Coming Out Gay in a Jehovah's Witness Family
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- Опубліковано 21 сер 2024
- The title pretty much explains it all. I was raised as a Jehovah's Witness and then my whole world was turned around once I found out I was gay. This is the story of my life going down this hard road. I hope you guys benefit from watching this video. Most of this video is my story but if you just need some wise words of wisdom, go to 12:05. Thank you for all the questions and comments. If you have an ideas for my next video, write it down in the comments below. Thank you!
I hope you see this. My name is Alicia and im from Tennessee. 19f My mom is a witness and i grew up one. I came out as lesbian about a year ago. My mom freaked out said its satin doing a number on me. I got disfellowshipped and disowned. I got kicked out of my home and turned to drugs and self harm. I truly thought my life was going to hell pretty much as they told me it would. Then one day i decided to prove them wrong. I got a job and am now very happy in my life. I cried watching your video. I had no idea other people that were raised a Jehovas Witness would ever go through something like this. This is a truly inspiring story and i thank you for sharing it.
Alicia Ray Hey Alicia! Im proud that you turned your life around to prove them wrong. Just because you don't have them doesn't mean you don't have anything. A lot of people have been through similar experiences so keep strong for everyone out there :)
I am proud of you. I sincerely wish the best for you 💋💕
Thank you David G
Alicia Ray CONGRATULATIONS,Alicia Ray!! Good Luck,Good Life!!
+Paul-Napol'eon CallandThanks,Paul-Napole'on,for your +1!! Hope for the time when No One has to overcome Hate in the Name of God's Love!!
Hey Dylan, I'm johnathan I'm gay I'm 17 years old and my mom is a Jehovah witness and my dad isn't so and they are both super homophobic. They found out through Instagram in 8th and beat the living crap outta me. 9th grade I ran away like 3 times 10th grade I ran away and tried to kill myself this all happened recently I stopped self harm not to long ago I'm a junior now and I hope things won't be like my past because I honestly think I wouldn't be as strong anymore I wish my parents could just let me be me!
Unfortunately we can't just wish our parents to be accepting and have it happen. I'm sorry for everything you've been through, but remember, when you graduate and are 18, life will be so much different and hopefully better in your case. Wishing you the best :)
john garcia John, do you have sympathetic and supportive relatives with whom you might be able to live? It sounds like your home is WAY too stressful and you really don't deserve to be beaten.
When I was your age, I seriously thought about running away to my favorite aunt and uncle's home. They had absolutely no problems when I told them I was gay (back in 1970, when I was 15). In retrospect, I really wish I had gone to live with them: my relationship with my parents was untenable, and my being gay was just one part of it.
+john garcia - I recommend you look for a pflag group nearby and or a gay youth group. Find the leadership and let them know what is going on. Set up a safety net for yourself if there is no family you can talk turn to. The streets are not safe for you. I know this is not easy but it would be worth the effort if you can find the support system. Things will get better even if they look bleak today. Also try to get a job so you can start saving money for yourself just in case. Good luck.
+john garcia I am really disturbed by what you have reported. No teen should be subjected to emotional or physical abuse. If you are not safe do not run away, this could put you in greater danger. Attempting suicide will not fix the problem either. If you fear for your safety tell an authority in your school or police.
If you can make it until graduation, make a plan. Get a job and save every penny you can. Find a friend you can room with.
NO ONE deserves to be hurt especially by those that should love them.
My advice to you is call the police. Your parents cannot treat you like that.
I left JW several days ago. Though it hurts a lot, I am truly happy for making this decision!
Hey I'm about to make a big decision soon.
Stay in it bring gay is no crime
@@Ray-xh6gb it really is not a crime , we all have the right to sincerely love that person who is mature enough to understand us as long as it is true , I was forced to follow my father 's religion , but luckily today I am an atheist and I see that in the end it is not your sexuality that defines you but your character as a person
Heart breaking! absolutely heart breaking. You should not have to make this decision. All my best thoughts
Ex JW here, you will find a freedom that you never thought possible and meet some amazing people! "worldly" people aren't out to hurt or use you, it's just JW propaganda
I used to be part of the JW community, I used to dislike gay and trans people, but later I learned the science behind it, I learned to accept it, and although I am straight, I now see gay people as normal people.
Thanks guy! I wish others were a little more like you!
Thank You! Life is too short to express their hate and believing in negativity all the time.
Pisses me off so much when someone says “you’re not born gay”. Makes me mad so much even though I’m not gay myself.
You’re not born gay ! Facts
Mr. Ditto
oceanpower most gay people are born that way and know from a young age. Fact
You're not born gay. You just want to act like a girl.
luka blanko why are you commenting 2 years later
@@thomtom3070 well I just saw it.
My parents are Jehova's witnesses too, when I told them I was gay they completely freaked out. I wasn't baptized as a Jehova's witness yet but I was in the process of becoming one. I always felt I was betraying my nature whenever I heard them talk about how being gay is anti-natural and wrong in the eyes of God. Like I always told my parents, you preach about a loving God, a forgiving God, an accepting God and then you tell me that I will not inherit the kingdom or be in the new system because I'm gay even though I'm a good and loving person. That's when I stopped attending their services or reunions. To me, it's completely unfair and contradictory.
Unfair and contradictory because it dint fit your needs, fyi not a witness but know a thing or 2
God loves all of his creation. And within his creation there are straight, gay human beings. It has been this way during the passage of human history. And every human being has a mission in this life given by God. God bless you!
I don't want to one up you,But that sounds just like the message spelled out in the Hardshell Baptist Church I grew up going to in East Texas....As I was coming of age around 13 or 14 and I knew at that age there was much more to be known about the Loving God than how brutal and vengeful and angry he can be with me. I left. I never looked back........
