The Truth Behind “Toxic Hello Kitty Girls”

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КОМЕНТАРІ • 152

  • @Bottleblondegal
    @Bottleblondegal 4 місяці тому +180

    It just seems like people can’t win when it comes to social media. Either you exhibit toxic positivity or you are trauma dumping. 🤷🏼‍♀️

    • @homosoftommorow
      @homosoftommorow 4 місяці тому +16

      Tbh I don't even know what constitutes as trauma dumping at this point because people can just say they've experienced something traumatic and somehow that's trauma dumping. Like I can understand if someone isn't in the place to hear it cause of their own trauma but theres definitely a way to vocalize that without insulting a person. I feel like it's possible to be compassionate.

    • @Imjustkendall
      @Imjustkendall 4 місяці тому +3

      @@homosoftommorowI think it’s only trauma dumping when you go into HEAVY detail/ bring it up all the time Everytime. Just mentioning it isn’t trauma dumping, using it to relate to a situation isn’t trauma dumping. Just don’t rant about it to someone without asking if they can hear it

    • @PGOuma
      @PGOuma 2 місяці тому

      People are fr so bored and miserable with their lives that they have to bring down EVERYONE

  • @sleepygyro
    @sleepygyro 4 місяці тому +124

    there are toxic ppl everywhere, like, of course there’s gonna be some toxic sweet sunshine kawaii hello kitty girls unfortunately

  • @hi.im.ceekay
    @hi.im.ceekay 4 місяці тому +141

    when i broke up with my ex, he kept posting how a "toxic hello kitty girl" ruined his life... first of all, i'm a cinnamoroll girl. secondly, that had *nothing* to do with our relationship at all so.. go off i suppose

  • @phaineinTV
    @phaineinTV 4 місяці тому +44

    was a little surprised to not see anyone mention this in the vid (possibly because it kind of speaks for itself) but i think misogyny plays a really huuuuuuuge part in this kind of response - obviously not everyone who has these interests or identifies w/these styles is a girl, but kawaii culture in general and the like, pink and fluffy too many emojis sanrio sort of vibe is one that's perceived as very feminine (like you said, it's very uber femme) and i think a lot of people are operating on that sort of, ingrained distrust and/or for hypefemme people and working backwards from their kneejerk reaction to latch onto Some Reason to justify it.
    in general, i think a lot of people haven't moved past the stereotype of the hyperfemme mean girl regardless of whatever basis it does and doesn't have in reality lol. so combine that with the, as you said, big overlap with people who have mental health issues & stigmatized personality disorders or illnesses and it's the perfect boiling pot for people to just make up a girl to get mad at.

    • @seraph3m
      @seraph3m 4 місяці тому +2

      i was thinking that too

    • @maizie3921
      @maizie3921 3 місяці тому

      oh lol i just made a comment like this before i saw yours X_X i think you articulated this idea in a more coherent way lel

  • @beestiel
    @beestiel 4 місяці тому +7

    I’m cracking up at the traumacore Hello Kitty image that says “My stomach hurts/ I need to fart/ I need to fart/ I need to fart”

  • @HotaruMimiuchi
    @HotaruMimiuchi 4 місяці тому +39

    I am going to say that the only issues I have found in kawaii fashion subcultures are the same as I find in any subculture: elitism and gatekeeping.
    To be fair it used to be much worse 20 years ago when a lot of these subcultures were really growing and the vibes in the y2k era were really toxic. I have noticed that there is a bit more inclusivity now than there had been but those same issues still exist and it only takes the very loud minority to make the majority look just as bad.

  • @plushdragonteddy
    @plushdragonteddy 4 місяці тому +54

    i probably would've ended up being a hello kitty person no matter what, but the path i took to liking sanrio is heavily tied to my mom. when i was a kid in karate class, she liked to embarrass me by saying she had a pink hello kitty sparkle belt instead of her actual belt color lol. eventually, it became a running gag that she "loved hello kitty," until that love became genuine and she started getting excited whenever we'd see something in the store with hello kitty on it. all this is to say, i find the generalization about hello kitty girls so hilarious when my mom is like a 60yo lady with gray hair and a hello kitty hula girl on her dashboard, and ur gonna call her toxic for it? she sends me pictures of hello kitty toasters, and ur gonna call her toxic??? (i know this isn't the kind of person people are talking about, but it just goes to show how dumb generalizations are imo !!)

  • @micheller3251
    @micheller3251 4 місяці тому +19

    It's like saying all artists are toxic and bad partners because they are "damaged"... Just because there are cases where it's true doesn,t mean you should disrespect everyone in that category. At this point I've had so many bad experiences with humans of all sorts I don't trust anything people say about any group of people. My perspective is: pay attention to the individual in front of you. You'll notice from their behaviour if they are toxic, there's a very specific kind of dismissing and blame shifting that they do... Looks can't tell you that.

