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I rarely comment but this talk really resonates in me - i see a world where people are quiet about the issue or maybe not even aware that loneliness is a big deal. in the modern world, people start talking about mental health more often but loneliness is still an ''embarrassing'' topic to talk about. because there is still a huge stigma attached to it that loneliness = you're not a lovable person, and people feel ashamed to come out and talk about it. but in reality, loneliness is not about whether u r a person that deserve love or not, everyone deserves it in any forms or sizes, everyone deserves a meaningful connection to live a meaningful lives. u connect by sharing your love and forgive, u connect by understanding your faults and striving to be better, u learn everyday to seek new meanings of life.
It is the social connections and interactions with people around us. Caring and loving , without expecting anything in return. Trust your heart and live your life to the fullest. Thanks, Lissa for the inspiration.
Thank you. Having been lonely & ill for 5 years, I had a heart attack 6 months ago & discovered myself lonliness was a bigger cause than smoking. I also am learning to become my own best loving companion. I did make two new friends who I saw regularly but both moved away!
Saw this talk in person last year and was my favorite of the day. Love this and was able to talk to her after, she is just as brilliant and sweet as she comes across through the video. ❤️
Margaret Casey dear miss Casey, go get you a good multivitamin including B1-2-3!! It’s called the vitamin cure! Now when u get your vitamins get them at a local health food store, NOT a chain Retailer like Walmart or Walgreens or CVS... those vitamins are not biological absorbent to the body. They are junk basically! Get NON GMO , vegetable capsules of powder. “Vitamin Code” is amongst the very best! U can even order it online! This will get you back on the train 🚂 of happiness 😁. Now go get it! U MUST have nutrition to survive and happiness. It is not gotten with today’s “modern diet” of burgers 🍔 fries 🍟 and soda 🥤... trust me this WILL work! Cheers 🍻
Dr. Rankin, bless you! I've never ever heard someone talking like you -- and I'm not a young person... Carry on, I wish there were more doctors and people like you!
True. In rehab after a stroke, my mother barely had strength - mostly lying in bed. We took her back home, share staying with her including overnights. She walks (sometime w/o aide) brushes her teeth, feeds herself, climbs stairs, uses the facility, goes to Mass weekly and carries conversation. She’s in her own place with her family around her and has rehabbed far beyond expectations.
Lissa, I am 18 years old but you melt my heart every time you speak because you do it with such much love, wisdom and beauty. You have truly discovered how to live a beautiful, instinctive life...
Simply inspiring - she simply resonated with me! Hearing this during the COVID - 19 pandemic, I can't help but wonder out loud: "Could loneliness be a factor in the death spikes recorded during this health crisis?"
Love it that you got people to stand up and hold hands - how come we've made that so 'strange' and a thing for 'others' to do ... another example of what I call othering - thanks for quoting me on that
You are such a beautifully powerful person! A little seed that will procreate a huge healing forest for this earth, just when she needed it most! You Lissa can change the world! Thank you SO much for all of your work! I wish I could speak the way you do, u have so much courage!
Wow! "This is medicine people". I wonder what might happen if we simply took steps in our communities to create a sense of belonging? From research we know that bonding is a protective factor and it seems to me this is similar, bonding=belonging. Thank you LIssa for once again breaking a barrier so we can think differently about health and wellness :)
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There are some good points made here in the comments. First of all, there are different types of loneliness. And, one has to think about why they are lonely. What resonated with me is what Lissa said about being separated from those you love and whom you have a connection with, as being the cause. I did 3 years in prison and I was on a yard that housed 1250 women and we were at max capacity. I remember thinking how lonely I was being around 1249 other women and it was because I was locked up and away from my family and close friends. Also, so many people look externally for validation and acceptance which is why they're lonely. This causes many to enter relationships with others who might not be the best choice. So, I think you have to examine your reasons for being lonely. Is it because you're needy and look for the emptiness to be filled by others (which we know isn't healthy)? Are you lonely because you lack social ties or skills? And what about the death rate for people who get involved in toxic relationships because they can't stand being alone? If you don't like being alone because you don't like yourself, how can you expect anybody else to want to be alone with you? Not meant to be funny, but it kind of was. Lol. Seriously though.
I agree on healthcare providers should try the unprescribed medication of loneliness, the power of the mind thru meditations for a healthy body, mind and soul.
4:44 Power of LOVE in Tribe Blue Zone 7:15 Herbert Benson,MD RELAXATION Response 8:18 Lonliness is more dangerous than air pollution, obesity. 9:25 Harvard' 75 year long study. Robert Waldinger 10:44 Connection with Nature, Connection with DIVINE 12:05 Brénè Brown ... FITTING IN 12:36 Inside Job
This young doctor speaks the truth. A sense of family, even if it isn’t blood relatives, is essential to health, knowing someone cares about you and you care about them. That is basic to human survival. Being emotionally alone damages the body and weakens the will to live. Some children who are moved to a new town and school every 2-3 years don’t cope very well. It may be difficult to make new friends and develop a sense of belonging. It’s counterproductive to health and happiness. I know because I was one of those children. I am 73 now and chronically ill.
"LOVE is available at ALL TIMES. There's a FORCE of LOVE that's flowing through ME and pouring onto YOU and that's flowing through YOU and pouring onto ME. WE are EACH OTHER and WE ARE THE WORLD. " 💚🙏❗
I stumbled across this at the right moment. Last year I tried to gather 2 friends who would then invite 2 of their friends for monthly zoom sessions. We would catch up, vent, or just support each other. They said they were interested but never came through. I know how important community is, and I tried to build that within my own friend group 🤷🏾♀️ it didn’t work. But I just got into grad school for my MPH, so I’ll create that community elsewhere with people who are actually serious about it.
I love it! Thank you for the heartfelt insights. I'm a doctor too and this reminded me to be more mindful of putting the 'humane' in medicine. It felt like I was in a yoga retreat. You also did the 'namaste gesture' at the end. Hihi.
