I constantly feel afraid that I’m going to die from an accident or some type of disease. I also feel I’m forgetful and I feel my brain 🧠 doesn’t work properly and I won’t be able to do my job or sometimes I feel I can’t handle stress or a stressful situation.
Same. I have found that any bad news is over the top. Like I cannot handle any stress or I'll have a massive break down. Like I can't hear any negative anything. I did learn from my Dr that my cortisol is probably high. I feel like I'm in a panic state all the time. I wake up overwhelmed and think I'm having heart attacks. I've had full cardio and medical work up and all good. I'll be 52 next month and thought my periods were done as I skipped November, December, and January and then started February 3rd. And it was soooo heavy I thought about going to ER to see if I lost too much blood. Anyways my dr prescribed me bioidentical estradiol and progesterone. Low dose of 0.035 and says it will help me feel normal again. I have so many horrible symptoms. My blood pressure goes so high when I'm in panic, anxiety. Been almost bed bound due to fear. But I've been drinking 130oz of water a day this last month and its helping also. You're not alone. Its awful. Also I have noticed that women who have full hysterectomies skip the perimenopause symptoms and go straight into menopause. My mother and aunts and some friends all tell me they're so sorry I'm going through what I'm going through and the only symptoms they ever had was some hot flashes. They didnt have to go through the years of hormones jumping around. So now I'm like hmmm can I get a full hysterectomy also? And they've all been able to manage without HRT.
@@flamingpieherman9822 Hello, yes I eat healthy, no sugar low carb high protein. No caffeine, I don't drink, smoke. On bloodwork and scans I'm healthy except for a fibroid on uterus and cysts on right kidney that are benign and nothing to worry about they say. I started feeling horrible May of 2023 at age 51. Then I felt fine until Oct 2023 and then skipped my cycle for 3 months. Dr did my fsh hormone level that was 27.5 and that's a post menopausal number but clearly I'm still in perimenopause with my cycle just starting again. My bodies a hot mess. We will see how I feel with the hormones. I got a genetic test done to see if I have the cancer Gene's to see if it were safe for me to take HRT. And I dont have those Gene's. So I'm starting HRT Monday. Will see how it makes me feel. Everyone I know says I'll feel normal again. Time will tell.
I remember the foggy brain feeling that went on for over 15 years. I remember the day it disappeared . I had gone to the grocery store and realized when I got there I forgot my list on the kitchen table. My head felt clear so I went in anyway and I actually remembered everything on the list! I could see (I have had a photographic memory before perimenopause). I went home and saying to my husband "I'm back!!!". LOL Hope this makes someone laugh and realize your memory does come back. I am not perfect postmenopause and I still struggle with physical symptoms.
Thank you, thank you, thank you. My head began that fuzzy feeling 9 almost ten years ago at 42. Will be 51 in July. This made my heart smile. Best of health and much happiness.
I love your videos Kari! Thank you!! I no longer feel completely alone on this challenging journey. Some days are quiet & I am able to feel pretty normal & get everything done. Other days I feel like I am at war with myself, fatigue, joint pain, anxiety, emotional mood swings that are almost impossible for me to control & much different from when I was a lot younger. I often get told that I can control them but choose not to. So unfair for someone to say that, especially when that person is the opposite gender. 😔 I have many other symptoms too, tingling hands, seeing things that aren’t there, difficultly concentrating, sleep problems & the list goes on. I am 52 & about five years into perimenopause.
You are Not alone. Some people don't try to understand. It is okay. Health is wealth. I understand because I have the same symptoms. Light exercise, walks and a good program helps.
Menopause is indeed a disease not a normal process to joke about. There are women in my entourage who have even gone bankrupt because physicians spent their times prescribing medical exams but could not fond anything wrong with them. My suspicions was they had been taking advantage of those poor women but simply chose to fleece them with unnecessary and useless medical exams.
💭💭 I could comment SO much with what I’m going through it’s literally just SO bad going through perimenopause 💭💭 on top of perimenopause what makes it even more WORSE is I already had a heart ♥️ condition before peri 💭💭 there’s literally NO functioning in perimenopause on top of all these health problems I never 👎🏼 had till hitting perimenopause 💭💭 I do feel like I’m DYING 💀 I look just like that skeleton 💀 emoji 💭💭 I’ve always been thin but since perimenopause I’ve lost weight it’s SO horrible I’m too SICK OR in discomfort/pain can’t eat 💭💭 I can’t eat the food I use to eat it’s a living nightmare 💭💭 then when I get MY period🩸it effects MY condition even more it’s just SO unbelievable there’s toooo many SYMPTOMS I go through that this is becoming along comment SORRY 💭💭 I’m noticing now MY periods🩸are getting closer together 💭💭 I never 👎🏼 have a DAY of peace ✌🏼
I’m 52.5 menopausal and today my large breasts look a tiny bit lumpy and stretched and I can see little veins and capilaries that make them look darker in places. I am dehydrated though. Worried. Got screening mammo on Nov. normal. Scared.
Lumpy and dense breasts are common. If you’ve just had a screening that was normal you should be ok. Talk to your doctor if you feel like something has changed since your mammogram.
@@KariAnneWright Thank you Kari, you made me feel better. I think I’m getting less dense and so my outer skin looks like it’s shriveling up a little. I go for whole breast ultrasounds on both soon and that will help.
I think that God sometimes allows these fears in us so that we have the greatest chance of running to Him for help. I’m not pushing anyone but a close walk with God has helped me a lot.
Menopause is the last great taboo, when we enter perimenopause we have absolutely no idea what's about to hit us, because society is almost silent on the subject. There needs to be a LOT more education about it, i can honestly say it's the worst experience of my life. I'm 60 now and postmenopausal, the hot flushes, aches and pains, muscle tenderness, brain fog and lack of motivation are still very much with me and real. Society as a whole should re-examine it's morals, we are seen as 'past it' and not important when in reality most of us are still working and have years of life left. I wish everyone on their menopause journey the very best, take care.
Hi Kari. I am so grateful to have found you. This has been a terrible journey, but you have been a light. I constantly struggle with so many symptoms and like so many others if I try to tell anyone, I'm just a crazy hypochondriac. I'm not crazy. Forgetful, moody, panicked, and in constant pain...yes, but not crazy. I have been so worried only to hear you say this is normal at the exact moment I think I'm going over the edge. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
I’m finally post menopausal and I feel worse than ever. My hot flashes returned last week, I can’t remember anything! I get really bad “shocking pains” everywhere now. I’m terrified that I’m dying all the time. It causes me to isolate myself from everything and everyone. Any time I mention my symptoms to friends or family they act like I’m just a hypochondriac. It drives me nuts! Thank you for your channel and informative videos Kari. 🙏
I'm right there along with you! I have older friends and they're 60s and I try to explain some of the issues I'm going through as a new post menopause woman.. Not just talking about hot flashes crying or night sweats, but real issues like immense digestive issues Candida overgrow the h pylori you name it.... And they look at me like poor baby. Stop crying about it. My fear of dying has increased exponentially this past 6 months... Not sure why. I'm not usually depressed but have been exceedingly depressed the past 6 months. Only a few days where I'm not in pain and not feeling sad.
Hello Kari how are you and all the women who follow you every thing you said and other women said I was dealing with nor being able to sleep and stress being the care giver to my husband ,son and now Mom! Well not sleeping stress low Estrogen , hormones , progesterone testosterone everything . I end up having rip blood vessel twice this menopause is so serious and I pray Dr family and friends would take it more seriously I can't take hormones replacement due to high risk , I thank GOD im still here to testify lack of sleep is serious hot flashes ,low every thing is so serious I'm praying for all the many women going through keep supporting each other keep sharing what can help and most if al pray gir each other Thank You Karie you have truly been a blessing and all the wonderful women who shared helpful information thank you all Bebless ❤
I developed severe health anxiety because I spent about a year and a half not knowing why my body was falling apart. It took a long time to finally start suspecting my hormones.
I am so glad Kari talks about being called hypochondriacs or melodramatic. If men felt half as bad as we did they would live at the drs office. Even now I’ve been having serious back pain for a month( some days are worse then others) and I’m tired of being told my family, don’t waste the $$ on drs they can’t do much for back pain. If I wanna see my dr to rule out serious things like cancer or disk damage I shouldn’t be shamed for that. In fact I’m seeing my Dr on Friday to get some blood panels because I still am wondering how it can be “normal” to go from fine to walking like a cripple in month😢.
