I don't dress modestly and I really appreciate your message. Wearing short skirt doesn't make a woman a bad or a good person. Women should all support each other. I live in France and it is really difficult here for hijabis and even women who wear modest clothes. (A girl was forbidden to go to school because her long skirt was considered a religious symbol 🙄). Even if the sexism seems obvious in this war against hijab there has been little solidarity between women...
+Leila 'modesty' and its opposite, 'immodesty' are nothing more than cultural concepts which in turn spring from religion. To believe in the idea of covering up the body completely because you think showing certain parts or all of it for that matter is 'immoral', 'sinful', etc, betrays an inherent belief that the human body is somehow nasty, evil and wrong. The one cannot exist without the other. End of story. And the other argument that religious people use for covering up, (respect for their god) has no logic. Lets just say for argument's sake that a god exists and he created humans. How can his creation (the naked human body) offend him if he created it?! It makes no sense whatsoever. Goes to show what utter confused drivel all religions are without exception. You mentioned hijabs in particular. You have to remember that for many Isalmic women it is enforced, it is not a choice. You cannot be a western feminist (in the full, free sense of the word) and support the hijab, which worn by choice or not, is a symbol of oppressing women (whether Islamic women want acknowledge it or not, it is).
@@anonymousforever Agree to disagree. That's like hiding a lamp under a basket. You know what the truth is and it scares you, because you know in your heart that what you're doing is wrong. Your conscience convicts of it.
Thank you for this message. As a Christian woman I get so frustrated with comments about women who only wear skirts, women who cover their head in church, women who stopped wearing skirts and now wear pants, etc. Just let people be!
I think we need to dress to feel comfortable but always remember to keep it respectful for ourselves and those around us, and specially because we are God's children.
@@jessicabeca1234 That doesn't fit in with feminists and their political correctness agenda. Men criticising women: sexist. Women criticising men: female previlidge.
As someone who doesn’t have any religious belief directing my wardrobe choices, I wear both very ‘modest’ outfits and fairly revealing outfits depending on how I want my style to be expressed that day, the weather, my mood, my confidence level, my current mental state in general, etc. I appreciate your words of love and kindness and thank you for expressing so eloquently how terrible it is to give compliments that are back-handed or tear others down in the process. It’s very important to be aware of our words and the power they hold. I will say that I don’t use ‘modest’ to express my less revealing/more ‘covered up’ looks because, while I disagree that stripping down is inherently ‘empowering’ for women, I just don’t like the surrounding negative/religious culture of modesty, similarly to purity culture, as it brings a lot of shame and damage with it and it’s a shame. I think people should dress as they please, in a way that brings them confidence and inner peace and joy, not for others (and on days like today that means a long sleeved top and a flowy maxi skirt, while yesterday that mean a lacy bustier top, platform goth kid boots, and a mini skirt. I’m also angry about people looking at moms’ outfits and style in a more judgement-filled way; the length of my shorts or the cut of my neckline don’t determine my abilities as a mother to raise a child well. My wonderful daughter will learn from my words and actions to respect people’s clothing choices of any coverage level and dress for herself in a body-positive way.
Modesty is a behaviour that performs part of our character and is reflected in our social interactions, it is not clothing. Different cultures wear different styles of clothing. I would never assume that a man or woman who wore no clothes, or minimal clothing, lacked modesty. Modesty is about having humility, i.e. not being boastful, arrogant, pretentious or vain. Character should not be linked to the yardage of fabric one wears, or where on the body anyone wears it. Having said that, I live in a chilly climate, wear quite a lot of clothes and like to think I'm reasonably modest and polite in my behaviour to others, however, the clothes have nothing to do with it. My character is the same even when I'm in the bath!
I want to thank you so much for doing this video. It really needs to be said by more people. I'm so tired of hearing people call modest dressing women respectable and classy and women who reveal more of their bodies as 'lacking decency'. A person should be respected regardless of how little or how much clothes they wear and you so eloquently put this in this video. I myself dress modestly because I like the silhouettes that more fabrics give, I think it looks beautiful and more flattering on me, (it isn't for religious or cultural reasons) so when people tell me I look better than other women and classier it makes me so angry because it's just a style preference. People also make it seem like you have to be religious to dress modest and you're othered if you aren't religious in the modest community. Modest dressing is a different journey for everyone and it shouldn't be debated. I appreciate that you said if you think someone looks beautiful tell them that, but don't tell them it's because you did 'this' and because you didn't do 'that'. No one really has a right to regulate anyone in this diverse world. Thank you so much for your message, you make me for one feel represented and you respect everyone while doing that.
Urmila Ramaa the way you wrote this! 👏🏼 thank you! I couldn’t agree with you more. Every single person deserves respect without question. I get so uncomfortable when people think we are about to bond over bashing a woman who shows more of her body 😒
I have the opposite problem, I get complaints for wearing modest clothing. My father literaly tried to demand I wear something revialing to my prom . . . . "it is such a shame to hide, your such a pretty young woman" Like I owe people, like they are entitled to ogle me and rightfuly put of, that I do not accomodate them . . . Just let everyone dress, how they feel comfortable
Beautiful words! My entire life I felt uncomfortable in clothes that were revealing. Last year I found your channel and you've helped me see that its a normal choice to make for yourself. It gave me strength to face people that kept asking 'why do you cover up so much of yourself?!' A big thank you!
I just stumbled upon this. I was just curious about what you had to say. Thank you for caring about people and respecting people outside of your community. The courage to challenge people in one's own community who put down "outsiders" is very rare. Thank you for your leadership.