I feel that a lot of this is in the head of what you believe- being taught that we have to have this or that creates stress if we're told it's wrong or not normal if we don't have it. If people are used to being around others then separated then yes it's stressful. People can become more stressed being around others when they are not used to it. To the contrary a baby without hearing the heart close to it's mother/father etc will struggle to develop and may die -Reference history on Russian orphans neglected. Dogs/animals experience the same, new born pups may die without the heart so often a ticking clock will be placed with it. There are so many things that make us go out of sync with each other and I'm lead to believe/understand that it's more likely the music we hear, different beats influencing our own heart rhythm and chemistry. It's not limited to a sound.. our TVs and monitors and even lights have a refresh rate/pulse and this is known to cause seizures in those that aren't physically protected the same as those that don't or spike blood pressure etc. In the oldest of Tribes we've all had a drum and and this is known by older tribes as the heart. So what should the drum in music sound like? I feel a healthy heart that at times slows down to relax but may speed up with excitement. Most music "pieces" usually stay at the same pace/tempo and some genres stay the same almost always. Yes, I understand that the same kind of drum beat might sound boring, but sugar although can make things taste good is often known to be poison in nature testing unknown plants for survival for example. If people want to be alone, let them, if they want to be together let them, it' natural for beings to be al-one.
This is certainly an awesome and inspiring talk and I appreciate at least that someone puts light on such a tricky and hidden issue. But until these talks keep remaining a bunch of "befriend yourself, reconnect to love , be kind, meditate " etc. nothing will be obtained. Personally I feel sometimes kinda lonely but I try to get over it because the truth is that sometimes we are not lonely by our own choise. It just happens. And this talk didn't help me in getting over. These data just scared me and put in more social anxiety, and if I hadn't my personal psycologist I wouldn't feel so safe now. Not everyone can afford a shrink and not every relation is positive. I hope in the near future something for free psychological service will be done in as much places as possible.
If you scratch the surface of this conclusion you'll find something else at play though. So many people feel lonely even when surrounded by others so if the issue is a lack of people in your life then why would people who have so many around them feel lonely aswell? Heres something that Dr Margaret Paul investigated and wrote a book about(Healing your aloneness). What it comes down to is that you can never feel lonely so long as you are connected to yourself. And when you are connected to yourself you live in an authentic way, you follow your dreams relentlessly and you dont put on an act for anyone. Personally I've found this to be 100% true and if you are feeling lonely I would challenge you to ask yourself, are you living true to who you really are? Or are you working a 9-5, just to pay bills, and not actually living a life of purpose. So instead of thinking about how lonely you feel and its because people dont show you enough love, stop and look at your life and see if you have gone off course. People who seek their purpose find it and those people never feel lonely, even if theres nobody else around. Loneliness is not a product of how many people are in your life, its a product of not being true to who you really are.
I agree that there's a distinction between being alone and being lonely. However, that life of purpose you speak about, usually involves living for more than our pwn selfish desires. By doing that, even when you are alone, you are still connected through living purposefully.
@@mimi-cc8ul Its simple......seek and ye shall find. And that's not being dismissive, I'm speaking from first hand experience. Your purpose is not something that comes to you out of the blue, its found through experimentation and being willing to take risks. No risk it, no biscuit. You have to try lots of things in life and be willing to do the things other people wont do. If you keep after it you will absolutely, guaranteed find it.
Very true, you nailed it, thank you Dr. For those who was wondering there is something missing in life, you may have just brought many people out their misery.
I have known this for over 45 years. Statistic from Orphanages, that didn't have enough staff to hold children, had a higher mortality rates. Ancient tribes, sent those who broke taboos, away. Isolation can drive some people to suicide.
I would like to start this off by saying thank you to Ms. Rankin for sharing her knowledge and life experience with us today. This is certainly not a discussion that is brought up very often, especially in the US. Loneliness is a hard wired mechanism in us and we do crave that tribal feeling. As our species is growing into a global population, we can see ourselves desiring the tribe aspect of what makes us human through social media platforms. Regardless though, the question can be raised, how can healthcare help to resolve the loneliness principle. We see geriatric patients die from heartbreak constantly and pass from disease with nobody around them that they love or care about and it is devastating to watch. In order for us to be beneficent, or promote the most good, I think that healthcare can step in and establish programs and small groups that help minimize the loneliness aspect. What do patients want more than to feel loved and cared about, Dr. Path Adams style. Well I think in the name of beneficence, we can start training physicians to start taking the loneliness aspect of treatment seriously and a part of the treatment regimen. We currently have a social determinant of health aspect to the differential diagnosis and I think that loneliness can be considered in this. From a research perspective and to be non-maleficent, I think that we need to find a proper treatment for loneliness that fits the modern social standards. Sure, a support group is fine, but lets be honest, that’s the easy way out and it will likely not do any good. Allowing patients to truly immerse themselves into a community and feel a part of the pack is what we are after. Now, you must be thinking, well nursing homes are a thing in todays society. I think that this is better, but nobody wants to be in a nursing home, or hospice for that matter. So, to conclude, I think that more research should be done before we start forming programs that will do more harm than good. I would like to thank Ms. Rankin again for giving this talk. Thank you for reading.
Loneliness can be consider a health problem because it can cause depression, which can lead to sadness or suicide. I understand the doctor’s perspective of why we should address this issue, but it is overviewed as not a problem because is hard to “fix.” There is no universal “cure” that you can provide to people who are lonely. It is a hard problem to address because it is usually caused by secondary factors, such as age, disability, or psychological issues. However, it can be misinterpret that being lonely at just one point of your life is “unhealthy,” because, as you say, that community felt that it “belonged” for many years prior to that. Our idea of pursuing the “American Dream” pushes us away, in some cases, from our family and friends, forcing us to branch out instead of rooting in the community that saw us grow. I am very aware of the social impact of people in our health but, as much as it can benefit us, it can also limit us. You beautifully describe the importance of the relaxation period in the nervous system (which sleep plays a big role too) that helps us fight infections, and loneliness. My question to you is, what can we do about it? When I say “we” I mean anyone. Is it a public health crisis that the government should take care of or is it something we have to take in our own hands? It was interesting to listen to your argument about the separation from what is around us, like the people, starts, and mountains; but, in my opinion, there is more than meets the eyes. Yes, that is a valid reason and is backed up by many research, but I strongly believe that the intrinsic need of people, the idea of needing people, a god, or nature to “not feel lonely” is more of a problem. Although the research is overwhelmingly powerful to validate your argument, I would like us to move away or, in this case evolve, from needing people to relieve our body from stress. I do agree with part of your argument in how to heal loneliness, working with ourselves first (the inside), but most people are whether not educated enough to understand themselves and how the mind works.
