Why We Turned Down Dr. Phil [CC] / Squirmy and Grubs
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- Опубліковано 13 бер 2019
- We were recently invited to be on an episode of Dr. Phil. At first, it felt like a great opportunity, but we eventually decided to decline the invite. In this episode, we explain why we are so happy that we did.
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Shane was born with a neuromuscular disease called Spinal Muscular Atrophy that requires him to use an electric wheelchair. He is the author of several award-winning books, the President of a nonprofit organization called Laughing At My Nightmare, and a renowned public speaker who has performed across the country at places such as Harvard University, The University of Florida, The University of Connecticut, Princeton University, and many more.
Hannah is a senior at Carleton College, studying sociology and anthropology. She works as a researcher for an educational consulting firm. Her future aspirations include attending law school and owning a goat sanctuary. She films and edits the “Squirmy and Grubs” vlog.
Shane and Hannah have been dating for 3 years and living together in Minneapolis for a year. Their interabled relationship often confuses people, because much of society still cannot fathom people with disabilities being involved in loving, intimate relationships. Anyone who watches these episodes will quickly see their relationship is just as “normal” as any other. Sure, Hannah helps Shane use the bathroom and brush his teeth, but those activities do not detract from the emotional, intellectual, and physical connection they experience together.
There should be a tv show where a therapist helps people who were hurt by Dr Phil.
Like botched but for mental health. I love it
@@BriannaHeartsU I'd watch the fuck out of that.
I would actually watch that show.
And Danielle Bregoli should absolutely be the first guest, followed by every single teenager that, that quack McGraw sent off to Turn About Ranch or any other facilities that’s making obscene amounts of money off of the “Trouble teen industry” I’d love to see those people held accountable for their inappropriate and sadly abusive behavior they inflicted on these kids under the guise of therapy.
You nailed it!
Admitting that you aren't qualified to give advice to an interabled abuse couple is refreshing and honest. You made the right choice, in my opinion.
Dr Phil wasn't qualified to give them advice too.
Lol
I literally laughed out loud when Shane said “if you ARE DR. PHIL... you won’t like this”
My mom was bedridden for most of my parents marriage, with fibromayalgia and chronic fatigue which later in life turned into stroke and Parkinsons disease, needing caregiving 100% of the time. My dad worked and caretook a lot for my mom over 30+ years and now he does everything for her. My dad is our hero.
God bless your dad. I hope family and friends help in caregiving to allow him some time off each week. My husband had a stroke at 48 years old, ( now 66) it can be draining handling everything.
Wha a HERO your Dad is. He is a man and a husband according to God's intended creation of a Husband 🙏❤️
Dr Phil uses shock to create entertainment. You don't need that 15 minutes of fame. Stick to youtube.
Dr phil is a phony....!!!!
Cash me owside, howbowda😂😂😂😝
Unfortunately he didn’t start out that way 16+ years ago, but times have changed and TV ‘self help’ shows aren’t as focused on help anymore. A lot of things aren’t genuine anymore even on social media I take everything with a grain of salt.
Bullshit, he's helped more people than you ever have
@Jason and Julie Smith Zaza
You guys DEFINITELY made the right choice.
Agreed
@Aron Toulouse
Yes, unfortunately, things used to be more genuine, than they are now. From what I've heard from people in the show, the contract is _EXTREMELY_ important. The same thing with The Doctors. You can see what happened with a UA-camr named Natural Kaos and The Doctors. It was crazy.
Totally agree. Dr phil makes money off peoples struggles, its pathetic.
@@ebogar42
Yeah right...
Get a life, _LOSER!_
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Thank you for saying "No" to Dr. Phil. I enjoyed him until i heard him say that "If you aren't having sex, you don't have a real relationship." There are a LOT of reasons a person/couple may not be willing/able to have sex, and i am directly affected by many of them (sexual orientation, disability, abuse issues). Our relationship is just as valid as any other - just as your relationship is valid.
Keep on loving any way you can. Down with Dr. Drama for views.
People forget asexual is an identity many people have. Also there are good looking woman that are majorly attracted to personality, over looks or sex.
