What I love most about Ryan vs other personal growth youtubers is that his advice on personal growth isnt just some vanity project to build a following. He is deeply studied and knowledgeable and can impact the world!
My mother retired at 47, a self-made multi millionaire. Her best advice that she says all the time is "eat the frog first." Get that one thing you dred out of the way ASAP every day!
Ryan, I gave my husband The Daily Stoic for the holidays. He’s so enjoying it. I’m not sure you will see this, but we are grateful to you for this book. It’s the daily moment we share and greet our day. So we have a daily read that you created and we are moved by it. Thank you.
Don't forget to give yourself grace in all of this. You know what you can do. You are not worthless if you "fail." Failure is a part of success not the opposite of it. (I forget where I heard that. 😁) Sometimes even to live is an act of courage. - Seneca
"Failure is a part of success, not the opposite of it." - this sort of sentiment is prominent in the early education concept of "growth mindset". Don't know if that could be how you've come across it in the past, but it's immediately what I thought of.
Not to feel exasperated or defeated or despondent because your days aren’t packed with wise and moral actions, but to get back up when you fail, to celebrate behaving like a human - however imperfectly - and fully embrace the pursuit that you’ve embarked on. -Marcus Aurelius
The 10 Stoic Practices 1. Get Up Early 2. Journal 3. Walk 4. Read One Thing 5. Seek Out Challenges in Life 6. Do Something Hard 7. Do Deep Work 8. Find Stillness 9. Do Good To Feel Good 10. Face Your Mortality
As a 20 year old i practice many of these. I pray and am grateful to be able to. Although I am stepping into more deep work now and It’s hard. Although if I truly want to leave something behind that’s aids a better way of living I must put my mind to it. No more useless days, it’s time to construct the future
Best thing I ever did was start to get up early. I don’t work until 9 most days but I’m up at 4-5 am every day taking care of things. By 9 am I feel like I got so much done and my hasn’t even started. Going on 2 years and don’t plan on returning to my old lazy self
my freshman year roommate in college constantly shouted out "champions are born in the morning!" At the time, I was too distracted by an entire range of behavioral peculiarities of this gentlemen that I couldn't really take it seriously. Years later when I started running and living with structure, I truly got to embrace the sentiment. Champions are born in the morning.
@@clydenolet736 No, it would be better if people started to acknowledge that expecting everyone to work during the same hours is illogical and unscientific. Cause 100,000 years ago, someone had to keep a look out while the tribe slept.
@@robrick9361 that’s what chickens do. We used dogs for thousands of years for that as well. If you are self employed you can make your own hours, or if your what’s known as a “hibernation type” you can work evenings - people don’t work the same hours - have you ever noticed someone working on your day off?
@@clydenolet736 I was talking specifically about how culture treats non-standard working hours. I never said it didn't exist. And humans didn't always have dogs so I don't understand why that's relevant. What about the millions of years before that, through the evolutionary tree. At some point in our past, someone had to stay up while others slept.
@@robrick9361 I’m speaking on 10,000 years of recorded history - specifically by the works of William Durant and his 12 volume “a story of civilization” I can’t nor can anyone else … speak to the “millions” of years that we slept like chickens on a roost. Fun fact, chickens rest half their brain with one eye closed then swap at night to use the other eye.
The 1st five minutes of my day determine the entire day. I need to get up and move. None of these things upon waking: sitting, iPhone, news (feeds negativity), staying in pjs. Soon after coffee I put on exercise clothes and take my dogs out for a jog. Any straying from this leads to lethargy and subsequent blues. Following my plan helps me feel well, positive, and happy. Each day is a chance to make you a better version of yourself. No benefits without the work. No matter how you feel…get up, dress up, show up. I try throughout the day to avoid things that allow me to slip into “self sabotage.”
Thank you. I needed this video today. Although I’m a motivated routine driven person by nature, I’m going through betrayal trauma and other familial drama. Your video has helped me realize I can get back to me.
Thanks Ryan. I really needed this. I’ve been in a long term slump and feel like today I’ve finally hit my nadir. I am going to put everything into making this happen because I know and you know, it’s what I need and it’s going to work
So true, the worse part about routines is when you're not able to follow it due to things out of your control, you feel so discouraged which is counter-productive.
I’ve been looking for this wisdom across all the mommy blogs and channels. After having 2 kids under 2, I yearned for the routine I’d set up that earned me respect among family and friends. After the second child was born, my health trailed away, and along with that, my routine and systems that worked so well to keep my home and family life in good shape. So thank you for this message!
I discovered that when I was reading with a whenever-wherever mindset, I wouldn't read very often or very much because life is so busy. By assigning a set time at work during my (3) scheduled 10 minute breaks at work, I have been able to read significantly more.
this is great if you’re in great health. When one has a chronic problem, whether pain or insomnia or any manner of things, getting up early is OUT of the question.
Also with having kids keeping you up at night. I always prioritize sleep. If I get uninterrupted sleep, I get up early. If I get awoken in the night, I have no problem sleeping in if possible. Whenever people talk about getting up early, I think the conversation needs to include the amount you need and to prioritize that over getting the morning golden time.
I've just started reading daily, about a year ago, the Stoics. Just finished my 4th time through Epictetus Discourses, reading 1 or 2 discourses a day, to reflect on and grow. Now I'm on to Seneca Letters, so far 1 to 4 letters a day. Great perspectives, for me to finish my day. I'll check out your "daily's" suggestion for AM reading. Thanks Ryan for all your Stoic content! Good name, same as my oldest Son!
Right I'm ordering Tolstoy's Calendar of Wisdom. I do a lot of daily practices, but I get overwhelmed by books if I don't have time to really get stuck in with some "magical time". Reading something short, while getting somewhere would give me the motivation and kill my procrastination.
Marcus Aurelius says "But cast away the thirst after books, that thou mayest not die murmuring, but cheerfully, truly, and from thy heart thankful to the gods" also "And further, my son, be admonished by these. Of making many books there is no end, and much study is wearisome to the flesh.", King Solomon.
