Have a purpose in life that is much bigger than any woman. Relying on a woman to give you purpose, or saying "my purpose in life is to make this woman happy", is a recipe for sadness and frustration.
I agree, but most people say #1 purpose is your physical and mental health. #2 purpose with most guys is $$ or career. And #3 purpose is generally along the lines of procreation or relationships. Now one could perhaps say that your body is a temple unto a higher purpose I suppose? I personally like to think that serving truth or that which fosters life, and fighting deception or unsustainable progression should be everyones purpose. But its probably more of a personal choice or life goal, that is actually rather despised, as it is slightly contrary to the operating principles of the Luciferian construct, more commonly referred to as colonial, or western civilization. Where you can be whatever you want Theist, atheist, agnostic, or any combination of. So long as at the end of the day you actually accept the mark or permanent legal identity of a beast like authority and you willingly serve the Luciferianism system in principle and deed. Everyone gets the mark or else we kill them as a society or evil gang, until they are conquered. Even the native Americans that got put on reservations after their land was stolen where required to take the mark and except a legal fiction/Identity. Essentially a condition of servitude to something other than their creator. Its just mankind playing God, for apparent face value reasons. It never works out well. But they've all among civilization turned aside from the truth together to give it one Hell! of a try. So whats your purpose?
Well it's just hypergamy...... in the modern world with instagram, dating apps... and marriage no longer means "for life" but... "half his shit when you get tired of him"...
It's fun tho at least for me currently because there is a girl that clearly likes me and it's like a game trying to see who will say something first lol
So last week my fiance wanted a break. Watched all these videos and played it cool. Today was our 4 year anniversary and we had dinner. I played it sooo cool and she was holding my leg, giving me kisses and put her arm around. As the dinner was almost done, she said she wanted to break up. Wtf? I still played it cool and then it got crazy when we asked how we would divide our stuff. She got so upset and I knew what I was worth. Told her to calm down then 5 min later she did. The biggest thing I learned during the break was to make myself #1. My peace should come from myself and not another person. I want to say thank you because if I didn't take advice then I would have been a wreck. Now off with my friends and she just called me to apologise again. Fall in Love with yourself and you will never be heartbroken 💯
I have been working out like crazy everyday and eating healthy. I already packed on alot of muscle and lost a good amount of fat. Last night went to the bar and had a great time. Wierd thing was I was always surrounded by women. I almost didn't go cuz I was so tired after work but glad I did! Accept every social event. Trust me, when I was getting rdy I was getting depressed but glad I went! Today working out I just realized she was a moody girlfriend all the time and never appreciated me! We are engaged and she never made an effort to see one of my best friends. (he still hasn't met her!) She also had social media accounts but she said she deleted it but then reactivated it. I didn't know for the longest but once I finally saw it, she had no pictures of us! Last thing, these last 3 months I was dealing with my brother in law almost dying and took care of my niece and nephew and she never wanted to help out or anything. Then my grandma passed away and she was cold and distant. Those last 3 months I am sure she already made her decision to leave me. Holy shit! I am leaving this here to make sure I revisit it if she tries to get back with me. Boys I dodged a fucking bullet!!!!
You damn right!!! Neglecting myself to make somebody else happy. Of course, I give it a balance, but cannot forget about myself. Once she knows it's about her.....her antennas will rise, catch on, and go for the kill and take advantage of the man. They're good!!
U handled it like a pro, did exactly the right thing, letting her go and staying calm, especially after she got upset. Hats off to u. There r plenty of fish out there time for a new model.
So your first mistake was thinking the affection was making everything OK. She was testing you. Dude woman are difficult. But don't jump all in. She said let's break up say OK end the subject. Don't fight it. Leave it alone show her you are strong and can handle it. Make it as she never said it pull away next day go no contact. Show her you can pass the test. Sounds stupid but it works
We're not just meat bags or an extra pocket of money. Guys, you need to have more self respect and self love. If a woman or anyone does not value you as a person or respects you, it means they do not deserve you. Choose wisely who you want to share your life with. Your life is precious and you don't want to give it to someone who will just abuse you and make you feel worthless.
*The idea of regularly checking in with her about her needs and concerns is something many overlook but is so vital. It's a great reminder that relationships are a two-way street, and both partners should feel valued and heard.*
Notice how women think they don't have to bring anything to the table, it's up to the man 100% of the time. If you have to put much effort into a woman, just let her go. Replace her with a better, more appreciative woman. What the hell are women's standards?
Men stay in your purpose get involved with things to occupy your time don’t let a woman occupy all your time join a gym is a very good way to self improve
@@sjot2006 it's 2021 man.. plenty of fish online.. I've been getting plenty of women on there.. although you do have to be somewhat good looking and have your shiat together..for what I've been told
Modern day women treat good loyal and honest men like the Avengers treated Thanos In Infinity Wars....they believed they were prepared for him they believed they could handle him...but when he finally showed up, when destiny arrived.....he was to much for them to handle and in the blink of an eye (snap***) gone...just like these women ghost a good genuine man #MicDrop
Women need chaos buddy. You need a woman to seek you're validation and you're not going to give it to her. Women are emotional beings, they need to be attracted to you mentally to be engaged. You need to pull back on her first sometimes. Be Pro active not reactive
@zenigel there isn't anything inherently wrong with manipulation. Is it wrong for an opinion piece to have a thesis? It seems healthy to pull away if a girl pulls away otherwise you risk chasing her harder than she chases you which makes you appear to have a lower value than her which either makes you look creepy or at risk of entering her frame.
As a man, Make yourself a priority, your health happiness and wellbeing comes first at all times. Confidence and the ability to be happy without the need for a woman to validate or complete you. Doing this you will attract others towards you. Including females. Even if you do decide, that you've found a quality female. Don't change for her. Yes balance is involved as you have to consider her needs wants now, but never let her feel superior or put her on that pedestal. She needs to know that you have other priorities, and that you can be happy without her and that you know there are many other women out there who may be better suited for you.
This is why I prefer to be single..a relationship shouldn’t be this complicated, it should be natural chemistry..this just goes to show that we aren’t made to be in long term relationships..we get tested in life and then come home to get tested..I’m good..shout out to fellas on their purpose and living the red pill life
It's hard when you have every good quality in life. Stable job, working on yourself, and all she does is test you over and over. This battle of regaining my confidence has been hard. Finally seeing results but changing your behavior as a man is not easy. Especially if you know your values. Women want someone stable but also a strong not caring attitude, when you are kind that's not easy to have.
Women will always test. Stop thinking they won’t. If you are on your purpose and keep up with you and are true to you . You, will see the “tests” lessen. Deal with it, live with it, do not run from it, recognize the value in it. It will help you become a better man and she will love you like you’ve never been loved before.
I remember I told this man who was telling me about his gf of 1 year acting funny ignoring his calls recently " the only time a woman cares about is right now. Nothing before or after matters to her so it shouldn't matter to you"
Thats exactly why my wife of 16-years 3-kids asked for divorce. I gave her too much power and control in our relationship and she lost respect and wanted to move on.
Kicks a lot.. that's gotta hurt! whenever there's kids involved it makes it that much harder! I think the reason for most break ups is we rush into relationships and don't take the time in finding whether we're with the right person. Life is difficult enough! It's hard to find that someone whom u can really trust.
My wife of 9 years, 2 kids, gave me the boot 12 years ago. I gave her too much power and control, and I barely stood up for myself. 2 more years of child support left and I'll finally be free of her.
