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- Опубліковано 5 тра 2012
- This video was originally released on May 7, 2012, on the one year anniversary of my partner Tom Bridegroom's tragic death. It quickly went viral and led to the feature documentary film, BRIDEGROOM, which premiered at the Tribeca Film Festival in April 2013. The film went on to have its television premiere on the Oprah Winfrey Network and is now available on Netflix and iTunes. It has won multiple Audience Awards at film festivals and just recently was awarded the GLAAD New Media Award for Best Documentary.
But it all started with this video. I believe that by sharing our personal stories, we can change the world. May 7, 2014 marks the third anniversary of Tom's death and in his honor I ask that everyone uploads their own videos, photos, or written stories to social media to help inspire others. You may even save someone's life. Use the hashtag #TapTapTap to join the global conversation.
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Wish Tom was here so he could see that Love Wins. It always wins.
clo09d As I see it. Tom did win in the end . =)
Always
+CoRe Blitz Who the hell do you think you are saying that you have no right to even say that if you don't like it keep it to yourself... You're pathetic to think that you feel empowered by telling someone to do such a thing.... You make me sick to my stomach to even thinking that you would say that.. I'm done.. and you're disgusting bye
Alyssa Mathis I reported on CoRe Blitz. But still seeing a young man cry over the loss of love of his life. You can clearly see the pain he is in the video ! How can someone be so unhuman ? And call out nasty names ? What a sad excuse for a person like CoRe Blitz is .
+Alyssa Mathis I know this post is really old but had to comment anyway. U GO BABY👏❤💪 I'm so proud of what you said back to that useless piece of garbage ,bcuz most people just don't speak up for what's right.. my 1st reaction was - *oh I'ma bout to snap on this fool! but then I read what u said & u took the words right outta my mouth. Those ones that are pure evil & heartless like that disgust me. I'm not gay but I'm a firm believer in EQUALITY ,I have unfortunately had to deal with hate due to being in an interracial relationship,& I have 2 bi-racial son's who are now grown men. 19 & 20..but thankfully my son's were raised with enough unconditional love, kindness, & acceptance that when they are faced with the hate & negativity it just rolls right off their backs..They know who they are & they will never allow anyone to make them feel less than or unworthy. Sorry for such a long msg, lol..but just wanted u to know that u did a good thing putting that person in their place. We need more like u who are unafraid to speak their minds standing up for what's right. Stay Blessed & take care sweetheart 👏👏💪💪💚💚
Shame on that family. I wish you all the very best, Shane.
I am a 15 year old gay kid and I just came out. I am SO glad that I have such a supportive group of family and friends. This video makes me realize just how lucky I am. This video also brought me to complete tears. I have never cried so hard in my life, and I'm being serious when I say that. How awful for parents to do that to their child, and even disrespect and disregard the most important person in the child's life. I find it incredibly sickening... People who are homophobic really need to see this video. Well done!! What an inspiring and incredibly moving piece of art!!! How tragic but how inspiring! Good things come from bad things, it's just a matter of perception.
Luke Schermele hi
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You’re 21 now! ❤ I hope you’re continuing to have an amazing life
❤❤❤
Luke Ukemochi, is he all right? And I would marry him how he cries Nick Stalh, Larry Scott, or Kurt Schnedier!
Watching in 2019 and still crying.....rest in peace Tom
I'm a straight black woman and I just watched this documentary on Netflix and I cried through most of it and I'm still crying. Toms parents/family are the most ignorant set of Sob's I have ever come across! I would never disown my child because he/she is gay---that's a sin! You can't help who you are; I'm not black by choice it's the hands I was dealt. Gay, black, white we are all people and I thank you for sharing your story because judging from the viewers you have more supporters than haters :-) so on behalf of all of your supporters whoever has a problem with this video they can kiss your....(you know the rest Shane) mwah!!!!
Kay L well said
Thank you :-)
Kay L Thank YOU Kay, for saying that.
No problem :-)
Kay L, maybe I'm slow, and yes, this message of yours is 3 years old, but why is part of the text marked through so as to obliterate it?
I hadn't cried so much in years. its. like i can't breathe.
I've nevet cried so much in my entire life lol...
Well to a documentary...
prateeq kumar same
prateeq kumar what till u watch the documentary
Gracie_star9 I did. I commented on the trailer after watching it on Netflix.
I saw the documentary on netflix i cried and cried and still feel like crying
I fell the same way thus is so sad 😥
me too 😢😢
diana maldonado I also saw the documentary on NETFLIX a few days ago and i felt the heart. It is very difficult not to feel empathy, much empathy with the story of Shanne and his loss as well as all who have lost their partners, is a situation that personally terrifies me and causes me much sadness :'(
diana maldonado I also saw the documentary on NETFLIX a few days ago and i felt the heart. It is very difficult not to feel empathy, much empathy with the story of Shanne and his loss as well as all who have lost their partners, is a situation that personally terrifies me and causes me much sadness :'(
diana maldonado me too 😭
I just finished watching Bridegroom...my heart will always have a special place for you and Tom, Shane. I am devastated and so sorry for your loss. I'm proud of what you both have accomplished to bring awareness to the LGBT community. Tom's death has brought upon an amazing impact in this world. I love you both very much. May 7th will always be marked on my calendar.
