Tbh I don't even know what constitutes as trauma dumping at this point because people can just say they've experienced something traumatic and somehow that's trauma dumping. Like I can understand if someone isn't in the place to hear it cause of their own trauma but theres definitely a way to vocalize that without insulting a person. I feel like it's possible to be compassionate.
@@homosoftommorowI think it’s only trauma dumping when you go into HEAVY detail/ bring it up all the time Everytime. Just mentioning it isn’t trauma dumping, using it to relate to a situation isn’t trauma dumping. Just don’t rant about it to someone without asking if they can hear it
@homosoftommorow Fr, I remember when an animator took a break due to medical issues, got into a wreck with a few serious injuries. They were assumed of "trauma dumping" when they were just explained why they were gone for like 2 months because that's how long it took to heal.
when i broke up with my ex, he kept posting how a "toxic hello kitty girl" ruined his life... first of all, i'm a cinnamoroll girl. secondly, that had *nothing* to do with our relationship at all so.. go off i suppose
was a little surprised to not see anyone mention this in the vid (possibly because it kind of speaks for itself) but i think misogyny plays a really huuuuuuuge part in this kind of response - obviously not everyone who has these interests or identifies w/these styles is a girl, but kawaii culture in general and the like, pink and fluffy too many emojis sanrio sort of vibe is one that's perceived as very feminine (like you said, it's very uber femme) and i think a lot of people are operating on that sort of, ingrained distrust and/or for hypefemme people and working backwards from their kneejerk reaction to latch onto Some Reason to justify it. in general, i think a lot of people haven't moved past the stereotype of the hyperfemme mean girl regardless of whatever basis it does and doesn't have in reality lol. so combine that with the, as you said, big overlap with people who have mental health issues & stigmatized personality disorders or illnesses and it's the perfect boiling pot for people to just make up a girl to get mad at.
My first serious bf when I was 14 called me a toxic my melody girl and stole my comfort plushie 😭 (stitch Disney) I honestly hate when men feel the need to make girls demonized
@alfiankamil9922 he stole it because he was a manipulative freak who e-stalked me for like 3 years after we broke up why do you even care about a 5 month old comment and why are you replying to every woman under here shaming them please get a life 🙏
It's like saying all artists are toxic and bad partners because they are "damaged"... Just because there are cases where it's true doesn,t mean you should disrespect everyone in that category. At this point I've had so many bad experiences with humans of all sorts I don't trust anything people say about any group of people. My perspective is: pay attention to the individual in front of you. You'll notice from their behaviour if they are toxic, there's a very specific kind of dismissing and blame shifting that they do... Looks can't tell you that.
I first started seeing the “hello kitty girl” rhetoric on tiktok and at first it seemed like it was mostly men who were talking about their “exes who liked sanrio” or whatever. It seemed more like they were saying that these girls were “crazy” (like the classic “my ex was crazy”) and were sort of saying “don’t be fooled by these smol girlies who like cute stuff cos they’re insane!!”… which of course is dumb as hell 😂
But I have also seen it in spheres where emo kawaii or more goth kawaii lovers exist on tiktok too - so I don’t think it’s just the brighter, pinker fashion styles ❤️
ALSO again as someone with BPD I definitely(!) think people see some kind of link with what they see as “childlike interests” with an adult person they perceive as being mentally ill and decide that combination must make a “toxic person”
And blaming their toxicity on liking Hello Kitty is like a woman blaming the toxicity of her partner on video games. Imagine a woman saying "if he plays video games, he'll play with your head" like how the dudes talk about Hello Kitty girls.
I’ve had guys come up to me and ask “are you a hello kitty girl?” and my autistic ass is like “Yes! ^_^!” only for them to cover their mouth and laugh in my face and be like “Nahhh them HK girls are TOXICX 😂” and im just standing there like 😀 i dont understand or know you?? what is happening??
my horrid ex-bf would always send me "hello kitty girls are crazy" videos to make me feel bad, saying he signed up for a bubbly happy person and not my mental health issues 💀 like I can be both?? I'm not faking my sweetness when I meet people, its not a persona, I just want to make people happy! also whenever I think of "toxic hello kitty girls" I think of this one tiktok of a girl being like "to the guy I used to get over my ex, I'm sorry" video, and she had e-girl like makeup on and everyone in the comments, or people stitching it, or the reposts on reels where like "SEE! ITS ALWAYS A HELLO KITTY GIRL!!" and?? being any kinda alt doesn't make u a hello kitty girl for one, and two, anyone can be like that?? like a goth, a normie, a fucking man can?? (not saying men cant be kawaii or dress in the aesthetics associated with the fashion, I mean that its called hello kitty *girl* to demonize women primarily for liking feminine things) another example of Fems not being able to enjoy thing because society ruins it!
I am going to say that the only issues I have found in kawaii fashion subcultures are the same as I find in any subculture: elitism and gatekeeping. To be fair it used to be much worse 20 years ago when a lot of these subcultures were really growing and the vibes in the y2k era were really toxic. I have noticed that there is a bit more inclusivity now than there had been but those same issues still exist and it only takes the very loud minority to make the majority look just as bad.
I'm not a hello kitty girl but I'm a care bears fan and there's definitely overlap in the "kawaii hyper feminine" space. The main toxicity I've experienced is to do with consumerism - I've run into too many younger people in these spaces that think it's all about collecting and having Things, which unfortunately is always going to be a side effect of basing an aesthetic around a brand. Though that doesn't make it any nicer to be around as a broke student who has maybe four pieces of second hand merch and an 80s plush I inherited from my mum!
As someone who's experienced infantilization and objectification or pet-ification as i also like to call it, being boxed in, when i am presenting cutesy rainbow girl, and this is from the ppl positive about it, i really appreciate you talking about this and reminding ppl that WE ARE HUMAN BEINGS and WE EXPERIENCE THE FULL RANGE OF HUMAN EMOTION. Like they think it's a one note character and that is everything there is to you. And then the ppl who are negative think you aren't being genuine or that you're being overly positive in a deluded way because life sucks etc. Like idk about y'all but a lot of the things i surround myself with of cutesy things i do are comforting to me, like they make my experience of the bad things more tolerable. It's not a rejecting of reality, it's a self soothing reaction to reality. For me anyway. And also like a huge amount of other things. Like idk what it is about perceived girly or cutesy things that make ppl forget you're a human being and contain MULTITUDES (edit: just got to the traumacore part. I think that comes a lot from venting of csa and child abuse because of the simultaneous experience of innocence and horror. And i think a lot of traumatized ppl when they're older seek that innocence and childhood that was ripped from them. I think all of that is healthy and valid expression tbh. I definitely felt seen from those posts because as you said it's a very jarring. And that's the point. We have to process and express it somehow. The girlies that get it, get it i guess)
i probably would've ended up being a hello kitty person no matter what, but the path i took to liking sanrio is heavily tied to my mom. when i was a kid in karate class, she liked to embarrass me by saying she had a pink hello kitty sparkle belt instead of her actual belt color lol. eventually, it became a running gag that she "loved hello kitty," until that love became genuine and she started getting excited whenever we'd see something in the store with hello kitty on it. all this is to say, i find the generalization about hello kitty girls so hilarious when my mom is like a 60yo lady with gray hair and a hello kitty hula girl on her dashboard, and ur gonna call her toxic for it? she sends me pictures of hello kitty toasters, and ur gonna call her toxic??? (i know this isn't the kind of person people are talking about, but it just goes to show how dumb generalizations are imo !!)