No you can stop almost any woman from pulling away. You just have to play all kinds of psychological games. You have to treat a woman like a loving well trained dog, or a mushroom. Basically you cannot actually value and respect them, or they won't value or respect you. Oh and the better you treat them, the worse they will generally treat you, and the more they pull away. Taking on a women is like adopting an emotional child, that demands respect or else, no kids for you, no sex for you, no emotional support for you. So let me reiterate. If you can't BS a bitch completely for years on end and manipulate her to her hearts contentment. Then she will not want you. You're a weak man. The kind of man who wants an open honest loving relationship with a female. A sucker or chump to most woman. Cause they don't instinctually want that from you. They want a man that puts them third at best, cause you will never be #1 to 99% of all women. Their loyalty to you is directly relational to how you currently are making them feel. They don't belong to you, its just your turn. So you best really want something from them, or why waste the time. But yeah you can definitely stop most girls from ever pulling away unless you sabotage yourself. Its pretty easy except for being disgusted with how pathetic they are to have to be dealt with like enemies, and never like friends or anyone you actually care about. Cause if you care, your ass is screwed and she'll know it. And its off to the congruency testing races for her stupid emotional brain. My point is that you can have an awesome relationship with a woman if you are a heartless jerk, they'll love you. Or at least relate to you and not pull away because they know in that type of situation it would be a futile tactic. Unlike with guys who demonstrate foolishly and in unwomanly weakness, that they actually care about anything besides themselves (have values, principles, that she doesn't feel safe and secure with). With this rant I offer a disclaimer, as I do apologize to the five or six unicorns on this planet. All the rest of you women are just pissed that your man isn't smart enough to effectively mushroom your stupid asses in a respectful fashion like you prefer.
What do you mean by an 'awesome' relationship. It sounds a very childish and American term as though its a commodity or consumer product! If you play games you play games. You sound as though you dislike and are angry with women. We all have letdowns. Know yourself first before you have expectations of others.
Faxxxx 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿😂😂😂😂😂 or the other guy wasn't as good of a lay and person as you. Treat her like a sex doll from henceforth. Never relationship status or marry this woman she is trash.
Just to complicated so much talk . Be yourself act right and if it happens then you got lucky, it’s just impossible to really understand women. U can be a fine man and they dump your behind in minutes notice, if you really nice and try hard you in trouble, the secret is not to be too giving don’t be overly nice and they may treat you with respect ,
That's nit necessarily true it would be nice but unless you're a gold digger that's not going to make a relationship work. It's a wonderful asset but yiu need more!
These women talk like it’s only women who have standards and men are just losers whatever the situation may be. Most women keep looking for that Mr Perfect and finally end up with some jerk. That’s how this video is going to end up too.
It's about balance in prioritizing both and not go to extreme one over the other. So basically women pull away when men lack emotional maturity such as clinginess, lack of empathy, lack of self confidence and etc
Even the way she explains how women think it is always sounds like you need as a man to play a game to neglect her sometimes, to be less available, to say some words in twisted way. So simply you cannot be yourself, you cannot be honest nor direct. Am I dealing with a little kid or what? Life hs a lot of challenges. I rather just be myself and whoever likes me that us fine but no pretend nor to waste my energy in games to please any insecured or picky person. Sorry if I used strong words. It is just trying feels ng like touching feelings for a kid. I think women are able to be treated as adults more than that.
Women also pull away when you do not make much money, when you do not take the trash out, when they compare you with other acquaintance with bigger wallets. Lol
Women pull away because someone they previously was in a relationship or someone they have interest in before you ever met her...is back on the scene then they ghost you....I'll give you ladies credit for basic good advice. Because if a woman is single and she's giving you some interest then ghost you not because you did something stupid. Come on ladies you know I'm telling the truth...
lol being bitter and jaded is not the answer brother. Understand woman more. Understand the feminine nature. Read the book The Way of The Superior Man By David Dieda.
If you treat a woman with respect and she still pulls away, you done your job . The best thing to do is move on therefore it wasn't meant to be. I would rather let go than to he hurt in the long run.
Thanks for affirming what was in the back of my mind but always thought it was the opposite. I had no standards and allowed the woman to be in control for the fear of not having a woman in my life. I'm more self confident and the current fact that I'm still single doesn't depress me anymore. Yay!
I always say don’t take advice from women but I’ve been watching your videos here and there for almost a year and you might be my favorite “coach” I’ve listened too.
Coach Natalie said it herself, "Whats in it for me?" Thats the key. THATS WHAT THEY CARE ABOUT. Whats in it for her. Exactly why I dont give a shit about women
Its funny how self centered and unaware these coaches themselves are. They are so OK with not briniging anything to the table because they know they dont have to.
This is a great talk. This is what married couples need to hear as well. Because people are emature in their relationships even when they're married for 30 years. It's sad to see how many people have less than desirable relationships and behaving like kids at times. Thank you ladies. It was lovely to hear two mature (in relationship) ladies having such a good conversation. Those were some valuable points that everyone needs to take in consideration. No matter how old you are and how long you've been in a relationship, never stop learning and improving!
Agree with both points. 1 - Never chase. If you want to be around each other, it will be a mutual courtship, and a learning of each other which is desired by both. 2 - Be yourself at all times. Don't change what you are to try to make her happy. She will be happy when she is around you when you continue to be who and what you are.
This is why that book was written Women from Mars and Men from Venus. We speak two different languages lol. It is truly confusing for a man with women now. He doesn’t know if he’s coming or going and if he’s being to forward or not to forward...it’s crazy
So my biggest take aways from this are that I need to value myself a great deal more than I do. I (very eagerly) lose myself in a partner. This drives them insane either quickly or over time. To put myself first, to know who I am and follow those interests. I don't have ambitions goals or dreams that I'm aware of now. The second one, and this is hugely important. I need to learn to pace myself. To take the space for me and to drop the idea that I need to be there for them
I was the most confident I’ve ever been going into my last relationship. Over the year and a half relationship with her, of her beating me down and calling me stupid, not mature, non understanding, fat, mentally ill, not good enough etc, she destroyed me and my confidence. I was confident, but she battered me on a daily basis and it broke me, and all I wanted to do was continue to try and be better and nothing was ever enough, and once I was destroyed and had 0 confidence, she dumped on the curb cold and dry, called the cops on me and told them I was mentally unstable and concerned for my health and tried to put me in a hospital. I was fine, ruled but the medical examiner, she just abused me to the point of severe depression. Working on rebuilding now. But I just don’t know what you’re supposed to do when you are confident, but no matter what you do, it’s never good enough and you’re always a problem. That kills it. Especially when you love her and try so hard to be everything she could want. A year and a half and she never told me she loved me once. But after about 6 months, I still loved her. Cold hearted woman hurt. Can bring a confident man into a ball of confusion just out of personal entertainment, and when they succeed, they just dump you like you were never even there
I feel your pain bro. I been through a very similar experience like you and it really does cause collateral damage to our self esteem/confidence. It took me over two years to rebuild my confidence from rock bottom but I’ve mentally checked out because it’s no longer worth the heartache. I’ve had to become stoic and learn to be happy as a single man. Deep down, I know my time to go from earth will be soon and I will be alone in my grave. So until that day comes, I want to value my peace of mind
everything was great and she told me she loves me in a very special way, but 1 week later she ended the relationship because she was scared and said she needed to work on herself. What kind of crap is that. Spun my head for sure. Leo
Leo Lyons self destructive and dumb. Just give her the “well, if you change your mind, just give me a call ;)” response, and date other women and wait for her to call lol
Felt that. I was in a somewhat similar situation. I know this comment was 4 years ago but I recently stopped taking to a woman that was pulling away. Everything was going smooth and great until she needed space. In the end, men truly need to prioritize themselves, and everything else before a woman.
Before I went to prison I thought I was confident enough but I found true confidence in me when I was in because I learned to survive although I don't recommend going to prison,I did found true confidence.
