5 KEY Phrases To SHUT DOWN A Narcissist & Reclaim YOUR CONTROL (Disarm The Narcissist)
Вставка
- Опубліковано 15 вер 2024
- 💪Are you ready to dominate narcissists and take your back in any conversation? Join me for a free live webinar! Click here to sign up 👉👉slay.rebeccazu...
⭐Get started negotiating powerfully by grabbing Your Free Crush My Negotiation Prep Playbook right here (15 PAGE FREE EBOOK): 👉www.crushmydeal...
⭐Grab Your Free Crush My Negotiation Prep Playbook right here (15 PAGE FREE EBOOK): www.crushmydeal...
Learn 5 phrases to disarm a narcissist and take back control of the conversation. If you've ever felt like a narcissist was taking advantage of you, or you just want to be able to stand up for yourself better, this video is for you. Rebecca Zung, top lawyer and narcissist negotiation expert, teaches you five key phrases that will shut down a narcissist and help you reclaim your power.
#shutdownnarcissists #powerovertoxicpeople #rebeccazung
✅DISCOVER HOW TO NEGOTIATE WITH NARCISSISTS AND WIN ALL THE TIME IN THIS FREE LIVE WEBINAR:👉 slay.rebeccazu...
⭐Find out if you are in a relationship with a narcissist! Take this FREE Quiz negotiate.rebe...
⭐Join my free private Facebook group right here:
/ narcissistnegotiators
🎓Rebecca Zung is an attorney who has been recognized as one of the Top 1% of attorneys in the country having recognized as a Best Lawyer by U.S. News and is AV rated by Martindale Hubbell. She is also the bestselling author of 2 books, Negotiate Like You MATTER (foreword by Robert Shapiro) and Breaking Free: A Step by Step Divorce Guide.
🚀More on my SLAY Your Negotiation Course
www.slayyournegotiation.com
🚀More on my Breaking Free Divorce Master Classes: www.breakingfreefromdivorce.com
🚀 Main website:
www.rebeccazung.com
❤️ If you are struggling and need help, check out the resources at Better Help right here for online therapy. Please seek the help and support you deserve. www.betterhelp...
We receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. We only recommend services that we trust.
👉 Follow me on TikTok @rebeccazung
👉 Follow me on Instagram @rebeccazung
👉 Follow me on Facebook rebeccazung
⭐Be sure to subscribe and hit that notification bell to get notified when I upload new videos.
/ @rebeccazungesq
The commentary and opinions are for informational purposes only and not for
the purpose of providing legal advice. You should contact an attorney in your state to obtain legal advice with respect to any particular issue or problem.
• 5 KEY Phrases To SHUT ...
• 5 KEY Phrases To SHUT ...
Do you want to learn more about shutting down the narcissist once and for all? Join me in my ABSOLUTELY FREE webinar and I will teach you tips and tricks of disarming them in conversations. Sign up here 👉 www.icanslay.com
I can't wait to share these tips and tricks! See you all there!
I get the feeling you know my ex personally. Thank you so much for your framework, and giving me understanding and awareness of what I'm dealing with.
4:49 #4 "We can resume this conversation when you're ready to respect me."
I like this. They are antagonistic so they are not going to be respectful. Thus you don't need to resume the conversation. Shut them down forever!
"Whatever" or maybe "I don't care" would be the best in my situation. I think he loves hearing I'm sorry no matter how it is phrased. He would only hear the I'm sorry part and think he is GOD -lol.
Never ever apologize!
Exactly
Thank you for helping me “turn this ship around”. You’re saving my life ❤️
Keep it up, Lisa! I wish you peace and sending you love! ❤
😂😂❤😂 I have a 17 yr old girl. I have that “whatever” down pat. It goes along with the eye roll you can hear! She’s a teenager. I pick my battles. 3 softball teams, varsity tennis, 4.578 GPA… she’s a good kid. I only get the eye roll thing around once a month, if you get my drift. I can deal with it. ❤🎉
I know what you mean 😆
I was born to a narcassit mother.and I watched her manipulate anyone and everyone she connected with.
I somehow was able to survive the abuse and have a natural ability to crush the narssacit ego like Hannibal lecter chewing through the fat.😀
How do you do that?
Spot on from a mental health clinician! Helping a friend dealing w/one now!!
