People that don't have children and focus on themselves are the antithesis of this. These toxics parents need to get their tubes tied already. I wrote an essay on r/antinatalism where I go into more depth. I'm u/childfreespiritualawakening btw
If I had children I would not have the time and resources to work on healing myself and the children would suffer generational trauma. Most people cannot understand that, the amount of delusional, narcissistic men I come across would shock you. One man messaged me claiming that he is interested in dating, I politely declined and then he got angry saying ''how dare I look down on him, when he is a father of 3 kids at 31'', like, when did you plan to tell me you have 3 kids? After I became involved with you? Creepy predator, hiding his kids to trap random women. Another one was someone who fetishized mixed race children and wanted to ask me if I would want to be some kind of weird surrogate/paid mother for them because I am white. I asked him why does he feel the need to have kids and he said ''for his legacy''. I asked if he is royalty, a top athlete or model or scientist. He was none of that. Then, what legacy will you be leaving to them? The poverty legacy? I said ''and once your mixed race children become adults and have any kind of identity issue or face racism or bullying, what's your plan to protect them?" He never thought past the ''cute mixed baby'' stage. Nowadays I am openly and non-negotiably childfree. Not everyone needs or can parent kids. They have even called me a white eugenicist for saying that, but I stand my ground.
I had such a painful miserable childhood that I never wanted to inflict that pain on another human. Plus by the time we undo all the damage done to us as children (if we EVER do), it's probably too late for most of us to create that life and that healthy bond. Daniel, you would be working a regular job and saving for your kids' futures because you're NOT a narcissist. Because you care about the imprint your life has on others. Many parents continue to live selfishly, doing what they want, when they want, always putting their own needs and desires first, despite having kids. I'm thinking of Ethan Crumbley's "parents" as I write this.
Yes, it’s a real battlefield out there. Ethan’s parents are weak weak people. I don’t think they really wanted him. And then they lived out that apathy. It’s tough for boys especially because girls have the ability to suss out their mother’s cold behavior. I always knew my mother was off. My brothers didn’t and they married women like her. Not one a good enough mother.
I had a mentor who parented me and many others “asexually.” He was deeply religious, but not in a conventional “go along with the church” way. He organized to retrieve edible but out-of-date foods from grocery stores that were throwing it out, in order to feed people. At some point he managed to get a law enacted at the state level, which protected the grocery stores from liability, thus encouraging them to donate the foods. He once shared something with me out of the Bible, in a way that pierced my heart and soul, he quoted scripture, and there was his embodied experience and expression of his understanding which he also imparted, that Love (agape’) was the most important “thing” in the world, for one, because that it never ends… i remember thinking of a pebble dropping into calm waters and rippling outwards in all directions forevermore. I remember when reflecting on that conversation, how it was as if he was sharing with me a flame, and that now I had fire of my own, with which I could now share with others… and how that flame, the flame of agape’ never goes out, it is endless, forever warming and illuminating. 💛 Thank you David Stewart, I know you know what I mean 💛
I hope one day to understand what he told you. Sometimes I think I understand, but I’m not there yet. I don’t why, but this(your comment and my reflection) makes me almost cry.
Hi Daniel, thanks for this video. I'm glad you never conformed to what other people think we should do. I'm a 71 year old lady, never married, never had any children, and never regretted any of it. I have, though, loved many animals, still do, and have always taken very good care of them. I have also traveled the world, just last year I flew to the UK and had a wonderful time for three weeks. Years ago, someone did a huge nationwide poll and asked people, if they had it to do all over again, would they have kids? I was surprised that a whopping 70% said "No".
I'm married to a wonderful man but neither of us wanted children so there are just the two of us. We have loved and lost many animals that have been part of our little family over the last couple of decades. It's just us and our animals. Neither of us regret one bit not having children. They are not for everyone. There's bound to be someone who hates on our comments for not being parents because some just can't fathom people who don't want children and think we are lesser human beings for feeling that way.
My mother's mother once told me she wish she had had no kids, like me. I never repeated what she said. There is only cruel hurt in that direction. OTOH, when my hubby attempted suicide, my mother quoted my brother as having said, "No wonder. Look who he is married to".
I am 67 and although I was married for a short time, I never had children. I also love animals and travelled widely in my younger days. I believe much of our expression of life, is, I believe archetypal and unless we honour those energies we can become confused and unhappy. I have no regrets. Friends are much better than children.
@@Misses-Hippy My heart goes out to you. I'm sorry that you and your husband have been going through that. It's like you got a "double whammy", with your husband trying to do what he did, and your brother and mother not only NOT being supportive and caring, but are instead being evil and "hitting below the belt". Shame on your brother, and shame on your mother for repeating what he alledgedly said. I hope you and your husband find some healing. Sending caring thoughts your way. ..... from Washington state
Thank you! From day one I was born to please others, at the expense of a sense of self. This world needs adults. For me that means working on myself. Understanding myself, as well as, the true workings of society.
I'm one of those "what have I done" mothers. My son is nearly 18 and will most likely be conscripted next year because we live in a s...hole Poland where, according to Bundeswehr documents published by Bild, a full blown war between NATO and Russia will begin in a year and a half. Our warmongers from the Ministry of Defense have recently changed regulations regarding obligatory conscription, and I'm trying to figure out where to emigrate in order to save my son's life when he graduates high school next year. He requires a second heart surgery sooner or later but according to our psychopathic overlords, his heart condition is not an obstacle, and he must joint the military in time of war. I'm afraid history repeats itself. Once the war begins, our corrupt and megalomaniac politicians will flee the country, just like their predecessors did in 1939, leaving Poland to a complete destruction. I gave birth nearly 2 decades ago, in time of relative peace in my region, but planning on children in this time and age is, in my view, pure insanity. I wish I could turn back time...
Loved this video Daniel! I'm 58 and I don't think I ever would have figured any of this out if I had had kids. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with humanity, where it helps.
There is a learning and growth that comes from taking care of one's family whether one does or doesn't have children. Being oneself whilst having the forgiveness and tolerance to accept others is a worthwhile process to allow yourself to experience and develop yourself through.
Daniel! So excited you are still releasing these amazing videos. Your are incredibly brave being able to be you in this modern world. You are the first role model I've ever had. Thanks again, Daniel. Your thought provoking and inspirational train of thought is priceless; thank you, really.
Wow. Then, as a 20-something guy who's been learning so much from you, can I aptly be called your son? And the people watching this alongside me, as brothers and sisters? I would very, very much like that...
Your comment brought tears to my eyes, remembering how much Daniel helped me in my toughest years when there was no one for me. I'm glad to realize that others have the same feeling as me for Daniel. Thank you brother.