  • @neverneverland5836
    @neverneverland5836 4 місяці тому +20

    I'm not a hello kitty girl but I'm a care bears fan and there's definitely overlap in the "kawaii hyper feminine" space. The main toxicity I've experienced is to do with consumerism - I've run into too many younger people in these spaces that think it's all about collecting and having Things, which unfortunately is always going to be a side effect of basing an aesthetic around a brand. Though that doesn't make it any nicer to be around as a broke student who has maybe four pieces of second hand merch and an 80s plush I inherited from my mum!

    • @kawaiimagicalex5170
      @kawaiimagicalex5170 3 місяці тому +2

      yeah same here i dont have so much sanorio thing but i love sanorio enuways ^^. sorry for bad english

  • @pati5208
    @pati5208 4 місяці тому +100

    The two girls you made up should kiss

    • @Pixielocks
      @Pixielocks  4 місяці тому +28

      I was just thinking I should change the bio to something like that 💀💗💗💗

    • @syd6800
      @syd6800 4 місяці тому +3

      me and my gf fr

    • @SkylarThompson-mu1qs
      @SkylarThompson-mu1qs 2 місяці тому

      You two aren't real? ​@@syd6800

  • @eyeball000
    @eyeball000 4 місяці тому +21

    I’ve had guys come up to me and ask “are you a hello kitty girl?” and my autistic ass is like “Yes! ^_^!” only for them to cover their mouth and laugh in my face and be like “Nahhh them HK girls are TOXICX 😂” and im just standing there like 😀 i dont understand or know you?? what is happening??

    • @laylaev
      @laylaev Місяць тому +1

      I'm so sorry that had happened to u before I can't even imagine what that could of been like for u I hope u are well.

  • @slowsnailing
    @slowsnailing 4 місяці тому +16

    As someone who's experienced infantilization and objectification or pet-ification as i also like to call it, being boxed in, when i am presenting cutesy rainbow girl, and this is from the ppl positive about it, i really appreciate you talking about this and reminding ppl that WE ARE HUMAN BEINGS and WE EXPERIENCE THE FULL RANGE OF HUMAN EMOTION. Like they think it's a one note character and that is everything there is to you. And then the ppl who are negative think you aren't being genuine or that you're being overly positive in a deluded way because life sucks etc. Like idk about y'all but a lot of the things i surround myself with of cutesy things i do are comforting to me, like they make my experience of the bad things more tolerable. It's not a rejecting of reality, it's a self soothing reaction to reality. For me anyway. And also like a huge amount of other things. Like idk what it is about perceived girly or cutesy things that make ppl forget you're a human being and contain MULTITUDES (edit: just got to the traumacore part. I think that comes a lot from venting of csa and child abuse because of the simultaneous experience of innocence and horror. And i think a lot of traumatized ppl when they're older seek that innocence and childhood that was ripped from them. I think all of that is healthy and valid expression tbh. I definitely felt seen from those posts because as you said it's a very jarring. And that's the point. We have to process and express it somehow. The girlies that get it, get it i guess)

  • @tofutofutofu444
    @tofutofutofu444 4 місяці тому +20

    this blush style looks SOO perfect on you im in awe 😭💗💐

  • @royallyrain
    @royallyrain 4 місяці тому +5

    As a kawaii girl myself, I can agree that toxic kawaii girls exist. I'm not saying the ~kawaii girl culture~ is toxic, just that there are toxic people to be found everywhere you go and that even includes within the most sweetest, cutest, unassuming communities. I did once see a kawaii girlie on twt literally make a callout post against some beef they had with someone and wishing bodily harm on them. So it's very weird seeing someone who presents themselves as sunshine, pink, and rainbows, wanting someone to d!e.
    For a personal story, on tumblr I really liked making "good morning/afternoon friends!" posts every time i got online and someone sent me a dm telling me that i put them off with those posts everyday because they couldn't imagine someone actually being nice and sweet like that all the time.

  • @notbelle.e
    @notbelle.e 4 місяці тому +36

    hello kitty girls have been mentioned, I'VE BEEN SUMMONED !!!

  • @mollieswonderland
    @mollieswonderland 4 місяці тому +4

    I first started seeing the “hello kitty girl” rhetoric on tiktok and at first it seemed like it was mostly men who were talking about their “exes who liked sanrio” or whatever. It seemed more like they were saying that these girls were “crazy” (like the classic “my ex was crazy”) and were sort of saying “don’t be fooled by these smol girlies who like cute stuff cos they’re insane!!”… which of course is dumb as hell 😂

    • @mollieswonderland
      @mollieswonderland 4 місяці тому +1

      But I have also seen it in spheres where emo kawaii or more goth kawaii lovers exist on tiktok too - so I don’t think it’s just the brighter, pinker fashion styles ❤️

    • @mollieswonderland
      @mollieswonderland 4 місяці тому +2

      ALSO again as someone with BPD I definitely(!) think people see some kind of link with what they see as “childlike interests” with an adult person they perceive as being mentally ill and decide that combination must make a “toxic person”

    • @PGOuma
      @PGOuma 2 місяці тому

      ​@@mollieswonderlandyeah anything that's "strange" or "different" to them, they'll try to flip it into a negative thing and say that we're "crazy"...

