Why would an Autistic Person Learn to Unmask?
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- Опубліковано 22 гру 2022
- Unmasking is important for a late diagnosed Autistic Person. Please support us in learning how to unmask, it helps us regulate our senses and is good for our mental health.
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I just want to thank you again for sharing your autistic experiences. I’ve known I’m autistic for several months now, and I know I can come across as having all my shit together, but I’m still processing so much, still overwhelmed, still learning, still dealing with imposter syndrome. But I hear what you’re going through and I’m reminded that I’m not crazy and I’m not alone. It helps so much, and I really appreciate it.
Thank you for this comment. I didn't realize your diagnosis was more recent. I know I speak of late diagnosed women because so many of us were missed, but I know that a lot of high masking men were also missed in getting a diagnosis or were only diagnosed ADHD instead of both.
This touched me. I'm disabled, autistic and ADHD and have a plethora of other disorders and conditions that just...make it really difficult to exist on a daily basis so I completely see where you're coming from. It's hard! It is! Thanks so much foe being so vulnerable and sharing your experience 💗
Thank you for commenting. I make these videos so our community can be heard and seen. 💜
❤ I felt this too. Also in club plethora. I felt very grateful for this too. Its very hard. 😢 agree
Masking was hard and unmasking for me has been harder. Thank you for sharing
❤️❤️❤️ It's definitely a process, especially as you uncover layers of the mask. 🙁
so glad to hear you say that we lose connections with our emotions and feelings in our bodies. thankfully, we can re-learn. you can teach us how to re-connect and unmask with your videos.
sharing your personal stories is healing the neurodivergent community. thank you.
I really appreciate this message. I'm learning along with so many of you all! So many late diagnosed women and AFAB people with little to no trailblazers before us in this same unique high masking late dx'd sort of position.
Yes we can. It mostly just takes giving ourselves permission to experiment and see what feels right. I've been masked for something like 40 years, and at this point, it will take some time to figure out how much of it is even possible to reveal, let alone the amount that I can reveal without really screwing myself over.
While, I do kind of appreciate the idea of guerilla stimming, I do think that a more gradual and wide spread approach is more likely to get results in the near term. Even just a bit of it when you actually need it, does seem to help.
I'm excited to see who I am as I remove layers of masking.
Me too, as I unmask, I really feel more comfortable with myself on a lot more days.
Preach. I have become a physically disabled person and this has been what's led me to situation can't work out life at all, so need proper Dx and going through learning but finally I know its such an emotional process. So often I still don't know how to feel. Its a journey indeed. So thankyou for advocating for all disabilities. Many non able bodied autistic people too. Thankyou for this acknowledgement. ❤
💜 I think that everyone in the disability community needs to advocate for each other. We are all unique, but together face discrimination from society at large and together we are more.
Absolutely I just wish at one time others were not so mean when abelism became a term I had to learn the new skills around language and the changes with this and the irony that my issues in getting this point was very ironic. I'm like yeah that means someone is an a hole im not saying that I used a word I didn't know why it was a new curse word for more complex reasons yet. As we had agreed on the point but not my use of a word I thought was technically correct. I got bullied online and just needed it explained not told im things which felt also hypocritical. Its odd how others assume so much so fast and become the things they are trying to help in their meaning. I find this ironic.
6.21 I feel this so much...... The why. The more I watch your stuff I am just surprised that some experiences are so well articulated. That others have these experiences too.
Thank you, I'm glad my videos are resonating with you. We all just want to be heard and seen.
Mask to “appear normal” - cannot believe no one ever caught on my issues and difficulties - God surely knows it was so so hard to try and be “normal”…… Even now that i know I’m ASD I feel I’m still trying to be “normal” by masking….. 💞🙏🏻👊
I have not seen all of the video but i do relate so much to you speaking about "setting goals" its interessting! I even think about others telling me their goals: ah, nevergonnahappen! And i am very surprised if they reach theyr goal...
I really appreciate your video, it's extremely special! Thanks!
