His Book Discovering His Wife’s Secret Life Is A Powerful Testimony You Need to Hear
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- Опубліковано 5 вер 2024
- Author Blake Butler joins our episode titled, “Who Did I Marry?”. He opens up about discovering his late wife’s secret life that he captures in his memoir, “Molly.” Blake also gets candid about his healing journey and the powerful lesson he learned in the process.
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Please remember whatever you do to someone becomes their story to tell. They can tell who they want, write and act it out on Broadway if they want. Thats his business to tell.
Right!
period! If her family is mad too bad, imagine what pain he went thru! If he had to "throw it up" and write a book to heal, so be it
Exactly 💯💯💯
Actually it’s not completely his story to tell, but he told it anyway…is this his revenge?
@@roscaines-prentice3888revenge for who?
I dated someone like this. The relationship moved quickly and was intoxicating. I didn’t marry him bc a little voice inside me said slow down. I found a spare phone in his night stand and turned it on. The texts to other women…it’s was crazy. Then I broke into his email…then his cell phone acct…all in one weekend. I remember shaking all over. He had been a VERY busy boy. I worried I’d have a nervous breakdown. He left a path of destruction and kept on going. There was no “real” him. He created new characters all the time. Effortlessly. I have no desire to tell his family or figure him out. I’m just glad it’s behind me.
I had a relationship somewhat like that and now I don’t give it any more time or emotion either ❤
You broke into his emails?.., just wow!.., are we playing the victim now?.., why didn't you just leave him instead of invading his privacy?.., plus you wasn't even married to the man. You are evil, so dont try and justify it.
He sounds like a narcissist. You are better off away from him. I had my own narc and after 12 years there is still nearly 100% of him that I don’t know. He was destructive to my mental and emotional well being. I finally broke away a couple of months ago after ping ponging in and out of his life. I’m finally at peace but the mental and emotional fall out lives on.
@@kennethwilliams3182 he was putting her life and sexual health at risk. Whatever respect that was expected of her, went down the drain. He better be lucky that all she did was break into his emails, and didn’t Lorena Bobbit his ass.
@@kennethwilliams3182 cry , lover of deceit
By the way he worked to piece together her life and who she truly was, you can tell he deeply loved her and grieves not only her passing but also her life. 🙏🏻 Wishing him healing, as this would be a hard burden to bare.
I have literally went through this! My ex husband was a criminal informant & I was only an assignment at first. But then, I somehow became a more "permanent" assignment! This has happened to many people, that can't/don't want to speak on it! I had 4 kids by that person! No one can even believe what I went thru all those years! Im gonna write a book of my own one day, but Im still picking up the pieces, everyday!! Damn near EVERYTHING WAS A LIE!!! It is beyond what you can imagine!
May I ask how long you were married?
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If what you say is true, you should start writing it down from the beginning. The author in this video said he didn't want to forget anything. And it could also help you pick up the pieces by sorting your thoughts, especially since you were probably being gas lighted. Like the guy in this video. Wishing you the best no matter what. Peace
Honey I'm so sorry. I saw a crime doc show about a woman married to a Cuban spy & she was just a cover. I felt horrible for her & my heart hurts for you.
Praying that you can find total peace & healing.
@@elenaarman-tang7811 13 years!!
If you want to have secrets, don't marry. Stay single or decide to both have secrets because otherwise it's sick. No one deserves to be lied to when committing to a covenant
Yes. Exactly
agree 100% Everyone deserves the truth in marriage. Lying is believing you are entitled to control the other person's choice.
Exactly! Wish my ex had stayed single instead of hiding his secrets for years and decades.
And here is me worried that when I die my descendents will find all the weird stuff I was watching on UA-cam
😂😂
Same. Absolutely same.
😂😂😂😂
😂 😂 😂 😂 😂
😂😂 and they will write a book about it and expose everything
5:57 "You can't know me completely, but, you can know as much as I'm willing to give."
