gloomy day in korea | ilsan lake park
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- Опубліковано 18 вер 2024
- Hi everyone! We had a weirdly cool day this weekend so I headed up north to Ilsan (just an hour or so outside of Seoul!) to visit a bookstore and the lake park before summer here in Korea gets unbearably hot. I didn't intend for this vlog to become mostly me talking about social media messing with my mind, but it is what it is. Hope you still enjoy the greenery and have a great rest of your week!
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Literally me my whole life... and I think to my myself maybe cause I am an introvert. 🤷🏻♀️ i feel comfortable wandering around but at times... loneliness does kick in. Anyways... love the new plants 🌱 really enjoy watching your vlogs. Thk u so much. 💛 Good day ahead!
Totally, most of the time im alone but not lonely but this week social media had me questioning myself 😒
I love how you find all these cute little things to do and places to visit that most people probably would pass up. It makes me so excited for next year when I’m studying abroad in Seoul!!
My study abroad time here was the highlight of my LIFE hahha you’ll have so much fun!
squads are often fake friendships. I love being alone. When I was younger I felt weird because of it but not at late 20s I have learned to appreciate it. I have all the time focus on myself. love your videos!
agreed!! thank you so much :)
I think that solo travel is something that should be more out there with social media since the uprising of the whole “squad” movement. Watching your videos has definitely made me realise how amazing solo travel is. I hopefully will get there one day with today I’m going to the cinema alone! So one step at a time I will venture out!
totally! its so hard to schedule time to travel with other people - you'd think solo travel would be so much more popular hahahah
You only need a few good friends that love you. I have anxiety being in big group of people thanks for talking about it! I love being by myself that’s probably why I am single haha
Completely agree hahahhahha
the beret + hair clip combo looks so cute on you!!
thank you ❤️❤️
Is that really you??!!! 😻
i love how you vlog, cari! you don't have to explain everything, you tell a story with the camera so well. thank you for always making content above the standard
thank you so much!
Sorry I’m commenting twice but wow I seriously needed to hear that regarding the like “when I’m alone should I feel lonely” kinda thing, because I’ve really been feeling the same exact way recently! Thank you for deciding to talk about it 💗
Phew im glad!! Im usually not too easily tricked by social media but this week got me 🙃
I loved your comments about being alone and not having a large friend group (aka squad). I couldn’t have said better myself and I really appreciate your openness to express this. Thank you.
I love the new plants, the colors go so well with everything else you have.
i love them too!!
thanks for touching on this topic. I often feel more lonely in big groups than when I’m alone.
And that day honestly looks perfect, I’m especially fond of the vibrancy of all those flowers, reminds me of impressionistic paintings 🌹🌼
Ahh, so relatable, Cari! All through 8 years of university I felt this constant push/pull of feeling like I needed a friend group, but being profoundly unhappy, self-conscious, and FOMO-ey the closer I got into a group. I do think the student environment cultivates this "squad" ideal (I hate it too haha) and it's been so much easier to let go of it after graduation. Your videos inspire me so much to explore new places on my own and to see the joy in the every day and quietly personal experiences, so thank you!!
yeah people i know with big groups of friends that arent really true, close friends tend to be unhappier because they're comparing themselves to people in their group or feeling fomo because maybe 2 people in the group are closer than they are - its all a waste of time. good for people who like groups but im really happy with my close friends :)
ilsan is honestly so beautiful! and i'm loving the plant you got! perfect video to watch right before going to sleep, thank you cari!!
Sweet dreams!!!
The part where you describe the types of friendships and when you say that you feel unfulfilled by the more "meaningless" ones made my day. It made me feel normal, it made me feel okay. Thank you so much!
hey cari its 5am where i am right now in australia and i cannot tell you how much your talk about going solo or your view on friendships and 'squads' is of the utmost importance for me to hear right now. i haven't watched your videos for a while, since about april, and im so glad i searched you up again because i was feeling mighty anxious about life and relationships and your one on one really comforted me. having that good ol' existential crisis during the ungodly hours of the early morning is a little easier to get through with your videos so thank you.
