No. Because ' too much ' isn't a recognised measurement. Everyone's 'too much' varies. My too much can be just the correct amount for someone else. I have a very good memory so studying was easy for me. My sister is really bright but can't concentrate like I do. So it takes her a little longer. We both achieved our educational goals, she just had to work a little harder.
Solutions: 1. Toxic Positivity channel your emotions into ways that doesn’t manifest into negative action. 2. Work too hard Overwork and working hard is different. Know when you want good result, know when not. You can’t have everything. After all your effort reflects your results. 3. Perfectionist Some psychologists have listed perfectionist as a mental health issue. Work as best as you can, don’t pursue perfection. 4. Avoiding conflict I myself like to avoid conflict because it’s a preference for me to excludes any unnecessary conflict. However, conflicts are meant to be solved, just because you can avoid them, doesn’t mean you can run from one. Face it and get it done! 5. Yes everything Consider the 30 mins rule. For every activity you do, it’ll cost you 30 minutes in your life. If you’ve got full schedule, don’t fit one. Ex: “let’s hang out” will probably take at least 1 1/2 hour for you to do. 30 mins travel time to hang out place, 30 mins hanging out, 30 mins going home. And that’s AT LEAST. You got assignments in 1 hour? Take a bath and work on it, now!
@@akazienoel2009 usually people with “too much yeses” actually can consider options, especially when it’s something big. But they struggle most with little offers, like watching movies, hanging out, etc. I’m not saying that you should use the 30 mins rule, but I want people to remember that you only have so much time in your day; and time won’t wait for you. Getting priorities straight might also help, but for me having to remember that 30 mins rule also helped me to be punctual as well as helped me to learn how to prioritize stuff.
One would say “Reach to your goals!” only you don’t feel positive about it (it’s not depression) and some other lines that consider positive except you don’t feel like it (sorry for the repeat) Edit: “Why couldn’t you make like this?” I don’t like how my mother talks to me about this line, as I tried to explain she wouldn’t listen because she believes that it’s considered competition but it’s not (it’s trying to compare others how everyone got this best moment but I don’t because I don’t have good education nor the money enough plus it’s not this college that I want and I already got a job, I’m doing my best to save money enough) What’s sad is that I wanted to explain my parents about this but I can’t because they could either guilt trip me in an emotional manipulating way or they would say that they don’t appreciate my anger attitude
What sucks for me as a custodian is my supervisor is a "Yes" man and gives in to all of the teachers' demands. However he isn't responsible for actually doing what he is agreeing to, that falls on my coworker and I.
Yes. The "yes man" manager makes things hard for so many people. They don't want to say NO but if something goes wrong, THEY can point fingers. How convenient. :(
@@GoddessPallasAthena Shit does roll downhill. Good thing they can regulate how high it is stacked with reckless abandon knowing full well they will not be in the path.
"It's impossibe to get everybody to like you". Yes I believed in that because no matter how many times you did something good, there will always be someone who's going to hate you on the things that you do. So sometimes you just need to be with the people who really cares, love, and genuinely appreciates you, even though they're few but hey atleast they were true to you.
All of the “habits” are presented as virtue in a society where I was grown up, and I’m still working on how to allow myself detaching from these social ideality and expectations of trying to be perfect on everything, admiring overworking, and saying yes to everything and avoiding conflicts to maintain harmony. But it’s hard.
Part of the toxic positivity may be "seeing the best in everyone." Sure, you want to give people a chance, maybe two, and understand that sometimes bad circumstances can cause people to act badly, but also, don't be blinded by this. People out there will take advantage and also, you can overlook some harmful, even dangerous traits in others. If there is a pattern of bad behavior, maybe it's not just special circumstances after all. See who are worth the time, effort and chances you give (especially young people can use this) and who to just not put a lot of effort into.
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Idk if you'll even read it But pls if you do I request you please guide me to tell my parents that I'm literally going through something They don't time fir nor they take me seriously Pls
Wow, this video is really eye opening. I surprisingly have basically all of these traits, thinking I’m doing good, which I am, but not good for me. No wonder I’m always stressed and have constant anxiety, thank you so much.
Yeah, balancing constant schoolwork with doing all these habits trying to make others happy gives me that sensation of when you know you feel like you have a bunch of pressure on your chest, and that pressure I’m realizing isn’t that I’m not taking care of myself enough and because of that I’m realizing these bottles up emotions waiting to lash out at any time, but are manifesting in me as anxiety and stress. It’s way harder on me than I would have ever thought
I actually have outgrown all of these problems though I had them as a kid, learned to reject them out of experience. Always being positive makes you feel fake, being fake isn't fun, just be honest with yourself and others. The trick to prevent working too hard is work smarter not harder. Find solutions that allow you to have more free time to just kick back and relax. Used to be slight OCD perfectionist, but realized to just wing it instead, life's too short to try to be perfect at everything. Avoiding conflict you can do to an extent but too many people will avoid it to the point of hurting their own happiness. If someone is being obnoxious, just be honest with them, you don't have to be mean about it you can tell them to STFU or go away politely. As far as being a "yes-person", you don't have to completely get rid of this but don't let people walk all over you. Demand payment, ask for something in trade. That way you get what you want and they get what they want.
