences online if you aren’t willing for people to express that they don’t see that as improvement
Continues to speak in smooth language to gain the affection of the crowd.....all I want is love 🔥 🥺 😋
This was very well done!
I'm in an INFJ/ISFJ relationship and that does describe us both. it's like supercharged Fe/Fe intensity and we feed off each other ☺️ of course, it can also go into a negative spiral. but you're right in that we're an ideal to each other. it's awesome because he's everything I always wanted and adjusting towards each other's needs comes naturally to us both.
I feel exactly the same.
Would appreciate a video on self love tips for each type....
Excellent analysis but...I recently read the Art of Seduction and as an INFP, I related most with the Natural, not the Dandy. Interesting video, as always.
Golden. This video is golden. ❤️
This was awesome!
Infp who dated an enfj here. Me and my partner would talk about what attracted us to each other constantly, and I think this is pretty spot on. I saw them as being able to do everything I couldn't, as being socially adept and able to accomplish their goals. Where I would ruminate forever, they could get things done. They were an ideal to be strived for, my ideals really put in to action. They said they were attracted to me because of my contradiction, that I seemed aggressive sometimes and passive others, that I seemed cold and calculating and then emotionally vulnerable, and that I could be stoic and hard working then cute and playful. As someone who could easily read people they said they were intrigued and wanted to figure me out. I was someone who they didn't understand, who didn't fit into conventional understanding of social interaction which they normally grasped effortlessly.
I'm an INFP and I definitely resonate with The Dandy even the first time I've read the book. ❤️
infj here, i resonate most with the dandy and the natural. if anything i push a lot of people away that i don't relate to, so if i love someone it's best because they're similar to me, and therefore more fun to be around because i don't have to pretend to be anything to get along.
This was a genius video idea thank you
Damn! This was fascinating!! (ENFP)
I'm such a great coquette that I've been alone most of the time xD (INTP) You are right though, as always Natan.
Art of Seduction + MBTI...
Nice one!!
Pretty sure that was tea caffeinating 😁
Liked the video 👍
Lol 😂 loved ESFJ!
Think you got us spot on.
Nice video, thanks
Thank you this is helpful
What an interesting study!!!
So basically me, an INTP, loves someone who waits for others to approach them too, an ISTP. Ugh, who's gonna tell him then...
And here i am INTP, chasing over another INTP.
@@puspitadlestari4140 lol good luck
My husband is an INFJ jumper, ie: Ni/Ti, via OPs typing system. In other words, he is like a hybrid INFJ/INTP. In our first years together, he was a complete Coquette. Now he's more of an Ideal Lover, but communicating his Fe is still difficult.
I fit the Dandy type to a T (ENFP)
I'm an INFJ as tested multiple times...(identity problems). But my friends always tell me that i attract attention by not giving anyone any attention which is the INTJ/INTP kind of seducing. I guess that's because i don't tend to open up to anyone and always put up the strong ice cold front in front of other people. However when i get a little comfortable, i tend to be more open and caring and finding out about the person and just like the video said, filling the void in people that they didn't even know of.
infj, I feel like you got me pretty well--it sometimes feels like all my relationships are hole-filling
i am loving reading this comment section...so interesting in this chat.
I'm INFJ but I relate more to The Coquette and The Ideal Lover. Also, its the INTPs who pursue me lol. I think if you really lean into your Ti and Ni, its brings out the Fe in them.
ENFJ - many of my relationships failed exactly because I was just giving off like "ideal lover" vibes. They had had put me in such a high pedestal that it was an unreal expectation of sorts and I felt crushed. It's weird, but now I have learned not to do it... next time (if there is so) I will temper my dominant Fe and my impulse to answer the person's needs with my own needs too, otherwise I know I won't be able to hold it for long...
Maybe date another ENFJ?
@@EmyN thanks. If I don't fix this problem within myself it inevitably won't work with anyone, but I suppose with high Fe types it could go smoother.