  • @PastaPrincess25
    @PastaPrincess25 4 місяці тому +4

    The more I hear and read about these kinds of things the more I think that social media might be a mistake.

  • @gella_drawz
    @gella_drawz 4 місяці тому +8

    my horrid ex-bf would always send me "hello kitty girls are crazy" videos to make me feel bad, saying he signed up for a bubbly happy person and not my mental health issues 💀 like I can be both?? I'm not faking my sweetness when I meet people, its not a persona, I just want to make people happy!
    also whenever I think of "toxic hello kitty girls" I think of this one tiktok of a girl being like "to the guy I used to get over my ex, I'm sorry" video, and she had e-girl like makeup on and everyone in the comments, or people stitching it, or the reposts on reels where like "SEE! ITS ALWAYS A HELLO KITTY GIRL!!" and?? being any kinda alt doesn't make u a hello kitty girl for one, and two, anyone can be like that?? like a goth, a normie, a fucking man can?? (not saying men cant be kawaii or dress in the aesthetics associated with the fashion, I mean that its called hello kitty *girl* to demonize women primarily for liking feminine things) another example of Fems not being able to enjoy thing because society ruins it!

    • @pinkgirly19
      @pinkgirly19 3 місяці тому +3

      omg i had someone who would say i needed mental help due to my love of kawaii things and unicorns

  • @echoanddandelion8890
    @echoanddandelion8890 4 місяці тому +16

    Holy shit the 'i forgot you had bpd' comment, im so glad that person got away from their nasty friend

  • @bubblebrainbow
    @bubblebrainbow 4 місяці тому +35

    #notallhellokittygirls lmao. This is such a fun video topic, I always assumed it was an incel belief system that kawaii girls are toxic. In my experience just another way to hate on femininity and things women enjoy! As any good conspiracy or unfavorable sterotype- they make it seem believable by focusing on the negative and fixating on the few people who are actually toxic, and disregard the majority of kawaii people who extremely kindhearted and simply love cute things!

  • @Mamousayuri
    @Mamousayuri 4 місяці тому +3

    My first serious bf when I was 14 called me a toxic my melody girl and stole my comfort plushie 😭 (stitch Disney) I honestly hate when men feel the need to make girls demonized

  • @BAKAROID
    @BAKAROID 4 місяці тому +2

    Hope GlitterMochi and RottenLace become besties. Maybe more 🫶

  • @gloomychama
    @gloomychama 4 місяці тому +4

    hi wow this video is so fun!!! also... i have been judged by (men) because of my aesthetic and interests, i was asked by the same man: "are you a hello kitty girl?" and "do you take medication?" and i was like....... it was so disrespectful!
    love u pixie!!!!!!

  • @WessZombeeeehs
    @WessZombeeeehs 4 місяці тому +20

    Can you please do a series breaking down older and newer aesthetics / fashion styles?

    • @Pixielocks
      @Pixielocks  4 місяці тому +9

      Ooooooh that’s a cool idea!!!!!!

  • @Anne0jpg
    @Anne0jpg 4 місяці тому +33

    As a jirai kei girly who was recently diagnosed with BPD. Even within the jirai community, there is a LOT of talk. 2 main ones are the (mostly on insta) jirai crowd who are like "even if jirai means "landmines" (mostly insulting towards women with BPD and similar mental health issues), we also dress jirai but we're not like those crazy girls." And the other crowd (mostly on Tumblr) who are like "if you're not mentally ill don't call yourself jirai, just say you like girly kei". And it's mostly just endless debates between those 2 crowds.....

    • @Pixielocks
      @Pixielocks  4 місяці тому +11

      Oh dearrrrr 😭💗

    • @homosoftommorow
      @homosoftommorow 4 місяці тому

      I haven't heard of Jirai Kei is it different than Menhera?

    • @homosoftommorow
      @homosoftommorow 4 місяці тому +1

      Genuinely curious cause Menhera fascinates me

    • @micheller3251
      @micheller3251 4 місяці тому

      @@homosoftommorow maybe you already watched it, but cybr.grl has a full video/interview about the origins and caracteristics of menhera and the similarities and differences with similar aesthetics

    • @Anne0jpg
      @Anne0jpg 4 місяці тому +3

      @@homosoftommorow Yeah it's different even if if there is talk of mental health, just as I'd explained, really not everybody agree on it.

  • @pastelkawaiibabe5577
    @pastelkawaiibabe5577 4 місяці тому +1

    YOU JUST PERFECTLY EXPLAIN IT! For years I've been trying to explain this to people!

