My ex was here Saturday night. He drank so much that he couldn’t even stay awake. In between his dozing and getting an other drink, he was flattering me, acting so contrite, kissing my hand…he’s sorry now and it’s too late. I’m putting my house on the market and moving away. I believe God is threshing my life getting rid of the chaff. I’ve been a maid for a man for 42 years…now I can be a handmaiden for the Lord. My true first love and Savior. He is good!!
@@1010QUEEN7 Thank you. My house sold in 2 days and I’m packing it all up in a PODS not knowing where the Lord will lead me to be. He blessed me with top dollar with the sale and I KNOW He has my next earth dwelling chosen! He does go before us, it’s true. I have a lot of packing in a short amount of time and He has brought me the help I need to load it all up! The Lord is amazing! He alone is helping me to walk away from the ex. I admit my heart hasn’t quite matched up with my head and I’m trusting in God alone as I obey Thank you for your kind comment and I will pray for you
He doesn't miss ME. He never loved ME. He used me, conned me and grifted me. Oh and he loved me soooooooo much, huh?Then he devalued, discarded and ghosted me. Yes, I should thank God. But he won't go away. He won't leave me alone. Keeps on insisting how much he loves me. Soulless monster. I wish we never met. I wish we were still strangers.
You think God isn't listening…. Just got done eating my late lunch and just sitting here. When my exhusband of over 20 years ago popped in my head and I busted out in tears. I do I miss my former best friend… unfortunately he wasn't really my best friend lol! But this video popped up Immediately! Thank you! ❤️🔥
This is one of the first channels that connects the true spiritual nature of this. I have no ill will toward my soon to be ex husband. I can see the spiritual sickness and know that God wants victory and for me to continue to pray in his behalf. While still his wife I have spiritual authority to pray on his behalf and of our family. I do not desire to be married to him and am now, myself, becoming healthy and whole again. I was physically sick a couple of years ago because of the stress of all of this-until I was coached to physical and mental strength and was able to see my part change how I responded and boundaries. I now had the strength to stand and respond in love and non-emotional healthy ways-then his “uglies” were more exposed and he needed to discard me or face/surrender himself. Thank You, Lord, for being able to see this clearly and healing to our family and the breaking of the chain✝️
This is gold. This is the wisdom I've been praying for. Yes, the LORD discarded them for me! After being treated like a slave, like garbage, and treated like a personal bank machine for many years, the LORD protect me from physical harm. Praise you God for my new life with Jesus, and my new gift of discernment.
Almost 3 years since I left, he misses what I provided for him, I facilitated a great life for him. Our son visits him every Sunday, his home is cold, he has no home comforts, empty food cupboards and he sleeps on the sofa after an evening of drinking Jack Daniels. He isn’t grown up enough to care for himself because that was my role, he regrets that I woke up 😊
My narcissist x husband turned 60 today. I have read and heard that narcissists don't do well with 'aging'. Having been completely NC for 3 years I have no idea how he is doing with getting older, but I can imagine that balding, wrinkles, and a beer belly aren't what he wants to see in the mirror. The mirror doesn't care about his feelings. If there is someone in his life, God help them, with his whining, moaning and groaning.
I am a christian sometimes not the best but with this said and after alot of both secular and biblical research I believe this has a spiritual root cause. Often childhood trauma can trigger this. I believe demonic spirits are at the root of all this. I also believe in healing through inner healing and deliverance.
I was apart from a narcissist I had previously been with. Over 11 years has passed when she got a hold of me again. During our first phone call over a decade later, she was crying and said "I don't know how I could have ruined something that was so good" I took her back and we're together over a year before. . . . . . Surprise!! She ruined something that was so good again. Same issue again (infidelity) and we were done.
@@1010QUEEN7 I told myself for 12.3 years, NEVER TAKE BACK A NARCISSIST. This was drilled into my head from my very first narc meeting/video. It scared me bcse everyone that went back, had a horror story. They sound SO SINCERE AND BELIEVABLE, but they have an ulterior motive! They're Demons. 👹
Hi Dave! Good to see you 🙌🏽 I’ve been hovered by 5 people in the past 2 months! Not from THE narcissist. But I’m now realizing how many narcissists are out there! Wow. And it’s so easy to recognize now, thanks to THE narcissist. They’re so pathetic, truly
@@jankucera8505 💯!!! And these people some of them hovered 5 yrs later, another was 2 or so! I wasn’t prepared but there it was, right in my face and recognized right away... THE narcissist has been gone now celebrating a year of his unmissed pressence 🙌🏽
Same for me! People who I haven’t seen and spoke to in years were suddenly hitting me up on social media saying they “missed me”. Lol like wtf! But like you, not my actual ex narc himself. But yeah since being with my ex narc, they are much easier to pick out now thankfully 😂
The health problems are 💯 real! I thought 2022 would be a great year after putting the narcissist in the rear view mirror, but low and behold health issues that I’ve NEVER had before, I’m finally on the mend of them! But I found out his ex had a suicide attempt and he stole her car while she was in the hospital! I don’t know her, but man does my heart go out to her genuinely, that was almost me. Guard your precious spirit people! The narcissist is a coward that needs to be GONE and left to their own demise and their dark attachments. Return their curses back to sender...
They will all end up in total darkness for eternity we will never see them again I know the narc I'm married to will never make it to the kingdom of God he is so defiled
Beware of back to sender prayers because it’s witchcraft. If you’re a Believer you need to read the Bible especially the book of Proverbs where The Most High God has already written about how He will deal with these wicked people.
One thing I've always loved and noticed about your videos is the soft way that you speak to an audience of people who have been on edge for along time. People like us may appreciate a fire in the message of recovery but some of us have a hard time listening to it preached with such a volume and passion because we have spent alot of time being screamed at and abused. I would say it's akin to veterans with PTSD and loud noise or a dog that's been beaten for a long time and when someone raises their voice they tremble in fear. It's something about your channel I appreciate, the way you pass on this information.
