@@cocothedino_2901 If OP had taken him back he would almost 100% guaranteed have left again, without even telling her, as soon as another job/research opportunity presented itself. He is probably not a full-blown narcissist but he is quite obviously hugely selfish and egotistical and puts his own needs and wants before everyone else's.
That's the thing about this I find hilarious. He basically admits he wouldn't have come back to her if it worked out. Like, even if she was single she wouldn't take him back knowing she's just a consolation prize.
Felix: "I dumped you by text, planned for months behind your back for a move, ignored you for years, then waited until my job ended to come and tell you that I'M ready for you now and you should just marry me after I had my fun" Op: "I'm married" Felix: "you're so selfish"
Felix is really full of himself. Seems like he forgot he said that she deserves better... She ended up with someone better but now she is "disgusting". This coming from the guy who dumped her via text
OP gave this POS too much power over her and her relationship, even with the support of friends and family she was mindful of the reaction of the ex as if it were important
To be fair, all of that was most likely the bottle speaking, not him. Dude has to handle his alcoholism first before being around other people, really.
@@erejnionDrunk words are sober thoughts. It wasn’t the alcohol speaking for him, it was how he really felt. When you are drunk you are more likely to say what you really mean because you have less control over info processing and decision making. He had less control to keep his feelings down so he said them.
@@IceJJFishArchive That's not necessary. His thoughts are obviously a product of anger and frustration. He lost the woman he loved for a job that led nowhere, and came to find out she married his cousin and his entire family hid it from him. In his mind, had he known they started seeing each other, he could have quit and come back to fix things. He fucked up yes but he can't accept it. And in his drunken state, he projects the blame on her. So a lot of those nasty things are just that misplaced anger. If he was sober, he would realize how irrational those thoughts are and reject them.
@@thecabbageman1 pretty much. I agree it’s misplaced anger, and I 100% believe there was a chance he might have come back to stop the relationship had he known a year or so earlier. But even sober, he had these irrational thoughts. Some people don’t need alcohol to do or say how they feel (although being drunk makes it easier), so i dont think alcohol is to blame for his nonsense.
If someone f*cks off and leaves you behind like you mean nothing. why would you even be bothered what he thinks about you marrying his cousin, even if you would marry his grandad his right to an opinion got nullified the moment he crawled away like a snake.
@@BaeBunni I feel like calling him a snake or worm is an insult to snakes and worms. He's more like a wasp or hornet because they're just shitty, angry bees without the cute factor.
Let's also not forget that the only reason Felix came back wasn't because he realized he cannot live without OP, but because his research project failed and they ran out of funding. He came back because he didn't have a job anymore, and he didn't have money anymore. OP was just a backup to him. A safety net he could come back to an live off of. Had OP allowed him to come back he'd be gone again as soon as a new job opportunity presented itself, or if a "better" relationship opportunity presented itself. He's obviously hugely egotistical and only sees OP (and probably other people too) as convenience and resources.
"we have never really considered how Felix would feel about this when he came back" felix has never really considered how YOU, his FAMILY, his FRIENDS would feel about this when he left. he's too far up his own ass for you to pull him out
Exactly! Felix didn’t even stop to think how everyone in his life would feel after he just up and abandoned them, especially during a time that should have been a joyous occasion. He’s only thinking about himself alone and doesn’t understand why no one from his old life didn’t agree
Felix is completely delusional, and I get the feeling that he would overreact like this even if OP was married to someone outside his family. Dude wasn't even enough of a man to break up with her in person and vanished for three years, and somehow believed he could get back into OP's life as if nothing happened. 🤦🏻♂️
He said himself he thought about the move for MONTHS and never even considered sitting with his fiancee and say he's going ahed, they can postpone the wedding, marry in Germany. It's clear he never loved her, just her stability. And quite frankly OP is not selfish at all but is a loser chaser, from the dreamer zoologist who never cared about her to the "struggling" guitarrist that cushions on her stable job while played on his band (EDIT: and fortunately got a grip himself). And now Loser #1 got without funds to live in Germany (an incredibly expensive country to live) and returned trying to mooch off her stability again. Don't fool yourself, he's only mad another dude got there before him.
Yeah Felix only used the fact that it was his cousin as convenient ammo. He would have reacted the exact same way had OP married a complete stranger instead. He'd still have lost his sh-t, he'd still have caused a scene and been taken away by the cops, he'd still have expected OP to put her life on hold for over three years and just wait for him to return, he'd still have slandered her online and said that she had cheated on him before he even left, he'd still have called her a wh-re. I'm sure the fact that it was his cousin made it sting more though, and he deserves every bit of it.
@@karinefonte516 He works as an event planner and just does gigs for the event planning business. 7:00 is about the time stamp for that. So I don't think he just cushions on her stable job.
His research probably failed due to him drinking and not doing his job if that's the truth. Knowing this guy, he probably only came back for money, and op was his last resort.
Bails a week before the wedding, dumps OP via text and says that he hopes she finds someone better him, feels like this isn’t discussable, saying that his dreams are more important, lies to her about his secret plans, doesn’t even consider OP’s feelings, doesn’t even say goodbye, doesn’t keep in contact, then comes back after years without letting OP know, confidently expecting another chance at a relationship not even considering that OP might’ve moved on because HE ended the relationship and HE SAID he hopes she finds someone else (he didn’t set any boundaries on who), and yet….OP, is the disgusting selfish one who ruined his life? ….Sure…..
