I like the point you said about them molding you into something you might not have been otherwise, or getting people out of bad relationships... I feel that ENFJs were made to be everyone's soulmate.
Wow at 4:30 it really described my recent break up with my friend. I am an ENFJ, and my friend is not. Basically, she texted me a huge paragraph saying how small things I do such as finishing work before her in classes makes her feel stupid and she couldn't live like that anymore. I know she is very insecure and has her own personal battles to deal with, but I still took this very personally and put all the blame on myself and constantly tried my best to apologise and tell her saying I was going to be a better friend.
Oh my god i literally had to pause the video once she started talking about being alone for too long therefore, feeling the need to stay busy...all I can say is quarantine is rough. Also, the picking apart of every comment and just overthinking makes so much sense to me now. I really do be noticing everything
As an ENFJ, I’ve been watching a few of your videos about ENFJ and I’m so shocked how it’s really accurate! I enjoy listening to you and getting to know more about myself. Thank you🥰
Wow another great video Tam. As an ENFJ, I totally get people's insecurities projected on me and it can be really hurtful. You gave a great strategy of how to deal with it though.
Aaron Johnson You're right it can feel awful and the worst part is you know exactly what's going on but you can't always do much about it--it's maddening lol! So glad you found this video helpful & thanks for the compliment.
the depression thing is true. i dont want to go out because i'm going through a depressive period, but im getting more depressed because i'm not going out --> depression --> dont go out --> depression etc etc. so i'm in that place right now. I like going to work because i just have to go there. No other choice.
I'm so happy YOU are the one talking about ENFJs, I'm really enjoying learning about this internal wiring I didn't understand much, until now! Thank you!
@@jrcmes I assume she means girlfriends (in the romantic sense). I am a lesbian and I referred to my ex"wife" and ex-girlfriend as my partners when we were together. It's like a serious girlfriend, similar to a hetero common-law relationship, since until recently, most serious gay couples could not be legally married. We referred to our mates as "partner".
I know this is two years later, but... Your post was interesting to me, because my father is an ENTJ. He was very demanding, controlling and emotionally abusive and aloof when I was growing up. Then we had a huge fight when I was 18, that threw me into a dark depression for several years. Becoming a Christian saved me from probably ending my life. But the good news is that after 20 years of not talking to each other, we reconciled and realized just how much we actually “get” each other. He respects my intellect and way of thinking. And he loves my sense of humor. 🤪 It took almost 40 years for us to become close as father and daughter, but I’m so thankful that we are now.
I'm ENFJ and my favorites and closest loved ones are always NFs :') I am always fascinated by NFs and adore them so much! :') I also have some close INTs and I appreciate them too! :) And I attest that I am really an intense person. ;u;
I’ve come to realize that it’s the Intuitive in people that I most relate to. NFs the most, of course. I have the most difficulty with ESFJs and ESFPs. S types don’t get me AT ALL! Yet I’m married to an ESTJ. Go figure! 😁 We’ve had many rough moments, but have made it to our 38th wedding anniversary by God’s grace. ☺️
@@truepeace3 Wow! Love really moves in mysterious ways! ;) So happy for you both! I believe compatibility is something we work on put efforts on! ^^ Stay strong to the both of you!!! ^_^
@@NekoNyanNyanNyanNyanNyan Yes it does! 😊 Thank you for the kind words. 💖 And you are so right. People give up too quickly on “bad” marriages. When I look back on our difficult times, I appreciate how far we’ve come. And how we’ve both helped strengthen the other one’s weaknesses. He’s also helped me get out of my head, when I start going down the proverbial rabbit hole (which ENFJs can often do). He’s really kept me grounded.
@@truepeace3 That's good to hear. ^^ I really believe all personality types can get along with any personality type. ^^ Yes, I also believe conflicts and setbacks can make relationships stronger! I am glad you did not give up on each other! :)
I think having children really helped me get thoughts that I would obsess over out of my head. I don't think about the future as much, which actually used to be maddening. I couldn't think about how good things were in the present. Now I can, since I've had children. But it was a huge and difficult transition for me but I think it was good for my perspective on life. I can now relate to more people since I've had children, and feel like I can understand the human condition on a much deeper level.
Alexis Schroeder Ah what an incredible realization! One of the most amazing things about the Enfj is they’re always growing and evolving and going to new heights. Yes it’s weird how the present moment can be so elusive to us. I’m glad having children has given you a new level of peace ☮️. Thanks for sharing!
I’m back 5 months later since initially watching this video. Since then, I’ve learned A LOT about myself. I had no idea how my Fe and Ni would drain me socially. Since my self awareness, I have indeed “retired” from a lot of that and become more present and sensory (balancing the S & N). Trust me this quarantine has helped a LOT with this time of self discovery. Also since this video, I’ve tapped into the Enneagram system. Turns out I’m an 8w9 SP subtype. Weird combo but accurate. It as well explains a lot about me lol. I’m now able to understand how I can use the MBTI & Enneagram for balance. I’ve been tapping more into my 8 lately by focusing more fully on my life and future and not SOOO mentally invested and curious of other people when I speak to them. With the help of the 8, I’m able to cut off that Ni curiosity a lot sooner and see things more objectively- bring out that inferior Ti! This therefore balances the T & F. (Also, as an 8 I go to Enneagram 2 in health which looks like an ENFJ but with my 8 I can go to 2 with more balance.) Considering my Enneagram type, I can DEFIANTLY understand what you said when people think you’re always nice 😂 it makes you upset bc YOU KNOW it’s not entirely true. But in conclusion I think it’s safe to say I’m a healthy eight (with the big help of the wing 9) and a healthy ENFJ. Thank you sooo much for your content. I’ll never forget how understood I felt as a first timer!! 🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️
Aha! Now I know...my hunch was right on :-) (you are an ENFJ) ;-) I have two friends that I for sure find fascinating, one is an INFJ she is somewhat mysterious to me but so genuine and has an amazing intellect (literally like a walking talking Encyclopedia so we can talk and talk about so many interesting things) and the other one is an ENFJ and she also is amazing! it's like we ride the same wave and take turns boosting each other to each other's strengths :-) Again you are hitting the nail on the head and catch my self LOL'ing because it's all so true!!! Love your vids!! I'll be watching more!! :-D
Kimberly M Awesome-it’s so cool to have friends who have similar or are the same type. You’re so lucky and It’s so good that you cherish your friendships.