@@cleocatra9324 I went to the doctor more times last year than I have in my entire life combined. I saw every single specialist. Had several MRI’s, CT scans, nerve studies etc. can’t find anything medically wrong. It’s got to be menopause and my lack of hormones. According to my blood tests,my estrogen level is
The constant fast heart rate is hard to handle. Some days I wake up in fight or flight and heart rate over 100. Such a scary feeling. Also worst gastrointestinal issues. My stomach is such a mess. The fear of death is such a hard emotion to deal with
OMG 😱 I have everything YOU just mentioned in your comment 💭💭 I already had a heart ♥️ condition before perimenopause add on hormones/perimenopause MY heart ♥️ is just pissed literally there’s NO functional going on here it’s SO bad 💭💭 regarding gastro issues I SERIOUSLY have them too 💭💭 MY weight loss is NO joke since perimenopause/I WAS always thin now I look like Halloween 💀 💭💭 it’s impossible to put weight on in this condition 💭💭 i do feel like I’m DYING
♥️💭💭♥️ I literally wake up like that every single morning SERIOUS “perimenopause anxiety” is what I call it and also full bladder too 💭💭 the “perimenopause anxiety” is SO bad I literally can’t get OUT of bed 🛌 to go to the bathroom 🚽 because I’m in that bad of condition 💭💭 I have to take MY anxiety medication 💊 SO fast 💨 let that kick 🦵🏼 in before thinking 💭 of getting up OUT of bed 🛌
I'll be honest, your channel has talked me off the ledge and eased most of my anxieties. I'm a whopping 7 weeks past what could be my last period, and I'm throwing everything I can think of at these insane hot & cold flashes and the insomnia they cause. Starting to enjoy my daily cup of miso broth. It's going to be a while before I get a handle on this.
Kari Thank You... this video nailed it. After 4 years of HELL, I finally gave HRT a try. 3 weeks in and I HAVE MY LIFE BACK😅. No more death fears, no more sweaty hot flashes, no more teary "I wish I could die" days. My gynae is amazing and I am forever grateful 🙏
Kari, I thank you so very much for speaking about this topic. I am currently going tru this right now. Anxiety , panic attacks and yes!!! A feeling like your about your to die. My goodness this is overwhelming. Your a life saver! 🙌🏽👏🏽👏🏽this video gives me a peace of mind. I hope it helps other women as well. Blessings! 🙏🏽
The panic attacks are crazy! I can be good one minute and feel like I’m falling apart the next. Sometimes I’ll even have a panic attack in my sleep. I’m thankful for Kari too! I feel understood and not crazy. Thank you!
Yes, this was me. 2 years back & forth to the doctors. The only way I could explain to him how I was feeling is that it felt like I was dying. Every test would come back normal. Finally, I got diagnosed with perimenopause that was nearly 5 years ago & was put on HRT. Still struggle some days with anxiety & brain fog😢
I love your videos😊. Im 54 and have been post menopause for two years. I had to quit my job over four months ago but not because of menopause. Ive been looking for anothet job off and on All these months and my husband works but our funds are low and rent is high. Anyway i have hot flashes, night sweats which scares me like I'm having heary problems. I have no get up and go and have some depression. I dont like dealing with the public, but i know I have to work. Im nice but not a social person anymore. I just want to stay behind the four walls and not deal with life, but the Lord Jesus gives me strengh to keep going😊
Sometimes when I leave the house to go somewhere, I get the strongest feeling I am forgetting something or something is missing. But I have everything I need and haven’t forgotten anything. It’s just a feeling something is not right…
Hi kari,since iv reached postmenopause im getting more agoraphobic i just dont want to go out i was an out going person loved socialising but now im the opposite the anxiety is worse the older i get there doesn't seem an end to this
Thank you so much! You brought tears to my eyes. I’m fighting like crazy in this battle of perimenopause and everything you shared Kari is so true. My biggest fear is having a heart attack when I get heart palpitations. I can’t stand them. They are scary for me. Bless you and thank you for being our advocate. ❤
All of these!!! I'm terrified every single day. I feel like I can't control anything in my life anymore. I wake up in the morning super anxious and dizzy. The dizziness is weird. It's like I'm disconnected from reality. I'm terrified I'm not going to be able to do my job. I have anxiety 24/7. I don't know how much more I can take. I shake, and I'm cold all the time. I could be lying down and out of nowhere, I start panicking. I'm so tired of it😞😞 I can't remember the last time i felt joy and peace. I get headaches from crying every day. This is brutal.
I'm with you. I'm going through exactly the same and on top of that my ocd as returned with a vengeance after 10 years of it being stable. Intrusive thoughts cause even more anxiety on top of anxiety...it's crazy. Just trying to get through each day. I feel so disconnected from everyone even my young children. It really is horrible. You are not alone.
Omg!!! I thought it was me. I’m turning 50 in June and have been questioning myself if I’m dying. I feel like I ache every day and the ache keeps shifting from one side of the body to the other. I also forget everything. I mean from one room to the other I forget why I’m even going to that room.
Oh my God! Thank you. I understand now that I am going through menopause. In the past 6 to 8 months, and I still feel the same way, I have fear of dying, falling and breaking bones, and to have dementia at very young age. I also have body aches, specially on my hands. I also have acid reflux that burns my esophagus. 😭
I just want to thank you for your videos. I started watching you last year off and on after I had my hysterectomy. They left my ovaries but where I was already in perimenopause the surgery shifted me into menopause wide open. Your videos helped me figure out and notice the symptoms and know how to handle them. My husband is still learning. But he is awesome and very patient with the changes in my body.
Re forgetting the names of familiar things: One day a student came into the classroom empty-handed. I asked, "Where's your...you know... that pack you carry on your back"? She looked at me, concerned, and said, "Backpack"? 😅We both laughhed. Sometimes that's all you can do.
Thank you Kari, I'm always happy to see your videos. Your doing great, and helping so many of us who have no one else to talk about this. Especially when all your friends who are the same age and not dealing with the same thing. Can't wait to say im on the other side of this.
Hi Kari..I sometimes forgot I have those systoms as it comes and goes 😊..then 3 weeks went by and oh it's you again 😅 I laughed it out .. understanding yourself will decrease the anxieties..hold on its going to be a bumpy ride sometimes!
I think am postmenopausal have to quit my job it hit me on the job last year March not feeling too bad right now hoping and praying that the symptoms don't come back
Thank you! Your videos have helped me so much. I have been going through perimenopause for quite some time now. In the beginning, I went to a doctor because I could feel some things were off but I couldn’t put my finger on it. The doctor laughed at me after she asked what the problem was and what I wanted her to do about it. I didn’t know what the problem was. I asked if she could run some tests on me and she told me I would never be able to afford it. It went on for about 6 or so years until about 9 months ago when I had to get my fibroids looked at and this new doctor ran some tests on me, and guess what? I could afford it. Wow! She told me it is very clear that I am in perimenopause. I also learned recently that my ovaries are shrinking but my fibroids are not so I am set to get a parcel hysterectomy. It will be nice to just be able to focus on my hormone changes and how to take care of my self. Thanks again, Kari. These videos are definite life savers. Hope you are doing well. Hang in there ladies. We got this.
I have had depression for years and now that I am in perimenopause, it and my anxiety have gotten really really bad. I think I might need to change meds but my work schedule leaves me no time to go to the doctor. I am in a bad place and don't know what to do.
Please make time to see the doctor and work on gut health. The gut is tied to anxiety and depression. That is where 90% of your serotonin and 50% of your dopamine reside.
I think im coming out on the other side. Its been 15 years of symptoms. Couldn't take hrt because of heart issues. I will be 65 on my next 🥳. Im almost back!
At age 63, I’m doing ok, but my anxiety is all encompassing. I believe it’s hormone related. Also hard to work with younger people now. I feel out of place. But enjoy working still……..😢 GI system more and more out of whack. Seems I’m becoming allergic to everything Also get tired easily.
