The British Grannies Preying On Gambian Men: Granbia | Only Human
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- Опубліковано 16 лип 2023
- In recent years stories of older British women hooking up with younger Gambian men have made the news headlines, from one-night stands to whirlwind weddings. But what's the truth behind the stories? Seyi Rhodes investigates.
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Extreme poverty meets extreme loneliness. Both parties are equally desperate, but the person with the money, ultimately has control.
...not so sure about the control bit...most times that money slips away....strange how this body and mind can deceive us.
Absolutely! this is the best comment....
Perfectly stated
Until she drinks the Kool-Aid… ie, gets scammed..😮
The host is cool I like his POV!!
I’m a Gambian woman, and what hurts me the most is that if a Gambian man wants to marry a Gambian woman who is two years older than him it beefs talk of the town or his parents won’t agree to it but for a white woman who is old enough to be his grandmother, it’s okay
Its all about cash!
So sad to hear, but the one with the money has it.
Your comment says it all.
Kind of like Asian women marrying a poor Asian man but instead she brings home a white foreigner. :/
Money trumps all things when poverty is taking its toll.
“We’ve never had an argument” of course not 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 lady that man is not about to argue with you. Look at that house 🤣🤣
Totally agree 👍. "Don't bite the hand that feeds you".
He built the house
@@fatimaabubakari5695 oh you must didn’t see the for rent sign then
Saw that. But let's assume he really owns according to her she didn't contribute anything to building it that's why I said that
@@livia8227he said hes an engineer. We can't make assumptions. He should have asked the guy about the rental sign. Maybe he rents it sometimes and lives in a smaller place.
"Granbia" 😭😭😭😭😭🤣🤣💀💀💀💀💀 already made me laugh before start watching the video
It's no different than when senior men go to the Philippines, Taiwan, etc, to look for someone young to "marry". Except some of them are also looking for children too 🤬
Same in Gambia... children are often targeted
Yea that's so heartbreaking smh but like you stated it's definitely happening and the more money they have the easier it is to accomplish what they really want.
The difference is that these old women divorced their husbands, and took everything from them, to go have wild times. Whereas the old men going to the Philippines has everything taken from them, and are now trying to mend their broken hearts with women who are more caring.
@@AnthonyLauderno! Those men are there abusing children and preying on impoverished young woman. The biggest difference is that these women are probably targeting impoverished adult males.
Keep telling yourself that, dude. How do you know these old women didn't work careers their entire lives, and it was their own money they decided to waste? No differrent than old men who seek brides overseas. You'll see how much those Philippine women "care" about these old men when the money runs out. Men are better at self delusion. Women at least call it for what it is@@AnthonyLauder
I would have loved to see an interview with the local women of Gambia and hear their perspectives on it all.
We’re also under the impression that all of the young men do this, I doubt that is true.
The local Gambian men will have an entire family hidden from the holiday maker or even have you visit them under the disguise of being relatives.
As long as they’re bringing the money home to them, they’re good with it 😊
@@HoneyBunches100 That’s what they told you, right? 😂
@@humanbeing4368Yep, you are right!!
As a white American woman, this is why I love UA-cam, never in a gazillion years would I ever have imagined this to be! I’m stunned!
As a black American woman....same, sis.
😂😂😂
Really 😂 it's been known for years. If it happened back when "mail order brides" became a popular topic, we should assume it goes on all over these 3rd world countries (mainly) and from both male and female. As an American not white or black 😉
Watch the SNL sketch with Adele
@@gbrickcommercialre heehee, thx
I would love it if they had interviewed Gambian women to see what their thoughts are on the matter
This is like 90 day fiance without the scripted fights
Frrr
Yesss😂
Right!!
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😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Host is so real and compassionate and has the same alarm bells as I do. Both women and men are using eachother.....!
Well, if both of them are using each other, and both of them know it and are doing it voluntarily, what is the problem?
Typical symbiotic relationship that exists all over the world, land, air and sea... Humans and all species of animals, feed off of each other....
@@angelaame6148💯
Both sides are consenting adults. Someone is buying and someone is selling…
No one doesn’t have a visa to leave their country. Get real. Nasty old hags
What surprises me is that these women aren't afraid.
If something bad happens to a single woman, it has effects on the whole tourism industry. So these women are almost above law even if govt publicly says prostiution doesn’t exist.
@@johnnyharka6609not even in that sense. They don’t care about their health sleeping with men they have no idea what they’re doing
@@TishCane i mean, they already have a leg in their graves 😂
Afraid of what
@@johnnyharka6609 🤣🤣🤣
Love the way the presenter was open, honest, and non-judgmental. It's fabulous. Really can't undersrand the dynamic, but if they are all adults, and its consensual, then wonderful.
When dude said he was in love with an 85 year old, I cracked a grin and chuckled. You can lie to us, but stop lying to yourself bro!!!
Yo, I kept yelling "n**ga!!!". He said it with a straight face😂, saying he gets hurt when they leave 😂😂. I wonder how he gets an erection for an 85 year old
Bro is committed to the scam! 🤣🤣🤣 make your money bro!
