Understanding the no contact rule

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  • Understanding the No-Contact rule and no-contact method. How to use the no-contact rule and method. How to deal with players.
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  • @firesign4297
    @firesign4297 6 років тому +86

    And!.... if they NEVER come back....count your SELF.....
    LUCKY!!!.....👏👏👏👏

  • @aqua_finessa6030
    @aqua_finessa6030 6 років тому +69

    This is some real talk here.... I'm guilty of giving in to the no contact method and trust when you go back you will feel worthless and THEY will feel better like they knew u would cave Don't give in y'all!!

  • @fireeye33
    @fireeye33 4 роки тому +13

    no contact in my dictionary is not to get someone back, it's to gain my power back.

  • @sandyvandorpe
    @sandyvandorpe 7 років тому +31

    Sometimes we just have to hear it from someone with good clear analysis and right way of putting it too! Thanks Chazz!

  • @candiesandcream
    @candiesandcream 6 років тому +60

    The ‘No Contact Method’ is when you get to see people’s true colors. First they’re sorry for whatever they’ve done or failed to do. Then they’re saying what they think you want to hear. Then you get the angry texts/calls/messages. I’ve been getting phone calls and texts non stop. Each and every time its “why are YOU this” and “YOU’RE doing that.” Never any accountability on their end smh time to simply block and delete. Over it ✌🏽

  • @caressajohansen3651
    @caressajohansen3651 7 років тому +26

    This was your best No Contact Method explanation.

  • @DopeEating
    @DopeEating 6 років тому +30

    13:00 - 13:50 HOT FIRE!!!! Yasss, the easiet way to walk away from anyone playing games is when u value yourself and your time. If you slip and fall prey to the games, it shouldn't/won't be for long.

  • @nerodiamante9441
    @nerodiamante9441 7 років тому +40

    often times people confuse ghosting (temporary ignoring them) with no contact (absolute, permanent non acknowledgement in any capacity).

    • @ellehub2136
      @ellehub2136 4 роки тому +1

      @Nero Diamante SOOOOOOO HAPPY u made the distinction. No contact is NOT a strategy to TRY to force behavior that wasn't exhibited when u HAD contact. 🙄

    • @n0thanku
      @n0thanku 3 роки тому +1

      absolute, permanent non acknowledgment… I love that wording

  • @DopeEating
    @DopeEating 6 років тому +41

    "No contact, deuces, stiff arm, middle finger, index finger follow, deuces" #LuvIt You give sound advice and make me laugh. Love your channel!!!

  • @luulips
    @luulips 7 років тому +75

    This is absolutely some good information. I've watched them at least 30 times so far. I pick up something I missed almost every time I watch. If I have to use it I wanna have it well engraved lol. Thanks Chazz.

    • @ofwz
      @ofwz 7 років тому +1

      luulips +44 7377 888781

    • @TheAndretta777
      @TheAndretta777 6 років тому

      Man, I'm really back sweeping floors 🤔🙄😂😂😂💯❤

  • @gloriousjohnson9679
    @gloriousjohnson9679 6 років тому +11

    Thank You King! Your advice is so 'common sense'! I'm in the throes of 'no contact' as we speak. This too shall pass!💋

  • @gorgeousmone6151
    @gorgeousmone6151 6 років тому +17

    You said a mouthful when you talked about that wishy washy no contact. The fact that he wants to have someone else/freedom and enjoy me too. Oh no!! I think not!! You gone miss me

  • @naturalcurlyhair8331
    @naturalcurlyhair8331 6 років тому +15

    I don't understand this when a woman gives you a chance why mess that up? Then when she let you go on by your way you want to turn around and come back. NO just keep on going.Time is Very valuable no one have time for the games.