I wish someone would do daily-book on stoicism for nurses. Uninterrupted time? Deep work? We are interrupted all the time, sharing a tiny office with 20 people and four computers, having to document every step we take for patient safety... We have lots of meaning and purpose, but the working conditions are not great. I have five years in this job and hardly know how to survive... 😑
Please keep the faith, Nurses and Caregivers are a gift and must have a gift. You will never be paid what you are truly worth, but please remember that Many people Need you. From a retired County Hospital Sonographer.❤
If at all possible cut back on lifestyle spending-and then cut back to 3 days a week - at least that’s something nurses usually can do. There’s nursing beyond the hospital that’s much less grueling- and/or become an NP and work in an office I’ve done both of these over the years and I’m 65 now and managed to stay sane 🙏 still happily working
@@tarolantern9729 That sounds like great advice. I am just finishing a year of specialist training in care of the elderly and am aiming toward teaching, coaching and mentoring. 😅 I'm even thinking of writing that book myself...
I work in education…there is no uninterrupted time (after students go home, there are emails to parents and curriculum prep for the next day). Add one new routine at a time. Get up early, but prep clothes, coffee, lunch the night before. Get Outside Everyday - walking outside after work will reset your whole body and mind. Read Everyday - start with Proverbs (they are short bits of everyday wisdom) and work your way through the Psalms and repeat (you can read & think about one on your way to &/or from work everyday rather than dwelling on things that are more stressful). Pick one thing and make it routine - we’re not aiming for ‘perfection’ but a better life everyday.
Great vid but so easy for MORNING BIRDS to chirp about all this. Try being wired as a night owl & you will change your tune real quick! 😅 Morning birds cannot function after 9pm; have them attempt all this at 1am & they’d croak. That’s how night owls feel EVERY MORNING in a world run by morning birds. 🐦🦉
I'm a morning (ish) bird but my husband is an extreme night owl. This is so true and much of society has no compassion for night owls and because they "sleep in" they are seen as lazy. Not true!
I was a night owl. I trained myself to be a morning person. Like doing the cold plunge- so difficult at first, near always, but the effects are worth it. When the circadian rhythms finally move back where they need to be your life aligns in ways you cant imagine.
@@rooshe8957If you did this, you probably at one point had to keep a “normal” schedule and had no problem doing so. I was like that, all the way through college and after. Then my career turned me into a night owl because my schedule was usually 1 or 2 PM - 9 or 10 PM. Then I had to go on disability and while I thought I’d get back to a more “normal” schedule (though maybe not getting up at 6 or 7 AM as I had to do for my childhood years & part of my 20s), it didn’t happen. I’m still trying to be less of a night owl, and I think eventually I can because I wasn’t always a night owl. But it’s been a struggle and I am hard on myself for not achieving this. What I’m pondering now is, should I be doing this? Is it wasted energy fighting my current circadian rhythms? For people who are inherently night owls, they should allow themselves to live according to their own nature, without apology.
I used to be a night owl until my herbalist told me that night owls are just morning people with a 'liver hangover'. Don't know if that's true for everyone but it was for me. I went on a liver cleanse, started eating, healthier, and now I get up at four every day. No problem. However, one thing you said is correct. I'm zonked by 9 PM.
Really great that life-optimizer people give advice on their routines. But I'm somewhat always feeling misrepresented with my possibilities as someone working a 9 to 5 job.
Personally the most important aspects of these routine type videos is the morning and evening routine. A lot of us don’t have time to be creative for 3 hours in the middle of the day but most of us can bookend our days with routine and intention. We can wake up early, stretch, go for a 10-20 min walk, read a passage from a daily book and set the day with intention. We can also end the day strong. Go to bed at a good time, stop consuming technology an hour before bed and read a chapter from a fiction book that interests us. At least that’s what I try to do. When I’m successful doing so it works wonders for my mental health and productivity.
This comment strikes me oddly because I work a 9-5 and I feel like these life-optimizing advices hit home for me. You have time in the morning and evening. You just need to set the time frame and choose what you do with it. You can’t really say “I’ll do this in the morning” or “I’ll do this tonight”. Block off a specific time frame and commit to just that. It doesn’t have to be reading, it can be drawing, watching a show, going for a walk, meditation, listening to music. You choose what you do with the time. If you catch yourself spending time on something randomly or passively then you can use that time to focus on something you specifically want to work on. More often than not, sacrifices must be made in some areas in order to accomplish other things. I find myself doom-scrolling in the evenings a lot but then remind myself that I can be using this time to do ANYTHING else more productive or educational or meditative or artistic. If you feel tired, self-analyze and see if you are genuinely exhausted and can’t keep your eyes open or are just “tired” and can still do something for a bit of time before you sleep. If it’s the former then just go to sleep and don’t force yourself awake (if there is nothing life-threatening you need to stay awake for). You just have to be willing to set apart the time and do the thing. Writing it down and booking off a time slot for whatever activity helps me a ton because it lets me realize the real amount of time I have left in the day and that as long as I commit to the time slot, I can accomplish what I wanted to in that time. Good luck.
Reading! …seemingly a lost art 🤷🏼♀️ …most of the people I know aren’t reading anymore. They’re busy watching crap on TV, or social media. There’s some good stuff online, for sure. But reading! Especially the types of book you mention. I read memoirs, philosophy and much non-fiction where I learn so much. Yay for reading! 👍🏼
I really admire stoicism, but when material and surrounding conditions get rough, it gets really hard. For example, being in a tiny crowded appartement in a big city, living on a couch, not having a personal space to read, meditate, think, having no nature around at all, having no money to chill in a café, student loans, rainy days most of the time, no sleep because of the noise around, man I can tell you, stoicism can't reach enough to be able to pull you out. It is still marvelous, but it's not independent of many other factors that do not rely on our efforts. Sometimes life is just not dealing you the right cards at any given time to make it so you can manage to reach your goals. Philosophy is the best invention on this earth, but it's dependent of a minds ability to dispose of that cognitive space. And that space is extremely fragile.
The ancient Greeks had no running water, no electricity, threat of being killed by invaders. I believe the stoic philosophy can help with your First World problems.