He is in love. He appreciates what she's done for him. Men in the West can learn a thing from some of these men..
@@artistpr5386 I surely hope you are playing, but if not, go ahead and count yourself as one of the D-U-M-M-I-E-S !
@@commonman711 I''m sure your mama is very proud of you. Your dad as well, of course.
this is amazing. I've seen tons of videos about ''older women being scammed by african men'' but this completes the sad and real picture that, as the reporter put it ''you don't know who to feel sorry for''. The reporter was incredible. I hope to see more of him.
you could argue that for any women seeking her "handsome prince". What i the difference between this story and "Cinderella"? WHy is it only OK when women are seeking a man to pay for them and transform their life?
@@SimonSverigegreat argument
The difference between those two examples is the european women being scammed think they’re talking to rich european men, if they knew they were talking to poor african men they would want nothing to do with them.
In this case the women know who the men are in person, and it’s who (what?) they want.
It works both ways. Female African scam artists search for lonely older foreign men to scam money from while promising to meet them. A friend of a male friend of mine came into contact with a Gambian woman years ago and has been sending money to her for years. She makes up some fake excuse. She promised many times to visit him, but never has. He has sent her tens of thousands of dollars, but has never met her. All his friends have tried to tell him that she is a liar and a scam artist, but he keeps sending her money! He's in too deep.
Right this is horrible
If older men can date younger women and are happy, older women can do it too. Im happy for both the older women and their young boyfriends. If they are happy, then Im happy for them. We only live once. Go for it and find your happiness.❤
Exactly
yay find it with fucktons of lube
Yes, but is it happiness? Or is it using the situation that someone is poor?
@@k.h.7575 You know, these men cannot have the respect of their families if they have no money to help look out for them. A wife of whatever age who understands their committment to family would be a great help to any man who wants to fulfill his role of protector.
“P” and Bob the Builders situationship or relationship seems to be the one most genuine and compatible in my opinion.
I mean she was also black herself AND seeking men closer to her age, at least middle aged men, and so gotta be a bit of a different situation from these white women tourists robbing the cradle with male gigolos....
I love that moment when he says "I dont know who to feel sorry for anymore!" I'd say that sums up the whole situation perfectly.
For me, I don't think I could get over the fact that this is where slaves were captured and the big houses used to belong to slave lords and then here you come as a European to pick out your young man. 😬
Nope - the "big houses" belong to Gambians selling drugs in Europe for MANY years! 😅😂🤣
I’m not going to excuse the European slave traders, but according to my reading, most of the capturing of slaves was done by the native Mandikas who traveled inland using the Gambia River as the corridor. Neither Islam nor Christianity would condone the lifestyles of the “male prostitution” that is taking place in this documentary. The decay of morality is not going to elevate the society and quality of life in the Gambia. Investment in infrastructure, education and industry will facilitate the rise from poverty. Exploitation is exploitation and no one wins in the end.
Except now the men have a choice. They are willing participants.
@@charlotteschreiner2305 oh.... I thought he said slave traders in the video. My mistake!
Yes, it's like you're sleeping with your slave owner. You're on the other spectrum in of it and it's filthy and nasty. This is not what God called for a relationship.
Where are the women of Gambia? I don't want to hear a black Gambian. Man. Say I don't want to marry a poor Gambian woman.
Then build her up. Because getting with a slave owner is sickening.
This story was so well told. The host balanced fact finding, curiosity, compassion, and respect. Excellent work!!!
I agree! Wonderful and rare journalism!
He was a little biased
@@miketdarnellEveryone has biases. But he was respectful and curious. He didn’t try to make anyone look or feel bad and it wasn’t edited in a negative way to make anyone look worse.
They ask for money as one lady says she tells them if they want money they will not see her again
This country would be impossible for young well behaved girls to have a holiday in peace makes the country impossible for family holidays they are loosing out on good tourison
I absolutely enjoyed this video! I can identify with P! When I’m in Jamaica that salt water takes away all of my pain, no back aches , no cane or Walker needed I just feel good, young and vibrant! The Jamaican men are awesome as well! Once I return home to Indiana then the pains slowly come back! So yes there is a lot of truth to what Mz P said. 🙏🏾❤️
I can relate to Ms p every time im in Africa,my back ache stops and the moment I get to New York pain comes back .Africa is a blessed land .
🛑🛑🛑I WOULD WANT MY OWN MEN. BLK N BEAUTIFUL. IT IS GOID TO DATE UR OWN MEN, N MEN TO DATE THEIR OWN BLK WOMEN.....WHITE MEN LOVE THEIR OWN N BLK MEN SHOULD LIKE THEIR OWN TOO. IT MAKE SENSE.... 😇😇😇👩🏾❤️💋👨🏾
I am in Indiana too 🤗
Its probably the sun and fresh air, neither of which you get in the UK.
I am from Jamaica but migrated to the USA many years ago. Yes you do feel pain free when you go back home. I love the beach
"I want her to die in my arms" is the sweetest thing I heard. ❤
Because then he can make sure she's dead and get the loot.