@@BaeBunniBecause Felix believes that he is most important person in the world, like the main character of a story. He thinks that he can leave where the grass is greener and come back when it wasn’t with a warm welcome, but since no one was playing their parts he can’t be that important person anymore.
The one thing that upsets me about this story is just how some of these entitled types think that their exes will pine for them or wait for them to return like a dog. Not only is this entitled, but toying with the feelings of another person like that is just as bad as cheating. So this ex was expecting OP to keep pining for him despite explicitly dumping her (and not even to her face, mind you), and that she will take him back once he had a change of heart? Yeah, no, it does not work that way in real life, and OP has the right to move on rather than torment herself over when she will see you again, prick!
Like these people have SOME basic understanding that their actions are hurtful, but they believe their partners to be forever broken, longing for them, available, and alone.
Felix is a terminal loser who is obsessed with OP. She should seriously consider getting a restraining order against him since he's demonstrated that he's more than willing to show up unannounced to her house to harass her.
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If his situation had gone the other way and he had been successful, I wouldn't be surprised if he still came back just to brag and diss her for her choice in marrying his cousin. Cuz when you read between the lines, he only came back to her cuz he didn't make it.
Because she got with his cousin to get back at him... he didn't "dump her" as she put it "for noble reason" it's funny how she was one who lied and decived him making a complete fool out of his proposal 😂 This is why I hate reddit, the stories are usually fake/over exaggerated and only cover one side, she is the terrible one here yet somehow Felix is bad? Felix's cousin is also a POS for backstabbing him She talks so much about "communication" yet throughout the complete story she doesn't bother chatting with him, also she covered up their wedding
@@VR00100 Did you even listen to the same story as us? Even if it’s fake, which is most likely true, the dude kept her in the dark of his plans (for months mind you), broke up with her through text a week before their wedding (making her an emotional wreck), only to come crawling back when his project failed. You’re delusional if you think the guy was in the right my friend, if you’re so pathetic to leave your fiancée a week before you’re wedding and not even man up and say it to her face, you’re definition of an absolute idiot. She only got with his cousin because of how he ended things, and because the cousin was there for her (which he wasn’t). Talk about the definition of a horrible person…
I adore OP and Sam’s relationship. It wasn’t a rushed and impulsive romance at all. They were just really good human beings then friends with each other first. Honestly, if they didn’t become romantic, you can tell they would have been long time friends, and that’s what makes their love all the sweeter. It comes from a genuine place of just treating each other well and it grew from there.
Wow i didn't expect that his whole family will cut felix off even his own parents cut him off and what i don't get why felix expected he can come back into op's life and think the op will fell right back in love with him like i bet if his dream job wasn't a bust he would still be in germany living his best life and you mean to tell me felix didn't cheat or has been with another woman after breaking up with op via text
I've seen reddit stories when the ex comes back 10, 12 and even 15 years later expecting the OP to be waiting for them as if they were frozen in time and they can just pick them back up after dumping them, cheating on them, stealing large sums of money you name it delusional People think they are the main character and everyone else exists to please them.
This man is so wrapped up in himself. He thinks everything is about him. Shes supposed to just stick a pin in her life and not move on and pine for him forever. How DARE she pick herself up and move on and be happy! She dodged a bullet with that one.
Felix would have the same reaction no matter who she married. And how entitled was that lout? Run off a WEEK before your own wedding, and not telling anyone what's been going on for months. Spends 3yrs getting sloshed and doing his job until it goes belly up, and he thinks he can just return like nothing happened. Girl should have showed him the ring and said "You said I'd find someone better, and I did. He actually came to the wedding." No name, and close the door.
Wait...MONTHS?! He knew for months and never even thought about discussing it with his partner? What kind of narcissistic, antisocial personality disorder bs is that?! Nope. Didn't dodge a bullet; dodged a nuclear warhead. Jesus Christ...
Felix is terror. However, I would like to _point out 1 thing;_ _OP Said It's Not Her Fault Felix's Family Kept Her New Relationship A Secret From Him, After Tell Them To Do Exactly That! It Is Her Fault!_ *OP Is Acting Like Princess Morbucks From The Original Powerpuff Girls In The Episode Where She Becomes Mayor!*
Months???? He knew for months he was leaving and thought she’d wait for him. Also, it’s whatever she married his cousin since it didn’t happen maliciously. I don’t understand why they kept it secret. They didn’t do anything wrong and shouldn’t have acted as if it was.
I think she said she would feel iffy about having Felix know because that is how she would feel if Felix decided to marry her cousin after their breakup. But I also think that deep down in Op and Sam knew that Felix would mess up their marriage considering that he already ruined wedding by leaving everyone behind without telling anyone what he was planning for months
I think it was less out of guilt and more that they didn’t want to assume that Felix wouldn’t do anything against the marriage. They could easily guess that Felix is having a grand time with his job, but if they were to be wrong (and seeing how he behaved time and again), he could fly back and ruin their wedding plans since weddings take forever to set up to begin with. They were protecting their happiness. Now withholding the information after the wedding, I think they just weren’t sure what to do about telling. And they also figured it wasn’t worth telling since he’s in a different country. It’s not an every day scenario telling your ex that you’re married, let alone to their cousin. Typically, people just don’t stay in contact with their ex, and that’s what they went along with. That’s my assumption anyways. And since he ditched her, she had no need to give any courtesy for him.
