1) don’t get rushed, talk and move slow 2) boldness and audacity > get angry and crazy 3) just leave, show that you are bold > make up your mistakes by upgrading your level of boldness > don’t contact them, Ghosh them 4) ask for the moon, demand a lot 5) regality > little of words, big with action, learn to communicate with a normal tone etc. > don’t be vulgar and unprofessional > be conscious about people watching you (assume everyone does) 6) have a difficult side > if someone is disrespecting you, show your angry side; if someone is nice, be nice > have two sides
@@khplaylistyt9729 I did all those mentioned believe me I am very vocal but understand you need to say it in a neutral tone to a guy and not shout. I don’t ever sleep with a guy before marriage and they will play you by ghosting you rather than communicate like a grown man.
@@Shay_845 you can't get love by doing more is what I meant. He loves or doesn't love you. All of these vids by Alex should not be used to attract anyone but to improve oneself.
I grew up in a household that enabled toxic masculinity and babied abusive, incompetent good for nothing men. Any attempts to tell people what you want, to draw boundaries, call out disrespectful behvior were faced with violence and criticisms even with the women in my life. This made me lose my voice, suppressed my anger and aggression, fear them even. Now I am trying to heal all of this! I am going to binge watch your vids ❤❤❤
Wow!!! I’m sorry you had to go thru this. I relate to you so much. Matriarch in the family enables the men even when they do horrible things and when I voice my concerns, I’m treated like I did something wrong or I’m told I’m acting “Jealous”.
I make sure to always protect "my buttons" ....i never want to react in a way that reveals some kind of weakness in my character... while I appreciate the growth/learning that happens when discovering what triggers you. .i just never want to let anyone know they can push that "button" anytime they want to elicit a certain reaction out of me.. that's too much control to give someone other than myself....and the code changes based on the environment.....
Agreed. Shouting right back can absolutely stun the one treating you like a doormat. I've had to do that a few times. I can only conclude that I look like a doormat. 😂
Removing yourself from the situation is the most powerful response because you don’t lose your cool, let them ruffle you, or show your seams. You just walk away, which trains people that that behavior doesn’t work on you. That said, it’s not like you just let them address you again if they’ve treated you badly - not without addressing what happened and making sure they understand you won’t accept it. Do they even get to be around you again? Not without the proper apology (which can mean many things) and showing/saying they understand where they went wrong and what they did that can never happen again. And then show you with their actions this is true. Other than that, they’re permanently cut off. However, it’s always up to you. If you want to scream at them when they scream at you, be my guest. It’s just not my way. I won’t be caught engaging in their foolish actions. Remember Alex said always keep your composure and remain regal. And once someone shows you who they are, believe them, the first time. -Maya Angelou People should only get one chance to mess up, and some folks don’t even give that. One strike and you’re out. 😂
Queen Isabella. Great message though Father Alex. I've employed this/these tactics many a time and have never regretted it. Kind of a basic dark Scorpio trait but it takes loads of experience to perfect.
When you spoke about having a dark side, having seriousness and being professional. These are personas..the PERSONALITY traits that we show to people in different situations. The other thing that is consistent in people and that is their true self is the CHARACTER… Thanks for the video btw.
There’s another guy on Facebook who does fashion on E tv and he trolls me all of the time! He’s an Asian guy and he seems very fashionable, like a designer but he’s always on my feed.
Loveeeee this the topic, the office situation example the other anime etc examples makes it easy to understand i wanted to learn it since i was a kid loveee this video I have a narcissist as a mother so when i used to show different layers of my personality she used to try to suppress it in her mind and her to like me i always had to be a good girl people pleaser it was extremely suffocating thats why its a fabulous video for me. You are doing a great jib alex 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
Alex, please make a video about the difference between confronting the other with what you don't like (which you said brings you respect and creates positive tension in the relationship) and being honest about one's feelings (which you expressed that you like yourself in another video), and sounding needy in a way when expressing one's expectations, straight-up what to do in order to express emotional dissatisfaction without turning the other person off, or is there a way to communicate it without sounding needy, or should one be fulfilling oneself in this aspect?
