Should You Break Up With Your Partner? WATCH THIS (ROCD/RA)
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- Опубліковано 13 лип 2022
- Thinking of breaking up with your partner but feeling extremely conflicted?
Is there another way to go about this that could actually bring you BOTH closer and more in love?
WATCH THIS.
Disclaimer: As always, we are NEVER talking about abusive relationships and/or narcissistic relationships - we are speaking for people in secure relationships and couples who are willing to grow out of dysfunctional patterns
#herestobeinghuman, #yana
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I suffered with very intense ROCD for about 8 months. It was one of the most stressful periods I’ve ever endured in life and the anxiety and feelings of hopelessness felt so real. It was this very channel that helped me to understand exactly what it was that I was dealing with and I can say without a doubt that I am healed and no longer having the obsessive intrusive thoughts. I no longer feel triggered when the “what ifs” enter my mind. I urge everyone who is here to believe that they can heal and to not give up. If you arrived to this channel then you truly love your partner and you can heal. Do the work and give yourself patience. You’ve got this. ❤️
I hope u can answer this, bc ive been going through this for quite a while and it sometimes seems like it cant end, can u tell me what helped you to heal?
I could have written this exact same paragraph! I am healed too❤
How did u overcome this?
Well done mate. I am hoping for the same to be healed from this way of intrusive thinking
Yay, amazing Brendon. We are so happy for you. YANA and yes there is hope in healing and finding freedom from ROCD/RA. -AIL Team ♥
My boyfriend told me this a few months ago : no, I don’t think you’re exactly perfect, but that’s not what I want. Who you are and what I like about you makes it worth it to be with you.
Context : this is what he told me after I said that if he felt like he has to be stuck with me, he is not. He’s always very honest with me.
His idea of love is a lot more healthy than mine. I feel like I have to be obsessed with every thing he does or its not working out. Now that the honeymoon phase is over, its about accepting that your partner is flawed and wont always say and do things that make you want to jump his bones. My parents always got on each other’s case hard for the tiniest things, so might be because of that😅
❤ yana love
I felt this 😭
I felt that and it made me feel better thank you!
If you are watching this, feeling triggered or in the depths of OCD and ROCD in any way, please know you are not alone, you are not the only one with these thoughts/feelings/triggers, and that you CAN get through this.
I’m rly rly struggling
Thinking of leaving my husband don’t know what to do I dread coming home and being in his presence he looks so sad and low as I’ve told him how I feel
Is this my anxiety ?
Can I ask what your experience with anxiety was in this?
this is so beautiful Kayla love. Sending you so much love. xo -AIL Team 💖
@@crystalslade8056 Hi love, please know that we so understand and know that you are not alone and there is hope in healing. 💕 -AIL Team
Thank you! I've been off the rOCD for a while, but it's more relationship anxiety now and trauma responses. I still often get the voice to break up, but no longer as intrusive, perhaps self compassion has softened the blow. I have been struggling with the 'should' lately again though, and this video came literally on time for that! You're great, thank you for sharing your experiences and discoveries! :))
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Very powerful. This approach turns the questions in life from the out to more getting in touch with ourselves. Thank you Kiyomi. You are really an amazing person.
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Thank you for this video. I have been going through important changes within myself lately and how I perceive myself and how I want things to be in general, not just with my partner. You have definitely hit a nail on it!!
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This channel has been my refuge everytime I relapse with my severe ROCD. I can't thank you enough.
I’ve been struggling for so long, this made me bawl. 😭❤️
Hi love, please know that you are not alone and we so understand how you feel. There is hope. We are sending you so much love ❤
Wow that is so powerful and gives a whole new perspective! Thanks kyomi! I just went through one of these cycles and I feel way better now and didnt need to break up
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i‘m always obsessing about whether my partner is a narcissist or not. even though he clearly is not. Does anyone else experience this?
Yes
yana love❤ -AIL Team
Yes me ! That’s why I searched this video ughhhhhh
I'm so sad because it was too late for me. I kept trying to go back to my ex girlfriend because i kept leaving her and ide be so sad because i never understood why. But when I was in one I hurt so much with my anxiety..
unfortunately I found out about this a few days ago which explains me.
the sad thing is I still love her but I don't trust myself and I won't put her through it again.
we so understand and please know that you are not alone and there is hope love ♥ -AIL Team
I have a lot of anxiety about the future. Like, am I okay with staying in this relationship for many more years? If I don’t know whether I see myself marrying her, do I need to break up? I’m trying to commit because I want to be with her right now. Uncertainty is hard.
on point
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Why is it so simple to back in square one? And what to do in these moments? :(
My partner is 15 years older than me, has an autoimmune disease and has gained a lot of weight after we had a child. Her body is stressed and broken and I want to support her, but I have NO sexual desire for her. She tried the last three years to lose the weight and she cannot. I need to accept her obesity and the lack of sexual arousal and passion or leave my family and be the father who couldn’t do it …
Does she maybe need to do her own healing work? Maybe the weight is emotional?
@@melaniewingar7520 I also think this is true. But I feel we are both stuck emotionally...
Thats so difficult to go through.. you’re stuck emotionally but physically repulsed by her .
Really struggling at the minute guys 😭, if anyone could lend some support or encouraging words that would be great 🙌
Lucy love, we understand how ROCD and intrusive thoughts can be difficult in a relationship but please know that you are not alone and there is hope. -AIL Team ❤
What if everyone thinks your relationship is wrong ( I won’t get into detail) but it’s a healthy relationship & it has worked for me for years up until ocd hit.
Hi Giselle love, we so understand and please know that you are not alone and there is hope. ❤
@@Awakenintolovehow do you know it is the wrong person or just ROCD. There are wrong people and wrong relationships. Especially if friends and family see a difference from the outside lookimg in. When do you really know if it the ROCD or actually just not a good relationship.
