What's hurting your relationships? | Pastor Steven Furtick
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- Опубліковано 19 лип 2018
- The question isn't, "Are obstacles going to come up in your relationships?” The question is, "What are you going to do with them when they do?”
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I’m a fence contractor so I actually build fences for a living but I need to stop building them when I get home.
noice
Good you recognize that!
Yup....Leave your work at the office!!!
This is response is EVERYTHING!!!
Amen!
“Marriage is not about how quickly you can get offended but about how quickly you can forgive “
That's why its good to understand each other
Karen Burgos I made this 40
Amen
True
That's true
Being in relationship is not about how quickly u can get offended,but how quickly u can get over it (DROP IT)
Yeah i need to learn to Drop it 🙏
A word !!!
Moana Mafi ugh me too! That’s what hinders me the most
But what if it's something that the other won't fix. Like let's say he just stopped showing affection and it bothers me and when I try to express my feelings he blows it off and never addresses it, do I drop it still? I'm so lost right now
@@ashleejenkins7627 Then find someone else. Find someone who would #1. watch this video with you #2. understand why you took offense to some things #3. Apologize for the mistakes #4. Prevent them from happening again. Blame yourself as much as you do to him. By doing so, you'll realize you could've done better at picking a partner
I left my very abusive ( physical, mental, emotional) husband. Together 24yrs and 6 kids. I gave my life to Jesus. Without my husband in my daily life, I've completely surrendered to God and have drawn closer to Him. I attend church, read Bible and pray. I'm in total awe & tears of joy everyday for how God has got me through this. Supernatural peace, strength & provider. God is healing & restoring me to a better version. I keep my husband in my prayers and leave it in God's hand now. GLORY BE TO GOD!🙏🛐🙌❤
I will keep searching for ways to share my testimony. And I pray for those that read it will come to Jesus and you too will find refuge in Him. I ask this in Jesus name, 🙏
Amen🤍
❤
"The more intimate the relationship, the infinite the offence"
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What an awesome message and visual!
“Offense” = “A fence”
I saw this message a while ago and I didn't get the pun😅❤️💯
Deborah Sheridan it was powerful!
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Nice Deborah
really not that awesome....but ok.
My relationship with my now ex girlfriend fell apart for those exact reasons. If its not too much to ask ? Please pray for us and that God will have mercy on our relationship and rebuild us . Except if blessed with another chance God will not be left out again.
Marriage is Work n must be a three chorded rope not two coz it will be stronger
Amen. DITTO. FOR ME AND MY TRUE LOVE.
Same here…. I need your prayers for God to restore us
Same here🙌🏾I’m praying and ask others pray to for one more chance for me to get it right him and Him and that we start our morning off with prayer
Me as well...
Oh my goodness... this hit me extremely hard. Im on the verge tears right now. I've been fighting with my girlfriend so much lately and it feels hopeless. This is such a beautiful message about the power of forgiveness, which I think is something we both have a hard time with when we're hurting. thank you so much for this
Same 😔
I relate to this so much and this message was so helpful! Send this to her
Hie Keven did it work out for you ???
I can relate. I am currently going through that right now with my boyfriend and we just broke up yesterday but I want us to work regardless of our offenses to each other because we've definitely built a wall because of being hurt. I hope he drops it and I drop it too and I hope it works out for us . I want us to work but through God helping us. I pray In Jesus name that it does
@@nataniasarahsisya3484 I'm going through the same thing I will pray for you guys
@lil rican thank you. Nothing has changed yet but maybe soon. I'm practicing Patience
Thank you Jesus
I cried because this message is exactly what I'm going through.
I'm so glad I had to stumble on this.
I'm dropping it now
Philippine movie actresd
Yay!
Prayers sent your way sister! God bless you
God Bless, truly
Me too
"Before marriage opposites attract, after marriage opposites attack"
Marsha Creary I love that! Such a good quote
Lol that's a good one 👌
Well said
V i
True True
My husband worked ovetime on New years eve. He work 12hr shifts for an Oil Refinery. Every year he has to work we text each other a Happy New Year Kiss. I sent mine and when he didn't return his I was hurt. He came home this morning and didn't come upstairs to bed. He stayed downstairs and slept. Instead of getting upset, Im going to ask him why he didn't return my happy new year Kiss. Whatever he tells me im going to drop it and continue my spiritual walk with Christ. "Greater is He that is in me than he that is in the world"🙏📖💗👼
Thanks for the messagen. God Bless you.
What was his response?
@LisaArchie, how's it going there now?