Hey Manuel, I agree with your view that the solution for loneliness cannot be remedied with a simple procedure. It is rather a societal issue that needs to be solved. We have to take into consideration that we are not just gonna be able to simple solve this problem in a day or even a year. It is a gradual change that needs to be developed and nurtured so that we become a more inclusive society. We cannot continue to divided ourselves because if we do we are going promote the loneliness that is killing us. Now, if there is a way for us to increase our lifespan by just simple doing something we are biologically engineered to do. We have to continue to instill the value in love and friendship and unity so that we do not have people that feel lonely and so we can maybe get a better understanding of ourselves. It is not uncommon to think that this is something that can simply be taken care of through the government. We are on this earth to be around others we need to feel welcome and loved so that we do not allow ourselves to fall victim to diseases that should be prevent through connections. We want to feel relaxed and love so that we can even begin to focus on other things as opposed to being lonely and being focused on other things. Loneliness is extremely dangerous because we are not wired to be alone, we are not made to be without connection to each other. Lassir has given several examples that provide strong points on the fact that loneliness is a public health issue. All in all we literally need each other to survive we need to understand each others story and that love is the strongest weapon we have against disease.
Shy people do not have the gift of conversation that others do, consequently they are often rejected when they do make the effort reach out to others. Rejection is like touching a hot stove and you learn not to keep doing it. Single and shy is a double recipe for loneliness.
You'll find yours 😉. I grew up in isolation and more times prefer it honestly (except for my little ones and hubby). I'm often overwhelmed by large groups and find it hard even talking when more than two people are paying attention lol. School was so difficult for this reason. It was abnormal for me as I watched others acting "normally". I found my love who honestly is the exact opposite of my self. Our eldest is starting to share a lot of my traits in that area, whereas our youngest is a social butterfly. After my brother passed 13 years ago I began looking towards spiritual means for answers to some pretty interesting experiences I began having. My brother was my closest friend. Meditation quickly became a part of me that I never knew I was missing. From there it's the true beginning of me really living. I wish you the best in your journeys. And everyone for that matter. 🌸💮
I fell better when Im alone actually I dont understand when people is sad because they dont have friends,the last Cristhmas was alone,for others its terrible and commite suicide but for me was a normal night and I dont feel anything to be alone in Cristmas.
People who don't have a strong soul need distractions like lots of people around. It relieves them from the fear that comes from soulless living. If we would strengthen our souls, we would not get disease from being alone. It would be a blessed time.
During this awful Coronavirus pandemic the question remains: where are people supposed to find connection and intimacy when unrealistic expectations are at an all time high? This insistence for perfection is creating an entire generation of single, lonely and depressed people.
The specific heat capacity of water is quite high. So too can be the emotional capacity of a "connected human" or group of humans. One could liken this "self friending" as being similar to Jung's idea of Individuation... This literally does address the issues relating to the connectedness between humans as a lattice...
yep. And the involuntary childless who are coping with grief, loss, social marginalisation, AND multiple life-stage manifestations of loneliness. BIG problem. As it is for the elderly which is why suicide rates are so high on old age. Thats loneliness. We studied this - the effect of loneliness - in grief counselling - the facts are pretty disturbing
I think something to really consider is the gun violence epidemic we have in this country and how that can correlate to loneliness and mental health concerns. There is no clear or direct relationship between loneliness and shootings or acts of violence. It is important to note that most people who experience loneliness do not engage in violent behavior. However, loneliness and social isolation can contribute to poor mental health, which may increase the risk of violent behavior in some individuals. It is important to address mental health issues and provide support to individuals who are struggling with loneliness, to prevent them from potentially harming themselves or others. It is also essential to address the root causes of violence, such as access to firearms, social and economic inequalities, and systemic issues. If we continue to not consider all of these factors, how can we really solve loneliness?
I'm trying for years to make friends, but I couldn't. It's weird that everyone likes me and I'm always chatting with my colleagues at the university, but I couldn't do it out of the university.
I like the premise of loneliness causing health problems but am not really a fan of the affect of this talk - overly syrupy-sweet, and it feels like we’re being talked to as if we’re children - and I think Ms. Rankin needs to further and deepen her understanding of childhood trauma and the exact ways it causes us to feel alone and separate from others. Right now her approach is too spiritual bypass-y and it glosses over the serious wounds and confusion caused by child abuse and neglect. If you are real and honest with people and don’t try to protect parents by glossing over the serious, life-threatening effects of their cruelty, then you won’t need to try to people-please, be overly-sweet and goad people toward happiness and health - you will simply allow them to become aware of their true feelings from childhood (anger, rage, hatred - justifiable- towards their parents) which will put them back in touch with themselves, thereby curing their loneliness. Ms. Rankin, I highly recommend you read Alice Miller! It’s by getting in touch with the truth, and the truth of our real, disallowed feelings (because we are not *supposed* to be angry at our parents, supposedly), that people get back in touch with their real selves, heal, and become able to reconnect with others.
It's so easy to say make friends, now try it when you can hardly hear what they're saying. They avoid me because of the inconvenience. At 64 ,it's very lonely and hard, I feel like slapping people that suggest I learn to sign.😢😢
Hello, and thank you for your opinion. I would like to take a few minutes to respond in my own way. Firstly, I can understand how you would consider it to be nothing more than a correlation that loneliness appears to be directly linked with overall lesser health. I respectfully disagree. Dr. Rankin speaks early on in the video about Roseto, Pennsylvania in 1961. The people of Roseto lived very simplistic lives. Dr. Roseto uses the quote to describe Roseto in 1961 as “living the life with the power of the tribe” because the people of Roseto were never lonely. They had multigenerational homes, families went to church together, and the people of Roseto were never lonely. The research teams found that the people of Roseto were eating unhealthy foods such as meatballs fried in lard, pizza and pasta with egg and sausage, and 41% of their calorie intake came from fat. The people of Roseto had a high percentage of obese citizens, they exercised very little, and had a comparable number of smokers any other average town. The people of Roseto had accumulated these negative statistics and somehow still maintained a heart attack rate that was half the national average, had no heart attacks in men under the age of 65, and the overall rate of death for any type of cause was 30-35% lower than average. There was no suicide, no alcoholism, no drug addiction and very little crime. They didn’t have anyone on welfare and nobody had any peptic ulcers. The people of Roseto appeared to be dying of nothing more than old age and maintained a very positive lifestyle. All of these things did not add up to the type of lifestyle they were living, other than the fact that they were never lonely. This is not proof of causation, but this certainly leads me to point the finger away from simple “correlation” as you have stated. I am a nursing student, and in my health ethics class we have discussed the definition of happiness as defined by the law of utilitarianism. The definition states that complete societal happiness is unattainable, but what is attainable is a certain level of happiness that is as simple as having less pain than you had before. While we not be able to prove that loneliness is a direct cause of lesser overall health, it certainly seems to prove more than just correlating to your health. I believe very much that Dr. Rankin is correct, and that if we work on mending our loneliness, we can also, as a whole, reach that attainable level of societal happiness by improving our health, and subsequently reducing our pain.
