Why Women Hate Nice Guys | The Bedros Keuilian Show E006
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- Опубліковано 22 сер 2024
- Are you a 'nice guy' or a 'good guy'? Nice guys are passive, they don't take risks, and are unwilling to speak up for what is right. Good guys, on the other hand, are assertive, take risks, and are willing to fight for what they believe in. The problem is a lot of young men today are 'nice guys' because they are lost. They don't know what it means to be a man. They're looking for purpose and meaning but don't know where to find it.
In today’s episode, we’re discussing how weak boys become weak men. Exploring the things that hold them back, and why it is our job as men to raise young boys into strong capable men. So if you’re feeling lost and looking for purpose and meaning in your life. This episode will show you how.
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I’ll have my girls listen to this! They need to learn what a real man looks like!
I also shared it with Family and friends🙏🏼
Great, powerful content my brother. I freaking love your message. We need more of that!
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Depends on the woman. My ex wanted a "real" man and when I changed to take control, in a firm but loving way, she dumped me for a guy who earned double my pay. She said, "He doesn't try to control me." Oh, I see. Well 5 years later she tried to come back to me after he lost his job. I said no way! Guys, there are no set answers for women. These creatures are totally controlled by their fickle emotions. Can't reason with that. Tread carefully.
Nah fam that female was nothing but a parasitic gold digger lol.
I went through the same situation .
@Excel.In.Life.Faith! he hasn’t understood your gender.
Sounds exactly like my ex wife, we were separated for 7 years and outta the blue started contacting me and tried to justify her actions. I'm like, Nope you got what you ask for, I'm waiting for our divorce to finalize and I moved outta state. They try to crawl back when everything's gone to crap on 'em. Stay right where you are & I'm very happy with my new queen
Same here. If I tried to lead, I was “controlling”. If I tried to be too kind, I was weak. Her ex who physically abused her got way more respect than I ever did. Good riddance.
I agree my father made me a MAN I’m so grateful for. I learned how: to drive standard stick trucks, change oil, tires, jump start a car, paint house, build homes, lift weights, defend myself, stick up for myself, build stuff, surf, hunt, fix things, get strong 💪🏻, keep my word, follow through, make it happen, no excuses, work hard, be on time, etc…I served my country as a police officer I never backed down from doing the right thing because I became a MAN 💪🏻‼️thanks to my Dad 🙏🏻
That’s freaking awesome!!
Everything you said is great. Until you stated that you're a policeman.
Wow dude that's nice.
@@flamboyantamo lol right
My dad jus split always going after his purpose. I feel like it counts in his own. He doesn't give me anything or tell me to do anything. He lives the example of how to operate well and keep things on the up and up. I feel like that counts but idk really
This ain’t a podcast anymore. Every week it’s a 1 on 1 guidance session with the ultimate uncle. I appreciate these life lesson and the principles you past down to me and to my future children. Salute Brother 🔥
I appreciate that
@@BedrosKeuilian I just recently stumbled onto your content and it resonates so much that I hope you get my message. Thank you for confirming so much of many things I felt were true and beneficial. Coming from a traumatic childhood you and Mr. Jordan Peterson have made me see the light within is meant to shine and mostly with my children. Much Love and God Bless You and Your Mission I believe I have mission like yours and hope to meet you and thank you face to face.
Absolutely 💪😎🇺🇸
This is Great!
My father is a natural strong man, but got so wore out over the years of dealing with my mother that he focused his efforts much on my sister on teaching her while I often had to learn skills one by one on my own. I Became a two time author, workout all the time, chasing my goals, beat a cancer ive fought for over 20 years, and not distracting myself with a woman until I meet all my standards and needs.
I watched one of your videos a few years ago and I remember how impressed I was with your ability to relate the truth to your viewers. Young American men are thirsting for this. There are millions of us that never had a father to tell it how it is.
I said way back then I knew you were going to blow up. And here you are now doing your thing in a big way reaching all those young fatherless boys like I was.
I’m now correcting the pattern in my family. I’m in my sons life every single day and showing him how to become that modern knight you described to me years ago. Thanks brother keep doing your thing the truth is needed in America.
Good for you for course correcting brother!
Dude before I found your channel I’ve been preaching the sane thing about toxic masculinity doesn’t exist there’s toxic men and there’s masculine men and I’m so pumped to see more people preaching it. You’re my spirit animal 😂
toxic masculinity is more about focusing on the traditional aspects of masculinity, the ones that cause communities to fall short and crumble bc the man can’t take care of himself
@@bladeluver37that is simply not a man. Not “toxic masculinity”.
Boys/Girls can’t run communities, cities or take care of themselves and others.
Men/Wemon, however can.
The term "toxic masculinity" simply means the opposite of a "healthy masculinity". A person's masculinity can be very toxic if it is egotistical, vain, selfish, narcissistic and violent, who is basically just a vile and "sinful" man. A Healthy masculinity on the other hand is a holistic attitude of all great virtues such as wisdom, love and courage. It's not complicated or political or "woke". Lol. Donald Trump and MAGA right wing ideology is the most perfect example of toxic masculinity in the world today.