Your faith is inspiring, continue to let god work sister your strength is from god and he has all power.
Girl don't be naive...obviously he was busy and he didn't come upstairs because he had something to hide.
Maybe he didn't receive your new year's text due to cell issues and he was upset with you because he thought YOU ignored him by not texting happy new years kiss; so he decided to sleep on the couch because he thought you forgot? Men go silent for many reasons.
I hope yours was a miscommunication. ❤😓
Who else enjoys getting marital advice while still single ?
me cuz i want my one and only marrige when i do meet my soul mate i dont want it to be in vain so good to watch and take notes so im ready when problems arise
Jolie Holiday Amen
Ha ha ha ha....
Me😊😊
I saw this while bored.. Now I try to watch at least one video per day
I need a man that knows Jesus these conversations will be so much easier
My sister there is Jesus and enemy. My husband is a Christian we pray together every morning but when there is argument he will go buy a wine😮😮and he won't go to church again! I will ask sorry till I gave up I wake up then go to church I continue my journey in christ he will touch his heart
Totally agree
I totally agree with this word relationship is about dropping issues and marriage is not about how quickly you can get offended but how quickly you can drop offense , not necessary about the love but how to quickly forgive each other
Yes
Amen!!
This message really spoke to me and helped me to acknowledge my own faults in dating. Gotta learn how to drop it and let go of the offense once I verbalize it was one
Do you think that the dating is a according to the will of God .God never allow you to date with a girl rather you can ask for God's will.
The enemy is the EGO. “Drop it”
Chelsey Michelle say it louder to the people in the back 🗣🗣🗣‼️
Yes the enemy is the ego
YES
Amen
My ego robs me everytime
I am going thru this exact issue with my wife .. now ... I am praying for changes for both of us 🙏🏽
Always a number one rule in any relationship,you should say your sorry and try your hardest to never do it agian
don't let the sun set on your anger........
Yes Sir you said it
Wow
Amen your right with that 🙏😊
The best sermon I ever heard about relationships, thank you Pastor Steven.
This is one of the best relationship teaching I’ve listen to and it makes so much sense. Thanks Pastor. God bless you.
No matter what how hurt I am... I’ll learn to drop it
Three years later and your messages are still speaking to and helping people!! Thank you!!
Wow I’m single n this spoke to me ♥️ God is preparing me for my future husband ♥️
NayNay or a very very lonely future 🤷🏻♀️
You will be happy with your new partner
If you're a Christian woman, make sure he's a Christian man and devoted to his walk with Christ. That type of man will know how to love and respect you for who you are. Especially if you are a devoted Christian woman. God bless you. 🙏💗👼
@@lisaarchie5810 that's VERY TRUE!!!
Find a good Muslim man. If you wash his feet twice a day. Alah will be good to you and his other wives. ..
I and my husband get upset over small things, this video was in my recommended for a reason. I am reminded to DROP IT!
This message hits me, my ex just broke up with me, we had 5 year relationship. It was full with small offences and getting bigger and bigger until we couldn’t save our relationship anymore. He gave up. Thank you for the message, I can learn a lot for my next relationship.
Did you guys ever get back together 😭
@@michaelvega3669 No, and I won’t because I know that he’s not the right person 🙂
Whew wish I’d heard this in my younger days. Ladies, it’s time to make it work or just stay the way we are.
What do you mean by the way we are????
Can you please pray for me and keep me in your prayers, the devil is coming at me very hard and he's on every corner. With my family, my job, and definitely the man I thought was sent to me by God that is destroying and breaking me down. But I do know he was placed in my path for a reason. Pray my strength in the Lord the bible says when there are two or more gather in my name I shall come
I understand you. I will definitely pray for you. I have been led to pray Psalms 56-60 for when there's a lot of things going on especially negativity at work and home
Araceli A Thank YOU for your prayers. I feel like I've been lead astray from the Lord. When I had the best relationship with the God. I feel lost and not knowing my direction that God has prepared for me
You said some really important things here. First off... Prayers are sent but can we help with anything? I know it's probably a terrible feeling and sometimes we look so far for a fix and it's painful to sit in all that but I also promise you aren't alone. There's a lot of pain and none of it is your fault. Whatever voices are telling you that you are unworthy or can't, replace them with "God is in me, I am enough". I say these things out loud and I also have a poster of what I think i am:) Example: I am... Enough "The lord is my helper, I will not fear,. What can man do to me?" Hebrews 13:6
Strong "For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind." Timothy 1:7
Disciplines: Exercise yourself toward godliness. For bodily exercise profits a little, but godliness is profitable for all things, having promise of the life that now is and of that which is to come."
