Hahaha, but the difference is we ignore those "pesty" emails and you actively look for her. Are you someone obsessed with those emails thinking you will "win the sweepstakes" ? Let's really make your analogy stick.
As someone who was severely stalked by an ex, to the point I had to file a restraining order, change my number & socials… her still speaking of her ex triggers me to no end. Poor faline. I’m sorry, but ALR is vile for this. Idc.
Its the fact that she herself said a friend had to step in and tell her to leave faline alone and she still continues to talk about her when its VERY CLEAR she DOES NOT want amber to continue to talk about her is so weird like please get a damn grip amber and leave these ppl alone!!
Amber is like a toxic friend I wanna cut off lol. At some point you’ve just GOTTA stop talking about your ex. Girl you’re tired, we’re tired, Wifey’s in the witness protection program. Give it a rest.
I actually did end a friendship recently for a similar reason lol. I had a friend who struggled with boundaries and I was BEGGING her at the end to stop talking about this man she had been seeing (never even official). She wouldn’t stop. I heard she’s back with him and I couldn’t be happier I don’t have to hear about it.
It's sad how she feels like anything she enjoys can't be enjoyed without a partner. First Christmas in a new state? There's so much to do besides buying crap for an SO. Local Christmas markets or craft fairs, driving around looking at lights, parades or gingerbread house displays, local coffee shops to visit with seasonal flavors, plays, Christmas drag shows (what about events in this thriving gay community?), or volunteering and meeting new people. Heck, this is her first Christmas with her family in years. Help your mom decorate and bake cookies, have a Christmas movie marathon. I don't have family and Christmas is a neutral holiday for me (not religiously important, it wasn't fun growing up), but I love spending time with my people and taking it all in. The great thing about being a whole adult is you get to make your own traditions and celebrate however you want. ... And I feel like Mama Lynn is gonna run out of stuff to do with kids eventually.
she limits herself whitch limits her more. She doesn't want to be seen because she knows she judges fat people too. She can't have any more real life "beanbag in a hurry" molments.
And this is a PERFECT chance to start again. New place, new apartment, new people! She can just make all new traditions with the people in her life now, it’s a shame she doesn’t see that opportunity. It would be very healing I imagine!
Girl be real.... Christmas is a lot of work! I remember when Destiny decorated. Becky decorated and Im sure Faline did all of the decorations. Gorl just doesn't want to do all that work!!!
Right! I mean even I am tired after all of it. I always have my husband help put up the tree because I can’t reach the top! It’s okay to admit you need help smh. Idk why she can’t ask her MOM
I wish she would adopt a local family for Christmas. She could find a family with little kids and buy a new toy for them daily. Would be great vlogmas content.
Orphanages if they exist there would be better. Provide things for a bunch of kids with almost nothing. Some gifts could be toys, some could be practical like blankets and warm clothes. Find out what the places are in need of by asking the people who run them
How sad is it that she thinks that just because she has no one romantically in her life she can't enjoy Christmas? Like she is literally so boring that other than buy presents for someone that she's dating she cannot think of anything else to do. I can't believe it. There's so many kids or animals that she can help with that money and still shop and there's just a million things to do around the holidays if you have the money for it, which we all know she does.
Considering her background are their not foster homes, or whatever it is over there they have where they have orphaned children waiting to be fostered or adopted that should could donate gifts or blankets or food or whatever to if having someone to buy things for at Christmas is so important to her. But she wouldn’t, because she buys partners gifts to buy their love and commitment not because she actually wants to give. Children in orphanages or whatever can’t give her anything in return so she’s not interested
Honestly that’s such a good point. With her being such an “empath” you’d think she’d be buying stuff for foster homes or look into donating toys or donating pet supplies to her local animal shelter.
She does follow doctors’ instructions. For like, two days. Until she remembers that she’s smarter than any of her doctors, and also that getting better would require a modicum of effort.
so glad she got the chom chom roller. it’s so great for getting pet hair off furniture and carpet. girlie could turn to filling out local animal shelter wishlists. she’d still get that joy of shopping and gift giving
One of, if not THE major LGBT safe areas in the south is in Lexington. She just didn’t LEAVE HER DAMN BEDROOM. She’s so absolutely stupid to think there ARENT people who can simply GOOGLE these things and find them, thus proving her lies. She acts as if the rest of the world can’t possibly have lived in Lexington 🤡
When I heard Pookie -Lynn was not doing Vlog-Mas this year I cancelled all my plans, no decorating my new place, no travel , no shopping, new clothes or Holiday treats. She's so depressed about Wipey, how can I enjoy myself? ...Let me stop before a lightening bolt comes through the window....
Well if you’ve cancelled your plans then I have to now too. I can’t possibly enjoy it if you’re not. Look what wifey has done, now none of us can enjoy it 😂😂
she’s crying bc she can’t be alone. the insta rando didn’t work out so she’s crawling back to wanting feline. she thought feline would take her back, but Feline wants nothing to do with her. Once someone else hits her up in the DM‘s we’ll never hear the terms Bambi or feline again. she is honestly just waiting for somebody else to manipulate into moving to wherever she is, and being her caretaker 😬😙
I was listening to your video while doing dishes, not watching the screen, and when I heard her playing that one game where she was hitting the button repeatedly I thought to myself “I bet Zach is getting their groove on to this beat” then I looked at the video and THERE YOU WERE giving us a lil performance 👏😂😍 love you bestie please never change 🫶🏻
The constant crying on camera while talking about how she’s not going to talk about her ex is such a transparent attempt to guilt Faline. Every time she breaks up with someone, she needs them to know how lonely she is without them, and that they should feel fucking horrible about breaking her heart.
