Not Another Second: LGBT+ seniors share their stories (Official Film)
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- Опубліковано 1 жов 2024
- The Not Another Second film is here. Enjoy this beautiful journey through the stories of 12 LGBT+ seniors and discover the years they were forced to hide their true selves, the struggles they have faced, the rights they have earned and the beautiful moments they have experienced.
For a more in-depth look at their lives, visit notanothersecond.com and book your ticket to view the exhibit, opening January 19, 2021 at The Watermark at Brooklyn Heights.
A project by SAGE USA and Watermark Retirement Communities.
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" I think I lost a lot of years not being myself." NO human being should EVER have to say that.
Cindy, I know exactly how you feel.
I’ve lost a lot of years not being myself...I’m still figuring out who I am, apart from all the conditioning, indoctrination. Even trying to conform to others standards I felt I wasn’t enough.
A long, healing process of connecting to myself. I don’t have a single soul who really knows me.
Cindy, I can't agree with you more.
yet they do
it does not better
it gets worst
U dammmm right
A WONDERFUL Documentary. I came out to myself in 1969 when I was 23. I had a small group of gay friends. I was closeted to everyone else. My parents (old school Italian), my older sister by 2 1/2 years. In 1977, after years of being a gay young man, I met the love of my life. He was 25 and 6 years younger than myself. My parents accepted him although we never spoke of it. Once my sister realized I was in a gay relationship we became estranged. I haven't spoken to her since 1989 after my Dad passed away. In 2013 when it became legal, we were married in California. We were registered as Domestic Partners ever since the 80's. In 2017 he passed away. He was 66. I don't regret one year of my life. My 40 years with the love of my life was my happiest. Now at almost 78, I have friends I've known for decades that know who I am. The early days, were hidden. Entering clubs and bars through the back alley. Going to private parties. Playing the dual role because you needed to have a job. The young generation today is so lucky to be able to express their feelings so openly. I am truly so happy for them.
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Such a beautiful story.❤❤😊😊
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As a BLACK lesbian woman in America growing up in the 60s 70s 80s 90s and even the 2000s you had to keep your sexuality hidden you had to be discreet about your love interest you had to be on the low it just wasn't safe coming out back then when you are living in the toughest areas of the world BLACK parents weren't as eager to hear your coming out stories back then coming out meant you were willing to risk any and everything coming your way. You may have gotten beaten, you may have gotten disowned, you may have gotten thrown out into dangerous streets. When I came out to my mother years and years ago as very young twenty something I was screamed at hated and despised immediately and outcast shunned abandon and thrown out into the dangerous streets 😭🥵🤬😡 I had gone estranged from my beloved mom and immediate family for at least 20- 30- years by the time my beloved mom wanted to reconcile with me it was just a little to late I only had 2 weeks with her and it was only buy telephone ☎️ cause we lived in two different states mom passed away Approx two weeks later it was the saddest day of all my life the worst 😡 thing that could have ever happened to me it brings tears 😭 to my eyes 👁️ cause I was hated and despised for loving somebody who accepted me and was loving me wholeheartedly for everything that I was a gay black lesbian woman who wasn't ashamed to be me in this country that hated and despised me cause love is a blind thing ... it just doesn't see well...and you just never ever know who may interest you in this life I miss my mom immensely SORRY she never truly accepted me or my lifestyle it hurts sometimes reminiscing over my past cause I never really had closure would have been nice had only my mom apologized for hating and disowning me she left this evil world 🌍 without saying those three words" I AM SORRY really loved and adorn my BELOVED ❤️ mom😭😭😭😭 wholeheartedly
We are the same age. I never came out to my parents even though I think mom kind of knew. I have always been somewhat discreet only shareing who I am with some people. A few family members know which means the rest of them know. I appreciated one of my nieces support when I told her and she said she always looked up to me
That made me feel so good. I love her for that. Non judemental. I was happy to see actors in our community comming out recently. Wanda Sykes was one of the first. I am who I am. I appreciate this documentary so much
I love women. I'm not ashamed to admit that. I must be my authentic self.Those who can't accept me for being
me that's ok but I have people in my life who do and more importantly I accept me and love who I am.Love & Light
You should never have to hide who you are😢
It's an important video and even as I'm in it there's much I learned. Working where I did in 1969 I was fortunate to never have to 'COME OUT." My family was scattered and I lived my life the way I wanted never trying to please others. I thank all those who have made life easier for our younger generations. THANK YOU
1969 ?
sure that happen
Thank you for sharing your story!
