This is the #1 THREAT to Your Marriage

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  • @jasonthor9340
    @jasonthor9340 Місяць тому +9

    Literally me and my wife right now, but I'm not sure if she'd watch this. She's been detached for almost 2 years now. My brothers and sisters, please pray over my marriage because I still believe in the move of God over marriages. We both are imperfect and I know that 'hurt' people HURT people. May we learn to grow in our faith and bring it together in our marriage. God bless all of you couples who are fighting hard for your marriage, even when your spouse is hardened.

  • @mirembevivianne1994
    @mirembevivianne1994 Місяць тому +52

    may God restore my marriage and soften my husband's heart and deliver him

  • @aneber1811
    @aneber1811 Місяць тому +19

    My husband has mistreated me for a decade, with a few abusive incidents in between the years. Recently he threatened me physically and I called the cops- he went to jail. My single prayer was that God would create a soft heart in him. He came home from jail with that message, that he went from having a heart “on fire” to one that was soft. Discernment is still necessary walking forward but pray this is real. We’ve had many false repentance moments. Please pray my husband will see and know God. (I thought he did.) I’m praying my own heart stays soft, but wise.

    • @evacraig1415
      @evacraig1415 Місяць тому +1

      My sister is in a similar position with the multiple not followed up repentances by her husband, I hope you two can walk forwards TOGETHER in a healthy safe and God-trusting relationship ❤️

  • @GodDogPassport
    @GodDogPassport Місяць тому +31

    1:09:00 Signs of a hardened ♥️: lack
    Of communication, coldness, stubborn/proud, avoidance, withdrawal, criticism, confrontation, shifting blame, unfaithfulness, lack of honesty

    • @victorywithluisa
      @victorywithluisa Місяць тому +1

      Lack of communication 😢 then everything flows to destructions…

    • @lelamaciolek1166
      @lelamaciolek1166 Місяць тому +1

      Isn’t confrontation a good thing? Like the opposite of lack of communication.

  • @zariahlafleurpowell7028
    @zariahlafleurpowell7028 Місяць тому +22

    Ways hearts are hardened?
    1. Stubborness
    2. Insensitivity
    3. Indifference
    4. Unyielding
    5. Aregon pride

  • @angiemonczunski4201
    @angiemonczunski4201 Місяць тому +3

    This is hitting my heart my husband and I married 40 years and I think I've harden my heart because of emotional issues lying and more I'm going to tell him I forgive him but I'm putting boundaries in place my heart is shattered like dust god please remold my heart thank you you

  • @lynnramreddi3244
    @lynnramreddi3244 Місяць тому +3

    It becomes very difficult to live with someone who does not listen to you and takes you for granted. I have been living in a marriage like this for 30 years. Trusting God for change in my husband Krishna and myself in the mighty name of Jesus Amen 🙏

  • @lilianabang1859
    @lilianabang1859 24 дні тому +1

    Dear Lord soften my heart...Amen..i receive.

  • @colleenhartmann2984
    @colleenhartmann2984 Місяць тому +6

    Thank you. I have been praying for a confirmation that mywedding this weekend was God approved but sadly I am calling it off. We aren't ready.

  • @emmanuelfree714
    @emmanuelfree714 Місяць тому

    By far this is the best message on marriage I’ve ever heard. Hits hard. Husband love your Wives. Wives respect your Husbands. Amen.

  • @arthurmagoola7808
    @arthurmagoola7808 Місяць тому +2

    This video captures the state of my marriage to a tee. Thanks for this Pastor Vlad. God bless you for helping make a difference in the lives of those with hard day to be softened.

  • @AngelaUnderwood-r7i
    @AngelaUnderwood-r7i Місяць тому +9

    I’m confused that my husbands heart is never tender toward me. It’s as if there is no feeling - sometimes a meanness of spirit but mostly a hard heart as you describe. I stay and get confused about how I pray and forgive but pain and sadness is still here. I cannot cause my husband to change. When I ask him questions to try to open his heart to me, he just looks at me and looks away. He will not speak about it. I went through a time of letting the anger covering my pain to take me over but now I just pray for God to soften his heart toward me. I appreciate this message and know I can pray for a tender heart toward me.

