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I love you, Laci! It's extremely refreshing to see someone so passionate about social welfare. However, I concur that child pornography laws NEED to be in place in terms of unlawful distribution. For example, in my high school, a couple got into a fight that ended with the boy posting naked pictures of the girl on his twitter page. THAT should be a punishable offense. I do see where you are coming. The safe practice of sexting, between two people, should bare no punishment just like the process of teenage sex shouldn't. But we you start distributing pictures of a naked teenage girl, there should be a price to pay.
Hi, just to clarify, she meant that teenagers under a certain age could be charged for a felony for sending the picture in the first place. For example, in many states, if a girl is, say, 15 years old and sending the picture, then she could be charged for distributing child pornography and the person to whom she sends it would be charged as well because, well, it counts as child pornography even if everything going on is consensual, so what she is saying is that those actions should not be dealt with as felonies that could register teenagers as sex offenders because they're part of cyberculture and it doesn't make sense. I hope what I said clears that up.
After all my years as kid and teen being victim of bullying, I can say a photo can make a lot of damage... that time internet was something new and not like that and still a photo could be bad... That is why I will never sext... I had a partner who asked me several times and I said no (he got angry with me)... is not that I don't believe in him... but now I'm happy I didn't do it... his new girlfriend found all his photos of his exes and you won't believe what she did with these photos... Lesson learned... prefer do not send one of these... and if I send it it will be faceless!!!
Dominique Thomas Although that's society's problem, not a specific person's view... Shaming female bodies so bad is not something that's normal. It took centuries of patriarchy to make women into sex objects, to the point that now even showing a piece of skin can be reason enough to slut-shame you, harass you, and even justify rape against you. Apparently, this NEVER happens to boys. So, the problem here is not the nude pictures (or nude in general), it's our rotten misogynistic culture.
Msl LogYt "This never happens to boys" I'm sorry, what? I'm pretty sure 99% of boys don't want nude pictures of them leaked. In my past, I've sent nude pictures of myself to guys AND girls, something I am not proud of. If I find out that one of those people showed those naked pictures of myself to friends or posted them online, I would feel horrible. I'm a guy btw, not a girl. Men are objectified sexually too by gay men and straight women. Stop making everything about "women's issues." My mom saw a picture that I sent of myself in underwear (not naked thank God) to this guy who was 19 when I was 17. How do you think I felt about that? How do you think SHE felt? My own father even told me "I think it's wrong that you do this, whether you send it to a man or a woman." No guy wants his sexts to be seen by anyone either. You think I want my family or friends to see naked pictures I sent when I was 17 and horny and stupid? Fuck no!
BadgerCheese94 What we know is that the world can be cruel... more now where there are several generations known as the most egoistical ever!!! And about men, they are shamed less than a woman except if they are what people call nerd... I know men who sent photos of their penis and when show in public they show happy people see their penis (happened to a friend)... Men and women can be shamed about their bodies, but is more true of a woman... look these revenge porn sites!!! And the owner of one of them is asking Google to delete all information about him and his trial in court... Normally men are not that shamed about their bodies but yes about reputation... want to hurt a man, doubt his masculinity (even gay hate that), destroy his reputation (what ever is the reputation he is proud of it), Men are naturally proud creatures, there is always something they are proud, be positive or negative... attack that and it will hurt them, and a lot!!! Women are also proud creatures, but different than men... also, we have millennium or being considered second hand humans, being men possessions, that men say that every bad thing in the world is our cause, that we are guilty of any bad thing that men do to use or to others, etc... So for the society is normal to shame a woman for everything!!! Many moms educate their daughters to not listen to this shaming... other teach their daughters to shame other women... Also, if people see the naked body of a man, after some months is forgotten... the naked body of a woman can take years to be forgotten, worse if she is famous... And many women were victims of revenge porn, where all their personal information were displayed, they received treats, they lost their job, and everybody say is their fault while the men behind the revenge porn are safe (well, no anymore, thanks to some victims that stalked the police and authorities to do something)... I know people who have naked photos of themselves and never shared, but a hacker took them and now they are shamed everywhere!!! And all say is the woman fault... no one say about the hacker, the man or woman that shared another woman's naked photos, no one say nothing about them... and they are even seeing as heroes for many people... Look 4chan... I stopped going to that webpage because I began to be scared of many things people say and post there... is like internet is a free way to let all the psychotics parts of the people get out!!! Read "Why internet hates women"... many times men don't accept women in internet, many think it is only for men... and no one defend women... Where were Anonymous when many women began to be victims of revenge porn??? Aren't they the super heroes of internet? Or all these hackers that call themselves defenders of the internet... Where are they when women need to be defended in internet??? Also internet have people from different cultures and countries, in many of these countries they still see women as a thing, as an object, as a baby machine, as the cause of all evil in this world!!! Men and women can be victims... but for every man victim of body shame, there are thousands of women being body shamed!!!
I think that if you're gonna take nudes, don't have your face in it, and use snapchat. That way you'll know if they saved the picture and if they do, nobody will know it's you.
As a mother the first thing I think about when I hear of teens sexting is "Slut shaming" Teenagers are horrible to each other especially on line, My personal advice. Don't sext if your under the age of 18. Its really not worth the risk. Even snap chat isn't safe. Don't under estimate the person you sent it to. They could have multiple camera devices to take a picture of that snap chat before it disappears. Or they could be with other people and show it off. Than their is that stupid child pornography law that makes even having a naked picture of yourself as a teen on your own phone a felony. Also are you sure that chick who sent you that hot naked photo of her self is 18 or older? "She said she was 18!" doesn't matter you still have the pic on your phone.
I just don't think I could ever trust someone enough to send naked pictures of myself to them not only that but I prefer talking over texting. To each his own I guess just be really careful.
Oh, no, no, no, she is NOT kidding. Kids around me that I know have bragged about shit like this. My friend's cousin, at nine years old, is bragging about having had sex with a boy, and brags a roster of ten or twelve or maybe more boyfriends. These things happen all the time. Little kids setting up Facebook profiles and getting hit on and asked for sex by teen boys and grown men, who often won't even stop is a nine-year-old tells them she's nine. It's terrifying.