Jehovah doesn't want to lower the standard we must rise and meet the standard he set forth. That is most likely why they feel that way. The Bible is clear about choosing that lifestyle, but do you I guess.
@@Goffe909 What choosing lifestyle?
I am so happy for you. I have been with my husband for 18 years now. If people are not going to support you then you have to let them go. Congratulations Dylan!
I agree with you
I'm bisexual and in a Jehovah's witnesses house hold which everyone is homophobic. I watch your video at least twice a week. I would NEVER EVER think of coming out to them. But your video gave me hope. you make me smile even when I'm scared and sad. thank you so much! ❤❤
@Dachshunds Are my life
Thanks you say it NOW.
Still your predominant sex is bisexuality, then you be precacious not having a lay plan for future promiscuity upon your kind, act responsably so you do not be cut in trouble .
And please do not feel embarrass to say it from first instance in your next video, and then blame us all not anymore cause being gay it is not to be just the same from being born bisexual , 👍, and responsability is still there as part of any sex practise and future happiness is envolved in for you.
Please, stop being a crippled minded person for life blaming your parents and indirectly their faith.
Make sure they want you not to suffer for your bisexuallity and "hot minded" attraction toward (all) your kind.
I was closed to be leashed like a dog even being born a male heterosexual cause they thought I was not mature enough concerning my sexuallity and I might get pregnant an adolescent girlfriend then.
I never attacked my parents' nor Catholism for how I felt at your age or how they made me feel down and rejected instead of instructing me...keep that in your head making some growing up respectful choice about their free parental efforts rearing you since there is not a manual in how to be a parent that warranty zero rearing up mistakes.
Maria Clooderwin
First, what homophobia got to do with a natural born bisexuality from birth ?
Get all your cables well re- connected , would you ?
Maria Clooderminwin
Please, allow me to ask you this MariA-O;
Did you born bisexual or you accepted later in life being "re-oriented hermaphrodite" who being a female likes man and women to have sex with ?
Real hermaphrodite people are not heading to work in gay bars or prostitutes when are well educated that they actually born with the male gender and and the female gender in their natural agreement.
I'm not hermaphrophobic nor re-oriented genderphobic.
Are you bi-homophobic ?
Elzevier Javier Garcia will you just fuck off you moron
Not the end. Only the beginning.
Not gonna lie, I teared up a bit
+Dylan Rubic Dude I love you bro and I know you posted this video a long time ago but I hope you get to read this one day. I can really empathize a bit with your state of affairs since I'm an atheist raised in a Jehovah's Witness house hold. I wasn't ever really close to my church friends as prescribed by the church but I do understand some of what you went through. I'm not sure if I was shunned by the community or not but whatever it doesn't really matter. What I wanted to share was that I felt the exact same way when I left the religion, a huge sense of relief and happiness of the whole new range of possibilities that had just opened up to me. Thank you for being yourself and never change just to fit in.
-Sincerely
Kenneth Corrrea
+Dylan Rubic I love ya!!! And, really hope that you can FEEL the love that people are handing out to you. I'm so sorry that you had to go through this. And, GLAD that you are doing good now. You have such a positive attitude. And, I love that. I have a friend that just got kicked out of his family. Lost his whole family and a lot of his friends because of the JW organization. And, to think that I almost became a JW at one time. I used to belong to a United Pentecostal Church. And, that was a really bad cult, too. But, then, once I got out of that, I started studying with the JW's. And, so it was like I almost came out of one cult and then got involved in another cult. So glad I found out about the JW's before I *really* got involved with them (and glad that I found out that they were/are a cult, too, before getting too involved with them). And, I am a gay man, too. And, went through hell in the UPC (the Church I was telling you about that I used to go to before starting to study with the JW's) because of my being gay. And, I'm just really glad that I am no longer going to this Church (or studying with the JW's). I still believe in a higher power (God). But, no longer believe in organized religion. And, am NOT religious at all now. I'm very spiritual. But, no longer religious. Can't stand religion!!! Religion does more harm than good. And, I love your video(s). Hope you KEEP making these videos. You are an awesome person!!! And, don't EVER lose that love that you have in your heart (and that positive attitude that you also have). The world needs more people like you and me. It really does!!! Too much hate in this world. And, too many lives being destroyed by religion. I'm glad that you are shedding some light on these cults. HUGS!!!
+Kenneth Correa I'm proud of you. I hope you have a nice day. Keep being you! ❤️
I feel happy for you. you didn't need the religion anyway. it would hurt you even more.
Hey there complete stranger on the other side of the Pacific. I'm a sixty-one year old gay man in Australia. I was watching a bunch of these coming out videos because I like to understand where we are up to in how young people are dealing with these issues and because mostly they are pretty hopeful and positive....which I can always do with in my life. I trained to be a Minister in a church but when they found out I was gay they said there was no position for me there. That's around thirty years ago. I just want to thank you for sharing your story because it kind of healed something in me to see another generation coming along who are supporting each other and sharing their stories, as you have, to help each other. I've been a youth worker for more than forty years...I know, who even knew people lived that long...and I care how young people's lives unfold for the better and to see them possibly avoid some of the pain that my generation went through. So I send you the deep thanks and love of a distant stranger and just really hope that life continues to bring you love and happiness.
I was raised a Jehovah's witness and I'm bi. I've not told anyone except my dad. this is really helping thank you for making this video ❤
cinnamon swirl are you still practising?
