really, it's okay to not be okay *hug*
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Hello, since you love reading, I advise you to read the book of the Qur’an. I have read it. It is an amazing book. You will feel amazing comfort when you read it. It contains many beautiful stories and interesting adventure.. I wish you happy days, love you
“it’s so hard to open up to people when you’re so used to doing everything on your own”… oof I feel this so deeply. I’m trying to practice calling on friends when I need help bc my most natural response is to figure it out on my own and share with them later. Unpacking and unlearning many childhood defense mechanisms has been one of the greatest themes of my 20s thus far. Though it has not been easy, I am hopeful for my future self and proud of my current self for being willing to do the work + wrestle with the hard stuff
You will be proud you are wise and you are a beautiful soul ❤
It is okay to feel low sometimes...it is okay even if the healing process takes some time.. it is okay to let ourselves feel.. it is okay to not be okay.. that's what makes us human! Lots of love!❤
thank you 🥹🫶
It's ok and we need to do not be hard on ourselves ❤ it's part of self love
I'm also feeling a little down right now. A lot is changing and I'm about to go through a big relocation 😢❤ Sending love to everyone ❤
I resonate with this so much! On the outside, I have everything I've ever wanted after going through some difficult times, a beautiful home, a career I love, a supportive partner, my health, family and a healthy workout routine. But I have been feeling lonely, and internally off within myself, and I feel like there's something wrong with me for feeling like this! Constantly reminding myself that life is cyclical, there's seasons for everything. No matter how many boxes you have checked that society tells us will guarantee a balanced life, it's unavoidable to feel these very human emotions and lows. I'm also an adoptee, and have been processing some childhood feelings I've repressed throughout my life, so there's also that. But I appreciate you sharing these videos and your feelings so much because it helps us feel like we're not alone! :)
You are a sweet and strong soul indeed
this is really helpful to me, maybe for an unexpected reason. my boyfriend and i broke up yesterday and even though it was the right choice, i feel so empty and longing for a relationship. but this video actually reminded me that even if you have a partner and are in a (presumably) healthy relationship, it doesn’t automatically mean you’re okay. a relationship is not the key to happiness in life
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rowena your videos make me feel so comforted and heard. every time you talk about your reflections on life or yourself i feel like I'm taking in a breath of fresh air. your videos are like warm hugs to me. thank you for making them :))
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100%!! In this life, we cannot experience the light without the dark. The only way is to invite and embrace both when they arrive🙏.
Thank you for posting. I lost my sister when I was 15 and it's taken me a long time to understand the effect such a loss can have. You honesty is so freshing and brave and like you say having a low period doesn't undue the years of progress.
Just gave birth 2 weeks ago... baby boy came early at 36w so it's not really easy for us.. I'm grateful that's he's here with us and I love him so much no word can describe. But honestly I've been crying a lot and definitely struggling a bit sometimes.
Your feelings are valid. Having to take care of a whole human being really is terrifying. But you got this! It'll get easier with practice ❤
Congratulations, truly. Please don't be hard on yourself and let yourself feel whatever you feel. Your mind and body just went through a 9 month journey that you never really have a chance to recover from before starting the journey of taking care of your new family. I hope things get easier for you - I'm sure it will!
I see my internet big sister's notification...I click right away.. I missed you, Ro 🥺❤
m'aww appreciate you so much!! 🫶
your timing with this video is angelic 💞 ily sis 🥺
we got thisss 💗
Ro, please know you are loved, you are bringing so much peace & light into people’s lives by doing what you’re doing and know that it’s completely normal and okay to feel as low as you’re feeling, even if it’s been for a long time as you stated
I’m sure your brother would agree with this & would understand that you too can be not okay, even though you have so much to be grateful for.
