I'm a nice guy, but what seems to work for me is not chasing them almost ignoring them especially if there beautiful. Having a life with goals should be #1
I always thought of it as a racially thing: I saw it, speaking from a minority male, that being educated and well spoken not only got me rejected but feared! I found myself getting more in trouble with law as a nice guy than when I started carrying myself more badass and dressing more edgy. I find myself less in need of having to walk around with weapons now than before. But now, because I've lacked so much experience with women, I still feel lost in the world of dating but I'm getting better at it as time goes on! Mediating, seeking therapy, connecting with nature, building my body!
@@TheStyleOG i think the number 1 investment a man can make to improve his life health, self esteem, love life, and ability to meet women, especially Latin women is LEARNING HOW TO DANCE ( i.e. salsa,) I cant tell you how much this skill has improved my life, this subject would be a great tip for your channel if you haven't covered it
I think there are plenty of women who do like nice guys.. just not too nice. You can be kind and considerate without being a pushover or always being agreeable.
I'm still trying to figure out why women will purposely test a man. These are the same women that are always complaining about the guys they get done dirty by. While I think those guys are a joke, women think those dudes are hot shit.
I am super nice guy who go the extra mile for ladies in general e.g. Work for free, buy groceries,shopping,cooking,travel to different countries at my expense and pay their bills etc.However,after watching your video,I have decided to focus more on my job and stop being nice....Thank you 100%
For those who don’t know, the original & actual, real definition of the work “nice” means fool. I remember being a “nice guy” to the ladies in my college days. It never worked. Now that I’m older and see the world clearly and a bit different with experience, it’s a different ball game. My relationship with the Most High comes first, my priories and goals thereafter. Now, those same women that played me back then are all up in my DMs today….and even new women too, but I keep a cool and calm head & remain strong and principled.
If someone doesn't like you for who you are, it's not your problem! All you need to be in life is a respectable and honorable chap. If a woman calls that being too "nice", let her walk and don't look back. It's as simple as that.
No one should be overly nice. It's important to be a good person but give to reserve all the extra things for people in your circle who truly deserve it. Too many people are taking this advice to an extreme.
U always hit the nail on the head w/the hammer!! I like when u say be kind not nice. I notice when I use ur advice when it come to women, it seem to attract them to me rather than me come @ them.
I am strong which is why I can be kind and help others. I dont need to throw my weight around needlessly when I am surrounded by loud small minded people who have trouble executing tasks with large egos.
Jeff you are spot on! I've been telling guys versions of these points for YEARS. A man should never let the rituals to courting take him away from being the most authentic version of himself. Be kind (it costs nothing), but always be yourself. Being anything else isn't fair to her or you.
You're absolutely right I used to be a nice guy especially when it came to beautiful women they are the ones that will make you be nice in the beginning so after dating beautiful Latino women mainly I learned to be just kind to women not nice anymore and sometimes I will even just ignore them I won't even answer that text messages but being kind is the answer kind and confident but never nice not anymore thank you for this good advice
You're right OG. I met a girl that I really liked so I was trying to take it slow and be all sweet and really try to get to know her and all that jazz. After the THIRD freaking date, her friend texts me and tells me that she thinks I might be gay because I didn't try to have sex with her yet. Lmaooo
You are right The Style O.G. I'm a real "nice" guy. I'm also SEETHING WITH INTERNAL RAGE AND LOW SELF ESTEEM because of being a push over. I often find myself throwing things around at home...getting angry easily at home. But around people and women I'm a big sucker...ahem a big "Nice" guy. But when I get home to my privacy...my "nice" mask falls off and my temper flares along with my feelings of inability to stand up for myself and my interests.
Use that anger into a martial art or boxing. release your thoughts on paper or a counselor. personally my outcry goes to God and it works. You have PRIDE issues.. Learn to UNLEARN your old ways and be humble in learning on how to be your own man without being nice. It does take time and experience. UA-cam videos and social media won't save you, you gotta put it into practice. I love to say " hi , good morning" " how are you doing?" to women who are working as a cashier or somewhere public. I don't try to pick up. Muay Thai and Boxing taught me a lot about discipline and not getting pushed over. " Seething with internal rage" will DESTROY you...I say all of this through personal experience. im now a whole lot better and now I get girls wanting to say " hi " to me. Im no Brad Pitt or good looking guy too. Stop wasting time and go better yourself. Hurry! life is too precious for you!
