Mom didn’t commit any crimes. Lawyer maybe but you lose your mom over money and divorce her husband over money she didn’t work for???? Make it make sense
Her husband's reaction is exactly why she took the money...because she knew she could and get away with it. This "mother" is selfish and lazy. She has raised this boy to be a weakling all his life...refusing to cut the cord so she could take advantage of him for as long as needed. She knew this money was there, and has been planning this for years.
Yep. And the son is scared of her. Probably something happened with his father and she’s using him now. She has turned him into her husband financially.
@PenelopeGuzman Wow!! Good point. He may be in on it to keep the money from the wife? Because how else could one act like this. Extreme weakness or extreme cunning.
My mother took out two credit cards in my name when I turned 18 without my knowledge and then defaulted on both. I only found out about them when I saw mail at her home with my name on it 2 years later. I called the credit company to confirm I had accounts open then told my mother she better pay those cards off or we’re going to have some problems. If she hadn’t paid those cards back, I was going to file fraud charges against her. I lost so much respect for my mom after she did that.
I knew that was a risk with my mother so I made sure to tell the tax office I'm no longer a tax payer then I left the country 😁 also I'd have no problem reporting my mother to the police
Stealing $300k is more than abuse its a crime. Your husband was abused as a child and brainwashed. Your mother in law belongs in jail. Support her by putting money in her prison account.
Ikr! If someone tried to shaft me out of even $100 (let alone $300k), that person is getting hunted down for the money and cut out of my life at the very least
I love Jade as an addition to the team. Caring, smart and she did a great job of bringing the tension down after John got frustrated. Can’t wait to see more from her!
The husband is a momma's boy. Their final advice to the girl should have been,"Call the authorities on your own and report the $300,000 theft. If your husband has a fit, no loss, your marriage is already over.
Mom didn't steal anything; son gave it to her. I wish they wouldn't take these calls. This woman is not going to hold her hubby accountable for conspiring with his mother. It's all a waste of time. She's a total doormat and is happy to remain one.
Stop watching then because I can tell you right now you are not a Dave Ramsey or you wouldn’t be on here being critical. Dave Ramsey knows exactly what he’s doing and people watch if you don’t like it then go away. I am just so sick of all you negative people. Oh poor poor me I have to watch this.
@@luchiayoung You sound very upset over absolutely nothing. Whatever has your spirit twisted I pray will be healed. Because I know it's not something a random stranger said on the internet. May your anger and hostility melt like butter in a heatwave. 🙏
How does she know he didn't give the money to his mom to hide it and make her keep working and sell all assets and he divorces her. He sounds like Mama comes first.
She isn't telling the whole story. In some cultures when one parent passes away the kids feel their intietold to an inheritance. Never mind that there more not be any money Except maybe the house that his mother lives in. She didn't steel any money there probably wasn't any money to begin with. She should have told where this money came from.
That husband has abandoned his responsibility as a husband. He's also refusing that his mother take any accountability in this situation. The wife is then forced to go along with it like everything is ok. Well, she's clearly not ok. So unless they get therapy and also closure to address the issue, this will be a very unhappy marriage and ultimately one that may end. IMO.
It would be interesting to know how long his mother had access to the money and how she managed to spend it all. Maybe she just moved it over to another account in her name only? Maybe she gambled it away? Maybe this is mom’s grand plan to cause DIL to exit the marriage, allowing mom to then choose a wife for her son in his native country. There is much more to this story.
Thats what I'm also wondering U dont just spend 300k in two minutes Maybe she like bought a car or land or a house with it You can maybe sell that and get some money back Or if she was just spending it on smaller purchases how comes they never noticed money missing from their account? There are a lot of questions here about where is that 300k rn? And why cant you get it back.
John and Jade make me happy. They give me so much hope in this world of bleeding hearts and enablers calling themselves "Christian" but are just "cowards" in sheep's clothing. Yes!
Weird that they wait until the day of the closing to check on the money. I counted and gather my money months before I closed and it wasn’t anywhere close to $300,000.
I used to put money in my husbands account. I wasn't on the account but I could put money in the account at the bank teller. Yet I couldn't withdraw money from his account.
I have a question for the wife. Did you ever see a bank statement for this account? Did it really exist or has this been a long term con to get at your money? I struggle when people call in and there is so much missing info.
Something fishy about the husband. I think he and his mom are in cahoots to steal from the wife and use the money for selfish reasons because this makes absolutely no sense otherwise.
Mr. Ramsey would have asked "Where is the money?" Is it recoverable (e.g., she bought a house) or irrecoverable (e.g., she spent it on drugs and gambling)?
Yes. My thoughts Exactly. Sometimes I make deposits for friends and family members myself without my name being on their accounts and never I've had any issues.
@@XFizzlepop-Berrytwist good point. And this woman sounds like a little girl that is afraid to say anything unflattering about anyone. I don't think these children were ready to deal with this situation.
Unfortunately either they correct all this stuff, or they get divorced. There is no middle ground here. For what I am hearing the guy's priority is her mom regardless all the harm she is doing. I am not saying your parents are not important, but in this particular situation this is a huge issue. If he is not welling to see the problem, she needs to walk away and limit her losses
@@djpuplexmarriage vows basically say that "all that is mine, is yours". He said that to her, not to his mother. Unless there was a prenup, excluding her from his inheritance, it was her money, too. And the fact that he wants to keep supporting his mother, and her paycheck will be a part of that, says a lot. The woman just got $300,000.00. She shouldn't need any money for years, if she had any money smarts. (And she doesn't, by the way.)