Cut caffeine either out or cut it down, has helped me but the brain fog, is awful but I stop and write list down and keep it in one place so I don't forget to take my list. 😊❤
I got kicked out of the Canadian Armed Forces because I had so many symptoms à d they couldn't find the reason. They put a diagnosis of somatic and hypochondriac troubles. Once out, I went to private external médecine and they discovered I had no more estrogen. They put me on bioidentical hormones. Bow hormones levels are OK, but I still am really sick. I am so bloated that I look like a 6 months pregnant woman. I am bow allergic to everything, and I've been eating only 5 ingredients since 4 years and still super bloated (chicken, turkey, rice carrots, and radishes. Morning, lunch and supper) I try going in public médecine but they see the somatic and hypochondriac diagnostic, and they do nothing and prescribes psychiatrist. I am not mentally disturbed. I have been dealing with this for 7 years now and even with very severe diet exercises 6 days a week... nothing is helping.
I've never had hot flushes or night sweats but do suffer with vaginal atrophy and its deeply unpleasant. I've worked things out for myself as find my doctors and nurses don't have much information on anything menapausal.
I have a "portal of forgetfulness" in my home. It's in between the dining room, where I have an art space, and my kitchen. Anything that I'm thinking about while working in the dining room is wiped from my mind as I go through that portal. Weirdly, if I walk the other way from the dining room to the lounge and then through into the kitchen, I can still remember the thing I went into the kitchen for. The portal is real 😂
After 10 years of night sweats, 3 years of very erratic menstrual cycles and 1 year of spotting, I asked my doctor if I could be close to menopause. (As this would explain other changes in my body as well, dryness, increased muscle cramps, thinning hair on my head and new hair on my chin.) My Gynecologist said that, at 47 years old, I was definitely too young for menopause. There was no interest in finding out I wasn’t on a regular cycle or any of the other issues I was having. 18 months later I hadn’t had a period for a year. It’s such a wonderful treat when doctors completely dismiss your concerns.
Geez thank you Kari!! I get embarrassed by the forgetfulness and it holds me back from interacting with others as I forget their name or even their face if I was to see them again the next day. I really make an effort though. I feel like I’m going crazy some days. I wondered this week if I had early onset dementia. I’m 49 on HRT and wonder if it’s doing any good sometimes. I just have an underlying hum of sadness and altogether with this process loneliness. Thank you for your channel I really appreciated the words today as I have needed them this last week.
Thank you so much for sharing. I am post menopause, I left my job 6 years ago as I could no longer cope with my menopause symptoms . I really thought and still do think I am loosing it. After watching your videos I now understand what I was going through. I have anxiety, depression, very bad hot flushes, the kind that leave you drenched. Day by day I am learning to cope with these symptoms and hopefully they all go away soon. Thank you again for your videos ❤
Great share! I was forced into menopause in my early 30s. I just turned 52. My mom died at 55. So this hits home. That subtle fear that is always there…lurking. Your videos are a bright light for me. Thank you! 🙏☀️👏
I am so glad that I found your page. I have all of these symptoms. I feel alone at times. My husband of course doesn't understand. He just says, it's your hormones. I just want to feel like myself again. It seems that every week is something new. My anxiety makes me afraid when things are going good. I tell myself that things cant be ok. There has to be something wrong. I pray that I will get through this.
Sending you love. My husband also doesn't understand and it can be quite a lonely feeling, but you are not alone. I know this now through this channel Xx
I feel for you. I have these symptoms , that scare me. 1 week to another different symptoms. I'm tired of not feeling myself. I know our body changes so much as we go through menopause. I am post menopause 3yrs.. still feel crappy 😢
I am able to work from home full time, but when I have an anxiety attack one of the scary thoughts that runs through my mind is, "what if something changes and I can't work from home anymore?!" or "What if something happens to my husband and he can't work anymore? I can't work the amount of hours I used to. What will happen to us?!" 😢 Kari - have you had any experience with intense anger? Like the anger you feel doesn't match the event that set it off?
I understand the work worries. I work from home, my income varies month to month and I am the only source of income for my family. It is scary. I had the intense anger in perimenopause but it eased up and went away in post menopause when the erratic hormones settled down.
Oh Jesus I’m experiencing this right now. Heart palpitations, chronic anxiety, faux UTI’s, brain fog 😶🌫️. Just came from urgent care, doctor says I’m fine🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️I feel lousy😞😞😞nausea and joint pains I feel like my body is falling apart…asking for prayers 🙏🏻I can’t use HRT 😞the struggle is real. Thank you Kari Anne Wright🩷thank you ladies for sharing .
I haven't been to a Dr. since 2016? I was 47. I'm now almost 55. I have no health insurance. So I don't go to a Dr. I also haven't ever had a mammogram and don't plan on it. And the last pap smear was 2016 as well. My main issues are hot flashes, insomnia, brain fog, major aches in my legs because I'm on my feet all day, and vaginal atrophy. Those are the main ones I am experiencing.
I too was terribly afraid of dying before I knew what was going on. After seeing about 10 different doctors that told me I had anxiety, I FINALLY found a wonderful doctor that recognized perimenopause and she helped me so much. I am so thankful that I finally got the help I needed, but I will never forget how terrifying it was when I didn't know what was wrong with me. It absolutely breaks my heart when I think about the countless women who are suffering and are being told by their doctors that it's "just anxiety" 😞 Ladies, you know your bodies better than anyone...trust your instincts when you know you don't feel right!!!
Luckily I already work for myself part time because when ai was in peri I had crashing fatigue daily, severe anxiety, insomnia, thought that ai was dying, felt like I was constantly getting flu, hot flashes every 10 minutes, frozen shoulder, aches, pains, it was brutal. I still have some issues but it has improved a bit. I don’t know how I would have been able to hold down a traditional job. It was almost impossible to keep up with household chores and parenting was nearly killing me. I am 49 and post menopausal for several years now. Whoever designed the is aspect of the female body needs to be fired.
Lol at your last sentence. What are some things you are taking that has made life easier? I'm gonna try molasses ..vitamins are an arm and a leg now!!!
Hi keri it's my first time commenting but I watch you every time another symptoms arise it seems as if I am on my way to the 100 symptoms anxiety pain brain fog you name it if I didn't find you I don't know what I would do keep up the good work
What is really disheartening is having a doctor who hasn't gone through menopause herself. She doesn't listen when I talk about my symptoms. She keeps trying to make all of my decisions for me. I had to fight with her to get the HRT that works for me. I don't care how many patients she has had or how many books she has read, she can't possibly understand until she has had first hand experience. I know it's wrong, but sometimes I hope my doctor gets spanked really hard by menopause so she can be a better doctor.
I know it probably seems strange that I being a dude would be watching your channel. Lol. But it's pretty important to me as a husband to do so. I want to thank you so much for the video content that you put out. It has really helped me to understand better these early stages of pre menopause that my wife is experiencing. This has explained a lot about what is happening in a very straightforward no nonsense way. Thank you for taking time to share this information.
It was an enormous blessing when I discovered Kari's channel. Having answers make a world of difference. The challenges are real and downright scary at times but it's a relief to have a helpful source to tap into. Kari you are appreciated more than you could ever know.❤
I had to quit my job, as a hairdresser, 2 weeks ago. The owner is super nice about it and is trying to help with unemployment. Everyone was watching me deteriorate. It's petrifying. Shaking, profuse sweating and dizziness.
Thank you for your videos. I'm post menopausal now too and mostly deal with anxiety and depression. If I consume highly processed foods and sugar, I definitely can tell my symptoms get worse. Trying to eat better and keep hydrated more than usual (learned that from one of yor videos). And if a weird symptom starts, I can check to see if it's on that list of 100 or so symptoms. I've also been learning more about these shifting hormones from Dr. Deb Matthew, who is a hormone specialist. She has a channel on UA-cam, as well as interviews that are very educational. She is also a functional doctor. I'm going to be seeing a local functional doctor and will learn the results of my tests (blood work and cortisol) and get help. It such a relief to know there are so many women that share similar experiences. And there are doctors who really care what is happening to us. We just have to keep looking to find the right one.
I have woken up the past few mornings crying. My brain reminds me I'm on the last leg of life, I'm nearly half a hundred years old and I haven't anything to give now in life. These things come into to my head even before I realise I'm awake. I can't talk to anyone because they think I'm just thinking doom thoughts because I feel like it. I don't, my brain just takes me there and I'm not in control.
