My world has collapsed! An update as to why.

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  • @PiperX1X
    @PiperX1X 12 днів тому +6

    Tough times mate and sorry for your loss pal, it’s not easy I lost my mother in 2016 and I was lost but my dogs kept me going and gave me a reason to get up on a morning and soldier on. Things do get easier, it may not seem that way at the moment but the best way is to keep busy and also talk to someone when you need to and not to bottle things up.

  • @Naturelife7-w4g
    @Naturelife7-w4g 15 днів тому +56

    Man in the woods, you don't live out in the woods for nothing. Wood is strength. There are many different types of wood, from soft to hard. At this season you're in you're soft , tender but you will be strong and focused again. you will get there. Your mother would want you to rise again. After the storm there is always a calm. All will be well in time. You're able to recognise and count your blessings that is a very good thing. I feel your pain. Love and guidance to you. ❤

    • @themanofthewoods
      @themanofthewoods  14 днів тому +10

      Great point

    • @davidjacobs828
      @davidjacobs828 13 днів тому +8

      Beautiful dog ...i
      Remember when my mum died.... 😢
      Your dog is your team member .
      You're obviously a strong person.
      I'm confident you'll be OK.

    • @themanofthewoods
      @themanofthewoods  13 днів тому +3

      @davidjacobs828 Thank you.

    • @elizabethjones2088
      @elizabethjones2088 11 днів тому +2

      Trust your gut feeling

    • @lisamarshall-forster2959
      @lisamarshall-forster2959 11 днів тому

      So sorry for your loss. Followed your channel on my tv which doesnt allow comments to be left. Very much wanted to ask upon your latest message - what will you do? Thanks, Lisa.

  • @jodifridson48
    @jodifridson48 14 днів тому +4

    I'm so sorry to hear about your mom and all you are going through. I too went through a series of loss my brother, father, mother, dog & my cat in that order. It's not easy to deal with the changes those losses brought into my life. You just need to do what works for you daily. Take one day at a time. Do what you can to get through each day. Some days will be better than others. Cherish all the loving memories. Talk about your mom in your videos, share some memories of her. It helps to tell silly stories of times gone by. Yes animals do sense what we are feeling better than most people. Rebuild, fix things that need your attention as you feel up to it. Keep making videos it will also give you a daily purpose. You can tell the camera things you may not share with others in person. Best of luck to you.

  • @ryanm1407
    @ryanm1407 15 днів тому +22

    For what its worth Kevin, I lost my dad over 30 years ago, and on one of the cards I received was written, "behind the clouds the sun always shines", it reminded me, that I was lucky to have the time I did with my dad and that the sun is still shining behind those clouds, your just can't feel it, but it is there.

  • @scarlettskies100
    @scarlettskies100 14 днів тому +4

    My mum was my safety net too my lovely...my heart goes out you man of the woods ...that grief you hold is love with nowhere to go ...sending my love ...condolences sweet man

  • @debbilinnebur2075
    @debbilinnebur2075 12 днів тому +12

    Moms are safety nets, "anchors", the transportation that got you here. Its an odd feeling when they depart, such an unexpressable aloneness unlike any other. Truly though, they never really leave. How can they? You're still here. You keep them here in your heart, your memory, your own body carries a part of her. That bond doesn't die.

  • @Caoucaren
    @Caoucaren 14 днів тому +4

    I’m so sorry for your loss. What a great loss for you. I totally empathize with how you’re feeling i too have lost a great love only yesterday. I feel your pain and I know how alone you feel. My world has collapsed as well and I don’t know what to do. I don’t know how I can go on. Life is so difficult at times like this, I just keep thinking how they would want us to react and go on and keep them alive in our memories. My deepest condolences to you. Courage, my brave.

    • @themanofthewoods
      @themanofthewoods  14 днів тому +1

      My thoughts are with you. thank you for such a lovely comment.

  • @angelacook1533
    @angelacook1533 10 днів тому +3

    Bless you, my mum passed 11yrs ago she was my everything my only friend, she helped me raise my kids and tbh I’ve never come to terms with losing her. I still cry for her most days, it still hurts as much now as it did when she passed, so I understand how much your hurting, much love x

  • @maccamcaleavey6612
    @maccamcaleavey6612 12 днів тому +4

    Sorry for your loss. Only new to your channel but I feel your pain. I lost my mam 5 years ago and it knocked the legs from under me. It will get better just allow yourself to grieve and concentrate on you and over time it will get easier. You never get over it you just learn to live beside it. Still hurts though. Take care and look after you and your dogs. I've got 5 and they where and still are a lifesaver everyday.