I'm so sick of these callers who keep going "I agree BUT (insert garbage rambling excuse)" They get so caught up in some unnecessary detail that they don't see the elephant in the room
You're right, if her name was on the account, she technically did nothing criminally wrong. Might be able to sue her in civil court, but that would be it.
That is true. It may actually be very hard to prosecute her since she was given access. You can't steal something that was in your name. So she will probably be off the hook.
She did not say the mom was a joint owner, she only said he gave his mom access to the account so it is very likely the mom's name is not on the account.
I can't stand people who let others -- even if they're family -- walk all over them and treat them terribly, and then have the audacity to complain about how they're being treated, yet will do nothing to change the circumstances. This situation is absolutely insane. The husband has no spine, and the wife is weak, too. At least she's attempting to do something by making this phone call. However, it's far too little, far too late. Pathetic people, I'm sorry.
the mother-in-law didn't steal the 300k. the husband basically gave it. i don't mind if he gives his mother monthly support, that's great. but sacrificing HIS and YOUR life for his mother is bad. PLEASE RUN AWAY FROM HIM. EDIT: my wife's father sacrificed his family to help his brother who gambled and got bankrupt. he could've just supported the brother but he left their home. and you could probably imagine the effect on the kids (who one of them i'm now married to, and will take care of until i die). i grew up in a 3rd world country and children are expected to give back to parents when they grow old. i love my parents, and they never asked me for anything, at least nothing huge that i cripple myself. my parents have enough to live comfortably until they die and they never expect me to support them.
I don’t disagree. Slightly different situation but my Grandpa sacrificed a lot so my grandma wouldn’t have to worry about money once he died. Well she gave all the money to her son. Even her social security checks went to him, and she lives in poverty somewhere. And that destroyed the family as it emboldened that son to steal from the rest of his siblings and family members. My Dad took that uncle to court and won; that uncle was banned from my great aunt’s funeral . But yeah rough situation. Lesson is don’t give family money.
My granddaughters dad stole from her. Her grandmother passed and left them all equal amounts, including dad. She was a minor, so his name was put on her account. He went through his money and then started spending hers. But it was no surprise to anyone. He has used and abused everyone's trust for years.
The fact that the son can still look to his mother with a straight face is amazing! He either is so scared of his mother that he is choosing to forgive & forget rather than hold her accountable for this felony! This is the stuff that prison sentences are provided.
John and Jade are absolutely right! I also think exploring what she meant by her husband does whatever he can to make her happy is valid. I hope they get counseling.
There was no mention of his mom being in the account though, she said it's "his inheritance" and he gave her access to the account. Access to the account and ownership of the account are not the same thing. I could give anyone my bank account details, that doesn't automatically make it their account as well
@@bennyjoey8444actually it should be 50/50. Like a joint account for a non married couple. You can’t only withdraw half. Unless it was drained over a long period of time.
This woman needed to file for a divorce yesterday. Her husband sounds like a Norman Bates type, with all things in his world revolving around his mother. There will never be any peace if she stays in this. The mother should be brought up on charges for stealing the money.
And when prosecuting mommy dearest will say how could you do this to me? She needs to be prosecuted and as much money recovered as possible. If her husband is not willing to hold his mom accountable she will need to divorce him!
I feel like it was "legal" theft - meaning she had full legal rights to the inheritance fund. (possibly went through her to be distributed to children)
No, it was probably left by the father. And he said he added mom to the account so she could manage things in his absence. Why would he add her if it was her money being distributed?
@@katie8325 Legal theft does exist. I suppose its how you look at it, but you can legally take (steal) stuff from other people in some cases. Adverse possession on property is one such example. I can buy a plot of land, and say I move out of state/country for a few years, and come back, and find out someone has been living on it, or using it for some reason, they can go to court and a judge will force you to give up the land. Its not right, but it does happen.
I couldn't imagine being that delusional towards my mother. If something like that would've happened, I would have no problem, suing her for more than what she took. That is just despicable behavior on the Mom's part, and shame on the husband too
My husband & I both come from collectivistic cultures where the elders, especially the parents & grandparents are to be honored NO MATTER WHAT. It can become a very toxic dynamic, and we both have had enough and cut ties with them not too long ago. It’s not at all easy and actually a very painful thing to do. I wonder if this is the case with this couple. Either they BOTH have the mindset to “forgive” and let it go, or cut ties, they must be on the same page together. Otherwise his mom, and probably the rest of his family will drive a big wedge between the two of them. Hopefully the husband gains some courage & sets his priorities straight.
I was wondering if it was a cultural thing. My MIL came from a different culture where you’re required to take care of your elders no matter what. She’s taken advantage of this and one son already went no contact. The only time we hear from her is if she needs money.
I heard about a similar case. One of the spouses sued the mother-in-law who stole the money and the mother-in-law was forced to repay the spouse that sued for their half.
I can hear Dave saying, "You're so sweet." She is. IDK if the husband has been gaslighting his wife for years or if his mother has manipulated him all his life and he has no spine. He married his wife to have and to hold, not to have and to make her work the rest of her life to support his thieving mother. Whether they go into counseling or not, she needs individual counseling. She will be walked on for the rest of her life if she keeps this up. John and Jade are more upset about this than the caller is!