You are loved as you are, even if you‘re really down & not okay❤️
Definitely needed this. My partner and I just moved back in with my mom to Florida and let me just say this transition has been so challenging. Thanks Ro, us potatoes will get through this rough season of life! ❤
sending you love! as someone who is struggling right now i relate to this so much. this video also reminds me everyone has their own struggles :")
I find this video totally relatable. I've been following your journey and i too have lost my brother and am trying to heal from grief. When you linked being not ok to being ungrateful, it really hits a spot. Let's heal together and here's to better days ahead! Thank you for always being so open with us! 💕
you are exactly where you need to be xxx the universe is sending you exactly what you need in this very moment ✨
I was thinking about you just yesterday! Thank you for this. I find you superlatively relatable. Thank you for being this beautiful voice and presence. Love ❤️✨
Wow, I had no idea how much I needed to hear this right now. Talk about divine timing ;) this is REALLY helpful and just what I needed to hear! Thank you so much! 🙏 I hope you can continue giving yourself time to really heal and best of luck with everything that’s going on in your life right now. Thank you again!
got a lot of realizations and affirmations after watching this video 🥺 thank you so much for this i never knew i needed it 🫂🫂
You're not alone, I feel your pain and just know that your feelings especially anxiety is real. But you will be ok. I'm a work in progress but acknowledging I need help, working on healing myself and seeking help through talking therapy. Slowly in time, we'll both start feeling 100% ourselves again. I cut out my exercise and friends and these really were the things that lifted me up so I'm starting to make time and space to reconnect with my friends too. Sending you so much love and hugs. Thanks for the link to the free trial for headspace. I'll definitely give it a go especially as its helping you too x
The Body Keeps the score is an incredible book, I think about the teachings I have learned from it on a routine basis. So happy you are giving it a shoutout! ❤
Thank you Ro 🙏🏾 For sharing these deep thoughts and realizations with us ! Discovered your channel in 2020 few months into the pandemic and your videos have become so important to me! They always carry this true warmth and sense of comfort. Thank you very much for everything you do 🫰🏾 I'll forever be grateful for you and your videos :) Thought you should know that ! Sending you tons of positive vibes ✨🌸
I'm glad i find your videos and have continued watching it lately. It's like a warm hug when i had a bad day or feel wrong about my whole life. Many things you talked about in this video resonate with me. It's crazy how someone on the other side of the world can feel the same way as me in my 20s phase. It makes me feel less alone and normal.
I truly wanna say thankyou for making these comforting videos
Your voice is so soothing, it makes me feel so at peace and yet more knowledgeable by the time the video ends, I am so grateful for your content, for years, I am rooting for your healing journey, hidden realizations, and wish you the happiest of moments, love you!❤️
thank you for that. I always say that when I see your videos, but this one hit exactly where it needs to. openning up takes a lot of courage, so thank you
Wishing you the best. Have been following your channel for a few years. No matter what the circumstances…. Your content always has an uplifting message. Thank you for your transparency. Especially when all you crave and deserve is privacy.
This came at the right time Rowena! I resonnated with everything, I'm going through the same process and fortunately we have a lifetime to work through and enjoy the labour and fruits of healing 💜💜💜
I am so happy you are working through these things!!! Your channel was part of the spark that led me on the journey to a lot of self discovery (including The Body Keeps the Score) and I'm so grateful to you for that, and glad you're getting the chance to help yourself the way you've helped all of us!!
Your videos always hit the spot for me!! You are such an introspective person and I’m so glad you share with us! I appreciate all your videos and hope to in a way be like you! 💜💜
I think this is your best video yet! Thank you for being so honest and open with us and allowing us to learn from your experiences, sharing our difficulties. Much love
Thank you, I needed this. I've finally reached the point at which I can admit to myself, that I am not okay and am depressed. I also worked hard on becoming better for many years and succeeded quite a bit, so admitting to myself that I am not okay again was really difficult. It's good to know that I am not the only one, although I don't wish these feelings or non-feelings on anybody! Now I'm working on allowing myself to be like I am right now and taking the time that I need to heal and learning to communicate this to the people around me. Thank you so much for being so vulnerable and sharing this! It helps a lot!
take all the time you need ro ♥️ thank you for sharing this deeply personal journey and realization, and for helping those of us who feel similarly
sending lots of hugs 🥹💕
What the hell. I think something is in the water because I resonated with this. Hugs. It is okay to not be okay. Life comes in waves. The sun will rise again ❤
Beautiful journey thank you for being vulnerable and honest. Most of us are not okay at different times. While it feels crappy, we can embrace not resist all emotions ❤
Hey Rowena, great honest conversation here. It takes time and effort to learn about yourself and how best to move forward in life. It's ok to not be ok because when you look around, nobody has it all together. You have to be ok with making sacrifices.