Holy cow thank you, this has been the best description of how I feel , I have been trying to figure out and put into words these emotions. This has been incredibly therapeutic and so fascinating , thank you again 🏳️🌈🥸❤️
Amino Acid Ko Thank you so much and yes I'd love to make more videos like this one! Thanks for letting me know your interest--It makes me happy u watched it🙂!
fccpaixao Haha 🤣 True! I tried to hide that I’m an ENFJ for a long time in case everyone thought my descriptions were crazy 😜. LOL Thanks for watching 🥰
@@TamsPsychAdvice I have to applaud for those videos, your words about ENFJ feeds me with clarity and positivity and I apreciate it so much, not so long ago I was very depressed. 💗
Jesus!!!!! Omg! I really connected with JC in Mel Gibson’s film... especially his sense of humour about the table and laughing with his mum. I cried when he tripped and was overwhelmed by his sermon. I know he’s real and I have my own theory on GOD I can not believe you know all this about me... there is not a thing wrong and I love that the detrimental things are even more resonating you are very wise and I’m so glad I came across you x
Your so right... there is nothing better. I am starting to realise that there are a lot more soul seers in the world today- than I thought. What a vision it would be to eat and spend time with heavenly people around a huge table. No animosity, Ceremony or greed. I have dreamt of that scene.. seen something similar on bible covers for children and just hoped that if I was a good girl.... I might be there one day. The dark assaults on my senses are intense at times... I wonder if anyone has real faith in anything. I’m glad for people like you... who love others enough to dig deep for them God love you x
i was thinking how the hell you would know so deeply about enfj... oh you actually ARE an enfj! makes perfect sense now lol you seriously make the best enfj videos. awesome work! high five sis! -from another enfj
A. K. You made me laugh ha ha! Hi5 to you too! I think this was the video that I finally decided to admit that I am in the EMF today. Thanks so much for the compliment. I need to create lots more ENFJ videos because ENFJs are so supportive. More Enfj Videos coming soon!
Thank you for this video! I love ALL NFs. My Mom was an amazing INFJ (we called her a mind-reader and I swear my friends liked my Mom more than me growing up - I always admired her people skills and depth) and my ex-wife and my current gf are INFPs. My best friend is an ENFP and I have a friend at work who is ENFJ. What about ENFJs and INTJs? How would you describe their compatibility? I've been intrigued by ENFJs lately. As an INTJ, I like to find out what's going on under the surface and the ENFJ provides a nice challenge for me. But I wonder if the ENFJ finds as much pleasure in the friendship as I do. Thank you!
I’ve kind of done a video featuring both of these types together. However I need to do one that’s more relationship centered. I love INTJs and I always feel drawn to them. I don’t know if it’s because my mother is one but yes there’s definitely a natural connection! It’s good to hear someone else feels the same.
I believe (and it has been said) that Obama is an ENTP. As a fellow ENTP, I relate to what he was saying about "feeling very deeply" despite appearing rather emotionless. As fellow Extraverted Intuitives and Fe-Ti users, ENTPs and ENFJs certainly have similarities. Great video by the way :)
hellokitgurl4life Hey there and thank you 😊! I think ENFJs and ENTPs can have very deep and enlightening conversations. Thanks for sharing your viewpoint on Pres. Obama's Personality type.
Love your videos! My husband is an infj and I feel like so many people in his life take advantage of him but when I point it out he gets upset with me! I don’t think he trusts my intuition at all!:(
My Mom was an INFJ and I LOVE ENFJs but I do believe that in general, INFJs are superior in their people reading skills relative to ENFJs. Don't get me wrong, ENFJs are the rockstars of the people-reading world but INFJs have MAGIC! Seriously, they are magical in this way. I would give your husband the benefit of the doubt that he's probably picking up on (or has "analyzed" through his Ni) something you have not perceived. My experience has been that INFJs get weary of trying to explain their insights because it's damn near impossible and they just give up on doing that. As an INTJ, I have the same problem. I KNOW SO MUCH but it's impossible to explain it to others most of the time. Honestly, I don't even realize how much I know that they don't. It's like does a fish feel water? We just know stuff and are routinely shocked to learn that other people don't also know these things. It's exhausting.
Second generation Canadian, seemed patriotic and fun at the same time. My grandparents were Mericans. Seems funny me, that my offspring, nieces and such can claim "Daughters of the American revolution" status.
Im an ENFJ-A and i hate ENFJ-T. I recently moved in a house and my roomate is a turbulent one. He is like opposite to me, he is selfish & disorganized. I hate that he isn’t emphatic enough.
Bekah Davis Yep you’re right I’m an Enfj. This is the first video where I actually said my type. It took me a while because I kinda wanted to give people a chance to figure it out and also I didn’t know if my ENFJ would come through. So far, no one has objected. LOL. Thanks for watching.
i have one friend who is ENFJ, we knew each other on social media but it was like boom, like if we know each other from a long time, i also have INFJ friend who and we always having that deep view of things so we can go on a limitless conversations. can you please make a video talking about how to know if ENFJ likes you
I think the way to know an ENFJ likes you, if they feel free enough to fully be themselves around you. So unlike some other types, enfj's tend to be nice to most people. So an ENFJ acting nice and warm in that sense is not that special for an ENFJ. However, whenan ENFJ dares to show their bad mood to you and display their more raw state that has these things like bad moods too, it means that actually feel at ease around you and trust you enough to do. It seems "counter intuitive" a bit I think, but I think it's true. I think though that is more a general thing that necessarily a 'like/love' thing , but more a concept as a whole, but I'm actually not 100% sure if it works like that with other people too. I do know this from my enfj GF. The nicer she acts around people when she does not feel that way, the less intimacy she experiences with them.