Yeah. I will feel Dave would have been a little more sympathetic to the caller. John’s tone was a little harsh when he said things like ‘nobody’s forcing you to do anything. You’re making all of these choices’.
She doesn't see the problem because this is very normalized in Latin households. If he were to cut off his mother in any way, he would be seen as the bad guy.
The whole story didn’t make sense though. If there ever even was money, he knows where it is. He just didn’t wanna spend it to live with this chick there.
Sounds like she didn’t. Sounds more like the sun is making up a story as to why they can’t spend hundreds of thousands of dollars because he has other plans for down the road.
Oh, it’s bigger than that. She didn’t do anything. The husband clearly is lying because he doesn’t actually want to retire down in Columbia with this chick forever. All of a sudden now they can move back to America and she has to work again blah blah blah yeah, it’s pretty obvious.
My suspicious mind wonders if hubby is complicit in the theft. They're selling property in the Carolinas, she sold her business share. Is hubby a coward or did he and Mommy see a gringa ripe for exploiting? This woman seems very anxious to defend him.
You’re free to make anyone co-owner of your 300k. Put my name on that account. It’s mine too. A business account or guardianship etc etc is all different with stipulations.
It depends, if the husband is planning on leaving his wife and is doing this to avoid giving his wife her share then it could be a crime. You can't transfer assets to another person to avoid paying a judgement against you in most States and it is criminal in some of them(some others is just civil sanctions)
No one just steals that much from a kid they love. Mr forgiving is way in on it I promise you that now!!! Men and their moms. Devious pair they will show you flames
It’s an inheritance. He never truly worked for it anyways. If you divorce over money he didn’t earn that says a lot about you. Not the end of the world.
@jordan lavalley the way so many folks talk about divorce, I wonder why they get married anyway, the guy has to deal with the mom herself, it's not even the woman's money... honestly
Evidently you didn’t pick up on the fact that he probably is planning to divorce. The whole story is made up. Nobody stole any money. He just doesn’t want to be with this chick forever down there and now all of a sudden they have to move back to America golly. Gee, she hast to start working at her old job again oh my goodness wow. What a coincidence
@@Guitarlvr01 what if the money came from his dad or her parents? Either way it’s not her money. She needs to figure out her own retirement plans and stop looking for hand out. I’m not losing my mom over 300k. That’s crazy lol
Newsflash; it’s not stealing if you put someone’s name on your bank account. I’ve seen this happen multiple times and it’s nothing can be done because that person put their name on the account.
1. The husband gave his mother the money and lied to his wife. 2. Why does $300k mommy need financial support? What is wrong with her and her lifestyle?
its really hard for me to have empathy for woman who choose to marry a man who is a mamas boy and a man who will prioritize his mother over his wife and family
@@PInk77W1 I’m single with no problems. No marriage contract. If you’re single and have a “ton” of problems that’s on you. It’s a husband and his mother. If they weren’t married they could have gone their separate ways by now and would not be a big deal.
@@blackworldtraveler3711 I said single people. People is plural. It means a group of single people It is in general not in particular. You could very well have a ton of problems Tomorrow
@Him Bike my life isn't perfect. I'm also not single, but I have complete control over my finances and my partner has complete control over his. We are both happy with that.
This is insane. Truth is stranger than fiction, sometimes. Wanting to still provide for someone that stole from you? Her husband is abominably weak and they need marriage counseling now.
These guys act like its so simple. That's his MOTHER. They have a lifelong bond. It's now like cutting off a friend or a business partner.. But yes he needs to hold her accountable and get the money back somehow
I’m a huge mamas boy, but if I found out my mom stole from my family or my future kids. Jail bro. That’s a quarter of a million dollars, that’s enough money that someone making a decent living would take 5+ years to save up. Nah she can go sit in jail for 3 years to make up for the loss.
Wrong. She's a thief who stole almost a half million dollars. With a mother like that, who needs enemies? I've cut ties with close family members for waaaaaay less.
This is so sad. What a terrible situation. What a horrible person (I reserve the title of mother to those that actually behave like one) to take advantage of her only son!
Soooo…I think her husband isn’t telling the whole truth. This doesn’t make any sense? Who gets this kind of money stolen and they just say “Oh well… I don’t want her to get in trouble.” What a PANSY. He is co-dependent or enmeshed with his mommy in a sick way. I hope she left, I really do.
For all of you that say this is technically not stealing because her husband had her on the account. It is in fact stealing. If you are on an account at your work and you take money out of it for your own use and not the companies, do you think they will not prosecute you to the fullest extent of the law? When you have someone else on the account, that mean the bank is not checking or preventing them form doing anything. It does not mean it is legal. And By the way, for a long time when I was in the Army my mom was a secondary on my account cause my bank was back home and I was living far away and I needed her to be able to take care of my banking for me. Never once did she ever pull any stunt like this. (Of course when I got my bank accounts local to me She was not on them any longer)
Momma needs to go to Jail. Son needs to get a lawyer and get his money back. Momma needs to be outed as a crook. By the way it was foolish to give momma access to his account. Momma needs to outed as a crook and a liar.
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Call the cops and get a lawyer.
And file for divorce.
My thoughts exactly!!!!
@Jimmy, are you an attorney? Or a keyboard warrior who hides behind a movie character name?