    • @themanofthewoods
      @themanofthewoods  12 днів тому

      Thank you. My two are keeping me going right now.

  • @IndigenousResistance192
    @IndigenousResistance192 15 днів тому +3

    My heart goes out to you Kev, I’ve experienced same as you and like you if not for my dogs I wouldn’t be here. The storm damage can be fixed, our heartache is not so easy. I’m glad you have some good friends to help you through. I wasn’t that fortunate but as said had my dogs. Hope in time the weight on your soul gets easier ❤

  • @kellyfallbrook4150
    @kellyfallbrook4150 14 днів тому +3

    Ive just done a video on my other channel basically the same thing. I feel the loss of my aunt who kept my family together. Im sorry you went through this. I live in a caravan and i lost my polytunnel in the high winds. I hope you find your strength to get through this.

  • @valuewallart7287
    @valuewallart7287 15 днів тому +7

    I usually do not comment much on videos , but this one.. was a must. Iam so sorry for your loss ... horrific and around that time of year.. i feel im in a very similar situation to you.. i live a very similar life.. i do not know how i will find the strength u have to cope.. if you ever need a break away.. ur welcome on my little piece of earth anytime.. from the isle...

  • @janecartmale2884
    @janecartmale2884 13 днів тому +2

    I'm sorry for the loss of your mum. Grief affects us all in different ways and coping with loss can take a very long time, we have to get use to coping as best we can and hopefully after a time can see a way forward, your mum will be looking out for you all the time and will help you with your decisions in the future. Take care and take time to come to terms with the present situation. Sending you positive thoughts and be easy on yourself and take your future decisions when the time feels right for you! xxx

  • @RoeObrien
    @RoeObrien 13 днів тому +9

    You will get threw this my friend your strength of your being will make stuff easier, if you need a hand at your place to get it back together,I am a ex construction worker with some minor health issues, me and my dog tig are into hot tent camping ,if you can sort a pitch I'll come work for you I have 45 years in groundwork and machine operator. What you have is you own little peace of heaven, don't give up mate. Roe from glossop,derbyshire

  • @BDR75
    @BDR75 13 днів тому +2

    This too will pass Brother, you have an Angel to guide to from now on. BLESS LOVE AND LIGHT .
    From Scotland.

  • @DeborahPinder-f5t
    @DeborahPinder-f5t 15 днів тому +2

    Hi Kev, so sorry for your loss, I too lost my mam over the Christmas time 5 years ago and my heart goes out to you. You are in a period of grief and it will take as long as it takes for you to get back on your feet again but know that you will come out of this stronger.
    Accept the well meaning support of others and the love and loyalty of the girls as dogs are truly angels in fur coats 🥰

  • @hattyflame3889
    @hattyflame3889 12 днів тому +4

    Sorry to hear your sad news Kevin ❤much love ❤️ and rest in peace to your dear mum 🙏

  • @charlottecoolik9872
    @charlottecoolik9872 9 днів тому +2

    I am so sorry. It hurts seeing other people in pain or suffering in any way. Sending lots of love and comforting support from Charlotte in Charlotte, North Carolina, USA.
    I totally relate with not feeling like doing things...... love to you

  • @MariaDainesband
    @MariaDainesband 15 днів тому +1

    So sorry for the sad loss of your Mum. And so sorry you're going through such a difficult time at this tough time of year. I hope these words by Philip Larkin help a little, 'What will survive us is love'.

  • @yilba
    @yilba 14 днів тому +3

    I am so very sorry to hear about your mother, Kev. I am pleased to hear you have some good friends around to support you and of course your lovely dogs. I don't know what else to say really but I appreciate you sharing with us what you've been going through. Sending much love and I hope that your days will start to fill with positive moments very soon x

  • @AUBZ72
    @AUBZ72 12 днів тому +9

    I’m happy to have a working holiday wiv ya 👍
    Truck drivers ( need a break ), mechanic by trade too …. Need a hand ?

  • @graemesaunderson4218
    @graemesaunderson4218 14 днів тому +2

    So sorry to hear about your loss.It`s only time that will teach you how to readjust ,and trust me you will.I lost my mother when i was sixteen and as you can imagine. it was devastating. Take solace in the fact that you did everything that you could and in the fact that she was proud of your progress and got pleasure from your videos.Keep your chin up and immerse yourself in all of the repairs that you need to do.I`m impressed that your bridge survived the storm.

    • @themanofthewoods
      @themanofthewoods  14 днів тому +1

      Not as surprised as I was regarding the bridge. Thank you for a lovely comment.