  • @serenediipity
    @serenediipity 4 місяці тому +12

    hearing that people think kuromi is a "safe" charatcer to like just because she doesn't hide her meanness is so interesting cause i'm a kuromi enjoyer who got exposed to sanrio by a cinnamaroll plush collector who's friends with a fellow kuromi fan and i'd argue they were both equally toxic in the time that i knew them

    • @CoraMaria
      @CoraMaria 4 місяці тому +1

      That's honestly so funny because the most toxic person I knew in my local community was a Kuromi enjoyer 😂

  • @crowkinghart9529
    @crowkinghart9529 4 місяці тому +16

    Like you said, there are toxic people everywhere and in every group, and people are always making large generalizations like this unfortunately.
    Lovely video as always! ❤

  • @blossomsystem459
    @blossomsystem459 4 місяці тому +4

    as a bipolar girlie, I like to keep my environment very bright and kawaii adjacent bc it helps me stay in a positive mood, while wearing goth and darker clothes because it makes me feel safe

  • @user-lm1np7hm5k
    @user-lm1np7hm5k 2 місяці тому +1

    The next time there's a rainbow, look up! You'll feel better. Live, love, provoke the void❤😊

  • @homosoftommorow
    @homosoftommorow 4 місяці тому +5

    Im laughing so hard because when you said She reminds me of Jessica because Jessica from Craig Of The Creek will absolutely become a Hello Kitty girl when shes older.

  • @peachy-keen8893
    @peachy-keen8893 4 місяці тому +7

    i think a lot of it could be misogyny too tbh, ive seen too many men putting down younger girls for liking very traditionally feminine things, by labeling them as toxic and or childish??

  • @pomegothic
    @pomegothic 4 місяці тому +17

    as a toxic hello kitty girl, i am intrigued

    • @Pixielocks
      @Pixielocks  4 місяці тому +1

      Lol 😭😭😭💗💗💗

  • @elyaaraly
    @elyaaraly 3 місяці тому +1

    As someone on the ASD, yes. One of my special interests is Sanrio as well as pastel colors 😂

  • @alec-elijah
    @alec-elijah 4 місяці тому +7

    I think a part of the distrust can also be because of the fact that a large subsect of hyper fans are autistic, and allistic people get a feeling of unease or "uncanny valley" effect when looking at autistic people. They can tell that there is something off or different about them, so they just assume that it's because of something negative like secretly being toxic or mean.

  • @totallyjacksfilms69
    @totallyjacksfilms69 4 місяці тому +5

    My littlest part loves cute things and Sanrio ( especially cinnamon roll) and they are extremely slowly getting over the fear of being judged. The other day they took a big step by wearing a cinnamon roll backpack with a cinnamon roll plushy at the state fair.

  • @adrawer4ever
    @adrawer4ever 4 місяці тому +2

    it could just be misogyny 💅🏻🎀💖

  • @Shaily777
    @Shaily777 4 місяці тому +3

    i REALLY hope you see this comment cause i actually know a lot about this situation. it’s a huge thing on tiktok that’s why you’re not really getting the right info on twitter. I know you left tiktok tho which is perfectly okay and why I want to explain. there’s a big stigma with hello kitty girls being toxic on tiktok because of the lot of them that literally act like yandere. they rot in bed and if they’re in a relationship they demand to see their bf constantly. will call themselves words like “insane” and “psycho” and be proud of it. they call bpd “beautiful princess disorder” like it’s this cutesy quirky little thing. it creates really bad stigma for us bpd girlies AND hello kitty girlies. it’s actually really bad on tiktok right now. so yes there’s actually a huge population of toxic hello kitty girls lmao. not all of us tho!!

  • @AddieSebastienne
    @AddieSebastienne 3 місяці тому

    "SHE REMINDS ME OF JESSICA" got me for a very... specific reason lmfaoooo
    I definitely agree with your points here!!! I think this stereotype is pretty silly overall

  • @jillsarah7356
    @jillsarah7356 4 місяці тому +2

    Every single group of people has extremists unfortunately!

  • @hikkiknits
    @hikkiknits 3 місяці тому +1

    okay so I do believe these toxic sanrio ppl exist because I've met SO MANY OF THEM! But! They were all from a specific community which is known as cutecore/kawaii kei/jojifuku. The situation was so bad I had to leave the community because it was damaging my mental health real bad. It was a mix of things- ED promoting, l0licon, and everyone hating on everyone. But I specifically met one person that was one of the worst girls you'll ever meet. She pretended to be really sweet and innocent, but later would drop the facade and put people one blast, calling them names and being just awful! I think there are a lot of people who like kawaii things that are nice and not troublesome, but the bad ones just stand out way more on social media. I wear lots of skirts and pastel and collect so much sanrio merch and I've also met people who are real sweet.

  • @Zanykaiju
    @Zanykaiju 4 місяці тому +4

    So I have 2 takes 1:I am 30 so high school might be different now but watched this toxic hello kitty girl stereotype ( no truth to it in my experience) develop in early 2000. For context I lived in a poor desert in ca, usa where the Mexican American population was big around this time most people couldn't get there hands on anime stuff and so hello kitty was really easy to find knock offs for at a good price. So anime/ cute core/ kawaii girls try to dress cute and collect knock off hello kitty. However the community I grew up in was still rough most family wanted girls to be pretty typical “beautys”. So I heard a lot of people get chewed out for having long nails and hello kitty asthetic like it was them throwing away there culture some how. (remember most family here are traditional and first or second gen. Usa residents so parents freaked out about this). Most these girls would act cute online but most would talk pretty rough, cuss, and be very protective of there friends irl like more thug/ gang like Think chola culture. They kinda had the anime stigma of Gals pretty, but easy basically. None of them growing up were really like that it's just what adults and people they turn down say. 2 run into this online now with my algorithm mainly tiktok (remember I am late 20 early 30 demographic ) people seem to either be using it like a weird put down like they don't understand cutecore there ex was into and generalize all anime/ sanrio as being hello kitty, hitting to maybe them not even paying attention to there partner interest in the first place 😢. I have also had people throw it around like a shitty remark to try to put fem people down like calling someone a gamer girl like its a bad thing 😒 to try to discredit them.