  • @wutabeta1187
    @wutabeta1187 3 роки тому +1

    Hi Chazz! Thanks for saying “give the best love”. I gave the best because she brought the best out of me, it was crazy. She won’t find what I have her. She broke up and tried to keep in contact until I told her to stop. We’ll see what happens

  • @Darkempress45
    @Darkempress45 7 років тому +33

    This video is GOLD!!!!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

  • @databae2428
    @databae2428 6 років тому +56

    2018 I'm staying sucker free

  • @alexzandra-fallonallen317
    @alexzandra-fallonallen317 7 років тому +22

    That's why I have stayed single since my last break up, and am just working on bettering myself. There is plenty of guys in my indox, but I respond light and or not at all because I want the best of the best.

    • @PermanentHigh
      @PermanentHigh 3 роки тому

      Yeah but are you actually celibate? Staying single is one thing, but are you celibate?

  • @brownstoneres9467
    @brownstoneres9467 7 років тому +10

    That was a great explanation! The problem is that sometimes when we cut off people it is hard to go back and take them back into our life. Often they instill scorn or disgust--for having been too stupid to reject us!

  • @ten25.
    @ten25. 7 років тому +61

    lol it's working. Week one he texted and I ignored it, week 2 he sends an angry text. He's in his feelings 😂😭

    • @kimcat9116
      @kimcat9116 6 років тому

      inalovesu 94 did you reply back to him right away or waited another text?

    • @scruz8850
      @scruz8850 6 років тому +1

      Inalove I just started my no contact 2 days ago!

    • @lolagoulartful
      @lolagoulartful 6 років тому +4

      S Cruz me too! It's harder than I thought.

    • @scruz8850
      @scruz8850 6 років тому

      Lola Goulart sighhh apparently, my bf can care less.. I gave him my ultimatum and he still texts me every morning like nothing happened.

    • @lolagoulartful
      @lolagoulartful 6 років тому

      S Cruz Are you replying to his messages??

  • @RockyStreetz
    @RockyStreetz 6 років тому +5

    This video is everything to me, I was about to give up on being a great person. I'll continue to be the best I can be but he will have to do without me. Thank you!

  • @xBloodXGusherx
    @xBloodXGusherx 6 років тому +137

    This is why I don't talk to Humans. Lol.

  • @andrewvlogs4154
    @andrewvlogs4154 5 років тому +3

    Chazz keeps it unbelievably real

  • @naturallydope6971
    @naturallydope6971 7 років тому +72

    for me with the no contact method once I don't want to talk to you no more or simply block your number and never talk to you again you can call all you want but I never answered and I don't respond to any text messages Facebook or none of that I'm done it's a wrap

    • @ofwz
      @ofwz 7 років тому

      T Over +44 7377 888781

    • @valeriew364
      @valeriew364 7 років тому +2

      T Over exactly! I'm in this situation now!

    • @skhumbuzocele1330
      @skhumbuzocele1330 6 років тому +6

      You are like me...I am usually the kind of a person who will take considerable time to get offended by a person....however recently with the increase of scrupulous people I am now attentive and more responsive to people's action.....Once you are cleaned out of my heart and you are locked out, you may 99,9999% of the time CAN NOT be allowed to return....My heart is operated in the heavens......it's operations are FOREVER!!!!

  • @sassitasi
    @sassitasi 7 років тому +13

    BEST ADVICE I HAVE HEARD ALL MY LIFE

  • @bcvc3365
    @bcvc3365 6 років тому +8

    now I understand what the purpose of no contact is...thanks for the explanation... :)

  • @hollyangulo6475
    @hollyangulo6475 6 років тому +3

    I watched your no contact video a month ago and I was going thru something with a guy I've been seeing for a long time. I used this for 3 weeks with him. I think it worked☺ Thank you. You explain this strategy so well.

    • @oswaldofigueroa529
      @oswaldofigueroa529 Рік тому

      This is not for you it’s for the guy because it’s usually women who play the games

  • @tosheacollier2039
    @tosheacollier2039 6 років тому +4

    I like this guy! Why am I just seeing this?​😍🔥💪🏾

  • @lisafransis2482
    @lisafransis2482 7 років тому +11

    Great advice hands down

  • @shorTboo
    @shorTboo 7 років тому +10

    Thank you sooo much for this information. It is very much helpful.

