Why I'm Glad My Dad Died
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- Опубліковано 19 вер 2024
- As of August 18th, 2017 my dad has been gone for six years. This is something that I don't talk about often, but it is something that has had a tremendous impact on my life.
Losing my dad was probably the most difficult thing I have been through at this point in my life. It was a very surreal experience, and I didn't even really know what it meant or how it was going to affect me. But, looking back that single event has reshaped and transformed my entire life in an incredibly positive way.
Everything I am currently doing today is because of my dad. I'm married, I quit my engineering job, started a company, embraced entrepreneurship, etc.
Losing my dad caused me to mature so quickly, that I often times feel like I skipped the portion of my life that so many men in their early 20s get sucked into. The partying, drinking, and smoking never really had as big of an impact on my life because I just wasn't interested in it. I didn't have time to be interested in it.
I would do anything to have my dad back in my life. I would love to just talk to him one more time. I want to tell him so badly what I am now doing, and how grateful I am for everything he taught me (and is still teaching me).
It is because of all of this that I am grateful my dad died.
My sperm donor kicked the bucket 12-27-2020 and it was like the evil disappeared from my life. One of the happiest days of my life.
My sperm donor gave up the ghost on September 8, 2020--just a few months before yours, and would you believe that I already knew a few years before it happened exactly when his transition would take place? I had a premonition of it a few years beforehand that he would leave here in the month of September, because he was a rolling stone (listen to the song entitled, "Papa Was a Rolling Stone" by The Temptations). Also, I knew the approximate age he would be (mid to late 70s). He was 75 years old. And all that pointed towards this current decade. Now I'm actually keeping my eye on yet another premonition for another parent, and if it goes according to what I've seen in it, by decade's end, it could be fulfilled. 😢
@@taronjeroneharris1313 man that is wild I don’t know if you would call it a gift being able to predict it but it’s just bizarre. I hope you lost the pain that was caused by him.
@@johnyzero2000 Yes I did. The day we buried him, the pain and disappointment caused by his lack of involvement in my life went down with him. And trust me, having this kind of gift where I can glimpse into the future 🔮, particularly when it comes to the passing of a loved one, is not one that I knew I had. It just wasn't apparent to me until I saw how things played out....first with my grandmother in 2008, then with my father in 2020. Now I'm watching and waiting for yet another episode to see if it manifest. It's serious to say the least. 😟
@@taronjeroneharris1313 Gracious!
I was there when my dad passed away...I closed his eyes after he died.. however I must say when I was growing up he was not a son of a bitch he was a mother fucker. He was so hateful to me I could never understand it ..I mean what did I do to him to hate me so much. There’s times I wish I had never been born , It boggles my mind how my family could cry at his funeral. My family keep telling me to get closer and I would tell them I was ok
I don’t know what to say about it all except to say I was ok. I don’t know if I can ever forgive him for what he did to me . I have to really fight every day to forget it
You don't choose your family and some people (like my recently dead father) are just pure evil.
Your father was supposed to be a source of happiness and positive vibes, NOT a vacuum cleaner that sucks it out. Families can be some of the most detrimental people towards anyone, but in this case, families shouldn’t be that way at all. It’s very unacceptable and unconstitutional. I think your father did what was probably done or said to him. He could’ve been raised by a generation of people who were very cold, hardworking, didn’t talk about feelings or emotions, who were barked at, who were raised in saying: “do as I say, not as I do and don’t speak we don’t want to hear from you.” So all of this stuff that was likely done or said to him, he’d passing it down to you because he don’t know any better. You should try therapy and maybe it’ll help you in someway.
Look up your birth chart and look at your 2nd house, 6th house, 8th house and 12th house.
Do a synastry chart using your birthday and your fathers birthday.
He prolly was an enemy from a past life and yall had karma to work out in this life.
Such a topic recently crossed my mind as well. Here is my personal conclusion about my now deceased father: I will not go so far as to say that I am glad that he is dead, but I will say that I am grateful that I will never have to encounter him in this life anymore.
I had distanced myself from him almost exactly four years before he passed away. It was exactly the same month four years later.
The last time that I ever saw him was in the hospital. He had had several mini-strokes, conscious, unable to speak, and his other faculties had not returned enough where we knew that he was aware of us. He may have been but gave no indication of such. That's the best way to put it.
I whispered that he needed to make it right with God, left, never went back. My mom called and left me a voicemail while visiting him and said that he wanted to see me. I never visited and eventually relocated back to Tennessee.
I received notification from a friend in November 2021 that he had passed away. I did not return to MD for the funeral.
While he was my father, there was no father in him. Not a real father at least.
And, as the Holy Spirit said to me later about him, and I am sure others,
"All that you think that you lost was not worth having."
Jeffery Jackson, that's sad that you both did not make mends and forgive each other.