Margaret Casey dear miss Casey, go get you a good multivitamin including B1-2-3!! It’s called the vitamin cure! Now when u get your vitamins get them at a local health food store, NOT a chain Retailer like Walmart or Walgreens or CVS... those vitamins are not biological absorbent to the body. They are junk basically! Get NON GMO , vegetable capsules of powder. “Vitamin Code” is amongst the very best! U can even order it online! This will get you back on the train 🚂 of happiness 😁. Now go get it! U MUST have nutrition to survive and happiness. It is not gotten with today’s “modern diet” of burgers 🍔 fries 🍟 and soda 🥤... trust me this WILL work! Cheers 🍻
Dogs are dying of the same diseases as humans. I do animal rescue, part of our re-training is socializing dogs that were abused, or neglected, or used in fighting rings, or... The reasons we get dogs are many, for every sad situation you can imagine. So dogs that were raised from tiny pups in a healthy environment to the sad-sacks we get from horrible situations all are at risk of the same diseases and illnesses. Why? Some of these dogs are in perfect, healthy homes, some are alone their entire lives often tied to a chain out of view of anyone, so why do all of these dogs face the risk of the same health issues? People are the same. Let me say this, if you are alone please know that there are dogs out there that need you, they need you to get out there and make a difference in your own life, by taking care of a dog that might otherwise spend its life in a shelter forever. If you can't do rescue, adopt. If you can't adopt, foster. If you can't foster, volunteer. If you can't volunteer, give, give something of yourself. Dogs can change your life, give you a purpose, give you reason to live, they can change your loneliness to wholeness. Change a life, save your own.
Western cultures usually experience loneliness because they made it themselves. Life in America encourages siblings to separate and everyone seeks their own life alone in a young age. Leaving their old parents alone and they live alone and everyone lives alone except if they have a partner. I think Family is important no matter what is your age, don't feel ashamed to live with your parents until marriage and seek their happiness u will be happy too.
well I landed here from listening to Michael Berry, he spoke about the Mormon radio dude, so I clicked on him and then Evan McMillan, (running for president in Utah) popped up on this site. it went right into this.. crazy! I've never lived alone 1 second of my life until recently,, ...indeed it's very weird!
Its terrible and so egoistic to think that we only are to give goodness to save everyone else. Unbalanced, totally superficial, utterly disregards the reality of trauma etc.,
I have a dog 🐕 as my best friend! She gets me up and moving every morning and gives me unconditional love. I don’t have many human friends and that’s ok with me. MGTOW now...
dzcafe Margaret Casey dear miss Casey, go get you a good multivitamin including B1-2-3!! It’s called the vitamin cure! Now when u get your vitamins get them at a local health food store, NOT a chain Retailer like Walmart or Walgreens or CVS... those vitamins are not biological absorbent to the body. They are junk basically! Get NON GMO , vegetable capsules of powder. “Vitamin Code” is amongst the very best! U can even order it online! This will get you back on the train 🚂 of happiness 😁. Now go get it! U MUST have nutrition to survive and happiness. It is not gotten with today’s “modern diet” of burgers 🍔 fries 🍟 and soda 🥤... trust me this WILL work! Cheers 🍻
"40% of calories come from fat" - Lissa Rankin knows shit about good diet if she belives that fat is bad for out health. Did you even hear about the ketogenic diet?
I'm maladjusted, when I saw a woman being good with pet birds, i naturally warmed to them. Isn't this supposed to be in response to a woman looking after a human baby?
I got a little frustrated that after minute 15 she started saying stuff that's true, but that lost its connection with what she was saying about the Rossetta village story. Is there any evidence that those communities were non-judging? Or just weren't ever alone? What's the connection between the stats in the early part of the talk and the qualitative/psychological claims later on?
Sexaul abuse from relatives can break up these tribes though and its usually men in the fmaily doing this 6:15 . so if you make families safer by helping men then we can all live longer
This is the MOST TRUTH concerning loneliness I have ever heard!!!!
this made me cry because it is so true. I love this. This speaks out to my heart and made me realise my souls need and purpose in this life
Yes please. Thankies *cyber hug back to you*
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I rarely comment but this talk really resonates in me - i see a world where people are quiet about the issue or maybe not even aware that loneliness is a big deal. in the modern world, people start talking about mental health more often but loneliness is still an ''embarrassing'' topic to talk about. because there is still a huge stigma attached to it that loneliness = you're not a lovable person, and people feel ashamed to come out and talk about it. but in reality, loneliness is not about whether u r a person that deserve love or not, everyone deserves it in any forms or sizes, everyone deserves a meaningful connection to live a meaningful lives. u connect by sharing your love and forgive, u connect by understanding your faults and striving to be better, u learn everyday to seek new meanings of life.
It is the social connections and interactions with people around us. Caring and loving , without expecting anything in return. Trust your heart and live your life to the fullest. Thanks, Lissa for the inspiration.
Loneliness is a painful addiction.
Thank you. Having been lonely & ill for 5 years, I had a heart attack 6 months ago & discovered myself lonliness was a bigger cause than smoking. I also am learning to become my own best loving companion. I did make two new friends who I saw regularly but both moved away!
Jane Clifford Then get OUT there and meet MORE people! Be a friend to someone in need. Don’t seek to receive, give and you SHALL receive!