@jhmartin180 Sorry you were disappointed! However, I have no remorse. I don't feel I encouraged or discouraged it, just gave the facts. Further, this is not in place to tell people what to do with their lives or bodies, especially teens (who are oft robbed of their autonomy, furthering risky behavior and isolation). It's tell them both sides of the issue and to let them choose for themselves. I am NOT a parent and users' personal decisions should be kept just that...personal.
sex in advertising is overused and has very bad consequences. especially when objectification is used on women or men or sex is seen in a demeaning or negative way. please get informed
There is plenty, I can personally link you if you would like, then again I feel like you are the kind of person who doesnt like to be proved wrong and are very hard headed...Somehow I can tell you are a cis white man.... and that you are also one of those people that arent very open minded. This is a waste of time on my part. Have a nice life bye
@FeelFreeToArgue (contd) concerns for them--at any age. Of course, this requires prior lines of communication to work. Depending on the situation, taking away the phone might break lines of trust between parent & child which can jeopardize communication and perpetuate further risky behaviors. Unsubscribing from p-mail might be less extreme. Either way, tough call that prob has to be tailored to each individual teen! :(
@FeelFreeToArgue Hmmm, I totally understand your concern. Personally I think it's more realistic to make an assessment on a case-by-case basis. Parents are responsible for communicating with, protecting, and educating their kids. Realistically though, the decisions they make are theirs and are difficult to stop without risking much more important things. If it was my kid, I think I would initiate a conversation about it to fully understand their reasoning and then explain my own (contd)
@davism97 Thank you! And I totally agree. I think some parents hestitate to open lines of communication about bodies, body image, sexuality, and relationships from the start and then expect to sit down at 14 and have it be totally comfortable and normal (my parents--ha!). Gotta open those lines way ahead to nurture a safe, healthy future & relationship with them :P
@kingjulien86 Under the law, it refers only to photos. Some people don't think it's dumb at all (my friend his military girlfriend feel closer to eachother when she's overseas), and we're all entitled to our own consensually practiced kinks. New laws are definitely in order! :)
@Blumenrocker just ran out of time with my schedule! im having trouble finding time to even make these :/ hopefully over winter break i can film 12 of them in advance!
everything legally of what laci said is true. we have a lot of sex offender laws that shouldn't exist and radical feminism has been most instrumental in this in the governments war on sex. for example, do you think that a person who gets caught urinating in public should get the life time tag of being a sex offender? By the way, I ain't jiving you about this. In California you really can get a tag put on you for this. Is there anything we can do to change this shit about government? nope, you're pretty much in the same position as many of my gangster friends. you're going to have to find way to outsmart them. And hoping that our government gets overthrown someday and soon because of bullshit like this? optional as so many say it and nobody does it. now, if you're a woman, and thanks to both feminism and government you will probably be blamed for what radical feminists do when you didn't do shit. So, on top of the usual fucked up thing of revenge porn you also got to watch out for men that will set you up to post your body on the internet just out of hatred for feminism, especially if the target is a known feminist. I don't agree with this shit but I do understand how it was brought about. Now, here's a totally gangster way to sext without consequences. I recommend this for exhibitionists get off on this as well as women attempting to please their boyfriends and yet gets fucked over for it due to blockbuster break ups. 1. hide your face. wear a mask. or anything that would conceal you're facial identity. Basically, dress up your face like middle East terrorists do. 2. put fake tatoos on visible parts of your body such as your arms, chest, etc. this will further conceal your identity. you can even film yourself self pleasuring at night in a public place and if you got away with it and post it on the internet nobody will know who you are. these two steps alone is all the exhibitionist needs to enjoy what they do and I wish them good luck at this point. otherwise, for those doing this deliciously sexy shit to their boyfriends, we're not done yet. Step 3. before sending dirty pictures of yourself to your boyfriend, print them, put them in an envelope, mail it to yourself to get the post office date that is stamped on and hold on to that motherfucker as, congratulations, you have just copy writed your photos. beyond this, if any bullshit happens where your ex wants to do revenge porn you can take his ass to court and Sue him for fucking with your copy writed material which could get you good money. I call the above, Anonymous porn and I hope someday that it replaces any need of a porn industry and reduce the war among the sexes quite significantly. wella. I'll fuck with you people later as I gotta smoke a joint. take care and I hope the above helps everybody out.
She actually is a speaker for these kinds of things; she travels and lectures at high schools and universities in addition to her shows Sex+, A Naked Notion, and MTV Braless.
In Canada there is also issues regarding child pornography laws with sexting. Often as long as it stays between two people there will be no charges laid (often- not saying that they can't be) but if and when those pictures are distributed to a third party charges usually WILL be laid
*reality check!!!* 12 yo dont play with barbies and legos!!! And they didn't when you were a kid either. If ya did, you were a little behind your age and quite frankly i dont believe it.
sexting is the act of cybering via text or basically creating a sexual scenario and both parties describing their actions in such a scenario. however much of the same discretion is required, ALWAYS double check who you are sending it to, last thing you want is to send it to your mom, make sure you trust the person, or even better do not know them in real life so there is no way it can make it back to haunt you, hopefully
ToastedBagels how would knowing them in real life prevent them from doing things without you knowing? plus if you dont know them in real life, they probably dont know other people you know, so its hard for it to come back to haunt you, even if they are rude enough to send those pictures to other people, you at least dont know those other people
I have nothing against sexting, but I would never do it because I don't want my photo to get distributed. Also, I feel like as if I would have to be lonely to do such thing instead of actually having sex.
Not only was cable used for porn. But earlier when beta (being far superior) to VHS. Lost out to VHS because ,beta refused to put out x rated movies. Beta format finally went bust . Some people said it was that VHS had better ads . But come on
Also, You don't even need to send pictures. There were 2 different occasions with my last girlfriend where we stayed up late sexting, but all we were doing was just roll playing. Basically just telling a sexy story. And it was loooooads of fun. :D
This video was bad. Not because of the message in your video. It's bad because you had too much lighting on your face and in your eyes. How did you not go blind in this video. Your neck down looked normal but your face was just bouncing back to much light.
@Keatrocity If the person is taking the picture of themselves of their own free will, there is no 'victim'. There may be a foolish person, but not a victim. And said foolish person should not be arrested, charged and possibly tried for such a foolish act. Nor should they be on a sexual predator list for the rest of their lives. I say toss out all nudity laws and let people be as naked as they wish.
