The British Grannies Preying On Gambian Men: Granbia | Only Human

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  • @SarataCarr
    @SarataCarr Рік тому +7343

    I’m a Gambian woman, and what hurts me the most is that if a Gambian man wants to marry a Gambian woman who is two years older than him it beefs talk of the town or his parents won’t agree to it but for a white woman who is old enough to be his grandmother, it’s okay

    • @wollfaden1979
      @wollfaden1979 Рік тому +976

      Its all about cash!

    • @oc4goal
      @oc4goal Рік тому +381

      So sad to hear, but the one with the money has it.

    • @crypton_8l87
      @crypton_8l87 Рік тому +250

      Your comment says it all.

    • @YourXellency
      @YourXellency Рік тому

      Kind of like Asian women marrying a poor Asian man but instead she brings home a white foreigner. :/

    • @faafafineartist
      @faafafineartist Рік тому +464

      Money trumps all things when poverty is taking its toll.

  • @margaretbaker6609
    @margaretbaker6609 Рік тому +7767

    I would have loved to see an interview with the local women of Gambia and hear their perspectives on it all.

    • @arrjee9474
      @arrjee9474 Рік тому +285

      We’re also under the impression that all of the young men do this, I doubt that is true.

    • @humanbeing4368
      @humanbeing4368 Рік тому +601

      The local Gambian men will have an entire family hidden from the holiday maker or even have you visit them under the disguise of being relatives.

    • @HoneyBunches100
      @HoneyBunches100 Рік тому +313

      As long as they’re bringing the money home to them, they’re good with it 😊

    • @humanbeing4368
      @humanbeing4368 Рік тому +113

      @@HoneyBunches100 That’s what they told you, right? 😂

    • @laikanbarth
      @laikanbarth Рік тому +24

      @@humanbeing4368Yep, you are right!!

  • @Imeraldgyrl
    @Imeraldgyrl Рік тому +5345

    Extreme poverty meets extreme loneliness. Both parties are equally desperate, but the person with the money, ultimately has control.

    • @oscardunn4769
      @oscardunn4769 Рік тому +159

      ...not so sure about the control bit...most times that money slips away....strange how this body and mind can deceive us.

    • @mamarobyn
      @mamarobyn Рік тому +74

      Absolutely! this is the best comment....

    • @crystalchw
      @crystalchw Рік тому +42

      Perfectly stated

    • @HFK-uv3wr
      @HFK-uv3wr Рік тому +70

      Until she drinks the Kool-Aid… ie, gets scammed..😮

    • @kevettenoel3207
      @kevettenoel3207 Рік тому +37

      The host is cool I like his POV!!

  • @AdamBer-ir6eg
    @AdamBer-ir6eg 7 місяців тому +492

    "Granbia" 😭😭😭😭😭🤣🤣💀💀💀💀💀 already made me laugh before start watching the video

    • @MariiBazy
      @MariiBazy 7 місяців тому +8

      Didn’t even notice😂😭

    • @Michelle-so2hz
      @Michelle-so2hz 5 місяців тому +4

      🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @technana3.141
      @technana3.141 3 місяці тому +2

      ​@@MariiBazyMe neither😂😂l🤣🤣

    • @Khumo_Tlhong
      @Khumo_Tlhong 2 місяці тому +1

      i even went to google "Where is Granbia?"😭 cold

  • @amandab8433
    @amandab8433 Рік тому +6060

    It's no different than when senior men go to the Philippines, Taiwan, etc, to look for someone young to "marry". Except some of them are also looking for children too 🤬

    • @bnellaniyah
      @bnellaniyah Рік тому +303

      Same in Gambia... children are often targeted

    • @kevettenoel3207
      @kevettenoel3207 Рік тому +83

      Yea that's so heartbreaking smh but like you stated it's definitely happening and the more money they have the easier it is to accomplish what they really want.

    • @AnthonyLauder
      @AnthonyLauder Рік тому +206

      The difference is that these old women divorced their husbands, and took everything from them, to go have wild times. Whereas the old men going to the Philippines has everything taken from them, and are now trying to mend their broken hearts with women who are more caring.

    • @FancyAnneX
      @FancyAnneX Рік тому

      @@AnthonyLauderno! Those men are there abusing children and preying on impoverished young woman. The biggest difference is that these women are probably targeting impoverished adult males.

    • @gwenshin
      @gwenshin Рік тому +719

      Keep telling yourself that, dude. How do you know these old women didn't work careers their entire lives, and it was their own money they decided to waste? No differrent than old men who seek brides overseas. You'll see how much those Philippine women "care" about these old men when the money runs out. Men are better at self delusion. Women at least call it for what it is@@AnthonyLauder

  • @Lady--G
    @Lady--G Рік тому +1959

    Host is so real and compassionate and has the same alarm bells as I do. Both women and men are using eachother.....!

    • @milascave2
      @milascave2 Рік тому +88

      Well, if both of them are using each other, and both of them know it and are doing it voluntarily, what is the problem?

    • @angelaame6148
      @angelaame6148 Рік тому +51

      Typical symbiotic relationship that exists all over the world, land, air and sea... Humans and all species of animals, feed off of each other....

    • @lolal2502
      @lolal2502 Рік тому

      ​@@angelaame6148💯

    • @rachelmora6227
      @rachelmora6227 Рік тому +62

      Both sides are consenting adults. Someone is buying and someone is selling…

    • @kaioiamo1503
      @kaioiamo1503 Рік тому

      No one doesn’t have a visa to leave their country. Get real. Nasty old hags

  • @livia8227
    @livia8227 10 місяців тому +792

    “We’ve never had an argument” of course not 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 lady that man is not about to argue with you. Look at that house 🤣🤣

    • @dawei0077
      @dawei0077 10 місяців тому +65

      Totally agree 👍. "Don't bite the hand that feeds you".

    • @fatimaabubakari5695
      @fatimaabubakari5695 10 місяців тому +11

      He built the house

    • @livia8227
      @livia8227 10 місяців тому +15

      @@fatimaabubakari5695 oh you must didn’t see the for rent sign then

    • @fatimaabubakari5695
      @fatimaabubakari5695 10 місяців тому +17

      Saw that. But let's assume he really owns according to her she didn't contribute anything to building it that's why I said that

    • @lailaalanna315
      @lailaalanna315 9 місяців тому +5

      ​@@livia8227he said hes an engineer. We can't make assumptions. He should have asked the guy about the rental sign. Maybe he rents it sometimes and lives in a smaller place.

  • @leshcamp7281
    @leshcamp7281 4 місяці тому +44

    As a Jamaican, the similarity of the accent gives me goosebumps. My people ❤

  • @TheWebRaven
    @TheWebRaven Рік тому +1573

    This story was so well told. The host balanced fact finding, curiosity, compassion, and respect. Excellent work!!!

    • @beingblack
      @beingblack Рік тому +25

      I agree! Wonderful and rare journalism!

    • @miketdarnell
      @miketdarnell Рік тому +22

      He was a little biased

    • @ShanteRoxxane
      @ShanteRoxxane Рік тому +56

      @@miketdarnellEveryone has biases. But he was respectful and curious. He didn’t try to make anyone look or feel bad and it wasn’t edited in a negative way to make anyone look worse.

    • @margaretpijnaker9922
      @margaretpijnaker9922 Рік тому +8

      They ask for money as one lady says she tells them if they want money they will not see her again

    • @margaretpijnaker9922
      @margaretpijnaker9922 Рік тому +15

      This country would be impossible for young well behaved girls to have a holiday in peace makes the country impossible for family holidays they are loosing out on good tourison

  • @amrangaye6940
    @amrangaye6940 Рік тому +1233

    I’m Gambian and really appreciate how you treated us with respect in this piece and covered all sides without patronizing. Thank you 🙏

    • @charlesosimeon6375
      @charlesosimeon6375 11 місяців тому +28

      Am really not sure where the appreciation is coming from. Sad and embarrassing definitely yes

    • @loislane3972
      @loislane3972 11 місяців тому +1

      Bc U.
      Are.
      Nasty!!!!

    • @Kilo3ene1
      @Kilo3ene1 11 місяців тому

      ⁠@@charlesosimeon6375I agree. The European women are sad and embarrassing. 🙄🙄

    • @gaelsdottir5046
      @gaelsdottir5046 11 місяців тому +28

      I have worked, in the US, with people from The Gambia and from Ghana. I would love to work always with such committed, intelligent, dedicated, problemsolving souls. That's the simple truth.
      The respect you received is respect you deserve. All through history, people everywhere on the planet have needed to rely on relationships in order to live. People get jobs because of who they know, as often as because they are truly suited for those jobs. People get into schools because their parents went there. People marry for many reasons, love being one among them - will he be a good provider? Do we both want children? Will she be there for me even if disaster strikes and I lose my health? Many reasons.
      There is no more shame in this, now, than there was in American women choosing among suitors on the basis of who could best provide for them. My heart went out to all involved.
      A world where all people have enough, have what they need, would be a lovely world but we aren't there yet. If that is what we dream of, we must keep trying.

    • @lxkfkfmkfddf89194
      @lxkfkfmkfddf89194 11 місяців тому +8

      No respect at all..

  • @merida3160
    @merida3160 Рік тому +1810

    this is amazing. I've seen tons of videos about ''older women being scammed by african men'' but this completes the sad and real picture that, as the reporter put it ''you don't know who to feel sorry for''. The reporter was incredible. I hope to see more of him.