@@Mantras-and-Mystics😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂 that way he can get that inheritance 🤣
Why is nobody talking about the fact that the guy's name is KARL MARX? LOL
I thought the same thing!!!
Right
Well since the elites are now all communist trash no one bats and eye anymore.
Its a nick name
Because not all of us are nerds. We genuinely don’t care about that.
I’m Gambian and really appreciate how you treated us with respect in this piece and covered all sides without patronizing. Thank you 🙏
Am really not sure where the appreciation is coming from. Sad and embarrassing definitely yes
Bc U.
Are.
Nasty!!!!
@@charlesosimeon6375I agree. The European women are sad and embarrassing. 🙄🙄
I have worked, in the US, with people from The Gambia and from Ghana. I would love to work always with such committed, intelligent, dedicated, problemsolving souls. That's the simple truth.
The respect you received is respect you deserve. All through history, people everywhere on the planet have needed to rely on relationships in order to live. People get jobs because of who they know, as often as because they are truly suited for those jobs. People get into schools because their parents went there. People marry for many reasons, love being one among them - will he be a good provider? Do we both want children? Will she be there for me even if disaster strikes and I lose my health? Many reasons.
There is no more shame in this, now, than there was in American women choosing among suitors on the basis of who could best provide for them. My heart went out to all involved.
A world where all people have enough, have what they need, would be a lovely world but we aren't there yet. If that is what we dream of, we must keep trying.
No respect at all..
When the one lady said her back and leg pain comes back once she lands back in the UK, all my judgment left. Let these ladies live. The western world is cold and superficial. The men their age with $$ date younger women with less money. What's good for the goose..
Hey, free is free at the end of the day. Everybody grown ain't no laws being broken. Then bye Western world🙋🏽
This is so enlightening... I am from the other side of the world, this is such a faraway reality, and yet, nothing about humans and human relationships should be alien... Thank you for your great work!
Grand Pa goes to Thailand and Grand Ma goes to Gambia.
Yep
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😂😂😂😂 indeed
well said
The host of this story seems like such a genuinely kind and caring soul. I wish all the best for him!
❤
fool
@@brigittgraves What do you mean? Who is the fool? That is my assessment of the host. Deal with it.
@@brigittgravesu 're the biggest one
and his accent
"nice to be nice man" has been added to my vocabulary 😆
Well the men in England go the Thailand and Filipines and married these young girls no one blink an eye but if the women's do it is another story
He said “I’m an poor Gambian, I don’t want to marry another poor person.” 😂 A lot of relationships with poor foreigners are like this.
lol
almost all marriages are like this even in developed countries.
Can’t blame him
Too bad, can’t build together
Sure, every one can be happy
The best thing about the video is the narrator`s insight. I love a thoughtful, intelligent person who genuinely tries to learn about and understand other cultures. He asked the best questions, has a strong sense of ethics, and is so candid in his responses. Brilliant!
These people have no culture.
It’s been destroyed by colonialism and corruption of their government.
Yes, he's one of the best narrators I've ever seen.
What a nice and senseful person
His cringing face.hahahaha
@@franziskaklaiber5768 Like 😬
the title made me spit out my tea, but I stayed for the intriguing documentary
This is not relationships of love, this is relationships of convience
As are most relationships. You get out of it what you put in. Some just put in money.
@@mscptizzy Oh that makes me sad thinking that's where humanity is.
@@ThereseDavidson Always has been.
I’m impressed with the presenter. He’s a great balance of open-minded and skeptical, and his analysis allows for nuance and compassion without sacrificing realism. His analysis at 27:56 about believing the guy’s current sincerity, but also that it’s unlikely to last into the future is a surprisingly nuanced view being expressed by a presenter - we don’t get that often in this format of documentary.
He also flags when people’s stories don’t add up, which is refreshing and insightful. He rightly spells out the history of colonialism and draws the link with the current situation, as well as makes plain that poverty drives this dynamic.
The only piece of analysis that I wish he’d mentioned is that this same dynamic plays out all the time the world over but usually older men and younger women - this just feels more notable because it’s an unusual reversal of gender dynamics.
Well said!!
"The only piece of analysis that I wish he’d mentioned is that this same dynamic plays out all the time the world over but usually older men and younger women - this just feels more notable because it’s an unusual reversal of gender dynamics." EXACTLY
Normally ...its men That Rule The Roast"
Yep
TOTALLY AGREE , yep the presenter seems nuanced and ok, doesn t he?
Indeed, and he shows a great deal of concern for his fellow Brits., balanced with understanding of realities of life in Africa for young African men.
I was going to make a similar comment. Seyi is perfect balancing respect and skepticism :)
He asked all the right questions.
😢😢 This is so sad. Africa the Continent with so many resources. And so much Poverty.
like latin america 🤔
Colonizer effect. The damage is profound and the lingering attitude of superiority, white supremacism is repulsive.
it's all because of government corruption. few gets what everyone needs.