Every single fucking time there's a new communication technology, there's always at least one 40+ year old naysayer causeing a fuss amongst the other old people about it. There was one guy who noticed that every single child in jail read comics (he failed to check if children OUT of jail also read comics, or if adults convicts read comics) This lead to much tamer comics, which lead to the Batman TV series, which lead to Batman and Robin. DAMN YOU SCHUMACKER!!! Also censorship.
Such an important topic. Nothing good comes from sexxxting. People become embarrassed, in trouble, or regretful. The people who receive them end up with a lot of the same issues or worse. Just keep your phone out of your bra and or pants. Even Brett Farve is feeling the heat and living a nightmare because he did not think of the consequences. GREAT TOPIC LACI.
Another unintended consequence although something similar was covered: if you fall out later on that photo could end up on some web page (which'll get spammed a lot in Facebook groups) that says something like "this is my ex-girlfriend (whore), who dumped me and now I'm getting payback, so send to as many people as possible and more photos will be revealed below".
dude these videos are way better than those fail sex ed classes....i DONT want to put condoms on bananas dammit!!! They never ever tell u anything you dont already know..... and i always end up getting kicked out for laughing well fuck them sex is suppose to be fun :P
Teenagers have used *everything* to get off. *EVERYTHING*. Taking a consenting picture of yourself should not a be a crime. Regardless of your age. It may not be smart but it shouldn't be illegal. America would be a much healthier place if we would cast off our Puritan shackles of the past. Like nudity.
@Keatrocity I see it as a free speech issue. People are free to speak their minds. And I am equally free to point out that they are fools. I do it regularly on my channel. Free speech, in effect, makes it easier to identify the fools.
I know many people have have been in strong healthy relationship's who chose to start sexting their partner. They are told me the same stories that the relationship slowly began to distant away from trust, honesty and respect and the sexting demand became obsessive/addicting with both or one individual/'s in the relationship where it got to the point where he/she only wanted to see PICTURES of their body... not the actual thing
Well if were just talking opinions and preference, I find it disrespectful in MY relationships because #1(lack of respect in myself) TO ME it shows the need to prove one's affection in only a matter of showcasing their body to their partner. And #2(lack of respect from partner) because it shows me my partner needs "my body" in order to feel satisfied in the relationship. In other words, I believe sexting could possibly detach the relationship emotionally and turn it into just a physical one.
@acidrazor, I will agree with you in part, although the first responsibility of the communication process is on the parent side, the school as a social ground has to be “ A Must”, they are a way of grasping the kids understanding of the surrounding. Even if the pedophile logs to the minor, the sending of a picture means that there must had been a first encounter, so in my point of view I don’t think it is that simple… have you seen “catch a predator” :p @kelep1992... JAJA
On the subject of sexting, the reason I just don't think its a good idea at all, is because even between people who love and trust each other... You never know what the future holds. You could get in a fight and breakup later, and if the breakup is nasty, they might use your pictures to get back at you. Like post them online, or send them to your new lover, claiming you're fooling around. Your new lover will know your body parts... And again, kids/teens phones shoudln't have cams.
A lot of parents give their kids cell phones to keep track of them. But they're not as useful as you might think in that sense. Most kids don't answer when its their parents calling anyway. BUT if your kid ever gets lost, or stuck somewhere with no ride, then they can call you. Or if its an emergency, you can leave them a voicemail or text them. So in that sense, cell phones are a good idea. HOWEVER, its not necessary for a kid/teen's phone to have a camera. Its cheaper without a cam, actually.
You know cell phones has ruined girls lol. My wifes younger 16 year old sister is like a damn robot now. We use to have cell phones and my damn sisterlaw thinks texting is all there is to do these days its getting pathetic. I've known her since she was 5 and she has lost A VOICE to talk lol ITS 24/7 texting she will NEVER TALK ON THE PHONE just text. WTF is up with you people ZOMBIE LIKE TEXTING LOL
@pjnlsn That is just the point, technicality it is under the law. The laws make no distinction, at this point, as to the person taking the picture, including the person themselves. If the photo is of someone who is naked and under the countries age of consent for sexual activities, then is is under-aged porn. One of the ironies is that in many countries if there is less then a 1 year age difference then actual sexual intercourse is ok ... as long as you don't record or photograph it.
Pt2 Laws do not change unless forced to do so. The best way is for the public to petition for the laws to be updated, changed, or otherwise modified so as to remain fair and equitable for all. The same laws that can put a teen on a sex register can also put parents on the register for sending a picture of their baby child to the grandparents, relatives and so on. Sometime you have to view take a law to the extreme and see if it is still fair, and doing as it was intended to do.
On the should sending nudes be illegal? Not if it is a photo of you that you took. If you have taken a photo of yourself and have been caught and are now on your local sex registry, and feel like giving the legal system a headache? Apply to have the sex offender put onto a restraining order, or it's equivalent. I would love to see a judge battle with restrain you from being within 200 meters of you. Does your area have a victims of crime fund? Apply for that as well. And yes I'm serious.
@kkgemini86 If the parent was accepting, and the child could talk with them about things like this, and the parent could accept what like i say is natural, then of course the child could learn from the parent. Punishing your children without explanation will just lead to them rebelling, because they have certain urges, and you never explained to them why it was wrong, you just....ya know, punished them.
@kkgemini86 Teenagers will act sexually, all you can do is guide them, and be accepting of what is only natural. To completely control their environment and actions will just leave them unable to deal with their own lives, when they do need to act on their own. Of course you wish to prevent some predator from, say, tricking the child and, say, being allowed to 'prey' upon them...
@kkgemini86 So what, you believe the world is a dangerous place, so people should have restrictions placed on them, so they don't ever meet up with the danger? Well I don't believe that, I believe that in a dangerous world. people should be thrown into the danger and be forced to adapt, or at least given the tools to deal with the danger, or avoid it, but that it should be the person them self who is aware of and knows how to be safe, rather than just being protected by some 'invisible hand.'