  • @africanviolet158
    @africanviolet158 7 років тому +14

    I needed to hear this! ✌💝

  • @ACole-to3ij
    @ACole-to3ij 7 років тому +28

    Love this video.im 5 days in .. Lordt its a struggle lol

    • @rhulanimoyo7245
      @rhulanimoyo7245 7 років тому +1

      Alisha C it's a nightmare!! 4 days thus far...

    • @firesign4297
      @firesign4297 6 років тому

      Alisha C 🙏🙇‍♀️🙏

    • @bloodmachine5310
      @bloodmachine5310 6 років тому

      Alisha C I need help with my crush we been texting for 3 weeks and she said to me she really likes me she said to ring her but she block my number I don't know why what does this mean does should I give her space and don't text her if so for how long, should I do the no contact thing?

    • @mmccoy5681
      @mmccoy5681 4 роки тому

      Yes it is a struggle. Ten days for me. But know your worth!

    • @lovelock1994
      @lovelock1994 2 роки тому

      @@mmccoy5681 how are you feeling now

  • @atruecancer71
    @atruecancer71 7 років тому +14

    Thank you so much Chazz!!! This helped me more than you'll ever know. I will be hitting you up on your website.

  • @Gigi-td5rm
    @Gigi-td5rm 7 років тому +131

    For God so love the world that he gave his only son that everyone who believe in him shall not perish but have everlasting life

  • @4evalearninangelica
    @4evalearninangelica 6 років тому +13

    If you are not giving me the same energy that I'm giving you, I lose my interest pretty quick. Move on to the next one, it's no problem. 😊😊

    • @PermanentHigh
      @PermanentHigh 3 роки тому

      📠

    • @b.k.r.doggielover5449
      @b.k.r.doggielover5449 3 роки тому

      I did the "No Contact." Because my "friend" was pushing me away. So, I found dating on Facebook and it's fun! I'll never go back to the one who pushed me away! There's so many guys who are giving me compliments! The other "friend" NEVER complimented my pictures. So, I just gave him what he wanted, silence and freedom.

  • @mafi9962
    @mafi9962 6 років тому +4

    You are amazing. This is my life in a nutshell 🤔 thank you for this🤗🙏

  • @Jezzhalo
    @Jezzhalo 6 років тому +21

    why even deal with these lame dudes, why deprive yourself of a man who truly spoils you... don't accept it if it isn't all you want.. single or in a committed relationship... with that method you'll never go wrong.

    • @Jezzhalo
      @Jezzhalo 3 роки тому

      @Jeremy P. yes, that is likely the answer

  • @marlimarlirni
    @marlimarlirni 4 роки тому +1

    I’ve watched a lot of videos on this. You make ALOT of sense. Cause this entire time I thought it’s a sprint trying to speed everything up

  • @thehappyhuman3637
    @thehappyhuman3637 6 років тому +1

    I so needed this. I'm saving this to play it when I'm having weak moments. Thank you x

  • @limae2134
    @limae2134 2 роки тому

    This advice right here, this is a whole book. This is that level up to a whole nother woman. I see u Chazz!

  • @rajshetty8051
    @rajshetty8051 7 років тому +11

    Wow dude ! RESPECT ✊

  • @Mirage238
    @Mirage238 7 років тому +11

    You helped me so much 🦋

  • @mariemarhandropkin594
    @mariemarhandropkin594 6 років тому +9

    I wish I had been clearer with the words I used. I was upset, even though I had practiced.

    • @pistolagunn8444
      @pistolagunn8444 6 років тому +3

      Marie Marhan Dropkin don't feel bad girl I hit my friend in the throat two days ago😘

    • @pistolagunn8444
      @pistolagunn8444 6 років тому

      Marie Marhan Dropkin now I am doing no contact 😁

  • @aviewer390
    @aviewer390 7 років тому +1

    Thank you so much for the pep talk, Chaz. Going to put this video on repeat!

  • @DamnItHeadJedi
    @DamnItHeadJedi 6 років тому +2

    This dude is the homie, Real talk.

