Thank you to each one of you for watching my music video, and especially to those of you who have subscribed and are sharing it. “Love Should Not Hurt” is the forth video from my visual album “24” - a set of 24 piano pieces composed and performed by myself, with accompanying music videos I have directed, one for each of the musical keys. Everyone involved in this video has been deeply touched by the level of support. We stand by all victims of domestic violence, both male and female, and though this is such a complex issue, we have highlighted some of the most common attributes victims of domestic abuse face globally. If you know someone, or are yourself, suffering from domestic abuse please do reach out to local organisations that can provide support needed. If you have been a victim yourself continue to speak out, share this video and your own stories, and use the hashtag #LoveShouldNotHurt ❤️ Many voices combined will help bring more funding and support to those who suffer as well as helping to eradicate the stigma of domestic abuse.
Her running into that field with nowhere to go is so powerful to me. Even in the middle of the city it feels the same. This needs to be a commercial played on free to air t.v. so everyone possible can see facts and pain of domestic violence. Just beautiful.
One time I went running with no shoes on. My feet got cut I accidentally ran on some glass. I was shaking inside so much with fear and hurt and wanting to leave it. Then stop because I realized I had no where to go.... That is in the past. It only comes to the front now when I see other people going through it. My advice...... when you leave DATE NOBODY. You need to fix yourself. Otherwise other predators will be able to smell you a mile away.
I ran into the woods :'-(, for hours, cold and hungry, nowhere to go. My only option was to walk back again and it broke my heart. That was long ago. I am safe now.
Over 13 years ago, I was in this same situation with an ex. I couldn’t leave, I left him over fifty times in five years. I will never wish this on anyone else. His brother actually killed his girlfriend and mother of his three beautiful little girls (all under three). I remember my sons father would tell me if I left him, he would kill me like his brother killed his girlfriend. I was scared to leave. I lost myself, felt depressed, lost my soul, and my spirit was gone. I was another person. “There’s a song that says, I’m living without living, I’m dying without being able to die”. Might sound weird but it made sense. I wasn’t living…. I was just existing… one day I looked in the mirror, and saw who I had become, and told myself “ This is not who I am”. I cried, and left, and it was hard, but I did it. In 2014, he died of a heroine overdose. I felt like a load was lifted off my shoulders, I felt like that old me, left with him. I learned to love myself once again, took me about two and a half years, I went to college, I met my now husband of 10 years. He’s a good man, he lets me be “me”. So if your going through this, “It’s ok to open a new page, to love yourself, love isn’t supposed to hurt, they are supposed to shelter you, love you, the real you, and make you a better you. Know your self worth!!! 🙏🏼❤️🌻☝🏼😉
I don’t know you personally but I proud of you for getting out and for saving your life Goddess. I don’t know you personally but as a Goddess myself, I love you enough to say you are beautiful and you deserve true happiness and I pray that you find it better yet I pray that it finds you.
I dealt with the same thing it is hard and even then your left looking over your shoulder worried he might find you i walked away 9 years ago im so thankful his 2 ex girlfriends were seriously injured by him and I have 2 kids with him i say that could have been me congrats on surviving!!
I watched this happen to my mum on the daily for 14 years. My sister and I got the beatings afterwards when my dad still had some energy left to use. Unfortunately it didn't end well for my mum at all. My dad's in jail for life now and my sister and I are recovering and going through intense therapy- even after 2 years- and are happier everyday we live with my god parents and their family. Watching this, I wish I saw this years ago and it might have saved my mum. I hope this saves atleast one person. I love this video soooooooo soooo much- thankyou for making this, Mel and Fabio💖
I am so sorry for your traumatic loss....so heartbreaking! For about 20+yrs I had to deal w my ex's on & off abuse,tried leaving many times and succeeded at getting out few times....but my kids were put in harms way several times when he had them on his wkend visits so I'd go back to him believing i could only keep my kids safe if I was always under same roof as them. 2yrs ago I finally felt my kids would be ready & able to reach me or get help if they had an issue w him on their wkend visits so I left him for good. Reason I mention all that is because its extremely common that victims try numerous times to leave , it's never easy & most people dont understand theres so many things that make it unsafe, difficult or even impossible to get out when they want to. My ex & some of his family spent last few yrs lying to my son about how his dad never abused me, claimed i was crazy, etc. I left my ex & kinda lost my son bc of it.....he was alienated against me, my daughter( his sister from same father) & most people on my side of family. I pray everyday my son realizes the truth 1 day & becomes close w us again. As I said I am so so sorry for your loss , i cant even imagine how painful it is for you and your sister & I assume your both pretty young if you had to live w God parents but I'm so glad for the two of you that you were able to atleast stay living together AND with safe family. I hope you & your sister always stay close & supportive of each other and I think its great you're in therapy, you deserve to have a trained professional you can trust to talk to about all this . Despite horrific evil things that often happen in this world I still believe in God so I will pray for you & your sister. 🙏❤
@@crissa2781 oh my goodness, Im so sorry that you lost your children, because you tried escaping the horrible life you had. I can't imagen the feeling of it at all!! I so hope that you get your children back and began a new, happy life together. I'll forever pray for it, you all so deserve it❤
Lots of people coming forward about there abuse..... two years free for me from a mentally abusive narcissist......NEVER KEEP QUIET FOR ANYONE......well done to mel B re-living this nightmare for this video what a very brave and incredible woman......well done fabio for getting this very important message across to everyone suffering x
I used to try and tell people what it was like living with my ex and how terrified I was of him but no one wanted to hear so eventually gave up.He cant control us any more.
Three years for me in which I had to search for him because he would not give me a divorce so he hid. Mental abuse but I have moved on and am living my best life!
@Ann Jones It's ok for you to cut your sister out of your life. But please, give her the hope of: "when you leave him, I'll be there for you". I have seen such a situation when a mother could not do any more for her daughter, and ended up hardly ever seeing her, but always told her she would be there if she left her husband. It took about 10 years, but it happened and now they have a very good relationship. When you are on the outside it is exasperating not understanding why they do not leave their abuser. But please remember this is part of the control the abuser has over the abused. I hope your sister finds the strength to leave her abuser and I hope you can be there for her when that happens.
I look at this weekly as a reminder 🎗️ of what was and what could be and I will never stop 🛑 looking and it either. Powerful, just powerful! as was said by someone else. Without a word even being spoken. 👄👄
It was such an honour to work on this project as the head stylist. I have to say Mel B and Sam Mackay gave an amazing performance to bring this story to life. Stories like this happen in our communities more often than we would like to admit. Hopefully we can tackle domestic abuse and address the underlying causes. Well done Fabio
So powerful! Thank you Fabio for choosing Mel B, who better than her could impersonate this huge problem in our society. Thank you Mel for being a beautiful human being, as always… 🙏🏼
My goodness this is so confronting. Never have I been struck in my entire life. My Parents chose not to smack my Brother and I. If you strike someone you change who they are at their core. We were blessed to have calm Parents and a brilliant home life. I do 3 nights a month at a Womens shelter it is beyond horrific to arrive with the Police in the middle of the night with crying frightened Children, with only the clothes on their back and nothing else. I take care of the children and feed them a good meal and bathe them and put them into clean clothing and read them stories. I weep on the way home however many are assisted to not be harrassed or killed.