Look Felix might be a coward and might be a terrible human being for breaking up with his fiance a week before their marriage because of his stupid dreams but I still kind of feel bad for the guy his parents and his entire family lied to him and betrayed him
They didn’t betray him tho why would they tell him when it’s none of his business? He left her before the wedding threw text, he planned it for months and didn’t let her know and only came back once his work was no longer being funded. YOURE weird to think he deserves an explanation
@@yahirzavala-nm9ur I get your point I really do and I agree that he is a terrible person. But his family literally hid it from him. I do agree that he should have never came back to that poor woman.
And op acts like she has no accountability, but she does she demanded no one tell him. She' might not be the main ah but she still is pretty decently sized ah
3 years? 3 years. Why the hell is anyone worried about Felix's feelings?!?! Coward bails, quits by texts, goes NC and shows up with flowers with "ok, my other option didn't work out that's why I'm here let's ignore the last 3 years and go right back to where we left off before I ruined everything." ... I mean... WTactualF.
Felix did this to himself, but I still feel bad for him. He lost everything due to his own actions and he knows it. That's fucked up his judgment and finding out about Sam just felt like he was betrayed by everyone. Nobody had to tell Felix, but I don't think they shouldve actively tried keeping the info from him. 2 wrongs don't make a right
I have some experience with this issue and honestly... Felix has every right to feel how he feels, but that doesn't have anything to do how OP and her husband feel. Its a common thing I've realized to want to put distance between an ex and your personal life. In this case an ex and your friends and family. But just because you feel a certain don't mean that you others need to take it into consideration. Not everyone needs to be in your life. Not your blood relatives or the friends you made. So no, they, OP and her husband, don't need to do anything with regards to Felix other than keep him away.
To be honest "bro or family don't date my ex" code is obsolete and stupid. So what if his cousin dated her? They're cousin, not like they're going to be close sibling
@@kos2919 I agree with obsolete but you can’t really change how a person feels with just words most often. Sometimes you just need to part ways and I found that it’s actually easier as time goes on to part ways. You bring up an interesting point though. The sibling thing. Do you think that if they were siblings that you would feel differently about the situation?
Who cares if Sam and Felix are family. At the end of the day OP and Sam are adults so who cares if they get together. if Felix doesn't love OP enough to even tell her he's leaving in person, to call off the wedding or anything after knowing for months, then his feelings shouldn't be important to OP because she obviously wasn't important enough to him.
Felix is just awful.. op is not a toy you discard in the bin and then once you get bored you just pick that toy backup like nothing happened.. Felix :" op how dare you move on without me telling you that you can ehhh feel bad for me "..
Felix is trash for what he did to leave a word one week before a wedding is vile., Felix parents are wrong for supporting her and not telling him. They should have stayed neutral. If you ask me, the entire family is disloyal… OP is not wrong, and you can’t help who you fall in love with, and given the circumstances Felix brought that on himself. But choosing not to tell him at all and his family backing It, is crazy…
"he said that he truly loved me", yeah he loved her so much that he couldn't run away fast enough when he got offered a job with a decent amount of cash.
Felix said he thought about it for months but never said a thing to OP and then disappeared weeks before the wedding. He could have easily put the wedding on hold or spoke to OP before leaving. He didn't want to have OP change his mind or make him look like a bad guy while everyone could still speak to him. She did well dodging that bullet.
Remember, even if they major in zoobiology or marine biology doesn't mean they're good people. There's a lot of misconception that zoobiologists or marine biologists are automatically good people.
I always find funny in these fake stories that they always say even their parents cut him/her off. Parents even stay to drug addicts, they would def stay for a son that was selfish with their gf
If felix job had turned out good and he would have probably married a richer woman from Germany and wouldn't probably care about OP at all.He can move on respectfully and find some other women or find some other job .The fact he thinks about cheating on the day of his wedding of OP says it all.He thinks so little of her .
"He wanted to give the relationship a 'real chance' this time." I would kind of think any time you were preparing to marry someone, you would have passed the goalpost for giving a relationship a 'real chance', a long time before that point. What I don't understand is when exes feel like there's still some kind of special connection that they can tap into years later, to instantly pick up where things 'left off', which is demented, because while they might feel they truncated things cleanly, because they didn't have to do with a lot, if any, of the fallout, how are they so lacking in self awareness that they genuinely think everything's just in a nice ambient stasis, ready to resume whenever they feel they are ready for it?
Felix is a big cry baby. Like, hello? You cowardly dumped your fiancée via text rather than just talking face to face and ending things properly, and now you acuse her for marrying your cousin, who was a better person than you. Like, dude, just Man-up and move on.
Felix is a man who works on his own schedule and wont accommodate anyone elses. He will come when he pleases and he will leave when he pleases, with no regard for anybody but himself.
So in fact ... He didn't want her to move on ... He wanted to still wait for him , because imagine that even if she wasn't with his cousin and married someone else ... He would've pulled up at her house , apologized and made his long speech about how he missed her and still love her. So he's selfish.
Wow manipulation is really easy to spot 🙄 Oh wait no the op is just an emotional being who feels bad about everything. If you say no once never say yes
Imagínate regresar esperando poder arreglar las cosas y lo primero que vez es que ella pudo seguir adelante, no te molesta, pero de repente te das cuenta de que ella es una persona horrible se casó con tu primo y lo peor del caso es que ni siquiera tu familia te ayuda, es más nunca te lo mencionaron, yo en esa situación también me vuelvo loco
I mean I understand his logic of op getting with his cousin for revenge or whatever but even if that was true op wouldn’t have needed or wanted to get revenge If the asshole hadn’t just up and left without a single word to his fiancé. If your relation is at the engagement phase then it’s already way too late to turn back without being an asshole.