Saw this talk in person last year and was my favorite of the day. Love this and was able to talk to her after, she is just as brilliant and sweet as she comes across through the video. ❤️
Margaret Casey dear miss Casey, go get you a good multivitamin including B1-2-3!! It’s called the vitamin cure! Now when u get your vitamins get them at a local health food store, NOT a chain Retailer like Walmart or Walgreens or CVS... those vitamins are not biological absorbent to the body. They are junk basically! Get NON GMO , vegetable capsules of powder. “Vitamin Code” is amongst the very best! U can even order it online! This will get you back on the train 🚂 of happiness 😁. Now go get it! U MUST have nutrition to survive and happiness. It is not gotten with today’s “modern diet” of burgers 🍔 fries 🍟 and soda 🥤... trust me this WILL work! Cheers 🍻
Dr. Rankin, bless you! I've never ever heard someone talking like you -- and I'm not a young person... Carry on, I wish there were more doctors and people like you!
True. In rehab after a stroke, my mother barely had strength - mostly lying in bed. We took her back home, share staying with her including overnights. She walks (sometime w/o aide) brushes her teeth, feeds herself, climbs stairs, uses the facility, goes to Mass weekly and carries conversation. She’s in her own place with her family around her and has rehabbed far beyond expectations.
Lissa, I am 18 years old but you melt my heart every time you speak because you do it with such much love, wisdom and beauty. You have truly discovered how to live a beautiful, instinctive life...
Simply inspiring - she simply resonated with me! Hearing this during the COVID - 19 pandemic, I can't help but wonder out loud: "Could loneliness be a factor in the death spikes recorded during this health crisis?"
Love it that you got people to stand up and hold hands - how come we've made that so 'strange' and a thing for 'others' to do ... another example of what I call othering - thanks for quoting me on that
You are such a beautifully powerful person! A little seed that will procreate a huge healing forest for this earth, just when she needed it most! You Lissa can change the world! Thank you SO much for all of your work! I wish I could speak the way you do, u have so much courage!
Wow! "This is medicine people". I wonder what might happen if we simply took steps in our communities to create a sense of belonging? From research we know that bonding is a protective factor and it seems to me this is similar, bonding=belonging. Thank you LIssa for once again breaking a barrier so we can think differently about health and wellness :)
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There are some good points made here in the comments. First of all, there are different types of loneliness. And, one has to think about why they are lonely. What resonated with me is what Lissa said about being separated from those you love and whom you have a connection with, as being the cause. I did 3 years in prison and I was on a yard that housed 1250 women and we were at max capacity. I remember thinking how lonely I was being around 1249 other women and it was because I was locked up and away from my family and close friends. Also, so many people look externally for validation and acceptance which is why they're lonely. This causes many to enter relationships with others who might not be the best choice. So, I think you have to examine your reasons for being lonely. Is it because you're needy and look for the emptiness to be filled by others (which we know isn't healthy)? Are you lonely because you lack social ties or skills? And what about the death rate for people who get involved in toxic relationships because they can't stand being alone? If you don't like being alone because you don't like yourself, how can you expect anybody else to want to be alone with you? Not meant to be funny, but it kind of was. Lol. Seriously though.
Lissa, your thoughts touched my soul, you are the healthcare giver as it should be!
I agree on healthcare providers should try the unprescribed medication of loneliness, the power of the mind thru meditations for a healthy body, mind and soul.
brought tears to my eyes. Feeling go back to my country and stay with my family.
4:44 Power of LOVE in Tribe
Blue Zone
7:15 Herbert Benson,MD RELAXATION Response
8:18 Lonliness is more dangerous than air pollution, obesity.
9:25 Harvard' 75 year long study. Robert Waldinger
10:44 Connection with Nature,
Connection with DIVINE
12:05 Brénè Brown ... FITTING IN
12:36 Inside Job
This young doctor speaks the truth. A sense of family, even if it isn’t blood relatives, is essential to health, knowing someone cares about you and you care about them. That is basic to human survival. Being emotionally alone damages the body and weakens the will to live. Some children who are moved to a new town and school every 2-3 years don’t cope very well. It may be difficult to make new friends and develop a sense of belonging. It’s counterproductive to health and happiness. I know because I was one of those children. I am 73 now and chronically ill.
What chronic illness are you plagued with?
Being happy and content is just as important....
She's such a flower child. Love it
Such 'truths' - we gotta own our stuff absolutely.
I can tell you from experience that loneliness physically hurts.
"LOVE is available at ALL TIMES. There's a FORCE of LOVE that's flowing through ME and pouring onto YOU and that's flowing through YOU and pouring onto ME. WE are EACH OTHER and WE ARE THE WORLD. " 💚🙏❗
This is what makes the most sense and what others should know, whether we are around others or not..
I love you so much Lissa...thank you for your courage to reach out and share!
That is craziness how much emotions affect our health also.
Loved her 2 books, she has insightful and kind advice.
Might be true for many, however for me being alone is heavenly.
WOW, WOW, WOW. awesome. thank you and God bless you
I stumbled across this at the right moment. Last year I tried to gather 2 friends who would then invite 2 of their friends for monthly zoom sessions. We would catch up, vent, or just support each other. They said they were interested but never came through. I know how important community is, and I tried to build that within my own friend group 🤷🏾♀️ it didn’t work. But I just got into grad school for my MPH, so I’ll create that community elsewhere with people who are actually serious about it.
I love it! Thank you for the heartfelt insights. I'm a doctor too and this reminded me to be more mindful of putting the 'humane' in medicine. It felt like I was in a yoga retreat. You also did the 'namaste gesture' at the end. Hihi.
Thank you! So good and you are a Truth Teller! ❤️
I feel that a lot of this is in the head of what you believe- being taught that we have to have this or that creates stress if we're told it's wrong or not normal if we don't have it. If people are used to being around others then separated then yes it's stressful. People can become more stressed being around others when they are not used to it. To the contrary a baby without hearing the heart close to it's mother/father etc will struggle to develop and may die -Reference history on Russian orphans neglected. Dogs/animals experience the same, new born pups may die without the heart so often a ticking clock will be placed with it. There are so many things that make us go out of sync with each other and I'm lead to believe/understand that it's more likely the music we hear, different beats influencing our own heart rhythm and chemistry. It's not limited to a sound.. our TVs and monitors and even lights have a refresh rate/pulse and this is known to cause seizures in those that aren't physically protected the same as those that don't or spike blood pressure etc. In the oldest of Tribes we've all had a drum and and this is known by older tribes as the heart. So what should the drum in music sound like? I feel a healthy heart that at times slows down to relax but may speed up with excitement. Most music "pieces" usually stay at the same pace/tempo and some genres stay the same almost always. Yes, I understand that the same kind of drum beat might sound boring, but sugar although can make things taste good is often known to be poison in nature testing unknown plants for survival for example. If people want to be alone, let them, if they want to be together let them, it' natural for beings to be al-one.