@@adjbob56 I didn't say it could not help, just that when alienation is on is creeping under your skin, it's not that easy. Furthermore, your comparaison is not fair. It eludes the biggest challenge of stoicism, wich is trying to reach ataraxia, by becoming One with the Kosmos. But the situation then and now have nothing in common but us, humans. Today - and this conversation proves partially my point - we no longer have boundaries between us and the world. We are always connected, always available, always submitted to ads, to emails, etc ; we seem challenged to be able to concieve any other point of view other than "work or die" ; but that also is no more personal than our online interactions. We define ourselves with jobs, but at the same time admit that we cannot think of an alternative. We alienate ourselves so deeply it seems ludacrus to believe there is an alternative. And i think, this society of comfort is one of the reasons for it. It suppresses our sens of purpose. We have the means to eat, and freedom on an individual level, but no drive to do anything with it anymore. So it can help with our* First World problems, but it's not as simplified as you want to suggest.
Instead of focusing on what you don't have, focus on what you do have. Namely, that your basic survival needs are being met; food, water, shelter. You have somewhere to sleep and somewhere to wash. At least you're not homeless on the streets. The main challenge you face, at present, is not having enough money to improve your lifestyle. What steps do you need to take to improve your income, that is within your control? Training, Job hunting skills, interview techniques, negotiation skills, communication skills. Effort involves us stepping outside our comfort zones. No one is going to give you what you want. You have to put in the effort to make your own opportunities. Good luck.
Dag, good comment. My son has been dealing with the same pressures over the last few years. I don’t have much to help with this but keep trying and using any tools you can to hang in there. Good luck moving forward.
Such a joy and inspiration to listen to your words of wisdom Ryan, and your repertoire of information sources that you share with us. I'm gradually accumulating a small library of your own books as well, that I leave lying around the house for others to just pick up and read a paragraph or two, Thank You so much Ryan.🙏🙏
Mr. Ryan, I am reading your " Stillness is the key ".. Silence within is much potent and soothing. It gives clarity n focus. Life lessons and virtues are there simply to be learnt honestly . Certainely not to be ridiculed. Today's fast life has nothing to give except anxiety and despondency. The stoic lessons seems to be a trendsetter to break the fragility. Thanx. ❤
I don’t need a cold plunge. I walk the dog first thing in the morning 6:30am and it was -12 degrees with the wind chill. Then a swim….a great way to start the day. The journal, French, Daily Stoic, Meditations are next on my schedule. Then tasks of the day. In the evening I do my relaxing reading. I need structure.
Nobody needs a cold plunge. In fact it would be very unstoic to need a polluting machine to train your willpower in unnatural cold water. Just walk barefeet or something.
@@allentubman8052 well... Not in my humble opinion. Since a routine is a fixed thing and life is anything but that. Life is ever changing. But I guess it depends on what your idea of routine is.
I agree that routines are very useful to bring one back to the law of averages, but much like physical training one has to "shock the system" occasionally and be able to deal with chaos and break the routine. This is the art and science of Waabi Saabi philosophy and the core mental muscle that Nassim Taleb describes in "Antifragile".
I agree with your intent of this good video, but please stop with the get up early thing. I am retired, and spent most of my life in airline aircraft maintenance working overnight. I have rarely known any other schedule, and I loved working overnight, and it still agrees with me very nicely. There is little want or reason for me to start getting up at 0500 or for that matter trying to just get to sleep before 0500. There are many more “night” people than I think many of you UA-camrs realize. We are not freaks or weirdos. I respectfully suggest recognizing the incredible number of occupations that require working overnight to protect, serve, and make civilized life possible for you and the public at large.
Agreed. It’s about being intentional with what you do with your time, it shouldn’t matter what time you do it. Isn’t the whole video about being flexible with routine??
Great stuff! Video by video you help me polish my mirror. I have quotes, that I read outloud before I leave my house taped to my front door from your videos! Grateful! Two ears one mouth has literally been a lifesaver! Now I hear that everywhere but the first time was from you. Grateful! Keep up the awesome work! Much love and favor 🙏😇🤗🪶❤️❣️
As a woman I am so grateful that I live in a time that I was allowed to choose not to have children and to choose to go out into the world and find out who I am.
Every human being should be able to chose his/her main path .. as far as it is possible . I have two adult children, i am a retired active psychiatrist and i totally get it . If you do not want children it is up to you. Do not listen to guilt speech… of course an adult choice goes with dealing the consequences.
My experience of journaling is giving others access to thwart my thoughts and feelings if they find them so I just don't journal and burn the ones I had. There is no safe place to put your thoughts and feelings except quiet prayers. 😢 That being said means anything you say and do will be held against you. It doesn't matter if you even explain why you say certain things it will get twisted. Writing this makes me leary but gotta step into the deep occassionally.
That's true but the problem with working at night is that you have the whole day behind you. It is easier to get tired, easier to procrastinate and easier to say I did enough. When you wake up early that deep work is the first thing you do, it sets you up right for the day. Also with waking up early it is important to go to sleep early and it is the most stoic thing to do because you control when you go to sleep but it is harder to control when you wake up.
@@pereinarolsson3928 Not really. I am Polish-born, leaving in UK. I work full-time job and in the mornings I work on creating comic books. But I've seen a huge improvement in my motivation when I started to do it in the morning than at night. I don't believe having the energy to work on your hobbies is a cultural thing :D
@@bartomiejbrasse6973 No of course not - nothing is static and everything can be changed. For me direction is important. I am coming from farming families since...and born 1957 I am raised in a community fed with the truth that you have to work and work hard. But there is no meaning to run if you run in the wrong direction. When I work with my paintings and my writing it is connected with strong bonds to the farming society where men do not do such things and maybe as a hobby but ABOSLUTELY not as your living. It goes very deep - but can be changed. Good luck with your morning habits - I will stay active in the evening because I am wired like that.
"I don't read the Daily Stoic, that would be weird!" LOL that was funny, but I get what he means; but the Daily Stoic by Ryan Holiday is definitely one of the best books on Stoicism out there.
I walk daily, my journaling now consists of writing down my food intake. The days I fail at it or need to look for escapes or different solutions to my exercise is when I have my son, which is 2 to 3 days a week. And I indeed find It hard to stick to my program on these days. Many of the things you mention require alone time, which I don’t have at these days. But thanks to my regime on the off days, I feel stronger on the days I can’t and I also miss my regime by now, which is the best motivator for me to look for alternatives. And I try not to bash mazelt up over it, but rather try to accept this reality knowing I can do many other things like cooking healthy, enjoy my kid and be there for him. And even then I need some space for myself which is getting less of a challenge now because I’m now trying to do things in parallel. Not always welcomed with open arms by my son, and even that becomes a teachable moment for the both of us.