  • @Angie-fe8yd
    @Angie-fe8yd 10 днів тому +2

    Sorry for your loss,never saw a video of yours before.Yes one day at a time,slowly just taking good care of yourself eating well,staying hydrated, pottering about doing repairs as and when you can/feel like.
    Wishing you healing energy and strength as you grieve (and recover in time)...eventually we do reach a point where we cope better and feel less loss and upset. We carry our lost loved ones in our hearts & happy memories forever💖 Take good care ❤️‍🩹💌🙏

  • @gary.j.riley5855
    @gary.j.riley5855 12 днів тому +8

    Sorry for your loss. Losing a Parent is a really hard thing to deal with, but when its your mother its even harder...She's the one you want to turn to when life gets too much. She'll always be with you and looking after you. Stay strong mate.

  • @kimorsel686
    @kimorsel686 14 днів тому +7

    No words can help. Thinking of you. Hugs for your girls. Do what you need to do. Hunker down, hug yourself.

  • @markmooch
    @markmooch 13 днів тому +2

    So very sorry, I can see why you are feeling the way you are, I've found our emotions and energy can come in waves, the negative feelings are like a magnet that attract more negative feelings and skew our perspective. The storm damage can be fixed with time and or money, but go easy on yourself and do what ever you feel you need to do to move forward. All the best.

  • @petertravers9164
    @petertravers9164 15 днів тому +2

    So sorry to hear of the loss of your mother , I lost my mother about 8 years ago after caring for her for eight years not long before Christmas so have a good idea of how you feel ànd although gone never forgot. Stay strong as things do take time and is a great healer , take care condolences Peter.

  • @420somewhereG
    @420somewhereG 14 днів тому +4

    God bless Your wee mum and yourself Kev 🙏🏻💚

  • @julieharding6631
    @julieharding6631 15 днів тому +2

    Blessings on you Kev. So sorry to hear of the sad loss of your Mum; this is one of the hardest. My Mum has been gone 10 years and I still miss her; and i still talk to her and thank her for her wisdom. Your Mum is watching over you and you will regain your smile and laughter - mum would want that! So good you have true friends in this time of need - that is so important. You are a positive man and you will pick up in time. dont fight your emotions - let them work through .
    Sending you a huge hug and positive thoughts. Bless you and your Mum. xx😇🙏

  • @angier9283
    @angier9283 14 днів тому +3

    Sorry for your loss, big hugs and thinking of you xx❤

  • @sweetnawesome23
    @sweetnawesome23 14 днів тому +2

    I'm so sorry for your loss, I completely understand what you mean when you say she was your "safety net", my mum was mine too. Just do whatever it takes to get through each day, and look for the little signs to show you that your mum is nearby, they will come. Also, there is no "getting over" the loss of the one who brought you into the world, but you'll learn to live around the grief as you begin a new chapter in your journey. Take a good, long rest if you need to, and have a think about the next thing. Baby steps, no rush, no rules. Lots of love and healing hugs to you ❤

  • @nigellovell-nr6ic
    @nigellovell-nr6ic 14 днів тому +7

    I lost my mum earlier in the year, the void remains. You have my deepest sympathy. One day at a time one step at a time but keep your head up and wait for the light to return..🙏🏻

  • @sarahkirk9181
    @sarahkirk9181 14 днів тому +2

    I am so sorry to hear your sad news, I lost my mum just 2 months ago. Things feel pretty shitty right now but you are not alone. Things will improve. Sending you condolences and a huge hug 🤗 xx

  • @dreamcreate116
    @dreamcreate116 13 днів тому +2

    Oh so challenging Kev and I am so sorry for the loss of your precious Mother. Your in mourning and shock and it takes time to work through the process. Be very gentle and kind with yourself and gradually make your way through this challenging time. You will know what is best for you all in good time. ❤ ❤ ❤ 🌹

  • @kevinjackson9353
    @kevinjackson9353 14 днів тому +3

    Condolences r.i.p your mom.lost my dad first 2016....mom 2018. You will get through this in your own way. day by day.keep the vlogs coming when your ready.❤

  • @PamGreyling
    @PamGreyling 15 днів тому +4

    I am sorry you are experiencing difficulties that are hurting you. You are very courageous to share all your hard times. I know that you are resilient, and watching you I have seen you get up after each obstacle. My friend life is knocking you. It is time to be kind to yourself. Assess everything and make a list and then give numbers of importance in which way you need to move forward. We will hold you in our thoughts and prayers. You are brave and resourceful. One step at a time. Believe me all the work will wait for you. Believe me. One step at a time ❤❤❤❤

  • @shirleyp589
    @shirleyp589 15 днів тому +6

    Grief can have a profound effect on how you currently see the world. Add winter and the January blues it’s really difficult. Priorities are to stay warm and well and rest and just see the season will change. As a mum of grown up sons trust me we don’t want our sons to suffer emotionally but build on the foundations we give you. You owe it to mum to get strong and remember her with all the love she’s left you.