Mom didn’t commit any crimes. Lawyer maybe but you lose your mom over money and divorce her husband over money she didn’t work for???? Make it make sense
@@jordanlavalley Stealing is comitting a crime.
If her name was on the account, legally she did nothin wrong. It would only be a crime if she forged something to get access to the account.
Her husband's reaction is exactly why she took the money...because she knew she could and get away with it. This "mother" is selfish and lazy. She has raised this boy to be a weakling all his life...refusing to cut the cord so she could take advantage of him for as long as needed. She knew this money was there, and has been planning this for years.
An let’s not forget that she expects him & his wife to financially support her after that… 😳
Yep. And the son is scared of her. Probably something happened with his father and she’s using him now. She has turned him into her husband financially.
@@Austenfan177 I doubt it
Maybe he and his Mother were just making sure the money was separated from his Wife because he could be planning an exit/divorce?
@PenelopeGuzman Wow!! Good point. He may be in on it to keep the money from the wife? Because how else could one act like this. Extreme weakness or extreme cunning.
My mother took out two credit cards in my name when I turned 18 without my knowledge and then defaulted on both. I only found out about them when I saw mail at her home with my name on it 2 years later. I called the credit company to confirm I had accounts open then told my mother she better pay those cards off or we’re going to have some problems. If she hadn’t paid those cards back, I was going to file fraud charges against her.
I lost so much respect for my mom after she did that.
And you were correct for losing respect for her.
I would have still reported her.
I did the same with my brother. Trifling. SMH.
I knew that was a risk with my mother so I made sure to tell the tax office I'm no longer a tax payer then I left the country 😁 also I'd have no problem reporting my mother to the police
"he wants to continue financially support her", wait WHAT?! 🤣
He gave his mom the money. Period.
@@freeinghumanitynowyou think so??
Really she needs to stop being in denial and go it alone divorce him and start a fresh. I don't agree she should instigate marriage counselling lol.
Either mama goes to jail or their marriage is over.
Thats what id say! Its me or her period!
WHAT if u have an accusing daughter n law like wishy washy commenting Lindsey. I do not believe she told all truth here!
There is a part of me thinking the son gave his mom the money
@@GS-rw9og agreed
@@yorod4 agreed, something doesn't add up
This woman got so duped. Her husband probably lied to her, the money was never his. He is stealing from his wife now.
@@Austenfan177 Had not considered that. Very possible.
@@Austenfan177 Yep. I have a feeling he is planning for a divorce and is hiding the dough so she can't take 1/2 of it
It was his inheritance though, it's actually wasn't technically her money.
Inherited wealth is not martial property.
It’s his sole & separate property unless or until he combined it with their marital assets. I’d like to hear his Mothers side.
Stealing $300k is more than abuse its a crime. Your husband was abused as a child and brainwashed. Your mother in law belongs in jail. Support her by putting money in her prison account.
Jail no! The husband allowed her access to the money
Fun fact: as soon as he put his mom on the account she can’t go to jail
@@reese85 maybe the husband is scamming the wife and using his mom as a piggybank to hide money from divorce lawyers
He could be in on the crime. 🤔
@@Rizky06 Family of grifters
He needs to file criminal charges against his mother. If he doesn't, then she should divorce him.
Why would he file charges? He's in cahoots with his mom and the wife is a clueless doormat.
@@freeinghumanitynowagreed
i CANNOT imagine the headspace you have to be in to be “fine” losing 300k. this is unfathomable
Maybe it wasn't really his and he knows this but the wife doesn't. I don't know it's so odd. I wish we could hear the other parties involved 😂
Ikr! If someone tried to shaft me out of even $100 (let alone $300k), that person is getting hunted down for the money and cut out of my life at the very least
I love Jade as an addition to the team. Caring, smart and she did a great job of bringing the tension down after John got frustrated. Can’t wait to see more from her!
The husband is a momma's boy. Their final advice to the girl should have been,"Call the authorities on your own and report the $300,000 theft. If your husband has a fit, no loss, your marriage is already over.
Her voice says it all - timid, hesitant, full of avoidance. She’s just calling to cry not find a solution.
Trauma isn't quick n easy to overcome
She called in but is 100% passive in tone and behavior. Get divorced yesterday. Don't bother with counceling because it will never work.
Period! Thats a lost cause!
She's a willing doormat! She needs a backbone! He chose his thieving, manipulative mother over her and their marriage. Leave him! He will not change!
Yesterday's a done deal, so I think you mean today or now.
@@katyedwards3935 Oh, really? 🤣🤣
... It implies that it should already have been done.
@@JustinCase780 True
Mom didn't steal anything; son gave it to her. I wish they wouldn't take these calls. This woman is not going to hold her hubby accountable for conspiring with his mother. It's all a waste of time. She's a total doormat and is happy to remain one.
I was waiting for someone intelligent to say that. Yes of course.
I don’t see it that way and nothing that we know of right now says that he gave it to her purposefully
@@luchiayoungwhat should say it is that he’s not upset with her
Stop watching then because I can tell you right now you are not a Dave Ramsey or you wouldn’t be on here being critical. Dave Ramsey knows exactly what he’s doing and people watch if you don’t like it then go away. I am just so sick of all you negative people. Oh poor poor me I have to watch this.
@@luchiayoung You sound very upset over absolutely nothing. Whatever has your spirit twisted I pray will be healed. Because I know it's not something a random stranger said on the internet. May your anger and hostility melt like butter in a heatwave. 🙏
How does she know he didn't give the money to his mom to hide it and make her keep working and sell all assets and he divorces her. He sounds like Mama comes first.