Great video! I love your Daily Stoic book. So inspiring! My struggle is how to stack the activities in my day. I thrive in set daily routines and when they glitch, I don't know how to recover and continue. The routine can be that all the daily practices are completed each day, regardless of when. That is the perfect daily routine rather than each practice getting done at the same time. Never give up.
The book that has made my life more agreeable is Meditations by Marcus Aurelius, I have listened to it many times and usually take 15 minutes a day to listen to its reflections, they are like a never ending story that takes me on a trip through my past and present life and gives me fortitude to embrace the future. There is not one day that it does not illuminate my mind and gives calm and clarity. Super bonus : it has no religious anchoring.
I love the #algorithm. Thank you for all the work you've put into the daily stoic and into your life that channels this wisdom so well packaged for fellows like us .
Wow, after all that intensity I need to go take a nap. But I'll be sure to buy all your books and checkout your podcast, email distribution list too.. and whatever else you were trying to sell us.
Regarding stillness...20 min of meditation per day has been a game changer. The book called 30 Days to Reduce Stress by Harper Daniels was good for mindfulness too.
Share some love for the vet (veterinarian) $250 may not sound reasonable, but he is offering a service you chose not to undertake. Just be cognizant of him. It is always appreciated.
I have a serious question. What if your morning routine is jumbled up so to speak due to a chronic ill illness or disease. It’s really messes up any routine or I’m able to form due to my illness fluctuating daily/hourly and suggest tips or advice would be extremely extremely helpful for those who are disabled and who are trying to do our best here.
I finally understand my disconnect from Stoicism. Intellectually it makes sense however I have difficulty really "getting" it. But, here on Tube, all the commentary seems to be directed at "go-getter" young men. I'm old and have a totally different situation and set of needs. For instance, I am facing Death sometime soon. I'll have to start reading it myself and ditching the narratives. So thank you for providing me the catalyst for my deeper understanding.
Cicero says - the disordered need order and the ordered needs disorder. Look in your horoscope and learn from your oppositr sign. I am aires and need to integrate the diplomavy from libra
I try to mentally list 3 things I’m going to accomplish in an ordinary day , and if I accomplish 2 , I guess my batting average is up there with Babe Ruth ??? 3 is like jumping and dancing! I’m retired, worked long years , and now I have to ask my self many times if I’m in a hurry. Life is is too short to be waisted on unimportant stuff that do not give us a redeemable value. Human being should not be equated with human doing.
The web page you mention has no way to sign up. There's a sign telling us what it's about, then it says "sign up below"... and there's nowhere to sign up. What gives?
The only thing I don't get is journaling. What am I supposed to write? The only thought I have in the morning is "what's for breakfast". I've sat in front of a blank page many times, and the page has always remained blank.
I’m glad you started off with getting up early despite stating you could these in any order. Not exactly, getting up early is necessary for any of the others to occur. 🤨😏
My husband never lets his schedule get blown up. Due to this his personal relationships are all shit. Obsessive compulsive personality disorder - I cannot totally agree with your philosophy. Can become a Lonely, self centered narcissistic life.
It's amazing how 90% of the things we put off for days or weeks is usually easily completed in only 10-15 minutes lol
Was thinking the same thing. Then when you do them you feel great ha ha
What I love most about Ryan vs other personal growth youtubers is that his advice on personal growth isnt just some vanity project to build a following. He is deeply studied and knowledgeable and can impact the world!
Him and mark Manson are much less extreme than a lot of the other gurus
Oh so you’re a fan, is that what you’re trying to say?
My mother retired at 47, a self-made multi millionaire. Her best advice that she says all the time is "eat the frog first." Get that one thing you dred out of the way ASAP every day!
Excellent. Thanks.
Exactly! I wake n think what’s my intentions today? And I get the most pain (in butt) task handled asap.
She obviously was not French.
Didn't realise there was so much money in frogs !
Don't follow this advice if you have ADHD. Do the easy things first to build momentum
Ryan, I gave my husband The Daily Stoic for the holidays. He’s so enjoying it. I’m not sure you will see this, but we are grateful to you for this book. It’s the daily moment we share and greet our day. So we have a daily read that you created and we are moved by it. Thank you.
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Don't forget to give yourself grace in all of this. You know what you can do. You are not worthless if you "fail." Failure is a part of success not the opposite of it. (I forget where I heard that. 😁)
Sometimes even to live is an act of courage. - Seneca
"Failure is a part of success, not the opposite of it." - this sort of sentiment is prominent in the early education concept of "growth mindset". Don't know if that could be how you've come across it in the past, but it's immediately what I thought of.
Not to feel exasperated or defeated or despondent because your days aren’t packed with wise and moral actions, but to get back up when you fail, to celebrate behaving like a human - however imperfectly - and fully embrace the pursuit that you’ve embarked on.
-Marcus Aurelius
The 10 Stoic Practices
1. Get Up Early
2. Journal
3. Walk
4. Read One Thing
5. Seek Out Challenges in Life
6. Do Something Hard
7. Do Deep Work
8. Find Stillness
9. Do Good To Feel Good
10. Face Your Mortality
1.Wake up
2.Take a shit
3.Get out of bed
As a 20 year old i practice many of these. I pray and am grateful to be able to. Although I am stepping into more deep work now and It’s hard. Although if I truly want to leave something behind that’s aids a better way of living I must put my mind to it. No more useless days, it’s time to construct the future
so top 10 thing to do repost eveyr week xD joke
yea "put shoes on and go win life" x 10
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Best thing I ever did was start to get up early. I don’t work until 9 most days but I’m up at 4-5 am every day taking care of things. By 9 am I feel like I got so much done and my hasn’t even started. Going on 2 years and don’t plan on returning to my old lazy self
my freshman year roommate in college constantly shouted out "champions are born in the morning!" At the time, I was too distracted by an entire range of behavioral peculiarities of this gentlemen that I couldn't really take it seriously. Years later when I started running and living with structure, I truly got to embrace the sentiment. Champions are born in the morning.