Thank you!!! I just posted a picture the other day that was quite cheeky, and I got so much flak for it!! All my female friends were telling me they thought I respected myself more than that and all sorts of crazy things, when I just was loving how my body looks! I just had a baby! I wanted to celebrate! And this video spoke to me, you are so graceful and open minded and I absolutely agree with your way of thinking. We as women, should not be tearing down other women. You’ve earned a subscriber. Great job. Xo ❤️
Keep celebrating your womanhood and your motherhood. Long life to your baby and lots of happiness to your little family and much more strength and resilience when hard times come by (and they'll leave quickly,as usual lol). May God bless you.
I do not understand that "you are not respecting yourself/other women" argument... If you are doing something that feels right to you, whether it be showing your body or being modest, than you are absolutely respecting yourself!! Your body CREATED A LIFE goddam it, you can celebrate it anyway that suits you and that's very powerful. I wish you and your baby all the best 💞
@@Ssookawai She should be thinking about setting a good example for her child instead being so self centered all the time. She's just playing the victim here.
i’m not a modest dresser but I am obsessed with your style and I often find myself on your insta to get inspo on how to style things differently. Thank you for making this video bc you were speaking nothing but facts, the hate & holier than thou attitude that some people have regarding modest fashion is so disheartening & i can only imagine how it must feel for someone seeking to gain that motivation from your page only to be met by comments like those. One thing I’ve always loved about you is how you always make it clear that you’re there to provide another ‘perspective’ on how fashion can be modest w/o hating on others who choose not to dress modestly. Keep up the great work 💐
I have no religious or cultural need to dress modestly, but I generally choose dresses with more fabric (!) because I find the silhouettes more flattering and more comfortable. No struggling to prevent a “wardrobe malfunction” when sitting or getting in or out of a car. Funny story: I work in health care, and folks have occasionally asked me if I were a nun!
my mother calls my way of dressing "nun style" the irony is, the first long skirts I wore, I got from her and she wore them at my age . . . I just do not like getting stared at like a barbecue after a week of enforced veganism at the parents in law house and find flowy lines pleasing
Awe I love the grace you are putting out for other women ❤️. You are so right; we should not be putting down other women that show more skin. We need more of this attitude!!!
Thank you! I actually started my journey because of you and it is VERY personal and women should definitely be more compassionate to themselves and others 💕 keep going 💯💯💯
Thank you for saying this. I'm not religious, I can wear very revealing outfits when I feel like it, and also sometimes I enjoy modest fashion, because fashion is fun and I don't want to feel stuck in one logic, or judge others for their personal answer to female objectification...
Love this message. I found myself getting really angry when Dina Tokio and Ascia took their scarfs off. So much hate. We really don't need this kind of hate amongst women. We are already going through a lot. Thank you for sharing this love and light. It is much needed.
It upsets me to see women tear women down. Those talented women made a brave and personal choice and people took their perfectly okay choices and turned into an opportunity to tear them down and question them. It’s hurtful and unnecessary.
I don't think it's hate, it's disappointment. It comes across as hate because people become passionate about it. Especially Islam. I stopped watching Dina after she took her hijab off, not because I think she's the worst now, but because her morals and beliefs don't match mine anymore and it's quite sad to see her imaan drop so low.
Beautifully said, as women, we need to support and love each unconditionally. Due to autoimmune disease, I have developed a true allergy to the sun. Even in 100°F temps, I Have to be completely covered from head to toe. Large sunhats, dark glasses, high, long sleeve blouses that cover my hands, long flowy pants or maxidresses that cover my feet. I receive so many weird, insulting, looks and comments from strangers, both women and men. "Are you a vampire?" "Are you Muslim?" "What church do you belong too?". "All these half naked young women need to dress as modestly as you do". I never know whether or not I should just walk away or stay and try to educate them. I usually just walk away.
Yes yes YESSS !! I just found your channel and I really love your style and you inspire me a lot! I'm not a modest dresser myself and I enjoy showing skin cause it makes me feel confident, and that video and your words made me so happy. You inspire me, not only in your sense of style but also in your way of living your life according to YOUR choices and YOUR way, and that's something that I look up to even though I do not do it in the same way! Just like you, I believe that all women, not matter where they are on the scale of modesty, are entitled to show/not show their bodies in a way that suits them and their beliefs. It's by helping each other out and empowering each other in our choices, no matter how different, that we can make a change. Anyway thank you again for making me feel welcome in this space that is not inherently designed for me, and I can't wait to learn more! Much love from France 💞
you are so right, thank you for this video. I recently saw the comments under dina tokios hijab video and the comments there were so mean. besides all the threats and "you should get raped" comments, there were a lot of "wow you look so much older without a hijab" "you look like 40+ now" "you look wasted now".... it's so disrespectful and it makes me so sad, that people from the same community are treating each other that way and also that women are treating each other so disrespectful and with so much hate.
I am not a modest dresser but abit reserved . I love the elegance of this channel. And I feel inspired by the fashion . I appreciate you addressing this topic because there is so much things we as women go through already. We have a harder path in our career, Salaries,etc. We need to love ,encourage and learn from one another. If my comment isn't kind and encouraging. I do not put it online. Thank you for your wisdom , always enjoy your content.
Thank you so much for your words, Roshé! I'm so happy you enjoy my little part of the internet because the same principle you apply to your comments I apply to my videos here; if it's not helpful or kind, I don't bother. It doesn't help anyone or make the world better. Thank you for watching and sharing your insight!