This episode has me in TEARS (for so many reasons). For my son whose father is so self absorbed that he can’t take the time to teach him the ways of manhood (he probably doesn’t even know), to the many men I have befriended or dated who have been “declawed and defanged” and this sending me off to find a healthy masculine man in which to rest in my femininity, and to the other women I know who WANT so desperately to be led by a good man, but can’t seem to find one today. My heart just hurts so much right now. Do much pain out here. And men are SO WOUNDED.😢
As a single dad I constantly have to stand my ground and hold onto what I believe in. It's my job to make sure he is ready to be independent as soon as he can. And to teach him that the only thing that makes him to grow is hard work
thas was up
100 respect!
it’s like coaching, as soon as possible allow for self coaching and independent thinking as mentionedASAP cause then you become a handle a crutch !
same with a team you could still have a coach yet imagine each individual player also an out right coach too and at times coach the coach!
or for that matter we in the west [i don’t do east meets west or the reverse they already have worked side by side for long so stop being midevil pun intended🤔]
orchestras have a conductor that conducts and audience is silenced and so on..
yet in arab orchestra it all depends where it go-so the violinist can be, then percussionist etcetc snd the audience is engaged to participate also in a sense conducting so its sort of a team effort
and not better or worse cause both pros and cons yet a different take always refreshing so you decide where you want to go givens optionsZ
also in regards to sports, even if not coaching in any sense the understand of it would only enhance and engender better engagement to to better understand and connect to jews coach !
Stay strong brother. This life was not meant to be easy, we were just duped into believing that the past few decades. Most don't even realize we are at war now, just a different kind for the moment.
My father told me never be a nice guy but always be a kind man
Wise advice!
this!
Nice guy means dishonest yesman.
But maybe there si also "genuinelly nice man"
Being genuinelly nice means....that you are good listener, not approval seeking man.
But man who creates a patience for himself to hear his own thoughts
and also creates patience to listen other people´s thoughts, if these thoughts are also genuine.
Your customers in restaurant like you for listening what they want, or enjoy, good food, etc
so they ask whats your best recipe, you say it, and then they say their ideas...and they appreciate you for "listening to them"
not for approving them.
which creates empathy and connection, between people.
I listen to your ideas and you listen to my ideas, the compromise creates a common sense and connection.
So women also want empathy and connection. As Sam Vaknin said men are attracted to women visually,
and women are attracted to men verbally.
so she feels heard, but some men didnt develop enough patience to listen to people.
So they have to learn to not just be a man of action but also listen to people, because it shows his genuine interest.
Maybe therefore women like high achievers, because they think that successful men listen to their customers with a genuine interest,
not neccessarily with constant approval, but with interest....
so the customers feel heard and come back.
If customers feel heard and come back, she feels that he will also listen her ideas, and
it encourages her ask his ideas and create a mutual connection.....it encourages her to give empathy to him as well nd listen to him.
because the level of how much she feels heard, increases to point that she gives the same amount of listeninbg to him
she feels he is a noble man...... not just man who is chasinga pleasure.
instead of contradiction, they create a compromise that benefits both, or that also benefits their future children based on their low age and innocence
,so the compomises are important.
If she stops falling in love with you,
its because she feels like you stopped listening to her ideas, what hobbies she likes, what music she likes... or ordinary stuff
because she will think that if you stop listening to her
she can not simultaneously listen to your ideas, create connection and perception
or that in future you will not even listen to your own children as father, if you dont make some time to listen the ideas of your wife,
how can she expect thatyou will do it with the family.
Because when she feels heard, she also feels loved,
and when a man feels heard, he feels loved
she doesnt want advice but genuine interest and connection.
Of course she should give the same interest back, and listen his ideas and hobbies.
32 years old here. Becoming a better man daily been watching your show for the past couple months and catching up on some of your older content. Men teaching boys to be men is definitely lost in our modern culture and shows like this is a resurgence/resurrection of this ancient tradition of manhood. I was listening to this with my Son this morning taking him to school and we were both learning together. He’s such a great kid and I’m already proud of the young man he is becoming.
Wow! I love that 🙏🏼
A lot of truth here.
Speaking from personal experience. I’m one of those nice guys. Or been called a nice guy. But instead of stabbing people in the back, I discard people like I’ve been discarded time and time again.
My experiences in life have left me with the inability to trust anyone. From family to friends, both men and women alike.
Hey brother, can I suggest that you read two books and apply them to your life?
1) No more Mr Nice Guy by Robert Glover
2) The Way Of Men by Jack Donovan
Flee from wicked
Sounds similar to my story
Too far its not healthy ma bro, keep enough its a simply one of good option.