@@PowerRedBullTypology totally agree and i think thats true since I've been doing the same with an ENFJ friend who i was in love with, felt free to share and talk with her when i am in a bad mood because somehow i felt this is my normal state and she will understand and appreciate that I trusted her otherwise i would hide it thanks for the reply
Great. So now I need to get myself a commander (which is what an ENTJ basically is).. Sometimes being an ENFJ really sucks. Especially when you're ENFJ-T :-).
@@TamsPsychAdvice ENFJ-T means ENFJ-Turbulent. This basically means I am an ENFJ, but that I also apply force when needed and not just stand aside and try to talk ppl to do what I judge needs to be done. Unfortunately, this indeed describes my personality 100%. And yes, it does get me into trouble occasionally.
nyyotam Thank you for teaching me that! I just finished making a video on ENFJ as ENTJ so look out for it in the coming weeks. I wish I had chatted with you before I made it because I would have really picked your brain. But it’s very validating and it makes me feel like I was on the right track with it so thank you for explaining. I hope you like it.
younglivingtruth younglivingtruth hey 👋 ENFJ! That's cool that you figured out my type. Isn't it kind of fun being an ENFJ? What's your favorite part about being an ENFJ? Thank you so much for watching.
Marco Albasio Hey that is soooooooooo cool!!!! What a fun house to be in with I'll bet lots of stimulating conversation. And that I mentioned all of those. What is it like being married to another ENFJ?
It's pretty good. Of course it does not mean we don't have our disagreements but we're always willing to work them out. Switching topic, I was wondering how much is one's MBTI type set at birth vs. changeable at different stages of your life or after certain key events. Do you know?
Marco Albasio I think everyone's mbti stays the same no matter what. I do not believe that people's personalities change (unless there's a brain injury or something extreme). They say you develop your third and fourth functions more as you get older-in other words, you become more comfortable with your "thinking" function even if you are a feeler, which might alter your personality. I also think of each letter as though it is on a scale of 1 to 60 and you can slide up and down on that scale which would alter how you feel and even how are you present to the world. Life has a huge impact on who we are but I still think the MBT I type remains the same. Therefore, I think you can see variations in each type because you can be an extrovert who acts more introverted and ones mbti can be greatly impacted by events, people, other influences and stressors in life. For me, I think of each Mbti type as completely different even if there is one letter difference. Hope that makes sense.
I can definitely see the E in my ENFJ when I was still a child. Losing close friends later on made me an Introvert in secondary school, but now I'm an E again!
Kimmi Roberts Haha 😆! I’m so happy to hear that. It makes me feel like I did the right thing by making ENFJ videos from my perspective. Thank you thank you thank you!
sometimes enfjs come off as this very fake type of person especialy the women..whenever they great me with this''HIIII HOW ARE YOU all smiles'' i emmedialy run inside
haha!! I was about to say the same thing. INFP's with their Fi are prettty much always so boldly against any use of Fe. If INFP's would not disvalue Fe so much, maybe the world would be a bit easier for them. They often act extremely selfish and are proud to do so, because it's so opposite of acting in an Fe-type of manner, which is not selfish. In that sense I feel little empathy for INFP's who are like that, because that's what you get if you just only care about yourself and not about others (and are proud to be that way)
No, I did not say that anywhere or (meant to) imply that ENFJ's are 'manipulative'. My girlfriend is an ENFJ and she's great, and far from what one typically describes as "manipulative". She does, however, have a harder time to value/prefer her use of Fi over her use of Fe. She is getting better at it, but her "automatic mode" tends to "get tricked in" favouring the desires of others and keeping harmony over her own desires. This is not what I would call manipulative at all, but the downside of having a first function that is more aimed at keeping the harmony in the external world (fe) rather than keeping the harmony in the internal world (Fi) . This simply means the ENFJ in question could fall into the 'trap' of making her enviroment happier than herself (or himself), just as well as Fi users can get too self absorbed. Both types usually need to learn to use the other's function more to become more balanced when it comes to being aimed at the others and the self. However, the problem is that for ENFJ's things easily feel "too self centered" , when they would value their own desires equally as the desire of the other person(s). Maybe for this reason both types dislike eachother/misunderstand eachother often. The ENFJ, being "the giver", tends to be far from self centered but might forget who they are and what they want themself, while the INFJ is very self focussed and feels that putting another person first is not authentic.
I disagree though with "most enfj's are *manipulative* ', as their function Fe is about harmony and although they're more indirect and not blunt in their way of expression, their goals are mostly aimed om being helpful to the people around them, rather than 'manipulating' things to get the best outcome for themselves. If anything, they counter value their own desires in favour of other people's desires. In general how the word 'manipulative' is used, it tends to be viewed as to indirectly say things to people for own gain, and I have not met an ENFJ who really does that. Maybe it would feel different for an INFP though, because their view of Fe as a function is so vastly different. I can however see how Benny (first comment) perceives ENFJ's and possibily ESFJ's to be 'fake', because how they behave is very opposite of INFP's, in the sense that ENFJ's will generally act nice to everyone although they might feel miserable, because they do not want to burdon others with their emotional problem's. They want to make others feel as good as possible, no matter how they feel themselves...that is their goal of being nice. The INFP on the other hand will problably tell the other person how they are feeling, and value less if they burdon the other person with their emotional problems. This is why the INFP is often perceived to be more more whiny type. They purposely have no filters in that area, unless they are too scared to tell how they feel. I personally prefer the ENFJ's approach where they take my emotional state into account rather than just throwing all the negativity out there...Of course this is probalbly because i am a (low) Fe user (INTP - Fe 4th slot) which makes me prefer it over the other thing, which really does make the perception of either ways of expressing very subjective and dependant on the type you are....There is not really a better or worse way, but like I said in the first comment, I do think the downside for INFP's is that when I look at their happyness, it does seem seem quite low and they express often to feel misunderstood.. The reason I do think Fi's can easily get too selfish though is because their value systems are both a feeling system about ethics (and not necessarily logical) , and both internal, which are basically both aspects of the function that make the function more out of touch with the external objective world as it actually is. So the Fi-dom's can more easily have the problem of viewing things in an extremely subjective manner, which could result in them viewing their own problems bigger than those of others around them for example, not so much because they want to do that, but because they themselves only really experience their own inner world much more intensily rather than being able to be able to more objectively observe those of others in a similar manner, and their Fi function is basically the most subjective function there is out of all the 4 judging functions there is . Thinking functions have the benefit of being more rational which decreases the chances of it being too subjective and Fe is a function that is all about how others feel and the balance between others which decreases it's likelyhood of being very subjective too. So in the end the Fi-dominant could end up being too selfish, but also too selfless, because it just depends how they just happen to perceive a certain ethical believe about a certan subject. If an Fi-dominant has an ethical believe that for example feminism is extremely important issue, then the Fi-dom is more likely to overrate problems of others related to gender equality, where if they do not view feminism important, they will tend to undervalue the problem. So when someone else has their bad experience with gender-discrimination and talks to the Fi-dom about it, the Fi dom will either overvalue the problem of the other, or undervalue it, based on their own ethnical believe, rather than viewing the real emotion the other person is question is perceiving to have in reality...so the Fi dom might give the best moral support ever if they happen to view your type of problem as ethical, but they might not if they do not view it as important..it just depends on how they themselves view it.