I’m 27 and started dating women a few years older than me , even dated a great woman who was 45 for a few months .. taught me a lot about what women value and not put stress into a situation .. the age difference made me absorb information and react instead of react upon impulse / emotion . She made me feel wanted and valued our time together because I was younger and she wanted to do everything I suggested because it would be a new experience for her .. so if you can date someone a few years older .. do it
Same here, when I was 33 I was together with a really hot 41 year old Scandinavian woman. So much more fun and calmer relationship than with those 22-30 year old women... You are absolutely right, older women make you feel much more wanted (and loved). The maturity of an emotional stable 40 year old women is golden; it beats everything. And the sex is often so much greater.
I feel that, the feeling of not being heard is a big one for relationships not just for women but men as well. Both parties should be there for one another both should give 100 into a relationship it should be 100/100 it is a relationship between 2 people foundations are built together with trust, commitment, communication, honesty, respect, and Willingness and many more
The answer to this just be nice be yourself and no bloody mind games . It will get to a point where conversation won’t flow meaning to scared to say anything, worried about being needy or to quiet . Not committing, friend zones , can’t say I love you . I give up
I'm married... Guys, it is easy... if you care too much about what they say, they either leave you or they abuse you! The sooner you see them pulling away, the better because you can start to give a shit! :D Good luck
I found this discussion very helpful. I’ve been in many toxic relationships and have participated in the toxicity as well. No stones to throw! Thanks for the resource.
"Find women volunteering, church and other quality places" Great advice for under 30, for over 40, great women are at these places, with their wedding rings.
Because of girls like this two, world is today with morale and Every second couple devorced, in old good Times they know how to fix something, today we Just replace.
I feel they were all over the place in this video. I’ve been marred and had a 3 year relationship afterwards, now I’m single. I’m actually happy being single. Women nowadays have this entitlement and feel they don’t have to do a damn thing in the relationship and they are the “prize”, it’s freakin exhausting. Can’t be an old fashioned gentleman anymore because woman don’t appreciate it or they take it for granted. I noticed once I was gone they won’t leave me alone.
Interesting insight. I'd encourage both of you to look into attachment theory; specifically attachment styles. A lot of advice in this video feels like it is given through the lens of a relationship between an anxious male dating an avoidant female. This certainly makes sense because these two attachment styles naturally attract to each other, and this is one of the most discussed relationship dynamics on the Internet. This is also where you'll see the most games and push/pull happening. However, the unfortunate news is these relationships are flawed on a fundamental level and do not succeed without mutual effort from both partners to become more secure individuals. The advice surrounding boundaries in this video is good in the long term, but the expectation that you will discover all of someone's boundaries on the first few dates is unrealistic. It's incredibly insecure to interrogate someone for fit, and nothing kills attraction faster in a secure person than someone else displaying insecure tendencies. I do however 100% agree with the idea of not getting attached to titles and taking your time to get to know someone. In general, secure people will only attract and date secure people. Anxious and avoidant people may try to date secure people but they will repel them. Anxious people attract avoidant people and avoidant people attract anxious people. Fearful people (who are basically simultaneously anxious and avoidant) will either attract the opposite of their most common component or other fearful people. Anxious, Avoidant, and Fearful relationship dynamics are where nearly all of the Internet horror stories regarding relationships ending poorly come from. Relationships that end between two secure people tend to end in much quieter, healthier, and common ways with two parties agreeing they aren't compatible with each other whilst appreciating the time they spent with one another. People with this outlook tend to be happy, fulfilled with their lifestyles, and have a strong sense of identity, which is why they aren't as loud. It's very possible for someone to travel through multiple attachment styles at different points in their lives and for a person's attachment style to be influenced by their environment.
My girlfriend broke up with me 3 months ago had I had watched your videos throughout our relationship it would not be in shambles right now I am learning so much from you you are awesome thank you pray for my relationship please I hope it works back out I've left her alone for 3 weeks now and was with her for three years. I care enough to watch these about myself too. I am actually working I'm fixing the things I never fixed in my life throughout our relationship. Thank you for teaching me how to work on myself I love you!!
It's digusting to understand that no matter who you date and what the context is, women will always be attracted by what a man can bring to them instead of who he is. They're only sticking to someone because they get something from him/her. On the other hand, accepting this reality allows you to focus on yourself.
Guys I changed my mind I was hating initially but when I actually watched the whole video my god you ladies really know how to explain it well. Don't listen to all these haters in the comments. As a man with slowly growing relationship experiences and as someone who always tries to look back at the negatives so I can turn them into a positive, I can say without a doubt that almost everything you guys said in this video I myself have come to the realizations of and it was exactly what I needed to hear right now. I couldn't help but just continously nod my head like "daaaamn right ladies".
Again, I must disagree with the naive notion that the answer to stop attracting toxic women is based on external factors. Toxic people are everywhere. To stop attracting them, you must work on whatever inside you is attracting them.
Thats not always true, toxic people are attracted to good, strong hearted and successful people . It brings them things they do not have...that doesn't mean you change that about yourself.
this is gold,btw asking her where does she sees herself in 5 years from now is something i ask a girl quite often,most guys have no standards and are unwilling to call her out because they are too afraid to lose her,which is exactly why they lose her,because they dont even have her
Coach Natalie, you come from a Latin background, both of my parents are from Italy. If you have a man that appreciates you caring if he sits at the head of the table if he appreciates you getting him a plate of food if he appreciates you caring if he’s eaten, if you care that he’s got enough sleep, if you care that he’s had a good day, if you care that his back hurts and you give him a five minute massage on and on. We men most of us appreciate that in a woman!! We men want appreciation, at least that’s what I want and that’s not asking for much. I do not want a slave, I want appreciation and acknowledgment. In return I care for my girlfriend fiancé wife on all the same levels. What is wrong with treating each other well? Do you have to lose yourself if you treat your man well???! I have never lost myself treating my fiancé or wife very well, as a matter fact it makes me whole. It’s hard for females to see the other side and the fact that Coach Natalie lost her self while treating her boyfriend or whatever well really blows my mind. I am sorry to generalize but most women just do not get it,, they don’t understand that a man just wants to be appreciated. And I promise it will be reciprocal and it Hass to be. I do not see any appreciation from most women today. I don’t want you to say I’m your hero or I’m the king or I’m the boss I just want you to appreciate acknowledge that I’m here for you. I do want you to look up to me to be proud of me. It’s so damn simple, men are simple!!
I think it's less about confidence and more about having a super thick skin and not taking rejections personally. The more you take it personally, the more it erodes your confidence.
I have met women that don't even like themselves and wonder why I would like them, so they pull away. Usually I will see them later with a degrading jerk. They get what they want. And many were actually pretty cool. It's a shame.
I've had this problem myself as a man for most of my life; now 33. I've had so many horrible relationships because they were the women I deserved and had horrible standards for my own behaviour because I didn't need better behaviour for my low value. Now that I've been discarded by a narcissist after 15 years I'm miraculously cured; I realize I can do whatever I want now and I control my value not my value control me.
I think two main reasons from my own experiences: 1. Not into him 2. Play hard to get games because she either feels him pull away or make him think of her more… healthy distance is needed sometimes in order to move forward
Every time I’ve dated a woman and made it clear that I have my own life and priorities she just complained that I wasn’t giving her enough attention and I wasn’t being a good boyfriend. How are men supposed to balance these things?
Well Done, Miss Ponti and Miss Nathalie. I became a subscriber with Apollonia Ponti about 5 days ago. This segment was great, honest, deep and uplifting.