    • @rissag462
      @rissag462 Місяць тому +1

      I've been separated for 4 years do to hard heart from my husband. Keeping u in prayer sis. Godbless

    • @usa2342
      @usa2342 Місяць тому +1

      Ask God, how to be a wise woman. He loves when we seek His help and guidance on everything. His answers a lot of times come His Word.

    • @GreasyBaconMan
      @GreasyBaconMan Місяць тому +1

      @@usa2342Pretty sure she’s being wise. You don’t have to be a welcome mat to a hard heart, even our Father doesn’t tolerate it.

  • @TheLORDALMIGHTYREIGNS
    @TheLORDALMIGHTYREIGNS 17 днів тому

    GOD kept your heart soft
    pastor Vlad it's HIS Grace alone and with HIS help alone can we all reach the end of the race

  • @TTmz72
    @TTmz72 11 днів тому

    Lord Jesus, soften mine and my husband’s heart. Please repair our brokenness and the hard hearts we both have… please heal and soften our hearts for one another and may we repair our marriage and fall in love again. In Jesus’ loving and gracious name - Amén 🙏🏽

  • @kimberlywoodring7883
    @kimberlywoodring7883 24 дні тому

    Thank you. I know this is divine because I thought I was watching something else and it was this wonderful teaching. My husband and I are just now coming out of a hard four months. I'm going to play this for him.

  • @senthywalley
    @senthywalley Місяць тому +6

    Hard hearts are the number 1 threats to relationships!

  • @rauhanainane
    @rauhanainane Місяць тому

    The wife is blessed to own this pastor as a husband. Praise God the Lord. Happy for you ❤

  • @nomkhosimchunu4744
    @nomkhosimchunu4744 Місяць тому +5

    Lord Jesus soften my heart 🙏🏽

  • @cooleliasabreu547
    @cooleliasabreu547 26 днів тому

    It Creates Emotional Distance Which Is A Breeding Ground For Hardening Of The Heart ✝️🙏

  • @Alex-mt4lf
    @Alex-mt4lf Місяць тому +2

    Wow Pastor Vlad, the wisdom and truth shared here is invaluable. Hopefully, your next book could be on this subject of “Marriage” so good. ❤🙏🏻

    • @windspan20
      @windspan20 Місяць тому

      About time too. ❤ P . Vlad. But he's been giving the same old list of what the wife's "role" is since the start A list that was born outside the Gospel of Jesus and created by the Rabi of Moses.

  • @julierichey5336
    @julierichey5336 Місяць тому +2

    I have been praying for God to soften my heart.

  • @christianswag5728
    @christianswag5728 23 дні тому

    This video is such a blessing it saved my marriage. Thank you for choosing Jesus, and sharing. God bless

  • @zariahlafleurpowell7028
    @zariahlafleurpowell7028 Місяць тому +4

    Lord Jesus soften my heart.

  • @tulongaerastus5659
    @tulongaerastus5659 Місяць тому +1

    Fight all the time, critical of one another, insensitive, coldness, hate each other, withdrawn, blame shift, lack communication

  • @zariahlafleurpowell7028
    @zariahlafleurpowell7028 Місяць тому +6

    Neglect and lack of love

  • @tulongaerastus5659
    @tulongaerastus5659 Місяць тому +1

    Things that harden the heart.
    1. Long-term negative experience lot of trauma in one's life
    2. Fundamental character. Natural disposition - need healing, deliverance, counseling, encounter with God, character to be reformed, renewal of mind
    3. Arrogant pride - e.g Pharao
    Too proud to admit their fault
    God resist the proud
    Being unyielding, being rude, bitter, supper proud, arrogant, insensitive to the holy spirit, - pray for the conviction of the holy spirit , experience new birth,
    4. Neglect and lack of affection create emotional distance.
    Don't the spouse
    Obey the scripture and give them what the
    5. Unforgiveness let go of bitterness, forgiveness is the key.
    6. Bitterness and constant criticism, unresolved anger, build your spouse i
    7. Deception and lies - very painful, breed lack of trust, lack of transparency, dishonest, unfaithfulness, emotional distance., shame, blame shift, infidelity physical and emotional,

  • @ChrissyM232
    @ChrissyM232 28 днів тому

    Thank you Vlad and team for all the time and energy you put into this it’s appreciated.

