okay, i;m a lot older man who divorced in my early mid life (prime time for a man)... anyway, ended up dating a LOT of mid life women going through this same circumstances... here's the deal that i witnessed... none of them were happy with their decisions that caused them to be where they were at... their kids felt awkward around them, they went from having a lot of friends and fulfillment at work to being angry and bitter and out doing some really risky crazy stuff.,and wasted money and time on really some stupid stuff.. so i tried to understand what was going on, why were they all this way and maybe help them work through the crap... well, i was never able to figure it out... but here's the deal, most of the guys that are divorced all have the same crazy ideas as well... SO, here's my advice to everyone, stop doing the "re-inventing yourself", that's all a fantasy and it's not reality... do this instead...set rational short goals and routines (like read that book/novel, exercise 30 minutes daily and a weekend jog/walk with a group) and build some longer term goals (financial freedom, community projects, write that novel etc)... anyway, don't run off into some stupid relationship that's going to be empty or quit your job/career, or cry in front of your family or get angry at them or start drinking or sky diving is the answer.... what is the answer is that being your own person means having your own goals and responsibilities and if you don't take care of those goals and responsibilities then time will pass you by... be kind, just, honest, passionate about doing and caring... you'll be happier and healthier... trust me on that... anyway, hope your path is good... breathe in, let it out, smile and take a step forward and then another
Thank you for this thoughtful comment. I love the idea of setting short goals and some longer term and I do have that in place. Now if I can just stick with them...that'll be great! :)
@@jodi-lynn well, i could give a plan on that ... but i'm pretty sure you're smart and knowledgeable enough to figure out how to track/journal it all... now get at it and see the progress
Hope you don’t regret the divorce as you get older. I did. When you are really up in age, it’s great to have a TRUE friend by your side. Someone who knows you better than anyone else. I see your tears. I think you understand what I am saying. What I learned is that marriage is a partnership. For better or worse. My ex and I realize that we want to try again. After all these years. Nothing is perfect and we want to be there for each other. He knows if he gets ill, I will be there for him, and if I get ill, I Know he will be there to take care of me. We have had long walks and talks. It’s nice to think of stuff like you are saying when you are middle aged, but when you get older, you NEED someone in your corner who KNOWS you and you know them. Someone who truly loves YOU! All in all, I’m glad we found our way back to each other. We both cried and laughed at our experiences apart. Love is an action. And like my mother used to say, action speaks louder than words. All the best to you in this experience. Rooting for you. 🥰
I've been listening to Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis' again (audio book). I read the book years ago. He has a great take on Marriage, relationships and human nature over time.
Thank you so much for your honesty. I just released a new video today and mentioned that we are actually going to work things out because we feel the same...we really do love each other and want to be there for each other. So, stay tuned for more info in that arena. I really appreciate you sharing! I firmly believe marriage is one of the most difficult things to navigate in life and we all just do the best we can (hopefully, anyway). Best of luck to you and yours, truly!
Good for you! Take care of you first!
Thank you, I will! :)
okay, i;m a lot older man who divorced in my early mid life (prime time for a man)... anyway, ended up dating a LOT of mid life women going through this same circumstances... here's the deal that i witnessed... none of them were happy with their decisions that caused them to be where they were at... their kids felt awkward around them, they went from having a lot of friends and fulfillment at work to being angry and bitter and out doing some really risky crazy stuff.,and wasted money and time on really some stupid stuff.. so i tried to understand what was going on, why were they all this way and maybe help them work through the crap... well, i was never able to figure it out... but here's the deal, most of the guys that are divorced all have the same crazy ideas as well... SO, here's my advice to everyone, stop doing the "re-inventing yourself", that's all a fantasy and it's not reality... do this instead...set rational short goals and routines (like read that book/novel, exercise 30 minutes daily and a weekend jog/walk with a group) and build some longer term goals (financial freedom, community projects, write that novel etc)... anyway, don't run off into some stupid relationship that's going to be empty or quit your job/career, or cry in front of your family or get angry at them or start drinking or sky diving is the answer.... what is the answer is that being your own person means having your own goals and responsibilities and if you don't take care of those goals and responsibilities then time will pass you by... be kind, just, honest, passionate about doing and caring... you'll be happier and healthier... trust me on that... anyway, hope your path is good... breathe in, let it out, smile and take a step forward and then another
Thank you for this thoughtful comment. I love the idea of setting short goals and some longer term and I do have that in place. Now if I can just stick with them...that'll be great! :)
@@jodi-lynn well, i could give a plan on that ... but i'm pretty sure you're smart and knowledgeable enough to figure out how to track/journal it all... now get at it and see the progress
@@superman9772 Great insight 👍🏽
Hope you don’t regret the divorce as you get older. I did. When you are really up in age, it’s great to have a TRUE friend by your side. Someone who knows you better than anyone else. I see your tears. I think you understand what I am saying. What I learned is that marriage is a partnership. For better or worse. My ex and I realize that we want to try again. After all these years. Nothing is perfect and we want to be there for each other. He knows if he gets ill, I will be there for him, and if I get ill, I Know he will be there to take care of me. We have had long walks and talks. It’s nice to think of stuff like you are saying when you are middle aged, but when you get older, you NEED someone in your corner who KNOWS you and you know them. Someone who truly loves YOU! All in all, I’m glad we found our way back to each other. We both cried and laughed at our experiences apart. Love is an action. And like my mother used to say, action speaks louder than words. All the best to you in this experience. Rooting for you. 🥰
i agree . i regret
I've been listening to Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis' again (audio book). I read the book years ago. He has a great take on Marriage, relationships and human nature over time.
Thank you so much for your honesty. I just released a new video today and mentioned that we are actually going to work things out because we feel the same...we really do love each other and want to be there for each other. So, stay tuned for more info in that arena. I really appreciate you sharing! I firmly believe marriage is one of the most difficult things to navigate in life and we all just do the best we can (hopefully, anyway). Best of luck to you and yours, truly!