@@johnny_roots Exato 👍
@@EmyN brasileira? 🤔😊
@@johnny_roots Sim kakakakaka e ENFJ tbm
intj - interesting! now I want to re-read the book with this in mind
I’ve enjoyed going back through this book from a new perspective ☺️
Omg i love this.
And I love that book.
Very informative, I see that someone reads Robert Greene’s books ☺️ Could you make a video about seducing each type? What kind of victims would each type most likely be? (18 types: the disappointed dreamer, the prude, the crushed star, etc) I have a hard time ‘categorizing’ people using the victim theory, would love to hear your insight on this. ❤️
I second this motion 😎
@shibaram Mahar 34 sure! Let me know :)
oh my, what would a dandy be like when they're seduced.
@@aureliaavalon i really wonder about this too, I dated a dandy before haha
As an INFP, I agree with being categorized as the Dandy. Seems fitting and agree that these times are more accepting of us.
I liked that paino piece in your intro
ENTP here, I'm not much into seducing but sometimes I'm starting to flirt accidentally :D which is quite stupid for person who values very much being true to one who he really loves :). Honestly I love people generally, I love discussing many different topics, trying to understand other point of view, to get a bit of taste of their life. I like to have large social circle though it brings risk that it all starts to get shallow and therefore also boring.
I'm ready to pile all of my affection on someone, if only I ever let myself be in a relationship with anyone. 😂 The struggle...
- INFJ
Ha! Yes! Also add on top of that trauma from watching almost every relationship you grew up around failing....I don't see any reason to let myself be in a relationship ☺
@@awatson5195 Exactly! It's like, I know exactly just what to do and and how, "if" I was in a relationship, but then my mind goes "why bother?" ...oh damn😂
As an INFJ, I'd have to say that this was spot on.
As an ENFP, basically I’m a mess so this is spot on.
In all seriousness though I think this was on the money for many, if not all, of the types from my experience. Personally, I feel like my motivation (and what I thought people were into in me for) is that of the Natural but thinking on it, no one feels at ease in my presence lol. My presentation is very likely a Dandy. Didn’t think that was something appealing in a guy but upon reflection of my history and what actually made a deciding factor in romance, it surprisingly is. Though quite off putting as well on a bad day.
However, I will say that it seems people see what they want to see with me and pick out how they themselves flirt, in my actions. While I haven’t tried to be any of these in particular when I’m into someone, I’ve definitely come off as many of them and disappointed plenty when I wasn’t like that consistently over time. Kinda sucks low key but freedom blah blah individuals blah blah love, ya know?
Me, confused as to whether I am an INTP or INFP, i definitely am a coquette. I used to always think that my "friend" would be bothered when sometimes I would duck out of kissing him. Later I discovered that he actually enjoyed it and said that he likes chasing me. I like being chased😳 INFP much? Though I can be tomboyish sometimes and deemed extremely eccentric by most people. Shit I came back to this video and now I need help again
INTP is more rare in women but not impossible).
The main crux is weather you base decisions on rationality or on values. If you can find rational arguments that will get you to undermine your values, you are probably INTP. If your values trump rational arguments you are probably INFP.
There are so many examples that Robert Greene uses who are seductive in the exact opposite way of what their personality type would suggest, because each seductive type is merely a mask that you wear, a facade, a persona. These two systems are not related and cannot be compared.
Your description of the INTP seduction technique is triggering the PTSD I sustained by my INTP exes lmao...... so so so accurate! And definitely not healthy for this ENFP 😅 secure emotional attachment style or bust! (Still love you guys though💕)
I recently was trying to coach an ENFJ whose love interest had gone into a cold period. She thought he was 'done' with her. And then he came back. But it didn't go very well.
I have 'trauma' from extraverted feelers who never understood me in the past. It's very hard to form a relationship when conflicting needs cause tension.