  • @jesusfound8758
    @jesusfound8758 Місяць тому

    4:05 "Hard hearts are the number 1 threat to your relationship"
    -stubborn attitude
    -insensitivity
    -unyielding
    Towards changing one's behavior
    Thanks

  • @miriamangue579
    @miriamangue579 Місяць тому +1

    Thank you Pastor Vlad for this wonderful teaching.❤❤❤

  • @roxannerodriguez8450
    @roxannerodriguez8450 Місяць тому +1

    Emotional distance creates harden hearts.

  • @100HOLYGHOST
    @100HOLYGHOST Місяць тому

    Vlad,
    This was very good and TRUTH!
    The bonus section will preach too!!
    God bless brother!!

  • @tinakim6092
    @tinakim6092 Місяць тому

    Amen!
    Thank you and it really helps.
    I've been struggling to forgive my husband who was unfaithful and not repend and left me.
    He ran away and he is leading worship at church somewhere and that church knows what he did to me but still let him attending before God and continues letting him live double life.
    I am mad but I've been giving it all to God.

  • @windspan20
    @windspan20 Місяць тому

    Excellent, realistic teaching on relationships and marriage. Thank-you for not giving another list of what women are supposed to do to, "save the relationship" and take all the blame and responsibility for the condition of the relationship. This is the Gospel. This is what should be taught to the whole body of Christ.

  • @suzansamman6313
    @suzansamman6313 14 днів тому

    I committed in front of the lord to to love and forgive and pray for my spouse .. pray for my breakthrough from bitterness and pride and me not being a cause for him to be stumbled...so the lord can work and soften his heart towards him and people 🙏

  • @LRD5049
    @LRD5049 Місяць тому +1

    Emotional distance(neglecting and not loving spouse) is the breeding ground of the hardening of heart in marriage.
    Give to husband what is his.
    Husband sacrificially love wife.
    Holding onto past wrongs can harden heart.

    • @LRD5049
      @LRD5049 Місяць тому

      I have to let go of all bitterness and unforgiveness the same way Christ has forgiven me.
      19:28 Forgiveness doesn’t require for them to repent. Reconciliation takes two. Forgiveness takes one to forgive and let go.
      Forgiveness is refusing to forgive and holding onto someone’s sin.
      20:12 bitterness and resentment ; constant criticism and unresolved anger will harden my heart.

  • @Maria-dl4he
    @Maria-dl4he Місяць тому +2

    Lord Jesus restore my marriage and family. Remove my husbands hardened heart and give him a softened heart.

  • @zariahlafleurpowell7028
    @zariahlafleurpowell7028 Місяць тому +3

    Hard hearts are the number one threat to relationships

  • @omondibeth7108
    @omondibeth7108 Місяць тому +1

    Emotional distance is a breeding ground for hardened heart

  • @GodDogPassport
    @GodDogPassport Місяць тому

    50:20 thank you for sharing that story that shows us that marriages are work and communication takes time. Glad your wife called you out and you were receptive.

  • @judithmulela2948
    @judithmulela2948 29 днів тому

    Amen and thanks for the powerful insights

  • @kianbarmala8206
    @kianbarmala8206 21 день тому

    Amen, and thank you for this greate word😊!

  • @corrie852
    @corrie852 Місяць тому +2

    Found out recently that my husband has been unfaithful throughout our entire marriage. Which makes sense why it has been so awful. All the prayers, fasting, and crying I guess was to expose the truth. Not for healing

    • @kristinatidwell-su5zn
      @kristinatidwell-su5zn Місяць тому +1

      Praying for you, dear sister. I was surprised by how many marriages are destroyed by this. I don't know what the root cause is for you, but God has brought you to a place of wisdom and discernment. Now, allow Him to heal you. I'm going through the same thing; 39 years of betrayal, manipulation and vindictiveness. Pray for him as commanded, and release him to God.
      And, continue to pray for our spiritual teachers/leaders like Vlad, who refuse to abandon, or alter God's Word in any way. Be blessed in your journey. K 😊

  • @PinkyPinkaDinks
    @PinkyPinkaDinks Місяць тому

    Unfinished covenant commitment can be paid for in the next life. Please God bring us back together 🙏

  • @nadargekwala3110
    @nadargekwala3110 Місяць тому +2

    Lord Jesus soften my heart!