I am 16 and gay and hope that one day my non supportive parents will finally open their eyes and realize I am the way I am I can't change it and that I am proud of it this inspirational story gives hope to every gay,lesbian, and bi person and this tragic story will bring hope to thousands even millions of people for years wish you the best you are amazing for showing how strong you were.
Okay congrats cause I don't give a fuck if you hate gay people c:
***** Why did you feel it necessary to even say that? That same ignorance that you and other homophobes possess is the source of so much hatred and injustice in this world. I really do hope that you may be able to mature someday and retire from that mindset.
Diego Reyes Nice one haha (: I truly wish that your parents will soon realize that you and the rest of the LGBT community are no different than they are. If you ever a fellow gay brother to talk to, then I'm here for you! Best wishes.
Thanks cx
Sorry to hear about your non-supportive parents. Be strong.
Lol you sound dumb a grown ass adult talking bad about a 16 year old and maybe parents should teach their kids not to bully looks like yours clearly have failed in that area.
I saw the movie a few hours ago on Netflix, and I'm still crying.. I am so sorry for what you went through, and I hope that one day I'll find the love that you and Tom had.. I hope that one day I can find a girl and feel what you and Tom had, because that was/is true love❤ I can't even imagine what it must be like to be denied the peace of sending a person you love on their last trip.. But I know from deep in my heart that Tom really loved you, and I know that he will be watching you until you'll meet again on the other side❤
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+Klatyn Welch The Bridegroom
OCT 10 2015, USA. I have lived this, but my 'Tom' did not loose his life because of an accident, He was murdered before my eyes, three homophobes took his life in a minute. I survived but as you said "Life without you it just feels meaningless".
I'm so sorry. Peace & Grace to you .
I am so sorry to hear of your horrific tragedy Carl Mag. Keep the faith and peace come to you as you remember your "Tom".
jesus....IM SO SORRY! I wish we could wave a magic wand and make people UNDERSTAND that LOVE IS LOVE, regardless of gender, skin color, or age. Stay strong, you are not alone. And I know your lover is still, and always will be, with you. Until you are together once again.
I can only say I'm close to you.
Elsa B amen baby!! id give anything to have that magic wand. Truly heartbreaking that so many people still chose to live a life full of hatred, selfishness, greed, & ignorance. I'm really hoping the next generation gets it right , this foolishness needs to stop. Life is way too short to waste it with any of this negativity we all witness today. 😩..we just gotta continue to stand in Faith & Hope things change. Stay blessed & take care ❤❤✝✝
This video changed my life forever back in 2013...THANK YOU SO MUCH! #LoveisLove
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I just so your movie and I couldn't stop crying for the last half hour. The rarest thing on Earth isn't Diamonds,Uranium.Gold or even Unobtanium...its true Love. I am and always will be a hopeless Romantic, maybe because of too many movies or all the years of unrequited love. I know what you are going through. All the love in your heart and the deep sense of loss. Only people who have found their soulmate can ever truly understand.. Stay strong ,stay active and honor him by being the best you can be. Never surrender,it all goes by so fast that before you know it ,its over. All my love and deepest warmth.....Big Hug
Like the others, I came here cause I watched the documentary. I'm just an ordinary guy who wasn't really proud of myself for being gay. I don't have much love in my life. I only have it from my mom and she still doesn't loved the 'real' me yet cause I'm afraid that I will lose her love. I don't really care for being loved or what but when I get older the loneliness just felt so much in me. Somehow I still believe that the one I love will step in my life one day.
Thank you Shane for being strong until we all can see this! I will keep myself positive afterwards. tap tap tap
wonderful share Song Yong true love is unconditional...no matter what and no one can tell anyone else otherwise
Song Yong, thank you for your openness. I know I am a stranger and I do not know the specifics of your situation, but your mom will not stop loving you. She may be waiting for you to share the story of your heart. I hope you experience love and happiness beyond what you can imagine. God loves you always no matter who you love.
I have so much to concern. I wouldn't dare to risk my only love of my life but thanks James Geo & Laura D!
Ugh, sorry for too much emotions these few days.....
no need to be sorry.....youre true friends will always be there, good times or bad
chin up Song Yong you have much to offer this world
I'm a lesbian and came out to my folks , my dad didn't agree with it at first but now he is ok with it. We didn't choose to be gay, we were born this way. I've been through hell and back because of it and I'm strong as ever, yes I found the love of my life we have been together 6yrs and 3 months, just keep your head up everything will work out like it's suppose too
I don't know where to begin. Last night I saw the documentary and I say this with 100% truth. Nothing in my life has had such an impact on me. I never cry to movies or whatever but I was on the floor almost screaming cause of my anger and sadness. I can't even imagine what you went and are going through and it was a long time ago since I felt that bad. I don't have words for how strong you are. You have become my inspiration. You are such a wonderful person and you deserved so much better. I'm lucky that I live in a country where its fully accepted to be gay and that made it a lot easier for me to come out. I don't know if you will read this or not but if you do I just want to say.