I understand what your feeling. That’s how I was when I was growing up. People discarded me like trash and I did the same to other people. I was bitter, angry, spiteful, and quiet in my life up until I turned 18. My parents are divorced and I felt like I couldn’t talk to either of them or talk at home in general. My Dad taught me how to be a man but I could see when he would get frustrated with me. I would shutdown when I knew I was pissing him off. I was depressed for a good part of my life. A big part of what was causing my turmoil was that I didn’t know what I wanted in life, and I was letting shitty friends have power over my decision making. If it wasn’t for a few things in life, i don’t know what I would be like:
1.) Despite what I said about my Dad, he still taught me how to be a man. Even when we had difficulty with our relationship, I still tried to learn from him and he never stopped being a Father. For that I am very lucky and thankful.
2.) I had a moment in life where I could see where my life was going to go if I kept making bad decisions. I was able to make good changes and tell myself that I was going to be better.
3.) I joined an apprenticeship and was surrounded by like minded people and got real world experience and most importantly, mentorship. I’m 3 years in to an electrical apprenticeship and I have never regretted it.
4.) One of the things in my life that helped me see where my life was going was meeting my girlfriend. I was without purpose when I met her, she helped me see that I wanted to be a Man, a Husband, and a Father. She’s the wind in my sails.
Despite what I’ve said, the biggest part of wanting to change from a nice guy to a Man is seeking out change for the better. You have to want it with your entire being, and you can’t be complacent with it. Some things in life happen that can lead you to being a better person with a good life. But YOU, have to choose to make those decisions.
I hope what I have said helps. I am still working on becoming a Man, it will always be an ongoing process for all of us.
Growing up in a home with only your mom is one of the most traumatizing experiences any man can go through
I still am a recovering nice guy. I think it’s gonna take some more work to really work through my mommy and daddy issues
One things for sure. I’m taking my stand and gonna make my life an succes
I went through the same experience of only having my mother raising me. Very traumatic. YOU WILL get through this brother!
I agree bro. Thank god mom was raised poor. Moms worked hard as we grew up. I helped her pick coffee and mix concrete. But I had roll models. I grew up without my father till a older age. But my god father taught me well
Lol or where the dad is a bitch and let the woman rule them
Same here. Nice guy. Complete beast without it but I do hold back when I shouldn't. Unhealthy relationship.
😂😂😂😂 pathetic little fellas it’s many men that grew up with mom and nothing like any of these so called men today I grew up with grandpa and the older folks
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agreed!
27 years old. Been groomed to be a nice guy ALL my life. Parents, teachers, exs (who ended up cheating with 'bad boys'). I could not quite figure out where I was going wrong 😂. Thank God for the people like Bedros and many others including An***w T**e. Since roughly 2021 I have been moving in my masculine increasingly, being courteous rather than Nice, saying what I mean and meaning what I say, doing what needs to be done etc... The more I step into my masculine and put myself in the line of fire the more AMAZING life is becoming. I genuinely sympathise with the men falling for the whole toxic masculinity angle and being emasculated. I legit have had 2 chances to get with married women in the last year, both of who were married to 'Nice Guys' ( and no I did not proceed) . I'm literally on the other side of the equation now 😂😂. Crazy
I'm 30 and same thing. What do you mean by courteous but not nice. You don't have the instinct to be overly helpful or make up for a lack of interest from other person by demonstrating value ?
@@mws2546 afternoon brother. Yes, something along those lines. The extent to which I would over compensate and over extend myself to micro manage the way others viewed me was ridiculous!! All of this only lead to resentment, anxiety etc... I was more focused on 'appearing to be', rather than actually 'being'. For example, if I had an issue with a Co worker, love interest, family member etc.. Before, I would have simply not addressed it because I was being "nice" (cowardly in hindsight); whereas, now I address it head on but am "courteous" enough to pull said person to the side to do so.
I'm a so called nice guy, but look at their favorite bad boys as a joke. Those guys have a pause in their badness.
Just turned 28 in October and my current girlfriend whom we’ve been together for 2 months now made me realize i am a nice guy. In the process I came across this amazing content.This podcast really made me know where the problem started (my up bringing)and the best part is that I’m working on my self to be come the MAN.
Compete in a combat sport
Your lucky. I didnt learm the nice guy lesson until 38.
I am a woman watching this lol and this man is the father I wish I could have had! Lol
Just this one episode made me realize I’ve always attracted “Nice guys” - jealous of me, abusive to their bodies, lack of motivation and ambition, just overall not as “nice” as they claim to be!
This content is marvelous though because I started telling my daughter “I’m not raising you to be lazy, I’m raising you to be a Lady” and just this knowledge alone will help me be able to remind my son’s how to be a gentleman.. I know I can’t raise them to become men but I will definitely remind them how to be a gentleman and a Great man!
Thank you for this content, I’ve been binge watching since I discovered you yesterday 😂
Eww
Cool!
Its all about balance. You can be too nice and not too mean ( aggressive ). Be masculine, yet respectful and dont let people walk all over you.