  • @dramos151
    @dramos151 6 років тому +3

    Thank god u got straight to the point 👏🏻

  • @vinqunnarobinson
    @vinqunnarobinson 6 років тому +2

    Funny how I was using the no contact method properly without even knowing and when I found out about the no contact rule I tried to do it... incorrectly lmaoooo. This video makes so much sense

  • @Kahmajmom
    @Kahmajmom 6 років тому +1

    I like your perspective on this topic It definitely deepens my understanding

  • @HummingbirdPromotionsLLC
    @HummingbirdPromotionsLLC 6 років тому +2

    U better preach...yes u gonna know u dealing with somebody that's about something, etc. !!! GREAT thank u!!!

  • @brendapadilla9558
    @brendapadilla9558 7 років тому

    Hats off to you Mr.Chazz! Your advise really helped me tonight. I came home feeling sad and torn APART!but your words really in this video uplifted me so much! thank you so much!! I am going to watch all your videos lol

  • @NazFarah89
    @NazFarah89 7 років тому +6

    Lol! "Eating bon bonsss"
    I love ur videos ❤️👑

  • @eddier2k9
    @eddier2k9 7 років тому +3

    the accuracy it works!

  • @rafachrzaszcz6997
    @rafachrzaszcz6997 6 років тому

    Hi Chazz! Your videos are really valuable! My crush still rejects me and try to make a friend. I made a few 'no contact' periods during last months. Each time she returns to contact with me, meeting me, then starts a romance, after which she rejects me and say 'only friends'. On the second hand, I can clearly see she doesn't meet anybody else, and she has kind of obsession about me. My words seem saint to her, she seems to love me over everything, but when it's okay, she keeps f*ng everything up, starts making me annoyed or sad, telling me unkind things and provoking to finish everything. After no contact period, she starts the romance from the beginning... I will try to use your advices and be so passive that she totally breaks herself and give me the payoff. Thank you for this video!

  • @bzebee5979
    @bzebee5979 6 років тому +1

    Thanks Chaz. I really needed to see this.

  • @kitchenerleslie8388
    @kitchenerleslie8388 4 роки тому

    Chazz Ellis is the man, thank you for all your great advice

  • @iam_tam22
    @iam_tam22 6 років тому

    I needed this video so much and will continue to watch it to help me get over him! Thank you Chazz 💕

  • @nichellecook5
    @nichellecook5 7 років тому +14

    so what if they try to make you jealous on social media ?

    • @AnnnnnaQ
      @AnnnnnaQ 6 років тому +1

      stop following them or block them..it's tough but can be done

    • @PermanentHigh
      @PermanentHigh 3 роки тому

      Why are they still on your social media?

  • @rafybj1981
    @rafybj1981 4 роки тому

    Best explanation of No Contact I've heard. God bless you

  • @summerbreeze495
    @summerbreeze495 6 років тому

    Absolutely GREAT advice!! Thanks Chazz!! Love watching your channels.

  • @naturewalkswithbarb3754
    @naturewalkswithbarb3754 6 років тому

    Thank you chaz! This video was very helpful and relevant to current situation. Keep up the good videos and info!!👍

  • @tragicware87
    @tragicware87 7 років тому +5

    Hello: I know this may seem like common sense but can you give advice on how to be nice and patient with a guy that you like. Like, things that most guys would consider characteristics of a nice woman. I've been told often that I'm spoiled and have a bad attitude and I'm used to guys pretty much doing what I want and not giving anything in return. Now I'm trying to learn how to be a better woman to my man. Thanks

  • @bigsexyhair4557
    @bigsexyhair4557 7 років тому +3

    TRUTH, TRUTH, TRUTH!!! great advice😊

  • @Mik_Mik226
    @Mik_Mik226 7 років тому +19

    No contact zone

  • @robinabbatiello8316
    @robinabbatiello8316 6 років тому +5

    What if the other person stops talking to me completely and doesn't say that there is a no contact method/rule enforced?

    • @LoveFirstYou
      @LoveFirstYou 6 років тому +8

      Robin Abbatiello Then stop talking to that person and resolve that the no contact rule is underway on their part. In other words, they're moving on, so you should too.