Open: "Listen to advice and accept instruction for you may gain wisdom in the future."
Love: But above all things put on love, which is the bond of perfection. Colossians 3:14
Healed: Many are the afflictions of the righteous but the Lord delivers out of them all." Psalm 34:19
Michelle Colato-Ochoa I'm going to take heed to the message and the scriptures you have provided. But the thing I need most right now are some prayer warriors that can pray and communicate with on a regular, I'm a child of the most high, I confess to being save and sanctified and filled with the Holy Ghost and I know the Lord is working with me. I do the work of the Lord but at the same time I'm a loner I have learned at a earlier age some people don't want to see me win and it sent me through something unimaginable, but I pulled through it with me and God and I told myself I'll never let people stop me from being GREAT again. But I had to remember this flesh still have feelings.
Praying God’s intervention in your life now. In Jesus name
This is so TOUCHING! LORD HELP ME TO DROP IT! HELP ME TO NOT BUILD A FENCE BUT A STRONG FOUNDATION ON YOU
God bless this man, his family and his team 😢🙏🏼👏🏽❤
My grandparents were married for 50+ years. She told me just say I'm sorry. No matter whose wrong or right. It don't matter. What matters is sharing your life with someone you love. Or it'll never last. God wants us to live and let live.
That really touched my heart ❤
Great advice! God is the one who can give you the strength to do this, only He can do it in us when we humble ourselves and give all these issues over to Him.
"If you are at the altar offering gifts/sacrifices to God, but your primary relationships are dysfunctional and need reconciliation, you can't properly connect with God." 👏👏👏
Karen Reed yeah I'm having a hard time swallowing that pill. There's relationships I'd rather just leave unspoken for as long as I can , but I know Thats not the right thing to do .
What if you already ended that relationship but you still feel hurt, can you still properly connect with the Lord?
@@inspiritmeloverse4478 Maybe what you need to do is solve it out. God gave man second chance why won't we? Although He has greater things ahead, you must try talk the hurt out of you.
@@7.lalchhuanawmi568 thanks!
Karen Reed ““So if you are presenting a sacrifice at the altar in the Temple and you suddenly remember that someone has something against you, leave your sacrifice there at the altar. Go and be reconciled to that person. Then come and offer your sacrifice to God.”
Matthew 5:23-24 NLT
This man of God is so dedicated to spreading the word
Just watched this message for the second time. It’s so profound and impactful. It put specific meaning to Matthew 5:23-24:
23 Therefore if you bring your gift to the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, 24 leave your gift there before the altar, and go your way. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift.
KmKm n. N
God is always on time! I needed to hear this and will share it with the man I love and God brought into my life! No weapon formed against us shall prosper!
Im in tears right now. Praise the lord. Amen in the holy name of Jesus. 💜
mamta mangwani amen.
I’m glad that I listened to God as the Holy Spirit led me to watch this which God has wanted me to watch since last month! I need to drop some things concerning my toxic relatives such as resentment and worry and unforgiveness and stress. Thanks for allowing God to use you to bless people like me.
This was definitely a message God wanted me to hear. I clicked on a another video about God and as soon as that one played this one came on. It really resonated.
Forgivness paves way to a harmonious relationship with God and man, it also releases us from self imprisonment created by our refusal to let go of offence (unforginess) thankful this message hit me up.from Zambia 🇿🇲
This. This. This. God new I needed this
this message is all i need cause i'm really having a hard time to forgive those people who betrayed us, it's difficult for me to forgive those people who cause division in our church. But i do pray to God. I pray harder to create a heart that forgives sincerely just like how he forgave me when he was hanging up on the cross of calvary. There's such time that i've always remember the cruel things that they did without realizing the devil is already playing with my mind. But still im so grateful because God saves me thru His wonderful words and now i believed He was workin' in my heart. Praise Him forever.
I'm so glad I stumbled upon this. This is exactly what I'm going through in my relationship and friendships. This was so helpful
This sermon speaks directly to what has happened in my marriage. I ask if you all can send prayers to my wife Bianca and I that we have the strength to make it through this storm and can drop all these offenses .
This sermon has blessed me today, November 17, 2022. Thank you Lord Jesus for this message, through Pastor Steven.
One of the very best examples I’ve seen on the danger of offences, brilliant Mr Furtick
When he hit em with the “ I’m the only one that takes the trash out around here” 🤣🤣🙏🏼❤️
Drop it!!