  • @cooleliasabreu547
    @cooleliasabreu547 26 днів тому

    Hard Hearts Are The Number One Threat To Your Relationships ✝️🙏

  • @eileenfuentes6975
    @eileenfuentes6975 6 годин тому

    I pray for the love of my life, MY husband of 20 years, for his heart to soften towards GOD. REGARDLESS of earthly divorce, I pray the fire of the Holy Spirit catches his attention so that he can walk with God, our savior.
    I pray for God to continue working in me to become a proverbs 31 woman, for my heavenly father before anything else in my life. My full trust in Him and Him alone. ❤ I love you Jesus, mold me into your perfect will for my life.
    Amen. ❤🙏

  • @BroEarlOBryanSr
    @BroEarlOBryanSr Місяць тому +1

    I hardened my wifes heart, shes been at my daughters for 4 weeks in the next state, we have been married 26yrs this halloween. Ive recomitted my life to Christ & am praying, i am so sorry for being hard hearted & now im breaking into....please say a prayer for us!!! Earl & Debbie O'Bryan, Im so broken, its my fault, I asking God to heal her heart & im praying, she really wont talk at all. just texts goodnite n goodmorning. And she used to pray for me, now shes drinking..."all my fault", i wasnt there emotionally & ignored her, im asking God for mercy & another chance!!! thankyou for your prayers.😢

    • @evacraig1415
      @evacraig1415 Місяць тому

      Prayed for you!

    • @BroEarlOBryanSr
      @BroEarlOBryanSr Місяць тому

      @@evacraig1415 thankyou so much, my wife just came back to town & is staying wth her aunt, but we are talking, texting mostly, but i praise God & am staying in church & showing her tht i am changed, i need prayers for my thoughts, not to be paranoid n texting her all the time,, God bless you!

    • @Raya_1088
      @Raya_1088 Місяць тому

      Prayed for both of you. May God take care for this situation and lead you into forgifness, love and renew your relationship, in the name of Jesus i pray. Tell God you surrender yourself to god and he shall take care for everything. Pray to receive healing for both of you, Amen 🙏🏻

    • @anurikajesusprincess7508
      @anurikajesusprincess7508 19 днів тому

      Am glad you have truly repented. Because of that the Lord will touch her heart in Jesus Name, Amen 🙏🙏

  • @EyesforEternityGodualize
    @EyesforEternityGodualize Місяць тому

    Dear heavenly father we thank you for today we thank you for tomorrow we thank you for my wife's heart becoming softer most importantly Lord we thank you for yesterday at all of yesterday's brought me to today and loving you so much!!!

  • @juliagoheen7300
    @juliagoheen7300 Місяць тому

    Thank you I really needed to hear this. Well spoken.

  • @michellejones8144
    @michellejones8144 Місяць тому +65

    If your partner is not faithful to God, he/she will not be faithful to you.

    • @boldlionpro2814
      @boldlionpro2814 Місяць тому +5

      You don’t know that. People get married for various reasons and appropriate the holy symbolism that is huge in marriage which is Christ and the church. Many others don’t appropriate but still stay married. People stay in marriage by various reasons. Guess less and be faithful to God. Stop forecasting doom. Have hope if you have faith Christ.

    • @KEPSAGAMER
      @KEPSAGAMER Місяць тому +3

      Facts
      .. God first, everything else after

    • @100HOLYGHOST
      @100HOLYGHOST Місяць тому +1

      YES! If they are not faithful to God FIRST, they WILL NOT be faithful to you because their priorities are wrong! Priorities are everything to God. Seek ye 1st the Kingdom of God and HIS RIGHTEOSNESS and ALL THESE OTHER THINGS will be added to you. Mathew 6:33

    • @aramisy.cajigas744
      @aramisy.cajigas744 Місяць тому +1

      Salute, beautiful soldier.

    • @michellejones8144
      @michellejones8144 Місяць тому +1

      @@100HOLYGHOSTexactly so. I have tried with men over the years who weren’t faithful to God, neither were they faithful to me. When they are not accountable to God for their actions, they will do whatever pleases them, as a result I ended up getting hurt all the time. Once their motive is other than serving God wholeheartedly, the partner who is a true Christian will get hurt. True love comes from God alone, outside of that is pain and destruction.