Yeah... that’s like saying the four year relationship my husband and I had (without sex mind you) before we got married “wasn’t a relationship” at all.... though he would probably say that it’s because we met online and were long distance on top of that.
Seemed to work out just fine for us.
While that statement is wrong by Dr. Phil, there is a bond that is created by having sex with your partner that can’t be forged in other ways. It’s biologically evident as well. Your brain sends all sorts of chemicals through your system that help create that bond and your brain literally associates that person with love and happiness. True, that can occur in other ways, but not to the same extent as with having sex. It doesn’t mean your relationship isn’t real, but it is a biological fact that sexual intercourse creates a stronger bond with your partner neurologically speaking.
@@dustinweaver5040 I agree that sex can create a unique bond between partners, it isn't necessary for a loving marriage. Lots of couples can't have sex for one reason or another - it doesn't make them any less committed to each other.
Thirty-seven years ago , I married a man with a disability who needed care . He was also 24 years older than me , but it was the best decision I ever made . He was the kindest , gentlest and most loving man ever . We went on to have four beautiful children and I have never regretted a day. When I watch your videos, you remind me of us . I hope you two will have a long and happy life together xxx
What a beautiful life youve lived. ❤️
Amazing. Wow ❤️
so he is like 80 now? is he still alive???
24 years your senior and disabled. Wow
"Would you date someone in a wheelchair?"
My answer: I need to know more. Is he nice? Do we have things in common? Do we click? Those things matter. Not whether or not he is in a wheelchair.
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@@JamButter123 Username checks out.
Vella Bella then why are you here?
@@JamButter123 he/she is not a pervert. Sex and intimacy also matters in a relationship.
You guys get on great...subbed👍
Shane and Hannah are so emotionally stable. I believe that’s why their relationship works.
EXACTLY
Most people have deep rooted issues
What do you mean by that though? That more emotionally unstable people can't have happy relationships? Or just emotionally unstable disabled people?
@@matthewrandell5055 um.. It's a statistical fact that emotionally unstable people are typically unable to have stable relationships. That has nothing to do with physical disabilities.
@@merncat75 statistics? What are you talking about? Where?
merncat75 This a a little rude TBH. Its comparing apples to oranges. Their relationship works because they work for it. Simple as that. They work maybe harder because of Shanes limitations. And others with emotional problems maybe work harder because of their limitations. Its simple as that. Chill.
For me, I think the Dr Phil show is no better than a gossiping, exploitative, fake guests show, so proud of you both
So proud of you both. It's hard to say "no" to what others would say is "success" -- brilliant that you checked in with yourselves and communicated your position. That's beautiful.
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Just by seeing the title I knew you two made the right decision. People on his show (clips Ive seen) are very humiliated and ridiculed, it's sad it's all for entertainment.
Oh maybe because there is truth to what they said
The show basically is therapy for entertainment.
Also Dr Phil gets off on making people feel down. It’s a power trip for him. So disgusting.
What's name of episode? I can't find if
All Dr. Phil videos have disabled comments.
Deshina Rajeswari Nanthakumar I noticed that after I commented that. I can’t imagine why they’re all disabled. 🙄
Shana Hagan just search for dr Phil quadriplegic
He is such a bully!
I love when Hannah gets defensive and sassy, her message is so important!
U like both of them together but no shade Hannah could fatin him up a little more than what he is now, I think he would look great with a few extra pounds on him, no shade.. they both seem like great people ‼️💯🙏🏽👍🏾
She’s very good, she talks very good
The fact you two offered to still try to help that couple, whom you’ve never met, off camera, is a rarely matched level of kindness. ❤️❤️
Wow. You guys aren't only strong individuals in an interabled relationship, you are WISER than most couples as well.
Wow.
My hats off to you both.
"Like validating feeling like a burden. That's the kind of feeling we need to fix in our society."
PREACH SHANE!
I literally said "PREACH" out loud 😂😂😂
Respect to Hannah and Shane for living up to what they believe in, and not trying to achieve fame at the cost of their values. What a beautiful couple
Thank you both so much for talking so honestly about your lives together it does help the ordinary folk understand that what you have for each other is real my partner has dimensia and has become nearly reliant with his daily needs because of a stroke which I guess is not as bad as having a lifelong disability but still has its difficulties but you guys are an inspiration I wish you all the best now and for your future years together real love like yours will alwys find a way god bless .