  • @alexzandra-fallonallen317
    @alexzandra-fallonallen317 7 років тому +7

    Omg i did that I gave the best love and then started giving a lower level love. :)

  • @monicaklass4142
    @monicaklass4142 3 роки тому +1

    Hi Chazz goodnight, I am interested in knowing where I can get your book from.
    great video!

    • @askchazzellis
      @askchazzellis  3 роки тому

      Settling for Success can be purchased in video format at: askchazzellis.sellfy.store/p/gqyp7d/

  • @Bcaramel685
    @Bcaramel685 6 років тому +4

    No contact is no contact unless the person dumped you don’t contact them. But if the person dumped you give you the LETS BE FRIENDS SPEECH. Tell them you don’t wont to be FRIENDS I want to be more make your intentions clear by telling them how you feel them. Tell them if you give me a call if you change your mind and WALK AWAY AND LOOK BACK. When they do reach out to you you have to assume the reason why they contact you reach you is because they want to get back together. If when they do reach out to you then set a date to hangout have fun and hook up. Don’t take them out or spend money on them invite them to you’re apartment for dinner. Tell them a bring a bottle of wine 🍷. Don’t spend waste time talking on the phone for 5 hours get to the point and set a date to see them. But if they tell you I told you won’t to be friends tell them I told you I don’t won’t to be friends I want more I want you romantically give me call when you change your mind cut it short. They either not going to contact you again or they going to contact you and make a date. Don’t be no ones gay male girlfriend or therapist.

  • @beesvalbeesval3826
    @beesvalbeesval3826 7 років тому +23

    YESSSSSSSSS, I'M IN LOVE WITH YOU SIRRRRRRRRRRR!

  • @ladyo7635
    @ladyo7635 3 роки тому

    At 9:22 I'm sold to @askchazzellis advise and channel. Great advise, straight to the point advice! Thank you!!!

  • @yesiamher9034
    @yesiamher9034 7 років тому

    thanks Chazz i see this information is so helpful and it's spot on with what I use to deal with it in my previous relationship and unfortunately I had to learn it the hard way and since we been broken up it took me a while before I just gave up for good but now that I watch your video it confirms what I'm doing now is working

  • @jelizabeth4646
    @jelizabeth4646 5 років тому

    Thanks Chazz!!!!! Great video!! Very helpful ❤

  • @brendaleverick3655
    @brendaleverick3655 3 роки тому

    Excellent advic3! Just what I needed to hear. Thanks!

  • @davidmonk2574
    @davidmonk2574 7 років тому +1

    @5:30 That shit hit home my man. You really set me straight. That's the way it should be

  • @alishak4061
    @alishak4061 6 років тому +7

    I tried it and dude said I'll just delete this number. Waaah waah

  • @mrggszeromoneydownrealesta5788
    @mrggszeromoneydownrealesta5788 6 років тому +3

    He said Always be at your Top Level. Real Talk 💯💯💯

  • @user-ec8js3nc1p
    @user-ec8js3nc1p 7 років тому +2

    You are the best Chazz
    Love u

  • @Telecuhubby
    @Telecuhubby 6 років тому +5

    My strategy is to be the best me. Im doing no contact and the person isnt contacting me. Theres alot of factors but thats the gist of it. I cant give good love because They left the house, the state , the planet almost. Im giving them space to do them while I do me but I have a fear they will not ever see me improving and getting better. what do i do.

    • @LoveFirstYou
      @LoveFirstYou 6 років тому +1

      scrappy doo Do nothing. They've moved on, so you should too. The idea is to know your worth and leave yourself open to someone better. Your improvements should be made for yourself, foremost, and the next person to come who sees them and values them - the person who will know how to treat you.

    • @mrs.camillewarrenempress3115
      @mrs.camillewarrenempress3115 6 років тому

      @@LoveFirstYou you are wrong.. it's good to move on but if the chemistry and history with that person is deep.. they will always love you.... You have to heal from the pain first and make you stronger.