I get that teenagers are sexual, heck if we had picture phones when I was that age my bill would have been through the roof. I just think there seems to be a lot of presure for kids to be openly sexual much earlier these days and things like mobile phones, webcams and sites like dailybooth and stickam seem to promote, not openly mind, the idea that if you are not showing off your body then you are not attractive. Sex Ed in schools needs to get with the 21st century and include these things.
Teens(and pre) do what they've always done, only now its on the internet. ;) The sex offender thing is funny, but I seriously doubt they'd charge a chick with it, you just need to warn the boys about that. Good story: a friend's 22 yo F relative got knocked up by a 16 yo M, State was not interested in sex offender charges, they try to prosecute the 16yo for child support, lol. Parents are wha?? so they start the sex offender charges against the girl. Epic. :)
@FeelFreeToArgue Just to clarify a little - I think it's awesome that confident young people share naked pictures of themselves. What I hate is that there are lots of rude assholes who pressure young people into giving them pictures and then violate that trust by posting them. This also has a good chance of damaging the self-confidence that allowed the sexter to take the picture in the first place. It's hard to tell when kids understand the consequences of what they're doing well enough.
I fully support sexting and I don't think a couple of pictures sent between two 16 year olds should be considered the distribution of child porn. I also have an extremely strong moral rule that I will NEVER send a compromising picture of someone who has trusted me in that way. Everything is completely private, I don't care how awful they are to me and how bad a breakup is.
Jeez something is invented with the intention of making life a bit easier but now I totally hate home phones and cell phones. My home phone is ringing off the hook all the time with telemarketers and my cell phone is being called by idiot friends who wanna talk about something that we should be talking about in person!
@kkgemini86 I realize I might be someone idealistic, and you might have more real experience, but let me just say I don't understand how people can use phrases like 'sexting pandemic' or 'environment for sexual deviants to roam' I mean where is this environment? How is it created? We may not speak again, but I really don't understand how you think, in my defense.
@kkgemini86 I wasn't trying to make unimportant what you've gone through. I was just talking about online, texting, facebook, w.e, really. The danger represented by a stranger in public is dealt with differently. If a so called teenage child is sexting or communicating over facebook and such, this wouldn't necessarily put them at any risk.
really... only 8% of 17 year olds? I have a feeling it's wayyy more than that now that it's 2012. Who hasn't sent a sext? Oh and I would never send a sext with my face in it... Even if you do trust that person something could happen, or their phone could get lost.
Where are the pictures?!?! lol, she's totally my type.. psychically i mean. i am a voyeur. i hate the nudity taboo... because i realized being naked is too natural.. to fire someone for making nude pics, but i don't think women should be naked in public 24/7
Props for actually saying it can be a good thing and not just listing all the negatives Laci, not many people would do that. =] It's definitely something that can be very bad, but it can also be good as long as you're careful about how it's done, especially for people in long distance relationships. =P
@davism97 Hey, that's not true! I'm a teenager, and I think long term! I don't sext, I don't give away personal info, I've already picked out which college I want to go to and what my career will be, and I never do anything without thinking of the consequences.
@kkgemini86 I of course want parents to teach their son/daughters why communications with complete strangers are dangerous. What i'm saying is, children can be safe without so much control over their environment, which is unhealthy.
I've only once as far as I know had my nudes gotten ahold of by someone I didn't intend to see them. Which is why I try not to have my face in the pictures if I do send them.
people can still prove that you sended the pics by showing your phone number or email that you sended them from, even if you cut your face out of the pics, but its different, they cant prove its really you in the photos.
@Hereticofreason What's the point of having sex then if you can't brag about it? But seriously, I'm fine with the internet and my right hand untill I'm 18. And I don't need advice from someone I have never met before.
I almost sexted recently, and I realize rewatching this video that I quoted Laci almost word for word when telling him I didn't feel comfortable with it. XD Laci is the best.
"not all highschool guys are immature " yes not all but most are, even if you think you can trust him, you never know, specially if you have a bad break up someday.
I'm so sorry this happened to you; I remember two years ago I sent similar pictures to my boyfriend and to this day I am so terrified that he'll send them out to everyone.
Okay, Laci. I've been wondering this for - a year I guess. What are you saying in that last part of your videos? I can hear, "Except your mom" but that's it.
This is all the more easier now that Facetime is on iPhones, iPod Touch's and now Mac computers. Why stick with pictures when you can have on the go video? lol.
Oh crap this was in 2010 think of the age groups now.
Instead of sending pictures, roleplay. Describe what you would be doing in FULL detail. No pictures needed, just imagination.
I'm a level 23 half elf ranger!
LMAO you must be living under a rock
I love you, Laci! It's extremely refreshing to see someone so passionate about social welfare. However, I concur that child pornography laws NEED to be in place in terms of unlawful distribution. For example, in my high school, a couple got into a fight that ended with the boy posting naked pictures of the girl on his twitter page. THAT should be a punishable offense. I do see where you are coming. The safe practice of sexting, between two people, should bare no punishment just like the process of teenage sex shouldn't. But we you start distributing pictures of a naked teenage girl, there should be a price to pay.
Hi, just to clarify, she meant that teenagers under a certain age could be charged for a felony for sending the picture in the first place. For example, in many states, if a girl is, say, 15 years old and sending the picture, then she could be charged for distributing child pornography and the person to whom she sends it would be charged as well because, well, it counts as child pornography even if everything going on is consensual, so what she is saying is that those actions should not be dealt with as felonies that could register teenagers as sex offenders because they're part of cyberculture and it doesn't make sense.
I hope what I said clears that up.
she should make a newer version of this videoo.....
After all my years as kid and teen being victim of bullying, I can say a photo can make a lot of damage... that time internet was something new and not like that and still a photo could be bad...
That is why I will never sext... I had a partner who asked me several times and I said no (he got angry with me)... is not that I don't believe in him... but now I'm happy I didn't do it... his new girlfriend found all his photos of his exes and you won't believe what she did with these photos...
Lesson learned... prefer do not send one of these... and if I send it it will be faceless!!!
Dominique Thomas Although that's society's problem, not a specific person's view... Shaming female bodies so bad is not something that's normal. It took centuries of patriarchy to make women into sex objects, to the point that now even showing a piece of skin can be reason enough to slut-shame you, harass you, and even justify rape against you. Apparently, this NEVER happens to boys. So, the problem here is not the nude pictures (or nude in general), it's our rotten misogynistic culture.
