That's why you put yourself first and love yourself Unconditionally...self love and strict boundaries will repel narcissist and anyone that vibrate in a lower frequency
I am an enfj and I really relate to everything you said. I love being able to connect to people on that level. However, sometimes I really do get exhausted by it, if a person continuously pushes their feelings on me. It’s like I’m their shock absorber. P.s. the polkadots are really cute but they make the video hard to watch after a while because it messes with the eyes. This is totally not a criticism, just a personal observation!
Also. PATTERNS...catching reaction in a person's character. And knowing after while what outcome will be of a situation . I actually have been doing this and helped prevent serious situations
I'm an ENFJ and a psychologist, I found a job being a therapist and I was extremely good at my job (modest aside), but little by little, and without even really noticing, I realized that even when I was doing everything the right way to avoid burnout, I went full on dark ENFJ, I blocked my emotions and blocked my patients emotions too, in a clinical setting I was doing my job and I was doing it perfectly, but inside I was dying, it took an extremely strong experience for me to realize that I needed to quit and focus on what I really wanted in life, it took a lot of therapy to stitch myself back together, but to this day I still struggle with that... 🤷♀️
@@antidepresan3394 psychology is a beautiful career but being a therapist is absolutely not the only thing you can do with the degree. I've always loved neuroscience and that's why I'm focusing on continuing my studies in that area. I'm saying this because I love love love my degree, it's just that for a few years I wasn't on the right path career wise. If you like something there's always a path where you can do it but in a healthier way too. Sorry for this long answer 😩
@@papl20 not a problem. I tried to say going university for psycology i gaved up. Because it would be so negative because of absorbing emotions. So we are the natural psycolog but no degree:)
Tam! You just read me like a book. It’s like listening to an audiobook about your life. Wow! I love that God blessed me with this personality because this world needs empathetic people and I just want to uplift and inspire one person at a time. Thanks for this 😘
Kevin & Janay I know! You can touch so many lives because you can go deeper and really understand people in a way that others may not be able to so I think it’s great that you don’t mind using your gifts to help others. Yay 😃 keep that up! By the way, I had thrown this video in the trash and then retrieved it because I had the FLU 🤒. LOL glad I didn’t now. Yikes!
This is amazing... As I am listening to you, not only am I identifying so much with this but I am recoginizing that much of what you are saying are in line with the spiritual gifts of discerning of spirits, prophecy and enfj's/empaths are definitely intercessors. Unfortunately, most people don't know the bible to know what intercession especially enfj's but it would be so helpful because then there would be less feelings of overwhelm and carrying others emotions and issues because they'd know what to do with them and WHY. Very interesting. I believe enfj's could be the repairers of the breaches that exist among humanity if we understood better the gift we've been given to be such! Thank you Beauty...Shalom!
Restoration Eden Ministries I love how are you tie it into the Bible. You’re so right! I believe in Jesus and I know that a lot of my intuition comes from him and learning how to communicate with him and receive messages from him so it’s nice that someone else understands this too. Yay 😀 good for you for studying the Bible. Keep that up!
@@TamsPsychAdvice Hey Sis!!! Ahhh yesss... I discerned that you KNEW so I felt free to share it. Thanks for sharing what you share. It's helping me get the understanding and balance I need to go forward without burning out due to being so empathic. Appreciate ya. Shalom.
Thank you so much for this video. It feels amazing to be understood. Unfortunately, very few people understand me at that level; especially on how we feel the energies and get exhausted from it.
I like how you describe our senses on picking up people’s emotions like going into a room full of ping pong balls, that’s why I sometimes unconsciously laugh at someone not because they did something funny but because the way they portray their emotions to another person is just so entertaining and intriguing to me cause I do feel it deep into my bones ( but also because I like to know their reactions and how their minds work)
So incredible, I related to about 98% of this video. It’s very much so empowering in a way to hold this ribbon. Knowing that your good is really good and that we truly care about others is just dope.
Wow... boom yes as long as your love language is being met I'm okay. This is so dead on!! We actually take on so much more than the world understands and may think we are weird but have no idea how much we have dusregarded in their bad behaviors cuz we truly don't give a shit to be bothered emotionally by the nonsense that they live in. We literally ignore so much of the world around us and sacrifice more than we even notice. The struggle with being an enfj people around us don't truly provide a support or understanding pf who we truly are. We mostly only have ourselves to turn to. We are so genuine and love old fashioned and if u have matured in emotions and self awareness then it's even more lonely cuz we have to dub ourselves down.
