How to Be a Successful Outsider
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- Опубліковано 8 вер 2024
- The subconscious mind runs on associations - Your automatic associations drive your emotions and behavior. So if you have negative associations with something you believe you are, you're stuck in a pattern of chronic self-rejection.
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This is exceptionally helpful. Re-framing my feeling of being an outsider to being more like one of those rebelliously original thinkers in that old Apple "Here's to the crazy ones" commercial is a very valuable thought indeed. I really like how you think and express yourself so eloquently. You're inspiring me to want to do the same. I hope to start doing tomorrow and post at least once a week with some consistency. Up to now this channel has just been used as a hobby. Thank you once again for your profound insights. Blessings to you and yours this holiday season and always.
Awesome! Do it!
Have you ever read into or about the INFJ personality type? Their behaviors, habits and considered if you might be one? Or at least resonate with their experiences?
Edit* Nvm, I got to the point of the video were you said you've read about personality types and found out yours is more rare. So it sounds like you have, That'll learn me not comment until the video ends.
Learning that my personality type was not only rare, but that I fundamentally think differently than others has been really cathartic. I used to feel I wasn't "fitting in" or feel connected to others because I was some cursed wretch. Or that I was somehow subconsciously emitting a pulse of rejection from childhood trauma. Now, I simply understand that I'm just different. That I'm really imaginative, free, abstract thinking and more emotionally sensitive than most. So I don't expect most people to see and act the way I see and act anymore. I'm beginning to accept them as they are and taking it less personally.
Really good points in this video, Like you said society has conditioned us to be repulsed by the idea of the "outsider" we should question that outlook.
Yes! Considering the cognitive functions, I fit the INFP type (FI and Ne dominant), but yes, INFJ is supposedly the rarest.
There is also a very Jungian way to heal this permanently, but it often requires more awareness than people usually have, who suffer from this deeply. I was one, and my resolution was Jungian individuation , healing personal and collective unconscious shadows, projections and introjections even the personal ones the mind will help, which you talk about in the video. when you have fully grown out of this, it is just explanation of your original pattern of consciousness and cause of many cultural behaviours. All this brings maturity of the whole persona and heals other shadows as well than this and calms the mind from complexes and chat. I would call the insiders self-censoring, because they deny what the outsiders feel and they are majority of population while outsiders when matured, they become creative change makes in societal systems and complex systems thinking is related to this too. Sensorship is about trying to sustain stability which is not seeing bigger picture, only ego’s safety. Outsiders do need to find belonging a little bit to find what you say. I think doing parts work and integrating shadows is the first thing before outsiders really dare to step out and harnesh their true power of the whole self. insiders might never even think about this kind of things. For them life is simple as ignored, while living in unconscious sleep as Jung put it.
It’s just hard because belonging and social acceptance is a basic human need and I’m just not getting it.
being an 'outsider'... Or is it just trying to understand where you're at in your life?
With any choice that you make in life, you take the other options off of the table. You're always going to have to swallow the bitter pill either way that you choose.
If you're struggling with this dichotomy of 'outsider' vs 'insider' then its probably about satisfying your curiosity (I need to know what that's like). You want to know what its like to have those relationships, you want to know what its like to live that lifestyle, you want to know what its like to live in that place. Sometimes on many levels there's a real need to satisfy your curiosity about something because of a material benefit or an emotional benefit.
You need to know what its like to move to that city, live that lifestyle, have that relationship, because you need to know for sure when presented with the possibility if its right for your life. People are scared of leaving possibilities on the table that might improve their life. The fear of their life passing them by. FOMO seems to be a real motivator in many cases but also in the conversation of to being an outsider vs an insider. Social media, life events, local happenings also push this feeling along. Sometimes this can help you realize what's important to you. You may realize the FOMO doesn't need to mean anything in the long run but it also might mean that you're taking stock of what you must do in your own life.
Ultimately I think that everyone is truly an 'outsider' as you say, its just that with more experiences we figure out what we're willing to live with and what we're not. To be able to make the choice. To be able to cope and bear with and minimize inconveniences. To have to knuckle down and realize that its important to think about what you want and need out of your life.
Life is short, we live and then we die and most people never know when they're time is over. In times of indecision all of that should be used to calibrate your compass.
Absurdism.. It's worth a try to look into..
Good call, it's actually why I started this platform