I speak for alot of people, glad your back!! I'm a true survivor of narcissistic mother-in-law & sister-in-law for 40 years, acting like I never existed after husband suddenly died 4 years ago 😥 Next year I will be 70!!
I left my narc ex boyfriend 3 days ago. I had 13 dollars in my pocket. God has opened up the doors and blessing to show me the way and provide for me. I feel like I’ve gotten more done in the past 3 days then in months. I have a question if any one has experienced this, my narc helped and bought me things all the time but wanted constant praise for what he did. Has anyone else experienced this? And then if I did not praise him for his unsolicited help he would berate me and tell me how unappreciative I was. I love this channel so so helpful thank you.
Yes, it is... after investing 50 years into the marrage I made with my " best friend" he divorced me. Not only was I informed infrount of our councelor "that he hadn't loved me in "decade's " then he stated "after all the nice holidays I've taken you on...( annual vacations and yes they were nice, not asked for but because he wanted to go there we went) they were enjoyable when he was WITH me. Itt got to where he was doing his thing. And I was finding things to do. So yes it felt like I owed something to him... still love him BUT...
Dave. I watched you two years ago when I ended it with the narc however he sucked me back in… I wasn’t strong enough back then… I am now. I immediately did no contact, kicked him out of my house and blocked him on everything. Please don’t ever stop making these videos…. Your words are what many people need to hear.
You are a lifesaver, I have said it before, but 3 years ago I learned from you what narcissism was. There was you and a couple of others that opened my mind. Thank God for people like you! I had no clue that there were people like that. I needed that education, and thanks for sharing your help and experience. I will know what to look for again. I have no plans to ever have another relationship, but if I did, I would know what I was looking at. You were the one that said they had a harem garage. I understood that, I finally got it.
Me Too! Thank God for This Education! Doing Deep Healing from Childhood that Set me up for Narcissistic Abuse! Check out Crappy Childhood Fairy! God Bless
You helped me a lot 2-3 years ago. Because you speak the truth and tell it how it is and ppl don't get it if they don't experience it. The mental abuse. Looking good, Dave! Stay well 🙏
I'm glad to hear this in this way. I realized after we were married that we were not evenly yoked in the worse way. I am a Christian, saved at 5 and raised in church. He raised in evil and a cruel man now. A narcissistic. The phrase God pulled me out instead of me being discarded is comforting and gives me a totally new perspective. Thanks
I always learn something from listening to your posts. It took me a long time to learn that it's not that narcissists don't want to go deep. It's that there is no depth there to do that. It's like trying to swim in a pool that's 1 ft deep.
Dave Dave Dave, I miss you and the gang so much. So glorious that you are still spreading the good word and taking care of business. May the light never leave your side warrior.
Happy Monday Dave! Just participated in the Braille Challenge at Braille Institute. I won in 2020 but not this round. I had so much fun in LA. If you’re still in Nashville, try the Peg Leg Porker. Best barbecue nachos ever! Great video! So glad that you’re back on here. Love you back. Hugs. 💕
Hey Dave. I hope life is treating you well. So great to see you’re posting this content again. I’ve been watching your channel for 3 years and you have kept me on the right track and continued to help me not reply to the narc no matter what they say anymore because they are just an empty meat suit. I’m a week away from 1 year no contact! 🎉 I watch at least one of your videos daily, you’re my mindfulness if you will! Thank you for helping me and so many other people who have found themselves caught between their head and their heart. You helped guide me safely away and Im sure you saved so many people from returning to the chaos they’ve come from. Peace and love ❤
That was frightening. I have heard other stories of Narcs with a couple exes that died. Watching who you let near yourself is huge. I wish I knew earlier in life. Great message 🙏
I like your bright kitchen as the background now - very nice. You look very healthy Dave, I hope you are keeping well. It's great to see you back! The sooner we get these toxic demons out of our lives permanently, the sooner we have freedom from these leeches sucking the life out of us. I'm so happy to finally be free myself.
All I can say is OH well they should have treated us right when they had us instead of them treated us badly by torching us .Dave so had & happy that you are back . Missed you ! Thank you Dave for you being here with your videos & all the survivors comments here . I hoped you & all the survivors here to have a wonderful lovely blessed 🙏 night 🙏
I’m trying to get away from a 16 year relationship with the most manipulative, lying, narcissist. Everything you have said is exactly my life. I don’t want to be single but I know it’s not even real! We never married (surprise) and I can’t even begin to tell the lord and cheating all while treating me as if I did something wrong. I have seriously questioned my sanity. I have no friends anymore and no family to speak of. I just need a plan.
Good to see you Dave, it’s been two years no contact and out of the blue he follows me to the post office to see if I’ve been spreading rumors about him I just minded my own business and went about my way thank God I’m out. Thank you so much for your help💯
Thank you for this video. I've been saying for a long time that it feels like there's a demon on me/trying to attack me/trying to take me down. And that it came from my ex narc. I was sick all the time, I fell into a deep, dark depression, I was drinking very heavily. That demon wanted me dead. Well, I finally beat him! I started counseling, I quit drinking alcohol and I am doing so much better now! The only way I can describe what I went through is there was a demon after me. So, what you said, is the truth! I've experienced it. Again, thank you!
Wow, I just can’t believe the timing of your video and where I’m at. I’m not even going to get into it but all I can tell you is God is always on time. Thank you.
Thank you for coming back and speaking on this topic. You were right, it is needed. Especially with so many so willing and able to do the worst things, regardless of even young children being involved. Such selfishness is the very opposite of Love. And it does equate Biblically with "wickedness". And they do not love the Truth - that being a Godly type of Love, real love. They chase a counterfeit, mimic and mirror, project and deflect - ANYTHING due to the fear they have of what is real. They are under a powerful delusion, even though they sense what IS true. Some part of them hates it now. "Reprobate" indeed. But they cannot chart how. It's no different then we all might be if we truly let our love grow cold.
