Single & Alone at 66 - Money, Dating & Survival
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- Опубліковано 8 жов 2021
- A frank talk about living single. Money, dating, sex, self-esteem and everything in between. A table for one...how will we survive? I share with you how I did it. I take you through step by step how I handled my lack of money, my fear, dating, and how I came to the conclusion that when I say "Table for One" I have to love the person I am dining with. I talk about falling in love with the camera after watching the beautiful ladies on UA-cam who inspired me to pick myself up and get on with living a life I could be proud of.
I hope this video helps those of you who are going through the same situation I did.
My heart goes out to you and I made this video for every woman who looks in the mirror and insults herself...for every woman who has a weak moment of fear and anxiety...for every woman who fears her best days are behind her....for every woman who sets goals for herself...and although she is scared out of her mind...she is brave..and does it all anyway and succeeds! YOU CAN DO THIS!!!
I love you to the moon and back,
Let us know how you feel about any change you may have had in your living arrangement over the years. Divorce or losing a spouse or partner is a great sorrow...it takes time, but we survive and we can thrive.
Love Always, Susan & Desi
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And I'll be dreaming
when you're leaving
when the morning comes
and I'll be shattered
but so much stronger
when you're gone
and I'll be broken
but so much smarter
when the day is done
and we'll be fine in time
we'll be fine
in time
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We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty. - Maya Angelou
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I LOVE your videos!!! My husband of 44 years passed away 2 years ago and I've been totally lost without him. It's just like you said, since the age of 20, I've poured my entire life and sole into that man. So, when he passed most of who and what I was died with him. I am desperately trying to find away to be single, whole, and happy again. Your video today has been a huge help to me finding my way back. Thank you
I love you Carol! I can relate to every word you said...so much of me was being Bill's wife. And I loved being his wife but I somehow got lost. Looking back to the early years there was so much pain and denial but always hope for a better life. We, women, are so strong...we find a way...come hell or high water, we find a way and we survive and thrive. Happy week to you Carol....you got this. xo Susan
I know your pain! I lost my husband 7 years ago. This is NOT how I planned to spend my Golden Years! Dating has shown me how much excess baggage a man can bring into my life. Also, my narcissist daughter has ruined several relationships. Being single (with my two cats) is good now. We are struggling financially but living within my means suits me. God bless all!
I lost my husband of 35 years a year and a half ago. You all have spoken my feelings. Dating in your 60s isn’t the same. I am so angry at him for leaving me (not really….I just miss him)
💜💜💜💜💞💞💞🌷🌷🌷🌷
You such an inspiration....thank you
Looking back I think I was more lonely in my marriage than I am now as a single woman
I have always felt happier single. I have “old fashioned” values that just aren’t respected in today’s society. Men are lazy, don’t want to put in the effort to court a woman, expects sex before they buy you a cup of coffee, a lot are not financially secure and are hobosexuals looking for shelter and have health issues due to poor lifestyle choices. Good grief! I’m single, in great health, no kids, no stress, enjoy my home, career, hobbies and just celebrated my 46th birthday. If a man can’t elevate what I already have then I have no need or desire for him.
Seeing what’s out there confirms that I have continued to make the right choice by remaining happily single. ☀️💛
Bravo!!!!
'hobosexuals' - haven't heard that one before - but maybe it's because I too am old fashioned!
Hobosexuals is right. At a certain age, some of these guys see it's too late for them to be financially successful & want to hitch their wagon to someone who is. And some are looking for someone to take care of them as they are approaching their "golden years". One lady in her late 60's told me "I don't want to be a nurse or a purse!" Ha.
I completely 👍 agree...
We’re singing the same tune… happily humming, happily single!
Your videos are an inspiration to me. After ending my 24 year relationship and marriage for all the wrong reasons. We had become like friends living in and keeping up a house. We stopped communicating and just worked all the time to keep the roof over our heads, the 3 vehicles in the drive and the camper. We were on different shifts and hardly saw each other. I was longed to connect with someone who had time for me and that led me to a friend from my past. You see I thought my high school sweetheart was my romantic destiny, even to move 1200 miles to be with him. Five years later I realized it was the worst mistake I have ever made in my life. I had given up my best friend and lover, the one person who loved me through all those years for the memories of a teenage romance that was 40 years prior. I packed up everything my little car would hold and moved back to my hometown with my tail between my legs, feeling ashamed and heart broken and financially broken. Found a tiny little apartment and like you I was determined to make a plan to turn those few dollars and cents that I had left as inspiration to not give up on fixing myself and my situation. I took every job no matter the pay, number of hours worked or my satisfaction to keep the lights on. Almost 4 years later I found out I have stage 4 ovarian cancer. I have been through chemo and surgery but am told I will probably be fighting this in some way again within a year. That my chances of living are maybe 30% at best. It forced me to retire on SSI and accept Medicaid to pay the medical bills. I had to come to acknowledge that my life has changed. To see the blessings everyday not just the challenges. I refuse to let these mistakes that I made define me. Your videos are so upbeat and honest, and as a woman hoping to see my 66 th birthday next April, I have no time to waste feeling sorry for my self. Thank you for encouraging us 60 something women to live and love ourselves.
I hope you are winning your fight.
maryrose I am in the same situation...pancreatic cancer....ssi medicaid...alone....I am really struggling to do anything....cry every night.....so lonely....too sick to work....
I ended my marriage after being with him for 24.5 years. That was the best thing I could have done for myself. Being with him was destroying who I was and when I ended the marriage, I was able to regain the me I had been before and things got so much better in my life. Living with an alcoholic is a very destructive position to be in so by divorcing him I was set free to be me again.
Deb Simpson,You are beautiful 🌹🌹🥀,I think you deserve better 🙏🙏🙏
I was married to an alcoholic & it is an impossible situation because you are not the one they are in love with... and you cannot compete with the bottle. Bottle will win every time. So glad you were able to claim your life back. Thanks for sharing.
@@ginniferheard5330
so true. I have the same situation.
It’s so difficult to understand their craving. Alcohol dependency. Living unconscious. No way to live and not a way for a non alcoholic significant other to have to endure. Everyday for the rest of a lifetime. Awful existence.
My alcoholic is fighting for his life in ICU. LUVER KIDNEY SOROSIS SEPSIS DIABETES BLOOD CLOTS HEAD TRAUMA FROM A FALL ETC. ITS A TERRIBLE WAY TO GO BUT BEFORE THIS HE DIDN’T WANT TO LIVE AND SAID IT OVER AND OVER AND OVER. ALCOHOL DOES THAT TO THEM. SUCKS THE LIFE OUT IF THEM. SO SO SAD. HES ONLY
61 y/o. If he makes it out alive he will want to drink for sure
I did the same , divorced & found myself after 25yrs , so l built my life & found happiness that l never had before ,, l prays a lot & do my best to serve my God & am very greatful for his love & mercy on me
You go girl!
I have been known to say,” There may be a lot of fish in the sea but at my age most are floating on top. I love your videos and reading the comments. You are a clever woman and I’m inspired. I was divorced after 19 years and was so broken...and broke. There’s a huge story that I’ll save for another time. Suffice it to say if it hadn’t been for the Lord I wouldn’t have made it. I learned He is real and He is able and will provide.
Amen! Amen! Amen! I had to rebuild after exiting an abusive relationship and left with loads of debt and negative $35 in my bank account. I gave my fears and anxiety to our Heavenly Father. He gave me discernment and guidance and I. know I couldnt do it without Him. I love coming to Susans channel. This message gives me hope and your words as a reminder to put our trust in God is what I need to be grateful for. Thank you for sharing.
🤣 "Most are floating on top" --that is perfect!!
You gave me my laugh of the day! Definitely floating on top.