I don’t know guys , I find it very weird. Why’s they had to be secretive about the wedding when they could just told Felix back then so that all of these problems wouldn’t even happen. Secondly, I find it odd how Sam (a broke musician) felt in love with a successful woman while she’s still depressed after got dumped. I find it very disturbing and manipulative. I’m not on Felix sides, but the whole family cutting him off it’s just really weird. All I’m saying is that all of these could’ve been avoided if they communicated better. Just trying to see on both sides. Peace.
I think the whole not telling Felix thing came down to the fact that he left and therefore lost all right to know anything about this woman's life. As for the struggling musician and the successful, depressed woman, I see your point.
Huh? Not really he was just being a supportive friend at first which developed into feelings. He wasn’t stalking op. This is actually normal and reasonable. If he wasn’t Felix’s cousin would it still be creepy?
@@Dayday-xj3hc he wasn’t a friend in the first place, aside from seeing each other two-three times they were practically strangers, yet he stays at her house, forces her to speak and even hugs her? That was literally none of his business.
Felix is a typical narcissist, who thinks world revolves around him. Good that OP found happiness. Felix sort of did her a favor by leaving her - imagine years wasted is she would marry him and gradually open her eyes to see his true self.
"I'm not jealous! I can get a hotter woman if I wanted!" Yes that is what she wants for you to move on, leave her alone, and stop thinking of her. Also buddy no woman is gonna be around you if you are gonna obsess about your ex that you left before the wedding and constantly being jealous of your cousin.
Felix is a user. If that is the way he treats his career and the people in his life, then he is scum. What a joke of a human being. If you love someone and value something you have with them then why would you destroy that or put it in jeopardy? Didn't love her as much as he might have suggested. Probably just the idea of her. He moved away and kept it a secret so tit for tat. Ex's are that for a reason. Why ever bother taking them back. No use going down that road again. Better to adventure elsewhere. I think he just wanted to use OP to fall back on. He is full of himself.
Still a pretty shit move to date your cousin's ex/your ex's cousin (depending on the perspective), neither of them is a good example either + no one should be neglected and pushed away by his family because of this
Something tells me that Felix wanting to create a lasting impact in the world with his work didnt come from a place of care for the world but some God complex, because he is that special and important. Instead he turned into an alcoholic who didnt do shit.
Ok first off if Felix didn’t want the OP to date/marry Sam or anyone else the he shouldn’t have broken up with her a week before their wedding in the first place but he did it anyways and lost a good woman.
So if Felix got more grant money, he would have stayed in Germany? What a selfish coward.
what im really wondering is if the study he left to work for got funded again, would he willingly leave her all over again?
@@cocothedino_2901 If OP had taken him back he would almost 100% guaranteed have left again, without even telling her, as soon as another job/research opportunity presented itself. He is probably not a full-blown narcissist but he is quite obviously hugely selfish and egotistical and puts his own needs and wants before everyone else's.
That's the thing about this I find hilarious. He basically admits he wouldn't have come back to her if it worked out. Like, even if she was single she wouldn't take him back knowing she's just a consolation prize.
@@BlackTheBerserker I with you on that
Right. She is/was his fall back plan. Only he didn't notify her of that fact. 😂😂😂😂
Felix: "I dumped you by text, planned for months behind your back for a move, ignored you for years, then waited until my job ended to come and tell you that I'M ready for you now and you should just marry me after I had my fun"
Op: "I'm married"
Felix: "you're so selfish"
Imao😂😂😂
Perfect summary haha
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂basically
Felix is really full of himself. Seems like he forgot he said that she deserves better... She ended up with someone better but now she is "disgusting". This coming from the guy who dumped her via text
OP gave this POS too much power over her and her relationship, even with the support of friends and family she was mindful of the reaction of the ex as if it were important
To be fair, all of that was most likely the bottle speaking, not him. Dude has to handle his alcoholism first before being around other people, really.
@@erejnionDrunk words are sober thoughts. It wasn’t the alcohol speaking for him, it was how he really felt. When you are drunk you are more likely to say what you really mean because you have less control over info processing and decision making. He had less control to keep his feelings down so he said them.
@@IceJJFishArchive That's not necessary. His thoughts are obviously a product of anger and frustration. He lost the woman he loved for a job that led nowhere, and came to find out she married his cousin and his entire family hid it from him. In his mind, had he known they started seeing each other, he could have quit and come back to fix things. He fucked up yes but he can't accept it. And in his drunken state, he projects the blame on her. So a lot of those nasty things are just that misplaced anger.
If he was sober, he would realize how irrational those thoughts are and reject them.
@@thecabbageman1 pretty much. I agree it’s misplaced anger, and I 100% believe there was a chance he might have come back to stop the relationship had he known a year or so earlier. But even sober, he had these irrational thoughts. Some people don’t need alcohol to do or say how they feel (although being drunk makes it easier), so i dont think alcohol is to blame for his nonsense.
If someone f*cks off and leaves you behind like you mean nothing. why would you even be bothered what he thinks about you marrying his cousin, even if you would marry his grandad his right to an opinion got nullified the moment he crawled away like a snake.
Snake is too noble for him, more like a worm in the dirt hiding away.
@@BaeBunni I feel like calling him a snake or worm is an insult to snakes and worms.
He's more like a wasp or hornet because they're just shitty, angry bees without the cute factor.
Do not degrade snakes.