Dave I’ve followed you for a long time. Sooo glad you are back. I went to get thrown and I’m working on my relationship with God everyday. My narc died unexpectedly in Aug. it was very unexpected. I’m so confused. The curse is gone but how can I celebrate a death? Plus I still love and miss my narc even though God had been working on me so much that I had already told my narc I would be leaving at the end of the year to fix the broken relationship that was caused by the narc with my child. I finally found my priorities and was almost out the door and then … my narc died. How can I ever see this as a blessing? Death is final and in my empathetic heart I think all people have good in them and deserve a chance to see the light. Even though I wasn’t going to hang around to witness that turn in my narcs life I still felt like they deserved that opportunity. But now they are gone forever. Most likely in hell which tears me apart. I couldn’t save them. Spiritually, in the moment of their death and now in the after life. Knowing where they are isn’t satisfactory. I take no joy in any of this. Yet my life … well my life is mine again and it feels sooo good. The shadows are gone, I live in the light again. How do I come to peace with this? Why can’t I find the happiness in it just like my family and old friends say they have. I know during the course of our relationship I must have said “I wish they were dead” but now that they are… I wish they weren’t. Do you have any advice for what I see myself now as a “former or widowed herein garage attendant”? I’m trying to live in the night but I fear this non closer ending to a horror movie like life may still end up haunting my thoughts and heart. How do I find peace in this? Thank you and I’m glad you are back.
Hi Dave, your videos are always very helpful. A new narc is after me and even when I tell him “no thank you I just want to be friends,” he’s still trying the love bombing and so I’m blocking now. He wouldn’t take no for an answer. They are getting much easier to spot after watching so many of your videos! Thank you again for all you do to help all of us.
Hey, it’s Shay. 64 yrs old. my recent break-up w/the narcissist (he is 72) He claims to be a super-duper Christian, at church whenever the door is open, is involved with college ministry, military ministry, prison ministry, street preaching, Bible study that goes each year from Sept thru May…. reads the Bible all the time….. yet our relationship blew up 3 months ago because I discovered he was cheating on me w/someone he had cheated on his wife with decades ago! He is ex-Catholic. so, I was devastated and now he is angry with me, his brief apology was insincere… etc. I’m seeing Christian counselor psychologist and psychiatrist and now I began taking an anti-anxiety med, a sleep med….. i am devastated because we were about to get married. I am so thankful that God allowed me to follow him into the bathroom where I saw him texting w/someone while looking over his shoulder to see if I were coming near the bathroom! it was all so hideous. So many lies he has told me. My question is: Can a covert narcissist really be a born again Christian, genuinely ??? i am so turned off I stopped attending my church for now, taking a break and healing. I am so mind-blown that such people exist. I always knew he was odd, had some weird ways, so now I know he lives a double life! he is so fake! he street preaches and yells at cars Bible scripture…yet, LOOOK HOW HE LIVES HIS LIFE! IS HE A CHRISTIAN? really.
His sister caught covid, I got it a few days later and ended up in hospital. I was tormented being told I had ruined their family Christmas by giving his sister covid. I had to send him a pic to prove i was in hospital, then was told i was impersonating his deceased mam in the photo( she had passed a few weeks previous). Almost 3 years no contact, grateful for the opportunity to get to live narc free life. Thanks for all you do for us💜
Omg, I can’t believe you went through that. I’ve just been discarded. That fool have me covid in January and within 2 months tge devalue started ( I now have long covid including a clot in my jugular vein). This relationship has destroyed me body and soul
@@TheLisajoyce your in the right place now beautiful. I came here after my disgard and I gave me the strength to never go back. Every day your free of him your mind body and soul will heal. Be strong and be brave beautiful, you got this 💜
Thank you for the Harem garage analogy It helped me tremendously I am sure it has helped many others also to be freed from toxic relationships Or relationSHIT as you once so accurately described these relationships
Amen 🙏 I just subscribed to your channel because you speak In alignment with the spirit of God. I released the stronghold of the narcissistic relationship I was in for 8 months!!! I'm truly blessed and highly favored by the Lord! Thank You for coming back 🙂
Thank you I forgot to tell you that you really helped me to learn about what narcissist really was and woke me up completely it's been almost 2 yrs with no more contact. You are really a blessing ❤️
Hello Dave thank you for being obedient to the Lord's calling on your life. I truly enjoy listening to the revelation of this pandemic of narcissistic people. For the lord said in the last days people will be lovers of self and I truly believe that narcissist are just that. Thank you again for your obedience to God. Blessings to you in Jesus mighty name amen.
that is exactly what i have done, i withdrew and the admiration drooped like a stone. i was constantly being mistreated, my spirit couldn't take it any more.
God bless you again Dave , you and God are the ones that help me to keep strong and not keep in contact nor answering to his messages I am feeling really relieved about that and even more to know that we have been 4 months 10.000 miles away from each other 🎉🎉🎉 that has been a deliverance!
Long time no see, I don't know what happened to my subscription to your Channel. I'm glad to see that you popped up. Thank you very much! I pray that the Lord continues to bless you with your ministry I asked this in Jesus name amen! Btw, I love the background because you decorate exactly the same way I do. Everything is in its place and everything is shiny and I love lights background lights. Anyway I just appreciate it lol.
The Lord has ordered my steps a long time ago and I’ve been getting a flood of Narcissistic Abuse Videos and posts all through my social media. I left my Narc bf 3 weeks ago. This is definitely a sign! I love how you bring the Word of God into this to remind us. I receive it. Thank you so much.
Cheers! Coffee ☕️ ☕️! Welcome back. Good to see you. The Narcissist doesn’t miss what they can’t mirror. Out of sight out of mind. Object constancy. You are painted black. The Narcissist (female) lives between the Garden of Eden & Disneyland where Lilith meets the Beauty & the Beast with their imaginary friend $tinkerbell at the wheel portraying the all-knowing Ringmaster in their grandiosity and entitlement orchestrating drama and chaos with ease with the same reason a dog licks its ball$. Why? Because she can. Empaths, Stay alert! Stay alive! Stay strong! Peace ✌️
I think the one I knew is following me on Twitter with fake famous celebrities accounts ! I like Twitter I've blocked 5 fake accounts I don't like the thought of them looking at all my posts it's creepy ? 🙏
Thank u so much. My ex left in July and no doubt was unfaithful throughout the last three years he lived with me. I'm still healing from the emotional and financial mess he put me through. He's still at it. He left in July, now all of a sudden he wants my cats. He had no problem leaving them behind (as well as me) and is using the sudden interest on taking them to spite me. He knows how much I love my cats. Please pray I can extricate myself from his horrific abuse.