Thank you for parenting me. Ive been finding your videos again and again whenever I need them over the last few years. The algorithm is so kind sometimes
I think even conventional parents could take away a lesson from this as it makes us think about not just the physical traits we pass on but the immaterial thoughts we pass on as well.
I feel like I'm one of your spiritual children, Daniel, even though you're not old enough to be my dad😂 As an asexual person myself, you totally summarized the kind of legacy I want to leave behind in this world.
I was actually thinking that! Have you had any children of your own, you would probably have been a much better father than the majority of fathers (given the time and energy restrictions of fatherhood), but very unlikely you would have the chance to do the work you have done and "father" all these people who are aspired by it. I don't think that humanity needs another biological father, but for sure it needs a father of Truth...
The same here, Daniel, my sentiments exactly. I worked with, cared for, coached and even raised children and I think I'll end up doing the best mentoring and parenting for myself, first and foremost, and maybe that will be an example for another. And that's all there is to it. ❤🙏
This video should’ve been getting more likes than it has. Such an insightful and inspiring video, thanks for sharing Daniel. Offspring can be in so many shapes or forms when you love them unconditionally, not in a way most people do nowadays. Human beings can only evolve when we fight against our own instincts.
I think the proper term would be 'cultural legacy'. Having children is ideally both, leaving physical and cultural legacy, but not always. Without children you can still leave a cultural mark in the lives of many. This what has been done by writers, artist, and other creative, inspirational and revolutionary people throughout human history. And I always considered that this what you've been doing with your work too Daniel.
I was lucky to have been born into a family that had a lot of books. Those old books became my “parents” and I’ve often thought that all the books I’ve read have made me who I am. There was a book that all the cool people owned in the 70s -Jonathan Livingston Seagull- I actually read it when I was about 9. It made me different, which has been hard but ultimately great.
Very much agreed with your perspective. Having a child today should be reserved for the most accomplished only i.e. the rare anomalies who manage to maintain economical and psychological stability simultaneously.
Parents who have children stop developing consciousness. I see that they just repeat what they suffered and are in denial abou it. Its so easy to do, when you dont know what happened to you. Or you do complete 180 of what your parents did, but the motives are wrong, becouse you look at your experience and dont look at what your child actually needs. I can see that with my friend who put his child in daycare. The child dont want it, he protests, he is sad, but they manipulate and force him to go. He is sick all the time, and they get sick all the time becouse of that. But he needs to "socialize" becouse my friend lacked that in his childhood. In reality his wife wants a break.
I wonder if it’s possible to continue developing consciousness even when one becomes a parent. I’d like to think so. If one already knows many of the pitfalls, how likely is it that you’ll just unconsciously fall into them… I don’t know.
@@parus_1671 I dont know. I think my response was too strict. I know few examples, thats all. I think its just harder, becouse now you need to earn money for the family. You need to work more, You need to invest alot of time in another dependent on you being. If you at the same time want to grow and develop yourself, you are not that available to your child. There can be some compromise of course, but not always. Someone would be screwed if you didnt prepare before having a child.
And at the same time child-free lifestyle can be caused by toxic family system. I think the whole parenting thing should be as an act of wisdom, not just procreating for the sake of procreating and later hating the kids, like the kids have become the cause of their misery. Parenting is a serious matter, not just the fun of suddenly happened impregnation.
Many people parent in these conventional ways, but these days some also parent in wild and radical ways... traveling with them, living in tiny houses, unschooling... not judging either way.
I love this concept, Daniel. I’ve thought of this myself, too. Also, I am a gay man and have no children, but I have several nieces and nephews, so some of my DNA most likely did get passed on, not from me directly, but pieces of me. And my ideas for sure! ❤ You’re a sweet man and I love you content. Thank you so much for sharing your life with us and passing on your wonderful ideas.
The topic of group selection in humans is controversial for political reasons, but the fact is that social, cultural, genetic and epigenetic traits can be selected for in a human group when any of these factors encourage the fertility and the passing on of genes in a group. An example would be the "gay uncle" theory. Why is homosexuality present in all human cultures if it tends to preclude the homosexual individuals from reproduction. If there's full or partial genetic underpinning to it, How does that trait persist in the population? It's theorized that homosexuality of certain individuals in a population confers a fitness advantage on the family members of those individuals, specifically that females with gay siblings are more fertile than average (they have more children), enough to offset the fertility decrease of the nonreproductive homosexual family member.
Part of you is part of me I agree with alot 🙂❤ Im 40 now I wouldnt want kids; I'm not good enough. I did not want to be like my mom and pass the cycle of narcissism on. Luckily I was gay and an aspergers so o I was kinda dense and didnt absorb the unloving narcissism fully. I could always be honest woth myself like you are!
Hi Daniel if you would please give your take on the source trauma aka legacy burdens and part of healing through ancestral work? Thank you for your videos, you are a blessing to this world
Hi, Daniel. I agree with all you said and have two biological children who are in their early twenties. I also love your idea of asexual reproduction in humans. Even though I have always practiced it, from now on, I will see it as you described. Thank you.
I think it was Richard Dawkins that coined the term "meme", as a combination of "gene" and "memory" to mean a non-genetic passing on of information or ideas rather than a genetic one, so we might not be your genetic successors, Daniel, but your memetic successors. I just wish such a novel and useful word didn't get co-opted into meaning "funny internet picture".
@@pod9363 Yes that could still happen. But if 2 people are healthy in most or in every way. Instead of making children. Make a child's life better than living in an orphanage. I hope adoptive parents don't have the mindset of. "You should be so grateful being with us. Instead of being in an orphanage." The parents should be grateful for having the opportunity. To massively improve a child's life.
I think even Plato contemplated this same idea in one of his dialogues; that one always strives for immortality and some people strive for it with actual physical offspring (kids) and some with metaphysical offspring - be it ideas, art or philosophy, which can last forever too, because they have a lasting influence on others. P.s. I would appreciate if you made a video about shame and / or guilt and how these feelings are connected to mental health. For instance, I heard this idea that sometimes when a person is angry all the time, he/she might hide some sort of shame inside him which they might try to cover with the feeling of anger. Why do you think this happens? And why people who are depressed sometimes have this intense feeling of guilt - sometimes describing the feeling as being punished for eternal damnation? (It might apply for serious anxiety/OCD too if someone fears they have done something wrong even if the feeling is disproportionate)
I'm right with you in agreement for both paragraph points. I'd never have been able to pursue my creative life if i'd had children and both myself and my husband agreed from the beginning that we didn't want them as they are massive responsibility and would consume so much of our time and energy. Cats have been allowed into our little family though😊. From a self development angle too, I've had the space to do this in.The depression point is very valuable from the perspective of accompanying shame and guilt...maybe less understood too, so Daniel , it would be good to cover this.