@@SB-iy9vn she’s literally in the video my guy. She explains her own story.
That's how it should be... Live your life the way you want... What you do in private is no one else's business... Everyone should have the right to privacy... So long all involved are adults and consenting... Why do I have to care... And I'm not gay.
I'm crying right now because I'm 40 abd I've only been out for 5 years. I thought it was too late for me and I've never dated or had sex so I gave up on love but this set a fire in me. I'm going to find love so the next generation won't ever have to feel the way these beautiful souls and I felt growing up thinking love was not possible
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I met the man I've been with for the last 16 years at 40. You're young still.
I hope you find a love as deep as my grandfather found in his true love ❤
You will find the real thing when you least expect it
Never give up❤️❤️❤️ someone is waiting for you around the corner 😊😊😊😊
seeing the elder lgbtq couples was so touching for me.
Jesus is The Way, He loves you,
@@marya3823I am a 53 year old lifelong Atheist.
There’s nothing touching about this mess……. You need to be praying for there soul🤦🏽♀️
@@tamikalee4441 There's no credible evidence to show or support a God in existence anywhere in reality.
@@tamikalee4441 To each his own maam. Oh and I'm agnostic so keep your religion to yourself because that bs means nothing to me.
This is beautiful. THANK YOU to all our elders who have lived and thrived showing us that living authentically is the only good way to live. THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU!
Amen
What a beautiful film. After being out 40+ years myself, one thing I've discovered is that we each have our own stories, challenges, and life. No one is responsible for our future other than each of us. People do what they can, when they can, and with whatever energy have.
Ic that bold
OMG! It's Richard, one of my favorite Old Gay Guys!! ❤❤❤ Y'all need to check them out because those four gay guys are our people who came before us and blazed a trail for us! Thank you to all these lovely people and others whose stories didn't get told who were first and made it easier for us younger ones! ❤❤❤❤🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈😊😊❤❤❤❤
Ok devil
Okay Troll
@@truth2232 Eat 💩🥣🥄
Dearest everyone for you contributions. This has been emotional wake up call! I appreciate all that our family have contributed to the lost history of what has become the norm!
Many blessings to the elders of the LGBTQ+ community. And thank you for sharing your stories, I totally lost it at the end… 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
You guys have paved the way… We love you ❤
This brought tears to my eyes listening to their stories and feeling the overwhelming love for everyone who shared, whom I will probably never meet. I'm immensely grateful for their stories and saddened by the pain they endured, but I love that some of them have their happy ending, not just because they're with a partner, but because they ARE finally free to be their true selves to the world. Also, they are the history lesson we must never forget: we cannot legalise someone's love.
Beautiful, brave, ballsy!
Vulnerable and heartbreaking - navy job and the Rev being married at 14, never had a partner or lover but came out publicly .. Pearl coming out twice.. Years "lost"
ThankYOU you marvelous magnificent warriors!! I'm 58 so a little behind you but still a beneficiary of your courage and fire.