As someone who was in an abusive relationship, I don’t think there’s a way to come back from that kind of treatment of each other, so I do think the advice to break up was warranted in that case. It can actually be really dangerous when couples in abusive relationships seek out couples therapy because the goal is often to preserve the relationship. This has nothing to do with disability and caregiving though! Perhaps related, my abusive ex called me an “invalid” because I was going through a chronic pain flare up toward the end of our relationship. I had to exit that situation because I knew I couldn’t survive with someone who was unable to accommodate me or even just let me prioritize my own needs.
I respect this couple for making ethical and moral decisions, and staying true to themselves in reference to not going on the Dr.Phil show.
Wow I knew Dr. Phil was a hack but mannnnnn.
This stigma is gross and I feel gross knowing that he thought that was like an okay message to send.
A physically disabled person made me feel better about myself. I have a hidden disability. I actually have two of them. I have been ashamed of my disabilities for decades. Thank you whoever you are for your kind compassionate words. Your words gave me hope like no one ever did.
Thank you for sharing your experience.
Doesn't caregiving come up in all relationships, even if both partners are ablebodied? As you go through life together, it's only a matter of time before one partner needs physical or mental help with something... how the heck can you be expected to separate love from caregiving? Pretty sure that's conditional love...
Yes, exactly well said 👏🏼 This comment deserves more likes!
Sounds like they wanted you guys for the _wrong_ reasons. You two are worth so much more than just being a 'token' interabled couple. I love how respectful you guys are about the whole thing!
I believe he would have said something like these guys are beating the odds or something more slimy
I DON’T WATCH HIM. Did for Years, but found Him too “HollyWood” after 50. Ha! You two did Your HomeWork: Crossed ALL The T’s & Dotted ALL The I’s! I am SO PROUD OF YOU! His LIFE is FAR AWAY from US. I am INVISIBLY DISABLED, married to an ABLED Man.***ALERT!*** Chris from SBSK NEEDS HELP!!!
Made a smart move. Now he can’t exploit you. You guys can tell your story your way.
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Exactly
It's definitely not exploitation. His guests go on willingly and are offered help beyond the show. Help that most people could never afford.
Turd Ferg It is their choice but not the kids choice. Some people go on last resort but I wouldn’t. My personal preference but I have problems like everyone else but prefer to be private.
We heard the story now it's just exploiting.on your end.
You two are such a "celebration of life and love". More power to ya' - and your example speaks volumes of wisdom to both interabled couples and others alike!
That's really sweet that you wanted to help them on the phone and truly help them and that you were willing to let go being on a TV show you guys are very noble people
Dr Phil is barely a doctor. I’m not even sure if he’s a Phil. Frick.
75egcg 😂
😂😂😂 omg scrolling down the comments, hit this one & almost spit out my coffee, that was fricken funny my dude.
He's actually factually not a doctor. He's an actor (lmao). His name and title is Phil McGraw, actor and personality. I'd call him an author, but I question his writings because he probably didn't write it himself. He is wise, however.
Dr. Phil is no Dr. He's a plumber
Ok you can criticize him, but that is a BS criticism- he spent more time than most MD’s getting that particular doctorate. 14 years to become a psychologist and the admissions is highly competitive. So stop acting like a bully.
There are also disabilities which aren’t congenital or the result of injury or disease. Can you even begin to guess the number of elderly couples who have become “interabled” over time?
stvbrsn I never though about that, true af.
stvbrsn that part 🌱
I'm guessing 100 out of 100, too quote Dr. Phil.😂
Absolutely agree with you, @stvbrsn! Car wrecks, work accidents, etc.
Exactly!
OMG I am so glad you guys have shared this experience of yours. I teach in Mental Health (non-clinical) and I have to explain to classes that Dr Phil is not therapy! *face palm*. The disrespect he shows towards people who are obviously feeling vulnerable and helpless (because - let's face it, why would you go on Dr Phil if you weren't?) is *infuriating* !!! Thank you for respectfully calling Dr Phil out!