  • @suzie5772
    @suzie5772 13 днів тому +3

    I’m so sorry for your loss. Losing your mum is indescribable, she is with you each and every day. She is part of you. Please give yourself time, let nature and your lovely girls heal you. Lean on friends and family . I miss my mum, she passed 13 years ago and the pain is always with me. I planted a tree in my garden in the memory of my mother. It’s with me throughout, changing with the seasons. God bless your mum and you ❤

  • @CampOutWest
    @CampOutWest 11 днів тому +1

    Sorry to hear of the tough times you've been going through Kevin, hope your pups are giving you extra love and looking after you. There's a welsh saying for times like these. "fe ddaw eto haul ar fryn"

    • @themanofthewoods
      @themanofthewoods  11 днів тому +1

      @@CampOutWest Thank you. My girl's are keeping me going. And I hope the sun does come on the hill soon.

  • @oliverschultz4943
    @oliverschultz4943 14 днів тому +1

    Sir, I'm very sorry to hear about your Mother! The storm damage is really inoportune timing on top of your grief. You'll make it through this time and into the blessed spring. I wish you peace, power, and positivity in the meantime and into the future!

  • @garyspringham2655
    @garyspringham2655 15 днів тому +9

    Sorry for your loss of your mum🙏 The circle of life can be cruel some times.

  • @paulgriffiths8224
    @paulgriffiths8224 15 днів тому +2

    So sorry to hear the terrible news. I also lost my mum on 31st December so can relate to how you are feeling. Don't make big decisions now

  • @kandycebeeks7056
    @kandycebeeks7056 11 днів тому +3

    Your video came across my feed. I am so sorry for your loss. Losing the one who was the rock in your life is beyond difficult, I know.

  • @WalksInCamera
    @WalksInCamera 14 днів тому +4

    Take care mate. Things will work through and there will be better times ahead.

  • @paulak7939
    @paulak7939 14 днів тому +3

    ❤big hugs hun... your mums strengh is in you.. you will get thru this... n have plenty to do in the spring... its winter its ok to hibernate the sun shines .. you will get motivated....❤

  • @OffgridFarley
    @OffgridFarley 12 днів тому +3

    I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm feeling some of these things too. I wonder if it is a season we are going through. Thank you for sharing.

    • @themanofthewoods
      @themanofthewoods  12 днів тому

      I do believe the time of year (season) has a tendency to get us down a bit. The lack of daylight etc. But as spring arrives, we will pick ourselves up again? Thank you.

  • @Morgan-bh5sp
    @Morgan-bh5sp 15 днів тому +3

    Condolences - raising a glass to your Mum and all Mums tonight.

  • @erigrimo2455
    @erigrimo2455 15 днів тому +3

    So sorry on the loss of your mum 🙏 stay strong grief takes time sending my prayers to u

  • @asherrutledge1801
    @asherrutledge1801 13 днів тому +3

    Seriously. Struggles make great videos so hopefully you document your recovery.
    Definitely made a new subscriber here.
    Very moving video. God bless, and God bless your faithful dog.

  • @katherinemcdonald2700
    @katherinemcdonald2700 6 днів тому +1

    Prayers to you. May God protect you and give you strength. I pray you know how many of us care for you. All the way from Texas

  • @TheMimiorange
    @TheMimiorange 14 днів тому +1

    Sorry for your loss! 💖 I remember when my mother died - you're suddenly alone. For a very long time I still wanted to call her when something good or bad happened. But Mothers usually go, when we're able to bear the loss. They love us and care for us always. They help us to grow up and even in this last moment they help us to grow. As you said, what gives you reason to go on, are your dogs as they need you. And your good friends. They need you too.
    Take the damage of the storm as information for how to build things, so a next storm will not touch them. And maybe it would be a good idea to rent out that piece of land, you don't use, to someone who knows about herbs - or anything that would be helpful to you. You could help each other. It's good to have somebody around. And if you feel lost - write to your mother. Writing help's immensely and I'm convinced it will reach her. ✨💖

    • @themanofthewoods
      @themanofthewoods  14 днів тому +1

      Such a beautiful comment. Thank you

    • @TheMimiorange
      @TheMimiorange 13 днів тому

      @@themanofthewoods Thank you too for sharing your life with us! 💖✨

  • @josevilla8648
    @josevilla8648 15 днів тому +2

    So sorry to hear of the loss of your mum. Take care of yourself and most of all give yourself the time and space to navigate through this till you know the right course to take. My thoughts are with you.

