Trauma Dump + Trying New Makeup: Dealing with Grief and Loss
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- Опубліковано 24 лип 2024
- Trying new makeup like the Shiseido Revitalessence Foundation, Kylie Cosmetics Concealer and REM Beauty which is now at Shoppers Drug Mart! Trauma Dump + Trying New Makeup: Dealing with Grief and Loss.
I wish I had some good resources for you on dealing with grief and loss. That being said, do what you gotta do, it really does seem to come in waves. The feelings are so complicated when you lose someone you had a complicated relationship with. I don't think I'll ever get over the loss of Roux, she was so much more than a cat. An absolute star here on this channel.
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You are so refreshingly real and honest, and even though I found your channel bc we're shade twins, I stay for your talks and reflections about life. You don't BS and I aspire to your level of emotional expression and self-awareness. Reminds me that I need to listen to your podcast more. Hearts for all you've been going through this past year.
So sorry about Roux. Our fur babies bring so much love to our lives and losing them is heart breaking. 💔🙏🐾
I'm glad you posted this. I thought about you today, that I hadn't seen you post in a while and wondered how you were.
First- your hair looks absolutely amazing!! So healthy, I love it!!
I also have a difficult relationship with my Mother so I can relate to you on that level. I'm so sorry for your losses and how hard it is. I hope you take time for yourself and find that balance between not pushing yourself too much, and find a way to continue to support yourself. It's good to be real and honest.
thanks so much! Sorry to hear you can relate, really appreciate hearing from you xoxo
I’m sending you a big hug! It’s okay to feel all the feelings and I think we show ourselves compassion by just listening to our bodies. If you don’t want to get out of bed don’t get out. With time you will start to feel better.
The makeup looks is stunning btw!! I'm very sorry to hear about the grief you're experiencing over the passing of your Mom and beloved cat!! I identify with what you're going through because in 2019 my mom passed away from cancer and then my boyfriend died suddenly 8 months later and right before the pandemic! I imagine that someone like you is struggling because while it's important to make space to feel, process and rest yourself as you do, you're also an adult who can't afford to sit around recklessly because you have bills and other aspects of life don't slow down because you've lost loved ones and a parent. The only thing I would advise (only if you asked of course) is to take whatever time you can use to let yourself go through it ...good, bad, nothing, everything...you already described what it's like emotionally and since there's no way of knowing how long this level will continue, all you can do is the best you can, whatever that may be like for you! Thank you for sharing because I definitely share many of the same feelings, even after four years! I wish you well and gradual peace and healing! ❤️❤️
I get it. My dad passed away in the summer. We also didn't have the best relationship. I'm still angry with him for stuff that he did (some of which is still affecting us now), but there are times when I want to just sit down and cry. I've been moving through each day as best as I can. I've been working because I enjoy it. So that's been good for me. I also take time off. We took my mom on vacation for her birthday. We celebrated and remembered.
And I'm so sorry about your cat. They are so special!
Grief takes all forms from what I've seen and it takes time unfortunately.
Thank you for sharing with us! Life is going to life and as humans we do the best that we can. I totally understand the unrealistic pressure we put on ourselves as if we can turn "off" emotions. As always, love the foundation (says your shade sista!)
Yes absolutely!
Showing ourselves grace & compassion is not easy. Keep at it and take each day as it comes 💗 Whatever you’re feeling is valid 🥺
Pets are so special, and we could all see how much you loved Roux!! ❤ Thank you for sharing your experiences because it can help others who are grieving and navigating complex emotions. Hope it helps you too in some cathartic way 😮💨
Hey hun, thank you for being vulnerable and raw you definitely been going through it, I’m sorry about your mum and your cat just heartbreaking. Grief is a weird one, which we all handle in different ways ❤ Your a beautiful soul Samatha 🥰
Thanks so much! oxox
I lost my dad during COVID to a brain tumor. It’s been a couple years and I’m still grieving and processing it. Parent-child relationships are complicated, so I get how it is hard trying to sort your emotions, guilt and grief over the loss of your grandma, mom and cat. I wish I could give you a hug - the first birthday, holidays or anniversaries are the worst.