I don’t think she’s getting help for her bpd. I think she’s watching a lot of bpd tiktok and learning new terms that way. It seems like she puts a lot of self worth into being in a relationship so I get her being alone would be hard for her. I also roll my eyes hard at her crying for wifey when she fell so hard/fast for the other person as well. I don’t think she really loved them as much as she loved being loved by them.
A lot of churches have “Angel trees” and you can get a tag off the tree and buy christmas gifts and necessities for people that really need it. She should do that for vlogmas. Would actually be doing something really meaningful with her money and it’s was Christmas is really about anyway is giving in that spirit
As someone with bpd this video was my last straw into Amber's universr for a while. Ther is so much stigma around this illness i can't even talk about it irl because in my country mental illnesses are not taken seriously at all. Even my family won't accept my diagnosis, even after it led to me almost d*ing last year. she should be thankful to live in a place where she can talk about it so openly ane having people rootinf for her, instead she choose the "i can't handle anything bc I have bpd" choice adding only negativity to our already misunderstood community. Also, she definitely learned the "favorite person" thing online and the funny thing is it doesn't even happen to every single person with BPD. to me you weren't mean Zack, i would've been way less nice.
I also have BPD and completely agree. The fact that she has the money for DBT and all the time in the world but still hasn’t started it really shows what kind of person she is.
I don't have BPD but am in mental health recovery with many people who do. Some of the BPD peeps are the kindest, most loyal and caring people I have met. They struggle everyday with how difficult their lives are and still come out being decent, insightful humans. When I first came into mental health recovery they gave me some education on personality disorders and one of the first things they said about BPD was "5 of 9 means 256 possible presentations of these very broad categories". I have seen people very unwell and being very destructive but it is usually to themselves more than others and really heart breaking.
this video was so triggering for me, not Zack but amber. I couldn’t believe her saying when she announced her BPD diagnosis. She said she wouldn’t use it as an excuse, and she was embarrassed to mention it. Now she is talking about how BPD is the reason shes isn’t over wifey. she watched a few tiktoks and learned the words and now theyre her excuses. it’s too much, i agree with you i can’t handle her continuing to stigmatize bpd.
I mean really and truly, gorl hasnt experienced a 'normal' breakup where she is alone after with her thoughts. She always just got another gorl. This is giving me teenager first heartbreak for sure.
I don't think her being told she has bpd (regardless if she does) was good for her because I can just feel the way she watching hella bpd tik toks and letting that inform what happening to her life. It's giving how she was mustard veggie if that makes any since lmfao.
I think she’s being this extra about not wanting to decorate for Christmas as a way to hopefully get sympathy from wifey and in her mind thinking she might can get her back because maybe she will watch it and feel so bad for Amberlynn and call her. I feel like she has to have a bigger reason and using it as a manipulative tactic sounds 1000% like Amberlynn
Just wanting to let you know, Zach, that I used this video for comfort as I decided to unclog my sink ( 😖 naaaaasty, but I find your commentary soothing and funny/distracting!) & do some chores around the house to have it cleaned for upcoming Thanksgiving. 🎉 Thank you!
complains about being swollen and bloated. later on garlic salt, gatorade (essentially salt water intended for people who sweat a lot and are physically active), and super salty cheese balls.
she always has a new disorder to explain why things are harder for her than anyone else. and that her experiencing heartbreak is unique to everyone else in the world.... like.. being sad about a breakup esp if you are lonely and have no friends is going to be depressing, this isnt bc of "bpd"
It's hard to have empathy for someone that complains about swelling in the morning, but then gorges on Mexican food (who knows how much) and then 560 calories of sodium-laden cheese balls (plus who knows what else) at night. Get some help, Amber. Plus, i don't know why they switched to the cans, but when i was a kid, we had cheese balls in a can but it was fatter, not tall like Pringles.
I recovered from bpd with therapy and all I could think of when she said Faline is her favorite person was great, she is going to milk this so hard and blame everything on her bpd instead of using context for the situation. 🙄😒
I also have BPD, so I’m very understanding when it comes to the type of emotions ALR is feeling right now, but the fact that she knows she has these issues and knows she could be treating them with DBT but hasn’t even attempted to do so, that bothers me. Feline set a clear boundary, but Amber hasn’t even *tried* to follow it- she’s just using her BPD diagnosis as an excuse, instead of using it to inform her treatment and become a better person.
As someone who struggled to get over their ex 6-8 months after the split, Half of me understands her pain; the other half not. But there has to come a time when "enough is enough". You can't force something to happen, period. If it didn't work out, it didn't work out. It's very very VERY rare for people to be able to remain friends after a romantic relationship (I.E New partners, Jealously, Old feelings brought up etc.) The situation with mine was different than ALR's, He cheated on me and refused to accept the fact he did even when I got screenshots. It varies from person to person, situation to situation. But I finally threw away all of our stuff and cut the ties. I said my final goodbye and we're blocked from all platforms. Some people are just not meant to be, even if you want it to be. Amber, You really just need to accept the fact you both will never see/talk to each other again. You'll be so much happier. How she's still trying to paint this victim card is beyond me, Especially after the way she treated Becky like her personal butler & taking advantage of her love and kindness, I have no empathy towards her. Her own actions caused it. She pushed Faline away, No one else. How are you going to sit under the same roof and tell this woman you love some instagram troll, most likely, that you love her and want to try poly? That's like a spit in the face. I don't blame Faline for not wanting anything to do with her. She took what she had for granted and now she's realizing it; is what I'm getting from it. Move on Amber, Maybe the next wifey you get you won't treat like gum at the bottom of your shoe. & I also was diagnosed with BPD and quit using that as a scape goat. That's not an excuse to be a shitty person. Grow the f**k up. You're in your 30's. Your priorities should be more than just a relationship, Why not your health, mental health and happiness? Nothing wrong with being alone for a while.