I love and agree with everything you spoke to in this video! Too often it seems like the modest fashion community stands on some kind of elitist pedestal that judges others and leaves no room for mistakes, growth, or acceptance for differences of opinion. I adore seeing that you (and the comments section) are so uplifting towards other women! Subscribed!
I am not Muslim nor a modest dresser, but your channel and your love through your modest fashion, honestly allows me to try fashion I never thought I would. I have grown a love for modest dressing and always looking out for what you have next, it is inspiring.
I'm far from a modest dresser, but I am so proud and inspired by your point of view. We are all our own people and can choose to show or not show, whatever we like! Keep doing what you're doing, and sharing tips on modest fashion, and helping out women who also choose to dress this way
Thank you so much for this! I never knew how to express how I feel when I hear or see women judge or compare themselves with each other in this way. I'm also trying to embark the modest journey. But I feel that we take our convictions so personally that we want to force it on other. We have no patience for one another. Why can't we accept each other? Like you said, it's really hard for us that do consider modesty to embark our journey at our own pace because our fellow sisters that believe that their modest standards are better than others' really discourages us. God bless you🙏
Love, love, love!!! Such an inspiration! We as women should be building each other up instead of tearing each other down. Shukran for sharing the love🌸🌸
Seriously, you hit the nail on the head. If I look back I think where all the hate about how you looked started. And it was definitely at school where everyone would compare what they wore. And it was always awkward (for me at least) and I feel like it's so much more intensified now as we get older, only difference is we know ourselves more and are more comfortable in our bodies. Maybe if we teach our daughters (and sons) about respecting others fashion choices from a young age we can reverse this craziness. Sometimes people have to be told how to act because they weren't taught how to be respectful towards others. But if it is instilled in them from a young age, maybe we can make a difference. #dailyreminders #spreadthelove
Modesty is an attitude as well. These people who are shaming women for the way they dress are not modest in spirit- they’re self righteous and haughty.
I believe strongly that you should live authenticly and truthfully! The world will be so much better if there are no judgement and more love. Keep up with your strong and beautiful content.
Omygosh all women should watch this video! I wish if we as women have each other’s back more and stand up for each other instead of talking bad first. If we do that then we will be way more powerful!
Good points. My thought is that the modestly dressed woman will still be the object of lust not because of her but because a pervert is a pervert. Just like children. They aren’t “alluring”. The pervert is just a pervert. Dress how you want and enjoy. But not to try to prevent lustful eyes.
Clothes are clothes, they might reveal some things about a person's personality, but they're in no way a sign of being good or bad. Where the heck are these people living like haven't you ever met a suuuperrr modest person that's just horrible inside??
I’m a new hijab but I don’t know how often I’m going to wear it because I’m used to showing so much skin but now I think ima just start off with dressing modestly
I came to modest clothing naturally because after having a child I realized how powerful sexuality can be and felt like my body was *cheesy but true* a temple of potential life, and I didn't want to be dissected by the male gaze anymore. I just wanted to feel like I was behind a fortress or something. It was a natural choice, I would have never come to it in a pure, conscious way out of force or coercion.
I recently posted something on my Instagram account on this very topic. Thank you so much for using your influence to spread the word and for your attempt to put a stop to girl hate.
I went and read it! It was so beautiful and well-put, I related on so many levels. Modesty is not the end all and be all of elegance or class. It's a poor reduction of all our facets as women.
100% I've become naturally a more modest dresser since having a kid and distancing myself from mainstream hookup culture but whenever I thought about coming to Islam, the ridiculous pressure of wearing a headscarf or 'else' you're not 'really muslim' that I see in Muslim circles online and offline really turned me off. Luckily, I have friends who are even-headed and answer my questions so I've grown to realize Islam is about a personal relationship with God, which means other people's opinions are nothing but backgroud noise. Just because someone puts on a headscarf doesn't mean they are Muslim so therefore just because someone doesn't put one on doesn't mean they are any less in touch with God. Modesty is an evolution and a process, as is contact with a higher power.
I agree with you I get made fun of because of my learning disability all the time getting bullied is just plain wrong if we can learn to accept each other no matter what weather because of our religion or just as people on the street or in fashion or just just friends and family it would be a good thing
thank you so much ♡ i am a woman who proudly dresses immodestly because thats whats right for me personally and aligns with my culture. i would never put down modest fashion, it is beautiful and more importantly it makes people feel good about themselves. we should all support women wearing whatever is right for them, be it modest or immodest, formal or casual, traditional or modern, editorial or comfy, whatever. much love to modest dressers!