Happy to see you're back, I just wanted to take the time to say ", thank you. You've helped me to overcome toxic bonding. It's going on 7 years ☺️ He found where I was residing this past summer and he tried his best to get me back but I didn't give him a chance to barely say hi before I kicked his butt out ! My brother had went food shopping for my elderly parents and as always dad help bring the groceries in when he ", the ex Narc snatched the bags from his hands and rushed into the house. Yes, unfortunately he knows where my parents live. I had no words for him. After that he tried 3 more times and my brother told him not to come there anymore, plus he told him that I moved to Virginia. He believed him because previously I'd relocated to St. Louis. All the years that I was with him daily he would wish his mother dead, and I didn't understand during that time nor did I know about Narcissist. This past summer his mother died and I guess he thought that I'd give him sympathy 🤨 he thought he could play on my emotions ", I don't think so . Nevertheless, rip to his mother; her family abused her. From her husband down to her children it was a pretty sad thing to see. His father whom my ex was close to died in a house fire about four years prior to the mother's death. Watching your videos strengthen me to the core of my being. I've learned my self worth, I've learned that it's okay to say no and set healthy boundaries. Thank you for your wisdom, knowledge and sharing your experience with us. 🙏🙏🙏May God continue to bless you in more ways than one.
The comment about the guys narc girlfriend dying with her stomach and feet swelling. I was just Discarded like a piece of trash. I moved 40 miles to be closer to her. And she discarded me 2 weeks after I moved in to my apt. I have been here a month and still not fully unpacked. I am frozen. Your video helped me immensely. My ex girlfriend is sick. I took care of her and she lived with me for awhile. She moved back home to her parents house where she lived before unable to work. I did everything and was getting exhausted. I miss her but adding everything up in my head, I was used and abused and then discarded because I started setting boundaries and speaking up. Now the blame was placed on me. I am empathic with a huge caring heart and showed her love. I thought the love I have in my spirit would soon or later help her. I was wrong. In my heart of hearts from spirit, I feel she won’t be here soon. It very much saddens me. But narcissism runs ramped in her house and she never learned love or self worth from her mother. I pray for all of them. Thank you for the video!!! It opened my eyes better with using the term spirit and getting close to the heart center! Devin
Greetings from Trinidad & Tobago.... Your videos have been helping me so much in dealing with my husband of 14 years... When he left for the 3rd time last weekend, I was not sad or distraught like the other times before... I know that this was God's doing... I am filled with the Holy Spirit and working on my relationship with Jesus Christ, while he doesn't care to turn his life around or repent... It is so true when you say they affect our spiritual strength.... We have two small children so I do want to fight for our marriage, but I know he never loved me and cannot do so, until he is delivered from that spirit of Narcissism. It is so great having a Christian perspective on dealing with Narcissism...
When you said that God discarded for us, I had to go into a praise break!!! Glory be to God!!! Our God knows what’s best for us!!! ❤🙌🏾
AMEN AMEN🙏
Thank you Jesus I know God loves me
Amen
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Amen! That is SO TRUE!
My ex was here Saturday night. He drank so much that he couldn’t even stay awake. In between his dozing and getting an other drink, he was flattering me, acting so contrite, kissing my hand…he’s sorry now and it’s too late. I’m putting my house on the market and moving away. I believe God is threshing my life getting rid of the chaff. I’ve been a maid for a man for 42 years…now I can be a handmaiden for the Lord. My true first love and Savior. He is good!!
Beautiful soooooooo beautiful bless you
@@1010QUEEN7 Thank you. My house sold in 2 days and I’m packing it all up in a PODS not knowing where the Lord will lead me to be. He blessed me with top dollar with the sale and I KNOW He has my next earth dwelling chosen! He does go before us, it’s true. I have a lot of packing in a short amount of time and He has brought me the help I need to load it all up! The Lord is amazing! He alone is helping me to walk away from the ex. I admit my heart hasn’t quite matched up with my head and I’m trusting in God alone as I obey
Thank you for your kind comment and I will pray for you
and the Bible says above all things guard your heart ♥ everything you do flows from it
He doesn't miss ME. He never loved ME. He used me, conned me and grifted me. Oh and he loved me soooooooo much, huh?Then he devalued, discarded and ghosted me. Yes, I should thank God. But he won't go away. He won't leave me alone. Keeps on insisting how much he loves me. Soulless monster. I wish we never met. I wish we were still strangers.
Keep that door shut, they don't change!
You think God isn't listening…. Just got done eating my late lunch and just sitting here. When my exhusband of over 20 years ago popped in my head and I busted out in tears. I do I miss my former best friend… unfortunately he wasn't really my best friend lol! But this video popped up Immediately! Thank you! ❤️🔥
The way you get over this is to remember how they left..
@@dawnserrano737 absolutely! I'll never forget either...living nightmare
That's how God works it's amazing!
@@Thegamehhh449 🥰
@@conservativehippie9736 a 38 years nightmare all bad memories with the narc that devil was soooooooo dirty to me
This is one of the first channels that connects the true spiritual nature of this.
I have no ill will toward my soon to be ex husband. I can see the spiritual sickness and know that God wants victory and for me to continue to pray in his behalf. While still his wife I have spiritual authority to pray on his behalf and of our family. I do not desire to be married to him and am now, myself, becoming healthy and whole again.
I was physically sick a couple of years ago because of the stress of all of this-until I was coached to physical and mental strength and was able to see my part change how I responded and boundaries. I now had the strength to stand and respond in love and non-emotional healthy ways-then his “uglies” were more exposed and he needed to discard me or face/surrender himself.