@@lynnehendersonfisher Yes I understand; both the pursuit of creative life and raising children are a demanding task in and on itself! I think I also read somewhere that shame is a feeling at the core in addiction, too... meaning that the person might have this (unconscious) inner sense of shame in themselves that they are unaware and that they are trying to cover with a substance or addictive behaviour... I find this interesting, because I think this same psychological dynamic might be an underlyind condition at mental health issues at a larger scale, too, not just in addictions..(And we all have our share of addictions). And i feel like so much of this shame is something we wouldn't need to carry, because what if we just carry some sort of shame passed on from our parents? Or if we have shame but don't really face the underlying guilt about something entirely else? I think the distinction between shame and guilt is that you feel guilt when you have done something wring and you feel shame when you feel like your whole sense of self is wrong... and mostly about things we have no control :/ I just searched and Daniel has a video topic on shame and guilt and their differences and a video on healthy vs unhealthy guilt. But still, it would be interesting to hear his thoughts, if he has some new ideas or if he could respond to the topic..
@@july7578 Yes, well thought through on the shame ang guilt. I think shame is linked to having committed a kind of preceived 'sin' against the self or someone else. Guilt is maybe more complex coming from a value system that isn't working very well for the self or more simply having acted selfishly at someone elses expense. Not admitting guilt in a social context is seen as a huge thing eg been expected to show remorse for a crime to receive any form of forgiveness. But the link to depression is what I find interesting. I felt shame when I got very depressed during a midlife crisis - shame at having succumbed to the depression was very strong. Yet I didn't feel guilty. Very powerful emotions, both of them!
Yes, there can be fear or guilt about bringing a child into the world, but that can be mitigated by those of us parents who'd rather believe in overcoming that fear, doubt or other feelings to believe in the good prospering, and the best parts of them being expressed while we pour into them love, respect and examples of leadership while holding them accountable and building their character. What if only the ill-intentioned or ignorant or less than civic-minded people were the only ones having children? That could be pretty bad. It's everyone's choice to have or not to have children. Frankly, it should be seen as a vocation because parenting, esply mindfully, with a global human perspective while acknowledging our children are born uniquely and whole, is not for the faint of heart. And I did it as a single mother. I was raised in difficult circumstances with mentally ill parents and in an abusive and neglectful home. Yet, there were good people who came across my path who had wisdom that filled in the blank spaces and helped me along. Do I have damage from my early years and decisions I made into my 30s? Yes. I have C-PTSD and PTSD and struggle still with my self-esteem. Yet I'm so glad I wasn't deprived of this life and I'm even more glad I decided, quite mindfully, to have a child because I believed I had something of value to impart to my child which was how to overcome adversity, along with love and leading by example. It's not been easy, but I have a little more hope in this world because my son is in it, doing uplifting podcasts of his own, and making music that moves people and inspires - at 24 years old. Whether he will marry and/or have children remains to be seen. Each generation has its own challenges. Gen Z was born into the aftermath of 9/11, and came of age a global pandemic! In between, they were disappointed my a school system that let them take and retake exams until the student or the teacher was happy. That's not how the real world works. So in the presence of these trials and poor examples of "fairness" I was able to preach our family values at home and although I didn't parent perfectly, my intentions and examples always came through. He witnessed me going to 12-step mtgs without shame and with diligence. I thought it very important to show him it's ok to me imperfect, but one must accept themselves, as is, and seek a better way, where one reveals itself. Daniel, I believe you definitely do contribute to your listener's evolution, and I have no doubt you've helped to heal those with emotional scars. Just do please know that even those of us who chose to be parents did also find the time and energy to do the same for others. If so inclined, it happens organically when placed in a cmmty of school-aged children, all searching for who they want to be when they grow up, who invariably encounter judgment and ridicule. It was my privilege to be available to them when the situation arose. And even mindful parents can think outside of the box and promote growth in others. For sure, not everyone who has children should have children. Yet conscious people like me, and people like yourself, have much to contribute when it comes to NOT repeating our parents' mindless and damaging mistakes. Yet, I understand it's not for everyone. I DID feel my wings get clipped at first after having a child, but then I just learned to fly closer to home - "the nest," as you say. I still traveled with him, but I did most of my extensive traveling before 39 when I had him, and after I worked through many of my childhood wounds. It is possible. Best!
Our society places entirely too much value on biological lineages. As you're saying Daniel, there are other ways of impacting the world and nurturing young people. I think things would be a lot better if we focused on nurturing the people and environment around us, rather than sequestering away our resources for biological offspring. It takes a village.
well if we define reproduction as transfer of full gene set, then the transference of diploid cell of fetus into mothers in microchemirism would count as a form of asexual reproduction. this would also seem a form of horizontal gene transfer within humans however, it is certainly reductionist to count the diploid cell in the mother that will never develop into a mature adult as a successful product of reproduction
Daniel, do you identify as and/or have you ever been diagnosed as neurodivergent? Your content speaks to every “aspie” nerve in my body. I would love for you to cover the topic!
assessment for that is based on junk science - you can't tell what's really going on in the brain based on outward behavior. end up just pathologizing normal variations.
Hi Allison -- I identify as being unusual, I suppose -- but not neurodivergent. And I've never been diagnosed as neurodivergent. Thanks for asking, though -- Daniel
I've chosen not to have children....and I think it's a bad idea for most people to have them. But I still have some hope for humanity -- somehow, somewhere in the future. As it happens, I see humanity as totally out of sync with nature now -- and if it continues it'll be our demise...
@pod9363 impossible. Certain wounding is necessary for development as some psychoanalysts say like James Hollis. And traumas only resurface later in life as well as economy, surroundings etc.
@dmackler58 yeah, though the suffering until that stage I don't know. Life is suffering in its design. Even if childhood trauma is left out of the equation.
The science of Epigenetics can confirm that your videos can and will have an effect to the expression of genes of the people who are watching them and in that sense you are passing Your-Self to many many more people than you could ever affect with the standard biological method and without having to change a single diaper! (but I know there is a different kind of cost on this transmission of your heritage...)
Yep, hard to bring a kid into a world where even you don't belong... one that even happens to be hostile to the very nature of a child and even life itself; human and non human.