That end bit is so real. She needs to realize that to be happy she has to find it within herself, NOT from a partner, shes never gonna be actually happy if shes constantly basing her happiness on praise from multiple ppl being "in love" with her.
This wifey situation is very concerning bc it’s clear she needs actual help. It’s crazy she’s still acting like it’s the first day they broke up idk if her BPD is making it this difficult she needs to start trying to treat it. I wonder if wifey has seen any of this bc I’d be weirded out
i think its so "bad" because she genuinely hasn't been single for more than 2 weeks in the past decade. Every girl is the one shes "gonna marry" but she forgets about them so fast because she immediately gets with the next girl who shes "actually in love with" and has "never felt love like this" before etc etc ....
@@bribri2367 100% she did, she went from heartbroken over wipey to flirtlynn in 2 seconds. it was only after insta gorl broke her heart 2 weeks later that we entered the second (and current) phase of double heart break lol and she will stay heartbroken until she falls in love with another girl who she's going to marry lol
Of course why do u think jade move out an amber pretending jade sleeping on the floor lol. She was sick of it. Also I don't think jade was jealous of new girl she annoyed with amber. I know amber try to cry on jade shoulder after break up an rub it in her face when she did meet the other person ( like she did Becky) soon amber thinks shes in a new relationship she will treat u like whole bucket of shit
She says Faline was her most favorite person in the world but then admitted like two vlogs ago that she was constantly picking Insta girlie over Faline??? PLS she's so manipulative.
Seeing her literally not being able to function without a love interest is depressing. Our gorl needs to unpack that shit in therapy cause this behavior is not normal for her age 🤢
She learned the BPD language by watching Life Plus Cindy. She doesn’t have a girlfriend to take the personality of so she must be watching Cindy and mirroring her.
Idk it seems like shes throwing a tantrum because she really thought they would be besties and wifey would come back to her. So i feel like shes doing this in order to get to wifey. Amberlynn is over 30, she only spent 2 christmases with wifey, so it doesnt make sense to me why she would feel like she cant do vlogmas because shes not with wifey anymore. She should just make this christmas about herself.
Why does a single woman in a tiny, non smoking, newly deep cleaned luxury apartment need TWO bottles of Febreze? Is she not taking Twinkie out enough? Are the poor cats forced to use filthy boxes? Why does it reek?
I think it’s partly because she overbuys/hoards. Secondly, last time she was near this size she admitted (eventually) that she couldn’t really shower. It may not be the animals that smell.
In no way was your criticism of Amber not dealing with her mental health and processing her """trauma""" around the breakup too harsh; I'd say you were way too light on her. She's using BPD as a shield. It's her new binge monster: "you can't judge my toxic behavior and borderline stalking of my ex because I have BPD" She got her terminology from folks like Cindy and Trisha Paytas and is just imitating them. I can't stress enough that she's acting brand new with the BPD and like she's dealing with this world-shaking realization on her own, but she admitted that she's had the diagnosis for a while and just ignored it; it's likely why her therapist during the WLS arc told her to work on emotional regulation, which she completely blew off and is continuing to blow off because "I can't help it you guise it's my mentulz" She is just using her BPD to perpetuate the stigmatized view of folks with BPD and I think she should get more criticism for it, not sympathy because she fake cried for the 800th time this year. She'll never put in the work to control it, so she doesn't deserve sympathy when she deals with its symptoms
21:00 I totally agree with the chopstick idea. My mom got me a set of Snactivs as a stocking stuffer. It's a little set of chopsticks that you can use to eat snacks while doing things with your hands because they sit between your index and middle finger on open rings. Totally recommend them if you need a cute little gift idea.
So I have BPD as well and relate to a lot of things ALR says. One thing being she didn’t really believe in therapy and I was the same way but during therapy this evening I realized continued therapy really has helped me
Zach showing us how to get a big hand into a small hole and not stopping to make a joke? I’m in the twilight zone edit: just got to the bed balls, I spoke too soon
Thanks for the video and the laugh about the cheese puffs! I've kind of disengaged a bit from ALR videos in talking about BPD, just because I'm also going through my own acceptance of a diagnosis. And it's devastating, even though there's a much better prognosis nowadays. BPD can allow for 256 combination of symptoms in how it presents... so while many people relate to having a FP, certainly not everyone deals with that or has been/is actively in relationships. You can also not have a fear of abandonment, even though that is often seen as a core element. And although DBT is the gold standard and has proven to be effective for many (same with how EMDR and IFS are being brought up more and more for complex trauma), finding someone trauma-trained who also specializes in PDs can be tough. Especially since there can be more harm done if a therapist doesn't have the right skillset or has a bias against people with BPD, which happens far too often against clients who are labeled "difficult" or "resistant" without understanding it as an attachment disorder/trauma response. So that's my only hesitation with people (not pointing at you, just in general) who say "go to therapy!". I know previous times you've also made awesome points about access to care and the privilege of it, etc. BPD symptoms can regress with structured therapy which instills a lot of hope, but the healthcare system especially with this diagnosis can be tricky. It can be a really isolating thing, (with any mental illness too, not trying to imply one is worse obviously!). Hope I didn't overshare or sound like a know-it-all, just has been on my heart and mind a lot ❤
I spend too much time on reels watching soap cutting and other ASMR videos. I’ve been watching soap cutting on insta for like a decade, it’s so satisfying
Remember during the break up saga when she suddenly started looking really smug because she thought she had a replacement and she was ready to move on to the next love of her life? If that hadn't fallen through, we'd never hear a word about wifey anymore. She's obsessing over her because she's bored and lonely.