#notallhellokittygirls lmao. This is such a fun video topic, I always assumed it was an incel belief system that kawaii girls are toxic. In my experience just another way to hate on femininity and things women enjoy! As any good conspiracy or unfavorable sterotype- they make it seem believable by focusing on the negative and fixating on the few people who are actually toxic, and disregard the majority of kawaii people who extremely kindhearted and simply love cute things!
hearing that people think kuromi is a "safe" charatcer to like just because she doesn't hide her meanness is so interesting cause i'm a kuromi enjoyer who got exposed to sanrio by a cinnamaroll plush collector who's friends with a fellow kuromi fan and i'd argue they were both equally toxic in the time that i knew them
I uninstalled tik tok too! feels kinda amazing honestly - I have so much of my time back, and I'm so less grumpy.. I'm also not going on Twitter/X anymore either... and avoid Instagram because the comments are insanely toxic now... basically I'm done with social media except for longform UA-cam and sometimes like... Bluesky or Tumblr lol
oof this video hit harder than i thought it would lol, i have a more cutesy rainbow magical girl idol anime etc aesthetic but sometimes i'll get in these depression ruts where i feel so negative and im like "is this the real me?? am i just faking being positive and happy and stuff?? is the pink just a front for my natural personality??" and of course those thoughts go away once the rut does, but it's a back and forth thing, so it's very validating to hear you say that i'm not faking or anything and hopefully i can try and remember it when it happens next time!!
Like you said, there are toxic people everywhere and in every group, and people are always making large generalizations like this unfortunately. Lovely video as always! ❤
As a kawaii girl myself, I can agree that toxic kawaii girls exist. I'm not saying the ~kawaii girl culture~ is toxic, just that there are toxic people to be found everywhere you go and that even includes within the most sweetest, cutest, unassuming communities. I did once see a kawaii girlie on twt literally make a callout post against some beef they had with someone and wishing bodily harm on them. So it's very weird seeing someone who presents themselves as sunshine, pink, and rainbows, wanting someone to d!e. For a personal story, on tumblr I really liked making "good morning/afternoon friends!" posts every time i got online and someone sent me a dm telling me that i put them off with those posts everyday because they couldn't imagine someone actually being nice and sweet like that all the time.
In addition to my comment on your community post, toxicity is in every community, sadly. From little free libraries, to Magic the Gathering, to animals, to fashion, and more.
As a jirai kei girly who was recently diagnosed with BPD. Even within the jirai community, there is a LOT of talk. 2 main ones are the (mostly on insta) jirai crowd who are like "even if jirai means "landmines" (mostly insulting towards women with BPD and similar mental health issues), we also dress jirai but we're not like those crazy girls." And the other crowd (mostly on Tumblr) who are like "if you're not mentally ill don't call yourself jirai, just say you like girly kei". And it's mostly just endless debates between those 2 crowds.....
@@homosoftommorow maybe you already watched it, but cybr.grl has a full video/interview about the origins and caracteristics of menhera and the similarities and differences with similar aesthetics
I think a part of the distrust can also be because of the fact that a large subsect of hyper fans are autistic, and allistic people get a feeling of unease or "uncanny valley" effect when looking at autistic people. They can tell that there is something off or different about them, so they just assume that it's because of something negative like secretly being toxic or mean.
Ngl when I think of toxic hello kitty girls, I think of the “femcel” type you mentioned, I had no idea the kawaii jfashion ppl were included in this too, which is kinda crazy since most of those people Ive met (who also like Sanrio) are extremely nice.
My littlest part loves cute things and Sanrio ( especially cinnamon roll) and they are extremely slowly getting over the fear of being judged. The other day they took a big step by wearing a cinnamon roll backpack with a cinnamon roll plushy at the state fair.
hi wow this video is so fun!!! also... i have been judged by (men) because of my aesthetic and interests, i was asked by the same man: "are you a hello kitty girl?" and "do you take medication?" and i was like....... it was so disrespectful! love u pixie!!!!!!
My immediate thought it: no matter how kind, how sweet, caring, positive etc you are; you are above all a human with feelings, with passions, with opinions... sometimes those feelings get hurt, sometimes you have had your fill of negativity and it spills over, sometimes you react strongly to things you are passionate about. I'm not a kawaii uwu person, but i am a neurodivergent individual who tries their best to be kind and positive, but if i dont like someone or if i am wronged somehow, im gonna have feelings about it that are negative. That's the nature of being a human; why are alternative people who try to remain positive or kind, held to a higher standard in that sense? Choosing to convey kindness and positivity as much as possible doesn't make you ingenuine, like I don't understand that logic at all; we're all people..
I think it's also very much a case of a lot of these people are neurodivergent in some way, and I think personally people who have experienced a lot of trauma or negativity in their lives can fall into the box of OK then we hyperfocus on the good stuff instead, to cope with that.
I always thought it was that kawaii people are ASSUMED to be nicer based on their looks, so when they’re normal or a little bit more unfriendly than you’d assume, it feels worse?
i think a lot of it could be misogyny too tbh, ive seen too many men putting down younger girls for liking very traditionally feminine things, by labeling them as toxic and or childish??