You are the strongest human being in the existence. Mental pain is a thousand times worse than physical and I have felt a glimt from what you felt or feel. My mother passed away when I was young but I honestly don't think its even comparable. It would be an honor for me to meet you some day. You have all my love, support and respect.
You are one amazing being. Thank you for sharing this.
Much Love
+David Lindström i agree with you a thousand times..
+Catalepsy You are just another nutcase troll wanting attention. you thrive off our attention when we argue with you. You and your kind have no life.
Don't give this thing our energy. Ignore it.
+Catalepsy What goes around, comes around. You are fucking wrong
+Catalepsy then why are you on this video?
+Catalepsy You're one sick ticket. What's disgusting and wrong is your hatred... and they make you disgusting, too.
I can't speak right now. I am just too sad. I support you. Please remember that. Please.😥
Stay strong! Support from Europe, Slovakia!
Niekedy mám pocit, že sa až bojím pozerať tieto dokumenty, ak si pomyslím na situáciu u nás, našťastie, stále máme väčšiu a väčšiu nádej aj pre nás u nás..., a tieto dokumenty mňa osobne posilňujú.
shane, my son came out to me a year ago...even though I've known since he was 5. my son Tommy was always sad. you could see so much in his eyes but he wouldn't share it. it always frightened me until he found his "Tom" Joe. when I saw him with Joe I knew he was safe...happy...silly...passionately in love. I'm so sad you've lost this and I pray you find another love... be open to it. maybe Tom will guide you to meet the right person. I wish there were words to describe my feelings for you. it's as though you're my son and I'm feeling your hurt keep your chin up and please do a video letting us know how you are doing. I think we all fell in love with you and Tom but now you must go on....don't forget him but don't dishonor him by not finding love again. you know it's what he'd want. love you Shane....
+Michelle Chalifour You're an amazing mother, Tommy is lucky to have you
You are right... We all did fall in love with both of them.... You are an amazing mother and I wished I had a mother like you :)
+Michelle Chalifour Beautiful comments - simply beautiful. To Shane & Tom
+Michelle Chalifour His video is both real and beautiful. To Shane & Tom. If you need an uplifting Pride video, Michael Barbera had sang, "Unstoppable," by Sia with coming out videos.
+PepsiCola thanks to all of you who are saying such sweet things. I'm only a mother who loves her son....as all mothers should. peace to all of you.
Finally got round to watching Bridegroom on Netflix & went to bed in tears last night. I can't believe the way you were shut out by Tom's family after they appeared to accept you both so well together. Things have come such a long way from the initial problems with family rights &, had he not passed away in such an untimely & cruel way, I would love to think that you & Tom would be happily married by now & maybe even with a little one of your own. Wishing you all the love & strength in the world, Shane. #TapTapTap
I cry every single time I revisit this story. I'm so happy you found love and happiness again, but I am sad that Tom is no longer here on this planet with you where he belongs.
I watched your movie "Bridegroom" on Netflix. A beautiful love story... Thank you for sharing it to the world. love and respect from New Zealand
Just two people who loved one another. Pride, fear, and ignorance caused this tragedy. His parents pushed him off that building. Not physically, but mentally. They couldn't cope with their sons choice. They intervened to save face. The death of their son wasn't enough to wake them from their blind prejudice. They continued the hate game even after they buried their son. Now hate will comfort these parents until the day they join their son in the grave.
Watch the documentary Bridegroom,his death was accidentally,Tom was way too happy with his friends and Shane to do that.
@@EricAriel5 Saw the Movie couldn't stop crying!!!Even though it was an accident Tom's Family are the most disgusting people to even in Tom's passing still play the hate game. I was a Catholic & can tell you that I realized a long time ago that all Religions embody & generate Racism, Hate, Bloodshed & all that's written in those so called Bibles is just plain Bullshit.
RIP TOM YOU DON'T HAVE TO KNOCK ON HEAVENS DOOR & TO SHANE KEEP HIS LOVE ALIVE ALONG WITH HIS MEMORY 😢🙏🏼💕❤🧡💛💚💙
It is now September 30, 2021. I still share all these videos. I STILL cry every time. My oldest son is Gay and I made him and his boyfriend write wills in case this happens to them. I pray it never happens to them. Thank you for being a voice. The whole world heard you.
You made a difference and an impact in our community. Im pretty sure tom is proud. God bless your heart 💖
Love and Support from Germany!
man verliebt sich in einen Menschen, nicht in ein geschlecht
***** Kann dir und 14sandra09 nur zustimmen
Und auch nach so langen Jahren ist die Geschichte nicht weniger traurig... Schade das es die Dokumentation nicht mehr in Netflix gibt..
IM CRYING SO MUCH RIGHT NOW
THIS IS JUST NOT OKAY
what is this about?