I wonder if Obama, or many other celebs for that matter, are really that easy to type. Celebrities like Obama are extremely trained in behaving in a certain way, that they in a way a similar to actors who play a character in a movie. The only difference is that the general public is aware that the actor is an actor, but not that the celebrity/politician is basically one too.
I KNEW you were an ENFJ, totally felt it in.. everything haha! Love it
TheAwakenedINFJ hey that's so cool! I always wonder if the ENFJ comes through. Lol Thanks for recognizing my type :-)
@@TamsPsychAdvice I also caught the vibe as a fellow ENFJ because I'm just like "This seems too deep and accurate for her to NOT be an ENFJ"
I like the point you said about them molding you into something you might not have been otherwise, or getting people out of bad relationships... I feel that ENFJs were made to be everyone's soulmate.
Wow at 4:30 it really described my recent break up with my friend. I am an ENFJ, and my friend is not. Basically, she texted me a huge paragraph saying how small things I do such as finishing work before her in classes makes her feel stupid and she couldn't live like that anymore. I know she is very insecure and has her own personal battles to deal with, but I still took this very personally and put all the blame on myself and constantly tried my best to apologise and tell her saying I was going to be a better friend.
Oh my god i literally had to pause the video once she started talking about being alone for too long therefore, feeling the need to stay busy...all I can say is quarantine is rough. Also, the picking apart of every comment and just overthinking makes so much sense to me now. I really do be noticing everything
As an ENFJ, I’ve been watching a few of your videos about ENFJ and I’m so shocked how it’s really accurate! I enjoy listening to you and getting to know more about myself. Thank you🥰
Awwwww you are truly welcome! Be sure to watch my latest ENFJ videos and check back each week for more Enfj videos ☺️
Truth.
I'm pretty blown away by accuracy of everything you said. As an ENFJ myself, I can totally relate. Thank you for the insight!
Falco Fessard Wow! That makes me feel so good 😊. Thank you for watching and your nice comment!
Wow another great video Tam. As an ENFJ, I totally get people's insecurities projected on me and it can be really hurtful. You gave a great strategy of how to deal with it though.
Aaron Johnson You're right it can feel awful and the worst part is you know exactly what's going on but you can't always do much about it--it's maddening lol! So glad you found this video helpful & thanks for the compliment.
Yo A-A-RON 🤜🏽🤛🏽 🤣
the depression thing is true. i dont want to go out because i'm going through a depressive period, but im getting more depressed because i'm not going out --> depression --> dont go out --> depression etc etc. so i'm in that place right now. I like going to work because i just have to go there. No other choice.
Yeah it kind of freaks me out when I can read people's minds but I do trust it so of course it doesn't go away!
Clementine Violets It's a very special gift! Thanks for watching my video 🙂
Ya scared me when u revealed tht u r one urself!
Douglas Au Ha ha so funny 😂 Thanks for watching!
I’ve never learned so much about myself from someone I’ve never met thank you
Awwww 🥰 thanks!
Well said. 😊
I'm so happy YOU are the one talking about ENFJs, I'm really enjoying learning about this internal wiring I didn't understand much, until now! Thank you!
WOW, just wow :)
Thanks for the explanation of ENFJ, proud to be an ENFJ :)
Cheng Fox 🦊 You’re very welcome 😊! Yes you are an amazing type for sure. Thanks for watching.
ENFJ here, feels nice to be understood 😊
I think we ENFJ’s are very sexy. And even INFJ’s!
I love my ENFJ. He's the best & smartest man I've ever known.
~INFJ~
So sweet!
Enfjs are so lucky- they're, to me, the best type: intuitive yes in the moment, warm and friendly, but equally analytical.
I AGREE! She’s totally an ENFJ 😆
GUess *MY* Type, Lovely ENFJ Tamy facebook.com/emilyannecox
Pls don't forget INFP. All of my partners have been INFP's. Truly the best friends
Elizabeth Arruda Very true and I really like INFPs--we get along so well. Thanks for sharing 🤓
Elizabeth Arruda -
Hi Lizz, What do you mean by partners??
@@jrcmes I assume she means girlfriends (in the romantic sense). I am a lesbian and I referred to my ex"wife" and ex-girlfriend as my partners when we were together. It's like a serious girlfriend, similar to a hetero common-law relationship, since until recently, most serious gay couples could not be legally married. We referred to our mates as "partner".
Half of my friends are INFPs. They’re amazing people!
Very well explained ! As an ENFJ i totally agree🌸
Jessy MASSE Coach oh I see that you are an ENFJ! How fun. I'm glad you enjoyed my video.
Wooow!!!! I have never felt UNDERSTOOD!!!! 💯💯💯💯💯
As an ENFJ my ENTJ friend and I get along so so well, and I always look up to her as a strong leader. We just clicked straight away.