That sounds like the way I am. I'd prefer to take someone's head off for taking me for something I'm actually not. I don't like arguing with people because that's not going to get my point across in the slightest bit. I'd rather just step off because people don't hear me until I'm in a rage. I've always had anger issues since I was a kid. With age, I know that I'd end up sitting in someone's prison for treating people just like they want to be treated.
@@rgw1380rw I understand. Same here. There are people who will deliberately not listen. In order to get a reaction. Please Don't let them make you lose your temper. Stay Up. And Keep a Calm outlook. That's what I try to do. 🙂I know it is hard for me to do at times. Thanks for sharing.
Nobody wants to deal with a phony. This is particularly true with respect to the phony. When I decided to be true to myself and acted accordingly, my life improved. It is much easier to maintain boundaries when I am not engaged in a cycle of self-hating BS.
Excellent!!!!. You pretty much cover all bases a man needs to know in male-female mating. Every guy should watch this before he even BEGINS dating, whatever age that may be. Sure wish l could have watched this over & over again when l was a teenager.
This man speaks a lot of wisdom. Guys who are playing the "nice guy" should take note. I often wondered - even as far back as high school - why women always seem to be attracted to guys who treated them not like dirt, but indifferently. Never figured that out on my own. Put yourself in a woman's place to better understand.
Hey Jeff, great video ! Just wanted to say thanks, I had that "Everyman Jack Sandalwood" delivered! Now one of my permanent brands I'll use moving forward ! Thanks again !
Out of insecurity we do try to help everyone as much as we can only later to find out that we were just being used according to the whims and fancies of the people around us.
The one glaring reason also is that women think nice guys aren't good in the bedroom and are too passive and accommodating; she will act out inevitably so she wants a man to put her in her place
Makes plenty of sense, a lot of women I am nice with always get confused when I want nothing from them, I grew up with a lot of women and I am genuinely concerned about women in general. So if I can help I do so, but I don't desire anything from them, no relationship no favors nothing. I believe that has confused a few friends, but I am also not a push over, I am very firm on my thinking and confident in me.
Moral of the story: have true purpose and chase after that. They will chase you. They will test you. Stand your ground. Stay true to your purpose. Be kind but always stay grounded to your purpose.. women love men that chase after their purpose. Ergo if you chase after your purpose you will have less time for her: ergo the cycle continues...
There is an old saying that I tell men all the time just because a woman gets into a relationship with you or even marries you doesn’t mean she respects you and that’s real talk
What they want is a man who's kind at his core, but definitely rough around the edges. That dude treats them fairly but is not about to let them walk all over him. That's what gets their attention....and keeps it.
I'd rather step off about my way. They wouldn't be smiling about me having zero respect for them after taking me for a fool the first time. I'm a guy that is used to attention and compliments from women because that's been life for me. I'm just very confused about setting boundaries because what some call boundaries isn't getting my point across like a good old fashioned jump out the window. Most of these women haven't really dealt with a Rick James type of dude who refuses to be toyed with, but will walk over them without a pause from the day they open the gate till they tap out.
Nice people try to appear agreeable, it's about how they are viewed by the person they are interested in that dictates their actions. This in turn often comes across as insincere as they are trying to do right by someone not necessarily because they are kind but because they want that someone to like them. Kind people look at themselves and think "what type of person do I want to be?" and express that in every action they take. It's genuine as they are acting out of personal values and are therefore confident in their kindness as they are being true to themselves and that's attractive.
Normally, I talk proper when I'm out and about or if I'm at a store buying something, but when I changed and deepen my voice, women started to cling on to me, I would briefly chat with about an item I wanted, and they would try to prolong the conversation or play with their hair all because I just deepen my voice lol---
Good video Jeff. Unfortunately, nice guys finish last. Sayings like these don't get to be old unless there is some truth behind them. I say be a good guy with a rough edge/mean streak.
My mean streak is violent. I'd rather just go about my way. Nobody who toys with easy going people truly understand that some of us are evil people that just don't take our issues out on others.
Do "not nice" guys have a higher quality of life, have more options for companionship, have better health, have more access to resources, are better problem solvers, or better parents?
I know what you're getting at. There is a balance, and you never hear about being nice as a success strategy. But I do think it's easier to be too nice.
