If she’s anxious, neuro divergent, add/ adhd, or just a mom …. Overthinking the day , conversations, worried about certain things, details, did I leave the oven on, too guilty about enjoying too much , not giving enough , is the baby ok , oh I really need to clean that ceiling fan, etc ….( says he married to her more than 40 years and still keeping her from thinking about those silly things ) 😊
TBF Just because our minds may wander momentarily, doesn't mean we aren't enjoying ourselves! And if the D is good, it's hard to focus on anything but the moment! ;)
LOL I know what you mean, but I guess I feel sorry for men who genuinely believe that. Feels like it puts a lot of pressure on them to perform, rather than just enjoying the moment if you know what I mean? Especially as most women are expert multitaskers. LOL
During sex, a girlfriend is thinking "Are you done already?" Or "Are you done yet?" A wife thinks to hersrlf "Beige. I think I'll paint the ceiling beige.."
Things that they want you to buy for them. You look great and maybe you can be in it for your beauty, too. That's why alcohol is helpful. If another woman is there, maybe have her worry for you. Not sure talking is so important. Be here now. Faster, slower, softer, harder. Still sounds like you expect the man to carry the load. Most of what you say is self- centered.
I'm sorry you feel that way. It doesn't sound like you've had very good experiences with women. We're not all the same. I never expect a man to buy my anything, nor do I really want him too. Although I'm always grateful for little things like flowers, I tend to find I spend more on my partners than they end up spending on me because I'm a giver more than anything else. I see things out and about and think "Oooo he'd like that!" LOL I'm not sure where you think I've said the man has to carry the load at all, I was just answering the question of what we often think about... Although these are very fleeting throughts and TBH if the going is good I know I'm normally only thinking about that moment in time and getting him (and myself) to the end. ;)
Of course, but that doesn't stop our minds wandering - maybe you'll tell me different but I'm sure men must be the same at least some of the time. :) I can't imagine you lying there just thinking "in, out, in, out, in, out, oh God!" LOL ;)
It IS her responsibility to be present. That's the problem and why Women so often equate sex as just another thing they have to do for someone and dissociate form the feelings and connection that come from a healthy married sex life. women do this , check out and the marriage suffers. They need to own their crap and remember what they are there for - each other - not the endless list of bullsh*t that can quite frankly be hired out to someone else to do.
I am sorry to hear you've had that experience with women. TBF That's not just a woman thing, men can be like that too sometimes. But it's a horrible position to be in when you think your partner has checked out like that.
If she’s anxious, neuro divergent, add/ adhd, or just a mom …. Overthinking the day , conversations, worried about certain things, details, did I leave the oven on, too guilty about enjoying too much , not giving enough , is the baby ok , oh I really need to clean that ceiling fan, etc ….( says he married to her more than 40 years and still keeping her from thinking about those silly things ) 😊
TBF Just because our minds may wander momentarily, doesn't mean we aren't enjoying ourselves! And if the D is good, it's hard to focus on anything but the moment! ;)
If she is capable of thinking, you have not got it right. It is time for YOU to think about what you are doing first.
LOL I know what you mean, but I guess I feel sorry for men who genuinely believe that. Feels like it puts a lot of pressure on them to perform, rather than just enjoying the moment if you know what I mean? Especially as most women are expert multitaskers. LOL
If you stay together, it will all work out
During sex, a girlfriend is thinking "Are you done already?" Or "Are you done yet?" A wife thinks to hersrlf "Beige. I think I'll paint the ceiling beige.."
LOL This made me chuckle. Thanks for the laugh.
@@TheDatingGuruUK glad to hear 😊
ITS DEGENERATE POINTLESS SEX SATURDAY BETWEEN TWO DEGENERATES LOOKING FOR MEANING WITH THEIR LIVES IN ALL THE WRONG PLACES!!
There is a scene about this in the classic Steve Martin film, Parenthood.
LOL I'd totally forgotten about that - guess what I'm gonna watch tonight now!
"wobbly bits" Have to remember that one
LOL It always makes me laugh when I say it, because so many of us are so self-conscious about the "wobbly bits".
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Oooo welcome and thank you for being here!
Jane Fonda ( when she was young ) in one move , during act with Sutherland was contemplating wall clock. Camera did show it in genius way.
Ooo I love the old movies. You've reminded me, I know what I'm watching tonight! Thanks for the chuckle and the recommendation!
Things that they want you to buy for them. You look great and maybe you can be in it for your beauty, too. That's why alcohol is helpful. If another woman is there, maybe have her worry for you. Not sure talking is so important. Be here now. Faster, slower, softer, harder.
Still sounds like you expect the man to carry the load. Most of what you say is self- centered.
I'm sorry you feel that way. It doesn't sound like you've had very good experiences with women. We're not all the same. I never expect a man to buy my anything, nor do I really want him too. Although I'm always grateful for little things like flowers, I tend to find I spend more on my partners than they end up spending on me because I'm a giver more than anything else. I see things out and about and think "Oooo he'd like that!" LOL
I'm not sure where you think I've said the man has to carry the load at all, I was just answering the question of what we often think about... Although these are very fleeting throughts and TBH if the going is good I know I'm normally only thinking about that moment in time and getting him (and myself) to the end. ;)
Turn up the sound, kind of hard to hear.
Sorry hun, I'm having real technical issues at the moment. I will try and get the volume sorted. :)
ITS DEGENERATE POINTLESS SEX SATURDAY BETWEEN TWO DEGENERATES LOOKING FOR MEANING WITH THEIR LIVES IN ALL THE WRONG PLACES!!!!
During peak - nothing - before and after I do not know but ......
Is it not her responsibility to ´be present´?
Of course, but that doesn't stop our minds wandering - maybe you'll tell me different but I'm sure men must be the same at least some of the time. :) I can't imagine you lying there just thinking "in, out, in, out, in, out, oh God!" LOL ;)
It IS her responsibility to be present. That's the problem and why Women so often equate sex as just another thing they have to do for someone and dissociate form the feelings and connection that come from a healthy married sex life. women do this , check out and the marriage suffers. They need to own their crap and remember what they are there for - each other - not the endless list of bullsh*t that can quite frankly be hired out to someone else to do.
@@TheDatingGuruUK excellent....yet another chick telling me how and what I think. Maybe work on your own failure to connect with yourself first.
I am sorry to hear you've had that experience with women. TBF That's not just a woman thing, men can be like that too sometimes. But it's a horrible position to be in when you think your partner has checked out like that.
Nobody has told you anything of the sort. I was merely answering a question about what WOMEN sometimes think about.
Boring .