We love a good existential crisis 😂🙏 but really, i know how much it means to me to hear other people going through things that I thought was just me - so I’m glad this one helped you out!
The flowers in the background while the pensive you were talking to the pensive me were so magical. 🌼
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I’m coming to Seoul next week to visit my long distance boyfriend!!! Your videos get me so hype for the trip and help me cope when I leave!!!!! I love youuuu
omg i hope you have an amazing trip!!!!
cari cakes thank you bb!!
I love cactus plants ❤️ And about being alone, i love being alone. Being alone doesn't mean you're lonely.
Every time I’m watching Cari’s vlog, I always learn something new. Love that talk about friendship. I guess as we grow older we love to be more reserved and having few good, loyal friends. Sometimes I do like going out with a squad but it’s all for fun, nothing deep.
I really needed that talk about how social media is trying to tell me or anyone that you should be hanging out with friends and not be alone, so thank you for talking about that.
You’re so right Cari! I think a lot of people go trough this around the world. I’m 21 and I am getting start to realize that it’s ok to be alone, it’s ok to travel alone, and those moments are very precious. 🌞💗
loved your talk about friendships and types of friends (: in high school I was lucky enough to have (and still have!) friends of the “true” friendship type. one of those friends learned a phrase in Latin that she shared with us which I think is applicable to that friendship type - “sī valēs, valeō” or “if you are well, I am well.” 😊
having few friendships that allow for a deeper connection and withstand time and distance are much more important than attempting to connect with a large group of people for a briefer amount of time, in my opinion
i totally agree and i adore that phrase! relationships like that are so hard to find, we're lucky we have them :)
Your videos are a pleasure to watch! It’s becoming my new routine to watch them along with a cup of tea 🌌 so relaxing✨ thank you for showing all these places, as always!
Im so happy hahah im drinking tea now too so cheers!
I really loved the part of the "reflection". A lot of times when I go out alone I feel a little bit insecure and it sometimes helps when I go out with company, but since I started to watch your videos I felt inspired to start to go out alone a little bit more and I feel like it's okay to go out alone, it's okay not to have a big group of people with you all the time. I really hope you feel better, plus sometimes you are the best company you can have. 😊❤
I’m an introvert as well and loves being solitary sometimes (maybe more often than I care to admit) 🙈 all your videos especially ones where you take yourself on a date (travelling alone) is a breath of fresh air! 💖💖💖
Your words hit really close home, you have no idea how much I appreciate them! I feel understood and validated, hehe. The plant family is slowly growing more and more 🌱
I think between High School and College is really hard for the type of people who crave such deep meaningful connection. Last year I remember being just so worried because I loved my hs friends and I didn’t want to feel like I was replacing them but at the same time some small part of me was worried they’d forget me as well even if I couldn’t forget them...
(it all worked out though! I’m lucky to have that kinda pause-play pick up where you left off relationship with them 😊And I have a couple great college friends as well!!)
You find the most beautiful places to hang out. Social media can influence us in the wrong way a lot of times. You’re doing good for yourself! Don’t stop being who you are! 💐
Your vlogs are more powerful then those group style vlogs. You are encouraging people to be comfortable in their own skin, to find adventures in the day to day and to love their self. Very inspiring!!
This video fits my mood so well today. So thankful for you and your content, always. 💜
I’m so glad 🙏🙏
I really like your videos, they're so soothing and pretty. Thanks for the talk too, it relieves me.
thank you!!
Your little “I Didn’t Plan on Buying a Plant” Adventure was so relatable!! I’ve reached double digits with my number of green babies so I think it’s getting a little out of hand but idc 😂😂 (this vlog was adorable!!!❤️)
I don't really know how I came across your channel but I am so happy I did! Your vlogs are so peaceful and actually take me away for a second in the best way possible!
Being alone and recharging while doing something you love is so healthy...another wonderful adventure in the books. Enjoyed it very much!
I love everytime you have a little conversation about your points of view in life.