    • @SimonSverige
      @SimonSverige Рік тому +93

      you could argue that for any women seeking her "handsome prince". What i the difference between this story and "Cinderella"? WHy is it only OK when women are seeking a man to pay for them and transform their life?

    • @allenangaw4827
      @allenangaw4827 Рік тому +10

      ​@@SimonSverigegreat argument

    • @SaidarRising
      @SaidarRising Рік тому +60

      The difference between those two examples is the european women being scammed think they’re talking to rich european men, if they knew they were talking to poor african men they would want nothing to do with them.
      In this case the women know who the men are in person, and it’s who (what?) they want.

    • @galeleitch7497
      @galeleitch7497 Рік тому

      It works both ways. Female African scam artists search for lonely older foreign men to scam money from while promising to meet them. A friend of a male friend of mine came into contact with a Gambian woman years ago and has been sending money to her for years. She makes up some fake excuse. She promised many times to visit him, but never has. He has sent her tens of thousands of dollars, but has never met her. All his friends have tried to tell him that she is a liar and a scam artist, but he keeps sending her money! He's in too deep.

    • @helena3631
      @helena3631 Рік тому +5

      Right this is horrible

  • @katherinecruz3849
    @katherinecruz3849 7 місяців тому +105

    As a 56 year old woman - It amazes me that any middle aged or older woman would be offended that a poor young man would want money for being with them.

    • @MsSassySean
      @MsSassySean 4 місяці тому +17

      😂😂😂😂 Especially if he's doing what she wants him to do!

    • @sabrinarodrigues629
      @sabrinarodrigues629 3 місяці тому

      Ain't nothing like a throbbing bbc!

    • @nayahdoris8472
      @nayahdoris8472 3 місяці тому +2

      Thank you mama

    • @BethanyYocum
      @BethanyYocum 3 місяці тому

      Exactly what I think as well. They are paying to play. 😂

    • @miss.kachinav2502
      @miss.kachinav2502 3 місяці тому

      I have to say at least sugar daddies are not delusional and understand the arrangement, these women are straight predators

  • @lynno6546
    @lynno6546 Рік тому +804

    The best thing about the video is the narrator`s insight. I love a thoughtful, intelligent person who genuinely tries to learn about and understand other cultures. He asked the best questions, has a strong sense of ethics, and is so candid in his responses. Brilliant!

  • @tinastardust7793
    @tinastardust7793 10 місяців тому +507

    The host of this story seems like such a genuinely kind and caring soul. I wish all the best for him!

  • @belle9360
    @belle9360 Рік тому +1665

    I’m impressed with the presenter. He’s a great balance of open-minded and skeptical, and his analysis allows for nuance and compassion without sacrificing realism. His analysis at 27:56 about believing the guy’s current sincerity, but also that it’s unlikely to last into the future is a surprisingly nuanced view being expressed by a presenter - we don’t get that often in this format of documentary.
    He also flags when people’s stories don’t add up, which is refreshing and insightful. He rightly spells out the history of colonialism and draws the link with the current situation, as well as makes plain that poverty drives this dynamic.
    The only piece of analysis that I wish he’d mentioned is that this same dynamic plays out all the time the world over but usually older men and younger women - this just feels more notable because it’s an unusual reversal of gender dynamics.

    • @giggs112008
      @giggs112008 Рік тому +38

      Well said!!

    • @ausendundeinenacht1
      @ausendundeinenacht1 Рік тому +47

      "The only piece of analysis that I wish he’d mentioned is that this same dynamic plays out all the time the world over but usually older men and younger women - this just feels more notable because it’s an unusual reversal of gender dynamics." EXACTLY
      Normally ...its men That Rule The Roast"
      Yep
      TOTALLY AGREE , yep the presenter seems nuanced and ok, doesn t he?

    • @trevormccarthy9019
      @trevormccarthy9019 Рік тому +35

      Indeed, and he shows a great deal of concern for his fellow Brits., balanced with understanding of realities of life in Africa for young African men.

    • @LaiaBertran
      @LaiaBertran Рік тому +17

      I was going to make a similar comment. Seyi is perfect balancing respect and skepticism :)

    • @pulakification
      @pulakification Рік тому +16

      He asked all the right questions.

  • @nekomochi486
    @nekomochi486 7 місяців тому +79

    the title made me spit out my tea, but I stayed for the intriguing documentary

  • @yugenknows740
    @yugenknows740 Рік тому +1034

    I love that moment when he says "I dont know who to feel sorry for anymore!" I'd say that sums up the whole situation perfectly.
    For me, I don't think I could get over the fact that this is where slaves were captured and the big houses used to belong to slave lords and then here you come as a European to pick out your young man. 😬

    • @charlotteschreiner2305
      @charlotteschreiner2305 Рік тому +54

      Nope - the "big houses" belong to Gambians selling drugs in Europe for MANY years! 😅😂🤣

    • @richasay9077
      @richasay9077 Рік тому

      I’m not going to excuse the European slave traders, but according to my reading, most of the capturing of slaves was done by the native Mandikas who traveled inland using the Gambia River as the corridor. Neither Islam nor Christianity would condone the lifestyles of the “male prostitution” that is taking place in this documentary. The decay of morality is not going to elevate the society and quality of life in the Gambia. Investment in infrastructure, education and industry will facilitate the rise from poverty. Exploitation is exploitation and no one wins in the end.

    • @DSmith-gs4tr
      @DSmith-gs4tr Рік тому +74

      Except now the men have a choice. They are willing participants.

    • @yugenknows740
      @yugenknows740 Рік тому +2

      @@charlotteschreiner2305 oh.... I thought he said slave traders in the video. My mistake!

    • @karencalhoun2503
      @karencalhoun2503 Рік тому

      Yes, it's like you're sleeping with your slave owner. You're on the other spectrum in of it and it's filthy and nasty. This is not what God called for a relationship.
      Where are the women of Gambia? I don't want to hear a black Gambian. Man. Say I don't want to marry a poor Gambian woman.
      Then build her up. Because getting with a slave owner is sickening.

  • @Ms.Francis
    @Ms.Francis Рік тому +555

    P seems like genuinely nice lady! I wish her all the luck in the world, plus she seems to be with someone her own age. The guy she is with is not exactly young. An eye-opening documentary. Well done!

    • @CedellaPopoTM
      @CedellaPopoTM Рік тому +3

      🇩🇲🇩🇲🇩🇲

    • @blacksilverchair3315
      @blacksilverchair3315 Рік тому

      Nice lady preying on young black men who are in poverty. Very nice lady indeed. This is a predator you call "nice lady".

    • @yugenknows740
      @yugenknows740 Рік тому +167

      That's what I thought.... a 50 year old man and 58 year old woman is not exactly a granny preying on a young man!

    • @countrickter
      @countrickter Рік тому +38

      P reminds of people back here in the US in my family. small world filled people looking for love. we all the same out here no matter gambia uk or the states.

    • @babsybabsy2822
      @babsybabsy2822 Рік тому +12

      But HE doesn’t look 50! He looks younger. But SHE looks 65 and not attractive That’s the difference. Now the man can live without having to ever work again thanks to granny!

  • @feliciapena9952
    @feliciapena9952 Рік тому +336

    😢😢 This is so sad. Africa the Continent with so many resources. And so much Poverty.

    • @mistrooth
      @mistrooth Рік тому +18

      like latin america 🤔

    • @shawnab9940
      @shawnab9940 Рік тому

      Colonizer effect. The damage is profound and the lingering attitude of superiority, white supremacism is repulsive.

    • @jurassicthunder
      @jurassicthunder Рік тому

      it's all because of government corruption. few gets what everyone needs.

    • @emeraldkaysgarden
      @emeraldkaysgarden Рік тому +6

      I wonder why???

    • @briansummers843
      @briansummers843 Рік тому +2

      @@emeraldkaysgarden No military power the big numeral kind I say know more

  • @Oooluuuu
    @Oooluuuu 4 місяці тому +48

    This is just genuinely sad. The guy with the 85 year old lover, is actually genuinely sacrificing himself to provide his dependents with a better life, and the 85 year old lady is trying to find happiness. It's a genuinely sad situation.

  • @briantbmoth6472
    @briantbmoth6472 Рік тому +482

    He said “I’m an poor Gambian, I don’t want to marry another poor person.” 😂 A lot of relationships with poor foreigners are like this.

  • @Kholmi.28
    @Kholmi.28 Рік тому +360

    This has to be one of the best investigators I've seen in a while. He's so personable; his confusion, his guilt, his anger. It feels like he's watching it all unfold with the viewers. This whole situation is genuinely creepy though.

    • @ingridakerblom7577
      @ingridakerblom7577 11 місяців тому +12

      It's even worse the other way around. When men go to asian countries to find a wife.

    • @twisi6318
      @twisi6318 11 місяців тому +4

      @@ingridakerblom7577 whys that?