A good advice for somebody who is alone and do not want feeling lonely
My name is VickiG also and my story is the same as yours LOL :)
I had a difficult time learning to live alone when I was divorced, after being married twice. I did enjoy the freedom for a while but then felt I was too young (60) to not share my life with someone. A lot of women here are just against men, in general, but I did not feel that way, even having lived with an abusive husband and an alcoholic. I was single for 10 years after my second marriage, but never gave up. At age 60, I was very fortunate to have found the love of my life, 16 years ago. We have been married for 11 years and he is the most loving, caring, generous, loyal and funny man I've ever met. He loves me and gives me as much freedom as I want. If I want to sleep all day and do nothing, he would let me! My daughters absolutely love him and consider him the best stepdad and grandpa to their children they could ever have. Bravo to all those women who can accept being single late in life, and enjoy their freedom. But for those who don't want to, put yourself out there and never give up 💕 PS I forgot to mention that he is also 8 years younger than me! 😉
Great! There’s hope if one wants a relationship or not. Blessings
Where did you encounter this man?
I'm not against men and I'm actually envious of a few women at church who appear to have beautiful marriages it's that most of us don't have that kind of marriage. If you found that I'm very happy for you but at 64 if my marriage ends there's no way I'd look for another husband. Don't have the desire.
From married and lonely (60) you're bless to have a man (younger) to love and respect you.
You lucky ducky you!
I'm a single gay guy at 49. My partner was killed in a car accident 28 years ago. I have struggled all these years with addictions...alcohol, shopping, etc. You have touched me in so many ways. Thank you and God Bless!
I am so glad I found you. I am 67 and have lost my joy. I just don't care about taking care of myself like I use to. I have a wonderful collection of purses, jewelry, clothes, shoes, skin machines, teeth whitening. A beautiful house a sweet and loving dog. And, I husband who worships me.
God has truly blessed me.
When I worked I loved getting ready for work; still living in the 80's. I used to love going to the malls and shop, walk and even see a movie.
Seeing you with your gorgeous face, beautiful apartment and sweet doggy. It really hit home.
Thank you for being your authentic self.
Hello Susan how are you doing?
Marriage is not the answer anymore in this society. I've been single for 67 years and have grown to love it. As a retired women on Social Security I am living comfortably and in control of my money
I know a few women that never married and their only regret is not having children. They have no one but themselves because they were the only child. It's not always great for some to be by themselves. Some people want to be connected to others. I respect those that have found a way to feel content with their lives, but there are still many that feel alone, lonely and unloved.
I would love to help them have more kids boys or girls i love kids I have no male heirs to carry on the family name sadly it ends with me as neither of my kids have kids nor want any. I can see why any woman would want a kid without having to adopt its a brutal long process, but God bless those who do adopt their is a huge need for both services
You have learned the secret to life! Smart lady!
Deborah Wolff : Marriage is simply not the ideal answer to all questions in life. If you don`t have the right partner, marriage and love will end in desaster...Since I`m 65yr. and being alone and single for most of my life I do enjoy and adore it more and more evrey day. I have less money but lots of freedom and I`m very content now.
@@fredajordan5704 Me too; I"m the exact same way
Living alone and single after 37 years of marriage has been the hardest thing I’ve ever done.
When I left my long marriage it was because I was weary of being alone in my marriage. Now I am alone, happy, free and with an amazing life filled with positivity and joy. I dated a while (not ruling it out - maybe) but tired of constantly being at the bottom of the totem pole. I made myself my priority and am happier than ever. Cheers!
Cheers! Wish you blessings and happiness! 🎉❤
@@CindyScott-lh4ip thanks!
I was married 27 years and divorced. I was broke and working at kohls part time. Idk how I did it but less than 10 years later I own a small home and enjoy my peaceful life. I am 60. I love your channel. You remind me of me and all I went through and still do. Thank you for sharing your world with us.
My mother-in-law lost her husband in her 60’s. She went through some bad times but she did not want to come and live with either one of her sons. She then had diabetes an lost both her legs below the knees. Then she found a guy that worshiped the ground she walked on even though she was in a wheelchair. She married him when she was 73 and lived happily until their death. There is always hope especially for someone as beautiful and sweet as you. Keep fighting.
What a lovely story. Your mother was a lucky lady to find such a good guy
Wow just beautiful ❤️
Hope for me yet then. How wonderful that they found love again 💕
This is so lovely to here.
Pierette Decinti what a wonderful story. Gives a lot of hope.😃
I was divorced at 59 after 21 years. My world blew into a million pieces and I struggled for 2 years. I wish I had seen a video like yours back then, you are so inspiring. Many dates later I remarried last year at the age of 65, we are both so happy and grateful. If I could say anything it would be to never give up...ever. Know what you want in life, be very clear and never lose hope. You are amazing, bless you.
Hi 😍😍
" Maybe I'll never get there, but I am having a wonderful time... Trying". This is so empowering. Thank you
Absolutely loved this video! Living alone is lonely...but I love my own company. I have goals too that I am working on. I've spent the last 9 years trying to figure out why I stayed in a miserable abusive marriage for 42 years and guess what???? I have no idea but I've forgiven myself and am moving forward...wherever that takes me.
"but I love my own company" is the answer. When we realize we actually are good with being alone with who we are ~ That's Gold.
After reading your description of your marriage ( sounds like my first marriage), I think that was lonely. Now you are alone. Alone does not have to translate to lonely. I have been widowed for 10 yrs. It took about 3 yrs to get over the hump. I took up adult coloring after I discovered how relaxing it can be and doesn’t have a huge outlay. Maybe consider a new hobby. Lots of tutorials on UA-cam. 🙂
@@wanderingstar5673 yes! I color too! I also do crossword puzzles and visit with my neighbors. I'm doing ok...like many of my friends ,some widowed, some divorced, at first i thought i would remarry, but now i have no desire to remarry.
@@lulunana1532 - I’m with you on staying single. I enjoy being totally self absorbed. I do what I want, when I want and how I want. Freedom feels so good!
@@wanderingstar5673 Amen to that!
Susan, I just want to say thank you for this video. I am still adjusting from my very recent divorce. I gave so much to my ex husband of 28 years and let’s just say he did not appreciate it in the least. He was having a midlife crisis of the worst kind and instead of seeking professional help he resorted to drinking and Carousing. He found someone who helped him feel alive and never looked back. It was devastating for me and I have been pulling myself and putting myself back together for two years now. I’m 62 and I’m still very healthy and physically in good shape. Financially I am doing well too. It’s the learning to be single part I have the hardest time with. I am dating and I find a mix bunch of men out there. I’m really not sure exactly what I’m doing out dating or what I want from a man. However, this video has given me some clarification. You are so beautiful and I am really grateful to have watched and listened to you this morning. I now understand my mission thanks to you Susan. I am just starting to learn to love my life being single. My life now is to work on my body, mind and spirit. I have my power, I am Free and I have no body I need to explain anything to anymore. Men can be so critical and I will not put my self esteem in their hands again. There are a bunch of fish out there at this age. And I would also agree many are floating on top. With that said, health and happiness are two of the most important things we have in our 60’s. Susan I will be watching your videos every week. You are very inspiring. Love ya!
You are my new inspiration I’m 66 I understand everything you say I’m know I’m on my way out to take care of me and most importantly follow my dream. I wrote a book my story published and I m going to share it with the world . It’s on abuse & neglect and the world needs to hear it . Sending ❤️
Happend same to me…
I found out after a toxic relationship that my dog "Boogie" was a wonderful replacement....
1) The later I got home the happier he was to see me
2) Always had kisses for me
3) Bonus feature.... He never left the toilet seat up 😂🙂💜
HAppy Sunday the Lord is with you 😗
I too am 66 and I've been single for ages. I believe you don't need a man to complete you. You are your own best friend. I too love the freedom. Having my own home - I can decorate it to my taste. Iuv being single. I am very independent. I think woman that don't have hobbies,interests etc.have a hard time on their own. I love working in my flower beds,decorating,singing and doing art-paintings etc. The key is to find what hobbies you luv and keep busy.Having a pet or pets - adopt them,foster them etc. is great. Loving and caring for a animal with special needs etc. You can volunteer at a animal shelter. Luv your style and outlook on life .
@@poollife777 I re-read the original post 27 times, and I didn't see anywhere she said, "all men are the same" she was speaking of her happiness as a single person.