This is my first introduction to you two. I have watched several videos and was really skeptical before I watched them. I am so happy I watched several videos. It is evident that you both love each other and it is not at all what I imagined. You both are equals in the relationship and know the importance of communication. It is obvious this is a special relationship. Not so much because any disability but because you both are in love and dedicated to each other. So great to see!!
I saw the couple on the episode you’re talking about, I have noticed Dr.Phil can been offensive and harsh with people, which is the WORST thing a therapist could do when you’re trying to help somebody
Once he did a show with a girl who has DiD and tried to make her talk about her trauma in front of EVERYONE. She started to have a panic attack. What kind of "Therapist" would do something like that??? Those people have DiD because their trauma was SO severe that they needed to protect themselves from it, why would she want to share it with the world? He is disgusting.
I can't stand him either.
I saw that Dr Phil episode. You guys made the right choice not to go. This video should be shared with that couple and Dr Phil. You guys broke it down perfectly. I'm a C4 quadriplegic in a power wheelchair. Giving and receiving care when you are most vulnerable can be very endearing and is an act of love.
You guys are so smart to reach out to friends and families and then discuss together.....Your channel really goes beyond disability.....what a genuine caring relationship is like.
these two are so in love and its really amazing. very few people in this world give hope for the chance of finding true happiness and its so awesome that you two do.
Honestly you guys are one of the only UA-cam couples with a healthy relationship.
Fraggel Rock lol hundred out of hundred ? Lol 🙈
do you know them to say that?
I'm sure THEY do but your statement is so FLAWED.
Finally UA-camrs who choose to stay away from Drama. THANK YOU ❤ edit: YES OMG 62 awesome people tinking the same way about Drama
ikr, pants off for Hannah.
George Sears uuuuy nice
Proud to be #413 person to agree
Proud to be number 432
Proud Number 461!
Good for you! The two of you are such an inspiration! Keep loving each other. You give hope to the world. Bless you both!!
Thank you for putting out this message. I’m very appreciative for the light you shine on interabled relationships.
Will you be doing a video to help Special Books by Special Kids with there PETITION
We have been talking to Chris about it for the past few days, and we are definitely going to help!
@@SquirmyandGrubs UA-cam doing too much
Squirmy and Grubs you two are amazing!!
What's happening with SBSK?
Oh my god I saw their video this morning and it had me in tears. I feel so bad for Chris..he works too hard at what he does for youtube to pull this shit.
I happened to see that Dr. Phil episode. The message needs to be LEAVE an abuser. Nothing to “work through.” It is not a girlfriend’s responsibility to train him how to behave in order to have a healthy relationship.
I seen this episode too!! I knew exactly what they were talking about when they were describing it. That’s so crazy that they were asked to be on there. I agree that that man was very abusive to his girlfriend. She did so much for him and he treated her like garbage.. smh
Well on it’s own it’s not a bad message. But the problem is the framing. Like it’s a bad thing in itself that she had to be his caretaker. And that’s just shitty and disrespectful.
THAT was the issue, not that she was taking care of him, but that he was abusing her and not being appreciative. No matter the situation, wheelchair or none, no one deserves to be abused.
Lm S I searched up Dr Phil and that episode was the first result. I definitely think she should’ve left him.
That may be true, but abuse is a separate issue from disability. It sounds like Dr. Phil was saying that dysfunction is inevitable in inter-able relationships.
I’m soooo happy your family advised you to think twice
Wow! This the first video I saw by you guys and I'm blown away. You guys are great, your hearts are so big and your message is beautiful! You made me think about a lot of great things!💖
“If you are doctor Phil don’t watch this 😂”
I hope the jackass does watch this video!
Yeah, toxic, abusive relationships don't exist when both ppl are 100% healthy.... Riiight
Right?? So true
Shane and Hannah... you are REAL people and have your souls in check! I love you both! You’re real people. Keep being beautiful you!! ❤️
Oh My MY!!! How much do i love you both!!!! So Much!!! teaching the world to be REAL and what Love looks like, i admire your message so much!