    • @lorencelaflair4306
      @lorencelaflair4306 10 місяців тому +10

      ​@@ingridakerblom7577lol it's even worse because men are doing it? It's equally F up

    • @kuritheking
      @kuritheking 10 місяців тому +3

      @@twisi6318it’s usually done in a predatory fashion that exploits a power dynamic

  • @jboepro1
    @jboepro1 Рік тому +552

    This was a roller coaster ride of emotions watching this. Some parts were hilarious, others were extremely sad

    • @davidvento5481
      @davidvento5481 Рік тому +13

      TBH I think the couple in the “Italian villa” house are just renting it for holidays. Why is that sign up saying it’s to let otherwise? You don’t just leave a “for rent” sign up and I doubt as she said “it was up before I came.” That doesn’t add up, nor does the lack of furnishings.

    • @1980tiffani
      @1980tiffani Рік тому +21

      It was… very interesting to watch. 😩, when dude on the beach said he didn’t want to marry a black, that crushed me. I understand the economic drive to be with a financially stable white woman in that type of environment… so so sad.

    • @HoneySuckle123
      @HoneySuckle123 Рік тому +7

      Passport Girls ❤

    • @dorothybassey8134
      @dorothybassey8134 Рік тому +11

      Sad is the word. Very sad indeed. Twisted situation where young men think an elderly foreign woman is the key to better living...

    • @siennamiel-wb7nl
      @siennamiel-wb7nl Рік тому +4

      None was hilarious if the roles were reversed they’d say we were stealing their women and they needed to protect them.

  • @sunshynejo
    @sunshynejo 6 місяців тому +72

    I just LOVE this host. He has lots of heart and is a smart man. Also, VERY easy on the eyes… 💜💜💜

    • @monilangeKootenays
      @monilangeKootenays 6 місяців тому +5

      Agreed. Nice looking, but great host

    • @jv-ep2tc
      @jv-ep2tc 5 місяців тому +1

      @@monilangeKootenays he sounds a bit like Mick Jagger

    • @shajuuddin2287
      @shajuuddin2287 4 місяці тому

      Hello dear friend, how are you from? I can ask you something

    • @prankgirl9112
      @prankgirl9112 4 місяці тому +1

      ​@@shajuuddin2287
      Are you from Gambia?

    • @Hayed999
      @Hayed999 4 місяці тому +5

      Creepy.

  • @margaretbrown6549
    @margaretbrown6549 10 місяців тому +124

    I absolutely enjoyed this video! I can identify with P! When I’m in Jamaica that salt water takes away all of my pain, no back aches , no cane or Walker needed I just feel good, young and vibrant! The Jamaican men are awesome as well! Once I return home to Indiana then the pains slowly come back! So yes there is a lot of truth to what Mz P said. 🙏🏾❤️

    • @emmymwanza6566
      @emmymwanza6566 9 місяців тому +11

      I can relate to Ms p every time im in Africa,my back ache stops and the moment I get to New York pain comes back .Africa is a blessed land .

    • @STAR-tj7qo
      @STAR-tj7qo 9 місяців тому +5

      🛑🛑🛑I WOULD WANT MY OWN MEN. BLK N BEAUTIFUL. IT IS GOID TO DATE UR OWN MEN, N MEN TO DATE THEIR OWN BLK WOMEN.....WHITE MEN LOVE THEIR OWN N BLK MEN SHOULD LIKE THEIR OWN TOO. IT MAKE SENSE.... 😇😇😇👩🏾‍❤️‍💋‍👨🏾

    • @sarahmarie2911
      @sarahmarie2911 9 місяців тому +3

      I am in Indiana too 🤗

    • @simonphelps5793
      @simonphelps5793 9 місяців тому +8

      Its probably the sun and fresh air, neither of which you get in the UK.

    • @ivorysteele
      @ivorysteele 9 місяців тому +7

      I am from Jamaica but migrated to the USA many years ago. Yes you do feel pain free when you go back home. I love the beach

  • @SunSailandSand
    @SunSailandSand Рік тому +436

    Grand Pa goes to Thailand and Grand Ma goes to Gambia.

    • @12BY6
      @12BY6 10 місяців тому +6

      Yep

    • @babyramses5066
      @babyramses5066 10 місяців тому +16

      🤮

    • @lailaalanna315
      @lailaalanna315 9 місяців тому +9

      😂😂😂😂 indeed

    • @abalimmu
      @abalimmu 7 місяців тому +3

      well said

    • @Unanimous-q1l
      @Unanimous-q1l 5 місяців тому

      N they have their great grand children next year

  • @ultrajorge
    @ultrajorge Рік тому +528

    Why is nobody talking about the fact that the guy's name is KARL MARX? LOL

    • @makaylacree2965
      @makaylacree2965 11 місяців тому +11

      I thought the same thing!!!

    • @mrsrussell
      @mrsrussell 11 місяців тому +5

      Right

    • @enchanted1800
      @enchanted1800 11 місяців тому

      Well since the elites are now all communist trash no one bats and eye anymore.

    • @binbingam
      @binbingam 10 місяців тому +8

      Its a nick name

    • @PraiseOnMyLips
      @PraiseOnMyLips 10 місяців тому +10

      Because not all of us are nerds. We genuinely don’t care about that.

  • @lesliedishslayer
    @lesliedishslayer 7 місяців тому +58

    If this was a series I would watch. Well done showing multiple sides of a complex story!

    • @AA-wc3tw
      @AA-wc3tw 6 місяців тому +1

      This video is a more well-rounded version of 90-Day-Fiancee. That show is an addicting dumpster fire.

    • @DeeDee-wi4xo
      @DeeDee-wi4xo 5 місяців тому

      @@AA-wc3twits not even remotely similar.

  • @commonman711
    @commonman711 Рік тому +353

    When dude said he was in love with an 85 year old, I cracked a grin and chuckled. You can lie to us, but stop lying to yourself bro!!!

    • @bobspacon
      @bobspacon 10 місяців тому

      Yo, I kept yelling "n**ga!!!". He said it with a straight face😂, saying he gets hurt when they leave 😂😂. I wonder how he gets an erection for an 85 year old

    • @livia8227
      @livia8227 10 місяців тому +63

      Bro is committed to the scam! 🤣🤣🤣 make your money bro!

    • @artistpr5386
      @artistpr5386 10 місяців тому +24

      He is in love. He appreciates what she's done for him. Men in the West can learn a thing from some of these men..

    • @commonman711
      @commonman711 10 місяців тому +22

      @@artistpr5386 I surely hope you are playing, but if not, go ahead and count yourself as one of the D-U-M-M-I-E-S !

    • @adrianovasco3096
      @adrianovasco3096 10 місяців тому +3

      @@commonman711 I''m sure your mama is very proud of you. Your dad as well, of course.

  • @kenny3269
    @kenny3269 Рік тому +583

    “As soon as I land back in the UK, I’m back in pain.” That line changed my small, judgmental mind about what both sides are doing. Everyone has a right to happiness- even if it looks a lot different than what we may consider normal. Life seems to offer limited opportunities to truly feel free and happy. I hope everyone finds what they genuinely need and no one is hurt or scammed.

    • @vincelemaire
      @vincelemaire Рік тому +30

      I’m curious: what is the law that states that everyone has a right to happiness?

    • @beverleyheadley-glover371
      @beverleyheadley-glover371 Рік тому +18

      ​​@@vincelemaireWell. well as humans. L😢aw or no law , i so believe HAPPINESS CAN BE A RELATIVE word or term .

    • @Me-ir7ls
      @Me-ir7ls Рік тому +21

      Beautiful comment ❤

    • @kenny3269
      @kenny3269 Рік тому

      @@vincelemaire you aren’t curious- you are an a&@hole. Positive vibes only. Find another comment thread.

    • @belaayya5094
      @belaayya5094 Рік тому +27

      ​@vincelemaire -- if the OP is American, then it kinda is law. At least the right to pursue happiness. It's the foundation of our constitution-- life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. Heck, even Bhutan, such a tiny nation, measures their GDP in happiness. So let people pursue their dream and their happiness. If a woman has the money to support a man, and he has the moral code to keep her happy and loved, then let them be happy. Same as if a rich older man here marries a beautiful trophy wife, or if a European man marries a woman from Thailand or Vietnam.

  • @erinbrantley6857
    @erinbrantley6857 Рік тому +1063

    This makes me feel very sad. My ex husband is Gambian. There are only two years difference between us and we met here in the states. However as soon as he didn’t need me anymore financially he decided he wanted a second wife in Africa. We divorced. He married a woman from his culture and moved her here. I think the entire concept of love and marriage is different there.

    • @Alison-ku5ko
      @Alison-ku5ko Рік тому +241

      This should be seen as fraud.

    • @Opinlinz
      @Opinlinz Рік тому +213

      ​@@Alison-ku5ko
      It's done everyday in the U.S. by females who want to secure financial security and they aren't prosecuted for fraud. So how is that any different?

    • @Azulakayes
      @Azulakayes Рік тому +348

      I am sorry to say this but most African men, not just the Gambians consider African women to be their true wives/loves. Unless you meet a 2nd generation migrant/ one who has been culturally westernised, you will never be truly loved. I am an African woman and I know our men. They will tell you sweet nothings and all you want to hear but their hearts are back home. It is better to just avoid them. I am sorry for what you went through but we live and learn.

    • @annie_xo
      @annie_xo Рік тому +59

      @@Opinlinzit isn’t? And it’s just as wrong. No one is saying it’s ok for either gender

    • @Opinlinz
      @Opinlinz Рік тому +13

      @@annie_xo
      Well obviously some people do think its socially acceptable in society or I wouldn't have pointed it out.
      I've seen females everyday cosign this behavior when other females do it. With no regard for the male.