  • @tonyawilson5753
    @tonyawilson5753 7 років тому +18

    I want something real

  • @queenbee3497
    @queenbee3497 6 років тому

    EXCELLENT VIDEO! Thanks, you are awesome!

  • @sandrarichardson761
    @sandrarichardson761 6 років тому

    This is some great advice!! Thank you

  • @laurendelane6361
    @laurendelane6361 4 роки тому +1

    I was in a situation where I wanted a relationship but it was just a friends with Benefits only for one month I had to cut him off because he was triggering all kind of trauma and upset within me no point in doing the no contact method is better if I just completely get rid of that person permanently
    certain people we should not play or with a mess with because they just cause us pain they will come and for for a while then they will revert back to the same old ways
    everything in this video I'm guilty off

  • @evangelistsstone
    @evangelistsstone 6 років тому +3

    Spot on☀️💫👏🙌

  • @MarshallSmith27
    @MarshallSmith27 6 років тому +3

    my ex is ignoring me but liking quote posts on instagram such as im toxic lol im not at all and needing to trim the bushes and let the trimmings decay..... I begged for two weeks and she stopped talking to me completely. I haven't talked to her in a week and im doing no contact. I think she's trying to send me subliminals but im not sure. if she was over me and not thinking about me she wouldn't be looking at those things

  • @loveabundance635
    @loveabundance635 6 років тому

    I needed to hear this today, thank you 🙏🏻 😊

  • @muhammadbadran4531
    @muhammadbadran4531 6 років тому

    Great advice. Thank you!

  • @carolthomas107
    @carolthomas107 7 років тому +7

    "Eating bon bons".... Ha!Ha!

  • @juliethomas1811
    @juliethomas1811 2 роки тому

    Thank you! Thank you! 😊

  • @babyb360
    @babyb360 7 років тому +6

    I love this! This is/was my situation with a professional Athlete. Exhales. 😊

  • @naomisoze2862
    @naomisoze2862 6 років тому

    Exactly. You can't imply it on one side and call it "no contact".. many people are afraid of this. I do this with everyone and apply this to all areas of life.

  • @jerrenew.1557
    @jerrenew.1557 6 років тому

    Very good and important information thank you.

  • @chanelf9509
    @chanelf9509 7 років тому +1

    Great advice!

  • @marthaabas1298
    @marthaabas1298 6 років тому

    Thank you so much!!!! I needed this.

  • @Juju-tx3bb
    @Juju-tx3bb 7 років тому +11

    Yes my ex did do me a favour 😊

  • @deanhunt2491
    @deanhunt2491 6 років тому

    good sense and clear what you say, well done.

  • @karlmenjivar
    @karlmenjivar Рік тому

    You are real man thank you man

  • @hustle_then_muscle7111
    @hustle_then_muscle7111 6 років тому +3

    how can you do the no contact method when u have kids together? I still want her back i think she wants me back she acts like it and told me this was space but idk man. any advice anyone?

    • @LoveFirstYou
      @LoveFirstYou 6 років тому

      HUSTLE MUSCLE You're going to need to draw the line in the sand - create boundaries. Idea: Coparent vs. Intimate Relationship. Both require different actions. Another thought: No Contact is employed best when you don't have feelings and no longer want that person. Check your motive, as he said in beginning of video.

  • @LadyCharity
    @LadyCharity 7 років тому +4

    so TRUE...thanks for putting us on game...wish I knew when I was in a relationship and also the comic relief :)

    • @ofwz
      @ofwz 7 років тому

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  • @shannonclark-rivera6676
    @shannonclark-rivera6676 6 років тому +1

    I am so weak with this. I cannot stick to it. I just call him
    and tell him what a mistake he is making by not wanting to be with me anymore. I really miss him.

  • @qulaartis5228
    @qulaartis5228 7 років тому +4

    Amen well said👌.

  • @dr.l.williams352
    @dr.l.williams352 6 років тому +1

    I didn't know there was a such thing as the "no contact" rule.

  • @isabelaripoll
    @isabelaripoll 7 років тому +11

    this is gold. thank you

    • @ofwz
      @ofwz 7 років тому

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