Dating your cousins girl is weird anyway I can’t lie. I cant imagine dating anyone my cousin has that’s just weird lol
@@HollyAnneThePaganChaosWitch Even then, wasps and hornets are far more useful than Felix is, so he can't even be compared to them
Let's also not forget that the only reason Felix came back wasn't because he realized he cannot live without OP, but because his research project failed and they ran out of funding. He came back because he didn't have a job anymore, and he didn't have money anymore. OP was just a backup to him. A safety net he could come back to an live off of. Had OP allowed him to come back he'd be gone again as soon as a new job opportunity presented itself, or if a "better" relationship opportunity presented itself. He's obviously hugely egotistical and only sees OP (and probably other people too) as convenience and resources.
She dodge a bullet. Felix is a psycho.
Dodged a bullet and fell into a dream
@@Maninawig Op got hit with Cupid's arrow after meeting sam.
Nah she dodged a missile. Imagine if he had done this when they were married
"we have never really considered how Felix would feel about this when he came back" felix has never really considered how YOU, his FAMILY, his FRIENDS would feel about this when he left. he's too far up his own ass for you to pull him out
Exactly! Felix didn’t even stop to think how everyone in his life would feel after he just up and abandoned them, especially during a time that should have been a joyous occasion. He’s only thinking about himself alone and doesn’t understand why no one from his old life didn’t agree
Well he did pull himself out, and now he's full of shit😂
Felix is completely delusional, and I get the feeling that he would overreact like this even if OP was married to someone outside his family.
Dude wasn't even enough of a man to break up with her in person and vanished for three years, and somehow believed he could get back into OP's life as if nothing happened. 🤦🏻♂️
He said himself he thought about the move for MONTHS and never even considered sitting with his fiancee and say he's going ahed, they can postpone the wedding, marry in Germany. It's clear he never loved her, just her stability.
And quite frankly OP is not selfish at all but is a loser chaser, from the dreamer zoologist who never cared about her to the "struggling" guitarrist that cushions on her stable job while played on his band (EDIT: and fortunately got a grip himself). And now Loser #1 got without funds to live in Germany (an incredibly expensive country to live) and returned trying to mooch off her stability again. Don't fool yourself, he's only mad another dude got there before him.
Yeah Felix only used the fact that it was his cousin as convenient ammo. He would have reacted the exact same way had OP married a complete stranger instead. He'd still have lost his sh-t, he'd still have caused a scene and been taken away by the cops, he'd still have expected OP to put her life on hold for over three years and just wait for him to return, he'd still have slandered her online and said that she had cheated on him before he even left, he'd still have called her a wh-re. I'm sure the fact that it was his cousin made it sting more though, and he deserves every bit of it.
@@karinefonte516 He works as an event planner and just does gigs for the event planning business. 7:00 is about the time stamp for that. So I don't think he just cushions on her stable job.
His research probably failed due to him drinking and not doing his job if that's the truth. Knowing this guy, he probably only came back for money, and op was his last resort.
Bails a week before the wedding, dumps OP via text and says that he hopes she finds someone better him, feels like this isn’t discussable, saying that his dreams are more important, lies to her about his secret plans, doesn’t even consider OP’s feelings, doesn’t even say goodbye, doesn’t keep in contact, then comes back after years without letting OP know, confidently expecting another chance at a relationship not even considering that OP might’ve moved on because HE ended the relationship and HE SAID he hopes she finds someone else (he didn’t set any boundaries on who), and yet….OP, is the disgusting selfish one who ruined his life? ….Sure…..
Also ruined his life? He is the one that moved to a different country and the program he was apart of couldn't sustain funds how is that her fault?
@@BaeBunniBecause Felix believes that he is most important person in the world, like the main character of a story. He thinks that he can leave where the grass is greener and come back when it wasn’t with a warm welcome, but since no one was playing their parts he can’t be that important person anymore.
I love how he told her that someone was better out there for her, and yet, expected her to still be waiting around when he came back.
He literally sent the someone better to her!!
The one thing that upsets me about this story is just how some of these entitled types think that their exes will pine for them or wait for them to return like a dog. Not only is this entitled, but toying with the feelings of another person like that is just as bad as cheating. So this ex was expecting OP to keep pining for him despite explicitly dumping her (and not even to her face, mind you), and that she will take him back once he had a change of heart? Yeah, no, it does not work that way in real life, and OP has the right to move on rather than torment herself over when she will see you again, prick!
Like these people have SOME basic understanding that their actions are hurtful, but they believe their partners to be forever broken, longing for them, available, and alone.
One word: narcissists
Felix is a terminal loser who is obsessed with OP. She should seriously consider getting a restraining order against him since he's demonstrated that he's more than willing to show up unannounced to her house to harass her.
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If his situation had gone the other way and he had been successful, I wouldn't be surprised if he still came back just to brag and diss her for her choice in marrying his cousin. Cuz when you read between the lines, he only came back to her cuz he didn't make it.
Felix sounds like the kind of guy who expected OP to have a freshly cooked meal waiting for him.
I do that for my husband and family. It’s wonderful.
@@dcg590 ....kinda missing the point, but more power to ya.
What Felix did is the second worst thing anyone could do, right behind cheating on a Minecraft parkour map.
I also noticed that.
Excuse me..... Why would they care about Felix's feelings?
Empathy is a weird emotion, and you cant just turn it on or off at will, especially with a visibly emotional person staring you right in the face...