You can still hear the hurt, anger and frustration in his voice 😢
I pray he finds healing.
Oh man I know this story all too well. I also grew up feeling worthless. Its only through the grace of God that im still here. I was lousy at self destructing. My two sons saved me. I lived for them.
I'm glad he shared this story because, it's a cathartic, and I believe that he had a deep love for this woman even though she didn't treat him well.
From a psychiatric view yes he nailed it. He may have been her dream but her inner reality and self worth was gone. She felt unworthy and was self destructing. Her thinking I'll mess this up before you leave me. She took her own life because in her mind the pain was too much to bear yet she chose not to erase the evidence of her behavior. It was probably her sad way of wanting him to know so he would not mourn her. Bottom line this isn't someone who just had affairs for selfish reasons and pleasure. This was clearly someone who was suffering deep mental health issues. I wonder if she ever sought treatment.
I wonder as well if she ever sought treatment, because she screams personality disorder stemming from childhood trauma. I feel for him, this hurts, but I kind of also feel for her. Her mind is so disordered, and it is sad that at the end she tried to prove a point to herself and not seeing the love that is infront of her.
@@MrsDaedalus_ Exactly, she definitely did not feel worthy of love. Her acting out was a cry for help but unfortunately not recognized in time. There are more people walking around in pain than we could imagine. She was an accomplished poet and I imagine many secrets are hidden within her words. I worked for many years in psych. The human mind is fascinating and the human heart so fragile. When they are not in alignment 🤷🏽
Puritan much?!???!!
Is it possible that she may have just been selfish? I am not trying ro be mean but sometimes people really don't love the person they have at home. I am wondering if she may have taken her own life because someone she was cheating with ended it with her? Once again, I am nit truing ro be mean, just exploring possibilities.
So was she just a serial cheater or a prostitute? 🤔
After going through a huge, stunning betrayal by someone I loved and trusted 100%, I've come to the conclusion that the only person you truly know and can trust is yourself. It has left me, not bitter, but extremely guarded.
I'm old. I've had many betrayals. I'm extremely guarded AND bitter.
@@user-kd7zh6ui9p As difficult as it is, try to let the bitterness go. There is a saying, "Bitterness is like an acid in a metal vessel; it corrodes from the inside."
I read the story of Yeshua.
I don't think a lot of people even know themselves very well. They don't understand why They do the things they do.
Geez that's cold blooded. I've heard of plenty men that pass away and all the mistresses show up to the funeral and cause chaos. I hope this man finds peace. That's hurtful
He’ll never trust again. Why would he?
Never give your strength over to a women.
@@mace7754 Or a man!
@@mace7754 or a man!
@@mace7754*woman
I understand his situation. My partner cheated on me had a child and hid his secret family for years with the help of his family. WOW!!! BUT had the nerve when his other woman came to my door and went through a bunch of S--t with that situation had the nerve to want my forgiveness and asked me to marry him, lmao. I took the ring and took a hammer and beat the shit out of it smashed it to pieces. Nothing he do will ever fix that and told him that will never happen no trust just a casual friendship is all you deserve. Just the nerve. We are better than that people. Being single is sometimes good. ☺
I'm so very sorry. Really. May you be healed & blessed
Not the hammer girl!!! 🔨😅😅😅
I know what you went through was terrible but I have a feeling beating that ring with the hammer was your "Waiting to Exhale" moment and hopefully saved you years from therapy.
I like your style. Kept you out of jail.!
I wudda took it to the pawn shop😂
Brave man ❤ May you find peace, May you have peace ❤
😮😮😮 This is why it's soo hard to trust people. I believe that we never really truly know anyone.. And love just makes it extra complicated 🙃
Depends on the person. Some people, like my husband, are an open book.
Others have inner lives & secrets no one will ever know.
Facts these ppl crazy as hell
@@bellamijaymes2153I’m sure he thought Molly was an open book lol 🤣🤣🤣
What a sensitive woman you are Tamron. You’re a very good interviewer. Wow.