Wow, wonderful advice. I'm a man,67, and single for the last twenty- seven years. Everything that you have touched on is extremely relevant and necessary for a pleasing and meaningful existence, feeding and nurturing the body, mind and soul. Thanks, all good stuff.
For all you wonderful ladies going through something, I remember someone telling me " one day you will wake up, and it still might hurt, but it just won't matter..." I was 23 at the time, newly divorced, I thought my life was over. Susan brings together so many of our thoughts, experiences and has a gift of being able to self reflect, relating to so many of the feelings we have. I am so glad we all have met here to share our lives as they are, and draw inspiration to make them more if what we want them to be. Thank You Little Poet, for your delightful, classy elegantly fun perspective on living the rest of lives with confidence, style and grace, at our collective Tables for One....😘🐾🥂👏💯
Hello Patricia how are you doing
I am a single man in my 60s. not sure how your channel just showed up for me today, but I am glad it did. You're such a beautiful soul. Sending love ♡♡
I am a divorced lady 16yrs living on my own , l have made it by God's grace , am happy as my 3 adult kids lives nearby
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You are such a beautiful person may the good Lord watch over you,keep smiling and stay bless.
@quiet one...Hi I am a single lady in my 60s too..would love to chat sometime...look me up on fb...
@@bencsikmarian907 from the states Washington God grant u your heart desire
Being single is freedom. I was so lonely after my divorce and I cried all the time. I picked myself up, worked 3 jobs and now I love myself and I love coming home to my dogs. I love coming home to a drama free house. Thank you for sharing your heart. Beautiful story of restoration.
Veronica life goes on you need someone in your love and care for you😍
I love your story and hard work but you still need someone in your life who will put a smile on your face my queen 😍😍who will love you so much care for you 😍😍😍
You are just what I needed today. At sixty three building a new life since the loss of my husband of 40 yrs and my oldest daughter at 40yr, both with in a one year has been a great challenge. You words and ideas are a comfort. 🌹 Thank You
I m single ❤❤
I'm single alone at 54 (divorced, 3 kids) traveling, alone . Brilliant!!
😊❤ Brilliant
My grandmother lost her husband to cancer at 63.She went to driving school and got her lisence. She dud not want to be dependant on her two grown daughters. She did date a man a few years later and he wanted to bring her to Florida and sell her house. He was older than her and she said do I want to spend my last years nursing a man. Even though she liked him the answer was no. She made the right decision she found out that guy would try to get involved with widows who owned their houses and take their money. And she enjoyed her last days driving her little car she had traded in her husbands big one. She enjoyed her daughters, grandchildren and great grandchildren and had Thanksgiving and Christmas party on Dec 19 which was her birthday. So living alone us not so bad the alternative would have been a disastrous mistake to just go with a man because you are alone.
Wow you can’t even trust a little old man, very good to know!
So happy she made the RIGHt choice!!! We have to be very careful!!!
@@shirleywooley2489 your not kidding!
Just turned 65, (Sept 2021) never married and no children. My relationship was with alcohol and other drugs. Then in May of 1994 I stood at the turning point, was granted the gifts of desperation and rigorous honesty, and began living a life of abundance. Redemption, peace, acceptance, and joy are mine today, and all I have to do is want them.
The foundation for my life today is having a spiritual condition, and belief system, that tells me all will be well. If I meet someone, great, I'm ready. If not, I'm ready for that too. Gratitude is everything! I wish you all the best...Mark
I was widowed at 46, disabled at 47, and am now at 52, an empty nester. I try to see the beauty and to keep it positive, but many days my loss overshadows. Redefining ones self is a constant process. Thank you for sharing yours.
Your journey to freedom and self love is such a heartwarming inspiration.
I am now 69 and I got divorced in my 30’s, making me a single mother and a career woman, but never thinking I would remain single. 5 years ago after my last relationship didn’t work out I made the decision to embrace and celebrate being free and fall in love with myself. I launched my new carefree life and spoiled myself with treats, trips, new hobbies and joie de vivre. Like you I have to be responsible with my small pension. My son is very happy for me and encourages me a lot.
Thank you so much for confirming that “Learning to love yourself is truly the greatest love of all”!
God bless you richly for being such a beautiful blessing to others💗
Happy Saturday Night!!!!
Happy Saturday 🍂🍁🎃🍁🍂
Happy Sunday morning from a South Australian ❤
Hello Susan , I just finished watching your UA-cam video .
I became a widow at the age of 51 in 2002 , I am now 70 years old . My greatest fear in life was being alone .
After my husband died of brain cancer , I worked for about 2 years . I had twin girls that were 18 and my son that was 16 at this time . My mental health took a toll and I lived with various family members till about 2013 when I moved out of California to Texas .
I found myself living for the first time in my life , at the ripe age of 62 ,on my own . Something clicked inside me and I felt so free . I had no one to answer to , I could listen to the music I preferred , I only had to cook for myself, clean up only after one person, me ! I had the freedom to finally be me and stop being a people pleaser.
I live in a retirement community but I pretty much stay to myself and not because of covid .
I had moved here with such high hopes of making so many friends ( girlfriends) but to my dismay it was like entering high school again . Yes , we have clicks , gossipers and just plain mean women .
I get along with the men but what I wanted dearly was to have girlfriends. I love living alone and my independence but there are times ( which I assume many of us have experienced) I do feel a tinge of loneliness. When I do experience this , I wish I had a friend , be it a male or female , hug me and say “ you’re going to be alright. This is just but a moment and it will pass “.
I believe because of this pandemic , I’m experiencing more of these moments . I’ve not left my home since March of 2020 . Yes , I’m vaccinated but I’m still fearful of going out .
You Susan , are my friend ….. a friend that arrives each Saturday to uplift me , to let me know I’m not alone . That I still have value even at my age.
Thank you for your weekly uplifting videos . Today video was exceptional.
I live totally off my SS monthly check but I have section 8 assistance which makes my finances easier to live on .
I have a request…. Could you please do a video on self esteem ?
You see I suffer from poor self esteem even at my age .
When I first moved here I was a petite size 8 , I’ve gained a lot of weight because of feeling not good enough, not accepted .
In talking with one of my male friends , he told me the reason the woman disliked me was because they were jealous and felt threatened.
I just don’t understand women’s mentality. We all need to support and uplift one another. Not tear each other down.
I’ve stopped wearing makeup for about 3 years now and have lost the desire to try to look pretty . I wear nothing but caftans .
I’ve become my worst enemy, I think and say such hateful things to myself.
Please help those of us who are stuck in this self hatred cycle.
Sincerely,
Stella
P/S
I have watched your videos for years but rarely comment.
Keep up the good work , my little warrior. Sending love to you and Desi
Juanita You’re going to be okay, I promise. Hugs!!
I would like you to wear lip stick and mascara next week. For fun. Just try it. Go get your hair done if you can. Take a walk every single day starting today. We all gained weight and feel frumpy and gross from the lock downs. I gained more than anyone I know. I’m tired and very blue. But I’m going to do a veggie cleanse and I joined a gym. Buy a couple of new blouses that fit you nicely even if they’re bigger than your usual size. Don’t mind the jealous gals. Find new hobbies. Read a good book. Take up yoga. You’ll meet a new friend becasue you’ll be glowing with new energy 💚
Juanita, I'm a nurse and I'm experiencing some of the same things you are. I really encourage you to go and get a Vaccine booster for the Covid Virus or get a vaccine if you haven't. I find myself staying in too much, not because I'm afraid of getting Covid but because nothing much interests me anymore. Get out into life, get vaccinated and wear a mask if that makes you feel more comfortable. Let's both of us get out there and engage in life, it's the only one we have.
I’m pulling for you Miss Juanita! I agree, take an interest in your health and your appearance! Baby steps, girl! And pets are very helpful, they make us smile, and make us laugh on a daily basis! Their love is unconditional… Best wishes! ❣️
You may like to look into getting a rebounder. Not a cheap one. It's good for all kinds of reasons. Mental and physical. Best wishes.