I really appreciate your honesty. I don't wear a hijab. I feel comfortable. But I am always on the lookout for modest wear. Please keep up the great work! Lots of good wishes from Naureen in USA
I think from how we are raised to think of what a hijab is makes is say those negative things. My mom only says negative comments about me and i don't say it to other women but i think it. But I also try to stop myself from thinking those. Its incredibly hard when that is all you know. But videos like this help train me and also studying Islam on what Allah teaches us. Which is to not judge as we have no right but He. And only He understands our thoughts and actions. I have definitely fought hard to keep an open mind being raised by a racist, conservative, rude parent that goes against the teaching of Islam. I being an artist has helped me become more understanding, honest, kind, open minded. I definitely thought about how i wish you wore the hijab instead, which is funny as sometimes i wish i wasn't wearing it. But I'm scared to go that far. Nor does my fiance approve as he loves the hijab and finds it beautiful. But I was being a hypocrite and i keep fighting that, as i tell myself that she is wearing modest clothes. but what is most important is that you are kind, humble and thoughtful. Why did I feel like giving judgment? Its because I was only raised with that and i was raised not allowed to communicate with people or leave my home. As I get older, i am seeing myself change. what's important as human beings us being kind and helpful to each other. Not to bring each other down. In Islam, it is more important to be kind, honest, humble, helpful and to not forget Allah over wearing a hijab. Hijab is is a test for us. One meme we all have seen is that a women with a hijab on makes bad decisions while the non hijab does good, reads the quran and is kind. Our actions are far more important. I'm sorry for having judgmental thoughts about you, but whether i have those in my head, i try to say something kind and leave a nice comment to also train myself not to be a negative person like that. Inshallah we all can work ourselves out and be better. Remember you guys that the prophet was also kind to people and friends with people of other faiths and he never judged a person. He even forgave a person who killed his uncle (i believe it was his uncle) and that man apologized and regretted such actions and joined Islam. We need to focus on the good that A person is doing and encourage it by not saying "now wear a hijab" but by saying, "that is beautiful on you or thank you for taking the time to put this together and sharing this with everyone." for anyone Muslim, you can even say "may Allah reward you for teaching girls the options they have on how to dress modestly" considering that it can be difficult in this century.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts with me, Abrar. I admire you so much for checking yourself internally; it's not always easy to do! May Allah reward you for your kind heart and for being who you are!
Thank you. I recently reverted to islam and I am so clueless on how to dress modestly, I used to just wear skimpy clothes but I am really clueless on what to wear. I don’t wear hijab but I really feel pressured especially when other hijabis look at me. As of now I don’t really don’t have in my heart to wear it. I don’t know in the future. But I am trying my best to follow. I just wish some women are not judgemental about others. At the end of the day it is between me and God and not with them.
Aslamulakum, I'm an Islamic modestly dressed woman and my pet peeve are these back handed compliments.🤦♀️ They're still my fellow women. Plus males do worse things, and society praises them for being a "loose tooth". Even when someone wants to insult a male, they insult the guy's mother (as if she's in the wrong).😑 They're better ways to insult the wrong doer, without constantly shifting the blame onto women/mothers. Let's do better. 🙏
The hijab does not mean head scarf.. It's not the word used in the Quran to mean that.. But it means a protection.. A wall is a hijab.. It's an extra barrier of protection.. The word Khimaar is what is used to describe the head covering..
My least favorite is when people are like, "You're beautiful, so just show yourself off." Like... I don't dress modestly because I think I'm ugly. XD I dress that way because I'm a Christian.
Maritza Perrault I got the email notification where you said you believe women should be shamed for sharing their bodies and it’s honestly so sad that you feel that entitled to someone else’s choices. I don’t believe in hate and if you think that’s okay, please don’t come back to my channel. Thanks!
The truth! You can complement someone without dragging another person down. 🙌👌
I don't dress modestly and I really appreciate your message. Wearing short skirt doesn't make a woman a bad or a good person. Women should all support each other.
I live in France and it is really difficult here for hijabis and even women who wear modest clothes. (A girl was forbidden to go to school because her long skirt was considered a religious symbol 🙄). Even if the sexism seems obvious in this war against hijab there has been little solidarity between women...
+Leila 'modesty' and its opposite, 'immodesty' are nothing more than cultural concepts which in turn spring from religion. To believe in the idea of covering up the body completely because you think showing certain parts or all of it for that matter is 'immoral', 'sinful', etc, betrays an inherent belief that the human body is somehow nasty, evil and wrong. The one cannot exist without the other. End of story. And the other argument that religious people use for covering up, (respect for their god) has no logic. Lets just say for argument's sake that a god exists and he created humans. How can his creation (the naked human body) offend him if he created it?! It makes no sense whatsoever. Goes to show what utter confused drivel all religions are without exception.
You mentioned hijabs in particular. You have to remember that for many Isalmic women it is enforced, it is not a choice. You cannot be a western feminist (in the full, free sense of the word) and support the hijab, which worn by choice or not, is a symbol of oppressing women (whether Islamic women want acknowledge it or not, it is).
@@anonymousforever God is real. But besides that. I don't want to show my butt to everyone.
@@lastinglife4357 you are free to believe whatever you like and do or not do whatever you like. Just keep it to yourself.
wow her long skirt was a religious symbol?! I love maxi skirts what the hell!
@@anonymousforever Agree to disagree. That's like hiding a lamp under a basket. You know what the truth is and it scares you, because you know in your heart that what you're doing is wrong. Your conscience convicts of it.
Thank you for this message. As a Christian woman I get so frustrated with comments about women who only wear skirts, women who cover their head in church, women who stopped wearing skirts and now wear pants, etc. Just let people be!
Stefanie Medina very true! I get a lot of ladies arguing with me when I include pants in my styling videos. Even if there are skirt options too!
I think we need to dress to feel comfortable but always remember to keep it respectful for ourselves and those around us, and specially because we are God's children.
@@jessicabeca1234 That doesn't fit in with feminists and their political correctness agenda. Men criticising women: sexist. Women criticising men: female previlidge.
That's called a back-handed compliment.
It's an epidemic I tell you!