I like this man. I hope he finds a true partner..if that is what he wants of course❤
Wow!!! What an exceptionally brave young man!! I pray he heals completely 😊
She was married when they started dating. This interview was dishonest. It made him out to be the hero.
@@Packhorse-bh8qn well maybe if the interview was about how they started dating and not about the aftermath of her death then the stupid shit you just said would be relevant
@@robertyeah2259 You don't have very good reading comprehension. Maybe you should look into some remedial classes at your local community college.
That’s devastating to learn that all these years he had been lied to. I feel for his pain. I hope by telling the story it allows him to release negative energy, set him free, and allow him to move on.
They make you think you are the one who did the wrong thing, while coming to my house whenever he wants and telling me “He doesn’t want me at his HOUSE “, Sitting in your home TEXTING the other Woman and never having the decency to talk to me and Apologize or discussing our problems, but I am supposed to interpret Love Songs and going through my personal affairs and 4get what he had done to me, but God had to make me SEE THE LIGHT!!!
I'm so glad He did. You are free, Amen
It's great that he is telling his story. That pain that she was going thru ended her life. He has a right to tell his story. It will help someone else to get some help. He loved her and still does and he understands her better even though she is not here. He would have walked out probably but it was a reason why she ALLOWED him to find all of those secrets and not tell a soul. She knew what she was doing even though it would hurt him, it would heal others. I pray for his strength and that he will become some type of counselor to others who are going thru this with their marriage. The secrets will kill you.
I hope the family and friends realise that this is HIS story to tell and his wife made sure to leave the information behind for HIM. If she cared about people knowing she would have erased everything.
This wasn't his story to tell. It was and IS her story. his story is about losing her. He can tell THAT story all day!
This was an ultimate act of betrayal to go through HER things and TELL the whole world HER story.
@@truth6533 Oh, so you have the authority to regulate his story to just losing her, not finding her or spending life with her and how that was like? Okay!
@@truth6533 I don’t think you understand how being a human being works
@robertyeah2259 next time I need to know, I'll be sure to look you up.
This happens a lot. Some people say to throw the phone away and never look at it. 😢
I lived the same thing. Married for fourteen years while my husband was cheating since the first day we said hello. I was madly in love with him, and I thought he felt the same. We did everything together. He worked away so it was easy for him to cheat. You absolutely never know who you’re with. I trusted him completely and seven years later, it still hurts. I lived a lie, wasted the best years of my life, lived in deceit and disrespect. I hate him for it, but still miss and love the person I thought he was, although that person didn’t exist.
Unfortunately, this guy didn’t get the chance to tell his wife what a creep she was.
That happened to me. I trusted him completely and it took 10 years and lots of therapy deforestation I got married. I almost missed being a mother. Please move on and find real love. It can happen at any age but the sooner the better. ❤
We’re there any signs?
Cheating is so unnecessary. Just stay single.
No reason to stay single, just don't cheat smh.
You need to respect other people's opinion @marciadalcher278
marciadalcher278
Sone people can’t be faithful. They should remain single and make no problem of fidelity
Get a divorce, if you’re married and like someone else
Exactly! If a person knows they're incapable of being Monogamous, stay Single. They're plenty of people who want the same thing and will co-sign that type of "situationship" and nonsense. This way people know the real you and they can't say they didn't know.
If this is an audiobook I might consider listening
Total connection, her deception was more than she could bare. So she ended it.
*bear.
The Vanity Fair profile, (in the link I've added below) of her husband gives more details on what happened. Including sleeping with students that she taught at various universities she worked at, and also, loaning $1500, of her husband's money, to one of the guys she slept with.
Whew chile
Thanks, because I couldn't read what it was that she had done 😢
Can I please get the link?
How shocking 2 discovery who your spouse truly is...after her tragic death. He was so brave in taking the time 2 figure ( or try) all the hurt out...