As an enfj, I feel like my empathetic abilities are way too overwhelming- Like for example, I’d see someone extremely frustrated and infuriated and despite me being happy just a few seconds ago, I’d suddenly feel angry and then I’d just get so frustrated because idk where that emotion is coming from and why I’m feeling it- like, it just comes so naturally that I don’t even realize it sometimes :]
Watching the news is like standing right beside those effected! Even historical text I can be transported back there. And yes! Totally am trying to solve the communities issues. Already have some things written down about how to get it done, 😂.
Psychedelic Hip Hop ha ha! Thank you. It’s kind of fun right? it may be the only time you ever see it. I actually redid this video with a different background weeks later but it lacked in content and was not authentic so I ended up publishing this one instead. It was a tossup. Zany background or better content. What’s crazy is I also had the flu when I did this video...
I love the message of this video and agree with a lot. I also agree with the sensory overload, the background is a bit much, but I closed my eyes and listened.
ENFJ empath here. I thought what you said was really well put. Loved the videos, they were quite insightful in helping me understand a bit more about myself.
Zahirah Azahar Congratulations ENFJ 🎊🎉🍾🎈! I’m so excited for the journey you are about to endeavor. You are an amazing type so enjoy learning and inspiring others!
Thanks for your comment on my video. I am ENFJ and always wondered if I am an empath as my empathy is extremely strong but from hearing what empath is, I don't think I am one. I am very HSP. But it could be that I am. I can struggle for other people a lot. My intuition and reading non-verbal language is my superpower and always been. Yes, I have heavy emotional reactions to what happens around me and on TV. that's why I don't watch TV already like 16 years. Psychohygiene is extremely important for me There is nothing I can do about it. Regarding what you said about taste the food without eating it also works the same with looking at the massage. You can get the feeling of being massaged by just looking at it and imaging other person great feelings in you. It works with me always. Thanks for the great video, Keep up good work. Tom
Tome thanks so much for the encouragement! Honestly, some days I wonder if I’m helping anyone at all so I appreciate your feedback. I think it’s very hard making videos. Do you? I think you have a great channel and I look forward to watching more of your videos. I love how you call intuition and reading people your super power! That is a very cool way of looking at it. Because it is an amazing gift. I’ll bet you are empathic. I am HSP also. I think ENFJs can be very smart in whatever their interests are and they can become masters at it.
@@TamsPsychAdvice Sorry to hear your struggle with youtube. I have exactly the same problem. There is a load of work in my videos and algorithm is against me. There are some videos they got more views so more people could have been helped but generally, the number of people watching is very very small so I also struggle a lot with the motivation of doing it. So I know how you feel. To speak about psychology subject it can make us very tired but on another hand, we want to help so this reward of feedback from people would make us continue and rewarded. If there is no feedback from other people we just becoming mentally tired by digging into deep subject and reward is nowhere so it is a downward spiral. I appreciate your work and wish you more subs and views! Tom
Im a med tach. (Medication distribution and management) so at work I literally do all my little office things and then take my medication cart into the abyss of the halls and I feel good that way...because there is alot of everything being around everyone and it too much. Yes DRAINED
I have family i literally cant be around too much its like the feelings become like a shroud and it can be good energy or bad. Smh. Its a silent struggle. Meanwhile on the outside your like😁 and inside...😕💫
Yeah. Can't see movies for over 16 years old. Often can't see movies that are for over 12! Movies that don't end well, I angrily throw in the trash. I just cannot see meanness. Have no place to put it. Keeps on hurting me. But movies, which portray the world made better through personal sacrifice and raw guts? Those I eat up.
Enfj here- I find your channel interesting, the mix of mbti personality disorder videos. The mix of pds and mbti is a topic I've always been interested in as I lived with borderline pd for so long (thanks to dbt its in remission now). I think a lot of my bpd development relates to being an enfj/empath. I grew up in an incredibly absuive environment with my bipolar alcoholic father going through crisis after crisis and my obsessive compulsive personality disordered mother, an intj (which I bet correlate) always an anxious wreck punishing me in a highly abusive way for not being able to live up to her unattainable standards... Growing up in this environment as an enfj I absorbed all of what was around me and it damaged me more than I think it would have if I wasn't such an empath. My brother is an istp and escaped relatively unscathed... But not me. Anyway, I would be interested in videos bringing these two topics together if possible, I think it's really fascinating... Personality disorder predispositions related to mbti types. Anyway thanks for the vid!!