    • @eyeball000
      @eyeball000 4 місяці тому +2

      oh my god i feel like you hit the nail on the coffin but also im a first generation, parents are mexican american, grew up in texas - i truly resonate

  • @courtneydoom
    @courtneydoom 4 місяці тому +6

    I’m a middle aged neurodivergent Hangyodon girlie and now I’m worried that people are going to lump me into this category of “toxic hello kitty girls” 😅

  • @kkuudandere
    @kkuudandere 4 місяці тому +5

    JOY JOY JOY JOY, cherry cherry HELLO KITTY 🌺🌸💕💌🍒 ninki minjaj has been real quiet since you dropped these bars....

  • @MystearicaClaws
    @MystearicaClaws 4 місяці тому +1

    Trauma core is giving happy bunny vibes...

  • @MushroomHat
    @MushroomHat 4 місяці тому +4

    I always thought it was that kawaii people are ASSUMED to be nicer based on their looks, so when they’re normal or a little bit more unfriendly than you’d assume, it feels worse?

  • @MystearicaClaws
    @MystearicaClaws 4 місяці тому +1

    In addition to my comment on your community post, toxicity is in every community, sadly. From little free libraries, to Magic the Gathering, to animals, to fashion, and more.

  • @pinkgirly19
    @pinkgirly19 3 місяці тому +1

    i so love the kawaii rainbow style my melody,hello kitty,unicorns ect. and ive loved the color pink since i was little its sad how people will make fun of the kawaii uwu rainbow girls....

  • @ShaneRichard2029
    @ShaneRichard2029 4 місяці тому +5

    omg my tweets are in there 👀
    it's so difficult to exist with an unkind brain, to deal with anxiety and intrusive thoughts, while also enjoying things like magical girls, plushies, and all the kawaii goodness... and then be told that you *must* actually be an horrible person who is hiding behind a cute façade??? because on the bad days, or just overtime when you keep being accused of that (directly or indirectly), you kinda start wondering if they are right. maybe i am hiding my true horrible self, maybe i am trying to appear cute so no one knows my "true thoughts" (which are, most of the time, intrusive thoughts you have no control over, or your brain catastrophizing).
    kawaii folks are unreasonably expected to be happy and at a 100% all the time because of their aesthetic, so when they mention being angry or show signs of anger, or anything similar, it is jarring to some people, and they interpret that as the "mask cracking" 😕 which like... dude, if you can have bad days, so can the sanrio girlie you see sometimes on tik tok?
    not saying kawaii folks can't do no wrong of course!
    anyway, sorry for the long comment ^^

  • @fruityfroot4413
    @fruityfroot4413 4 місяці тому +3

    My immediate thought it: no matter how kind, how sweet, caring, positive etc you are; you are above all a human with feelings, with passions, with opinions... sometimes those feelings get hurt, sometimes you have had your fill of negativity and it spills over, sometimes you react strongly to things you are passionate about. I'm not a kawaii uwu person, but i am a neurodivergent individual who tries their best to be kind and positive, but if i dont like someone or if i am wronged somehow, im gonna have feelings about it that are negative. That's the nature of being a human; why are alternative people who try to remain positive or kind, held to a higher standard in that sense? Choosing to convey kindness and positivity as much as possible doesn't make you ingenuine, like I don't understand that logic at all; we're all people..

    • @fruityfroot4413
      @fruityfroot4413 4 місяці тому

      I think it's also very much a case of a lot of these people are neurodivergent in some way, and I think personally people who have experienced a lot of trauma or negativity in their lives can fall into the box of OK then we hyperfocus on the good stuff instead, to cope with that.

  • @RenaeIsWellRead
    @RenaeIsWellRead 4 місяці тому +12

    I do want to say as someone who had a very traumatic falling out with a friend that definitely resulted in some trauma I am still working through it is very hard for me to like or give a chance to anyone who remotely looks like her or acts like her. It’s like my defenses immediately go up.
    Obviously this isn’t an excuse for bullying and I would never want to harm these innocent people in any way but I do distance myself from them and give myself the space I need to continue to process.
    Just wanted to share! I think you hit the nail on the head with the idea that people who have trauma around a person in the community tend to have an inherent distrust and dislike of others in the same community. ❤

  • @mochi3418
    @mochi3418 2 місяці тому

    One time I was just at the shops with my friends with my kawaii outfit and these boys started shooting water guns at me like wtf did they even have them😭😭😭