I'm a broke student that's why I didn't book a call with you or such. If this differentiation interests you and there is something to say about it, bless us with a video about it, because at some points I felt that you might be contradicting yourself
The difference is, is that speaking to someone about your feelings while being willing to walk away. In other words, it's like going into a fight with a gun in your pockets. There's going to be a certain confidence to you that will radiate from within because you know you're packing heat LOL
@user-ph2by9tr1o omg ty for this question ,I couldn't word what I needed to ask properly but u did and I too would like an in depth video if ever he needs some ideas for content .the male ego is a touchy one , the fine line of speaking up and insulting is brutal
@@EricaBellaHairBox good for you! I realized that too much self-control in too many areas is not good for me. Prefer developing my soul, the rest follows automatically
@@CeciledeLuire yes, I use to be a fast talker and I had to slow down my speech for business meetings .. Thank you love bug 😘 I hope all go well for you too !
I like your input and advice. But when I noticed your sweaty armpits I am starting to wonder how you are doing in the dating scene. Hygene is an important factor in relationships as well. Unfortunately that made a bad impression.
I’m exactly like this 🦂 and through life lessons and living in Vegas for 2 years then moving overseas to Jamaica..I’ve became a great negotiator😂 I know how to shape shift into anything I need to in a good way.
1) don’t get rushed, talk and move slow
2) boldness and audacity > get angry and crazy
3) just leave, show that you are bold > make up your mistakes by upgrading your level of boldness > don’t contact them, Ghosh them
4) ask for the moon, demand a lot
5) regality > little of words, big with action, learn to communicate with a normal tone etc. > don’t be vulgar and unprofessional > be conscious about people watching you (assume everyone does)
6) have a difficult side > if someone is disrespecting you, show your angry side; if someone is nice, be nice > have two sides
Thing is, narcs are great at this
Did all of those and still got played
@@Shay_845 it said respect not love
@@khplaylistyt9729 I did all those mentioned believe me I am very vocal but understand you need to say it in a neutral tone to a guy and not shout. I don’t ever sleep with a guy before marriage and they will play you by ghosting you rather than communicate like a grown man.
@@Shay_845 you can't get love by doing more is what I meant. He loves or doesn't love you. All of these vids by Alex should not be used to attract anyone but to improve oneself.
Yep! Walked away from a guy who wanted me to stick around while he date someone else. He could gtfoh with that 2nd option bs
wow thats hurtful but just act like he never happened 😂❤️ sending love!
@@realtrenchbaby12 Girl I was rattled but I'm moving on, thanks for the love.
These 🥷s crazy! 😂😂🤦🏽♀️
Same thing happened to me
FACTS… MAKE A BOLD MOVE … 1 year later… I can’t even tell you the RESPECT AND ATTENTION
I grew up in a household that enabled toxic masculinity and babied abusive, incompetent good for nothing men. Any attempts to tell people what you want, to draw boundaries, call out disrespectful behvior were faced with violence and criticisms even with the women in my life. This made me lose my voice, suppressed my anger and aggression, fear them even. Now I am trying to heal all of this! I am going to binge watch your vids ❤❤❤
Wow!!! I’m sorry you had to go thru this. I relate to you so much. Matriarch in the family enables the men even when they do horrible things and when I voice my concerns, I’m treated like I did something wrong or I’m told I’m acting “Jealous”.
Hope you find your voice then be as loud as you can 🙃😉
Proud of you you’re not alone!
"At that time I was a very nice person" 😂 Not any more?! 😮
😂 now he is matured and settled
@@eveheart2876 But that's a good thing, right?! 😄
Father Alex is funny. He always state his point with experiences
I make sure to always protect "my buttons" ....i never want to react in a way that reveals some kind of weakness in my character... while I appreciate the growth/learning that happens when discovering what triggers you. .i just never want to let anyone know they can push that "button" anytime they want to elicit a certain reaction out of me.. that's too much control to give someone other than myself....and the code changes based on the environment.....