I have all these habits sadly… I haven’t realized I had such until I watched this video, if I haven’t watched this, I might’ve been ruining my mental state. Thank you Pysch2Go😊
Same here this has gotta be the Psyche2go video I relate to the most Thought I had it figured out and it turns out even I was a bit backwards mentally just by trying to have these toxic qualities feels nice to finally know about it though
The main gist I got from this video is just to keep it real with yourself. If you're tired, rest. If you're feeling negative, don't suppress or conceal. Be honest with yourself about how you're feeling and act accordingly 💕
Productivity is good but Perfectionism is bad, since a Perfectionist Attitude will burn you out and the fatigue will end up harming the Productivity in the long run.
I want to say thank you, since i watch your videos now i realize that im a toxic friend, victim minded, mentally weak, wasting my life time, burn out, and more (mostly negative). I learned something new everyday watching your videos, I'm trying to be a better person and make the most in my life enjoy my time and be great full for what I have, I don't know where to start or if I want to. I don't really have an effort and I just surrender with everything I know I will regret this but it's hard to do. I'm writing this because i want to talk with u and I have a little amount confidence after watching some of your videos. I never trust my self for writing this kind of stuff but I'll do it while having a chance, because i don't want to regret more stuff in my life. I'm so sorry if my English was bad or if there's some typos, have a nice days for all of u 🙇🙇
I finally understand why I have such a large fear of failing or looking stupid that I quit what I'm even trying to achieve in school. My parents don't understand what I mean by that and push me into more work. They're nice but they still don't understand how to raise a kid properly even after "raising " two of them. Sorry for the vent, I just thought of sharing emotions on a video that allows it.
I had all of these as a child and teenager, especially with me being a yes woman. When I was a yes girl, I was so desperate to fit in that I developed people-pleasing tendencies and avoided conflict. As a result of those habits, I became resentful for almost two decades. I started developing toxic positivity as a way to cope. I developed perfectionism habits as well. I had no idea that my classmates were taking advantage of my kindness and using my good nature against me.
I was the same way growing up as well, and a lot of it is still hard to shake now. Instead of resentment though I went through, and I guess still going through, a period of feeling lost and not recognizing myself. Like, who am I really underneath all the yesing, and people pleasing, and masks I've made?
1. You don't have to be positive in dire situations, just keep a rational mind and think your way through 2. Don't just work hard work smart. Do the least amount of work necessary to get maximum results. Many people have a tendency to fake being busy to appear successful I know because I have. 3. Always keep perfection in mind but aim for good enough. 4. The right to assert your rights is not given its earned- that about sums it up. 5. You have the right to say NO to things that annoy you or make you uncomfortable. If you fail in this you will end up getting used inevitably so this is by far the most important point.
My teacher once said "being the best at something isn't the only way to happiness" and I felt that and try to remember that cuz I am very competitive :/
#4 (avoiding conflict) one I'm most guilty of. The real fear is conflict = risk of harm to others or isolation cause the "real me" = someone nobody wants to be around. History has shown the accuracy of this for me.
It's taking a while but I'm glad I found this vid when I did I'm really confused as to why I lash out on myself and when uncontrollably angry I hid away to vent so I don't hurt others with my negativity but I'm seeing that 'avoiding conflict' might be my problem rn because I haven't opened up about how I feel to a friend for 6 years. And feel it's too late to do so since they hate when I say anything they don't like now. To those out there going through these habits you matter too! and you deserve to be able to open up and be honest and true to yourself. 💕 Even if the people your with right now don't agree. By being yourself you'll find those that understand you and love you for who you are but they can't find you if you mask up. So don't leave it too late like I did. Also patience and communication is key so hang in there, you have another chance in you so keep going your not alone. ❤️
The way I present and assert myself to the world around me is warped by unnecessary fear and self doubt. And I only realized it this week It's kinda spooky.
Some damaged boost their careers, serve for the common good, while others sit in rooms, spending governmental money on new Iphones EVERY YEAR, and write blogs about their sexuality and destruction of society. Yeah. I would like to see the first ones more often. Sorry if I'm too radical conservative and destroying your well-being. I just need to say few words.
Being always positive sounds and is pretty difficult..and in cases that you actually are always positive and optimistic makes your whole personality a lot more vulnerable to the outside "demons"..(society,life,etc) Because being positive in life can only get you so far.. With this I'm not trying to say that being positive is bad.. But it also isn't the recipe for success..