What’s not working? Me getting angry when she’s kind to me. I need to be more accepting of her love.
we so understand and please know you are not alone and there is hope. -AIL Team
What about him being a lier and is not possible trust him as he always says many little lies that after I found out? I don't know.about big ones but also this many small are.not good
What about when you want to communicate more or changing a part of the relationship and he says yes too but after he doesn't follow up with it???
I think as a relationship we should be 2 people working on it. I think not working on it and not wanting to grow in the relationship is a type of spiritual abuse by his side to me.
i love you
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right now I'm in a crash state and I feel so much tension. I feel so much tension and fear that talking to him or being with him is to overwhelming. Its like he's coming to close.. When I think about this; I even get more fear and start to have panic. I just dont wat to lose him. I have the feeling that i am the only who has this and haven’t see this by other people who are experiencing R-OCD. Does someone has experience with this, is this a sign of R-OCD or does anyone have tips? I feel so worse 😞 please help me
i feel this way!!!
Hi Lise, Yana love and we so understand-AIL Team ♥
Yes me ! I thought I was the only one . I start to get confused like maybe he really isn’t good for me because the fear towards him gets intense and scares me
I dont even know if I have rocd anymore I indeed get sometimes anxious by some thoughts. There was a period I was convinced I had rocd and I would get so much happier every day and I started feeling that love again. But now I don't really feel anything and I dont get triggered by the thoughts. Have I fallen out of love? I don't understand.
trust me it’s rocd it’s not you ! i suffer with harm ocd and relationship ocd and that’s exactly rocd , if you get “what if” that’s 100% ocd and if u get break up urges but you know you don’t want to and it makes you uncomfortable then it’s rocd bur sometimes you might not feel effected by these thoughts because your numb
thank you so much for saying this!! this helped me sm:))
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Hi Terg, yana love. We have the Did I fall out of love video. Maybe it will be helpful for you. -AIL Team
damn, my girl said she has ocd. does that mean she automatically has relationship ocd? and thinks of me as not worthy or something? wtf i did everything in my power to be there for her
OCD can mean a number of things. ROCD is a type of OCD but is not necessarily automatically included in the variety of obsessive themes that a person can develop.
You should ask her what her obsessions are about and have an open conversation about this. If she does have obsessions about you or your relationship that does not have anything to do with what you did or did not do. Try to be there for her, adk her how you can support her, but keep in mind that that is her healing journey. The last thing you wanna do is judge her or youself in any way. Hope this helps.
Hi Kiyomi, I find your videos about ROCD and other OCDs really interesting, but to me, all those concepts seem rather new, and to tell the truth : I don't know if there is sufficient scientific ground for those OCD themes you address. It seems to me that OCD can encompass such a broad area of anxiety related issues, and I really question the validity of it. Here in France, OCD is mostly known for behaviors around practical things (doors, water taps, etc.) and I don't believe many psychiatrists/psychologists would think about OCD when it comes to others obsessions... And I guess they would adopt a different approach to treat it. Soo, what do you think ? What would you say about the scientific base around ROCD, HOCD, and others ? Thanks ^^
OCD starts with an obsessive thought and then an action in response to that thought. But not all obsessive thoughts can be followed up with a physical action such as checking a lock etc…. That doesn’t mean it’s not OCD. Thoughts like “do I truly love my partner?” won’t necessarily have visible actions associated with them. The compulsions caused by those thoughts are internal things such as checking to see how you feel every time you hug your partner, or becoming incredibly clingy to chase after feelings of affirmation. It’s not the stereotypical OCD as portrayed in mainstream media but it’s still OCD nonetheless.
Can someone please help me out.. I've this feeling that my partner is my everything and feels like the one, but something in me is resisting to fully commit to him. Like right now I want him, but cannot even talk to him. If I'm in his presence everything is fine, but when I'm not with him my body is constantly feeling the pain of losing him. Like I'm in a break up. I'm constantly feeling pain, anxiety and cannot live like this anymore. I just don't get it and it drives me insane. Its getting worse and right now I cannot even enjoy life anymore. Everything is triggering me. I cannot listen to music about love or watch movies about love. I know I have a fear of abandonment, but he's giving me already enough assurance. So it must be something else.. Can it be that my body is telling me that I have to leave even though he's my everything and I cannot imagine living without him????
i feel this way, what did you do?😭
😢😢😢😢he did to communicate his ex???
I can't even lay next to my husband in bed anymore as I get such bad physical symptoms. Has anyone else experienced this? I have hocd and I think rocd and I can't stop ruminating. Trying to. I think he may leave me anyway.
What kind of physical symptoms ?
yana love and know there is hope. ❤
Yes I get this ! It makes me want to run !!!
how are you now??
You look great
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I want better
Then get better break up
Im with a very very immature women , never changes
My ROCD is finally good. I'm not triggered so much and i feel 1000x better^^ I had lot of compulsions and I break up with them. I recovered almost fully of my abusive relationship traumas, that's a break up too. I continue my life with my boyfriend and i never been happier^^ Of course i have bad mood or just i can't show i'm happy (this is a trigger too) I love my boyfriend all of my heart. Sometimes he can be annyoing but i can be annoying to him too 😂😂 that's normal, or sometimes mad at eachother😂 but the end is always the choice that i wanna be with him🤍 I can't say nothing that means we must break up, if something broken then we fix it, that's all🤍 just always fix and growing together🤍 thank you for your content, you helped me so much 🤍
Hey how did u go through it
yay you are amazing love. so happy for you and we are so happy that AIL contents have been helpful in your healing journey ❤ -AIL Team