As a child seeing my Mom experience this abusive from my father was horrific. After years of therapy, prayers, and my father apologizing with positive consistent actions...our family is living a better quality of life. Thank you God for being with us in this journey.
I found this very difficult to watch after suffering domestic abuse, physical and mental during my second marriage which I became free from with the help of Women’s Aid in 2008. The dancing part was so relevant to me as friends would often comment on how we used to dance so well together at parties etc. Mel B you are so incredibly strong to have done this video and I am going to share it on my Facebook page because there are still those out there who are needing to run as fast as they can like you represent in the video. Well done also to Sam Mackay as I can only imagine how difficult this was for you too. Much Love to you all. I am now living a magical life with my new husband in the South West of France and still know how lucky I was to get the help I needed. Xxx
I'm bursting with pride for Mel, I love that strength she has, she doesn't give up and has been through so much that only she knows what she had to put up with. And to see her giving support to people who suffer or suffered like her, is gratifying and exciting and I am lucky to have her as my favorite spice. We love you Scary ❤❤
Mel b should of listen to her mum in the beginning but she disowned her family instead, then look what happen to her, ,her ex husbands baby mother even warn mel b but she end up learning the hard way smh
@@dyanetaylor4062 let me see if I understand, so are you saying that Mel is to blame for all this just for not listening to the family ???? To begin with, when a person is in a toxic relationship like Mel was, she does not see the harm that person is doing, she cannot get rid of this suffering and thankfully Mel had a breath of life and decided to put an end to that . People like her ex are sick who abuse someone's psychological fragility in order to take advantage, control and do whatever they want. The only person who is guilty of all this is him and not her.
Difficult to watch.... domestic violence permeates gay relationships too.... we often don’t think about that.... well done Mel B.... sometimes we need a brick thrown through our window to wake us up.... you and the rest of the team did that for me today.
Domestic abuse in all forms is wrong regardless of gender. An abusive mother is just as bad as an abusive father. It's also wrong for women to abuse their male partners.
That dance scene though Mel did really good with that the whole scene nearly had me shedding tears but that dance scene was what got me cause I know what it's supposed to represent despite everything going on at home she still shows up at her friends with a smile on her face I would like to see one where men go through this as well cause I've been through a similar situation so I'd like to see that. That being said well done to the actors and directors very good job
I'm a woman but I thank you so much for being a man brave enough to admit this. I have seen firsthand what happens to a man after domestic abuse. It takes a lot of undoing that trauma some of which never goes away and it's an issue that doesn't receive as much attention as it should. Just know there are people that will support you too. Be well.
@@sliq8687 thank you for the support although mine wasnt bad compared to most people's I usually don't talk about it cause I may get judged which I have been by my male friends
@@romelgonzales2754 No problem 💕 Never reduce your experience. Even if the same things didn't happen to you as other stories you've heard yours is still significant and no less than anyone else. I hate that male friends are like that towards you. That honestly hurts my heart. Not all men are that way though so I hope that you find good people who support you regardless of your gender or their own. If anything come back and talk to a supportive stranger in the comments 😉
This is such a big impact I left my abuser in 2006 with my 4 kids barefoot and didn't look back I left everything I worked so hard for my home everything, we need to teach our son's and daughters about domestic violence I don't date at all my children are all adults from ages 21_28 very proud of them it's still impact you it never goes away I do pray from every woman out there please make the right decision to leave.
It's my duty to drill in my daughter's head no man has a right to hit you, it's never ok, no excuses, and if you stay guarantee it will happen again. Mama ain't raise no "punching bag."
Domestic violence doesn't just effect the immediate victim but also any children at home too. Having witnessed domestic violence at home growing up, it had a profound affect on me in the choices I made in when it came to men. Which mostly ment celibacy. It was only after witnessing first my friends and then my younger siblings in their happy marriages that I began to think that maybe I can find someone and it doesn't necessarily mean my relationship will turn out like my parents. A very powerful video and I commend Mel B for being involved, after her own experience.
Yes!! It’s completely messed up my image of relationships and I suffered from PTSD as a result. People don’t focus on the children who witness domestic violence at home enough.
When our mother was going through domestic stuff then we were not at home most of the time. mum left dad for many reasons. But much later in life dad changed himself he started praying and after many years had gone i would sometimes meet him. He said mum did the right thing that she left him because she kept the house clean cooked delicious foods and looked after him. Anyway if you have messed up please seek help yourself don't go to any spiritualist as they can take your energy and end doing all sorts. Spiritual warfare is real please read up about it on UA-cam. Anything can happen in relationships. Mostly drugs alcohol n prostitution is the beginning there are other things happening. You must Question the reasons WHATS BEHIND behaviour as many things can influence peoples choices that they make including YOURSELVES. There are things working for Satan's team, they create misunderstandings between spouses, they are behind breakups, MARRAiGES falling apart, sexual abuse in family, abortions, Prostitution murder, torture, juju , oppression, cheating, etc list goes on. Know this that God Loves You but you must take the first step to ask for forgiveness. Next is start praying. Cover mirrors in bedroom at night time. Keep bathroom doors CLOSED at all times please. Change diet start eating vegetables and salads to your meals. Start reducing red meats. Fruits lower blood pressure. Apples banana n pears prevent strokes. Coconut water is great for hepatitis. Black seeds are great for DIEBETES 1 teaspoon soak in 1glass of water then drink at breakfast/ morning after with or without seeds.
I'm a survivor of domestic violence and mental abuse, I escaped my abuser, I know if I didn't, I wouldn't be here, mine went to trial, he went to prison, the support I received was amazing, this was still hard to watch, behind close doors, it's exactly like that, and worse, i hope anyone going through this, will get help, and the support they will need, you are loved. Xx
Thank you so much for making this. Thank you for showing how real this is and for giving a voice to those who can't speak up or are too afraid too. I hope this reaches more people. To any survivor, past or current, of domestic abuse, please know you are not alone. You are stronger than you give yourself credit for and you are not less than what that abuser is telling you. You are loved. Period.
I am through this and I am still in , abusive relationship, I work to save mu live soon is possible. Its very hard to watch you can just imagine how is to live
I can’t believe I am watching this almost a week after it’s been released, this video should have spread like wildfire. This is the video that should break the internet. The message, the music, the performance was powerful and stunning!