  • @tonibutler172
    @tonibutler172 Місяць тому

    This is so beautiful. God, thank you🙏🏽

  • @rissag462
    @rissag462 Місяць тому

    I can't wait for you to say this at my church, Way World Outreach. I pray my H hears it as a Leader. I can't work with someone who chooses not to engage with me at all.

  • @PinkyPinkaDinks
    @PinkyPinkaDinks Місяць тому

    Guard your heart in all thine ways bc everything you do flows from it .

  • @devinjohnston2290
    @devinjohnston2290 Місяць тому

    Afflicted. I have been afflicted.
    Offense. I have had a spirit of offense.
    Hardened. I have had a hardened heart.
    In my separation from the love of my life I war able to reflect on the time with her and family.
    What I found was that my heart had been going backwards. Hardening in ways instead of softening.
    God used break-up to reverse this process. As well, a few other consequences.
    Surrender to God was necessary for this. And it took a few blows to receive Him.
    I am now faithfully returning to an amazing woman willing to wait for me. Aim with me for growths and ask with me...of God...to prepare us for a lifetime.

  • @thandashabalala7055
    @thandashabalala7055 Місяць тому +1

    Hard heart is the number one that destroy the relationship

  • @StephaneHekeu-hd6gr
    @StephaneHekeu-hd6gr Місяць тому

    GOD bless you greatly Sir this message is such a blessing a délivrance my mariage will never be the same again in Jesus name

  • @chantelbouwer2870
    @chantelbouwer2870 26 днів тому

    LORD JESUS soften my heart❤

  • @rissag462
    @rissag462 Місяць тому

    @Vlad It's a blessing you will do the marriage advance this year at the wayworld outreach. It falls on my birthday month. I'm separated nearly 5 yrs. Praying my husband will hear these words ,because I'm ready to file in November . My heart has been soft , I've done biblical counseling . But neglect from a church leader is so baffling to me

  • @brittanystreets1952
    @brittanystreets1952 Місяць тому

    This was so good, praise God

  • @loveminis6258
    @loveminis6258 Місяць тому

    Amen, amen, amen ~ ❤✝️🕊🙏God bless you all 🙏❤🤗

  • @cingmuanlian6178
    @cingmuanlian6178 6 днів тому

    Lord Jesus, soften my heart.

  • @Nimbus_Warrior
    @Nimbus_Warrior Місяць тому +2

    Thanks Vlad👍
    1 corinthians 7:39

  • @michecostafaith
    @michecostafaith Місяць тому

    Aw god bless to this 🙏🏼❤ thanks vlad. Sign to pray to god to soften my heart

  • @lanimasche719
    @lanimasche719 Місяць тому

    Lord Jesus, soften my heart. 🙏🏻Thank you so much!!

  • @coleenbarcibal1240
    @coleenbarcibal1240 Місяць тому

    Praying for God's restoration on my marriage and may God soften my husband's heart and learn how to forgive and forget and have a new marriage with the same spouse. In Jesus name amen

  • @elisawade4213
    @elisawade4213 Місяць тому

    Lord Jesus softened my heart ❤️

  • @theresarehaluk8887
    @theresarehaluk8887 Місяць тому +3

    This is what has happened to me I forgave him over and over but I feel this is mental abuse. By the lies broken promises and betrayal. I am broken by a Man I trusted.

    • @taniquepalmer
      @taniquepalmer Місяць тому +1

      Forgiveness is necessary for healing. But forgiveness does not mean a person should enable abuse. The Lord knows all things including those who will repent and change. It is up to us to ensure we ask the Lord to help us to forgive and thereby start to heal. As for the betrayal and deception, PRAY about it.

  • @johnnybladez3359
    @johnnybladez3359 Місяць тому

    May God restore my heart to be a better man for the woman I love

  • @PinkyPinkaDinks
    @PinkyPinkaDinks Місяць тому +3

    Heavenly Father bring me and the man I married back together God please 🙏 thank you in Jesus precious and Holy name Amen 🙏♥️

  • @AdrianaRodriguez-zd7gr
    @AdrianaRodriguez-zd7gr Місяць тому

    That’s good Pastor Vlad, your wife isn’t trying to be like you. You both carry the same ministry. Maybe can you teach in that topic one day? How a husband and wife successfully manages a ministry. Thanks! And many blessing to you and your family ❤