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Nooo you're not doing anything wrong! Actually been watching your vlogs and following your journey through them for a while now. They really inspire me. You really inspire me. I take a walk longer and farther than i used to. I explore neighbourhoods i've never been to alone. And all that happen because i have a courage by watching your video going here and there all by yourself. What I love more about what you do is that, you have a beautiful relationship with Kurt, but you dont always showing off or doing PDA like some other influencers do. Instead, you still cherish and enjoy your time alone. Thank you, Cari!
Cari are you an angel in disguise?? Your videos give me so much warmth and comfort, that words won't suffice. I've been watching your videos over and over that it's like I am having a Cari Cakes vlog marathon. Love and light to you from India. ❤️🌼
i love your vlogs and i never miss a single one 💗 and thank you for that talk, lately ive been needing that :,-)
gah thank you im so glad!!
You don’t need to. I should have told you earlier that I like how peaceful your channel is and that was exactly what I needed. To be honest, I travel alone sometimes, not because I don’t have any friends but because I believe that we should have our own little space and time where you can listen to your heart, thinking about your own thoughts. And yeah if I feel like I want to talk to someone then I find new friends, there’s something like going night out clubbing which you shouldn’t go alone etc. Hope you enjoy your time to the fullest. Sending my love ❤️
Damn girl you hit the nail on the head. Throughout my life have always felt like I wasn’t doing it right because I’ve never had a “squad” even after school. Every time I see people’s posts of them all having fun in a big group I get sad and feel like I’m lacking something, while completely ignoring the fact that I feel most lonely when I’m in a big group of people as I’m quite introverted. Since finding your channel I’ve been able to find strength in my enjoyment of being alone (rather than feeling embarrassed) and try to spend more time enjoying things alone. Thank you for being you and always sharing content that I can relate to 💕
I really needed this vlog. My whole AC unit went out. Had to go get IV's to get me back on track. Can't even stay at home until they order a new unit and put it in. . But we have a bed and breakfast here, they let me, my Mother and my dog stay for free until it's fixed. Your videos help so much.
oh no!! i hope it gets fixed soon and im so glad you guys found a place to help you out. last summer i had to get an IV for heat related reasons and even though it made me feel great, i dont wish it upon anyone. sending you hope of cold weather your way!
@@caricakes We are just waiting on the parts. I'm feeling a bit better from the IV's. But still sluggish. Texas heat is no joke.
This aesthetic is so chill and I’m here for it. I’m so thankful I found this channel.
😭❤️ thank YOU!
Wow I definitely felt like that in college. Freshman year I ended up getting absorbed into a big "squad", and it was fun sometimes but then they started wanting to party and stay out late all the time. I'm not a huge fan of that so I slowly was included less and less. But junior year I was randomly put with a roommate that loved to go do the same things I did! The rest of college we spent the weekends going to historic homes, plantations, museums, aquariums, and binging anime and kdramas. I loved that we built a friendship that was based on things we truly enjoyed and wasn't just for the sake of hanging out with other people.
omg YES! i had something similar happen and im so thankful for that random meeting haha my closest friends came from working at the library for my work study job :')
thank you so much for that reminder that I loveeeee being alone!! I am an introverted/ extroverted person but lately I had been forgetting to appreciate my time alone
I really really enjoyed this vlog, this cafe at the start looked gorgeous as did the rest of the views and scenery through the vlog!
And honestly, thank you so much for talking about friendships and enjoying your own solitude. I don’t think I realised I needed to hear it from another human to feel some form of relief but apparently I did. I actually feel the pressure both from social media and from my language school as about two thirds of my class (whom are all adults) all go out with each other in a big group partying and just hanging out a lot and I just...can’t/don’t want to? It’s too much, I want to be able to have a good conversation with one person and not be distracted by several other people, and then I always feel like they think it’s weird in class when I’m recounting all the things I’ve done by myself and not with other people like I’m some weirdo for being alone a lot of the time.
Anyway, I definitely want to look into the three types of friendships more!