For those of you that were sitting there waiting for him to get into the Bible like I was, here is a verse in the bible to tie into his message.
Mark 11:25 NIV
And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.”
Elizabeth Reed
Here is another one.
Good sense makes one slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense. Proverbs 19:11
Ecclesiastes 7:21-22 ESV
Do not take to heart all the things that people say, lest you hear your servant cursing you. Your heart knows that many times you yourself have cursed others.
Proverbs 18:19 ESV
A brother offended is more unyielding than a strong city, and quarreling is like the bars of a castle.
Ephesians 4:2-3 ESV
With all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.
And there were more
After listening to personal feelings on top of personal feelings.
seeing fun props, lots of entertainment, lots of jokes you hear a brief mention of Christ. There was more talk about Satan then God in this clip.
People in the crowd were "amening" things that had nothing to do with God.
Church is the gathering of the called out ones for the glorification and praise of God. In that worship to Him, He transforms our hearts by the reading of His word. The more we learn about God, the more we want to change ourselves. When we see His holiness, it makes us want to destroy our flesh and be holy as He is holy.
i just meant the "dump" analogy bro. I totally understand everything else you are getting at-it's very child like, on the nose type teaching. It's trying to build an "i can do it" attitude that quickly burns out unless it is a "i can't do it, only Christ can" focusing on Him alone. When the heart is transformed, the rest of the body will act accordingly.
@@rage.against.the.regime1913 I really hadn't considered how my way of dealing with offenses literally separates me from my wife until I saw the props. If it draws people back to God what does it matter if it's not eloquent or intellectually sophisticated?
@@rage.against.the.regime1913 you know even if the message is so simple it takes a lot of work to drop offence in people's lives. Being reminded to DROP IT, DROP IT. DROP IT. Is a big help for all who wants to change.
This service is one of my fav sermons from him. "I mean if you want to be in control of the car there is a different seat you can sit it" I love it all! He is funny!
Love this. God brought this to me at a time I am desperately trying to help my wife and save our marriage. Pray that this message sinks in. This brought tears to my eyes.
Praying for your and your marriage. I am at a place where my marriage is on very uncertain ground as well. Hoping my husband and I can strengthen our bond in Christ 🙏
I pray over ur marriage let the Lord work miracles in ur lives
Amen
I pray a year later that your relationship is stronger than ever ❤
I shared this video with someone I was with for ten years who one day just dropped me and our family and our children for someone else, but he came back around we said we’d work on us, and now I’m struggling , but this video has helped me understand I can’t keep letting that offense grow roots within me! To truly move forward I have to drop it!!
I pray that God speaks life into your marriage.
I would share this with a few of my ex friends, but they are no longer my friends because I deleted their numbers from my phone today. Why???? Because the enemy has been attacking me and I got offended today.
I need Jesus....Thank you for sharing this. This was so powerful and spot on for me!!!!🙌🏻Preach!!!
Yes this applies with friendships too // Such a powerful message
Friends won’t help relationships like ah marriage they will destroy your ability to grow with your partner and will always talk you into leaving them because of an offense the sooner you learn that the better I’m sorry if I offend you
Hello Adriana, how are you doing
Amen this is a incredible sermon! I’ve learnt so much about dealing with unhealthy relationship,problems and attitude that becomes struggle . We gotta drop it! 🙌 Thanks Pastor Steven Furtick.
I sent this to my husband, son! Thank you for being the man that God created you to be❤❤
I think I've listened to almost every live stream and each one is better and better
DROP IT !! Awesome sermon thanks
Amen! I can relate to this so much. I used to be a very offended sensitive person. God changed me, and He still does, he thaught me how to love even better.
2:45 unmet expectations. my favorite part.
communication is key
That was beautifully accurate
I clapped with the crowd, the message he's preaching deserves a standing ovation everytime. Im 16 and this really affirmed my belief in Christ. God's real and to love ourselves we must love him FIRST!!!!
5:36 😂
They way he tells a story is hilarious!
I love his sermons and he’s quite funny at times.
10:07 😂😉☺️
One of my all time favorite sermons. Life changing. Thank you!!
This is by far my favorite sermon of Pastor Steven. I can listen to this over and over again.
Just what I needed to hear! Glory to God, Thank you Pastor Steven
This was such inspiring and amazing at the same time. Sometimes, marriages and relationships aren't always all love and smiles, however, with a proper foundation that is built upon our Heavenly Father, then that marriage or relationship has the potential to last. What a great message.
Before watching this I noticed I've built so many walks.
I asked the Holy Spirit to help me out.