  • @goldenshoelaces
    @goldenshoelaces 9 місяців тому +131

    Love the way the presenter was open, honest, and non-judgmental. It's fabulous. Really can't undersrand the dynamic, but if they are all adults, and its consensual, then wonderful.

    • @II-eb6mw
      @II-eb6mw 5 місяців тому +6

      He was judgemental, and I was here for it 😅

  • @TM-hc4nb
    @TM-hc4nb Рік тому +165

    "Nice to be nice, man brother" is now going to be a permanent fixture in my vocabulary

  • @RetroDutch77
    @RetroDutch77 Рік тому +337

    The ladies want s3x and companionship, the men want money. How far you take it is your own risk. No one is in the position to judge. P looked so young & vibrant it was incredible. I almost cried. The questions & insight were spot on. I really didn’t expect this to be this good, man.

    • @Thedoublechamp
      @Thedoublechamp Рік тому +4

      Absolutely right bro its like an ecosystem in Gambia

    • @temmiepet4183
      @temmiepet4183 Рік тому

      It's prostitution just like how it is in some Asian countries

    • @hzlkelly
      @hzlkelly Рік тому +5

      The fact that some are married

    • @tinadepratto603
      @tinadepratto603 Рік тому +11

      ​@@hzlkellyAlka died in 2021 he drowned in the ocean while his wife watched him float away they found his body days later.R.I.P Alka🙏

    • @ashasweetyu
      @ashasweetyu Рік тому

      White women don’t give money…they man want an opportunity to travel abroad not money as white ppl don’t usually give out money

  • @Catherine-2008
    @Catherine-2008 Рік тому +55

    I really like the interviewer! He seems very caring and compassionate.

  • @cissiepierce664
    @cissiepierce664 7 місяців тому +20

    If I were 85 years old and some young guy was telling me that he wants me to die in his arms I’d be hobbling the other way as fast as I could! I’d be afraid that the unspoken part of that statement was “as quickly as possible”.

  • @letitialoughmiller1802
    @letitialoughmiller1802 Рік тому +469

    It's the same as men going to the Philippines and hooking up with the young local girls.

    • @maryrose2757
      @maryrose2757 Рік тому

      Why Philippines only? Those predators are in your own country preying on your american prostitutes which are everywhere left and right. They just go to asia cause it's "cheaper". But in reality they are in your own backyard. You should watch prostitute videos in your own country with your own race prostitutes.

    • @maurreese
      @maurreese Рік тому +16

      Exactly!!

    • @claudinegerard5
      @claudinegerard5 Рік тому

      In the Phiippines , they are underage. Pedophiles goes to the Philippines.

    • @toddshaw9441
      @toddshaw9441 Рік тому +13

      I know it ain't right but it DOES seem worse when us men do it tho!! 😂 Idk y!

    • @LUX_8
      @LUX_8 Рік тому +66

      ​@@toddshaw9441Because it usually is. Those males aren't going to the Philippines to hook up with grandmothers. They're going there to hook up with someone's under-age GRAND-DAUGHTER! 🙄

  • @paulgoebertp
    @paulgoebertp Рік тому +370

    I really like this piece. I didn't trust the couple with the rented house, I felt she might be in on some scam with him together. She got nervous and started fudging the ages herself, it seemed off. The reporter is excellent and I hope to see more of his work.

    • @rockhaven4435
      @rockhaven4435 Рік тому +74

      Yup. At first it seemed like she was a victim of her husband's deception. But after a while it seemed like she was engaging in some deception herself... (self-deception at the very least, because it seemed like there was some hidden truth that was starting to rise to the surface, but she didn't want to see it).

    • @smome777
      @smome777 Рік тому +54

      I think she wants to build him up to be some kind of "entrepreneur" or capable of his own income bc that way she doesnt get painted as funding his lifestyle.

    • @schadenfreude000
      @schadenfreude000 Рік тому

      I bet she's feeding into the lie that this house is all "his" money so she can commit some kind of tax evasion in the UK.

    • @LDeniseJackson
      @LDeniseJackson Рік тому +3

      Right

    • @specialk4455
      @specialk4455 Рік тому +11

      The house was a beautiful place..rented or not

  • @JoyJoie-7
    @JoyJoie-7 Рік тому +100

    What a great host/narrator/ journalist. He is truly a class act .

  • @ThereseDavidson
    @ThereseDavidson 8 місяців тому +148

    This is not relationships of love, this is relationships of convience

    • @mscptizzy
      @mscptizzy 7 місяців тому +3

      As are most relationships. You get out of it what you put in. Some just put in money.

    • @ThereseDavidson
      @ThereseDavidson 7 місяців тому +5

      @@mscptizzy Oh that makes me sad thinking that's where humanity is.

    • @cattymajiv
      @cattymajiv 7 місяців тому +3

      @@ThereseDavidson Always has been.

    • @brunoqnzbk7891
      @brunoqnzbk7891 7 місяців тому +2

      Like women haven't been treated worse

    • @MarkivaGrant
      @MarkivaGrant 6 місяців тому +4

      It's LUST on these white women part and Opportunity of Stability on the Gambian Men part

  • @acjfiddler
    @acjfiddler Рік тому +230

    How can it be an equal exchange of like minded people when the men are impoverished. You do what you have to do and make the best of it. I can't help but feel that Gambian women are being cheated out of a future with a Gambian man.

    • @spinrash6000
      @spinrash6000 Рік тому

      Right it’s not black and white
      All the men are lying the wife and kids are at the other house

    • @AbsentWithoutLeaving
      @AbsentWithoutLeaving Рік тому +32

      acjfiddler - Well, but not really. In set-ups like this, the man most likely will have (if he doesn't already have) a second relationship - with a Gambian woman/wife as well, and they will raise a family. And it's highly probably (if not certain) that everybody will be aware of the arrangement, even if it may go unspoken for their whole lives.

    • @bunnyboo6295
      @bunnyboo6295 Рік тому

      What about lonely old white men that buy love from poor countries

    • @suziecreamcheese211
      @suziecreamcheese211 Рік тому

      The Gambian women are in on it.

    • @jurassicthunder
      @jurassicthunder Рік тому

      if they marry with Gambian women then the poverty line will just circulate forever making it harder for everyone now and future generations. It's a compromise they have to make

  • @loubock3238
    @loubock3238 Рік тому +128

    The host is a wonderful down to earth realist, love that about him and how he openly give his views. These woman are lucky that the host has given them some honest advice about their relationships with Gambian men. The host's feelings about these women and who they're dating/marring is spot on. Wonderful video

    • @wilpri
      @wilpri Рік тому +8

      Giving them advice? haha. They're way older than him. They don't need his advice. They know what they're doing.

  • @Arriyad1
    @Arriyad1 10 місяців тому +60

    P. is full of wisdom and realism. She will be very happy, whatever happens… good luck, P.

    • @raumyurena5693
      @raumyurena5693 9 місяців тому

      She's sexually exploiting a man who is only enduring it due to his economic hardship..

    • @jackdobson1992
      @jackdobson1992 9 місяців тому +1

      P is such a cool.human being, i love her energy for life.

  • @heatherann1465
    @heatherann1465 7 місяців тому +14

    I worked closely with a woman (54) went to Gambia and married a 20 yr old man. He could not fake his attraction to her unfortunately. She passed away shortly after they married but she would rarely talk about it. His inability to overcome the physical aspects of the relationship made her very embarrassed. It was not a good situation. However, i supported her in any way i could.

  • @emilypenick9414
    @emilypenick9414 Рік тому +111

    Wow. What an amazing piece. I'd love to hear Gambian women speak about this as well. Perhaps it could be the next chapter in the docu-series?

    • @nomaddiaries9790
      @nomaddiaries9790 Рік тому

      Gambian women dreaming for white man too

    • @Nethanda
      @Nethanda Рік тому +12

      Why is that? Lmao. They don't need to. They're counting the cash earned by their brothers and boyfriends from naive old women.

    • @Mbember-g7w
      @Mbember-g7w 3 місяці тому

      Who cares? It's not about them

    • @lasdfghjk621
      @lasdfghjk621 Місяць тому

      @@Nethanda you're so right don't forget the husband too

  • @kreh1100
    @kreh1100 Рік тому +417

    This host covers some great situations. I really enjoy his documentaries ❤

    • @marcoprolo1488
      @marcoprolo1488 Рік тому +1

      Bad mouthing his own friends. ??????

    • @camore5422
      @camore5422 Рік тому +3

      @@marcoprolo1488 bad mouthing whom?

    • @michaeldrakessoG
      @michaeldrakessoG Рік тому +3

      He is too medling. He needs to keep out of the business of others. If you are trying to find out something do your research but don't try to influence the outcome of others. Mind yoir business and allow others to live the lives they choose. On the other hand, does he really know these people? And what does he really know about them?

    • @kelliott7864
      @kelliott7864 Рік тому +2

      He intentionally stirs up drama and pretends it was by accident.

    • @DeedraBoyer
      @DeedraBoyer 3 місяці тому +1

      What else has he done? I would enjoy seeing more of his interviews

  • @Millesolovely
    @Millesolovely Рік тому +230

    This man is incredibly compassionate. ❤ This ended up being something very different than I expected.

    • @katherinewagoner741
      @katherinewagoner741 Рік тому +7

      I gathered that he is pure in heart. Gorgeous Soul!

