10 Stoic Choices You Can Make Today (To Get Better)

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  • @DailyStoic
    @DailyStoic  3 роки тому +1256

    Timestamps:
    00:00 Intro
    01:07 Say yes to what matters
    01:40 Be disciplined
    02:36 Don't suffer in advance
    03:09 Stop wasting time
    03:43 Control your emotions
    05:25 Focus on how far you have left to go
    06:20 Stand up for others
    07:19 Focus on what's in your control
    08:06 Be willing to look stupid
    09:03 Seek challenges

    • @diogeniscruyff1084
      @diogeniscruyff1084 3 роки тому +6

      The devaluation of liberty was the main reason why the Roman bourgeoisie adopted Stoic theory. He gave the main food in the sense of duty, in trust and submission to Fate, the reconciliation of man with misfortunes and the renunciation of any claim of better fortune. In this sense, Stoicism is emerging as a philosophy of submission, and from a political point of view, Stoicism is the main recipe for building citizens.
      It provides the main philosophical background to Christianity and all the ideologies born of the Enlightenment in the West.
      The goal is to shape reality, beautiful or not, but such that it leaves no room for escape. It is necessary to set a purpose in life, the best, a collective purpose which we are called to serve, those who blindly believe in it, until it prevails. Thus Marxism poses the victory of the proletariat, capitalism the profit of money and the prosperity of capital, the administrative model of representation the service of the party line for the good of the party and so on.
      The historical events of the time that we call "late antiquity" are in our case revealing. Stoicism did not move the Macedonian kings because they were uncompromising realists while conquering the Romans (Festus). The Romans, in contrast to the Greeks, who had the most important philosophy of all, had realized their ecumenical mission, so the administration (Farrington) was more important to them.
      During the period of the pax romana, the Roman ruling elite recorded the limits of its spread, stopped looting after the Romans became champions in slaughter and ruin, and planned the exercise of command over the conquered. What will management say? The way I collect taxes, which now seems to me more cost-effective than war. But how do I manage so many people peacefully? With the democracy of the Greeks? But even my own res publica is rejected. I need a strong administration. And an empire was made. I need both the right philosophy and a religion of submission.
      They chose Stoicism for philosophy for all the reasons we mentioned. Their religion was offered a few centuries later. Therefore, Theodoridis can say that in those years Hellenism was defeated by the East, but this was done on a Roman initiative for the needs of the then plutocracy.
      Stoicism is a pessimistic philosophy, since it calls man to accept a defeat: the fact that life itself surpasses him. It calls on him at the same time to make this sad disadvantage an advantage if he recognizes that this is life and reconciles with its truth. In this way he will contribute to his personal happiness and to the balanced course of the world.
      But as Lucius Torquatos, in defense of Epicurus, responds to Cicero: "Or what value can a philosophy have that thinks that everything happens because it is so written by fate? This is what the old women believe, and in fact the uneducated old women! "

    • @sdla690
      @sdla690 3 роки тому +3

      You have written some interesting insights. That said, what do you mean 'uneducated old woman'? If you have stereotype mentality, or you are so used to hasty generalization, I don't see how you are different from those you are accusing of... just sayin

    • @deanodog3667
      @deanodog3667 3 роки тому +1

      @@sdla690 he was quoting someone you idiot !

    • @deanodog3667
      @deanodog3667 3 роки тому +1

      @@diogeniscruyff1084 Nietzsche also regarded stoicism as a sour grapes philosophy!

    • @deanodog3667
      @deanodog3667 3 роки тому

      Through your rags I see your vanity!

  • @hildahjaruha
    @hildahjaruha Рік тому +1028

    We suffer more from imagination than in reality. This just hit me so hard

    • @DCJ9
      @DCJ9 Рік тому +2

      Facts 😢

    • @DCJ9
      @DCJ9 Рік тому +1

      @Mystery Seeker1111 yup

    • @MrMawnster
      @MrMawnster Рік тому

      I know right

    • @11Garrett11
      @11Garrett11 Рік тому +7

      “I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, most of which never happened” ~ Mark Twain

    • @JoeTakagi00
      @JoeTakagi00 Рік тому

      Everything you say yes to is saying no to something else.

  • @avajones2944
    @avajones2944 Рік тому +171

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      @avajones2944 Рік тому

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    • @charlottewalker5811
      @charlottewalker5811 Рік тому

      Opportunity is a scarce commodity. I will partake in this; there’s no limit to what you can achieve in life (including success) if you put your mind to it. Luckily I stumble into this.

  • @koraXro
    @koraXro 3 роки тому +2547

    I wish ethics, stoicism and oratory were still taught today in school, but early in education, not in university of private schools... early on, to create a solid base for personal development, strong character, for good communication and create overall decent and just human beings

    • @bookgirlny8511
      @bookgirlny8511 3 роки тому +15

      👏👏👏

    • @meetalijoshi3232
      @meetalijoshi3232 3 роки тому +41

      I agree. Such lessons are important to be taught.

    • @MP-id2po
      @MP-id2po 3 роки тому +71

      To think the Ancient Greeks invented/taught it 2,500 years ago, yet today we live in a world of woke... a world which tries to control thought, opinion, and right from wrong

    • @tadladapate3064
      @tadladapate3064 3 роки тому +43

      Appart from writing and reading, we should learn how to think before ramming tons of mostly useless information in children mind. when you know how to think the learning will follow in a better way

    • @ollievw3450
      @ollievw3450 2 роки тому +3

      Same here. My son would be better for it. I actually asked Einzelganger, another stoic mentor on YT about this and he could only point me to an article, but not to specific lessons. A wasted opportunity, i am trying myself now, but notice that I don’t have the capabilities to translate the messages.