I THINK YOU MIGHT WANT TO CONSIDER HOW MERCIFUL THE LORD OUR GOD HAS BEEN TO YOU ALL, GOD DID NOT MAKE A MISTAKE MAKING EITHER OF YOU WHAT HE MADE YOU. IF YOU DON’T REPENT FROM THIS BEHAVIOR YOU WILL BE JUDGED, YOUR CASE IS A DIRECT RESULT OF A SPIRITUAL ATTACK, HOMOSEXUALITY IS A SPIRIT, SATAN HAS DECEIVED YOU FOR YEARS, I PRAY FOR YOUR DELIVERANCE AND HEALING BEFORE YOU TAKE YOUR LAST BREATH, BECAUSE EVERY TIME YOU PROFESS THIS IS WHAT YOU WERE MADE TO BE, YOU’RE LITERALLY CALLING THE LORD OUR GOD A LIAR! GOD WOULD NEVER TEMPT YOU WITH ANYTHING THAT HE CALLS AN ABOMINATION. DON’T BE DECEIVED GOD IS NOT MOCKED🙏🏾
AMEN 🙌🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 THIS IS ABSOLUTELY 💯 TRUE! Glory to the living God!!
God, I pray you heal this woman's heart. Give her a peace of mind to know she isn't you. We are so grateful most high you are the only one who will judge us. For humans, condemn anyone to hell. May this woman mind the business that belongs to her. Amen!
@ladiikay819 The Lord has healed my heart, and He has opened my understanding and He has revealed His Truth. The Lord Jesus is the One who said, "homosexuality is an abomination," not me. This community loves to water down the truth of God. Yes, the Most High is going to judge ALL who commit sexual immorality, and this isn't limited to homosexuals. As for me minding the business that belongs to me, you put your business on display for the world to mind, and this is that. May The Lord heal you everywhere you hurt.
They deserve their FLOWERS...💐💐💐
They sure do ❤❤❤❤💐
Yes they do
When I was in the Army in 86 it was illegal to be gay but there was so many of us. Investigators, cid as they were called would go to the gay bars to try to gather evidence to prosecute us.
I can't thank you enough for fighting for our rights. I've only lost 2 years of not being able to be myself, and it's thanks to the progress you helped make. Every member of the lgbtq+ community, from every country, culture, language, and time period is family. Thank you for all that you've done
Mmmmm good but better donot give up .Live long prosper
I am not a part of this community, but my heart really goes out to the people in this piece, because they gave up so much life, because they weren't accepted. Especially the man that said he never had a lover, or a partner. That is so sad! Prejudice and homophobia is so useless, just like racism. I had never even heard of the lavendar scare, I had to look that up. I'm glad that they finally were able to walk fully in who they are. And I really hope the younger generation of the LGBTQ+ community appreciates that people before them paved the way for them to be able to openly be their authentic selves today. Good for all of y'all!
Please Repent God is not pleased with your life style❤
I'm so happy that they can now be themselves, who they were all along🖤 I am so, so happy for them all🖤 Thank you for paving the way and making it easier for us all to be who we are on the inside and to show it on the outside🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
Crying so hard. So many years wasted because of hatred.
I'm 63yrs old and perhaps a little younger than these beautiful humanbeings. However, I'm still part of their era and I can relate more with these inspiring people. Growing up in the 1960s and 1970s knowing I was gay was not only confusing but scary. As I look back at the down times and difficult times it has not only built strength within me but also gave me the endurance to be exactly what I was created to be!! Everyone growing up now that is feeling gay or different in someway just remember you are unique and it will all be ok just stand tall and be proud of yourselves!! its all going to be ok, I promise!!! God Bless you all in this great and enlightening video!!!
Amen
No One was created to be gay.
God Bless You!!!
My best friend’s brother was gay. He was fortunate that the family accepted him but I still remember hearing other boys at school calling the “f” word. This was in the late 60s.
thank you for fighting for the rights and freedom we have today ❤ i am so grateful
Being grateful is not enough love unconditional
You're welcome ❤
Beautiful people with beautiful stories. We should all be so thankful for these pioneers and hope and push for more and more acceptance.
There is still time for repentance
PEOPLE of GOD we MUST to STOP LIVING our LIVES on OUR OWN TERMS this was NOT the AGREEMENT our SOULS made with the LORD. If you HAVE not ACCEPTED JESUS CHRIST as your LORD and SAVIOR it’s not too LATE to do so. Please REPEAT this SINNER’S PRAYER below so you can RESERVE your SEAT in HEAVEN. It’s not APART of the LORDS plan that ANYONE should PERISH and SPEND ETERNITY in HELL.