Yikes ... I didn't even think of that. Excellent point!
Yep!😊
This statement is probably true!! He gave it to her and now he’s scamming wife!
Also, you can’t you press charges as a threat to give the money back? Odds are it’s not spent yet.
This is exactly what I was thinking. The husband is in on it.
Maybe there was not an inherintance account from the beginning. What if she was made to believe her husband had money, but he actually did not.
Yes. Did she ever see actual bank accounts and whose name was on them? More questions should have been asked.
She isn't telling the whole story. In some cultures when one parent passes away the kids feel their intietold to an inheritance. Never mind that there more not be any money Except maybe the house that his mother lives in. She didn't steel any money there probably wasn't any money to begin with. She should have told where this money came from.
That husband has abandoned his responsibility as a husband. He's also refusing that his mother take any accountability in this situation. The wife is then forced to go along with it like everything is ok. Well, she's clearly not ok. So unless they get therapy and also closure to address the issue, this will be a very unhappy marriage and ultimately one that may end. IMO.
Guess they missed one critical question? Where is that 300k? Is it safe? Can she return it back?
Bruh it’s spent
It would be interesting to know how long his mother had access to the money and how she managed to spend it all. Maybe she just moved it over to another account in her name only? Maybe she gambled it away? Maybe this is mom’s grand plan to cause DIL to exit the marriage, allowing mom to then choose a wife for her son in his native country. There is much more to this story.
Thats what I'm also wondering
U dont just spend 300k in two minutes
Maybe she like bought a car or land or a house with it
You can maybe sell that and get some money back
Or if she was just spending it on smaller purchases how comes they never noticed money missing from their account?
There are a lot of questions here about where is that 300k rn? And why cant you get it back.
@@dhenderson319 - Good one!
@@dhenderson319 She gambled it away or spent it on drugs. It's gone.
John and Jade make me happy. They give me so much hope in this world of bleeding hearts and enablers calling themselves "Christian" but are just "cowards" in sheep's clothing. Yes!
Yes. They cut like a knife. Society needs more of this.
Weird that they wait until the day of the closing to check on the money.
I counted and gather my money months before I closed and it wasn’t anywhere close to $300,000.
I know a great way to make sure his mom always has food and shelter!
The mother did not need access to this account to deposit money. Time to get a divorce. The husband is a liar.
I used to put money in my husbands account. I wasn't on the account but I could put money in the account at the bank teller. Yet I couldn't withdraw money from his account.
I have a question for the wife. Did you ever see a bank statement for this account? Did it really exist or has this been a long term con to get at your money? I struggle when people call in and there is so much missing info.
Yep, I'm betting he's persuaded her he's got just as much money as her, so now they are running off her funds
Something fishy about the husband. I think he and his mom are in cahoots to steal from the wife and use the money for selfish reasons because this makes absolutely no sense otherwise.
There's a million holes in this story and the caller sounds out of touch with reality at best...I'm calling BS on the whole thing.
It was technically his own inheritance so he would only be stealing from himself so that doesn't make sense.
Mr. Ramsey would have asked "Where is the money?" Is it recoverable (e.g., she bought a house) or irrecoverable (e.g., she spent it on drugs and gambling)?
You do not have to be on an account to deposit money into the account...
Yes. My thoughts Exactly. Sometimes I make deposits for friends and family members myself without my name being on their accounts and never I've had any issues.
She lost her mom card, and the man lost his husband card. What a disgrace. Coward.
Well maybe the husband isnt… yet, but he def needs to make a decision, mother or wife, or the wife will.
@@XFizzlepop-Berrytwist no way hes done. Hes a big time beta. His mom keeps his testacles on a jewelry box on her makeup table.
@@john1425
I think that is a bit harsh, we have only heard one side to this story.
@@XFizzlepop-Berrytwist good point. And this woman sounds like a little girl that is afraid to say anything unflattering about anyone.
I don't think these children were ready to deal with this situation.
I like your comment!
Wow, she is letting her husband use her as a doormat. Her husband does not care about her or their marriage. That marriage is doomed!
If you stay married, keep your money in your own account. No access for husband or mom.
John telling it like it is!
Good job!
Let me guess, husbands mom was a single mom. And she turned her son into a momma’s boy to support her financially for the rest of her life.
She is in Columbia, probably with no social security and having kids means having someone to care for her when sheare old.
Unfortunately either they correct all this stuff, or they get divorced. There is no middle ground here. For what I am hearing the guy's priority is her mom regardless all the harm she is doing. I am not saying your parents are not important, but in this particular situation this is a huge issue. If he is not welling to see the problem, she needs to walk away and limit her losses
It was his inheritance not hers. Effects her but not hers.
me thinks from lindseys full replys , that the whole truth was not presented , here!
@@djpuplexmarriage vows basically say that "all that is mine, is yours". He said that to her, not to his mother.
Unless there was a prenup, excluding her from his inheritance, it was her money, too.
And the fact that he wants to keep supporting his mother, and her paycheck will be a part of that, says a lot.
The woman just got $300,000.00. She shouldn't need any money for years, if she had any money smarts. (And she doesn't, by the way.)
@@netasedlak9454 Inheritance is considered non martial property.