It’s about not being a pushover. “Nice Guys” don’t voice their opinion and will agree out of niceness. You should be courteous and polite to people, but if someone was saying something mean or rude to you stand up for yourself. Being a jerk will get people to not like you very quickly, and the people that do like you are also jerks. It’s not really about being nice it’s more about agreeing to everything out of desperation and not having a backbone
If you have to say you’re a nice guy, you’re probably not that nice. You’re not owed anything for being nice, that’s the baseline of how you’re supposed to be.
Another great set of "real s#!t" that NEEDS to be said. It's very difficult trying to articulate why "niceness" doesn't always work, but this definitely lays it out nicely and definitively. Nice one, Jeff! What's funny though is that most women will swear up and down that they DO want a nice guy.
Women do like nice dudes. The problem is the unattractive dude always trying to be nice. Women want the nice looking dude they think is cute to be nice. Ever heard a woman say he was the sweetest thing, yea right she thought he was cute first lol,
We should switch the word nice with passive because a lot of women like nice guys but not to the point where they become pushovers and worship the ground they walk on.
I like your video, it just seems like a big game though, if you are being generally nice, how does the woman know if you are just being manipulative out of the gate? What if you are not and she thinks you are, and this makes you angry? Enjoyed the video
3:49 = chauvinist! No style in that. Who leads in a relationship is often negotiated with each arising situation. If a guy insisted he had to lead I would find it disrespectful as he wouldnt be listening to me. Bye bye Git!
This hit me hard. Tonight I told this woman I am dating I wanted to make sure she got home ok last night but my stomach wasn’t feeling well. I was like you know with crime and stuff here in nyc and she was like noooo don’t do that. That would push me away. I got upset and was like Wth? She’s been apologizing and stuff cause she’s not used to gentlemen but it turned me off big time.
Women do like nice guys it is naive guys that are a turn off unless they are the motherly type of woman which most are not. Most girls who like bad boys where I come from are walking around pregnant with black eyes and busted teeth. I like a smart girl,cerebal and bookish most women like that want to be treated nicely,at least in my opinion.
👏👏👏👏! Great video and information here! "Nice guys finish last" isn't just a time honored saying it's also the lament of guys who are too accommodating and deferential to not only women but deferential to people in general. Now to be honest at the other end of the "Nice Guy" scale is a guy being a straight up, full on asshole. Let me share some "GAME" (Grown Ass Man Education)🎓 here👇 A man can be cordial and courteous WITHOUT being a pushover or a Simp. All it takes is a healthy self image of who and what he is which shouldn't depend upon what other folks either think about him or say about him. A man who stands up straight, looks people in the eyes, says what he means and means what he says regardless of his stature or station in life, is going to earn the respect of again not only women but with people in general.
What it is and most guys get it wrong is not to be mean but dominant women want to be submissive you gotta mix being nice with being dominant depends the women tho whether she wants you to be more dominant or more nice
I wonder how they'd rate a so called nice guy who truly preferred to react in a very violent manner to people taking them lightly? I'm a so called nice guy that just got tired of people calling me crazy for being short tempered. My preferred way of doing things would put me in a place nobody should be.
Hummm women should be paying attention. Especially the one's who have a nice guy... I know we have all had that one O.G is talking about 🤔 As always I love these topics !!
I don't think this is entirely on point. You can be a kind guy who is just genuinely kind and who does things without expecting anything in return. You can check all the boxes you're talking about, and still turn women off because they just think you're a nice guy. So I don't agree with what you have to say there. Everything else is more or less on point, although other people have already talked about this, like Dr Glover in his book no More Mr Nice guy. Also he more specifically talks about covert contracts, which is what it means when you do something nice for somebody with the expectation that they do something for you in return.
I'm a nice guy, but what seems to work for me is not chasing them almost ignoring them especially if there beautiful. Having a life with goals should be #1
Appreciate the response!
A dandy seducer.
Preach on, Loren! I agree.
1000%
You aren’t all that nice
Also, nice guys tend to fall prey to narcissists and manipulators.
Agreed!
This should be pinned! OMG I have stories. You mean nice guys without boundaries
I always thought of it as a racially thing: I saw it, speaking from a minority male, that being educated and well spoken not only got me rejected but feared! I found myself getting more in trouble with law as a nice guy than when I started carrying myself more badass and dressing more edgy. I find myself less in need of having to walk around with weapons now than before. But now, because I've lacked so much experience with women, I still feel lost in the world of dating but I'm getting better at it as time goes on! Mediating, seeking therapy, connecting with nature, building my body!