The Video is great but society has no solutions for that. I have experienced lots of domestic violence. I am disabled because of that! While I was walking away from ihm, he he massacred me with kicks until I was unconscious on the ground! I cant work and earn money for myself and to cure the damage. There is NO Help for that. I have no friends because of that. Nobody wants to know your suffering. I am in Germany not my birt country. No solutions. Nobody cares. if any of you are interested in getting to know me, please let me know
Those in power would never let this video go far, in my opinion, because a lot of them are either well known sex offenders or secret sex offenders, sexual abuse along with other violent abuse. Rose McGowan
A brilliant, touching performance. Domestic abuse is unacceptable, in any culture, setting or circumstance. I hope that the film will help raise awareness about the issue and serve as a tool for bringing about change. #LoveShouldNotHurt
Mel, I listened to your story and I can only imagine this video is an insight into what it must've been like living with Stephen. What is so gut wrenching is how you depict that everything is fine in front of friends, the perfect couple. I just hope none of my close people ever feel they have to suffer like this. Always confide and get help. Thank you for making this film. It is important.
This is going to open people's eyes to the fact that domestic abuse can, and does, happen to anyone. Absolutely beautiful music, really captured the feeling of the video and enhanced the emotion behind it. Stunning composition.
Sadly I was a victim, I felt ashamed and lied to friends and family. Victims are scared of the abuser and people's judgement. "Why don't you just leave?" "Why not call the police?" The abusers don't care that there is a restraining order. The only thing it does is piss the abuser off and let the police know who murdered you. Such a sad song that I felt in my soul.
That is 100% accurate I eventually let the police "help me" and guess what? They have left me unprotected and feeling unsafe and they're taking their time to bring forth the charges which they have the evidence for! I put myself at risk for them to just leave me.
This was incredibly well-executed. The visuals were strong and memorable and the music substituted dialogue very well. Mel and Sam were brilliant. The dance sequence intercut with the choreographed abuse was impressive. It reminded me of the film 'Us' by Jordan Peele when he showed the contrast between events happening above ground and below ground. This is one of the most well-made domestic violence films I have seen in a long time 👍🏾
This video was triggering for me, because my parents abused my brother and I. Neither of us has had contact with them for years... And we both still suffer from anxiety, depression and PTSD. (I'm 49 and he's 50)
Alcohol is not an excuse, something your partner said or did is not an excuse ,anger is not an excuse for you to abuse your partner emotionally or physically. If your partner has ever laid a finger on you or abuses you emotionally in anyway like every time there is an argument IT IS ALWAYS YOUR FAULT do not stay because emotional abuse WILL turn in to physical one. If you are currently in a relationship where there is abuse don't wait and don't tell him or her that you are leaving. Ask for help from friends, family or a co-worker any one whom will listen ,whom you can trust and get out. You are emotionally invested to your abuser so it will be hard but DO NOT GO BACK no matter what he/she promises or says. NO CONTACT WHAT SO EVER is the best way. I have been through this my self so i know what i am talking about. Do not wait you deserve a pain free life. YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY :)
As a survivor of domestic violence and coercive abuse this is amazing to watch. It takes you back to where you were, how it felt and I can bring back some awful memories. Why people don't understand that this is a war we're losing I don't know? This is real life for so many people on a daily basis and more help and more advice is needed. If you can give some money or donation to your local refuge as we need to make sure there is somewhere for the people to run to. Please help those escaping domestic violence don't turn your head away this is something we need to address now!!
ME & MY KIDS ARE SURVIVORS! Over 1week ago I escaped a domestic violent relationship, the man I thought was the love of my life, the man who's children I give birth too. This is not love! I have never felt so free, please please women going through this say NO for yourself and your babies!!
Arrived here from the Guardian article about Mel B's experiences, which are upsetting to even read about, much less experience. As mentioned below, Mel herself will probably not read these comments, but if anyone who knows her does read them, please inform her that she is loved, her performance above is amazing, especially given that it was re-living her own life, and that her experience shows that if it can happen to her, it can happen to anyone - it is never your fault, it is their fault.
So so real, I’ve been in this situation and have many of scars on the inside and out. My partner has now passed away, as unbelievable as it sounds I’d take it all again to have home back. I’ve never seemed professional help, my mum says I should but I won’t have a bad word said about him as I know he had issues and was unwell. I’m not stupid and know we can all make excuses! I do believe Melanie Brown sees all comments and I thinks she’s doing herself and others proud. I wish you the best MB 👏🏻💪👏🏻 x
‘I wasn’t like this before I met you. You made me act like a monster. It’s your fault.’ my ex told me this after almost choking me to death. Now I know it wasn’t my fault but his.
A very big and very real issue within everyday life especially now with covid at the moment keeping people within contained environments. A visual and musical masterpiece. Bravo Fabio!
First thing I've ever commented on UA-cam for, felt compelled to write... Something. I think I just wanted to say thank you really, from the bottom of my heart ❤️
I've been through this minus the dancing, my ex could not dance, but he could hit. I'm sorry to all who went through this. This was incredible acting and composition, well done.
I think the dancing signified the "SHOW" they put on in front of friends and family to hide what was really going on, as many people who experience domestic violence are usually embarrassed
That is so powerful and I really hope this is seen worldwide. What a brave Lady She is to show the importance of speaking out. So much admiration for Her.
All involved in this production should be so proud. It was real and powerful and necessary. So much needs to be done to eradicate abuse on all levels. It can start off as such little things, seemingly nothing and like the phrase goes, before you know it you're the frog boiling in the water. Thanks for giving a voice to so many and showing those who daren't even consider leaving an abusive partner behind the courage to do so. Bravo Mel B. Thank you for using your high public profile and fame to help shine the spotlight on abuse and let's all work together to make it a thing of the past.
Wow that was so powerful, Mel B was amazing especially after the trauma she went through, and that music was so moving. Thank you for bringing awareness to a huge problem in our world today.
I applaud Mel B for this video, hope it helps other women to come forward for help. I once myself as in a abusive relationship. GOD delivered me from that pray he will also deliver you whom ever needs it.✌❤
Mental abuse and gaslighting needs more exposure as well. This video is deep and I admire the strength it took to make it. I’m glad she broke free, loads of people don’t and are still stuck in it all. I hope this reaches people and they seek help and get away. ❤️
Oh my God, this literally sent a shiver through my body, tears in my eyes, it was just the same way for me. For anyone going through this at the moment, find the courage to leave and have a better life. I KNOW IT'S HARD, and easier said than done, especially if you still love the person. Make a plan and leave, if you have children, do it for them, if not for yourself. There is help out there, YOU CAN DO IT.
Absolutely beautifully haunting. I love this and the awareness that it will bring. As a DV survivor myself I know when you are in that situation you always blame yourself until you wake up and realise that it’s not you it is THEM. Thank you for showing it happens to all classes whether rich or poor.
Stunning video bravo Mel B I am so very sorry for all you have indured .. It broke my heart as I watched this video ..grateful to ALL that put this together. Domestic Abuse is real many are clueless unless they have gone through it. I could relate to every part an I hope this reaches those still suffering.. Thank you thank you for this will help anyone
This made me cry and cry and cry. My dad used to beat my mom...I only remember one time but she recently told me of others. I've blanked out most of my childhood so I didn't remember the rest. So it made me cry for my mom but for Mel B too because she also lived it. It was harrowing to watch.
Wow this is powerful , jus goes to show no.one knows what going on behind close doors , this is a powerful message and I hope that any woman that is hurting jus read this .. LOVE SHOULD NEVER HURT .