Yup. I loved myself and did my own thing. I met her and i gave her all of me. Then she pulled away. I was confused and felt like I lost myself. I really liked her and still miss her; I may have lost her but I completely stopped communication with her. Trying to get back to myself. I know for sure next time whats most important is myself. Her? Idk shes just there i guess if she wants me.
For me its hard because I'm disabled. I'm constantly judged by it cause lets face it, no woman wants a man who's got medical problems and is on disability. Its like a curse that I can't escape and I'm only 35. So being a young man with none due to disability is a curse I wouldn't wish on anyone.
You have done your research very well,i facing the same challenge right now,i just pulled away a relationship,and i just cant explain to this man why am doing this but i believe i have my strong reason,am sorry but men should ensure women are insured for their future,i cant risk carrying mans burdens
We have to consider that telling or asking someone to change should be supported by demonstration. I can't just tell a woman that I need her to support me. I have to show a woman what that means to me. For me support means being able to tell a woman about my day of conquering hurdles regarding my goals. The woman may have a question to ask me that I have not asked myself. This can help me see things from another perspective other than my own. I'm not into complaining or listening to people repeatedly complain about the same thing with no solution in hand.
Thank you Apollonia and Natalie. You have to have high self worth and standards in conclusion. By the way, congratulations on being on UA-cam for 2 years now 👍👏. Allah bless you Apollonia.
Women telling men how they have to be.. Sounds like us men have to do all the self work just to keep a women atttacted for more than 2 seconds. Or make a lot of money and bypass all the self work. Sad facts
making a lot of money does not cut it anymore. She will marry you and dump you and take 1/2 of it and start sleeping with your bull co-worker in your own house.
Great advice from two smart, informative beauties! The biggest mistake is two many of us rush into a relationship! Need to give a good amount of time to get to know that person. I agree in being attracted to urself first before getting attracted to someone else. U can't just focus on just keeping ur partner happy ( as what happened to Coach Natalie) cause then u will smother and grow tired of each other. We all need space and time to ourselves.
I found your video enlightening, its hard to understand sometimes when women pull away, I believe that what you talked about a man knowing what he wants and doesnt want shows the woman that he has his own stadards ( value system). It shows self confidence and self worth that he carries with him through life, dealing with bosses, people in general, family, etc. It's a sign of being an adult who bears his responsibilties and will likely have integrity to do what he says which shows stability and security. Boundaries show self respect and are Alpha qualities. Knowing you don't change your standards becomes something she can rely on, hopefully they are good.Thanks for a great video girls, glad I found you, very helpful!!!
Ramblings on the topic: you definitely make it sound like women are just not worth the risk and extreme effort. I am exhausted and depressed after 50+ years of effort. I was raised by a single mother and it was pounded into me how I better treat the "one." Now, I find that the way to treat that "one" is apparently what all guys on the rebound do(!): attentive and agreeable etc. It seems (as I have said before) that what women want is the guy that they can change a man into, rather then meeting a guy who is already displaying those characteristics. Still to come how following you advice on No Contact works out.
This vedio is gold. Thank you so much AP ❤.I am a lesbian woman and I want to let you know that your vedios have really helped me. I am dating a high value woman and I acknowledge the fact that I am a high value woman too. Relationships are volatile and always evolving, spending time to understand your own values and your partner's value system is a must. Cheers. Love from Sydney.
Have a purpose in life that is much bigger than any woman. Relying on a woman to give you purpose, or saying "my purpose in life is to make this woman happy", is a recipe for sadness and frustration.
100%... In fact, you can say that about more than just a women
Work, Self, Sports, etc.... You still need a higher purpose than all these.
NAILED IT AND THE REALITY IS THAT NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO. IT'S NOT ENOUGH.😏😉
I agree, but most people say #1 purpose is your physical and mental health. #2 purpose with most guys is $$ or career. And #3 purpose is generally along the lines of procreation or relationships. Now one could perhaps say that your body is a temple unto a higher purpose I suppose?
I personally like to think that serving truth or that which fosters life, and fighting deception or unsustainable progression should be everyones purpose. But its probably more of a personal choice or life goal, that is actually rather despised, as it is slightly contrary to the operating principles of the Luciferian construct, more commonly referred to as colonial, or western civilization. Where you can be whatever you want Theist, atheist, agnostic, or any combination of.
So long as at the end of the day you actually accept the mark or permanent legal identity of a beast like authority and you willingly serve the Luciferianism system in principle and deed.
Everyone gets the mark or else we kill them as a society or evil gang, until they are conquered. Even the native Americans that got put on reservations after their land was stolen where required to take the mark and except a legal fiction/Identity. Essentially a condition of servitude to something other than their creator. Its just mankind playing God, for apparent face value reasons. It never works out well. But they've all among civilization turned aside from the truth together to give it one Hell! of a try. So whats your purpose?
Agreed
Man you are right on so many fucking levels
This is why most people are single, divorced, lonely, anxious, and depressed. All the games we play. Lol
yep. no one likes to keep it simple.
Well it's just hypergamy...... in the modern world with instagram, dating apps...
and marriage no longer means "for life" but... "half his shit when you get tired of him"...
@@Innoz1337 I overheard Wedding Speech once, where the bride mistakenly said "This is my 1st marriage..".
It's fun tho at least for me currently because there is a girl that clearly likes me and it's like a game trying to see who will say something first lol
The dating game is a game of life
If you treat her like a celebrity she will treat you like a fan
And when you treat her coldly, you ain't a caring person. Everything is wrong
@zenigel If she sees other woman around you. Yes.
@zenigel 💀💀💀💀💀
Love that quote. Permission to use it??!!
Trademark this
So last week my fiance wanted a break. Watched all these videos and played it cool. Today was our 4 year anniversary and we had dinner. I played it sooo cool and she was holding my leg, giving me kisses and put her arm around. As the dinner was almost done, she said she wanted to break up. Wtf? I still played it cool and then it got crazy when we asked how we would divide our stuff. She got so upset and I knew what I was worth. Told her to calm down then 5 min later she did. The biggest thing I learned during the break was to make myself #1. My peace should come from myself and not another person. I want to say thank you because if I didn't take advice then I would have been a wreck. Now off with my friends and she just called me to apologise again. Fall in Love with yourself and you will never be heartbroken 💯
I have been working out like crazy everyday and eating healthy. I already packed on alot of muscle and lost a good amount of fat. Last night went to the bar and had a great time. Wierd thing was I was always surrounded by women. I almost didn't go cuz I was so tired after work but glad I did! Accept every social event. Trust me, when I was getting rdy I was getting depressed but glad I went! Today working out I just realized she was a moody girlfriend all the time and never appreciated me! We are engaged and she never made an effort to see one of my best friends. (he still hasn't met her!) She also had social media accounts but she said she deleted it but then reactivated it. I didn't know for the longest but once I finally saw it, she had no pictures of us! Last thing, these last 3 months I was dealing with my brother in law almost dying and took care of my niece and nephew and she never wanted to help out or anything. Then my grandma passed away and she was cold and distant. Those last 3 months I am sure she already made her decision to leave me. Holy shit! I am leaving this here to make sure I revisit it if she tries to get back with me. Boys I dodged a fucking bullet!!!!
You damn right!!!
Neglecting myself to make somebody else happy. Of course, I give it a balance, but cannot forget about myself. Once she knows it's about her.....her antennas will rise, catch on, and go for the kill and take advantage of the man. They're good!!
U handled it like a pro, did exactly the right thing, letting her go and staying calm, especially after she got upset. Hats off to u. There r plenty of fish out there time for a new model.