  • @botfantasies6229
    @botfantasies6229 3 роки тому +1570

    "We should treat the body rigorously so it's not disobedient to the mind." Life changing quote is life changing.

    • @eduardochavacano
      @eduardochavacano 3 роки тому +19

      That explains why muscular men are smarter and more tolerant of strange ideas and strange people.

    • @inanimatemist8610
      @inanimatemist8610 3 роки тому +54

      @@eduardochavacano bruh what?

    • @PunkingtonGrunge
      @PunkingtonGrunge 3 роки тому +10

      @@eduardochavacano Is this life imitating memes or memes imitating life...?

    • @Nina-cd6uw
      @Nina-cd6uw 3 роки тому +2

      @@PunkingtonGrunge Lol

    • @user-rf7ix8ir9b
      @user-rf7ix8ir9b 2 роки тому

      Yup

  • @lucafrattini2484
    @lucafrattini2484 2 роки тому +721

    I am 57 years old and I've struggled with depression, anxiety, insecurity and procrastination since my unhappy childhood. Words cannot express how Stoic philosophy has inspired, empowered and emboldened me in the past few years. I love your show and appreciate everything you do.
    Thank you!
    Much love and admiration from Italy 🇮🇹

    • @sumeets.9805
      @sumeets.9805 2 роки тому +15

      May God bless you.. You are a symbol of hope and victory for all humanity..

    • @Katjj
      @Katjj Рік тому +12

      Luca, i wish you healing in your present and future🍀.

    • @HoloScope
      @HoloScope Рік тому +8

      I had an unhappy childhood as well, my father was a very angry bitter man. I indulged into Stoicism so I wouldn’t end up like him, because I found myself acting like him, for which I felt very guilty of. My father has changed a bit as well, he’s less aggressive now and does not beat me so much anymore. I wish you the best Luca.

    • @Living_for_Him_Alone
      @Living_for_Him_Alone Рік тому +4

      Wish you all the best 👍❤️ in journey of stoicism ❤️

    • @Living_for_Him_Alone
      @Living_for_Him_Alone Рік тому +3

      ​@@HoloScope All the best for your wonderful journey of stoicism ❤️❤️

  • @nicholastracy4915
    @nicholastracy4915 Рік тому +88

    2 weeks ago I finally started "choosing today". I have been choosing today, daily, for REAL. And it shows, I can feel it, and can see the changes.

  • @madrazz8888
    @madrazz8888 3 роки тому +215

    I recently had an interview with the owner of the company I work at, as he was looking for people to put in higher positions. He's 74 btw. He asked me: "Do you see yourself staying at this company for the rest of your life?" I answered: "Sure, I can see it. But just in case things don't work out (due to Covid), the experience I will gain here, I can just take to the next job." He said that was a good mindset to have. Don't take anything too seriously and remember that you can never lose your knowledge, experience and self-development. If you fail, it will become easier each time to get back to where you were. Stumble your way to success.

    • @polkadots7792
      @polkadots7792 Рік тому +2

      wow

    • @ademsulejmanovski7178
      @ademsulejmanovski7178 Рік тому +8

      Did you get the job?

    • @Kitiwake
      @Kitiwake Рік тому

      Yes.. Get fired the first time it's devastating.😮
      Get fired the second time... Now what.
      Get fired the third time...
      Wtf?
      Now you're solid.

    • @Rishav15
      @Rishav15 Рік тому

      You got promoted?

    • @madrazz8888
      @madrazz8888 Рік тому +4

      @@Rishav15 Almost :/

  • @beebsblue
    @beebsblue 3 роки тому +306

    Love that quote, “there’s no problem so bad that you can’t make it worse also”
    There’s no point in worrying about what is out of our control 💜

    • @foekist7312
      @foekist7312 3 роки тому +7

      "There’s no point in worrying about what is out of our control!" My Granny used to say this all the time. Bless her 🙏

    • @Kalrens
      @Kalrens Рік тому

      should this be then considered as the "it is what it is" mindset as well?

    • @deathlocus1571
      @deathlocus1571 Рік тому +1

      @@Kalrens Sort of, but that mindset kinda implies that it isn’t worth trying to repair or make things better because ‘it is what it is’. Stoicism is more like ACCEPTING what happens, but nonetheless being able to regulate your responses and improving your situation. Things that aren’t up to you can’t be changed, so they’re pointless to concern yourself with.

  • @dannytetreault
    @dannytetreault 3 роки тому +338

    1. Focus on What Matters
    2. Get Started
    3. Don’t Suffer in Advance
    4. Stop wa$ting Time
    5. Control Your Emotions
    6. Focus on How Far You Have Left to Go
    7. Stand up for the Little Guy
    8. Focus on What’s in Your Control
    9. Be Willing to Look/be Stupid (beginning Stage)
    10. Be Prepared

    • @sulekhaaadan3020
      @sulekhaaadan3020 Рік тому +4

      Thanks

    • @kingsouther
      @kingsouther Рік тому +3

      Thanks. The music was distracting so this comment was waaaay more convenient. No stock music and i woulda watched whole thing.

  • @marioagrataboada4610
    @marioagrataboada4610 3 роки тому +197

    Cheers to all the stoic philosophers out there. We have a long way to go. And it's exciting.

    • @MR.OMAR999
      @MR.OMAR999 3 роки тому +1

      Cheers 🍻

    • @wisdomfromgreatmen8129
      @wisdomfromgreatmen8129 3 роки тому +2

      I often wonder if because I practice stoic ideas, if I am a stoic? Do you think that is all that it takes or is there something else that qualifies you?

    • @atl3630
      @atl3630 3 роки тому +7

      @@wisdomfromgreatmen8129 why do you care what you are called?