Juanita, I live in Texas as well. I moved to a bigger city and making friends has not been easy. I’m turning 65 this month. I understand about that hug you would like to have to know everything is going to be all right. It really helps to know I’m not alone and there are others that feel the same way.
Thank you so much. This video helped me a lot and was just what I needed today. I was 31 with a 10 month old baby and my husband was killed instantly in a car accident. One second he was here and the next I was getting a call that changed my life forever. I raised my daughter alone and always told myself that there would be time for me when she was grown and on her own. When that happened, I couldn’t imagine myself starting over with someone else. I’m 66 now, and finally realize it’s just me and I need to get my life together. This helped me a lot. It’s been so tough lately and seeing you I know I need to get my nails done and get some makeup and be happy where I am. Thank you again.
I’m 45 single never married. My Mom just recently passed away a few weeks ago & my so called boyfriend broke up with me. I am so happy you made this video. My Mom stayed married to my Dad who was a narcissist & mentally ill. I wish my Mom had known someone like you as a friend because she stayed married and was afraid of being alone of led he to emotionally overeat & depression & she developed multiple terminal illnesses. I wish my Mom had the courage to get a divorce from my Dad, to see this loving ourselves & romancing ourselves. I feel inspired by you and this deeply resonates your message. You are beautiful inside & out. Thank you 🙏.
Hello 👋 There
How are you doing?
I like u really
I m alone 👧❤😍🌷
Susan - hope you're having a beautiful evening. Remember that last line in "Under the Tuscan Sun," where she says that even late in the game, wonderful things can happen? I met the love of my life at 67 during the pandemic. That was only after I had been engaged to "Baron Von Trapp" and was about to become step mom to an adorable brood. But the captain, while wonderful on paper, was a monster. Afterwards, for some time, I walked the floor at night like a zombie, but somehow still made a living writing and still worked out every single day. And when I finally rejoined the living emotionally, my new man appeared. So, please take care of yourselves. That is key. You will then be ready at any age for the possibility of love. And by care of yourselves, I mean physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and financially. Put yourselves in boot camp so you emerge the highest version of yourselves.
I'm praying for you tonight. God promises to see us through this hardship. Keep faithfull and pray! Seek like minded people for reasurance.
@@lesliesolwayboyd689 , I always appreciate prayers but you may have misread my post. I've very happy and blessed with a wonderful man who came into my life at the start of the pandemic. At that point, I had already spent a couple of years finding my way 'out of the whale' after an engagement to someone who was wonderful on paper but not in real life.
Hello Christaballerina, Thank you for sharing your words of wisdom. I love the movie Under the Tuscan Sun. I need to watch it again since i feel as if I need to escape. You give me hope through your words. Blessings, Tessie
What a wonderful story! Thank you so much for sharing it here! So many people can benefit from your experience!
Thank you! You give me hope. I am 66 and have just about given up finding someone.
I loved this! I am a 35 year old woman with kids, and I desperately want out of my very unhappy, emotionally abusive relationship. I stay because I'm afraid, but conversations like this give me hope.
I will keep you in my prayers 🙏 ❤ 💕. You can do it. My sister suffered for 21 years and finally left. She took a long time to heal but she thriving now. It's the first jump that is so scary.
Take care of yourself and your children,for your children’s sake!
Be brave. ❤️
You're a beautiful angel. Thanks for sharing. I'm 55 and married for 2 years now but spent a long time as a single mom and I relate to your fears, and triumphs. One thing I earned while single parenting, without child support or any support from my ex-husband, is the confidence and peace of mind in knowing experientially that I can take care of myself, I can be happy alone, and if my partner leaves thru choice or death, I will be okay, because I found and have my own source of strength that can't be taken from me.
Shannon Jones,You are absolutely gorgeous 🌹🌹🥀,you only deserve a good man in your life!
Shannon Jones,You deserves better 🙏
I m alone 😍❤🌷
God can fill our hearts to overflow with contentment in spite of circumstances. You're an inspiration
Amen 🙏🤩
Tonight, you forced me to reflect on the past two years. I stopped thrifting and trying to fill the holes in my life with things. I now go grocery shopping just twice a month. No more impulse cookies and sweets. The pandemic forced me to stay home and save. Guess what? I don’t miss buying someone’s else’s (treasures/trash?). My home is uncluttered and comfy. I now have more money in the bank than I ever imagined could be possible. I also lost a few pounds. More gardening, exercising and reading and less shopping. I suppose there is a silver lining (no pun intended) in being forced to stay home and make the best of it. I also learned to enjoy my own company (no more ladies who do lunch dates). It took awhile but I am happier and richer for rediscovering who I AM. I am not what I buy or what I wear or where I go. When Covid disappears, I am sure that others will enjoy my company as much as I do. You are a delightful human being. Power to me is self knowledge. Thank you for your positivity and honesty. I don’t always feel FREE but there are many days that I feel content. And that is enough.
Loved your comment! I too have found I no longer have to buy stuff. It was very freeing and has been replaced by the things that really make me happy. COVID did help us to see what really matters!
Susan you give great advice. "Those who fly solo have the strongest wings.” 🌹💕🇨🇦
That is so beautiful Tara!!!
You are right Tara l am single for 11yrs and l am just 32yrs but it's not easy.
@@LittlePoet I am a 38 year old woman who needed to heal years of emotional trauma and have been single for the past decade in order to heal myself. It has changed my life being alone this many years….in a very GOOD way. When I came upon your video I was curious to hear your story. To absorb some of your life wisdom. Thank you for this ❤️
@@missylee1539 I hope you healed your self, emotional trauma hurts people just as much if not more than physical, and we have to learn to love our self before we can love others usually, and now you know you can make it on your own, you can look for love and not be stuck with a partner because u can't afford to leave, n end up going thru more abuse. best wishes and i hope u have the happiest life ever
@@AmericanPatriot-cw9xe yes and that will be the next part of my journey, finding a partner that I can continue to grow with. But I just really needed these 10 years to learn who I am and how to take care of myself. My mother abandoned me at a very young age, my dad was verbally abusive at times, and I spent most of my twenties addicted to heroin and crack. It took 10 years to really understand myself and rewire my brain to think positively about myself and that it wasn’t my fault that people abandoned me or hurt me.
I loved your video! I am in my 60's & also love the life I have built for myself & my fur baby. I do not consider myself being alone because I am at one with my Lord. I feel His presence in my life. I get my prayers answered more & more quickly as time goes on. My toy poodle gives out unconditional love plus she is constantly introducing me to people everywhere we go as she LOVES people & insist that they pet her. It's so much fun! I just purchased that 2 BR house that was also on my vision board! Life can be exciting being single & sixty something. I am constantly learning & consequently getting smarter. I love being in control of my life. I love being free to do the things I like & buy the things I want without an argument or the dreaded resolve that I'm not allowed. I loved everything you said! Thank you for sharing; you are helping so many people move forward with their lives as a single person & showing them it can actually be a great chapter in their life!
Oh my goodness am I happy I found you on UA-cam!! I am turning 65 and about to retire and going to try to live on a couple of part-time jobs and social security just as you did after your divorce I too am single but I am loving it I love every single minute of it and although I'm not as glamorous as you I sure do take inspiration from you and totally agree with everything you say about caring for yourself.. being kind to others!! Your apartment looks amazing it's just so glamorous I'm more of The rustic cabin ish girl... I love being single I love my life and I am just so happy I found you thank you so much for helping women all over the world I'll watch every week!! And you are beautiful!!!!
Hi ❤😍
Your words so touched and inspired me! I’m 75 and was married all of my adult life until my dear darling difficult divine last mate passed away of cancer in the thick of the pandemic. I live alone, strictly on Social Security, in a 1986 mobile home in a tiny village in California and, finally, have my own life! You have inspired me to count my blessings, celebrate the gifts of this new adventure, and to embrace this stage of my life with enthusiasm and not dread. You are an amazing woman and a precious friend to me through the ether! Blessings Dear Heart!
Yes turning 70 and wonder what do I do now. It’s peaceful, not unhappy, just wonder, is there anything to look forward to?