A vasectomy can help lock that Freedom in your Lifestyle up. I got mine two years ago at age 21 After Watching durianriders Video Why he got the snip. Harley Johnstones words Match up very well with the Ones Daniel Mackler Speaks. I Follow Daniels Channel for many years and watched every Video and documentaries he Made and also Visited his website But I Think Daniel Speaks around like a cat dancing around Hot porridge. He could use More Power and speak up the truth More straight.
Heres an unconventional idea: instead of denouncing parents, befriend them. Offer to do errands for them so they can be present for their kids. Coach a little league team. Tutor the kids. Start an after school program. Many parents are nice people who just wanna have a nice family life but are too stressed out, just like single celibate people.
ISAAC NEWTON never had any biological children....neither my humble ass and many people of my generation....We have children in dreamland of 5D GAYA which shapes our reality on 3D Earth. Peace & love
by this reasoning, the two have nothing to do with one another. You have in the past made it clear how damaging it is for children when parents raise them to be copies of themselves.
I have 2 kids. I know Im expected to be outraged at this video.😄 But I think these are good points. Economically having kids has been a disaster-Its a Long story. But they are relatively happy thank God. I ask them how theyre doing regularly and they know they can be honest with me. I know the future is going to be really wild and Im doing my best to prep them.
what? they're relatively happy? ask them when they lay in their death bed, get cancer or inevitably suffer in other ways. you're a joke for thinking you have any clue of what you got your kids into.
why not? 😂 One could use kids on social media to attract clicks and likes every day … put them on UA-cam. Imagine all those monetized toy videos and shorts (kidding!). Some people say, after the age of 40 folks are happier if they have kids. Use them to boost your own happiness, waaah. Another way to become happy: kids can make you sandwiches and bring you beer and potentially pay your bills later in life. I’m sarcastic, of course. raising a child is a huge responsibility but for those who have healed (at least partially) these relationships also may bring great joy and help make this world a better place. for other (toxic) folks who want a “mini me”, I suggest they create their own AI kids and have lots of fun instead of damaging another real human being. ❤
Daniel, I see the merit in your message but I think you are doing it a disservice by giving it that ill-fitted name. I shouldn't have to explain how a child-free lifestyle does not constitute asexual reproduction, whether one shares their ideas with the world or not. But when you call it that, it makes it sound like you're yielding to the very social (and genetic, but genes can't hear our arguments) pressures you're arguing against here. If you must use a biological analogue, something with "heredity" i.e. the passing on of traits, would be a less inaccurate road to go down compared to "asexual reproduction". But personally I'd just go for an established term like legacy/influence.
Recently I've ended a longterm relationship from which I hoped to get a traditional family. I decided to start a longstanding celibacy like yours but I still feel the need to have kids. I think I'd be a great mother, but maybe the traditional family is not for me. I plan to use artificial insemination for that one day. It's kind of an asexual reproduction! Thank you for everything Daniel!
please be careful where and how you decide to do that. I read articles about men who donate hundreds of times, so these kids have hundreds if not thousands of half brothers and sisters basically.
Asexual!!! Asexual reproduces itself, basically a clone. He also said metaphorically, he is spreading out a piece of himself which are his ideas/ philosophy.
I think you are very wrong. I am even more crazy than you, I took being against the mains stream to the whole new level believe me : D I had also traumatic childhood, not as much as yours, and I value family a lot. I will not surrender to your mistake or mistakes of my parents and will raise a very healthy and strong kids. I don't think you worked out your problems fully. Thinking about reproduction in your way is not healthy
I think you underestimate the value & power of parenthood/sexual reproduction on the potential for growth & evolution of one's psyche, & of healing trauma. Your premise is misguided & frankly, arrogant & unbecoming. A much stronger argument can likely be made to the contrary, actually, as there is no bond of love more powerful & transformational than the parent-child one & the experience of parenthood. But, the bottom line is, it's not a contest. And there's zero need to posit one state as superior to the other. I like your content, but this seems off to me.
So many toxic families today. Parents having children for narcissistic reasons and secretly holding their children in contempt. (Alice Miller).
Discovering A. Miller's books got me started on unravelling this 'narcisstic' mess.
yup like having them and viewing them like pets
People that don't have children and focus on themselves are the antithesis of this. These toxics parents need to get their tubes tied already. I wrote an essay on r/antinatalism where I go into more depth. I'm u/childfreespiritualawakening btw
Alice Miller secretly abused her own son Martin, who wrote a book on it
If I had children I would not have the time and resources to work on healing myself and the children would suffer generational trauma. Most people cannot understand that, the amount of delusional, narcissistic men I come across would shock you. One man messaged me claiming that he is interested in dating, I politely declined and then he got angry saying ''how dare I look down on him, when he is a father of 3 kids at 31'', like, when did you plan to tell me you have 3 kids? After I became involved with you? Creepy predator, hiding his kids to trap random women. Another one was someone who fetishized mixed race children and wanted to ask me if I would want to be some kind of weird surrogate/paid mother for them because I am white. I asked him why does he feel the need to have kids and he said ''for his legacy''. I asked if he is royalty, a top athlete or model or scientist. He was none of that. Then, what legacy will you be leaving to them? The poverty legacy? I said ''and once your mixed race children become adults and have any kind of identity issue or face racism or bullying, what's your plan to protect them?" He never thought past the ''cute mixed baby'' stage. Nowadays I am openly and non-negotiably childfree. Not everyone needs or can parent kids. They have even called me a white eugenicist for saying that, but I stand my ground.
I had such a painful miserable childhood that I never wanted to inflict that pain on another human. Plus by the time we undo all the damage done to us as children (if we EVER do), it's probably too late for most of us to create that life and that healthy bond.
Daniel, you would be working a regular job and saving for your kids' futures because you're NOT a narcissist. Because you care about the imprint your life has on others. Many parents continue to live selfishly, doing what they want, when they want, always putting their own needs and desires first, despite having kids. I'm thinking of Ethan Crumbley's "parents" as I write this.
66. No kids here, no regrets and much gratitude not to have the guilt I would have deserved. Not fit to be a parent, even still.
Yes, it’s a real battlefield out there. Ethan’s parents are weak weak people. I don’t think they really wanted him. And then they lived out that apathy. It’s tough for boys especially because girls have the ability to suss out their mother’s cold behavior. I always knew my mother was off. My brothers didn’t and they married women like her. Not one a good enough mother.
@@brigitte9999 this resonates, why do you think girls can suss out their mothers unilke boys?
Exactly about Ethan's parents
I had a mentor who parented me and many others “asexually.”
He was deeply religious, but not in a conventional “go along with the church” way. He organized to retrieve edible but out-of-date foods from grocery stores that were throwing it out, in order to feed people. At some point he managed to get a law enacted at the state level, which protected the grocery stores from liability, thus encouraging them to donate the foods.