  • @beautifulheart7
    @beautifulheart7 Місяць тому +1

    Brother Vlad there is abuse that doesn’t stop over one of the partners who wants to be submissive and forgiving over and over.
    There is a lot of misunderstanding about the situation of abuse in marriages that we just want to solve with forgiveness and respect

  • @jimmywarden6320
    @jimmywarden6320 Місяць тому

    I'm learning to become a leader in my household the leader my family needs to be, I spent a lot of time being afford to lead my way because I thought it meant telling her what to do when it's a 100 percent partnership

  • @naomikong8692
    @naomikong8692 Місяць тому

    Lord Jesus softened our hearts

  • @AlmaChávez-w1p
    @AlmaChávez-w1p Місяць тому

    My husband told me he didn’t love me still live under same roof. May god rekindle out connection & love!

    • @usa2342
      @usa2342 Місяць тому

      Maybe you need to take a lead role in marriage like from movie "Fireproof".

  • @kristopherlee5847
    @kristopherlee5847 Місяць тому

    Amen thank you Jesus for pastor here

  • @kingnateprince
    @kingnateprince 14 днів тому

    Lord I pray you restore my marriage

  • @heather763
    @heather763 Місяць тому

    Thank you! Have a struggling marriage if only two years .

  • @Nancinew
    @Nancinew Місяць тому

    Such a powerful video. Thank you ❤

  • @JournalJourneyArts
    @JournalJourneyArts Місяць тому

    Thank you for this teaching 🙏🏼

  • @PureDivineHappiness
    @PureDivineHappiness Місяць тому

    Hard hearts are the number one threat in a failing relationship

  • @feliciak8638
    @feliciak8638 Місяць тому

    Lord Jesus soften my heart ♥️

  • @AngelaUnderwood-r7i
    @AngelaUnderwood-r7i 29 днів тому

    Lord please show me what you want me to do….your perfect will.

  • @Dana-mb1hd
    @Dana-mb1hd Місяць тому

    Thank you Pastor I have a lot of work to do as a wife. 🙏

  • @NadiaJakavula
    @NadiaJakavula Місяць тому

    Lord Jesus, soften my heart please...

  • @ifeomaokpalugo673
    @ifeomaokpalugo673 Місяць тому

    Lord Jesus, soften my heart. 🙏🏽

  • @patriciasepulveda2513
    @patriciasepulveda2513 Місяць тому

    AMEN! Vlad & Lana! Great word of God. ❤🙏

  • @ctrmatt1
    @ctrmatt1 Місяць тому

    Emotional distance is a breeding ground for hardening of the heart

  • @FourWindsCommunity
    @FourWindsCommunity Місяць тому

    Thank you Pastor as always the word was just on point!

  • @VictorNolochemical
    @VictorNolochemical Місяць тому

    Really wise advice. Wish I had this years ago 🙏🏾

  • @Elizabeth-jt6tw
    @Elizabeth-jt6tw Місяць тому

    Watching from Kerala India 🇮🇳 Bincy Elizabeth Mathew, May God bless you abundantly

  • @Luminalourds15
    @Luminalourds15 Місяць тому

    Lord Jesus Soften my heart! Amen

  • @itzelmartinez3963
    @itzelmartinez3963 Місяць тому +1

    LORD JESUS SOFTEN MY HEART

  • @tulongaerastus5659
    @tulongaerastus5659 Місяць тому

    Fix the heart, heal, broken, soften by the holy spirit

  • @aileenkatewise
    @aileenkatewise Місяць тому

    Lord Jesus soften my heart🙏🙌🕊🔥

  • @thandashabalala7055
    @thandashabalala7055 Місяць тому +1

    Long term negative experience that destroy your marriage

  • @kingnateprince
    @kingnateprince 14 днів тому

    Lord soften my heart

  • @tulongaerastus5659
    @tulongaerastus5659 Місяць тому

    Symptoms of hard hearts
    1. Lack of communication
    2.

  • @Patricia-lc9yl
    @Patricia-lc9yl Місяць тому

    You are describing my marriage,,and I think my heart is getting harden

  • @juliagoheen7300
    @juliagoheen7300 Місяць тому

    Lord Jesus soften my heart.

  • @jen_m_l
    @jen_m_l Місяць тому

    Lord Jesus, soften my heart!