Glad you took the high road and didn’t go on that trainwreck of a show
I actually like watching the show lol
He actually is a good guy
m whittaker Amen
This is the first time I’ve seen your channel and can’t tell you how much respect I have for you. My son is 8 years old and is a very compassionate kid. Your message is the type of awareness I love him to be exposed to. Best wishes!
Lisa Ackroyd I’m glad you’re aware of what you expose him to.
I have been watching your videos for a bit now. I want to thank you both for putting yourselves out there to give support and important info out there for so many of us.
I am a new power chair user and still have a lot to learn. Thanks again and hugs to both from the state of Wisconsin!
Liza
I'm so happy for you guys! I think that you made the right move. All the best from Finland, love, Aaron.
The fact that they polled people if they would date someone in a wheelchair...yikes
I think that was a very edgy move on his part but I honestly think the whole idea was to show the reality of how the people we are forced to be surrounded by think in today's society. It's incredibly shallow and upsetting but realistic.
This really bothers me!! My husband is wheelchair bound and I’m his caregiver. I’m not a fan of Dr. Phil!! Maybe it doesn’t work for everyone, but it works for us!! Man, I could go on and on about this!! Me being my husbands caregiver works great for both of us!! It actually works out great and we have a very healthy marriage!!💜💜
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Does it bother you because of his ignorance or because there's some truth to it??What if another person was your husband's caregiver since day one , wouldn't your daily life be more convenient and less exhausting and frustrating??( Don't telle there's no frustration or exhaustion from being his caregiver)
@@Carousel5883 she said that it works out great for both of them and they have a very healthy marriage. You're choosing not to believe the words she has expressly and concisely worded.
If somebody says they feel a certain way, don't go telling them they are wrong. They are the expert on their own feelings, not you.
I think it speaks to your own beliefs that you cannot believe that an interabled relationship could be a happy one, even when somebody expressly says that it is. You have no information to go on except this person's words - no knowledge of the couple personally - and you leap to the conclusion that the relationship is unhappy. It's obvious that you're basing your verdict on your own biases, because there's nowhere else it could have come from!
What a beautifully expressed message you guys gave. You are both so well spoken.
I have zero idea how your channel got recommended to me by UA-cam, but I think you guys are fantastic and can’t stop watching.
I saw that Dr. Phil episode and was thinking about you two and the fact that most of what Dr. Phil said was crap. Also, he seems to have specialised in EVERYTHING! Glad you didn’t get associated with him!
Dr Phil is an unqualified quack who exploits vulnerable people for TV viewership, I'm glad they declined. They deserve better.
I thought about them too. He kept saying the girlfriend wasn’t qualified to take care of him mentally and physically, I would think she was perfectly qualified she was just burned out. I’m sure Hannah knows how to take care of Shane better than anyone as she does it day in and day out. As a nurse I always ask family and include them in care as they know what works for them because sometimes the way your taught in school isn’t always best or what works for them. In the same turn of his girlfriend was getting burned out he should have taken extra help, he was being selfish.
🤣 Agreed- it does seem like Dr. Phil thinks he has specialized in everything - Negativity and How-To-Encite-Drama especially
Kristen S when was this Elton I would like to watch it
Bravo! I beleive that Dr. Phil began with good intentions, but this is long gone. So sad. You two are amazing! I really enjoyed watching.
I agree, I thought he really cared in the beginning.
@Joseph Alberto Brenes Campos Go to school. The fact you said "You dumb" shows how dumb you are.
But Dr. Phil gives his guests great solutions, like turnabout ranch for rebellious teenagers.
Dr Phil’s not even a licensed psychologist
@@Jaaziar any advice will seem great to parents who doesn't know how to act like parents. Straight up stupid for anyone who believes that Dr Phil is their only hope.
You guys did the right thing. I don’t like how they make drama out of people’s problems just for entertainment and shame ppl or go in to their Bussiness. It’s like putting down people that have problems. Your relationship is so positive and you guys have such a positive outlook on everything. You guys are amazing!!! Love you guys!!!
