Your words are confirming to me. In my experience, i felt (and struggle not to feel) like a failure for not protecting my children. I didn't blame my ex, but it was hard because i felt as though i couldn't say anything about it because i prioritized her experience over myself. I found myself at the end of a 2 week bender, drunk at 3am multiple times and trouble sleeping and connecting with others following her procedure. It was hard, but each day I try to be better for God, my children, and myself.
Thank you so much for watching and sharing your experience. I understand your pain. An excellent book for men after abortion is: Fatherhood Aborted by Guy Condon and David Hazard. Men also find healing at a Rachel’s Vineyard retreat which you might consider. In the meantime, I’ll be praying that you accept God’s forgiveness and allow yourself to forgive yourself. Take care and let me know if there’s other questions or topics you’d like me to cover in future videos.
Yes they are. It’s so important for both men and women to get help and healing. Otherwise, it affects all our relationships going forward. We can act out in buried emotions and not understand why and how to resolve them. Thank you for watching.
80% of relationships and after abortion. Are you seriously not sure why that is the case? You and your partner killed your own baby. If you not willing to have a baby together why stay together?
@@gurjitpurewal8995 thank you for watching. I understand your point. Here’s more info that you may not know. Six in 10 women who have abortions are already mothers, and half of them have two or more children, according to 2019 data from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Couples may choose abortion because they feel overwhelmed with their responsibilities and/or finances seem like having another child impossible. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying those reasons justify abortion. My goal is to paint a full picture that loving parents can succumb to pressure even as they love and care for their living children. The man might himself as a failure, unable to provide for his family and not protecting his unborn child. His wife may see him that way too. Those circumstances are hard to talk about and can lead to breakups and divorce. Hope that helps fill in the picture a little better. I hope you come back for more videos.
If I may add to her comment... Me and my ex split for good about 6-8 months after. I made my stance clear- that I wanted to keep our child and try to work something out. She wanted to do it for her schooling (college sweethearts). I was there for her during that time and I cared for her to comfort her while failing (in the beginning) to mend my own broken heart and the pain that was both unfamiliar to me and overwhelming. When I was informed of her pregnancy, ~6 weeks, I was also told that she was going through with it (before I even had a chance to get a say). I was crushed as I tried to recommend any other alternative, like working full time hours while finishing university (me), dropping out to work full time and more (me) while she finished her degree, someone moving in, up for adoption, family members, anything other than abortion. Her decision was made and it was final, so I had no choice but to accept that and love her regardless. It was hard for me for some time after, and thought I still loved and cared for her, it broke me in ways I've never been before. It was worse than the depression I'd been in through my mid life. Sadly also a long bender and drive myself to sleep, etc. But I'm sure you understand where I'm going with this. 💙
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Your words are confirming to me. In my experience, i felt (and struggle not to feel) like a failure for not protecting my children. I didn't blame my ex, but it was hard because i felt as though i couldn't say anything about it because i prioritized her experience over myself. I found myself at the end of a 2 week bender, drunk at 3am multiple times and trouble sleeping and connecting with others following her procedure. It was hard, but each day I try to be better for God, my children, and myself.
Thank you so much for watching and sharing your experience. I understand your pain. An excellent book for men after abortion is: Fatherhood Aborted by Guy Condon and David Hazard. Men also find healing at a Rachel’s Vineyard retreat which you might consider. In the meantime, I’ll be praying that you accept God’s forgiveness and allow yourself to forgive yourself. Take care and let me know if there’s other questions or topics you’d like me to cover in future videos.
He kept pushing everything back to me....as if he had nothing to do with it!. Sometimes men fail to understand that they have as much responsibility.
Yes, sadly that happens. That had to be so hard! Sounds like he was a broken man. How are you now? How can I help?
This is what happened to me 😢
Very helpful. Excellent teaching. I really like the help at the end.
Thank you Cathy! I’m so glad it was helpful.
Hmm, just watched your short on this subject. Interesting statistics.
Yes they are. It’s so important for both men and women to get help and healing. Otherwise, it affects all our relationships going forward. We can act out in buried emotions and not understand why and how to resolve them. Thank you for watching.
Fantastic
How kind! Thank you.
80% of relationships and after abortion. Are you seriously not sure why that is the case?
You and your partner killed your own baby. If you not willing to have a baby together why stay together?
@@gurjitpurewal8995 thank you for watching. I understand your point. Here’s more info that you may not know. Six in 10 women who have abortions are already mothers, and half of them have two or more children, according to 2019 data from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Couples may choose abortion because they feel overwhelmed with their responsibilities and/or finances seem like having another child impossible. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying those reasons justify abortion. My goal is to paint a full picture that loving parents can succumb to pressure even as they love and care for their living children. The man might himself as a failure, unable to provide for his family and not protecting his unborn child. His wife may see him that way too. Those circumstances are hard to talk about and can lead to breakups and divorce. Hope that helps fill in the picture a little better. I hope you come back for more videos.
If I may add to her comment...
Me and my ex split for good about 6-8 months after. I made my stance clear- that I wanted to keep our child and try to work something out. She wanted to do it for her schooling (college sweethearts). I was there for her during that time and I cared for her to comfort her while failing (in the beginning) to mend my own broken heart and the pain that was both unfamiliar to me and overwhelming. When I was informed of her pregnancy, ~6 weeks, I was also told that she was going through with it (before I even had a chance to get a say). I was crushed as I tried to recommend any other alternative, like working full time hours while finishing university (me), dropping out to work full time and more (me) while she finished her degree, someone moving in, up for adoption, family members, anything other than abortion. Her decision was made and it was final, so I had no choice but to accept that and love her regardless.
It was hard for me for some time after, and thought I still loved and cared for her, it broke me in ways I've never been before. It was worse than the depression I'd been in through my mid life. Sadly also a long bender and drive myself to sleep, etc. But I'm sure you understand where I'm going with this. 💙