Respect Me I have used "I understand that's your perspective" to great effect
Every second of this vídeo is important for everybody facing a narcisist in their lives. Thank you, from Brasil!
Boundaries are Self Love & RESPECT for ourselves AND others. We teach them- & stop them, through our Self RESPECT. Its a process that is a beautiful Gift- OUR Gift. Keep on choosing to create the new peace & space for ourselves 1st, with these teachings & healing our M/B/S. Thank You so much Rebecca. "Nama-slay"😄-absouletly! Om onwards 🙏💯🎯🕉🌈🌞🖤🪞🤍🌞🌈🕉🎯💯🙏
When the narc shouted at me in my room, I turned around to walk out the room. He then said he will hit me and proceed to hit me in my back with his fist. I opened an assault case at the police.
Oh no, Celia! I'm sorry to hear that! I sure hope that doesn't happen again. Just in case, please utilize the resources and support that you deserve by calling The National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233).
Whatever
No
I agree that's what you're feeling/thinking etc
We'll continue this conversation when you're ready to respect me. Walk away.
I'm sorry you feel/ think that way
You have read my mind. My notebook's right beside me! I need some new tricks in dealing with my neighbor.
Rebecca, you have a GREAT day dear. You have helped so many, including me. Thanks from the bottom of my heart!!!
♥💜💜💜♥
May work for some. “Im sorry…” or “I agree” usually results in them (in their mind) proving you’re to blame, and they will still not stop, and use it against you later. “Let’s resume this later…” they’ve replied “you’re just trying to control the situation”, and they need to have the last word, so they will continue. If you just sit there and take the abuse, and don’t say anything, it infuriates them more. Using “whatever” has put me in an even more of a rage-full situation.
These are just my personal experiences with 2 people with NPD in my life. Doesn’t mean it won’t work for you. The only way to permanently resolve these situations is to eventually develop the courage to leave.
5. "I'm sorry..."
4. " We can resume this conversation when you're ready to respect me."
3. "I agree, that that's what you believe."
2. "No."
1. "Whatever."
Thank you so very much for this video. I Really needed it just very right now! Everything happens for a reason. I hope you don’t mind that I downloaded it to hear again. Much Love ❤️ is
You got this, Molly! Deliver these phrases with confidence 💪
Disarming a narcissist shouldn't be that difficult,if their being dogmatic about it,let them know how inappropriate they are.Because at the end of the day you should know your rights,you don't have to have a guilt complex because of it🆘❌🚩✔️💲
Grey rock is the absolute best defense against arrogant manipulative people. Also if anything is a emergency for them put the brakes on immediately and take control of the timeline.
It is but unfortunately, there are times that it can't be helped and some people would have to eventually face and talk with the narcissist.
@@RebeccaZungEsq
When I need to interact with them I keep my reactions at a very dry level without being rude or passive aggressive.
Something critical that i realized about my narcissist experience…A freakish capacity to talk about they’re very own horrid behaviour( what THEY actually did to another ) by taking on their victims ‘role’ / ‘character’ in the ‘play’!!?? Deeply twisted. I have never met such a sinister characteristic in another human ‘being?’. - The abuser acting as the abused and actually believing it!?. Woh . 😳 hard to believe that Narcissists are actual humans. 😮
Yep. Smear campaign, triangulating, gaslighting. So textbook.
yup. 🎯 but not textbook upon first experience of said. Only textbook …after having read some textbooks 🎯
I use no all the time. Also, It is what it is works too!
LOL I said number 5 before you said it. My soon to be ex, covert narcissist actually told me he hated that word.
Thanks 😊 "Rebecca ", your such a big help 👍✌️
Appreciate that! Remember you got this! 😊
Never say sorry to a narcissist, just walk away...they will go insane.. narcissist = control and power... By saying sorry it makes the feel that they have control
Remove they're power = they crumble....
I’ve just had this conversation, it’s draining 🤦♀️😡😩
Ugh, aren't they just the energy vampires?? There ARE other strategies you can use, too. If you haven't signed up yet, join my free webinar!
You are so right. I think I’m at my whits end. I’ve come to the point where it’s like talking to a brick wall. I think my cats are better to understand and communicate with. They drain you to no end and make it look like you are the issue.