There's a book I read called "Perfection: A Memoir of Betrayal and Renewal" by Julie Metz who found out about her husband's secret life after he died. It was especially frustrating for her because she can't ask him about it and it's considered to be disrespectful to talk about someone who's dead.
I dated a lot of "good" guys, but each one of them had a secret life. I many male friends and they too have a secret life. That's why I decided not to marry because I don't want to wake up and find that someone I devoted my life to has a secret life. I couldn't do that. I have never cheated on my partner. I would end the relationship before I cheated.
After finding out about my spouse's secret life, I decided I can never trust another man again. I could never go through that again. The worst betrayal is that he told other women about my personal stories/traumas, medical history, confidential information and even about our kids (while not participating very much at parenting).
In all the photos of him and Molly she looks like a free spirit and happy and he looks broken. Pictures speak a thousand word and he looked checked out. Just my observation.
Too bad they didn't mention the part where she was already married when these two started dating. He's not quite the shining hero. He married a cheater and she cheated. Too bad, so sad.
So I read the vanity fair article. She was married when they started dating. He found her in bed with another man and went into a rage. He also cheated. She cheated weeks after their marriage.
I have opinions. But sir the red flags were GLARING.
I’m sorry for his loss
This adds perspective thank you.
" She was married when they started dating. "
So a cheater married a cheater and then was mad when the cheater that cheated with him cheated with someone else.
And he makes a bunch of money writing a book about it.
Disgusting.
Poor girl she was fighting an internal battle with herself. May she RIP
Only because of her own choices
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This speaks VOLUME about mental health. I think he is explaining that- the downfall and the " build it up just to burn it down"- that is actually a lyric from Linkin Park. It reminds me of that- I feel for her and her undiagnosed mental health issues she was clearly struggling with behind the scenes. I also really feel for Blake- it is really a lot for him to comprehend. I am glad he is speaking about this.
What’s being described here sounds like BPD to me.
Self-destructive pattern of behaviour is one of the biggest symptoms.
I think she was expecting for her relationship to fall apart, so she thought she’d f her husband before her husband f’ed her.
Splitting isn’t healthy either.
As somebody with BPD, this is why I gave up dating and pursuing intimate relationships, because I didn’t wanna make other people feel like they were carrying around a grenade in their pocket, waiting for me to go off.
Since my diagnosis in 2017 (I was undiagnosed for 19 years two months). I’ve tried to get as much quiet as humanly possible, I find the outside world too overwhelming, but there we are, I do okay for myself regardless though.
I wish you well Eva. Hugs ❤
@@natv55 it is what it is, I mean for me, personally I can’t change the self-destructive pattern that I’ve left behind, the damage in my wake, but what I can do and what I have tried to do moving forward since my diagnosis is just make better decisions going forward.
All of what I’ve described in the backend of my comment is indicative of this.
In a lot of ways, I actually feel happier as well that my life is kind of small.
I always appreciate the cuddles and the sentiments from people, so thank you.
Hope Blake is healing now. Was amazed at how powerful the reviews were - and from some of the most discerning critics, imo. My copy arrives this weekend.
Rest in peace, Molly.
Tragic. I'm unutterably sorry for the pain in which he finds himself.
Interestingly, this story sorta mirrors the Reesa Teesa’s “Who TF did I Marry story” but in a different dynamic in terms of gender and degree of mental health issues
Beautiful, what a sweet man. She was clearly depressed. So sad.
I believe we only get to know the version of people that they give us, and not their wholistic self.
I'll take peace and quiet any day.
They get to the point briefly at 4:00. She cheated on him. Before and after that it's bogged down.
It just went in circles. I never fully understood his reasoning.
It wasn’t “in circles”. There was “layers” to him describing what happened with his wife.
