I would just like to say a big thank you to Ryan for agreeing to come on camera, absolutely do the work podcasts Sabrina you are great inspiration looking forward to the next podcast you do with tech Guy love to you both
I cannot tell you how helpful these answers have been for me. I'm saying after being single for 21 years (yes really) and learning to heal from my anxious triggers, self soothing and recognising triggers
I totally love both of you doing this together! Would love more with tech guy! Also I love how honest both of you are! Also you both are funny too! Love how you say let’s be in reality now no fairy tale. Realistically being in reality this video has helped me so much
More tech guy content I love the both of yall together. I really love his confidence and sense of self. Sold foundation within him and you can sense it. I’d love to learn more of his thought process, especially for us anxious attachers that may struggle with that😢
Listening the convo makes me realize I need to learn more about how to date properly... I had lived and seen life people through my anxiety eyes not just that dated people with toxic habits. To the point I wonder what's normal or adequate, or don't feel as real adult.
Just as an outsider perspective, he sounds rather securely attached than avoidant. Also in his recounting of not wanting to continue to date someone who he wasn't really into. And the fact that he said he never really shied away from difficult (emotionally charged) conversations. I think someone can be securely attached and present maybe a bit rigid outwardly. But also I just skimmed through these bits and bites so maybe I missed contrary evidence that would suggest he is/was on the avoidant side of the spectrum.
Can you make a podcast about initiation in a relationship, like how a guy can initiate via text and how the girl response with her initiation, thank you
So according to 35:21 being avoidant means to not be interested and not say it? The literature says otherwise. What he is describing is not avoidant attachment, at least according to the literature.
I completely agree. To me Ryan acts completely secure and I think it only looks “avoidant” to a severely anxious person… but no way is he like FA’s or DA’s… avoidants typically do not ask to commit once or even twice, unless they’re love bombing or have been working on themselves intensively and on therapy. I think it’s unfair to call a secure person anxious for expecting closeness to a DA. Same way unfair for a AP to call a secure person avoidant for behaving completely normal and needing healthy space…
Your advice about telling the guy to work around YOUR schedule/location when arranging the first date comes off as a selfish strategy. Teamwork is one of the foundations of a healthy relationship, so being bossy about scheduling the place/time based around YOUR busy life is sending the wrong message to any potential partner.
I would just like to say a big thank you to Ryan for agreeing to come on camera, absolutely do the work podcasts Sabrina you are great inspiration looking forward to the next podcast you do with tech Guy love to you both
So nice to see you two in person 💖💖. Looking forward to see more of you and your content 🎉🎉🎉
You two have a nice dynamic together.
I cannot tell you how helpful these answers have been for me.
I'm saying after being single for 21 years (yes really) and learning to heal from my anxious triggers, self soothing and recognising triggers
Thank you for showing us what a healthy relationship looks like!
We want more episodes with tech guy !!
I totally love both of you doing this together! Would love more with tech guy! Also I love how honest both of you are! Also you both are funny too! Love how you say let’s be in reality now no fairy tale. Realistically being in reality this video has helped me so much
More tech guy content I love the both of yall together. I really love his confidence and sense of self. Sold foundation within him and you can sense it. I’d love to learn more of his thought process, especially for us anxious attachers that may struggle with that😢
C'est juste magnifique de voir la confiance qu'ils ont l'un envers l'autre ❤
Love you guys!! Cannot wait for the 8 week course!!
Can’t freaking wait!!!! 🎉🎉
Listening the convo makes me realize I need to learn more about how to date properly... I had lived and seen life people through my anxiety eyes not just that dated people with toxic habits. To the point I wonder what's normal or adequate, or don't feel as real adult.
Just as an outsider perspective, he sounds rather securely attached than avoidant. Also in his recounting of not wanting to continue to date someone who he wasn't really into. And the fact that he said he never really shied away from difficult (emotionally charged) conversations. I think someone can be securely attached and present maybe a bit rigid outwardly. But also I just skimmed through these bits and bites so maybe I missed contrary evidence that would suggest he is/was on the avoidant side of the spectrum.
I love being able to see you in person Sabrina it’s such a different experience love love the podcast!!! ❤
Omg u two are such a match, love it 😍
He doesn’t sound avoidant at all. It sounds like he just backed away from the women he wasn’t interested in.
Can you make a podcast about initiation in a relationship, like how a guy can initiate via text and how the girl response with her initiation, thank you
So according to 35:21 being avoidant means to not be interested and not say it? The literature says otherwise. What he is describing is not avoidant attachment, at least according to the literature.
I completely agree. To me Ryan acts completely secure and I think it only looks “avoidant” to a severely anxious person… but no way is he like FA’s or DA’s… avoidants typically do not ask to commit once or even twice, unless they’re love bombing or have been working on themselves intensively and on therapy.
I think it’s unfair to call a secure person anxious for expecting closeness to a DA. Same way unfair for a AP to call a secure person avoidant for behaving completely normal and needing healthy space…
Your advice about telling the guy to work around YOUR schedule/location when arranging the first date comes off as a selfish strategy. Teamwork is one of the foundations of a healthy relationship, so being bossy about scheduling the place/time based around YOUR busy life is sending the wrong message to any potential partner.
I hate it when people assume that every couple has to have kids, but in this case I just have to note: Tech Guy would make such a great girl dad 🙏🏻
I couldn’t agree more 🥹, I’m unsure if I want children but my ovaries get excited when I do think of him with a little girl 😂
Tech guy on screen 🤭🤭🤭
I see what ya did there 😁