This is not just about dating… this advice can be applied to all areas of life. I enjoyed this video a lot!
i still think if you don't react when somebody lays into you - then you're showing you're soft pushover, and they learn to disrespect you more n more
Agreed. Shouting right back can absolutely stun the one treating you like a doormat. I've had to do that a few times. I can only conclude that I look like a doormat. 😂
I think it's more powerful to use your actions and show you won't even waste your breath on it.
@@kourtenayt1927 Actions always speak louder than words❤
Removing yourself from the situation is the most powerful response because you don’t lose your cool, let them ruffle you, or show your seams. You just walk away, which trains people that that behavior doesn’t work on you. That said, it’s not like you just let them address you again if they’ve treated you badly - not without addressing what happened and making sure they understand you won’t accept it. Do they even get to be around you again? Not without the proper apology (which can mean many things) and showing/saying they understand where they went wrong and what they did that can never happen again. And then show you with their actions this is true. Other than that, they’re permanently cut off. However, it’s always up to you. If you want to scream at them when they scream at you, be my guest. It’s just not my way. I won’t be caught engaging in their foolish actions. Remember Alex said always keep your composure and remain regal. And once someone shows you who they are, believe them, the first time. -Maya Angelou
People should only get one chance to mess up, and some folks don’t even give that. One strike and you’re out. 😂
depends
Charlie showed me the crazy eyes with his tongue pointing upwards! Is that a bullying tactic?
I have been watching your videos for atleast 3 years now and it helps me so much, not only in my love life but life in general! Thank you
Speaking at a calm and easy pace.
As soon as I smell bologna, I say something. Yeah, I'm not crazy, you are up to something. 🤨 But I'm usually a very nice person..... until.......
Until you try to frugal me to death
I’m not nice, I’m kind 😬
@@DiarrheagodFacts. 💯 I’m not nice or friendly but I’m a kind person for sure.
This is GOLD!! Buen trabajo padre Alex. You're getting so much better
you are gifted, Alex
Been watching you since 2019. Love you man! You are the truth and you still got all the sauce🎯
Thanks big or little brother. Great wisdom
Father Alex, that was amazing guidance, thanks a lot
So pleased to have discovered your content. Thank you for the good advice
Fubu shirts is fuckin crazy 😂
Excellent video
I really liked this video. Thank you father Alex 😊
Your analogies are gold 😅
I enjoyed this video 😊
Great video I have to try and be a little less hood. 😂 Enjoyed this Thank you !
alex i love this video
Queen Isabella. Great message though Father Alex. I've employed this/these tactics many a time and have never regretted it. Kind of a basic dark Scorpio trait but it takes loads of experience to perfect.
I'm either sigar or spice. I need to work on balancing my reactions. I'm always think I'm being too spicy and then over think it.
When you spoke about having a dark side, having seriousness and being professional. These are personas..the PERSONALITY traits that we show to people in different situations. The other thing that is consistent in people and that is their true self is the CHARACTER… Thanks for the video btw.
There’s another guy on Facebook who does fashion on E tv and he trolls me all of the time! He’s an Asian guy and he seems very fashionable, like a designer but he’s always on my feed.
I'm back. Thank you for this Alex.🎉🎉🎉
Loveeee this video! Soon as you brought up goku I knew it was real haha 😅 🙌🏽
You imitating hunny’s laugh 😭🤣 “hehehehehe” loooool
Love love love this 1
U only saw Titanic to see rose naked; admit it kinda hot how he paints her body out
Awesome content! Thank you for sharing ❤️
Ur gorg! Plus ur voice 🙌
Thanks for your dragon Ball Z reference, I get it 💯
You’re the first person to say Goku has more depth than vegeta.
Great video. You have pretty eyes😊
Love that movie Inglorious bastards! Hilarious 😂 Gotta watch it again. Thsnks for the tips.❤️🙏🏽
💯💯💯
Absolutely 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜
Queen Isabella
“Jesus Christ what’s wrong with you?” 😭😭
I like your facial hair
Excellent video! Please more content like this, thank you so much 🌟
Whew the keeping it real is what I have to work on 🥴🥴🥴
When I bite back
Loveeeee this the topic, the office situation example the other anime etc examples makes it easy to understand i wanted to learn it since i was a kid loveee this video I have a narcissist as a mother so when i used to show different layers of my personality she used to try to suppress it in her mind and her to like me i always had to be a good girl people pleaser it was extremely suffocating thats why its a fabulous video for me. You are doing a great jib alex 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
You aren’t about to draw Adolph mustaches on Larry Bird GTFO ! Lolol😂. If he had the stick waiving around tho
That girl probably was trying to push your buttons to see what your limit is since you said You used to be a nice guy.