It takes courage to confront our feelings and realize that it's okay not to be okay.
Indeed, self-discovery and personal growth are ongoing processes that require time, effort, and reflection. Keep embracing the journey, and remember that the process of self-discovery is unique to each individual. Thank you for sharing this insightful perspective!
Totally Agree! Embracing vulnerability and learning from it is a path to growth.
Your message is so important! Learning how to heal and feel whole again is a journey, and your insights are guiding lights. Thank you for your wisdom and authenticity.
Agree, Self-discovery and personal growth take time, effort, and reflection. Embrace the unique journey. Thanks for the insightful point of view!
When you said you thought you didn’t have trauma even though you went through a sudden loss… that really hit home. I feel like I’ve grieved already so much, and talk about my dad so often (who I lost unexpectedly two years ago when I was 22). I’ve been feeling repressed, like some emotion or energy has been building up inside. It couldn’t be grief in my opinion, I’ve already had a grief wave recently. But here I am tearing up when I heard you say that … 😔😌
Thank u Ro so much for this!!! in perfect time, love uuuuuuu
i truly needed to hear these words right now. thank you for sharing this video rowena. i appreciate you so much. sending you all the love. 🧡
It will all get better ❤ keep holding on and take everything one step at a time. You might not feel it yet but you'll be okay, acknowledge what's wrong and makes you feel uneasy while also acknowledging all the good there is. I hope you'll feel better soon ❤
beautiful human ❤ thank you for this, i lovelovelove the honesty.
Thank you for putting into words what I've been feeling for the past few years but couldn't exactly pinpoint. I actually took this video and dwrote down everything that resonated with and tried to reflect on all of those. I think it also made it possible to open up my mind again to kind thoughts and not put up a wall because those feelings were too much for me to feel.
Thank you so much for this. I feel so connected ❤
impeccable timing with how I've been feeling.
Airhugs all around!!
I am very thankful for your videos. It makes me feel not so much alone.
thank you so much i needed to hear this 💞
Rowena thank you again for your videos. Over the years I found the one person that I really needed to know was myself why do I have this or that feeling or attitude by knowing this it helps me weather the storms that seem to always show up at the most in opportune time.Rowena God bless you for the videos and I hope you have a blessed and happy and fruitful life we all deserve that right😊
I waited a couple of days to view this video because I didn’t want to deal the the fact that I’m not actually okay. My life seems like it’s going well. I have a steady job, I’ve finally become independent and have my own place, I can do anything I want and yet, I feel stuck. It’s been slow at work and it’s making me anxious that I’m not doing “enough” although I know that I should also appreciate the slow days. It’s a struggle to find balance between giving myself some grace but also wanting to be productive. Thanks for this reminder! I’ve been meaning to read that book and maybe now is actually the time to do so. Sending you lots of ♥️
OMG Ro! Sending you so many voice hugs right now! ❤❤❤ You are definitely not alone and it is ABSOLUTELY okay not to be okay. I believe it is only natural to feel this way sometimes. I also can relate to the feeling of not wanting to ask for help. Oftentimes I find I spend more time listening and hearing other peoples problems that I fail to be vulnerable myself. I don't know if this is just a sense of wanting to stay strong for others or if it's an innate fear of throwing all my problems on someone else once I let lose I may lose all control. And I don't want that. I want to be able to say 'I got this'. But I am so glad you are taking the time to be vulnerable with others. This is something I am also working on as an INFJ. I need to get out myself. Thank you for sharing Ro and let's all continue to heal and work on ourselves. Stay safe ~ ^ _ ^
I'm just crying watching this.