@@typhoid6836 being too negative is very bad though Also I think being realistic and beng negative are two seperate things, so perhaps realistic is that "positive negativity"
honestly i saw a lot of these in me, from having been overly positive to avoiding conflicts my mind set have always been to try and avoid making messes but over time it just gotten me more down still even before seen this i been working on getting myself out of this mind set. keep up the amazing work with these videos as they have helped me and many more to find out about our self and see about what we can do to help our self
I have had all these. I have progressed at moving beyond each one of them in the last 10 years. The first step is identifying the difference between, for instance, a healthy desire to be respectful toward people, and automatically making their mindsets out to be more respectable than they clearly are. I used to try to make people more pleasing to me; sort of a converse people pleasing habit. It is ok simply to acknowledge that some people aren’t where you think they should be. An important step in progressing has been to take the time for calm reflection about what in me makes me excessively want to see good in everybody, or people please too much.
I try way too hard to avoid conflict. Which is weird because when I was younger I purposely tried to start arguments about stuff that I didn't really care that much about...
While I do notice these are bad habits, I still struggle to get over it :( I keep thinking i have to do so much, and I take validation from people thanking and praising me. Bad habits!
I grew up in a toxic household where expressing myself was seen as disrespect and selfish. This lead to several mental health issues later down the line, I never talked to anyone or spoke out against anything, and I even had a suicide attempt in the 8th grade. I never knew the reason why I was depressed, but I tried my best not to blame my parent because she was a single mom and I always tried to see the best in her, and in everyone. Growing up, I was often severely punished for little things I did. I even went so far as to take the blame for what my siblings would’ve gotten in trouble for to hold onto some kind of normality between everyone. I always avoid conflict and try my best to be positive in every situation I come by because I’ve been pushed into believing my words hold no meaning. But since I realized how much of an issue doing this is, I’m not sure what to do about it exactly … Its so difficult trying to break out of a cycle of habits when I still live in the same place as her. I’m trying so hard to move out, but the yelling is so traumatizing I’ve blocked everything out. I heard trauma can block out certain memories? I have a horrible memory and my childhood is a little faint. I can’t believe id rather avoid the issue altogether than to stand up for myself. It’s so frustrating when nobody can understand me. I wish humans had the ability to feel another person’s pain. I hate being so scared of everything. I can’t stand the pain anymore
I can relate to no. 1 I tried to be positive all the time. It was really frustrating. I felt as if I was lying to myself all the time. Thankfully it was a new habit so I broke out of it as soon as possible. It is much better to accept the negative feelings instead of pretending that I am happy all the time.
I love how you can clearly see that the person who animated this and some other videos is a DSMP fan and, possibly, a dnf shipper (I say that because of some other thumbnails and animations made by this artist). Dream (poster) - 1:05 GeorgeNotFound - 3:55
Can definitely relate to most if not all of these. Not sure about the work workaholic one but I think it can also be really hard growing up when you know all the people around you have that attitude. But all the rest yes I very much relate too.
I'm still going to be positive whenever I can because I love making people happy and I see the good in a bunch of things. I still bitch about annoying things and try to avoid bottling stuff up, but I always choose happiness when it's an option.
I realized the animator is Naphia and I was subscribed to her without knowing she did some of these videos XD just a moment to appreciate the art, it takes time and it's so beautiful🥺💜✨
I can't say that I was surprised by those factors, but I rather say that some of those were the ones I had, personally, and had to learn to manage through experience
I want to do my best but admitting that my positivity is a serious problem... sigh* ok it’s true; I really don’t know how to talk to people in public. The jokes & small talk that come off naturally only last so long. A few conversations even “derail” into “strange” territory. That’s why I’m usually more capable of striking up a full conversation online than anywhere else.
It is of great character to be kind and helpful. But when it feels bad then we must learn to say no. Our bodies and consciousness let’s us know when you are genuinely doing the right thing or are allowing others to take advantage of you.
If someone I get mad at I just give them the silent treatment, I don’t use my emotional anger towards items or stuff. I just sit down and calm down, it helps me out better
"Never give up" No, sometimes you need to stop and give up. You can't do everything: some people are good at this thing and some are not. Yeah you can try, but when you realize that this is not your thing at all don't push yourself to become good at it. Just keep practicing at things that you're already good at.
I avoid conflict if it feels like its not worth fighting for. Like when a random person calls me names I am like "Ok, I dont know you so why should I care what you say?" But conflict as in an disagreement, I fight that, for example if a friend says X color is the best. Often it just leads to that we find a compromise like "for you X color is best, for me Y color is best".
These are very common habits that are destructive for us on the long run. It's crazy that we even do these things. We have to find our purpose and drop these habits. Thanks to psych2go we are more self aware than we would be without them. Keep it up!
I have all of these, I really want to change all of these habits of mine but it's too hard because I want to be one of the best at everything at and be everybody's friend at school. It sounds more easy writing these down but it's really hard for me.
Like a lot of these videos, I wish they existed a decade ago. I hope the next generation works on building themselves more with opportunities like this to understand themselves deeper.