TheShockinglyEloquentDog woof no but my grandma would be very hurt if she found out
cinnamon swirl i know what that's like. is your dad excepting of you?
cinnamon swirl that's amazing i'm really glad to hear that! i've gone through so much repression and shunning as a teenager just because i liked gay stories (you know slash fic lol) it horrifies me to think what children who actually identify as such must feel like in the religion
TheShockinglyEloquentDog woof its hard but I'll say something eventually 😊
This is amazing. I am 15 years old and I'm in a jehovahs witness family. it's really miserable. i am gay and I am terrified of coming out to them because of the religions "rules". you are great.
Erin Kelly me too :(
Erin Kelly same ;(
Its not jw rule its god rules, cant serve to bosses
I think it would be wise to stay in the closet until you are independent, Erin. That will be the moment to quit. That will hurt, but it’s more important for you to go on with your life like YOU choose to be than staying inside this prison. Choose your friends (you didn’t choose your family, or did you?) and be happy. If your parents really love you they will regret and at that moment you might be able to admit them into your inner circle again.
@@jeancolapierrearmande3326 Thank you for saying that. I'm not a JW but I'm forced too I want to quit this cult
Hi Dylan thanks for those amazingly COOL encouraging words,i have lately been feeling a little afraid and looked down on for how i have felt since I was a small kid,your message has made me realize more that this is Not something that i chose for myself, even though sometimes i really already acknowledged that realization deep down in my most inner being, but because of negative reactions from some people and from most of society I've let myself to be boxed in, but like you say in that the freedom comes from me myself acknowledging the truth and also the truth about myself and excepting for myself who i am- and so this will help me grow and be able with courage to let my light shine forth before all of mankind so that they may see my good deeds and glorify my Father who is in heaven, thank you Dylan for giving me that little more push that we as weak earthen vessels always need- so now more i am happy to say that Yes no matter how i am ridiculed by people who hate the way i am- i will with the strength of God continue to proclaim that i am Not ashamed of the Gospel of our LORD Christ Jesus and that i am definitely not ashamed of the cross of Jesus- God incarnate because God in His unconditional Love stepped down from His throne in heaven and entered into Time and came to earth for to die on that cruel cross for the forgiveness of mankind's sins and He resurrected from the dead so that we might have eternal life with God, so why should I feel ashamed of loving God? Your right Dylan I didn't choose this- this is just like the way i am from forever i can remember, and i am very sure that i didn't choose Christ Jesus- but that he chose me even before the foundation of this universe. So thank you again Dylan for helping me along on my journey with your encouraging words. Thanks Dylan and may God our Saviour bless you now and always. Thank you Dylan for your encouraging words- that was so cool, Yet i know that on my journey to heaven i will still probably be hated on by most of society today, but with the strength of Christ Jesus and his triumphant resurrection i will continue to March on forwards. Thanks Dylan and may God continue to bless you with your next breath, and my next breath as well that He so graciously gives to every one of us alive right now. Bye. :) !
I'm heterosexual and I LOVE your message! You're awesome!
Dylan.. please listen, you have no idea how happy I am. I've been born into this religion. I really feel I can't escape. I'm so happy I can relate to someone so deeply. I really don't know what might happen if I really do come out. I haven't watched the video yet I will I promise. But let me just say that I'm crying because I really did feel alone in this. Today is a meeting, i really hate having to put on a dress because that just isn't me! I'm a girl but love all things guys, which is why I'm gender queer. I really hope this video will help me because even when my WHOLE family, and not even joking, my WHOLE live family is a Jehovah's Witness and most of them go to the same congregation I go to and, it's scary to think they won't accept you ever.. and because my parents can be.. sometimes abusive.. im doubled as scared. I hope that later on in life I will come out. I don't hate the religion, they have a lot of things that I agree with but I can't run away from being myself. I thank you so much, thank you.
Another note, everything you said is so true. They make you believe that if you're not one way, then you're wrong and should change. And because of that, i still sometimes look back and say "maybe Armageddon will come.. and maybe I won't be accepted into paradise.. what if.." and I have fears of those same questions. And because I'm still not old enough to drive or move, I can't do anything about it. It's really bad. I'm just so happy that there's people out there like me. Thank you again. I hope that one day I will be like you; free and be who I truly am. Thank you for this message. I really appreciate it. From the bottom of my heart, thank you.
Shooting Star hi army!! I have a similar story to yours. I want you to know that you’re not alone! I hope all is well ! 💜
I can assure you Armageddon is never going to come. Leave that religion as soon as you are able to leave home. I never see my devout J W mother and haven’t seen her for about 22 years and it’s bliss not having to listen to her snide judgemental comments. You become free when you leave that religion
Army!
I love you...just keep hanging in there.
Dylan how you doing
my mums Jehovah's witness and has negative opinions on homosexual people because of it so I secretly drew two dudes kissing on the inside of her Bible :3
Oranges Please omg lol
lmfaoo i died , yeeeees
Perfect.
You are my favorite person
Oranges Please you..... you a good hooman
Oh boy... This made me cry. I can't believe how much I connect with your story.
I'm currently growing up in a Witness household. I had a horrible experience coming out (involving the police) which was almost two years ago. My mom cried for hours and my dad was extremely angry and they basically told me I was wrong and that Satan was controlling my thinking.
I am now 15 and the topic basically become the 'elephant in the room'. My parents never talk about it other than asking me if I am still gay. They won't help me seek help for the depression they KNOW I have and they have basically shut me out from the world.
They now don't trust me with anyone (inside the hall and out), and I basically have no social life. I feel so alone and I'm constantly depressed.
I also enjoy school and have so many amazing accepting friends there, but it's getting harder and harder to keep my true self from those in the hall. The people I've known and grown up with since childhood. It TERRIFIES me to think that most of the people I know would be disgusted with who I am.