Msl LogYt "This never happens to boys" I'm sorry, what? I'm pretty sure 99% of boys don't want nude pictures of them leaked.
In my past, I've sent nude pictures of myself to guys AND girls, something I am not proud of. If I find out that one of those people showed those naked pictures of myself to friends or posted them online, I would feel horrible. I'm a guy btw, not a girl. Men are objectified sexually too by gay men and straight women. Stop making everything about "women's issues." My mom saw a picture that I sent of myself in underwear (not naked thank God) to this guy who was 19 when I was 17. How do you think I felt about that? How do you think SHE felt? My own father even told me "I think it's wrong that you do this, whether you send it to a man or a woman." No guy wants his sexts to be seen by anyone either. You think I want my family or friends to see naked pictures I sent when I was 17 and horny and stupid? Fuck no!
BadgerCheese94
What we know is that the world can be cruel... more now where there are several generations known as the most egoistical ever!!!
And about men, they are shamed less than a woman except if they are what people call nerd... I know men who sent photos of their penis and when show in public they show happy people see their penis (happened to a friend)...
Men and women can be shamed about their bodies, but is more true of a woman... look these revenge porn sites!!!
And the owner of one of them is asking Google to delete all information about him and his trial in court...
Normally men are not that shamed about their bodies but yes about reputation... want to hurt a man, doubt his masculinity (even gay hate that), destroy his reputation (what ever is the reputation he is proud of it), Men are naturally proud creatures, there is always something they are proud, be positive or negative... attack that and it will hurt them, and a lot!!!
Women are also proud creatures, but different than men... also, we have millennium or being considered second hand humans, being men possessions, that men say that every bad thing in the world is our cause, that we are guilty of any bad thing that men do to use or to others, etc...
So for the society is normal to shame a woman for everything!!! Many moms educate their daughters to not listen to this shaming... other teach their daughters to shame other women...
Also, if people see the naked body of a man, after some months is forgotten... the naked body of a woman can take years to be forgotten, worse if she is famous...
And many women were victims of revenge porn, where all their personal information were displayed, they received treats, they lost their job, and everybody say is their fault while the men behind the revenge porn are safe (well, no anymore, thanks to some victims that stalked the police and authorities to do something)...
I know people who have naked photos of themselves and never shared, but a hacker took them and now they are shamed everywhere!!!
And all say is the woman fault... no one say about the hacker, the man or woman that shared another woman's naked photos, no one say nothing about them... and they are even seeing as heroes for many people...
Look 4chan... I stopped going to that webpage because I began to be scared of many things people say and post there... is like internet is a free way to let all the psychotics parts of the people get out!!!
Read "Why internet hates women"... many times men don't accept women in internet, many think it is only for men... and no one defend women...
Where were Anonymous when many women began to be victims of revenge porn??? Aren't they the super heroes of internet?
Or all these hackers that call themselves defenders of the internet... Where are they when women need to be defended in internet???
Also internet have people from different cultures and countries, in many of these countries they still see women as a thing, as an object, as a baby machine, as the cause of all evil in this world!!!
Men and women can be victims... but for every man victim of body shame, there are thousands of women being body shamed!!!
Lol, you are bae even tho I'm gay! 😍
I think that if you're gonna take nudes, don't have your face in it, and use snapchat. That way you'll know if they saved the picture and if they do, nobody will know it's you.
As a mother the first thing I think about when I hear of teens sexting is "Slut shaming" Teenagers are horrible to each other especially on line, My personal advice. Don't sext if your under the age of 18. Its really not worth the risk. Even snap chat isn't safe. Don't under estimate the person you sent it to. They could have multiple camera devices to take a picture of that snap chat before it disappears. Or they could be with other people and show it off. Than their is that stupid child pornography law that makes even having a naked picture of yourself as a teen on your own phone a felony. Also are you sure that chick who sent you that hot naked photo of her self is 18 or older? "She said she was 18!" doesn't matter you still have the pic on your phone.
Did you know the word taboo, actually means sacred at the roots?
No. I did not.
:l
This has been definitions with Grell.
I don't think laci knows that either :(
I just don't think I could ever trust someone enough to send naked pictures of myself to them not only that but I prefer talking over texting. To each his own I guess just be really careful.
12 year olds? are you kidding me? i was still playing with barbie dolls when i was 12
Oh, no, no, no, she is NOT kidding. Kids around me that I know have bragged about shit like this. My friend's cousin, at nine years old, is bragging about having had sex with a boy, and brags a roster of ten or twelve or maybe more boyfriends.
These things happen all the time. Little kids setting up Facebook profiles and getting hit on and asked for sex by teen boys and grown men, who often won't even stop is a nine-year-old tells them she's nine. It's terrifying.
@jhmartin180 Sorry you were disappointed! However, I have no remorse. I don't feel I encouraged or discouraged it, just gave the facts. Further, this is not in place to tell people what to do with their lives or bodies, especially teens (who are oft robbed of their autonomy, furthering risky behavior and isolation). It's tell them both sides of the issue and to let them choose for themselves. I am NOT a parent and users' personal decisions should be kept just that...personal.
"Nudity and sexuality" being taboo is "bad," but sex in advertising is "wrong." Yeah, that makes perfect sense. LOL!
sex in advertising is overused and has very bad consequences. especially when objectification is used on women or men or sex is seen in a demeaning or negative way. please get informed
***** Is there, hard scientific evidence for that, or are you just pulling that out of your ass?
There is plenty, I can personally link you if you would like, then again I feel like you are the kind of person who doesnt like to be proved wrong and are very hard headed...Somehow I can tell you are a cis white man.... and that you are also one of those people that arent very open minded. This is a waste of time on my part. Have a nice life bye
***** She stereotypes me as being a "cis white man" and then she accuses me of not being "very opened minded." Hilarious...