  • @thesolidsnakealpha
    @thesolidsnakealpha 12 днів тому +3

    So sorry for your loss. Praying for you and your family's continued safety and health.
    You're an inspiration to many.
    Keep your chin up and God bless 🙏

  • @markyb0151.
    @markyb0151. 15 днів тому +6

    "Fight or flight" i don't know you personally, but from the little time i have been watching your videos, I have no doubt your mother has bred fight into you 🙏🏼 head up shoulders back and keep going my friend I'm sure she is looking down and very proud of you 💔🙏🏼

  • @janedarroch3516
    @janedarroch3516 11 днів тому +4

    Kevin please do not give up or stop your lovely videos your health is down your trying to cope with your lovley Mums Death all is not easy at such a time rebuild Stronger you need to work on a stronger Porch with all the wood in the forest you can enclose and make avery Strog New Porch You love ♥️ 💕 💖 your land and the dogs you have loads freedom built a great home this Storm is a test not to give up your Mum loved all you were doing on the land she passed on to a New Life and will still be watching closly to support and help you overcome your set back and you have friends who can help the Storm cannot blow dpwn a house of Rock❤😊Go forward Keep going for you and the girls and your Mum

  • @andypollard5932
    @andypollard5932 15 днів тому +2

    Hi Kev, my heart goes out to you. I too lost my mum just before Christmas a few years back. Your life changes and Christmas is never the same. As you know, life does go on it j ust takes time. So Take time, reflect and the get up and go will come back. Until then each day is a new day and each will be different. Don’t rush don’t make rash decisions and if I may say. Rethink every decision 3 time. Just a little from my experience. In the end, you will make the right decision for you.

  • @URBANPERMACULTURE
    @URBANPERMACULTURE 15 днів тому +1

    Sorry for your loss and pain, hope the spring makes your days Brighter, all the best steve

  • @joannamorgan6911
    @joannamorgan6911 9 днів тому +1

    The way you feel at the moment is a natural part of grief. Be gentle with yourself. See how animals are so in tune with our emotions. I am sorry for your loss of your Mum she may not be here in body but she will never leave you. All of us who have gone through this are walking alongside you. Take the time you need and accept offers of help. Thinking about you.x

  • @Andy_Todman
    @Andy_Todman 13 днів тому +2

    Hi Kev, having lost both my parents I get what you said about the feeling of loss of support, it does get easier. Living off grid myself I know the hardship you’re facing when things go wrong but it won’t always be like that. Remember why you moved there in the first place. Give it time.

  • @happyglampers9053
    @happyglampers9053 14 днів тому +3

    Thoughts are with you Kev. Best wishes Paul👍

  • @WatcherOfYT
    @WatcherOfYT 12 днів тому +2

    I've never seen your videos before, stumbled across by accident, but could tell where you were heading from the first few minutes.
    Lost my mam, as we call her, in August. I'd never lost anyone close to me, and it hit me like the proverbial truck, at 100mph. The loss, of such a wonderful, caring, compassionate person who I'd been able to rely on day after day, was gone.
    What I've learnt since, is that I'll never get over losing her, but as you said, I'll learn to cope as best I can. You will get there Sir, and she'll always be with you. I feel my old lady around me every day. I hear her words of advice, I sense her guidance, and I know she would always want me to stay strong and carry on in her memory. I wish you the best Sir, and I'll follow your story whenever you upload. All the best mate.

    • @themanofthewoods
      @themanofthewoods  12 днів тому +1

      I am sorry for your loss also. What a beautiful comment and thank you for following my channel.

  • @johannenolan4499
    @johannenolan4499 14 днів тому +3

    So sorry. Thinking of you and saying a prayer for your Mam. ❤

  • @BlindFaith111
    @BlindFaith111 15 днів тому +1

    Sending love & strentgh at this difficult time Kev, thank you for the update video, it's early days go gently ❤❤❤

  • @FrugalQueeninFrance
    @FrugalQueeninFrance 14 днів тому +1

    That's so rough. First of all, I'm sorry for your loss, grief is absolutely crippling. Weather and vehicles on top of that are another beating on top. I'm thinking of you and sending waves of positive thoughts your way.