I wonder why???
@@emeraldkaysgarden No military power the big numeral kind I say know more
My cousin married a woman 24 years his senior. He always had an attraction for older women. His wife just passed and he’s devastated.
My last partner is also 21 years younger than me, but he is German as I am. We're still close friends, yet we both didn't actually search for someone with that age gap, it just happened. We were together for more than 9 years.
@@lisasternenkind6467 Ok, you are close culturally. What does a European women have in common with a man from Africa or Asia - nothing
@@monikam9069 EXACTLY
@@monikam9069Difference is the spice of life. I've always been attracted to someone from different cultures or different personalities, I find my culture boring and enjoy a personality that complements and balances mine. Only close-minded people stick with their own traditions and their own culture. That's why the world is always in conflict let's blend everybody we're all human ❤️
@@AngieF8”only close minded people stick with their own 😂😂. Sorry we don’t agree with the age gap lmao dating someone who wasn’t even born when you graduated is sick
Starting at 19:30, that guy is too honest and straight forward and a nice guy too. Respect!
P seems like genuinely nice lady! I wish her all the luck in the world, plus she seems to be with someone her own age. The guy she is with is not exactly young. An eye-opening documentary. Well done!
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Nice lady preying on young black men who are in poverty. Very nice lady indeed. This is a predator you call "nice lady".
That's what I thought.... a 50 year old man and 58 year old woman is not exactly a granny preying on a young man!
P reminds of people back here in the US in my family. small world filled people looking for love. we all the same out here no matter gambia uk or the states.
But HE doesn’t look 50! He looks younger. But SHE looks 65 and not attractive That’s the difference. Now the man can live without having to ever work again thanks to granny!
This makes me feel very sad. My ex husband is Gambian. There are only two years difference between us and we met here in the states. However as soon as he didn’t need me anymore financially he decided he wanted a second wife in Africa. We divorced. He married a woman from his culture and moved her here. I think the entire concept of love and marriage is different there.
This should be seen as fraud.
@@Alison-ku5ko
It's done everyday in the U.S. by females who want to secure financial security and they aren't prosecuted for fraud. So how is that any different?
I am sorry to say this but most African men, not just the Gambians consider African women to be their true wives/loves. Unless you meet a 2nd generation migrant/ one who has been culturally westernised, you will never be truly loved. I am an African woman and I know our men. They will tell you sweet nothings and all you want to hear but their hearts are back home. It is better to just avoid them. I am sorry for what you went through but we live and learn.
@@Opinlinzit isn’t? And it’s just as wrong. No one is saying it’s ok for either gender
@@annie_xo
Well obviously some people do think its socially acceptable in society or I wouldn't have pointed it out.
I've seen females everyday cosign this behavior when other females do it. With no regard for the male.
If this was a series I would watch. Well done showing multiple sides of a complex story!
P is such a doll...what a beautiful soul
Yea I like her too
She’s gorgeous inside and out. Wish her the best ❤
She was glowing , I felt bad when she had to head back to the UK. You could tell deep down she was looking for love and acceptance
Wish her the best in life and love. She’s a gem 😊❤
It's the same as men going to the Philippines and hooking up with the young local girls.
Why Philippines only? Those predators are in your own country preying on your american prostitutes which are everywhere left and right. They just go to asia cause it's "cheaper". But in reality they are in your own backyard. You should watch prostitute videos in your own country with your own race prostitutes.
Exactly!!
In the Phiippines , they are underage. Pedophiles goes to the Philippines.
I know it ain't right but it DOES seem worse when us men do it tho!! 😂 Idk y!
It’s the same as men going to Colombia, Thailand or Philippines. Just let these women be happy. They’re in their later years so enjoy the company.
“As soon as I land back in the UK, I’m back in pain.” That line changed my small, judgmental mind about what both sides are doing. Everyone has a right to happiness- even if it looks a lot different than what we may consider normal. Life seems to offer limited opportunities to truly feel free and happy. I hope everyone finds what they genuinely need and no one is hurt or scammed.
I’m curious: what is the law that states that everyone has a right to happiness?
@@vincelemaireWell. well as humans. L😢aw or no law , i so believe HAPPINESS CAN BE A RELATIVE word or term .
Beautiful comment ❤
@@vincelemaire you aren’t curious- you are an a&@hole. Positive vibes only. Find another comment thread.
@vincelemaire -- if the OP is American, then it kinda is law. At least the right to pursue happiness. It's the foundation of our constitution-- life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. Heck, even Bhutan, such a tiny nation, measures their GDP in happiness. So let people pursue their dream and their happiness. If a woman has the money to support a man, and he has the moral code to keep her happy and loved, then let them be happy. Same as if a rich older man here marries a beautiful trophy wife, or if a European man marries a woman from Thailand or Vietnam.
The plumbers mansion left me witj too many unanswered questions
He's lying. He's doing something else. Probably not even his house, more like living in someone else's house he getting paid to fix up. No kitchen and he's been in it for 2 years. 🤔
I think he is lying and that they agreed not to talk about money on the interview. She's been sending him money under cover. Why would an engineer be painting on the side? And in Gambia, how many "contracts" could he have outside of the government? Yep. They're not being honest.