Thank You, Lord, for being able to see this clearly and healing to our family and the breaking of the chain✝️
This is gold. This is the wisdom I've been praying for. Yes, the LORD discarded them for me! After being treated like a slave, like garbage, and treated like a personal bank machine for many years, the LORD protect me from physical harm. Praise you God for my new life with Jesus, and my new gift of discernment.
Got her blocked.
She can go on draining other dudes cause ‘she a bad bitch’.
I don’t want either of those words to be a self image of my lover.
Almost 3 years since I left, he misses what I provided for him, I facilitated a great life for him. Our son visits him every Sunday, his home is cold, he has no home comforts, empty food cupboards and he sleeps on the sofa after an evening of drinking Jack Daniels. He isn’t grown up enough to care for himself because that was my role, he regrets that I woke up 😊
My narcissist x husband turned 60 today. I have read and heard that narcissists don't do well with 'aging'. Having been completely NC for 3 years I have no idea how he is doing with getting older, but I can imagine that balding, wrinkles, and a beer belly aren't what he wants to see in the mirror. The mirror doesn't care about his feelings. If there is someone in his life, God help them, with his whining, moaning and
groaning.
Dave, as I was listening, I kept wishing you knew how much you help me. I was a shattered person. Jesus and people like you help me heal.
I am a christian sometimes not the best but with this said and after alot of both secular and biblical research I believe this has a spiritual root cause. Often childhood trauma can trigger this. I believe demonic spirits are at the root of all this. I also believe in healing through inner healing and deliverance.
I was apart from a narcissist I had previously been with. Over 11 years has passed when she got a hold of me again. During our first phone call over a decade later, she was crying and said "I don't know how I could have ruined something that was so good" I took her back and we're together over a year before. . . . . . Surprise!! She ruined something that was so good again. Same issue again (infidelity) and we were done.
I would never take him back I will be happy the day I don't have to see him I don't want to see him on a picture my peace will be so sweet
@@1010QUEEN7 I told myself for 12.3 years, NEVER TAKE BACK A NARCISSIST.
This was drilled into my head from my very first narc meeting/video. It scared me bcse everyone that went back, had a horror story. They sound SO SINCERE AND BELIEVABLE, but they have an ulterior motive! They're Demons. 👹
Hi Dave! Good to see you 🙌🏽
I’ve been hovered by 5 people in the past 2 months! Not from THE narcissist. But I’m now realizing how many narcissists are out there! Wow. And it’s so easy to recognize now, thanks to THE narcissist. They’re so pathetic, truly
@@donnacrowe1913 oh gross! I hope you deactivate all your accounts and phone numbers, emails
This doesn’t sound good
@@donnacrowe1913 they are getting desperate right now as the economy & society is collapsing
did you cut them out of your life? because that's what narcissists do after the discard :)
@@jankucera8505 💯!!!
And these people some of them hovered 5 yrs later, another was 2 or so! I wasn’t prepared but there it was, right in my face and recognized right away... THE narcissist has been gone now celebrating a year of his unmissed pressence 🙌🏽
Same for me! People who I haven’t seen and spoke to in years were suddenly hitting me up on social media saying they “missed me”. Lol like wtf! But like you, not my actual ex narc himself. But yeah since being with my ex narc, they are much easier to pick out now thankfully 😂
I know mine doesn’t miss me, I started to set too many boundaries and love myself. He probably feels great relief ( for the moment ) with his new wife
The revelation when you see them for who they are.
The health problems are 💯 real! I thought 2022 would be a great year after putting the narcissist in the rear view mirror, but low and behold health issues that I’ve NEVER had before, I’m finally on the mend of them! But I found out his ex had a suicide attempt and he stole her car while she was in the hospital! I don’t know her, but man does my heart go out to her genuinely, that was almost me.
Guard your precious spirit people! The narcissist is a coward that needs to be GONE and left to their own demise and their dark attachments. Return their curses back to sender...
They will all end up in total darkness for eternity we will never see them again I know the narc I'm married to will never make it to the kingdom of God he is so defiled
Beware of back to sender prayers because it’s witchcraft. If you’re a Believer you need to read the Bible especially the book of Proverbs where The Most High God has already written about how He will deal with these wicked people.
@@1010QUEEN7 there’s actually no proof of this besides what the evil Vatican canonizes in the Bible... be free!
One thing I've always loved and noticed about your videos is the soft way that you speak to an audience of people who have been on edge for along time. People like us may appreciate a fire in the message of recovery but some of us have a hard time listening to it preached with such a volume and passion because we have spent alot of time being screamed at and abused. I would say it's akin to veterans with PTSD and loud noise or a dog that's been beaten for a long time and when someone raises their voice they tremble in fear. It's something about your channel I appreciate, the way you pass on this information.
I speak for alot of people, glad your back!! I'm a true survivor of narcissistic mother-in-law & sister-in-law for 40 years, acting like I never existed after husband suddenly died 4 years ago 😥 Next year I will be 70!!
I left my narc ex boyfriend 3 days ago. I had 13 dollars in my pocket. God has opened up the doors and blessing to show me the way and provide for me. I feel like I’ve gotten more done in the past 3 days then in months. I have a question if any one has experienced this, my narc helped and bought me things all the time but wanted constant praise for what he did. Has anyone else experienced this? And then if I did not praise him for his unsolicited help he would berate me and tell me how unappreciative I was. I love this channel so so helpful thank you.
Yes, it is... after investing 50 years into the marrage I made with my " best friend" he divorced me. Not only was I informed infrount of our councelor "that he hadn't loved me in "decade's " then he stated "after all the nice holidays I've taken you on...( annual vacations and yes they were nice, not asked for but because he wanted to go there we went) they were enjoyable when he was WITH me. Itt got to where he was doing his thing. And I was finding things to do. So yes it felt like I owed something to him... still love him BUT...
Yes mam! Been there dealt with it. I’m giving it to God and moving on with my life.
Yes he bought me a lot but took things back!! N he wanted praise praise forever!!!
Dave. I watched you two years ago when I ended it with the narc however he sucked me back in… I wasn’t strong enough back then… I am now. I immediately did no contact, kicked him out of my house and blocked him on everything. Please don’t ever stop making these videos…. Your words are what many people need to hear.