I love my mother dearly and will anything I can to help her when she's down on her luck but if she ever did this to me we're done.
You have a weak mind. She didn’t steal money from his company or something it’s an inheritance probably from his dad or her family.
First thing, her husband is not the only person being forgiving. She forgives everything.
IMO - I would divorce him. He is a momma's boy, and the wife is being placed second below his mother. It's disgusting.
Why did she call the show if she doesn't want to do anything about it?
She's being used and abused like a bounty towel. Smh
👏well done John!! he's picking his mum over her. His actions are showing her his mum will always be more important!
The $18k in credit card debt is absolutely nothing compared to her situation
I'm so sick of these callers who keep going "I agree BUT (insert garbage rambling excuse)"
They get so caught up in some unnecessary detail that they don't see the elephant in the room
She didn’t steal anything.
This woman’s idiotic husband made his mom a joint owner on an account.
Ouch! We all almost forgot about that.
You're right, if her name was on the account, she technically did nothing criminally wrong. Might be able to sue her in civil court, but that would be it.
That is true. It may actually be very hard to prosecute her since she was given access. You can't steal something that was in your name. So she will probably be off the hook.
She did not say the mom was a joint owner, she only said he gave his mom access to the account so it is very likely the mom's name is not on the account.
@@paulinoaz Access to the account is basically the same as saying she was a joint owner of the account once he gave her access.
I can't stand people who let others -- even if they're family -- walk all over them and treat them terribly, and then have the audacity to complain about how they're being treated, yet will do nothing to change the circumstances. This situation is absolutely insane. The husband has no spine, and the wife is weak, too. At least she's attempting to do something by making this phone call. However, it's far too little, far too late. Pathetic people, I'm sorry.
She tried HARD to not put the blame where
the blame belong.
Your divorcing him, or filing charges. Plain and simple
the mother-in-law didn't steal the 300k. the husband basically gave it. i don't mind if he gives his mother monthly support, that's great. but sacrificing HIS and YOUR life for his mother is bad.
PLEASE RUN AWAY FROM HIM.
EDIT:
my wife's father sacrificed his family to help his brother who gambled and got bankrupt. he could've just supported the brother but he left their home. and you could probably imagine the effect on the kids (who one of them i'm now married to, and will take care of until i die).
i grew up in a 3rd world country and children are expected to give back to parents when they grow old. i love my parents, and they never asked me for anything, at least nothing huge that i cripple myself. my parents have enough to live comfortably until they die and they never expect me to support them.
I don’t disagree. Slightly different situation but my Grandpa sacrificed a lot so my grandma wouldn’t have to worry about money once he died. Well she gave all the money to her son. Even her social security checks went to him, and she lives in poverty somewhere.
And that destroyed the family as it emboldened that son to steal from the rest of his siblings and family members. My Dad took that uncle to court and won; that uncle was banned from my great aunt’s funeral .
But yeah rough situation. Lesson is don’t give family money.
It's her husband. Leaving him is not an option. They need to take care of this together.
@@jlmoses16 sure they can get through the financial hurdle. but the mother won't change. someone for sure will continue to suffer silently in this.
This woman stole a lot of money from her own child and his wife. She has to go to jail! It sounds like he loves Mommy more than his wife.
I think her “child” is in on it.
“I am great, thank you for asking”
*she was not great*
So when you hear a call like this, do you still believe in the idea of joint bank accounts when you’re married????🤔🤔🤔🤔
My granddaughters dad stole from her. Her grandmother passed and left them all equal amounts, including dad. She was a minor, so his name was put on her account. He went through his money and then started spending hers. But it was no surprise to anyone. He has used and abused everyone's trust for years.
She's being robbed by her husband. The whole family is lying to this girl to steal her money
The fact that the son can still look to his mother with a straight face is amazing! He either is so scared of his mother that he is choosing to forgive & forget rather than hold her accountable for this felony! This is the stuff that prison sentences are provided.
Even worse he still wants to financially support her, pretty sure he already done that when he let her drain his bank account
@@BabyT709why does he need to financially support her after she stole 300k from him??!
John and Jade are absolutely right! I also think exploring what she meant by her husband does whatever he can to make her happy is valid. I hope they get counseling.
Fun fact: as soon as he put his mom on the account she can’t go to jail
Maybe , maybe not
If the mothers name is on the account, in the eyes of the law it is just as much her money as it is the sons .
There was no mention of his mom being in the account though, she said it's "his inheritance" and he gave her access to the account. Access to the account and ownership of the account are not the same thing.
I could give anyone my bank account details, that doesn't automatically make it their account as well
@@bennyjoey8444actually it should be 50/50. Like a joint account for a non married couple. You can’t only withdraw half. Unless it was drained over a long period of time.
War, I don't think it's wise to claim you know something that you don't know enough about.
I think the son and the mother are working together and the wife is out later.
Right. What is really going on here?
I’d love to hear the other side of this story. I can guarantee you this caller is not so innocent.
There's a million holes in this story and the caller sounds out of touch with reality at best...I'm callling BS on the whole thing.
This woman needed to file for a divorce yesterday. Her husband sounds like a Norman Bates type, with all things in his world revolving around his mother. There will never be any peace if she stays in this. The mother should be brought up on charges for stealing the money.
And when prosecuting mommy dearest will say how could you do this to me?
She needs to be prosecuted and as much money recovered as possible. If her husband is not willing to hold his mom accountable she will need to divorce him!