I read this comment at 3:54 lol 🤦🏾♀️
I just listened to a fascinating interview with Andrew Bustamante on the Diary of a CEO Podcast. He was talking about Perception and Perspective. Seems to me it would do wonders for us all if we could get out of our own heads- our perceptions- and get a little outside perspective on what others see is going on. I wish she would have talked to her husband - it may have made all the difference and not led her to such destructive behavior.
I listened to that podcast with Bustamante on Diary of a CEO and agree! Also with the rest of what you said.
You can only know what people let you know about them when they are adults...................no matter who they are.
People who are damaged in early childhood will damage anyone they are intimate with. Be careful!
A sad generalisation. My experience has been the opposite: damaged people often become more compassionate in an effort to spare people the very pain they endured. Not everyone is out for revenge.
People who were damaged in early childhood are hurt all over again by sweeping statements like yours.
He lived that life so it is okay for him to say it. Another thing, I used to ask my ex if he thought that I was cheating on him. He used to tell me that the only time he knew I was faithful was when I was next to him and he was watching. FACTS!!!!!!!!!!!! That is the only time you know someone truly.
I think he has Aspberger based on his last couple of phrases.
And this is why at 61 I am single unmarried and alone and happy
🧐Is anyone else sensing *Kouri Richin* vibes? The Utah mother who wrote a children's book about her late husband's death.
I agree with Molly's family and friends. This book should never have been written.Tamron Hall said something about this being about the husband's happiness he was seeking. I agree. Not in the way she meant though. I understand that he was hurt and felt betrayed, rightfully so. But this was cruel to her family and loved ones. I believe it was a reflection of his anger and need for revenge by dragging Molly's name thru the mud outlining each of her betrayals in details He got the ultimate payback for her betrayal and she is not here to explain or defend herself.
He is in pain. I understand that. He could have written the book in such a way to not damage her memory
Well, she had no qualms about doing all she did...This is America. He is free to do what he wants.
She opted out.
@@user-tx7wu3rn4vright…it’s funny how people try to defend the person that was wrong. In the end, that was his story to tell; which he did…
Her trauma and lack of trust may very well be connected to her father being in prison and the emotional disfunction that creates.
Her father in prison is not her fault. Sheesh!
@@ccbarr58 little things didnt say it was her fault, she is noting it likely affected her negatively, which is true when there is family dysfunction. Many of us are trying to change poor coping skills we developed and to find healthy coping skills to use instead. Thats why we never stop growing. Its a part of life. Its sad she didnt get to that point and ended her life instead. 🙁
Award winning writer & 304!!!
That is what they first said about Kouri Richin. Then, the police found out that she was actually responsible for her husband's death.
I'm going through this myself. She a writer and have stories of her oast people. I read them all and I can't believe after I asked she still wants to keep them. I don't like it but I love ger and the kids so I'm going to see if she will see that I love her and I am still here for her. We have been together for 5yrs going on 6yrs in May.
Do you suspect she’s cheating on you?
He´s such a cute and kind person. I think it's easy to fall in love with him, so it makes it hard to realize that he has been cheated so badly.
EXCELLENT 🎉
Never judge people when they lie or cheat. I used to do that ,but actually all u have to do is live a little longer and experience more disappointment. The root of cheating, etc is childhood trauma. Especially, when u see others have zero consequences over long periods of time. That is where the temptations lie or exist.
Nah, bad advice. Never judge a liar or a cheater? 😂 Depending on the situation, you do know that you can go to jail for doing either or both of those things? You will be judged. You do have choices. Cheaters and liars need to grow up and stop being self-centered, it’s freaking selfish!
@squirrelboss7067 of course but what I meant is, pls be cautious not to repeat the pattern or not to become a liar yourself. I believe we experience trauma twice. Once as the victim and second as a lost soul trying to avoid becoming that same person who victimized us. Accountability is key but moreso for oneself. Make sure u have people in your life who will hold u accountable and not just let you wander.