  • @lauralaura8115
    @lauralaura8115 12 днів тому +2

    Just came across your video. Condolences to you and your family. I lost my dad in 2010 when i was 29, following a short battle with cancer. Sending my love to you. I felt anxious in my grief too the fight or flight is real. And it’s very difficult. If i can say one thing, time helps. I really hope you find the motivation to rebuild from the storm damage as it too will help with your mind. Keeping busy is key but i know how hard it is. Taken time for yourself to process things too. ❤ i can really relate. Time helps and heals. Being thankful for the time you had with her is a big thing🙏 in a time of your grief. Says so much about you.

  • @rosa2266
    @rosa2266 14 днів тому +1

    Thankyou for sharing your thoughts and Honouring Your Mum. Some Very deeply sad, tough and challenging times for you Kev. Take time for yourself. To rest, to grieve to process your emotions as you continue one day at a time.
    Patiently wait and a path forwards will emerge.
    Your inner sunshine will eventually return.
    As the earth gently warms up in Spring, and sunlight returns, I Trust it will lift you a little, as you slowly heal and take time to grieve your Lovely Mum. 🌷
    Take Care.

  • @shaw9673
    @shaw9673 15 днів тому +2

    So sorry for our loss horrible period i went thru same when lost my mum just under two years ago which was totally unexpected ...stay strong thoughs with you bud

  • @lpowell6445
    @lpowell6445 15 днів тому +2

    My condolences for your loss having lost my mum this year I know how hard it’s is,

  • @tiggywinkle5933
    @tiggywinkle5933 11 днів тому +3

    I'm so sorry for your loss. You said in your video that you miss talking to your mum, you still can in a way. I still talk to my best friend who died 5 years ago, I talk in my head about life, all the usual stuff we'd talk about and I can always imagine her replies. You could talk out loud or you could get a notebook and write little letters and notes to her such as what sort of day you've had, or things you wish you'd told her when she was alive, or something good that happened today/something lovely you have seen in your woodland/plans you are making - just anything you would have talked to her about in real life, even asking questions and thinking about the kind of replies she would have given. I do this a lot, when in need of advice I ask my friend "what do you think I should do about.....? " and I think about what she would have said to me. When you've had someone in your life who means a lot to you it's easy to imagine what their advice would be. I know it's not the same as having them there or at the end of a phone but it does help you feel connected to them and it keeps their memory alive in a practical way, I'm often getting quite the telling off by her when I've fucked up! 😂
    Your body is away from me
    But there is a window open
    from my heart to yours.
    From this window, like the moon
    I keep sending news secretly.
    ~ Rumi
    The connection you had with your mum still exists and can be a healing, soothing force that remains in your life forever. Grieving doesn't end, I've heard this said about it - grief does not diminish or grow smaller over time, it is your life that grows bigger around it. Get stuck into all the pressing jobs around your home on the days you feel able, being outside, moving your body and looking after yourself and your home are all healing acts of kindness to yourself. It sounds like you have some lovely supportive friends and family around you who have your back. 😊 You're right about friends, quality over quantity. Just take things, not one day at a time, but one step at a time. Sometimes for me a day when I'm winning is one where I get up, make a cuppa and just sit with whatever feelings I'm dealing with, anything else is a bonus on days when my life-long chronic depression is particularly bad. Anything you can manage to do when in the midst of grief is a positive, don't say "All I managed to do today was get out of bed, drink tea and think about all the things I should be doing". do say "Well done me, I'm not feeling great but I got out of bed and made a cup of tea and have been mentally planning things that need doing." Spring will be here before you know it, always my favourite time of the year, it's uplifting and inspiring to see new life popping up everywhere reminding us that life and death is an unending unstoppable miraculous and infinite thing. Wishing you well from one stranger on the internet to another.

    • @themanofthewoods
      @themanofthewoods  11 днів тому +1

      What a beautiful and very well explained comment. Thank you. I hope your days get brighter for you.

    • @tiggywinkle5933
      @tiggywinkle5933 11 днів тому +1

      @@themanofthewoods Thank you, your's too.

  • @vernonvvccc9325
    @vernonvvccc9325 13 днів тому +1

    This has just popped up and has given me a kick up the arse after feeling sorry for myself.chrismas flu all the family,missing my dead dog ,kids going back to uni and back to a job I don’t enjoy.i wish you all the best the better weather is coming.

  • @jeanettecscott
    @jeanettecscott 15 днів тому +1

    So very sorry for your sad loss. There are no words that can make this any better, but you do have friends, some even that you do not know, that are concerned for you. Take heart and know that. I sincerely hope that you are able to rebuild and repair some of the damage from that awful storm. It will take time, but you are such a capable person, i know you can. Take time, take care you and your two beauties there and i look forward to seeing your next video. Stay well good man and bless you.