He once shared something with me out of the Bible, in a way that pierced my heart and soul, he quoted scripture, and there was his embodied experience and expression of his understanding which he also imparted, that Love (agape’) was the most important “thing” in the world, for one, because that it never ends… i remember thinking of a pebble dropping into calm waters and rippling outwards in all directions forevermore. I remember when reflecting on that conversation, how it was as if he was sharing with me a flame, and that now I had fire of my own, with which I could now share with others… and how that flame, the flame of agape’ never goes out, it is endless, forever warming and illuminating. 💛 Thank you David Stewart, I know you know what I mean 💛
Please share what it was he told you. Thank you.
I hope one day to understand what he told you. Sometimes I think I understand, but I’m not there yet. I don’t why, but this(your comment and my reflection) makes me almost cry.
@@Spookdookin it sounds like reading what I wrote touched you in a deep place. 🙏🏼
Hi Daniel, thanks for this video. I'm glad you never conformed to what other people think we should do.
I'm a 71 year old lady, never married, never had any children, and never regretted any of it. I have, though, loved many animals, still do, and have always taken very good care of them. I have also traveled the world, just last year I flew to the UK and had a wonderful time for three weeks.
Years ago, someone did a huge nationwide poll and asked people, if they had it to do all over again, would they have kids? I was surprised that a whopping 70% said "No".
I'm married to a wonderful man but neither of us wanted children so there are just the two of us. We have loved and lost many animals that have been part of our little family over the last couple of decades. It's just us and our animals. Neither of us regret one bit not having children. They are not for everyone. There's bound to be someone who hates on our comments for not being parents because some just can't fathom people who don't want children and think we are lesser human beings for feeling that way.
My mother's mother once told me she wish she had had no kids, like me. I never repeated what she said. There is only cruel hurt in that direction. OTOH, when my hubby attempted suicide, my mother quoted my brother as having said, "No wonder. Look who he is married to".
I am 67 and although I was married for a short time, I never had children. I also love animals and travelled widely in my younger days. I believe much of our expression of life, is, I believe archetypal and unless we honour those energies we can become confused and unhappy. I have no regrets. Friends are much better than children.
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@@Misses-Hippy My heart goes out to you. I'm sorry that you and your husband have been going through that.
It's like you got a "double whammy", with your husband trying to do what he did, and your brother and mother not only NOT being supportive and caring, but are instead being evil and "hitting below the belt".
Shame on your brother, and shame on your mother for repeating what he alledgedly said.
I hope you and your husband find some healing.
Sending caring thoughts your way.
..... from Washington state
The problem is finding a mate that is safe enough to have children with. That’s the almost impossible task.
To Brigitte .... Amen! Ain't THAT the truth!
I found a safe one but she's not the most beautiful or clever girl i wish to have. So sad
@@Ciskusssounds like you dont value her that much.
@@Ciskuss yikes. Dont waste her time and seek a women you truly desire.
agreed
Thank you! From day one I was born to please others, at the expense of a sense of self. This world needs adults. For me that means working on myself. Understanding myself, as well as, the true workings of society.
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Thank you Daniel 🌻💕
My thoughts exactly. I'm 38 and not once felt the urge for kids
You may have not become a parent, but the "De Nile" joke\pun was a quality dad joke (did not expect to laugh from it as much as i did).
As a schizophrenic, when I thought god was talking to me, you were tight. Keep up the good work
I'm one of those "what have I done" mothers. My son is nearly 18 and will most likely be conscripted next year because we live in a s...hole Poland where, according to Bundeswehr documents published by Bild, a full blown war between NATO and Russia will begin in a year and a half. Our warmongers from the Ministry of Defense have recently changed regulations regarding obligatory conscription, and I'm trying to figure out where to emigrate in order to save my son's life when he graduates high school next year. He requires a second heart surgery sooner or later but according to our psychopathic overlords, his heart condition is not an obstacle, and he must joint the military in time of war. I'm afraid history repeats itself. Once the war begins, our corrupt and megalomaniac politicians will flee the country, just like their predecessors did in 1939, leaving Poland to a complete destruction.
I gave birth nearly 2 decades ago, in time of relative peace in my region, but planning on children in this time and age is, in my view, pure insanity. I wish I could turn back time...
He should go hide in Canada.
Maybe you should come to Slovenija.
@@Misses-Hippy isn't Canada turning into totalitarian neo-Marxist country under Trudeau?
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Whatever you gotta do. You have time to prepare.
Can you do a video about how the term "kids are resilient" gets misused?
Loved this video Daniel! I'm 58 and I don't think I ever would have figured any of this out if I had had kids. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with humanity, where it helps.
There is a learning and growth that comes from taking care of one's family whether one does or doesn't have children. Being oneself whilst having the forgiveness and tolerance to accept others is a worthwhile process to allow yourself to experience and develop yourself through.
Daniel! So excited you are still releasing these amazing videos. Your are incredibly brave being able to be you in this modern world. You are the first role model I've ever had. Thanks again, Daniel. Your thought provoking and inspirational train of thought is priceless; thank you, really.
Wow. Then, as a 20-something guy who's been learning so much from you, can I aptly be called your son? And the people watching this alongside me, as brothers and sisters?
I would very, very much like that...
Hi! This is your sister in France. Big hugs.
Maybe yes
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You sure can see him as a dad on a spiritual level. We can have more than one parental figure and on different levels
Your comment brought tears to my eyes, remembering how much Daniel helped me in my toughest years when there was no one for me. I'm glad to realize that others have the same feeling as me for Daniel. Thank you brother.
Thank you for parenting me. Ive been finding your videos again and again whenever I need them over the last few years. The algorithm is so kind sometimes
I think even conventional parents could take away a lesson from this as it makes us think about not just the physical traits we pass on but the immaterial thoughts we pass on as well.
ur a damn good idea parent. daniel. i appreciate you very much
Good to see you Daniel. God bless you.
I feel like I'm one of your spiritual children, Daniel, even though you're not old enough to be my dad😂 As an asexual person myself, you totally summarized the kind of legacy I want to leave behind in this world.
I was actually thinking that! Have you had any children of your own, you would probably have been a much better father than the majority of fathers (given the time and energy restrictions of fatherhood), but very unlikely you would have the chance to do the work you have done and "father" all these people who are aspired by it. I don't think that humanity needs another biological father, but for sure it needs a father of Truth...