Tonberry Queen Wow! Thank you for sharing your life story. I would love to do a video on this! It’s such a great idea. It’s amazing that you found the strength to embrace the healing process which ENFJs are energized to grow internally forever. We like challenging ourselves to evolve and feel better mentally. I’m so glad you appreciate my channel! Thanks for watching and I pray continued healing for you.
I'm an ENFP just started dating an ENFJ. He opened up to me about alot of personal stuff he said he never mentioned to his ex fiance. I know he cares. How do I continue to challenge him to open up further. I have a tendency to push and pull away. But its cause I feel people as well.
ENFJs tend to internalize their problems rather than share unless they feel someone really cares. When he does open up, validate and be a safe place 😊. That’s awesome!
Being a ENFJ is challenging. Because we are empathic, we tend to attract selfish, narcisstic people.
Hi friend! Gosh I wish this wasn’t true but darn it it is. They love us.
That's why you put yourself first and love yourself Unconditionally...self love and strict boundaries will repel narcissist and anyone that vibrate in a lower frequency
I am an enfj and I really relate to everything you said. I love being able to connect to people on that level. However, sometimes I really do get exhausted by it, if a person continuously pushes their feelings on me. It’s like I’m their shock absorber.
P.s. the polkadots are really cute but they make the video hard to watch after a while because it messes with the eyes. This is totally not a criticism, just a personal observation!
if non enfj's saw this they would think we crazy
miss love haha! They might. LOL 😂 Thanks for watching
🤣🤣🤣🤣💯%
Also. PATTERNS...catching reaction in a person's character. And knowing after while what outcome will be of a situation . I actually have been doing this and helped prevent serious situations
I'm an ENFJ and a psychologist, I found a job being a therapist and I was extremely good at my job (modest aside), but little by little, and without even really noticing, I realized that even when I was doing everything the right way to avoid burnout, I went full on dark ENFJ, I blocked my emotions and blocked my patients emotions too, in a clinical setting I was doing my job and I was doing it perfectly, but inside I was dying, it took an extremely strong experience for me to realize that I needed to quit and focus on what I really wanted in life, it took a lot of therapy to stitch myself back together, but to this day I still struggle with that... 🤷♀️
Because of this i gave up being a pschologist even im interested in so much.
@@antidepresan3394 psychology is a beautiful career but being a therapist is absolutely not the only thing you can do with the degree. I've always loved neuroscience and that's why I'm focusing on continuing my studies in that area. I'm saying this because I love love love my degree, it's just that for a few years I wasn't on the right path career wise. If you like something there's always a path where you can do it but in a healthier way too. Sorry for this long answer 😩
@@papl20 not a problem. I tried to say going university for psycology i gaved up. Because it would be so negative because of absorbing emotions. So we are the natural psycolog but no degree:)
Yup I’m an ENFJ Heyoka Empath
Because we are empaths, I find I’m quite a good actor. I can get close to crying when the character I’m playing is feeling an intense emotion.
Interesting 🤔...Sounds fun!
Tam! You just read me like a book. It’s like listening to an audiobook about your life. Wow! I love that God blessed me with this personality because this world needs empathetic people and I just want to uplift and inspire one person at a time. Thanks for this 😘
Kevin & Janay I know! You can touch so many lives because you can go deeper and really understand people in a way that others may not be able to so I think it’s great that you don’t mind using your gifts to help others. Yay 😃 keep that up! By the way, I had thrown this video in the trash and then retrieved it because I had the FLU 🤒. LOL glad I didn’t now. Yikes!
This is amazing... As I am listening to you, not only am I identifying so much with this but I am recoginizing that much of what you are saying are in line with the spiritual gifts of discerning of spirits, prophecy and enfj's/empaths are definitely intercessors. Unfortunately, most people don't know the bible to know what intercession especially enfj's but it would be so helpful because then there would be less feelings of overwhelm and carrying others emotions and issues because they'd know what to do with them and WHY. Very interesting. I believe enfj's could be the repairers of the breaches that exist among humanity if we understood better the gift we've been given to be such! Thank you Beauty...Shalom!
Restoration Eden Ministries I love how are you tie it into the Bible. You’re so right! I believe in Jesus and I know that a lot of my intuition comes from him and learning how to communicate with him and receive messages from him so it’s nice that someone else understands this too. Yay 😀 good for you for studying the Bible. Keep that up!
@@TamsPsychAdvice Hey Sis!!! Ahhh yesss... I discerned that you KNEW so I felt free to share it. Thanks for sharing what you share. It's helping me get the understanding and balance I need to go forward without burning out due to being so empathic. Appreciate ya. Shalom.