I have trouble with that opinion. People close to me went through bad childhood trauma, such as sexual abuse, a mother who went through multiple divorces, and a parent who slashed them with a knife in the face--and they are honest and kind. I know others who went through severe childhood abuse who cannot open their mouths without lying. One does not necessarily lead to the other. We do not choose the hands we're dealt, but we sure choose how we play them.
@professorwiggins3290 indeed. I think what we don't realize is some people have a harder time than others to find the light. Hence all the repetitive awful habits and patterns. I no longer judge my sons dad or other relatives I know who cheated and treated their families horrible.
I finally understand their struggles mentality. But neither do I keep connection or relationship with these people.
@annabanzon313 Ultimately, we're all responsible for how we respond to our upbringing. For example, my father was a lascivious man, and he flaunted the fact to me even as a boy. I teach for a living. If I started having sex with sundry coeds, would it be fitting to tell my wife and department chair, "You can't judge me because my behavior is the result of childhood trauma?" Would they buy that excuse? Should they?
Blake's getting his revenge. He's entitled to it. Go for it, Blake. You were used.
I've watched this for the 3rd time. Please someone. Watch it again.
I lie to myself all the time. For me, denial really works.
I have insight into this scenario. I'm very sorry to hear what happened and her treatment of her husband was shameful. He deserved better. But since she was essentially deprived of a father and his approval and love during her life -- she would always seek to "fill the emptiness" this situation left with the affection of multiple partners. I've known many women like this. I'm not saying what she did was right or healthy. I mean the lying and cheating is basically toxic narcissistic behavior. I hope the husband can move on. The suicide appears to show that the wife had a low opinion of herself and was mentally unbalanced. Sad story.
@Sarah-xw2ff - the behavior was toxic and shameful, but I think her husband is trying to shed light on why it happened, so that she's not completely vilified by their friends and family. The truth is, many people deserve better than the partners they often end up with, because human beings are flawed and some will behave in really messed up ways. Young men and women often repeat the behaviors they grew up observing in the adults around them. There's tons of guilt after an individual takes his/her own life, so I'm sure the writing came from a place of needing to unpack what happened, especially if he didn't see it coming.
This goes for men too
Blake, I hope you have found peace.
Molly ain't here to defend herself...are we just taking his word for it? i feel like there are two sides to every story, and i get weird vibes from him like theres more to the strory.
There clearly is more than meets the eye. Doesnt he have a secret life too? Well... The closet is rather obvious
This man has "sus" written all over him.
Only God sees through our eyes. However, if people are willing to be intimate and transparent, then we can get to know them ----and trust them.
My husband saw sex workers for the 33 years we were together and I had no idea - until he unburdened.
Whoa!?!
I think he was the one she loved. And, she was the one she hated. She wouldn't want to face his knowing what she did. May She Rest In Peace.
It was a release for him, you can’t keep all that inside… and it can help others going down that path to change, it’s a responsibility, my opinion
This is heartbreaking. 💔
This is heartbreaking on SO many levels. 😔🙏
Her family must protect her memory, someone please. I hope they come forward. He could’ve gone to therapy but instead he’s selling her alleged secrets.
It’s not until someone passes that we can see all the demons they were wrestling with.
And it hurts. The living don’t understand why they couldn’t reach out for help
You have to forgive the departed for their issues. Then forgive yourself for being so blind and insensitive
Unpopular opinion based on this comment section:
Yes, she was completely wrong. But it sounds like she didn’t have sound judgement. And by all accounts, they could’ve had a great relationship. But she’s not here to say that. I’m not saying he did anything to deserve that treatment. But her self destructive behavior, lack of good judgement, no support system.. all that is a concoction of unhealthiness, and normally unhealthy people are not with a healthy person. What if he was abusive? What if he didn’t look out for her and harmed her more physically or mentally? Could you imagine a terrible partner writing a book on his “saint like” perspective of your life and relationship.. and you have no family or friends to defend you after you’ve transitioned?
Again, NOT SAYING this is the case. BUT why disturb a spirit that was troubled by writing a book on her darkest secrets and profit off of it?