I'm stuck and I don't know where to go from here. It's so much. I'm so happy to hear that someone can go through something similar and be happy and free. But I still struggle with self harm and depression and I don't know what to do from here. Do you have any suggestions? Thank you so much for sharing your story. ❤️
Thank you for this video. I remember that when I came out as gay, my parents told the elders, and one of the elders gossiped to his family. The gossip spread like wildfire and everyone in my congregation and the congregations nearby knew what my parents shared in confidentiality.
The elders are NOT allowed to gossip and should have been removed from their position of trust and authority. You should have reported them.
Well done for taking a stand on who you are Dylan. You're right, they give you the impression that being kicked out means your life is ruined; what a big lie. I recently said to myself 'there is nothing left for me, my life is over'... I needed to hear your advice about not throwing it all away... Thanks, I needed to hear this
Religion is fucked, its screws with peoples heads. All the best for the future Dylan, your an inspiration
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Religion is a load of crap, just like JWs
Being gay is normal and ok. Being a Jehovah's witness is divisive and culty.
Kissalude Good for you. In the spirit of Madeleine Murray O'Hare, I would encourage you to try to convince as many people as possible that religion is bogus. It's time we hold these myths up to the light. I know how easy and comfortable it can be to just say to yourself "Well, glad I got outta that, now I don't have to talk to crazy people." But that doesn't help anyone. Get up, get out, and start getting people to ask questions. I'm not saying we could, or should, crush religion, I'm saying we could, and should, expose it for the scam that it is, and let it fade into history, like so many myths already have. Only then can humanity move forward into a new age of peace and universal prosperity.
Jesse Huckabee pls shut the fuck up if you don't have anything intelligent to say pls ok don't go judging all of the people because of some of the people I'm a Jehovah's witness and I I knw what they did was wrong but don't go blabbing about shit you don't know okay
crystal renner Fuck you. I'll say what I want. Fuck watchtower.
Jesse Huckabee you nasty hypocrite so you can say whatever you want and I can't so if I was to run around saying being gay is wrong its ok for everyone to curse at me but when you blatantly insult my religion its OK wow
crystal renner Why can't someone insult your religion?
Also gay. Also raised as a Jehovah's Witness. I stopped attending when I was 16. Never went back and never will. Were you disfellowshipped? Either way, i'm glad you found a way out. Cheers bud.
Thank you so much. I was a gay jehovahs witness and i came out with the help of this video. Thank you. My family doesn't support me either and I was hospitalized for depression cause i thought my life was over but now I know it is a happy life.
Thank you, Dylan. What an inspiring message! I grew up being VERY religious, and lived in fear of being sent to "hell" because I'm gay. After becoming a drunk and trying to take my life, I knew that something had to change. I'm now in AA, and their love and support helped me to love myself and accept myself for who I am. You are SO right--it DOES get better. I'm now 70 years old and have been in AA for 31 of those years. Learning to accept myself--and to love myself AS IS--gave me a freedom that I've never known before. I'm no longer a Christian. I embrace all religions which don't discriminate, and I have found that there are many of them. You have been released from a prison, my dear son, and I thank you for spreading your message to your peers. Your courage and love is an excellent example, and I wish you the best that life has to offer. You are a blessing to this world!!
Dylan I love your warmth and positivity! You are an inspiration to all people everywhere! You made my week. ❤️❤️❤️
wow you actually hit the nail on the head........ i did stop going to jehovahs witness meetings over a year ago, and i did go through a huge stage of depression shortly after all my friends didnt want anything to do with me....... i did attend another church a few times and came to the realisation that religion is all the same ditched that idea of looking for meaning in life through religion and started making the best out of life and now im happier than i've ever been
Game Ninja if thats What you really wants then Go for it. But i hope that you know what you are doing !
You know who rules the world for realy and is happy who quits !! dont give up mate !
( im not JW ) but i know the Truth
Game Ninja I'm so glad you're making the best of life! Positive vibes! Love life! Its great :)
Your own depression make you think the worst about us.
"I when suffering from depression put the blame on others...then when I go back in control I am so fine and a tune in everybody"__admitted somebody undergoing meds for it.
Elzevier Javier Garcia You really don’t get it do you....it would depress ANY sane person having to put up with such a cult as yours.
Perhaps one of the most sincere, authentic, coming out stories I have ever witnessed. You are a huge credit to yourself and all those you are positively impacting. Thank you very much for relaying your story so beautifully.
Thank goodness you exist. I'm 18, and I've known I'm gay since my first kiss with a girl in 7th grade. (Maybe before). I know how impossible the struggle is. Once you come out, your basically shunned. Being Disfeloshipped (ugh crappy spelling) is like being banished. I'm still going through it. My whitness mom literally said, "No, your not. Your not. You think you are, but you aren't." I know once I meet someone, I wont ever be able to be with any of my family ever again. I'm glad I am not the only one anymore. You are the first I have ever met like me. Thank you.
hey dylan idk if youll see this, but i am currently going through the same issues at home with strict witness parents, and you just gave me so much strength. Thank you.
Of course :) stay strong!
@@chacalaca911 This was one of the most inspiring Coming out videos I've ever seen. You are amazing! To be raised in a strict environment and yet find the strength to be yourself is amazing. You definitely just got a new Sub. Keep being you 😎 (btw, Damn! You are a gorgeous man, just wanted to give you a compliment you deserve)
Caleb Cardoza I hope you are doing better bud and are staying positive
Dylan.. I was raised JW in the 50s, 60s and 70s in SoCal.. Being a witness was everything.. It was amazing and scary going to school dealing with the outside world.. I loved my friends in the truth and made have made some amazing friends on the outside.. I left the organization in the 80s after a divorce and some other events that I went through and that witnessed others going through and part of me still wants to believe that God will cleanse this earth and bring peace but I also want everyone to be accepted no matter what their sexual orientation.. I can't believe God wouldn't accept us under such circumstances.. God is love.. I've had to do a lot of soul searching since leaving and I still love God, Jehovah, but my love has grown out to embrace the world and I still pray for peace to come to this world and for acceptance.. Thank you for sharing your story.. God bless you!