As much as this was hard to watch, because I'm a survivor of DV, and this brought me to tears, it was spot on. It had to have been hard for Mel B to re-enact this. Bless her. Thank you for making this video.
Brilliantly done, showing the fear and the charm, the control, the bravery and the isolation. This is a massively important piece of work you should both be proud of.
This made me 😢 i can't imagine that someone would even think to treat another human being this way. I am glad this has been risen to the surface with the visual manifestation of this video. Thank You.
Making the break is the hardest thing and the final scene represents that perfectly. This can happen to anyone, like addiction domestic violence does not discriminate. Thank to everyone involved, it must have been difficult for you x blessings
Shockingly powerful and it made my stomach knot. Mel B and Sam! What a performance, although, for Mel B a truth she needed everyone to hear what she suffered through and now she got to tell her story in this video.
This was as raw as it gets. You can't sugar coat the reality of what's going on out there. Support our women, men and children being abused, don't suffer in silence. I love that you've done this so authentically. It's time.
The fact that you add men and women to the mix of abuse is exactly what I was about to comment on. And this was as raw as it gets 😶, and to think it happens every day to someone across the globe... 👿
Yes! I can relate to that. I got out with my daughter. she is finally able to face all she experienced & is having counselling. I am thankful, Grateful.
It is so sad how it looks like a memory to me. I hate the fact that happened to me and I stayed because I wasn't strong enough to leave or I thought I wasn't. You can lose yourself in a person to the point that you think there is no way out and then you start making excuses for staying. "I know but" is one of the most dangerous words people can say. Loving yourself less, and loving him. I need to love myself more and I'm getting better at it. To women and men out there you can get out and you should. It is not worth your life. 'Love should not hurt' is so true, thank you. Mel B, Fabio D'Andrea, Patron of Women's Aid, Teresa Parker and everyone who made this video happen thank you so much.
Don't ever think it's because of you. No one has the right to abuse or mistreat another person for any reason. It's hard to get away, I was there. I couldn't see the light at the end of the tunnel, but I felt the train coming. I'm praying hard for anyone who's going through this. Know that there are millions of people supporting you and sending massive love. Don't give up❤️
I have lived this. It's almost unheard of in my experience to come in contact with a womens shelter staff or a therapist who actually can provide the right support. It's about men's attitude of control, a traumatic childhood or anger is no excuse. These men lack accountability, and shift blame. It is never the woman's fault but so many people say it's her lack of self esteem. It is not, men use her kindness against her.
After 13 years I finally got the courage to leave almost 3 months ago. This was very hard to watch as it was so familiar. My heart hurts so much for other women and men that go through this!!
Well, fuck!! That was heavy! So impactful!!! Mel B and everyone involved in this campaign should be commended for shedding a light on what it can be like for some. Please get the help you need if you are in a situation like this and know there is help out there
This issue has never been relevant to my situation and I therefore never made the effort to properly understand the issue, though I’m aware of the WHO stats. But this video just had me in tears. Sometimes one needs the visual to understand how things really are. I feel really proud of Mel B, particularly her true to life expressions. This video should be shared globally to raise awareness. Thank you Fabio D’Andrea.
Thank you for speaking up for those who are struggling to do so for themselves. I hope everyone who may be trapped in a similar situation can find the bravery to seek help
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Thank you to each one of you for watching my music video, and especially to those of you who have subscribed and are sharing it.
“Love Should Not Hurt” is the forth video from my visual album “24” - a set of 24 piano pieces composed and performed by myself, with accompanying music videos I have directed, one for each of the musical keys.
Everyone involved in this video has been deeply touched by the level of support. We stand by all victims of domestic violence, both male and female, and though this is such a complex issue, we have highlighted some of the most common attributes victims of domestic abuse face globally. If you know someone, or are yourself, suffering from domestic abuse please do reach out to local organisations that can provide support needed.
If you have been a victim yourself continue to speak out, share this video and your own stories, and use the hashtag #LoveShouldNotHurt ❤️
Many voices combined will help bring more funding and support to those who suffer as well as helping to eradicate the stigma of domestic abuse.
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Her running into that field with nowhere to go is so powerful to me. Even in the middle of the city it feels the same. This needs to be a commercial played on free to air t.v. so everyone possible can see facts and pain of domestic violence. Just beautiful.
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And a surban housing estate.
Incredible isn't it how they captured it all. 🧡
I hope all of our sharing, commenting will help another.
One time I went running with no shoes on. My feet got cut I accidentally ran on some glass. I was shaking inside so much with fear and hurt and wanting to leave it. Then stop because I realized I had no where to go.... That is in the past. It only comes to the front now when I see other people going through it. My advice...... when you leave DATE NOBODY. You need to fix yourself. Otherwise other predators will be able to smell you a mile away.
Yes and that too being that in domestic violence relationships the abusers isolate their victims from their family/friends.
I ran into the woods :'-(, for hours, cold and hungry, nowhere to go. My only option was to walk back again and it broke my heart. That was long ago. I am safe now.
Over 13 years ago, I was in this same situation with an ex. I couldn’t leave, I left him over fifty times in five years. I will never wish this on anyone else. His brother actually killed his girlfriend and mother of his three beautiful little girls (all under three). I remember my sons father would tell me if I left him, he would kill me like his brother killed his girlfriend. I was scared to leave. I lost myself, felt depressed, lost my soul, and my spirit was gone. I was another person. “There’s a song that says, I’m living without living, I’m dying without being able to die”. Might sound weird but it made sense. I wasn’t living…. I was just existing… one day I looked in the mirror, and saw who I had become, and told myself “ This is not who I am”. I cried, and left, and it was hard, but I did it. In 2014, he died of a heroine overdose. I felt like a load was lifted off my shoulders, I felt like that old me, left with him. I learned to love myself once again, took me about two and a half years, I went to college, I met my now husband of 10 years. He’s a good man, he lets me be “me”. So if your going through this, “It’s ok to open a new page, to love yourself, love isn’t supposed to hurt, they are supposed to shelter you, love you, the real you, and make you a better you. Know your self worth!!! 🙏🏼❤️🌻☝🏼😉
Thank you for sharing this ❤️🙏
I don’t know you personally but I proud of you for getting out and for saving your life Goddess. I don’t know you personally but as a Goddess myself, I love you enough to say you are beautiful and you deserve true happiness and I pray that you find it better yet I pray that it finds you.
I'm happy you survive. Praying my sister has the will to do same...💞
🙏🙏🙏 thank God you are with us to tell your story. Stay strong Queen👑
I dealt with the same thing it is hard and even then your left looking over your shoulder worried he might find you i walked away 9 years ago im so thankful his 2 ex girlfriends were seriously injured by him and I have 2 kids with him i say that could have been me congrats on surviving!!
Mel this must have been like re-living a nightmare, what a brave thing to do. You have probably saved hundreds of women. I'm truly amazed. Thank you.