They way you guys shared your thoughts in the video is so beautiful, loving, empathetic and with zero tolerance for BS! Subscribing for lifeeeee
I am a forty-five year old former Marine and combat veteran who cares for a fellow Marine who is paralyzed/disabled because of a combat injury. Although we aren't lovers lol, he most definitely is my best friend and I would NEVER even think about turning my back on him! I lost my first wife to divorce partially because of the situation, but I am happily remarried to a wonderful woman that appreciates my loyalty to my friend. In no way do I think of him as a burden or a problem! It's unbelievable how out of touch Dr. Phil and other celebrities are with the common people. I caught a glimpse of Dr. Phil's personality years ago, and I did NOT like it at all. Anyway, I wish you two many, many happy and healthy years ahead. #Semper Fi
This is beautiful to read. Its beautiful that friendship can be so strong and solid as well.
Agree, beautifully said and thanks for sharing. Also, sending my sincere appreciation for you and your friends service and sacrifice to our country 🙏🏼🥰
dr phil is practically a reality show where they push the most dramatic narrative they want to sell per episode! suddenly all these extremely bratty instagram girls (obvious trolls) are appearing 😕 they’re more focused on drama than real therapy, i’m glad u guys turned it down!!
Iqra MaIik i think the show started with good intentions, but after danielle went on the show and they saw their ratings and views skyrocket, they started focusing on drama and not caring if they spread false information. dr phil hasn't helped anyone that's been on his show lately.
@@midnightmak3up i agree! the show has become a platform for these kids to launch their careers as opposed to getting help
Thank you so much for this, and for every episode you share! SO many of us with a disability feel like a burden and we don't need that validated! Every partnership involves caregiving and intimacy in some form. Whether it's making tea when your partner has a cold, or helping after your partner gives birth, or if they're injured, or if they're permanently disabled.
Both of you make my day with your videos. Thank you for sharing so many videos that have made me laugh during depression.
I have been with my bf for almost 16 years now and I have been disabled about 8 years of that. My bf is my caregiver and he also works a 40 hour week at his job. We have our ups and downs and yes I feel guilty and yes he gets burnt out sometimes but its never been abusive. It takes unconditional love and work on both peoples part, oh and LOTS of humor. We realized were both two imperfect people that arent willing to give up on each other.
Enchanted Reveries
Love and respect to the both of you! 💙❤💚💜
Every relationship takes work and I commend both of you for sticking it out through all of the ups and downs life has thrown at you. People underestimate how much humor can get you through things. Hugs and positivity to both of you.
YOU should be on TV
I heard Dr. Phil is a script show so if you went on, I bet you would have had a script and be told what to say. So glad you didn't do the show. I had a special needs daughter and hearing him say that they are a burden on everyone makes my blood boil!!! I would do tripple the work if I could have her back. She was never a burden and I don't see any person with disabilities as a burden. You guys are an inspiration and such a beautiful couple. Thank you!
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You seem like a very god parent Sheryl.
It disgusts me when someone goes out of their way to say that a child is a burden on their parents. Like, if the parents are struggling with the kid, the kid probably already fears that it’s their fault to some extent, even though they aren’t to blame. Calling someone a burden is basically confirming that person’s insecurities, and that’s a horrible thing to do.
You two sent such a great message here. Good for you. Thank goodnesssss!!
You two are so wise. I am proud of you both Shane and Hannah. God bless you.
I don't even have to watch the video to agree with your decision.
Dr. Phil is a quack.
Great adjective to describe him
I got the upload notification and I was like "Well of COURSE they did. "
@@ki4gmb ikr 🤣
lol awe
I was going to say the same thing 30 seconds into the video! He exploits people for views.
Shane and Hannah, I have admired you and your approach to life and sharing your story with others, but I now have even MORE respect for you and the maturity you demonstrated with this decision. Keep doing what you are doing! You are educating and inspiring so many people!
Laura Dalton ditto....exactly what I was thinking!
Their level of maturity and the support of their families, are probably the main reasons their relationship works. Not everyone has that, disabled or not.
I am so grateful that you turned down Dr Phil. Your honesty and compassion is just unmeasurable thank you for what you do and thank you for your love it's very inspiring
You two have a very loving spirit in your home. It is so uplifting to watch your channel. It makes me more aware of my ability to do for others...especially my husband. He is not disabled...(unless not being able to put his dishes in the dishwasher counts). Thank you for making these videos!