That is exactly what this entire video was about
Masculine is not opposite to respectful , or synonym of violence etc ... thats the whole point here
I really don't like that word "balance" because it comes with restrictions on my reaction to someone who's taking me for a joke. In my opinion, you shouldn't have any respect for someone who's deliberately trying to toy with you from the second they start their bs with you. There's no balance when people are fkng with someone who didn't ask to be fkd with. People pick and choose who they play with, which is why I don't like boundaries placed on my reaction.
Oh I shared it and plan on sharing it again. Sadly women need to hear it too. Women need to stop acting like real men are treating them badly. Had to explain to my daughter the difference between a girl and a woman, when it comes to our reaction to real men. Cause she said " it feels like I can't even open my own door." I chuckled and said that the difference. I am not offended because it makes me feel more like a woman and appreciated. That's how a real woman feels when her real man does manly things for her. Not because he has too. Because he feels she is important enough to do them for. So the girls have to learn too...
One of my favorite episodes! As a mother of 2 boys,I find this topic of utmost importance! Well said Bedros! 🙌
As a female this episode still speaks to me on the level of stepping up, standing up for my beliefs and not being passive aggressive. Loved it.
Exactly! All humans can benefit
Lots of wise words. Thank you for that. As a father of three daughters I think it's important to teach daughters what a real man is as well. So that they don't choose and procreate with the weak that you spoke of. Thank you for helping preserve this wonderful nation.
Absolutely!
It's A Long Road Because There's A Crisses Of The Lil Boy Mentally. Which Is Weak,
Overly Emotional, Alot Of Feminine Energy, Passive Aggressive Coward Behavior.
Recovering nice guy here. I do feel highly discouraged when somebody sees me as loyal, obedient, agreeable or some who is easy to work with. Because all these things make me feel as if I can get played by people who see me as that
I'm a girl but I absolutely agree with you on everything. Thank you very much I really appreciate this video. I hope many men and women will see it and think about this topic. ❤🇬🇪
God bless Georgia ❤️
@@Valhalla_Heathen God bless you too🤗❤❤
Agreed. I wonder what single moms of boys can do. I can tell them how to act but how to show them...
I love Tbilisi. I go there almost every month.!!)
@@faiabadi enroll their kids in some kind of combat sport so they can be in a competitive environment and have strong male figures in their lives
I’ve had the same exact sentiments about the unity we felt after 9/11. I was in Marine Corps boot camp and that build long lasting friendships and brotherhood. But sometime after 2008 and onward, the world flipped and began deteriorating from the inside.
Well said. Thank you for your service Tony.
Semper fi. I was at parris island in Dec 2003.
Man I can't stop following you. I just finish a 5km run as par of my training. I've been working my ass off for the last 75 days without giving muy self a bloody day off. I just make a commitment to train every bloody day for 3 months without resting a single one. Everything is improving since then. Thanks for sharing this content.
Good man!
Thank you BK, I was born in Chicago, and raised in Mexico (Catholic school) yet my dad raised me with the military mentality just like you just talked about.. hard working, opening doors, walking in the side of side walk etcétera.. protect, Thank you once again keep bringing this great content
Much love and respect brother!
Found your channel a few days ago. Man , could’ve came at a better time! Thank you sir for everything your doing. It is helping me get outta this funk mindset I’ve been in for several months. 36 and have a child on the way. Look forward to being a better man, father, husband, your aspiring! Love from MN
Welcome aboard!
Sacrifice, patience, and understanding will allow you to be the best father. You can be that man, so long as you want to be. You got this.
Wanna tell you that you have it in you! Know that you can and if you want you will be a great dad. Let your actions speak. Be confident, consistent and loving. You got this 💪
@@BedrosKeuilian nice meeting brothas
I've listened to alot of bedros's podcasts and this one hits home hard. I let go of friends and family who wanted to do everything they were told by the government because it was easier than standing up for what's right. But its been a great time of growth for myself, my wife and my daughter. I protect them with every fiber of my being. Never had a father figure but somehow I've still managed to become a good father and husband. The evolution never stops.
Good man!
@@BedrosKeuilian I need a copy of that squire manual!!!!!
I am a woman that hears this show and I feel like I have to become whatever this is until I find a man like this cuz it's a cold cold world out here right now. I send these podcast to my 21 yr old son who I raised with no father figure .
I don’t think being masculine would help a woman to much , as a man we are not looking for other man like ness , we want a feminine strong queen like . Don’t let these weak men changed who you are to be , a woman
@user-ly6mi7rv7s aww that's sweet thank you
Nice guy means dishonest yesman.
But maybe there si also "genuinelly nice man"
Being genuinelly nice means....that you are good listener, not approval seeking man.
But man who creates a patience for himself to hear his own thoughts
and also creates patience to listen other people´s thoughts, if these thoughts are also genuine.
Your customers in restaurant like you for listening what they want, or enjoy, good food, etc
so they ask whats your best recipe, you say it, and then they say their ideas...and they appreciate you for "listening to them"
not for approving them.
which creates empathy and connection, between people.
I listen to your ideas and you listen to my ideas, the compromise creates a common sense and connection.