@@rosemullen1856 good morning, how are you?
Hi 👋 Kaitlin, can I please ask you a question?
After my husband's passing two years ago, I thought I would enjoy years of traveling and fun with my only daughter. Little did I know that she found the love of her life a year after and they decided to get married earlier this year. She then moved overseas to live with her husband. I was really happy for them but was so confused about what to do with my life. I was a mom for more than two decades, and now I only have myself to take care of. There's so much to learn and unlearn, and your channel is a real godsend. Thank you 💖💖💖
As a single parent myself there is one thing I can say is that invest in yourself, you don't want your children to look back at you and feel guilty that they left you, show them that you are truly happy, and love yourself, life will be so much better.
Maria am happy for your daughter .be strong we are on the same position I spent the last five years alone after my wife passed away , I enjoy reading and praying so settled and have peace of mind . Please keep in touch and let's share ideas.
U. Ant live anybody else's life
I have been widowed now two years raising my 4yr old daughter and some people have already started asking me when am dating again! 🙄
@@MsWatchdog Thank you. Yes, lucky I have a job I really love. I'm a teacher. My students are my children now :) I do my best not to complain about my situation to my daughter. I join my church weekly cell group, hang out with my lady friends and exercise more. I still hate being alone, but things are better now.
You have what it takes to be a team of one. Confidence and self love. My wife of 39 years passed away 5 years ago and now I travel in my RV at 70.
I love this video. Many people in this world have a preconceived notion that we are all supposed to be in romantic relationships. A lot of people think something is wrong with people who are single. Even single people think something is wrong with them. The opposite couldn't be more true. Most people who are partnered are codependent, not independent. They no longer are free to do whatever they want. They too often are limited by the person and relationship they're in. It's difficult for me to get in a relationship now, as a mature person, because I love my freedom and happiness as a single person. I am not anti-relationship, but rather very protective of what I have accomplished as a single person and am not about to sacrifice this for something less. That would be insane. Many of my friends are in relationships and in comparison to my life, have lacked the freedom to enjoy the unlimited adventures I've enjoyed. Worse are those in unhappy relationships. I can't imagine staying anywhere I was unhappy, whether it be at a horrible job, or in a horrible relationship. As a single person our life and happiness is up to us and once we realize that and create that happiness, we wake up to a new reality. A reality that isn't easy to give up.
I think you make a lot of good points. I know some couples of my relatives that interact with a lot of different people but I see couples for example on the cruise and they’re just eating with each other at breakfast or other meals and they look so bored. Maybe they’ve talked about all the topics with each other, but they aren’t talking with anybody else.
There’s also many romantic movies that the main characters fall in love, and they live happily ever after. I think that has many people making the generalization that if people are not married, or in a relationship, then they must be strange or not trying hard enough and that couples are the norm. For example, if I go to restaurant by myself, they will say automatically. Are you waiting for someone else?
I loved this . My good friend’s husband left her when they had two little girls under the age of 5. He had been cheating on her and his girlfriend got pregnant. He also somehow wiped out all their savings and she almost lost her home until her father stepped in and helped her out. After she got over the shock and the divorce came through, she told me that it was the happiest day of her life . She no longer had to explain anything and she grew to love being on her own .
Pets are so therapeutic! I’m glad that you were sent that kitten through your daughter. I truly believe that there are no coincidences and God is in the details of our lives 🥰
@@dwlsn93 I agree , I have a dog and she is wonderful company.
Why your husband left you.? Are you a good wife.? There are stores from both sides.
Hi Susan, a year ago my husband of 47yrs decided he wanted a divorce! I won't go into details, but I am rebuilding my life. It's not easy & I have to push myself some days to keep moving forward! Your video today is such an inspiration to me that I am truly grateful for! Thank you for sharing your story with us. It's the hardest thing I've ever had to do. Starting over is scary & lonely! But thanks to you I now feel like I can do this! Thank you again for being so honest & real! 😘🙏❤
Hi Susan...I just had my 70th birthday earlier this month. I'm divorced after a short marriage from a man I thought was my soul mate. The marriage dissolved from his addictions and abuse and I was quickly replaced. In the short time we were together.. in the beginning he was so different my knight in shining armor ..the times were wonderful and also very dark but I came to learn he was acting the whole time. A narcissist..Yes, I lost myself and also many years. Now I'm trying to get back on my feet and I can see parts of the person I loved and s smarter me, a better me is reappearing.. slowly ..
I can identify with you in so many ways and I love and appreciate your messages of hope, happiness, and growth...
But...70 has hit me hard.
Thank you for sharing yourself with us.
Your videos uplift me and give me hope.
Much love...Deborrah
Your enthusiasm and encouragement are terrific! You really took control of your life which is not easy. I'm a 66 year old male, my wife passed 2 years ago after battling cancer. We were married 35 years. The challenge for me was thinking in terms of me, not we. (What will I have for dinner, what shall I do this weekend, what movie would I like to watch). I was lost. I'm very blessed to have 2 wonderful kids and their spouses and I help look after my grandkids. I discovered pickleball last summer, I volunteer for an organization, I'm in good health and I still have a lot of great days ahead. (I'll mention my dog Annie or she'll be upset!) I guess I kinda crashed the party on your channel, not many guys over here! You are truly serving others, keep it up!👍👍
What a wonderful role model you are to all women! When I went through my divorce in 1991, I rediscovered myself. When my kids were at their Dad's house, I found ways to enjoy my time and expand my brain that were cheap or free. I went to the library, took long walks, bought a bicycle, made homemade soup. I forgave myself for bad decisions and then one day in the grocery store, I met my dream man. We dated 4 years, blended our families, and have been together for 25 years.
Jeanette, wondering how different your dream man was from your first husband. What made him your dream?
@@jW-qx4qd good evening how are you doing? I hope you are okay, how is the pandemic situation in your country
@@jW-qx4qdhe was honest, thoughtful, faithful, very handsome and we connected immediately.
I never feel alone because I always feel a spiritual presence around me. It has never been my desire to cater to a man at my own expense. Sometimes we are with someone for a while and then your paths go in different directions. We have to be our own best friend and take control of our life like you have. Love Yourself Ladies! You R Awesome!
this is how it is for most women who divorce,the men come out financilly ok, while the women always get the short end of the stick money wise. You did great just getting the beautiful apartment you have amidst that tight budget. you are awesome!
It looks like a mansion to me.
Not all the time my ex partner has a ended up with everything I was left with nothing after 18years 3 children , no confidence, depression then ended up having a mental breakdown while she has the house my savings new car and good job now and new man so can go either way between men or women
SO happy to have found your channel. I'm not sure every men can understand how huge the freedom aspect is for a single woman...it is just so incredibly liberating. To be under the thumb of someone else, whether that be a father, boyfriend, husband or whoever can be stifling, suffocating, demeaning and morally devastating. Many women stay in such situations because they fear the unknown, but if they knew what we do they'd be gone in a flash. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and beautiful heart with all of us.
Thank you for keeping it real about developing a financial plan when we are single. This is one of the biggest reasons people stay in toxic relationships. I turned 74 this week and have been living alone for six years. My life is beautiful and evolving daily. Thanks for sharing your stories. Continued blessings. 💕
Thank you Ella so much...it truly is a journey and the more I stay positive and incision my financial freedom seems the more I realize my dreams. Staying grateful and hopeful...and having a big life no matter what...:) Happy Tuesday!! xxo Susan
74? Wow! How do you stay healthy? What do you do? I'm intrigued!
@@sl4983 thanks so much. I don’t have a formula, 😂. I am committed to living each day in joy, harmony, and love and let my intuition guide my actions. Blessings.
Loneliness is dangerous. It’s addicting. Once you see how peaceful it is, you don’t wanna deal with people. All of our unhappiness comes from our inability to be alone. You can not be lonely if you like the person you are alone with.I never found the companion that was so companionable as solitude.
Love this!!!!
So true you become too dependent on yourself
You look good and beautiful. Your story is very inspiring.. Stay positive.... Life goes on...