One of my best, most loving relationships was with my ex who had cerebral palsy. We hardly ever fought and we ended on good terms bcuz he didn't want to move back home with me. I couldn't stay and he couldn't go. I still cherish the memories.
If your relationship is as toxic as the one on Dr. Phil... It's not the disability or caregiving, it's just a really bad relationship with two people who do not mesh.
I fell in love with the most amazing and hottest guy in college he was in a wheelchair and cerbal palsy, everyone wanted to date him and sadly he didn't have feelings for me but I talk to him now and then. Every person I have dated others with hidden disabilities like autism and they are the best I have had.
Corine Hennesy thank you for sharing that, it’s a sweet story. ❤️
I bet the sex was shit lol
@@casey7128 You have alot of growing up to do if you think sex is everything.
In this 15 min video you guys gave so much better advice than Dr. Phil ever did on his show.. I’m so glad you didn’t go on, you’re right it’s incredibly sensationalised and dramatic!!
So true!
I've been disabled since 1998 and my husband has been right there with me. Thank God not everyone see's me as a burden, I don't what I'd do without my husband. Keep on smiling and being happy, your together because you honestly love each other and I think that's just beautiful.🤗🤗
You guys definitely did the right thing. I don’t know anyone with disabilities but I am addicted to your guys show. It changed how I think of love and I love that you guys kept the same message, that love is love and you can love who ever you want without boundaries. 💙
You are both changing perspectives every day, thank you for this video.
And thank YOU for spelling "every day" correctly. That's only like the second time I've seen that on youtube. :) It just made me happy. :)
@@jennhoff03 Haha, you made my night :)
@@gretakruse6683 :D I'm so glad! :D You made me happy, too!
I’m actually really glad you turned down the opportunity. It shows maturity. I love watching Dr. Phil, but ONLY for the drama. The show really does exploit people and try to create drama. It isn’t a professional environment. I really appreciate you both so much.
Wow! You two are awesome. So many other couples would have still gone on the show just to gain viewers. I love how well you guys get along, I’m a new viewer and will most likely go back and watch all your previous shows.
I have a brand new respect for you both. Keep sharing, we're paying attention, we're learning!
So glad you didn't go to his show. I used to watch his show, I'm a retired RN with experience in psychiatric mental disorders s and I hate the way he addressed this issues, he can be a bully, he ridicule people
I only watched a couple of his shows. I quit when I saw him humiliate one of his guests.
He really does. I thought it was just me, but yea, that's not normal for people whom work in health care of any sort.
Omg yeah
You are so right! He was really hard on her.
Nitza Munoz , I disagree! Dr. Phil cannot be a bully. He is a bully!
You’re relationship is so beautiful. It’s so humbling to see a couple that provide such a positive message. 💙
S.A. Moore it’s not. It’s disgusting
Supervisor JD i mean they found love but you didn’t. Who’s really disgusting?
@@supervisorjd4458 you are discusting, shame on you
I totally agree with you . I would imagine that caring so personally for the one you love would make your relationship actually better , more intimate cause you’re open and so close. It’s nice to see a couple interabled or not with such a healthy and loving relationship!
Communication and respect is HUGE in any relationship. I am a c6-c7 quadriplegic and have been happily married since 1998. We love, respect, and communicate every day, and that's what makes it work.
I'm sorry but there is caregiving in every relationship. Couples take care of each other!! Isn't that the way it's supposed to be?
I mean it's a certain degree of caregiving not to be negative. It seems all great because it is not a persons reality but it can be more than basic caregiving and takes a special kind of love to maybe wipe your lovers ass, dress them or other various care within the disability spectrum. Imagine possibly having children as well and balancing the two. It's way more complicated than what it seems.
Desmear Sanders yeah, that’s why I didn’t really think it was fair for them to judge people for not wanting a relationship with somebody who’s disabled.
@@BrainEatPenguin We might all be caregivers someday if something happened to a loved one, but I agree. Not everyone wants that in a relationship and thats fine.
@@-simplicity7551 at least not in an initial relationship you know? Once you get there, and you made the commitment, most people dont thinj twice about caring for a lover they've been with for like 20+ years. It's just the initial relationship that turns most people away, which is also fine. Not everyone is properly equipped to take care of others in such a way
@@akirashiori6265 Yep exactly. New relationships are alot as it is. Takes certain people, if theyre perfect for you and you make a good team, its alot easier.