So women also want empathy and connection. As Sam Vaknin said men are attracted to women visually,
and women are attracted to men verbally.
so she feels heard, but some men didnt develop enough patience to listen to people.
So they have to learn to not just be a man of action but also listen to people, because it shows his genuine interest.
Maybe therefore women like high achievers, because they think that successful men listen to their customers with a genuine interest,
not neccessarily with constant approval, but with interest....
so the customers feel heard and come back.
If customers feel heard and come back, she feels that he will also listen her ideas, and
it encourages her ask his ideas and create a mutual connection.....it encourages her to give empathy to him as well nd listen to him.
because the level of how much she feels heard, increases to point that she gives the same amount of listeninbg to him
she feels he is a noble man...... not just man who is chasinga pleasure.
instead of contradiction, they create a compromise that benefits both, or that also benefits their future children based on their low age and innocence
,so the compomises are important.
If she stops falling in love with you,
its because she feels like you stopped listening to her ideas, what hobbies she likes, what music she likes... or ordinary stuff
because she will think that if you stop listening to her
she can not simultaneously listen to your ideas, create connection and perception
or that in future you will not even listen to your own children as father, if you dont make some time to listen the ideas of your wife,
how can she expect thatyou will do it with the family.
Because when she feels heard, she also feels loved,
and when a man feels heard, he feels loved
she doesnt want advice but genuine interest and connection.
Of course she should give the same interest back, and listen his ideas and hobbies.
Everything you said was spot on. I’m from Australia, Melbourne in particular. What the government did here in terms of lockdowns, police power, was a real wake up call to how little freedoms we have. Don’t ever let them take away your second amendment. We did and look at the consequences!
Thank you brother, we in the US will always have our Aussie friend’s back! 💪🏻
Hey Mate no worries you're not missing anything here. We have a horrible police state here in the USA. You might have seen them killing black people? American cops can do whatever they want and almost never suffer any legal consequences. And don't even get me started on the female American cops...cvunts to the extreme.
I do not believe that corrupt government has anything to do with the right to bear fire weapons.
Its the groomed impotence of the population.
As a strong woman, I want a strong man that stands for what he believes in. I’m proud to say my dad was solid my husband is solid and my son is solid and now my grandson is learning from the best. I love what you teach, we need more strong minded men (and women). Thank You
I love that you did this video, Bedros. It’s heartbreaking to watch how society is demonizing men and openly working to tear them down. We need more voices lifting men up and encouraging them. Thank you for being one of those voices. Quality men make the world a better place and they deserve to be appreciated.❤️🍀
My father was a man but because of his experiences early in life he became overly protective of me and my brothers,and now I just woke up to the reality that I'm a nice guy and that the idea of a smooth life by being nice and doing it right doesnt exist. Life is hard and therefore you need to be hard as well
Life ain't hard, its complicated and frustrating but not very difficult unless you consistently look and act like a doormat.
I don’t get this “nice guy” shit. Of course be nice…be respectful to everyone. This includes yourself. A man is someone who is hard and nice. Not one or the other. Being hard is doing or saying what is necessary even if it causes problems in the moment. Throwing around nice guy makes it seem like being nice isn’t virtuous. Being meek isn’t virtuous
I can’t even look to my father as a “father figure” he’s weak. Hasn’t taught me any the things you said a father is supposed to teach boy to become man. I’m teaching myself. I’m breaking the alcoholism cycle that he has stuck to literally the entirety of my life. I’m feeling out my feelings. Learning who I am. Accepting and responding, gaining more control of my emotions. I’m young and free this is the perfect time for me to learn these and do these things. You are such a inspiration to me in a way I look to you as a father figure
The reason this is great is because he gives you literal examples, e.g. walk on the street side with a woman; keep the promises you make to yourself- the former I always do. Growing up without any father figure it's imperative in times like these that not only do we have solid role models, but also role models who give specific, intrinsic and easily digestible advice such as this. Good work BK x
not having a dad or someone to show me things like that never bothered me until I noticed how much having a father can change your life in a bad or good way. But I been on a journey to find my way and stop letting the bs stop me from becoming the person I need to be for the whole side of town to finally shine light to my people
One day at a time man
I'm in the same boat as you. I had a dad , but he was/is so emotionally absent and avoidant, major workaholic and passive aggressive "nice" guy.
I'm trying to learn and grow too. This channel is a God send
Had to sub my brother. This was too good. Last night I went out on like a 4th date and I wasn’t feeling too well so I wasn’t able to take a train ride home to make sure the lady made it home ok. We were conversing today and she was like oh well if you went out of your way to make sure I got home safely that would push me away.
I was like Wth? She was like she’s not used to guys being nice and doing things like that but I got mad and was like you literally just said that action would push you away. She tried to back track but I honestly got turned off. I’m supposed to see her tomorrow and I honestly don’t want to anymore.
I told her this is the issue: Lots of women are trying to emasculate men and make us feel like we aren’t needed but that’s just wrong. I’m always gonna be me and the moment you try to erase that it’s a wrap.