Hang in there sweetie! Im right there with u. Its like a bad dream and cant wake up. Its horrible 😭 i will b praying for u! Hang n there the Lord will see us thru!🙏🙌@soyunperderdor7246
@@soyunperderdor7246 Your body is changing and it’s affecting you physically and mentally. It’s normal to take note of that and think about what it all means. Time flies by so quickly and I often don’t even understand how I got to 53. My kids were babies just yesterday or at least it feels that way to me.
....when I wake up feelings the blues such as you do, I have a talk or prayer with God and feel so much better. Yes, it is difficult to find someone to talk to that understands because so many don't understand. In this youtube forum, we see that we are not the only ones experiencing these things and knowing that you are not alone is comforting. When you feel those awful things, tell yourself that it's not real, it will pass. Also, do things that make you feel good like listening to a great song or thinking of hilarious things that make you laugh. I know it's easier said than done. Do what it takes to change the way that you feel at the moment. Fight!!! At times we have to fight but I have learned that I do not have to fight alone. God pulls me through those rough moments each time. He is the reason that I'm doing so much better now. God bless!
Thank you for sharing. I have been terrified that I am dying or having a heart attack for the last month or so. Been back and forth to the doctor. Still working on this. ✌🏾💜
I am turning 47 this March and I've had to find out about perimenopause through UA-cam since my, at the time, doctor wasn't taking any of my symptoms seriously. I've had twins 13 years ago through a C-section and I haven't had a good night sleep ever since. I am an optimist at heart so I kept going. I've had hot and cold flashes, night sweat, several very painful inflammation whether it be in my abdomen or bursitis of both shoulders. I've had kidney stones, pains and aches all over my body and to top that off: a severe vitamin b12 deficiency which caused even more brain fog. The worst part for me is the insomnia. To me that's just not human and makes it harder to stay positive. I refused to take any HRT but I am now at a place I even want to divorce my husband of 23 years whom I love dearly and never want to be around anyone. I now made an appointment with my gynaecologist, begging for HRT. I want my life back but even more important: I want ME back!
I had a horrendous time with my periods. Such violent spasms of pain that my doctor gave me pethidine. Sometimes I passed out. In perimenopause, I had a period lasting a week, every two weeks; I was dripping blood (through heavy duty tampons) at work. I am so happy now, aged 70 in menopause, what a liberation!
Menopause for me.... dated a man a decade younger quit my job ....bye bye alcoholic supervisor dancing, hiking, canoeing, camping....just kept moving! no hot flashes took risks
Suicidal ideation, depression, anxiety, exhaustion from lack of sleep, fight or flight responses in normal situations (driving, shopping etc), confusion, vaginal and urinary pain, joint pain, the list goes on and on. Seriously ladies get your HRT because it will resolve your issues and prevent the very health concerns that are real including dementia, bone loss, heart disease and cancer. Want to get your life back? HRT.
I agree 100% with you. I just started doing the OTC hormonal CREAM (Nature's Balance) estradiol and progesterone and I have no more symptoms. All gone. No prescription, no doctors. I do not have health insurance so I had to get the OTC hormone cream instead, which I am very happen with. it changed my life for the better.
@@KariAnneWright thank you , I was there as well. For about 23 years a flex vegetarian, then veggie and then vegan and I became sick😢 Still love to watch your vids. Thank you 🌹
Last night I dreamt I was drowning. When I see my Dr., I sometimes feel like I'm a constant whiner. Ugh, menopause in the workplace. Good thing I have a desk fan I turn on when the flash happens. I'm going natural, no HRT. Things are getting better. Been at it for four years now.
Good morning I am on my husband’s email. Had total hysterectomy at 39. I am still having problems with pain in hips, back, spine and legs and burning feet. I often wake up shaking and in pain. Dr doesn’t help. I sure they think I’m a hypochondriac. My discomfort is very real. I am nearly 68. Some of my friends have not had any problems.
hi,kari,thank u so much for making ur youtube channel and ur facebook page,ive been suffering with pulsating tinnitus since november 2023,i have to wear headphones all day with some music playing to drown it out an i bought a white noise machine and its helped me get to sleep at nite and brain fog is another thing i deal with every day,i take care of my mom,she has alzeheimers so i do worry that i might get it and i also worry that i wont be able to work when my journey with my mom is over but im so grateful that im not alone in this perimenopause journey and i hope that when i finally reach menopause that most of this will disappear
Thank you so much for posting this video, Kari.😇 The brain fog is constantly making me think I am suffering from dementia, along with the constant anxiety and panic attacks, with the real fear of dying is certainly scary. 🥺So glad you are there and I am not alone with these horrible symptoms. God bless🙏
I constantly feel afraid that I’m going to die from an accident or some type of disease. I also feel I’m forgetful and I feel my brain 🧠 doesn’t work properly and I won’t be able to do my job or sometimes I feel I can’t handle stress or a stressful situation.
Same here this feeling of fear in me
Same. I have found that any bad news is over the top. Like I cannot handle any stress or I'll have a massive break down. Like I can't hear any negative anything.
I did learn from my Dr that my cortisol is probably high. I feel like I'm in a panic state all the time.
I wake up overwhelmed and think I'm having heart attacks.
I've had full cardio and medical work up and all good.
I'll be 52 next month and thought my periods were done as I skipped November, December, and January and then started February 3rd. And it was soooo heavy I thought about going to ER to see if I lost too much blood.
Anyways my dr prescribed me bioidentical estradiol and progesterone.
Low dose of 0.035 and says it will help me feel normal again.
I have so many horrible symptoms. My blood pressure goes so high when I'm in panic, anxiety.
Been almost bed bound due to fear.
But I've been drinking 130oz of water a day this last month and its helping also.
You're not alone. Its awful.
Also I have noticed that women who have full hysterectomies skip the perimenopause symptoms and go straight into menopause.
My mother and aunts and some friends all tell me they're so sorry I'm going through what I'm going through and the only symptoms they ever had was some hot flashes. They didnt have to go through the years of hormones jumping around.
So now I'm like hmmm can I get a full hysterectomy also? And they've all been able to manage without HRT.
@@russellmania4542look into adding vitamin C and also Celtic sea salt daily... At least a quarter teaspoon. Are you eating healthily?
@@flamingpieherman9822 Hello, yes I eat healthy, no sugar low carb high protein.
No caffeine, I don't drink, smoke.
On bloodwork and scans I'm healthy except for a fibroid on uterus and cysts on right kidney that are benign and nothing to worry about they say.
I started feeling horrible May of 2023 at age 51. Then I felt fine until Oct 2023 and then skipped my cycle for 3 months.
Dr did my fsh hormone level that was 27.5 and that's a post menopausal number but clearly I'm still in perimenopause with my cycle just starting again.
My bodies a hot mess. We will see how I feel with the hormones. I got a genetic test done to see if I have the cancer Gene's to see if it were safe for me to take HRT. And I dont have those Gene's. So I'm starting HRT Monday. Will see how it makes me feel.
Everyone I know says I'll feel normal again. Time will tell.
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I remember the foggy brain feeling that went on for over 15 years. I remember the day it disappeared . I had gone to the grocery store and realized when I got there I forgot my list on the kitchen table. My head felt clear so I went in anyway and I actually remembered everything on the list! I could see (I have had a photographic memory before perimenopause). I went home and saying to my husband "I'm back!!!". LOL Hope this makes someone laugh and realize your memory does come back. I am not perfect postmenopause and I still struggle with physical symptoms.
Thanks, it’s very good to know that it does get better for some of us😊
😂....thank you!
Thank you, thank you, thank you. My head began that fuzzy feeling 9 almost ten years ago at 42. Will be 51 in July. This made my heart smile. Best of health and much happiness.
I love your videos Kari! Thank you!! I no longer feel completely alone on this challenging journey. Some days are quiet & I am able to feel pretty normal & get everything done. Other days I feel like I am at war with myself, fatigue, joint pain, anxiety, emotional mood swings that are almost impossible for me to control & much different from when I was a lot younger. I often get told that I can control them but choose not to. So unfair for someone to say that, especially when that person is the opposite gender. 😔 I have many other symptoms too, tingling hands, seeing things that aren’t there, difficultly concentrating, sleep problems & the list goes on. I am 52 & about five years into perimenopause.
You are Not alone. Some people don't try to understand. It is okay. Health is wealth. I understand because I have the same symptoms. Light exercise, walks and a good program helps.