Amen amen
Learning how peaceful aloneness is. Aloneness is different from Lonliness.I was always fearful of being alone, but now am learning to enjoy myself!
I am a single mom, and I’m watching this during a really tough time. You give me hope. Please, please keep doing what you’re doing, bc The Lord is using you to speak to other women ♥️🙏🏼
Try to hang in there. 🤗
God bless you Rhea. I pray the best is right around the corner for you. I watch George Pearsons on UA-cam & find him to be very inspirational. You might want to check him out. He is a very wise pastor who is also very compassionate.
Think it it like this.....treat your self so good that no one else will ever be as good to you as you are to yourself ....
Thank you for being a wonderful Mum.
The lord😂😂😂
My first time here. My husband of 39 yrs died 3 yrs 6 mo ago. Unexpectedly of a possible heart attack a week after our 39th wedding anniversary. A few days later preparing for the funeral service I found out he was cheating, giving our money to another woman who was married and had 3 kids, what was he thinking!! He was 65 the woman was 42, they never even met, only in Facebook but he sent her over $15K dollars! I was devastated. It took me 3 yrs to get rid of all his belongings he was a hoarder. Found out so much more out that I realized I didn't know him at all. I did everything for him I worked while he was on disability for a bad shoulder buy able to do everything on his own. I feel so alone!! I stay home alone a lot, picked up crocheting during the pandemic. I have no friends, family is too busy. I had cancer 3 yrs before he died and that must have been when he drifted away. I'm fatigued all the time so don't feel like doing anything. I enjoyed your video a lot. I'll keep watching. Thank you!!
Susan, thank you for this video! You popped up in my video feed and because I'm 64 and happily single these days, I decided to see what You had to say. Although I am happy being single, I'm not entirely happy with myself and so found your words of wisdom thought provoking...maybe even inspiring! Also, you remind me of my vivacious, departed-too-soon, beautiful sister.
On dating, the last time I struck up a friendship with a slightly older widowed gentleman, he pretty much slid past the friendship/dating part and went directly to hinting about missing "affection" and perhaps coming to spend the night at my place. I was shocked that a guy his age was aiming for a booty call!! I'm not inexperienced or prudish, but I found his approach insulting. A man has to stimulate my mind to win any inclusion in my life and then at some point would have to tweak the ole heart, too, to have any chance at the other bits. Sheesh.
As for Desi, well, I'd share my pillow with that little darling anytime, lol!! What a sweetie!
Amen certainly feel the same. Love or at least like takes a little more effort but many people just jump into the physical before making that effort
Where I live it’s next to impossible to own a home, even for couples. Having said that I own a older two bedroom condo on bottom floor, so I have plant pots out my sliding door. Being older than yourself I have a older car for now ,but when the time comes that I don’t drive anymore there’s a bus stop just outside my door. I put in a new shower with no bathtub. Why? so I’ll be more independent as I age. I miss a tub bath, however getting in my walk in shower is the future for me. Being one of the older condos it has a little laundry room with washer and dryer. I to have favourite pictures etc that I alone enjoy. Nights get lonely 😩 but I try to read a good book, watch a movie, eat healthy, do crosswords to help my aging brain. Of coarse I even have time to enjoy your videos. 🙏 thank you
Maureen, yes sometimes simple things like plants and just a shower can make all the difference. Hang in there.
Maureen, you sound like a charming lady. You are on top of things 👍😍
Maureen Hannivan. Nicely put.x
Please do this:. I do this when I'm depressed, weary....take a shower with all your clothes on. Laugh. You can't help but laugh DO IT WITH THE INTENT TO MAXIMIZE THE HAPPINESS YOU CAN CREATE FOR YOURSELF ON THIS- YOUR JOURNEY, OUR JOURNEY THAT HAS GIANT PUDDLES OF DONKEY POOP EVERYWHERE.
Beautifully said, and I bet your “ older condo” is cozy and beautiful. YOU can do this thing called life and do it well. Keep going! GOD bless.
My situation is different. My husband died at age 52...I was a young widow. I didn't have a happy marriage for years because he was an alcoholic. I chose to be by myself on purpose. Now, after a few decades, I find that I would love someone special in my life, but because of circumstances beyond my control, the man I would give a chance to is insecure and has his own wall up. So I have decided to focus on me, my health, traveling and not try to give my heart away to anyone else that does not deserve it. I devoted myself to family for years but now that my children are grown, I am left with a person I love, appreciate and want to please....ME.
Yes Amelia, focus on yourself, love yourself and be your own best friend as I have learnt to do! Blessings, Chantel
You have to be happy when you are single, married and widow or widower. Your happiness doesn't depend on a person. It comes within yourself.
life goes on you need someone in your love and care for you😍
life goes on you need someone in your love and care for you😍
@@saardfetner8620 happy Sunday the Lord is with you and bless you
Just saw your UA-cam channel and love it!
You are very wise!
Your story reminded me of what I went through after my divorce.
After my divorce, I learned to like & then love myself.
I truly thank God for what I had to go through.
Hello Debbie how are you doing?
I love your video, Susan! Thank you very much! I have been single for six years, I left my husband, and I was married for 21 years. What can I say, it's the best time ever! I just came back from Mexico, where I had a fabulous vacation, and suddenly I felt that I was missing living in the house. I am missing my gardening. I decided it is my top priority dream to live in a comfortable, cozy and beautiful house where I can stay for the rest of my life, make my dream come true and be happily ever after!
Hello 👋 There
How are you doing?
Hello 👋 There
How are you doing?
Вы большая молодец! Good luck!🤗
Susan, I knew by age 15, I was not getting married. I am in my mid 60's ( no dating) and live a quiet and happy life. No regrets at all. I take myself out on dates every day now that I am retired. I go mostly clothes shopping or out to eat. Breakfast then, go out for lunch. I used to cook for myself all the time. However, I prefer going out to eat. Being manless, for me is very natural. In my life, I do everything I would do with a man but by myself. My grandfather died young so I was with my single grandmother who was a hard worker. Her entire routine and lifestyle were working, traveling, going to the beach, going shopping, and out to eat---without a man. She was so much fun and funny. She did not drink alcohol or smoke, nor do I.
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It's great 👌
Hi Susan thank you for your wisdom I'm 69 and I know what you're talking about thank you for the information and I just want to say to you I love your apartment that is a beautiful place not too many places have a backyard in a river like yours enjoy it when I see your videos I enjoy myself wish you well always and I enjoy watching your doggy keep up the good work and God loves you
It’s great, I need this Marriedless ❤❤❤
Sounds alot of fun 😊
Glad to hear you are better about being alone. I love not having someone telling me what to do when to do it or how to do it. I love my life. I love to garden love to be a girly girl with no man telling me what to do. I really enjoy life. I can sleep all day and stay up all night. Cook if i want to or pick something up. Freedom!
Yes!!!! Agree 100%!! You could not pay me enough to re-marry! FREEDOM!!
@@debbiesittard7979 amen. Guys expect a cook, a dish washer, maid and give it up when they want. Hell to the no.
YES! Freedom! I am so happy and peaceful not having to answer to someone all the time. You said just about everything I was thinking.
@@egwthe1 your exactly right!! Life is way to short!
@@creilly3728 oh girl YES!!!
Absolutely loved your video. I hate that I was late to this party! I too was married for 28 years and when it ended I was devastated. However, some how I knew that my divorce was going to be a blessing because I have always lived a life of grace. I am free, also and it has meant all the difference in the world. Thanks for the reminder.
63 & single...i prefer being single over being with a jerk. U just now came up in my feed so new sub here yay 💜
I was married for 53 years when my husband died suddenly of a heart attack two years ago, and I still miss him each day. I have friends, and I go to dinner, movies and plays with them. I am ten years older than you, and I am curious as to learn how you met a man to date. I don’t feel the need to marry again, but I do miss companionship.
I am so sorry for your loss Kathy! I joined eHARMONY and the test they gave me was 20 minutes. It matched me with very nice men...I trust that site.