  • @arthurmorgan8601
    @arthurmorgan8601 10 днів тому +2

    Sorry for your pain. Time really is a healer but always like a punch in the stomach and raw to start with. Im still trying to get over losing my beautiful cocker spaniel from 2023. Peace and love mate and keep punching.

  • @dfros1957
    @dfros1957 12 днів тому +3

    Im so sorry for your loss. Sending prayes of comfort to you . 💔🙏

  • @barbaraelliott7222
    @barbaraelliott7222 13 днів тому +1

    This is the first time I have come across your channel, but you video touched me enough to urge me to comment. I rarely do. What you are feeling now is totally understandable. Loss of your mum is devastating,p and I feel for you massively due to my own experience. I just urge you to keep going, don't make any drastic decisions, take one day at a time. I send you my good wishes!

  • @jackierixon1144
    @jackierixon1144 14 днів тому +1

    So sorry for your loss, just take time and be kind to yourself. Hopefully Spring will bring fresh ideas and motivation. Take care x

  • @gearoid131
    @gearoid131 14 днів тому +2

    I’m so sorry pal for losing your mum it’s such a horrible time i lost my mum about 15 years ago it was horrible as time goes on pal it does get easier your mum is with you always in your heart also you need good support to help you through this terrible time so so hard pal prayers from the west of Ireland pal

  • @lesleyhobbs3810
    @lesleyhobbs3810 12 днів тому +2

    Sincere condolences for the passing of your mum, I lost mine nearly 8 years ago and I'm still sad sometimes. Sending you lots of virtual love, hugs, and positive energy for your healing and grief.

  • @Olliebenn69
    @Olliebenn69 12 днів тому +3

    Sorry to hear of your mum's passing Kev. Life can be really hard, but life will bring happier days again too.
    Sending love and healing your way 🙏 xx

  • @romac9516
    @romac9516 11 днів тому +2

    Very upsetting times sir, I wish you all the best coping with all this. Better times are coming :)

  • @onemanhisbackpack8571
    @onemanhisbackpack8571 15 днів тому +1

    So sorry to hear of your loss my friend. It is never easy when we loose a loved one, and we all handle it in different ways. I feel fortunate in that I have the belief that they are still with us, and never too far away. Just a thought and they are there. When I feel the call, I think of mine, and they are there, in my minds eye. Smiling and looking young and vibrant, and at their best.
    Remember 6 months ago, you would say how lucky you are to be living the life you live. How at peace you were living this life with your girls. Hold on to that thought mate, give yourself some time to morn and reflect, no matter how long it takes, and when the time is right, you will remember how you used to feel. It will be exactly what your Mum would want. Come Spring, If you listen carefully you may hear her advising you on how to plant your Veg 😊

  • @jamescasey3291
    @jamescasey3291 14 днів тому +3

    Sorry to hear about your mum, I know how you feel, I lost my old mum a few years ago, wishing you blue sky's 🙏

  • @amalfimike
    @amalfimike 12 днів тому +3

    Sorry for your pain! "Where do I go from here" is a question I am very familiar with! It starts with 1 hour at time, then 1 day at a time. Don't make any rash decisions. The answers will come. Get creative, it helps!

  • @robertoreilly6424
    @robertoreilly6424 11 днів тому +2

    YT suggested your channel and just seen your video and wanted to say try be positive yes a lot has happened but i do hope u can get things fixed and you can enjoy your life again.Rebuilding may not be easy but you will get there im sure

  • @jasonedwardledburynewzeala9897
    @jasonedwardledburynewzeala9897 12 днів тому +2

    My mum died of a very aggressive blood cancer 24 months ago died in 24hrs blood congealed and clotted. X mas isn't merry for everyone. Sorry to hear of your huge loss!😢 keep your mums memory alive. Keep sharing your cherished times. I hope you get the support you need at this difficult time. You have taken a big hit. Stay strong. May your subs and friends give you strength.

  • @elizabethjones2088
    @elizabethjones2088 11 днів тому +3

    You will find out at times like these who your real friends are
    Sorry to hear about your mum and I can relate to that as I lost both my parents around Christmas time
    You are grieving and that’s ok
    Just remember to put yourself first and it’s ok not to feel ok

  • @Coniferous_Canadian
    @Coniferous_Canadian 15 днів тому +2

    So sorry for your loss, it is never easy. Terrible timing with the storm damage and cars, but just take it one day at a time, sending my best wishes!