You are a lifesaver, I have said it before, but 3 years ago I learned from you what narcissism was. There was you and a couple of others that opened my mind. Thank God for people like you! I had no clue that there were people like that. I needed that education, and thanks for sharing your help and experience. I will know what to look for again. I have no plans to ever have another relationship, but if I did, I would know what I was looking at. You were the one that said they had a harem garage. I understood that, I finally got it.
Me Too! Thank God for This Education!
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You helped me a lot 2-3 years ago. Because you speak the truth and tell it how it is and ppl don't get it if they don't experience it. The mental abuse. Looking good, Dave! Stay well 🙏
I'm glad to hear this in this way. I realized after we were married that we were not evenly yoked in the worse way. I am a Christian, saved at 5 and raised in church. He raised in evil and a cruel man now. A narcissistic. The phrase God pulled me out instead of me being discarded is comforting and gives me a totally new perspective. Thanks
I always learn something from listening to your posts. It took me a long time to learn that it's not that narcissists don't want to go deep. It's that there is no depth there to do that. It's like trying to swim in a pool that's 1 ft deep.
Let them miss out and dont ever go back
Dave, you look exceptionally good in that shirt color.
Dave Dave Dave, I miss you and the gang so much. So glorious that you are still spreading the good word and taking care of business. May the light never leave your side warrior.
You are so right Dave! I thank God he let me see the light on the Narcissist that crossed my path. I will not answer or allow contact.
Happy Monday Dave! Just participated in the Braille Challenge at Braille Institute. I won in 2020 but not this round. I had so much fun in LA. If you’re still in Nashville, try the Peg Leg Porker. Best barbecue nachos ever! Great video! So glad that you’re back on here. Love you back. Hugs. 💕
Hey Dave. I hope life is treating you well. So great to see you’re posting this content again. I’ve been watching your channel for 3 years and you have kept me on the right track and continued to help me not reply to the narc no matter what they say anymore because they are just an empty meat suit. I’m a week away from 1 year no contact! 🎉
I watch at least one of your videos daily, you’re my mindfulness if you will! Thank you for helping me and so many other people who have found themselves caught between their head and their heart. You helped guide me safely away and Im sure you saved so many people from returning to the chaos they’ve come from. Peace and love ❤
Chaos. !!
Wins the award for word that best describes" living with a toxic narcissist".
That was frightening. I have heard other stories of Narcs with a couple exes that died. Watching who you let near yourself is huge. I wish I knew earlier in life. Great message 🙏
EXACTLY THE TRUTH!...Nobody says it like you Dave🙌🏽
I can't tell you how happy I am that you are back. I missed you so much and you're take on this is 100% as always!
I like your bright kitchen as the background now - very nice. You look very healthy Dave, I hope you are keeping well. It's great to see you back!
The sooner we get these toxic demons out of our lives permanently, the sooner we have freedom from these leeches sucking the life out of us. I'm so happy to finally be free myself.
All I can say is OH well they should have treated us right when they had us instead of them treated us badly by torching us .Dave so had & happy that you are back . Missed you ! Thank you Dave for you being here with your videos & all the survivors comments here . I hoped you & all the survivors here to have a wonderful lovely blessed 🙏 night 🙏
I’m trying to get away from a 16 year relationship with the most manipulative, lying, narcissist.
Everything you have said is exactly my life. I don’t want to be single but I know it’s not even real!
We never married (surprise) and I can’t even begin to tell the lord and cheating all while treating me as if I did something wrong. I have seriously questioned my sanity. I have no friends anymore and no family to speak of. I just need a plan.
Prayers.
Good to see you Dave, it’s been two years no contact and out of the blue he follows me to the post office to see if I’ve been spreading rumors about him I just minded my own business and went about my way thank God I’m out. Thank you so much for your help💯
Sadly, there are so many more narcissist in the world than empathy.
Hey, long time no see! 🎃 Just stopping by to say hello from Sand Springs, Oklahoma. 🍁🍂🍁🍂
Thank you for this video. I've been saying for a long time that it feels like there's a demon on me/trying to attack me/trying to take me down. And that it came from my ex narc. I was sick all the time, I fell into a deep, dark depression, I was drinking very heavily. That demon wanted me dead. Well, I finally beat him! I started counseling, I quit drinking alcohol and I am doing so much better now! The only way I can describe what I went through is there was a demon after me. So, what you said, is the truth! I've experienced it. Again, thank you!
They miss the environment you provided and lived in....unfortunately you were there. They don’t miss that
I'm so happy you're back!! Thank you for being alive 💖✨
The work was to hard, no contact for almost 2 weeks.. i have no choice, 3 years of abuse, i dont want to be unhealthy anymore.
Yeah I'm up on 1 year no contact, it was tough at first but saw the the light and relief I had, it's like dropping a big bag of bricks if you will!?!?
Wow, I just can’t believe the timing of your video and where I’m at. I’m not even going to get into it but all I can tell you is God is always on time. Thank you.
I live for the "...guys...!" part!!😂😍
Your so awesome!!
Thank you for coming back and speaking on this topic. You were right, it is needed. Especially with so many so willing and able to do the worst things, regardless of even young children being involved. Such selfishness is the very opposite of Love. And it does equate Biblically with "wickedness". And they do not love the Truth - that being a Godly type of Love, real love. They chase a counterfeit, mimic and mirror, project and deflect - ANYTHING due to the fear they have of what is real. They are under a powerful delusion, even though they sense what IS true. Some part of them hates it now. "Reprobate" indeed. But they cannot chart how. It's no different then we all might be if we truly let our love grow cold.