    • @partridgefamilybus2021
      @partridgefamilybus2021 11 місяців тому +4

      Not at all. This operations is a scam run by grown men, taking advantage of old and lonely women for their money - yet this fool tries to convince you of the opposite. Insanity.

    • @tinastardust7793
      @tinastardust7793 10 місяців тому

      ​@@partridgefamilybus2021 A fool? You're the fool! He did nothing of the sort---he questioned their motives all along! How stupid of you that you don't have enough brains to follow the story!!

    • @xdranzer0004
      @xdranzer0004 10 місяців тому

      Flip the sexes around

    • @QueefCheef
      @QueefCheef 10 місяців тому

      Wow you're incredibly misinformed.​@@partridgefamilybus2021

  • @ehidiamenmichaele.4082
    @ehidiamenmichaele.4082 9 місяців тому +19

    "I don't think I've got the full picture here 🤔"
    😂

  • @juanitafortune5106
    @juanitafortune5106 Рік тому +605

    I'd say any "preying" going on is mutual. The old ladies have a need they want fulfilled.. just as the young men do. They're grown folks .They know exactly what they're doing. I think it's a pretty sad situation on both ends. This was very interesting. I'm Black American and I'd honestly not heard about this happening in Gambia. Thank you, so much, for this video. Very enlightening. Be well. Be safe. God bless. 🙏🙏🙏

    • @cabayern9416
      @cabayern9416 Рік тому +1

      Both sides are immoral. The women are delusional and the men actors/scammers.

    • @donnaevans5131
      @donnaevans5131 Рік тому +3

      Same here.

    • @geewizwiz3
      @geewizwiz3 Рік тому +27

      The same thing is happening in Jamaica as well.

    • @zawadiyahb.7982
      @zawadiyahb.7982 Рік тому

      I heard from the 80’s what happens between tourists and Gambians. Gambian men need to get some self respect and stop being cheap and nasty.

    • @asiam1528
      @asiam1528 Рік тому +10

      Exactly win win for everyone adult involved

  • @vladimirraphael444
    @vladimirraphael444 Рік тому +76

    Of course they never argue. She the boss.

  • @ninalib
    @ninalib 9 місяців тому +27

    This is so enlightening... I am from the other side of the world, this is such a faraway reality, and yet, nothing about humans and human relationships should be alien... Thank you for your great work!

  • @christinestewart960
    @christinestewart960 8 місяців тому +70

    Well the men in England go the Thailand and Filipines and married these young girls no one blink an eye but if the women's do it is another story

    • @billiechung
      @billiechung 6 місяців тому +8

      We do blink an eye. How do you think you have the knowledge

    • @studiscool88
      @studiscool88 6 місяців тому +6

      It's wrong either way it goes.

    • @sandramiller2792
      @sandramiller2792 6 місяців тому +1

      Both are wrong and disrespectful of the other human.

    • @D402S
      @D402S 5 місяців тому +5

      We do blink an eye 🤦‍♂️. There are hundreds of documentaries on how old men go to these countries and "marry" young women.

    • @ltlwlwl5057
      @ltlwlwl5057 4 місяці тому +1

      The younger people aren't innocent. Both males & females know they are using the financial stability of the older. The Older people aren't innocent... they know the only reason they have a younger person is because that person is financially desperate.

  • @reshmisaha
    @reshmisaha Рік тому +102

    The host is amazing, I honestly see so much of myself in him, thinks and talks like me. Love his curiosity and thought process combined with the caring nature

  • @ShaniceN
    @ShaniceN Рік тому +581

    I am Jamaican, and I know for a fact in Jamaica that this happens in tourists destinations too. I personally believe this is directly tied to slavery and the legacy of it.

    • @Mehki227
      @Mehki227 Рік тому +1

      ​@citizenx-jz4dfMaybe so, but the fact is many people, especially whites are very much in the master-slave, superior/inferior concept. One of the reasons why whites go around the world to Asian and black countries seeking to fulfill their flesh at the exploitation of the vulnerable - men, women and children. Open your eyes and face reality. Whites think black and brown people are on earth to serve them, including sexually.

    • @ulli5328
      @ulli5328 Рік тому

      I don’t agree. They come to get laid, because caribean men would lay them.

    • @briopalumpus8676
      @briopalumpus8676 Рік тому +46

      The power relations. They get the left over European women.

    • @desireewhatever3138
      @desireewhatever3138 Рік тому +71

      ​@citizenx-jz4dfwhere you think they got the slaves from...

    • @erinbrantley6857
      @erinbrantley6857 Рік тому +75

      @citizenx-jz4df of course there was slavery in Gambia. Kunta Kinteh was from the Gambia. They had the doors to nowhere where they loaded the slave ships. Major port for the Atlantic slave trade. Slavery in the Americas and the Gambia are 100 % tied together

  • @Nosey_Rosie_Posie_
    @Nosey_Rosie_Posie_ Рік тому +448

    This work you are doing is so important. I've been watching documentaries about older British women scammed by young men they meet while on vacation in various countries across Africa. The British women are always portrayed as the victims. However, I can't help but consider whether they would be considered victims if they were white men dating very young girls in Southeast Asia. We need more unbiased perspectives such as your own that show both sides of the story. Well done-please keep up the great work!

    • @carolynnalvarez
      @carolynnalvarez Рік тому +12

      Took the thought out of my brain girl!!

    • @Morrosoy28
      @Morrosoy28 Рік тому +4

      But these are woman and not men, race is irrelevant.

    • @redpillsatori3020
      @redpillsatori3020 Рік тому

      Normally I would agree, but this documentary is obviously thinnly-veiled anti-yt-ism. It's a joke to think that grandmas, in a foreign country, are somehow "predators".

    • @whowho1769
      @whowho1769 Рік тому +20

      ​@@Morrosoy28 Gender is. Race?
      Not so much... quit being wilfully oblivious. It's ALWAYS about race. And by the way, you can thank the Europeans for that.

    • @ankushchauhan2049
      @ankushchauhan2049 Рік тому +2

      Your comparison is a little off. Older men with money date younger women from all over the world, not just old white men and not only the Southeast Asia. Rich and old men date more white women than Southeast Asian. Sugar daddies/mommies is the frequent term used in the scenario. Both the sides enjoy their reason for the relationship. If old British women dating young Gambian women is frowned upon, then all relationships in the world where older men date young women should be too.
      If your reason of comparison was that western men are seeking wives abroad, that is a totally different scenario, they find love, marry, and together start a family where they can be financially stable. No one exploits the other in that relationship, and many a times both the partners earn.

  • @lm8544
    @lm8544 8 місяців тому +140

    What surprises me is that these women aren't afraid.

    • @johnnyharka6609
      @johnnyharka6609 8 місяців тому +37

      If something bad happens to a single woman, it has effects on the whole tourism industry. So these women are almost above law even if govt publicly says prostiution doesn’t exist.

    • @TishCane
      @TishCane 7 місяців тому +38

      @@johnnyharka6609not even in that sense. They don’t care about their health sleeping with men they have no idea what they’re doing

    • @johnnyharka6609
      @johnnyharka6609 7 місяців тому +23

      @@TishCane i mean, they already have a leg in their graves 😂

    • @BiggestHater754
      @BiggestHater754 7 місяців тому +10

      Afraid of what

    • @zahrak7072
      @zahrak7072 7 місяців тому +3

      @@johnnyharka6609 🤣🤣🤣

  • @mek5438
    @mek5438 Рік тому +115

    The old ladies are telling us openly why they go to Gambia. Therefore, the old ladies cannot be a prey, because they go to Gambia to look for younger Gambian men. In this case, the old ladies have the power of money that they can use to prey on the younger Gambian men. Fortunately, the old ladies do not have to spend too much energy because their presence in the beach is enough to become a glamorous lure for the poor Gambian younger men.

    • @itsgonnabeanaurfromme
      @itsgonnabeanaurfromme Рік тому

      People like you are the worst kind of racist. Those men are adults who choose to do that. They're not children who are manipulated just because they're poor.

    • @blacksilverchair3315
      @blacksilverchair3315 Рік тому +9

      Glamour? I don't think that's the right definition of this situation. 😂😂

    • @pierrerochon7271
      @pierrerochon7271 Рік тому +3

      In this scenario -- NO ONE IS PREYING- GROWN PEOPLE- it is what it is

    • @Dah42
      @Dah42 Рік тому +3

      @@pierrerochon7271 I agree.. but, would you be saying the same thing if the genders were reversed? People seem to react very different when it's an older, wealthy man with a younger, poor woman.

    • @NSTSLIM
      @NSTSLIM Рік тому

      They are predators no diffrent then men

  • @phyllisnunn2061
    @phyllisnunn2061 Рік тому +179

    Interesting reversal. He says it feels degrading to see the men standing and waiting to be chosen. Imagine the thousands of women who've been through this very same thing, often because they, too, had no other options.

    • @Xx5thofHennyxX
      @Xx5thofHennyxX Рік тому +24

      It would still feel degrading.

    • @adrianmainz2716
      @adrianmainz2716 11 місяців тому +6

      somehow you are claiming that those women are victims. They are not

    • @phyllisnunn2061
      @phyllisnunn2061 11 місяців тому

      No, I am not.​@@adrianmainz2716

    • @anthrocene2907
      @anthrocene2907 10 місяців тому +24

      @@adrianmainz2716 he's not talking about these wealthy white women, but other countries (including those in the west) where female prostitution is prevalent and equally dangerous, with an added layer or mysoginy and systemic violence towards women.