So your first mistake was thinking the affection was making everything OK. She was testing you. Dude woman are difficult. But don't jump all in. She said let's break up say OK end the subject. Don't fight it. Leave it alone show her you are strong and can handle it. Make it as she never said it pull away next day go no contact. Show her you can pass the test. Sounds stupid but it works
Congrats bro
idgaf if you pull away or not. If you pull away, ima pull my away too. Woman needs to be put in their own place sometimes. Us dudes we aint toys.
Amen brother. I'm not some piece of trash to be discarded.
We're not just meat bags or an extra pocket of money. Guys, you need to have more self respect and self love. If a woman or anyone does not value you as a person or respects you, it means they do not deserve you. Choose wisely who you want to share your life with. Your life is precious and you don't want to give it to someone who will just abuse you and make you feel worthless.
agreed
ur so right bro 😎 we are not toys !!!
@Kiss Myass yeaa
*The idea of regularly checking in with her about her needs and concerns is something many overlook but is so vital. It's a great reminder that relationships are a two-way street, and both partners should feel valued and heard.*
Truest words ever spoken:
When you first meet a woman, you never want her to change,
But, She'll always want to change you!
Word 🤧
Works both ways...stick around to find out.
Notice how women think they don't have to bring anything to the table, it's up to the man 100% of the time.
If you have to put much effort into a woman, just let her go. Replace her with a better, more appreciative woman.
What the hell are women's standards?
Louis Noe they have a pussy
They think all they gotta do is show up. Ok...show up...then GTFO!
Hmm..!
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I won't stop her from pulling away.its her loss not mine.
Only one in the comments with the right mentality. Keep kickin ass
Underrated
Men stay in your purpose get involved with things to occupy your time don’t let a woman occupy all your time join a gym is a very good way to self improve
Bs. If you only do that, you will get 0 results. You must be doing 100 approaches a week in order to be successful in getting girls
@@sjot2006 i agree - joining a gym ONLY will not get you women. You have to a lot of approaches to get one.
I go to the gym all the time. Still can't fill the void
Yes good sence, kick her out the only thing keep strong because always she back just keep away
@@sjot2006 it's 2021 man.. plenty of fish online.. I've been getting plenty of women on there.. although you do have to be somewhat good looking and have your shiat together..for what I've been told
Confidence comes from mastering what you do best and what feels most natural to you.
Sick of having to change up what I so to make them happy, its time for the women to prove themselves to us
Modern day women treat good loyal and honest men like the Avengers treated Thanos In Infinity Wars....they believed they were prepared for him they believed they could handle him...but when he finally showed up, when destiny arrived.....he was to much for them to handle and in the blink of an eye (snap***) gone...just like these women ghost a good genuine man #MicDrop
Women need chaos buddy. You need a woman to seek you're validation and you're not going to give it to her. Women are emotional beings, they need to be attracted to you mentally to be engaged. You need to pull back on her first sometimes.
Be Pro active not reactive
Daaaammmmnnnn this shit the truth lmao
I have observed many black men who believe that most women prefer bad men over good men. Why is that?
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Because other races chase our genitals when their men arent looking.
If she pulls away, pull away too, it’s not rocket science
Correction : Pussy isn’t all blown out : Above
Natalie your nice
I would have a baby
@zenigel there isn't anything inherently wrong with manipulation. Is it wrong for an opinion piece to have a thesis? It seems healthy to pull away if a girl pulls away otherwise you risk chasing her harder than she chases you which makes you appear to have a lower value than her which either makes you look creepy or at risk of entering her frame.
Ofn
As a man, Make yourself a priority, your health happiness and wellbeing comes first at all times. Confidence and the ability to be happy without the need for a woman to validate or complete you.
Doing this you will attract others towards you. Including females. Even if you do decide, that you've found a quality female. Don't change for her. Yes balance is involved as you have to consider her needs wants now, but never let her feel superior or put her on that pedestal.
She needs to know that you have other priorities, and that you can be happy without her and that you know there are many other women out there who may be better suited for you.
Sure words
What if I am all those things. I want marriage. I need a woman for that. Then what
This is why I prefer to be single..a relationship shouldn’t be this complicated, it should be natural chemistry..this just goes to show that we aren’t made to be in long term relationships..we get tested in life and then come home to get tested..I’m good..shout out to fellas on their purpose and living the red pill life
Sex and courtship naked get people to this point
Amen brother No one's perfect on earth Women need to look in mirror!
too complicated, too much games
So much happier and wealthier now I invest my money in my living space and myself drama free
When it's "natural chemistry" and everything goes smoothly. she will pull away. No matter what you do, they are hypergampus. Period.
It's hard when you have every good quality in life. Stable job, working on yourself, and all she does is test you over and over. This battle of regaining my confidence has been hard. Finally seeing results but changing your behavior as a man is not easy. Especially if you know your values. Women want someone stable but also a strong not caring attitude, when you are kind that's not easy to have.
You should work on yourself
Read David Goggin's 'Can't Hurt Me'.
Women will always test. Stop thinking they won’t. If you are on your purpose and keep up with you and are true to you . You, will see the “tests” lessen. Deal with it, live with it, do not run from it, recognize the value in it. It will help you become a better man and she will love you like you’ve never been loved before.
I remember I told this man who was telling me about his gf of 1 year acting funny ignoring his calls recently " the only time a woman cares about is right now. Nothing before or after matters to her so it shouldn't matter to you"
Just dont get emotionally attached and treat the girl you like just as someone else. The one who gets in love lose
Thats exactly why my wife of 16-years 3-kids asked for divorce. I gave her too much power and control in our relationship and she lost respect and wanted to move on.
Wow bro lucky you. Take your chance and go explore the world come back and thank me
Kicks a lot.. that's gotta hurt! whenever there's kids involved it makes it that much harder! I think the reason for most break ups is we rush into relationships and don't take the time in finding whether we're with the right person. Life is difficult enough! It's hard to find that someone whom u can really trust.
@@bobbylopez3581 it's the second most important decision we can make in our lives, so should be given time accordingly.. 🙏🏾
My wife of 9 years, 2 kids, gave me the boot 12 years ago. I gave her too much power and control, and I barely stood up for myself. 2 more years of child support left and I'll finally be free of her.
Feminists smh
Can’t stop a Woman from pulling away, if she wants to go she’s gone
Goes both ways. live your own lives gents
No you can stop almost any woman from pulling away. You just have to play all kinds of psychological games. You have to treat a woman like a loving well trained dog, or a mushroom. Basically you cannot actually value and respect them, or they won't value or respect you. Oh and the better you treat them, the worse they will generally treat you, and the more they pull away.
Taking on a women is like adopting an emotional child, that demands respect or else, no kids for you, no sex for you, no emotional support for you. So let me reiterate. If you can't BS a bitch completely for years on end and manipulate her to her hearts contentment. Then she will not want you. You're a weak man.
The kind of man who wants an open honest loving relationship with a female. A sucker or chump to most woman. Cause they don't instinctually want that from you. They want a man that puts them third at best, cause you will never be #1 to 99% of all women. Their loyalty to you is directly relational to how you currently are making them feel.
They don't belong to you, its just your turn. So you best really want something from them, or why waste the time. But yeah you can definitely stop most girls from ever pulling away unless you sabotage yourself. Its pretty easy except for being disgusted with how pathetic they are to have to be dealt with like enemies, and never like friends or anyone you actually care about. Cause if you care, your ass is screwed and she'll know it. And its off to the congruency testing races for her stupid emotional brain.
My point is that you can have an awesome relationship with a woman if you are a heartless jerk, they'll love you. Or at least relate to you and not pull away because they know in that type of situation it would be a futile tactic. Unlike with guys who demonstrate foolishly and in unwomanly weakness, that they actually care about anything besides themselves (have values, principles, that she doesn't feel safe and secure with). With this rant I offer a disclaimer, as I do apologize to the five or six unicorns on this planet. All the rest of you women are just pissed that your man isn't smart enough to effectively mushroom your stupid asses in a respectful fashion like you prefer.