Youve got a lot to learn lil guy
@FeelFreeToArgue (contd) concerns for them--at any age. Of course, this requires prior lines of communication to work. Depending on the situation, taking away the phone might break lines of trust between parent & child which can jeopardize communication and perpetuate further risky behaviors. Unsubscribing from p-mail might be less extreme. Either way, tough call that prob has to be tailored to each individual teen! :(
@FeelFreeToArgue Hmmm, I totally understand your concern. Personally I think it's more realistic to make an assessment on a case-by-case basis. Parents are responsible for communicating with, protecting, and educating their kids. Realistically though, the decisions they make are theirs and are difficult to stop without risking much more important things. If it was my kid, I think I would initiate a conversation about it to fully understand their reasoning and then explain my own (contd)
@davism97 Thank you! And I totally agree. I think some parents hestitate to open lines of communication about bodies, body image, sexuality, and relationships from the start and then expect to sit down at 14 and have it be totally comfortable and normal (my parents--ha!). Gotta open those lines way ahead to nurture a safe, healthy future & relationship with them :P
@kingjulien86 Under the law, it refers only to photos. Some people don't think it's dumb at all (my friend his military girlfriend feel closer to eachother when she's overseas), and we're all entitled to our own consensually practiced kinks. New laws are definitely in order! :)
@Blumenrocker just ran out of time with my schedule! im having trouble finding time to even make these :/ hopefully over winter break i can film 12 of them in advance!
@DJMKN93 Haha...woah, umm I don't think I've ever seen anything that kinky there! They must be expanding! ;D
everything legally of what laci said is true. we have a lot of sex offender laws that shouldn't exist and radical feminism has been most instrumental in this in the governments war on sex. for example, do you think that a person who gets caught urinating in public should get the life time tag of being a sex offender? By the way, I ain't jiving you about this. In California you really can get a tag put on you for this.
Is there anything we can do to change this shit about government? nope, you're pretty much in the same position as many of my gangster friends. you're going to have to find way to outsmart them. And hoping that our government gets overthrown someday and soon because of bullshit like this? optional as so many say it and nobody does it.
now, if you're a woman, and thanks to both feminism and government you will probably be blamed for what radical feminists do when you didn't do shit. So, on top of the usual fucked up thing of revenge porn you also got to watch out for men that will set you up to post your body on the internet just out of hatred for feminism, especially if the target is a known feminist. I don't agree with this shit but I do understand how it was brought about.
Now, here's a totally gangster way to sext without consequences. I recommend this for exhibitionists get off on this as well as women attempting to please their boyfriends and yet gets fucked over for it due to blockbuster break ups.
1. hide your face. wear a mask. or anything that would conceal you're facial identity. Basically, dress up your face like middle East terrorists do.
2. put fake tatoos on visible parts of your body such as your arms, chest, etc. this will further conceal your identity. you can even film yourself self pleasuring at night in a public place and if you got away with it and post it on the internet nobody will know who you are. these two steps alone is all the exhibitionist needs to enjoy what they do and I wish them good luck at this point. otherwise, for those doing this deliciously sexy shit to their boyfriends, we're not done yet.
Step 3. before sending dirty pictures of yourself to your boyfriend, print them, put them in an envelope, mail it to yourself to get the post office date that is stamped on and hold on to that motherfucker as, congratulations, you have just copy writed your photos. beyond this, if any bullshit happens where your ex wants to do revenge porn you can take his ass to court and Sue him for fucking with your copy writed material which could get you good money.
I call the above, Anonymous porn and I hope someday that it replaces any need of a porn industry and reduce the war among the sexes quite significantly. wella. I'll fuck with you people later as I gotta smoke a joint. take care and I hope the above helps everybody out.
@MiguelFHM yeah it's a hot topic right now.... unfortunate for your classmate though :(
@NorthernElumination that's awesome! throw me an email if you try it out! :)
@crankdatmovie hahaha i'll keep that in mind! thanks for the support :) xo
@DJMKN93 haha, i was joking :P but lately, i've been digging Crash Pad.
@willos1991 mm, no? i just take viewer requests on a monthly basis.
@rchyx totally-it's a very prevalent double standard. ughhh :(
@wslx0195 I totally feel your sentiments here :)
@Javi0222 thanks javi! :) glad you like them.
@marisa94xoxo thanks for the lovin marisa! :D
@meb659 I'm glad you enjoy the vids, meb! :)
your views are spot on, im 14 and reslly hope i can grow up to be like you
@jessealmanzavlog hahaha, rock on! :D
...You should be a teacher...
...Like....A teacher for health....Because you kinda educate more then any teacher I've ever had....
....SO YEAH...
She actually is a speaker for these kinds of things; she travels and lectures at high schools and universities in addition to her shows Sex+, A Naked Notion, and MTV Braless.
@elphiegreen thanks maria!
5 years later..
@megaman351000 the sun :)
In Canada there is also issues regarding child pornography laws with sexting. Often as long as it stays between two people there will be no charges laid (often- not saying that they can't be) but if and when those pictures are distributed to a third party charges usually WILL be laid
*reality check!!!*
12 yo dont play with barbies and legos!!! And they didn't when you were a kid either. If ya did, you were a little behind your age and quite frankly i dont believe it.
@robby844 hahhah i laughed out loud when i read this :)
sexting is the act of cybering via text or basically creating a sexual scenario and both parties describing their actions in such a scenario. however much of the same discretion is required, ALWAYS double check who you are sending it to, last thing you want is to send it to your mom, make sure you trust the person, or even better do not know them in real life so there is no way it can make it back to haunt you, hopefully
Wouldn't it be worse if you'd never met them in real life? They could ruin things with out you knowing etc.
Amanda Todd thoee.
ToastedBagels how would knowing them in real life prevent them from doing things without you knowing? plus if you dont know them in real life, they probably dont know other people you know, so its hard for it to come back to haunt you, even if they are rude enough to send those pictures to other people, you at least dont know those other people
Guess so.
Trust me, It's a small world.
I have nothing against sexting, but I would never do it because I don't want my photo to get distributed. Also, I feel like as if I would have to be lonely to do such thing instead of actually having sex.
Not only was cable used for porn. But earlier when beta (being far superior) to VHS. Lost out to VHS because ,beta refused to put out x rated movies. Beta format finally went bust . Some people said it was that VHS had better ads . But come
on
Also, You don't even need to send pictures. There were 2 different occasions with my last girlfriend where we stayed up late sexting, but all we were doing was just roll playing. Basically just telling a sexy story. And it was loooooads of fun. :D
This video was bad. Not because of the message in your video. It's bad because you had too much lighting on your face and in your eyes. How did you not go blind in this video. Your neck down looked normal but your face was just bouncing back to much light.