Very talented interviewer and presenter. Interesting doc I’ve never known about this. The men are so kind and very charismatic I can see how the grannies get roped in. Sad all around but interesting.
The grannies may not be prepared for their partners' need to share the bounty with their family members.
Interesting reversal. He says it feels degrading to see the men standing and waiting to be chosen. Imagine the thousands of women who've been through this very same thing, often because they, too, had no other options.
It would still feel degrading.
somehow you are claiming that those women are victims. They are not
No, I am not.@@adrianmainz2716
@@adrianmainz2716 he's not talking about these wealthy white women, but other countries (including those in the west) where female prostitution is prevalent and equally dangerous, with an added layer or mysoginy and systemic violence towards women.
Like a slave market
This has to be one of the best investigators I've seen in a while. He's so personable; his confusion, his guilt, his anger. It feels like he's watching it all unfold with the viewers. This whole situation is genuinely creepy though.
It's even worse the other way around. When men go to asian countries to find a wife.
@@ingridakerblom7577 whys that?
@@ingridakerblom7577lol it's even worse because men are doing it? It's equally F up
@@twisi6318it’s usually done in a predatory fashion that exploits a power dynamic
Nobodys getting hurt here. They are making each other happy. Win win.
I would feel hurt when I would be so poor to have to sleep with an old man 😅
Thanx for shinning a light on this subject. I'm surprised that this is a thing.
This was a roller coaster ride of emotions watching this. Some parts were hilarious, others were extremely sad
TBH I think the couple in the “Italian villa” house are just renting it for holidays. Why is that sign up saying it’s to let otherwise? You don’t just leave a “for rent” sign up and I doubt as she said “it was up before I came.” That doesn’t add up, nor does the lack of furnishings.
It was… very interesting to watch. 😩, when dude on the beach said he didn’t want to marry a black, that crushed me. I understand the economic drive to be with a financially stable white woman in that type of environment… so so sad.
Passport Girls ❤
Sad is the word. Very sad indeed. Twisted situation where young men think an elderly foreign woman is the key to better living...
None was hilarious if the roles were reversed they’d say we were stealing their women and they needed to protect them.
"Nice to be nice, man brother" is now going to be a permanent fixture in my vocabulary
😂😂
Yup !!!!!
Alka seems like such a great guy. Love that line 😂
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Very Honest and brilliant reporter..I salute him for helping other Nationalities and making sure their safety,there are less people in this world like u brother 🙏 👍 love from Northeast India
I loved this thanks ❤ so much things to reflect on I don’t even know what to write very enjoyable thanks ❤
What did you learn from interview?
They don’t even call it looking for “love” or a “relationship” they call it an OPPORTUNITY for Gods sake 🤦🏾♀️🙆🏾♀️
I like the honesty. Don’t call it “love” or a “relationship” if it is not.
@@Shay45 exactly. I don't see men having the same insightfulness when they are in these same situations.
And the lady saying about his Gambian fiance that he's a "human being" 🤦 🫠
@@yes12337 At least. I know people here in Germany who don't consider people beyond a certain darkness of the skin as humans. :(
An opportunity for both parties.
I'd say any "preying" going on is mutual. The old ladies have a need they want fulfilled.. just as the young men do. They're grown folks .They know exactly what they're doing. I think it's a pretty sad situation on both ends. This was very interesting. I'm Black American and I'd honestly not heard about this happening in Gambia. Thank you, so much, for this video. Very enlightening. Be well. Be safe. God bless. 🙏🙏🙏
Both sides are immoral. The women are delusional and the men actors/scammers.
Same here.
The same thing is happening in Jamaica as well.
I heard from the 80’s what happens between tourists and Gambians. Gambian men need to get some self respect and stop being cheap and nasty.
Exactly win win for everyone adult involved
This is so interesting !! I wish there is a part 2 & 3 etc
What an interesting story . Powerful..
Thank you for sharing your experience.
I really like this piece. I didn't trust the couple with the rented house, I felt she might be in on some scam with him together. She got nervous and started fudging the ages herself, it seemed off. The reporter is excellent and I hope to see more of his work.
Yup. At first it seemed like she was a victim of her husband's deception. But after a while it seemed like she was engaging in some deception herself... (self-deception at the very least, because it seemed like there was some hidden truth that was starting to rise to the surface, but she didn't want to see it).
I think she wants to build him up to be some kind of "entrepreneur" or capable of his own income bc that way she doesnt get painted as funding his lifestyle.
I bet she's feeding into the lie that this house is all "his" money so she can commit some kind of tax evasion in the UK.
Right
The house was a beautiful place..rented or not
This was an important documentary. I see in the comments some people saying that it is mutual but I see it as exploitation of people’s misfortune. Given the history of the Gambia and slavery it is even more disturbing. You do not get a sense that anyone is truly being authentic about what they want and need with the exception of 2 of the ladies.
