Dyspraxia: School Days (The Two Dyspraxics)
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- Опубліковано 8 бер 2013
- The Two Dyspraxics, (Barbara Neill and Matthew Munson) discuss issues with school days when you have dyspraxia.
www.thetwodyspraxics.com
In our second episode, we talk about how we felt about our school days as dyspraxics, sadly without diagnosis or support.
My handwriting (this is Matthew writing this) was - and still is - atrocious. It is telling that so many dyspraxic people have terrible memories of our school days.
One good thing about being an adult, though, is that we can never have to go back to that time! For me, that's a great relief!
Another great episode, Matthew and Barbara. I can identify with it all. In P.E. I was always humiliated by my peers and by teachers. I would have to run around the field for not throwing a shot put correctly. And they are even heavier than your average ball.
I have dyslexia, dyspraxia and adhd-mild. The symptoms all cross over. I was diagnosed in 2005. When I was at school I remember being smacked on the bottom for not being to thread some beads properly in a certain sequence. I could not remember what the teacher had told me. I was also smacked for not being able to remember where I had to go on stage for a school play. It was only twice this happened at primary school but it stayed with me!Smacking was all the norm in the 70s. Grammar school was much better. At college as a teenager I was seen as an oddity and could not wait to leave. Ive always ended up reaching out to find good mentors and supportive friends/teachers and not giving up.I learn now to apply this in every day life. If I am not supported, then I will say what I need, if the person is not interested I find someone else to help or make an exit whatever the situation.
P.E. has been a horrible nightmare for me as well. I was in oppucational therapy and adaptive P.E. I was humiliated many times in P.E. because I stood out. I used a manual typewriter back in the early 80's. Then I was able to use a computer for word processing. Computers were very expensive in the beginning. I am glad they are cheaper these days.
My schooling was in the days of corporal punishment - the cane! My writing was atrocious, over the years it improved a bit but now in my 70s - well my wife insists on writing cards for me now.
But back to the story: My French teacher sent back my homework to be rewritten because he said he could not read it to mark it. I redid it and he sent it back again. After the last attempt he wrote, "See me!" Subsequently I was asked to 'bend over' and got three strokes. I remember how I implored him not to cane me but he ignored me. He could not have been aware that I felt pain very deeply.
Boarding School was not always a happy place but hating change I was amazed with my self that I missed it.
I like the videos though as a stretch suggest keeping your hands 'out of shot' for future videos as the movement distracts me from the message. That said I don't think I could have done the series.
Great video Thanks. REALLY helping me process my late in life diagnosis of dyspraxia at 59! Just last week.
Oh how about the horrors of:-
The gym hall and the days of Gymnastics=
Hellish balancing tricks to get
Even into the high level horse-thing. Was it the mule?
Then ropes and climbing frames.
Long jump- yeugh; sports days etc.
I HATED Relays and that moment of handing over the baton; and the timing involved!!!
My private school was super-sporty.
Funnily I was really good at shot put as it was heavy & at Ballroom.
It was very painful and I was badly bullied due to always being on the lifelines. Bruises and collisions in netball. and hanging back chatting guarding the goal as a hockey "right back" as felt safer! It was frightening for me. I always had bruises all over. Very painful to not have diagnosis for school years.
How about "hurdles" and trying to get over it. My mother is a narcissist so used to mock me and say she'd give me a Mars bar if I did it! GREAT!
Still not told my parents my diagnosis as just last week; I was assessed. I just am trying to protect myself from further abuse by her total lack of any empathy & her hatred of any illness or "weakness".
Maybe you could go one on Self confidence and dealing with people who feel you are exaggerating a problem
= now; I know to be our REALITY .
I wish IT was more common when I was at school; my handwriting is (well, still is!) illegible, and a computer would have been so incredibly helpful to both me and my teachers!
I use a laptop for almost all my work now, and it makes life so much easier.
(Matthew)
Also I once got my work torn up from one of my teachers that thought my hand writing was terrible. It was that moment that I also lost faith in teaching assistants. My long term teaching assistant that had always been incredibly supportive, just watched on and said nothing, apart from that I should have tried harder.
Bullying was also another issue.
I would never return to my school days. I hated it.
Yes- recovering from the sevete bullying is very tough.
I'd strongly recommend
A trauma therapy called
EMDR to get over the bullying. Some places the NHS does it. In my city they had to close down the list...as so popular and needed
So I went private. It costs
£60 but he gives me it half price.
I can now revisit much of it witgout the same pain.
Now I'm diagnosed I will do it around Sports too. As I had no knowledge till 6 days ago just how badly sports at school traumatised me.
I was yelled at in music class because I could not find the page fast enough. I have Reading Disorder, Mathematics Disorder, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, Central Auditory Processing Disorder co-morbid with Dyspraxia. I have a whole list of f “dis”s.
School, college and Universities were all Horrors for me since I went through all these courses not knowing that there was even a term for my condition. I struggled so much yet always felt abnormal and inadequate, and at times I even wanted to die, though not to the extent of committing Suicide since I am a believer of God.