  • @PGOuma
    @PGOuma 2 місяці тому +1

    Not me shipping the two girls 💀💀💀
    🩷 x 🖤

  • @dixierodriguez3149
    @dixierodriguez3149 4 місяці тому +2

    It's wrong 2 assume some 1 is toxic by the way they dress 👗 every 1 has a bad day no matter who you are Or what you wear n be who love 2 be waer what you love don't worry about the haters keep being bubbley n cute n I don't fit in any of those communities but I do have mental issues 😢

  • @hannachan3075
    @hannachan3075 4 місяці тому +3

    As a former lolita fashion girly... those communities are brutal to the core... I felt so insecure... and none of it had to do with sanrio lol but in saying that... the whole sweet innocent persona of lolita fashion is an absolute lie, everyone picks on each others clothes from behind their backs. Now as a hermit goth that has always and will forever love any sanrio stuff... not all of us are phycho, even though a few people think I am because I have an opinion that I don't keep to myself haha

  • @findingthebroom
    @findingthebroom 4 місяці тому +6

    "every questionable tweet you ever twote" yes

  • @maizie3921
    @maizie3921 3 місяці тому +1

    honestly, and i dont know if im gonna sound wacky or out of pocket about it, but it kind of. seems sexist? or at least, like, internalized misogyny plays some kind of part. it feels reminiscent of me in middle school and how i felt about pink things and traditionally girly things, that i was better and above it because i "didnt like them" (which i did i was just hiding it, cuz internalized misogyny), but also about how i had convinced myself that "popular girls (who liked girly things) are all catty and gossipy and two-faced. i dunno, its an interesting overlap. and i especially dont trust it when a guy says anything about "toxic my melody cutecore pink girls", ya know?

  • @ichig0tchi
    @ichig0tchi 4 місяці тому +1

    I think since the pandemic a lot of girls who weren't neither alt nor jpn fadhion lovers suddenly got super into sanrio specially kuromi so any toxic person you run into now has a higher chance of also being a sanrio fan than before lmao

  • @pastellecat
    @pastellecat 4 місяці тому +4

    Man, i had NO idea this was a trope. I noticed Sanrio stuff has been getting more popular and it’s been making it a little harder to get merch in my area, but i had no idea people were making such weird stereotypes about people. Folks just hate women having fun fr
    Edit: it’s also so funny/pos that you bring up people with BPD loving Sanrio. My mom had BPD and she LOVED hello kitty. I definitely don’t think there’s a causational relationship there but it’s still so so funny to hear there’s a big correlation 😂

  • @sygilloux-v2
    @sygilloux-v2 2 місяці тому

    The way i was thinking of BPD (feeling a LOT) before you brought it up then someone else said it in the replies you read too lol. I'm very much not cute so cant relate there but i have noticed people being weird about this kinda shit online. I didnt know it was so bad tho.

  • @user-lm1np7hm5k
    @user-lm1np7hm5k 2 місяці тому

    Are they just mean girls who happend to be hello kitty girls or are there more of them than baseline?

  • @angelaatkinson-brazis7104
    @angelaatkinson-brazis7104 4 місяці тому +7

    As a kindergarten teacher, my kiddos love how much cute stuff i have. I have a group of girls that like to draw me pictures of sanrio characters

  • @neu_dae
    @neu_dae 4 місяці тому

    I uninstalled tik tok too! feels kinda amazing honestly - I have so much of my time back, and I'm so less grumpy.. I'm also not going on Twitter/X anymore either... and avoid Instagram because the comments are insanely toxic now...
    basically I'm done with social media except for longform UA-cam and sometimes like... Bluesky or Tumblr lol

  • @laylaev
    @laylaev Місяць тому +1

    This is crazy just bc i like hello kitty that don't mean ima about to go a wild animal and do toxic stuff atleast if your going to call out on the girls being rude atleast say the toxic girl bc some hello kitty girls are nice not saying im nice are anything im just say some hello kitty girls not are not bad..

  • @itsreelydalin
    @itsreelydalin 4 місяці тому +2

    As someone in who is neurodivergent and in her mid-30s, I've experienced varying degrees of toxic behavior in the Kawaii/J-Fashion/Alternative Fashion communities. I've had people write about my family and house on 4Chan, lost friendships, and seen legit fights. Because of this, I've basically left said groups and instead focus on the longtime friends who will let me thrive in what I aesthetically like and not judge me because of it. Still, I don't think every single person who rocks pastels and loves My Melody is someone to not be trusted - but just like with any fandom/subculture - anyone can be toxic. You just have to pay attention to the signs (and that usually doesn't have anything to do with the shade of pink said person likes to wear lol)

  • @trio0minus0one
    @trio0minus0one 4 місяці тому

    pls pls pls 🙏🏽 make more day in my life down to earth videos. I feel like UA-cam is full of video essays and I really miss the old videos.

  • @mimdreams
    @mimdreams 4 місяці тому +1

    ily ur hair looks so good

  • @addie1080
    @addie1080 4 місяці тому +1

    When you say your outro I follow along in my head, at the end I said 'bye' out loud, in sync. My partner asked if I was saying goodbye to the video I was watching... >.