Gerry Vy I know! I have found that I click with ENTJs also! I have also had ENTJ bosses that I admire from afar. 😊
I know this is two years later, but... Your post was interesting to me, because my father is an ENTJ. He was very demanding, controlling and emotionally abusive and aloof when I was growing up. Then we had a huge fight when I was 18, that threw me into a dark depression for several years. Becoming a Christian saved me from probably ending my life. But the good news is that after 20 years of not talking to each other, we reconciled and realized just how much we actually “get” each other. He respects my intellect and way of thinking. And he loves my sense of humor. 🤪 It took almost 40 years for us to become close as father and daughter, but I’m so thankful that we are now.
I'm ENFJ and my favorites and closest loved ones are always NFs :') I am always fascinated by NFs and adore them so much! :') I also have some close INTs and I appreciate them too! :) And I attest that I am really an intense person. ;u;
I’ve come to realize that it’s the Intuitive in people that I most relate to. NFs the most, of course. I have the most difficulty with ESFJs and ESFPs. S types don’t get me AT ALL! Yet I’m married to an ESTJ. Go figure! 😁 We’ve had many rough moments, but have made it to our 38th wedding anniversary by God’s grace. ☺️
@@truepeace3 Wow! Love really moves in mysterious ways! ;) So happy for you both! I believe compatibility is something we work on put efforts on! ^^ Stay strong to the both of you!!! ^_^
@@NekoNyanNyanNyanNyanNyan Yes it does! 😊 Thank you for the kind words. 💖 And you are so right. People give up too quickly on “bad” marriages. When I look back on our difficult times, I appreciate how far we’ve come. And how we’ve both helped strengthen the other one’s weaknesses. He’s also helped me get out of my head, when I start going down the proverbial rabbit hole (which ENFJs can often do). He’s really kept me grounded.
@@truepeace3 That's good to hear. ^^ I really believe all personality types can get along with any personality type. ^^ Yes, I also believe conflicts and setbacks can make relationships stronger! I am glad you did not give up on each other! :)
I enjoyed your video. My boyfriend is ENFJ, I am so intrigued by him and love to understand him better. Thanks!!
Thank you and I hope you two have an amazing relationship forever and ever!
I think having children really helped me get thoughts that I would obsess over out of my head. I don't think about the future as much, which actually used to be maddening. I couldn't think about how good things were in the present. Now I can, since I've had children. But it was a huge and difficult transition for me but I think it was good for my perspective on life. I can now relate to more people since I've had children, and feel like I can understand the human condition on a much deeper level.
Alexis Schroeder Ah what an incredible realization! One of the most amazing things about the Enfj is they’re always growing and evolving and going to new heights. Yes it’s weird how the present moment can be so elusive to us. I’m glad having children has given you a new level of peace ☮️. Thanks for sharing!
@@TamsPsychAdvice You are so good at explaining ourselves to us. You are also nice to listen to on youtube. Thank you!
Wow! That was awesome. No wonder you can explain ENFJs so well, you're one too!😄
HoneyBlissClothing Aw you're so nice! Thanks so much 🙂
My sister and my bestfriend are both infj, i'm thankful to them!! btw, I like your videos! Nice! Thank you for making videos like this! ❤
Omg this is so true but, I don't have a big ego, I'm confident. Huge difference!
Listy Yep good point! Thanks for watching!! Like ur pic 😊
I’m back 5 months later since initially watching this video. Since then, I’ve learned A LOT about myself. I had no idea how my Fe and Ni would drain me socially. Since my self awareness, I have indeed “retired” from a lot of that and become more present and sensory (balancing the S & N). Trust me this quarantine has helped a LOT with this time of self discovery. Also since this video, I’ve tapped into the Enneagram system. Turns out I’m an 8w9 SP subtype. Weird combo but accurate. It as well explains a lot about me lol. I’m now able to understand how I can use the MBTI & Enneagram for balance. I’ve been tapping more into my 8 lately by focusing more fully on my life and future and not SOOO mentally invested and curious of other people when I speak to them. With the help of the 8, I’m able to cut off that Ni curiosity a lot sooner and see things more objectively- bring out that inferior Ti! This therefore balances the T & F. (Also, as an 8 I go to Enneagram 2 in health which looks like an ENFJ but with my 8 I can go to 2 with more balance.) Considering my Enneagram type, I can DEFIANTLY understand what you said when people think you’re always nice 😂 it makes you upset bc YOU KNOW it’s not entirely true. But in conclusion I think it’s safe to say I’m a healthy eight (with the big help of the wing 9) and a healthy ENFJ. Thank you sooo much for your content. I’ll never forget how understood I felt as a first timer!! 🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️
Aw that’s so great! And I just learned a whole lot from you-so thank you. 😉
Aha! Now I know...my hunch was right on :-) (you are an ENFJ) ;-) I have two friends that I for sure find fascinating, one is an INFJ she is somewhat mysterious to me but so genuine and has an amazing intellect (literally like a walking talking Encyclopedia so we can talk and talk about so many interesting things) and the other one is an ENFJ and she also is amazing! it's like we ride the same wave and take turns boosting each other to each other's strengths :-) Again you are hitting the nail on the head and catch my self LOL'ing because it's all so true!!! Love your vids!! I'll be watching more!! :-D
Kimberly M Awesome-it’s so cool to have friends who have similar or are the same type. You’re so lucky and It’s so good that you cherish your friendships.
Holy cow thank you, this has been the best description of how I feel , I have been trying to figure out and put into words these emotions. This has been incredibly therapeutic and so fascinating , thank you again 🏳️🌈🥸❤️
I am so happy to hear it!
I'm an ENFJ, and I approve this message.
Can you PLEASE do a ESFP and ENFJ compatibility video. I can find none on UA-cam! You touched on it at the very end of this!
could you make more videos on the relationship of enfj with other types? I enjoyed this one so much and I am so glad that i found ur channel💕
Amino Acid Ko Thank you so much and yes I'd love to make more videos like this one! Thanks for letting me know your interest--It makes me happy u watched it🙂!