And obviously this is his life and story. But to sit on a talk show and psychologically dissect someone that isn’t here to speak for or defend themselves is weird. Keep it about you, not her and her hardships that she may not have wanted the world to know.
This seems exploitive, highly inappropriate, and just weird. Almost like a get back after she’s dead and you can’t address it with her. Hence, why I mentioned the possible scenario above. Abuse is about power, and this felt like a power move. May her soul rest in peace. And God bless him and his healing journey as well.
Thank you for your comment. You've articulated what I thought perfectly.
Her suicide may not been about her hurting him. If that were the case. She wouldn't have told him that she loves him, while she was getting her back blown out. Her suicide could've been tied to the dude that she was involved with, where he'd possibly dumped her and she couldn't take it. I think that her husband was just for her security purpose. While she'd sowed her oats. No telling what other secrets that she has. Sexually molested during her childhood years etc. But at the end of the day. She'd hurt someone who was loyal to her. Being broken for a woman, often times overshadows lack of responsibility and morality. Now imagine if the tables were turned here. No way in hell, would people be having sympathy for this guy. They'd would be saying, good riddance.
I don't think so. If the husband had committed suicide, more people would condemn the wife for writing the book. Women are expected to be more forgiving. There's a lot of anger in this man, a lot of unprocessed feelings. He'll get far more sympathy than any woman would.
No they wouldn't. A woman would be condemned for writing it in the first place. Women are expected to be more forgiving and if her husband had committed suicide then she'd hauled over the coals.
Wow very intriguing
He's a v kind man. He somehow justifies her actions.. But she's been cruel and unfair to him.. She was v lucky to have a guy like him in her life.. And she threw that all away.. The pain she caused to him is unforgiveable.
But he seems to have forgiven her and refuses to be the victim.
Reminds me of Twitch & Allison.
How?
How? Was Twitch living a double life?
I’ve never wanted to read a book so much….this clip is a cliffhanger lol
That was his wife till death did them part so its his right to say and do whatever he feels is the right thing to do.
Those same people who had a problem with him telling his story are probably the reason she felt what she felt and operated how she did.
She could have easily destroyed the trail of evidence. She wanted him to find it
I married my husband 7 years and i don't know him.
This is exactly why I broke it off with an ex fiancé I was with for 3 years and felt like I barely knew him since he wouldn’t ever express himself fully and it was so frustrating. Not marrying him was the best decision of my life.
We can know one another, we have to listen to who they show us they are because no one can hide who they are. We live out loud, that can not be hidden. Denial is ugly and the lie. Stop existing and live, living a lie you only lie to you.
Everyone has secrets and uses them to protect themselves from the Judgement of others. People can be very critical and cruel when they find out something about you that they don't like. They can be very judgemental and verbally abusive to you when they can chastise you for your life that once was or is. I keep things to myself after talking to much to people that are harsh in their response .
Teesa Reesa needs a book deal too
There is an incredible lonliness that follows the realization of a 'secret life' in a marriage. Don't have affairs. !
This is the type of thing that thrills America. No wonder American society is going down fast. Why can´t talk shows shows us the best of people and all the great things happening each day. Instead you want to publicize this!
I don't know why or what it is about this man? Yet something don't seems right about him and or what he's saying. Forgive me if I'm in error but The Lord God doesn't lead me wrong.
I'm so pleased to have read your comment. As soon as I saw him, I felt that there was something "off' about him. There's A LOT of suppressed anger. Maybe he thought that writing the book would help release it, but that hasn't worked.
@@dumfriesspearhead7398 you are observing edited footage of a person caked in make up and underneath bright studio lights, speaking in front of a room full of people on national television and you’re worried that they are not acting “right”?
@@robertyeah2259 Yeah, Robert.
That’s why I don’t keep a journal.
If you’re interviewing someone you should let them talk.
Suicide is being out of your mind.
Suicide buys into a warped narrative, hook, line, and sinker.