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I watched this happen to my mum on the daily for 14 years. My sister and I got the beatings afterwards when my dad still had some energy left to use. Unfortunately it didn't end well for my mum at all. My dad's in jail for life now and my sister and I are recovering and going through intense therapy- even after 2 years- and are happier everyday we live with my god parents and their family. Watching this, I wish I saw this years ago and it might have saved my mum. I hope this saves atleast one person. I love this video soooooooo soooo much- thankyou for making this, Mel and Fabio💖
I’m so sorry to hear of your loss ❤️ thank you for sharing you story with everyone ❤️
OMG sweetheart, im so sorry this happened to you and your family.
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I am so sorry for your traumatic loss....so heartbreaking! For about 20+yrs I had to deal w my ex's on & off abuse,tried leaving many times and succeeded at getting out few times....but my kids were put in harms way several times when he had them on his wkend visits so I'd go back to him believing i could only keep my kids safe if I was always under same roof as them. 2yrs ago I finally felt my kids would be ready & able to reach me or get help if they had an issue w him on their wkend visits so I left him for good. Reason I mention all that is because its extremely common that victims try numerous times to leave , it's never easy & most people dont understand theres so many things that make it unsafe, difficult or even impossible to get out when they want to. My ex & some of his family spent last few yrs lying to my son about how his dad never abused me, claimed i was crazy, etc. I left my ex & kinda lost my son bc of it.....he was alienated against me, my daughter( his sister from same father) & most people on my side of family. I pray everyday my son realizes the truth 1 day & becomes close w us again. As I said I am so so sorry for your loss , i cant even imagine how painful it is for you and your sister & I assume your both pretty young if you had to live w God parents but I'm so glad for the two of you that you were able to atleast stay living together AND with safe family. I hope you & your sister always stay close & supportive of each other and I think its great you're in therapy, you deserve to have a trained professional you can trust to talk to about all this . Despite horrific evil things that often happen in this world I still believe in God so I will pray for you & your sister. 🙏❤
@@crissa2781 oh my goodness, Im so sorry that you lost your children, because you tried escaping the horrible life you had. I can't imagen the feeling of it at all!! I so hope that you get your children back and began a new, happy life together. I'll forever pray for it, you all so deserve it❤
Lots of people coming forward about there abuse..... two years free for me from a mentally abusive narcissist......NEVER KEEP QUIET FOR ANYONE......well done to mel B re-living this nightmare for this video what a very brave and incredible woman......well done fabio for getting this very important message across to everyone suffering x
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I used to try and tell people what it was like living with my ex and how terrified I was of him but no one wanted to hear so eventually gave up.He cant control us any more.
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Three years for me in which I had to search for him because he would not give me a divorce so he hid. Mental abuse but I have moved on and am living my best life!
@Ann Jones It's ok for you to cut your sister out of your life. But please, give her the hope of: "when you leave him, I'll be there for you". I have seen such a situation when a mother could not do any more for her daughter, and ended up hardly ever seeing her, but always told her she would be there if she left her husband. It took about 10 years, but it happened and now they have a very good relationship. When you are on the outside it is exasperating not understanding why they do not leave their abuser. But please remember this is part of the control the abuser has over the abused. I hope your sister finds the strength to leave her abuser and I hope you can be there for her when that happens.
To capture all of this in under 5 minutes, without a single word spoken, incredible.
Very powerful and speaks volumes...
I've watch 3 times already.
Thank you so much 💙💙💙
Yes too me this speaks volumes and is a very powerful short story...
I look at this weekly as a reminder 🎗️ of what was and what could be and I will never stop 🛑 looking and it either. Powerful, just powerful! as was said by someone else. Without a word even being spoken. 👄👄
It was such an honour to work on this project as the head stylist. I have to say Mel B and Sam Mackay gave an amazing performance to bring this story to life. Stories like this happen in our communities more often than we would like to admit. Hopefully we can tackle domestic abuse and address the underlying causes. Well done Fabio
I’m so happy we got to make this together 💙 You’re the best!
What do you mean? I was the head stylist???
@@kyliewilson2911 : what are you saying?
He flew into London straight away, what's happening?
@@kyliewilson2911 please don't be rude Kylie!
So powerful! Thank you Fabio for choosing Mel B, who better than her could impersonate this huge problem in our society. Thank you Mel for being a beautiful human being, as always… 🙏🏼
And thank you for supporting us. 🙏
I absolutely agree with this comment. She is incredible
My goodness this is so confronting. Never have I been struck in my entire life. My Parents chose not to smack my Brother and I. If you strike someone you change who they are at their core. We were blessed to have calm Parents and a brilliant home life. I do 3 nights a month at a Womens shelter it is beyond horrific to arrive with the Police in the middle of the night with crying frightened Children, with only the clothes on their back and nothing else.
I take care of the children and feed them a good meal and bathe them and put them into clean clothing and read them stories. I weep on the way home however many are assisted to not be harrassed or killed.
Thank you for sharing 🙏
As a child seeing my Mom experience this abusive from my father was horrific.
After years of therapy, prayers, and my father apologizing with positive consistent actions...our family is living a better quality of life. Thank you God for being with us in this journey.
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@@fabiodandreaofficial Thank you for your love! I love your truth too!
Omg. This broke my heart. So proud of Mel B. Amazing that she highlights this issue. Physical and narcissistic abuse is a global pandemic
I found this very difficult to watch after suffering domestic abuse, physical and mental during my second marriage which I became free from with the help of Women’s Aid in 2008. The dancing part was so relevant to me as friends would often comment on how we used to dance so well together at parties etc. Mel B you are so incredibly strong to have done this video and I am going to share it on my Facebook page because there are still those out there who are needing to run as fast as they can like you represent in the video. Well done also to Sam Mackay as I can only imagine how difficult this was for you too.
Much Love to you all. I am now living a magical life with my new husband in the South West of France and still know how lucky I was to get the help I needed. Xxx
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Isn't it moving. I am so sorry it happened to you. And Me too. This Was like the day I left. I had to fight to get out the door and run.
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Same here
I had to turn it
But i came back and watched it
I had to good thing i did.
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I'm bursting with pride for Mel, I love that strength she has, she doesn't give up and has been through so much that only she knows what she had to put up with. And to see her giving support to people who suffer or suffered like her, is gratifying and exciting and I am lucky to have her as my favorite spice. We love you Scary ❤❤
Mel b should of listen to her mum in the beginning but she disowned her family instead, then look what happen to her, ,her ex husbands baby mother even warn mel b but she end up learning the hard way smh
@@dyanetaylor4062 Abusers know how to make you dependent emotionally on them.
@@dyanetaylor4062 let me see if I understand, so are you saying that Mel is to blame for all this just for not listening to the family ???? To begin with, when a person is in a toxic relationship like Mel was, she does not see the harm that person is doing, she cannot get rid of this suffering and thankfully Mel had a breath of life and decided to put an end to that . People like her ex are sick who abuse someone's psychological fragility in order to take advantage, control and do whatever they want. The only person who is guilty of all this is him and not her.
@@dyanetaylor4062 The isolation from the family was part of the cycle of abuse. That wasn’t her doing, it was her husbands.