@ElizarTringov sounds like 3pm was Floyd’s morning. He woke up and got it. That’s the message. If you’re up at 3pm and down at 3am it’s a full day.
@@clydenolet736 No, it would be better if people started to acknowledge that expecting everyone to work during the same hours is illogical and unscientific.
Cause 100,000 years ago, someone had to keep a look out while the tribe slept.
@@robrick9361 that’s what chickens do. We used dogs for thousands of years for that as well. If you are self employed you can make your own hours, or if your what’s known as a “hibernation type” you can work evenings - people don’t work the same hours - have you ever noticed someone working on your day off?
@@clydenolet736 I was talking specifically about how culture treats non-standard working hours. I never said it didn't exist.
And humans didn't always have dogs so I don't understand why that's relevant.
What about the millions of years before that, through the evolutionary tree.
At some point in our past, someone had to stay up while others slept.
@@robrick9361 I’m speaking on 10,000 years of recorded history - specifically by the works of William Durant and his 12 volume “a story of civilization” I can’t nor can anyone else … speak to the “millions” of years that we slept like chickens on a roost. Fun fact, chickens rest half their brain with one eye closed then swap at night to use the other eye.
The 1st five minutes of my day determine the entire day. I need to get up and move. None of these things upon waking: sitting, iPhone, news (feeds negativity), staying in pjs. Soon after coffee I put on exercise clothes and take my dogs out for a jog. Any straying from this leads to lethargy and subsequent blues. Following my plan helps me feel well, positive, and happy. Each day is a chance to make you a better version of yourself. No benefits without the work. No matter how you feel…get up, dress up, show up. I try throughout the day to avoid things that allow me to slip into “self sabotage.”
Simply getting dressed is so helpful for me
Excellent stuff, I could rearrange my routine to look more like this. Otherwise I can get sucked into things (like news videos) for an hour or so. 😬
Ahh maybe I need to get a pet dog .It will instill got to get out 2 walks a day for the pet I know I ll love to care for.
Same! Morning routine is essential
I start the day with prayer- that is primary. Connecting with my creator 💕🙏🏻
Thank you. I needed this video today. Although I’m a motivated routine driven person by nature, I’m going through betrayal trauma and other familial drama. Your video has helped me realize I can get back to me.
Thanks Ryan. I really needed this. I’ve been in a long term slump and feel like today I’ve finally hit my nadir. I am going to put everything into making this happen because I know and you know, it’s what I need and it’s going to work
Daily Meditation is more powerful than being a mere intellectualist.
Intellectualism is good for increasing ego.
Know less, meditate more.
Good one!
To attain knowledge, add things each day. To attain wisdom remove things each day. Lao Tzu
So true, the worse part about routines is when you're not able to follow it due to things out of your control, you feel so discouraged which is counter-productive.
Reading the daily stoic email is truly the beginning of my day. Thank you!
I would add, tidy your space up and make sure you enjoy the clothing you wear- but it should be comfortable enough for the work you will do that day.
I’ve been looking for this wisdom across all the mommy blogs and channels. After having 2 kids under 2, I yearned for the routine I’d set up that earned me respect among family and friends. After the second child was born, my health trailed away, and along with that, my routine and systems that worked so well to keep my home and family life in good shape. So thank you for this message!
I discovered that when I was reading with a whenever-wherever mindset, I wouldn't read very often or very much because life is so busy. By assigning a set time at work during my (3) scheduled 10 minute breaks at work, I have been able to read significantly more.
Learning to do the thing I dread mindlessly and without complaining changed my life. I am much more productive.
this is great if you’re in great health. When one has a chronic problem, whether pain or insomnia or any manner of things, getting up early is OUT of the question.
Also with having kids keeping you up at night. I always prioritize sleep. If I get uninterrupted sleep, I get up early. If I get awoken in the night, I have no problem sleeping in if possible. Whenever people talk about getting up early, I think the conversation needs to include the amount you need and to prioritize that over getting the morning golden time.
I am from Brazil. I follow you. It is very important for me.
I am from Brasil too 😊
@@AndrywMarques Olaaa! Tudo bem? Eu adoro!
I've just started reading daily, about a year ago, the Stoics. Just finished my 4th time through Epictetus Discourses, reading 1 or 2 discourses a day, to reflect on and grow. Now I'm on to Seneca Letters, so far 1 to 4 letters a day. Great perspectives, for me to finish my day. I'll check out your "daily's" suggestion for AM reading. Thanks Ryan for all your Stoic content! Good name, same as my oldest Son!
Right I'm ordering Tolstoy's Calendar of Wisdom. I do a lot of daily practices, but I get overwhelmed by books if I don't have time to really get stuck in with some "magical time". Reading something short, while getting somewhere would give me the motivation and kill my procrastination.
Marcus Aurelius says "But cast away the thirst after books, that thou mayest not die murmuring, but cheerfully, truly, and from thy heart thankful to the gods" also "And further, my son, be admonished by these. Of making many books there is no end, and much study is wearisome to the flesh.", King Solomon.
What he presents is his interpretation of stoicism.
I wish someone would do daily-book on stoicism for nurses. Uninterrupted time? Deep work? We are interrupted all the time, sharing a tiny office with 20 people and four computers, having to document every step we take for patient safety... We have lots of meaning and purpose, but the working conditions are not great. I have five years in this job and hardly know how to survive... 😑
Please keep the faith, Nurses and Caregivers are a gift and must have a gift. You will never be paid what you are truly worth, but please remember that Many people Need you. From a retired County Hospital Sonographer.❤
If at all possible cut back on lifestyle spending-and then cut back to 3 days a week - at least that’s something nurses usually can do.
There’s nursing beyond the hospital that’s much less grueling- and/or become an NP and work in an office
I’ve done both of these over the years and I’m 65 now and managed to stay sane 🙏 still happily working
@@tarolantern9729 That sounds like great advice. I am just finishing a year of specialist training in care of the elderly and am aiming toward teaching, coaching and mentoring. 😅 I'm even thinking of writing that book myself...
I work in education…there is no uninterrupted time (after students go home, there are emails to parents and curriculum prep for the next day). Add one new routine at a time. Get up early, but prep clothes, coffee, lunch the night before. Get Outside Everyday - walking outside after work will reset your whole body and mind. Read Everyday - start with Proverbs (they are short bits of everyday wisdom) and work your way through the Psalms and repeat (you can read & think about one on your way to &/or from work everyday rather than dwelling on things that are more stressful). Pick one thing and make it routine - we’re not aiming for ‘perfection’ but a better life everyday.