Because she got with his cousin to get back at him... he didn't "dump her" as she put it "for noble reason" it's funny how she was one who lied and decived him making a complete fool out of his proposal 😂
This is why I hate reddit, the stories are usually fake/over exaggerated and only cover one side, she is the terrible one here yet somehow Felix is bad? Felix's cousin is also a POS for backstabbing him
She talks so much about "communication" yet throughout the complete story she doesn't bother chatting with him, also she covered up their wedding
@@VR00100 Did you even listen to the same story as us? Even if it’s fake, which is most likely true, the dude kept her in the dark of his plans (for months mind you), broke up with her through text a week before their wedding (making her an emotional wreck), only to come crawling back when his project failed.
You’re delusional if you think the guy was in the right my friend, if you’re so pathetic to leave your fiancée a week before you’re wedding and not even man up and say it to her face, you’re definition of an absolute idiot. She only got with his cousin because of how he ended things, and because the cousin was there for her (which he wasn’t).
Talk about the definition of a horrible person…
@@borasora see there's "VR" in my username, that's the initials of my name... Not felix borasora
@@VR00100 fr bruh this woman and that same dude is a coward
Felix fumbled the bag
I adore OP and Sam’s relationship. It wasn’t a rushed and impulsive romance at all. They were just really good human beings then friends with each other first. Honestly, if they didn’t become romantic, you can tell they would have been long time friends, and that’s what makes their love all the sweeter. It comes from a genuine place of just treating each other well and it grew from there.
Bc fckng the relatives of ex’s is cool? Fckng gross.
she made the right choice
Wow i didn't expect that his whole family will cut felix off even his own parents cut him off and what i don't get why felix expected he can come back into op's life and think the op will fell right back in love with him like i bet if his dream job wasn't a bust he would still be in germany living his best life and you mean to tell me felix didn't cheat or has been with another woman after breaking up with op via text
I've seen reddit stories when the ex comes back 10, 12 and even 15 years later expecting the OP to be waiting for them as if they were frozen in time and they can just pick them back up after dumping them, cheating on them, stealing large sums of money you name it delusional People think they are the main character and everyone else exists to please them.
The way she just showed him her wedding ring and then shut the door was pure gold.
Well same took another man's trash sooooo
This man is so wrapped up in himself. He thinks everything is about him. Shes supposed to just stick a pin in her life and not move on and pine for him forever. How DARE she pick herself up and move on and be happy! She dodged a bullet with that one.
Felix would have the same reaction no matter who she married. And how entitled was that lout? Run off a WEEK before your own wedding, and not telling anyone what's been going on for months. Spends 3yrs getting sloshed and doing his job until it goes belly up, and he thinks he can just return like nothing happened. Girl should have showed him the ring and said "You said I'd find someone better, and I did. He actually came to the wedding." No name, and close the door.
Felix just need project his feeling about his project failure, imagine if he succeeded? He wouldn’t even bother her or her husband
I hope OP and Sam have many great years together. Felix can go rot.
The AUDACITY on this man to expect them to get back together after he broke up with her in a text.
Felix talking about success and junk like his entire project didn't collapse, lol
I love this kind of stories 😂❤
Lol, felix can pound sand. He has his chance and he blew it in the worst way possible.
Wait...MONTHS?! He knew for months and never even thought about discussing it with his partner? What kind of narcissistic, antisocial personality disorder bs is that?! Nope. Didn't dodge a bullet; dodged a nuclear warhead. Jesus Christ...
I don't think you'll be able to Fix It Felix
Felix is terror. However, I would like to _point out 1 thing;_
_OP Said It's Not Her Fault Felix's Family Kept Her New Relationship A Secret From Him, After Tell Them To Do Exactly That! It Is Her Fault!_
*OP Is Acting Like Princess Morbucks From The Original Powerpuff Girls In The Episode Where She Becomes Mayor!*
Months???? He knew for months he was leaving and thought she’d wait for him. Also, it’s whatever she married his cousin since it didn’t happen maliciously. I don’t understand why they kept it secret. They didn’t do anything wrong and shouldn’t have acted as if it was.
I think she said she would feel iffy about having Felix know because that is how she would feel if Felix decided to marry her cousin after their breakup. But I also think that deep down in Op and Sam knew that Felix would mess up their marriage considering that he already ruined wedding by leaving everyone behind without telling anyone what he was planning for months
I think it was less out of guilt and more that they didn’t want to assume that Felix wouldn’t do anything against the marriage. They could easily guess that Felix is having a grand time with his job, but if they were to be wrong (and seeing how he behaved time and again), he could fly back and ruin their wedding plans since weddings take forever to set up to begin with.
They were protecting their happiness. Now withholding the information after the wedding, I think they just weren’t sure what to do about telling. And they also figured it wasn’t worth telling since he’s in a different country. It’s not an every day scenario telling your ex that you’re married, let alone to their cousin. Typically, people just don’t stay in contact with their ex, and that’s what they went along with. That’s my assumption anyways. And since he ditched her, she had no need to give any courtesy for him.
AI slipped saying "Now I have an addiction" when talking about Felix's drinking in Germany lol
Felix said “ I know you will probably find someone who deserves you” then goes ballistic when OP does 😂😅
The opposite of love isn't hate its indifference. OP should be indifferent to the ex and live her life to the fullest
I love happy endings like this
Even without her marrying Sam, Felix' return would've been super crappy
man's gonna lose it when they have a kid together lmao
I hate how i just kept Imagining Felix as Felix from straykids 😂😂
Felix wanted a Hallmark movie moment
There is a quote from an old italian movie that goes "You should NEVER go to Germany, Paolo".
I think it suites
Depend tho, is this 1930s Italy or 1970s Italy?