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I concur with your sentiment 100%
Love u Mel !
Im happy that u r alive.
Gracias x compartir!
Love from México.
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Praying for healing of anyone in this situation and for the protection of the children who are witness.
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Difficult to watch.... domestic violence permeates gay relationships too.... we often don’t think about that.... well done Mel B.... sometimes we need a brick thrown through our window to wake us up.... you and the rest of the team did that for me today.
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Good Luck to you Wayne. May your path be blessed with success and happiness.
It happens I went through that shit.. And you know what I did I ran..
@Black Spadez seems like it went right over your head
Domestic abuse in all forms is wrong regardless of gender. An abusive mother is just as bad as an abusive father. It's also wrong for women to abuse their male partners.
That dance scene though Mel did really good with that the whole scene nearly had me shedding tears but that dance scene was what got me cause I know what it's supposed to represent despite everything going on at home she still shows up at her friends with a smile on her face I would like to see one where men go through this as well cause I've been through a similar situation so I'd like to see that. That being said well done to the actors and directors very good job
Thank you so much 🙏🙏🙏
Been there...😔😔😔😪😪😪
I'm a woman but I thank you so much for being a man brave enough to admit this. I have seen firsthand what happens to a man after domestic abuse. It takes a lot of undoing that trauma some of which never goes away and it's an issue that doesn't receive as much attention as it should. Just know there are people that will support you too. Be well.
@@sliq8687 thank you for the support although mine wasnt bad compared to most people's I usually don't talk about it cause I may get judged which I have been by my male friends
@@romelgonzales2754 No problem 💕
Never reduce your experience. Even if the same things didn't happen to you as other stories you've heard yours is still significant and no less than anyone else.
I hate that male friends are like that towards you. That honestly hurts my heart. Not all men are that way though so I hope that you find good people who support you regardless of your gender or their own. If anything come back and talk to a supportive stranger in the comments 😉
Mel B is so talented.
This is such a big impact I left my abuser in 2006 with my 4 kids barefoot and didn't look back I left everything I worked so hard for my home everything, we need to teach our son's and daughters about domestic violence I don't date at all my children are all adults from ages 21_28 very proud of them it's still impact you it never goes away I do pray from every woman out there please make the right decision to leave.
Thank you for sharing your story 🙏❤️
You are a hero x
The saddest part about this video is a lot of women go through this every single day.
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It's my duty to drill in my daughter's head no man has a right to hit you, it's never ok, no excuses, and if you stay guarantee it will happen again. Mama ain't raise no "punching bag."
@@drinkwatereatmelons7048 Yes indeed, I teach my girls the same thing and I also teach my boys to NEVER put their hands on a woman.
My daughter seen me going through it she's stronger for it
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So impactful. Really gets the message across and will hopefully raise awareness for such an important cause. Beautifully shot and executed.
Thank you 🙏
I know Mel won’t see this but I just want to say that I am at loss for words at this piece. This should spread like wildfire.
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OH My LORD in HEAVEN!!! Sheeeesh Well done!!!!
Domestic violence doesn't just effect the immediate victim but also any children at home too.
Having witnessed domestic violence at home growing up, it had a profound affect on me in the choices I made in when it came to men. Which mostly ment celibacy.
It was only after witnessing first my friends and then my younger siblings in their happy marriages that I began to think that maybe I can find someone and it doesn't necessarily mean my relationship will turn out like my parents.
A very powerful video and I commend Mel B for being involved, after her own experience.
Thank you for sharing 💚
Yes!! It’s completely messed up my image of relationships and I suffered from PTSD as a result. People don’t focus on the children who witness domestic violence at home enough.
When our mother was going through domestic stuff then we were not at home most of the time. mum left dad for many reasons. But much later in life dad changed himself he started praying and after many years had gone i would sometimes meet him. He said mum did the right thing that she left him because she kept the house clean cooked delicious foods and looked after him. Anyway if you have messed up please seek help yourself don't go to any spiritualist as they can take your energy and end doing all sorts.
Spiritual warfare is real please read up about it on UA-cam. Anything can happen in relationships. Mostly drugs alcohol n prostitution is the beginning there are other things happening. You must Question the reasons WHATS BEHIND behaviour as many things can influence peoples choices that they make including YOURSELVES. There are things working for Satan's team, they create misunderstandings between spouses, they are behind breakups, MARRAiGES falling apart, sexual abuse in family, abortions, Prostitution murder, torture, juju , oppression, cheating, etc list goes on. Know this that God Loves You but you must take the first step to ask for forgiveness. Next is start praying. Cover mirrors in bedroom at night time. Keep bathroom doors CLOSED at all times please. Change diet start eating vegetables and salads to your meals. Start reducing red meats. Fruits lower blood pressure. Apples banana n pears prevent strokes. Coconut water is great for hepatitis. Black seeds are great for DIEBETES 1 teaspoon soak in 1glass of water then drink at breakfast/ morning after with or without seeds.
And grand children.
Yes, my childhood abuse set me up to "stay" with abusive partners. I am so lucky I got out at 27, but it will take decades to heal.
I'm a survivor of domestic violence and mental abuse, I escaped my abuser, I know if I didn't, I wouldn't be here, mine went to trial, he went to prison, the support I received was amazing, this was still hard to watch, behind close doors, it's exactly like that, and worse, i hope anyone going through this, will get help, and the support they will need, you are loved. Xx
Thank you for sharing your story ❤️
OMG! This is "brutally honest" thank you my dear Melanie B 💙 you are amazing 🌟💙
Thank you so much for making this. Thank you for showing how real this is and for giving a voice to those who can't speak up or are too afraid too. I hope this reaches more people.
To any survivor, past or current, of domestic abuse, please know you are not alone. You are stronger than you give yourself credit for and you are not less than what that abuser is telling you.
You are loved. Period.
Thank you 💚
This means so much.
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I am through this and I am still in , abusive relationship, I work to save mu live soon is possible. Its very hard to watch you can just imagine how is to live
Your words hugged me and I needed that.... Thank you very much😭
Melanie Brown, the real girl power
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The dance....
Moving so eloquently with "love", and then so intently with chaos.
Sums up dv pretty profoundly.
I can’t believe I am watching this almost a week after it’s been released, this video should have spread like wildfire. This is the video that should break the internet. The message, the music, the performance was powerful and stunning!
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The Video is great but society has no solutions for that. I have experienced lots of domestic violence. I am disabled because of that! While I was walking away from ihm, he he massacred me with kicks until I was unconscious on the ground!
I cant work and earn money for myself and to cure the damage. There is NO Help for that. I have no friends because of that. Nobody wants to know your suffering. I am in Germany not my birt country. No solutions. Nobody cares.
if any of you are interested in getting to know me, please let me know
Those in power would never let this video go far, in my opinion, because a lot of them are either well known sex offenders or secret sex offenders, sexual abuse along with other violent abuse. Rose McGowan
A brilliant, touching performance. Domestic abuse is unacceptable, in any culture, setting or circumstance. I hope that the film will help raise awareness about the issue and serve as a tool for bringing about change. #LoveShouldNotHurt
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Mel, I listened to your story and I can only imagine this video is an insight into what it must've been like living with Stephen. What is so gut wrenching is how you depict that everything is fine in front of friends, the perfect couple. I just hope none of my close people ever feel they have to suffer like this. Always confide and get help. Thank you for making this film. It is important.
