Not everyone you love is "marriageable" - Why 80% of relationships fail | Benjamin Zulu

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  • Опубліковано 18 лис 2024

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  • @SwitchTVKenya
    @SwitchTVKenya  3 роки тому +8

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  • @ngangapaul2618
    @ngangapaul2618 3 роки тому +71

    Take Away
    -Date someone with similar speed and direction/purpose as yours
    -No Trust, No R/ship. Just cut off even if it's painful but it's necessary.
    -Create time for open communication together
    -Have boundaries for your R/ship
    -Avoid in-law problems/Interference with In-laws
    -Have genuine motives when handling money...Not keeping secretively when there are challenges. Save with Wisdom.
    -Money In, Money OURS: not yours alone.
    -A man in infatuation is almost Insane and that makes you vulnerable to manipulation.
    -A man has to be Gentle and courteous.
    -If there's leadership, submission is easy. (Submission is a response to leadership!)
    -Marriage is a mutually beneficial and voluntary r/ship between two adults.
    -Pride always losses.
    -Don't settle for disrespect.
    Wisdom! Wisdom! Wisdom!

  • @stormc4044
    @stormc4044 3 роки тому +48

    “Submission is a response to leadership”. I have felt this for years and he said it . Omg I am so excited !!

  • @msjo1jjjandt821
    @msjo1jjjandt821 3 роки тому +50

    "There are two types of struggle in a relationship.. if we are struggling together it worth doing. But if you have to struggle to keep that man because he is cheating that is not worth doing". Benjamin Zulu am loving ur intelligence.

  • @gloryminja1532
    @gloryminja1532 3 роки тому +59

    The dress of Mwikali😍😍😍

  • @nyiranezamollen6207
    @nyiranezamollen6207 3 роки тому +30

    Benjamin and Mwikali, I just don't know how to thank you. But I really appreciate your great work in helping us not to mess up .You've saves souls.

  • @bellaolum9768
    @bellaolum9768 3 роки тому +80

    In chess when you lose the Queen you lose the game - this is wisdom for living!

    • @Blackmandeze
      @Blackmandeze 3 роки тому

      Hehee ...not that demon Queen...🤣🤣🤣

  • @tetelomampe3064
    @tetelomampe3064 3 роки тому +60

    "Not everyone you love is marriageable " i felt that😪

  • @lillymumbi.3969
    @lillymumbi.3969 3 роки тому +73

    Not everyone you love is marriageable 🤨..good woman doesn't have problem with submission if The LEADERSHIP is okey👍

  • @carolinemwazi5583
    @carolinemwazi5583 3 роки тому +10

    'Submission is a response to leadership.' Yes!
    'In chess you lose your queen, you lose the game.'
    Idiot's creed: 'I'm staying in abuse for the sake of the children.' You have said it: 'The FIRST reason you leave abusive marriage is the children, because they are observing, because you are teaching them how marriage and life operates, and if you mislead them, they'll end up being mistreated the same way.'
    This is the truth - no human being should be treated disrespectfully by anyone. Abuse continues because victims allow it. Thank you for speaking the truth. God bless you, tena sana.

  • @WinnieRuttoh
    @WinnieRuttoh 3 роки тому +13

    Submission is a response to good leadership.

  • @stellaogugua572
    @stellaogugua572 3 роки тому +26

    Word! Submission is a response to leadership! My God Mr. Benjamin is a wisdom bank!

    • @patienceikombele9161
      @patienceikombele9161 3 роки тому +1

      It went straight to my WhatsApp status👌👌👌

    • @gabezek
      @gabezek 3 роки тому

      There is nothing scriptural about that statement. Submission is what the woman does to the man because he is her husband, and not necessarily in response to his leadership. Check 1 Pet. 3:1 - 6. The woman is expected to submit even to an ungodly man. Let's be careful about rewriting scriptures.

    • @BlackPanther-lt7wr
      @BlackPanther-lt7wr 3 роки тому +3

      @@gabezek And when a woman chooses a husband, she actually chooses based on leadership qualities. You cannot submit to someone who cant lead.