I like your reply. We can't control others. Be yourself and treat her as you would like to be treated but don't expect that will happen!
What do you mean by an 'awesome' relationship. It sounds a very childish and American term as though its a commodity or consumer product! If you play games you play games. You sound as though you dislike and are angry with women. We all have letdowns. Know yourself first before you have expectations of others.
brave until she becomes a single mother and tries to come back
'Confidence is a muscle' - I love that! Well spoken Nathalie.
Let her go. If she comes back it’s because no one else liked her. Let her go again.
Faxxxx 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿😂😂😂😂😂 or the other guy wasn't as good of a lay and person as you. Treat her like a sex doll from henceforth. Never relationship status or marry this woman she is trash.
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What you say Hounddog! Put her back on the Merry go Round! Lol
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If they pull away, move on to the next girl.
Exactly. You deserve burning unnegotiated desire; anything less isn't good enough.
Yes sir
@Butt Rigging so she’s a lesbian
Have Money!! She will NEVER PULL AWAY! But, when the Money runs out.... She will Pull Away. True facts....
She won't pull away but she is def not your women. It takes more than money to keep a women.
Just to complicated so much talk . Be yourself act right and if it happens then you got lucky, it’s just impossible to really understand women. U can be a fine man and they dump your behind in minutes notice, if you really nice and try hard you in trouble, the secret is not to be too giving don’t be overly nice and they may treat you with respect ,
That's nit necessarily true it would be nice but unless you're a gold digger that's not going to make a relationship work. It's a wonderful asset but yiu need more!
These women talk like it’s only women who have standards and men are just losers whatever the situation may be. Most women keep looking for that Mr Perfect and finally end up with some jerk. That’s how this video is going to end up too.
yes and they are not totally wrong. Men do act like that. And no wonder women keep running over them.
It's about balance in prioritizing both and not go to extreme one over the other. So basically women pull away when men lack emotional maturity such as clinginess, lack of empathy, lack of self confidence and etc
Women need somebody unemployed to study all her psychological problems since her childhood. Oh my god. They are full time work
The sad thing they give themselves the right to analyse the man from head to toe and we men cannot say a word about their insecurities and flawses
Being single is less work. , women do not understand themselves
Even the way she explains how women think it is always sounds like you need as a man to play a game to neglect her sometimes, to be less available, to say some words in twisted way. So simply you cannot be yourself, you cannot be honest nor direct. Am I dealing with a little kid or what? Life hs a lot of challenges. I rather just be myself and whoever likes me that us fine but no pretend nor to waste my energy in games to please any insecured or picky person. Sorry if I used strong words. It is just trying feels ng like touching feelings for a kid. I think women are able to be treated as adults more than that.
Women also pull away when you do not make much money, when you do not take the trash out, when they compare you with other acquaintance with bigger wallets. Lol
Tip: Let them.
Women pull away because someone they previously was in a relationship or someone they have interest in before you ever met her...is back on the scene then they ghost you....I'll give you ladies credit for basic good advice. Because if a woman is single and she's giving you some interest then ghost you not because you did something stupid. Come on ladies you know I'm telling the truth...
Facts
So, act like I don't care as much as I do. Got it.
qmulus1 fact
YOU WOMEN DEMAND TOO MUCH FOR A MEN. BUT AT THE END OF THE DAY YOU ARE NEVER SATISFIED.
lol being bitter and jaded is not the answer brother. Understand woman more. Understand the feminine nature. Read the book The Way of The Superior Man By David Dieda.
Porque piensas eso
@@remasculate3895 Excellent book!!
@@remasculate3895 you are correct
el malan malan truth spoken 💯💯💯
If you treat a woman with respect and she still pulls away, you done your job . The best thing to do is move on therefore it wasn't meant to be. I would rather let go than to he hurt in the long run.
Thanks for affirming what was in the back of my mind but always thought it was the opposite. I had no standards and allowed the woman to be in control for the fear of not having a woman in my life. I'm more self confident and the current fact that I'm still single doesn't depress me anymore. Yay!
I always say don’t take advice from women but I’ve been watching your videos here and there for almost a year and you might be my favorite “coach” I’ve listened too.
Coach Natalie said it herself, "Whats in it for me?" Thats the key. THATS WHAT THEY CARE ABOUT. Whats in it for her. Exactly why I dont give a shit about women
Its funny how self centered and unaware these coaches themselves are. They are so OK with not briniging anything to the table because they know they dont have to.
Too many rules ladies...get over yourselves.
Truly!
Its all about power
@marcoi7455 my brothers ex wife said this. I will never forget it, "I just feel more powerful now is all"
I’ve had a women call me her soulmate. I’ve never changed being the man she was attracted to. Still pulled away...🤷♂️
I have had a woman call me her "brother" only to sleep with me 6 months later. Don't believe the things they tell you.
"Comparison is the root of all evil" Thanks for this.
This is a great talk. This is what married couples need to hear as well. Because people are emature in their relationships even when they're married for 30 years. It's sad to see how many people have less than desirable relationships and behaving like kids at times. Thank you ladies. It was lovely to hear two mature (in relationship) ladies having such a good conversation. Those were some valuable points that everyone needs to take in consideration. No matter how old you are and how long you've been in a relationship, never stop learning and improving!
Never chase a woman
If you do that you’ll lose her
Second tips never try to make a woman happy if you do that you will lose her too
Agree with both points.
1 - Never chase. If you want to be around each other, it will be a mutual courtship, and a learning of each other which is desired by both.
2 - Be yourself at all times. Don't change what you are to try to make her happy. She will be happy when she is around you when you continue to be who and what you are.
Problem is ... what if keeping her unhappy does wonders? What does it tell you about her or women in general?
Facts.
Both statements very true.
This is why that book was written Women from Mars and Men from Venus. We speak two different languages lol. It is truly confusing for a man with women now. He doesn’t know if he’s coming or going and if he’s being to forward or not to forward...it’s crazy
So my biggest take aways from this are that I need to value myself a great deal more than I do. I (very eagerly) lose myself in a partner. This drives them insane either quickly or over time. To put myself first, to know who I am and follow those interests. I don't have ambitions goals or dreams that I'm aware of now.
The second one, and this is hugely important. I need to learn to pace myself. To take the space for me and to drop the idea that I need to be there for them
I was the most confident I’ve ever been going into my last relationship. Over the year and a half relationship with her, of her beating me down and calling me stupid, not mature, non understanding, fat, mentally ill, not good enough etc, she destroyed me and my confidence. I was confident, but she battered me on a daily basis and it broke me, and all I wanted to do was continue to try and be better and nothing was ever enough, and once I was destroyed and had 0 confidence, she dumped on the curb cold and dry, called the cops on me and told them I was mentally unstable and concerned for my health and tried to put me in a hospital. I was fine, ruled but the medical examiner, she just abused me to the point of severe depression. Working on rebuilding now. But I just don’t know what you’re supposed to do when you are confident, but no matter what you do, it’s never good enough and you’re always a problem. That kills it. Especially when you love her and try so hard to be everything she could want. A year and a half and she never told me she loved me once. But after about 6 months, I still loved her. Cold hearted woman hurt. Can bring a confident man into a ball of confusion just out of personal entertainment, and when they succeed, they just dump you like you were never even there
Love you man
I feel your pain bro. I been through a very similar experience like you and it really does cause collateral damage to our self esteem/confidence. It took me over two years to rebuild my confidence from rock bottom but I’ve mentally checked out because it’s no longer worth the heartache. I’ve had to become stoic and learn to be happy as a single man. Deep down, I know my time to go from earth will be soon and I will be alone in my grave. So until that day comes, I want to value my peace of mind
That's called a narcissist..