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This is going to open people's eyes to the fact that domestic abuse can, and does, happen to anyone. Absolutely beautiful music, really captured the feeling of the video and enhanced the emotion behind it. Stunning composition.
Thank you! I’m so glad you like it 💙
Sadly I was a victim, I felt ashamed and lied to friends and family. Victims are scared of the abuser and people's judgement. "Why don't you just leave?" "Why not call the police?" The abusers don't care that there is a restraining order. The only thing it does is piss the abuser off and let the police know who murdered you. Such a sad song that I felt in my soul.
That is 100% accurate I eventually let the police "help me" and guess what? They have left me unprotected and feeling unsafe and they're taking their time to bring forth the charges which they have the evidence for! I put myself at risk for them to just leave me.
This was incredibly well-executed. The visuals were strong and memorable and the music substituted dialogue very well. Mel and Sam were brilliant. The dance sequence intercut with the choreographed abuse was impressive. It reminded me of the film 'Us' by Jordan Peele when he showed the contrast between events happening above ground and below ground. This is one of the most well-made domestic violence films I have seen in a long time 👍🏾
Thank you 🙏
Beautiful song, and horrifyingly beautiful short film. I have more chills than words right now, but thank you for making this moving piece of art.
Thank you so much 🙏
Bear in mind, this happens to kids too. Some cases are likely to be even more horrific.
Indeed, it’s so horrible.
Yes, my mother hit us where it couldn't be seen. She ever hit our face.
This video was triggering for me, because my parents abused my brother and I. Neither of us has had contact with them for years... And we both still suffer from anxiety, depression and PTSD. (I'm 49 and he's 50)
@@mlmartin2922 so sorry to hear that Michele. I hope you found some peace now. ❤️
May I suggest two books, The Power of Your Subconscious Mind written by Dr Joseph Murphy and Psycho Cybernetics written by Dr Maxwell Maltz.
Alcohol is not an excuse, something your partner said or did is not an excuse ,anger is not an excuse for you to abuse your partner emotionally or physically. If your partner has ever laid a finger on you or abuses you emotionally in anyway like every time there is an argument IT IS ALWAYS YOUR FAULT do not stay because emotional abuse WILL turn in to physical one. If you are currently in a relationship where there is abuse don't wait and don't tell him or her that you are leaving. Ask for help from friends, family or a co-worker any one whom will listen ,whom you can trust and get out. You are emotionally invested to your abuser so it will be hard but DO NOT GO BACK no matter what he/she promises or says. NO CONTACT WHAT SO EVER is the best way. I have been through this my self so i know what i am talking about. Do not wait you deserve a pain free life. YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY :)
I so love Mel she always keeps it real ❤️
I wish this would hit over millions views already.
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As a survivor of domestic violence and coercive abuse this is amazing to watch. It takes you back to where you were, how it felt and I can bring back some awful memories. Why people don't understand that this is a war we're losing I don't know? This is real life for so many people on a daily basis and more help and more advice is needed. If you can give some money or donation to your local refuge as we need to make sure there is somewhere for the people to run to. Please help those escaping domestic violence don't turn your head away this is something we need to address now!!
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ME & MY KIDS ARE SURVIVORS!
Over 1week ago I escaped a domestic violent relationship, the man I thought was the love of my life, the man who's children I give birth too. This is not love!
I have never felt so free, please please women going through this say NO for yourself and your babies!!
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Arrived here from the Guardian article about Mel B's experiences, which are upsetting to even read about, much less experience. As mentioned below, Mel herself will probably not read these comments, but if anyone who knows her does read them, please inform her that she is loved, her performance above is amazing, especially given that it was re-living her own life, and that her experience shows that if it can happen to her, it can happen to anyone - it is never your fault, it is their fault.
I will show her this personally ❤️
So so real, I’ve been in this situation and have many of scars on the inside and out. My partner has now passed away, as unbelievable as it sounds I’d take it all again to have home back. I’ve never seemed professional help, my mum says I should but I won’t have a bad word said about him as I know he had issues and was unwell. I’m not stupid and know we can all make excuses! I do believe Melanie Brown sees all comments and I thinks she’s doing herself and others proud. I wish you the best MB 👏🏻💪👏🏻 x
Thank you for sharing your truths and not being afraid.
‘I wasn’t like this before I met you. You made me act like a monster. It’s your fault.’ my ex told me this after almost choking me to death. Now I know it wasn’t my fault but his.
Thank you for sharing 💖
Glad you got out!
Similar to mine... “you bring out the monster in me”.
My heart💟goes out to you. You are brave beyond words. I hope you have healed just know I am proud of you.
@@deannsharpe1587 I’m sending all my love to you strong soul! You are worthy of something way better. We all are. ♥️
I know the struggle, seen my mother and sister go to this! Mel B, we love you. You know you have the best fans!
A very big and very real issue within everyday life especially now with covid at the moment keeping people within contained environments. A visual and musical masterpiece. Bravo Fabio!
❤️ Thank you so much ❤️
First thing I've ever commented on UA-cam for, felt compelled to write... Something. I think I just wanted to say thank you really, from the bottom of my heart ❤️
Thank you 🙏❤️🙏
I've been through this minus the dancing, my ex could not dance, but he could hit. I'm sorry to all who went through this. This was incredible acting and composition, well done.
Thank you 🙏
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I think the dancing signified the "SHOW" they put on in front of friends and family to hide what was really going on, as many people who experience domestic violence are usually embarrassed
WOW 😳......so so powerful and done very well ..... thank you mel B 😘
No woman should ever have to go through this 👏🏾
Men included..
@@shrondasmith7544 ofc… I absolutely agree I only said no woman as the advert reflected a woman being abused.
That is so powerful and I really hope this is seen worldwide. What a brave Lady She is to show the importance of speaking out. So much admiration for Her.
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All involved in this production should be so proud. It was real and powerful and necessary. So much needs to be done to eradicate abuse on all levels. It can start off as such little things, seemingly nothing and like the phrase goes, before you know it you're the frog boiling in the water. Thanks for giving a voice to so many and showing those who daren't even consider leaving an abusive partner behind the courage to do so. Bravo Mel B. Thank you for using your high public profile and fame to help shine the spotlight on abuse and let's all work together to make it a thing of the past.
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Empowering women who are suffering this or have suffered it. Thank you!!
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Well done Mel and thank you. x
Wow that was so powerful, Mel B was amazing especially after the trauma she went through, and that music was so moving. Thank you for bringing awareness to a huge problem in our world today.
Thank you ❤️🙏❤️
LOVE YOU MEL B !!!! You are so incredibly strong
I applaud Mel B for this video, hope it helps other women to come forward for help. I once myself as in a abusive relationship. GOD delivered me from that pray he will also deliver you whom ever needs it.✌❤
Mental abuse and gaslighting needs more exposure as well.