    • @gabezek
      @gabezek 3 роки тому

      @@BlackPanther-lt7wr I guess what is good for the goose is also good for the gander, right? So, going by your statement, a man cannot love a woman who cannot submit. You see, we can't eat our cake and have it. It's either we go with the scriptures fully or we don't even bother with it to start with. The concept of q woman submitting to her husband is a Christian one. It isn't something the world teaches. The world teaches MUTUAL love and respect. The world teaches marriage as a contract. The world teaches, "you scratch my back, I scratch yours." Let's stop mixing the two. Never teach a woman that the only time you submit is when a man shows leadership. That's easy submission and means nothing in reality. The proof of true submission is what the woman does when the man isn't even listening to her or leading her or meeting her supposed needs. Just as the prove of true love is what a man does when the wife isn't even living up to what's expected of her. You want the man to love regardless but the woman shouldn't submit regardless? The only grounds where one could decide not to show such love or submission is when the other person demands you to do something against God. Anyway, I wrote all of this to say, the Bible has provided the simplest of answers to marriage: wife submits, husband loves. There's no condition added to that (save the exception I stated above.) If we don't agree with such, let's not use those words. True submission is well described in 1Pet.3:1-6. I keep quoting that scripture because I think many Christians rarely check it out and that's why they blurt out statements like what Zulu said.
      Lastly, and I repeat, submission and true love can only be talked about from the scripture context. No need to use the word if you won't teach it as the scripture does or else you will be in danger of misleading people.

    • @BlackPanther-lt7wr
      @BlackPanther-lt7wr 3 роки тому +1

      @@gabezek You're an over thinker. What I meant ( n what probably Zulu was saying) is, when a man approaches a woman one of the things she looks at is his leadership qualities " can this man lead me?" That's one of the many things that goes through her mind, then when she eventually picks you, she trusts you enough to fully submit to who you are and what you stand for.
      Virtuous women do not submit to anyone, they submit to a man who can lead them

  • @fosterchikola1932
    @fosterchikola1932 3 роки тому +4

    One Zulu in the building. Lots of love from Zambia 🇿🇲🇿🇲🇿🇲

  • @janemkade3488
    @janemkade3488 3 роки тому +8

    Benjamin's uniqueness is of another level, aman by himself 🙌🙌🙌👌👌👌👌

  • @musanaharmon6901
    @musanaharmon6901 3 роки тому +19

    Whatever gets you excited, can get you hooked.
    They catch a fish by what it eats.
    This hit me to the nerve.

  • @wesleykai
    @wesleykai 3 роки тому +22

    Emotions don't think, I love wisdom of this man, watching from Doha, Qatar

    • @annnjerimwangi3119
      @annnjerimwangi3119 3 роки тому +1

      he is one of the best

    • @wesleykai
      @wesleykai 3 роки тому +2

      Sure sure, since I started listening to him I have never looked back

  • @rachelm.562
    @rachelm.562 3 роки тому +3

    ....eternally grateful for B. Zulu. Reaffirming everyone of their self worth.
    Good job Mwikali.

  • @dayseajem4888
    @dayseajem4888 3 роки тому +57

    First to comment wapi likes za zulu ke in the building 🔥

  • @misskaykayRSA
    @misskaykayRSA 3 роки тому +2

    Mwikali is such a vibe. I absolutely love her. Love from ❤️ 🇿🇦

  • @lucynyamai6854
    @lucynyamai6854 3 роки тому +9

    Benjamin you have brought a good side of Mwikali. She is nowadays very colourful in plain coloured clothes. Remember she is not just hosting but taking notes home. Thank you Mwikali. Tuitie wedding mamaa.

  • @AfricanFolktalesStories-2024
    @AfricanFolktalesStories-2024 3 роки тому +14

    Wow I loved the show, Mwikali you look stunning with the dress👌

  • @Bee-wd4mh
    @Bee-wd4mh 3 роки тому +18

    Mwikali, you are a great host!❤️❤️

  • @phellycrochet
    @phellycrochet 3 роки тому +17

    Very true,many men nowadays think treating a woman nice is simping....i hate the way they are misusing that word.....

    • @conradmbugua9098
      @conradmbugua9098 3 роки тому +1

      the problem is women walk all over nice men, so what do the men do, they adapt

    • @phellycrochet
      @phellycrochet 3 роки тому +7

      @@conradmbugua9098 seriously....if everyone adopted that theory then there would be no nice women or men....there are some men who treat good women like shit... should we say all men are shit??i don't think so

    • @temitopeoyeyipo2794
      @temitopeoyeyipo2794 3 роки тому

      @@phellycrochet Stupid people generalize, We av both good Nd Bad in both genders

  • @Mindful_Mm
    @Mindful_Mm 3 роки тому +9

    Watching zulu teaches me also that i must work hard from my side, being financially secured before settling in....bcoz this world is really going mad. 30 years old guys behaving like pure kid! 😅

  • @freddiesspace5278
    @freddiesspace5278 3 роки тому +23

    Team Zulu......knowledge at its best

  • @ekeasonye7189
    @ekeasonye7189 3 роки тому +2

    Benjamin you are too good. I have said before and saying it again, you should be on the international stage.