So thank you, I hope you have a lovely day and I am looking forward to Sunday’s vlog ☺️✨🌞🌻
oh my god i totally get that - i even feel that at work sometimes. its like, i want to join and be social but also i hate big groups and hate beer and would rather just be 1:1 with someone! i hope you have a great day too and us introverts need to stick together hehe
Thank you for this reminder! I've often fallen into the trap of thinking that I'm missing out, that I can't have as much fun as other people if I'm not participating in group events, that I'm lonely and boring. So I love that there are so many people here who feel similarly, who also prefer one-on-one time with friends to group settings and who like doing things alone! ☺️ We are all normal, yay haha!!!
I love your solo vlogs. I love exploring new places aft my own pace without worrying about other inputs. And you give me so many day trip ideas for my time here in Korea!
I literally start my day watching your videos while I prep up for work. I genuinely feel connected to you! ❤️
a few seconds and I'm already loving it 💕
Gah!! Thank you!!
@@caricakes thank you for creating such amazing content as always ❣
since I was born I have always had at least a "real" friendship with me, because of my shyness and my anxiety, I also needed it! Growing up, I decided to be alone and my being alone is a part that I love very much of myself .. I often found myself asking if I need a group like most people of my age, the immediate answer is that convenience friendships don't make sense for me! I prefer to be alone 😌❤️✨
Mahalo for validation for enjoying spending time with yourself. I love spending time alone. When I’m with a group of friends or even with my large family, I feel overwhelmed not to be myself or can’t be myself. So I become someone else to make them comfortable. I enjoy small gatherings to have opportunities to develop a deeper relationships with my family and friends.
Your chat reminded me a bit of Evan Edinger's travel channel. He has a small group of friends that he sometimes travels with but a lot of my favourite vlogs have been the ones where he is alone and just enjoying himself, I kind of think he's shown both sides in a healthy way, and I think I've been so drawn to your content recently because I relate to not feeling lonely when I'm by myself like most people think I am. Thanks for talking about this Cari!
absolutely love the aesthetic of ur vids. They sorta give me a calmness and I just love sitting down with a snack and binging on ur vids! LOVE U LOADS!!!! :)
I 100% agree with your talk about friendship...
I don't like being in huge groups, I feel awkward most of the times (especially when I don't know most of the people aka "friends of friends of friends etc...)
My friends always call me antisocial (yes I am a "lone wolf") and they think I'm unable to enjoy my free time alone *rolls eyes* 🙄...
I love them but I also love ME LOL!!
sorry for the rant 😇 I loved all the green in your vlog 🌳🌵🌱🌿💕
lol i was going to say "lone wolves unite!!" but then we wouldnt be lone wolves any more would we hahahaha
Just finished watching the whole vlog, and it relieves me to know that I am not the only person in this world who felt the pressure to be part of such a big group and how unnecessary it is. Sure it is great to have and be part of those groups, esp when you are someone who likes going out or travelling to evade awkwardness while roaming the area, but since I subscribed your chanel, I realized that it is okay to travel alone and being alone doesnt necessarily mean lonely, being alone relieves me from the pressure of being accepted too and the need to change just to fit in. Thankyou for inspiring me.
Ohhhhh I really like the music so far. Your skin looks so nice! Still watchingggg and loving every moment. 💕👏🏼
Thank you always 😭
Seemed like a rather perfect day to me 😏 ... the colors of the succulent are gorgeous! Thank you for sharing 💕
it was!!
I really love your video's Cari and especially when you are so honest about certain things. I really enjoy being alone and have a few friends. It is fun to hang out with them, but I'm not upset when I won't see them for a while. Honestly, being around multiple people is sometimes so tiring which is why I also love being alone a lot. Totally understand what you say in this video. Thank you 🥰
So beautiful the book cafe, the garden I love it!
When I was younger I was like that, I thought that I needed to be with many friends, had a large group of friends to hang out, and feel complety bad if I was not with people, but now that I'm in my 30s I feel good alone, taking time for myself, of course I had friends in that 3 categories and like you said is not bad, and Im happy with the friends of the good that are only a few but that will be with me forever.