Alex, please make a video about the difference between confronting the other with what you don't like (which you said brings you respect and creates positive tension in the relationship) and being honest about one's feelings (which you expressed that you like yourself in another video), and sounding needy in a way when expressing one's expectations, straight-up what to do in order to express emotional dissatisfaction without turning the other person off, or is there a way to communicate it without sounding needy, or should one be fulfilling oneself in this aspect?
I'm a broke student that's why I didn't book a call with you or such. If this differentiation interests you and there is something to say about it, bless us with a video about it, because at some points I felt that you might be contradicting yourself
The difference is, is that speaking to someone about your feelings while being willing to walk away. In other words, it's like going into a fight with a gun in your pockets. There's going to be a certain confidence to you that will radiate from within because you know you're packing heat LOL
@@MindfulAttraction2.0 Understood! Thank you!!!
@user-ph2by9tr1o omg ty for this question ,I couldn't word what I needed to ask properly but u did and I too would like an in depth video if ever he needs some ideas for content .the male ego is a touchy one , the fine line of speaking up and insulting is brutal
I love your stories you are hilarious
I will just be myself and that should work 🤣🤓
Never 😩
Papa Alex 😅
The fact that you felt the neeed to say “not like a sloth” sometimes I think we have the same mental processes
😂
My mind immediately went to Flash Flash 100 yard dash from zootopia 😂
@@Diarrheagod omg your name lol
Lmao when Virgo men get upset it’s serious because it takes a lot for them to get to that point.
Is he a virgo?
Men need to worry about how to gain respect and be respected in the first place. Next caller! 😂
i won't slow down my speech, but love all the rest!
Omg slowing down your speech WORKS I actually learned that years ago before seeing this video
@@EricaBellaHairBox good for you!
I realized that too much self-control in too many areas is not good for me. Prefer developing my soul, the rest follows automatically
@@CeciledeLuire yes, I use to be a fast talker and I had to slow down my speech for business meetings .. Thank you love bug 😘 I hope all go well for you too !
@@EricaBellaHairBox
cool!
Glad this worked for you.
And yes i'm fine as well, thanks 💛😉
I blocked Charlie Hunnam and he had a picture with his tongue out and going up towards the left side of his mouth.
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2:09…
Peaky blinders
@4:35 😂😅
why do men feel so important?
Professional vs unprofesional.
Omg thats me 😆
😂 @im closing the channel
😝
You and your Bronx comments. 😂😂😂
Why have I only just realised that you have a dreadlock. Haha cute
Father❤😂
Talking about dragon ball z to a woman’s channel 😅 I’m so confused
🧐
I watch DBZ & Anime🧐🤷🏾♀️
AHA!! So basically act like a GEMINI!! 👍
Oh gawddd
People get obsessed with you believe it or not
@@senorita-qh6bm in your own mind
Alex, I'm worried. Your eyes is so yellow. You don't even look healthy in the video. Have you gotten checked? I'm concerned. ❤️
listeeeeen nobody can respect you with that haircut...bro wtf is that?!!!!
I like your input and advice. But when I noticed your sweaty armpits I am starting to wonder how you are doing in the dating scene. Hygene is an important factor in relationships as well. Unfortunately that made a bad impression.
The intro is annoying. Why can't you just go straight to the point?
I literally started the video with the three reasons why people don't respect you LOL
Maybe you should create your own channel, get monetized and see how annoying a comment like yours is.
@@MindfulAttraction2.0it was fine. They have a short attention span.
What the heck? The intro was piece of gold
Wow rude much. 🤦♀️
I’m exactly like this 🦂 and through life lessons and living in Vegas for 2 years then moving overseas to Jamaica..I’ve became a great negotiator😂 I know how to shape shift into anything I need to in a good way.