Yup
As someone who doesn’t have any religious belief directing my wardrobe choices, I wear both very ‘modest’ outfits and fairly revealing outfits depending on how I want my style to be expressed that day, the weather, my mood, my confidence level, my current mental state in general, etc. I appreciate your words of love and kindness and thank you for expressing so eloquently how terrible it is to give compliments that are back-handed or tear others down in the process. It’s very important to be aware of our words and the power they hold. I will say that
I don’t use ‘modest’ to express my less revealing/more ‘covered up’ looks because, while I disagree that stripping down is inherently ‘empowering’ for women, I just don’t like the surrounding negative/religious culture of modesty, similarly to purity culture, as it brings a lot of shame and damage with it and it’s a shame. I think people should dress as they please, in a way that brings them confidence and inner peace and joy, not for others (and on days like today that means a long sleeved top and a flowy maxi skirt, while yesterday that mean a lacy bustier top, platform goth kid boots, and a mini skirt. I’m also angry about people looking at moms’ outfits and style in a more judgement-filled way; the length of my shorts or the cut of my neckline don’t determine my abilities as a mother to raise a child well. My wonderful daughter will learn from my words and actions to respect people’s clothing choices of any coverage level and dress for herself in a body-positive way.
Modesty is a behaviour that performs part of our character and is reflected in our social interactions, it is not clothing. Different cultures wear different styles of clothing. I would never assume that a man or woman who wore no clothes, or minimal clothing, lacked modesty. Modesty is about having humility, i.e. not being boastful, arrogant, pretentious or vain. Character should not be linked to the yardage of fabric one wears, or where on the body anyone wears it. Having said that, I live in a chilly climate, wear quite a lot of clothes and like to think I'm reasonably modest and polite in my behaviour to others, however, the clothes have nothing to do with it. My character is the same even when I'm in the bath!
Totally agree with you, Shelley!
We need more people like you.
Really like your point on how different cultures wear different styles,
and it's so true to judge someone by their character at the end of the day!
@@_ffflowerfields_ What a person wears reflects their personality.
EXACTLY!!
Comparison is the thief of joy - love how you eloquently explain this first point in your video.
I want to thank you so much for doing this video. It really needs to be said by more people. I'm so tired of hearing people call modest dressing women respectable and classy and women who reveal more of their bodies as 'lacking decency'. A person should be respected regardless of how little or how much clothes they wear and you so eloquently put this in this video. I myself dress modestly because I like the silhouettes that more fabrics give, I think it looks beautiful and more flattering on me, (it isn't for religious or cultural reasons) so when people tell me I look better than other women and classier it makes me so angry because it's just a style preference. People also make it seem like you have to be religious to dress modest and you're othered if you aren't religious in the modest community. Modest dressing is a different journey for everyone and it shouldn't be debated. I appreciate that you said if you think someone looks beautiful tell them that, but don't tell them it's because you did 'this' and because you didn't do 'that'. No one really has a right to regulate anyone in this diverse world. Thank you so much for your message, you make me for one feel represented and you respect everyone while doing that.
Urmila Ramaa the way you wrote this! 👏🏼 thank you! I couldn’t agree with you more. Every single person deserves respect without question. I get so uncomfortable when people think we are about to bond over bashing a woman who shows more of her body 😒
Beautifully said Urmila🌹
I have the opposite problem, I get complaints for wearing modest clothing. My father literaly tried to demand I wear something revialing to my prom . . . .
"it is such a shame to hide, your such a pretty young woman" Like I owe people, like they are entitled to ogle me and rightfuly put of, that I do not accomodate them . . .
Just let everyone dress, how they feel comfortable
Beautiful words! My entire life I felt uncomfortable in clothes that were revealing. Last year I found your channel and you've helped me see that its a normal choice to make for yourself. It gave me strength to face people that kept asking 'why do you cover up so much of yourself?!'
A big thank you!
Nola Diorez you’re so welcome hun! I pray you always feel at home here. Sending you love and strength ♥️
It’s all along the lines of “your not like the other girls comments” that put other people down
I just stumbled upon this. I was just curious about what you had to say. Thank you for caring about people and respecting people outside of your community. The courage to challenge people in one's own community who put down "outsiders" is very rare. Thank you for your leadership.
Thank you!!! I just posted a picture the other day that was quite cheeky, and I got so much flak for it!! All my female friends were telling me they thought I respected myself more than that and all sorts of crazy things, when I just was loving how my body looks! I just had a baby! I wanted to celebrate! And this video spoke to me, you are so graceful and open minded and I absolutely agree with your way of thinking. We as women, should not be tearing down other women.
You’ve earned a subscriber. Great job. Xo ❤️
Keep celebrating your womanhood and your motherhood.
Long life to your baby and lots of happiness to your little family and much more strength and resilience when hard times come by (and they'll leave quickly,as usual lol).
May God bless you.
I do not understand that "you are not respecting yourself/other women" argument... If you are doing something that feels right to you, whether it be showing your body or being modest, than you are absolutely respecting yourself!! Your body CREATED A LIFE goddam it, you can celebrate it anyway that suits you and that's very powerful. I wish you and your baby all the best 💞
@@Ssookawai She should be thinking about setting a good example for her child instead being so self centered all the time. She's just playing the victim here.
i’m not a modest dresser but I am obsessed with your style and I often find myself on your insta to get inspo on how to style things differently. Thank you for making this video bc you were speaking nothing but facts, the hate & holier than thou attitude that some people have regarding modest fashion is so disheartening & i can only imagine how it must feel for someone seeking to gain that motivation from your page only to be met by comments like those. One thing I’ve always loved about you is how you always make it clear that you’re there to provide another ‘perspective’ on how fashion can be modest w/o hating on others who choose not to dress modestly. Keep up the great work 💐
I have no religious or cultural need to dress modestly, but I generally choose dresses with more fabric (!) because I find the silhouettes more flattering and more comfortable. No struggling to prevent a “wardrobe malfunction” when sitting or getting in or out of a car.