Thank YOU for existing Daniel 🙏🏼
The same here, Daniel, my sentiments exactly. I worked with, cared for, coached and even raised children and I think I'll end up doing the best mentoring and parenting for myself, first and foremost, and maybe that will be an example for another. And that's all there is to it. ❤🙏
Thank you for sharing this with us.
It saddens me so many seem to have had evil parents and harsh childhoods. You need to love and support your kids.
This video should’ve been getting more likes than it has. Such an insightful and inspiring video, thanks for sharing Daniel. Offspring can be in so many shapes or forms when you love them unconditionally, not in a way most people do nowadays. Human beings can only evolve when we fight against our own instincts.
daniel thank you for your deep truths and i feel exactly same. it’s nice not to feel so alone it what is not considered “normal”. big love ❤️ to you
Greetings from Colombia Daniel, I really like your honest content.
I am feeling happy to learn that we share the same idea. I am 22 years old, will see how things go.
I pray for all babies ❤😢
great video, really had to think about it, what you said and I strongly agree. Thx for the video, big fan of yours!
I think the proper term would be 'cultural legacy'. Having children is ideally both, leaving physical and cultural legacy, but not always. Without children you can still leave a cultural mark in the lives of many. This what has been done by writers, artist, and other creative, inspirational and revolutionary people throughout human history. And I always considered that this what you've been doing with your work too Daniel.
beautiful and courageous video, as a guy on my own journey- thank you for fathering parts of me from afar
I was lucky to have been born into a family that had a lot of books. Those old books became my “parents” and I’ve often thought that all the books I’ve read have made me who I am.
There was a book that all the cool people owned in the 70s -Jonathan Livingston Seagull- I actually read it when I was about 9. It made me different, which has been hard but ultimately great.
Thank you for sharing your ideas.
Very much agreed with your perspective. Having a child today should be reserved for the most accomplished only i.e. the rare anomalies who manage to maintain economical and psychological stability simultaneously.
Daniel macker for prez!!
No! Then we'd lose him, he'd be compromised having to support genocide for oil and profits by the real owners of this country.
Thanks for this talk, interesting to look at life in new ways
Ty Daniel. I get the metaphor.
Parents who have children stop developing consciousness. I see that they just repeat what they suffered and are in denial abou it. Its so easy to do, when you dont know what happened to you. Or you do complete 180 of what your parents did, but the motives are wrong, becouse you look at your experience and dont look at what your child actually needs. I can see that with my friend who put his child in daycare. The child dont want it, he protests, he is sad, but they manipulate and force him to go. He is sick all the time, and they get sick all the time becouse of that. But he needs to "socialize" becouse my friend lacked that in his childhood. In reality his wife wants a break.
I wonder if it’s possible to continue developing consciousness even when one becomes a parent. I’d like to think so. If one already knows many of the pitfalls, how likely is it that you’ll just unconsciously fall into them… I don’t know.
@@parus_1671 I dont know. I think my response was too strict. I know few examples, thats all. I think its just harder, becouse now you need to earn money for the family. You need to work more, You need to invest alot of time in another dependent on you being. If you at the same time want to grow and develop yourself, you are not that available to your child. There can be some compromise of course, but not always. Someone would be screwed if you didnt prepare before having a child.
Mozart and beethoven did not die, they simply became music - Dr. Robert Ford
Thank you!
And at the same time child-free lifestyle can be caused by toxic family system.
I think the whole parenting thing should be as an act of wisdom, not just procreating for the sake of procreating and later hating the kids, like the kids have become the cause of their misery. Parenting is a serious matter, not just the fun of suddenly happened impregnation.
Many people parent in these conventional ways, but these days some also parent in wild and radical ways... traveling with them, living in tiny houses, unschooling... not judging either way.
Lol, don't say this to Jordan Peterson. He's publicly stated that one cannot be fully mature unless they have kids.
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He was meant to say, until one parents oneself, surely.
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Jordan is wrong about a lot of things.
Like "fully mature" is even a thing...
I love this concept, Daniel. I’ve thought of this myself, too. Also, I am a gay man and have no children, but I have several nieces and nephews, so some of my DNA most likely did get passed on, not from me directly, but pieces of me. And my ideas for sure! ❤ You’re a sweet man and I love you content. Thank you so much for sharing your life with us and passing on your wonderful ideas.
Very interesting thoughts.
I will try to pass them on.
The topic of group selection in humans is controversial for political reasons, but the fact is that social, cultural, genetic and epigenetic traits can be selected for in a human group when any of these factors encourage the fertility and the passing on of genes in a group. An example would be the "gay uncle" theory. Why is homosexuality present in all human cultures if it tends to preclude the homosexual individuals from reproduction. If there's full or partial genetic underpinning to it, How does that trait persist in the population? It's theorized that homosexuality of certain individuals in a population confers a fitness advantage on the family members of those individuals, specifically that females with gay siblings are more fertile than average (they have more children), enough to offset the fertility decrease of the nonreproductive homosexual family member.
Part of you is part of me I agree with alot 🙂❤
Im 40 now I wouldnt want kids; I'm not good enough. I did not want to be like my mom and pass the cycle of narcissism on. Luckily I was gay and an aspergers so o I was kinda dense and didnt absorb the unloving narcissism fully. I could always be honest woth myself like you are!
Hi Daniel if you would please give your take on the source trauma aka legacy burdens and part of healing through ancestral work? Thank you for your videos, you are a blessing to this world
I’ve been trying!
Daniel, you are talking about Paolo Freire. I heartily recommend his work.
Hi, do you have a butterfly collection by any chance :p?
I've been collecting them since I was 5.
Why not do both
Hi, Daniel. I agree with all you said and have two biological children who are in their early twenties. I also love your idea of asexual reproduction in humans. Even though I have always practiced it, from now on, I will see it as you described. Thank you.
Amazing to me that people are continuing to bring babies into this disintegrating world. As you say, what future do they have?
I think it was Richard Dawkins that coined the term "meme", as a combination of "gene" and "memory" to mean a non-genetic passing on of information or ideas rather than a genetic one, so we might not be your genetic successors, Daniel, but your memetic successors.
I just wish such a novel and useful word didn't get co-opted into meaning "funny internet picture".
😂 quote" keep as alive forever ,As if their physical being had some intrinsic worth in a way that I think it really doesn't." 😂
Your talking about asexual reproduction reminded me of how I've found myself mimicking some of your mannerisms after having watched your videos 😅
I feel like it's better to adopt than to create children.
I dont think adoption solves the problem of acting out unresolved trauma on someone you hold power over.
@@pod9363 Yes that could still happen. But if 2 people are healthy in most or in every way. Instead of making children. Make a child's life better than living in an orphanage. I hope adoptive parents don't have the mindset of. "You should be so grateful being with us. Instead of being in an orphanage." The parents should be grateful for having the opportunity. To massively improve a child's life.