Menopause is indeed a disease not a normal process to joke about. There are women in my entourage who have even gone bankrupt because physicians spent their times prescribing medical exams but could not fond anything wrong with them. My suspicions was they had been taking advantage of those poor women but simply chose to fleece them with unnecessary and useless medical exams.
I'm post menopausal. I just started HRT a few months ago. A life changer. Many issues still occur, though they come in waves.
💭💭 I could comment SO much with what I’m going through it’s literally just SO bad going through perimenopause
💭💭 on top of perimenopause what makes it even more WORSE is I already had a heart ♥️ condition before peri
💭💭 there’s literally NO functioning in perimenopause on top of all these health problems I never 👎🏼 had till hitting perimenopause
💭💭 I do feel like I’m DYING 💀 I look just like that skeleton 💀 emoji
💭💭 I’ve always been thin but since perimenopause I’ve lost weight it’s SO horrible I’m too SICK OR in discomfort/pain can’t eat
💭💭 I can’t eat the food I use to eat it’s a living nightmare
💭💭 then when I get MY period🩸it effects MY condition even more it’s just SO unbelievable there’s toooo many SYMPTOMS I go through that this is becoming along comment SORRY
💭💭 I’m noticing now MY periods🩸are getting closer together
💭💭 I never 👎🏼 have a DAY of peace ✌🏼
Can I add a #7 for me and that is fear that instead of menopause I might be pregnant?! That happened to both me and my sister and luckily we weren't!
That can happen in perimenopause.
I’m 52.5 menopausal and today my large breasts look a tiny bit lumpy and stretched and I can see little veins and capilaries that make them look darker in places. I am dehydrated though. Worried. Got screening mammo on Nov. normal. Scared.
Lumpy and dense breasts are common. If you’ve just had a screening that was normal you should be ok. Talk to your doctor if you feel like something has changed since your mammogram.
@@KariAnneWright Thank you Kari, you made me feel better. I think I’m getting less dense and so my outer skin looks like it’s shriveling up a little. I go for whole breast ultrasounds on both soon and that will help.
😢Omg this is me now! I always think I am dying 🙏🙏😭! Lord please be with me
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I think that God sometimes allows these fears in us so that we have the greatest chance of running to Him for help. I’m not pushing anyone but a close walk with God has helped me a lot.
@@Victorygirl2000same ❤
Praying for you! ❤
Menopause is the last great taboo, when we enter perimenopause we have absolutely no idea what's about to hit us, because society is almost silent on the subject. There needs to be a LOT more education about it, i can honestly say it's the worst experience of my life. I'm 60 now and postmenopausal, the hot flushes, aches and pains, muscle tenderness, brain fog and lack of motivation are still very much with me and real. Society as a whole should re-examine it's morals, we are seen as 'past it' and not important when in reality most of us are still working and have years of life left.
I wish everyone on their menopause journey the very best, take care.
Menopause doesn't hit
Everyone the same
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@@Contessa998 my periods just stopped. I had no hot flashes or other stuff.
My mom was the same way
@@kathleenking47you are blessed!
@@kathleenking47 🙄 Must be nice.
Hi Kari. I am so grateful to have found you. This has been a terrible journey, but you have been a light. I constantly struggle with so many symptoms and like so many others if I try to tell anyone, I'm just a crazy hypochondriac. I'm not crazy. Forgetful, moody, panicked, and in constant pain...yes, but not crazy. I have been so worried only to hear you say this is normal at the exact moment I think I'm going over the edge. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
I’m finally post menopausal and I feel worse than ever. My hot flashes returned last week, I can’t remember anything! I get really bad “shocking pains” everywhere now. I’m terrified that I’m dying all the time. It causes me to isolate myself from everything and everyone. Any time I mention my symptoms to friends or family they act like I’m just a hypochondriac. It drives me nuts! Thank you for your channel and informative videos Kari. 🙏
I'm right there along with you! I have older friends and they're 60s and I try to explain some of the issues I'm going through as a new post menopause woman.. Not just talking about hot flashes crying or night sweats, but real issues like immense digestive issues Candida overgrow the h pylori you name it.... And they look at me like poor baby. Stop crying about it.
My fear of dying has increased exponentially this past 6 months... Not sure why. I'm not usually depressed but have been exceedingly depressed the past 6 months. Only a few days where I'm not in pain and not feeling sad.
@@flamingpieherman9822 I’m so sorry that you are struggling. It’s awful. I truly feel your pain. God bless.🙏
Thank you, Ladies. Stomach problems, pains, anxiety again. It helps knowing we aren't alone.
I'm in same boat
Hello Kari how are you and all the women who follow you every thing you said and other women said I was dealing with nor being able to sleep and stress being the care giver to my husband ,son and now Mom! Well not sleeping stress low Estrogen , hormones , progesterone testosterone everything . I end up having rip blood vessel twice this menopause is so serious and I pray Dr family and friends would take it more seriously I can't take hormones replacement due to high risk , I thank GOD im still here to testify lack of sleep is serious hot flashes ,low every thing is so serious I'm praying for all the many women going through keep supporting each other keep sharing what can help and most if al pray gir each other Thank You Karie you have truly been a blessing and all the wonderful women who shared helpful information thank you all Bebless ❤
Thank goodness you have this channel that explains all these crazy feelings because as you say, doctors don’t and it’s concerning. So thank you!
Amen to that!
I developed severe health anxiety because I spent about a year and a half not knowing why my body was falling apart. It took a long time to finally start suspecting my hormones.
I went through the very same thing years ago.
I have spent the last almost two years going thru same thing
I am so glad Kari talks about being called hypochondriacs or melodramatic. If men felt half as bad as we did they would live at the drs office.
Even now I’ve been having serious back pain for a month( some days are worse then others) and I’m tired of being told my family, don’t waste the $$ on drs they can’t do much for back pain.
If I wanna see my dr to rule out serious things like cancer or disk damage I shouldn’t be shamed for that. In fact I’m seeing my Dr on Friday to get some blood panels because I still am wondering how it can be “normal” to go from fine to walking like a cripple in month😢.
@@KariAnneWrightKari did your family tell you that you’re a hypochondriac and you see drs too much? I haven’t even seen my dr in over a year.
@@cleocatra9324 I went to the doctor more times last year than I have in my entire life combined. I saw every single specialist. Had several MRI’s, CT scans, nerve studies etc. can’t find anything medically wrong. It’s got to be menopause and my lack of hormones. According to my blood tests,my estrogen level is
The constant fast heart rate is hard to handle. Some days I wake up in fight or flight and heart rate over 100. Such a scary feeling. Also worst gastrointestinal issues. My stomach is such a mess. The fear of death is such a hard emotion to deal with
Yes health anxiety is brutal.
Im facing the same. Elevated heart rate. Its so uncomfortable. What did u do about it? Ty
OMG 😱 I have everything YOU just mentioned in your comment
💭💭 I already had a heart ♥️ condition before perimenopause add on hormones/perimenopause MY heart ♥️ is just pissed literally there’s NO functional going on here it’s SO bad
💭💭 regarding gastro issues I SERIOUSLY have them too
💭💭 MY weight loss is NO joke since perimenopause/I WAS always thin now I look like Halloween 💀
💭💭 it’s impossible to put weight on in this condition
💭💭 i do feel like I’m DYING
♥️💭💭♥️ I literally wake up like that every single morning SERIOUS “perimenopause anxiety” is what I call it and also full bladder too
💭💭 the “perimenopause anxiety” is SO bad I literally can’t get OUT of bed 🛌 to go to the bathroom 🚽 because I’m in that bad of condition
💭💭 I have to take MY anxiety medication 💊 SO fast 💨 let that kick 🦵🏼 in before thinking 💭 of getting up OUT of bed 🛌
@@CYndibabI which medication do you take for anxiety. They suggested beta blockers for me .ty
I'll be honest, your channel has talked me off the ledge and eased most of my anxieties. I'm a whopping 7 weeks past what could be my last period, and I'm throwing everything I can think of at these insane hot & cold flashes and the insomnia they cause. Starting to enjoy my daily cup of miso broth. It's going to be a while before I get a handle on this.