Funny story: I work in health care, and folks have occasionally asked me if I were a nun!
Ah, yes, this comment is me 😂
my mother calls my way of dressing "nun style" the irony is, the first long skirts I wore, I got from her and she wore them at my age . . . I just do not like getting stared at like a barbecue after a week of enforced veganism at the parents in law house and find flowy lines pleasing
Awe I love the grace you are putting out for other women ❤️. You are so right; we should not be putting down other women that show more skin. We need more of this attitude!!!
“We don’t need that from each other.” I just found this channel and I love it here already ❤️
Yaaas you're so welcome here honey!
Thank you! I actually started my journey because of you and it is VERY personal and women should definitely be more compassionate to themselves and others 💕 keep going 💯💯💯
Amiena Inspired babes that’s amazing! I’m so proud of you and so honored to have been a part of your journey ♥️
Salaam Aqeela. Thank you for this words it was really touching. Love you💖
Thank you for saying this. I'm not religious, I can wear very revealing outfits when I feel like it, and also sometimes I enjoy modest fashion, because fashion is fun and I don't want to feel stuck in one logic, or judge others for their personal answer to female objectification...
I love your style !! Keep doing what your doing 😘
Love this message. I found myself getting really angry when Dina Tokio and Ascia took their scarfs off. So much hate. We really don't need this kind of hate amongst women. We are already going through a lot. Thank you for sharing this love and light. It is much needed.
Can I ask you why you became angry? I am just curious to understand better.
It upsets me to see women tear women down. Those talented women made a brave and personal choice and people took their perfectly okay choices and turned into an opportunity to tear them down and question them. It’s hurtful and unnecessary.
Luna Life it was a really crazy time. I’m so glad both of them are comfortable and living their truths now. There’s no way it could have been easy!
I don't think it's hate, it's disappointment. It comes across as hate because people become passionate about it. Especially Islam. I stopped watching Dina after she took her hijab off, not because I think she's the worst now, but because her morals and beliefs don't match mine anymore and it's quite sad to see her imaan drop so low.
@@FashionBreedVideos There's no such thing as your truth, facts don't care about your feelings.
Wow, I totally agree with everything you said. I think it's really amazing that you've created this community for that reason
Beautifully said, as women, we need to support and love each unconditionally.
Due to autoimmune disease, I have developed a true allergy to the sun. Even in 100°F temps, I Have to be completely covered from head to toe. Large sunhats, dark glasses, high, long sleeve blouses that cover my hands, long flowy pants or maxidresses that cover my feet.
I receive so many weird, insulting, looks and comments from strangers, both women and men.
"Are you a vampire?"
"Are you Muslim?"
"What church do you belong too?". "All these half naked young women need to dress as modestly as you do".
I never know whether or not I should just walk away or stay and try to educate them. I usually just walk away.
Yes yes YESSS !! I just found your channel and I really love your style and you inspire me a lot! I'm not a modest dresser myself and I enjoy showing skin cause it makes me feel confident, and that video and your words made me so happy. You inspire me, not only in your sense of style but also in your way of living your life according to YOUR choices and YOUR way, and that's something that I look up to even though I do not do it in the same way! Just like you, I believe that all women, not matter where they are on the scale of modesty, are entitled to show/not show their bodies in a way that suits them and their beliefs. It's by helping each other out and empowering each other in our choices, no matter how different, that we can make a change. Anyway thank you again for making me feel welcome in this space that is not inherently designed for me, and I can't wait to learn more! Much love from France 💞
You look like a very kind and positive perosn and you are breathtaking .
Wow, thank you!
you are so right, thank you for this video. I recently saw the comments under dina tokios hijab video and the comments there were so mean. besides all the threats and "you should get raped" comments, there were a lot of "wow you look so much older without a hijab" "you look like 40+ now" "you look wasted now".... it's so disrespectful and it makes me so sad, that people from the same community are treating each other that way and also that women are treating each other so disrespectful and with so much hate.
kubin so true. It’s heartbreaking! We have no say over someone else’s life/journey/decisions. It’s wild how people think they can make those comments.
Thank you for saying this. It is needed. ❤️
Mandi W you’re welcome, thank you for watching!
Always aiming to inspire and making people feel better about themselves! I love it! Keep doing you ❤️
Ameera Sulaiman thank you so much
"There is and there will always be a space for u here!"
That part!! 👍
Keep going...💙
I love how sincere and kind you are. Beautiful soul...
Thank you so much, Elsa!
Thank goodness that you brought this topic up. I have had this conversation with other women so many times.
The outside expresses what is in the inside
Comparison is the thief of joy! Thank you so much for your videos ❤ you've been such an inspiration for me on my modest journey
Thank you babe! I'm so honoured to have helped on your journey!
First point is so true good on you!!!! #Preach
This warms my heart and definitely needed to be said. Thank you for this
I am not a modest dresser but abit reserved . I love the elegance of this channel. And I feel inspired by the fashion . I appreciate you addressing this topic because there is so much things we as women go through already. We have a harder path in our career, Salaries,etc. We need to love ,encourage and learn from one another. If my comment isn't kind and encouraging. I do not put it online. Thank you for your wisdom , always enjoy your content.
couldn't agree more!