    • @ezerbia
      @ezerbia 3 роки тому

      He already is.

  • @shade_ofnite7autopsychogra411
    @shade_ofnite7autopsychogra411 3 роки тому +7

    Benjamin you are on fire and on point today. @17:37 on the illusions of grandeur that they are powerful is what most of the men need to demystify themselves on. All talk no walk nothing to show for it. I have always thought a man who knows his inherent role doesn't need to advertise and announce it. It shows itself by how he leads his life

  • @CAROLINE2438
    @CAROLINE2438 3 роки тому +5

    Exactly!! Submission is a response to leadership. 👏👏👏👏👏

  • @evelynebasondole2302
    @evelynebasondole2302 3 роки тому +5

    Why do I feel like Ben is always talking to me🥲 love from 🇹🇿🇹🇿🇹🇿

  • @fatmanasir6691
    @fatmanasir6691 3 роки тому +4

    Zulu's suit..damn!! The accessories that accompany it, watch etc.Looking sharp, man. Mwikali, that dress and color becomes you. Whoever does your make up knows what they're doing. Subtle and just enough,suiting your skin complexion and bubbly personality. May that laugh last forever. Good content, I have learnt alot

  • @vee2976
    @vee2976 3 роки тому +9

    Always eager to watch whenever I get a notification, Guys this lady Mwikali has stolen my heart 💗💗💗💗, I love you Mwikali, thanks so much for educatiing us Mr Benji

  • @lornalisa5974
    @lornalisa5974 3 роки тому +2

    I just clicked the 1000 button.. i love zulu talks and can we talk of his style. Very smart and clean✅

  • @triciabrown5263
    @triciabrown5263 3 роки тому +2

    I love Benjamin Zulu how he expresses himself, his knowledge and his passion. I write down his quotes. I only watch when he is a guest

  • @Portugal309
    @Portugal309 3 роки тому +7

    The fact that people rush in relationship steps made everything so easy and that's why most people date for long but don't end up together as real couples .....nowadays you meet for 1week then you decide to move in together, what next?you end up playing wife and husband roles which becomes boring like games ,with time you adjust to everything just trying to make things work and after all the effort someday it becomes toxic and by the time you completely decide to end it, it's always so hard .....It's better to take it slow even if the relationship feels so strong just take those steps let time decide keep that girlfriend boyfriend vibe until you are sure and most important achieve your goals before moving in together at least try to be your own leader don't rush to play husband wife roles 🙌

  • @zimkithamadela1629
    @zimkithamadela1629 3 роки тому +13

    I'm a huge fan from SA Cape Town.. Benjamin always hits the mark yhoo 😂... But I feel like you guys should introduce sub titles for us 😍

    • @copysmith1004
      @copysmith1004 3 роки тому

      Haha.. we'll try. Is it the accent or the few Swahili words?

    • @gracekabucho
      @gracekabucho 3 роки тому

      Most of the times the Swahili words are translated by the speaker...just a few are not

  • @maureengicharu4348
    @maureengicharu4348 3 роки тому +3

    Looking gorgeous Mwikali. Benjamin always appreciate his wisdom.

  • @samirmkuu7722
    @samirmkuu7722 3 роки тому

    Watching from Somalia 🇸🇴🇸🇴 Benjamin you hit the nail on the head

  • @SuperBervely
    @SuperBervely 3 роки тому +4

    Pride always loses what a great statement 👌🏽

  • @lisperkemunto9267
    @lisperkemunto9267 3 роки тому +5

    This is both so comical and informative..never laughed this hard

  • @wisdomkinya7930
    @wisdomkinya7930 3 роки тому +8

    Trust, Speed, in-laws... All I have suffered in relationship, these 3 are huge.

  • @dantemelly4717
    @dantemelly4717 3 роки тому +4

    Am taking lessons and am loving it may God help to grow.

  • @marilynphillips3204
    @marilynphillips3204 3 роки тому +8

    Some Relationships fail
    because of
    Marine spirits different unclean spirits
    In their bodies , that need to be consecrated cleansing the body thoroughly before getting that close
    Before any marriage
    The old relationship spirit remain attached to the body & keep driving out every other new comer
    What you have in your heart ?
    If you have God & hide God word in your heart you can't go wrong
    Any marriage etc Will last long
    God is all about the truth
    And doing the right thing

  • @kennmurii2639
    @kennmurii2639 3 роки тому +1

    love listening to this man......very unique n ako tu level ingine

  • @naomikigunda316
    @naomikigunda316 3 роки тому +2

    Heeeey! Zulu louder..i love this, no submission without leadership, it can't happen.