  • @themelonsoup
    @themelonsoup 2 місяці тому

    Ugh I was just talking about how I love hyper fem girls. Lol I love all Sanrio, but Hello Kitty and Kuromi rule me equally like zodiac signs. 😂

  • @sosunfreak
    @sosunfreak 4 місяці тому +2

    I don't understand how critics of cool kawaii people don't understand that people have depth... like has the internet fried everyone's brains... we're more than what we present online... we all are??

  • @terrahbruner
    @terrahbruner 2 місяці тому

    People have different emotion?!? What?!?!? /sarcasm

  • @Saturnm0ss
    @Saturnm0ss 4 місяці тому +3

    Yay! Uploaded just as im about to get onto a monotonous part of my crochet project! Love you guys!/pl 🤍🫧

  • @WholeCakeIsland
    @WholeCakeIsland 4 місяці тому

    so interesting to think about!

  • @Kirakiracuremarine
    @Kirakiracuremarine 4 місяці тому +2

    Some of them I do kawaii fashion too and I found a hello kitty table at the trifth store once and when I paid for it this girl wearing shein kawaii was giving me a disgusted look and when I was waiting for my grandma This girl starts rubbing it in my face how much thinner she was then me her boyfriend looked like he wanted to kill me lol

  • @yumestar_chr
    @yumestar_chr 4 місяці тому +3

    Talking about Saniro, Sanrio recently opened several stores in Israel despite the genocide Israel is committing against Palestinians. So please if you love saniro buy second hand from now on, please don't support sanrio anymore.

  • @royalreveluv
    @royalreveluv 4 місяці тому +1

    OMG YES CHUU! She is always a positive genuine light

  • @cutiepatootie
    @cutiepatootie 4 місяці тому +2

    JUST WHAT I NEEDED. Relatable content while I eat my Mexican food ❤️🌸✨🫣

  • @Lyuciferrr
    @Lyuciferrr 4 місяці тому +2

    I think people are dumb and they think that if you like cute shit u must be an innocent angel girly girl so submissive and lovely, but then there's all types of ppl liking cute stuff including bad ones or unstable ones that will not give what you expect from them, and also a lot of guys will be mad at this because they're looking for uwu submissive soft gf and will find "fuck around and find out" kawaii girls

  • @blue_anime_cat2526
    @blue_anime_cat2526 4 місяці тому +1

    Hello from the autistic lands!😻 Dipping into all kind of anime as well as j-fashion a few years ago, gave me, a goth for over 30 years the chance to live out my kawaii side, ignoring ignorant comments no matter from which side or about what topic like ny age (43 years).
    Thank you Pixi for being there and being you!❤️🥰❤️meow😻

  • @jackiejewel1239
    @jackiejewel1239 4 місяці тому +1

    Ive been hit with the “you have stickers on your pink computer case you totally have x, y, and z” in my politics classes for sure. I am a real person with real informed opinions that I can make for myself. There’s truth to a stereotype sometimes but people are way too comfortable publicly espousing it towards others.

  • @sw33tb0d
    @sw33tb0d 4 місяці тому +2

    omfg i thought i was just crazy for realizing this the entire time? i see a huge stigma around people who like creepycute aesthetics in particular and it still to this day makes me scared to express myself T_T thank you for talking about this

  • @serotine6067
    @serotine6067 4 місяці тому +1

    Off topic but your hair looks sooooo cute like this I love it !

  • @MiniNymph
    @MiniNymph 4 місяці тому +1

    My kawaii spaces have been so healthy for me - yes, there's sometimes a bit of drama, but honestly in my comm it's usually someone has to be careful not to run into a non-kawaii person in a convention or something. Considering that similar issues have existed in every group I have ever been a part of - theatre groups, queer groups, college, autism groups - I don't think that's a big deal. Any group can be toxic: maybe kawaii girlies just know how to get revenge beter.

  • @bunnieslikecherries8143
    @bunnieslikecherries8143 4 місяці тому

    I absolutely loved the video!! thanks for talking about this and including our comments and experiences ily 💕💕💕

  • @CourageousGoldfish
    @CourageousGoldfish 4 місяці тому

    This is a great video and you explain your points very well! Also always super happy to see that Candystripper dress, I was here when you hauled it and I’m OBSESSED 😂

  • @miri1912
    @miri1912 4 місяці тому +1

    I'm so happy to hear you mention jirai as a fan for many years and a jirai girl!

  • @BlossomTheCocoon
    @BlossomTheCocoon 4 місяці тому +1

    I am so excited for this video, omg. My incredibly obsession and love for hello kitty means a lot to me for various reasons. She’s such a beacon of positive, she’s such a “I love friends and love life. Bad things happen but you can get through it with love and support!” and this “toxic hello kitty girl” messes with me cause I’m like ??? Am i little miss “toxic hello kitty girl”? Even tho I think my reasons are valid, I’m still a bit afraid that my character might be toxic or unkind.