Soy daily is a smart choice for hot flashes.😊
Kari Thank You... this video nailed it. After 4 years of HELL, I finally gave HRT a try. 3 weeks in and I HAVE MY LIFE BACK😅. No more death fears, no more sweaty hot flashes, no more teary "I wish I could die" days. My gynae is amazing and I am forever grateful 🙏
How old were you when you started HRT?
Great to hear you have gotten some relief!
What was prescribed, please?! thx 🌺
Kari, I thank you so very much for speaking about this topic. I am currently going tru this right now. Anxiety , panic attacks and yes!!! A feeling like your about your to die. My goodness this is overwhelming. Your a life saver! 🙌🏽👏🏽👏🏽this video gives me a peace of mind. I hope it helps other women as well. Blessings! 🙏🏽
The panic attacks are crazy! I can be good one minute and feel like I’m falling apart the next. Sometimes I’ll even have a panic attack in my sleep. I’m thankful for Kari too! I feel understood and not crazy. Thank you!
I am so glad I am not alone in this menopause journey. Thanks for having this channel. 😊
Yes, this was me. 2 years back & forth to the doctors. The only way I could explain to him how I was feeling is that it felt like I was dying. Every test would come back normal. Finally, I got diagnosed with perimenopause that was nearly 5 years ago & was put on HRT. Still struggle some days with anxiety & brain fog😢
I love your videos😊. Im 54 and have been post menopause for two years. I had to quit my job over four months ago but not because of menopause. Ive been looking for anothet job off and on All these months and my husband works but our funds are low and rent is high. Anyway i have hot flashes, night sweats which scares me like I'm having heary problems. I have no get up and go and have some depression. I dont like dealing with the public, but i know I have to work. Im nice but not a social person anymore. I just want to stay behind the four walls and not deal with life, but the Lord Jesus gives me strengh to keep going😊
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Beige colored maca powder works for hot flashes
Amen , May God get you through
I’ve found that my post menopause years have been the worsed of all and stress of any sort can really impact your symptoms
Omg yes this is so real.. and it's a full time 24x7 nightmare
Sometimes when I leave the house to go somewhere, I get the strongest feeling I am forgetting something or something is missing. But I have everything I need and haven’t forgotten anything. It’s just a feeling something is not right…
Hi kari,since iv reached postmenopause im getting more agoraphobic i just dont want to go out i was an out going person loved socialising but now im the opposite the anxiety is worse the older i get there doesn't seem an end to this
So many women prefer the safety of home in menopause. Leaving the house becomes more overwhelming.
Thank you so much! You brought tears to my eyes. I’m fighting like crazy in this battle of perimenopause and everything you shared Kari is so true. My biggest fear is having a heart attack when I get heart palpitations. I can’t stand them. They are scary for me. Bless you and thank you for being our advocate. ❤
God bless you too!
All of these!!! I'm terrified every single day. I feel like I can't control anything in my life anymore. I wake up in the morning super anxious and dizzy. The dizziness is weird. It's like I'm disconnected from reality. I'm terrified I'm not going to be able to do my job. I have anxiety 24/7. I don't know how much more I can take. I shake, and I'm cold all the time. I could be lying down and out of nowhere, I start panicking. I'm so tired of it😞😞 I can't remember the last time i felt joy and peace. I get headaches from crying every day. This is brutal.
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I'm with you. I'm going through exactly the same and on top of that my ocd as returned with a vengeance after 10 years of it being stable. Intrusive thoughts cause even more anxiety on top of anxiety...it's crazy. Just trying to get through each day. I feel so disconnected from everyone even my young children. It really is horrible. You are not alone.
TEN YEARS????? Oh lord
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I’m seeing it but by bit and so sick have your body rundown your muscles
I love your channel ❤thank for being so helpful and informative
More than I’ve ever learned about Menopause
I'm actually crying. This is brutal and it's wrecking my mental health.
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Omg!!! I thought it was me. I’m turning 50 in June and have been questioning myself if I’m dying. I feel like I ache every day and the ache keeps shifting from one side of the body to the other. I also forget everything. I mean from one room to the other I forget why I’m even going to that room.
Yes aches and pains can cycle in and out and shift.
Me too!
51 in July and can't speak clearly at times and anxiety is a beast.
Oh my God! Thank you. I understand now that I am going through menopause. In the past 6 to 8 months, and I still feel the same way, I have fear of dying, falling and breaking bones, and to have dementia at very young age. I also have body aches, specially on my hands. I also have acid reflux that burns my esophagus. 😭
It’s hard not to be concerned with so much menopause chaos going on.
I just want to thank you for your videos. I started watching you last year off and on after I had my hysterectomy. They left my ovaries but where I was already in perimenopause the surgery shifted me into menopause wide open. Your videos helped me figure out and notice the symptoms and know how to handle them. My husband is still learning. But he is awesome and very patient with the changes in my body.
Re forgetting the names of familiar things: One day a student came into the classroom empty-handed. I asked, "Where's your...you know... that pack you carry on your back"? She looked at me, concerned, and said, "Backpack"?
😅We both laughhed. Sometimes that's all you can do.
Hey ladies, it’s always good to share, but when does all these symptoms stop😮
Thank you Kari, I'm always happy to see your videos. Your doing great, and helping so many of us who have no one else to talk about this. Especially when all your friends who are the same age and not dealing with the same thing. Can't wait to say im on the other side of this.
Hi Kari..I sometimes forgot I have those systoms as it comes and goes 😊..then 3 weeks went by and oh it's you again 😅 I laughed it out .. understanding yourself will decrease the anxieties..hold on its going to be a bumpy ride sometimes!
I think am postmenopausal have to quit my job it hit me on the job last year March not feeling too bad right now hoping and praying that the symptoms don't come back
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there should definitely be menopause days
Thank you! Your videos have helped me so much. I have been going through perimenopause for quite some time now. In the beginning, I went to a doctor because I could feel some things were off but I couldn’t put my finger on it. The doctor laughed at me after she asked what the problem was and what I wanted her to do about it. I didn’t know what the problem was. I asked if she could run some tests on me and she told me I would never be able to afford it. It went on for about 6 or so years until about 9 months ago when I had to get my fibroids looked at and this new doctor ran some tests on me, and guess what? I could afford it. Wow! She told me it is very clear that I am in perimenopause. I also learned recently that my ovaries are shrinking but my fibroids are not so I am set to get a parcel hysterectomy. It will be nice to just be able to focus on my hormone changes and how to take care of my self. Thanks again, Kari. These videos are definite life savers. Hope you are doing well. Hang in there ladies. We got this.
I have had depression for years and now that I am in perimenopause, it and my anxiety have gotten really really bad. I think I might need to change meds but my work schedule leaves me no time to go to the doctor. I am in a bad place and don't know what to do.
Please make time to see the doctor and work on gut health. The gut is tied to anxiety and depression. That is where 90% of your serotonin and 50% of your dopamine reside.
I think im coming out on the other side. Its been 15 years of symptoms. Couldn't take hrt because of heart issues. I will be 65 on my next 🥳. Im almost back!
At age 63, I’m doing ok, but my anxiety is all encompassing. I believe it’s hormone related. Also hard to work with younger people now. I feel out of place. But enjoy working still……..😢
GI system more and more out of whack. Seems I’m becoming allergic to everything
Also get tired easily.
Same! I ended up going to an allergist because I had a new allergy mostly! I hope that you are doing ok.
Cut caffeine either out or cut it down, has helped me but the brain fog, is awful but I stop and write list down and keep it in one place so I don't forget to take my list. 😊❤
Thank you so much for the info you give and the positive outlook. Im struggling and hang on your every word! ❤
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I got kicked out of the Canadian Armed Forces because I had so many symptoms à d they couldn't find the reason. They put a diagnosis of somatic and hypochondriac troubles. Once out, I went to private external médecine and they discovered I had no more estrogen. They put me on bioidentical hormones. Bow hormones levels are OK, but I still am really sick. I am so bloated that I look like a 6 months pregnant woman. I am bow allergic to everything, and I've been eating only 5 ingredients since 4 years and still super bloated (chicken, turkey, rice carrots, and radishes. Morning, lunch and supper) I try going in public médecine but they see the somatic and hypochondriac diagnostic, and they do nothing and prescribes psychiatrist. I am not mentally disturbed. I have been dealing with this for 7 years now and even with very severe diet exercises 6 days a week... nothing is helping.