my cousin got hit by a car a few months ago, so it’s just been a cycle of trying to be my best self as that’s what he’d always been & just falling into utter despair, sinking into a hole & shutting myself off from the world. whenever i bounce back i always try to look for the best possible way to live & incorporate productive ways of living rowena taught me over the years. i usually fall out of the productivity habits fairly quickly & feel so defeated, but over some time i’ve realized that simply existing, with the intention of being real & feeling is just as good as all the “productive “ habits that i easily fall out of. existing is such a hard thing to do, but i’m still learning & it’s nice to have videos like these to reaffirm that i’m not the only one who feels this lost and lonely and confused :)
Thank you for this video ❤
Hey there! I needed this today. You're doing great. Have the best day today. ❤
this video made me realize that I have not been ok for a few years now and I knew I was not ok but had not realized it has been this long I would think that this would pass in a few days . It's so funny how I thought that once we feel better there is no going back like everything will be all right and we are fully equipped with the knowledge and tools to any problem that might come here on. I had forgotten how far I had come and would always think that I could have done better. I should genuinely focuss on healing along with my academic and personal goals to heal and it might take years.
Not a practicing Buddhist, in fact I’m a Catholic, but I’ve been listening to this podcast 10% happier with Dan Harris for over a year now and in the podcast i remembered when learning about suffering and how in accepting that there is suffering in the world and in our lives that it alleviates some of the pain. As someone with MDD it helped me with being okay with not being okay. I also took a class in the spring called Poetry and performance where the professor had based the entire class on the body keeps the score and through various exercise writing and moving I learned that my body is on my side. Thank for opening up to us. Sending whatever kind of energy / vibe is needed. Be well ❤
I resonate with this so much. I thought I had done the work needed as life was good and no more anxiety. Then something very difficult happened to me and it's like it all went out the window and i have to continue/restart my growth again
words can’t describe how much i needed this ro. thank you so much❤
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Sis I feel the same thing…I’m so lost right now, I’m in the middle of a breakup with the person I thought I was gonna marry. I fluctuate between anger and misery, whilst also trying to move out and feeling so utterly alone in a city that never embraced me to begin with.
I know I’ll be ok, and yet I feel so miserable rn, I just want to scream at them, say how selfish and cruel they’ve been to me and yet I wanna move on but the thought of never seeing them again is enough to break me. I wanna feel ok again
literally me too exactly
I’m almost a year out from this place…I wish someone would have told me it’s okay to grieve a relationship lost and it’ll take time. I still feel pings of sadness many days. But be gentle and kind to yourself always ♥️
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Refreshing. Thank you for this video
Very relatable, ma'am. I always know when I haven't left enough space for background processing, because I will wake up in the middle of the night and do it all then. It's my brain's rebellion
Thank you for everything. I believed I entered my lowest low in high school when I was having deep depression but now I feel maybe even worse. I was spinning my wheels in college trying to get my life together. Now I graduated and can't find a dream job bc of layoffs in IT, no boyfriend, no real friend. I feel hopeless. And it seems that everyone around me has it all love, friendship, carrier.
Thank you so much for this video ❤😢
Gracias por cada palabra y ser tan honesta, podría escribir esto en inglés pero quería mostrar que soy una seguidora de Chile y tus videos me han ayudado en mi healing process too❤
ohhh finally a video to relax with. thank you ro :) its alright, youre doing good
hehe tankuuu 🥹
Soft living blooms in the garden of community, where the delicate petals of relationships unfold at their own unhurried pace
You are more amazing than you think ❤❤❤
You've got this!
Hope you’ll feel better soon ❤❤
thank you 🥹 already feeling loads lighter now that this realization is out in the world!
This timing🥺☹️🩷 Thank you!!
sending so much love!! 💕
thank you for your honesty. I can relate to feeling stuck. I have a degree and some much drive and passion for better yet dont know which direction to into. I've applied to over 200 jobs (that i am more than qualified for and have not gotten an offer yet. I feel so stuck. I am scared because I dont know how long I'll be here. I just want to be happy and content with life...yet i still have faith that i will get there.