I want to show this to my health teacher so much !!! This year sex Ed he scared the kids shitless about sexting
@Keatrocity If the person is taking the picture of themselves of their own free will, there is no 'victim'. There may be a foolish person, but not a victim. And said foolish person should not be arrested, charged and possibly tried for such a foolish act. Nor should they be on a sexual predator list for the rest of their lives. I say toss out all nudity laws and let people be as naked as they wish.
Every single fucking time there's a new communication technology, there's always at least one 40+ year old naysayer causeing a fuss amongst the other old people about it.
There was one guy who noticed that every single child in jail read comics (he failed to check if children OUT of jail also read comics, or if adults convicts read comics) This lead to much tamer comics, which lead to the Batman TV series, which lead to Batman and Robin. DAMN YOU SCHUMACKER!!! Also censorship.
Such an important topic. Nothing good comes from sexxxting. People become embarrassed, in trouble, or regretful. The people who receive them end up with a lot of the same issues or worse. Just keep your phone out of your bra and or pants. Even Brett Farve is feeling the heat and living a nightmare because he did not think of the consequences. GREAT TOPIC LACI.
Another unintended consequence although something similar was covered: if you fall out later on that photo could end up on some web page (which'll get spammed a lot in Facebook groups) that says something like "this is my ex-girlfriend (whore), who dumped me and now I'm getting payback, so send to as many people as possible and more photos will be revealed below".
dude these videos are way better than those fail sex ed classes....i DONT want to put condoms on bananas dammit!!! They never ever tell u anything you dont already know..... and i always end up getting kicked out for laughing well fuck them sex is suppose to be fun :P
Teenagers have used *everything* to get off. *EVERYTHING*.
Taking a consenting picture of yourself should not a be a crime. Regardless of your age. It may not be smart but it shouldn't be illegal.
America would be a much healthier place if we would cast off our Puritan shackles of the past. Like nudity.
@Keatrocity I see it as a free speech issue. People are free to speak their minds. And I am equally free to point out that they are fools. I do it regularly on my channel. Free speech, in effect, makes it easier to identify the fools.
Its safer to watch joi vids or cyber, given both partners are consenting and in age of consent.
303 333 wow :D nice
I know many people have have been in strong healthy relationship's who chose to start sexting their partner. They are told me the same stories that the relationship slowly began to distant away from trust, honesty and respect and the sexting demand became obsessive/addicting with both or one individual/'s in the relationship where it got to the point where he/she only wanted to see PICTURES of their body... not the actual thing
Well if were just talking opinions and preference, I find it disrespectful in MY relationships because #1(lack of respect in myself) TO ME it shows the need to prove one's affection in only a matter of showcasing their body to their partner. And #2(lack of respect from partner) because it shows me my partner needs "my body" in order to feel satisfied in the relationship. In other words, I believe sexting could possibly detach the relationship emotionally and turn it into just a physical one.
@acidrazor, I will agree with you in part, although the first responsibility of the communication process is on the parent side, the school as a social ground has to be “ A Must”, they are a way of grasping the kids understanding of the surrounding. Even if the pedophile logs to the minor, the sending of a picture means that there must had been a first encounter, so in my point of view I don’t think it is that simple… have you seen “catch a predator” :p
@kelep1992... JAJA
On the subject of sexting, the reason I just don't think its a good idea at all, is because even between people who love and trust each other... You never know what the future holds. You could get in a fight and breakup later, and if the breakup is nasty, they might use your pictures to get back at you. Like post them online, or send them to your new lover, claiming you're fooling around. Your new lover will know your body parts... And again, kids/teens phones shoudln't have cams.
A lot of parents give their kids cell phones to keep track of them. But they're not as useful as you might think in that sense. Most kids don't answer when its their parents calling anyway. BUT if your kid ever gets lost, or stuck somewhere with no ride, then they can call you. Or if its an emergency, you can leave them a voicemail or text them. So in that sense, cell phones are a good idea. HOWEVER, its not necessary for a kid/teen's phone to have a camera. Its cheaper without a cam, actually.
You know cell phones has ruined girls lol. My wifes younger 16 year old sister is like a damn robot now. We use to have cell phones and my damn sisterlaw thinks texting is all there is to do these days its getting pathetic. I've known her since she was 5 and she has lost A VOICE to talk lol ITS 24/7 texting she will NEVER TALK ON THE PHONE just text. WTF is up with you people ZOMBIE LIKE TEXTING LOL
@pjnlsn
That is just the point, technicality it is under the law. The laws make no distinction, at this point, as to the person taking the picture, including the person themselves. If the photo is of someone who is naked and under the countries age of consent for sexual activities, then is is under-aged porn.
One of the ironies is that in many countries if there is less then a 1 year age difference then actual sexual intercourse is ok ... as long as you don't record or photograph it.
Pt2
Laws do not change unless forced to do so. The best way is for the public to petition for the laws to be updated, changed, or otherwise modified so as to remain fair and equitable for all. The same laws that can put a teen on a sex register can also put parents on the register for sending a picture of their baby child to the grandparents, relatives and so on.
Sometime you have to view take a law to the extreme and see if it is still fair, and doing as it was intended to do.
On the should sending nudes be illegal? Not if it is a photo of you that you took.
If you have taken a photo of yourself and have been caught and are now on your local sex registry, and feel like giving the legal system a headache? Apply to have the sex offender put onto a restraining order, or it's equivalent. I would love to see a judge battle with restrain you from being within 200 meters of you.
Does your area have a victims of crime fund? Apply for that as well.
And yes I'm serious.
@kkgemini86 If the parent was accepting, and the child could talk with them about things like this, and the parent could accept what like i say is natural, then of course the child could learn from the parent. Punishing your children without explanation will just lead to them rebelling, because they have certain urges, and you never explained to them why it was wrong, you just....ya know, punished them.
@kkgemini86 Teenagers will act sexually, all you can do is guide them, and be accepting of what is only natural. To completely control their environment and actions will just leave them unable to deal with their own lives, when they do need to act on their own.
Of course you wish to prevent some predator from, say, tricking the child and, say, being allowed to 'prey' upon them...