"Do not mistake my kindness for weakness" should be every man's motto.
Indeed!
I live by these exact words. You cross me or disrespect me and I’ll show ya’ Mr Hyde! 🤣🤣
Ditto!
PREACH
@@TheStyleOG i think the number 1 investment a man can make to improve his life health, self esteem, love life, and ability to meet women, especially Latin women is LEARNING HOW TO DANCE ( i.e. salsa,) I cant tell you how much this skill has improved my life, this subject would be a great tip for your channel if you haven't covered it
I think there are plenty of women who do like nice guys.. just not too nice. You can be kind and considerate without being a pushover or always being agreeable.
Agreed!
I'm still trying to figure out why women will purposely test a man. These are the same women that are always complaining about the guys they get done dirty by. While I think those guys are a joke, women think those dudes are hot shit.
Being a Kind Genuine man with boundaries is the way to go.
Agreed!
The justice system wouldn't agree with that, my friend 😉!
Kind is another word for nice
I am super nice guy who go the extra mile for ladies in general e.g. Work for free, buy groceries,shopping,cooking,travel to different countries at my expense and pay their bills etc.However,after watching your video,I have decided to focus more on my job and stop being nice....Thank you 100%
Your being a simp our you getting any action by helping them i hope so
If a woman saying you're too nice, boring or this and that and she doesn't love you for who you are, then that's her problem
For those who don’t know, the original & actual, real definition of the work “nice” means fool. I remember being a “nice guy” to the ladies in my college days. It never worked. Now that I’m older and see the world clearly and a bit different with experience, it’s a different ball game. My relationship with the Most High comes first, my priories and goals thereafter. Now, those same women that played me back then are all up in my DMs today….and even new women too, but I keep a cool and calm head & remain strong and principled.
If someone doesn't like you for who you are, it's not your problem! All you need to be in life is a respectable and honorable chap. If a woman calls that being too "nice", let her walk and don't look back. It's as simple as that.
Well said,totally agree.
God's rejection is God's protection
No one should be overly nice. It's important to be a good person but give to reserve all the extra things for people in your circle who truly deserve it. Too many people are taking this advice to an extreme.
U always hit the nail on the head w/the hammer!! I like when u say be kind not nice. I notice when I use ur advice when it come to women, it seem to attract them to me rather than me come @ them.
Right on!
I am strong which is why I can be kind and help others. I dont need to throw my weight around needlessly when I am surrounded by loud small minded people who have trouble executing tasks with large egos.
Jeff you are spot on! I've been telling guys versions of these points for YEARS. A man should never let the rituals to courting take him away from being the most authentic version of himself. Be kind (it costs nothing), but always be yourself. Being anything else isn't fair to her or you.
You're absolutely right I used to be a nice guy especially when it came to beautiful women they are the ones that will make you be nice in the beginning so after dating beautiful Latino women mainly I learned to be just kind to women not nice anymore and sometimes I will even just ignore them I won't even answer that text messages but being kind is the answer kind and confident but never nice not anymore thank you for this good advice
my pleasure!
You're right OG. I met a girl that I really liked so I was trying to take it slow and be all sweet and really try to get to know her and all that jazz. After the THIRD freaking date, her friend texts me and tells me that she thinks I might be gay because I didn't try to have sex with her yet. Lmaooo
I just give them what they want. Asshole first. Gentlemen second.
Move on, she's a simp from what it sounds like.
🤣🤣🤣
😭 😭 😭
@@Loren460 FAAAAAACTS!
You are right The Style O.G. I'm a real "nice" guy. I'm also SEETHING WITH INTERNAL RAGE AND LOW SELF ESTEEM because of being a push over. I often find myself throwing things around at home...getting angry easily at home. But around people and women I'm a big sucker...ahem a big "Nice" guy. But when I get home to my privacy...my "nice" mask falls off and my temper flares along with my feelings of inability to stand up for myself and my interests.
Use that anger into a martial art or boxing. release your thoughts on paper or a counselor. personally my outcry goes to God and it works. You have PRIDE issues.. Learn to UNLEARN your old ways and be humble in learning on how to be your own man without being nice. It does take time and experience. UA-cam videos and social media won't save you, you gotta put it into practice. I love to say " hi , good morning" " how are you doing?" to women who are working as a cashier or somewhere public. I don't try to pick up. Muay Thai and Boxing taught me a lot about discipline and not getting pushed over. " Seething with internal rage" will DESTROY you...I say all of this through personal experience. im now a whole lot better and now I get girls wanting to say " hi " to me. Im no Brad Pitt or good looking guy too. Stop wasting time and go better yourself. Hurry! life is too precious for you!