Dave I’ve followed you for a long time. Sooo glad you are back. I went to get thrown and I’m working on my relationship with God everyday. My narc died unexpectedly in Aug. it was very unexpected. I’m so confused. The curse is gone but how can I celebrate a death? Plus I still love and miss my narc even though God had been working on me so much that I had already told my narc I would be leaving at the end of the year to fix the broken relationship that was caused by the narc with my child. I finally found my priorities and was almost out the door and then … my narc died. How can I ever see this as a blessing? Death is final and in my empathetic heart I think all people have good in them and deserve a chance to see the light. Even though I wasn’t going to hang around to witness that turn in my narcs life I still felt like they deserved that opportunity. But now they are gone forever. Most likely in hell which tears me apart. I couldn’t save them. Spiritually, in the moment of their death and now in the after life. Knowing where they are isn’t satisfactory. I take no joy in any of this. Yet my life … well my life is mine again and it feels sooo good. The shadows are gone, I live in the light again. How do I come to peace with this? Why can’t I find the happiness in it just like my family and old friends say they have. I know during the course of our relationship I must have said “I wish they were dead” but now that they are… I wish they weren’t. Do you have any advice for what I see myself now as a “former or widowed herein garage attendant”? I’m trying to live in the night but I fear this non closer ending to a horror movie like life may still end up haunting my thoughts and heart. How do I find peace in this? Thank you and I’m glad you are back.
Hi Dave, your videos are always very helpful. A new narc is after me and even when I tell him “no thank you I just want to be friends,” he’s still trying the love bombing and so I’m blocking now. He wouldn’t take no for an answer. They are getting much easier to spot after watching so many of your videos! Thank you again for all you do to help all of us.
Hey, it’s Shay. 64 yrs old. my recent break-up w/the narcissist (he is 72) He claims to be a super-duper Christian, at church whenever the door is open, is involved with college ministry, military ministry, prison ministry, street preaching, Bible study that goes each year from Sept thru May…. reads the Bible all the time….. yet our relationship blew up 3 months ago because I discovered he was cheating on me w/someone he had cheated on his wife with decades ago! He is ex-Catholic. so, I was devastated and now he is angry with me, his brief apology was insincere… etc. I’m seeing Christian counselor psychologist and psychiatrist and now I began taking an anti-anxiety med, a sleep med….. i am devastated because we were about to get married. I am so thankful that God allowed me to follow him into the bathroom where I saw him texting w/someone while looking over his shoulder to see if I were coming near the bathroom! it was all so hideous.
So many lies he has told me. My question is: Can a covert narcissist really be a born again Christian, genuinely ??? i am so turned off I stopped attending my church for now, taking a break and healing. I am so mind-blown that such people exist. I always knew he was odd, had some weird ways, so now I know he lives a double life! he is so fake! he street preaches and yells at cars Bible scripture…yet, LOOOK HOW HE LIVES HIS LIFE!
IS HE A CHRISTIAN? really.
Good to see you Davr! I've missed your videos. Glad you're back.
His sister caught covid, I got it a few days later and ended up in hospital. I was tormented being told I had ruined their family Christmas by giving his sister covid. I had to send him a pic to prove i was in hospital, then was told i was impersonating his deceased mam in the photo( she had passed a few weeks previous). Almost 3 years no contact, grateful for the opportunity to get to live narc free life. Thanks for all you do for us💜
Omg, I can’t believe you went through that. I’ve just been discarded. That fool have me covid in January and within 2 months tge devalue started ( I now have long covid including a clot in my jugular vein). This relationship has destroyed me body and soul
@@TheLisajoyce your in the right place now beautiful. I came here after my disgard and I gave me the strength to never go back. Every day your free of him your mind body and soul will heal. Be strong and be brave beautiful, you got this 💜
Thank you so much for loving us and I am so happy you are back Dave!!!! Yayyyy clap!! 💞💯💫💥💯👏👏👏👏👏
Thank you for the Harem garage analogy It helped me tremendously I am sure it has helped many others also to be freed from toxic relationships Or relationSHIT as you once so accurately described these relationships
You’re right! We do need you. One of your videos 4 yrs ago was my first ah ha moment when I heard your harem analogy. It all finally made sense.
Amen 🙏 I just subscribed to your channel because you speak In alignment with the spirit of God. I released the stronghold of the narcissistic relationship I was in for 8 months!!! I'm truly blessed and highly favored by the Lord! Thank You for coming back 🙂
Dave, Welcome back to your Spot at the TOP. David, RI
Dave I’m sorry you experienced that, but you are today inspirational and knowledgeable and wonderfully made🙏✨
Dave you don’t no how many people you saved ! You are truly gods angel at work we love,you please stay safe my friend ❤🙏🤗
Great to see you back! It really does help the most! You really do help so many people. I see that.
Thank you I forgot to tell you that you really helped me to learn about what narcissist really was and woke me up completely it's been almost 2 yrs with no more contact. You are really a blessing ❤️
Thank you so much this definitely has hit home for me with my health issues
Welcome back Dave, you were missed ❤
Good to see you back, Dave. God bless you. Thank you for continuing to expose the truth.
Hello Dave thank you for being obedient to the Lord's calling on your life. I truly enjoy listening to the revelation of this pandemic of narcissistic people. For the lord said in the last days people will be lovers of self and I truly believe that narcissist are just that. Thank you again for your obedience to God. Blessings to you in Jesus mighty name amen.
that is exactly what i have done, i withdrew and the admiration drooped like a stone. i was constantly being mistreated, my spirit couldn't take it any more.
Thank you Dave Erickson ❤ on the money as usual
God bless you again Dave , you and God are the ones that help me to keep strong and not keep in contact nor answering to his messages
I am feeling really relieved about that and even more to know that we have been 4 months 10.000 miles away from each other 🎉🎉🎉 that has been a deliverance!
Aloha from Hawai'i. Thanks, Dave, to you Divorced & Mrs. A since February 2020!❤💜✝️🙏🏾☝🏿
Long time no see, I don't know what happened to my subscription to your Channel. I'm glad to see that you popped up. Thank you very much! I pray that the Lord continues to bless you with your ministry I asked this in Jesus name amen! Btw, I love the background because you decorate exactly the same way I do. Everything is in its place and everything is shiny and I love lights background lights. Anyway I just appreciate it lol.
u look great dave what ever u doing keep doing it 😘😘😘
Looking well Dave. Good to see you again
Thank you Dave for returning. Amen
STAYING WITH A NARCISSIST IS BEING COMPLICIT IN YOUR OWN DEMISE. PLEASE GET OUT, YOU CANNOT HEAL IN THE SAME PLACE THAT MADE YOU SICK.