Tbh, I never aim for perfect results like getting the first place or something like that. I literally don't want to be in the first place in any competition like examination. I will always aim for the average.
Being too positive can actually kill your mental well being. I learned that the hard way when all my emotions got so bottled up that I had a bad mental breakdown.
I'm such a yes - person, that I started developing an anxiety disorder and can't stay with a large group of people for too long anymore. I'm working on building up boundaries and take distance from some of my folks, but i still can't say no a lot of the time
I had to say no to someone last night as she wanted to stay over at mine but said "sorry, can't as I got work in to morning". She then felt I was being selfish. So I had to avoid conflict as it wasn't a wise idea in a restaurant and don't want to start up a fight. So just left back home.
@@randomshauna6623 Why is that? Edit: I think I see what you mean. Perhaps we must balance letting things go with being observant. No need to make mountains out of ant hills if something is not *truly* relevant to your life.
I’m the type of person that is always mad but puts a smile or just do the tongue click and allot of grunting when I’m Mad if I’m sad I just burry it with “I’m fine” and number 4 is what I do everyday
Should studying too much be included in the list of habits? :D Take your vote.
Yes 😅
yes.
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yea i think so, and thx for sharing this vid
No. Because ' too much ' isn't a recognised measurement. Everyone's 'too much' varies. My too much can be just the correct amount for someone else.
I have a very good memory so studying was easy for me.
My sister is really bright but can't concentrate like I do. So it takes her a little longer.
We both achieved our educational goals, she just had to work a little harder.
1. Always being positive 0:36
2. Working too hard 1:22
3. Aiming for perfection 2:11
4. Avoiding conflict 2:44
5. Being a “yes-person” 3:30
Thank you so much.
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Solutions:
1. Toxic Positivity
channel your emotions into ways that doesn’t manifest into negative action.
2. Work too hard
Overwork and working hard is different. Know when you want good result, know when not. You can’t have everything. After all your effort reflects your results.
3. Perfectionist
Some psychologists have listed perfectionist as a mental health issue. Work as best as you can, don’t pursue perfection.
4. Avoiding conflict
I myself like to avoid conflict because it’s a preference for me to excludes any unnecessary conflict. However, conflicts are meant to be solved, just because you can avoid them, doesn’t mean you can run from one. Face it and get it done!
5. Yes everything
Consider the 30 mins rule. For every activity you do, it’ll cost you 30 minutes in your life. If you’ve got full schedule, don’t fit one. Ex: “let’s hang out” will probably take at least 1 1/2 hour for you to do. 30 mins travel time to hang out place, 30 mins hanging out, 30 mins going home. And that’s AT LEAST. You got assignments in 1 hour? Take a bath and work on it, now!
Thank you
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I don t really get what you mean by the last note?
@@akazienoel2009 usually people with “too much yeses” actually can consider options, especially when it’s something big. But they struggle most with little offers, like watching movies, hanging out, etc. I’m not saying that you should use the 30 mins rule, but I want people to remember that you only have so much time in your day; and time won’t wait for you. Getting priorities straight might also help, but for me having to remember that 30 mins rule also helped me to be punctual as well as helped me to learn how to prioritize stuff.
Thanksssss
It sucks because these are what most people tell you to do.
"Study hard every day!"
"Be nice to everyone!"
"Don't start arguments!"
And so on.
One would say “Reach to your goals!” only you don’t feel positive about it (it’s not depression) and some other lines that consider positive except you don’t feel like it (sorry for the repeat)
Edit: “Why couldn’t you make like this?” I don’t like how my mother talks to me about this line, as I tried to explain she wouldn’t listen because she believes that it’s considered competition but it’s not (it’s trying to compare others how everyone got this best moment but I don’t because I don’t have good education nor the money enough plus it’s not this college that I want and I already got a job, I’m doing my best to save money enough)
What’s sad is that I wanted to explain my parents about this but I can’t because they could either guilt trip me in an emotional manipulating way or they would say that they don’t appreciate my anger attitude
@@CBMOA I agree. My parents were not bad people, but they could be very toxic. No one teaches how to be a parent so I guess I understand them now.
"The attention you give to your bad habits is the fountain from which they draw their strength." Great content, keep them uploads coming ❤️🙏
I like that
On the other side you have to give them 'attention' to realize and change them.
@@caroraven6609 yep 👌
Thank you for the support and insightful quote!
What sucks for me as a custodian is my supervisor is a "Yes" man and gives in to all of the teachers' demands. However he isn't responsible for actually doing what he is agreeing to, that falls on my coworker and I.
Yes. The "yes man" manager makes things hard for so many people. They don't want to say NO but if something goes wrong, THEY can point fingers. How convenient. :(
@@GoddessPallasAthena Shit does roll downhill. Good thing they can regulate how high it is stacked with reckless abandon knowing full well they will not be in the path.
"It's impossibe to get everybody to like you". Yes I believed in that because no matter how many times you did something good, there will always be someone who's going to hate you on the things that you do.