WATCH IT
wATCH IT AND CRY
whyyyyyyyyy
just tell meh
I already cried a lot yesterday
it's about this guy who had a boyfriend but his boyfriend's parents were anti gay and i won't spoil the rest but I was sobbing
QAQ
Still breaks my heart till this day! I have told hundreds of people about the story of love and loss. To keep Tom alive for us all!
This made me cry alot. I'm so sorry for your lost
This is so raw and powerful, it has changed everything people believe in. I'm so proud of you
Hey Shane, I have been following your story for a while now and would love to say how much you have helped the world and how much good you've done since this horrible situation. I want you to know Tom would be so proud of you and what have accomplished since he went away. And i firmly believe there will be a day where karma will catch up with where Tom's parents are at.
My heart is breaking. I pray you find some peace.
As a father of a gay son and can only say, shame on Tom's parents. I may not like what my kids do, but I will respect and support their choice of life style. Your bring God into this! Yet you judge? Does it say not to judge in the black book you swear by? We have a creator, someday we will all hopefully meet our creator. I just hope I did enough in this life to continue onto the next. Shane, it gets better. Time will heal. You are truly a wonderful young man raised by some fantastic parents! Your the lucky one. Be blessed, not blue, stay true, be you!
Choice? LMFAO!!!
It's not a choice or a "lifestyle".
Being gay is not a choice. That's Religion.
The only CHOICE is to live your life, or hide in fear. One is much easier than the other.
seen the movie 2 times now and im gonna see it again! cried through movie both times... its so sad when 2 people love each other that much this should not be happening! its shouldn't be happening to anyone but they loved life so much when they were together!
I went to the showing of Bridegroom at FVCC last night and when I got to meet you, all I could say was thank you. A friend of mine asked if I really only said thanks and nothing else. I then realized that I had so much more to say to you. The film was beautiful and it really sends the message that life is short, so love. Love more than anything. I laughed, I cried and I felt so much pain for anyone that has gone through this. It makes me look at life through a different perspective. So again, Thank You.
"i guess no ones gonna listen if i don't talk"
Omg that was such a beautiful film. I was in tears.
And Shane you are such an amazing person and I feel so deeply for you loss. Tom will live on forever now. Xx
Geoff Cutler heart loving story
I cried with you for your loss, you had a beautiful relationship. Thank you for sharing your story-
Dear Shane
I am from India and your movie bridegroom has made a lot of changes to my thoughts. Respects for you and your love. Love is common to every one. I will pass on this very much required reminder to everyone I can. You deserve the love and support of the whole world. I don't have words to express all that is crossing my mind. - Niranjani
Just watched your story on netflix and i never cried so hard in my life. I wish everybody could find love like that.....God bless you Shane. I admire your bravery with which you face the world every day.
I am 61 and have just watched Bridegroom again for the second time, I cry every time I see it. I am so so very sorry for the incredibly tragic loss of Tom. To see such true love and friendship was a wonderful thing to witness so thank you for sharing that part of your personal life. I have watched, I have listened and I have learned. Tom would be so very proud of the man you became and keeping his memory alive. Again my deepest condolences.
I dont care which side of the equation anyone is, gay, straight or what ever, this story is about true love and equal rights. Stay strong Shane, your making progress and the tides will change.
I remember watching this back when it first came out. You've come far, proud.
I remember watching Shane's video way back in 2011. It seems like the dark ages back then and it was only 10 years ago. Tom would be so proud of you and what you've done. But nothing will ever replace the pain of losing him. So sad that you lost someone you loved soooo much.
Here after watching the documentary. It made me cry so hard. Rest in peace, Tom. 🙏
You were amazing! Thank you so much for coming to Cambridge Friends School, it meant a lot to everyone there.
RESUMEN EN ESPAÑOL:
Tom (quien crecio en Indiana) y Shane (quien crecio en Montana) estuvieron juntos por seis años, empezaron un negocio, compraron una casa y viajaron alrededor del mundo juntos. Luego de 5 años, decidieron contarles a sus familias que estaban juntos. La familia de Shane se alegro porque él habia encontrado el amor de su vida, en cambio, los padres de Tom se indignaron. Cuando Tom viajo a Indiana para navidad, el padre lo amenazó con un arma y lo ataco fisicamente. La madre le dijo que la homosexualidad era una enfermedad, y lo culpó a Shane por hacerlo gay. Le dijo, también, que tendria que haberle dicho antes, asi encontraban ayuda medica.
Tom, volvio a su casa, ya dejando atrás Indiana.
Luego de dos años se comprometieron y prometieron que se iban a casar cuando esto sea legal. Tom le dejó una carta, diciendole lo siguiente:
" Feliz Navidad! Con amor, Tom.
Gracias por todo tu amor, estaria tan perdido sin ti, tengo el presentimiento que el 2011 cambiará nuestras vidas para siempre! Te amo siempre y para siempre, Tom."