Women supporting women is a powerful alliance, where strength is found in unity, encouragement flourishes in shared victories, and each supportive gesture becomes a step towards collective empowerment. ❤❤❤❤
Thank you for your vulnerability and insight ❤
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Thank you for this video. It’s resonated with me. I’ve definitely not been ok for a long time. I’m particularly struggling at the moment. Around two and half years ago I took on a Romanian rescue dog and it’s been challenging. Lots of issues and made more difficult to deal with as I have another dog and a rabbit. I’ve finally got rock bottom, my mental health is shot and my house is one massive depression pit. Made the decision that I need to hand him back to the rescue.
Thank you for this, was really feeling and this was a great reminder that it is okay to be not okay. =)
Wait. Does this mean all my meltdowns, eating pudding and what not, to make my days sweeter, and being lazy, is actually okay? Damn. I am going better than I thought I was. Thanks for the perspective!
girl moving back home is hard. there's a reason why we try to leave. be gentle on yourself rowena!
Thank you for being vulnerable with us, mama Ro. I also need to know where you got that adorable white jacket/shruggie you wore at the Korean cafe 😍
MISS YOUR VIDEOS RO! 💓
FEELS GR8 TO BE BACK
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Omg that last clip was so cuteeeee !! Didnt know u played animal crossing :) tell us more about ur game playthrough as part of a video sometime :) im a gamer and love animal crossing and stardew valley :) would love to know more about that
Thank you 💜✨️
I relate to the suffering alone part - the second I try to open up I tear up and get stuck because that's too much vulnerability for me. with my friends I've been trying and each time I end up only dropping ambiguous hints of how I feel, sometimes as jokes, which I fear is worse than not saying anything at all 😂
Definitely teared up listening to this sweet vulnerability. Thank you for sharing. I can relate to your experiences in more ways than one. As lonely as I’ve been feeling moving to my partners home state a few months ago, starting from scratch. It’s nice to know that I’m actually not alone in this experience and “it’s okay to not be okay,” oof yes. Also, The Body Keeps a Score! Quite the journey that read will take you on. Other reads along this subject are In The Realm of Hungry Ghosts by Gabor Mate and Waking The Tiger Healing Trauma by Peter Levine. Also anything by Ocean Vuong is precious, poetic and healing. 🍦🍠
My driving anxiety was off the charts when I first moved back. Chewing gum helped a lot in the beginning! Eventually had to ween myself off the gum tho but the driving anxiety is gone
such a side note but i LOVE damo T_T it's such an experience n so happy you get to try it
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I'm also on a skincare channel called beauty within so I test a lot of products!
this 🤍
Let’s sing it from the rooftops and tattoo it to our skins; “it’s okay, to not be okay.” ❤
The driving anxiety is real! I can’t stand driving anymore because of all the idiotic drivers on the road where I live. How are they going to drive 80 mph in a 25 mph zone? smh Anyway, I’m in therapy for ptsd and this therapist has been helping me feel my feelings and where they arise from. A lot of it has to do with the trauma I experienced as a kid, but also because of the inexperience I have in life. There were a lot of milestones I missed in life and now I have to “adult” without them. Little did I know, plenty of adults don’t know how to adult either so I feel much better about getting older and having brand new experiences.
thank you for this video.
damn, you did so much cleaning and organizing. that must've been so much, I'm tired just thinking about it. I hope your dude pulled his own weight.
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Miss you ❤
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hello sweet potato!
I loveeee your white tank top! Where’d you get ur from?? It’s so hard to find good straight neck tops 🥺
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Hi Rowenia❣️ Not to overthink this, but could it be that you are not thriving in your current space. Is this really what you want? Trying to make "everything-not just the stuff" fit? Should you both declutter or move? Please remember sweetest potato, you are beautiful and loved. Save some of the "wifey" stuff until you Both say I do. 🥰
Yup ips
I found the Body Keeps the Score kind of traumatizing in itself, ironically. It's a heavy book that recounts a lot of the trauma of others.
Dear ro, how are you? I am writing to you from Argentina. I would like to ask you if you could please translate your videos into different languages (such as Spanish) as you did before, I would really appreciate it since the automatic translation on UA-cam is not very good. I love you so much, your videos inspire me to be a better person since I met you here. kisses and hugs
5:41 the feel when you have a stuffy nose 😞
Something strange peep,squeak,sqealers monopoly? Or coraline.