@@TamsPsychAdvice Yes, please do INTJ and ENFJ. Thank you! :-)
Aubrey Great Idea!
Wow! You know me. lol This is great!
INFJ is the most mysterious. The INFJ stare can be a little unnerving for people.
Yess! The different types of friendships analogy with the flower metaphor was so accurate
I knew it! The way that you talk about us is like...Imma try to show the facts and stuff.. But.... whatever I am an ENFJ too! 😅
fccpaixao Haha 🤣 True! I tried to hide that I’m an ENFJ for a long time in case everyone thought my descriptions were crazy 😜. LOL Thanks for watching 🥰
@@TamsPsychAdvice I have to applaud for those videos, your words about ENFJ feeds me with clarity and positivity and I apreciate it so much, not so long ago I was very depressed. 💗
fccpaixao You’re welcome 😉 and I’m so glad my videos have helped you! I pray that your depression stays away. Keep pressing 4ward.
Jesus!!!!! Omg! I really connected with JC in Mel Gibson’s film... especially his sense of humour about the table and laughing with his mum. I cried when he tripped and was overwhelmed by his sermon. I know he’s real and I have my own theory on GOD I can not believe you know all this about me... there is not a thing wrong and I love that the detrimental things are even more resonating you are very wise and I’m so glad I came across you x
Hi Melissa! There’s not much better than feeling understood. I’m so glad you found me too 😊
Your so right... there is nothing better. I am starting to realise that there are a lot more soul seers in the world today- than I thought. What a vision it would be to eat and spend time with heavenly people around a huge table. No animosity, Ceremony or greed.
I have dreamt of that scene.. seen something similar on bible covers for children and just hoped that if I was a good girl.... I might be there one day.
The dark assaults on my senses are intense at times... I wonder if anyone has real faith in anything.
I’m glad for people like you... who love others enough to dig deep for them
God love you x
I am somehow drawn to conflict...to resolve it.
i was thinking how the hell you would know so deeply about enfj... oh you actually ARE an enfj! makes perfect sense now lol you seriously make the best enfj videos.
awesome work! high five sis! -from another enfj
A. K. You made me laugh ha ha! Hi5 to you too! I think this was the video that I finally decided to admit that I am in the EMF today. Thanks so much for the compliment. I need to create lots more ENFJ videos because ENFJs are so supportive. More Enfj Videos coming soon!
Enfj intuition comes from people treating them like they are dumb, the same way a lot of other types treat children like they are dumb.
spot on!! Thanks for making these types of videos, so fascinating :)
Yay!!!
ENTJ here and I think you ENFJ's are the my favorite.....and I know at least 1 of every other type 😉
That’s awesome!
Types I like the most, as ENFJ: All feeler types, IxTPs.
Irving Malcolm Cáceres Very interesting and thanks for sharing & checking out my video!
Thank you for this video! I love ALL NFs. My Mom was an amazing INFJ (we called her a mind-reader and I swear my friends liked my Mom more than me growing up - I always admired her people skills and depth) and my ex-wife and my current gf are INFPs. My best friend is an ENFP and I have a friend at work who is ENFJ. What about ENFJs and INTJs? How would you describe their compatibility? I've been intrigued by ENFJs lately. As an INTJ, I like to find out what's going on under the surface and the ENFJ provides a nice challenge for me. But I wonder if the ENFJ finds as much pleasure in the friendship as I do. Thank you!
I’ve kind of done a video featuring both of these types together. However I need to do one that’s more relationship centered. I love INTJs and I always feel drawn to them. I don’t know if it’s because my mother is one but yes there’s definitely a natural connection! It’s good to hear someone else feels the same.
@@TamsPsychAdvice Aweeee, yeah I definitely think there is a natural connection too. :-)
Infp here. Romantically, it has only been enfj for me
People told me I am a medium and I used to second guess myself but now I relate on my feelings
Jessy MASSE Coach Enjoy your gift! Are you an ENFJ?
I believe (and it has been said) that Obama is an ENTP. As a fellow ENTP, I relate to what he was saying about "feeling very deeply" despite appearing rather emotionless. As fellow Extraverted Intuitives and Fe-Ti users, ENTPs and ENFJs certainly have similarities. Great video by the way :)
hellokitgurl4life Hey there and thank you 😊! I think ENFJs and ENTPs can have very deep and enlightening conversations. Thanks for sharing your viewpoint on Pres. Obama's Personality type.
Love your videos! My husband is an infj and I feel like so many people in his life take advantage of him but when I point it out he gets upset with me! I don’t think he trusts my intuition at all!:(
My Mom was an INFJ and I LOVE ENFJs but I do believe that in general, INFJs are superior in their people reading skills relative to ENFJs. Don't get me wrong, ENFJs are the rockstars of the people-reading world but INFJs have MAGIC! Seriously, they are magical in this way. I would give your husband the benefit of the doubt that he's probably picking up on (or has "analyzed" through his Ni) something you have not perceived. My experience has been that INFJs get weary of trying to explain their insights because it's damn near impossible and they just give up on doing that. As an INTJ, I have the same problem. I KNOW SO MUCH but it's impossible to explain it to others most of the time. Honestly, I don't even realize how much I know that they don't. It's like does a fish feel water? We just know stuff and are routinely shocked to learn that other people don't also know these things. It's exhausting.
This was very insightful. Very well done. Fun quirky. :)
Ha ha thanks so much! Btw, I like your name. Super cute
Second generation Canadian, seemed patriotic and fun at the same time. My grandparents were Mericans. Seems funny me, that my offspring, nieces and such can claim "Daughters of the American revolution" status.
So.. Does he know I have a crush on him?
Wow, this is sooo accurate! 🙏🏼 Thank you 🙏🏼
Monica Andersson You're welcome and I love ❤️ ur cat 🐱 pic--so cute!
Oh I want him to do more than just walk in my head 😊. INFJ here and I can't keep him off my mind lol
Haha
The only ENFJ I know of my sister and we don’t see eye to eye but we can talk for a long time so maybe! I never met another. I wish!