    • @wisdomfromgreatmen8129
      @wisdomfromgreatmen8129 3 роки тому +4

      @@atl3630 Thats a good question, I don't think Stoicism can be just a label, or if the label matters at all. When Jocko was asked if he was a stoic he replied "no". Which is seemingly very ironically stoic.

    • @charlespayton2808
      @charlespayton2808 3 роки тому +11

      @@wisdomfromgreatmen8129 It is not important to say or declare what your are or are not. Just be. Don't say it, just be it, and the rest will fall into place.

  • @Whatisthis154
    @Whatisthis154 2 роки тому +50

    When I recognise I am going back to my old bad habits I listen to your videos and “wake up”. Thanks for the wonderful reminders!

  • @gertrudewest4535
    @gertrudewest4535 3 роки тому +53

    I didn’t realize I’ve been a stoic all my life.
    Action is the true language of love and caring.

  • @areej3lt923
    @areej3lt923 3 роки тому +82

    “Anxiety is a punishment to yourself”

    • @lilacscoffee9360
      @lilacscoffee9360 3 роки тому +6

      From someone with chronic anxiety, this is so true it hurts.

    • @maylin1986
      @maylin1986 Рік тому

      ​@@lilacscoffee9360Not entirely correct. If I had to guess, I'd bet there was probably at least 1 philosopher on this Earth that had anxiety also.❤
      I just watched a video of a family today who, after several months, finally went from homeless to having an actual home to live in. The parents are so awesome to do whatever they can to work with the cards they were delt, to the best of their abilities. Given an environment that created a circumstance that was out of their control.
      There was one piece that was contradicting to me. He recommended not to focus on what you can't control, buy at least stay aware vest you can to make any necessary changes in your life.
      Back to the parents, I don't know their story on how they became homeless, but they have 2 sons and the youngest cried happy tears to have a place to call home.
      The son could've, through the process of being homeless, developed some kind of anxiety from the whole transition. Just being on alert to make sure he doesn't end back up homeless.
      Just saw a video tonight about a news clip talking about how 15,000 Hawiian residents have moved to places like Arizona, Texas, Florida and such to escape the drastic cost of living that's apparently higher than over in other US states.
      There's also the saying "Cause and affect". Your environment, as well as the people you encounter, can cause excessive anxiety too. Take care. 🌟🌟

  • @bellareid3488
    @bellareid3488 3 роки тому +261

    I have had anxiety all my life due to disability and other personal challenges. I've tried many therapies over the years but since discovering this channel my mindset has become more positive, it's really helping. Thank you so very much, Ryan

    • @terintiaflavius3349
      @terintiaflavius3349 3 роки тому +13

      You got this Bella. You are so much more then what your anxiety thinks.

    • @TheKyleLazarus
      @TheKyleLazarus 2 роки тому +10

      Good! Ryan's books, emails and videos inspired my new life as well! I too had a terrible trauma, which led to a permanent disability, and complete erasure of the life I had built to that point. The anxiety brought on by all of this was a heavy burden. Medication and therapy did nothing. Several tragedies then also followed. I then stumbled onto a book with a title that attracted me (someone who thought very negative at the time). It turned out to be instead a veiled introduction to stoicism. It spoke my language and I connected. Then I found Ryan and my life since has slowly become manageable, my anxiety has mostly left and I am now thinking more optimistically about today, everyday. It is daily work, but it has turned into part of me. I'm so happy for your breakthrough! Keep going!

    • @juanrabanales4933
      @juanrabanales4933 2 роки тому +3

      Hell yeah! Keep killing it my man.

    • @stevefaulkner6689
      @stevefaulkner6689 2 роки тому +3

      Glad to hear I kept being told I'm stoic and wasn't familiar found this realized I'm not actually screwed up Lal keep learning and it gets better

    • @Hplittleblue
      @Hplittleblue Рік тому +2

      @@TheKyleLazarus same here . I was so negative and still think there’s more I need to work on but I am so much more optimistic thanks to Stoicism and Ryan - he is just amazing with his words .
      I can honestly say stoicism has changed my life and I’m not exaggerating.

  • @SuperSillyEdits
    @SuperSillyEdits 3 роки тому +371

    This channel is highly underrated. Thanks for all that you do!

    • @wisdomfromgreatmen8129
      @wisdomfromgreatmen8129 3 роки тому +3

      Completely agree !

    • @atl3630
      @atl3630 3 роки тому +3

      It has 350k subscribers, what do you want?

    • @feidhlimidhmacanaltha3644
      @feidhlimidhmacanaltha3644 3 роки тому +2

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      @saritavlogs9958 3 роки тому

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      @eduardochavacano 3 роки тому +2

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  • @taabishkhanself-improvemen7331
    @taabishkhanself-improvemen7331 3 роки тому +392

    ❗ *6 Guidelines for Life:*
    ⚡ *1) When you are alone, mind your thoughts.*
    ⚡ *2) When you are with your friends, mind your tongue.*
    ⚡ *3) When you are angry, mind your temper.*
    ⚡ *4) When you are with a group, mind your behaviour.*
    ⚡ *5) When you are in trouble, mind your emotions.*
    ⚡ *6) When God starts blessing you, mind your ego.*
    Love from a small channel💙

    • @iand7475
      @iand7475 3 роки тому +6

      Thank you so much Taabbis !!!!! those are fantastic guidelines I wrote them down and will live by this now, thankyou again.

    • @jannmacdougall1448
      @jannmacdougall1448 3 роки тому +1

      this would make a wonderful song and easy to memorize..❤🎶

    • @foekist7312
      @foekist7312 3 роки тому +10

      “Watch your thoughts, they become your words; watch your words, they become your actions; watch your actions, they become your habits; watch your habits, they become your character; watch your character, it becomes your destiny.”
      ― Lao Tzu

    • @scotnick59
      @scotnick59 3 роки тому +2

      I like the last one best!