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Thank you so much! This episode is very helpful and reassuring that I’m not the only one feeling like I’m falling apart. Your content is so amazing.
I've never had hot flushes or night sweats but do suffer with vaginal atrophy and its deeply unpleasant. I've worked things out for myself as find my doctors and nurses don't have much information on anything menapausal.
Vaginal atrophy is very unpleasant and frustrating.🥺
Omg, it’s so me Im crying😢😢😢Thank you so much.❤
I have a "portal of forgetfulness" in my home. It's in between the dining room, where I have an art space, and my kitchen. Anything that I'm thinking about while working in the dining room is wiped from my mind as I go through that portal. Weirdly, if I walk the other way from the dining room to the lounge and then through into the kitchen, I can still remember the thing I went into the kitchen for. The portal is real 😂
@@zenlife1200 Hmmmm!🤔 I think I have a couple of portals of forgetfulness in my house.🥴
After 10 years of night sweats, 3 years of very erratic menstrual cycles and 1 year of spotting, I asked my doctor if I could be close to menopause. (As this would explain other changes in my body as well, dryness, increased muscle cramps, thinning hair on my head and new hair on my chin.) My Gynecologist said that, at 47 years old, I was definitely too young for menopause. There was no interest in finding out I wasn’t on a regular cycle or any of the other issues I was having. 18 months later I hadn’t had a period for a year.
It’s such a wonderful treat when doctors completely dismiss your concerns.
At 47 you are in perimenopause. Doctors always dismiss perimenopause. They only focus on post menopause and hot flashes.
I started perimenopause at age 45. My doctor was a woman.
Geez thank you Kari!! I get embarrassed by the forgetfulness and it holds me back from interacting with others as I forget their name or even their face if I was to see them again the next day. I really make an effort though. I feel like I’m going crazy some days. I wondered this week if I had early onset dementia. I’m 49 on HRT and wonder if it’s doing any good sometimes. I just have an underlying hum of sadness and altogether with this process loneliness. Thank you for your channel I really appreciated the words today as I have needed them this last week.
Have you been back to your doctor to have your HRT reviewed? It maybe that you need a higher dose for your symptoms to lessen?
Does anyone else get ear fullness and dizziness? And ringing ears?
Yes! Ear issues are common in menopause.
Thank you so much for sharing. I am post menopause, I left my job 6 years ago as I could no longer cope with my menopause symptoms . I really thought and still do think I am loosing it. After watching your videos I now understand what I was going through. I have anxiety, depression, very bad hot flushes, the kind that leave you drenched. Day by day I am learning to cope with these symptoms and hopefully they all go away soon. Thank you again for your videos ❤
Thanks so much for this video! You've described so many things I'm feeling and fearing. GPs and employers need to see this.
Please research and try supplements, they have helped me tremendously. Kari has me toned some good ones.
Great share! I was forced into menopause in my early 30s. I just turned 52. My mom died at 55. So this hits home. That subtle fear that is always there…lurking. Your videos are a bright light for me. Thank you! 🙏☀️👏
HELLO MS KARI I AM 50 PLUS IN AGE AS WELL
I'm up late at night with horrendous hot flashes keeping me awake... so watching this...I am really suffering so thank you for your channel!!!
Hi i have been post menopause for six years still have all the symptoms going 11 from the start its worse now thank you
I am so glad that I found your page. I have all of these symptoms. I feel alone at times. My husband of course doesn't understand. He just says, it's your hormones. I just want to feel like myself again. It seems that every week is something new. My anxiety makes me afraid when things are going good. I tell myself that things cant be ok. There has to be something wrong. I pray that I will get through this.
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Sending you love. My husband also doesn't understand and it can be quite a lonely feeling, but you are not alone. I know this now through this channel Xx
I feel for you. I have these symptoms , that scare me. 1 week to another different symptoms. I'm tired of not feeling myself. I know our body changes so much as we go through menopause. I am post menopause 3yrs.. still feel crappy 😢
I also say to myself is something wrong with me , literally feeling I'm dying. 😢
❤I'm so grateful to have you here to explain things. It was about 6months ago and you helped me not go crazy🎉😅
I am able to work from home full time, but when I have an anxiety attack one of the scary thoughts that runs through my mind is, "what if something changes and I can't work from home anymore?!" or "What if something happens to my husband and he can't work anymore? I can't work the amount of hours I used to. What will happen to us?!" 😢
Kari - have you had any experience with intense anger? Like the anger you feel doesn't match the event that set it off?
I understand the work worries. I work from home, my income varies month to month and I am the only source of income for my family. It is scary. I had the intense anger in perimenopause but it eased up and went away in post menopause when the erratic hormones settled down.
Thank you❤
I am 64 having so many challenges pain vaginal dryness burning urination and so much more
It can be a very challenging and uncomfortable experience. Wishing you well.
Oh Jesus I’m experiencing this right now. Heart palpitations, chronic anxiety, faux UTI’s, brain fog 😶🌫️. Just came from urgent care, doctor says I’m fine🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️I feel lousy😞😞😞nausea and joint pains I feel like my body is falling apart…asking for prayers 🙏🏻I can’t use HRT 😞the struggle is real. Thank you Kari Anne Wright🩷thank you ladies for sharing .
I have anxiety and the dizziness its very scary.
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❤ Yup me right now xXx
I haven't been to a Dr. since 2016? I was 47. I'm now almost 55. I have no health insurance. So I don't go to a Dr. I also haven't ever had a mammogram and don't plan on it. And the last pap smear was 2016 as well.
My main issues are hot flashes, insomnia, brain fog, major aches in my legs because I'm on my feet all day, and vaginal atrophy. Those are the main ones I am experiencing.
I just started taking DIM and use estrogen and pergesterone creams. It seems to be working. Not a huge $$ investment.
Try organic tempeh. It really helped my mood and brain fog. Sea buckthorn oil is good for vaginal atrophy.
I feel like I’m dying at least 5 times a day! It is getting better though. I’m not having anxiety/panic attacks like I used to.
I too was terribly afraid of dying before I knew what was going on. After seeing about 10 different doctors that told me I had anxiety, I FINALLY found a wonderful doctor that recognized perimenopause and she helped me so much. I am so thankful that I finally got the help I needed, but I will never forget how terrifying it was when I didn't know what was wrong with me. It absolutely breaks my heart when I think about the countless women who are suffering and are being told by their doctors that it's "just anxiety" 😞 Ladies, you know your bodies better than anyone...trust your instincts when you know you don't feel right!!!
How long did u suffer until found good doctor?
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It took years unfortunately 😕 Something funny?🤔
Luckily I already work for myself part time because when ai was in peri I had crashing fatigue daily, severe anxiety, insomnia, thought that ai was dying, felt like I was constantly getting flu, hot flashes every 10 minutes, frozen shoulder, aches, pains, it was brutal. I still have some issues but it has improved a bit. I don’t know how I would have been able to hold down a traditional job. It was almost impossible to keep up with household chores and parenting was nearly killing me. I am 49 and post menopausal for several years now. Whoever designed the is aspect of the female body needs to be fired.
Lol at your last sentence. What are some things you are taking that has made life easier? I'm gonna try molasses ..vitamins are an arm and a leg now!!!
Therapy, actually. Taking things and supplements didn't do a single thing to help.@@---nj7hl
The listed side effects of HRT is mostly false. It was based on one small study that was later shown to be false.
This is so validating. Thank you.
Hi keri it's my first time commenting but I watch you every time another symptoms arise it seems as if I am on my way to the 100 symptoms anxiety pain brain fog you name it if I didn't find you I don't know what I would do keep up the good work
Thanks for sharing. Wishing you well. It can be a bumpy ride.
I am 52 but feel 85 sometimes, can't even get my body to bend enough to put my socks on some mornings😳or clip my toenails.😬
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What is really disheartening is having a doctor who hasn't gone through menopause herself. She doesn't listen when I talk about my symptoms. She keeps trying to make all of my decisions for me. I had to fight with her to get the HRT that works for me. I don't care how many patients she has had or how many books she has read, she can't possibly understand until she has had first hand experience. I know it's wrong, but sometimes I hope my doctor gets spanked really hard by menopause so she can be a better doctor.
Doctors are a very real frustration. Most do not know much about menopause.