Dear Lord Jesus, I know that I am a sinner, and I ask for Your forgiveness. I believe You died for my sins and rose from the dead. I turn from my sins and invite You to come into my heart and life. I want to trust and follow You as my Lord and Savior.👼👼👼
I felt the words, all that what you've said, but also, i'm so unbelievably proud of you.
Turn your life over to Jesus...He is the way to true freedom..to be what God created you to be...God is sad that you won't trust him to be WHO he created you to be..don't believe the Devil's liar...The word of God said this is an abomination ....You shall not enter the kingdom of God...Jesus can change you...
I am 61 realized myself when I was 15. I met a woman who was my best friend we had a family 3 children lost one to SIDS. Together 24yrs she knew I was Bi she was called home at the age of 32. I have very precious friends that are "family"LBGT+ Thay all helped me with my 17yo and 10yo and I am still single but I had the best so it's just not fair to the rest. Be strong in who you are because you are loved and God don't make no mistakes ❤️. Peace
REPENT
I don't think "lost years" is a good way to say what I think they trying to say. All years living are opportunities to learn who you are, and you journey of discovery is just that, ... Your journey of discovery.
When I told my mother I was gay she thought I had a mental problem and needed to be cured with shock treatment but thankfully that never happened
I knew early very early.
Came from a very toxic family.
Married early to get away from toxic family. Married forty years.
Now I'm a widow..
This is a great documentary! I'm at my desk at work crying! Tears of happy!
Great documentary. And thank you elders for sharing yours stories. We stand on your shoulders.🙏🏾💜🌈 Not another second wasted.
We love this project! Can't wait to see the exhibit! With our short film series, we tried to share that #LoveisLove, and we support every project that is about empowering #LGBTQ people and elders! Bravi!
Reverend Kennedy's style is just glorious! She's like a beautiful mermaid! 💜
Doesn't she SHINE? Her light is mesmerizing. She is absolutely beautiful.
@@valkyrie1066 💯🤎🖤💖
Mother as we called her received her crown. May she rest in peace, power, and all her labor.
@@TheCharlesWattersonoh...
Jesus loves you. Repent and follow him.
Thank you. Thank you so much. You've paved the way for us and we will never forget that and we will never let that go to waste. Thank you.
I wonder after their deaths how will they give an account to God?🤔
Old and crazy
What is your problem?
Love it!! 🖤🖤🖤. This could easily be a multi-part series.
old demons
Rev. Kennedy rest in peace
What?! 💔
@@angelagunn7986 she passed away. This or last year. I met her a few times because she was friends with a school friend of mine. Pretty quirky, eccentric and unforgettable
God created all humans but characters are by your self not Godly
Thank you for this piece. It really has made me face the fact of getting older as a gay man.
This is so sad, these people are beautiful people and listening to their story’s is heartbreaking. The very same thing are happening to the elderly here in Australia. A lot of Seniors are being turned away from Care Homes simply because they are Gay. I’ve been watching quite a few story’s about how Elderly Gay people are having to hide the fact that they are Gay, just so they can get into a care home. Too my way of thinking it’s disgusting that just because you are Gay. I have my beautiful Niece and God Child, who just happens to be be Gay. I could not be more proud of her, she has a beautiful 19 year old Son who is studying nursing at Uni, she has a beautiful wife who also has a 12 year old son and she’s a Radiologist. They with their 2 boys have made a wonderful life as a family for themselves and isn’t that what matters in the end. Your sexual preferences only make up a small part of your life and whether your Gay, Straight or somewhere in between, doesn’t mean a thing we all have the same colour blood and we all want to live happily and if it just so happens you were born to Gay well then so be it. People can be very cruel and I think it wouldn’t hurt for them to take a look in their own backyard’s, they just might learn something. 🎼❤️🇦🇺❤️🇺🇸💐
Crying in my office
I never liked the word queer and still don't!! I am 66 and always have been gay, never was in the closet. I am happier than ever and feel A lot younger. Queer is not in my vocabulary but, that's just me!