The couple that never fights is a red flag to me. It doesn't mean they have nothing to fight about, but maybe that the man doesn't feel comfortable fighting to defend himself.
I agree
@@jessy1982or that the relationship is so superficial they have nothing to fight about
These women are a particular type. They NEED social interaction. They always NEED, always take advantage of others to fill their own needs, and have never been fully self-reliant, so they are susceptible. But I don't feel sorry for them. They're either gullible or delusional, or both. I highly doubt they've ever been in mature, respectable, romantic partnerships. I doubt they have healthy, appropriate relationships with their own children. The whole thing is sad. But, these situations are not the same as a gold digging, young, WESTERN woman searching for an old rich man. That's absolutely NOT the same thing. Western women have many more opportunities to enrich themselves than people from poor nations do, like these young men, so their gold digging is more predatory than desperate. These older women are definitely taking advantage of people who have no choice about poverty. They should know better and have higher expectations of themselves rather than choosing to use other people as toys. It's healthy to accept yourself as you are, age included. But there's an expectation of behaviour that goes with age. I'm a senior woman, BTW.
There are people saying is mutual? 😂😂😂 wow
This is not a scam. It's no difference when women hook up with older men. They aren't going to the UK. The older women are going to Gambia for a hookup. If they like it, I love it. If all parties are happy, who are we to judge.
Im so excited to see two sides to this story...any story! Awesome interviewer.
This is fascinating and disturbing. Thanks for covering this issue.
But really, why is it disturbing? Everybody seems to be getting what they want, and everybody seems to be happy about it. Yes, the principal attraction for the men is the money, but they find no shame (nor should they) in getting it by providing a loving relationship to lonely women who clearly want what they can offer.
Disturbing in what way grown people you talking about ..not kids
FEISTY- DISTURBING- LEAVE IT ALONE- PLEASE
@@AbsentWithoutLeaving see comment below by Lmyrald
Totally agree.
I'm an older woman. What can I
offer a man my nephews age
- (young adult) ? It sounds like
the men are impoverished and the women are paying for attention from the men. Older men pay for attention from younger women all the time. This is a similar situation and it is sad. Why don't older men and women help younger adult couples and not utilitize them for their own purposes. That would be better.
Low self-esteem and competition.
@@AMYP6 they are also selfish and unable to see the other person's struggle
old man + old woman. that is better, a 10-12 year age gap is still same generation.
@@christigoth Old rich men want children though, and old women can't have children. Agape is the only way. Ephesians 5:25✝
@@MiguelDLewisold rich men already have children 😂 they just have more with younger woman because she doesn't have any yet
Well done my brother. This was an interesting watch.
That conversation at 34:10 was very telling. She knows too little about this man to be married to him.
Yes exactly, you can tell shes also getting anxious and nervous so much that it sounds like lies😭
I love the reporter. He's good at speaking and hearing all sides.
Ngl thought that was John Forte in the thumbnail. On some tf?🚬🧐
I notice how conservatively he is dressed. I get the impression he is trying to not "fit in" with the prospective partners. Imagine coping with tropical heat wearing long pants/trousers after leaving winter in Europe.
@@kitiowa I don't recall the man sweating at all🌝
This host covers some great situations. I really enjoy his documentaries ❤
Bad mouthing his own friends. ??????
@@marcoprolo1488 bad mouthing whom?
He is too medling. He needs to keep out of the business of others. If you are trying to find out something do your research but don't try to influence the outcome of others. Mind yoir business and allow others to live the lives they choose. On the other hand, does he really know these people? And what does he really know about them?
He intentionally stirs up drama and pretends it was by accident.
I loved watching this i really would like more of a follow up
I'd like to fill in the blanks on a quote from the film ... " As soon as" he saw my money", we were in love" 🤣
Bro I'm 23 years old African boy based in kenya. but i will never sleep with a woman way older than me just for money even if I'm broke right now and struggling with my life,
I won't degrade myself that way, , its really heartbreaking to see my fellow Africans men in Gambia falling for materialistic things
May God see you through🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Sir, maybe in your native language (not sure if English is your native language) 23 year olds are described as "boys".. But I think in most English speaking nations, we refer to 23 year old males as "men".
Having said this, I agree with the other things that you said.
@@kaelsurtour Well, it's very strange if there are cultures where they think that 23 year old males are "boys". UNLESS we are talking about a culture where people live 200 years! However, according to what I found on Google, In Kenya, the life expectancy for males is 58.94 years..So, how are they going to label as a "boy", someone who has already lived around 40% of his life expectancy?.. I also found that in order to join the Army in Kenya you must ""be at least 18 years of age, but not exceeding 26 years of age.".. So, they allow "boys" to join the Army?
This made me laugh😂😂😂
You are judging. One thing about life, we didn't all come to earth to live the same life. Regardless of what that looks like.
The rapper laughing at British women getting fleeced 😂
That was perfect! I've always wondered why can't people accept and acknowledge that they're easy prey
I thought that was nasty. It seemed to me that he was young and immature.