This made my night! Fellow ENFJ female here… loved this - every aspect of it. Thank you!
As a fellow ENFJ I LOVE AND APPRECIATE YOU SO MUCH !! Grateful to have found this channel 😘
Awwww thank you 😊
I strongly feel the emotions and motivations of a person. Some would think I am crazy, but that’s the truth.
Thank you so much for this video. It feels amazing to be understood. Unfortunately, very few people understand me at that level; especially on how we feel the energies and get exhausted from it.
Susanne Rechlin such a good point-it is exhausting. I’m glad you connected to my video. Thanks for watching 😊
I am addicted to your awesome videos! Very rich content! Thank You 🤗
You’re making me so happy! I speak from my heart 💜.
I feel like this resonates me so well, both as a master number 11 and ENFJ.
Sandar Surreal Yay 😁 I’m so happy 😁 to hear that. I almost didn’t release this video bc I had the Flu 🤒 when I recorded it . LOL !!
Master # 11 as well Enfj:)
I like how you describe our senses on picking up people’s emotions like going into a room full of ping pong balls, that’s why I sometimes unconsciously laugh at someone not because they did something funny but because the way they portray their emotions to another person is just so entertaining and intriguing to me cause I do feel it deep into my bones ( but also because I like to know their reactions and how their minds work)
Yesssss
I dont think people's attitude dictates how I am...I am who I am. And am vocal about good vybes only. And I that I state that for my own sanity
So incredible, I related to about 98% of this video. It’s very much so empowering in a way to hold this ribbon. Knowing that your good is really good and that we truly care about others is just dope.
Sooo good 👍
Wow... boom yes as long as your love language is being met I'm okay. This is so dead on!! We actually take on so much more than the world understands and may think we are weird but have no idea how much we have dusregarded in their bad behaviors cuz we truly don't give a shit to be bothered emotionally by the nonsense that they live in. We literally ignore so much of the world around us and sacrifice more than we even notice. The struggle with being an enfj people around us don't truly provide a support or understanding pf who we truly are. We mostly only have ourselves to turn to. We are so genuine and love old fashioned and if u have matured in emotions and self awareness then it's even more lonely cuz we have to dub ourselves down.
So we’ll said. I agree ☝️
As an enfj, I feel like my empathetic abilities are way too overwhelming- Like for example, I’d see someone extremely frustrated and infuriated and despite me being happy just a few seconds ago, I’d suddenly feel angry and then I’d just get so frustrated because idk where that emotion is coming from and why I’m feeling it- like, it just comes so naturally that I don’t even realize it sometimes :]
Yes it can be hard. So true.
Im an ENFJ, and I have totally done that cookbook thing with the pictures before that you talked about at the end 😂
Whaaaaa??? Somebody’s like me LOL!
Thank you... You described exactly how Extraverted Feeling combines with Introverted Intuition to make us ENFJs empaths.
Yay 😁
Watching the news is like standing right beside those effected! Even historical text I can be transported back there.
And yes! Totally am trying to solve the communities issues. Already have some things written down about how to get it done, 😂.
It’s so true
I love that wall
Psychedelic Hip Hop ha ha! Thank you. It’s kind of fun right? it may be the only time you ever see it. I actually redid this video with a different background weeks later but it lacked in content and was not authentic so I ended up publishing this one instead. It was a tossup. Zany background or better content. What’s crazy is I also had the flu when I did this video...
I love the message of this video and agree with a lot. I also agree with the sensory overload, the background is a bit much, but I closed my eyes and listened.
ENFJ empath here. I thought what you said was really well put. Loved the videos, they were quite insightful in helping me understand a bit more about myself.
Alejandro Vega I really love that you took the time to share this with me. Thank you ☺️
And here i thought how can everyone be so bad at faking their feelings, and feel others, now i know the answer
Thanks for watching and sharing :-)
It's interesting about being affected by noise. have to wear earplugs almost all day to concentrate.
I totally get it.
Very accurate description of myself.😐😑
FroManPro Mene Hey that’s awesome 😎! I love learning things and sharing them with you.
My Third Video i think and you're so right - jeez.
Theodor Robinson Appreciate you-it’s so nice to get feedback. Thanks for watching my videos yay!!
I DID A QUIZ AND I AM AN ENFJ :)
Zahirah Azahar Congratulations ENFJ 🎊🎉🍾🎈! I’m so excited for the journey you are about to endeavor. You are an amazing type so enjoy learning and inspiring others!