Some homosexual people use the term “queer” to describe themselves, but I have always thought it sounded pejorative and insulting. I don’t like “gay” either, but at least it’s upbeat and festive sounding.
What a thoughtful, intelligent, lovely film. Thank you. I will be sharing.
Aw they are so good, so strong, so beautiful. I love it.
Pearl is a true sweetheart. ❤
This video made me cry. I have a several family members still hiding who they are, but I've been able to see it for a long time. Coming from a VERY ultra conservative family back ground especially the seniors have a fear of losing the love of family. To me regardless of religion or background, acquaintances friends or family need to feel safe to be themselves. No one should have to live in fear!
Yes you are correct
Thank you! That was a very inspiring and beautiful film! ❤
The family I grew up in was very religious. I was a twenty something when I I learned my older brother was gay. He lived most of his life struggling with his sexuality. It was so sad to watch. To be “safe” he married and had a son. None of them were happy. It hurt to watch him hate himself because he believed he was a sinner. 😢😢😢😢😢😢
Y'all are just praising what the Bible clearly says is an abomination. Y'all think God is a joke. He created man and woman. It is NOT ok.. Everyone will be judged and the lake of fire is real. People would rather please their flesh instead of rebuking that spirit. You can't just throw this up in God's face and think he is going to be ok with it. The most commonly quoted Bible verses are Leviticus 18:22 and Leviticus 20:13, which state that it is an abomination for a man to lie with another man as he would with a woman. In Romans 1:26-27, Apostle Paul says that homosexuality is contrary to God's natural order and results from rejecting God. Additionally, 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 lists homosexuality as one of the sins that will prevent someone from entering the Kingdom of God. While the Bible is clear in its view of homosexuality, it is essential to remember that God loves all of his creation and offers forgiveness to those who repent and turn away from their sins.
Can't people see how gentle and loving these people are?... Isn't that the most important thing for any of us in life?
Beautiful love stories. Thank you so much for uploading this! 💕
This is sad and sickening l will NEVER support this wickedness all this mess goes against God🤦🏽♀️………. Satan have these ppl mind soul spirt 👿 l pray for them
Thank you guys sooo much for this y’all don’t know
This was beautiful and heartbreaking all at once.
I'm heterosexual, but hearing a black elderly woman say " Being black was harder than being gay "
This brought tears to my eyes. :'
It's absolutely beautiful to see how they have grown Old together and still glowing ❤❤❤❤ i feel sorry for the paul who has never had anyone in his Life
What is this lord
It just shows we've always been around. Despite what conservative right wing nuts would have us believe. It has been my 60 year experience on this planet, that those who abhor us so much, just fear the same feelings within themselves. Why do so many feel they get to decide who others get to love? I wish acceptance would be just an acceptable option.
Must we really compare the hurt being called a 'tom boy' vs 'sissy'. Being called a tom boy is often a compliment. It's so much harder for gay boys to have to pretend that it's as hard to be lesbian to that of what a gay male goes through is just ridiculous.
My heart… 🥺
It makes me so sad to think of the emotional and mental prison they all had to live in for all those years. I’m so proud of our generation for freeing not just ourselves but everyone else that is free as a result of the truth being normalized.
❤ what an amazing contribution
I whole heartedly completely LOVE AND APPRECIATE EACH AND EVERYONE OF YOU!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Well done. Will be sharing on our social media network and beyond.
Bullied throughout my childhood, I was never allowed to be myself, even though everyone called me gay.
Hoping that things are improving for you. It's a rough start but it doesn't have to be the whole story of you
@@angelagunn7986 Thanks a bunch. Moved on with self esteem and confidence issues but made it out on top. Wore the vest and wrote the books. After books I realised how badly I was treated.