So sometimes you just need to be with the people who really cares, love, and genuinely appreciates you, even though they're few but hey atleast they were true to you.
You are so true. Well the problem is just the crush you can't talk with because you're too shy xd
"Bad habits are like chains that are too light to feel until they are too heavy to carry" - Spongebob
Really!? Spongebob!?
@@apple5091 uh i think not
Are you sure it's not Sun Tzu
@@apple5091 he spelt sun tzu wrong
@@apple5091 yep
All of the “habits” are presented as virtue in a society where I was grown up, and I’m still working on how to allow myself detaching from these social ideality and expectations of trying to be perfect on everything, admiring overworking, and saying yes to everything and avoiding conflicts to maintain harmony. But it’s hard.
@@lamas.hermosa52 Aww thank you x
What country was it?
You from Japan?
Society does want to maintain harmony, but humans can vary and show their true selves within societies
"Being a perfectionist isnt always a good trait to have." I bet Mari learned that well.
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@@justnatinsky5353 you'll
Part of the toxic positivity may be "seeing the best in everyone." Sure, you want to give people a chance, maybe two, and understand that sometimes bad circumstances can cause people to act badly, but also, don't be blinded by this. People out there will take advantage and also, you can overlook some harmful, even dangerous traits in others. If there is a pattern of bad behavior, maybe it's not just special circumstances after all. See who are worth the time, effort and chances you give (especially young people can use this) and who to just not put a lot of effort into.
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Idk if you'll even read it
But pls if you do
I request you please guide me to tell my parents that I'm literally going through something
They don't time fir nor they take me seriously
Pls
Wow, this video is really eye opening. I surprisingly have basically all of these traits, thinking I’m doing good, which I am, but not good for me. No wonder I’m always stressed and have constant anxiety, thank you so much.
same, having all of these habits and i didn’t realized how it’s actually hurt me so much
Yeah, balancing constant schoolwork with doing all these habits trying to make others happy gives me that sensation of when you know you feel like you have a bunch of pressure on your chest, and that pressure I’m realizing isn’t that I’m not taking care of myself enough and because of that I’m realizing these bottles up emotions waiting to lash out at any time, but are manifesting in me as anxiety and stress. It’s way harder on me than I would have ever thought
I actually have outgrown all of these problems though I had them as a kid, learned to reject them out of experience. Always being positive makes you feel fake, being fake isn't fun, just be honest with yourself and others. The trick to prevent working too hard is work smarter not harder. Find solutions that allow you to have more free time to just kick back and relax. Used to be slight OCD perfectionist, but realized to just wing it instead, life's too short to try to be perfect at everything. Avoiding conflict you can do to an extent but too many people will avoid it to the point of hurting their own happiness. If someone is being obnoxious, just be honest with them, you don't have to be mean about it you can tell them to STFU or go away politely. As far as being a "yes-person", you don't have to completely get rid of this but don't let people walk all over you. Demand payment, ask for something in trade. That way you get what you want and they get what they want.
Me too, i didnt realize it until now
Now that you've realized that, you're on your way to a lessened anxiety and a healthy mindset!
I have all these habits sadly… I haven’t realized I had such until I watched this video, if I haven’t watched this, I might’ve been ruining my mental state. Thank you Pysch2Go😊
Same here
this has gotta be the Psyche2go video I relate to the most
Thought I had it figured out and it turns out even I was a bit backwards mentally just by trying to have these toxic qualities
feels nice to finally know about it though
There's something magnificent about this speaker's voice that brings me to her videos every time.
Her voice makes me so happy, it just makes me feel so calm
The main gist I got from this video is just to keep it real with yourself. If you're tired, rest. If you're feeling negative, don't suppress or conceal. Be honest with yourself about how you're feeling and act accordingly 💕
1. Always being positive (0:36)
2. Working too hard (1:21)
3. Aiming for perfection (2:09)
4. Avoiding conflict (2:43)
5. Being a "Yes-person" (3:26)
Thank you so much
Productivity is good but Perfectionism is bad, since a Perfectionist Attitude will burn you out and the fatigue will end up harming the Productivity in the long run.
I want to say thank you, since i watch your videos now i realize that im a toxic friend, victim minded, mentally weak, wasting my life time, burn out, and more (mostly negative). I learned something new everyday watching your videos, I'm trying to be a better person and make the most in my life enjoy my time and be great full for what I have, I don't know where to start or if I want to. I don't really have an effort and I just surrender with everything I know I will regret this but it's hard to do. I'm writing this because i want to talk with u and I have a little amount confidence after watching some of your videos. I never trust my self for writing this kind of stuff but I'll do it while having a chance, because i don't want to regret more stuff in my life. I'm so sorry if my English was bad or if there's some typos, have a nice days for all of u 🙇🙇
And i hate my self 👍
I finally understand why I have such a large fear of failing or looking stupid that I quit what I'm even trying to achieve in school. My parents don't understand what I mean by that and push me into more work. They're nice but they still don't understand how to raise a kid properly even after "raising " two of them. Sorry for the vent, I just thought of sharing emotions on a video that allows it.