  • @christinaplaisted9563
    @christinaplaisted9563 15 днів тому +1

    So sorry to hear this sad news , you take one day ata time it is hard very hard , some days worse than others ,, but believe me it dose eventually get easer , your mum is now pain free , and will be with you and watching over you , sometimes you will be aware of her presence , sending you love healing and tons of hugs ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @Dollymarie2
    @Dollymarie2 11 днів тому +4

    Im so sorry for your loss.

  • @Lukeunabomber
    @Lukeunabomber 15 днів тому +3

    keep on brother. you are a shining light. I'm so sorry about your mum. but she's left a beautiful kind man as her son.dont give up

  • @gordonwhyte8179
    @gordonwhyte8179 15 днів тому +2

    Sorry to hear about your mum all i can say in time you will find it hurts less but you will always miss her. Im just a few years older than you and I admire what you are doing and all you have achieved. You’re mum will be proud ❤

  • @KimKatzor
    @KimKatzor 10 днів тому +1

    I'm very sorry for your loss. Your mother sounded like a truly beautiful person. Don't give up. Just breath and take one moment at a time. Sending you love from Pennsylvania. Stay strong.

  • @andymcintosh5324
    @andymcintosh5324 14 днів тому +9

    its your mums physical form that has died and her spirit lives on , good luck with everything and always think positively even in difficult times like you are experiencing

  • @karentonks7581
    @karentonks7581 12 днів тому +3

    So sorry you're going through this grief of losing your mum. It doesn’t matter when it happens its THE most painful thing to go through xxx

  • @NoOne-su1ul
    @NoOne-su1ul 14 днів тому +5

    Look after the dogs they are your reason for living God Given animals the greatest companions a man can have may your mums spirit watch over you as insure she is already God Bless you fella

  • @joelbenedickter1484
    @joelbenedickter1484 11 днів тому +1

    I’m so sorry for your loss Kevin. Sending you all the love and strength mate. X

  • @garysides636
    @garysides636 13 днів тому +1

    Hi, new to your channel and I think sometimes even the UA-cam algorithm knows how to help good decent people meet. The loss of a parent (I've lost both and a sister) is one of the hardest things I've faced but like you I think how we've been brought up to deal with things and dare I say our age. You're going "day to day" is all that is required mate. What makes no sense now will make some sense eventually of that I'm sure. From my own experience drinking helped for a few weeks but it soon stopped dulling the pain. Eat properly and as heathier as you can as it helps so much not just physically but mentally too. My mum (Sadie) passed away 20 years ago and I still miss her ....but the missing never goes but the grief along with it does....but there are no time limits or rules. Like you I'm surrounded by amazing genuine people , good advice and people strong enough to tell me when I'm not being my true self ...
    In times of emotional struggle I think having structure and purpose helps me cope with things allowing life to carry on until I can catch it up mentally.
    Living off grid I'm sure will give you that and then some.
    I've donated a little to help towards the repairs to your home and outbuildings.
    When I was working full time my old boss, following my mum's passing noticed i wasn't myself and a few days later called me in for a chat. I had been "short" with some people , professional but certainly not courteous. I knew I wasn't my old self but he said some people were scared to come to the office which I was so shocked at. At that moment I knew I had to try and control and release the anger that was in me which was raging......the first step in this process started when he asked "do you think this is how your mum would want you to be?".....
    Not much more was said but that for me was the first grain of me seeing ME now. I think we all have a trigger at some point which could happen a day or year later but something just clicks...
    Keep that fire burning mate ....
    You're a stronger man than me as no way could I of vlogged so I applaud you. A dog's love is such a precious gift ...id be lost without mine. She's kept this house sane !
    My sincerest condolences
    Gary 🙏 🦉 🦉

    • @themanofthewoods
      @themanofthewoods  13 днів тому

      Such a heartfelt and beautiful comment. It means a lot to read your comment, and thank you for your generosity. It will be used correctly. Thank you so much.

  • @jeffknowles1857
    @jeffknowles1857 14 днів тому +2

    So sorry to hear your sad news I lost my mam nearly 3yrs ago I feel your pain 😢 mate take care

  • @JesusTheKing777
    @JesusTheKing777 13 днів тому +3

    Jesus loves each and every one of us. I am sorry for your loss. It is very painful to lose the ones we love the most. Just know I am praying for you and I hope you find some peace. There will be a day so glorious that all of Gods children will praise his name on high all together. I love you brother and God bless.

  • @Not-today-l2v
    @Not-today-l2v 14 днів тому +2

    My mum died when I was young the pain never goes but things get easier keep busy is the best remedy to learn to deal with it. Sorry for your loss take care

  • @DazzerP
    @DazzerP 15 днів тому +5

    Nice to see you , hang in there 🙂