Thank you for all you do. I consider you one of my surrogate fathers.❤️
I think even Plato contemplated this same idea in one of his dialogues; that one always strives for immortality and some people strive for it with actual physical offspring (kids) and some with metaphysical offspring - be it ideas, art or philosophy, which can last forever too, because they have a lasting influence on others.
P.s. I would appreciate if you made a video about shame and / or guilt and how these feelings are connected to mental health. For instance, I heard this idea that sometimes when a person is angry all the time, he/she might hide some sort of shame inside him which they might try to cover with the feeling of anger. Why do you think this happens? And why people who are depressed sometimes have this intense feeling of guilt - sometimes describing the feeling as being punished for eternal damnation? (It might apply for serious anxiety/OCD too if someone fears they have done something wrong even if the feeling is disproportionate)
I'm right with you in agreement for both paragraph points. I'd never have been able to pursue my creative life if i'd had children and both myself and my husband agreed from the beginning that we didn't want them as they are massive responsibility and would consume so much of our time and energy. Cats have been allowed into our little family though😊. From a self development angle too, I've had the space to do this in.The depression point is very valuable from the perspective of accompanying shame and guilt...maybe less understood too, so Daniel , it would be good to cover this.
@@lynnehendersonfisher Yes I understand; both the pursuit of creative life and raising children are a demanding task in and on itself!
I think I also read somewhere that shame is a feeling at the core in addiction, too... meaning that the person might have this (unconscious) inner sense of shame in themselves that they are unaware and that they are trying to cover with a substance or addictive behaviour... I find this interesting, because I think this same psychological dynamic might be an underlyind condition at mental health issues at a larger scale, too, not just in addictions..(And we all have our share of addictions). And i feel like so much of this shame is something we wouldn't need to carry, because what if we just carry some sort of shame passed on from our parents? Or if we have shame but don't really face the underlying guilt about something entirely else? I think the distinction between shame and guilt is that you feel guilt when you have done something wring and you feel shame when you feel like your whole sense of self is wrong... and mostly about things we have no control :/
I just searched and Daniel has a video topic on shame and guilt and their differences and a video on healthy vs unhealthy guilt. But still, it would be interesting to hear his thoughts, if he has some new ideas or if he could respond to the topic..
@@july7578 Yes, well thought through on the shame ang guilt. I think shame is linked to having committed a kind of preceived 'sin' against the self or someone else. Guilt is maybe more complex coming from a value system that isn't working very well for the self or more simply having acted selfishly at someone elses expense. Not admitting guilt in a social context is seen as a huge thing eg been expected to show remorse for a crime to receive any form of forgiveness. But the link to depression is what I find interesting. I felt shame when I got very depressed during a midlife crisis - shame at having succumbed to the depression was very strong. Yet I didn't feel guilty. Very powerful emotions, both of them!
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Yes, there can be fear or guilt about bringing a child into the world, but that can be mitigated by those of us parents who'd rather believe in overcoming that fear, doubt or other feelings to believe in the good prospering, and the best parts of them being expressed while we pour into them love, respect and examples of leadership while holding them accountable and building their character. What if only the ill-intentioned or ignorant or less than civic-minded people were the only ones having children? That could be pretty bad.
It's everyone's choice to have or not to have children. Frankly, it should be seen as a vocation because parenting, esply mindfully, with a global human perspective while acknowledging our children are born uniquely and whole, is not for the faint of heart. And I did it as a single mother.
I was raised in difficult circumstances with mentally ill parents and in an abusive and neglectful home. Yet, there were good people who came across my path who had wisdom that filled in the blank spaces and helped me along. Do I have damage from my early years and decisions I made into my 30s? Yes. I have C-PTSD and PTSD and struggle still with my self-esteem. Yet I'm so glad I wasn't deprived of this life and I'm even more glad I decided, quite mindfully, to have a child because I believed I had something of value to impart to my child which was how to overcome adversity, along with love and leading by example. It's not been easy, but I have a little more hope in this world because my son is in it, doing uplifting podcasts of his own, and making music that moves people and inspires - at 24 years old. Whether he will marry and/or have children remains to be seen. Each generation has its own challenges. Gen Z was born into the aftermath of 9/11, and came of age a global pandemic! In between, they were disappointed my a school system that let them take and retake exams until the student or the teacher was happy. That's not how the real world works. So in the presence of these trials and poor examples of "fairness" I was able to preach our family values at home and although I didn't parent perfectly, my intentions and examples always came through. He witnessed me going to 12-step mtgs without shame and with diligence. I thought it very important to show him it's ok to me imperfect, but one must accept themselves, as is, and seek a better way, where one reveals itself.
Daniel, I believe you definitely do contribute to your listener's evolution, and I have no doubt you've helped to heal those with emotional scars. Just do please know that even those of us who chose to be parents did also find the time and energy to do the same for others. If so inclined, it happens organically when placed in a cmmty of school-aged children, all searching for who they want to be when they grow up, who invariably encounter judgment and ridicule. It was my privilege to be available to them when the situation arose. And even mindful parents can think outside of the box and promote growth in others. For sure, not everyone who has children should have children. Yet conscious people like me, and people like yourself, have much to contribute when it comes to NOT repeating our parents' mindless and damaging mistakes. Yet, I understand it's not for everyone.
I DID feel my wings get clipped at first after having a child, but then I just learned to fly closer to home - "the nest," as you say. I still traveled with him, but I did most of my extensive traveling before 39 when I had him, and after I worked through many of my childhood wounds. It is possible.
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It's not selfish to NOT have kids. Wish my parents didn't have me. They were not good and ruined my life with toxic narcissism, triangulation.
This isn’t my essay but I think you could have found a better word or terminology than asexual.
Like what?
Our society places entirely too much value on biological lineages. As you're saying Daniel, there are other ways of impacting the world and nurturing young people. I think things would be a lot better if we focused on nurturing the people and environment around us, rather than sequestering away our resources for biological offspring. It takes a village.
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well if we define reproduction as transfer of full gene set, then the transference of diploid cell of fetus into mothers in microchemirism would count as a form of asexual reproduction. this would also seem a form of horizontal gene transfer within humans
however, it is certainly reductionist to count the diploid cell in the mother that will never develop into a mature adult as a successful product of reproduction
4:55 Where is this place?
Northern Japan, Hokkaido, near Wakkanai
Daniel, do you identify as and/or have you ever been diagnosed as neurodivergent? Your content speaks to every “aspie” nerve in my body. I would love for you to cover the topic!
assessment for that is based on junk science - you can't tell what's really going on in the brain based on outward behavior. end up just pathologizing normal variations.