Thank you so much for your words, Roshé! I'm so happy you enjoy my little part of the internet because the same principle you apply to your comments I apply to my videos here; if it's not helpful or kind, I don't bother. It doesn't help anyone or make the world better. Thank you for watching and sharing your insight!
I love and agree with everything you spoke to in this video! Too often it seems like the modest fashion community stands on some kind of elitist pedestal that judges others and leaves no room for mistakes, growth, or acceptance for differences of opinion. I adore seeing that you (and the comments section) are so uplifting towards other women! Subscribed!
I am not Muslim nor a modest dresser, but your channel and your love through your modest fashion, honestly allows me to try fashion I never thought I would. I have grown a love for modest dressing and always looking out for what you have next, it is inspiring.
I'm far from a modest dresser, but I am so proud and inspired by your point of view. We are all our own people and can choose to show or not show, whatever we like! Keep doing what you're doing, and sharing tips on modest fashion, and helping out women who also choose to dress this way
Love that! thank you for your comment
Thank you so much for this! I never knew how to express how I feel when I hear or see women judge or compare themselves with each other in this way. I'm also trying to embark the modest journey. But I feel that we take our convictions so personally that we want to force it on other. We have no patience for one another. Why can't we accept each other? Like you said, it's really hard for us that do consider modesty to embark our journey at our own pace because our fellow sisters that believe that their modest standards are better than others' really discourages us. God bless you🙏
You keep doing you! At the end of the day, we’re all just trying to make the best out of our life with the circumstances and worldview we have.
Fiyah Faith 100%! ♥️
Dear Aqeela, you are such a lovely soul! Salam sister ❤
Alexa Negrao Shukran! That means so much to me ♥️
Love, love, love!!! Such an inspiration! We as women should be building each other up instead of tearing each other down. Shukran for sharing the love🌸🌸
And shukran to you for sharing the love right back!
The society is so hard on us women. When you wear hijab they treat you like anything you do is more « haram » than other’s that do not wear it
Seriously, you hit the nail on the head. If I look back I think where all the hate about how you looked started. And it was definitely at school where everyone would compare what they wore. And it was always awkward (for me at least) and I feel like it's so much more intensified now as we get older, only difference is we know ourselves more and are more comfortable in our bodies. Maybe if we teach our daughters (and sons) about respecting others fashion choices from a young age we can reverse this craziness. Sometimes people have to be told how to act because they weren't taught how to be respectful towards others. But if it is instilled in them from a young age, maybe we can make a difference. #dailyreminders #spreadthelove
This is so true. Someone else in the comment section put it so well; we should respect every single human being equally, no matter what!
Subscribed to you after this video❤ I love this message so much. So much love from a fellow modest dresser❤
Modesty is an attitude as well. These people who are shaming women for the way they dress are not modest in spirit- they’re self righteous and haughty.
This is so important ❤️ Thank you for putting those feelings into words!
Thank you for watching hun!
Yes! Let's lift each other up and stop with comparisons! The world is hard enough without us hurting each other.
I believe strongly that you should live authenticly and truthfully! The world will be so much better if there are no judgement and more love. Keep up with your strong and beautiful content.
Thank you so much! I agree with you wholeheartedly xx
Omygosh all women should watch this video! I wish if we as women have each other’s back more and stand up for each other instead of talking bad first. If we do that then we will be way more powerful!
Good points. My thought is that the modestly dressed woman will still be the object of lust not because of her but because a pervert is a pervert. Just like children. They aren’t “alluring”. The pervert is just a pervert. Dress how you want and enjoy. But not to try to prevent lustful eyes.
Like it before watching it! Cause I already know!
Clothes are clothes, they might reveal some things about a person's personality, but they're in no way a sign of being good or bad. Where the heck are these people living like haven't you ever met a suuuperrr modest person that's just horrible inside??
I’m a new hijab but I don’t know how often I’m going to wear it because I’m used to showing so much skin but now I think ima just start off with dressing modestly
Beautiful. ALSO...where is your dress from
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Perfectly said. Thank you. Love from Boston!
Sending you love from South Africa!
This is definitely the content I signed up for. Thank you ❤️
Ah thanks babe
I came to modest clothing naturally because after having a child I realized how powerful sexuality can be and felt like my body was *cheesy but true* a temple of potential life, and I didn't want to be dissected by the male gaze anymore. I just wanted to feel like I was behind a fortress or something. It was a natural choice, I would have never come to it in a pure, conscious way out of force or coercion.
I recently posted something on my Instagram account on this very topic. Thank you so much for using your influence to spread the word and for your attempt to put a stop to girl hate.
I went and read it! It was so beautiful and well-put, I related on so many levels. Modesty is not the end all and be all of elegance or class. It's a poor reduction of all our facets as women.
I love your style!
I’m a new muslim and I really appreciate you!!!
Omg, I love this! You're have such a beautiful soul!
100% I've become naturally a more modest dresser since having a kid and distancing myself from mainstream hookup culture but whenever I thought about coming to Islam, the ridiculous pressure of wearing a headscarf or 'else' you're not 'really muslim' that I see in Muslim circles online and offline really turned me off. Luckily, I have friends who are even-headed and answer my questions so I've grown to realize Islam is about a personal relationship with God, which means other people's opinions are nothing but backgroud noise. Just because someone puts on a headscarf doesn't mean they are Muslim so therefore just because someone doesn't put one on doesn't mean they are any less in touch with God. Modesty is an evolution and a process, as is contact with a higher power.