  • @jenniferwilliams1999
    @jenniferwilliams1999 3 роки тому +1

    Benjamin Zulu! You 💯 perfect correct in everything you saying! This is a powerful message and conversation to people who are married and if you looking for a husband or wife that will respect you! Thank you so much Benjamin Zulu for your amazing presentation! The world needs more men like you who stand up to telling the truth and no sugar coated messages! The truth will set us free! Thanks also for the laughs! God bless you and your family! I am happy I am happy for your programs.Women and Men need to know they are valued by God! May God continue to bless you!🙏❤️🙏

  • @beatricenthenya1272
    @beatricenthenya1272 3 роки тому +56

    Everything that comes out of Ben Zulu's mouth is a punchline.

  • @websitedesigner7158
    @websitedesigner7158 3 роки тому +7

    At the peak of his emotions ,this guy is a hilarious cartoon character

  • @Trotterstradinglimited
    @Trotterstradinglimited 3 роки тому +1

    Zulu you are a wise man. May you live long to keep doing this good work!

  • @joycemiracle1588
    @joycemiracle1588 3 роки тому +2

    Submission is a response to leadership

  • @hellengitahi8979
    @hellengitahi8979 3 роки тому +2

    He is so brilliant with so much wisdom👍👍👍

  • @sheilamasaki328
    @sheilamasaki328 3 роки тому +4

    Mwikali looks absolutely gorgeous

  • @emmakaruri9267
    @emmakaruri9267 3 роки тому +8

    You can't submit to a void!!!

  • @sharonchebet1747
    @sharonchebet1747 3 роки тому +1

    Only one word.,.Thankyou. Not everyone you love is marriageable...

  • @bubblesthuo51
    @bubblesthuo51 3 роки тому +8

    We enter in a relationship with blind trust... You trust someone without proof..but when that person breaks the trust and doesn't want to rebuild it...but wants to keep you ..it will never work

    • @stellajaeger2520
      @stellajaeger2520 3 роки тому

      Don't say We...say you! I never did! I do things with guided intention!

  • @antoinettestaceyann
    @antoinettestaceyann 3 роки тому +2

    Big fan watching from the US. Zulu is always on point!

  • @euginia_mathapelo
    @euginia_mathapelo 3 роки тому +10

    "To tip toe like a demon" 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥I Am Finished ~ Benjamin Zulu weeeeee🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅

  • @tinachristine4573
    @tinachristine4573 3 роки тому +9

    Watching from Bristol, UK.

  • @victoriawendokioko
    @victoriawendokioko 3 роки тому +1

    Pride always loses.....let's carry that everywhere🔥🔥

  • @sundaytambo7810
    @sundaytambo7810 3 роки тому +4

    Sampling supplies before sampling the supplier 😂😂😂🙌🏿

  • @DianaRoseAOyula
    @DianaRoseAOyula 3 роки тому +1

    Benja na Mwiks, God bless you 🙏

  • @rkim3928
    @rkim3928 3 роки тому +7

    Be the “to go to” person for your woman!

  • @divinejackie1993
    @divinejackie1993 3 роки тому +2

    MY MAN ZULU YOU'RE EVERYTHING🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌

  • @georginaayiemba683
    @georginaayiemba683 3 роки тому

    Benjamin Zulu ....I have never lost while following your instructions .....

  • @jennifermugishaofficial
    @jennifermugishaofficial 3 роки тому +1

    BENJAMIN ZULU IS SIMPLY AMAZING!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • @collinsamolo8705
    @collinsamolo8705 3 роки тому +6

    All in all, no single way to a successful marriage, no formula.!

  • @machez4665
    @machez4665 3 роки тому +3

    These are things which are untold to us growing up

  • @virginiahnjoroge4543
    @virginiahnjoroge4543 3 роки тому +4

    Pride always loses,I love this crew for real.

  • @jenniferwilliams1999
    @jenniferwilliams1999 3 роки тому

    You are 💯 percent correct! Sir! Trust is important in a relationship! Go to God and pray for a husband or a wife! God is never to late he is on time!🙏💖🙏

  • @shiishiro9574
    @shiishiro9574 3 роки тому +2

    Always a pleasure to watch you my duo..

  • @rmmedia1810
    @rmmedia1810 3 роки тому +6

    Mwikali you look beautiful today my dia

  • @violetkika9169
    @violetkika9169 3 роки тому +7

    Man you nailed it...

  • @minkrasi
    @minkrasi 3 роки тому +2

    Find a Queen...and dont loose her!! Love this!!