Thoroughly enjoyed the video with no judgement or being biased
P , thank you for the interview , one love Gambia
The ladies want s3x and companionship, the men want money. How far you take it is your own risk. No one is in the position to judge. P looked so young & vibrant it was incredible. I almost cried. The questions & insight were spot on. I really didn’t expect this to be this good, man.
Absolutely right bro its like an ecosystem in Gambia
It's prostitution just like how it is in some Asian countries
The fact that some are married
@@hzlkellyAlka died in 2021 he drowned in the ocean while his wife watched him float away they found his body days later.R.I.P Alka🙏
White women don’t give money…they man want an opportunity to travel abroad not money as white ppl don’t usually give out money
11:25 omg the granny taking her disco-nap in the middle of the club 😂😭🤣
Maybe she is even ded😂😂
😂😂😂😂
This mess is SAD. What about the white hair granny with the cane, standing on the curb??! 😂 They deserve to be scammed!
@@tinastardust7793 I think of it more as End of Life Care
LMAOF!
Having knowledge about history, psychology, and socioeconomic this video helps me garner much understanding as to why we see things as this. In can sum in few words-- circumstances make us humans who we are. Here, older women can't find love and companion among their own race . On the other hand, young Gambians are living in poverty hellscape . Now, both worlds merge -- commodity. Something is in it for all parties.
I used to teach English in Turkey about 25 years ago and back then, it was British, German, Dutch, Russian, Ukrainian, Danish women in their 50s+ who would hook up with a a 21 year old Turkish guy. In fact some of my male students, when I asked them why they wanted to learn English, they openly said, "so I can work at a hotel or resort and meet a rich German woman who will look after me." I guess Turkey isn't a cheap as it used to be so now the women have moved on to Western Africa.
The old ladies are telling us openly why they go to Gambia. Therefore, the old ladies cannot be a prey, because they go to Gambia to look for younger Gambian men. In this case, the old ladies have the power of money that they can use to prey on the younger Gambian men. Fortunately, the old ladies do not have to spend too much energy because their presence in the beach is enough to become a glamorous lure for the poor Gambian younger men.
People like you are the worst kind of racist. Those men are adults who choose to do that. They're not children who are manipulated just because they're poor.
Glamour? I don't think that's the right definition of this situation. 😂😂
In this scenario -- NO ONE IS PREYING- GROWN PEOPLE- it is what it is
@@pierrerochon7271 I agree.. but, would you be saying the same thing if the genders were reversed? People seem to react very different when it's an older, wealthy man with a younger, poor woman.
They are predators no diffrent then men
This work you are doing is so important. I've been watching documentaries about older British women scammed by young men they meet while on vacation in various countries across Africa. The British women are always portrayed as the victims. However, I can't help but consider whether they would be considered victims if they were white men dating very young girls in Southeast Asia. We need more unbiased perspectives such as your own that show both sides of the story. Well done-please keep up the great work!
Took the thought out of my brain girl!!
But these are woman and not men, race is irrelevant.
Normally I would agree, but this documentary is obviously thinnly-veiled anti-yt-ism. It's a joke to think that grandmas, in a foreign country, are somehow "predators".
@@Morrosoy28 Gender is. Race?
Not so much... quit being wilfully oblivious. It's ALWAYS about race. And by the way, you can thank the Europeans for that.
Your comparison is a little off. Older men with money date younger women from all over the world, not just old white men and not only the Southeast Asia. Rich and old men date more white women than Southeast Asian. Sugar daddies/mommies is the frequent term used in the scenario. Both the sides enjoy their reason for the relationship. If old British women dating young Gambian women is frowned upon, then all relationships in the world where older men date young women should be too.
If your reason of comparison was that western men are seeking wives abroad, that is a totally different scenario, they find love, marry, and together start a family where they can be financially stable. No one exploits the other in that relationship, and many a times both the partners earn.
Excellent work really very interesting, never if knew this about Gambia, lovely people.
"I don't think I've got the full picture here 🤔"
😂
I am Jamaican, and I know for a fact in Jamaica that this happens in tourists destinations too. I personally believe this is directly tied to slavery and the legacy of it.
That's not true...because in Gambia there was no slavery
@@unbalumbaMaybe so, but the fact is many people, especially whites are very much in the master-slave, superior/inferior concept. One of the reasons why whites go around the world to Asian and black countries seeking to fulfill their flesh at the exploitation of the vulnerable - men, women and children. Open your eyes and face reality. Whites think black and brown people are on earth to serve them, including sexually.
I don’t agree. They come to get laid, because caribean men would lay them.
The power relations. They get the left over European women.
@@briopalumpus8676 the demon of lust has control over these women
How can it be an equal exchange of like minded people when the men are impoverished. You do what you have to do and make the best of it. I can't help but feel that Gambian women are being cheated out of a future with a Gambian man.
Right it’s not black and white
All the men are lying the wife and kids are at the other house
acjfiddler - Well, but not really. In set-ups like this, the man most likely will have (if he doesn't already have) a second relationship - with a Gambian woman/wife as well, and they will raise a family. And it's highly probably (if not certain) that everybody will be aware of the arrangement, even if it may go unspoken for their whole lives.