It's wrong 2 assume some 1 is toxic by the way they dress 👗 every 1 has a bad day no matter who you are Or what you wear n be who love 2 be waer what you love don't worry about the haters keep being bubbley n cute n I don't fit in any of those communities but I do have mental issues 😢
I do want to say as someone who had a very traumatic falling out with a friend that definitely resulted in some trauma I am still working through it is very hard for me to like or give a chance to anyone who remotely looks like her or acts like her. It’s like my defenses immediately go up. Obviously this isn’t an excuse for bullying and I would never want to harm these innocent people in any way but I do distance myself from them and give myself the space I need to continue to process. Just wanted to share! I think you hit the nail on the head with the idea that people who have trauma around a person in the community tend to have an inherent distrust and dislike of others in the same community. ❤
omg my tweets are in there 👀 it's so difficult to exist with an unkind brain, to deal with anxiety and intrusive thoughts, while also enjoying things like magical girls, plushies, and all the kawaii goodness... and then be told that you *must* actually be an horrible person who is hiding behind a cute façade??? because on the bad days, or just overtime when you keep being accused of that (directly or indirectly), you kinda start wondering if they are right. maybe i am hiding my true horrible self, maybe i am trying to appear cute so no one knows my "true thoughts" (which are, most of the time, intrusive thoughts you have no control over, or your brain catastrophizing). kawaii folks are unreasonably expected to be happy and at a 100% all the time because of their aesthetic, so when they mention being angry or show signs of anger, or anything similar, it is jarring to some people, and they interpret that as the "mask cracking" 😕 which like... dude, if you can have bad days, so can the sanrio girlie you see sometimes on tik tok? not saying kawaii folks can't do no wrong of course! anyway, sorry for the long comment ^^
as a bipolar girlie, I like to keep my environment very bright and kawaii adjacent bc it helps me stay in a positive mood, while wearing goth and darker clothes because it makes me feel safe
I’m a middle aged neurodivergent Hangyodon girlie and now I’m worried that people are going to lump me into this category of “toxic hello kitty girls” 😅
So I have 2 takes 1:I am 30 so high school might be different now but watched this toxic hello kitty girl stereotype ( no truth to it in my experience) develop in early 2000. For context I lived in a poor desert in ca, usa where the Mexican American population was big around this time most people couldn't get there hands on anime stuff and so hello kitty was really easy to find knock offs for at a good price. So anime/ cute core/ kawaii girls try to dress cute and collect knock off hello kitty. However the community I grew up in was still rough most family wanted girls to be pretty typical “beautys”. So I heard a lot of people get chewed out for having long nails and hello kitty asthetic like it was them throwing away there culture some how. (remember most family here are traditional and first or second gen. Usa residents so parents freaked out about this). Most these girls would act cute online but most would talk pretty rough, cuss, and be very protective of there friends irl like more thug/ gang like Think chola culture. They kinda had the anime stigma of Gals pretty, but easy basically. None of them growing up were really like that it's just what adults and people they turn down say. 2 run into this online now with my algorithm mainly tiktok (remember I am late 20 early 30 demographic ) people seem to either be using it like a weird put down like they don't understand cutecore there ex was into and generalize all anime/ sanrio as being hello kitty, hitting to maybe them not even paying attention to there partner interest in the first place 😢. I have also had people throw it around like a shitty remark to try to put fem people down like calling someone a gamer girl like its a bad thing 😒 to try to discredit them.
One time I was just at the shops with my friends with my kawaii outfit and these boys started shooting water guns at me like wtf did they even have them😭😭😭
"SHE REMINDS ME OF JESSICA" got me for a very... specific reason lmfaoooo I definitely agree with your points here!!! I think this stereotype is pretty silly overall
Im laughing so hard because when you said She reminds me of Jessica because Jessica from Craig Of The Creek will absolutely become a Hello Kitty girl when shes older.
i so love the kawaii rainbow style my melody,hello kitty,unicorns ect. and ive loved the color pink since i was little its sad how people will make fun of the kawaii uwu rainbow girls....
i REALLY hope you see this comment cause i actually know a lot about this situation. it’s a huge thing on tiktok that’s why you’re not really getting the right info on twitter. I know you left tiktok tho which is perfectly okay and why I want to explain. there’s a big stigma with hello kitty girls being toxic on tiktok because of the lot of them that literally act like yandere. they rot in bed and if they’re in a relationship they demand to see their bf constantly. will call themselves words like “insane” and “psycho” and be proud of it. they call bpd “beautiful princess disorder” like it’s this cutesy quirky little thing. it creates really bad stigma for us bpd girlies AND hello kitty girlies. it’s actually really bad on tiktok right now. so yes there’s actually a huge population of toxic hello kitty girls lmao. not all of us tho!!
okay so I do believe these toxic sanrio ppl exist because I've met SO MANY OF THEM! But! They were all from a specific community which is known as cutecore/kawaii kei/jojifuku. The situation was so bad I had to leave the community because it was damaging my mental health real bad. It was a mix of things- ED promoting, l0licon, and everyone hating on everyone. But I specifically met one person that was one of the worst girls you'll ever meet. She pretended to be really sweet and innocent, but later would drop the facade and put people one blast, calling them names and being just awful! I think there are a lot of people who like kawaii things that are nice and not troublesome, but the bad ones just stand out way more on social media. I wear lots of skirts and pastel and collect so much sanrio merch and I've also met people who are real sweet.
I think since the pandemic a lot of girls who weren't neither alt nor jpn fadhion lovers suddenly got super into sanrio specially kuromi so any toxic person you run into now has a higher chance of also being a sanrio fan than before lmao
The way i was thinking of BPD (feeling a LOT) before you brought it up then someone else said it in the replies you read too lol. I'm very much not cute so cant relate there but i have noticed people being weird about this kinda shit online. I didnt know it was so bad tho.
This is crazy just bc i like hello kitty that don't mean ima about to go a wild animal and do toxic stuff atleast if your going to call out on the girls being rude atleast say the toxic girl bc some hello kitty girls are nice not saying im nice are anything im just say some hello kitty girls not are not bad..
Man, i had NO idea this was a trope. I noticed Sanrio stuff has been getting more popular and it’s been making it a little harder to get merch in my area, but i had no idea people were making such weird stereotypes about people. Folks just hate women having fun fr Edit: it’s also so funny/pos that you bring up people with BPD loving Sanrio. My mom had BPD and she LOVED hello kitty. I definitely don’t think there’s a causational relationship there but it’s still so so funny to hear there’s a big correlation 😂
As a former lolita fashion girly... those communities are brutal to the core... I felt so insecure... and none of it had to do with sanrio lol but in saying that... the whole sweet innocent persona of lolita fashion is an absolute lie, everyone picks on each others clothes from behind their backs. Now as a hermit goth that has always and will forever love any sanrio stuff... not all of us are phycho, even though a few people think I am because I have an opinion that I don't keep to myself haha
When you say your outro I follow along in my head, at the end I said 'bye' out loud, in sync. My partner asked if I was saying goodbye to the video I was watching... >.
This is a great video and you explain your points very well! Also always super happy to see that Candystripper dress, I was here when you hauled it and I’m OBSESSED 😂
honestly, and i dont know if im gonna sound wacky or out of pocket about it, but it kind of. seems sexist? or at least, like, internalized misogyny plays some kind of part. it feels reminiscent of me in middle school and how i felt about pink things and traditionally girly things, that i was better and above it because i "didnt like them" (which i did i was just hiding it, cuz internalized misogyny), but also about how i had convinced myself that "popular girls (who liked girly things) are all catty and gossipy and two-faced. i dunno, its an interesting overlap. and i especially dont trust it when a guy says anything about "toxic my melody cutecore pink girls", ya know?