Thanks as always for sharing
omg that bookstore cafe looks soooo nice
The people were so kind too 😭
It was so important to me to listen to you talking about friendships... I'm the type of person to have a few friends only but ones that I have a deep conection, and I don't feel the need to have a lot of people around me, I like doing my things alone, but people always pressure me to make more friends, like I'm weird for being that way. It's so good to see someone thinking the same as me! Also, love your vlogs always, makes me peaceful and happy!
agreed, its fun every now and then to get coworkers over to have a board game night but other than that im so happy with myself and the small circle i have :) have a wonderful day!
I've been dealing very strongly with the whole friendship thing for almost a year now...Somehow this video and your words help me out a lot. Thanks
I’m 30, and have just a few very close friends and yet I still love to be alone. I go to restaurants alone, I go to movies alone; I love my friends dearly and I still do things with them but I never feel lonely when I’m by myself. There is something beautiful about liking your own company ☺️
Girl, I watched your video where you talked about The Night Tiger, and now I’m reading it and I cannot put it down. Thank youuuuuuuuuuu!
I recently realized that I am more of an introvert. Thanks for talking about this whole “social media squad”, it’s good to know that I’m not the only person feeling this way. I love your vlogs, they are always so peaceful and beautiful. Don’t fight your plant obsession!!! :) ♥️
I really relate to the struggle of having a group of friends or even a large number of individual friends. I think the main thing I realized after starting college was that I’m just the type of person who likes to devote a lot of my time to one or two close friends and make those friendships super strong and tight. I love that you talked about this because both social media and like “college life” tend to brainwash you into thinking that you are wrong for handling your social life differently but really nobody is the same and everybody struggles with this ❤️❤️
exactly!! couldnt have said it better myself :)
Loved the peaceful atmosphere of Ilsan. For some reason the scenery brought back so much childhood nostalgia! The area I grew up in the Midwest has a similar feeling if that makes sense. Anywho! I felt a real sense of calm this video.
And I especially appreciated your thoughts on friendship and social media. I think that at the end of the day it matters more the quality of your friendships rather than quantity. However, everyone is different and that is ok :). We should all experience life surrounded by the people who we share a genuine connection with, no many how many people that may be!
Sorry for the novel Cari, but this one really got me today! Love love love the atmosphere of the video and quality of the convo you shared with us :).
P.S. I hope the plant friends do well!
quality over quantity always!! and im glad this took you back! the wild flowers were incredible :)
You look so cute and adorable with your hat and everything.
I love all your videos Carie!! I also love the fact that you are strong and not get swayed by others!!
I think it's okay to listen to advice of others but ultimately you have to live your own life and make
decision that's best for you and the only person who knows what's best for you is you.
You go girl~
Officially moved into my new home in Arizona and today is 107 degrees!!!! And to think this is not the "hot weather" yet. Lol. Your vlog was just what I needed to sit back, relax, stay cool indoors and live vicariously through your travels. Lol.
omg be careful in that heat and stay hydrated!! the desert is no joke heheh
I totally agree! High school was so hard for me bc having lots of “friends” and Idk why but i felt even more alone. Now that I am in uni I got to really connect with people that I consider true and life long. This video really hit me with the feels and led me to thinking about your peaceful wind chime haha idk why 😂🤷🏻♀️
im so glad my windchime has such love!!! hahaha! and yes, truer and fewer is the way to be!
Yeah, i occassionally go through the whole doubting my preference thing too with how I make friends and do friendships. It can be hard sometimes to be true to how I really feel (like you, i love having a lot of alone time, i like hanging outside by myself and enjoying things in the moment, and I don't really do the whole drinking and being in loud environments thing) when people keep inviting me to things or pushing me to go to certain events. I've taken to reminding close friends how much of a homebody I am and how I like small group hangouts a lot more so they don't feel bad when I reject certain social offerings.
I watch ur videos diligently and add the locations to my wishlist! U inspire me to start vlogging!.
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Posted it before even watching the whole thing, but now talking about friendships, i know what u mean! I have had different groups of friends but at one point i started loving the solitude. It feels like instead of exerting myself to socialise i prefer exploring. Another reason i resonate with your videos so much! Loves xx
yessss start vlogging!! and exactly, i see so much more when i explore solo!!!