I feel like it was "legal" theft - meaning she had full legal rights to the inheritance fund. (possibly went through her to be distributed to children)
I totally get that point but, if that portion of cash was intended for her son it’s lack of morals & respect for her son to take and spend it…
@@Austenfan177 all good points
No, it was probably left by the father. And he said he added mom to the account so she could manage things in his absence. Why would he add her if it was her money being distributed?
No such thing as legal theft. It’s theft or it’s not.
@@katie8325
Legal theft does exist.
I suppose its how you look at it, but you can legally take (steal) stuff from other people in some cases.
Adverse possession on property is one such example. I can buy a plot of land, and say I move out of state/country for a few years, and come back, and find out someone has been living on it, or using it for some reason, they can go to court and a judge will force you to give up the land.
Its not right, but it does happen.
I couldn't imagine being that delusional towards my mother. If something like that would've happened, I would have no problem, suing her for more than what she took. That is just despicable behavior on the Mom's part, and shame on the husband too
My husband & I both come from collectivistic cultures where the elders, especially the parents & grandparents are to be honored NO MATTER WHAT. It can become a very toxic dynamic, and we both have had enough and cut ties with them not too long ago. It’s not at all easy and actually a very painful thing to do. I wonder if this is the case with this couple. Either they BOTH have the mindset to “forgive” and let it go, or cut ties, they must be on the same page together. Otherwise his mom, and probably the rest of his family will drive a big wedge between the two of them. Hopefully the husband gains some courage & sets his priorities straight.
@@Austenfan177 Wow! That sounds so frustrating. I hope it gets better for them, if not, at least for her.
I was wondering if it was a cultural thing. My MIL came from a different culture where you’re required to take care of your elders no matter what. She’s taken advantage of this and one son already went no contact. The only time we hear from her is if she needs money.
Well done, Jade and John!
"I'm great, thank you for asking!" "My Mother in Law stole three hundred thousand dollars"
Lol
Sadly... she is hypnotized and she doesn't know.
John got fired up on this one.
I heard about a similar case. One of the spouses sued the mother-in-law who stole the money and the mother-in-law was forced to repay the spouse that sued for their half.
I think they thought the inheritance was theirs but it was his mothers money all along. You don’t let that slide if it’s legit theft.
I can hear Dave saying, "You're so sweet." She is. IDK if the husband has been gaslighting his wife for years or if his mother has manipulated him all his life and he has no spine. He married his wife to have and to hold, not to have and to make her work the rest of her life to support his thieving mother. Whether they go into counseling or not, she needs individual counseling. She will be walked on for the rest of her life if she keeps this up. John and Jade are more upset about this than the caller is!
Yeah. I will feel Dave would have been a little more sympathetic to the caller. John’s tone was a little harsh when he said things like ‘nobody’s forcing you to do anything. You’re making all of these choices’.
She doesn't see the problem because this is very normalized in Latin households. If he were to cut off his mother in any way, he would be seen as the bad guy.
People really need to free themselves from the opinion of others
Enough coddling of feelings.
The whole story didn’t make sense though. If there ever even was money, he knows where it is. He just didn’t wanna spend it to live with this chick there.
How do you know they are Latin
Commenter heard Columbia and didn't hear south Carolina.
If she did this to her Son and Daughter in law shell do it again. She needs to have her behavior corrected before more people are negatively impacted.
From her child! Her future grandchildren! It made them broke! She belongs in jail!! A mother wouldn't do that. She is not his mother!
@@traceyhill702nah I wouldn’t put my mom jail for that! I’ll just stop dealing with her
Sounds like she didn’t. Sounds more like the sun is making up a story as to why they can’t spend hundreds of thousands of dollars because he has other plans for down the road.
Oh, it’s bigger than that. She didn’t do anything. The husband clearly is lying because he doesn’t actually want to retire down in Columbia with this chick forever. All of a sudden now they can move back to America and she has to work again blah blah blah yeah, it’s pretty obvious.
Life in prison sounds like a good start for behavior correction
You need to divorce that spineless jellyfish.
This was so hard to hear. I felt John at every moment. This caller needs someone on her side!
My suspicious mind wonders if hubby is complicit in the theft. They're selling property in the Carolinas, she sold her business share. Is hubby a coward or did he and Mommy see a gringa ripe for exploiting? This woman seems very anxious to defend him.
Bingo 🎯
Calls like these show that this show will be in good hands whenever Dave decides to hang them up.
She will be complaining about this forever until she decides to do something about it.
Well said, Dr. John and Jade!!
This is a storm of disfunction holding hands.
You can forgive someone and still demand that they give the money back.
If her name was on the account, the mother in law hasn’t committed a crime.
Yeah I wondered about that. Plus it was an "inheritance account" from whom? What did mama do with the money?
She has because the inheritance is his money, along as they can prove the 300k is his inheritance it is theft
You’re free to make anyone co-owner of your 300k. Put my name on that account. It’s mine too. A business account or guardianship etc etc is all different with stipulations.
It depends, if the husband is planning on leaving his wife and is doing this to avoid giving his wife her share then it could be a crime. You can't transfer assets to another person to avoid paying a judgement against you in most States and it is criminal in some of them(some others is just civil sanctions)
You can't help people who don't want to be helped. Get a divorce!