As someone in who is neurodivergent and in her mid-30s, I've experienced varying degrees of toxic behavior in the Kawaii/J-Fashion/Alternative Fashion communities. I've had people write about my family and house on 4Chan, lost friendships, and seen legit fights. Because of this, I've basically left said groups and instead focus on the longtime friends who will let me thrive in what I aesthetically like and not judge me because of it. Still, I don't think every single person who rocks pastels and loves My Melody is someone to not be trusted - but just like with any fandom/subculture - anyone can be toxic. You just have to pay attention to the signs (and that usually doesn't have anything to do with the shade of pink said person likes to wear lol)
omfg i thought i was just crazy for realizing this the entire time? i see a huge stigma around people who like creepycute aesthetics in particular and it still to this day makes me scared to express myself T_T thank you for talking about this
I don't understand how critics of cool kawaii people don't understand that people have depth... like has the internet fried everyone's brains... we're more than what we present online... we all are??
I think people are dumb and they think that if you like cute shit u must be an innocent angel girly girl so submissive and lovely, but then there's all types of ppl liking cute stuff including bad ones or unstable ones that will not give what you expect from them, and also a lot of guys will be mad at this because they're looking for uwu submissive soft gf and will find "fuck around and find out" kawaii girls
Some of them I do kawaii fashion too and I found a hello kitty table at the trifth store once and when I paid for it this girl wearing shein kawaii was giving me a disgusted look and when I was waiting for my grandma This girl starts rubbing it in my face how much thinner she was then me her boyfriend looked like he wanted to kill me lol
Hello from the autistic lands!😻 Dipping into all kind of anime as well as j-fashion a few years ago, gave me, a goth for over 30 years the chance to live out my kawaii side, ignoring ignorant comments no matter from which side or about what topic like ny age (43 years). Thank you Pixi for being there and being you!❤️🥰❤️meow😻
I am so excited for this video, omg. My incredibly obsession and love for hello kitty means a lot to me for various reasons. She’s such a beacon of positive, she’s such a “I love friends and love life. Bad things happen but you can get through it with love and support!” and this “toxic hello kitty girl” messes with me cause I’m like ??? Am i little miss “toxic hello kitty girl”? Even tho I think my reasons are valid, I’m still a bit afraid that my character might be toxic or unkind.
you were my introduction to "kawaii" fashion when i was in highschool. I was very much into party kei and pastels and expressing myself a lot more. I did have some mental health issues diagnosed in that time, but since then I've gotten a lot more comfortable in dress in crazy colours and outfits, and surrounding myself in cute things. I even have a car with pink interior and cover in hello kitty stickers and pillows. I have noticed tho in the community that some of the people I thought I could be friends with, had similar interests with, turned out to not be that happy, sunshine person that I thought they were. i can see how people are getting to the conclusion that all hello kitty girls are like that. I just want to be a happy person and spread positivity while also enjoying things that make me happy
Ive been hit with the “you have stickers on your pink computer case you totally have x, y, and z” in my politics classes for sure. I am a real person with real informed opinions that I can make for myself. There’s truth to a stereotype sometimes but people are way too comfortable publicly espousing it towards others.
this whole thing started to bleed over into my real life, which SUCKS!!! some of my friends (not super close, but they're still my friends) started "joking" that i must be secretly a horrible person because i like cute things and my melody and stuff like that. it's not funny but since they're not my closest friends i don't feel comfortable calling them out. it doesn't help that this whole stereotype being about girls makes it so they lump me (a transmasc person) in with what they see as "girls". i know they don't do it on purpose and once this isn't trendy to talk about anymore they'll stop but it makes me not want to see them and only wanna hang out with friends who i know won't do that. it's annoying at the least.
There problem is there are narcissists everywhere in every fandom, sub-culture, community, that you can think of and when folks have a bad experience with one or two people within it then all people within that grouping will get tarred by the same brush and if enough people have bad experiences and get that opinion, the reputation will leak out and most people will begin to believe it.
Personally it's the elitism and gate keepyness of some communities and members within the "kawaii" "hello kitty aesthetic" not having the right clothes, make up, upkeep etc.
It just seems like people can’t win when it comes to social media. Either you exhibit toxic positivity or you are trauma dumping. 🤷🏼♀️
Tbh I don't even know what constitutes as trauma dumping at this point because people can just say they've experienced something traumatic and somehow that's trauma dumping. Like I can understand if someone isn't in the place to hear it cause of their own trauma but theres definitely a way to vocalize that without insulting a person. I feel like it's possible to be compassionate.
@@homosoftommorowI think it’s only trauma dumping when you go into HEAVY detail/ bring it up all the time Everytime. Just mentioning it isn’t trauma dumping, using it to relate to a situation isn’t trauma dumping. Just don’t rant about it to someone without asking if they can hear it
People are fr so bored and miserable with their lives that they have to bring down EVERYONE
@homosoftommorow Fr, I remember when an animator took a break due to medical issues, got into a wreck with a few serious injuries. They were assumed of "trauma dumping" when they were just explained why they were gone for like 2 months because that's how long it took to heal.
there are toxic ppl everywhere, like, of course there’s gonna be some toxic sweet sunshine kawaii hello kitty girls unfortunately
when i broke up with my ex, he kept posting how a "toxic hello kitty girl" ruined his life... first of all, i'm a cinnamoroll girl. secondly, that had *nothing* to do with our relationship at all so.. go off i suppose
i’m a pompompurin girllllll
Yet here you are spilling only half of the story. I'm not really surprised if you happened to be the true perpetrator here. Ngl
I’m cracking up at the traumacore Hello Kitty image that says “My stomach hurts/ I need to fart/ I need to fart/ I need to fart”
was a little surprised to not see anyone mention this in the vid (possibly because it kind of speaks for itself) but i think misogyny plays a really huuuuuuuge part in this kind of response - obviously not everyone who has these interests or identifies w/these styles is a girl, but kawaii culture in general and the like, pink and fluffy too many emojis sanrio sort of vibe is one that's perceived as very feminine (like you said, it's very uber femme) and i think a lot of people are operating on that sort of, ingrained distrust and/or for hypefemme people and working backwards from their kneejerk reaction to latch onto Some Reason to justify it.
in general, i think a lot of people haven't moved past the stereotype of the hyperfemme mean girl regardless of whatever basis it does and doesn't have in reality lol. so combine that with the, as you said, big overlap with people who have mental health issues & stigmatized personality disorders or illnesses and it's the perfect boiling pot for people to just make up a girl to get mad at.
i was thinking that too
oh lol i just made a comment like this before i saw yours X_X i think you articulated this idea in a more coherent way lel
My first serious bf when I was 14 called me a toxic my melody girl and stole my comfort plushie 😭 (stitch Disney) I honestly hate when men feel the need to make girls demonized
Again only capable of spilling half truth. Where is the other side of the story? Why did your BF stole your plushie? You hid it DIDN'T YOU?