Sending you love 💕
Off all thr topics, but your hair looks fantastic.
thank you!! it has grown a lot.
im so sorry youre hurting, samantha ❤️ and please, any pet owner who loves their fur baby knows how devastating the loss is. i still cry about my sister’s dog who passed 4 years ago. i can’t say this community can fill the holes in your support system, but i hope we can be a little sliver of light in your horizon ❤️❤️❤️
You've quickly become one of my favorite people on here. I appreciate you being so open about your feelings about your moms passing. I recently lost my mom however, we were very close. It doesnt diminish that empty and heavy feeling you get when you think about her passing. Sending all my love and positivity to you and your family. ❤i definitely will follow you on Tik Tok
Thank you for sharing what you’ve been going through. My heart goes out to you. I can relate to your love for Roux. I have a dog & my fur baby is the love of my life. In the couple years that I’ve had her, she’s been with me through so much. I really can’t imagine not having her, it almost puts me in tears thinking about it. Sending you lots of love and strength ❤️❤️
Ugh I know! I felt that way with Roux when I first got her
Hi Samantha. I just stumbled across your videos today. I really slowed down on beauty purchases since the pandemic and focus more on skincare now. I am sorry you have dealt with so much loss and grief over the last two years. Sorry if this is intrusive, but may I ask if your Dad is in your life? You made such an important point about good quality friendships. I recently reconnected with my oldest friend (we have been friends since high school) after she lost her Mom to cancer. Her Mom was a single Mom and she an only child. She has been utterly devastated. Her Mom had a great impact on my life and I have committed to supporting here. If there is anything positive that came from her Mom's death it is that we have rediscovered our friendship. Samantha I wish I could give you a big hug. All I can say is to take it one day at a time. Grief takes time. Listen to your body and your heart. If there is a silver lining to all your recent losses it is that it forces you to focus on yourself; This is the most important relationship in your life (from the womb to the grave).
We Love You Sam. You are amazing and I love how you are transparent and honest. You don't EVER! have to feel you have to fake it for us your real supporters. You could have came on and did no makeup and just cried and vented and I would be here to listen to every minute. Keep shinning and never be afraid to take care of you first because that is what is the most important, I had to learn that for myself through therapy. Sending you love and light.💖
Thank you so so much - thanks for sticking with me oxoxox
Sending you a HUG. And your cat was your family so don’t feel guilty about that.
Thank you for sharing this. I really do wish you the best. Your videos have helped me through some crappy moments in my life and you’ve always been one of my favorite influencers. I went through a bad depression period and I feel all of this so much. Capitalism doesn’t give you the luxury of fully feeling grief unfortunately. The only things that really helped me was allowing myself time to just rot in the beginning, getting on the right anti-depressants, going to a therapist regularly, and forcing myself to get out for at least 10 minutes a day. Things slowly started healing but everyone is different. I just hope you find what works for you soon ❤
I'm wishing you the very best. Grief is so difficult to deal with. I've been there. I've been watching you for a long time, Please take care of yourself! What you've gone through is not easy. It's so hard to be nice to yourself when you're not used to doing that, I also struggle
I have the same dynamics with my mom. I feel very disconnected when it comes to her. It must be really really really hard for you right now . love u !!
It's a tough one oxoo
I am so sorry for your losses. Roux was a very special companion. Don't worry about the 'missed opportunities' as new ones will come. One must also take care of oneself. I had my own mom issues as we were not close and she passed suddenly. Things between us had begun to improve a few years prior but one cannot repair 30+ years of dysfunction in a short time frame. I had to accept that. I hope you can accept who you are becoming, look forward to the changes, and accept the past for what is was. It's hard but gets better.
Thank you so much oxox
It sucks because life likes to throw everything one after another problem wise and I feel this deeply. My own parents I was never close with and my foster parents are my true parents within my eyes growing up and to this day! Both my parents are alive and the connection is not there and I’m very resentful still. I’ve learned to see my relationship with my parents for what it is and have just grown to live with it. It’s very hard sometimes! Journaling and vlogging for sure will help. Sometimes talking about your issues is really good 👍
These are difficult emotions and situations you're navigating through. Sending love and wishing you peace. ❤
Give yourself grace and stay encouraged!
doing my best :)
Not me CRYING as soon as you started talking about Roux
ugh it got me in editing too
Sending positive vibes!! I lost my mom back in february to cancer. We were not close either until the very end, i forgave her for everything and tried to be there for her as much as i could. Then my cat died 5 days after her funeral. She was 12 yrs old and the best cat in the world. It's been a tough year, but things will get better. One day at a time.