"Avoiding Conflict" is so me lol
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@@Grapethegreat she must be a member 🙂
@@Grapethegreat I think this video was unlisted or private back then?
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@@xyzamae15galaxy88 maybe?
Whoever does the voice over on this is so soothing
I had all of these as a child and teenager, especially with me being a yes woman. When I was a yes girl, I was so desperate to fit in that I developed people-pleasing tendencies and avoided conflict. As a result of those habits, I became resentful for almost two decades. I started developing toxic positivity as a way to cope. I developed perfectionism habits as well. I had no idea that my classmates were taking advantage of my kindness and using my good nature against me.
I was the same way growing up as well, and a lot of it is still hard to shake now. Instead of resentment though I went through, and I guess still going through, a period of feeling lost and not recognizing myself. Like, who am I really underneath all the yesing, and people pleasing, and masks I've made?
1. You don't have to be positive in dire situations, just keep a rational mind and think your way through
2. Don't just work hard work smart. Do the least amount of work necessary to get maximum results. Many people have a tendency to fake being busy to appear successful I know because I have.
3. Always keep perfection in mind but aim for good enough.
4. The right to assert your rights is not given its earned- that about sums it up.
5. You have the right to say NO to things that annoy you or make you uncomfortable.
If you fail in this you will end up getting used inevitably so this is by far the most important point.
Thx
My teacher once said "being the best at something isn't the only way to happiness" and I felt that and try to remember that cuz I am very competitive :/
Amanda's voice is so pristine. Otherworldly.
#4 (avoiding conflict) one I'm most guilty of. The real fear is conflict = risk of harm to others or isolation cause the "real me" = someone nobody wants to be around. History has shown the accuracy of this for me.
It's taking a while but I'm glad I found this vid when I did I'm really confused as to why I lash out on myself and when uncontrollably angry I hid away to vent so I don't hurt others with my negativity but I'm seeing that 'avoiding conflict' might be my problem rn because I haven't opened up about how I feel to a friend for 6 years. And feel it's too late to do so since they hate when I say anything they don't like now.
To those out there going through these habits you matter too! and you deserve to be able to open up and be honest and true to yourself. 💕 Even if the people your with right now don't agree. By being yourself you'll find those that understand you and love you for who you are but they can't find you if you mask up. So don't leave it too late like I did. Also patience and communication is key so hang in there, you have another chance in you so keep going your not alone. ❤️
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The way I present and assert myself to the world around me is warped by unnecessary fear and self doubt.
And I only realized it this week
It's kinda spooky.
Your such an earth angel, Thankyou beautiful Soul. Needed this today. I am a solo artist. I work so much I get anxiety. Time to stop. I love you xxx
oh my god the production value on these are amazing! the sound effects, the background music, just so GOOD!
My body is my journal, and my soul my story.” ..“We're all damaged in our own way.😇😊
Some damaged boost their careers, serve for the common good, while others sit in rooms, spending governmental money on new Iphones EVERY YEAR, and write blogs about their sexuality and destruction of society. Yeah. I would like to see the first ones more often. Sorry if I'm too radical conservative and destroying your well-being. I just need to say few words.
Being always positive sounds and is pretty difficult..and in cases that you actually are always positive and optimistic makes your whole personality a lot more vulnerable to the outside "demons"..(society,life,etc)
Because being positive in life can only get you so far..
With this I'm not trying to say that being positive is bad..
But it also isn't the recipe for success..
Its called toxic positivity
If you look for positive for only success you will fail. Be happy for yourself. Do you what brings joy into your life.
@@typhoid6836 Now I wonder if "non-toxic negativity" exists.
@@greatwavefan397 its called negativity?
@@typhoid6836
being too negative is very bad though
Also I think being realistic and beng negative are two seperate things, so perhaps realistic is that "positive negativity"
THANK YOU FOR ADDING THE LIST TO THE DESCRIPTION ILYSM THIS STUFF IS SO HELPFUL 💜💜💜💜
Happy to help! How many points did you resonate with?
@@Psych2go 3 and 5
I truly love your voice😁! Thanks so much for all the good you put in the world!
U guys are awesome, kind and supportive thanks!! For making for us such videos 💕😘, keep going! 🌻
Why is your voice so soothing😭
honestly i saw a lot of these in me, from having been overly positive to avoiding conflicts
my mind set have always been to try and avoid making messes but over time it just gotten me more down
still even before seen this i been working on getting myself out of this mind set.
keep up the amazing work with these videos as they have helped me and many more to find out about our self
and see about what we can do to help our self
1:23, say that to my school, the principal literally says “Work as hard as you possibly can even if you feel like your going to die.”
r/maliciouscompliance
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and for me they say to work so hard that you forget your family members (like uncle,aunt,cousin) names
You guys should also consider making solutions to these problems, it would help alot!