@alfiankamil9922 he stole it because he was a manipulative freak who e-stalked me for like 3 years after we broke up
why do you even care about a 5 month old comment and why are you replying to every woman under here shaming them please get a life 🙏
It's like saying all artists are toxic and bad partners because they are "damaged"... Just because there are cases where it's true doesn,t mean you should disrespect everyone in that category. At this point I've had so many bad experiences with humans of all sorts I don't trust anything people say about any group of people. My perspective is: pay attention to the individual in front of you. You'll notice from their behaviour if they are toxic, there's a very specific kind of dismissing and blame shifting that they do... Looks can't tell you that.
I first started seeing the “hello kitty girl” rhetoric on tiktok and at first it seemed like it was mostly men who were talking about their “exes who liked sanrio” or whatever. It seemed more like they were saying that these girls were “crazy” (like the classic “my ex was crazy”) and were sort of saying “don’t be fooled by these smol girlies who like cute stuff cos they’re insane!!”… which of course is dumb as hell 😂
But I have also seen it in spheres where emo kawaii or more goth kawaii lovers exist on tiktok too - so I don’t think it’s just the brighter, pinker fashion styles ❤️
ALSO again as someone with BPD I definitely(!) think people see some kind of link with what they see as “childlike interests” with an adult person they perceive as being mentally ill and decide that combination must make a “toxic person”
@@mollieswonderlandyeah anything that's "strange" or "different" to them, they'll try to flip it into a negative thing and say that we're "crazy"...
And blaming their toxicity on liking Hello Kitty is like a woman blaming the toxicity of her partner on video games. Imagine a woman saying "if he plays video games, he'll play with your head" like how the dudes talk about Hello Kitty girls.
I’ve had guys come up to me and ask “are you a hello kitty girl?” and my autistic ass is like “Yes! ^_^!” only for them to cover their mouth and laugh in my face and be like “Nahhh them HK girls are TOXICX 😂” and im just standing there like 😀 i dont understand or know you?? what is happening??
I'm so sorry that had happened to u before I can't even imagine what that could of been like for u I hope u are well.
my horrid ex-bf would always send me "hello kitty girls are crazy" videos to make me feel bad, saying he signed up for a bubbly happy person and not my mental health issues 💀 like I can be both?? I'm not faking my sweetness when I meet people, its not a persona, I just want to make people happy!
also whenever I think of "toxic hello kitty girls" I think of this one tiktok of a girl being like "to the guy I used to get over my ex, I'm sorry" video, and she had e-girl like makeup on and everyone in the comments, or people stitching it, or the reposts on reels where like "SEE! ITS ALWAYS A HELLO KITTY GIRL!!" and?? being any kinda alt doesn't make u a hello kitty girl for one, and two, anyone can be like that?? like a goth, a normie, a fucking man can?? (not saying men cant be kawaii or dress in the aesthetics associated with the fashion, I mean that its called hello kitty *girl* to demonize women primarily for liking feminine things) another example of Fems not being able to enjoy thing because society ruins it!
omg i had someone who would say i needed mental help due to my love of kawaii things and unicorns
Are you claiming you are free of mental health issue? Because that is such a bold claim, especially coming from you
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I am going to say that the only issues I have found in kawaii fashion subcultures are the same as I find in any subculture: elitism and gatekeeping.
To be fair it used to be much worse 20 years ago when a lot of these subcultures were really growing and the vibes in the y2k era were really toxic. I have noticed that there is a bit more inclusivity now than there had been but those same issues still exist and it only takes the very loud minority to make the majority look just as bad.
I'm not a hello kitty girl but I'm a care bears fan and there's definitely overlap in the "kawaii hyper feminine" space. The main toxicity I've experienced is to do with consumerism - I've run into too many younger people in these spaces that think it's all about collecting and having Things, which unfortunately is always going to be a side effect of basing an aesthetic around a brand. Though that doesn't make it any nicer to be around as a broke student who has maybe four pieces of second hand merch and an 80s plush I inherited from my mum!
yeah same here i dont have so much sanorio thing but i love sanorio enuways ^^. sorry for bad english
As someone who's experienced infantilization and objectification or pet-ification as i also like to call it, being boxed in, when i am presenting cutesy rainbow girl, and this is from the ppl positive about it, i really appreciate you talking about this and reminding ppl that WE ARE HUMAN BEINGS and WE EXPERIENCE THE FULL RANGE OF HUMAN EMOTION. Like they think it's a one note character and that is everything there is to you. And then the ppl who are negative think you aren't being genuine or that you're being overly positive in a deluded way because life sucks etc. Like idk about y'all but a lot of the things i surround myself with of cutesy things i do are comforting to me, like they make my experience of the bad things more tolerable. It's not a rejecting of reality, it's a self soothing reaction to reality. For me anyway. And also like a huge amount of other things. Like idk what it is about perceived girly or cutesy things that make ppl forget you're a human being and contain MULTITUDES (edit: just got to the traumacore part. I think that comes a lot from venting of csa and child abuse because of the simultaneous experience of innocence and horror. And i think a lot of traumatized ppl when they're older seek that innocence and childhood that was ripped from them. I think all of that is healthy and valid expression tbh. I definitely felt seen from those posts because as you said it's a very jarring. And that's the point. We have to process and express it somehow. The girlies that get it, get it i guess)
i probably would've ended up being a hello kitty person no matter what, but the path i took to liking sanrio is heavily tied to my mom. when i was a kid in karate class, she liked to embarrass me by saying she had a pink hello kitty sparkle belt instead of her actual belt color lol. eventually, it became a running gag that she "loved hello kitty," until that love became genuine and she started getting excited whenever we'd see something in the store with hello kitty on it. all this is to say, i find the generalization about hello kitty girls so hilarious when my mom is like a 60yo lady with gray hair and a hello kitty hula girl on her dashboard, and ur gonna call her toxic for it? she sends me pictures of hello kitty toasters, and ur gonna call her toxic??? (i know this isn't the kind of person people are talking about, but it just goes to show how dumb generalizations are imo !!)
The more I hear and read about these kinds of things the more I think that social media might be a mistake.
The two girls you made up should kiss
I was just thinking I should change the bio to something like that 💀💗💗💗
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You two aren't real? @@syd6800
this blush style looks SOO perfect on you im in awe 😭💗💐
YOU JUST PERFECTLY EXPLAIN IT! For years I've been trying to explain this to people!