  • @annarynx7464
    @annarynx7464 4 місяці тому

    you were my introduction to "kawaii" fashion when i was in highschool. I was very much into party kei and pastels and expressing myself a lot more. I did have some mental health issues diagnosed in that time, but since then I've gotten a lot more comfortable in dress in crazy colours and outfits, and surrounding myself in cute things. I even have a car with pink interior and cover in hello kitty stickers and pillows.
    I have noticed tho in the community that some of the people I thought I could be friends with, had similar interests with, turned out to not be that happy, sunshine person that I thought they were. i can see how people are getting to the conclusion that all hello kitty girls are like that.
    I just want to be a happy person and spread positivity while also enjoying things that make me happy

  • @matrixmilky596
    @matrixmilky596 4 місяці тому +1

    this whole thing started to bleed over into my real life, which SUCKS!!! some of my friends (not super close, but they're still my friends) started "joking" that i must be secretly a horrible person because i like cute things and my melody and stuff like that. it's not funny but since they're not my closest friends i don't feel comfortable calling them out. it doesn't help that this whole stereotype being about girls makes it so they lump me (a transmasc person) in with what they see as "girls". i know they don't do it on purpose and once this isn't trendy to talk about anymore they'll stop but it makes me not want to see them and only wanna hang out with friends who i know won't do that. it's annoying at the least.

    • @Pixielocks
      @Pixielocks  4 місяці тому

      Noooo I’m so sorry that sucks :(

  • @vampyressence
    @vampyressence 4 місяці тому +1

    Personally it's the elitism and gate keepyness of some communities and members within the "kawaii" "hello kitty aesthetic" not having the right clothes, make up, upkeep etc.

  • @craftyhobbit7623
    @craftyhobbit7623 4 місяці тому +1

    There problem is there are narcissists everywhere in every fandom, sub-culture, community, that you can think of and when folks have a bad experience with one or two people within it then all people within that grouping will get tarred by the same brush and if enough people have bad experiences and get that opinion, the reputation will leak out and most people will begin to believe it.

  • @ruledveto9449
    @ruledveto9449 4 місяці тому +1

    idk if this is all silly gibberish so take this with a grain of salt, but from like the most abstract and unbiased perspective i can muster, i reckon some of the hello kitty girl toxicity mindset might come from seeing some jarring inconsistencies as an outsider. for example the subdued grey hypothetical girlie might be pretty openly negative yah but also in virtue of it being a pretty subdued persona, they may never have a full on outburst or experience and voice the negative emotions they may feel as vocally as perhaps a super bubbly sanrio might. cause in my mind if u have the capacity for EXTREME joy u probs have the capacity for extreme negative emotions also which can be jarring especially if you present an extremely joyous front the majority of the time. so from an outsider's perspective u look at the grey subdued anime girl and ur like ah yes she might be negative but its a. consistent and b. she's not a hardcore tweaker like some hello kitty girlies can be? allll speculation tho.. oh and the gossipy part I think might just come of weirdly hypocritical maybe since hello kitty girls tend to outwardly have pretty high and vocal moral grounds online yknow condemning people for bein ruuude or having like a "be nice to me n my frens" in they bio but then finding out that they talking smack in a gc might be a little like woah practice what u preach girl. and like yeah every single human is inconsistent but I think its just that juxtapositioning of vocally taking moral high ground behaviour that people outside of that sphere dont engage in so seeing it contradicted in their action is like woah
    tl;dr good vid, much to think about

  • @salemlapotra
    @salemlapotra 4 місяці тому

    People have such a hard time understanding duality

  • @Kirakiracuremarine
    @Kirakiracuremarine 4 місяці тому

    Also those girls who just buy sanrio just bc its a trend and then give actual kawaii girls the side eye

  • @fromfantasy9
    @fromfantasy9 4 місяці тому +1

    i always felt like the egirl trend ruined kawaii fashion for a lot of people and dont get me wrong i love egirl fashion and the cutsy emo look it has but a lot of people like belle delphine who have made it kinda weird unfortunately put a bad taste in peoples mouths

  • @Jo_out_of_water
    @Jo_out_of_water 4 місяці тому +2

    No I can’t eat rn pixie just uploaded a new vid

    • @Pixielocks
      @Pixielocks  4 місяці тому +5

      Noooo u can much and watch 🥺 make sure u get fed!!! 💗🌈💫💕

  • @baby.ribz.
    @baby.ribz. 4 місяці тому

    Lub u lots Pixie ❤🧡💛💚🩵💙💜🩷

  • @angelpinkaholic6824
    @angelpinkaholic6824 4 місяці тому

    I have BPD and my think is dolls, calico critter, and grandma aesthetic. I always want to be that cute kawaii girly pop and look up to you for fashion but 🫣 I’m too scared

  • @cherrytreefrog
    @cherrytreefrog 4 місяці тому +2

    Yes I also am in the kawaii + neurodivergent group and agree with that take (obvi not everyone) but to just say ALL kawaii peoples are toxic is so sad 🥺🫶🏻🌸

  • @glitterbounce
    @glitterbounce 4 місяці тому +1

    Cinnamoroll/batzmaru bias for sure but can we have a shout out for deery lou!! And her preciousness