It’s rare to find a good man that meets all of these criteria’s!
I refuse to settle until
I do meet a man that does meet all these criteria’s!!
I enjoyed listening 👂
Thank you 🙏
I didn't know you had this show.
I honestly thought I'd been mostly alone in keeping up the lessons my Grandfather taught me. It's so amazing to hear you. I finally feel I'm not alone.
Just PLEASE KEEP making the distinction between being toxic and being masculine.
I've been in jail and became a felon because of unjust cowards, protecting those I Love from groups of toxic guys who were only tough in their pack.
Thank you so much, Bedros. This made me very emotional and reflective. I didn't grow up with my dad, unfortunately. And I've gone through the whole nice guy phase, I'm still going through it. But I feel I'm getting better every day. I have some work to do!
I've been stripped of my family friends. Absolutely everyone In my life. I know now by listening to your videos that I am a nice guy emotionally toxic and need to level up and work on my self more watch my diet and work out daily just to start. Discipline is what it's all about. Thanks for your videos man!!!
I LOVE this SO SO much!!!! We NEED this in our lost world...your show is my fave!!! ❤❤❤
Bedros, thanks for being my mentor from afar. You’re helping me be a better man every day!
At first I thought you were just a meathead, I was totally wrong. You are incredible. I highly respect everything you’ve said here.
Thank you and thank you for being honest. Too many people judge a book by it's cover.
Thanks again brother. This is my other account.
A meat head? You must be a nice guy.
You're such a nice guy
What kind of MEAT 🍖 🤔
Not just one of the best youtube channel but your one of best mentors for young men
E001 - E006 is pure gold. Been listening to your show for the past 6 days every morning on my way to work. Truly inspiring and eye opening. You have my support in SA. Looking forward to the many more episodes yet to come.
Wow thank you 🙏🏼
Grateful for this podcast, thank you Bedros for this huge service you are providing for everyone listening
Thanks for listening 🙏🏼🙏🏼
Thank you Bedros for walking this fine line and bravely sharing on your channel. Best video I've heard in a long time, and I was surprised to find it on YT. :)
Thank you brother.
I agree with this. A softer man these days are hurting us. MAN UP.
Agreed!
yin yang
Hi Bedros,
I love this,
I’m a mom and recently separated. This totally resonates with me. Thank you!
I have forwarded this to my sons.
a year ago when i decided to get a CFT certification i was seeking for internet acces in my job to watch your videos when i can and that was really great thing to do in my shift that i actually want it to end and after i got certified things didn't go as expected, the people always doubt and i found all the GYM owners aren't even certified and i wasn't able to get a job even with a very low salary something equals 150 dollars per month so i decided to find my own path without any help or validation, thank you for helping me all the way through
I love that story!
"How does a weak boy become a strong man, well you can't unless you have a strong male figure". This is very true; life becomes '1000 times' more difficult and frustrating without it, believe me! If you are blessed with good parents, (strong male and female figure) you have already won the lottery in my book. If you didn't win the parent / role model lottery, then you have to commit in taking ownership of EVERYTHING that happens to you and strive for the right mindset. This takes time to develop, especially if you are conditioned with "the victim mindset" and seem to end up on the losing side of most situations in life, despite your best efforts.
Personally, it took a career change in a role that 'demanded' certain character attributes that I quickly realise I didn't have, and kept finding myself in truly embarrassing situations, which further dented my already ingrained low self-confidence. I was over overthinking situations, rushing into situations in fear of "stuffing up", but continued to embarrass myself none the less. This frustrated the hell out of me!
It was only two clues from work collogues that made me joined the dots. That is, my mindset / personality was rubbish, nothing like a confident, strong male should be. It was a watershed moment when I read the characteristics of different personality types and I only ticked one box for the personality type / mindset I knew I wanted AND needed to be.
From that day on, (almost one year ago) I embarked on my own special project called "project Alpha male", which included instilling all the characteristics (self-confidence, taking ownership of everything, looking after yourself, and NOT seeking approval). Am I there yet, not quite but making small progress as it takes time in rewiring the brain to a new mindset. No one will do it for me, so it's on me to do it.
Just want to add, IMHO this productive mind applies to anyone, of any sex and background as it will lead to better outcomes in your life. Do not be afraid in making mistakes or finding your mind going back to old habits; forgive yourself and get back on board.
Great show Bedros, cheers from Australia.
Chris Omar Edlibi.
Hey Chris, thanks for the post! Would you please elaborate on the particulars of "project alpha male", in regard to the specific daily, weekly, monthly activities and "self treatments" you undertake and put yourself through?
46 y/o only child, no father, no grandfather, no uncles, no male cousins, who was raised by a narcissistic mother who isolated me from all male dominated spaces, outlets, and activities growing up...
So many men need to hear this!
You are providing such value to young men like myself. Thank you for your wisdom king! 👑
I am 100% praying for a man with those characteristics. But until then. No more settling. I’m praying for discernment as well. Thank you so much for your videos! I enjoy them all 💎
Hi animusrye do you have facebook?