@Xtina
If a woman or man would be raped in a given situation in a point of his/her life perhaps not being a JW them and from a rapist man or rapist woman__ Would be correct to put a SPIRITUAL FIGHT to regain self-confidence in own one's prime sexuallity ?
Not giving up throwing a towel , not around to allow someone else determined your "anew adquired sexuallity", like saying "you've a death disease for a life sentence and the spiritual one too, nonsense !
It's a long process through abuse to lose self-dignity of respect to start actually "feeling fine" with his/her sexual re-orientation, through shame, guilt, depression, crippled emotional support for life, post traumatic stress, anxieties, angriness, "aggression", and in the worst of the cases self- suicide.
And it might be a long process of years as well with a short times of set backs to regain SELF-WORTHINESS when keeping A SPIRITUAL FIGHT TO REGAIN THE PRISTINE SEXUALITY to say clear and sound who we are made of to stumbling rocks.
It is NOT OK to look for being welcome from the Christian Congregation WHO EVER HAD such SPIRITUAL FIGHT and MOSTLY THEY DO NOT UNDERSTAND IT at all.
Would it be like asking them why a person with the supressed immune system symdrom could be violently coerced not to married in the Lord when actually THERE ARE [living proves of babies on earth and mothers not being infectious with IT] just because the father's children was diagnosed with the symdrom years ago before marriage ? Nonsense !
A situation like that watched within Copernicus and the Catholic religious church tyranny in not understanding astronomy, nor science progress.
More fractions of the blood is water, by the way.
Mother's glad's turn blood into baby's milk "formula", but the Scriptures says abstaining of (wholesome ) blood, not water, not milk (formula with ex-blood plasma content known as water ).
Then for some JW's even knowing Jehovah God of Israel would not understand the long process of abuse for a person accept sexual re-orientation as "being fine" to the "re-oriented victims "!
That's a fact !
I have that kind of dilemma. How I wish there's sort of a compromise, being true to yourself but still keeping your faith, but we all know that that can not happen.
there is no room to allow, any type of compromise if you are in this JW Religion, you either abide 100% by ( ALL ), I said ALL of there JW Watchtower Man Made Doctrines , or out you go by disfellowshiping and or just as bad shunning you forever. so say ??, if you are born Gay out you go, but if you are born Straight god loves you. INSANE!!!
You are a child of the universe...no less than the trees and stars; You have a right to be here.
Robert Worth ❤️
Beautifully said ❤
I was raised as a Jehovah's witness too. I just came out as gay and it hasn't gone so well for me. Thank you so much for your courage, it helps me to keep going.
Its good to see more people going through the same problems im a lesbian and left the church and its been an interesting ride if u or anyone else wants to talk hit me up on snap @angel_luvsya or instagram @fiercely_angelic and just text me about your issues if you feel comfortable i love to give advice. Be safe
Keep praying it's Jehovah who listens not man
No one is prefect
Flora Paschal no such thing as Jehovah
🖤 Thank you for this!! We were out of the Watchtower org for several years when my daughter came out. I’m thankful her JW family members have been shunning us because I’d rather her be fully accepted and supported by her loved ones.
Thank you for sharing your story. I was also raised as a witness. I knew I was gay since I was in second grade I believe. As you know, it’s a big NO to being gay, or at least practice it. In my teen years, I was so brainwashed towards believing that having feelings towards another guy was wrong, that I’d pray every time to Jehovah to forgive me, and I mean every time. I was dedicated to the church , a lot was expected from me, I got baptized out of expectation. I got so nervous on the interview that I can’t believe I hesitated when they asked me what I thought marriage should be between a man and a woman. In high school, I ran into another guy who was also raised JW and he came out to our circle of friends in school who were not JW. I freaked out, and my stupid brainwashed self threatened to tell his elders if he didn’t. It wasn’t until later that year that I finally accepted myself , and eventually had a boyfriend. I didn’t get to come out , my parents took my phone and found my messages to my boyfriend and it got UGLY. My dad punched his way through his room door out of anger and my mom hit me for making my dad react that way. After that , I forced to go back to brainwash mode or I’d be kicked out of the house. Then in junior college , the guy I had threatened in high school got his revenge, as apparently I pretty much messed his life at home , because I forced him to come out at home. I was glad he took revenge because It’s the most horrible thing I have ever done as a supposed “good JW” Eventually I met my now husband , my dad found out again, he gave me a month to move out. Lost contact with my whole family, they cut me out, I cut them out. I still messed up because of that. It’s been 10 years , and my sisters have reached out , and have accepted me for who I am and are willing to accept the consequences of associating with a gay man. Now, I’m happily married, with my husband. I’ve only forgiven my sisters because they have been very genuine with me, Even want me to be in their kids’ lives. I won’t forgive my parents , because, who throws away their child for being who they are and not willing to understand that, and choose their religion over their own flesh and blood? So please, don’t make my mistakes of suppressing yourself, IT WILL NOT WORK, you’re meant to be who you believe you are, suppression WILL hurt you and others. Be proud and surround yourself with those who actually will love you no matter what. 😘
Hope you are doing well, and maybe your parents have softened a bit. Ask them why god would create gay animals, if it was such a bad thing .... And that Jesus never once said anything about gay people. The Old Testament (with it's vile and brutal stories and rules) does not apply anymore. Only Paul mentions it once in a letter (men that lie with men ...) Well HE was a Roman and those also despised homosexuality. Jesus said that divorce was not O.K. except if the spouse is unfaithful. I would add that ongoing abuse would also qualify to end the "convenant". Abuse is worse than a one night stand or even short affair.