  • @jhhail8633
    @jhhail8633 3 роки тому +7

    this guy has chang my attitude towards love keep advice us

  • @jeccym8715
    @jeccym8715 3 роки тому

    Mwikali is like............
    Yeeeeeessss, I hope my bf is hearing thiiiiiiiss😅😊
    Nice teachings you both 💕💕

  • @georgekamau9855
    @georgekamau9855 3 роки тому +1

    It's because, now adays, most people marry. No love 💔 is left any more. So when money expires ,love 💘 expires too.

  • @Phiphi31
    @Phiphi31 3 роки тому +2

    Zulu Zulu Zulu you said them all,Mwikali know you know who is the right one ha ha ha ha ha ha

  • @hildanyambura1803
    @hildanyambura1803 3 роки тому +1

    The issue of trust is very true!

  • @victoriawendokioko
    @victoriawendokioko 3 роки тому +5

    Zulu: women have no issue with submission...the issue is that they can't submit to a void🔥🔥🔥dddzzzzaaaaaammmmnn
    SPEAK ZULU SPEAK!!!!!!

  • @gatwiri5607
    @gatwiri5607 3 роки тому +1

    Yeees....submission is a response to leadership

  • @tinachristine4573
    @tinachristine4573 3 роки тому +35

    'Tiptoeing like a demon' 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @naomikigunda316
    @naomikigunda316 3 роки тому +1

    Thanks Zulu, so insightful.

  • @carolinemukami7345
    @carolinemukami7345 3 роки тому

    I like Benjamin's wisdom

  • @flashmburu907
    @flashmburu907 3 роки тому +1

    Aaaah today you really cracked me up. Tiptoeing like a demon!!!

  • @stormc4044
    @stormc4044 3 роки тому +18

    “Go learn how to chase cockroaches “...ahhhhahhhaaha🤣🤣🤣

  • @Fybspe6
    @Fybspe6 3 роки тому +2

    Food for the soul✨

  • @chirienaomi4803
    @chirienaomi4803 3 роки тому +1

    A good mentor

  • @thegracetalents7674
    @thegracetalents7674 3 роки тому +1

    I love this man

  • @ruthkabuu7773
    @ruthkabuu7773 3 роки тому +11

    Mwikali tell zulu to discuss about those guys who you date but after sometime they say that they arent ready for a relationship

    • @sainawayua7162
      @sainawayua7162 3 роки тому +2

      Has happened to me and I found out that he maybe feel like your level is high he can't manage or he thinks you're not what he's looking for..and that's 😔 okay

  • @glowsylvia9792
    @glowsylvia9792 3 роки тому +1

    Mwikali looking beautiful 😍

  • @marilynphillips3204
    @marilynphillips3204 3 роки тому +7

    Believer & unbeliever can't work
    Unequally yoke can't work .
    Honesty loyal a pure heart &
    only two [ 2 ] same spirit can walk together Devine guidance directions
    God first .
    Some people need to get a heart check up from Dr Jesus

  • @ruthgitau1285
    @ruthgitau1285 3 роки тому +3

    Not everyone you love is marriagable wow...am writin notes

  • @turkkenyalifestyle187
    @turkkenyalifestyle187 3 роки тому +1

    Great topic

  • @Ashlynma
    @Ashlynma 3 роки тому +7

    Kwaaaaaaaa 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣tiptoeing like a demon🤣🤣🤣am finished

  • @johnmbuthiaofficial3084
    @johnmbuthiaofficial3084 3 роки тому +1

    He could have addressed the highschool's person issue It might be a real issue don't just bypass it... anyway good job switch 💪

  • @carolmuthomi327
    @carolmuthomi327 3 роки тому +1

    Where is the lie !!!!! This is pure truth

  • @jacklineorina5191
    @jacklineorina5191 3 роки тому +5

    Watching from Bangkok.

  • @wangarimaina3621
    @wangarimaina3621 Рік тому

    Very clear n true

  • @phoebemukhwana3058
    @phoebemukhwana3058 3 роки тому +2

    Love your facts Zulu

  • @johnnm3207
    @johnnm3207 3 роки тому +3

    I totally agree.. when a man falls in love he becomes the most stupid definition of himself. That's why you hear saying like... I'll fight 1000 men for you... trust me if he's in love he will and he'll probably die to the first 3 😆😆😆😆😆

  • @monicanabaasa2345
    @monicanabaasa2345 3 роки тому +1

    Wow..... I subscribed ASAP coz I loved❤️ this. Submission is a response to Leadership. #Ugandans 🇺🇬 🇺🇬 🇺🇬 gv me a like 👍🥰