I cant wait for the first fight between ALR and her mum and ALR coming on cam A MESS hyperventilating bc now its all sunshine and roses... but its gonna happen... and she adapted her mum's personality 100%. imagine they dont talk for a week. who she gonna be for that week???
I know this is so silly but I love watching these videos for a pick me up. I’m in the hospital with my son and this is a much needed reprieve while he naps. Thanks Zach. ❤
@@Rachelief oh, wow he’s just a little guy. Which of course, as a mother, makes it even scarier. Do your best to stay strong mom, I’m sure (and hope) everything will be fine. And yes, lots prayers for you guys! ♥️♥️
Can she please decide if she's a bad bitch that doesn't need anybody or a constant victim who needs pity and understanding? The whiplash is strong!
Nope, she never will. Lol
She's bolttth ( I hate how she says both) 😂
@@j.artiste8596I've only met ONE person who says it that way. It grated so bad on my nerves 🤣 great guy, bad word habit
@@j.artiste8596SAME
I don’t understand why she can’t spoil her family..she always needs to love bomb someone lol
Amberlynn is like those emails you keep getting after you have unsubscribed like 20 times. Poor Faline, she just can't get away 😢
Hahaha, but the difference is we ignore those "pesty" emails and you actively look for her. Are you someone obsessed with those emails thinking you will "win the sweepstakes" ? Let's really make your analogy stick.
Is “pesty” another Amberism?
She knew what she was getting into...she was a viewer. Dont waste your sympathy 😂
@kristinebrown7931 you thought you ate huh?? They were talking about faline bestie.
@kristinebrown7931 I guess my comment went over your head.
As someone who was severely stalked by an ex, to the point I had to file a restraining order, change my number & socials… her still speaking of her ex triggers me to no end. Poor faline. I’m sorry, but ALR is vile for this. Idc.
Its the fact that she herself said a friend had to step in and tell her to leave faline alone and she still continues to talk about her when its VERY CLEAR she DOES NOT want amber to continue to talk about her is so weird like please get a damn grip amber and leave these ppl alone!!
@@noinfoprovided5247it sick..literally. She probably needs psychiatric help
Amber is like a toxic friend I wanna cut off lol. At some point you’ve just GOTTA stop talking about your ex. Girl you’re tired, we’re tired, Wifey’s in the witness protection program. Give it a rest.
I actually did end a friendship recently for a similar reason lol. I had a friend who struggled with boundaries and I was BEGGING her at the end to stop talking about this man she had been seeing (never even official). She wouldn’t stop. I heard she’s back with him and I couldn’t be happier I don’t have to hear about it.
Not the Witness Protection Program 😭😭😭
@@funnyguurl😂🤣😭
I was really hoping “your favorite reaction channel that doesn’t drive” was going to stick 💀
I'm stuck with "thin pork chop"
Frail, slightly overweight lesbian is too good
It's sad how she feels like anything she enjoys can't be enjoyed without a partner. First Christmas in a new state? There's so much to do besides buying crap for an SO. Local Christmas markets or craft fairs, driving around looking at lights, parades or gingerbread house displays, local coffee shops to visit with seasonal flavors, plays, Christmas drag shows (what about events in this thriving gay community?), or volunteering and meeting new people. Heck, this is her first Christmas with her family in years. Help your mom decorate and bake cookies, have a Christmas movie marathon.
I don't have family and Christmas is a neutral holiday for me (not religiously important, it wasn't fun growing up), but I love spending time with my people and taking it all in. The great thing about being a whole adult is you get to make your own traditions and celebrate however you want.
... And I feel like Mama Lynn is gonna run out of stuff to do with kids eventually.
she limits herself whitch limits her more. She doesn't want to be seen because she knows she judges fat people too. She can't have any more real life "beanbag in a hurry" molments.
For real! Amber is a sad human being
And this is a PERFECT chance to start again. New place, new apartment, new people! She can just make all new traditions with the people in her life now, it’s a shame she doesn’t see that opportunity. It would be very healing I imagine!
drag shows? more like ped*files meet up
Legit facts about how "doing stuff" requires more imagination than ALR can handle 😂
Girl be real.... Christmas is a lot of work! I remember when Destiny decorated. Becky decorated and Im sure Faline did all of the decorations. Gorl just doesn't want to do all that work!!!
I think you're 💯 on that.
Yep 1000% so in ambers world, holidays ain’t worth it if her caretaker ain’t around. Cause they do everything for her.
True. Amber’s idea decorating is sitting on the couch telling her partner where to put things.
Right! I mean even I am tired after all of it. I always have my husband help put up the tree because I can’t reach the top! It’s okay to admit you need help smh. Idk why she can’t ask her MOM
I wish she would adopt a local family for Christmas. She could find a family with little kids and buy a new toy for them daily. Would be great vlogmas content.
100%!
Orphanages if they exist there would be better. Provide things for a bunch of kids with almost nothing. Some gifts could be toys, some could be practical like blankets and warm clothes. Find out what the places are in need of by asking the people who run them
Or a group home
@@Siyanibingelela yes indeed. ( I used to work in group homes)
How sad is it that she thinks that just because she has no one romantically in her life she can't enjoy Christmas? Like she is literally so boring that other than buy presents for someone that she's dating she cannot think of anything else to do. I can't believe it. There's so many kids or animals that she can help with that money and still shop and there's just a million things to do around the holidays if you have the money for it, which we all know she does.