0:04 New Desktop Wallpaper. Instant classic. 🥰
NGL, that would be an epic desktop wallpaper, especially with dark, translucent command prompts. (I own a Linux desktop.)
I have had all these. I have progressed at moving beyond each one of them in the last 10 years. The first step is identifying the difference between, for instance, a healthy desire to be respectful toward people, and automatically making their mindsets out to be more respectable than they clearly are. I used to try to make people more pleasing to me; sort of a converse people pleasing habit. It is ok simply to acknowledge that some people aren’t where you think they should be.
An important step in progressing has been to take the time for calm reflection about what in me makes me excessively want to see good in everybody, or people please too much.
I'm screaming I have all of these and avoiding conflict is literally what I do best
when you are too kind , people will start to abuse you ......and i really hate that😭
I learned that people respect you way more when you have boundaries, stop saying "yes" to everything and not caring so much about external aproval.
I try way too hard to avoid conflict. Which is weird because when I was younger I purposely tried to start arguments about stuff that I didn't really care that much about...
While I do notice these are bad habits, I still struggle to get over it :( I keep thinking i have to do so much, and I take validation from people thanking and praising me. Bad habits!
I grew up in a toxic household where expressing myself was seen as disrespect and selfish. This lead to several mental health issues later down the line, I never talked to anyone or spoke out against anything, and I even had a suicide attempt in the 8th grade.
I never knew the reason why I was depressed, but I tried my best not to blame my parent because she was a single mom and I always tried to see the best in her, and in everyone. Growing up, I was often severely punished for little things I did. I even went so far as to take the blame for what my siblings would’ve gotten in trouble for to hold onto some kind of normality between everyone.
I always avoid conflict and try my best to be positive in every situation I come by because I’ve been pushed into believing my words hold no meaning. But since I realized how much of an issue doing this is, I’m not sure what to do about it exactly … Its so difficult trying to break out of a cycle of habits when I still live in the same place as her. I’m trying so hard to move out, but the yelling is so traumatizing I’ve blocked everything out. I heard trauma can block out certain memories? I have a horrible memory and my childhood is a little faint. I can’t believe id rather avoid the issue altogether than to stand up for myself. It’s so frustrating when nobody can understand me. I wish humans had the ability to feel another person’s pain. I hate being so scared of everything. I can’t stand the pain anymore
I can relate to no. 1
I tried to be positive all the time. It was really frustrating. I felt as if I was lying to myself all the time. Thankfully it was a new habit so I broke out of it as soon as possible. It is much better to accept the negative feelings instead of pretending that I am happy all the time.
Adding sounds and melodies into the video was a great idea.
Sound of rain while u explainng and your voice only doing so much stuff with my mind ❤️👍
I love how you can clearly see that the person who animated this and some other videos is a DSMP fan and, possibly, a dnf shipper (I say that because of some other thumbnails and animations made by this artist).
Dream (poster) - 1:05
GeorgeNotFound - 3:55
Can definitely relate to most if not all of these. Not sure about the work workaholic one but I think it can also be really hard growing up when you know all the people around you have that attitude. But all the rest yes I very much relate too.
Your voice is really calming
Thank you for your hard work, these videos help me every day!
Thank you for your support!
Thanks for all the effort you always do for us! Love the vids, keep being great!
1. Always being positive
well i'm literally never positive so at least there's something i can avoid here :)
That’s a positive way of looking at it. ;)
@@TravisPluss Good eye for Paradox!👍
I'm still going to be positive whenever I can because I love making people happy and I see the good in a bunch of things. I still bitch about annoying things and try to avoid bottling stuff up, but I always choose happiness when it's an option.
I realized the animator is Naphia and I was subscribed to her without knowing she did some of these videos XD just a moment to appreciate the art, it takes time and it's so beautiful🥺💜✨
Awww thank you so much :)
I can't say that I was surprised by those factors, but I rather say that some of those were the ones I had, personally, and had to learn to manage through experience
Basically trying to make others to like you or accept you is a whole bad habit.(that's what those habits aim for in fact, "acceptance")
This video really hits differently, when you realise some good traits aren’t just what they are up to be.
I want to do my best but admitting that my positivity is a serious problem... sigh* ok it’s true; I really don’t know how to talk to people in public. The jokes & small talk that come off naturally only last so long. A few conversations even “derail” into “strange” territory. That’s why I’m usually more capable of striking up a full conversation online than anywhere else.
It is of great character to be kind and helpful. But when it feels bad then we must learn to say no. Our bodies and consciousness let’s us know when you are genuinely doing the right thing or are allowing others to take advantage of you.
I love this narrator’s voice soooo much. Sooo, sooooo much
Hey, purple cat here, just want to say that if your having a hard time, just don't give up, you're strong and amazing person, you'll get through it! 💜
Prove it, please)
THANK YOU for this!