Yesssss I'm a licensed Social Worker and I hate Dr Phil so much! Thank you for being awesome.
His solution is always to contact other sources that do all the work.. plus hes very judgemental
@@juliehelms5727 like youve never hated someone. Dont act like youre so high and mighty. Dr. Phil is an uneducated twat that causes more harm than good.
heykelly I was born with cerebral palsy use a wheelchair and was a licensed social worker for 15 years I just retired in 2017.
@@juliehelms5727 so is judgment of someone's heart based on one statement about someone who repeatedly exploits and sensationalizes real people on national television for money
@@witchywomynwheels6823 congratulations on the retirement! That's awesome. I would love to see more diversity within the social work profession
So sorry hear all this you know I’m so grateful that you take care of Shane that shows how unselfish you truely are thank you so much it’s good people like you that keep me going
I only found you guys a day or two ago. We've spent hours together but it feels like weeks. You are so real, so positive, so great, and so blessed to have each other. You already have found a special place in my heart. PS I'm glad you didn't fall into the Phil trap.
Not only did you make the right decision, but also your point about caregiving and being in a relationship being perfectly possible is so true. No one in a committed relationship knows what the next day will bring, perhaps your partner will get flu and you will need to nurse them, or for some people a dreadful illness like dementia or injury. If you love someone truly then being there to provide care for them if they need it is part of the deal. Also it is clearly not just one way in your relationship. Shane clearly cares for Hannah in many ways, even if he is limited in what he can do physically.
My aunt cared full time for her husband for nearly 40years after a motorbike accident and she loved him till the day he died! Was it easy...of course not! But she did a bloody brilliant job while also raising their two daughters. I am so glad you turned down his offer, you are an amazing couple and it just makes me smile when I see the clear love you have for each other! Hugs from Australia!
Dr. Phil finds interesting situations to exploit for views. Good for you guys for setting an example and not getting caught up on the spotlight 👍😊
Hi guys, i believe what’s needed in any relationship is unconditional love, you two were aware of the difficulties you would have to deal with but the love you have for each other took care of everything, i love your videos, keep doing what you do, and as Cole and Charisma say, “ stay positive “.
You guys make me laugh even when things are rough. Your always up beat and joking.keep up the great life you two have.❤❤❤
You made the absolute best decision all that man does is exploit ppl for ratings he helps no one
You had me at
"if you are a fan of dr. Phil or of you are dr. Phil then you won't like this video"
So love Hannah and Shane..
P.s. if dr. Phil is the advice giver why would they need yall??🤔🤔🤔
Things that make you go nope.
This was so incredible. the message through out was so loving and mindful. 🙏🏻💗 you guys are amazing.
You two rock! This is the only way you can stop miscommunication is by addressing it and clearing it up! Thanks!!!
FACT: Squirmy and Grubs gives much better advice than Dr.Phil about being an interabled couple.
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How did u come up with this name? It is too funny! Yall always make me smile with your kind hearts and understanding
your a rude dick head go watch something else then you bored loser
Amen!
Kiane Keo or any relationship. They are goals
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comment so Shane and Hannah can see it.... Sign SBSK petition if you can, thanks! www.change.org/p/youtube-reinstate-sbsk-comment-sections-immediately?recruiter=941862820&
All Family Channels Showing Children Either Being Changed Or Not Clothed Properly Has Had Their Comments Disabled So No It's NOT "UnFair" It Was Done For A Reason, To Protect Children & Their Privacy From Creeps/Pedophiles/Child Molesters Etc
Yes yes 100 times yes for this comment everyone sign
I feel your pain but You Tube had to do it to all channels with kids in most circumstances. The pedos were targeting vids with children and the advertisers said fix it or we're gone. It sucks but the needs of the children outweighed the needs of the commenters.
So glad you made this decision! Your response in this vid was really thoughtful and informative and I hope more people listen to this and learn from it instead of that episode of dr phil
You guys are really making me a better person. Thank you for opening my mind for this stuff