Considering her background are their not foster homes, or whatever it is over there they have where they have orphaned children waiting to be fostered or adopted that should could donate gifts or blankets or food or whatever to if having someone to buy things for at Christmas is so important to her. But she wouldn’t, because she buys partners gifts to buy their love and commitment not because she actually wants to give. Children in orphanages or whatever can’t give her anything in return so she’s not interested
Honestly that’s such a good point. With her being such an “empath” you’d think she’d be buying stuff for foster homes or look into donating toys or donating pet supplies to her local animal shelter.
She is queen of not following doctor's instructions.
She does follow doctors’ instructions. For like, two days. Until she remembers that she’s smarter than any of her doctors, and also that getting better would require a modicum of effort.
so glad she got the chom chom roller. it’s so great for getting pet hair off furniture and carpet.
girlie could turn to filling out local animal shelter wishlists. she’d still get that joy of shopping and gift giving
Nah she only cares about her and her caretaker’s joy. Hence why you’ll never see Amber give back to her community and to others.
Or she could partner with an organization that buys Christmas gifts for foster youth and former foster youth.
I'm a bisexual from Lexington and someone on reddit pointed out we literally have a lesbian owned coffee shop that has a "lex Lesbian night"
One of, if not THE major LGBT safe areas in the south is in Lexington. She just didn’t LEAVE HER DAMN BEDROOM. She’s so absolutely stupid to think there ARENT people who can simply GOOGLE these things and find them, thus proving her lies. She acts as if the rest of the world can’t possibly have lived in Lexington 🤡
I just get so mad when she mentions her mental illnesses, is smug about it and then does absolutely nothing to fix it.
When I heard Pookie -Lynn was not doing Vlog-Mas this year I cancelled all my plans, no decorating my new place, no travel , no shopping, new clothes or Holiday treats. She's so depressed about Wipey, how can I enjoy myself? ...Let me stop before a lightening bolt comes through the window....
😂😂😂
Talk about co-dependent 🤣🤣🤣
Well if you’ve cancelled your plans then I have to now too. I can’t possibly enjoy it if you’re not. Look what wifey has done, now none of us can enjoy it
😂😂
@@DivaAllyC 😂😂
Amber crying over feline isn’t genuine. She’s crying because she doesn’t have a new supply… what a narc
She’s not even crying 😩🤣 HOW DO YOU CRY WITH NO TEARS?!?
she’s crying bc she can’t be alone. the insta rando didn’t work out so she’s crawling back to wanting feline. she thought feline would take her back, but Feline wants nothing to do with her. Once someone else hits her up in the DM‘s we’ll never hear the terms Bambi or feline again. she is honestly just waiting for somebody else to manipulate into moving to wherever she is, and being her caretaker 😬😙
I was listening to your video while doing dishes, not watching the screen, and when I heard her playing that one game where she was hitting the button repeatedly I thought to myself “I bet Zach is getting their groove on to this beat” then I looked at the video and THERE YOU WERE giving us a lil performance 👏😂😍 love you bestie please never change 🫶🏻
BUT DID YOU TAKE OFF YOUR RINGS FIRST???
@@jeffrosenstocklover of course I did! I’m quirky like that 🤪😂
Poe- Tato fixing his bed and hiding under the blanket when Amber says “okay I’m gonna get back on track tomorrow” is iconic ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
The constant crying on camera while talking about how she’s not going to talk about her ex is such a transparent attempt to guilt Faline.
Every time she breaks up with someone, she needs them to know how lonely she is without them, and that they should feel fucking horrible about breaking her heart.
Potato is really bringing the cute factor lately. 10/10 A+ content 🐶
He was amazing in the last video, lounging on his back ❤
The Goodest Boy is really making up for the inherent disappointment that comes with ALR videos.
She was with faline for like 1 Christmas. She talks like they were together for like 30 years.
They spent a ridiculous amount of money on gifts for each other in such a short amount of time.
I don’t think she’s getting help for her bpd. I think she’s watching a lot of bpd tiktok and learning new terms that way. It seems like she puts a lot of self worth into being in a relationship so I get her being alone would be hard for her. I also roll my eyes hard at her crying for wifey when she fell so hard/fast for the other person as well. I don’t think she really loved them as much as she loved being loved by them.
A lot of churches have “Angel trees” and you can get a tag off the tree and buy christmas gifts and necessities for people that really need it. She should do that for vlogmas. Would actually be doing something really meaningful with her money and it’s was Christmas is really about anyway is giving in that spirit
I’m apathetic about Christmas as well. I would like to see ALR and her mom make cookies, put up a tree ect. Make new memories.
As someone with bpd this video was my last straw into Amber's universr for a while. Ther is so much stigma around this illness i can't even talk about it irl because in my country mental illnesses are not taken seriously at all. Even my family won't accept my diagnosis, even after it led to me almost d*ing last year. she should be thankful to live in a place where she can talk about it so openly ane having people rootinf for her, instead she choose the "i can't handle anything bc I have bpd" choice adding only negativity to our already misunderstood community.
Also, she definitely learned the "favorite person" thing online and the funny thing is it doesn't even happen to every single person with BPD.
to me you weren't mean Zack, i would've been way less nice.
I also have BPD and completely agree. The fact that she has the money for DBT and all the time in the world but still hasn’t started it really shows what kind of person she is.
I don't have BPD but am in mental health recovery with many people who do. Some of the BPD peeps are the kindest, most loyal and caring people I have met. They struggle everyday with how difficult their lives are and still come out being decent, insightful humans. When I first came into mental health recovery they gave me some education on personality disorders and one of the first things they said about BPD was "5 of 9 means 256 possible presentations of these very broad categories".