I was there. The problems you are facing cannot be solved at your level. Best wishes for a powerful inner life. Tarolantern's advice is terrific.
Great vid but so easy for MORNING BIRDS to chirp about all this. Try being wired as a night owl & you will change your tune real quick! 😅 Morning birds cannot function after 9pm; have them attempt all this at 1am & they’d croak. That’s how night owls feel EVERY MORNING in a world run by morning birds. 🐦🦉
I'm a morning (ish) bird but my husband is an extreme night owl. This is so true and much of society has no compassion for night owls and because they "sleep in" they are seen as lazy. Not true!
I was a night owl. I trained myself to be a morning person. Like doing the cold plunge- so difficult at first, near always, but the effects are worth it. When the circadian rhythms finally move back where they need to be your life aligns in ways you cant imagine.
@@rooshe8957If you did this, you probably at one point had to keep a “normal” schedule and had no problem doing so. I was like that, all the way through college and after. Then my career turned me into a night owl because my schedule was usually 1 or 2 PM - 9 or 10 PM. Then I had to go on disability and while I thought I’d get back to a more “normal” schedule (though maybe not getting up at 6 or 7 AM as I had to do for my childhood years & part of my 20s), it didn’t happen.
I’m still trying to be less of a night owl, and I think eventually I can because I wasn’t always a night owl. But it’s been a struggle and I am hard on myself for not achieving this. What I’m pondering now is, should I be doing this? Is it wasted energy fighting my current circadian rhythms? For people who are inherently night owls, they should allow themselves to live according to their own nature, without apology.
I used to be a night owl until my herbalist told me that night owls are just morning people with a 'liver hangover'.
Don't know if that's true for everyone but it was for me. I went on a liver cleanse, started eating, healthier, and now I get up at four every day. No problem.
However, one thing you said is correct. I'm zonked by 9 PM.
Eehh that’s an excuse. Make a habit of waking up early and going for a walk and you’ll soon realise you’re not a “night owl”
Really great that life-optimizer people give advice on their routines. But I'm somewhat always feeling misrepresented with my possibilities as someone working a 9 to 5 job.
Personally the most important aspects of these routine type videos is the morning and evening routine.
A lot of us don’t have time to be creative for 3 hours in the middle of the day but most of us can bookend our days with routine and intention.
We can wake up early, stretch, go for a 10-20 min walk, read a passage from a daily book and set the day with intention.
We can also end the day strong. Go to bed at a good time, stop consuming technology an hour before bed and read a chapter from a fiction book that interests us.
At least that’s what I try to do. When I’m successful doing so it works wonders for my mental health and productivity.
This comment strikes me oddly because I work a 9-5 and I feel like these life-optimizing advices hit home for me. You have time in the morning and evening. You just need to set the time frame and choose what you do with it. You can’t really say “I’ll do this in the morning” or “I’ll do this tonight”. Block off a specific time frame and commit to just that. It doesn’t have to be reading, it can be drawing, watching a show, going for a walk, meditation, listening to music. You choose what you do with the time. If you catch yourself spending time on something randomly or passively then you can use that time to focus on something you specifically want to work on. More often than not, sacrifices must be made in some areas in order to accomplish other things. I find myself doom-scrolling in the evenings a lot but then remind myself that I can be using this time to do ANYTHING else more productive or educational or meditative or artistic. If you feel tired, self-analyze and see if you are genuinely exhausted and can’t keep your eyes open or are just “tired” and can still do something for a bit of time before you sleep. If it’s the former then just go to sleep and don’t force yourself awake (if there is nothing life-threatening you need to stay awake for). You just have to be willing to set apart the time and do the thing. Writing it down and booking off a time slot for whatever activity helps me a ton because it lets me realize the real amount of time I have left in the day and that as long as I commit to the time slot, I can accomplish what I wanted to in that time. Good luck.
My recommendation for you: Bhagwat Geeta.
A must read book.
Reading! …seemingly a lost art 🤷🏼♀️ …most of the people I know aren’t reading anymore. They’re busy watching crap on TV, or social media. There’s some good stuff online, for sure. But reading! Especially the types of book you mention. I read memoirs, philosophy and much non-fiction where I learn so much. Yay for reading! 👍🏼
I really admire stoicism, but when material and surrounding conditions get rough, it gets really hard.
For example, being in a tiny crowded appartement in a big city, living on a couch, not having a personal space to read, meditate, think, having no nature around at all, having no money to chill in a café, student loans, rainy days most of the time, no sleep because of the noise around, man I can tell you, stoicism can't reach enough to be able to pull you out.
It is still marvelous, but it's not independent of many other factors that do not rely on our efforts. Sometimes life is just not dealing you the right cards at any given time to make it so you can manage to reach your goals. Philosophy is the best invention on this earth, but it's dependent of a minds ability to dispose of that cognitive space. And that space is extremely fragile.
The ancient Greeks had no running water, no electricity, threat of being killed by invaders. I believe the stoic philosophy can help with your First World problems.
@@adjbob56 I didn't say it could not help, just that when alienation is on is creeping under your skin, it's not that easy.
Furthermore, your comparaison is not fair. It eludes the biggest challenge of stoicism, wich is trying to reach ataraxia, by becoming One with the Kosmos. But the situation then and now have nothing in common but us, humans. Today - and this conversation proves partially my point - we no longer have boundaries between us and the world. We are always connected, always available, always submitted to ads, to emails, etc ; we seem challenged to be able to concieve any other point of view other than "work or die" ; but that also is no more personal than our online interactions. We define ourselves with jobs, but at the same time admit that we cannot think of an alternative. We alienate ourselves so deeply it seems ludacrus to believe there is an alternative.
And i think, this society of comfort is one of the reasons for it. It suppresses our sens of purpose. We have the means to eat, and freedom on an individual level, but no drive to do anything with it anymore.
So it can help with our* First World problems, but it's not as simplified as you want to suggest.
@@dagleonardsson Don't overthink it. Chill, and focus on what is in your control.