Tom tenia razon, el 7 de mayo de 2011 él falleció. El dia de la madre, su madre viajo para llevarse el cuerpo a Indiana, aunque Tom ya no consideraba mas ese lugar como su casa. Mientras esperaban que el forense liberara el cuerpo, la madre le pregunto a Shane por sus cuentas bancarias y le sugirio que pagara el funeral y el traslado hasta Indiana. Tambien se llevo cosas de Tom. Apenas le entregaron el cuerpo, la madre se fue rapidamente. Le dijo a Shane que lo mantendria al tanto, pero nunca mas supo de ella.
Shane hizo planes para viajar a Indiana y asistir al funeral, pero recibio una llamada de un miembro de la familia de Tom diciendole que él no era bienvenido. Fue advertido de que el padre de Tom y su primo tenian planeado un ataque apenas se presente en el lugar. Por su seguridad, decidió no ir. No fue ni siquiera mencionado en "el memorial" (donde hacen un resumen de la vida del fallecido), aún siendo la persona mas importante en la vida de Tom. Solamente lo amaba.
Cuando sus familiares y amigos expresaron su indignación, los padres de Tom dieron de baja la página. Para ellos, Shane no existia. Y para el gobierno, ellos eran "novios" o "amantes".
El fue al hospital para saber más sobre lo que habia pasado, pero no le dijeron nada porque no tenia ningun derecho, para eso tendria que contactar a los padres de tom.
Para Shane, Tom era su familia. Aun teniendo un negocio y una hipoteca juntos, no tenia ningun derecho legal para ser informado sobre la muerte de Tom o los eventos acontecidos.
De haber tenido los derechos para casarse, todo hubiera sido diferente. "Perder un amor es suficientemente doloroso, pero tambien ser insignificante legalmente lo hace aun peor"
Después de un tiempo, volvio a verlo.. en el cementerio.
"Tenemos que tomar partido por la igualdad y promover la tolerancia. No dejes que el miedo o el bullying te detengan a luchar por la igualdad. Compartan sus historias, y amen a quienes quieran amar. Cualquiera sea tu orientacion sexual, te ruego que tomes los pasos necesarios para cuidarte a vos y a la persona que amas. El tiempo es ahora, si crees en (traduccion) #IgualAmorIgualesDerechos por favor comparte este video"
Espero que les sirva, la verdad es que me tomé el trabajo porque siento que todos deben saber lo que cuenta esta historia, realmente triste e injusta, para crear consciencia. Besossss!
mery cor chica,gracias,demuestras mente abierta haciendo la traduccion,siento mucho lo de tom y si,deberia haber igualdad,no puedo creer que alguien de verdadeste de acuerdo y le parezca bien lo que les ha pasado a estos pobres chicos,haber si asi se crea conciencia y dejan de hacer tan dificiles las adopciones para l@s homosexuales,debrian tenerlos mismos derechos,gracias por leer esto y eso,luchad por vuestro amor
Gracias por tomarte la molestia!!! :):)
SHADOW SNAKE Carlos Colomer Adrii Fantubee de nadaaa! :)
Después de la carta como continua?
Andrius Asen el fallece, lo puse todo :) apreta en el boton q dice leer mas
Michelangelo wrote sonnets: "True love is not a passion which can die, or which depends on beauty that must fade, nor is it subject to a changing face."
Here it is, July, 2022, and I have just finished watching this movie Bridegroom. I simply don't know where to begin. My very soul cried, and felt every ounce of your pain. Even as I'm writing this, my tears are falling.
The woman I considered my wife passed away in 2017. We were together 14 years, and we loved each other beyond the depth of our souls. I am so very happy that you were fortunate enough to have experienced such a deep, profound love. I wish you only the best, and I hope and pray that love finds you again. Sending you hugs and love from the heartland.
I am so very sorry for your loss Shane. You and Tom were absolutely beautiful together. I am disgusted with the way Tom's parents treated you. To me, it is absolutely reprehensible to not only come into the home you both shared together and act the way they did, but to threaten you into not going to his funeral is unforgivable. When are people going to stop being so narrow minded and ignorant? Like you said, maybe something good can come of this terrible tragedy. Keep fighting sweetheart. There are more people behind you than you know.
I literally came straight here after I watched the documentary as I was crying my eyes out.
It's almost one year since same sex marriage was legalized in the USA, you've done it! I wish you the best, and I hope you find what you're looking for.
i just wanna say thank you, it's 2016 and I just watched your documentary, it brought tears to my eyes.....
I am gay and i was so afraid to accept it... after watching your documentary I realized that it's ok to be me, it's ok to love, its ok to be loved..... you have know idea how much my life has change since I watch it.... it changed the way I see things.... it changed me.... hope you keep on dreaming.... i just wish nothing but the best for you.... thanks for teaching me how to love myself... and how to love other.... thank you Shane.. and thank you Tom.... R.I.P.... you are the greates love of all times .... thank you so much for changing my life and let it me know that I can be loved too.....