Suicide is the end result of suffering deeply, hopelessness, blindsided.
Survivors of someone’s suicide are victims, too. It is a terribly painful experience and mess to deal with.
Too many have secret and double lives. It is very selfish of them to lie and marry/have a partner but sadly most do.
Is he str8? Does he know himself?
You said it... Rather obvious but then just guilt trip a dead women and create an alternative storyline
WHAT is the secret? He and Tamron talked in circles. 😂
The secret is that she kept the fact that she was mentally unwell to herself instead of telling her husband and maybe get help. She suffered from deep trauma and her view of the world was so destructive that she tried to prove a point to herself at the end, instead of seeing the love that is in front of her. Her husband only found out when he went through her stuff for the funeral.
@@MrsDaedalus_Beautifully said Cindy. You seem to be very articulate and I would love to discuss this further with you. Do you use discord or anything?
@@MrsDaedalus_The question is, did she even know she was unwell? Or, was she even unwell? Could she have killed herself on a whim because of one of her entanglements? Since she slept with students, could one of them or someone else, have threatened to spill her secret?
She was sleeping around is what i got from this interview.
This woman's secret life is proof that some people just don't want their business known, especially a traumatic past
She cheated. She created trauma. Hurt people don't intentionally hurt people. She wasn't who he thought she was.
"hurt people don't intentionally hurt people"?, please go do some reading because you have no idea how the psychology of a traumatized person works...@@woodswal
Are you kidding me? She's the one that did terrible things to him
@@MrLardobuttmaybe you need some comprehension lessons because you're not understanding what this person is saying. He's saying that just because you're hurt it's not an excuse to go hurt other people and that it's okay. Obviously plenty of people that are hurt hurt others but that is not an excuse when you're an adult. Pretty much everybody goes through pain and hurt through their childhood that's just part of being raised by other humans but it's not okay to go take it out on others especially ones that didn't do it to you
@@Angelface11 I do agree with you that is not an excuse to hurt other people, because you are hurt yourself. However, you also have to understand that her world view was so destructive and disordered that she couldn't see and understand the reality that is in front of her. Common sense is gone once your mind is getting into that state. And I have a feeling that she didn't seek treatment, because otherwise we won't be here.
I know people might get upset with me but this story rubs me the wrong way, don't know but his mannerisms is tripping me out, and he was married to her? He's writing a book of her and discovers her secrets of her other life "hmm"🤔 I don't know about this story is this really legit, and let me get this straight, she died and now he's kinda making her look bad and making himself look good while he's cashing out for his book. And is it me or I'm just tripping because when he is talking about his wife death I don't see any emotion, sorry I don't, do you guys. And if i'm wrong i apologize because i didn't see the whole episode, i'm just going bye this little clip.
You're absolutely not wrong and I won't bother commenting about those who can't see this. They just won't. Why would any sane person go through something like this and think, "it's in my best interest to write a book about my cheating wife who committed suicide" and on top of it, go on a media campaign. None of that makes sense. There is far more to this story that he doesn't have to tell and I wouldn't doubt he did actually know what she was doing and was a part of it. If this story is 100% true as he tells it, she's not a good person and her texts were just lies to cover up and deflect from what she wanted to do and she used him. I think Occams Razor applies here very well.
Yup reminds me of Kouri Richin. The Utah mother who wrote a children's book about her late husband's death. And, then was later arrested, because it turned out that she was actually responsible for his death.
Impacful story
My mom discovered who really is my dad thanks to iCloud. My mom didn't tell me the explicit things, obviously, but I can assume she found nasty and horrible things. She told me she didn't know with who she got married. She didn't know who truly was that man. Over the years I can say the same about my dad because I've discovered he isn't loyal to anyone. I don't know who is my dad. I know the character he plays when he is front of me and the other character he plays when he is front of others like relatives and his wife. Only someone else who has lived with a narcissist, pathological liar, etc knows what is this feeling.