Instead of focusing on what you don't have, focus on what you do have. Namely, that your basic survival needs are being met; food, water, shelter. You have somewhere to sleep and somewhere to wash. At least you're not homeless on the streets. The main challenge you face, at present, is not having enough money to improve your lifestyle. What steps do you need to take to improve your income, that is within your control? Training, Job hunting skills, interview techniques, negotiation skills, communication skills. Effort involves us stepping outside our comfort zones. No one is going to give you what you want. You have to put in the effort to make your own opportunities. Good luck.
Dag, good comment. My son has been dealing with the same pressures over the last few years. I don’t have much to help with this but keep trying and using any tools you can to hang in there. Good luck moving forward.
Such a joy and inspiration to listen to your words of wisdom Ryan, and your repertoire of information sources that you share with us. I'm gradually accumulating a small library of your own books as well, that I leave lying around the house for others to just pick up and read a paragraph or two, Thank You so much Ryan.🙏🙏
So agree with the morning. I’m up at 4:30-5, and it’s how I wrote the book I’m now querying… those morning hours are critical
Mr. Ryan, I am reading your " Stillness is the key ".. Silence within is much potent and soothing. It gives clarity n focus. Life lessons
and virtues are there simply to be learnt honestly . Certainely not to be ridiculed. Today's fast life has nothing to give except anxiety and
despondency. The stoic lessons seems to be a trendsetter to break the fragility. Thanx. ❤
I don’t need a cold plunge. I walk the dog first thing in the morning 6:30am and it was -12 degrees with the wind chill. Then a swim….a great way to start the day. The journal, French, Daily Stoic, Meditations are next on my schedule. Then tasks of the day. In the evening I do my relaxing reading. I need structure.
Nobody needs a cold plunge. In fact it would be very unstoic to need a polluting machine to train your willpower in unnatural cold water. Just walk barefeet or something.
*Great point! Life is unpredictable and routines can break. I'll definitely watch this video to learn about Stoic practices*
I love Journal, I love Stoic
I found Stoicism during covid. It’s the antithesis of who I am, but that’s what draws me to it.
I don't think Seneca meant you should have a routine. He meant you should think about how you want to live.
Isn't that what routine is?
@@allentubman8052 well... Not in my humble opinion. Since a routine is a fixed thing and life is anything but that. Life is ever changing. But I guess it depends on what your idea of routine is.
I agree that routines are very useful to bring one back to the law of averages, but much like physical training one has to "shock the system" occasionally and be able to deal with chaos and break the routine. This is the art and science of Waabi Saabi philosophy and the core mental muscle that Nassim Taleb describes in "Antifragile".
I agree with your intent of this good video, but please stop with the get up early thing. I am retired, and spent most of my life in airline aircraft maintenance working overnight. I have rarely known any other schedule, and I loved working overnight, and it still agrees with me very nicely. There is little want or reason for me to start getting up at 0500 or for that matter trying to just get to sleep before 0500.
There are many more “night” people than I think many of you UA-camrs realize. We are not freaks or weirdos. I respectfully suggest recognizing the incredible number of occupations that require working overnight to protect, serve, and make civilized life possible for you and the public at large.
Agreed. It’s about being intentional with what you do with your time, it shouldn’t matter what time you do it. Isn’t the whole video about being flexible with routine??
Early is, indeed, relative.
Great stuff! Video by video you help me polish my mirror. I have quotes, that I read outloud before I leave my house taped to my front door from your videos! Grateful! Two ears one mouth has literally been a lifesaver! Now I hear that everywhere but the first time was from you. Grateful! Keep up the awesome work! Much love and favor 🙏😇🤗🪶❤️❣️
Post them.
As a woman I am so grateful that I live in a time that I was allowed to choose not to have children and to choose to go out into the world and find out who I am.
I found out who I am and also had children. (grown men now) The two are not mutually exclusive.
And you will discover too late that the world is empty and purpose is in creating a family.
Good luck w that
Why I invested $ in cat food companies.
Every human being should be able to chose his/her main path .. as far as it is possible . I have two adult children, i am a retired active psychiatrist and i totally get it . If you do not want children it is up to you. Do not listen to guilt speech… of course an adult choice goes with dealing the consequences.
My experience of journaling is giving others access to thwart my thoughts and feelings if they find them so I just don't journal and burn the ones I had. There is no safe place to put your thoughts and feelings except quiet prayers. 😢 That being said means anything you say and do will be held against you. It doesn't matter if you even explain why you say certain things it will get twisted. Writing this makes me leary but gotta step into the deep occassionally.
Best part was the Maiden t-shirt!!!
this inspired me to pause the video and go walk, but came back later to finish it!
Get up early - no - that is my passive period - I am active at night - good with lessons but we are all so different wirh different needs.
That's true but the problem with working at night is that you have the whole day behind you. It is easier to get tired, easier to procrastinate and easier to say I did enough. When you wake up early that deep work is the first thing you do, it sets you up right for the day. Also with waking up early it is important to go to sleep early and it is the most stoic thing to do because you control when you go to sleep but it is harder to control when you wake up.
@@bartomiejbrasse6973I am swedish - this seems to be an american "productive" comment. As they say swedes work to live and americans live for work.
@@pereinarolsson3928 Not really. I am Polish-born, leaving in UK. I work full-time job and in the mornings I work on creating comic books. But I've seen a huge improvement in my motivation when I started to do it in the morning than at night. I don't believe having the energy to work on your hobbies is a cultural thing :D
@@bartomiejbrasse6973 No of course not - nothing is static and everything can be changed. For me direction is important. I am coming from farming families since...and born 1957 I am raised in a community fed with the truth that you have to work and work hard. But there is no meaning to run if you run in the wrong direction. When I work with my paintings and my writing it is connected with strong bonds to the farming society where men do not do such things and maybe as a hobby but ABOSLUTELY not as your living. It goes very deep - but can be changed. Good luck with your morning habits - I will stay active in the evening because I am wired like that.
"I don't read the Daily Stoic, that would be weird!" LOL that was funny, but I get what he means; but the Daily Stoic by Ryan Holiday is definitely one of the best books on Stoicism out there.