@@kos2919 70s :) Amici Miei II
Positive I heard this story before but he left her to be a musician and failed
Look Felix might be a coward and might be a terrible human being for breaking up with his fiance a week before their marriage because of his stupid dreams but I still kind of feel bad for the guy his parents and his entire family lied to him and betrayed him
They didn’t betray him tho why would they tell him when it’s none of his business? He left her before the wedding threw text, he planned it for months and didn’t let her know and only came back once his work was no longer being funded. YOURE weird to think he deserves an explanation
@@yahirzavala-nm9ur I get your point I really do and I agree that he is a terrible person. But his family literally hid it from him. I do agree that he should have never came back to that poor woman.
And op acts like she has no accountability, but she does she demanded no one tell him. She' might not be the main ah but she still is pretty decently sized ah
@jacoby-flower no I'm on her side I just believe that her actions and Alex's parents actions were terrible.
@Michael-zi3kk I'm not saying I'm not on hwr side but her lack of accountability is funny.
He said himself to find someone better and now he’s upset she did just that?!
What a Story 😂😂
3 years? 3 years. Why the hell is anyone worried about Felix's feelings?!?! Coward bails, quits by texts, goes NC and shows up with flowers with "ok, my other option didn't work out that's why I'm here let's ignore the last 3 years and go right back to where we left off before I ruined everything."
...
I mean...
WTactualF.
Felix did this to himself, but I still feel bad for him. He lost everything due to his own actions and he knows it. That's fucked up his judgment and finding out about Sam just felt like he was betrayed by everyone. Nobody had to tell Felix, but I don't think they shouldve actively tried keeping the info from him. 2 wrongs don't make a right
Felix is a narcissist. It's all about me, me, me.
" Anything I took was freely given. Maybe you should have taken better care of your stuff "
Oh God, what is this from?
@@katelyntaylor7384 justice league star-crossed
I have some experience with this issue and honestly... Felix has every right to feel how he feels, but that doesn't have anything to do how OP and her husband feel. Its a common thing I've realized to want to put distance between an ex and your personal life. In this case an ex and your friends and family. But just because you feel a certain don't mean that you others need to take it into consideration. Not everyone needs to be in your life. Not your blood relatives or the friends you made. So no, they, OP and her husband, don't need to do anything with regards to Felix other than keep him away.
To be honest "bro or family don't date my ex" code is obsolete and stupid. So what if his cousin dated her? They're cousin, not like they're going to be close sibling
@@kos2919 I agree with obsolete but you can’t really change how a person feels with just words most often. Sometimes you just need to part ways and I found that it’s actually easier as time goes on to part ways.
You bring up an interesting point though. The sibling thing. Do you think that if they were siblings that you would feel differently about the situation?
@@mariorivera7969 tbh as long it's organic and not cheating it's fine.
Who cares if Sam and Felix are family. At the end of the day OP and Sam are adults so who cares if they get together.
if Felix doesn't love OP enough to even tell her he's leaving in person, to call off the wedding or anything after knowing for months, then his feelings shouldn't be important to OP because she obviously wasn't important enough to him.
Thank god OP didn’t make the same bad decision twise
Felix is just awful.. op is not a toy you discard in the bin and then once you get bored you just pick that toy backup like nothing happened..
Felix :" op how dare you move on without me telling you that you can ehhh feel bad for me "..
Felix is trash for what he did to leave a word one week before a wedding is vile., Felix parents are wrong for supporting her and not telling him. They should have stayed neutral. If you ask me, the entire family is disloyal… OP is not wrong, and you can’t help who you fall in love with, and given the circumstances Felix brought that on himself. But choosing not to tell him at all and his family backing It, is crazy…
Felix is the ahole but i cant help but feel sad for him💔.
Talk about toxic Main Character Syndrome. 🙄
Felix is utterly delusional.
"he said that he truly loved me", yeah he loved her so much that he couldn't run away fast enough when he got offered a job with a decent amount of cash.
If ya take him he will abandon u with kids for sure he one of those going to get milk type of dads😂
Did felix think op was going to spend the rest of her life sitting around waiting for him?
Felix said he thought about it for months but never said a thing to OP and then disappeared weeks before the wedding. He could have easily put the wedding on hold or spoke to OP before leaving. He didn't want to have OP change his mind or make him look like a bad guy while everyone could still speak to him. She did well dodging that bullet.
Remember, even if they major in zoobiology or marine biology doesn't mean they're good people. There's a lot of misconception that zoobiologists or marine biologists are automatically good people.
While keeping it a secret was her fault, Felix don't deserve nada
OP got revenge by being Happy.
I always find funny in these fake stories that they always say even their parents cut him/her off. Parents even stay to drug addicts, they would def stay for a son that was selfish with their gf
If felix job had turned out good and he would have probably married a richer woman from Germany and wouldn't probably care about OP at all.He can move on respectfully and find some other women or find some other job .The fact he thinks about cheating on the day of his wedding of OP says it all.He thinks so little of her .
felix is delusional. he has a snowball'ss chance in hell to get back with op
Felix hand delivered a better man to her. It's his own fault two fold, for leaving her, and sending Sam.
"He wanted to give the relationship a 'real chance' this time." I would kind of think any time you were preparing to marry someone, you would have passed the goalpost for giving a relationship a 'real chance', a long time before that point.
What I don't understand is when exes feel like there's still some kind of special connection that they can tap into years later, to instantly pick up where things 'left off', which is demented, because while they might feel they truncated things cleanly, because they didn't have to do with a lot, if any, of the fallout, how are they so lacking in self awareness that they genuinely think everything's just in a nice ambient stasis, ready to resume whenever they feel they are ready for it?