🤍 thank YOU KARI for another amazing video 🤍
I know it probably seems strange that I being a dude would be watching your channel. Lol. But it's pretty important to me as a husband to do so. I want to thank you so much for the video content that you put out. It has really helped me to understand better these early stages of pre menopause that my wife is experiencing. This has explained a lot about what is happening in a very straightforward no nonsense way. Thank you for taking time to share this information.
I appreciate your willingness to try and understand what your wife is experiencing. She’s lucky to have you!
It was an enormous blessing when I discovered Kari's channel. Having answers make a world of difference. The challenges are real and downright scary at times but it's a relief to have a helpful source to tap into. Kari you are appreciated more than you could ever know.❤
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I’m so grateful also for this channel. It has helped me soooo much. I can’t thank you enough!
I had to quit my job, as a hairdresser, 2 weeks ago. The owner is super nice about it and is trying to help with unemployment. Everyone was watching me deteriorate. It's petrifying. Shaking, profuse sweating and dizziness.
I’m sorry to hear that. Working out in the wild would be hard on me too. Working from home is my only option right now. Sending love.
Thank you for your videos.
I'm post menopausal now too and mostly deal with anxiety and depression. If I consume highly processed foods and sugar, I definitely can tell my symptoms get worse. Trying to eat better and keep hydrated more than usual (learned that from one of yor videos). And if a weird symptom starts, I can check to see if it's on that list of 100 or so symptoms.
I've also been learning more about these shifting hormones from Dr. Deb Matthew, who is a hormone specialist. She has a channel on UA-cam, as well as interviews that are very educational. She is also a functional doctor. I'm going to be seeing a local functional doctor and will learn the results of my tests (blood work and cortisol) and get help.
It such a relief to know there are so many women that share similar experiences. And there are doctors who really care what is happening to us. We just have to keep looking to find the right one.
She's saving a lot of lives some of us don't have a family setting thank God for her
I appreciate you and knowing I can go to your support group is comforting. Thankyou Kari
I have woken up the past few mornings crying. My brain reminds me I'm on the last leg of life, I'm nearly half a hundred years old and I haven't anything to give now in life. These things come into to my head even before I realise I'm awake. I can't talk to anyone because they think I'm just thinking doom thoughts because I feel like it. I don't, my brain just takes me there and I'm not in control.
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@@KariAnneWright is it normal?
Hang in there sweetie! Im right there with u. Its like a bad dream and cant wake up. Its horrible 😭 i will b praying for u! Hang n there the Lord will see us thru!🙏🙌@soyunperderdor7246
@@soyunperderdor7246 Your body is changing and it’s affecting you physically and mentally. It’s normal to take note of that and think about what it all means. Time flies by so quickly and I often don’t even understand how I got to 53. My kids were babies just yesterday or at least it feels that way to me.
....when I wake up feelings the blues such as you do, I have a talk or prayer with God and feel so much better. Yes, it is difficult to find someone to talk to that understands because so many don't understand. In this youtube forum, we see that we are not the only ones experiencing these things and knowing that you are not alone is comforting. When you feel those awful things, tell yourself that it's not real, it will pass. Also, do things that make you feel good like listening to a great song or thinking of hilarious things that make you laugh. I know it's easier said than done. Do what it takes to change the way that you feel at the moment. Fight!!! At times we have to fight but I have learned that I do not have to fight alone. God pulls me through those rough moments each time. He is the reason that I'm doing so much better now. God bless!
I can't believe she's just said fear of dying lately that's what's happening with me and I'm 61
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Thankyou for this video, the worse for me is memory I forget things etc although I have all symptoms this is the worst for me 😢😊❤
I can literally cry! I hate this so much.
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YOUR GREAT, THANKS. 😊
Kari you are so blessed to work at home😊
It’s a lot of work but it’s rewarding!😊
YES, THANKS KARI❤
ANXIETY IS REAL 😢
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Thank you for sharing. I have been terrified that I am dying or having a heart attack for the last month or so. Been back and forth to the doctor. Still working on this. ✌🏾💜
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I am turning 47 this March and I've had to find out about perimenopause through UA-cam since my, at the time, doctor wasn't taking any of my symptoms seriously. I've had twins 13 years ago through a C-section and I haven't had a good night sleep ever since. I am an optimist at heart so I kept going. I've had hot and cold flashes, night sweat, several very painful inflammation whether it be in my abdomen or bursitis of both shoulders. I've had kidney stones, pains and aches all over my body and to top that off: a severe vitamin b12 deficiency which caused even more brain fog. The worst part for me is the insomnia. To me that's just not human and makes it harder to stay positive. I refused to take any HRT but I am now at a place I even want to divorce my husband of 23 years whom I love dearly and never want to be around anyone.
I now made an appointment with my gynaecologist, begging for HRT. I want my life back but even more important: I want ME back!
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I had a horrendous time with my periods. Such violent spasms of pain that my doctor gave me pethidine. Sometimes I passed out. In perimenopause, I had a period lasting a week, every two weeks; I was dripping blood (through heavy duty tampons) at work. I am so happy now, aged 70 in menopause, what a liberation!
Im so happy that you Kari ♡ have this channel, you make me feel soo much better, thank you❤❤❤❤❤ !
Menopause for me....
dated a man a decade younger
quit my job ....bye bye alcoholic supervisor
dancing, hiking, canoeing, camping....just kept moving!
no hot flashes
took risks
AMEN AMEN MS KARI YOU ARE SO RIGHT ON SO MANY LEVELS WHAT YOU ARE TALKING THANK YOU AGAIN MS KARI OF TOPICS AND VIDEOS
Suicidal ideation, depression, anxiety, exhaustion from lack of sleep, fight or flight responses in normal situations (driving, shopping etc), confusion, vaginal and urinary pain, joint pain, the list goes on and on. Seriously ladies get your HRT because it will resolve your issues and prevent the very health concerns that are real including dementia, bone loss, heart disease and cancer. Want to get your life back? HRT.
I agree 100% with you. I just started doing the OTC hormonal CREAM (Nature's Balance) estradiol and progesterone and I have no more symptoms. All gone. No prescription, no doctors. I do not have health insurance so I had to get the OTC hormone cream instead, which I am very happen with. it changed my life for the better.
That would be great but I can’t use hrt.
I am on a carnivore diet and feel the symptoms slowly fade away. Just saying👍
I’m happy it’s working for you. I don’t eat meat so it’s not the diet for me but there are many roads that lead to the same destination.😊
@@KariAnneWright thank you , I was there as well. For about 23 years a flex vegetarian, then veggie and then vegan and I became sick😢
Still love to watch your vids. Thank you 🌹
Last night I dreamt I was drowning. When I see my Dr., I sometimes feel like I'm a constant whiner. Ugh, menopause in the workplace. Good thing I have a desk fan I turn on when the flash happens. I'm going natural, no HRT. Things are getting better. Been at it for four years now.
I can’t use hrt so I’m going through it naturally as well.
Good morning I am on my husband’s email. Had total hysterectomy at 39. I am still having problems with pain in hips, back, spine and legs and burning feet. I often wake up shaking and in pain. Dr doesn’t help. I sure they think I’m a hypochondriac. My discomfort is very real. I am nearly 68. Some of my friends have not had any problems.
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hi,kari,thank u so much for making ur youtube channel and ur facebook page,ive been suffering with pulsating tinnitus since november 2023,i have to wear headphones all day with some music playing to drown it out an i bought a white noise machine and its helped me get to sleep at nite and brain fog is another thing i deal with every day,i take care of my mom,she has alzeheimers so i do worry that i might get it and i also worry that i wont be able to work when my journey with my mom is over but im so grateful that im not alone in this perimenopause journey and i hope that when i finally reach menopause that most of this will disappear
I also deal with tinnitus. Silence almost hurts. I run fan all night so I can sleep. The rhythmic noise helps me.
i hear my heartbeat 24/7 do u hear yours too,is this a peri thing?@@KariAnneWright
@@dianereynolds2761 I constantly hear a high pitched hum. It’s distracting and annoying.
Thank you so much for posting this video, Kari.😇 The brain fog is constantly making me think I am suffering from dementia, along with the constant anxiety and panic attacks, with the real fear of dying is certainly scary. 🥺So glad you are there and I am not alone with these horrible symptoms. God bless🙏
God bless you too!
and it makes your body feel funny