Well done, ENFJ is a beautiful type...
Thanks for your comment on my video. I am ENFJ and always wondered if I am an empath as my empathy is extremely strong but from hearing what empath is, I don't think I am one. I am very HSP. But it could be that I am. I can struggle for other people a lot. My intuition and reading non-verbal language is my superpower and always been. Yes, I have heavy emotional reactions to what happens around me and on TV. that's why I don't watch TV already like 16 years. Psychohygiene is extremely important for me There is nothing I can do about it. Regarding what you said about taste the food without eating it also works the same with looking at the massage. You can get the feeling of being massaged by just looking at it and imaging other person great feelings in you. It works with me always. Thanks for the great video, Keep up good work. Tom
Tome thanks so much for the encouragement! Honestly, some days I wonder if I’m helping anyone at all so I appreciate your feedback. I think it’s very hard making videos. Do you? I think you have a great channel and I look forward to watching more of your videos. I love how you call intuition and reading people your super power! That is a very cool way of looking at it. Because it is an amazing gift. I’ll bet you are empathic. I am HSP also. I think ENFJs can be very smart in whatever their interests are and they can become masters at it.
@@TamsPsychAdvice Sorry to hear your struggle with youtube. I have exactly the same problem. There is a load of work in my videos and algorithm is against me. There are some videos they got more views so more people could have been helped but generally, the number of people watching is very very small so I also struggle a lot with the motivation of doing it. So I know how you feel. To speak about psychology subject it can make us very tired but on another hand, we want to help so this reward of feedback from people would make us continue and rewarded. If there is no feedback from other people we just becoming mentally tired by digging into deep subject and reward is nowhere so it is a downward spiral. I appreciate your work and wish you more subs and views! Tom
Im a med tach. (Medication distribution and management) so at work I literally do all my little office things and then take my medication cart into the abyss of the halls and I feel good that way...because there is alot of everything being around everyone and it too much. Yes DRAINED
I have family i literally cant be around too much its like the feelings become like a shroud and it can be good energy or bad. Smh. Its a silent struggle. Meanwhile on the outside your like😁 and inside...😕💫
I cannot watch the news and have not been able to for several years.
Cindy Stalkup Probably because you’re an Empath. It’s so hard watching the suffering of others because you suffer with them.
Yeah. Can't see movies for over 16 years old. Often can't see movies that are for over 12! Movies that don't end well, I angrily throw in the trash. I just cannot see meanness. Have no place to put it. Keeps on hurting me.
But movies, which portray the world made better through personal sacrifice and raw guts? Those I eat up.
This is so accurate!!! thank you for the good video ♡
Wow I... this is literally me exactly
Nice video
Enfj here- I find your channel interesting, the mix of mbti personality disorder videos. The mix of pds and mbti is a topic I've always been interested in as I lived with borderline pd for so long (thanks to dbt its in remission now). I think a lot of my bpd development relates to being an enfj/empath. I grew up in an incredibly absuive environment with my bipolar alcoholic father going through crisis after crisis and my obsessive compulsive personality disordered mother, an intj (which I bet correlate) always an anxious wreck punishing me in a highly abusive way for not being able to live up to her unattainable standards... Growing up in this environment as an enfj I absorbed all of what was around me and it damaged me more than I think it would have if I wasn't such an empath. My brother is an istp and escaped relatively unscathed... But not me. Anyway, I would be interested in videos bringing these two topics together if possible, I think it's really fascinating... Personality disorder predispositions related to mbti types. Anyway thanks for the vid!!
Tonberry Queen Wow! Thank you for sharing your life story. I would love to do a video on this! It’s such a great idea. It’s amazing that you found the strength to embrace the healing process which ENFJs are energized to grow internally forever. We like challenging ourselves to evolve and feel better mentally. I’m so glad you appreciate my channel! Thanks for watching and I pray continued healing for you.
Relate to all you said but polka dots made me dizzy. Easily hypnotized. New backdrop time.
You are describing my life
I can feel you;)
I'm an ENFP just started dating an ENFJ. He opened up to me about alot of personal stuff he said he never mentioned to his ex fiance. I know he cares. How do I continue to challenge him to open up further. I have a tendency to push and pull away. But its cause I feel people as well.
ENFJs tend to internalize their problems rather than share unless they feel someone really cares. When he does open up, validate and be a safe place 😊. That’s awesome!
Wow, some of the things resonate with me so well. >//
Most NF's are empaths.
MeMe Mo Yessssssssss for sure!