Hi Allison -- I identify as being unusual, I suppose -- but not neurodivergent. And I've never been diagnosed as neurodivergent. Thanks for asking, though -- Daniel
@@dmackler58 thank you :) would love to hear you weigh in one day! Thank you for sharing your content.
@@dmackler58you definitely have very divergent thinking🤭🤭🤭
@@alexdiaz4296 yea, definitely on the spectrum.
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What do you think about antinatalism? Not reproducing at all? Voluntary extinction?
Totally for it!
I've chosen not to have children....and I think it's a bad idea for most people to have them. But I still have some hope for humanity -- somehow, somewhere in the future. As it happens, I see humanity as totally out of sync with nature now -- and if it continues it'll be our demise...
The gist i get from his stuff is "heal all your trauma before having kids".
@pod9363 impossible. Certain wounding is necessary for development as some psychoanalysts say like James Hollis. And traumas only resurface later in life as well as economy, surroundings etc.
@dmackler58 yeah, though the suffering until that stage I don't know. Life is suffering in its design. Even if childhood trauma is left out of the equation.
The science of Epigenetics can confirm that your videos can and will have an effect to the expression of genes of the people who are watching them and in that sense you are passing Your-Self to many many more people than you could ever affect with the standard biological method and without having to change a single diaper! (but I know there is a different kind of cost on this transmission of your heritage...)
Have you seen Ollie Mathews' videos? They were immensly helpful for me 5 years ago. gave me a break-through.
Yep, hard to bring a kid into a world where even you don't belong... one that even happens to be hostile to the very nature of a child and even life itself; human and non human.
With this concept in mind we are all somewhat related.
There are 8 billion humans when the optimal population for a renaturalized earth is several hundred thousand.
How did you go from 34K to 134K in just a couple years ?? wow!
Please talk about how many response to covid amplified anti social cruel behavior? 😰 idk just random idea
Why would being poor now in your life not be antithetical to further healing?
None of this makes sense.
Poor does not mean being filthy rich
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Hello Daniel, i just wanted to say that your channel helps me grow and become a better person, for me and others. Thank you so much 🫂
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What about intellectually induced asexuality
Reproduction of ideas is not secual to be asexual or otherwise.
He is using it as a metaphor.
A vasectomy can help lock that Freedom in your Lifestyle up. I got mine two years ago at age 21 After Watching durianriders Video Why he got the snip.
Harley Johnstones words Match up very well with the Ones Daniel Mackler Speaks. I Follow Daniels Channel for many years and watched every Video and documentaries he Made and also Visited his website
But I Think Daniel Speaks around like a cat dancing around Hot porridge. He could use More Power and speak up the truth More straight.
Is it over? 👇
Heres an unconventional idea: instead of denouncing parents, befriend them. Offer to do errands for them so they can be present for their kids. Coach a little league team. Tutor the kids. Start an after school program. Many parents are nice people who just wanna have a nice family life but are too stressed out, just like single celibate people.
It's memetic reproduction.
Physical asexual reproduction is also possible...egg donors and surrogates. Then you use your own sperm.
ISAAC NEWTON never had any biological children....neither my humble ass and many people of my generation....We have children in dreamland of 5D GAYA which shapes our reality on 3D Earth. Peace & love
by this reasoning, the two have nothing to do with one another. You have in the past made it clear how damaging it is for children when parents raise them to be copies of themselves.
I have 2 kids. I know Im expected to be outraged at this video.😄 But I think these are good points. Economically having kids has been a disaster-Its a Long story. But they are relatively happy thank God. I ask them how theyre doing regularly and they know they can be honest with me. I know the future is going to be really wild and Im doing my best to prep them.
Sending Love & courage💖
what? they're relatively happy? ask them when they lay in their death bed, get cancer or inevitably suffer in other ways. you're a joke for thinking you have any clue of what you got your kids into.
why not? 😂 One could use kids on social media to attract clicks and likes every day … put them on UA-cam. Imagine all those monetized toy videos and shorts (kidding!). Some people say, after the age of 40 folks are happier if they have kids. Use them to boost your own happiness, waaah. Another way to become happy: kids can make you sandwiches and bring you beer and potentially pay your bills later in life. I’m sarcastic, of course. raising a child is a huge responsibility but for those who have healed (at least partially) these relationships also may bring great joy and help make this world a better place. for other (toxic) folks who want a “mini me”, I suggest they create their own AI kids and have lots of fun instead of damaging another real human being. ❤
Daniel, I see the merit in your message but I think you are doing it a disservice by giving it that ill-fitted name. I shouldn't have to explain how a child-free lifestyle does not constitute asexual reproduction, whether one shares their ideas with the world or not. But when you call it that, it makes it sound like you're yielding to the very social (and genetic, but genes can't hear our arguments) pressures you're arguing against here. If you must use a biological analogue, something with "heredity" i.e. the passing on of traits, would be a less inaccurate road to go down compared to "asexual reproduction". But personally I'd just go for an established term like legacy/influence.
Recently I've ended a longterm relationship from which I hoped to get a traditional family. I decided to start a longstanding celibacy like yours but I still feel the need to have kids. I think I'd be a great mother, but maybe the traditional family is not for me. I plan to use artificial insemination for that one day. It's kind of an asexual reproduction!
Thank you for everything Daniel!
please be careful where and how you decide to do that. I read articles about men who donate hundreds of times, so these kids have hundreds if not thousands of half brothers and sisters basically.
Ever considered adopting?
There are already millions of children in desperate need of a good mother...
Just an idea
Thanks for reproducting with me today 🥵
Asexual!!! Asexual reproduces itself, basically a clone. He also said metaphorically, he is spreading out a piece of himself which are his ideas/ philosophy.
I think you are very wrong. I am even more crazy than you, I took being against the mains stream to the whole new level believe me : D I had also traumatic childhood, not as much as yours, and I value family a lot. I will not surrender to your mistake or mistakes of my parents and will raise a very healthy and strong kids. I don't think you worked out your problems fully. Thinking about reproduction in your way is not healthy
I think you underestimate the value & power of parenthood/sexual reproduction on the potential for growth & evolution of one's psyche, & of healing trauma. Your premise is misguided & frankly, arrogant & unbecoming. A much stronger argument can likely be made to the contrary, actually, as there is no bond of love more powerful & transformational than the parent-child one & the experience of parenthood. But, the bottom line is, it's not a contest. And there's zero need to posit one state as superior to the other. I like your content, but this seems off to me.