    • @mstwelvedeadlycyns
      @mstwelvedeadlycyns 3 роки тому

      This is great!!

  • @marcchrys
    @marcchrys 3 роки тому +57

    When I'm doing a long mountain walk, I often find thinking about how far I've come (rather than how far I've still to go) is quite motivating ;-)

    • @MJA5
      @MJA5 3 роки тому +4

      I think the idea is that it doesn't matter how far you've come, all other things considered, that is done. It's a strange notion, and the implication is that there is never a finish line, at least not until after you move on from this life.

    • @msallen1046
      @msallen1046 3 роки тому

      Lol you're funny

    • @thecrapartistx
      @thecrapartistx Рік тому

      I get it... Sometimes I take a moment to be happy about the fact that I've gotten through a whole lot of horrible stuff and it motivates me to push myself toward actually living a life

  • @driiifter
    @driiifter 3 роки тому +59

    I actually start tearing up when he gets to step 7. I've always stood up for the little guy my whole life and that isn't going to change. Thank you.

    • @MJA5
      @MJA5 3 роки тому +7

      Sometimes it's not the easiest thing to do, because it can be against the tide. But it is always the right thing to do I believe.

  • @rosemarie7816
    @rosemarie7816 3 роки тому +40

    I spend so much time fretting over all the things I want to do/be, that I've done/been nothing. I've attended three funerals this week and heard of many others from friends who've also had many losses. This realization that we don't have infinite time has hit me hard. I will focus on one or two things this week as a baby step.

  • @notjaydanbhooshan93
    @notjaydanbhooshan93 3 роки тому +51

    Imagine if we had vlogs like this from the ancients, maybe it's a luxury when the words alone carry all the meaning necessary but hearing it spoken adds so much, thanks Ryan

  • @shanagirl33
    @shanagirl33 3 роки тому +111

    Thank you Ryan. You are literally changing my life!

    • @wisdomfromgreatmen8129
      @wisdomfromgreatmen8129 3 роки тому +1

      Ryan does what I wish to do... make accessible Wisdom From Great Men

    • @dickskinthin9192
      @dickskinthin9192 3 роки тому +1

      That's great and all, as long as we're all clear that women can't be stoic.

  • @bl1429
    @bl1429 Рік тому +2

    9:00 >> Seek challenges.
    When Americans get older, they get a lot lazier. I'm finding out, the older you get, the more you have to push yourself.
    I get my inspiration from a gentleman who goes to my gym daily. He uses a walker, and he's liked by everyone there. He's 97 years old, and he even drives there. People like that, gives me the will to keep going.😊😊😊

  • @kinnaribhatt9566
    @kinnaribhatt9566 3 роки тому +13

    I am in love with Stoicism. It is so simple yet profound.

  • @mike8631
    @mike8631 3 роки тому +19

    Ryan I have strayed from the path over the last few weeks. I really needed this. I would have found my way back eventually but thanks for lighting a torch I could see through the trees.

  • @thomaschalfa2399
    @thomaschalfa2399 3 роки тому +14

    This is a collected version of things most of us have heard before at different points in our lives, but need to be reminded of as a whole. Like bits of gold found while sifting through buckets of sand.

    • @dlbstl
      @dlbstl 2 роки тому

      Good analogy!

  • @jenna2431
    @jenna2431 3 роки тому +53

    This stuff is SO needed if we're going to turn things toward a positive outcome in the world today. Thank you.

  • @14CB-v2k
    @14CB-v2k 3 роки тому +4

    I’ve been fighting stage 4 colorectal cancer for two and a half years. 131 rounds of chemo and counting, 25 days of targeted radiation, surgically disemboweled, 4 surgeries, numerous complications and a near death experience. I was cancer free for nearly two years and now I’m in Bangkok with mass Covid hysteria and the cancer metastasized in my lungs. Never give up! God bless you for your amazing work! I watch your Utubes every day ✌️🇺🇸

    • @herrweiss2580
      @herrweiss2580 3 роки тому

      I'm sending you a big hug! 😀

    • @14CB-v2k
      @14CB-v2k 3 роки тому +1

      @@herrweiss2580 your very kind🙏🙏

  • @dabronjames8140
    @dabronjames8140 Рік тому +1

    This channel has changed my life

  • @jorgefigueroa2231
    @jorgefigueroa2231 3 роки тому +69

    Oof, I really needed this right now. Gonna get off my bed and take care of myself.

    • @domitorid177
      @domitorid177 3 роки тому

      Self-care intensifies

    • @wisdomfromgreatmen8129
      @wisdomfromgreatmen8129 3 роки тому +2

      Even Marcus Aurelius struggled to get out of the bed in the morning. No shame in that my friend

    • @jenhasken
      @jenhasken 3 роки тому

      Me too!

  • @BobBob-uv9fq
    @BobBob-uv9fq 2 роки тому +2

    I’ve chooses to have a wonderful life in my 80 s I’m 55 yrs ran 5 miles in 42 minutes today ,it’s a good start ,,I want to be a great athlete in my 60 s I love excercise and am very proud of my physical abilities,,,but I’ve spent 7 yrs getting here it did not start tomorrow it started yesterday

  • @revenantwolzart
    @revenantwolzart 3 роки тому +8

    Sir your advice took away a large burden off my soul and has humbled my mind

  • @muratazaarzai
    @muratazaarzai Рік тому +7

    I am gonna rewatch this video over again.. and again... till I absorb everything u said.. right in my consciousness... Each word u said is golden.... Thanks... sir.. U are a saviour.. !!