That sounds like the way I am. I'd prefer to take someone's head off for taking me for something I'm actually not. I don't like arguing with people because that's not going to get my point across in the slightest bit.
I'd rather just step off because people don't hear me until I'm in a rage. I've always had anger issues since I was a kid. With age, I know that I'd end up sitting in someone's prison for treating people just like they want to be treated.
@@dcchavez97 Thank You for your reply. My Apologies for the late response. UA-cam Algorithm did not notify me. Thank You for the Awesome Advice! 👍🙂🙏
@@rgw1380rw I understand. Same here. There are people who will deliberately not listen. In order to get a reaction. Please Don't let them make you lose your temper. Stay Up. And Keep a Calm outlook. That's what I try to do. 🙂I know it is hard for me to do at times. Thanks for sharing.
@@damianlopez7630 There are laws that protect those sitting ducks from people like me who understand that they want to lose their lives.
Nobody wants to deal with a phony. This is particularly true with respect to the phony. When I decided to be true to myself and acted accordingly, my life improved. It is much easier to maintain boundaries when I am not engaged in a cycle of self-hating BS.
well said!
That phony may also be the person who is selective about who they take for a joke.
Mr. O.G.! I haven't tuned in a while, but glad to see your channel standards are still exemplary.
Welcome back!
There's a difference between kindness and neediness. You must differentiate between the two.
That’s a fly blazer Jacket OG salute
Thanks!
Jeff another great video with awesome content. PEACE AND BLESSINGS OG.
Peace !
Excellent Breakdown Brother! Salute! 👊🏿👊🏿👊🏿👊🏿👊🏿👊🏿👊🏿
Much appreciated!
Awesome video. Love the content . Thanks again, Jeff. Salute.
Much appreciated!
Excellent!!!!. You pretty much cover all bases a man needs to know in male-female mating. Every guy should watch this before he even BEGINS dating, whatever age that may be. Sure wish l could have watched this over & over again when l was a teenager.
This man speaks a lot of wisdom. Guys who are playing the "nice guy" should take note. I often wondered - even as far back as high school - why women always seem to be attracted to guys who treated them not like dirt, but indifferently. Never figured that out on my own. Put yourself in a woman's place to better understand.
Hey Jeff, great video ! Just wanted to say thanks, I had that "Everyman Jack Sandalwood" delivered! Now one of my permanent brands I'll use moving forward ! Thanks again !
No problem!
Treat em mean keep ‘em keen… Been working since school days
Out of insecurity we do try to help everyone as much as we can only later to find out that we were just being used according to the whims and fancies of the people around us.
I needed this, sometimes I feel like youtube is listening to me.
Good stuff.
Thanks!
The one glaring reason also is that women think nice guys aren't good in the bedroom and are too passive and accommodating; she will act out inevitably so she wants a man to put her in her place
Yet they complain about violent men 😂 ?
@@rgw1380rw ikr lol
They don’t know what they want
Simple and plain, be kind and not nice. I remember your other video on this topic!
meakness is not weakness......good topic and nice presentation: The style O.G !!
Jeffery I like your style and Advice!
Brisco in LA., from Bmore 👊
OMG, SOOOO nailed it RIGHT OFF THE BAT!
Makes plenty of sense, a lot of women I am nice with always get confused when I want nothing from them, I grew up with a lot of women and I am genuinely concerned about women in general. So if I can help I do so, but I don't desire anything from them, no relationship no favors nothing. I believe that has confused a few friends, but I am also not a push over, I am very firm on my thinking and confident in me.
Thank You Style O.G. Being too nice can be a form of manipulation.
Yup!
So can basing your entire personality off a series of UA-cam videos.
Can you make a Video about a Classic Jabot Tie
Spot on!
Thanks !
Thanks for the info. It was very good! Also the blazer is nice! But i'd ditch the nipple buttons 😂
On point!!!
Thanks !
Moral of the story: have true purpose and chase after that. They will chase you. They will test you. Stand your ground. Stay true to your purpose. Be kind but always stay grounded to your purpose.. women love men that chase after their purpose. Ergo if you chase after your purpose you will have less time for her: ergo the cycle continues...