Why did Jesus NEVER mention homosexuality being such a deal breaker. I mean there are FOUR reports on his life and teachings ....
I love seeing people become so strong! You're an amazing person and although you've been through hardships you've come out of it a better person. Stay strong and keep living life to the fullest! :)
Good for you Dylan. You have a very mature attitude. You have an important message, that needs to be heard. Keeping ones morals and values and not getting involved in self destructive behaviors is a tribute to yourself.
Now to quote one of my personal hero's Christopher Hitchens, "Religion poisons everything."
So sorry you had to go thru that, but we are feelin your good vibes. Great video. Yes, Watchtower would call it 'Gay Leprosy' LOL. JW's suppresses EVERYBODY's life, not just gays. Our friend, meeting amazing people is not over yet, its just begining, welcome to the ex-jw community and UA-cam. My little brother was raised as a JW and was gay. He comitted suicide in 2003. Kim & Mike
Kim Mikey I am so sorry. Thank you for welcoming me into the life of ex-JWs :) The support I've had from others and people like you are all I could ask for!
Dylan Rubic I commend you for this video. I completely understand how you feel. I was raised as a Jehovah's Witness and I remember sitting in meetings hearing them condemn gay people and I remember feeling so hurt because they were talking about me and other gay people. Once I began to read books on feminism, homosexuality, a light bulb turned on and I eventually severed all ties with the religion about 2 years ago, I was never a baptized Witness but I was an unbaptized publisher and I remember constantly "praying" that somehow the organization would become more open minded and accepting. But sadly as you now, the organization is not big on change. I'm happy to say that I have never looked back on my decision to leave. Thank you for sharing your experience.
Not all jehovah witnesses r bad
+Jada Clarke, he never implied or said that.
You are not wrong in that spective that the people are not bad. but I can put a ? to their practice and believes
You are so incredible. You have done nothing more than be honest about who your are and have had to deal with being ostracized by your religion. You are living more in the teaching of Christ than your former church can ever be. Great message. Have a great life!
Hey Dylan. I have only just now found your video. Like so many other commenters I had almost the same experience. And I agree at the time it felt like my life was coming to an end. I was kicked out of the church and thrown out of my family. I attempted suicide at the time because I thought there was no other choice. Luckily, I survived but I went through many years following of addiction and abusive relationships trying to cope. After that I got myself clean, went to college, met my BF (of now 13 years and now 3 years of marriage). Life got better for me and it will get better for everyone. Much love to you for making this video. Much love to everyone who has seen it. You are not alone. You are and will be loved.
I was a jw for a longgggg time, I knew I was gay at a very young age. I could not let my fam shun me so I did the "wright thing" I got married had children and was really a very sad person. to make things worse I'm living in a country where up2 a few years ago being gay was illegal. so you did not just get shun by your fam and church but by every 1 in the community. I'm glad you are happy cause now at the age of 55yrs i:m lonely i could not live a lie any more, still I got shun by my children and every1 else. so a long story sort you have 1 life, live it you cant make others happy and not yourself
thats sad to hear im sorry that has happened to you but it is nice to know your no longer living a lie
I'm so sorry for you.
That really sucks....
as you know its very hard at this age and we will be all alone but we need to stay positive. may I ask from witch country you are?
@@francoispotgieter2452 Sure. My grandfather was french and he married a dutch woman, so my father was half french, half dutch. He also married a dutch woman , so I'm really quarter french and three quarters dutch and I was born in Amsterdam and never left the Netherlands. I guess you're from South Africa?
This is amazing! Your story is extremly close to what happened to me..My grandma can hardly even look at me anymore because of who i am. As a former JW, i relate to pretty much everything your saying! :3
I'm not gay but I think the way people treat gay people is disturbing, equality is treating all people the same , well done for overcoming your fears and just living your life.
I am being raised as a Jehovah Witness right now but I think I might be bisexual because when I was 10 I had crushes on a few girl and boys now I'm 13 and still confused im not ready to come out to my family yet because I'm still tying to pease it all together this video really helped me get one more step closer to telling my family think you so much
Why is it so hard to understand that certain behaviors are classified as Sins in the Bible? I when God wrote the Bible through his inspiration unto the scribes,prophets,& Apostles...do you think He meant it as a mere suggestion...or as Truth? Do you trust God? Or do you trust man & desires of the flesh? The Scriptures are of God & from God. One's desires are of the flesh's corrupted nature.
Thanks for sharing Dylan! As one who was raised a JW, and gay, I can fully relate. It took much longer for me to come out...But I wish you a happy and full life!
Thank you for sharing your story with us. Very inspiring message from a genuine and cute boy. :)
Dylan, what an amazing and inspirational video! Keep being strong!
I know this video is 3 years old but I found it super inspiring! Very heartfelt and well said.
You radiate such confidence! But I realize you have gone through a painful, hellish loss of friendships, so your confidence was dearly bought. And you have come out alive on the other side, and are an encouragement to others! Kudos and blessings to you!
Congratulations Dylan, you are a brave role model - proud of you! It's been almost 20 years for me and I haven't regretted it for a moment! "BEING WHO YOU ARE IS AMAZING!!!!!"
I'd give you an award for the most inspiring encouragement to all the young LGBTs out there going against all odds.
You may have just saved my life. I’ve been struggling with the fact my parents arent gonna be here for me after i come but knowing life is gonna be better without them really helps me alot, i cant thank you enough.