I can even feel the love flows thru you, dr. Rankin.
This is certainly an awesome and inspiring talk and I appreciate at least that someone puts light on such a tricky and hidden issue. But until these talks keep remaining a bunch of "befriend yourself, reconnect to love , be kind, meditate " etc. nothing will be obtained. Personally I feel sometimes kinda lonely but I try to get over it because the truth is that sometimes we are not lonely by our own choise. It just happens. And this talk didn't help me in getting over. These data just scared me and put in more social anxiety, and if I hadn't my personal psycologist I wouldn't feel so safe now. Not everyone can afford a shrink and not every relation is positive. I hope in the near future something for free psychological service will be done in as much places as possible.
One of the best speaker ever
If you scratch the surface of this conclusion you'll find something else at play though. So many people feel lonely even when surrounded by others so if the issue is a lack of people in your life then why would people who have so many around them feel lonely aswell? Heres something that Dr Margaret Paul investigated and wrote a book about(Healing your aloneness). What it comes down to is that you can never feel lonely so long as you are connected to yourself. And when you are connected to yourself you live in an authentic way, you follow your dreams relentlessly and you dont put on an act for anyone. Personally I've found this to be 100% true and if you are feeling lonely I would challenge you to ask yourself, are you living true to who you really are? Or are you working a 9-5, just to pay bills, and not actually living a life of purpose. So instead of thinking about how lonely you feel and its because people dont show you enough love, stop and look at your life and see if you have gone off course. People who seek their purpose find it and those people never feel lonely, even if theres nobody else around. Loneliness is not a product of how many people are in your life, its a product of not being true to who you really are.
I agree that there's a distinction between being alone and being lonely. However, that life of purpose you speak about, usually involves living for more than our pwn selfish desires. By doing that, even when you are alone, you are still connected through living purposefully.
what if have no idea how to find my purpose , i dont even know what i like anymore
@@mimi-cc8ul Its simple......seek and ye shall find. And that's not being dismissive, I'm speaking from first hand experience. Your purpose is not something that comes to you out of the blue, its found through experimentation and being willing to take risks. No risk it, no biscuit. You have to try lots of things in life and be willing to do the things other people wont do. If you keep after it you will absolutely, guaranteed find it.
Very true, you nailed it, thank you Dr. For those who was wondering there is something missing in life, you may have just brought many people out their misery.
"All the lonely people. Where do they all come from? All the lonely people. Where do they all belong?"
Amen Sistah!
My professor made this video a part of our curriculum. I am so grateful that I got to hear all summed up here for me.
I have known this for over 45 years. Statistic
from Orphanages, that didn't have enough staff to hold children,
had a higher mortality
rates. Ancient tribes,
sent those who broke
taboos, away. Isolation can drive some people to suicide.
I would like to start this off by saying thank you to Ms. Rankin for sharing her knowledge and life experience with us today. This is certainly not a discussion that is brought up very often, especially in the US. Loneliness is a hard wired mechanism in us and we do crave that tribal feeling. As our species is growing into a global population, we can see ourselves desiring the tribe aspect of what makes us human through social media platforms. Regardless though, the question can be raised, how can healthcare help to resolve the loneliness principle. We see geriatric patients die from heartbreak constantly and pass from disease with nobody around them that they love or care about and it is devastating to watch. In order for us to be beneficent, or promote the most good, I think that healthcare can step in and establish programs and small groups that help minimize the loneliness aspect.
What do patients want more than to feel loved and cared about, Dr. Path Adams style. Well I think in the name of beneficence, we can start training physicians to start taking the loneliness aspect of treatment seriously and a part of the treatment regimen. We currently have a social determinant of health aspect to the differential diagnosis and I think that loneliness can be considered in this.
From a research perspective and to be non-maleficent, I think that we need to find a proper treatment for loneliness that fits the modern social standards. Sure, a support group is fine, but lets be honest, that’s the easy way out and it will likely not do any good. Allowing patients to truly immerse themselves into a community and feel a part of the pack is what we are after. Now, you must be thinking, well nursing homes are a thing in todays society. I think that this is better, but nobody wants to be in a nursing home, or hospice for that matter. So, to conclude, I think that more research should be done before we start forming programs that will do more harm than good. I would like to thank Ms. Rankin again for giving this talk. Thank you for reading.
Loneliness can be consider a health problem because it can cause depression, which can lead to sadness or suicide. I understand the doctor’s perspective of why we should address this issue, but it is overviewed as not a problem because is hard to “fix.” There is no universal “cure” that you can provide to people who are lonely. It is a hard problem to address because it is usually caused by secondary factors, such as age, disability, or psychological issues. However, it can be misinterpret that being lonely at just one point of your life is “unhealthy,” because, as you say, that community felt that it “belonged” for many years prior to that. Our idea of pursuing the “American Dream” pushes us away, in some cases, from our family and friends, forcing us to branch out instead of rooting in the community that saw us grow. I am very aware of the social impact of people in our health but, as much as it can benefit us, it can also limit us. You beautifully describe the importance of the relaxation period in the nervous system (which sleep plays a big role too) that helps us fight infections, and loneliness. My question to you is, what can we do about it? When I say “we” I mean anyone. Is it a public health crisis that the government should take care of or is it something we have to take in our own hands? It was interesting to listen to your argument about the separation from what is around us, like the people, starts, and mountains; but, in my opinion, there is more than meets the eyes. Yes, that is a valid reason and is backed up by many research, but I strongly believe that the intrinsic need of people, the idea of needing people, a god, or nature to “not feel lonely” is more of a problem. Although the research is overwhelmingly powerful to validate your argument, I would like us to move away or, in this case evolve, from needing people to relieve our body from stress. I do agree with part of your argument in how to heal loneliness, working with ourselves first (the inside), but most people are whether not educated enough to understand themselves and how the mind works.