Dave, I’ve been craving your intro for soooo looong, I’m so happy you’re back. I love you ❤️
🔥 🔥 🔥 🔥 beautiful and truth and nothing but the truth video 💪💪💪💪 Glory to God
The Lord has ordered my steps a long time ago and I’ve been getting a flood of Narcissistic Abuse Videos and posts all through my social media. I left my Narc bf 3 weeks ago.
This is definitely a sign!
I love how you bring the Word of God into this to remind us.
I receive it.
Thank you so much.
So happy to see you back on Dave! 👏👏👏💪💜✨
A great help. Thank you! Unfortunately, I too have had a few relationships with narcissists. Hopefully, I will know better in the future:)
God Bless your Soul I'm with you on that.
Cheers! Coffee ☕️ ☕️! Welcome back. Good to see you.
The Narcissist doesn’t miss what they can’t mirror. Out of sight out of mind. Object constancy. You are painted black.
The Narcissist (female) lives between the Garden of Eden & Disneyland where Lilith meets the Beauty & the Beast with their imaginary friend $tinkerbell at the wheel portraying the all-knowing Ringmaster in their grandiosity and entitlement orchestrating drama and chaos with ease with the same reason a dog licks its ball$. Why? Because she can.
Empaths, Stay alert! Stay alive! Stay strong! Peace ✌️
Truth. And I can really relate to the "dog hiygenics" analogy.
I think the one I knew is following me on Twitter with fake famous celebrities accounts ! I like Twitter I've blocked 5 fake accounts I don't like the thought of them looking at all my posts it's creepy ? 🙏
@@Lenak2266 Cluster B’s always creep. That is their multi-faceted specialty on all levels hidden behind a mask. They are all over the place.
Aye!!! There you are!
Good to see you again, binging your videos today for some reason, always good info.
Blessings 💫
Thank u so much. My ex left in July and no doubt was unfaithful throughout the last three years he lived with me. I'm still healing from the emotional and financial mess he put me through. He's still at it. He left in July, now all of a sudden he wants my cats. He had no problem leaving them behind (as well as me) and is using the sudden interest on taking them to spite me. He knows how much I love my cats. Please pray I can extricate myself from his horrific abuse.
Thank you Dave good to see you again 👍
Happy to see you're back, I just wanted to take the time to say ", thank you. You've helped me to overcome toxic bonding. It's going on 7 years ☺️ He found where I was residing this past summer and he tried his best to get me back but I didn't give him a chance to barely say hi before I kicked his butt out !
My brother had went food shopping for my elderly parents and as always dad help bring the groceries in when he ", the ex Narc snatched the bags from his hands and rushed into the house. Yes, unfortunately he knows where my parents live. I had no words for him. After that he tried 3 more times and my brother told him not to come there anymore, plus he told him that I moved to Virginia. He believed him because previously I'd relocated to St. Louis.
All the years that I was with him daily he would wish his mother dead, and I didn't understand during that time nor did I know about Narcissist. This past summer his mother died and I guess he thought that I'd give him sympathy 🤨 he thought he could play on my emotions ", I don't think so .
Nevertheless, rip to his mother; her family abused her. From her husband down to her children it was a pretty sad thing to see. His father whom my ex was close to died in a house fire about four years prior to the mother's death.
Watching your videos strengthen me to the core of my being. I've learned my self worth, I've learned that it's okay to say no and set healthy boundaries. Thank you for your wisdom, knowledge and sharing your experience with us. 🙏🙏🙏May God continue to bless you in more ways than one.
Always grateful to you Dave, you have no idea. Thanks!
✨🕊💫Sending love ❤️ & light 💫🕊✨
Hey Dave welcome back.... 1yr 4months no contact. God is Marvelous!
This is One of Your Best 👌
I needed to hear this from this prospective. I am being helped. Thank you.
So good to see you back Dave! You are the king of content in narc education. 😇😇 Thank you!
So glad you’re back! This was perfect timing! Great video❤
You’re right. We need you! ❤️💪
Dave you saved me from alot of grief
Thank you
The comment about the guys narc girlfriend dying with her stomach and feet swelling.
I was just Discarded like a piece of trash. I moved 40 miles to be closer to her. And she discarded me 2 weeks after I moved in to my apt. I have been here a month and still not fully unpacked. I am frozen. Your video helped me immensely. My ex girlfriend is sick. I took care of her and she lived with me for awhile. She moved back home to her parents house where she lived before unable to work. I did everything and was getting exhausted. I miss her but adding everything up in my head, I was used and abused and then discarded because I started setting boundaries and speaking up. Now the blame was placed on me. I am empathic with a huge caring heart and showed her love. I thought the love I have in my spirit would soon or later help her. I was wrong. In my heart of hearts from spirit, I feel she won’t be here soon. It very much saddens me. But narcissism runs ramped in her house and she never learned love or self worth from her mother. I pray for all of them.
Thank you for the video!!! It opened my eyes better with using the term spirit and getting close to the heart center! Devin
Nice to have you back brother ❣️
so happy your back Dave!! Thank you and GOD bless you
Greetings from Trinidad & Tobago.... Your videos have been helping me so much in dealing with my husband of 14 years... When he left for the 3rd time last weekend, I was not sad or distraught like the other times before... I know that this was God's doing... I am filled with the Holy Spirit and working on my relationship with Jesus Christ, while he doesn't care to turn his life around or repent... It is so true when you say they affect our spiritual strength.... We have two small children so I do want to fight for our marriage, but I know he never loved me and cannot do so, until he is delivered from that spirit of Narcissism. It is so great having a Christian perspective on dealing with Narcissism...
Yes, this is absolutely true.
Yes, something told me not to go back after the first night I met him! Always do things the hard way! 😕
Blessings, so glad to see you back!