OMG this is amazing
I feel like you just explained me to the T
Makes me so happy!
Im an ENFJ-A and i hate ENFJ-T. I recently moved in a house and my roomate is a turbulent one. He is like opposite to me, he is selfish & disorganized. I hate that he isn’t emphatic enough.
🙁 I’m so sorry. I hope 🤞 you can get out of that situation soooooon.
People call me their “fun friend”
Yeah I had a feeling you might be an ENFJ hahaha. Any way, great insights, I found this really useful!
Bekah Davis Yep you’re right I’m an Enfj. This is the first video where I actually said my type. It took me a while because I kinda wanted to give people a chance to figure it out and also I didn’t know if my ENFJ would come through. So far, no one has objected. LOL. Thanks for watching.
Love NTJ's and NFJ's and NFP's. :)
Me too!
100% accurate!!😄
im an enfj and my best friend is an infj :) also my sister and like 3 other friends i have are infps lol
Tamera, if you haven't been told Imma say it...... You're frigging beautiful :D
Aw Thank you for the very kind compliment! It Means a lot to hear :-)
i have one friend who is ENFJ, we knew each other on social media but it was like boom, like if we know each other from a long time, i also have INFJ friend who and we always having that deep view of things so we can go on a limitless conversations.
can you please make a video talking about how to know if ENFJ likes you
Imad Serghini Hey there! That is so cool and thanks for sharing your story. I like your video idea--Sure I can do that. Thanks for watching.
I think the way to know an ENFJ likes you, if they feel free enough to fully be themselves around you. So unlike some other types, enfj's tend to be nice to most people. So an ENFJ acting nice and warm in that sense is not that special for an ENFJ. However, whenan ENFJ dares to show their bad mood to you and display their more raw state that has these things like bad moods too, it means that actually feel at ease around you and trust you enough to do. It seems "counter intuitive" a bit I think, but I think it's true. I think though that is more a general thing that necessarily a 'like/love' thing , but more a concept as a whole, but I'm actually not 100% sure if it works like that with other people too. I do know this from my enfj GF. The nicer she acts around people when she does not feel that way, the less intimacy she experiences with them.
@@PowerRedBullTypology totally agree and i think thats true since I've been doing the same with an ENFJ friend who i was in love with, felt free to share and talk with her when i am in a bad mood because somehow i felt this is my normal state and she will understand and appreciate that I trusted her otherwise i would hide it
thanks for the reply
Imad, are you an ENFJ?
@@PowerRedBullTypology yes i am
Just soooo good
Theodor Robinson You’re making me sooooooo happy 😃!!!!
I feel sooo... understood... I am going to download this video for if the internet is down, if you don't mind?
Movie Reviews Aw that's so nice! Thanks so much 😊
@@TamsPsychAdvice well it's deserved.. really nice content! Where did you learn this? :)
You are so beautiful in and out it radiates
where is the infp?😭
Look in the couples playlist for Enfj and Infp ☺️
Great. So now I need to get myself a commander (which is what an ENTJ basically is).. Sometimes being an ENFJ really sucks. Especially when you're ENFJ-T :-).
nyyotam LOL 😂 so funny!! Yes go get yourself an ENTJ. I dated one for a long time. Interesting that you feel partially like both types.
@@TamsPsychAdvice ENFJ-T means ENFJ-Turbulent. This basically means I am an ENFJ, but that I also apply force when needed and not just stand aside and try to talk ppl to do what I judge needs to be done. Unfortunately, this indeed describes my personality 100%. And yes, it does get me into trouble occasionally.
@@TamsPsychAdvice Guess that indeed, maybe I do need a commander, to set me straight.
nyyotam LoL 😝 Love it!
nyyotam Thank you for teaching me that! I just finished making a video on ENFJ as ENTJ so look out for it in the coming weeks. I wish I had chatted with you before I made it because I would have really picked your brain. But it’s very validating and it makes me feel like I was on the right track with it so thank you for explaining. I hope you like it.
I knew you were an enfj me too
younglivingtruth younglivingtruth hey 👋 ENFJ! That's cool that you figured out my type. Isn't it kind of fun being an ENFJ? What's your favorite part about being an ENFJ? Thank you so much for watching.
Tams PsychAdvice I like being happy and try to stay positive and you
I am ENFJ :)
Tome Very cool. Thanks so much for watching my video 🤓
I'm ENFJ. People around me: My wife is ENFJ, Oldest daughter ENTJ and Second daughter INFJ. All the compatible types you mentioned....Coincidence?
Marco Albasio Hey that is soooooooooo cool!!!! What a fun house to be in with I'll bet lots of stimulating conversation. And that I mentioned all of those. What is it like being married to another ENFJ?
It's pretty good. Of course it does not mean we don't have our disagreements but we're always willing to work them out. Switching topic, I was wondering how much is one's MBTI type set at birth vs. changeable at different stages of your life or after certain key events. Do you know?
Marco Albasio I think everyone's mbti stays the same no matter what. I do not believe that people's personalities change (unless there's a brain injury or something extreme). They say you develop your third and fourth functions more as you get older-in other words, you become more comfortable with your "thinking" function even if you are a feeler, which might alter your personality. I also think of each letter as though it is on a scale of 1 to 60 and you can slide up and down on that scale which would alter how you feel and even how are you present to the world. Life has a huge impact on who we are but I still think the MBT I type remains the same. Therefore, I think you can see variations in each type because you can be an extrovert who acts more introverted and ones mbti can be greatly impacted by events, people, other influences and stressors in life. For me, I think of each Mbti type as completely different even if there is one letter difference. Hope that makes sense.
Thanks! It makes sense.
I can definitely see the E in my ENFJ when I was still a child. Losing close friends later on made me an Introvert in secondary school, but now I'm an E again!
You get me
Justin Falzon Aw that’s so good and I’m so glad 😀😀😀
Are they controlling and manipulative?