  • @aaronwimberleymbamsf5776
    @aaronwimberleymbamsf5776 3 роки тому +25

    Great meditation to start the day- I love the concept of not caring about external acceptance and having your own internal scorecard.

  • @DBond-ww1hv
    @DBond-ww1hv Рік тому +1

    You are right ... I choose to see this tomorrow

  • @theornament
    @theornament Рік тому +24

    For the people watching this and entering the world of self development, please do not forget that working with a therapist/psychiatrist should be one of your objectives (depending in what mental state you are in). All of this information may mislead you in thinking you can do everything by yourself.
    A lot of times we need to take a step back and really start analyzing our life and behaviors, and start acting upon that, otherwise, you may continue your path with a not so serious injury, and while you may achieve great things, that injury will eventually present itself in an exponentially more dangerous manner and will stop you from whatever path you chose to walk into.
    As someone who has clinical depression and severe anxiety problems, I just started my journey into self betterment. I had to take a step back from some of my previous goals to start attacking the root of all of my problems.
    Love for everyone, I wish you luck on this journey.

    • @stevedriscoll2539
      @stevedriscoll2539 Рік тому +2

      I liked reading your well written and well thought out post, and it sounds like you are doing well. I only want to add a that professional therapy and drugs is not for everyone. I think there is a lot of evidence that most institutions are broken. I am in agreement that no one can go it alone either when the going is good or filled with troubles and tragedies. I heard of a therapist talking about how he could fix almost anyone by reprogramming their minds, by replacing the he negative, destructive thought loops with constructive ones. It does work, but it doesn't take much imagination as to why the institutions would not like this therapy. Love back to you.

    • @theornament
      @theornament Рік тому +1

      @@stevedriscoll2539 I live in Mexico and unfortunately I feel like we are behind in a lot of aspects, at least culturally, so I had some therapists who just seemed incompetent, even if their intentions were good.
      In my personal experience, I had to go to several therapists to be able to find someone that I matched with, it’s just a matter of being patient and following your intuition.
      I’ve learnt that, you first have to revisit your past, and start rewiring your emotions first. It sounds weird, but you can not start improving yourself and doing all day productive things and everything if you are still carrying with a lot of emotional weight, it just takes a toll on you mentally and physically.
      What people don’t understand is that just talking about your trauma isn’t enough, you need to experience it again and at that moment rewire your thoughts. It’s very very difficult to do.
      Once you start identifying and correcting that wiring, slowly but surely you will start improving yourself naturally, now it will be a matter of discipline to achieve them.
      Now, I’ve realized as well that people are just not prepared and not smart enough to realize these kind of things. Trust me, I’ve explained this to dozens of friends and family and nobody grasps it, this is something that you have to experience by yourself, and do the work yourself, until you are able to understand how the brain works. The problem is that people just give up too easily, and after several sessions they think it’s not for them, instead of trying something different.
      I as well was in that position, and gave up several times until the last time I was about ti gave up, decided to just keep trying, and that’s where the magic started to happen.
      Now everywhere I go I start being aware of my thoughts and why my anxiety starts to kick in, and slowly start doing rewiring, but it takes time.
      Thank you for your post, I definitely understand what you mean, but as long as people don’t investigate more, some therapists will keep taking advantage of that.

    • @stevedriscoll2539
      @stevedriscoll2539 Рік тому +1

      @@theornament good stuff Luis, thanks...I hope for continued good fortune and safe travels to you.

  • @DaddyRat64
    @DaddyRat64 3 роки тому +3

    This is the first time I have found a mental discipline that speaks to me and the way I live.

  • @darkstar4494
    @darkstar4494 3 роки тому +5

    It’s good to recognize that anxiety is unnecessary suffering, but that cognition alone doesn’t make your anxiety go away. Anxiety doesn’t respond to logic. It’s a partially automatic response that can be improved through various mental and physical practices but it takes effort.

  • @ninawestlake14
    @ninawestlake14 3 роки тому +25

    'Don't suffer in advance'
    Also....' The man who stressess before it's necessary, stressess twice'

    • @susanbrown2909
      @susanbrown2909 3 роки тому

      Stresses are for survival..only some are on full volume constantly..that becomes a issue in its self.

    • @wisdomfromgreatmen8129
      @wisdomfromgreatmen8129 3 роки тому +1

      Allowing things to happen as they do if the hardest lesson for those with anxiety like myself.... Amor Fati , is something worth repeating here.

    • @dmoney17
      @dmoney17 3 роки тому +2

      @ Nina Westlake I love that quote ty !!

  • @TheOgreMan
    @TheOgreMan 3 роки тому +29

    I never realized why I am seeing improvements in my life and my choices until you mentioned these things. I still have plenty of room to improve, but I will admit that I am implementing many of these currently in my life without even realizing that I have been doing something good

  • @davidcooper7339
    @davidcooper7339 2 роки тому +21

    I appreciate you Mr. Holiday; every time I watch and listen, I'm rejuvenated with your inspiring words of wisdom. Thank you!

  • @lillyandtheghosts3597
    @lillyandtheghosts3597 2 роки тому +1

    Game changer. Watch it every week

  • @Nora-ze3wv
    @Nora-ze3wv 3 роки тому +32

    “Anxiety is a punish to yourself”

  • @angeliclizzie
    @angeliclizzie Рік тому

    Be good when nobody is watching life will reward u. Thank you for this ❤❤

  • @jtrav1204
    @jtrav1204 3 роки тому +18

    Ur a beautiful soul my man. Ur very appreciated, not by as many as u should be, but the ones that do are all in, quality over quantity.