Hope GlitterMochi and RottenLace become besties. Maybe more 🫶
As someone on the ASD, yes. One of my special interests is Sanrio as well as pastel colors 😂
So basically unreasonable expectations on people with cutesy styles being perfect and flawless with nothing bad ever happening ..
Can you please do a series breaking down older and newer aesthetics / fashion styles?
Ooooooh that’s a cool idea!!!!!!
#notallhellokittygirls lmao. This is such a fun video topic, I always assumed it was an incel belief system that kawaii girls are toxic. In my experience just another way to hate on femininity and things women enjoy! As any good conspiracy or unfavorable sterotype- they make it seem believable by focusing on the negative and fixating on the few people who are actually toxic, and disregard the majority of kawaii people who extremely kindhearted and simply love cute things!
hello kitty girls have been mentioned, I'VE BEEN SUMMONED !!!
hearing that people think kuromi is a "safe" charatcer to like just because she doesn't hide her meanness is so interesting cause i'm a kuromi enjoyer who got exposed to sanrio by a cinnamaroll plush collector who's friends with a fellow kuromi fan and i'd argue they were both equally toxic in the time that i knew them
That's honestly so funny because the most toxic person I knew in my local community was a Kuromi enjoyer 😂
Holy shit the 'i forgot you had bpd' comment, im so glad that person got away from their nasty friend
I uninstalled tik tok too! feels kinda amazing honestly - I have so much of my time back, and I'm so less grumpy.. I'm also not going on Twitter/X anymore either... and avoid Instagram because the comments are insanely toxic now...
basically I'm done with social media except for longform UA-cam and sometimes like... Bluesky or Tumblr lol
oof this video hit harder than i thought it would lol, i have a more cutesy rainbow magical girl idol anime etc aesthetic but sometimes i'll get in these depression ruts where i feel so negative and im like "is this the real me?? am i just faking being positive and happy and stuff?? is the pink just a front for my natural personality??" and of course those thoughts go away once the rut does, but it's a back and forth thing, so it's very validating to hear you say that i'm not faking or anything and hopefully i can try and remember it when it happens next time!!
Like you said, there are toxic people everywhere and in every group, and people are always making large generalizations like this unfortunately.
Lovely video as always! ❤
There’s no way someone’s ALWAYS that nice. It feels like a volcano. It’s passive until it’s explosive
As a kawaii girl myself, I can agree that toxic kawaii girls exist. I'm not saying the ~kawaii girl culture~ is toxic, just that there are toxic people to be found everywhere you go and that even includes within the most sweetest, cutest, unassuming communities. I did once see a kawaii girlie on twt literally make a callout post against some beef they had with someone and wishing bodily harm on them. So it's very weird seeing someone who presents themselves as sunshine, pink, and rainbows, wanting someone to d!e.
For a personal story, on tumblr I really liked making "good morning/afternoon friends!" posts every time i got online and someone sent me a dm telling me that i put them off with those posts everyday because they couldn't imagine someone actually being nice and sweet like that all the time.
In addition to my comment on your community post, toxicity is in every community, sadly. From little free libraries, to Magic the Gathering, to animals, to fashion, and more.
As a jirai kei girly who was recently diagnosed with BPD. Even within the jirai community, there is a LOT of talk. 2 main ones are the (mostly on insta) jirai crowd who are like "even if jirai means "landmines" (mostly insulting towards women with BPD and similar mental health issues), we also dress jirai but we're not like those crazy girls." And the other crowd (mostly on Tumblr) who are like "if you're not mentally ill don't call yourself jirai, just say you like girly kei". And it's mostly just endless debates between those 2 crowds.....
Oh dearrrrr 😭💗
I haven't heard of Jirai Kei is it different than Menhera?
Genuinely curious cause Menhera fascinates me
@@homosoftommorow maybe you already watched it, but cybr.grl has a full video/interview about the origins and caracteristics of menhera and the similarities and differences with similar aesthetics
@@homosoftommorow Yeah it's different even if if there is talk of mental health, just as I'd explained, really not everybody agree on it.
I think a part of the distrust can also be because of the fact that a large subsect of hyper fans are autistic, and allistic people get a feeling of unease or "uncanny valley" effect when looking at autistic people. They can tell that there is something off or different about them, so they just assume that it's because of something negative like secretly being toxic or mean.
The next time there's a rainbow, look up! You'll feel better. Live, love, provoke the void❤😊
Ngl when I think of toxic hello kitty girls, I think of the “femcel” type you mentioned, I had no idea the kawaii jfashion ppl were included in this too, which is kinda crazy since most of those people Ive met (who also like Sanrio) are extremely nice.
My littlest part loves cute things and Sanrio ( especially cinnamon roll) and they are extremely slowly getting over the fear of being judged. The other day they took a big step by wearing a cinnamon roll backpack with a cinnamon roll plushy at the state fair.
hi wow this video is so fun!!! also... i have been judged by (men) because of my aesthetic and interests, i was asked by the same man: "are you a hello kitty girl?" and "do you take medication?" and i was like....... it was so disrespectful!
love u pixie!!!!!!
My immediate thought it: no matter how kind, how sweet, caring, positive etc you are; you are above all a human with feelings, with passions, with opinions... sometimes those feelings get hurt, sometimes you have had your fill of negativity and it spills over, sometimes you react strongly to things you are passionate about. I'm not a kawaii uwu person, but i am a neurodivergent individual who tries their best to be kind and positive, but if i dont like someone or if i am wronged somehow, im gonna have feelings about it that are negative. That's the nature of being a human; why are alternative people who try to remain positive or kind, held to a higher standard in that sense? Choosing to convey kindness and positivity as much as possible doesn't make you ingenuine, like I don't understand that logic at all; we're all people..
I think it's also very much a case of a lot of these people are neurodivergent in some way, and I think personally people who have experienced a lot of trauma or negativity in their lives can fall into the box of OK then we hyperfocus on the good stuff instead, to cope with that.
glittermochi and rottenlace are girlfriends in my mind
Every single group of people has extremists unfortunately!
I always thought it was that kawaii people are ASSUMED to be nicer based on their looks, so when they’re normal or a little bit more unfriendly than you’d assume, it feels worse?
i think a lot of it could be misogyny too tbh, ive seen too many men putting down younger girls for liking very traditionally feminine things, by labeling them as toxic and or childish??
It's wrong 2 assume some 1 is toxic by the way they dress 👗 every 1 has a bad day no matter who you are Or what you wear n be who love 2 be waer what you love don't worry about the haters keep being bubbley n cute n I don't fit in any of those communities but I do have mental issues 😢
as a toxic hello kitty girl, i am intrigued
Lol 😭😭😭💗💗💗
I do want to say as someone who had a very traumatic falling out with a friend that definitely resulted in some trauma I am still working through it is very hard for me to like or give a chance to anyone who remotely looks like her or acts like her. It’s like my defenses immediately go up.