Thank you so much for your kind worlds lily! :)
I'm 82 and i resonate so much with so many late ADHD and Autism diagnosed people. At this point I'm pretty much alone in my house most of the time so there's nobody around to see me masked or unmasked so I don't bother thinking about it too much and I would never pay money to find out. But I have all the symptoms and have had them my whole life and learned how to act normally whatever that is. I think there are many socialized autistic and ADHD folk out there who are not or ever will be diagnosed. Most are misdiagnosed when they even seek the help of a professional Sensory issues like huge startle reactions to loud noises and having to leave noisey crowded places and getting sick in MRIs and being disturbed by any motor or planes sounds or fireworks. seems to look like autism. Missing social cues and talking too much at the wrong times. are also an issue. Total disorganization and chaos reign in my housekeeping. Forget a place for everything and everything in its place. So I really understand why now that I had so much difficulty in life. The videos of all of you have really helped me to understand a lot of my neurodivergent behaviors and sensations.
Have you struggled with anxiety at all throughout your life? Thats honestly my biggest problem. Also did you get better at understanding social ques as you got older or am I destined to be this awkward for the rest of my life?
Spot on. Can relate on every point.
❤️ Thanks!
I was in my mid-late 20’s by the time I stopped spinning and bouncing. I only noticed in the last year or so that I had stopped, and remember that I used to.
Strangely enough, the last five years or so have felt like near constant anxiety/burnout. Wonder if there’s a connection /sarcastic
Also neurodivergent person here. I unfortunately felt the most pressure to mask around my parents as a child. They have made many assumptions about my personality over the years… mostly the ones that suit them or make them feel like they relate to me when they really don’t.
This is partly because of toxic behaviors on their part. I don’t know if they will ever change much. Probably not. And of course it’s partly because of autism generally. If I don’t know you too well, I will probably mask more… and if you THINK you know me because you haven’t asked, then you really don’t.
This was interesting as I am waiting for an Autism diagnosis as is my teenage daughter but I also have a really bad memory too I had not herd of this disorder. Thanks for a great video
Hi, I really like how you speak about these topics! Relaxed and honest 🙂
A lot of people with adhd have a hard time cooking. Not sure about ast, but just thought i'd share this angle on a cooking channel.
Yes! I really hope to address this, but currently I haven't been able to produce content for my cooking channel in a while. I'm still recovering from foot surgery, so hopefully soon I'll have more spoons for cooking videos again!
I'd find it really interesting to just hear your thoughts on things like safe foods and how to substitute them for example. There is a lot to say about food that dont involve feet 🙂 eating disorders is not really food but still related I guess. I forget to eat for example. My wife can forget that she ate 😅 Ideas on emergency food would be wonderful! We like cooking but food is a constant problem for us. Not really recipes and kitchen skills, but rather timing or suddenly not being able to eat what was planned for dinner. Or that a missing ingredient can throw of cooking anything at all.
I hope you get well!
These are all really great ideas for me to touch on! Thanks for the suggestions. ❤️😊
I'll subscribe to your cooking channel 😁
Not gonna lie I haven't watched the video yet. (Will definitely do that later though 😉) but I saw thr dragon in the thumbnail and looked down into my lap where the same dragon was currently being cuddled (love my Bagel❤) so I had to click and comment immediately. Greetings from all the other dragons in different colours and sizes (and of course the rest of the jellycat-emotional-support-squad) 😂🎉
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I never stopped stimming. I just changed them to more acceptable stims in public. At home I limited my stims but when I was home alone I used to stim more but tell myself to stop when I felt weird for doing them. Now when I am home alone I just let myself naturally stim without stopping it. Since then I find myself doing them without thinking in front of my family in my own house. I have yet to do them in public though as I don't want to stand out as odd. If I have to stim when I am in public I hide it especially as a lot of my stims are vocal ones. I carry fidget toys in my pocket, play with my jewellery or just doddle etc so it is not noticeable.
Thank you for sharing, I think it's important for others to see how we stim covertly. How we feel we can't stim freely in public without feeling weird or judged.
How about you start a quest of spiritual awakening? Consider the "noices" in you to be a parallel expression of many, maaany lifetimes just screaming at the same time while you strugle to maintain balance. Just take into consideration you might be an old soul. That would explain the talents you have. If you lived many, many lifes, you must carry rememberance of many experiencies. Look in the mirror and confidently say to yourself: "Spirit, if your are there and I am an old soul, please guide me to my most beneficial understanding of what it means for me". Who else could be as brave as you than an old soul? 😉
If you want to have a good cooking show, you need a gimmick or schtick. Some kind of persona or theme. Trust me. Sell your cooking show. Its works.
Well I'm hoping to focus more on cooking for Autistic & ADHD minds, but currently I'm not able to make content for that channel. Hopefully I'll be able to get back to it soon. My foot surgery recovery is taking longer than predicted.