I grew up Mormon in Utah. Now I know other people had a very different experience than me, but my parents both accept me and the people I date. My dad went to a PFLAG meeting with me and ran into some highschool friends. After that he started giving me date ideas. Anyway. Before I came out I talked to people online. I was 17 at the time. I met this guy in Florida. He was everything. Cute, kind, and just the greatest guy I ever met. We talked and then he just disappeared. Then about a year ago I tried sending him a message and he actually replied. Turns out he was a witness and he explained what happened. I thought I had my friend back. But because he was afraid of losing his family, he was in the process of going back to church. It tore me apart. I lost him twice to that organization. I loved him. Truly loved him. I think about him almost every day and every time I hear or read about witnesses it almost brings me to tears. I wish he was still in my life. I miss him more than I've missed anyone in my entire life.
You go man!!! See im 17 and grew up in a JW all my life and im pansexual. Im living in a group home now so i have the freedom to be myself.
My life got better when I left, I stopped self-harming, I have someone I love with 4 cats and I'm doing good! I've never been happier :)
The more people like you who have the courage to tell their own story, help those still in fear, you deserve such respect...
Your story really touched me deeply. I wish you the best of everything life has to offer.
Probs the best coming out video I’ve ever watched on here.
I know a few people who are gay and grew up JW. It’s hard I know because I grew up in it too. I was literally their beard up until I left when I turned 18. The gay community is soo strong and loving its one of the reasons I confront JWs every chance I get. If left in a blaze of glory. I think I was fortunate because I always was an atheist and really never formed attachments and had made secular friends behind the congregations back. I so happy you made it out and living your new happy life
I salute you for your courage Dylan. Thank you for sharing your powerful story. Best wishes all the way from Australia.
"You shouldn't be scared of who you are." You are absolutely right. Thanks for making this video. I hope you're doing well these days. Stay safe and much love.
Thank you Dylan for sharing your story! Thank you so much!
Basically I had to and am still going through this exact problem. I’m gay and my family is JW and I’ve come out but I’m not accepted. Luckily it’s my senior year and I’ll be leaving soon, but I know my family will disown me when I leave :( in an ideal world I’d like to meet another guy like yourself who’s an ex witness so we understand each other... but that’s so unlikely lol
You are very sweet and self aware. It's a great coming out story that will help so many kids in general and JW kids in particular. You're amazing too, so thanks for taking the time to share, and all the best!
Wow! I'm so happy for you. You such a nice human being , keep encouraging other people to live their best life responsibly of course. I'm a JW and I'm happy that you didn't destroy yourself when you left. Many youngsters commit suicide or goes through depression out of loneliness. This is one thing I don't agree with our religion, this lact of true love for one another. Your poor mum.. she thinks that she's obeying Jehovah, but in reality God hates judgemental people. Any way all the best dear. Keep being strong and stay blessed.
gosh you're so brave. keep being you
Being gay doesn't destroy families. Hate groups masquerading as religion destroys families
I know you made this awhile ago but your words make me smile. Life does get better as long as you make the best of your situation. I come from place filled with love and acceptance and I wish I could share that with everybody. Thank you. You're beautiful. Keep smiling and being you. Love you ❤️
I'am too from Jehovah witness family and I'am really scary about coming out. Great video bro.
THANK YOU DYLAN, YOU ARE AWESOME.
Thank you so much for making this video... This really will help me get through. I'm so happy you spoke about this. I love you very much ! You're very brave and strong
I am trans, and raised a Jehovah's Witness as well. It is such a difficult situation to be LGBT and to be raised in that religion. I am so glad to see you overcame it and I think that the message of you video is super amazing. I really liked it. :) Do your parents still communicate with you? Mine don't. But I have new friends and family, and life keeps going. It's wonderful. Thanks for making the video. It's touching.
The world is your oyster, and I am so happy you are not letting that cult drag you down too. So glad you are being yourself, and it warms my heart that you are doing this so others can see that the world is not the scary place they made it out to be.
Your story is so similar to mine. And you said so many things that I have also thought or said since I was forced to leave my congregation 4 years ago. I thought people acted the way they did to me because I come from a small isolated congregation in rural England, but turns out JWs are the same everywhere. Though I have no contact whatsoever with my family or former friends, I have made a new family with my boyfriend and other good people who will never treat me the way my congregation did. Happily-ever-after doesn't have to happen in Paradise.
This was beautifully, beautifully written. Thank you so much for sharing. You're so strong and continue to be strong!
Well done Dylan. The way lots of religions isolate you and then shun you when you don't fit in for whatever reason is terrible. This video is great and it's Fab that you've made a great life for yourself and imagine how many people you've helped who are watching this, bless you
I am gay and was raised as a Jehovah's witness and I left and am now living happily I have not been disowned by my family life just goes on 😊😊😊
I agree with you. My mom is a JW....she knows my issues and what I deal with, I'm 18 and never fully came out to them but that's all going to change thanks to you.... this religion is very strict, I'm tired of hiding... the only real reason why I was hiding is because I didn't want to be shunned by my mom.... she told me these exact words when she found out about my social media " no body Is going to come between me and my god. Not you not anyone". She told me that I had to put on a new personality. And my father is homophobic of course but he is not a witness... this up and coming school year is my last year and the reason why I waited so long because I had a feeling that neither would support me financially but in order to be happy in life you need to be you and now I'm ready thank you! I will be making a video about my experience as well soon!!!! Your an inspiration
I came out to my parents after i saw this video.
Kateland Ligon How did it go?
Omg good job:))))))
Hope it went well!