Good for you Walter. It's funny how movies can help with the process of self-acceptance for gay youth. For me it was the Merchant & Ivory film Maurice (1987) that helped me to realize the tyranny of the closet when I saw it in 1988. A year later I came out to my parents, and after their shock subsided, they came to accept my sexual orientation. A couple years later I started living with the love of my life Lansing Wagner. We've been together 26 years now and just passed our 9th anniversary of legal marriage. Fortunately, we never have had to deal with the kind of homophobia Shane and Tom did. Take care of yourself and best of luck in life and love. Steve K.
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Shane, I just now saw your story and it broke my heart. And through a bit of sleuthing I see that you have found love again 🥰
this seriously has me in tears right now.. how could the world have gotten this awful.. how can people be so cruel.. all we want is the right to love who we want to love, and when we arent given that right, this is the kind of stuff that happens.. peoples lives are ruined, hearts are broken, and scars are left that'll probably never heal..
I couldn't agree more. It seems to me that people is going crazy! It's just a matter of respect and tolerate the other....
Sending good thoughts to you from Cleveland, Ohio on this incredibly sad 10 year anniversary. Stay strong and remember that the legacy that has been left is a message of hope, promise, and love.
Kudos to you for staying strong, Shane! Loved the documentary film, Bridegroom. The Bridegroom family can't hide any longer. It's shameful what they did with the monument for their son. Godspeed, Shane!
It's been 5 years. I saw this video when it went viral, 9 months after the love of my life died from an accident, after lingering 3 days in the hospital. I was banned from the hospital and her home by her family, told I would be arrested if I came. They sold her beautiful things in a garage sale. They killed her dogs. There was no funeral or memorial. I was so broken I could not even try. Then this video went viral and I counted up the time. I can happen. It did happen. August 22, 2011. Today I finally got up the nerve to watch Bridegroom on Netflix, even though I knew it had been out for years. You did a beautiful thing, Shane.
Omg I'm so sorry
I am straight and I know this is wrong. Even if you don't agree with certain lifestyles for any reason, you don't stand in between two people and their love. What people do with each other doesn't harm us in anyway. They had love and people tried to destroy it. I am a teenager and even I know this is wrong. I am a Christian and I believe these men deserve every right that a man and a woman get. I'm heartbroken. I hope no one else suffers the way you do. I honestly had to hold back tears.
Dear Shane, I'm a 14 year old girl. When I saw the documentary I went crazy crying because I saw the love you two had. This is a reason why I was never against the homosexuals, I am for the homosexuals. I feel your pain, it's not easy loosing the person you love with sell your heart especially since you and Tom shared a home, a dog and a business and have been with each other for almost 6 years. Nobody could beat the love you two had for one another. I'm am totally on your side. Not because I feel bad but because I support you 100%. Me and Tom shared the same birthday. I was born Thursday, April 22, 1999. Tom will always live in our hearts forever. Sincerely, Janice Jimenez
Shane,
I just watched your wonderful documentary for your love, Tom. I'm so sorry for your loss. I've been with my husband for 11 years and I can't imagine a day without him. Your documentary of course left me in tears. You have shown amazing tributes for your boyfriend through artistic expression and just genuine true love. you'll always miss him but he knew how much you loved him. His hateful parents may never come around, but that's ok. Tom knew. and you knew. You all will always have that. True, genuine, soul mate loves. 💕💕💕💕 keep pushing. keep creating. keep Tom's light shining. thank you for sharing and including the public in your life.
I know it's been a few years since this was posted but I just came across your movie & aside from crying the whole time I wanted to say you both are beautiful. You hold all the memories, photos, videos, experiences etc that Tom's family can never take away from you. They should be ashamed with themselves. You are incredible man. Much love 💜
Shane, I don't know if you are seeing this, but I just want you to know that you are a huge inspiration to me and to many other people. I hope that things get better for you ....❤
This made me so sad, I support you in every way, stay strong Shane.
Tap tap tap.
I am watching this video now, it is october, 25th 2015. I am crying so much, I am really sorry for what you have been trough! It is really not fair to you, or to Tom. His family is so, I don't even know what to say!!! I am so angry with them and so sad for you both! I don't know you or Tom, but I am crying so badly right now! I am so so sorry!
+Marina Kaljević You should watch the full documentary Marina. It is on UA-cam.
+ronnie rodriguez link?:)
And netflix :)
My friend sent me the link to Bridegroom, and I thought it was very moving. People need to learn to accept everyone, because love is love. I wish you all the luck and happiness in the world for your future life endeavours.
This changed my life, for sure.
same here
I have just watch the movie. I knew that I would be crying and almost the entire movie I did. This movie is so so relevant to the fight that the community is fighting for. Thank you for this.
“No one will listen if I don’t talk”. And boy did they ever listen! Thank you for all that you’ve done under such tragic circumstances. God bless you and I hope you live a long and happy life.
It's Christmas day 2013, my partner is with his family for Christmas and I picked this up from a Red Box. I will never forget this day or this movie. Stay strong Shane!. Your story was amazing.