Yay finally here on time for my fave!! 💖💗
Yesss thank you!!!
always happy to open youtube and see that you uploaded a new video. they are always so calming and relaxing, it's almost therapeutic. after a stressful day, it really is just what I needed. so thank u and lots of love
Thanks for voicing out your concerns! I actually get really inspired to go solo bc of your videos. I'm also the type who can hang out alone, and watching you do that is very comforting.
gahhh im glad!! i feel like traveling alone and traveling with someone are so different - i see the place i go in such different ways!
Ilsan seems so pretty and chill! It has been one of the areas I wanted to check out when I visit Korea. I love succulents (I have a few!) and yours is pretty. I enjoyed visiting Serra Gardens in Oceanside, they have a lot of landscape succulents. The calathea is also pretty.
I can relate to you regarding being alone or possibly feeling lonely. I am a bit older than you, and I love to travel by myself (I've been single for a long time, and I actually am enjoying myself). That is one aspect that attracted me to your channel, the solo traveling. I have never felt anything negative about being alone; I thought it might be just me. I prefer quality over quantity - I have a few close friends that I absolutely adore (they have families and we don't talk or hang out often, but that's ok) and I am happy with that. I can understand possibly being swayed by social media, but I hope whatever you do, you are happy!
ahh oceanside!! and yes, i have some friends that i might not talk to for months but when we're together again its like no time has passed, its really a blessing :)
@@caricakes I know that feeling, it's pretty great! :)
Thank you so much for sharing your current struggles. Since I was young, I have always felt unfulfilled with my friends, and chose to stick more to myself. I couldn't understand why this was, when everyone around me had lots of "squads". Everything you said resonated so strongly with me that I just had to comment. 😊 I love your channel by the way, you always visit such beautiful places!
wait im actually screaming I cannot tell you how much I needed to hear your talk about loneliness. I just moved to NYC for work, and as person who also finds joy in spending time alone, I felt this weird pressure of like, am I choosing to be alone or am I alone because I literally don't have any friends here? And I know in my heart I find solace in my own presence, but seeing everyone around me constantly with people (real life n social media) I felt wrong for feeling the way I felt and for being the way I am??? your whole talk has literally reaffirmed by love for treasuring my own presence THANK U FOR ALWAYS GROUNDING ME CARI sorry tO SPILL MY LIFES TEA
UGH IM SO GLAD! nyc is my fav place to explore alone tbh hahah give the city my love!!!
Thank you so much for taking the time to talk about this. Its something I've been struggling with a lot recently and as an introvert, it felt really disorienting. This was a much welcome reminder for me 💗
I love one on one interactions too and not a big fan of big groups. My group of friends is small in general and I honestly wouldn’t have it any other way. love that you brought up this topic! When I was younger I use to think that large groups = more popularity and having less friends means you are less attractive and a loner but I truly treasure the deep connections I have with my very close friends and small group friends > large group of friends all the way ☺️🙌🏼
exaaaactly!!!🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
I don't know if you'll see this, but when you started talking about the other influencers traveling in groups, and you're usually alone, and you like 1 on 1 but not groups, i had to pause the video and tell you it's because you are an introvert! That's 100% introvert behavior. :) Introverts are not lonely or shy. They enjoy their alone time. They process in their head, and they'll speak more slowly and think about what they're saying. Whereas extroverts might talk really fast because they can think and process as they're speaking. Then there are social introverts or extroverted introverts, who they can do groups but they can only do it for so long and then they're done and need to decompress and have that alone time again. Don't worry about it!
Thank you for posting this cari! Ive also never had a big group of friends but have been surrounded by people that do, and it’s been hard to determine if that was something I needed because I’m more like you-I prefer hanging out with people one on one. Love the vlog and Ilsan!
Cari, you gonna hit 100k pretty soon, proud to be here since the beginning :)
Wow it’s crazy how much I love your videos, you’re literally the only youtuber that I look at on time and each time I’m so exited to see the next one, I recognize myself in you a lot and also this talk about loneliness arrives right on time because I’m in university and this year I only had one friend (utility friend) and everyone was partying and had a group of friend and I just hate that and I’m ok with being alone and this year I was asking myself if I was doing something wrong, why I don’t like partying and have a lot of friends etc. Thank you for this video!