I'm so sorry to hear that you can relate, it really sounds like such a pile on of horrible things. Hope you're able to continue feeling a little lighter each day.
Thank you for sharing your life and journey. I'm sorry it's been so hard for so long. Sending you love and hoping you find as much compassion and grace for yourself as you need. 💙
I did not have a good relationship with my father and when he passed I found that I felt bad for my sister, because as adults they had developed a good relationship. But I felt nothing for myself. I had let go of him many years before so it didn't feel that much different. Over the years many people have said things like, "Oh but he's your Dad!", or "You have to forgive and forget, he's your father!" or "You will feel guilty if you don't apologize to him (although I had done nothing wrong) and you should take care of him when he's sick." Why? First of all, people don't have a clue why I don't speak to him, so why do they think they can tell me what I should and should not do? I have only so much time and so much energy and I am going to share that with people that love me, that respect me and that treat me like I have value.
Sending you a big 🫂 hope things get better for you..hope time heals your pain..love your energy sucks to see you sad..hang in there..
Thank you for sharing and making this emotional videos. It is so relatable.. I just love your videos... I have been watching you for years. Please never stop the videos I love makeup and love your personality. Feel so connected to you even though I am on the other side of the world in South Africa 🇿🇦. Much love! ❤
Sending love light and healing hugs. Been watching your channel for a while. Stay beautiful my sweet sista!
I cannot imagine having to leave my most beloved pet and not making it back in time. That’s absolutely valid to be upset about that. 💙 You deserve compassion from everyone, including yourself! I always say, what would I tell my friend? Then I should treat myself the same way.
Grief is truly a thief. I lost my dad two years ago and sometimes it just hits me like a brick. Give yourself grace. Life sometimes is pure chaos and it’s okay to just take the time you need for you. I am so sorry about your girl Roux. Losing a fur baby is always hard. My condolences regarding your mom. Losing a parent is never easy no matter the relationship. No need to explain your feelings or relationship regarding your mom to anyone. That’s your business plan and simple. Sending you all the hugs.
Love watching your content 💞 I’m sure you’re doing your best and showing self-compassion as much as you can. It’s a process. Sending you lots of love!
Love the honesty in this video - sending condolences for all the things you’re dealing with right now. ❤❤❤
I’m so sorry about your kitty. I remember when you got her.
Sending love to you, Sam. ❤ I'm glad that sharing helps you.
Love you ❤ everything you say I resonate with. Grief is such a b*tch who doesn’t care that we have bills and responsibility lol. I am so sorry that it feels like you keep getting knocked down, left and right, and learning how to balance it all is virtually impossible. I think we do our best in each individual day and we do what we need in that day whether it’s going to an event or staying home it can change day to day. ❤
Samantha, I’m so sorry that your cat and mom passed away. Keeping you in my prayers for peace during this time if grief. 🙏🏽❤️
Praying for your strength this so spoke to me🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾
Thanks so much oxox
I’m sorry for your loss. People say they are just animals but for those who have pets they are not. I lost my dog in July and I’m still grieving. I hope you get through this hun and thank you for being so transparent.
I know exactly how you feel. Thank you for sharing. Keep talking about it because it helps.
Sending love and positive vibes ❤❤
oh no im sorry sam your going through this stress and grief. I feel you pain im currently going through something with my parents too and it sucks too cause im in my adult years and they are getting really old and its not getting any better. I hope we'll get through this day by day
Sending you love & light. Give yourself grace as you navigate all these feelings 💖
thank you oxox
I loved watching Roux. I’m so sorry for losing your mom and Roux. Try to not be so hard on yourself. Your community loves you. ❤
Hugs to you! ❤
Can’t wait to see those lips swatches 💄
Sam, I didn't have a great relationship with my dad. When he passed, I hadn't seen him in years. It took me after his death to make peace with him. That took years to do that. You have to give yourself space to deal with all of your grief.
Roux knew how much you loved her. Being kind to yourself is what you're doing now. Because you are being honest with your feelings. I am sending you much love. 💕
❤❤ thank you for sharing
Thanks for listening :)
Hello, new subscriber here. I am sorry for your loss. Sending you lots of hugs and love and strength this time. You are gorgeous and take it day by day.