Stand up for yourself the very first time you are disrespected. Put a hard foot down. If not a women (or anybody for that matter) will respect you.
everything was great and she told me she loves me in a very special way, but 1 week later she ended the relationship because she was scared and said she needed to work on herself. What kind of crap is that. Spun my head for sure. Leo
Leo Lyons self destructive and dumb. Just give her the “well, if you change your mind, just give me a call ;)” response, and date other women and wait for her to call lol
Felt that. I was in a somewhat similar situation. I know this comment was 4 years ago but I recently stopped taking to a woman that was pulling away. Everything was going smooth and great until she needed space. In the end, men truly need to prioritize themselves, and everything else before a woman.
Before I went to prison I thought I was confident enough but I found true confidence in me when I was in because I learned to survive although I don't recommend going to prison,I did found true confidence.
this finally convinced me women fundamentally fail a cost benefit analysis. This is an emotional nightmare to put up with for a little sex.
Well said Jamie.
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How can women crave and want to be with men "who have standards" when they don't have standards themselves?
I’m 27 and started dating women a few years older than me , even dated a great woman who was 45 for a few months .. taught me a lot about what women value and not put stress into a situation .. the age difference made me absorb information and react instead of react upon impulse / emotion . She made me feel wanted and valued our time together because I was younger and she wanted to do everything I suggested because it would be a new experience for her .. so if you can date someone a few years older .. do it
i want younger,not older
its exactly the same here im 22 shes 35 and its totally different then with girls my age. The only problem is that she is married
Same here, when I was 33 I was together with a really hot 41 year old Scandinavian woman. So much more fun and calmer relationship than with those 22-30 year old women... You are absolutely right, older women make you feel much more wanted (and loved). The maturity of an emotional stable 40 year old women is golden; it beats everything. And the sex is often so much greater.
I feel that, the feeling of not being heard is a big one for relationships not just for women but men as well. Both parties should be there for one another both should give 100 into a relationship it should be 100/100 it is a relationship between 2 people foundations are built together with trust, commitment, communication, honesty, respect, and Willingness and many more
'You don't have that thing that sticks out from every other guy out there.' EVERY other guy out there. Bravo, thank you for your honesty.
Why can’t it just be effortless. Choose each other every day. Choose to try. Games like this are exhausting
Really though
The answer to this just be nice be yourself and no bloody mind games . It will get to a point where conversation won’t flow meaning to scared to say anything, worried about being needy or to quiet . Not committing, friend zones , can’t say I love you . I give up
I'm married... Guys, it is easy... if you care too much about what they say, they either leave you or they abuse you! The sooner you see them pulling away, the better because you can start to give a shit! :D Good luck
Hahaha so good
I found this discussion very helpful. I’ve been in many toxic relationships and have participated in the toxicity as well. No stones to throw! Thanks for the resource.
"Find women volunteering, church and other quality places" Great advice for under 30, for over 40, great women are at these places, with their wedding rings.
Because of girls like this two, world is today with morale and Every second couple devorced, in old good Times they know how to fix something, today we Just replace.
I feel they were all over the place in this video. I’ve been marred and had a 3 year relationship afterwards, now I’m single. I’m actually happy being single. Women nowadays have this entitlement and feel they don’t have to do a damn thing in the relationship and they are the “prize”, it’s freakin exhausting. Can’t be an old fashioned gentleman anymore because woman don’t appreciate it or they take it for granted. I noticed once I was gone they won’t leave me alone.
Interesting insight. I'd encourage both of you to look into attachment theory; specifically attachment styles. A lot of advice in this video feels like it is given through the lens of a relationship between an anxious male dating an avoidant female.
This certainly makes sense because these two attachment styles naturally attract to each other, and this is one of the most discussed relationship dynamics on the Internet. This is also where you'll see the most games and push/pull happening. However, the unfortunate news is these relationships are flawed on a fundamental level and do not succeed without mutual effort from both partners to become more secure individuals.
The advice surrounding boundaries in this video is good in the long term, but the expectation that you will discover all of someone's boundaries on the first few dates is unrealistic. It's incredibly insecure to interrogate someone for fit, and nothing kills attraction faster in a secure person than someone else displaying insecure tendencies. I do however 100% agree with the idea of not getting attached to titles and taking your time to get to know someone.
In general, secure people will only attract and date secure people. Anxious and avoidant people may try to date secure people but they will repel them. Anxious people attract avoidant people and avoidant people attract anxious people. Fearful people (who are basically simultaneously anxious and avoidant) will either attract the opposite of their most common component or other fearful people.
Anxious, Avoidant, and Fearful relationship dynamics are where nearly all of the Internet horror stories regarding relationships ending poorly come from. Relationships that end between two secure people tend to end in much quieter, healthier, and common ways with two parties agreeing they aren't compatible with each other whilst appreciating the time they spent with one another. People with this outlook tend to be happy, fulfilled with their lifestyles, and have a strong sense of identity, which is why they aren't as loud.
It's very possible for someone to travel through multiple attachment styles at different points in their lives and for a person's attachment style to be influenced by their environment.
As a guy remaining single sounds really good right about now. Women sound like a burden.
xm377Moyocoyatzin facts!
Just watch your male friends in relationships
i can testify to this. Been in several relationships and one bad marriage.
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My girlfriend broke up with me 3 months ago had I had watched your videos throughout our relationship it would not be in shambles right now I am learning so much from you you are awesome thank you pray for my relationship please I hope it works back out I've left her alone for 3 weeks now and was with her for three years. I care enough to watch these about myself too. I am actually working I'm fixing the things I never fixed in my life throughout our relationship. Thank you for teaching me how to work on myself I love you!!
It's digusting to understand that no matter who you date and what the context is, women will always be attracted by what a man can bring to them instead of who he is. They're only sticking to someone because they get something from him/her. On the other hand, accepting this reality allows you to focus on yourself.
This is one of the best life coaching podcast I ever seen on UA-cam
Bottom line is, treat them always as a second or third option and the undeserving spoilt brats that they are.
Guys I changed my mind I was hating initially but when I actually watched the whole video my god you ladies really know how to explain it well. Don't listen to all these haters in the comments. As a man with slowly growing relationship experiences and as someone who always tries to look back at the negatives so I can turn them into a positive, I can say without a doubt that almost everything you guys said in this video I myself have come to the realizations of and it was exactly what I needed to hear right now.
I couldn't help but just continously nod my head like "daaaamn right ladies".
Again, I must disagree with the naive notion that the answer to stop attracting toxic women is based on external factors. Toxic people are everywhere. To stop attracting them, you must work on whatever inside you is attracting them.
truth
Facts 💯
Thats not always true, toxic people are attracted to good, strong hearted and successful people . It brings them things they do not have...that doesn't mean you change that about yourself.
this is gold,btw asking her where does she sees herself in 5 years from now is something i ask a girl quite often,most guys have no standards and are unwilling to call her out because they are too afraid to lose her,which is exactly why they lose her,because they dont even have her
Narcissists are attracted to themselves, buyer beware
Coach Natalie, you come from a Latin background, both of my parents are from Italy. If you have a man that appreciates you caring if he sits at the head of the table if he appreciates you getting him a plate of food if he appreciates you caring if he’s eaten, if you care that he’s got enough sleep, if you care that he’s had a good day, if you care that his back hurts and you give him a five minute massage on and on. We men most of us appreciate that in a woman!! We men want appreciation, at least that’s what I want and that’s not asking for much. I do not want a slave, I want appreciation and acknowledgment. In return I care for my girlfriend fiancé wife on all the same levels. What is wrong with treating each other well? Do you have to lose yourself if you treat your man well???! I have never lost myself treating my fiancé or wife very well, as a matter fact it makes me whole. It’s hard for females to see the other side and the fact that Coach Natalie lost her self while treating her boyfriend or whatever well really blows my mind. I am sorry to generalize but most women just do not get it,, they don’t understand that a man just wants to be appreciated. And I promise it will be reciprocal and it Hass to be. I do not see any appreciation from most women today. I don’t want you to say I’m your hero or I’m the king or I’m the boss I just want you to appreciate acknowledge that I’m here for you. I do want you to look up to me to be proud of me. It’s so damn simple, men are simple!!