Susan Girlfriend, You inspire me. I'll be 70 on October 21, and find myself (very recently) alone, but Free! I will also be doing a budget every day until I get on my feet. I'm free of a cheating, lying SOB of 17 years. I just bought myself a cute little condo for me and my doggie, Colt. I have some adjusting to do but I'm happy. Thank you for your inspirational videos. Love to all ❤🌹
You go girl! I plan on getting my own small space. I always dreamed of making my own spot nobody else will mess up. Women like you blaze the traitorous younger people in midlife .
I’m also 70, and been single for 20 years. It’s become easier and more fulfilling. Yes, there are times i wish i had help with things that require two people, and I’ve thrown several giant pity parties-except, no one ever comes to my pity parties!! I’m now finding true contentment with myself, and it’s a blessing.
Happy birthday. Your not older your wiser with lots to do.
Well done. X
That’s my birthday as well. Happy Birthday!!!
Good day to you, I just discovered your channel. I am 52 years old and as of yet, although I've had a number of quasi type of relationships with women, nothing was very prominent. At 47 years old, a seed was planted in my mind where I accepted the fact that I won't meet that "special one": Having said that, this statement helps empower me not to settle with just any woman, even if it means I'm going to live alone. The loneliest feeling is when you are feeling lonely while you have someone in your life than being physically alone. I wish everyone well,
Regards to you and Cooper,
Ravi Peiris M.D.
I really loved this video. My fiance died unexpectedly in May of an aneurysm and I've been adjusting to living alone. I realized I'm 46 and this is the 1st time I've lived alone so I found your video real helpful. I'm glad I found your channel :)
Oh dear, I am so sorry for your loss Elaine....I wish you peace and happiness for your future and a calm time to heal. xxoo Susan
I just spent 3 days in the hospital and was feeling pretty defeated. I turned on your video closed my eyes and just listened. You said all the right things to soothe my soul. Thank you for just being you.
Such a warm and loving account of being a single woman! I relate to everything you said. Your positive approach to solving your own issues is such a light for all those who watch you. I have been single/divorced for 30 years. I have had innumerable losses, setbacks, family of origin rejection and, yet, there is peace in my soul.
As God is my source of strength, I count my blessings. As I rely on Him there is less fear and more hope. None of us are alone because of Him. I truly like myself and am proud of the way I have forgiven others, hoping they, in return, forgive me. Thank you for being such a powerful woman of self-love and sharing yourself with this wider community. You are most admirable!
Your words are so powerful Shirley...I won't soon forget them....you are an angel xo Susan
100% the core of a loving peace. No doubt. ❤
So many Big Sisters in this community, yay!!! I'm afraid I've outgrown my aging mom, who didnt live the No.Am culture. I feel lost sometimes, although I have started to forge my own path--which is surprisingly similar to other women here.
I can relate to you Shirley. The last 9 years of my life have been filled with loss and trauma. Without God I'd never make it.
I just found your channel. I am 60 and my divorce was final last week; so he's not coming back. You are so inspirational. I look forward to watching your videos.
Love ur story ...I'm am indian woman living in SA .....I'm 66 years old ...I lost my husband now its 15 months....u are really awsome...I have 3 children all happily married with their husband and children....it was a tough journey for me...thank God I'm a business woman ..a clothes designer with my own label....it was really lonely after I lost my husband of 47 years of marriage...no words can explain the pining and all that goes with it...ever since I starting eating healthy foods .take walks in the morning ..and of course busy with clients most of the day....I love my garden..I love cooking and my sewing...no time to think I'm lonely..a woman must empower herself with all the tools of life...keep going and never lose focus on yourself...And meditation and my prayer to God almighty and giving gratitude to the Universe...I really enjoyed ur video..keep up the good work dear....
Susan, you learned the hard way but you learned how to be satisfied and at peace. I think we as 66 year old women ought to celebrate! We lived through those hard years. I've always been single. Never married. I struggled with expectations of myself and of others. I wanted a husband and children and stability, especially financial stability. Those days are hard when we have nothing to roll over and nothing to budget. It takes discipline. Although I'm back in my parents house and living the very simple life, I sort of miss my little apartment in Norfolk. I loved my balcony and the trees outside. I went through very hard times there and I didn't complete my race there but I changed paths and am running another race. You have helped me to clarify some things I need to do and some goals I need to have else I will just be treading water. Goals are very good to have and I need to accomplish some things that I have put off a long time since my move. I need to get rid of my parents clothes and make my mama's house my own. She would want that for me and I think she would be really happy that I am happy here in her house on this beautiful mountain.
Good luck to you, Denise!❣️
Denisa! Darn autocorrect!☺️
I know that feeling... when you call someone for help and they don't answer.
This was nice. I’m 72 and single now, after being in a abusive relationship. I’m glad I am, I do feel lonely and it’s new for me.. had some health setbacks.. but I’m trying hard to living ‘single’ right now. I don’t like it. I guess it takes time. It’s been 4 months!! Thank you. You inspired me! 💝
Suzanne Jonah,You are beautiful 🌹🌺🌺,I think you deserve a good man 🙏🙏🙏
life goes on you need someone in your love and care for you😍
It’s an adjustment I am always happiest when I am learning something. Anything you have always wanted to learn or do?
@@rosemullen1856 am from Washington where are you from dear rose?
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Love your candor and think it helpful for those suffering a recent loss or those who have been single for a long time. Divorced when I was early 40s and am now 67. Life has had its up and downs but it has been so much easier to do it alone, rather than with someone you've grown to dislike.
Hi ❤😍
When you are ready love will find you . I just recently lost my husband not too long ago. Even though financially it’s really hard for me but it’s been good for me in a way. I’m enjoying my time by myself. It gives me time to reconnect to me. Maybe one day when my heart and soul are ready . Someone new will come into my life. You’ve got a lot to offer a man. Just don’t settle for anyone. You’ll know when the right one comes along !
Oh my gosh Susan, this video was meant for me..It made me cry, but more importantly it gave me hope. Hope that I really needed. I was 62 years old when I for the first time lived alone. Let's just say it was painful, lonely & so much harder than I would have ever thought. Your video has given me new much needed hope for my coming years living alone. I plan on making the most of whatever time I have left, living on purpose and happy... Love to you & Desi. Love from CA.
Hi Lana!!! You sound like you got this and are doing great! It feels good to know were not alone in their journey of building a life for one...with a little help from above, we will make it guaranteed!!!
I'm a "Lana" too! I miss the days of being single. My boyfriend ( whom I live with) went away for a week and I was at peace. I actually knew that was NOT good. It's very peaceful when you're alone.
I found you on Utube! I have the same challenges you are experiencing. My husband died four years ago, and I am trying to find who I am. Just listening to you has given me hope. Thank you😍
Wow, thank you! My husband of 31 years passed away a year and a half ago so this discussion has been really good for me. I am healing and rebuilding too. I lost him, my home and almost my job. My faith has been most valuable to me, I don't know how people survive with it. I love your attitude and I wish you all the best including a home.
I teared up while watching this. I've been feeling hopeless and worn-out with my own circumstances lately, and this has really helped make me feel more positive and renewed by strength and resolve a bit. It takes a lot of courage and honesty to make a video like that. Thank you.
And your home looks beautiful too.
All the best.
You know, I've never understood why men and women always feel the need to rush into relationships - dating, eventually getting married, having kids; and there's nothing wrong with wanting or having any of those things.
But, I've always felt that being single is a wonderful gift to have. That wonderful sense of freedom, a mighty freedom in fact.
So for those that think that their lives aren't complete unless they have that other head on the pillow, look at their being single as a gift from the universe because it needs you to be single for whatever reason.
I hope that makes sense.
That's what I kept telling my single girlfriends. You want to travel? Grab a friend and go travel! What happens if you marry someone who doesn't like flying/traveling? You like that piece of jewelry? Save up and buy it for yourself!