I downloaded this earlier on but I've just watched it now.
God bless you.
I'm so dropping it
The first Steven Furtick video I ever watched. Always good to come back to now and then when dealing with relationship troubles.
Best preaching I have watched so far on youtube, thank you
I can relate with the message so much. Thanks Pastor Steve! Glory to God!
I just thought about this sermon as I was starting to think negatively about some of the people that are closest to me. Thank you Steven. This one is an evergreen.
Oh My God
Wow Am in tears right now
This is just what am in
Thank you Lord
I was so confused and I didn't know what to do anymore so I just pray this morning and I ask God to help me and direct me cus my relationship of 8 years is not working anymore
But After listening to this Word it's like God is speaking to me
Thank you Jesus
Oh Lord!
This is great!
May the Lord bless you Pastor Steven Furtick!
You've spoken a message of transformation in relationships.
You've blessed me.
This message came to me at the right time!!! :-) Thank you Pst. Steven
Juliana Hoka Akatsa yes same here
Wow God bless you ...you truly hit the nail on its head!!!
This the best example ever! What a great sermon to help everyone use to explain pebbles become mountains to trip over. Offences become a fence to not be able to work though your difficulties. I have used this example at work to explain how other co-worker have offended each other in written counseling. We love your messages Thank you from Milton, FL.
Love this thank you. Father, please continue to bless Pastor Steven, and his family. Father, please continue to show us all Your love, mercy, and grace, as we know Your return is fast approaching. I love You Father, thank You for loving us,and sending Your Beautiful Son. In Jesus name I pray. Amen
is really doing well jenn
Hi Jamie, how are you
This is such a good illustration, I am going through hard times in my marriage and do feel that my fence is up. Please pray for my marriage, I'm a Christian but have my sins too.
Great! 3 years later this was just the right word for me! Thanks!
Sorry to see more than was there. People who are nice are just nice. Not everyone nice to you isn't there to be in your life. I believe in myself. Unmet expectations.
great word. great teaching. Amen 🙏🏾
Needed this so much. Plenty of dropping to be done.
This was for me! Thank you God and God bless you Steven Furtick!
Steven this is by far my favorite I've watched... I will watch this daily. I'm a new fan. Keep up the God work. Your blessing people here in Texas too... Thank you for being who you are in HIM!!!!
You so good thank you. My mind and heart just fill up when I understand the word from you thank you I thank God giving you the wisdom to teach the word the way you do thank you thank you thank you
That's what happened in a relationship never know what's going on we took energy block each other out
Powerful message! Thanks for sharing.
What an amazing preacher! Thank you God for using Him to bless us with so much deep truth!
Wonderful to see how Steven is able to make Godly thoughts tangible and easy to understand. Thank you, Amen❤🙏🏽
I’ve seen this before but today it really impacted me.... thank u so much for this message 🙏
thank you so much for this teaching it has impacted my life!
I have so many questions about God that’s up stairs!!!! But this perfect! Love how he explains and be detailed by everything such a good man ❤️
God bless you pastor .....this message brought me to tears considering what i go through sometimes.i feel left out and judged but this message changes everything. God bless you
Thank You so much Pastor Steven!!!
is really doing well ,,, sure
Such a blessed message
I literally felt every word of this. God bless you.
Oh God!!! this is so real and deep!!Lord have mercy on us!
You better preach Pastor Steven! Sharing this🙌🏽
I love pastor Steven's approach in every single message. Its real, simple, specific, and it applies to everyday life. I know that a lot of people are upset because he doesn't get into the bible as much as they feel that he should, but it doesn't bother me because the word is not black and white text on the page. If our heavenly Father is alive inside of you and you believe in him and all that he has done then the word is living. Its in your everyday life and through our heavenly Fathers voice you should be able to connect the dots.
Amen. Couldn't believe that a few days ago offence that I didn't remove years ago came back to haunt me. What a wonderful timing to hear this message
Thank you soooooo very much Pastor Steven. I really needed this message. I am grateful to God I listened to this message. Word in season. YOU ARE BLESSED AND ARE A BLESSING
Thank you for this praise to god
Wow this was just something I really found so valuable-not only for my future marriage but also because it’ll affect my other relationships too. Thank you Lord for speaking to me through this message 🙏
Furtick!! You hit it out of the park on this visual and this teaching. Been married 33 years and every day EVERY DAY there is stuff I just gotta drop. Some days I do better than others. The dishes, the cooking, the nail clipping anywhere in the house and the comments that dig deep into old stuff.
Thank you Pastor!