Short n sweet n exit stage left. I used to go get my coat on in another room and leave in my car. I was rarely stopped out in my car as it was the last thing expected apparently. Also I was quiet. I think he thought he won a onesidded battle. I only stood up for myself rarely when I got triggered over one subject. Untill I saw he was just being an a**. I would say I did X and you know it because you do Y so I know you know the truth. Then usually would just not engage. When ask where I was going it was always to see girlfriend. Even if it was anywhere. Why didn't I tell him? I was running late listening to his speech. It's late! Not for us night owls. What time was I returning? Couldn't say, exactly. Bye bye. I was always returning after he was in bed. Thank god he was regemented and a heavy sleeper. I came home made a fire, and a nice dinner. He would wake later to potty, come out see me cozy, look quizzical and go to bed. Or I would go call my 'daughter' with head phones on, turn on radio in room on low, get up on bed with teddy bear and pillow. I had disengaged. Or go to bathroom flush n leave or get up in bed. I don't like to argue. It wasn't a part of other relationships, but one. And those were rare. You have to get out of it. Non respectful, are antagonists. Better save your soul an psyche.
I call it “talking to the wall!”
I am being hovered - separated 3 ½ years - finally got my mind back.
He gives seems like - 1,000 reasons to get back together - thought about adding to the list… but decided not. Finally I (God?) dreamed up the strategy that we had to talk about “what it take to get back together again “. Over like forever…
First he ignored this.
Then later he remembered and seemed happy.
Then he forgot it again (as if he was retarded - not!!!).
Then he said
Made the mistake and said “when I left - meaning turned the door knob and walked out the door” He jumped on saying - see - means voluntary”. Not!
Then
He would call and say
“What is your plan?” (Didn’t fall into that rabbit hole.).
“When are you coming out here?”
Finally he asked
“What it would it take?”
My answer --“HONESTY”
He is smearing me -
When the truth is he harangued me, broke me, threw me out like a piece of trash knowing I did not have enough money to live on or a place to go. (aged 74) Thankfully I got taken in by a decent shelter for 90 days.
So far he’s stumped but being a never quit high level Narc he’s sure to come up with more moves.
Starting to gather info for divorcee. Since I live in 1/5 of our joint income… would be a change for the better.
The beat goes on…
I do these already & somehow he twists it around & says why do you have such a chip in your shoulder ?? Why are you acting this way ??? When in reality it’s him that is treating me horribly. It’s like I can’t win no matter what I say or do !!!🤦♀️🙄
Some of them once they get compromised and shut down, they get extremely explosive and violent, they would even result to use their histrionic victimhood dramas to spiral the world into their victimhood theater.
Love it thank you!!!!
Thank you. Glad I can help!
RESPECT ME !
I am too agreeable. Very difficult to change this. I have tried many times but when it comes to the crunch I sidestep
Do you have a good support system in place?
Thank You 👍
To say sorry means you’re admitting guilt. My wife goes 0-100 in 1/2 a second, there’s no 20,30,40,50,60,70,80,90,100. If i say sorry she will say something to the effect I’ve done something and it will justify all the stuff she’s about to do.There’s no respect from these kind of people. My wife doesn’t talk it’s always yelling. lol i believe you can’t change who a person really is , once you know who they are , treat them accordingly. We all deserve respect.. what i say is … i hear you, and i disagree with what you’re saying. But i say i hear you so she can stop saying the same thing. Good talk..
R-E-S-P-E-C-T!
Respect me and there is power in the word No
The narcissist in my life has been calling me names and putting me down! I got so fed up with it, I told them I'm done, our relationship is over. It felt good telling them that 😅
He has beaten me down
45 years😢
I hear you. My narcissist brother has been in my life for decades, and won't leave me alone. I only learned about narcisists only about two years ago. Before that, I was his sitting duck.
Sad 😢😢😢😢
Yesss .... Respect me 😬. Covert's don't focus needs of you in discussion (disguise)
Respect me!
RESPECT ME!
Respect Me !!!
I'm Passive Agressive in my apinion .
Thank Ya
R E S P E C T...Alwayzz
😂 Don’t turn your back on a unicorn!!
Nevvvva!!!! 🏃♀️ 🦄
None of these things deterred the narcissists that I know, in fact, they only escalated.
Respect me
Your kinda love booming at the end there Rebecca...
Respect Me!
RESPECT ME!!! 🙋♀️
Respect me!
Respect me.
Still can't find the Crush My Negotiation worksheet. The link only goess to an ad for another class.
"Respect me"!