@@almabahena7210 exactly! And not to throw a lot of my female cousins under the bus, but they get crazy about boys in their teen years like most people do and then the next thing they're pregnant by like 20 and then they have to go to nursing school and then they have a new relationship and then they have another baby and I'm like: "oh my god, can't you get your own self together first and enjoy your life before you jump into that kind of crap? Freedom is such a gift but being with someone is great too I'm sure, no doubt - but go live your life before you get boggled down with the craziness and responsibility of raising another freaking human being or being marrying to one.
@@almabahena7210 you are so right! I knew an older lady whose husband died and he left her just fine financially. She didn’t have to remarry. However, she reconnected with her ‘high school sweetheart’ and got carried away with the romance of that. They got married. She wanted to travel (I don’t think her first husband and her did much traveling). Well guess what? Her new husband had ABSOLUTELY no interest in going anywhere. I’ll never forget the look of resignation on her face. It was truly heartbreaking. She died a few short years later. I’m 60 and happily married. If I outlive my husband I’m pretty sure I’ll stay single. I’ve seen too many women mess up later in life marrying because they were lonely.
Happened upon your channel on one of those 3 o’clock mornings. Your video “show me how” hit home. You’ve given me hope. Granny decorating made me chuckle. I’ve been doing same all my life. Who knew???
I’m 47 . I divorced a couple years ago. I had to learn to do everything all over again. That first year was really difficult. I found a job that I like and I love being “free” . I love your videos. You’re such a beautiful, strong and inspiring woman.
Hi ❤❤
I am 68, alone, and loving it!
I love the freedom that comes with being in charge of your own life. I couldn't go back to another marriage and all the compromise that goes with it. Twice was enough for me. I'm very happy to just date a partner. That's enough for me.
I hear you
So agree!!🌻
Sounds like u did most of the work in the marriage....yes freedom is awesome!! And I admit I do like my own bed space too....
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You popped in and I'm hooked! Thank you for sharing your beautiful thoughts about transforming your pain into a beautiful poetic piece for everyone to be inspired. I had a few breakups earlier on too and I made a promise to get all my broken heart pieces and rebuild my new Queendom. And boy she did! Glad I am free from that chain which made life a lot more prettier because my younger self did her work to get through it all. Bless your beautiful soul.
I'm so glad I found your video. I'm 66 and it took me years to be okay being single and living alone. I learned so much from you today how to make life even better. Thank you.
When I looked back at my life and how I coped with being alone I sometimes think that I learned to embraced being alone at the tender age of 9 years. It was when my mother left this world and left me behind. That was when I quickly came to realized what being alone meant.
It’s 60 years since my mother’s passing and I am still alone, never been married. I have spent my whole life practicing on being alone. I am grateful for the life I now have. I am grateful that my two older sister provided me with food, clothing and shelter until the age of 18.
I have since lost one sister ( rest her soul) and the other is suffering from dementia.
Beautiful video . I am a widow living alone for the last 8 years . He was my life and had to build a life for me . It took awhile but I found out that I am not lonely just alone without my beloved late husband . I started by learning to go out to eat or the movies by myself. I also recommend that if you possibly can go on trips even if is just around your town . Traveling along was for me something I needed to conquer since my husband was always the one who made travel plans. I cried on my first solo trip but I did it .
One of the main thing for me was finding out that I was stronger and I can do things that my husband will be so proud of me . I found new friends since the married friends didn’t invited me after my husband death . I got myself a new tribe of friends and also my faith , my church, and volunteering my time. I kept busy redoing my house , love my garden and I spend lots of hours and hours gardening. My house now is a lady home . The only thing that I have not done it’s looking for a man . I find myself contented in my solitude and I am happy living with my dog and my cat which I got them right after my husband died . They helped me too. Your video it’s very nice and I realize that i am way ahead on my journey of living alone and satisfied with what I have . You’re absolutely correct I have my dates with my friends , family. I recommend to buy yourself flowers , perfume . Keeping active it’s exercising and keeping hydrate it’s a must . I am too having a great time living alone not lonely just being alone with myself . I love my life and I see you’re loving yours too .
First video - the UA-cam algorithm just brought you to me. What a gift!!! Girrrrrrrl! Your light and kindness shows through. I couldn't help but smile back at you! What you are doing here and the community you are cultivating is amazing! SUBSCRIBED!
I’m so happy this video popped up in my feed today! I am very, VERY HAPPILY single! I’ve lived in my mobile home for 10 years, and at 62, I’ve never been happier. I’ve subscribed to your channel and I’m looking forward to watching your videos!
Hey Wendy
How are you doing?
You are such an inspiration for women who are starting their life over no matter what age they are.There are so many people who are hurting and lonely, your advice on how to overcome and thrive and to share with us how you did it is so appreciated.😊
Susan's words are inspiring so many. I needed to hear her message today.
She's STILL having to tell herself all this. I know! We just wonder if God has or has not found someone for us to share our lives with! If you've never lived alone for a while, you just can't give good advice. It's impossible for you to do so. It's nice, but you will have forgotten about us the next day! Just telling ya like it is. thanks! for trying!
@@dannagordon9618 I have lived alone as a single parent after my divorce.I know the struggle and worrying about survival in this world.I was not giving advice, just thanking her for hers.
@@planetissa4899 I wasn't responding to you nor your comment! Didn't even READ ANY COMMENTS!!! I have been in your shoes, too! I am totally WITH YOU, NOT Against you! You are too sweet! Have a great Sunday afternoon. I'm just very, very worried about all that is happening right now. I am scared of what lies ahead.
@@dannagordon9618 It's ok, just a misunderstanding, I'm concerned as well.You have a good day and week ahead also😊
Susan, I listened to you tonight and could not believe that you were talking about those of us who are alone and hurting so much at this particular time. I just lost my husband very suddenly almost 2 weeks ago and I’m completely devastated. I feel like my heart is breaking and your words touched my heart. I thank God for my 5 grown children who have been with me every step of the way since it happened so I have their support for which I am so grateful. My sweet husband was out back, just puttering in the yard and collapsed and died with no chance for me to say goodbye or to tell him how much I loved him. As I listened to you, I felt like you were talking directly to me which gave me comfort. God bless you for all you help with your love and good advice. Please pray for me as it’s going to take all that I have just to go forward without him.
Oh I am so deeply sorry for your loss...I am in tears. I am so honored and grateful you found me and I am saying my best prayers for you and your family. Not even death can ever stop all that love you and your husband had for each other...you are his living legacy and you will go on and you will show others the way...but for now, the tears will flow. Know I love you from one woman to another oh so far away...xxoo Susan
Sending virtual hugs on the loss of your precious husband. A blessing to have wonderful grown children.
Read your post and wanted to send a virtual hug too. I am sorry for your loss and hope that you are comforted by your memories.
@ L. Sending condolences for the loss of your husband.I lost mine in a motorcycle accident 18years ago.
Live forever remembering all the years of love you had together ...you still have that love in your heart.
I found meditation ( just 10 minutes a day)that helped put me back together and it still helps me have peace in my life to this day.
Sending you so much love 💕 peace🕊light🌅 💪strength & a huge loving hug🤗
@@LittlePoet Oh Susan, thank you for caring and I was deeply touched by your words, especially being my sweetheart's living legacy. I must carry on trying to be as patient, loving, and kind as he always was.
This is the most important video I have ever viewed. I have no idea how you popped up in my U-Tube viewing-but I really needed your message. I felt you were talking directly to me and you were telling me exactly what I needed to hear, what I need to do to be at peace with my place in life and myself. I have been making myself terribly sad by dwelling on on the things I could have done and all the things that I did to hurt myself so I could hate myself. I am starting to understand that I my negative mental talking to myself is so self-destructive.
What a wake up call you’re giving me. Please keep helping me, by sharing how you have gotten control of life and falling in love with yourself!
What a beautiful video. It made me remember when I was 29 and just divorced. I had two great pyrenees and was just about to take in a foster dog. The foster dog, Cheyenne, needed a home while her owner was going through a divorce. I hugged that dog as her owner left and thought I am here to take care of you, my other dogs, and me...we are all we have. 23 years later, my life is wonderful...it did not take 23 years to find wonderful.