    • @Roses-lilac
      @Roses-lilac 10 місяців тому +6

      Like a slave market

  • @b.1162
    @b.1162 Рік тому +334

    Transactional relationships come in all forms across the globe. In fact, that's the norm throughout history. Marrying for "love" is a very recent concept. As long as all involved are adults and have no cognitive issues, who's to judge.

    • @shanazblacksun7201
      @shanazblacksun7201 Рік тому +17

      A fulll grown man should never be in the relationship and can't provide...

    • @lolaispure4296
      @lolaispure4296 Рік тому +40

      ​@@shanazblacksun7201tell that to the grannies with the goodies. You think they dont know money dictates power dynamics?😂😂

    • @bre_la_bennett
      @bre_la_bennett Рік тому +23

      And that all individuals involved are willing participants.

    • @organicforlife597
      @organicforlife597 Рік тому

      The parties in this regard do have cognitive issues, the women are typically codependent and the men covert narcissists! Trauma bonds, exploitation all the way!

    • @christigoth
      @christigoth Рік тому +6

      yeah, because old women often do have cognitive issues.

  • @OnlyJalenPhd
    @OnlyJalenPhd 2 місяці тому +1

    This was so good! I love the journalist, he’s so compassionate for each side, and he truly appreciates the human life.

  • @GuitarsRgood7
    @GuitarsRgood7 11 місяців тому +96

    I love the reporter. He's good at speaking and hearing all sides.

    • @ReshonBryant
      @ReshonBryant 9 місяців тому

      Ngl thought that was John Forte in the thumbnail. On some tf?🚬🧐

    • @kitiowa
      @kitiowa 9 місяців тому +1

      I notice how conservatively he is dressed. I get the impression he is trying to not "fit in" with the prospective partners. Imagine coping with tropical heat wearing long pants/trousers after leaving winter in Europe.

    • @ReshonBryant
      @ReshonBryant 9 місяців тому +1

      @@kitiowa I don't recall the man sweating at all🌝

  • @technana3.141
    @technana3.141 Рік тому +77

    The interviewer is so compassionate and so adorable

    • @TraciJoseph-h2h
      @TraciJoseph-h2h 8 місяців тому +2

      Adorable? Hes a grown man, granny.

    • @technana3.141
      @technana3.141 8 місяців тому

      @@TraciJoseph-h2h He's still adorable ...and a decent man. Nothing wrong with appreciation. Don't be mad that he has no interest in a sour puss.

    • @technana3.141
      @technana3.141 8 місяців тому +2

      ​​@@TraciJoseph-h2h Yes, a grown and adorable compassionate Brit.. One can see that age will never be an issue for you. That sour tude will fuel your own broom for a lifetime. 😂 😂

    • @NatureWins22
      @NatureWins22 4 місяці тому

      He’s not interested granny

    • @technana3.141
      @technana3.141 3 місяці тому

      @@NatureWins22 And I'm not interested in him except to pay him a compliment. Sorry that you've been so rejected and shunned that you attack even kind words from one stranger to another. I was admiring his depth and compassion, nothing more. Im sure there is a toad ( or toadess) out there for you. Try smiling once in a while instead of screeching out an angry " ribet" at every turn. The world is what we make it. 😛😁

  • @tayriobravo6204
    @tayriobravo6204 Рік тому +374

    This is the female version of passport bro’s just as old white women. It’s just as gross and deplorable. As a woman I would hate being on either end of this. Someone being with me just for what I could do for them financially or pimping myself out for income. It’s all bad.

    • @JulieDeuxFois
      @JulieDeuxFois Рік тому +65

      the difference is, no children end up suffering. Men leave children behind. grannies do not

    • @renaissancewoman100
      @renaissancewoman100 Рік тому

      At least the women actually marry some of the men. The passport bros go to buy coochie and have their egos stroked.

    • @SapphireLyric
      @SapphireLyric Рік тому +8

      The comment I was looking for!

    • @carstenhansen5757
      @carstenhansen5757 Рік тому +12

      Old black women too it seems.

    • @yugenknows740
      @yugenknows740 Рік тому +15

      Seems a little judgey. A lot of these people get married so who are you to say it's wrong if they're both happy?

  • @corgisrule21
    @corgisrule21 5 місяців тому +8

    I’ve never heard of this happening…never knew Gambia was a tourist destination either. Thank you for sharing❤️

  • @ms.anderson7064
    @ms.anderson7064 Рік тому +232

    I'm an older woman. What can I
    offer a man my nephews age
    - (young adult) ? It sounds like
    the men are impoverished and the women are paying for attention from the men. Older men pay for attention from younger women all the time. This is a similar situation and it is sad. Why don't older men and women help younger adult couples and not utilitize them for their own purposes. That would be better.

    • @AMYP6
      @AMYP6 Рік тому +7

      Low self-esteem and competition.

    • @Missylikessongs
      @Missylikessongs Рік тому +13

      @@AMYP6 they are also selfish and unable to see the other person's struggle

    • @christigoth
      @christigoth Рік тому +16

      old man + old woman. that is better, a 10-12 year age gap is still same generation.

    • @MiguelDLewis
      @MiguelDLewis Рік тому +4

      @@christigoth Old rich men want children though, and old women can't have children. Agape is the only way. Ephesians 5:25✝

    • @insertname2035
      @insertname2035 Рік тому +18

      ​@@MiguelDLewisold rich men already have children 😂 they just have more with younger woman because she doesn't have any yet

  • @tishmonikemassey3781
    @tishmonikemassey3781 Рік тому +33

    P and Bob look good together...wishing them continued joy and happiness

  • @donnamarcelle7802
    @donnamarcelle7802 Рік тому +72

    From a Caribbean sister..this was truly eye opening..i loved the reporter's interaction with everyone..i learnt alot..so many questions to ask ..hmmm this left me thinking 🤔

    • @decmemberdawn
      @decmemberdawn Рік тому +24

      The same thing happens in the Caribbean at the resorts

    • @MariaLopez-hc2nm
      @MariaLopez-hc2nm Рік тому

      😅😅😅😅 yeah

    • @GodfreyTaiOyYong
      @GodfreyTaiOyYong Рік тому +9

      @@decmemberdawn Rent A Dread!!

    • @spinrash6000
      @spinrash6000 Рік тому

      @@GodfreyTaiOyYong😂😂😂lol rent a dread I heard it was men travelling for men at the resort come to Jamaica and feel all right

    • @GodfreyTaiOyYong
      @GodfreyTaiOyYong Рік тому

      @@spinrash6000 Okay.

  • @afton47
    @afton47 6 місяців тому +11

    The interviewer was excellent. I liked his comments about each couple. He seems to be very wise.

    • @EffSharp
      @EffSharp 5 місяців тому

      I agree. He needs to be on a big network doing investigative journalism, I hope he has a great career. ❤

  • @msann5044
    @msann5044 Рік тому +71

    I started to scroll past this video but the title grabbed my interest.
    Therefore I tapped on this platform and was totally captivated with interest. I must say I totally enjoyed the host and his compassion and assertiveness. It's so good to keep up with what's going on around the world.
    Thank you for this video, I do pray that all the women find true love and longevity in their relationship ❤️.
    Nevertheless beware of wolf in sheep clothing.

    • @gigi4874-w3w
      @gigi4874-w3w Рік тому +2

      I did too.

    • @donnaevans5131
      @donnaevans5131 Рік тому +6

      And I hope the guys they find are genuine and treat them well.

  • @rosegreen8441
    @rosegreen8441 Рік тому +158

    To me P's relationship is the least problematic. It doesn't look like P is giving Bob money and they are the same race and in the same age group. Also, unlike the other European women, P seems genuinely happy and carefree in her relationship.

    • @schadenfreude000
      @schadenfreude000 Рік тому +18

      Maybe. But they'll probably be divorced as well in a few years. Once he has enough money, he'll divorce her for a younger wife he can have a family with. Maybe Bob's hit the jackpot by finding a woman he at least can actually like, but it's still a hustle in the end.

    • @arikalamari19
      @arikalamari19 Рік тому

      so you believe in race smh idiot, the reporter as well as p have different a nationality than the natives, privileges and opportunities come with a passport, not to speak about social upbringing and and and

    • @kristaschnarr6979
      @kristaschnarr6979 Рік тому +18

      Same race…matters less than that they are the same age. A black man and white woman same age is not problematic either.

    • @jasmineivy1715
      @jasmineivy1715 Рік тому +12

      @@kristaschnarr6979it’s still problematic if he’s with her because she’s his only way to survive and she’s taking advantage of that.

    • @HolisticManifesting
      @HolisticManifesting Рік тому +3

      ​@@schadenfreude000not everyone wants kids, especially men lol

  • @savvyjenjen
    @savvyjenjen Рік тому +83

    Seyi, you are an amazing journalist. This popped up as I was researching poly relationships in America. Great documentary with great balance. I only wish to see women from Gambia giving their perspective as a follow-up/Part 2.

  • @samanthamolefe9337
    @samanthamolefe9337 7 місяців тому +16

    These men are not telling their true age. No way that guy is 46... he looks mid 30s

  • @Peppymoke
    @Peppymoke Рік тому +35

    what an open minded, respectful, curious and humorous interviewer. So Refreshing!