I have seen people very unwell and being very destructive but it is usually to themselves more than others and really heart breaking.
this video was so triggering for me, not Zack but amber. I couldn’t believe her saying when she announced her BPD diagnosis. She said she wouldn’t use it as an excuse, and she was embarrassed to mention it. Now she is talking about how BPD is the reason shes isn’t over wifey. she watched a few tiktoks and learned the words and now theyre her excuses. it’s too much, i agree with you i can’t handle her continuing to stigmatize bpd.
Can't help but feel that Amber keeps pretending to be helpless and heartbroken to attract a new woman with a savior complex.
I mean really and truly, gorl hasnt experienced a 'normal' breakup where she is alone after with her thoughts. She always just got another gorl. This is giving me teenager first heartbreak for sure.
After deep cleaning,Christmas decorating and a hot shower. I can end the day with my bestie’s video and doing my skincare 💖💗
That sounds like the best day!
Perfection!
I don't think her being told she has bpd (regardless if she does) was good for her because I can just feel the way she watching hella bpd tik toks and letting that inform what happening to her life. It's giving how she was mustard veggie if that makes any since lmfao.
I’m just remembering how she convinced herself she had ADHD, then scheduled a consult and never talked about it ever again.
I have a feeling Gambler Lynn is gonna be a common finding in this era.
Zachs dance move during the gamer Lynn molment was everything I needed today 💜
I think she’s being this extra about not wanting to decorate for Christmas as a way to hopefully get sympathy from wifey and in her mind thinking she might can get her back because maybe she will watch it and feel so bad for Amberlynn and call her. I feel like she has to have a bigger reason and using it as a manipulative tactic sounds 1000% like Amberlynn
Just wanting to let you know, Zach, that I used this video for comfort as I decided to unclog my sink ( 😖 naaaaasty, but I find your commentary soothing and funny/distracting!) & do some chores around the house to have it cleaned for upcoming Thanksgiving. 🎉 Thank you!
thanks for sharing. I'm glad you're here!
That “ASMR moment” was a misophonia nightmare 😩
“Maybe that’s where she gets the cheese balls” 😂😂😂
literally got to this part when i read your comment 🤣
That made me laugh harder than was probably intended
Everything is gonna be the bpd’s fault for a *while,* isn’t it
complains about being swollen and bloated. later on garlic salt, gatorade (essentially salt water intended for people who sweat a lot and are physically active), and super salty cheese balls.
All she does is whine and complain and want sympathy.
Notice mommalynn calls her “Amber” not Amberlynn and I bet it pissed her off her mom beat her in tickets.
Amber keeps calling Faline about her extended warranty.
😂
she always has a new disorder to explain why things are harder for her than anyone else. and that her experiencing heartbreak is unique to everyone else in the world.... like.. being sad about a breakup esp if you are lonely and have no friends is going to be depressing, this isnt bc of "bpd"
It's hard to have empathy for someone that complains about swelling in the morning, but then gorges on Mexican food (who knows how much) and then 560 calories of sodium-laden cheese balls (plus who knows what else) at night. Get some help, Amber.
Plus, i don't know why they switched to the cans, but when i was a kid, we had cheese balls in a can but it was fatter, not tall like Pringles.
I remember those! It was a blue can with a yellow lid. They were so yummy. I think they were by Planters. They were soooo cheesy. I loved them.
Don’t forget the Gatorade which is pretty much salt juice
And she buys sodium-laden processed food in her grocery haul. Processed chicken slices, processed cheese strings, processed canned chicken…
@URBuggin78 yep. Blows my mind after she said that processed foods makes her brain feel on fire.
@@kinkykitty77 Yes! Planters! It was hard sharing one with my siblings because they were so yummy. 😆
She just loves having a new excuse. Like this isn’t normal.
I recovered from bpd with therapy and all I could think of when she said Faline is her favorite person was great, she is going to milk this so hard and blame everything on her bpd instead of using context for the situation. 🙄😒
I also have BPD, so I’m very understanding when it comes to the type of emotions ALR is feeling right now, but the fact that she knows she has these issues and knows she could be treating them with DBT but hasn’t even attempted to do so, that bothers me. Feline set a clear boundary, but Amber hasn’t even *tried* to follow it- she’s just using her BPD diagnosis as an excuse, instead of using it to inform her treatment and become a better person.
How does the I'm still grieving for my favourite person fit the "I'm in love with two people narrative... such a goofy cheese ball
why is mamalynn using her dave and buster’s tickets for her boss??
watching zm's soul just hop out of their body in exhaustion as soon as fleen was mentioned did give me quite the lil cackle
As someone who struggled to get over their ex 6-8 months after the split, Half of me understands her pain; the other half not. But there has to come a time when "enough is enough". You can't force something to happen, period. If it didn't work out, it didn't work out. It's very very VERY rare for people to be able to remain friends after a romantic relationship (I.E New partners, Jealously, Old feelings brought up etc.) The situation with mine was different than ALR's, He cheated on me and refused to accept the fact he did even when I got screenshots. It varies from person to person, situation to situation. But I finally threw away all of our stuff and cut the ties. I said my final goodbye and we're blocked from all platforms. Some people are just not meant to be, even if you want it to be. Amber, You really just need to accept the fact you both will never see/talk to each other again. You'll be so much happier. How she's still trying to paint this victim card is beyond me, Especially after the way she treated Becky like her personal butler & taking advantage of her love and kindness, I have no empathy towards her. Her own actions caused it. She pushed Faline away, No one else. How are you going to sit under the same roof and tell this woman you love some instagram troll, most likely, that you love her and want to try poly? That's like a spit in the face. I don't blame Faline for not wanting anything to do with her. She took what she had for granted and now she's realizing it; is what I'm getting from it. Move on Amber, Maybe the next wifey you get you won't treat like gum at the bottom of your shoe. & I also was diagnosed with BPD and quit using that as a scape goat. That's not an excuse to be a shitty person. Grow the f**k up. You're in your 30's. Your priorities should be more than just a relationship, Why not your health, mental health and happiness? Nothing wrong with being alone for a while.