Yes, which is why a lot of INTPs give up on finding love. We fear rejection more than anything and 'not going dark' takes a lot of constant energy for us, which is not sustainable - and we don't like to think we've caused others pain.
Thanks for confirming that INTPs should just give up, even after this video had given me hope again.
@@justinwhite2725 lol no need to be dramatic... Why can’t you just communicate that to the person you’re dating? And if it’s still not enough for them, just find someone who needs less interaction. I said your attachment style isn’t healthy for “this ENFP” didn’t I? Guess im not allowed to share my experiences?🤔
Also I’ll let you in on a secret... we all fear rejection! Most of us above anything else. But the only way to overcome that fear is to put yourself out there. Get rejected over and over again until it doesn’t faze you anymore. You’ll be more likely to eventually get what you want, and it’ll build the confidence you need to be strong for your future partner. No one is hopeless, but if your methods aren’t working then it’s only logical that you change them.
Relationships may not be as natural and easy for INTPs, but there are so many things that you guys are so naturally amazing at that I couldn’t even dream of doing without putting in effort. Just because something doesn’t come naturally to you doesn’t mean you can’t do it. Keep trying, don’t give up.
@@justinwhite2725 I also feel it bears mentioning that I’m currently dating an INFP who has the same problem of “going dark” when we’re not together. The amount of anxiety it has caused me is.... very great, but we’re managing to work it out and I would say it’s because of the following:
A) when I bring up his lack of communication he doesn’t get defensive. He always listens with an open mind, and is honest with me about his struggles with socializing/needing alone time.
B) when we’re together, he’s always present with me
C) he makes small efforts to change. He still doesn’t communicate as much or as often as I like, but he puts in the effort to just send a quick short text throughout the day. And the fact that I can see that he’s trying makes all the difference in the world.
@@eckey03 seems as though you deleted the post I was responding to - pretty sure you said something to the effect that it's very irresponsoble/I was a bad person for my need to withdraw.
This reflects my past relationships, where I was made to feel guilty for it (before I even really understood why I did it - and now I know better)
If I'm aware it's coming on, I can communicate. But once I'm in the mode it's nearly impossible for me to check in. It's not even a thing I can describe well when I'm not in that state.
As for A - it matters a lot how you approach it. A lot of people will make others feel bvery bad for doing it.
As for rejection - intps have inferior Fe. We do not take rejection well and are extremely self critical. I still beat myself up for social faux pas I did when I was 12 (and I'm 40 now). Our tertiary Si wants to hold us back based on memories of past experiences to avoid us making the same mistakes again.
ISTP here
When ever I’m not available or around for anything be it school a party or anything of sorts
They next time they see me they always asking why I didn’t come and that the thing was just not the same
Then me confused asking what impact do I make in these things
One charming chameleon coming right up!
Hey Melissa, love your videos on ENTPs, very insightful! (particularly as an INFJ 🙄)
@@gloglok3356 Hey! Thank you very much!! Happy they are helping!! :)
ISFJ here and it is surprisingly accurate and even tho I didn’t even know that about myself before watching this video I can confirm that those things totally sound like something I would do.
@shibaram Mahar 34 I’m not one to judge but like all of these, if taken to an extreme would be very unhealthy and that goes for ISTP/INTP as well.
(entp) This is probably why some would categorize me as a ‘natural flirt’ bc i like to ‘charm’ in every day conversations. I don’t think i can do it when i’m actually trying to flirt though loll
I(ENTP) and my father(ESFJ) are the charmer DUO. We often hear from our friends and family as to how we charm people around us
Could you please do ESTP vs. ENTP?
I'm an isfp and get really attracted to enfj men all the time. I find the things they say often boring but they are so good at reassuring and making me feel everything will be OK. I trust them as well.
Not intentionally a coquette but thank you 💜
I’m an Entp and my husbands an entj and I can def agree that I can talk to anyone and he’s the most self confident person I’ve ever met.