Wow. Thank you for the quote.
I have to say goodbye to my dad tonight... he has terminal lung cancer... he will pass in these few days... I don’t know how to deal with this yet....
CLOSE1 Rocket League why is no one replying and giving support you need a hug!
I know you posted this a long time ago and I know you don't know me. I just wanted to ask how you are doing now after losing your dad? How has your life changed since his passing? I know I am a stranger to you and this probably seems odd but I am genuinely asking from the heart. I lost my dad to heart failure when I was i8 years old (im 44 now) i was relieved he passed. For so many reasons. I had so many mixed emotions, as I was in a treatment facility at the time and was dealing with many issues in my life as well as trying to get sober. I won't go into long details, I just wanted to share a little bit.
It also really saddened me that only one other person commented on your post. Anyhow, I hope you are well and happy and life has gone in your favor.
Sincerely,
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Condolences on your loss.
Your video was interesting. I see you explaining how your father passing away helped change your life for the better.
In a way I can sort of relate. When my father died I was glad too. But I genuinely despised my father and I don't miss him at all. After his death I was able to pursue a new career that I actually enjoy. Had he he been alive he never would have been supportive of my career choice at all. So with his death nobody held me back from achieving my dreams.
I'm glad you found inner peace.
Danon, Thanks for your comment. That is a really interesting perspective that you shared. Yeah, I would say that it took me a while to get to this place in my psyche. Losing someone is different for everyone, and generally not a good experience. But, as Ray Dalio says:
pain + reflection = progress.
I think the most important thing for everyone that goes through something painful is to reflect on the entire situation, and what has come from that. Even if it does not provide a sense of gratitude as it did for me, it generally is a net positive thing.
Thanks for sharing.
Double thanks since ourcpateiRchy over values fathers. Only mothers catch parents can be baight. They get slandered when good. It gets worse if and when dad ones back
May I ask why you don’t miss your dad?
@@judgeholder8112 he was very physically and mentally abusive to me as a child.
@@danhall2959 why was he abusive towards you? I assume you wasn’t a bad child growing up.
This video is such good quality you need more subs bro!
I miss my father very much
I lost my dad last year 2023 he was 93 years old
I hate my stupid deadbeat father. Him briefly losing his job forced my mom to work her stewardess job while pregnant with me. This is why my little brother gets to be buff and I'm stuck puny with disabilities. His actions caused me to have to uproot to Stupid Virginia from California. I was popular in Cali and always got bullied in Virginia. Wish our dads could trade places
Judging people on there jobs is stupid. People are people and they all live and die so who gives a fuck. Sorry about your dad. Don’t know if I’ll be sad when mine goes.
May I ask why you won’t be sad when your dad goes?
@@judgeholder8112 Because his an alcoholic and is lazy and fat.
I was scrolling and found this video wow......
Is that a good or bad "wow"?
Chris Kiefer bad wow.
Good wow
I hate my parents
I know how you feel, if they were bad to you then you DO NOT have to love, like or honor them EVER! Those that tell you you should have never experience the pain the abused have suffered.
This reminds me of my aunt who is dying from lukinia I hope to be by her side if she passes but I hope she can make it through. But she was just diagnosed with h1n1 witch is a bad cold and that is life threatening for her because her immune system is very low because of chemotherapy
I'm sorry to hear about that. I hope she makes it through as well. Thinking about you and your family.
its ok i hate my dad too
May I ask why?
@@judgeholder8112 he is a deadbeat. Duh
@@tayloredwards3867 I don’t know that.
When I read the title I got mad. My dad has died but he's 68 and I'm 10 and I fear he'll die before he sees me grow up.
We all have diffrenet parents so o wouldnt be talking cause I can’t stand my mother for hitting my siblings I felt nothing when she died :)
I understand
@@blueotan may I ask why she’d hit your siblings?
I don't blame you, most of us harbour dark secrets that we'd be shunned for saying out loud; Jennette Mccurdy wrote a book called "I'm glad my mom died." Society really needs to stop been so up tight and respect peoples' freedom of speech.
Having said that I suspect some of you may be wondering what' dark secrets I'm harbouring, well... My flatmate annoys the 💩 out of me. Now no two people are completely compatible, so some conflict is to be expected, it's evident in sibling rivalry and martial issues. But my flatmate goes out of his way to be annoying at times; a woman who knows us has even said to me "I don't know how you can stand living with (insert flatmate's name here)." It's nice to know other people understand that it's not just me complaining, and that my flatmate really is a grade A @$$hole at times.
My father has 3 days to live.....
Yr feelings are valid!
You dad also gave you good genes. You're very handsome.
Have a lot to say but i just don't understand you
I wish i never had parents that would be nice
Why why WHY!?
I hate my dad
That's a pretty pink blouse
Could be pinker...