I just watched Bridegroom, it's so touching. I've been with my boyfriend for 8 years now and I just don't imagine life without him. I'm truly very sorry for your loss, but I'm at the same time glad you decided to share your story. We can't take anything or anyone for granted, we gotta live life and love to the fullest. Thank you.
Today November 11th, 2015 I watched Bridegroom and saw this UA-cam video right after. This has touched my heart in so many ways and I have a greater depiction of what Love really is through Shane & Tom. This really made me feel like I knew them from long time ago and is such a sad tragedy how it played out. May his soul R.I.P and be encouraged in the midst of it all. #WhoFightsAgainstLove
it been nearly three years and this video got me still. i almost commited to suicide after a heart broke, being gay and deprssion. i was cry like a baby each time i watch this clip. we should have be friends and i wishi could to talk to you and help me thru this hell.
Hey, I'm sorry to hear that you're hurting. Feel free to reply back to me if you need someone to talk to. I would even talk to you on the phone if you needed. You're not alone in this world and I want to help any way that I can. ❤
its a nice of you to respond back to my message and willing to listening to me. its mean a lot to me to understand that i am not alone on this planet. i dont know how to start tbh. i feel like i am not belong here. its must be a mistake by somehow. i wish i could just disappear. after a heart broken i felt like i am not worthy to be loved and priceless. Oh well i am so sorry i might talk too much. i shouldnt do that. sorry. im speechless now.
YOU ARE LOVED. Never forget that. Your struggles and your pain will not last forever. Believe in yourself.. I am available to talk to at any time.
i used to believe that but im kinda gave up now. its a nice of you to respond to a stranger like me. thank you so much . its mean a lot to me.
Do not give up! Please answer me ! At least hearing what I'm saying!
My Dearest Shane,
My husband and I just got done watching your Documentary on Netflex an we found it moving beyond belief. 'We both cried"!!! We want you to know that your in our payers and in our hearts. We are so happy that you have your family's support, not a lot of young adult do as we have seen first hand and now on here, in Tom case. We are grateful that you have stood up for yourself as well as Tom. For we all see that norman&martha have not. We want you to know if by any miracle you actually get a chance to read this, We stand up for You and Tom and the love you shared.
"God Loves you and very person that he has created, His love is not divided"!!!
After watching the Bridegroom film, I was in tears for hours. It made me realize that we are all human no matter how we turn out. I am a devoted Christian and believe that being gay is sin, but after watching this and the documentary has changed my views, and I am happy to say that everyone deserves equality. This video should be recommended to Phil Robertson.
Last night I saw your documentary on Cuban Television.
Even years later the message has the same force.
Love is a force of nature and cannot be defeated!
Thanks, Shane!
Raymond from Havana.
24 September 2020
I just watched your documentary on Netflix and I loved it so much... I literally cried the whole time.. I'm so sorry for your loss.. it must be hard going on everyday knowing you can't have the person you love anymore 😢😢😢 I fully support you and I only wish the best for you... love is love and I totally support you and I hope everything is going well always in my prayers Shane love you 💞
I just watched your documentary and when I tell you I've never cried like this before! My boyfriend is in basic training and I miss him even more than ever. My prayers go out to you Shane!
I've been watching the film Bridegroom all afternoon. I can do about 15 minutes at a time it is just too painful to watch.
I am so sorry for your loss Shane. My sister lost two long term boyfriends and even though I would never know her pain, I know first hand how events like this shape a family and I saw what the pain did to her.
All I can say is that I am so grateful to be living in the UK - yes equal marriage has only just been passed, but we have had Civil Partnerships which offers identical legal protections for many years and even before Civil Partnerships there were de facto laws that would recognise a partnership of any unmarried couple, gay or straight, that lived together for two years or more. You would have been his next of kin in the UK. I cannot understand why America is called The Land of the Free.
It is only free if you are white, Christian and heterosexual. Its heavily caveated.
There is no way that you could have been shut out like this in Britain. I hope that one day no gay or straight person on this planet will have to go through what you went through.
I have just watched the film on Netflix and I thank you for your beautiful, fair, heartbreaking and charming movie. I am turning 60 years this year and I so proud that my beautiful daughter will marry her love Julie, because the people of Ireland voted and passed the referendum allowing same secx marriage. Haing been brought up in a catholic country where Christs love was preached but not lived and Church rule dominated and abused Irish citizens, up until now. I am so happy knowing that my daughter and other loving same sex couples have the same rights as all loving couple. Love is the only way.
This is something that nobody deserves. The tragedy of losing the love of your life and having to deal with the shit that their relatives and family cause is extremely devastating. Shane if you are reading this, please remember that you don't deserve this. This pain and the way you've been treated. It's their fault. They are extremely heartless and unaccepting, and it's not tolerable. I hope that you are alright and that the pain would ease, even though unfortunately never completely vanish. You are a strong man, and you will get through life no matter how hard it seems. Even after five years. I'm a sixteen-year-old gay boy, and Bridegroom was absolutely the most heartbreaking thing I've ever seen. I couldn't help but cry when you made a video to Tom and told him you bought a ring for him.
I really do wish you all the best. Tap Tap Tap.