Sorry to read about your personal experience and glad to see you've moved on 🎉 but PREACH gah she is so annoying! She needs to be an adult!
That end bit is so real. She needs to realize that to be happy she has to find it within herself, NOT from a partner, shes never gonna be actually happy if shes constantly basing her happiness on praise from multiple ppl being "in love" with her.
Zach, that little dance you did during the video was hilarious. Thanks for the laugh, bestie!
"My ex was my most favorite person in the world"... except for the nanosecond it took ya to not care, & "love" some new stranger. SMDH
She’s such a victim it’s insane. Jesus did not suffer the way Amber does eating cheese balls by herself
We've seen and heard more about her Mom's Homophobic Church than any LGBTQIA+ Businesses/Locations in her new City.
She learned all this language from Life Plus Cindy 🙄
This wifey situation is very concerning bc it’s clear she needs actual help. It’s crazy she’s still acting like it’s the first day they broke up idk if her BPD is making it this difficult she needs to start trying to treat it. I wonder if wifey has seen any of this bc I’d be weirded out
i think its so "bad" because she genuinely hasn't been single for more than 2 weeks in the past decade. Every girl is the one shes "gonna marry" but she forgets about them so fast because she immediately gets with the next girl who shes "actually in love with" and has "never felt love like this" before etc etc ....
@@freethegays honestly yeah this is so true, I’m sure she thought the instagram girl would turn into more
@@bribri2367 100% she did, she went from heartbroken over wipey to flirtlynn in 2 seconds. it was only after insta gorl broke her heart 2 weeks later that we entered the second (and current) phase of double heart break lol and she will stay heartbroken until she falls in love with another girl who she's going to marry lol
Of course why do u think jade move out an amber pretending jade sleeping on the floor lol. She was sick of it. Also I don't think jade was jealous of new girl she annoyed with amber. I know amber try to cry on jade shoulder after break up an rub it in her face when she did meet the other person ( like she did Becky) soon amber thinks shes in a new relationship she will treat u like whole bucket of shit
Conspiracy theory: shes not putting up her decorations because she doesnt have someone to do it for her
i love watching my favorite frail yet overweight elderly lesbian who doesn’t drive!! ❤❤❤
You know it's not because she didn't want dust. It's because her hand couldn't reach them anymore
The way you were dancing when she was gambling 😂😂😂😂😂 all you hear is her clicking and you dancing
your hair is so fkn majestic, I love it.
thank u so much
I didn't realize that she could move her hands that quickly
Come on people! The advantage to cheese balls in a can is you can pour them straight in your mouth without getting your hands dirty! Lol
Love watching my favorite reaction channel who doesn’t drive on my meal break at the target 🎯
Watching while i give my 4 month old a bottle ❤ always the best company for these night feeds
Girl same! Here in the middle of the night with my 6 week old ❤
I watched Zach all the time when my son was a newborn, now he’s 6 months old and im kinda missing those night feeds.😭🩷
Bottle of Hennessy? Baby is getting BLASTED 🎉🎉💯
Watching while nap trapped with my 6 month old :)
Bets on how long 'til she goes okay FIIIINE I'll do vlogmas and this was AXTUALLY for attention
She’s needs a Christmas miracle. I want the hallmark moment
She says Faline was her most favorite person in the world but then admitted like two vlogs ago that she was constantly picking Insta girlie over Faline??? PLS she's so manipulative.
I was rewatching old MBP videos, clearly nothing has changed with our GORL.
Watching any of her vlogmases is a minfuck because literally the only difference between different years is what poor lass is in the background
She really is out here acting like she's not on borrowed time. Even after cancer!
I've never heard anybody who has so many problems, not talk about solutions.
Seeing her literally not being able to function without a love interest is depressing. Our gorl needs to unpack that shit in therapy cause this behavior is not normal for her age 🤢
She learned the BPD language by watching Life Plus Cindy. She doesn’t have a girlfriend to take the personality of so she must be watching Cindy and mirroring her.
My thoughts exactly!
zach, i just had to say i don’t know what it is but you have been glowing lately!!! the long hair is definitely your thing. you’ve been lookin good!
Zach - you really cheered me up with this video. The dance during the piano game and the “I love an otter,” had me giggling. Thank you!
Idk it seems like shes throwing a tantrum because she really thought they would be besties and wifey would come back to her. So i feel like shes doing this in order to get to wifey. Amberlynn is over 30, she only spent 2 christmases with wifey, so it doesnt make sense to me why she would feel like she cant do vlogmas because shes not with wifey anymore. She should just make this christmas about herself.
Not me hearing about “cheesy balls” in bed while I’m eating my dinner 🫠
ALWAYS RIGHT WHEN IM ABOUT TO CLEAN THANK U!!!
Oooo hey bestie 🎉. Perfect to listen to while i walk my pup! 😊
hey friend! thanks for listening & watching
Girl I do this too! Lovveee it
i do this as well
Why does a single woman in a tiny, non smoking, newly deep cleaned luxury apartment need TWO bottles of Febreze? Is she not taking Twinkie out enough? Are the poor cats forced to use filthy boxes? Why does it reek?
I live on a farm and I’ve NEVER bought TWO Febrezes in my life much less at a time
I think it’s partly because she overbuys/hoards. Secondly, last time she was near this size she admitted (eventually) that she couldn’t really shower. It may not be the animals that smell.
In no way was your criticism of Amber not dealing with her mental health and processing her """trauma""" around the breakup too harsh; I'd say you were way too light on her.