I think it's less about confidence and more about having a super thick skin and not taking rejections personally. The more you take it personally, the more it erodes your confidence.
so far everything is on point. lady's you should always say what you want directly because men don't understand subliminal talk
14:57 - Just watch this bit! It's so mindblowing. I can't stop listening.
thanks
Pretty much treat women like your little girl
I love it when they pulled away they find the door on their own drama free it's a beautiful thing
I have met women that don't even like themselves and wonder why I would like them, so they pull away. Usually I will see them later with a degrading jerk. They get what they want. And many were actually pretty cool. It's a shame.
I've had this problem myself as a man for most of my life; now 33. I've had so many horrible relationships because they were the women I deserved and had horrible standards for my own behaviour because I didn't need better behaviour for my low value. Now that I've been discarded by a narcissist after 15 years I'm miraculously cured; I realize I can do whatever I want now and I control my value not my value control me.
Stay away from 'bad' women. Thats why it's so important to qualify a women when your dating. Notice the 'red flags' and then you can make your choice
Wow you and Natalie are two high quality women are helping men and women have wonderful relationships.
These 2 amazing women are getting me through my break up rn
I think two main reasons from my own experiences: 1. Not into him 2. Play hard to get games because she either feels him pull away or make him think of her more… healthy distance is needed sometimes in order to move forward
A women should be close the the bottom of your list of priorities .....get on your purpose fellas
This is one of the most accurate videos I’ve ever seen talking about relationships
Ignore the hormones guys and live for yourself. The women will come naturally.
Women are attracted to men who are attracted to themselves. Well put!
Every time I’ve dated a woman and made it clear that I have my own life and priorities she just complained that I wasn’t giving her enough attention and I wasn’t being a good boyfriend. How are men supposed to balance these things?
You say you will but you never actually give her that...the moment you do she will lose attraction for you and leave you
Well Done, Miss Ponti and Miss Nathalie.
I became a subscriber with Apollonia Ponti about 5 days ago. This segment was great, honest, deep and uplifting.
People need to learn who they are and be honest all of this back and forth stuff would not be going on.
Dude, I totally agree.
Yup. I loved myself and did my own thing. I met her and i gave her all of me. Then she pulled away. I was confused and felt like I lost myself. I really liked her and still miss her; I may have lost her but I completely stopped communication with her. Trying to get back to myself. I know for sure next time whats most important is myself. Her? Idk shes just there i guess if she wants me.
Most men dont show their worth, dont go to any woman as a weak man ,a man should always have confidence in himself and his be on his game 24/7
Basically just focus on yourself and your goals and the women will come to you.
For me its hard because I'm disabled. I'm constantly judged by it cause lets face it, no woman wants a man who's got medical problems and is on disability. Its like a curse that I can't escape and I'm only 35. So being a young man with none due to disability is a curse I wouldn't wish on anyone.
I can feel that..... but just try to get it going fella as far as your still alive
You have done your research very well,i facing the same challenge right now,i just pulled away a relationship,and i just cant explain to this man why am doing this but i believe i have my strong reason,am sorry but men should ensure women are insured for their future,i cant risk carrying mans burdens
About time women make a decision of what they want, it's too late for a lot of them. Tick tock, tic toc, ti to, t t --------------- times up.
We have to consider that telling or asking someone to change should be supported by demonstration. I can't just tell a woman that I need her to support me. I have to show a woman what that means to me. For me support means being able to tell a woman about my day of conquering hurdles regarding my goals. The woman may have a question to ask me that I have not asked myself. This can help me see things from another perspective other than my own. I'm not into complaining or listening to people repeatedly complain about the same thing with no solution in hand.
Giving space in a love relationship is as vital as giving the sky to a bird. Neither will stop struggling, seeking a way to fly, no matter how tightly you hold on. Give it freedom, and focus your efforts on providing the most desirable perch, for it to return to. If it does not return, then it does not recognize or respect the value of what you have to offer, and likely would have left eventually, anyway. If it feels smothered, then it cannot focus on your admirable qualities. It just wants to fly. Remember - freedom leaves the perch open for the right bird to see it. It will recognize it’s incredible value, because it is looking for it, right now. - © David Hoechstetter
There are levels to this & every level has different boundaries. In my opinion a title can set that foundation for that
What gives me peace of mind is that mens value only go up as we age. Womens value drives down. Think about that.
That first statement or observation made by you Apollonia is so true! In fact the whole interview was spot on. Thanks to both of you!
Thank you Apollonia and Natalie. You have to have high self worth and standards in conclusion.
By the way, congratulations on being on UA-cam for 2 years now 👍👏. Allah bless you Apollonia.
hi Apollonia is sex not the main reason girls pull away from man.
Better explained here than other videos and books on the subject. Thanks.
Women telling men how they have to be.. Sounds like us men have to do all the self work just to keep a women atttacted for more than 2 seconds.
Or make a lot of money and bypass all the self work.
Sad facts
making a lot of money does not cut it anymore. She will marry you and dump you and take 1/2 of it and start sleeping with your bull co-worker in your own house.
Amazing video!!! I see so much clarity now!!! I love this! Ty so much for the information!
Great advice from two smart, informative beauties! The biggest mistake is two many of us rush into a relationship! Need to give a good amount of time to get to know that person. I agree in being attracted to urself first before getting attracted to someone else. U can't just focus on just keeping ur partner happy ( as what happened to Coach Natalie) cause then u will smother and grow tired of each other. We all need space and time to ourselves.
I found your video enlightening, its hard to understand sometimes when women pull away, I believe that what you talked about a man knowing what he wants and doesnt want shows the woman that he has his own stadards ( value system). It shows self confidence and self worth that he carries with him through life, dealing with bosses, people in general, family, etc. It's a sign of being an adult who bears his responsibilties and will likely have integrity to do what he says which shows stability and security. Boundaries show self respect and are Alpha qualities. Knowing you don't change your standards becomes something she can rely on, hopefully they are good.Thanks for a great video girls, glad I found you, very helpful!!!
Correct: You are a man with standards, boundaries, expectations. If she pulls away, tell her to get lost.
Ramblings on the topic: you definitely make it sound like women are just not worth the risk and extreme effort. I am exhausted and depressed after 50+ years of effort. I was raised by a single mother and it was pounded into me how I better treat the "one." Now, I find that the way to treat that "one" is apparently what all guys on the rebound do(!): attentive and agreeable etc. It seems (as I have said before) that what women want is the guy that they can change a man into, rather then meeting a guy who is already displaying those characteristics. Still to come how following you advice on No Contact works out.
This vedio is gold. Thank you so much AP ❤.I am a lesbian woman and I want to let you know that your vedios have really helped me. I am dating a high value woman and I acknowledge the fact that I am a high value woman too. Relationships are volatile and always evolving, spending time to understand your own values and your partner's value system is a must. Cheers. Love from Sydney.