This video is deep and I admire the strength it took to make it. I’m glad she broke free, loads of people don’t and are still stuck in it all. I hope this reaches people and they seek help and get away. ❤️
Mel, I didn't know you could act so well, you did great on this video 👏
Oh my God, this literally sent a shiver through my body, tears in my eyes, it was just the same way for me.
For anyone going through this at the moment, find the courage to leave and have a better life.
I KNOW IT'S HARD, and easier said than done, especially if you still love the person.
Make a plan and leave, if you have children, do it for them, if not for yourself.
There is help out there, YOU CAN DO IT.
Mel you’re such a strong person to speak up and bring awareness to all of this. Sending so much love to you ❤️
Absolutely beautifully haunting. I love this and the awareness that it will bring. As a DV survivor myself I know when you are in that situation you always blame yourself until you wake up and realise that it’s not you it is THEM. Thank you for showing it happens to all classes whether rich or poor.
Thank you, Mel B! This brought tears from my spirit to my heart to my eyes.
Brilliant, just brilliant.
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Stunning video bravo Mel B I am so very sorry for all you have indured .. It broke my heart as I watched this video ..grateful to ALL that put this together. Domestic Abuse is real many are clueless unless they have gone through it. I could relate to every part an I hope this reaches those still suffering.. Thank you thank you for this will help anyone
This clip should be shown to secondary school kids, we need to teach our kids from a young age about abusive people/relationship.
We do indeed!
This made me cry and cry and cry. My dad used to beat my mom...I only remember one time but she recently told me of others. I've blanked out most of my childhood so I didn't remember the rest. So it made me cry for my mom but for Mel B too because she also lived it. It was harrowing to watch.
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always learned from watching dad..
Wow this is powerful , jus goes to show no.one knows what going on behind close doors , this is a powerful message and I hope that any woman that is hurting jus read this .. LOVE SHOULD NEVER HURT .
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Wow...this was very moving.
Amazing!!
Mel B you are a survivor, Love you!!
This is put together in such a way that it touches your soul. Not only watched it - felt it. Great work from everyone involved in creating this.💜
Thank you 🙏💙🙏
As much as this was hard to watch, because I'm a survivor of DV, and this brought me to tears, it was spot on. It had to have been hard for Mel B to re-enact this. Bless her. Thank you for making this video.
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Brilliantly done, showing the fear and the charm, the control, the bravery and the isolation. This is a massively important piece of work you should both be proud of.
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@@fabiodandreaofficial Totally agree, Fabio your work is amazing. Thankyou for this hope it raises awareness. x
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They got this video spot on! Spent 5 years in the same situation from the age of 21, now I'm 40 but I still remember how it felt watching this video.
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This made me 😢 i can't imagine that someone would even think to treat another human being this way. I am glad this has been risen to the surface with the visual manifestation of this video. Thank You.
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Wow as a DV survivor myself this has me speechless
Making the break is the hardest thing and the final scene represents that perfectly. This can happen to anyone, like addiction domestic violence does not discriminate. Thank to everyone involved, it must have been difficult for you x blessings
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Held my breath the entire time watching that. Wow just wow. 😭. Such a powerful piece. Both have an outstanding performance
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Oh My Goddess!!!! Bravo/Brava!!!!!! Think of all pain you saved so many others from!!!!xoxoxoxo
Really wish it was longer…the ending leaves you wanting to know more. Absolutely amazing, despite it being such a horrific situation to be in.
Shockingly powerful and it made my stomach knot. Mel B and Sam! What a performance, although, for Mel B a truth she needed everyone to hear what she suffered through and now she got to tell her story in this video.
I love you MelB. Your fans from Brazil loves you. Kisses 💖😘
Such a strong message!! Well done Mel B ... pride of u ❤️
Wow! That’s powerful
Wow I had butterflies in my stomach the whole way through the video. What a powerful message 😳😯
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This was as raw as it gets. You can't sugar coat the reality of what's going on out there. Support our women, men and children being abused, don't suffer in silence. I love that you've done this so authentically. It's time.
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The fact that you add men and women to the mix of abuse is exactly what I was about to comment on. And this was as raw as it gets 😶, and to think it happens every day to someone across the globe... 👿
Not physical abuse but also mental, financial, emotional and spiritual abuse..I prayer for all who are going thru any abuse 🙏🏽✝️
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Yes! I can relate to that. I got out with my daughter. she is finally able to face all she experienced & is having counselling. I am thankful, Grateful.
Stunning in its rawness more of these films will hopefully bring about what really happens behind the perfect closed doors 🚪.
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It is so sad how it looks like a memory to me. I hate the fact that happened to me and I stayed because I wasn't strong enough to leave or I thought I wasn't. You can lose yourself in a person to the point that you think there is no way out and then you start making excuses for staying. "I know but" is one of the most dangerous words people can say. Loving yourself less, and loving him. I need to love myself more and I'm getting better at it. To women and men out there you can get out and you should. It is not worth your life. 'Love should not hurt' is so true, thank you. Mel B, Fabio D'Andrea, Patron of Women's Aid, Teresa Parker and everyone who made this video happen thank you so much.
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Don't ever think it's because of you. No one has the right to abuse or mistreat another person for any reason. It's hard to get away, I was there. I couldn't see the light at the end of the tunnel, but I felt the train coming. I'm praying hard for anyone who's going through this. Know that there are millions of people supporting you and sending massive love. Don't give up❤️
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I have lived this. It's almost unheard of in my experience to come in contact with a womens shelter staff or a therapist who actually can provide the right support. It's about men's attitude of control, a traumatic childhood or anger is no excuse. These men lack accountability, and shift blame. It is never the woman's fault but so many people say it's her lack of self esteem. It is not, men use her kindness against her.
After 13 years I finally got the courage to leave almost 3 months ago. This was very hard to watch as it was so familiar. My heart hurts so much for other women and men that go through this!!
Wow. Just wow. How incredibly moving and unexpected. Thanks for delivering, algorithm.
Beautiful adaptation. Much respect for her courage. The truth is the light.
Wow, hard to imagine! 😥❤🙏
Well, fuck!! That was heavy! So impactful!!! Mel B and everyone involved in this campaign should be commended for shedding a light on what it can be like for some. Please get the help you need if you are in a situation like this and know there is help out there
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This issue has never been relevant to my situation and I therefore never made the effort to properly understand the issue, though I’m aware of the WHO stats. But this video just had me in tears. Sometimes one needs the visual to understand how things really are. I feel really proud of Mel B, particularly her true to life expressions. This video should be shared globally to raise awareness. Thank you Fabio D’Andrea.
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Yeah well done Fabio you portrayed the emotions and physical on point! I know... I've lived with it.......
Thank you for speaking up for those who are struggling to do so for themselves. I hope everyone who may be trapped in a similar situation can find the bravery to seek help
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5 years free last week! Thank you for doing this piece.
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Wow. 😪 I'm watching this with tears. The memories are to painful.
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