  • @ROGERSHERIFF
    @ROGERSHERIFF 3 роки тому +14

    Drove the family down to The Painted Porch yesterday(Saturday). We were hoping to catch you there but had a great time anyway. The 2 year old had loved the treehouse! Awesome place and we loved going to the farmers market down the road and the food at paw paws was awesome too. We'll be back

  • @Florencecoxx
    @Florencecoxx Рік тому +134

    Success will only amplify who you already are, Most times it amazes me greatly how I moved from an average lifestyle to earning over $63k per month, Utter shock is the word. I have understood a lot in the past few years that there are lots of opportunities in the financial market. The only thing is to know where to invest.

    • @BeverlyTalley
      @BeverlyTalley Рік тому

      I agree with you and I believe that the secret to financial stability is having the right investment ideas to enable you earn more money, I don’t know who agrees with me but either way I recommend either real estate or bitcoin and stocks.

    • @bjoe631
      @bjoe631 Рік тому

      I keep wondering how people earn money in financial markets, i tried trading bitcoin on my own made a huge loss and now I'm scared of investing more.

    • @Florencecoxx
      @Florencecoxx Рік тому

      @@bjoe631 That won't bother you if you trade with a professional like *Mr Gary Mason Brooks* my coach, you may have come across him on interviews relating to bitcoin and stocks. He trades, manage trading account and offer mentorship program for clients who wish to become professional investors.

    • @bjoe631
      @bjoe631 Рік тому

      @@Florencecoxx You allow people to trade for you? that's interesting, I would love to learn, hope it’s safe?

    • @susanhaynes679
      @susanhaynes679 Рік тому

      Wow I can't believe you guys are discussing about Gary Mason Brooks , I once met him at a conference in California 2019, just before the pandemic. I can testify that he’s very good in trading..Highly recommended.

  • @just-sayin67
    @just-sayin67 Рік тому

    Anxiety is suffering before you even need to suffer - Love that!

  • @5thdimensionliving727
    @5thdimensionliving727 2 роки тому +5

    Without studying Stoicism previously, after watching your video, I believe I follow a lot of the underlying principles. I always lead my life using common sense, gratitude, look after my mental/physical health, read, study, work hard, look after loved ones, serve others, etc. This helps me to strive to become my best version, strive for happiness through peace, joy and bliss 🙏🙏

  • @user01-n6p
    @user01-n6p 7 місяців тому

    "Focus on how much you have left, not how far you've come"
    Extremely applicable for those in pursuit of knowledge

  • @Dillonmac96
    @Dillonmac96 3 роки тому +8

    Stoicism so underrated… we need stoic leaders in this country.

  • @matiaslangon6799
    @matiaslangon6799 3 роки тому +2

    The only thing I would change from this video is the part on how far you've got left to go.
    Thinking about the future is thinking about something you can't control and it can make you feel overwhelmed.
    It's better to focus on the now. Not what you did up until now, nor about the future, focus on the action you're going to take right now.

  • @waynerochat4885
    @waynerochat4885 3 роки тому +17

    Thank you for sharing this Ryan. This resonated really powerfully with me. Brought tears to my eyes. What a gift the Stoics left us.

    • @wisdomfromgreatmen8129
      @wisdomfromgreatmen8129 3 роки тому +3

      All of the Wisdom from the past is beautiful when discovered. I couldn't agree more.

  • @StoicEvolution1
    @StoicEvolution1 11 місяців тому

    Epictetus: "Keep your intention pure. Emotions will try to distract you. So keep going. That’s the cure."

  • @thomasteo3968
    @thomasteo3968 3 роки тому +13

    Love these stoic lessons, Ryan! Really help to kickstart the week or even the now. Just like what Marcus Aurelius said, "You could be good today instead, you choose tomorrow."

  • @leks7954
    @leks7954 2 роки тому +1

    "Focus on how far you have left to go"
    This line is amazing.

  • @AmandaCurnow
    @AmandaCurnow 3 роки тому +12

    I took a break from DS for a while and have recently come back. Finding your content getting better and better with each video, Ryan. Succinct, relevant guidance. We are benefitting from your years of "professional reading," thinking and distilling of Stoic wisdom. Thank you.

  • @Bartekziomal546
    @Bartekziomal546 Рік тому +1

    I want to become a kickboxer i watch stoics evry day IT helps me a lot i run evryday. Train and try to be present more but i allways get anxies to go out to people and talk i just want to train. That's meaningfull for me more then my familly and money i want strong mind set because i allways had week.

  • @ShondaD_
    @ShondaD_ Рік тому +3

    This hit me hard and it was absolutely necessary 😊 I’ve been holding myself back because of the things I couldn’t control.

  • @LexieNicole24
    @LexieNicole24 2 роки тому +1

    I'm gonna show this to my son, he's only 8 but he needs to hear this ✅

  • @augustoutside5130
    @augustoutside5130 3 роки тому +7

    So many choices I've lived by for years before I knew what stoicism even was! I am learning more about it now, and it is changing my life

  • @MajinStrach
    @MajinStrach Рік тому

    I stood up for someone. Let them in against my better judgement. Got attached and now they just discard after a PTSD related psychotic episode after we fought so many wars, against the man who hurt her and her kid and court battles for my daughter, i was changingso much ti fit hee i lost myself.. I was broken for 8 full days as she moved on. I needed your content 6 months ago.❤

  • @TonyMoze
    @TonyMoze 3 роки тому +10

    I forget how awesome the STOICS are - besides "sitting in the chaos, but also to help others" are nice principles.

    • @tomaszsosnowski9279
      @tomaszsosnowski9279 3 роки тому

      There is a lot of sincere benevolence towards others in stoicism.