Obviously this isn’t an excuse for bullying and I would never want to harm these innocent people in any way but I do distance myself from them and give myself the space I need to continue to process.
Just wanted to share! I think you hit the nail on the head with the idea that people who have trauma around a person in the community tend to have an inherent distrust and dislike of others in the same community. ❤
JOY JOY JOY JOY, cherry cherry HELLO KITTY 🌺🌸💕💌🍒 ninki minjaj has been real quiet since you dropped these bars....
Trauma core is giving happy bunny vibes...
omg my tweets are in there 👀
it's so difficult to exist with an unkind brain, to deal with anxiety and intrusive thoughts, while also enjoying things like magical girls, plushies, and all the kawaii goodness... and then be told that you *must* actually be an horrible person who is hiding behind a cute façade??? because on the bad days, or just overtime when you keep being accused of that (directly or indirectly), you kinda start wondering if they are right. maybe i am hiding my true horrible self, maybe i am trying to appear cute so no one knows my "true thoughts" (which are, most of the time, intrusive thoughts you have no control over, or your brain catastrophizing).
kawaii folks are unreasonably expected to be happy and at a 100% all the time because of their aesthetic, so when they mention being angry or show signs of anger, or anything similar, it is jarring to some people, and they interpret that as the "mask cracking" 😕 which like... dude, if you can have bad days, so can the sanrio girlie you see sometimes on tik tok?
not saying kawaii folks can't do no wrong of course!
anyway, sorry for the long comment ^^
As a kindergarten teacher, my kiddos love how much cute stuff i have. I have a group of girls that like to draw me pictures of sanrio characters
as a bipolar girlie, I like to keep my environment very bright and kawaii adjacent bc it helps me stay in a positive mood, while wearing goth and darker clothes because it makes me feel safe
I’m a middle aged neurodivergent Hangyodon girlie and now I’m worried that people are going to lump me into this category of “toxic hello kitty girls” 😅
So I have 2 takes 1:I am 30 so high school might be different now but watched this toxic hello kitty girl stereotype ( no truth to it in my experience) develop in early 2000. For context I lived in a poor desert in ca, usa where the Mexican American population was big around this time most people couldn't get there hands on anime stuff and so hello kitty was really easy to find knock offs for at a good price. So anime/ cute core/ kawaii girls try to dress cute and collect knock off hello kitty. However the community I grew up in was still rough most family wanted girls to be pretty typical “beautys”. So I heard a lot of people get chewed out for having long nails and hello kitty asthetic like it was them throwing away there culture some how. (remember most family here are traditional and first or second gen. Usa residents so parents freaked out about this). Most these girls would act cute online but most would talk pretty rough, cuss, and be very protective of there friends irl like more thug/ gang like Think chola culture. They kinda had the anime stigma of Gals pretty, but easy basically. None of them growing up were really like that it's just what adults and people they turn down say. 2 run into this online now with my algorithm mainly tiktok (remember I am late 20 early 30 demographic ) people seem to either be using it like a weird put down like they don't understand cutecore there ex was into and generalize all anime/ sanrio as being hello kitty, hitting to maybe them not even paying attention to there partner interest in the first place 😢. I have also had people throw it around like a shitty remark to try to put fem people down like calling someone a gamer girl like its a bad thing 😒 to try to discredit them.
oh my god i feel like you hit the nail on the coffin but also im a first generation, parents are mexican american, grew up in texas - i truly resonate
One time I was just at the shops with my friends with my kawaii outfit and these boys started shooting water guns at me like wtf did they even have them😭😭😭
"SHE REMINDS ME OF JESSICA" got me for a very... specific reason lmfaoooo
I definitely agree with your points here!!! I think this stereotype is pretty silly overall
Not me shipping the two girls 💀💀💀
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OMG I've been on UA-cam for years.... why have i never seen your content 😭❤️ new subscriber here
pls pls pls 🙏🏽 make more day in my life down to earth videos. I feel like UA-cam is full of video essays and I really miss the old videos.
Im laughing so hard because when you said She reminds me of Jessica because Jessica from Craig Of The Creek will absolutely become a Hello Kitty girl when shes older.
i so love the kawaii rainbow style my melody,hello kitty,unicorns ect. and ive loved the color pink since i was little its sad how people will make fun of the kawaii uwu rainbow girls....
i REALLY hope you see this comment cause i actually know a lot about this situation. it’s a huge thing on tiktok that’s why you’re not really getting the right info on twitter. I know you left tiktok tho which is perfectly okay and why I want to explain. there’s a big stigma with hello kitty girls being toxic on tiktok because of the lot of them that literally act like yandere. they rot in bed and if they’re in a relationship they demand to see their bf constantly. will call themselves words like “insane” and “psycho” and be proud of it. they call bpd “beautiful princess disorder” like it’s this cutesy quirky little thing. it creates really bad stigma for us bpd girlies AND hello kitty girlies. it’s actually really bad on tiktok right now. so yes there’s actually a huge population of toxic hello kitty girls lmao. not all of us tho!!
"every questionable tweet you ever twote" yes
okay so I do believe these toxic sanrio ppl exist because I've met SO MANY OF THEM! But! They were all from a specific community which is known as cutecore/kawaii kei/jojifuku. The situation was so bad I had to leave the community because it was damaging my mental health real bad. It was a mix of things- ED promoting, l0licon, and everyone hating on everyone. But I specifically met one person that was one of the worst girls you'll ever meet. She pretended to be really sweet and innocent, but later would drop the facade and put people one blast, calling them names and being just awful! I think there are a lot of people who like kawaii things that are nice and not troublesome, but the bad ones just stand out way more on social media. I wear lots of skirts and pastel and collect so much sanrio merch and I've also met people who are real sweet.
I think since the pandemic a lot of girls who weren't neither alt nor jpn fadhion lovers suddenly got super into sanrio specially kuromi so any toxic person you run into now has a higher chance of also being a sanrio fan than before lmao
The way i was thinking of BPD (feeling a LOT) before you brought it up then someone else said it in the replies you read too lol. I'm very much not cute so cant relate there but i have noticed people being weird about this kinda shit online. I didnt know it was so bad tho.
Ugh I was just talking about how I love hyper fem girls. Lol I love all Sanrio, but Hello Kitty and Kuromi rule me equally like zodiac signs. 😂
so interesting to think about!
This is crazy just bc i like hello kitty that don't mean ima about to go a wild animal and do toxic stuff atleast if your going to call out on the girls being rude atleast say the toxic girl bc some hello kitty girls are nice not saying im nice are anything im just say some hello kitty girls not are not bad..