Hey Manuel, I agree with your view that the solution for loneliness cannot be remedied with a simple procedure. It is rather a societal issue that needs to be solved. We have to take into consideration that we are not just gonna be able to simple solve this problem in a day or even a year. It is a gradual change that needs to be developed and nurtured so that we become a more inclusive society. We cannot continue to divided ourselves because if we do we are going promote the loneliness that is killing us. Now, if there is a way for us to increase our lifespan by just simple doing something we are biologically engineered to do. We have to continue to instill the value in love and friendship and unity so that we do not have people that feel lonely and so we can maybe get a better understanding of ourselves. It is not uncommon to think that this is something that can simply be taken care of through the government. We are on this earth to be around others we need to feel welcome and loved so that we do not allow ourselves to fall victim to diseases that should be prevent through connections. We want to feel relaxed and love so that we can even begin to focus on other things as opposed to being lonely and being focused on other things. Loneliness is extremely dangerous because we are not wired to be alone, we are not made to be without connection to each other. Lassir has given several examples that provide strong points on the fact that loneliness is a public health issue. All in all we literally need each other to survive we need to understand each others story and that love is the strongest weapon we have against disease.
Lisa,100%.we start with meditation,that’s the start to self love !
“Loneliness adds beauty to life. It puts a special burn on sunsets and it makes night air smell better.”
- Henry Rollins
We need to take our health into our own hands
Shy people do not have the gift of conversation that others do, consequently they are often rejected when they do make the effort reach out to others. Rejection is like touching a hot stove and you learn not to keep doing it. Single and shy is a double recipe for loneliness.
You'll find yours 😉. I grew up in isolation and more times prefer it honestly (except for my little ones and hubby). I'm often overwhelmed by large groups and find it hard even talking when more than two people are paying attention lol. School was so difficult for this reason. It was abnormal for me as I watched others acting "normally". I found my love who honestly is the exact opposite of my self. Our eldest is starting to share a lot of my traits in that area, whereas our youngest is a social butterfly.
After my brother passed 13 years ago I began looking towards spiritual means for answers to some pretty interesting experiences I began having. My brother was my closest friend.
Meditation quickly became a part of me that I never knew I was missing. From there it's the true beginning of me really living.
I wish you the best in your journeys. And everyone for that matter. 🌸💮
It was amazing. You really opened my eyes and the solution
as an Italian, I think it's strictly the superiority of Italians!
wonderful speech! thank you very much
"Hold hands for as long as you want"
Everyone almost immediately stops holding hands to clap.
Lol
Read her books 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜 an inspirational soul
Your heart and mind are so beautiful. Thank you for sharing. You make a difference.
Great video! Thank you 🙏🏻 Unconditional love to all ❤️♾️🌌
She Ended with namastey 🙏. 🥰
I fell better when Im alone actually I dont understand when people is sad because they dont have friends,the last Cristhmas was alone,for others its terrible and commite suicide but for me was a normal night and I dont feel anything to be alone in Cristmas.
People who don't have a strong soul need distractions like lots of people around. It relieves them from the fear that comes from soulless living. If we would strengthen our souls, we would not get disease from being alone. It would be a blessed time.
Beautiful talk!
During this awful Coronavirus pandemic the question remains: where are people supposed to find connection and intimacy when unrealistic expectations are at an all time high? This insistence for perfection is creating an entire generation of single, lonely and depressed people.
The specific heat capacity of water is quite high.
So too can be the emotional capacity of a "connected human" or group of humans.
One could liken this "self friending" as being similar to Jung's idea of Individuation...
This literally does address the issues relating to the connectedness between humans
as a lattice...
Thank you for a very insightful talk....I will be using this as part of my research ❤
yep. And the involuntary childless who are coping with grief, loss, social marginalisation, AND multiple life-stage manifestations of loneliness. BIG problem. As it is for the elderly which is why suicide rates are so high on old age. Thats loneliness. We studied this - the effect of loneliness - in grief counselling - the facts are pretty disturbing
Unusual , but true…..
We have to do it!!,not just listen to it !!
*Rumor has it they're still holding hands.*
Thanks
I think something to really consider is the gun violence epidemic we have in this country and how that can correlate to loneliness and mental health concerns. There is no clear or direct relationship between loneliness and shootings or acts of violence. It is important to note that most people who experience loneliness do not engage in violent behavior. However, loneliness and social isolation can contribute to poor mental health, which may increase the risk of violent behavior in some individuals. It is important to address mental health issues and provide support to individuals who are struggling with loneliness, to prevent them from potentially harming themselves or others. It is also essential to address the root causes of violence, such as access to firearms, social and economic inequalities, and systemic issues. If we continue to not consider all of these factors, how can we really solve loneliness?
I'm trying for years to make friends, but I couldn't. It's weird that everyone likes me and I'm always chatting with my colleagues at the university, but I couldn't do it out of the university.
I love this!
We are well for all cheering health prosperity in United front!
I like the premise of loneliness causing health problems but am not really a fan of the affect of this talk - overly syrupy-sweet, and it feels like we’re being talked to as if we’re children - and I think Ms. Rankin needs to further and deepen her understanding of childhood trauma and the exact ways it causes us to feel alone and separate from others. Right now her approach is too spiritual bypass-y and it glosses over the serious wounds and confusion caused by child abuse and neglect. If you are real and honest with people and don’t try to protect parents by glossing over the serious, life-threatening effects of their cruelty, then you won’t need to try to people-please, be overly-sweet and goad people toward happiness and health - you will simply allow them to become aware of their true feelings from childhood (anger, rage, hatred - justifiable- towards their parents) which will put them back in touch with themselves, thereby curing their loneliness. Ms. Rankin, I highly recommend you read Alice Miller! It’s by getting in touch with the truth, and the truth of our real, disallowed feelings (because we are not *supposed* to be angry at our parents, supposedly), that people get back in touch with their real selves, heal, and become able to reconnect with others.
incredible❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤😇😇😇❤😇
True
Awesome!
great work
It's so easy to say make friends, now try it when you can hardly hear what they're saying. They avoid me because of the inconvenience. At 64 ,it's very lonely and hard, I feel like slapping people that suggest I learn to sign.😢😢
Correlation is not causation.