Be a good guy not a nice guy
Good guys make a difference and live a life of integrity
Nice guys avoid conflict and get ran over
Your video is much appreciated!
Great topic and commentary!
There is an old saying that I tell men all the time just because a woman gets into a relationship with you or even marries you doesn’t mean she respects you and that’s real talk
Damn bro, this hit on the nail … ima manipulate bastard… that’s gonna change RN
But then when you put up boundaries people call you crazy, you didn’t respect me when I was normal but now I’m crazy?!
Damn if you do, Damn if you don't.
What they want is a man who's kind at his core, but definitely rough around the edges. That dude treats them fairly but is not about to let them walk all over him. That's what gets their attention....and keeps it.
agreed!
I'd rather step off about my way. They wouldn't be smiling about me having zero respect for them after taking me for a fool the first time. I'm a guy that is used to attention and compliments from women because that's been life for me. I'm just very confused about setting boundaries because what some call boundaries isn't getting my point across like a good old fashioned jump out the window.
Most of these women haven't really dealt with a Rick James type of dude who refuses to be toyed with, but will walk over them without a pause from the day they open the gate till they tap out.
Nice people try to appear agreeable, it's about how they are viewed by the person they are interested in that dictates their actions. This in turn often comes across as insincere as they are trying to do right by someone not necessarily because they are kind but because they want that someone to like them.
Kind people look at themselves and think "what type of person do I want to be?" and express that in every action they take. It's genuine as they are acting out of personal values and are therefore confident in their kindness as they are being true to themselves and that's attractive.
well said!
On point once again OG!
Thanks !
Don't be nice,be kind
Good point about the manipulation
Thanks !
The tip about being a leader is 100% true. If you can't lead me, I don't need you.
appreciate the feedback!
Being ambiguous is good not just in the dating market but also in the job market
Salute brother
Salute !
You can be respectful, nice take that off the list, nice just means a simp. No simping over here ever.
Normally, I talk proper when I'm out and about or if I'm at a store buying something, but when I changed and deepen my voice, women started to cling on to me, I would briefly chat with about an item I wanted, and they would try to prolong the conversation or play with their hair all because I just deepen my voice lol---
Good video Jeff. Unfortunately, nice guys finish last. Sayings like these don't get to be old unless there is some truth behind them. I say be a good guy with a rough edge/mean streak.
appreciate the input!
My mean streak is violent. I'd rather just go about my way. Nobody who toys with easy going people truly understand that some of us are evil people that just don't take our issues out on others.
Thank you for your channel bro. I watched over 15 of your videos. Hopefully in the future I will be honored with a salute.👍🏽👊🏾💪🏾
You are on the salute list !
@ Peter Rock. You got a SALUTE!!!
This video is major facts I was raised as a nice guy but once I become and adult I trained in a position of law enforcement and it shredded alt that
Thank you bro!
Dropping gems og
I try!
You just gotta have a strong backbone and have standard. Destroy their ego. Let them know you the man. Women will respect dominance
I'm the man that will have a ball when they end up with the usual failed relationships that they are bitter about.
@rgw1380rw Just be yourself and set your boundaries.
Man you on point with your videos . Keep it up bruh .
Will do!
Do "not nice" guys have a higher quality of life, have more options for companionship, have better health, have more access to resources, are better problem solvers, or better parents?
I know what you're getting at. There is a balance, and you never hear about being nice as a success strategy. But I do think it's easier to be too nice.
It's like style OG said: Be kind, not nice.
@@nickmoore1541
Got it...balance of nice and not nice.
What are more accurate words for nice and not nice in this scenario?
@@prestonmcleod1726 Got it.
It’s about not being a pushover. “Nice Guys” don’t voice their opinion and will agree out of niceness. You should be courteous and polite to people, but if someone was saying something mean or rude to you stand up for yourself. Being a jerk will get people to not like you very quickly, and the people that do like you are also jerks. It’s not really about being nice it’s more about agreeing to everything out of desperation and not having a backbone
😂😂 true that. Facts and always on target 🎯
alot of truth here and it may hurt some feelings but its necessary rather it be here than with a female
indeed!
Brilliant bit of comedy, thank you for the laugh
If you have to say you’re a nice guy, you’re probably not that nice. You’re not owed anything for being nice, that’s the baseline of how you’re supposed to be.
who said we were owed anything cus we dont owe no one either
Another great set of "real s#!t" that NEEDS to be said. It's very difficult trying to articulate why "niceness" doesn't always work, but this definitely lays it out nicely and definitively. Nice one, Jeff! What's funny though is that most women will swear up and down that they DO want a nice guy.