  • @syzygy4365
    @syzygy4365 Рік тому

    You don't know how much this has healed my heart. 🥺💖

  • @sumosacks9558
    @sumosacks9558 3 роки тому +9

    "Treat yourself like you would treat someone you are taking care of." Jordan B. Peterson

    • @davipenha
      @davipenha 3 роки тому +1

      This is really hard for someone who truly hates himself, but at least we can try to be a bit less harsh

    • @Funny_senior_moments
      @Funny_senior_moments 3 роки тому

      Petersen is a wise Human.

  • @mangle204
    @mangle204 Рік тому

    Control your emotions, not caring about what people think, is very difficult for me, but it's one of my hurdles I plan to conquer in 2023.

  • @SZA001
    @SZA001 3 роки тому +4

    Nice to include the physical health aspect of things as a sound mind can only be attained with a healthy body. One cannot function and think with their minds to the fullest of their potential when one’s body is weak and sickly.

    • @wisdomfromgreatmen8129
      @wisdomfromgreatmen8129 3 роки тому

      James Allen said something like "a saint who does not wash his hands may as well not be a saint" in relation to taking care of ones body like they take care of their mind. Reminds me of that exactly.

  • @iloveyellow7214
    @iloveyellow7214 Рік тому

    Mr. Holiday this appeared in my feed today but I think I saw this already when I was 31 (Im 33 now 😁)
    And well I think i only understood the content of our video today. Why? Because life happened.
    And maybe I was unconsciously practicing the things your discussing here
    I hope you genuinely have a great rest of the day
    Thank you

  • @max-rdj9741
    @max-rdj9741 3 роки тому +7

    This video makes me feel like I was putting out the bins at the same time as my neighbour and mentioned it was a nice day out, and now he's got me trapped in this conversation about some "just do it" philosophy that changed his life.

  • @jmm1817
    @jmm1817 Рік тому

    Love this quote Regarding working out daily, "We should treat our body rigorously, so it's not disobedient to the mind," Seneca

  • @TheSassy85
    @TheSassy85 3 роки тому +3

    Love this. Please keep putting this content. I listen daily and read mediations by Marcus Aurelius has been a game changer

  • @makeyour77
    @makeyour77 3 роки тому

    A stoic author of our time and his name is Holiday, i can smell the next best seller

  • @whoisthisguy1205
    @whoisthisguy1205 3 роки тому +5

    Got my book Ryan, reading it along side meditations

    • @wisdomfromgreatmen8129
      @wisdomfromgreatmen8129 3 роки тому +2

      When i found this page I immediately went out and got two copies of meditations, one to highlight, and a nice copy to adorn my bookshelf.

    • @whoisthisguy1205
      @whoisthisguy1205 3 роки тому +2

      @@wisdomfromgreatmen8129 Yulp I’m building my collection as we speak

  • @kirodezno12
    @kirodezno12 3 роки тому +1

    "you have to treat the body rigorously so it doesn't be disobedient to the mind"... I felt that. You can say decisions were made after that.

  • @matthewallen5725
    @matthewallen5725 Рік тому +6

    if you’re reading this and this video sparked a little motivation, don’t go look for another video like this, get your ass up and go do whatever you’ve been putting off!! Stay Up

  • @kr4k3nn
    @kr4k3nn 3 роки тому +4

    It's 11pm in India, I think I should start doing all the things from tomorrow. Rightt?

  • @petarzaikov6882
    @petarzaikov6882 Рік тому

    Life is difficult, and many of us tend to quit just before we reap the fruits of our hard work. I've come to realize that this is often true, as there exists a significant gap (like a flat line) between embarking on a new endeavor and seeing any tangible results. Throughout this journey, we often lack sufficient appreciation, which drains our energy and leads us to give up.
    Your video has reached out and pulled me out of a very deep hole. There was a time when I would listen to you multiple times a day, and it truly made a difference. Please continue the amazing work you do; you are making a tremendous impact on people's lives.

  • @johnb528
    @johnb528 3 роки тому +73

    “We are who we choose to be. Now choose!”
    -Green Goblin (An accidental stoic?!)

    • @captainpeakyflowers5605
      @captainpeakyflowers5605 3 роки тому +1

      Heck yea😂

    • @frog6054
      @frog6054 3 роки тому +10

      I'm something of a stoic philosopher myself
      -green goblin

    • @bernardlesperance742
      @bernardlesperance742 3 роки тому

      Only if it were so simple. Reminds me of Nancy Regan's admonition to "just say no to drugs." General stances and statements of this kind ignore how variegated human life and individuals are. As I said, it is not so simple ... thanks, at the very least, to the deep discrepancies between people's thoughts, impulses, and actions (both conscious and unconscious).

    • @frog6054
      @frog6054 3 роки тому +1

      @@bernardlesperance742
      Well, most of the quote you seen are just an oversimplified statements that we cannot apply at most of our situations but it inspires us, that all.

    • @woonicon3741
      @woonicon3741 3 роки тому

      @@bernardlesperance742 Nowhere it is stated to be simple.

  • @davidwirth2716
    @davidwirth2716 3 роки тому +1

    These seem to cover the sum of being human , we are not perfect at times , but we can be a better person and serve others if we put the effort in. I should listen to this everyday to remind myself of these things!

  • @fireblade8905
    @fireblade8905 3 роки тому +3

    I stopped worrying about my ex now im moving forward with my life

  • @PinacoladaMatthew
    @PinacoladaMatthew 3 роки тому

    DO IT!!!! JUST.....DO IT!!!
    Yesterday you said tomorrow..
    So JUST DO IT!!!!
    Make your dreams come true!!!

  • @chinobox
    @chinobox 3 роки тому +7

    Omfg. I’ve followed you for some time but this video really punched me in the face like no other. Thank you for sir.