Hello, and thank you for your opinion. I would like to take a few minutes to respond in my own way. Firstly, I can understand how you would consider it to be nothing more than a correlation that loneliness appears to be directly linked with overall lesser health. I respectfully disagree. Dr. Rankin speaks early on in the video about Roseto, Pennsylvania in 1961. The people of Roseto lived very simplistic lives. Dr. Roseto uses the quote to describe Roseto in 1961 as “living the life with the power of the tribe” because the people of Roseto were never lonely. They had multigenerational homes, families went to church together, and the people of Roseto were never lonely. The research teams found that the people of Roseto were eating unhealthy foods such as meatballs fried in lard, pizza and pasta with egg and sausage, and 41% of their calorie intake came from fat. The people of Roseto had a high percentage of obese citizens, they exercised very little, and had a comparable number of smokers any other average town. The people of Roseto had accumulated these negative statistics and somehow still maintained a heart attack rate that was half the national average, had no heart attacks in men under the age of 65, and the overall rate of death for any type of cause was 30-35% lower than average. There was no suicide, no alcoholism, no drug addiction and very little crime. They didn’t have anyone on welfare and nobody had any peptic ulcers. The people of Roseto appeared to be dying of nothing more than old age and maintained a very positive lifestyle. All of these things did not add up to the type of lifestyle they were living, other than the fact that they were never lonely. This is not proof of causation, but this certainly leads me to point the finger away from simple “correlation” as you have stated. I am a nursing student, and in my health ethics class we have discussed the definition of happiness as defined by the law of utilitarianism. The definition states that complete societal happiness is unattainable, but what is attainable is a certain level of happiness that is as simple as having less pain than you had before. While we not be able to prove that loneliness is a direct cause of lesser overall health, it certainly seems to prove more than just correlating to your health. I believe very much that Dr. Rankin is correct, and that if we work on mending our loneliness, we can also, as a whole, reach that attainable level of societal happiness by improving our health, and subsequently reducing our pain.
Margaret Casey dear miss Casey, go get you a good multivitamin including B1-2-3!! It’s called the vitamin cure! Now when u get your vitamins get them at a local health food store, NOT a chain Retailer like Walmart or Walgreens or CVS... those vitamins are not biological absorbent to the body. They are junk basically! Get NON GMO , vegetable capsules of powder. “Vitamin Code” is amongst the very best! U can even order it online! This will get you back on the train 🚂 of happiness 😁. Now go get it! U MUST have nutrition to survive and happiness. It is not gotten with today’s “modern diet” of burgers 🍔 fries 🍟 and soda 🥤... trust me this WILL work! Cheers 🍻
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Dogs are dying of the same diseases as humans. I do animal rescue, part of our re-training is socializing dogs that were abused, or neglected, or used in fighting rings, or... The reasons we get dogs are many, for every sad situation you can imagine. So dogs that were raised from tiny pups in a healthy environment to the sad-sacks we get from horrible situations all are at risk of the same diseases and illnesses. Why? Some of these dogs are in perfect, healthy homes, some are alone their entire lives often tied to a chain out of view of anyone, so why do all of these dogs face the risk of the same health issues? People are the same. Let me say this, if you are alone please know that there are dogs out there that need you, they need you to get out there and make a difference in your own life, by taking care of a dog that might otherwise spend its life in a shelter forever. If you can't do rescue, adopt. If you can't adopt, foster. If you can't foster, volunteer. If you can't volunteer, give, give something of yourself. Dogs can change your life, give you a purpose, give you reason to live, they can change your loneliness to wholeness. Change a life, save your own.
SO SHWEEEETTT...much love Tee with LIONS NAMED LEO.[the music}
DELIGHTFUL
"Something there is that doesn’t love a wall"
Western cultures usually experience loneliness because they made it themselves. Life in America encourages siblings to separate and everyone seeks their own life alone in a young age. Leaving their old parents alone and they live alone and everyone lives alone except if they have a partner. I think Family is important no matter what is your age, don't feel ashamed to live with your parents until marriage and seek their happiness u will be happy too.
the cure for loneliness is social prescribing.
well I landed here from listening to Michael Berry, he spoke about the Mormon radio dude, so I clicked on him and then Evan McMillan, (running for president in Utah) popped up on this site. it went right into this.. crazy!
I've never lived alone 1 second of my life until recently,, ...indeed it's very weird!
Who is the mormon radio dude?
Its terrible and so egoistic to think that we only are to give goodness to save everyone else. Unbalanced, totally superficial, utterly disregards the reality of trauma etc.,
Loneliness is peaceful. People are toxic and bring stress into your life. Toughen up buttercup
And then... 2020.
Watch the movie Avalon
Ok. Will do. Thank you.
Which place in California she said is the longevity place please? Could anyone tell me? Thanks
Loma Linda California is one of the places she mentioned as being a blue zone.
I have a dog 🐕 as my best friend! She gets me up and moving every morning and gives me unconditional love. I don’t have many human friends and that’s ok with me. MGTOW now...
I want my soul tribe!
dzcafe Margaret Casey dear miss Casey, go get you a good multivitamin including B1-2-3!! It’s called the vitamin cure! Now when u get your vitamins get them at a local health food store, NOT a chain Retailer like Walmart or Walgreens or CVS... those vitamins are not biological absorbent to the body. They are junk basically! Get NON GMO , vegetable capsules of powder. “Vitamin Code” is amongst the very best! U can even order it online! This will get you back on the train 🚂 of happiness 😁. Now go get it! U MUST have nutrition to survive and happiness. It is not gotten with today’s “modern diet” of burgers 🍔 fries 🍟 and soda 🥤... trust me this WILL work! Cheers 🍻
"40% of calories come from fat" - Lissa Rankin knows shit about good diet if she belives that fat is bad for out health. Did you even hear about the ketogenic diet?
Ayden yeah that comment is a bit bothersome.
I'm maladjusted, when I saw a woman being good with pet birds,
i naturally warmed to them. Isn't this supposed to be in response
to a woman looking after a human baby?
🙏🙏🙏
Yes, it is deadly. It is killing me as we speak. Talk myself off the cliff everyday
Nunya, I love you!
You're so special
I got a little frustrated that after minute 15 she started saying stuff that's true, but that lost its connection with what she was saying about the Rossetta village story. Is there any evidence that those communities were non-judging? Or just weren't ever alone? What's the connection between the stats in the early part of the talk and the qualitative/psychological claims later on?
She's on fb pushing vaccines, how hollistic is that.
Sexaul abuse from relatives can break up these tribes though and its usually men in the fmaily doing this 6:15 . so if you make families safer by helping men then we can all live longer
4:25