I walk daily, my journaling now consists of writing down my food intake. The days I fail at it or need to look for escapes or different solutions to my exercise is when I have my son, which is 2 to 3 days a week. And I indeed find It hard to stick to my program on these days. Many of the things you mention require alone time, which I don’t have at these days. But thanks to my regime on the off days, I feel stronger on the days I can’t and I also miss my regime by now, which is the best motivator for me to look for alternatives. And I try not to bash mazelt up over it, but rather try to accept this reality knowing I can do many other things like cooking healthy, enjoy my kid and be there for him. And even then I need some space for myself which is getting less of a challenge now because I’m now trying to do things in parallel. Not always welcomed with open arms by my son, and even that becomes a teachable moment for the both of us.
Absolutely not dissing your good thinking and kind suggestions ... but reading, journalling, and pushing your limits every day is still a routine.
THAAAAAAAAAANK YOUUUU! Someone understanding what means to be a parent and trying to implement the “routine” advise
I like the more approachable style of this vid. Great vid
Discipline gives you genuine freedom.
Fascinating last chapter.
Great video!
I love your Daily Stoic book. So inspiring!
My struggle is how to stack the activities in my day. I thrive in set daily routines and when they glitch, I don't know how to recover and continue.
The routine can be that all the daily practices are completed each day, regardless of when.
That is the perfect daily routine rather than each practice getting done at the same time.
Never give up.
The book that has made my life more agreeable is Meditations by Marcus Aurelius, I have listened to it many times and usually take 15 minutes a day to listen to its reflections, they are like a never ending story that takes me on a trip through my past and present life and gives me fortitude to embrace the future. There is not one day that it does not illuminate my mind and gives calm and clarity. Super bonus : it has no religious anchoring.
I love the #algorithm. Thank you for all the work you've put into the daily stoic and into your life that channels this wisdom so well packaged for fellows like us .
Deep work! The zone🎉
Thank you.
Wow, after all that intensity I need to go take a nap. But I'll be sure to buy all your books and checkout your podcast, email distribution list too.. and whatever else you were trying to sell us.
The thought of people actually being grateful for this absurdity of a sales pitch used to be funny. It has now become... disturbing.
Love your videos
“Principles” by Ray Dalio is a good daily read
Regarding stillness...20 min of meditation per day has been a game changer. The book called 30 Days to Reduce Stress by Harper Daniels was good for mindfulness too.
No excuses 💯
We follow routines to combat chaos.
Again a great video, thank you
“Wing it”
“Do it live”.
-My husband 25/8
You motivate me a lot, THANK YOU FOR THAT!!!
Great video Ryan.
Good to change it up sometimes though!
Omg you’re so lucky to have all your books. I had to go minimal and books are harrrrrrd to move. I love a good library. I miss mine.
Outstanding video. Thank you very much!
Share some love for the vet (veterinarian) $250 may not sound reasonable, but he is offering a service you chose not to undertake. Just be cognizant of him. It is always appreciated.
I needed this video so much in this moments, thank you very much
I have adhd and look past what's most difficult because im the only one stopping myself in the first place.
Thanks for this. I’m on your website and love it.
Love the book suggestions, ❤ thanks.
Sometimes I ask my self how can I own the morning if I finish to work at midnight and by then I haven't eaten yet...
I have a serious question. What if your morning routine is jumbled up so to speak due to a chronic ill illness or disease. It’s really messes up any routine or I’m able to form due to my illness fluctuating daily/hourly and suggest tips or advice would be extremely extremely helpful for those who are disabled and who are trying to do our best here.
"Do them in whatever order you like" 1. Get up early
Yeah Imma do that one last...
“In whatever order” …get up early around 9 am😂
I finally understand my disconnect from Stoicism. Intellectually it makes sense however I have difficulty really "getting" it. But, here on Tube, all the commentary seems to be directed at "go-getter" young men. I'm old and have a totally different situation and set of needs. For instance, I am facing Death sometime soon. I'll have to start reading it myself and ditching the narratives. So thank you for providing me the catalyst for my deeper understanding.
I am not sure what he is talking about is real stoicism.
@@FreeWanderingThinker Maybe that is what I was trying to say. Thank you.
@@kaoskronostyche9939 Welcome! Greetings from Italy!
Cicero says - the disordered need order and the ordered needs disorder. Look in your horoscope and learn from your oppositr sign. I am aires and need to integrate the diplomavy from libra
I try to mentally list 3 things I’m going to accomplish in an ordinary day , and if I accomplish 2 , I guess my batting average is up there with Babe Ruth ??? 3 is like jumping and dancing!
I’m retired, worked long years , and now I have to ask my self many times if I’m in a hurry. Life is is too short to be waisted on unimportant stuff that do not give us a redeemable value. Human being should not be equated with human doing.
Beware the spin....
When all is said and done.
More will have been said than done.
Can you show us a tour of your garden, for 'stoic' gardeners like me.
Lovely video. Thank you.
Of #6, Stafford’s ‘Do the heard thing first’….Mark Twain called that, ‘Eat the frog’….if you have to eat a frog, do that before anything else 😀
The web page you mention has no way to sign up. There's a sign telling us what it's about, then it says "sign up below"... and there's nowhere to sign up. What gives?
8:49 - You missed the sub-title for this section here, I'm guessing it would be "Challenge yourself... with a cold plunge" or something similar...
The only thing I don't get is journaling. What am I supposed to write?
The only thought I have in the morning is "what's for breakfast".
I've sat in front of a blank page many times, and the page has always remained blank.
10 miles Monday through Friday. It’s the hardest thing I’ll do all day. Everything else is easy.
Perfectly stated
Very good advice.
Good stuff Ryan.
I’m glad you started off with getting up early despite stating you could these in any order. Not exactly, getting up early is necessary for any of the others to occur. 🤨😏
You just need to keep moving forward
Great video. You've got some bad audio on your main piece-to-camera though...Noise reduction software or a better mic would remedy it....
that slap at @14:42 was epic. And yes, DO THE MAIN THING - Marcus Aurelius
Thanks for sharing this. It made my day :)
My husband never lets his schedule get blown up. Due to this his personal relationships are all shit. Obsessive compulsive personality disorder - I cannot totally agree with your philosophy. Can become a Lonely, self centered narcissistic life.
What about Short Storys? There are a fair bit longer but lovecraft as an example had a beautiful way to describe things.