    • @prettybabyface7313
      @prettybabyface7313 11 місяців тому +2

      Absolutely..i said the same thing

    • @FettiMagazine
      @FettiMagazine 9 місяців тому

      No he wasn’t. He was prying at the people trying to find dirt or trying to get the people to say something negative about their partners

    • @Peppymoke
      @Peppymoke 9 місяців тому

      @@FettiMagazine Then we see things differently. He tried to cover multiple aspects of their relations without being one-sided or naive.

  • @kevinkevan2403
    @kevinkevan2403 Рік тому +41

    This woman is real and honest, everything she said, weather, happiness, love that she feels, priceless.

    • @Upgraydez
      @Upgraydez Рік тому

      How do u feel about the prostitution? is that good for anyone?

    • @Kattywagon29
      @Kattywagon29 Рік тому

      @@Upgraydez Prostitution is never good for either party. However, there are a lot of factors at play here in this situation and these men could be robbing people or doing something else that is dangerous to them or their community. This is a softer way to potential freedom and a lifestyle change. Most prostitutes, in the traditional sense, are just trying to get by on whatever scraps they can muster up. These men are gambling for lifechanging money. They can potentially take care of themselves and a large swath of their families.
      For the women's part, they are coming from a culture that doesn't value older women and doesn't validate them in a sexual space either. Older, single men are typically looking for younger women, for the same reasons these older women are looking for younger men: They want companionship, and they want to feel young and needed. That is what they are getting.
      Morally bankrupt? That's a matter of opinion. So long as everyone is happy in the end, that has to count for something. They are all adults here and if the government is unable to do anything to help these young men, then we can't sit here and judge.

    • @mnemonicpie
      @mnemonicpie Рік тому

      @@Upgraydez he is young, he needs money. Honor is for white colonizers

  • @TheTonyAndreas
    @TheTonyAndreas Рік тому +162

    Great piece! We need a part 2 that touches on STD’s, marijuana and the husbands some of these WHITE women are on holiday from in the UK!

  • @RennieAufdemstein
    @RennieAufdemstein 7 місяців тому +12

    The lady who feels well in Gambia but in pain in the UK - this is very true. I have an immune disease, and my body also reacts this way, altho, not Gambia as I have never been, but I live in an area quite high above sea level, lower oxygen & humidity, and am in pain. Places with high humidity and low altitude, and I feel fine. (just an fyi in case anyone is wondering why)

    • @sharonmontano4924
      @sharonmontano4924 5 місяців тому +1

      No one is wondering 😂

    • @littlegirllost2654
      @littlegirllost2654 4 місяці тому

      I didn’t know as I have an immune disease. I’m in pain and have done everything to ease it, nothing works

    • @Rasputinoid
      @Rasputinoid 4 місяці тому

      ​@@littlegirllost2654try traveling

  • @rooroob
    @rooroob Рік тому +57

    Excellent and nuanced! He really tries to look at things from many sides.

  • @NIKKICTV-nq4io
    @NIKKICTV-nq4io Рік тому +458

    They don’t even call it looking for “love” or a “relationship” they call it an OPPORTUNITY for Gods sake 🤦🏾‍♀️🙆🏾‍♀️

    • @Shay45
      @Shay45 Рік тому +61

      I like the honesty. Don’t call it “love” or a “relationship” if it is not.

    • @phroge1866
      @phroge1866 Рік тому +20

      @@Shay45 exactly. I don't see men having the same insightfulness when they are in these same situations.

    • @yes12337
      @yes12337 Рік тому +14

      And the lady saying about his Gambian fiance that he's a "human being" 🤦 🫠

    • @solidstate9451
      @solidstate9451 Рік тому +1

      @@yes12337 At least. I know people here in Germany who don't consider people beyond a certain darkness of the skin as humans. :(

    • @BrianBrayMedia
      @BrianBrayMedia 11 місяців тому +2

      An opportunity for both parties.

  • @xenostim
    @xenostim 11 місяців тому +240

    11:25 omg the granny taking her disco-nap in the middle of the club 😂😭🤣

    • @LastEmperor86
      @LastEmperor86 11 місяців тому +13

      Maybe she is even ded😂😂

    • @tinastardust7793
      @tinastardust7793 10 місяців тому +4

      😂😂😂😂

    • @tinastardust7793
      @tinastardust7793 10 місяців тому +18

      This mess is SAD. What about the white hair granny with the cane, standing on the curb??! 😂 They deserve to be scammed!

    • @amanuel9596
      @amanuel9596 10 місяців тому +9

      ​@@tinastardust7793 I think of it more as End of Life Care

    • @nosreg9514
      @nosreg9514 10 місяців тому +1

      LMAOF!

  • @GreenTees
    @GreenTees 7 місяців тому +12

    This is so interesting !! I wish there is a part 2 & 3 etc

  • @albionswede
    @albionswede Рік тому +146

    AKA men who take money from older women and pretend it's about "love." Neither of these people are having a real romantic relationship. It's all transactional.

    • @lilianasaba9846
      @lilianasaba9846 Рік тому +17

      Just like it is with young women who take money from older men. It is transactional and cross generational.
      Points to bigger issues of employment and governance in general

    • @HaggisMuncher-69-420
      @HaggisMuncher-69-420 Рік тому +14

      As long as both parties understand it's transactional then that's fine.

    • @marcoprolo1488
      @marcoprolo1488 Рік тому +7

      All relationships are transactional. And ?

    • @claudesantolini6335
      @claudesantolini6335 Рік тому +9

      These couples seem to be enjoying themselves, good luck to them, even if the women only have a few years to live, it seems to be a lovely place to be happy in. What is love, anyway, mutual attraction and enjoying being together. Bless them all.

    • @lilianasaba9846
      @lilianasaba9846 Рік тому +6

      @@claudesantolini6335 life is too short. Let them enjoy it.

  • @nicki66
    @nicki66 Рік тому +297

    This was an important documentary. I see in the comments some people saying that it is mutual but I see it as exploitation of people’s misfortune. Given the history of the Gambia and slavery it is even more disturbing. You do not get a sense that anyone is truly being authentic about what they want and need with the exception of 2 of the ladies.

    • @jessy1982
      @jessy1982 Рік тому +40

      The couple that never fights is a red flag to me. It doesn't mean they have nothing to fight about, but maybe that the man doesn't feel comfortable fighting to defend himself.

    • @DocBree13
      @DocBree13 Рік тому +3

      I agree

    • @DocBree13
      @DocBree13 Рік тому +31

      @@jessy1982or that the relationship is so superficial they have nothing to fight about

    • @charmingjinx9379
      @charmingjinx9379 Рік тому

      These women are a particular type. They NEED social interaction. They always NEED, always take advantage of others to fill their own needs, and have never been fully self-reliant, so they are susceptible. But I don't feel sorry for them. They're either gullible or delusional, or both. I highly doubt they've ever been in mature, respectable, romantic partnerships. I doubt they have healthy, appropriate relationships with their own children. The whole thing is sad. But, these situations are not the same as a gold digging, young, WESTERN woman searching for an old rich man. That's absolutely NOT the same thing. Western women have many more opportunities to enrich themselves than people from poor nations do, like these young men, so their gold digging is more predatory than desperate. These older women are definitely taking advantage of people who have no choice about poverty. They should know better and have higher expectations of themselves rather than choosing to use other people as toys. It's healthy to accept yourself as you are, age included. But there's an expectation of behaviour that goes with age. I'm a senior woman, BTW.

    • @ubiquitousblacks
      @ubiquitousblacks Рік тому +1

      There are people saying is mutual? 😂😂😂 wow

  • @OsamuyiOkpame
    @OsamuyiOkpame Рік тому +123

    Its really sad and humiliating for young people to feel so powerless and desperate in their country. The young people have dreams and hopes and energy. What will it take their government to create an enabling environment for businesses, innovation and empowerment and enterprises to thrive and these young people can be proud with their self worth and dignity.

    • @warsamek8275
      @warsamek8275 Рік тому +11

      you can thank our african leaders for this mess

    • @rubberbiscuit99
      @rubberbiscuit99 Рік тому +1

      I agree so much.

    • @we8608
      @we8608 11 місяців тому +4

      Higher education and a solid infrastructure.

    • @lazyscorpion3889
      @lazyscorpion3889 11 місяців тому

      West African men are this. Do not put this on African men. Even us from east south and north Africa are victims of these men. They marry our ladies to get passports from them. I don't know why issues of west Africa are generalized to the whole of Africa. Our country men do not even want dating old cargos from no where, people who colonized us? Never! This is a west African man's habit. They go around doing this to anyone who comes from a better land. Our governments are trying to kick them out because in as much as we are all Africans, this is not how we live. No man from east and south can do this BS! Unless you met him in Europe hustling but definitely not in our countries. Abomination

    • @JeanClaudeCOCO
      @JeanClaudeCOCO 11 місяців тому +3

      Absolutely, there is no hope and actual work on the ground for these young men. Imagine if the economy had jobs available they won’t resolve to this. These are capable men and if given the opportunity will earn an honest living. It’s sad.