@kkgemini86 So what, you believe the world is a dangerous place, so people should have restrictions placed on them, so they don't ever meet up with the danger?
Well I don't believe that, I believe that in a dangerous world. people should be thrown into the danger and be forced to adapt, or at least given the tools to deal with the danger, or avoid it, but that it should be the person them self who is aware of and knows how to be safe, rather than just being protected by some 'invisible hand.'
I get that teenagers are sexual, heck if we had picture phones when I was that age my bill would have been through the roof. I just think there seems to be a lot of presure for kids to be openly sexual much earlier these days and things like mobile phones, webcams and sites like dailybooth and stickam seem to promote, not openly mind, the idea that if you are not showing off your body then you are not attractive. Sex Ed in schools needs to get with the 21st century and include these things.
Teens(and pre) do what they've always done, only now its on the internet. ;)
The sex offender thing is funny, but I seriously doubt they'd charge a chick with it, you just need to warn the boys about that.
Good story: a friend's 22 yo F relative got knocked up by a 16 yo M, State was not interested in sex offender charges, they try to prosecute the 16yo for child support, lol. Parents are wha?? so they start the sex offender charges against the girl. Epic. :)
@FeelFreeToArgue Just to clarify a little - I think it's awesome that confident young people share naked pictures of themselves. What I hate is that there are lots of rude assholes who pressure young people into giving them pictures and then violate that trust by posting them. This also has a good chance of damaging the self-confidence that allowed the sexter to take the picture in the first place. It's hard to tell when kids understand the consequences of what they're doing well enough.
I fully support sexting and I don't think a couple of pictures sent between two 16 year olds should be considered the distribution of child porn. I also have an extremely strong moral rule that I will NEVER send a compromising picture of someone who has trusted me in that way. Everything is completely private, I don't care how awful they are to me and how bad a breakup is.
Jeez something is invented with the intention of making life a bit easier but now I totally hate home phones and cell phones. My home phone is ringing off the hook all the time with telemarketers and my cell phone is being called by idiot friends who wanna talk about something that we should be talking about in person!
@kkgemini86 I realize I might be someone idealistic, and you might have more real experience, but let me just say I don't understand how people can use phrases like 'sexting pandemic' or 'environment for sexual deviants to roam'
I mean where is this environment? How is it created?
We may not speak again, but I really don't understand how you think, in my defense.
@kkgemini86 I wasn't trying to make unimportant what you've gone through. I was just talking about online, texting, facebook, w.e, really.
The danger represented by a stranger in public is dealt with differently. If a so called teenage child is sexting or communicating over facebook and such, this wouldn't necessarily put them at any risk.
really... only 8% of 17 year olds? I have a feeling it's wayyy more than that now that it's 2012. Who hasn't sent a sext?
Oh and I would never send a sext with my face in it... Even if you do trust that person something could happen, or their phone could get lost.
Where are the pictures?!?! lol, she's totally my type.. psychically i mean.
i am a voyeur.
i hate the nudity taboo... because i realized being naked is too natural.. to fire someone for making nude pics, but i don't think women should be naked in public 24/7
Props for actually saying it can be a good thing and not just listing all the negatives Laci, not many people would do that. =]
It's definitely something that can be very bad, but it can also be good as long as you're careful about how it's done, especially for people in long distance relationships. =P
@davism97 Hey, that's not true! I'm a teenager, and I think long term! I don't sext, I don't give away personal info, I've already picked out which college I want to go to and what my career will be, and I never do anything without thinking of the consequences.
@kkgemini86 I of course want parents to teach their son/daughters why communications with complete strangers are dangerous.
What i'm saying is, children can be safe without so much control over their environment, which is unhealthy.
I've only once as far as I know had my nudes gotten ahold of by someone I didn't intend to see them. Which is why I try not to have my face in the pictures if I do send them.
people can still prove that you sended the pics by showing your phone number or email that you sended them from, even if you cut your face out of the pics, but its different, they cant prove its really you in the photos.
@Hereticofreason What's the point of having sex then if you can't brag about it?
But seriously, I'm fine with the internet and my right hand untill I'm 18. And I don't need advice from someone I have never met before.
I prefer sending kinky texts than pictures it leaves place for imagination and there's not all the issue of photos ending up where we don't want it
I almost sexted recently, and I realize rewatching this video that I quoted Laci almost word for word when telling him I didn't feel comfortable with it. XD Laci is the best.
"not all highschool guys are immature " yes not all but most are, even if you think you can trust him, you never know, specially if you have a bad break up someday.
I'm so sorry this happened to you; I remember two years ago I sent similar pictures to my boyfriend and to this day I am so terrified that he'll send them out to everyone.
Okay, Laci. I've been wondering this for - a year I guess. What are you saying in that last part of your videos? I can hear, "Except your mom" but that's it.
Paris Hilton profited... The best way for a wouldbe actress to get prominent, is to have naked pictures everywhere.
This is all the more easier now that Facetime is on iPhones, iPod Touch's and now Mac computers. Why stick with pictures when you can have on the go video? lol.
But you must ask yourself the one question again. How is sexuality and sexual nature anything to be ashamed of?
@onpon4
Laci isn't saying that the minors who SEND the photos are the offenders, but those who RECEIVE them. I agree with your point, however.
The human body is a piece of art, the Romans and Greeks knew that.... I think that we all need to take a step back to before Christianity.
*because being naked is obviously such a terrible thing. We should make it the law that all babies must come out of the womb with clothes on!!!
Heheheh... Good luck sending naughty pictures to my ol' Nokia brick. I'm lucky if I can see 2 sets of brackets with full stops in between
I made a promise with myself that I wouldn't sext anyone because I deserve respect from others and myself. It's just a personal choice.
@kkgemini86 A simple discussion might suffice. 'Be wary of people online who you've never seen.' Which borders on the obvious, really.
Policy makers are whut? "Répugnant"? (from French)
its really cool how you dont discourage sexting, like everyone else. you're the first person ive heard to give it a positive edge.
@mikezilla3 Jesus, calm down, I just gave my opinion, apparently 17 other people agree with me if they thumbed up my comment.
You know the video is old when someone on UA-cam has a flip phone with an 8-bit screen.
when I look up laws for my state I started deleting my nudes because well I'm done!