Girrrrrrrllll!!!! I’m just like but howwwwwww? N then you’re like oh I’m ENFJ! Makes seeense you’re goood!!!! Can we be friends? Lol
Kimmi Roberts Haha 😆! I’m so happy to hear that. It makes me feel like I did the right thing by making ENFJ videos from my perspective. Thank you thank you thank you!
sometimes enfjs come off as this very fake type of person especialy the women..whenever they great me with this''HIIII HOW ARE YOU all smiles'' i emmedialy run inside
haha!! I was about to say the same thing. INFP's with their Fi are prettty much always so boldly against any use of Fe. If INFP's would not disvalue Fe so much, maybe the world would be a bit easier for them. They often act extremely selfish and are proud to do so, because it's so opposite of acting in an Fe-type of manner, which is not selfish. In that sense I feel little empathy for INFP's who are like that, because that's what you get if you just only care about yourself and not about others (and are proud to be that way)
No, I did not say that anywhere or (meant to) imply that ENFJ's are 'manipulative'. My girlfriend is an ENFJ and she's great, and far from what one typically describes as "manipulative".
She does, however, have a harder time to value/prefer her use of Fi over her use of Fe. She is getting better at it, but her "automatic mode" tends to "get tricked in" favouring the desires of others and keeping harmony over her own desires. This is not what I would call manipulative at all, but the downside of having a first function that is more aimed at keeping the harmony in the external world (fe) rather than keeping the harmony in the internal world (Fi) . This simply means the ENFJ in question could fall into the 'trap' of making her enviroment happier than herself (or himself), just as well as Fi users can get too self absorbed. Both types usually need to learn to use the other's function more to become more balanced when it comes to being aimed at the others and the self. However, the problem is that for ENFJ's things easily feel "too self centered" , when they would value their own desires equally as the desire of the other person(s). Maybe for this reason both types dislike eachother/misunderstand eachother often. The ENFJ, being "the giver", tends to be far from self centered but might forget who they are and what they want themself, while the INFJ is very self focussed and feels that putting another person first is not authentic.
ended up on this page again and figured you did mean that entirely different - LOL
INTP
I disagree though with "most enfj's are *manipulative* ', as their function Fe is about harmony and although they're more indirect and not blunt in their way of expression, their goals are mostly aimed om being helpful to the people around them, rather than 'manipulating' things to get the best outcome for themselves. If anything, they counter value their own desires in favour of other people's desires. In general how the word 'manipulative' is used, it tends to be viewed as to indirectly say things to people for own gain, and I have not met an ENFJ who really does that. Maybe it would feel different for an INFP though, because their view of Fe as a function is so vastly different.
I can however see how Benny (first comment) perceives ENFJ's and possibily ESFJ's to be 'fake', because how they behave is very opposite of INFP's, in the sense that ENFJ's will generally act nice to everyone although they might feel miserable, because they do not want to burdon others with their emotional problem's. They want to make others feel as good as possible, no matter how they feel themselves...that is their goal of being nice.
The INFP on the other hand will problably tell the other person how they are feeling, and value less if they burdon the other person with their emotional problems. This is why the INFP is often perceived to be more more whiny type. They purposely have no filters in that area, unless they are too scared to tell how they feel.
I personally prefer the ENFJ's approach where they take my emotional state into account rather than just throwing all the negativity out there...Of course this is probalbly because i am a (low) Fe user (INTP - Fe 4th slot) which makes me prefer it over the other thing, which really does make the perception of either ways of expressing very subjective and dependant on the type you are....There is not really a better or worse way, but like I said in the first comment, I do think the downside for INFP's is that when I look at their happyness, it does seem seem quite low and they express often to feel misunderstood..
The reason I do think Fi's can easily get too selfish though is because their value systems are both a feeling system about ethics (and not necessarily logical) , and both internal, which are basically both aspects of the function that make the function more out of touch with the external objective world as it actually is. So the Fi-dom's can more easily have the problem of viewing things in an extremely subjective manner, which could result in them viewing their own problems bigger than those of others around them for example, not so much because they want to do that, but because they themselves only really experience their own inner world much more intensily rather than being able to be able to more objectively observe those of others in a similar manner, and their Fi function is basically the most subjective function there is out of all the 4 judging functions there is . Thinking functions have the benefit of being more rational which decreases the chances of it being too subjective and Fe is a function that is all about how others feel and the balance between others which decreases it's likelyhood of being very subjective too.
So in the end the Fi-dominant could end up being too selfish, but also too selfless, because it just depends how they just happen to perceive a certain ethical believe about a certan subject.
If an Fi-dominant has an ethical believe that for example feminism is extremely important issue, then the Fi-dom is more likely to overrate problems of others related to gender equality, where if they do not view feminism important, they will tend to undervalue the problem. So when someone else has their bad experience with gender-discrimination and talks to the Fi-dom about it, the Fi dom will either overvalue the problem of the other, or undervalue it, based on their own ethnical believe, rather than viewing the real emotion the other person is question is perceiving to have in reality...so the Fi dom might give the best moral support ever if they happen to view your type of problem as ethical, but they might not if they do not view it as important..it just depends on how they themselves view it.
the moment you realise you don't know any other ENFJs
also my mom is an entj. it's a tumultuous relationship sometimes but we know we fiercely love each other despite our differences. commitment, baby!
I met one recently. I like him a lot 🥰
An advice for fellow ENFJs.
Don't be stoic. Become a stoic.
Ancient greek philosophy solved all my problems I ever had with my type.
funny you say that because I just started heavily researching stoic philosophy hahaha, I agree
Jesus is definitely an infj
It’s possible
obama is typed entp on idrlabs
I wonder if Obama, or many other celebs for that matter, are really that easy to type. Celebrities like Obama are extremely trained in behaving in a certain way, that they in a way a similar to actors who play a character in a movie. The only difference is that the general public is aware that the actor is an actor, but not that the celebrity/politician is basically one too.
was going well until the magic started
I want them to just say how things are! They need to stop 'pretending' they're fine when they're not! It comes across fake and not honest
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Lol wtf was this intro