I agree with you I get made fun of because of my learning disability all the time getting bullied is just plain wrong if we can learn to accept each other no matter what weather because of our religion or just as people on the street or in fashion or just just friends and family it would be a good thing
Thank you thank you
You're so welcome!
So classy ❤️
thank you so much ♡ i am a woman who proudly dresses immodestly because thats whats right for me personally and aligns with my culture. i would never put down modest fashion, it is beautiful and more importantly it makes people feel good about themselves. we should all support women wearing whatever is right for them, be it modest or immodest, formal or casual, traditional or modern, editorial or comfy, whatever. much love to modest dressers!
Thank you for the love babe! I appreciate you!
I really appreciate your honesty. I don't wear a hijab. I feel comfortable. But I am always on the lookout for modest wear. Please keep up the great work! Lots of good wishes from Naureen in USA
Just wondering, where is the dress from in the video?
Love it, well said.xxx
I think from how we are raised to think of what a hijab is makes is say those negative things. My mom only says negative comments about me and i don't say it to other women but i think it. But I also try to stop myself from thinking those. Its incredibly hard when that is all you know. But videos like this help train me and also studying Islam on what Allah teaches us. Which is to not judge as we have no right but He. And only He understands our thoughts and actions. I have definitely fought hard to keep an open mind being raised by a racist, conservative, rude parent that goes against the teaching of Islam. I being an artist has helped me become more understanding, honest, kind, open minded. I definitely thought about how i wish you wore the hijab instead, which is funny as sometimes i wish i wasn't wearing it. But I'm scared to go that far. Nor does my fiance approve as he loves the hijab and finds it beautiful. But I was being a hypocrite and i keep fighting that, as i tell myself that she is wearing modest clothes. but what is most important is that you are kind, humble and thoughtful. Why did I feel like giving judgment? Its because I was only raised with that and i was raised not allowed to communicate with people or leave my home. As I get older, i am seeing myself change. what's important as human beings us being kind and helpful to each other. Not to bring each other down. In Islam, it is more important to be kind, honest, humble, helpful and to not forget Allah over wearing a hijab. Hijab is is a test for us. One meme we all have seen is that a women with a hijab on makes bad decisions while the non hijab does good, reads the quran and is kind. Our actions are far more important. I'm sorry for having judgmental thoughts about you, but whether i have those in my head, i try to say something kind and leave a nice comment to also train myself not to be a negative person like that. Inshallah we all can work ourselves out and be better. Remember you guys that the prophet was also kind to people and friends with people of other faiths and he never judged a person. He even forgave a person who killed his uncle (i believe it was his uncle) and that man apologized and regretted such actions and joined Islam. We need to focus on the good that A person is doing and encourage it by not saying "now wear a hijab" but by saying, "that is beautiful on you or thank you for taking the time to put this together and sharing this with everyone." for anyone Muslim, you can even say "may Allah reward you for teaching girls the options they have on how to dress modestly" considering that it can be difficult in this century.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts with me, Abrar. I admire you so much for checking yourself internally; it's not always easy to do! May Allah reward you for your kind heart and for being who you are!
Well said!
Can someone explain to new what her accent is. I can't figure it out.
Abrar I believe someone said it was South African and she said it was correct
I'm South African :-)
Thank you. I recently reverted to islam and I am so clueless on how to dress modestly, I used to just wear skimpy clothes but I am really clueless on what to wear. I don’t wear hijab but I really feel pressured especially when other hijabis look at me. As of now I don’t really don’t have in my heart to wear it. I don’t know in the future. But I am trying my best to follow. I just wish some women are not judgemental about others. At the end of the day it is between me and God and not with them.
You're welcome, Joy. Wishing you all the best with your journey as a muslim and as a modest dresser!
Aslamulakum, I'm an Islamic modestly dressed woman and my pet peeve are these back handed compliments.🤦♀️
They're still my fellow women. Plus males do worse things, and society praises them for being a "loose tooth".
Even when someone wants to insult a male, they insult the guy's mother (as if she's in the wrong).😑
They're better ways to insult the wrong doer, without constantly shifting the blame onto women/mothers. Let's do better. 🙏
Masha'Allah! Thank you.
The hijab does not mean head scarf.. It's not the word used in the Quran to mean that.. But it means a protection.. A wall is a hijab.. It's an extra barrier of protection.. The word Khimaar is what is used to describe the head covering..
I totally agree 🙏
Well said Kiki👍🏼
Thanks, Gaffieeeee
Well I’m here because I don’t know how to be fashionable modestly
Sorry for the thumbs down my phone didn't want to backup
Your thumbnail 🤣🤣
I have been waiting to use that pic for so long!🤣
masha’Allah thank you for that
You're welcome, thanks for watching!
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My least favorite is when people are like, "You're beautiful, so just show yourself off." Like... I don't dress modestly because I think I'm ugly. XD I dress that way because I'm a Christian.
This is a modern misuse of this word hijab.. As a Muslim I ask that all my sisters to use and understand the concept. Correctly..
I don’t like this.
Maritza Perrault I got the email notification where you said you believe women should be shamed for sharing their bodies and it’s honestly so sad that you feel that entitled to someone else’s choices. I don’t believe in hate and if you think that’s okay, please don’t come back to my channel. Thanks!