  • @lynnemanning9553
    @lynnemanning9553 Рік тому

    Ryan Holiday....Brillant!...and I agree with all of them, not so sure about "focus on how much you have left to go." I don't think there's a whole lot of difference between "how much you have already done,, and how much further have I left to go." For both of those, it's kind of a means to an end....we should really just enjoy as much of the trip, as we have left to go, without too much measuring. I think writing down what you would like to accomplish in your life is wonderful, but there are going to be a lot of detours and changes, living on this planet 😆,,,,,,taking on what you have left to accomplish is commendable, just don't make it about conquering that....Truly enjoy the ride and path 💟

  • @cxa011500
    @cxa011500 3 роки тому +4

    "He who is everywhere is no where" - Seneca

    • @wisdomfromgreatmen8129
      @wisdomfromgreatmen8129 3 роки тому

      Even back then they realized you couldn't be everything to everyone. You wind up being nothing to no-one.

    • @picklep9812
      @picklep9812 3 роки тому

      Thank you. I needed to see that. It helped me make sense of certain energies

  • @mbdrian
    @mbdrian Рік тому

    My favorite is we have to willing to look stupid because if we didn't, how we can learn a new stuff. Beautiful said Ryan, thank you.

  • @Peter_Parker69
    @Peter_Parker69 3 роки тому +6

    My Uncle Ben was a stoic

  • @terraincognita3749
    @terraincognita3749 3 роки тому +2

    Hi DS, I really like your video and I will take many of your arguments with me. Thanks! One minor criticism (and it is just my personal preference): the piano music in the background. It cheapens the message your bring. Your message is strong and clear, it doesn't need to be sweetened with a piano sauce. Without the piano music, your message would come across better. That's at least my feeling.
    Thanks again! Harmen

  • @almac8524
    @almac8524 3 роки тому +9

    In summary: “get on with it”. Rather than wasting your time going through motivational videos. Ironic!

    • @draaneYT
      @draaneYT 3 роки тому +1

      Not only "get on with it" its got more practical info in 10 minutes than most 'motivational' videos. Stoicism is life changing

    • @greggulf7185
      @greggulf7185 3 роки тому +1

      I'm not an advocate for the "expensive motivational seminars", however, sometimes videos like this are just what's needed. A kick in the arse..😉 quit whining and put some work in...Be better !

  • @cocoscott1898
    @cocoscott1898 Рік тому

    I started on the diet 2 weeks ago (after 3 years of putting it off) best decision ever.. sometimes it takes a new environment and fresh start.

  • @michaelz9892
    @michaelz9892 3 роки тому +3

    Could lose the soundtrack.

  • @mikelee0072
    @mikelee0072 2 роки тому

    I should have died May 10th, 2021 at 4:01 p.m. I was hit head on at combined speeds of 160 mph. I survived the impact and fire that ensued minutes after, burning my truck to the ground. The principle of focusing on what I could control during my recovery was the #1 key to my miracle recovery. This isn't hyperbole, I studied Ryans book, The Obstacle is The Way, daily, as I laid in bed healing for months, as I learned to walk again, as I learned to sit and stand on my own. The principles Ryan has taught me I have instilled yet still have so far to go. Thank you Ryan.

  • @frankjamesbonarrigo7162
    @frankjamesbonarrigo7162 3 роки тому +4

    these ancients didn't have any understanding of the physical brain. ie. mental illness. depression, anxiety. You can't just will it away.

  • @whome5810
    @whome5810 2 місяці тому

    I used to be a confidant well balanced person, but after a head injury a few years ago I now suffer from phobia and anxiety, the statement "we suffer more in imagination than in reality" really hits home for me. I know my problems, particularly around my phobia are all in my head, I just need to learn how to control my mind again.

  • @janderson9413
    @janderson9413 3 роки тому +3

    Hey buddy, I don't think anxiety is a choice.

  • @stevedriscoll2539
    @stevedriscoll2539 Рік тому +1

    I have searched for things fundamental for most of my life, and am as lost as I have ever been, but the philosophy of the stoics has given me the ability and courage to face horrible things about myself and others and try to be better. Thank you so much for these wonderful videos ❤

  • @evy684
    @evy684 3 роки тому +4

    I love your channel ! But, I hate the darn music ! I want to hear you ,not that over and over irritation! Sorry. Not trying to be mean . You do not need the music

    • @frankwhelan1715
      @frankwhelan1715 3 роки тому +1

      Don't know why people do that,after all people giving a speech/lecture don't feel the need of a musical
      accomnement ,although you see it a lot in movies .

    • @Soapandwater6
      @Soapandwater6 3 роки тому +1

      👍 I was trying hard to focus on what he was saying and the music was making that difficult.

  • @ml9633
    @ml9633 Рік тому

    Your teachings are inspiring. I've taken it on, and my 2 children 11 & 12 are beginning by listening to 1 of your videos per day. Thank you!

  • @Mrfantashtic
    @Mrfantashtic Рік тому

    I've watched a lot of your videos recently, and this one hit. I had become stuck in a rut and "tomorrow" was always a thing. I then decided enough was enough. Cleared stuff out, and started training again. Eating healthy and daily training had made such a difference, as I refused to say no. I've lost two stone. I'd been having problems with my knee but now realise it was the extra weight as now I am running daily, the problem has gone. I was wasting time.

  • @CharleneCannella-r8e
    @CharleneCannella-r8e 26 днів тому

    I can’t believe how much sense this makes now, thanks!

  • @merrylynnallison6922
    @merrylynnallison6922 Рік тому

    Thank-you so much for your daily Stoic practices. I have P.T.S.D. and suffer with anxiety so much I wasn't leaving my house for months. Thank you from Vancouver BC Canada.