I’m so sorry for both your losses! It gets easier with time and your family and Roux would never want you to stop living life. Sending love xx
Just sending you a ton of love 💛
I know how hard it is to lose a fur baby. The hole never completely closes but it does get easier. It happens over time. When my egg donor died almost 2 years ago hadn't seen or spoken with her in nearly 20 years. I can relate to how difficult it is when people say "oh I'm so sorry" but you don't feel that same sense of loss that others might. I also very much understand how it feels knowing that things will never be repairable now that the person is gone. There are stages to grieving and we move back and forth between them and even once we've reached acceptance, it can still not be over. Just breathe and do what you can when you can. If you have a day where you can't get out of bed, don't. Hang out with Emily and watch whatever your frivolous show/movie of choice is. Something that takes your mind off of things. Then get out of bed if you're ready. You can't stop living but you can take breaks from the world. I'm not sure any of this was helpful but as lame as it sounds, stop and breathe. It's not going to get better overnight, but it will ease. Tell the mean voices in your head "not today, go away".
I'm so sorry to hear of the losses you have experienced recently. Praying for your comfort and healing.
Very pretty look!
thank you!!
I’m sending you a big hug 🥰🥰🥰
THANK YOU XOXO
So sorry to hear about your loss hang in there and take time to heal and get back on track
Appreciate you xoo
I can so relate to what you’re saying, I don’t have a good relationship with my mom and she’s in the last stages of dementia. The last time I saw her it seem like she could care less. I don’t know what’s going on with her on a day-to-day basis every day I wonder if it’s going to be the day I get the phone call and I’m still dreading it.
my mom and I are currently on no contact, as we have been several times before. i can't imagine what it'll be like when it's her time and I hope nothing but the best for you during your grieving process ❤
I completely understand ❤
ugh! it's tough right.
Big hugs to you.
xoooxoxo
Love my Aquarius sister, it’s okay to take a break and grieve. You had two major losses, us would handle it any different.
I’m so sorry . I totally understand.
Sending hugs and blessings.
Thank you so much oxoxo
You are the cutest💜
New subscriber here from Georgia. Can’t wait to watch your older videos to learn more about you 💕 I do know what you’re feeling. 🥲
Thanks so much, happy to have you here oxox
Sending you lots of love and hugs..thanks for letting us in your life and sharing your story..I have been following you years and just love your honesty and realness..sorry for your losses💐
Thanks for sticking with me :) oxox
Sending love your way sis. I love your channel. You’ve just got a subscriber. Just want to encourage you to keep going & know that this too shall pass. Keep your head up from one curly girl entrepreneur to another….
This look turned out amazing! Hang in there! There are times in life where everything just comes at you at once and you can’t always stop for it when you have responsibilities. Good that you continue walking outside and getting therapy.
Thanks so much!! Really doing my best to find the balance of things that are right for me
Hugs!!🥰
I’m not great with words so I’ll just leave you these… ❤❤❤
thank you oox
Hi ! I was watching today your video with a makeup look with all Essence products. So sorry to hear about your losses. I was so used to see Roux...I understand the guilt you're feeling by not being there (I had a similar situation with my father who passed 10 minutes before I could be with him ). It's takes time to do give yourself grace and for each person it's not the same ).. I know you'll get trough those difficult moments and like you said it's a question of balance. You're in my thoughts
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And so sorry to hear about your cat. 💔❤
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My condolences concerning your mom. Did not know. And hearing in the video why. Take care. 💔❤
No, sweetie, you have it wrong. Roux didn't want you to suffer. She left ,when she did, to spare you more pain. Never feel guilt for that. Animals are on another level. They know things we cannot even comprehend. ❤
Listen to your body, that's where we hold our trauma. If you don't slowdown it will slow you down and you don't want that. You are dealing with the stages of grief and you will be all over the place for a bit. It's not about taking the time you need, as much as it's about doing what you are realistically capable of, at any given time. I lost my cat on Oct 31 and my soul is shattered. I will probably never feel this kind of pain for any human. Everyday I wonder who I will be... the sad me, the angry me etc... The only way we can get passed this storm is by going through it. It F'n sucks. No one deserves what you are going through. With time the pain will become more tolerable. Sending you positive energy and strength.
Thanks so much, it has begun to feel a little lighter and I'm really glad to be able to speak about it now. Sharing really does help me
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Sounds like you have unexpressed love and resentment towards your mom Understandably complicated feelings. Wish I could offer some words of wisdom but it seems you are navigating your journey in a rational way
oh resentment for suuuuure, yes thank you! doing my best to navigate
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