Great content as usual OG!!
Appreciate it!
Women do like nice dudes. The problem is the unattractive dude always trying to be nice. Women want the nice looking dude they think is cute to be nice. Ever heard a woman say he was the sweetest thing, yea right she thought he was cute first lol,
So it's because hes not in the top 0.1% man which all women think they are entitled to?
Very true! ❤️💪🏾💯
Salute !
Right on the money
That’s a “nice guy” jacket 😅 Honestly tho ; I like the point about being kind !
Funny!
We should switch the word nice with passive because a lot of women like nice guys but not to the point where they become pushovers and worship the ground they walk on.
women dont like nice guys
Just treat them like a normal person and not give them more praise if they are beatiful and it works
I like your video, it just seems like a big game though, if you are being generally nice, how does the woman know if you are just being manipulative out of the gate? What if you are not and she thinks you are, and this makes you angry? Enjoyed the video
if you are comfortable with your intentions and you establish boundaries she will know, because that will involve you having to say no at times..
In any event, the 🌍 world will keep spinning.
3:49 = chauvinist! No style in that. Who leads in a relationship is often negotiated with each arising situation. If a guy insisted he had to lead I would find it disrespectful as he wouldnt be listening to me. Bye bye Git!
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Wasn't it Shakespeare who wrote "You have to be cruel to be kind"?
This entire video felt like a quick TV commercial that catches your attention
This hit me hard. Tonight I told this woman I am dating I wanted to make sure she got home ok last night but my stomach wasn’t feeling well. I was like you know with crime and stuff here in nyc and she was like noooo don’t do that. That would push me away. I got upset and was like Wth? She’s been apologizing and stuff cause she’s not used to gentlemen but it turned me off big time.
Simp 😂😂😂
She don’t like you.
You have a habit of saying like when you don't need too
Women do like nice guys it is naive guys that are a turn off unless they are the motherly type of woman which most are not. Most girls who like bad boys where I come from are walking around pregnant with black eyes and busted teeth. I like a smart girl,cerebal and bookish most women like that want to be treated nicely,at least in my opinion.
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Great video and information here!
"Nice guys finish last" isn't just a time honored saying it's also the lament of guys who are too accommodating and deferential to not only women but deferential to people in general.
Now to be honest at the other end of the "Nice Guy" scale is a guy being a straight up, full on asshole.
Let me share some "GAME" (Grown Ass Man Education)🎓 here👇
A man can be cordial and courteous WITHOUT being a pushover or a Simp.
All it takes is a healthy self image of who and what he is which shouldn't depend upon what other folks either think about him or say about him.
A man who stands up straight, looks people in the eyes, says what he means and means what he says regardless of his stature or station in life, is going to earn the respect of again not only women but with people in general.
Appreciate the response!
Nice guys have, will and always will finish last. Be respectful but chill out on being nice.
Agreed!
What it is and most guys get it wrong is not to be mean but dominant women want to be submissive you gotta mix being nice with being dominant depends the women tho whether she wants you to be more dominant or more nice
Oh they don't?....... ✈️
He’s right
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I wonder how they'd rate a so called nice guy who truly preferred to react in a very violent manner to people taking them lightly? I'm a so called nice guy that just got tired of people calling me crazy for being short tempered. My preferred way of doing things would put me in a place nobody should be.
Hummm women should be paying attention. Especially the one's who have a nice guy... I know we have all had that one O.G is talking about 🤔 As always I love these topics !!
I don't think this is entirely on point. You can be a kind guy who is just genuinely kind and who does things without expecting anything in return. You can check all the boxes you're talking about, and still turn women off because they just think you're a nice guy. So I don't agree with what you have to say there. Everything else is more or less on point, although other people have already talked about this, like Dr Glover in his book no More Mr Nice guy. Also he more specifically talks about covert contracts, which is what it means when you do something nice for somebody with the expectation that they do something for you in return.
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Translation just be true to who you are and let the chips fall where they may.
Do not mistake my kindness for weakness I'm kind to everyone when someone is unkind to me weakness is what not you'll remember about me
Al Capone
say No !and watch her fists fly at you😂
I does it and tell them I wish you would, and they don't swing either😆😆.