There has to be more to this story
No one just steals that much from a kid they love. Mr forgiving is way in on it I promise you that now!!! Men and their moms. Devious pair they will show you flames
Oh lord, I’d be divorced from this dude! An I don’t advocate for divorce, but this is insane!
It’s an inheritance. He never truly worked for it anyways. If you divorce over money he didn’t earn that says a lot about you. Not the end of the world.
@jordan lavalley the way so many folks talk about divorce, I wonder why they get married anyway, the guy has to deal with the mom herself, it's not even the woman's money... honestly
Evidently you didn’t pick up on the fact that he probably is planning to divorce. The whole story is made up. Nobody stole any money. He just doesn’t want to be with this chick forever down there and now all of a sudden they have to move back to America golly. Gee, she hast to start working at her old job again oh my goodness wow. What a coincidence
@@jordanlavalley you must be a thief who justifies their behavior with this type of thinking! 😅
@@Guitarlvr01 what if the money came from his dad or her parents? Either way it’s not her money. She needs to figure out her own retirement plans and stop looking for hand out. I’m not losing my mom over 300k. That’s crazy lol
Newsflash; it’s not stealing if you put someone’s name on your bank account. I’ve seen this happen multiple times and it’s nothing can be done because that person put their name on the account.
Sounds like he’s the one that possibly is using his mother as an excuse where the money actually went.
Possibly
I cannot help but laugh when the people calling in say “I’m doing great” at the beginning moments before discussing how terrible things are
It is her Husband’s money not hers since it is an inheritance. She can’t press charges. He prefers mommy over his wife.
He Trusted her.
He STILL Trusts her.
This is NOT Forgiveness.
1. The husband gave his mother the money and lied to his wife.
2. Why does $300k mommy need financial support? What is wrong with her and her lifestyle?
its really hard for me to have empathy for woman who choose to marry a man who is a mamas boy and a man who will prioritize his mother over his wife and family
How does she take $300k from their account ?
Makes no sense . Dump that family gf.
Heckkkkk NO! lock her up
Just another shining reason of why I'll never marry. Hopefully she leaves this guy and never gives a cent to his mother again.
Stealing has nothing to do with marriage. Single people have tons of problems too. Don’t fool yourself
@@PInk77W1
I’m single with no problems.
No marriage contract.
If you’re single and have a “ton” of problems that’s on you.
It’s a husband and his mother.
If they weren’t married they could have gone their separate ways by now and would not be a big deal.
@@PInk77W1 As a single person, I don't have any problems like this. Never have. If you are single with these kinds of problems, then you have issues.
@@blackworldtraveler3711
I said single people.
People is plural.
It means a group of single people
It is in general not in particular.
You could very well have a ton of problems
Tomorrow
@Him Bike my life isn't perfect. I'm also not single, but I have complete control over my finances and my partner has complete control over his. We are both happy with that.
Sell the mother in law
This is insane. Truth is stranger than fiction, sometimes. Wanting to still provide for someone that stole from you? Her husband is abominably weak and they need marriage counseling now.
Let not forget he gave her access so she can’t be charged
Mom PUT the money in the account.
Mom TOOK the money out of the account.
Mom’s name was on the account.
It was NO “inheritance account”.
i agree there was never an inheritance account.
I can not understand why a mother would steal from her son.
Wait a minute. Is no one asking where da F the money went? She stole 300k and yet she has no money and the son has to support her?
These guys act like its so simple. That's his MOTHER. They have a lifelong bond. It's now like cutting off a friend or a business partner.. But yes he needs to hold her accountable and get the money back somehow
I’m a huge mamas boy, but if I found out my mom stole from my family or my future kids. Jail bro. That’s a quarter of a million dollars, that’s enough money that someone making a decent living would take 5+ years to save up. Nah she can go sit in jail for 3 years to make up for the loss.
Every man in order to grow up has to tell their mom “no” at some point.
No it actually is very simple. As an adult why was he still allowing his mother to handle any part of his finances.
Wrong. She's a thief who stole almost a half million dollars. With a mother like that, who needs enemies? I've cut ties with close family members for waaaaaay less.
Doesn’t matter if thats his mom. anyone who steals 300K from you doesn’t love you
This is so sad. What a terrible situation. What a horrible person (I reserve the title of mother to those that actually behave like one) to take advantage of her only son!
If anyone in my family stole more the $5k from me they are dead to me.
And will be in need of major dental work!
@@alinatamashevich3354 lol ok
Soooo…I think her husband isn’t telling the whole truth. This doesn’t make any sense? Who gets this kind of money stolen and they just say “Oh well… I don’t want her to get in trouble.” What a PANSY. He is co-dependent or enmeshed with his mommy in a sick way. I hope she left, I really do.
For all of you that say this is technically not stealing because her husband had her on the account. It is in fact stealing. If you are on an account at your work and you take money out of it for your own use and not the companies, do you think they will not prosecute you to the fullest extent of the law?
When you have someone else on the account, that mean the bank is not checking or preventing them form doing anything. It does not mean it is legal. And By the way, for a long time when I was in the Army my mom was a secondary on my account cause my bank was back home and I was living far away and I needed her to be able to take care of my banking for me.
Never once did she ever pull any stunt like this. (Of course when I got my bank accounts local to me She was not on them any longer)
Momma needs to go to Jail. Son needs to get a lawyer and get his money back. Momma needs to be outed as a crook. By the way it was foolish to give momma access to his account. Momma needs to outed as a crook and a liar.