This was AMAZING! As a human I could totally relate! I am so glad that these folk don't have to lie on their deathbed with the grief of never being and living who they always knew themselves to be ♥.
One day who a person loves will be a mute point.
'Moot. And I look forward to that day.
Not as long as we have religion and it’ll never go away
Thank you for listening to generations that often seem discounted and forgotton
Thank you so much for sharing the interviews! I'm a USAF Veteran who served from 2011 - 2017 as an out and open Black American Lesbian; I joined when Don't Ask, Don't Tell was being repealed. 29apr24
That was beautiful. I stand on these awesome shoulders. I wanna thank you all.🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿💐💐💐💐❤❤❤❤
I think God that I had the termity to be myself! I've never been in the closet.
I had a friend who was gay and his partner was gay serving in the US army, so he had to to leave his house for a day well the partner mat it for 25 years until out tell a soul
And I thought I was ballsy for being openly bisexual as a teen in the rural south circa early 2000s!
Something so magnetic about both Rev Kennedy and Pearl. Beautiful strong women
And watching the former serviceman partner comfort him when he spoke about DADT was so bittersweet.
I respect all the old school gays bc they are the true meaning of what GAY is…
Thank you thank you thank you. Your stories are so important and I'm so grateful to you for sharing them. I keep learning so much as I navigate my way through my identity and personality and your stories are some of the most valuable things I learn. Sending love to you all 💕✨
This is a beautiful documentary 😢.I love the stories and the journeys shared ❤
I wish I could like this a million times 💜
No need to hate anyone i pray for everyone that they find the love of jesus christ i cant throw stones at anyone im trying to save my own soul i need to sweep around my own front door
Made me cry so much love in this video - so touching
God have mercy on you.... and save you. Its wrong!
Que hermoso, me embargó la emoción desde el primer al último segundo....❤❤❤❤
Headed to there final destiny full of unrepentant sin is scary
God bless them 🙏🏽❤️🌈
God doesn’t bless sin
@@godschild2432 Yeah keep voting for a serial adulterer (breaking one of the 10 commandments, not to mention love thy neighbour) while pretending that your anti-gay crusade exists for religious reasons even when the Bible doesn't mention gay people once, be honest, we make you uncomfortable because sometimes you see someone of the same sex and think they're kinda cute, what a sad life you must live, peace
God hates the wicked. Read the Bible. Sodomites are evil, wicked creatures.
@@mAiSiEbOOOO "Sodomites"? Aka people who have anal sex, you know that the overwhelming majority of people who have anal sex are STRAIGHT, yes? I'm gay and I don't do anal sex, but I know plenty of straight people who do, stop pretending that your hatred of gay people is religious in nature when the bible clearly has a much bigger issue with straight people by your own logic
@@godschild2432
God doesn’t exist !!!!!!
I wish this documentary was longer no one should have to wait that long just to be themselves but that was easier said then done back in the times they came up in I cannot imagine myself in their position I probably would've been one those that would've offed myself if I had to hide who I really am from everyone pretending to be something I'm not would've been torture and I also have to say they all look so good 😍❤️
LOVE TO ALL !!!!
That is messed up that people have to hide they true self 😢
Yall need to repent to God because ur closer to death. U gonna answer to God for living in sin
U need to repent to god for being fucking evil
This is beautiful ❤️
What an awesome video. I constantly be telling my LGBTQ people that freedom is not free. These are our amazing heroes and for whom I am deeply thankful because I have been bully as well. But thanks to that, I learn that gods doesn;t exist and I FREE from religion and PROUD ATHEIST. I had the honor and pleasure to meet some of these heroes who I LOVE.
GOD DOES EXIST!!!!! SO SORRY FOR YOU!!!!
Every knee...its a sin against God
LOVE IS LOVE....LOVE YOURSELF. FOR WHO YOU ARE!
I pray that lord touches ur heart have a bless day 😊
Oooh this is interesting
RIP Rev. Kennedy 🌸