While your perfect right?
Well said!! Had videos come up in my feed. This one specifically made me a subscriber and follower. This world is a mess and this video is like a set of commandments. Keep the content coming and continue to shed light onto the world.
Low value women hate nice guys no need to degrade women i will only treat women the way I would like my daughters/sisters and nieces to be treated
I gotta work on that area alittle myself but love women and always liked being around them felt safe idk it’s the truth
Bedros,i just want to say a big thank you. You are bringing something back that has lacked in the western cultures for a long time. The "men" being produced is a testament to that lack.
Respect to you brother .
Honestly, this title doesn't do this video justice. This is the realist podcast I've ever listened to
Thank you!
One of the most important messages we will hear in our lifetime! I love the boldness and no B.S. style of Bedros!! Love what you are doing brother!! Great delivery, WOW!!
Glad you enjoyed it!
noticed in 3.5 seconds and subbed
Thankyou for this brother 🤝
My pleasure
BeGentlemen
Be servant
Be savage
It's two types of people in the world sheeps and wolves which path you choose develops the outcome of your destiny I'm locked in brotha keep preaching truth
🙏🏼🙏🏼
Man, you helped me a lot into building me up slowly as a MAN while growing up in a feminine house I need these all of these and I just discovered you from the recommended vids and that I knew God didn't just want me to see your video but to know more from you as a young man decided to do things as early as possible for my future self to not live life full of regrets but having a GRATEFUL AND STRONGER LIFE. Thanks a lot YOU THE MAN! 🔥 I am a Filipino here and I gotta tell you this must be the worthiest subscribed I have ever done!
As a single mommy of two boys I'm def listening to this carefully
🙏🏼🙏🏼
You’re super inspiring big dog! I’m a general contractor/real estate investor, and your principles that you teach are so applicable. Thank you for these podcasts! I’m an avid listener, and I’m extracting all of the value I can fit in my brain from them!
My wife and I are raising a young man with these qualities in mind. I work every day to set a strong example for him, to guide him in his life to be a good, strong, respectable man. I just found your channel last week, and am listening to each episode. Thank you.
I'm DEFINITELY sharing this, as every boy, man, and female should hear this message. One of your best videos ever Bedros. Keep spreading this truth.....before it's too late. PS....when James Cameron (famous movie director) stated recently that our big problem in the country is testosterone....well, you can see their real agenda.
I just lost all respect for James Cameron. Dude married a lesbian and didn't know it. Don't take any life advice from him.
🙋♂️Grew up without a dad or “strong male role model,” now fluent in Chinese with the physique of a bodybuilder and working on my second successful company. Not flexin’, just sayin’.
Bam!
my mom was and actually is my dad
I have a question what about bad boys? Because, I want to be a good man. But I don’t want to be the nice guy. I also would like to tell you something’s about me I am on the autism spectrum and I have adhd. But, I am try to overcome these challenges.
Best of luck to you.
Focus on what you can control and spend less to no time on what you can't.
@@amadeusakreveusmusic3356 thank you that means al lot
hahahahaha sorri
btw- my nephew has same situation exact due to vaccines and I’ve been working with him with great results..
using john f. barnes approach with his disabilities caused mainly through surgical procedures ..
he luckily does not have mercury fillings!
homeopathy which is not placebo [i tester it by taking some without easing label since it’s pretty much harmless water or milk being main ingredient left at end of it]
and it’s been great help with his conditions.
homeopathy is used for these conditions with great results by professional how I found out!
best of luck buddy and if you have any questions ask here
@@gracie99999 thanks for the motivation
Getting up at 4am has been a game changer for me
This should be required viewing for every young man, as many times as necessary for them to truly understand the message. Thank god my masculine father gave me the tools to become a masculine man/father.
Thanks Bedros.
You and Wes are the role models so many need. Im doing my best as well to help create what we all need.
This one is on repeat 🔁 thanks for being that male figure in my life!
Appreciate you brother!
Agreed same here
I appreciate you taking the time to share your life experience. I am also raising a son and doing my best to give him everything that was lacking in my life as I was becoming a man.
You my friend are what this generation and all generations needs to have in their life. Thank you for talking and giving your words to us!
🔥 🔥.....thank you man. Love your content.
I appreciate that!
It would be nice if there was a book that taught old school masculine custom for interacting with your women. Some of us didn’t learn how to treat our wives chivalrously.
Read the book Raising a Modern Day Knight
I’ve been an avid listener for 2 weeks now, just catching up on your previous posts. I needed this one. Today in particular. I appreciate your words brother.
I’m today’s society being good is considered as weak, I treat women with basic human decency and I have boundaries but it’s not enough
I’ll see you at the future of artist summit! 🔥
This channel is gold. I grew up without my dad, lucky I had a badass mom. I’m raising two young men to be better men then me, they’ll have all the tools they need to have a impactful life! 💯
I had to learn a lot of things the hard way, and still growing/learning each day.
Can’t wait to sit down in a room and hear you speak!