If someone I get mad at I just give them the silent treatment, I don’t use my emotional anger towards items or stuff. I just sit down and calm down, it helps me out better
i'm equally glad and sad to realize that i did all of them to an excent in my child and teenage years but much less nowadays
Trying to reprogram my mindset to not be a people pleaser (yes man) has been one of my hardest struggles.
"Never give up"
No, sometimes you need to stop and give up. You can't do everything: some people are good at this thing and some are not. Yeah you can try, but when you realize that this is not your thing at all don't push yourself to become good at it. Just keep practicing at things that you're already good at.
I avoid conflict if it feels like its not worth fighting for. Like when a random person calls me names I am like "Ok, I dont know you so why should I care what you say?"
But conflict as in an disagreement, I fight that, for example if a friend says X color is the best. Often it just leads to that we find a compromise like "for you X color is best, for me Y color is best".
I love this art style so much
These are very common habits that are destructive for us on the long run. It's crazy that we even do these things. We have to find our purpose and drop these habits. Thanks to psych2go we are more self aware than we would be without them. Keep it up!
I’m learning I lot more on this channel then in school
Thank you, because I do all these things on a daily basis.
We hope this video helps. What do you plan to do next after this realization?
Keep balance and perspective in life. Be mindful of others and focused on reaching personal goals while taking care of yourself.
I really needed this video now.
I have all of these, I really want to change all of these habits of mine but it's too hard because I want to be one of the best at everything at and be everybody's friend at school. It sounds more easy writing these down but it's really hard for me.
Thank you so much Psych2go..... I have learned so much wisdom from your videos 😭❤️
These are all good examples of adult behaviours manifested from childhood coping mechanisms / patterns
Like a lot of these videos, I wish they existed a decade ago. I hope the next generation works on building themselves more with opportunities like this to understand themselves deeper.
How you doing fellow time travelers
Hope you have a pleasant day
And i have one secret to tell you PSI
One of your characters are my crush ☺️
Hello there!
Ok time traveller 😂😚
@@Psych2go whats your respose to my last and second last line in the comment?
authentic and helpful...
Makes sense
To nr. 5 : It's too hard for me to say no if somebody wants to get some money, but i have not much money left for myself.
Tbh, I never aim for perfect results like getting the first place or something like that.
I literally don't want to be in the first place in any competition like examination. I will always aim for the average.
I love naphia's artstyle!
Me, too! They're like these little lowkey masses of cute.
Being too positive can actually kill your mental well being. I learned that the hard way when all my emotions got so bottled up that I had a bad mental breakdown.
I’ve known that Constantly supressing one’s true emotions as demonstrated on no.1 can actually lead to stroke in later life.
I'm such a yes - person, that I started developing an anxiety disorder and can't stay with a large group of people for too long anymore.
I'm working on building up boundaries and take distance from some of my folks, but i still can't say no a lot of the time
This should be taught at an early age! And it would cut mental illness in young people tremendously! Thanks for the vid! 🤘👍!
Hey, how did you get this emoji??
I did not know that I Needed this, This badly!!!!!!!!
You have a very soothing voice. You should narrate bedtime stories to fall asleep to. Maybe some soothing background music or something. 😜
I had to say no to someone last night as she wanted to stay over at mine but said "sorry, can't as I got work in to morning". She then felt I was being selfish. So I had to avoid conflict as it wasn't a wise idea in a restaurant and don't want to start up a fight. So just left back home.
"Aiming for perfection." Ah frick, I’m being called out
Her voice even sounds like she knew that.
"If it ain't broke, don't fix it."
I fucking hate that quote.
Why?
@@Maya_hee Because you can't always tell when something is broke until it causes a bigger problem than you could've solved.
I love that quote LOL. It’s the best one I’ve heard.
If it ain't broke, don't fix it.
@@randomshauna6623 Why is that?
Edit: I think I see what you mean. Perhaps we must balance letting things go with being observant. No need to make mountains out of ant hills if something is not *truly* relevant to your life.
Even as a student I find these to be relatable
Especially when chatting online; you will meet people who don't like you and plan to stab your back
Yeah. It calms and destroys our ego and pride.
It’s funny, people told me being an unemployed bum would make me depressed. Being one made me *less* depressed.
I loved jetix channel, Tho it merged with Disney XD/ normal channel
Yeah, and now even that is gone (at least in the UK).
@@danko5866 what
so... that's why I can't find it?
But I miss Pucca and Yin-Yang Yo!
Is it realy so good?
@@kasimirderknecht9372 Well, you can go to bed and get up whenever you want, and do whatever you want in the day without having annoying commitments.
I’m the type of person that is always mad but puts a smile or just do the tongue click and allot of grunting when I’m Mad if I’m sad I just burry it with “I’m fine” and number 4 is what I do everyday
Thanks for this, I need to work on 3 out of 5.
Glad it was helpful! :)