Shane I just saw the documentary of your love on netflix. It led me to here(I'm writing this while crying omg) Thomas and you have inspired me... Toms parents are just like mine... They know I'm gay but I live in the fear of them and they act like I'm not... I'm in love with someone and idk if I will ever be able to tell them.. These true events have inspired me.. I'm just speechless... Tom lived the life I want having small acting rolls, running off to Cali, and falling in love. I hope to have all that and your guy's love have inspired me.. You guys don't me but I love you guys for making me relies this
Shane, I have said it so many times. We have heard you, the world has heard you and since you have made this video our country has listened. After 33 years with my partner I finally proposed to him. At the time (his birthday 10-5-14) only 19 states had legalized same sex marriage and in just days, and I mean days later, the jump of states that legalized same sex marriage went from 19 states and as of today,10-26-20014, 32 states and District of Columbia are recognizing same sex marriage. So, WE HAVE LISTENED and I want to personally thank you! Shane, you should be so proud that you had a part in this.
Wonderful movie, it's impossible not to cry with such a love history. I'm in tears here.
Hey Shane. Thanks for the documentary just know, Tom loves you a lot, even today and he's proud of you for what you're doing ♥️. You two are a role model to a lot of people.
Shane I just wanted to send to you my Aloha, I am a straight Mother of four and grandma to six. Just this month I stood up for Equality for all because it is right thing to do. Hawaii is the 15th state to pass Marriage Equality! I was able to watch Bridegroom. You never once said any derogatory thing about Tom's Parents and I applaud you for that, this speaks to the Beautiful Character that you are. I cannot even conceive of what you went through...I love you
It hurts me so much just to watch the entire video... and yet you have to bear it every single day of your life. I am so sorry for your loss, and I support equality in marriage.
God blessed you with Tom. I saw today's the documentary and was the most beautiful tribute that I can't imagine. God love you and, love Tom still now. Embrace His love and you will free. My love; my Christian love to you and your family.
2023 brought us here. Thank you for sharring your story. Sorry for your loss.
I cried. It's so brave that you shared your story. We will always fight for equality, this has to stop. Even though I don't know you, I really feel your pain and I'm very proud of you. Stay strong! ♥
I just saw your movie.... I'm going to say I was a little scared of watching it, but I'm glad I did... It Brought me to tears and so many emotions... Thank you very much for doing this... I also have this Tap, Tap, Tap with my boyfriend.... :,) now planning on getting married. Hope one day you and Tom see each other again .... never let go...
You and Tom will allways remain in my heart. A lot of love from Germany! Together we are strong
I have just watched your UA-cam message after watching Bridegroom on Netflix and both broke my heart. My partner died suddenly 18 months a go after being together for 41 years and with the love and acceptance of both our families. Whilst we never got around to having a Civil Partnership we did both make wills but like you I had no rights at all. I couldn't even register his death. I hope you are finding strength from all the love and respect your story has provoked. I am 70 now and have had the love of my life, you are still young and whilst you will never replace yourTom I feel sure you will love again and that he will guide you to it.Love and thank you for sharing your story. David, Nottingham, UK
I'm only twelve an Completely understand your relationship with him. People ask me why I love lady gaga so much. They tell me she is dumb because she is bi I ask them, " why does it matter?" they tell me, " it is a sin! hey will go to hell" i tell them to watch "bridegroom" 99% of them understand now. Black and
whites all over again. You can fight through this Shane. I love you.
I don't see how anybody can dislike this! My condolences Shane. Tom's family outa be ashamed of themselves.
I will be 55 years old soon and, not to hurt anybody near me, I chose to be alone instead of being with another man. The only one hurting is me but at my age it does not hurt so much anymore. I just watch Bridegroom on Netflix and it touched me. He is, and will always be near you Shane. Never change, be yourself and celebrate his life through yours. I envy what you had and, in a way, what you still have with him. Always take care.
I watched the full documentary and It Could Happen to You, It touched my heart very deeply. I feel for Shane. I lost the absolute love of my life December 22, 2017. 28 years. Just like Shane and Tom, we traveled a lot and a few times to Europe. This was my story, except mine and Kevin's families accepted our love. Thank you so much for sharing.
Shane, be strong! you are not alone, we support this.
Shane I want to tell you, that I'm very sorry for your lost I watched your documentary and it made me realized how important it is to show your love to your partner, my bf and I have been thru some arguments lately, but thanks to you and Tom, now I cherish every moment I have him near me, school, days off from work, weekends, etc. and I also came out to my family. I'm sure that he is heaven waiting till the day you guys finally meet again. Greetings & Blessings for you and your love ones from Mexicali, México ♥
I just saw your documentary on streaming. It broke my heart. I laughed. I cried. You guys had a special connection. Hope your heart finds healing. I can only hope to find that. I thought I did once.
Thank you so much for sharing your story! I just saw the documentary and your UA-cam video for the first time. Thank you for reminding me that love is possible, that LOVE is LOVE! I wish you all of the happiness in the world!