Shoutout to your badass mom!
By far the most convincing and unbiased perspective on masculinity. Specially denoting the difference between Masculinity and Toxicity being two different things, and no such thing as Toxic Masculinity. Overall this podcast relates to the mindset of telling that being a warrior in the garden is better and wise than being a gardener in the battlefield. Heads up from New Delhi #ThugLife
Thanks so much for keeping real and helping to protect our sacred masculinity. Could you make an episode on your 30 rules, that will be something to pass from generation to generation. Much masculine love to you brother 🙏🏽
As a male teacher in a grade 7-12 public school, I definitely understand the increased role of my role as a male figure of influence to young men
awesome we need people like you man!
thanks forwhat you do and btw my mom was a professor
Bedros, you're the only person in the world I have hit the bell icon on to be notified on youtube whenever you post!
Wow, thanks man that means a lot!
Thank you for this amazing episode just what I needed right now the world needs strong men if not now when if not us then who time for men to stand up and be men again to be protectors providus and most of all Savages go getters that was supposed to be decisive and strong this episode has so much value much appreciated keep up the good work let's go 😎💯🔥👍🏽
That means a lot!
I couldn’t disagree with a thing you said, which for me is quite the exception. Tough times breed hard men. Which is actually healthy. The bigger the cushion, the harder the pushing. When fighting isn’t a choice, but the only way to survive, everybody in their right mind becomes a warrior.
the problem is some look outside and since no fight go back to sleep..
yet...
Thank You as someone who just had a son!! Great Blessing and Great responsibility
Appreciate the phone call the other day.
Much love Brian!
20:30 is where it’s at!
Absolute facts. Keep sharing the great word Bedros!
Thank you Cal
My life is better when I’m choking people.
Haha! 👊🏼
asshhh jiu jitsu nice
I’ve been taking my son to the batting cages at the local park and I’ve always wondered what that compound across the street was.
Turns out it’s Bedros boot camp.
Love this podcast. Truly helping me guide my young knight. He’s 8 years old tomorrow and I love him dearly.
Much respect!
Wow! So much good in this video. As a female and mom and wife, I’m so glad I found this video! Wish all the men would see this!! 👏👏👏👏👏
Thank you!
This is 1 of the most real topics I've ever heard discussed. You are 100% right about everything. So what do you recommend for a man-child trying to overcome his struggle...someone well aware he is not right as a man and is seeking to remedy himself?
1) read “Way of Men”
2) Do the Project
www.themdkproject.com/
3) Read “no more Mr Nice Guy
4) Do hard things regularly
@@BedrosKeuilian thankyou ! 🙏
Great broadcast. It's great to know that other men think like me. Now I'm fired up!!
Yes sir!
ithem type a men don’t talk about about it so the number seem non existent yet
outnumber the others
I still remember at the Project when we couldn't move the big truck and out of the corner of my eye, I see you (Bedros) sprinting to help us fulfill the mission, followed by the other instructors. "Seal Team 6" became crystallized in my consciousness. Now, our clinic is Heal Team 6 and we have each other's backs to fulfill our mission of healing. TY B for the lessons.
I love everything you stand for Dr Chris!
I have also shared this with my 2 young girls and friends as the strength of our inner warrior is ALWAYS needed for ALL not just boys, it's weak people and societies that keep reproducing weak spinless individuals that are easy to divide and conquer. True healthy warrior men are drawn to strong healthy warrior woman to challenge them not baby them. This is great material, for the desperate westernized... Thanks for sharing 👍👊 🙏
Weak individuals prey on other weak individuals
The kind of advice I wish my father would have given me 30 years ago; thanks, Bedros!
Never too late. And you’ll pay it forward to others brother
excellent video. you hit on a key thing in there... that you're a work in progress. thats what I think as well. we're about the same age, and I felt like it's been a long struggle to get where I am at. i didnt have a father who was much of a role model, so i have had to seek mentorship from others. And as my son is now 18, i still look back and see so many things that fucked up, and there is still more that could be improved upon. Regardless, my son is honest, self aware, and cares about his community. I look forward to continuing to be a better man and keep passing that down to him as he gets older as well. i try to keep it real with my flaws. I've never stopped learning, and never will.
Good man!
This is the best definition of a man that I have heard, I’m a Christian and I will say with confidence and prove me if I’m wrong because I’m willing to talk it through that Jesus sums that up and if you say no then you need to pay more attention to how he lived his life and exactly what he said
I'm a woman, infiltrating the scene, and I must say that I agree with a lot of points you make. I had a very stoic father, and I used to wish he was warm and fuzzy and jovial like the dads on TV. But when I got older and grew into the knowledge and awareness of what this life is all about, I THANK GOD I had a father who was a true provider & protector! He may not have been warm, fuzzy or "my friend," but he was a true man, devoted husband and father, periodt! And I agree that the concept of masculinity in general as being toxic is absurd. Please keep doing what you're doing. Society needs more upstanding men and messages like this. Bravo! 🎉