  • @MSLIZZLA
    @MSLIZZLA 9 місяців тому +6

    😂😂😂 everything is up and down😅 the reporter is even confused

  • @cherylvilakazi884
    @cherylvilakazi884 11 місяців тому +290

    This is so disturbing on so many levels. I'd hate to be a normal tourist there trying to have a holiday only to be harrassed by the "tour guides" because these women have created a supply and demand market, as well as creating a false reality around the value of tourism for the locals.

    • @ThirdScribe19
      @ThirdScribe19 11 місяців тому +2

      there's way more to it then you think! espionage mission, and they've been doing it for a very long time!! ..

    • @partridgefamilybus2021
      @partridgefamilybus2021 11 місяців тому +10

      Its a scam operated by grown men, taking advantage of old and lonely women, yet this fool tries to convince you of the opposite. Insanity.

    • @TradBarbie
      @TradBarbie 11 місяців тому +2

      ​@@partridgefamilybus2021Well you know how it goes, some people can do *no* wrong, even if the
      they run up and p×nch an old person waiting for a bus.

    • @Gymthingz
      @Gymthingz 11 місяців тому

      @@partridgefamilybus2021how is it a scam when you go to their country to take advantage of the young men. This makes no sense. Like the woman are all good

    • @arleneirvine1526
      @arleneirvine1526 11 місяців тому

      oh come on!

  • @bayareacutiepie
    @bayareacutiepie Рік тому +70

    😂😂😂 Some of these dudes are down horrendous omg….The only relationship that seemed valid was “P”. She was a whole vibe! I loved her energy.

  • @MercedesRodriguez-ml7og
    @MercedesRodriguez-ml7og Рік тому +123

    I went to work and spent some years there. Yes, lots of male offers... But more interesting was to find out why 75% of women still suffer FGM and raise their sons to marry up to 4 wives. My female friends told me "even if you are happily married, he will come up one day and just inform you he's taking a second or third wife". Expectations are different.

    • @Nethanda
      @Nethanda Рік тому +7

      Yes, indeed let's blame the women who suffer the most. But then people like you are never backward in coming forward to talk nonsense about African women. It's to be expected at this point.

    • @Nethanda
      @Nethanda Рік тому +5

      @@ak47ava The gibberish you typed there is unintelligible. Learn to read and then you may address me. And perhaps not even then.

    • @ch3rries724
      @ch3rries724 11 місяців тому +2

      @@ak47ava😭😭girl what?

    • @lazyscorpion3889
      @lazyscorpion3889 11 місяців тому

      West Africa . Put that there

    • @amesblitz339
      @amesblitz339 11 місяців тому +6

      That's Islam, unfortunately. Some people blame "culture". But only Muslim majority countries can have FGM stats like that.

  • @Shane-sf9pv
    @Shane-sf9pv 4 місяці тому +11

    "We've never argued in 2 years" probably cause dude doesn't want to risk rocking the boat and losing his situation

  • @we8608
    @we8608 11 місяців тому +56

    My heart goes out to both the men and women involved in a situation like this. Love is sacred, but money corrupts everything. I hope one day humans are all equal, so that love can prevail.

    • @phonseng-hs6tp
      @phonseng-hs6tp 11 місяців тому

      if black men has their way they would ALL marry a white women

  • @Paperdogstudio
    @Paperdogstudio Рік тому +136

    It's sad when circumstance dictates how we orient our preferences-sexual or otherwise. It seems a very contrived existence for both parties involved.

    • @marcoprolo1488
      @marcoprolo1488 Рік тому +3

      Yes but it is not your life so ?

    • @MarinaLaroche
      @MarinaLaroche Рік тому +10

      Except that if the two parties get married which is the ultimate for a man there, he won't care for a while. Later he'll get fed up and many things can happen there to a woman....... after she's redone her will. In the long run, the man will the winner and the woman exploited more. Most of them we've seen seem unaware of all the stakes while the men do, just read between the lines of what we've seen in this doc.

  • @BillHanson-wu4nh
    @BillHanson-wu4nh Рік тому +43

    Very admirable narrator as he seeks to understand. It's a story played out in many countries all over the world as well as here in the USA. Many years ago I worked in Dakar and we drove to the Gambia for work. Never knew or heard of this at the time. Much respect to narrator for his work. Many insightful comments add to the story.

  • @genafuscaldo6373
    @genafuscaldo6373 6 місяців тому +3

    YOU ARE A AN AWESOME GUY ! It’s refreshing to see an Smart & Honest Man, Who truly Cares For This Woman who is for SURE, getting scammed.🌷🌷💗

  • @winniealwayo700
    @winniealwayo700 Рік тому +89

    The Engineer, plumber guy😅😅.. I don't believe him one bit!!

    • @LaZainabou
      @LaZainabou Рік тому +28

      Even his age, he was stammering...

    • @Luver4lyfe
      @Luver4lyfe Рік тому +32

      @@LaZainabou22:16 my goodness, and check out the old babe too, just chewing away at her fingers. They’re both lying, that man is in his 30s

    • @Vistacraft82
      @Vistacraft82 Рік тому +18

      Theres no way on earth that man erected that building singlehandedly. It's got foreign currency all over it. They both lying through their teeth. For her sake and sanity, I hope she knows what shes doing.
      When you see the whole family warming up to you, be damn sure you're giving more than you're getting

    • @sashao.1534
      @sashao.1534 Рік тому +1

      @@LaZainabouHe obviously has a speech impediment 🙄

    • @lailaalanna315
      @lailaalanna315 9 місяців тому +1

      ​@@Vistacraft82obviously he didn't build it with his own hands but clearly not all of the houses the locals lived in were small. They help each other build

  • @ravenbelote1801
    @ravenbelote1801 Рік тому +37

    P should live in Gambia. She seems so happy there. I hope she gets to.
    Enjoyed this video. Thank you!

    • @GypsyGirl317
      @GypsyGirl317 Рік тому +6

      I'm thinking she will. Her man seems to genuinely love her, and she is so much more healthy and happy there! 😍 🌿 🙆🏻‍♀️

    • @laurenxo6503
      @laurenxo6503 Рік тому +1

      @@GypsyGirl317he didn’t even flinch when she started crying. Dang y’all gullible 🙄. These people are SCAMMERS.

  • @talishak100
    @talishak100 Рік тому +116

    P and Bob the Builder are hilarious!! They seem just fine Bob has a grey beard and neither seems they are using each other. They are having fun. Michelle is delusional and her husband's family knows all about it. 🤣🤣

    • @zamo9266
      @zamo9266 Рік тому +36

      The "Engineer" aka "Plumber" aka "Painter", She's also a liar. She lied about his age, then the rental. Every time she was caught she'd bite her nails or get defensive

    • @GypsyGirl317
      @GypsyGirl317 Рік тому +5

      Yes, that one is an interesting situation. I think she will end up very vulnerable.

    • @AK27inAZ
      @AK27inAZ Рік тому

      Yeah, there's clearly something wrong with Michelle. She and that dude she married can't even keep their lies straight.

    • @donnaevans5131
      @donnaevans5131 Рік тому +4

      I’m worried for Michelle too.

    • @spinrash6000
      @spinrash6000 Рік тому +4

      @@zamo9266i hope she is not their slave somethings are off with that situation. I hope her family sees this and gets her help. The guy tried helping her showing her the picture of the rental. She lies like a victim.

  • @joanfedora7414
    @joanfedora7414 7 місяців тому +21

    It's gross when old men do it, it's gross when old women do it.

  • @cmessett11
    @cmessett11 Рік тому +36

    Oh boy, the host is spilling ALL the tea! Telling the dude's mom about the marriage, the house with the rental sign; it's risky business getting involved in other people's relationships!

    • @Loyale1229
      @Loyale1229 Рік тому +5

      Yeah… he’s a sneaky instigator… I was looking at him sideways throughout this whole interview

    • @mystuff8579
      @mystuff8579 Рік тому

      😂😂😂😂😂

    • @rodericksmith859
      @rodericksmith859 7 місяців тому

      He messy af. He's too biased even though he's trying not to but he is

  • @knowledgeispower7531
    @knowledgeispower7531 Рік тому +214

    I’ve dated African and Caribbean guys and honestly if you want to not be concerned about whether they really love you, you have to be equally yoked. Close in age and earnings. If not, there is always going to be that concern that someone is being taken advantage of.

    • @petitendu8488
      @petitendu8488 Рік тому

      I'm an African myself and I will never date an African man from outside my country, they just want to scam women

    • @nancydrew1882
      @nancydrew1882 Рік тому +9

      I agree.

    • @FrequentFlyer_MIA
      @FrequentFlyer_MIA 11 місяців тому +7

      Gambia is not the Caribbean, Totally different culture

    • @siaitsme6800
      @siaitsme6800 11 місяців тому +16

      ​@@FrequentFlyer_MIA
      But she said African too. Caribbean and African.....

    • @waynemaluleke2021
      @waynemaluleke2021 11 місяців тому +10

      ​@siaitsme6800 Africa has 54 countries, she gotta specify which country.

  • @aventurasimbolos1725
    @aventurasimbolos1725 Рік тому +153

    I loved this video and the narrator's empathy and impartiality.

    • @AYes-m3r
      @AYes-m3r 11 місяців тому

      impartiality? the title claims the grannies are preying, these men are preying on them doe their money. takes two

  • @sherrymiller1822
    @sherrymiller1822 8 місяців тому +5

    Im so excited to see two sides to this story...any story! Awesome interviewer.