She's using BPD as a shield. It's her new binge monster: "you can't judge my toxic behavior and borderline stalking of my ex because I have BPD"
She got her terminology from folks like Cindy and Trisha Paytas and is just imitating them. I can't stress enough that she's acting brand new with the BPD and like she's dealing with this world-shaking realization on her own, but she admitted that she's had the diagnosis for a while and just ignored it; it's likely why her therapist during the WLS arc told her to work on emotional regulation, which she completely blew off and is continuing to blow off because "I can't help it you guise it's my mentulz"
She is just using her BPD to perpetuate the stigmatized view of folks with BPD and I think she should get more criticism for it, not sympathy because she fake cried for the 800th time this year.
She'll never put in the work to control it, so she doesn't deserve sympathy when she deals with its symptoms
21:00 I totally agree with the chopstick idea. My mom got me a set of Snactivs as a stocking stuffer. It's a little set of chopsticks that you can use to eat snacks while doing things with your hands because they sit between your index and middle finger on open rings. Totally recommend them if you need a cute little gift idea.
So I have BPD as well and relate to a lot of things ALR says. One thing being she didn’t really believe in therapy and I was the same way but during therapy this evening I realized continued therapy really has helped me
Pringle's rights to the can ran out so now everyone has a free for all to use the design. So thats way cheetos now can come like that.
I've been also wondering why all the chips now come in the Pringles can, thanks for the explanation
Nurse trick - eat powdered stuff with gloves --> can jump straight into action and rip glove off
I will utilize this next time I eat powdered donuts while watching Zach from my couch
Yes! I use gloves with Cheetos Popcorn!
Zach showing us how to get a big hand into a small hole and not stopping to make a joke? I’m in the twilight zone
edit: just got to the bed balls, I spoke too soon
ZACH WHAT DO YOU KNOW ABOUT THOSE BIG OL JUGS (of cheese balls)? 😂
i love em
@@ZacharyMichael this reply made my whole day 😂❤️
In the early '90's my cousin and I were rewarded with cheeseballs in a big plastic tub from our maternal grandparents.
My grandparents always stocked the pantry with the giant tubs for summer break for all the kiddos that came to their house
Why'd I misread the thumbnail text as "no vlogmas no cheese, just balls"
Ppl are having their first Xmas without loved ones who passed & she crying about a two yr relationship 🙄
Thanks for the video and the laugh about the cheese puffs! I've kind of disengaged a bit from ALR videos in talking about BPD, just because I'm also going through my own acceptance of a diagnosis. And it's devastating, even though there's a much better prognosis nowadays. BPD can allow for 256 combination of symptoms in how it presents... so while many people relate to having a FP, certainly not everyone deals with that or has been/is actively in relationships. You can also not have a fear of abandonment, even though that is often seen as a core element. And although DBT is the gold standard and has proven to be effective for many (same with how EMDR and IFS are being brought up more and more for complex trauma), finding someone trauma-trained who also specializes in PDs can be tough. Especially since there can be more harm done if a therapist doesn't have the right skillset or has a bias against people with BPD, which happens far too often against clients who are labeled "difficult" or "resistant" without understanding it as an attachment disorder/trauma response. So that's my only hesitation with people (not pointing at you, just in general) who say "go to therapy!". I know previous times you've also made awesome points about access to care and the privilege of it, etc. BPD symptoms can regress with structured therapy which instills a lot of hope, but the healthcare system especially with this diagnosis can be tricky. It can be a really isolating thing, (with any mental illness too, not trying to imply one is worse obviously!). Hope I didn't overshare or sound like a know-it-all, just has been on my heart and mind a lot ❤
There’s gay places EVERYWHERE and have been even when it was illegal. No one is gonna stop us bruh
I spend too much time on reels watching soap cutting and other ASMR videos. I’ve been watching soap cutting on insta for like a decade, it’s so satisfying
I follow so many soap cutting and hydraulic press videos and omg you just said that as im typing this!!! Lol Its so calming and transfixing.
Everytime Zach says "chheeeEEesebaaAAallllllsss" 😂
Fingos had me cackling 🤣🤣
Fingolynn Reid
Remember during the break up saga when she suddenly started looking really smug because she thought she had a replacement and she was ready to move on to the next love of her life? If that hadn't fallen through, we'd never hear a word about wifey anymore. She's obsessing over her because she's bored and lonely.
I cant wait for the first fight between ALR and her mum and ALR coming on cam A MESS hyperventilating bc now its all sunshine and roses... but its gonna happen... and she adapted her mum's personality 100%. imagine they dont talk for a week. who she gonna be for that week???
She’ll be messaging reaction channels again. They’re all she has.
Her bed probably already stinks now she's adding cheese to the mix. Could never be me, eating stinky food in my bed
Where’s our “frail, slightly overweight lesbian who doesn’t drive” merch?
I would like to own this very specific reference on a holographic sticker.
I know this is so silly but I love watching these videos for a pick me up. I’m in the hospital with my son and this is a much needed reprieve while he naps. Thanks Zach. ❤
Hope all is ok ❤
Taking/having your child in The hospital is ALWAYS hard, hope you and your baby are okay and get home soon! I’ll be praying for your guys ❤❤
@@ChronicallyAmused thank you. He’s on the mend ❤️
@@troy7070 that really means so much. He’s 16 months old and he is such a trooper. I appreciate the prayers
@@Rachelief oh, wow he’s just a little guy. Which of course, as a mother, makes it even scarier. Do your best to stay strong mom, I’m sure (and hope) everything will be fine. And yes, lots prayers for you guys! ♥️♥️
What do you know about smashing down some cheese balls