Louder please! 😀
Whatever! I use that all the time
Respect me 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👍
Hey lady... no joke... do I have a situation with my ex... I need help... I need advice... This isn't just run of the mill... She was ruining my life using my daughterAnd hurting her in the process and I have all the proof that people need I just don't know what to do next because she's attacking me like crazy with messages and threats Of course which doesn't even scare me but it causes so much stress and tension while trying to co parent... I'll do anything I'm just a good dad that wants what is right and good and I feel defenseless because I don't have the knowledge I need
Respect me!!
respect me
Respect me🌞
Hello. I just Start new job in finance car dealer. new building new location in my home town but the older finance manager always take all the customers and deals. I talk to him very professional and explain that is not fair. talk to owner and owner of the dealer do not fix situation. we are equal as job title finance manager. but he claim been with same company for 8 years and he can do what ever he wants. owners promises to fix but nothing is done. any advise?
Respect me.
RESPECT MOI
Respect me!!!!!!
Respect me. That's an issue.
I am currently facing Narcissistic coworker
HR and upper Management have created an extremely Hostile work environment. New "Management., Has targeted me for whistleblowing and being in a labor Union l was a steward and I have successfully won grievances against management ( the new "management." Now I am being slandered, libeled. Management has "Flying monkeys." Who lie about me. This is the most hostile and toxic work environment. I am called into the meeting w/HR and upper Management.i am siloed, defamed and my coworkers whom I have known for years no longer interact w/me.I am trying to find an Employment Lawyer. I can't stand the disparate treatment. Coworkers are avoiding me. They are scared of this manager. He is micromanaging toxic bully. I am the only person to stand up for myself. Now I have a target on me. This guy has no idea what he is doing that is why he is micromanaging. Gotta look busy.
Thank you for this video!
You are so welcome! Stay Strong! ❤🔥
RESPECT ME
"RESPECT ME!"
You got this! 💪
Respect me
Respect me...
Respect me
Very useful tools, they work !
Thank you! ❤
N. Sister has a kid. She's teaching her to be like her! Neice even tried sum of them on me! I was like..."NOPE!". its so hard when you're alone. Had narc ppl raising my n sister n me. Now seeing how my n sister act. The evil and hate and jealousy of her! 🙀😤😿
Respect me❤❤❤❤
Preach Sister
Tip from Sam Vaknin
Just say SORRY.
Never use the word “I”.
It’s a trigger.
Guess it’s a reminder you are a person while they regard you as a usable object.
Resect Me, Respect everyone
What if you are in a car? And they are coming for you?
what if it's your mom, then what cause she litterly fights me on everything and is mad right now that i said we don't have any eyeliner in the house and she's like yes we do blah blah blah and it always ends in me screming her recorduing and trying to play victim that omg my daughter pulled a knife out on me otr she's screming at me but she doesn't show people all the things she does beforehand.
Please respect me.
3:37 "You're reclaiming your control" with a 'non-apology.'
She is providing a list of simplistic manipulation techniques that narcissists use to control their victims, including stonewalling and devaluation/invalidation. These don't work with on a real narc. If you try using them you might find yourself abusing an innocent person
No does not work when they argue.
whatever....the #1 word. "whatever" to a narcissist means "I don't care what your little mind thinks"
Respect me. :)
It won't get rid of scumbag stalker.
Right. Nothing works😞
Good word Rebecca 👏
You got this! 💪
I can’t leave the narssisist because it’s my lively hood. They always talk about Killing and Murder. They never talk about anything good in their life.
Your wrong from the start… you never ever say your sorry to a narcissist.
I just say I refuse to engage. Bitch at someone else. Open to anything that can help!! 36 days sober; he HATES that. Went to the doctor today for ME. I have a horrible hernia, needs fixed asap, and knee replacement. Boy is he ticked off. Edit: after I say I refuse to engage, I walk away and have to go hide in my room. As I’m being kicked out, of course.
He would hate that because he’s not the centre of attention 😡
Keep your ground, Molly. Stay strong and keep safe from the narcissist, too!
respect me😐
NOT a Lawyer in California where she lives
🎉🎉🎉🎉
Nothing you said works. The narssisist won’t shut up.
WTF
The first 3 minutes of this video is a total waste.
Eyelash is falling off
RESPECT ME!
Respect me!
Respect me!
respect me
Respect Me!
Yes!!!
Respect me
RESPECT ME
Respect me