Her parents Oofed her it seems
Half of my extended family are JW. ............... Luckily my parents were not. Dylan you are going to have hell. I came out at 20 in the 1970's and it was not easy. You need to get to a good college away from your church (their crazy) learn to live in the world that is free. Take your life in your own hands and make it happy. Find a dude that loves you, get together and LIVE..... and get educated. The JW's are a cult. Your life is what you make of it. I am a highly educated (Ph.D.) and work in my chosen field. My significant other is a Computer Programmer, and we have adopted two kids 15 years ago, we are so happy. the 2 kids we adopted have decided that one is gay and one is not. They are now in college, and we support them every way we can. anyway love ya dude. We are looking forward to grand children. I grew up in southern TX, went to HS with my sig other, our parents were cool with our choices. Everybody should have the freedom to be who they are.
wow what an interesting and inspirational story! much love!
I just wanted to comment and say that you made a huge difference in my life dude. This video gave me the courage to finally leave the kingdom hall and start a new life and I’m so thankful for you and this video. Wishing all the best for you always ❤
Your story has been one of the things that has given me hope. One of the things I have learnt in life is that I am the only person that can make me happy. Thank-you for your kind and powerful words. It is people like you who help to brighten the days of others
Thanks
Reuben
Wow, I'm not from a religious family, but by the look of this nor were you. Any parent who sets aside their natural love and affection for their own offspring, believing instead the teachings of hatred and division cannot claim to have lived as a human being. They might as well have shunned you for being 'left-handed' or something like that. You put it so well, if the religion doesn't accept you, then maybe it is time to move on, or find a group that does. If you still want that religion, fine, but they you can start your own 'survivor's' group ... I'm so so glad you got out, staying there could have been the death of you: welcome to the light-filled world of ordinary humanity.
L&PForever JW is definitely a religion. Most religions shun gays. I know.
Dude, you have NO idea
Yeah, coming out to your parents is no fun when you're a JW. When your dad is an elder and your mom's a regular pioneer (my situation), difficulty settings are set to Nightmare Mode haha. I'm glad you had the courage to be you. Nothing worse than living a lie
I am not a wittiness thing(if butcher the name of I tried) but my mom is like a believer in god, we don’t go to church anymore but whenever I bring up gay stuff, she says it’s wrong, all that homophobic stuff. Sure most of my issues haven’t come from this but this video is inspiring, you don’t have to be well homosexual to see that(I’m questioning) and on some level I believe this has helped me in some way, thank you💕 your story is truly amazing!
Honestly, you sound like a kind. Regardless of you sexuality you’re an amazing person!
I'm not gay. I just want to say one thing: RESPECT!
I hope you keep on living that great live.
Greetz from Belgium.
2016 and this shit is still happening.
Good job Dylan, we are all proud of you. Hope you're happy man :)
Ok Dylan you inspired me to make my coming out video thanks so much you are my hero 😀
Im happy for you man im not LGBTQ but i support people like you! You all are inspiring people! 😊💜
I am soooooo darned proud of you. You are so enlightened for someone your age. You are going to have a fantastic life, Dylan. Carpe diem. Keep winning. You ARE a winner!!!
John
I'm a lesbian and was also raised a Jehovah's witness in Az. Rough stuff still have issues with my "family " to this day but I'm 30 now and have my partner and our child were happy
At least the torture stake wasn't a cactus :P
I wish you the best in life
I started studying the Bible with Jehovah's Witnesses at the age of 15 when I was in high school. I was baptized at the age of 20 and was the only JW in my family. I am bisexual. I was outed to my family by someone I was seeing. My family is not accepting of it. You would've thought there was a death in the family the way my mother reacted when she found out. The people in my congregation never found out, however. I left the organization about three years ago, not entirely because of my sexual orientation, but more so because of all the research I've done about the organization, its history and teachings. There are some other reasons as to why I left but that pretty much sums it all up. I was awakened and so I left. Thank you very much, Dylan, for having the courage to make and post this video. I am strengthened by it.
This was a while ago, but I am so happy you made this video. I'm raised by Jehovas Witnesses, and I don't know how to tell them. They're always talking about how wrong it is, and I turned to self harm. I'm telling them soon, thank you so much. 😭
as a trans guy living with Jehovah's Witness parents, i really needed this
well, im one of those few to be a gay Jehova's Witness, and im almost 14, my parents assumed and asked because of they way I act and all and of course i deny. I am still going to church, but trying to avoid talking to everyone so im like in my own world. and well after watching this video it gives me a sense of hope that things may go differently than what i expected, and coming out to my parents was way harder than expected, thanks for the feeling of hope.💖
Mathew Wilson I am in your place right now I avoid everyone and my parents ask me cause they are worried wish I could tell them. Please respond so we could talk bout this more?
Powerful message! So kind of you to share your story.
Thank you for putting this out there for people to see and benefit from. I am sure you have helped and will help so many people through this.
At least you didn't have to come out as Jehovah's witness in a gay family... Now THAT'S rough.
Nice vid :)
I highly doubt that.
+Zane Seahorn I have a feeling that +cardiganjane
yikes that would suuck too lol
The gay family would probably accept a JW any way , a JW accept a gay not so much.
Bravo! Thank you for sharing your story! You are more brave and courageous than any of those JWs you left behind, and they don't even know it. It's not easy starting life over but you have done it so beautifully. You have such a great head on your shoulders and that will serve you well in life. You are so right, life is beautiful and so are you. All of us ex-JWs are here for you! Peace and love always.
Thank you for being brave and posting this and being so open. So many people need to hear this message.
I'm trying to work up the courage to make one of these. This helped!
Hey I was brought up as a JW too and I'm bisexual. Sadly my mum doesn't accept it and she ignores it and pretends she doesn't know. But this video has inspired me to try to get it through to her properly :). Its amazing to see someone else in a similar situation