Man, i had NO idea this was a trope. I noticed Sanrio stuff has been getting more popular and it’s been making it a little harder to get merch in my area, but i had no idea people were making such weird stereotypes about people. Folks just hate women having fun fr
Edit: it’s also so funny/pos that you bring up people with BPD loving Sanrio. My mom had BPD and she LOVED hello kitty. I definitely don’t think there’s a causational relationship there but it’s still so so funny to hear there’s a big correlation 😂
As a former lolita fashion girly... those communities are brutal to the core... I felt so insecure... and none of it had to do with sanrio lol but in saying that... the whole sweet innocent persona of lolita fashion is an absolute lie, everyone picks on each others clothes from behind their backs. Now as a hermit goth that has always and will forever love any sanrio stuff... not all of us are phycho, even though a few people think I am because I have an opinion that I don't keep to myself haha
Are they just mean girls who happend to be hello kitty girls or are there more of them than baseline?
People have different emotion?!? What?!?!? /sarcasm
Yay! Uploaded just as im about to get onto a monotonous part of my crochet project! Love you guys!/pl 🤍🫧
ily ur hair looks so good
Off topic but your hair looks sooooo cute like this I love it !
OMG YES CHUU! She is always a positive genuine light
When you say your outro I follow along in my head, at the end I said 'bye' out loud, in sync. My partner asked if I was saying goodbye to the video I was watching... >.
it could just be misogyny 💅🏻🎀💖
This is a great video and you explain your points very well! Also always super happy to see that Candystripper dress, I was here when you hauled it and I’m OBSESSED 😂
JUST WHAT I NEEDED. Relatable content while I eat my Mexican food ❤️🌸✨🫣
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honestly, and i dont know if im gonna sound wacky or out of pocket about it, but it kind of. seems sexist? or at least, like, internalized misogyny plays some kind of part. it feels reminiscent of me in middle school and how i felt about pink things and traditionally girly things, that i was better and above it because i "didnt like them" (which i did i was just hiding it, cuz internalized misogyny), but also about how i had convinced myself that "popular girls (who liked girly things) are all catty and gossipy and two-faced. i dunno, its an interesting overlap. and i especially dont trust it when a guy says anything about "toxic my melody cutecore pink girls", ya know?
As someone in who is neurodivergent and in her mid-30s, I've experienced varying degrees of toxic behavior in the Kawaii/J-Fashion/Alternative Fashion communities. I've had people write about my family and house on 4Chan, lost friendships, and seen legit fights. Because of this, I've basically left said groups and instead focus on the longtime friends who will let me thrive in what I aesthetically like and not judge me because of it. Still, I don't think every single person who rocks pastels and loves My Melody is someone to not be trusted - but just like with any fandom/subculture - anyone can be toxic. You just have to pay attention to the signs (and that usually doesn't have anything to do with the shade of pink said person likes to wear lol)
I absolutely loved the video!! thanks for talking about this and including our comments and experiences ily 💕💕💕
omfg i thought i was just crazy for realizing this the entire time? i see a huge stigma around people who like creepycute aesthetics in particular and it still to this day makes me scared to express myself T_T thank you for talking about this
I'm so happy to hear you mention jirai as a fan for many years and a jirai girl!
I don't understand how critics of cool kawaii people don't understand that people have depth... like has the internet fried everyone's brains... we're more than what we present online... we all are??
I think people are dumb and they think that if you like cute shit u must be an innocent angel girly girl so submissive and lovely, but then there's all types of ppl liking cute stuff including bad ones or unstable ones that will not give what you expect from them, and also a lot of guys will be mad at this because they're looking for uwu submissive soft gf and will find "fuck around and find out" kawaii girls
Some of them I do kawaii fashion too and I found a hello kitty table at the trifth store once and when I paid for it this girl wearing shein kawaii was giving me a disgusted look and when I was waiting for my grandma This girl starts rubbing it in my face how much thinner she was then me her boyfriend looked like he wanted to kill me lol
Hello from the autistic lands!😻 Dipping into all kind of anime as well as j-fashion a few years ago, gave me, a goth for over 30 years the chance to live out my kawaii side, ignoring ignorant comments no matter from which side or about what topic like ny age (43 years).
Thank you Pixi for being there and being you!❤️🥰❤️meow😻
I am so excited for this video, omg. My incredibly obsession and love for hello kitty means a lot to me for various reasons. She’s such a beacon of positive, she’s such a “I love friends and love life. Bad things happen but you can get through it with love and support!” and this “toxic hello kitty girl” messes with me cause I’m like ??? Am i little miss “toxic hello kitty girl”? Even tho I think my reasons are valid, I’m still a bit afraid that my character might be toxic or unkind.
you were my introduction to "kawaii" fashion when i was in highschool. I was very much into party kei and pastels and expressing myself a lot more. I did have some mental health issues diagnosed in that time, but since then I've gotten a lot more comfortable in dress in crazy colours and outfits, and surrounding myself in cute things. I even have a car with pink interior and cover in hello kitty stickers and pillows.
I have noticed tho in the community that some of the people I thought I could be friends with, had similar interests with, turned out to not be that happy, sunshine person that I thought they were. i can see how people are getting to the conclusion that all hello kitty girls are like that.
I just want to be a happy person and spread positivity while also enjoying things that make me happy
Ive been hit with the “you have stickers on your pink computer case you totally have x, y, and z” in my politics classes for sure. I am a real person with real informed opinions that I can make for myself. There’s truth to a stereotype sometimes but people are way too comfortable publicly espousing it towards others.
this whole thing started to bleed over into my real life, which SUCKS!!! some of my friends (not super close, but they're still my friends) started "joking" that i must be secretly a horrible person because i like cute things and my melody and stuff like that. it's not funny but since they're not my closest friends i don't feel comfortable calling them out. it doesn't help that this whole stereotype being about girls makes it so they lump me (a transmasc person) in with what they see as "girls". i know they don't do it on purpose and once this isn't trendy to talk about anymore they'll stop but it makes me not want to see them and only wanna hang out with friends who i know won't do that. it's annoying at the least.
Noooo I’m so sorry that sucks :(
There problem is there are narcissists everywhere in every fandom, sub-culture, community, that you can think of and when folks have a bad experience with one or two people within it then all people within that grouping will get tarred by the same brush and if enough people have bad experiences and get that opinion, the reputation will leak out and most people will begin to believe it.
Personally it's the elitism and gate keepyness of some communities and members within the "kawaii" "hello kitty aesthetic" not having the right clothes, make up, upkeep etc.
I love your necklace omg
loves this one!
Cinnamoroll/batzmaru bias for sure but can we have a shout out for deery lou!! And her preciousness
No I can’t eat rn pixie just uploaded a new vid
Noooo u can much and watch 🥺 make sure u get fed!!! 💗🌈💫💕
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