I would totally do this I might be a horrible person
Felix is a big cry baby. Like, hello? You cowardly dumped your fiancée via text rather than just talking face to face and ending things properly, and now you acuse her for marrying your cousin, who was a better person than you. Like, dude, just Man-up and move on.
I bet he will act the same if OP married sonebody else
Felix is a man who works on his own schedule and wont accommodate anyone elses. He will come when he pleases and he will leave when he pleases, with no regard for anybody but himself.
So in fact ... He didn't want her to move on ... He wanted to still wait for him , because imagine that even if she wasn't with his cousin and married someone else ... He would've pulled up at her house , apologized and made his long speech about how he missed her and still love her. So he's selfish.
Felix Translation: I gambled with my life hard and failed, now im mad that the person i told to move on and be happy moved on and is happy
Wow manipulation is really easy to spot 🙄
Oh wait no the op is just an emotional being who feels bad about everything. If you say no once never say yes
She definitely broke him 🤣
He did that to himself
Woman doesn't deserve Felix
Same took another man's trash 😂😂😂
Imagínate regresar esperando poder arreglar las cosas y lo primero que vez es que ella pudo seguir adelante, no te molesta, pero de repente te das cuenta de que ella es una persona horrible se casó con tu primo y lo peor del caso es que ni siquiera tu familia te ayuda, es más nunca te lo mencionaron, yo en esa situación también me vuelvo loco
these storys got me thinking what is the nicest way to break up with someone?
I mean I understand his logic of op getting with his cousin for revenge or whatever but even if that was true op wouldn’t have needed or wanted to get revenge If the asshole hadn’t just up and left without a single word to his fiancé.
If your relation is at the engagement phase then it’s already way too late to turn back without being an asshole.
I don’t know guys , I find it very weird.
Why’s they had to be secretive about the wedding when they could just told Felix back then so that all of these problems wouldn’t even happen.
Secondly, I find it odd how Sam (a broke musician) felt in love with a successful woman while she’s still depressed after got dumped. I find it very disturbing and manipulative.
I’m not on Felix sides, but the whole family cutting him off it’s just really weird. All I’m saying is that all of these could’ve been avoided if they communicated better.
Just trying to see on both sides. Peace.
Finally the comment I was looking for.
Finally same one understands
I think the whole not telling Felix thing came down to the fact that he left and therefore lost all right to know anything about this woman's life. As for the struggling musician and the successful, depressed woman, I see your point.
Sam must be handsome af, because his actions were that of a creep yet op is like “he’s so sweet🥺🥺”
I don't see it.
Huh? Not really he was just being a supportive friend at first which developed into feelings. He wasn’t stalking op. This is actually normal and reasonable. If he wasn’t Felix’s cousin would it still be creepy?
@@Dayday-xj3hc he wasn’t a friend in the first place, aside from seeing each other two-three times they were practically strangers, yet he stays at her house, forces her to speak and even hugs her? That was literally none of his business.
@@Mernomi mean op said he did kinda just move in i assume that means its kinda without much discussion…
People just see what they want to see
Felix is a typical narcissist, who thinks world revolves around him.
Good that OP found happiness. Felix sort of did her a favor by leaving her - imagine years wasted is she would marry him and gradually open her eyes to see his true self.
Can't believe pewdiepie dumped her
I mean its better for everyone that the parents take care of felix
"I'm not jealous! I can get a hotter woman if I wanted!" Yes that is what she wants for you to move on, leave her alone, and stop thinking of her. Also buddy no woman is gonna be around you if you are gonna obsess about your ex that you left before the wedding and constantly being jealous of your cousin.
Well, I understand Felix and CAN through the lies of Op and Sam the traitor. I wish them nothing but the worst and a very miserable l8fe.
Same bruh
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Felix is a user. If that is the way he treats his career and the people in his life, then he is scum. What a joke of a human being. If you love someone and value something you have with them then why would you destroy that or put it in jeopardy? Didn't love her as much as he might have suggested. Probably just the idea of her. He moved away and kept it a secret so tit for tat.
Ex's are that for a reason. Why ever bother taking them back. No use going down that road again. Better to adventure elsewhere. I think he just wanted to use OP to fall back on. He is full of himself.
"Lots to talk about"
No? Just pretend and move on.
Why would Op hide her marriage from Felix?
I hope that Felix gets help.
It hurts seeing someone do better without you regardless of how much of an anchor you know you are.
3 years Felix. Boy bye, break your big toe.
Felix is nursing a dented ego. 😊
Still a pretty shit move to date your cousin's ex/your ex's cousin (depending on the perspective), neither of them is a good example either + no one should be neglected and pushed away by his family because of this
😂😂
He was way more selfish in his interests than OPs theoretical version if her ex
Something tells me that Felix wanting to create a lasting impact in the world with his work didnt come from a place of care for the world but some God complex, because he is that special and important.
Instead he turned into an alcoholic who didnt do shit.
Nah my immature ahh cant take this story seriously💀 (im a stay😍💅
FELIX MENTIONED RAHH‼️🗣🔥WHO TF IS LEE YONGBOK🗣🔥⁉️)
Ok first off if Felix didn’t want the OP to date/marry Sam or anyone else the he shouldn’t have broken up with her a week before their wedding in the first place but he did it anyways and lost a good woman.
Félix started it all...
Felix: i dump you to live your life.
She lives her life and get married
Felix:* surprise pichacku face* why you not wait for me?