What about lonely old white men that buy love from poor countries
The Gambian women are in on it.
if they marry with Gambian women then the poverty line will just circulate forever making it harder for everyone now and future generations. It's a compromise they have to make
This Deserves a subscription. Very good .enjoyed it ,,
You did a very insightful approach to this.
The Engineer, plumber guy😅😅.. I don't believe him one bit!!
Even his age, he was stammering...
@@LaZainabou22:16 my goodness, and check out the old babe too, just chewing away at her fingers. They’re both lying, that man is in his 30s
Theres no way on earth that man erected that building singlehandedly. It's got foreign currency all over it. They both lying through their teeth. For her sake and sanity, I hope she knows what shes doing.
When you see the whole family warming up to you, be damn sure you're giving more than you're getting
@@LaZainabouHe obviously has a speech impediment 🙄
@@Vistacraft82obviously he didn't build it with his own hands but clearly not all of the houses the locals lived in were small. They help each other build
Of course they never argue. She the boss.
What an incredible story, great insight!
Wow. What an amazing piece. I'd love to hear Gambian women speak about this as well. Perhaps it could be the next chapter in the docu-series?
Gambian women dreaming for white man too
Why is that? Lmao. They don't need to. They're counting the cash earned by their brothers and boyfriends from naive old women.
This is so disturbing on so many levels. I'd hate to be a normal tourist there trying to have a holiday only to be harrassed by the "tour guides" because these women have created a supply and demand market, as well as creating a false reality around the value of tourism for the locals.
there's way more to it then you think! espionage mission, and they've been doing it for a very long time!! ..
Its a scam operated by grown men, taking advantage of old and lonely women, yet this fool tries to convince you of the opposite. Insanity.
@@partridgefamilybus2021Well you know how it goes, some people can do *no* wrong, even if the
they run up and p×nch an old person waiting for a bus.
@@partridgefamilybus2021how is it a scam when you go to their country to take advantage of the young men. This makes no sense. Like the woman are all good
oh come on!
great reporting
Very good work man u are the real guy
AKA men who take money from older women and pretend it's about "love." Neither of these people are having a real romantic relationship. It's all transactional.
Just like it is with young women who take money from older men. It is transactional and cross generational.
Points to bigger issues of employment and governance in general
As long as both parties understand it's transactional then that's fine.
All relationships are transactional. And ?
These couples seem to be enjoying themselves, good luck to them, even if the women only have a few years to live, it seems to be a lovely place to be happy in. What is love, anyway, mutual attraction and enjoying being together. Bless them all.
@@claudesantolini6335 life is too short. Let them enjoy it.
😂😂😂 Some of these dudes are down horrendous omg….The only relationship that seemed valid was “P”. She was a whole vibe! I loved her energy.
This was very interesting and respectful
🥺aww the updates were all happy
To me P's relationship is the least problematic. It doesn't look like P is giving Bob money and they are the same race and in the same age group. Also, unlike the other European women, P seems genuinely happy and carefree in her relationship.
Maybe. But they'll probably be divorced as well in a few years. Once he has enough money, he'll divorce her for a younger wife he can have a family with. Maybe Bob's hit the jackpot by finding a woman he at least can actually like, but it's still a hustle in the end.
so you believe in race smh idiot, the reporter as well as p have different a nationality than the natives, privileges and opportunities come with a passport, not to speak about social upbringing and and and
Same race…matters less than that they are the same age. A black man and white woman same age is not problematic either.
@@kristaschnarr6979it’s still problematic if he’s with her because she’s his only way to survive and she’s taking advantage of that.
@@schadenfreude000not everyone wants kids, especially men lol
This man is incredibly compassionate. ❤ This ended up being something very different than I expected.
I gathered that he is pure in heart. Gorgeous Soul!
Not at all. This operations is a scam run by grown men, taking advantage of old and lonely women for their money - yet this fool tries to convince you of the opposite. Insanity.
@@partridgefamilybus2021 A fool? You're the fool! He did nothing of the sort---he questioned their motives all along! How stupid of you that you don't have enough brains to follow the story!!
Flip the sexes around
Wow you're incredibly misinformed.@@partridgefamilybus2021
12:00 Dude is shaking head no but saying yes verbally. We believe you…
😂😂😂 everything is up and down😅 the reporter is even confused
Transactional relationships come in all forms across the globe. In fact, that's the norm throughout history. Marrying for "love" is a very recent concept. As long as all involved are adults and have no cognitive issues, who's to judge.
A fulll grown man should never be in the relationship and can't provide...
@@shanazblacksun7201tell that to the grannies with the goodies. You think they dont know money dictates power dynamics?😂😂
And that all individuals involved are willing participants.
The parties in this regard do have cognitive issues, the women are typically codependent and the men covert narcissists! Trauma bonds, exploitation all the way!
yeah, because old women often do have cognitive issues.