You are giving us so many beautiful vlogs right now and I love it 💜
I'm loving those plants!!
Stay strong Cari, I get how you feel, but you're doing a great job. Staying true to yourself is a hard work :)
Literally right after I said "that's pretty" the next frame shows us that you've bought the succulent.
I remember my aunt once told me that, "you don't need a ton of friends, just one true friend would be enough." I don't if I am or not, but I feel like I'm socially awkward. So I'm thankful for the friends that I do have =p
I agree with the one subscriber's comment about how wonderful it is that you find "these cute little things to do and places to visit that most people would pass up." It's nice to see content that showcases how simplicity can be luxurious too.
Oh! I am from Vienna, now living in Busan tho. I guess I should go there one time 😇😇
hehehe i think you'd like it!!
you do you, cari! we’re rooting for you!✨
I can relate! I am a very outgoing/ extroverted person but not really a fan of having a large group of friends. I have about 4-7 people I hang out with regularly mostly on a one to one basis and thats good enough for me. I also really enjoy my alone time and all of my close friends are the types where we can be in the same room but don't need to talking to each other the entire time. I love taking a day out of the week to just treat myself to a good meal and wander about alone. It is how I replenish my energy. XOXOXO
i love you so much, pls keep being you
this was so beautiful!!! i really want to go to ilsan lake park because of your videos!!
regarding the loneliness thing, i hope you are feeling better, cari! i understand you so much because i stress about friendships (relationships of all kind, actually) a lot. thank you for this vid!!
This video is definitely the kind that the younger me needed! I think it's wonderful that you're sharing your thoughts because it really does help to find relatableness when you're dealing with a hard situation. Just hearing that someone is going through the same thing as you is so so important, so thank you for this video, Cari!
Cari, thank you so much for chatting with us about this because I relate to this so much.
Well, first, my social anxiety kicks in when it's a group of more than 3 people, and I feel uncomfortable.
I also prefer 1-1 much more and also being alone, because I've learnt from chasing a big group of friends, more often than not, when I'm sitting there, surrounded by a group of people but I feel miles, and miles away and I realised that makes me feel even lonelier than actually being alone. It actually became more detrimental to my mental health. I felt completely empty from these outings.
Utility friendships are especially magnified when you're living abroad, and you're sort of forced into all these friendships because most people feel lonely, and they just want a beating heart, not actually wanting your presence. I've slowly learnt to let go of these friendships, because I often looked around and found myself wondering, we are complete polar opposites. We are just incompatible people and if we were back home, we'd never be friends, so why now?
I came to the conclusion that I am so happy with my own presence. My own solitude completes me, so why should I let societal norms influence what I like and what actually makes me happy?
Hehe.. on that note, I hope you're having a lovely week ~ 💖
Beautiful vlog and good thoughts. :) I think so, too. There is nothing wrong with being alone, to me, it is a kind of relaxation.
I love the part about friendships and loneliness! I have felt very similar and didn't really realize it was because of social media. And it is upsetting and makes you wonder whats going on. But in reality nothing is wrong at all. People are so different and unfortunately social media is full of that "tribe/squad" crap and that just isn't me, I also have never really had a big friend group and I have always been okay with that. I love doing my own thing, and hanging out with my truly loved ones. Thank you for talking about this and the part about Aristotle was very interesting too!
Just a relaxing video😌
I also feel the same with regards friendships. I rather have a good and healthy small group of friends. It’s easier to manage! Having a large group of friends is not bad, but it can get a bit overwhelming...😬
agreed - some people can do it, but not me!
Always love your videos and your talk session.. it makes me think a lot watching your videos and i’d love to visit all the places you went to! Thank you
what you were talking about really resonated with me! my mum is always encouraging me to expect less from close friends and widen my circles but really i'd rather have a handful of good friends than tons of acquaintances. it's nice to know my priorities and wants in that area aren't so abnormal haha
yes! truer and fewer >>>>>>>